BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl podcast! If your mind is spiraling, your stomach's in knots, and you've refreshed your texts 18 times in the last 3 minutes… this episode is your emergency toolkit! In this quick but powerful 5-minute pep talk, I'm giving you grounding reminders to come back home to yourself when your anxious attachment gets triggered. This is the episode to save, download, share with your bestie, and play on repeat when you're about to spiral. You'll learn: ✨ Why your anxiety makes sense (and why you're not broken) ✨ How to regulate your nervous system in the moment ✨ A powerful breathing practice to calm your body ✨ How to shift your energy back to YOU instead of chasing ✨ Loving prompts to re-center and choose yourself first If you're new here, I'm Clare, a relationship coach for high-achieving girlies who crush it at work but feel lost, anxious, or overthink-y in love. You're not alone, and you are SO not broken.

Ever find yourself refreshing your texts like your life depends on it? Or spending 10 hours doing two hours of work because your brain won't stop obsessing over that thing you said? Yep. This one's for you, bb! In this episode, I'm giving you powerful (and surprisingly calming) reminders for when your anxious attachment kicks in HARD. Whether you're deep in a spiral or just know one is brewing, these are the things I wish someone had told me when I was riding the relationship-anxiety rollercoaster daily. We're talking: - The difference between urgency and truth (spoiler: they are not the same) - Why “if it feels hysteric, it's historic” is your new healing mantra - The cold hard truth: you cannot out-logic your nervous system (sorry to my high-achieving girlies with 3 degrees and a color-coded Google calendar) Plus: a little gut health update (yes, your anxiety might be coming from your stomach), a hilarious “Would You Rather” game you're gonna want to bring to your next girls' night, and a juicy Q&A from inside the Healing Girl Gang!

Ever held it in like a champ… until you exploded over something small (but actually not small at all)?

Why do we keep explaining... and explaining... and explaining — and still walk away feeling misunderstood (and kind of embarrassed)?

You're the go-to girl at work, the one who gets it DONE… but when it comes to your relationship? Cue the overthinking, second-guessing, and constant need for reassurance.

Are you overthinking every convo, second-guessing yourself constantly, and wondering... “Am I triggered or am I actually right?”

This week, we're getting real about the messy middle — where you logically know you're in a good relationship but emotionally still feel anxious AF. If you're constantly asking: “Why isn't this enough?” “Why do I still feel so unsure?” “Why can't I just be chill for once?!” Then this episode is your exact starting point.

Welcome to the episode every anxious attachment girlie needs in her back pocket. If you spiral when they don't text back, replay convos 14 times in your head, or wake up with an emotional hangover worse than a tequila bender… this one's for you.

Let's be real: you're the hyper-independent girlie who gets ish DONE. You've got the degree, the business, the receipts. But when it comes to relationships? Your anxious attachment is quietly (or not so quietly) throwing hands in the background.

In this episode, I'm breaking down the biggest mistakes I see when people try to “fix” their anxious attachment triggers—and why those habits might actually be keeping you stuck in the same cycle.

Imagine going from spiraling over “Do they really like me?” to casually ring shopping like it's no big deal.

Feel like you're the one keeping the relationship alive?

STOP DOING ALL THE WORK IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

This week I'm joined by Dr. Jeanine Staples-Dixon, a literal genius, tenured professor at Penn State, and someone who knows why you keep self-sabotaging in love. We're breaking down:

If you're anxiously attached and dating an avoidant, you already know this relationship is basically an extreme sport. One minute, you're feeling all the love; the next, you're staring at your phone wondering why they haven't texted back for seven hours (… or seven days

Okay, real talk—are you actually pushing away someone great, or do you just keep attracting emotionally unavailable people? Because SAME. Been there, lived it, wrote the metaphorical book. This week, we're getting deep into:

✨ Hey girlies, welcome to SEASON 2 of the BeThatHealingGirl Podcast! ✨ We're leveling up big time—new vibes, new content, and SO many juicy convos ahead. Today, we're diving into something we all know too well: the push-pull dynamic in relationships. You know, when things feel AMAZING one moment and like a dumpster fire the next? Been there. Let's break it all the way down. Here's what we're getting into:

✨ It's 2025 and we're not carrying anxious attachment into this new era okay? Feeling stuck in the what ifs and putting your life on hold for someone else? Trust me, I've been there. In this special year-end episode, we're diving into how anxious attachment has been holding you back from living your best life—and, more importantly, how to leave it behind as we step into the new year.

✨ It's New Year's Eve, and we're not carrying anxious attachment into 2025, okay? Feeling stuck in the what ifs and putting your life on hold for someone else? Trust me, I've been there. In this special year-end episode, we're diving into how anxious attachment has been holding you back from living your best life—and, more importantly, how to leave it behind as we step into the new year.

