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Coming Out Late Podcast is the go-to podcast for all things coming out later in life. Which means, if you’ve ever wondered, “Am I gay?”, or, if you’ve ever laid awake in bed at night, and fantasized about being in a same sex relationship, then this podcast is for you. Whether you are in your 30’s, or even your 60’s, or anything in between, and have either “always known” you are gay but because of comphet or a strict religious upbringing, you could never do anything about it. Or maybe you are just-now “awakening”, later in life, realizing that your true calling, the true you has been wanting to explore this side of yourself that has been stuffed and buried deep below the surface of heteronormativity and internalized homophobia for years. Then this podcast is for you. Through real, raw, and vulnerable conversations, we cover all-topics related to Coming Out Late in life from the beginning to the messy-middle to being “on the other side”. We have conversations with real women who have had their “Aha!” moments when they said to themselves, “Holy Sh!T! I’m Gay!”. We get vulnerable with couples, with married women, with their children, and sometimes even with their spouses about what do we do now; how do we co-parent, should we get a divorce, can I afford to live on my own, and dealing with the immense feelings of guilt and shame for making such an enormous life-change, upsetting and shaking-up our family units. Come take a listen. Here you will find community, support, solace and hear real stories SO similar to your own. Subscribe and like your next favorite podcast, Coming Out Late Podcast. 

Robin Douglass


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    S.2 Ep.5: My Chat w/Late Blooming Lesbian, Krista, Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2023 31:05


    In this Part 1 episode, Robin interviews 49-year old late bloomer, Krista. Krista was originally from Nebraska and New Mexico before her family moved to Texas where she lived until graduating from high school. Krista never really used any labels for herself regarding how she felt about boys and girls, men and women - but she did know she was never really enamored with ‘guys', when all of her female school friends were! After a secret relationship with a girl in high school, (they even went to the high school Prom together), Krista moved out of state for college and married a man quite young. The minute she left that 3-year marriage, (and around the time of her college graduation), her very first thought turned to - you guessed it - WOMEN! But, not knowing where to find her community of gay women or how to even begin to date a woman, Krista's attention was distracted by a very nice young guy, who she would ultimately marry.    In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will hear Krista talk about . . . Her early upbringing, and whether or not her parents and siblings were religious or not?Krista's recollection of how she felt about ‘guys' growing up..Krista's ‘secret' relationship with a girl in high school, and how was it that they even went to the Prom together!Krista married a guy quite young, pretty much at the start of her college career. What were Krista's first thoughts after the dissolution of her first, brief marriage?How did Krista finally confirm her fondness for women?If YOU would like to share your story (anonymously or publicly), on the Coming Out Late podcast, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:We are “retreating” to:(1) Phoenix, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023(2) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women's Fest”To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the THREE Retreats, (Florida, Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassFOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:To follow Robin on Instagram, and to learn her ‘word' for 2023, go to:@late.blooming.lesbian COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:Support Groups are coming back for 2023!! The schedule, registration process and cost to attend will be announced very soon. They WILL be held on Wednesday evenings, from either 7pm to 8:15pm EST or 8pm EST to 9:15pm sharp. If group members wish to stay longer than the allotted 75 minutes, Robin will leave the Zoom Room open f

    S.2 Ep.4: "Life" After Coming Out Late, w/Cheryl, Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2023 41:33


    In this Part 2 episode of “Life After Coming Out Late”, Robin continues her conversation with late bloomer and Women Loving Women support group friend, Cheryl. Cheryl left us hanging in Part 1, as to what her life looks like now, now that she has settled-into her own place and helping her daughter get settled and adjusted as well. Having no previous experience ‘being' with a woman, let alone ever having dated a woman, Cheryl was in no rush to get herself ‘out there' on the dating scene. Instead, she found so much comfort and value in getting to know herself more deeply, and being available to her daughter. Through this conversation with Cheryl & Valerie, once again, Robin shows us the importance of “representation” and how vital it is for us to share our coming out late stories with one another. When others hear our stories, (especially others questioning their own sexuality), they learn that they are not alone, and that there IS hope. What a gift we can give one another, simply by sharing our stories.  In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will learn . . . Who Valerie is, and what HER ‘Coming Out Lte” story is.How Valerie did not necessarily see or find “representation” either, and there really wasn't anyone around to talk about what she was feeling & experiencing.Once Valerie WAS around other queer people, how easy it was to slip right into the group, feel accepted, and understand herself WAY more clearly!About Valerie's very brief and underwhelming experience on the dating apps, and why she chose to take a break from them. How Valerie & Cheryl met and what their life is like now.Are long distance relationships worth it?What are the pluses and minuses of dating someone from another country?If YOU would like to share your story (anonymously or publicly), on the Coming Out Late podcast, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to:(a) Florida in March: Jacksonville Beach, FL; March 16, 17, 18, and 19, 2023,(b) Phoenix / Scottsdale, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023c) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women's Fest”To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the THREE Retreats, (Florida, Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:Support Groups are coming back for 2023!! The schedule, registration process and cost to attend will be announced very soon. They WILL be held