In this episode I'm breaking down why pretending you're totally fine when you're actually spiraling inside is keeping you stuck.

So you asked for the reassurance. You got it. And... you're still spiraling. WTF, right?

Ever sent a 3-page text knowing you shouldn't? Or started a fight just because you couldn't scratch that itch? Yep, we're going there. If overthinking has you spiraling like Alice down the rabbit hole (been there!), this episode is for you. We're diving deep into the dos and don'ts of breaking free from the overthinking cycle so you can step back from the mental cliff and find peace. I'll be breaking down exactly what's not helping you stop overthinking (hello, distractions, numbing, and Pink Elephant syndrome

Does a little distance feel like a red alert to you? Whether it's a delayed text, a faraway look, or physical distance (hello, long-distance relationships!), this episode dives into the heart of how to stay connected even when your mind is spiraling. With the holidays around the corner, distance—emotional or physical—might hit a little differently, but Clare is here to help you navigate it! Let's do this, bb! JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

In this very special episode, we're welcoming our first guest ever to the podcast, and I couldn't be more excited! Today, I'm joined by Athena, a former client who went ALL IN on her healing journey. We're diving deep into her incredible transformation and how she moved from anxiety, overthinking, and self-doubt to self-regulation and confidence in her relationships and life. If you're out here doing all the “right” things—therapy, self-help books, even hot girl walks—but still feel stuck, this episode is for YOU. Athena's story shows what's possible when you commit to the inner work and learn to hold yourself in challenging moments.

This week, we're diving deep into a HUGE topic—how to heal the root of anxious attachment. If you've been doing all the things—therapy, hot girl walks, self-help books—and you're still feeling stuck in the same patterns, this episode is for you. In this episode, I'm breaking down: Why surface-level fixes might not be enough to heal your relationship anxiety, How to go beyond “symptom solving” and actually get to the root of your anxious attachment and The key interplay between mind, body, and spirit that's crucial for true healing. Ready to go deeper and break free from anxious attachment? Check out our masterclasses and community for more tools to support your healing journey!

If you're constantly scanning for signs that someone's about to up and leave, even when there's no reason to worry, this episode is for you. We're talking about: Why you might feel abandoned even when you logically know your partner isn't going anywhere, How to face your fear and heal instead of spiraling and I'm sharing my personal stories, including one of the worst ghosting experiences ever (seriously, it's bad

If you're a girlie who's out here doing ALL the things—hot girl walks, therapy, reading every self-help book—yet still find yourself obsessing over why he hasn't texted back (or waiting for the other shoe to drop), then THIS episode is for you!  We're diving into simple micro-habits you can start adding to your routine to speed up your healing process and break those anxious attachment patterns. These small, intentional changes are what will help you stop spiraling, find inner peace, and build self-trust without waiting for external validation. 

Welcome back, bb! In today's episode we are diving deep into the juicy topic of self-doubt in your relationship. I'm calling out all the messy patterns that keep you stuck—whether it's your brain going full-on doom mode, or you're on a reassurance binge asking your boo, “Do you love me?” for the 400th time. We're talking: Overthinking yourself into a full-blown anxiety spiral, needing constant validation from your partner, Hyper-independence ("I don't need no man!" but also "Where are you?!" vibes... If you're a high-achieving queen who kills it at work but feels like you're spiraling in your relationship, you're in the right place! JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

We're diving deep into something every anxious attachment babe knows all too well: feeling secure when you're apart. Whether you're long-distance, just getting back from a trip, or emotionally distant after a fight—this episode is for you.

We're diving headfirst into something a lot of you have been DM-ing me about: external validation and how it's triggering your anxious attachment. If you're that girly who gets told you're pretty, and five minutes later you're like, “But do they really mean it?!”—then this episode is for you. We're talking all about that restless need for constant reassurance, how it shows up in your relationships, and why, no matter how much they say or do, it's never enough (ugh, I know). So let's get real about breaking that cycle and reclaiming your inner confidence, without needing anyone else to tell you how great you are. JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

You know that feeling when your partner says “I love you,” and you're like, “Yeah, but tell me again”? If that's you, this episode is for YOU.  Here's what we're diving into: Why you're constantly seeking reassurance (and what it really says to your partner) - How asking for reassurance on repeat can make them feel unheard (ouch, I know ) - The first steps to stop relying on external validation and start building that self-trust muscle. I'll guide you through how to shift from needing constant approval to finding security within yourself. Plus, Big News! The Healing Girl Gang membership is open, and we're covering all things self-trust and receiving love this month. If you're ready to stop the overthinking and get real about your growth, check out the link to join below.  JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Today's episode is all about how to stop overthinking when the vacation ends. You know that moment when the trip wraps up and your brain goes into overdrive, analyzing every little detail? Did it mean as much to them as it did to me? Was that little fight a big deal? Or maybe you're wondering if you were too much or not enough. Sound familiar? Then this episode is for YOU. In this episode, we'll cover the sneaky habit of overthinking post-vacation (and how to stop it), how to quiet that second-guessing voice that says you weren't funny, sexy, or “enough” on the trip and why self-trust is the key to breaking free from overanalyzing every interaction! PLUS, I'm sharing insights from my own month-long trip to Japan and the Philippines with my husband. It was magical, but even in my earned secure relationship, those old anxious thoughts can creep in. I'm here to share how I deal with it, so you can too!  P.S. The Healing Girl Gang membership is open and we're diving deep into self-trust this month—if you're ready to stop overthinking and start feeling confident, you need to check it out. Get all the deets below! JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

We're diving into a topic so many of us know all too well—feeling emotionally distant in your relationship. Whether you're dating someone who seems emotionally unavailable or feeling like your connection just isn't clicking the way you want, this episode is here to help you uncover what's really going on. You'll learn why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners (and how to stop), how to check in with YOUR emotional availability before pointing fingers and my personal story of emotional distance and how I realized it wasn't just them—it was me, too. p.s. The Healing Girl Gang doors are open and our first training is a two-part series on overthinking and overanalyzing. It's packed with tools and actionable steps to help you stop spiraling in your relationships. Click here for more details! JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Ever wonder why you can't stop picking apart every text or replaying that one convo in your head? In this episode, I'm breaking down the difference between overthinking and overanalyzing (because, yes, there IS a difference), and how you can start dialing it back to save your sanity—and your relationship. You'll learn the real difference between overthinking and overanalyzing, why overanalyzing is sabotaging your relationships (and how to stop) plus tips to shift from overanalyzing to feeling secure and grounded  P.S. I've got an exciting new training in The Healing Girl Gang membership that's all about tackling overanalyzing head-on!

I'm SO excited for this episode!

In this episode, I'm breaking down the messy interplay between being hyper-independent and feeling anxious in relationships. We'll talk about why this often leads to feeling disconnected, even when you're a total boss in every other area of your life. Plus, I'll share some tips to help you navigate these tricky waters, so you can shift from surface-level interactions to the meaningful relationships you truly deserve. Let's unpack this together! You're not alone in this journey, and I'm here to help you find that sweet spot between independence and connection.  JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Today we're diving deep into the juicy world of relationship boundaries and expectations. This topic is a total game-changer because let's be real—boundaries are the backbone of any healthy relationship. If you've ever felt like you're giving your all but getting nothing in return, or if you're holding back from addressing those little irks that hurt your feelings—this episode is for YOU! We'll explore my personal journey from boundary-less chaos to rock-solid peace, and I'll share why surrounding yourself with boundary queens is the secret to finding your own strength.  JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Today, we're getting into a juicy topic that we all know too well—needing constant reassurance in our relationships. If you've ever found yourself wondering if you're the drama queen (spoiler alert: we all have our moments!), or if you're with a good person who's just not serving the vibe you crave, then baby, you're in the right place! This episode is for my fierce overachievers and recovering perfectionists who can nail it at work but find themselves tripping up in love. You're not alone in this journey, and we're here to lift each other up and find that inner glow! JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Hey babes! This week, we're diving deep into how to fix overthinking in relationships. It's a special episode because my husband and I are celebrating our five-year anniversary! Whether you're an anxious girly wondering if he still loves you or if he's going to leave, this episode is for YOU.  Join our free community for exclusive courses, live trainings, and a squad of like-minded women supporting each other through this wild ride.  JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY on Instagram, TikTok or YouTube HEALING FREEBIES: “If They Haven't Texted” Flow Chart WORK WITH ME VIP 1:1 Session

  Join our free community for exclusive courses, live trainings, and a squad of like-minded women supporting each other through this wild ride.  JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY on Instagram, TikTok or YouTube HEALING FREEBIES: “If They Haven't Texted” Flow Chart WORK WITH ME VIP 1:1 Session

Hey Girlies, this week we're diving deep into the communication habits that are hurting your attachment style. If you're an anxious girly who gets stressed when they don't text back, this episode is a must-listen! In today's episode we'll discuss why focusing on the quantity of texts is hurting your relationship, how to recognize and prioritize quality communication and personal stories and tips to shift your mindset from anxiety to trust. So, here's the deal: if you're someone who's constantly checking your phone, stressing over why they haven't texted “good morning” or “goodnight,” this episode is going to be your game-changer. We're talking about why this obsession with text frequency is damaging your relationship and what you can do about it.  And if you're ready to level up your relationship game, I've got some exciting news! I have a few 1-on-1 client spots opening up. If you're committed and ready for a transformation, hit the link below to apply. Let's work together to create the love life you deserve!  JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY on Instagram, TikTok or YouTube HEALING FREEBIES: “If They Haven't Texted” Flow Chart WORK WITH ME VIP 1:1 Session