    S.2 Ep.3: "Life" After Coming Out Late w/Cheryl, Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 16, 2023 42:28


    In this episode, Robin meets back up with an old Women Loving Women Support Group pal, Cheryl. It's been a little over a year, and Robin wants to know what Cheryl has been up to since coming out late. Robin asks Cheryl to share with us what her life was like BEFORE coming out, how DID she realize she was gay and come out, and what ‘life' has been like since surviving the dreaded messy middle. Through this conversation with Cheryl & Valerie, once again, Robin shows us the importance of “representation” and how vital it is for us to share our coming out late stories, so others hearing our stories who are possibly questioning their own sexualities, won't feel so alone, and know that there IS hope beyond our compulsory heteronormative lives!  In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will learn . . . How the lack of talking about emotions and ‘things' in Cheryl's upbringing led to figuring ‘things' out on her own.How one can be an open-minded, liberal, “feeler”, (and thinker), but without representation, how is one able to understand and learn about LGBTQ+ topics? “Being gay wasn't really a thing - everyone was hetero and that was that…” How making “safe choices” in life, particularly early in life, turns out NOT necessarily to be “the” way to proceed with life! How lockdown during Covid forced us ALL to look inward; there were no more distractions or ways to stay super busy - forcing us to look within!What tools you can use to help with self-reflection and going inward. This Late Bloomers' reaction to her own coming out - her “Aha!” moment.What to do next when we realize: “...I'm not living the life that I should be…”To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to:(a) Florida in March: Jacksonville Beach, FL; March 16, 17, 18, and 19, 2023,(b) Phoenix / Scottsdale, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023c) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women's Fest”To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the THREE Retreats, (Florida, Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassFOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:To follow Robin on Instagram, and to learn her ‘word' for 2023, go to:@late.blooming.lesbian COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:Support Groups are coming back for 2023!! The schedule, registration process and cost to attend will be announced very soon. They WILL be held on Wednesday evenings, from either 7p

    S.2 E.2: Queer, Gay & Lesbian Intentions for 2023

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 9, 2023 18:23 Transcription Available


    In this episode, Robin sets the tone for 2023 - not only for herself - but she challenges us all to think about setting some conscious intentions for our lives in 2023. Robin asks us to ponder and select one word that will be our battle-cry for all of 2023. In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will learn . . . What is conscious awareness? Why is it important to be consciously-aware? What does it mean to ‘set-intentions'? What are the benefits of setting intentions? How can setting-intentions help you on your coming out journey? Why you should listen to your body & heart, instead of your mind. How focusing on one word can help with personal growth and progress To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  Links to resources: WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT: To follow Robin on Instagram, and to learn her ‘word' for 2023, go to: @late.blooming.lesbian COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: Support Groups are coming back for 2023!! The schedule, registration process and cost to attend will be announced very soon. They WILL be held on Wednesday evenings, from 8pm EST to 9:15pm sharp. If group members wish to stay longer than the allotted 75 minutes, Robin will leave the Zoom Room open for as long as you all wish to stay, but Robin will be leaving the group at 9:15pm EST. For more details and to be added to the Support Group Wait List, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. PLEASE NOTE: One Wednesday will be the “Women Loving Women” support group, alternating Wednesdays with “Fifty Plus & Fabulous”, for women close-to 50 years old and over. ANYONE can join the “Women Loving Women” Group. BISEXUALLY SPEAKING: SMALL GROUP DISCUSSION MEETS WEEKLY:The weekly group, “Bisexually Speaking” continues to be available for anyone who identifies as gay, AND of course, for anyone who identifies or *thinks* they are bisexual. We do not turn anyone away who wishes to try attending a small group discussion, questions where on the gay spectrum you fall, or simply needs a support group. Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135 THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to:(a) Florida in March, (b) Arizona in mid-April, and c) “Women's Fest” in Rehoboth Beach, DE. To be put on the waiting list for either the Florida March Retreat OR the April Arizona Retreat, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

    S.2 E.2: Queer, Gay & Lesbian Intentions for 2023

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 9, 2023 18:23


    In this episode, Robin sets the tone for 2023 - not only for herself - but she challenges us all to think about setting some conscious intentions for our lives in 2023. Robin asks us to ponder and select one word that will be our battle-cry for all of 2023.In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will learn . . .What is conscious awareness?Why is it important to be consciously-aware?What does it mean to ‘set-intentions'?What are the benefits of setting intentions?How can setting-intentions help you on your coming out journey?Why you should listen to your body & heart, instead of your mind.How focusing on one word can help with personal growth and progressTo receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources:WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassFOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:To follow Robin on Instagram, and to learn her ‘word' for 2023, go to:@late.blooming.lesbianCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:Support Groups are coming back for 2023!! The schedule, registration process and cost to attend will be announced very soon. They WILL be held on Wednesday evenings, from 8pm EST to 9:15pm sharp. If group members wish to stay longer than the allotted 75 minutes, Robin will leave the Zoom Room open for as long as you all wish to stay, but Robin will be leaving the group at 9:15pm EST. For more details and to be added to the Support Group Wait List, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. PLEASE NOTE: One Wednesday will be the “Women Loving Women” support group, alternating Wednesdays with “Fifty Plus & Fabulous”, for women close-to 50 years old and over. ANYONE can join the “Women Loving Women” Group.BISEXUALLY SPEAKING: SMALL GROUP DISCUSSION MEETS WEEKLY:The weekly group, “Bisexually Speaking” continues to be available for anyone who identifies as gay, AND of course, for anyone who identifies or *thinks* they are bisexual. We do not turn anyone away who wishes to try attending a small group discussion, questions where on the gay spectrum you fall, or simply needs a support group.Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to:(a) Florida in March,(b) Arizona in mid-April, andc) “Women's Fest” in Rehoboth Beach, DE.To be put on the waiting list for either the Florida March Retreat OR the April Arizona Retreat, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

    S.2 Ep.1: Helen's Story: From Widow to Masc Lesbian in 2022!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 2, 2023 20:01 Transcription Available


    In this episode, Robin again breaks the mold in the world of LGBTQ+ podcasting by introducing us to yet another one of her listeners, via a letter she received from Helen. Like the previous letter read in last season's Episode #55 by Michelle in Australia, Robin received a letter from Helen, outlining her very painful and difficult 2022, complete with Helen's coming out story. Robin was so struck by Helen's vulnerability, the pain she is working through, the self-discovery she is experiencing, and of course, her beautiful coming out story, that she knew she had to share Helen's story with us. In fact, Helen shared her story with Robin as an offering for it to be read on the podcast.  But Robin knew that the impact of Helen's words and all the sentiment behind them would be better spoken by Helen herself. So, Robin asked and Helen agreed to read her own letter, aloud, for the Coming Out Late audience. Helen's real, raw and relatable story shares with us the following . . . How grief, gender dysphoria, autism, intersex, bisexuality, and ultimately, butch lesbian ALL came to light in Helen's world in 2022! How Helen has to deal with the guilt that SHE has survived and is now free to turn away from her deceased husband, after 34 years of marriage, and move on with her life. And, with him now being gone, and her alone, she must now choose a different path to her future than the one in which they had originally planned for themselves together. After all, “Life” is for the Living, is it not? What is gender dysphoria? “Gender Dysphoria” is defined as: a term that describes a sense of unease that a person may have because of a mismatch, or incongruence, between their biological sex and their gender identity. This sense of unease or dissatisfaction may be so intense it can lead to depression and anxiety and have a harmful impact on daily life. What it means to be Intersex: ​​Intersex describes naturally occurring variations in biological sex characteristics. These differences may be apparent at birth or may not be recognized until later in life. Oftentimes, a person will go through life fully unaware that they have an intersex variation.  Intersex is both a biological state and, in recent years, a group identity for people who have been historically stigmatized for being born with bodies that do not align with the binary definition of "boy/girl," "man/woman," or "male/female." The realization of masculine secondary sexual characteristics such as: the need to shave her facial hair, a deeper voice than ‘typical' of females, and a more muscular physicality. Helen's initial declaration of being bisexual, only later to publicly announce and acknowledge her lifelong butch lesbian inclinations. Her realization that, at the moment, ‘living her dream' has nothing to do with attracting others, but it's about at last learning how to love and accept herself for who she truly is, AND enjoying being that person. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources: THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, HELEN FLACK: Thank you Helen for sharing your story full of your experience, strength and hope with us, and for taking the time to write and record this episode for us. To learn more and/or to make a donation in Simon Flack's name, please visit: https://sitran.org/support-us/how-donate/. The Sheffield Institute for Translational Neuroscience (SITraN) is known for their groundbreaking research into ALS or MND. Within their website, there is another link, which when visited, provides details on how American taxpayers can claim a tax deduction for gifts made to the "University of Sheffield in America". Sincere thanks WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT: To follow Robin on Instagram, and to learn her ‘word' for 2023, go to: @late.blooming.lesbian COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: Support Groups are coming back for 2023!! But they are not going to be called “Support Groups”, they will be called Small Group Coaching Sessions with a 3-month, weekly commitment expected and paid for in advance. The schedule, registration process and cost to attend will be announced very soon. They WILL be held on Wednesday evenings, from 8pm EST to 9:15pm sharp. If group members wish to stay longer than the allotted 75 minutes, Robin will leave the Zoom Room open for as long as you all wish to stay, but Robin will be leaving the group at 9:15pm EST. For more details and to be added to the Small Group Coaching Wait List, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. PLEASE NOTE: One Wednesday will be the “Women Loving Women” small group coaching session, alternating Wednesdays with “Fifty Plus & Fabulous”, for women close-to 50 years old and over. ANYONE can join the “Women Loving Women” Group. BISEXUALLY SPEAKING: SMALL GROUP DISCUSSION MEETS WEEKLY:The weekly group, “Bisexually Speaking” continues to be available for anyone who identifies as gay, AND of course, for anyone who identifies or *thinks* they are bisexual. We do not turn anyone away who wishes to try attending a small group discussion, questions where on the gay spectrum you fall, or simply needs a support group. Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135 THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to somewhere in Florida in March, and setting up our Retreat in the Phoenix, or Scottsdale, Arizona area in April. To be put on the waiting list for either the Florida March Retreat OR the April Arizona Retreat, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