In Today's episode we're hitting "Trigger City" and talking about how to handle it when your anxious attachment goes haywire. We're diving deep into overthinking, over-apologizing, and those full-on freak-outs. I'll share my top tips on how to respond instead of react and how to calm your mind and body when those triggers hit. Get ready to Identify and understand your triggers and Cultivate that all-important observational awareness. Whether you're a corporate powerhouse, a savvy entrepreneur, or an academic superstar, I'm here to help you thrive not just in your career but in your relationships too. And guess what? The Healing Girl Gang is where it's at! J Join our free community for exclusive courses, live trainings, and a squad of like-minded women supporting each other through this wild ride.  JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY on Instagram, TikTok or YouTube HEALING FREEBIES: “If They Haven't Texted” Flow Chart WORK WITH ME VIP 1:1 Session

Hey Girlies! This week, we're tackling one of the sneakiest triggers for overthinking in relationships: LONELINESS. If you're an anxious girly constantly replaying past convos and overanalyzing texts, this episode is for YOU!  In today's episode we're talking about how loneliness fuels relationship anxiety and anxious attachment, the difference between social and emotional loneliness and personal stories and tips to overcome these sneaky triggers  P.s. I'm launching a FREE community where you can get exclusive access to trainings, courses, and even more support from me. Click here to join and help shape this amazing space!! JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY on Instagram, TikTok or YouTube HEALING FREEBIES: “If They Haven't Texted” Flow Chart WORK WITH ME VIP 1:1 Session

Today's episode is ALL about stopping that pesky overthinking in your relationships. We'll tackle how to tell if you're spiraling or actually thinking critically, recognizing when your nervous system is in freak-out mode and tips to go from overthinking to chill and confident vibes.  JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY on Instagram, TikTok or YouTube HEALING FREEBIES: “If They Haven't Texted” Flow Chart WORK WITH ME VIP 1:1 Session

This week's episode is all about self-sabotage. Yep, been there, sabotaged that—especially with those sweet, secure types who just wanted to love us. If you've been wondering why things seem to implode just when they're getting good, you're not alone, and this episode is here to unpack all of that mess with you. We're talking about the signs, the whys, and how to finally stop self-sabotaging our love lives.  Plus, I'm sharing some super personal stories and client experiences that'll make you say, "Omg, that's totally me!" So if you're ready to kick those bad habits and start owning your love story, let's get into it! JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY on Instagram, TikTok or YouTube HEALING FREEBIES: “If They Haven't Texted” Flow Chart WORK WITH ME VIP 1:1 Session

Hey Girlies! Today, we're diving deep into healing anxious attachment. In this episode, I'm unpacking my journey, sharing those “aha” moments that totally changed the game for me, and showing you how to find that chill vibe within yourself, no matter your relationship status. This is your survival guide if you're the type who's crushing it in life but feeling like your love life is on a rollercoaster. I'm talking taking radical self-responsibility, cutting through the self-doubt, and turning those anxious vibes into total confidence. So, if you're ready to step up, tune in, and transform the way you think about love and yourself, this is for YOU.  JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY on Instagram, TikTok or YouTube HEALING FREEBIES: “If They Haven't Texted” Flow Chart WORK WITH ME VIP 1:1 Session

Welcome back girlies! This episode is all about Attachment Theory basics. I'm breaking down everything you need to know and tips for navigating and healing your attachment style. If you're new here, I'm Clare and I love helping overachieving, perfectionist girlies who are killing it in their careers but struggling in the love department. This episode is perfect if you're looking to understand yourself and your relationships better. Grab a cup of tea or get ready for your hot girl walk because we're diving straight in! JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY on Instagram, TikTok or YouTube HEALING FREEBIES: “If They Haven't Texted” Flow Chart WORK WITH ME VIP 1:1 Session

If you find yourself picking little fights, having the same argument over and over, or maybe it's like clockwork where every two or three weeks there's a big blowout—this episode is for you! What's actually happening in these cycles is deep-rooted in our conditioning and subconscious patterns. When you're in these repetitive cycles, it's like a glitch in your relationship's source code. One of the first steps to breaking this cycle is getting radically honest with yourself. I'm also thrilled to announce the relaunch of The Confidence Code, a program I designed to help you heal your relationship anxiety and anxious attachment. This program walks you through the exact steps to stop overthinking, trust yourself, and stop self-sabotaging.  JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY on Instagram, TikTok or YouTube HEALING FREEBIES: “If They Haven't Texted” Flow Chart WORK WITH ME VIP 1:1 Session