    S.2 Ep.1: Helen's Story: From Widow to Masc Lesbian in 2022!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 2, 2023 20:01


    In this episode, Robin again breaks the mold in the world of LGBTQ+ podcasting by introducing us to yet another one of her listeners, via a letter she received from Helen. Like the previous letter read in last season's Episode #55 by Michelle in Australia, Robin received a letter from Helen, outlining her very painful and difficult 2022, complete with Helen's coming out story. Robin was so struck by Helen's vulnerability, the pain she is working through, the self-discovery she is experiencing, and of course, her beautiful coming out story, that she knew she had to share Helen's story with us. In fact, Helen shared her story with Robin as an offering for it to be read on the podcast.  But Robin knew that the impact of Helen's words and all the sentiment behind them would be better spoken by Helen herself. So, Robin asked and Helen agreed to read her own letter, aloud, for the Coming Out Late audience.Helen's real, raw and relatable story shares with us the following . . .How grief, gender dysphoria, autism, intersex, bisexuality, and ultimately, butch lesbian ALL came to light in Helen's world in 2022!How Helen has to deal with the guilt that SHE has survived and is now free to turn away from her deceased husband, after 34 years of marriage, and move on with her life. And, with him now being gone, and her alone, she must now choose a different path to her future than the one in which they had originally planned for themselves together. After all, “Life” is for the Living, is it not?What is gender dysphoria? “Gender Dysphoria” is defined as: a term that describes a sense of unease that a person may have because of a mismatch, or incongruence, between their biological sex and their gender identity. This sense of unease or dissatisfaction may be so intense it can lead to depression and anxiety and have a harmful impact on daily life.What it means to be Intersex: ​​Intersex describes naturally occurring variations in biological sex characteristics. These differences may be apparent at birth or may not be recognized until later in life. Oftentimes, a person will go through life fully unaware that they have an intersex variation.  Intersex is both a biological state and, in recent years, a group identity for people who have been historically stigmatized for being born with bodies that do not align with the binary definition of "boy/girl," "man/woman," or "male/female."The realization of masculine secondary sexual characteristics such as: the need to shave her facial hair, a deeper voice than ‘typical' of females, and a more muscular physicality.Helen's initial declaration of being bisexual, only later to publicly announce and acknowledge her lifelong butch lesbian inclinations.Her realization that, at the moment, ‘living her dream' has nothing to do with attracting others, but it's about at last learning how to love and accept herself for who she truly is, AND enjoying being that person.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, HELEN FLACK:Thank you Helen for sharing your story full of your experience, strength and hope with us, and for taking the time to write and record this episode for us.To learn more and/or to make a donation in Simon Flack's name, please visit: https://sitran.org/support-us/how-donate/. The Sheffield Institute for Translational Neuroscience (SITraN) is known for their groundbreaking research into ALS or MND.

    Ep. #65 Catching Up w/Late Bloomer, Kari DeWitt, Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 26, 2022 44:51


    In this Part Two episode, Robin continues her conversation with late bloomer and LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach AND Spiritual Mentor, Kari DeWitt. Robin picks back up with the challenging question for Kari, “...how do we help our LGBTQ+ coming out late community overcome debilitating feelings of selfishness while they're navigating their new trajectory in life as a gay person…?” Kari's answer may surprise you. Likewise, Robin and Kari also look back at how much about themselves and about their lives have changed, in just one short year.In this episode you will also hear Robin and Kari talk about . . .How Kari's look has changed over the past year; how she identifies today, as opposed to a year ago, and what she ‘labels' herself as today.There are no rules when it comes to who you are ‘supposed' to be.Give yourself permission to play with the way you look, the way you wear your hair, the way you sound and how you talk. Experiment and play around and when something feels right or you say, “Ooh, I like the way that looks. I like the way I feel when I wear my hair this way…”Stand in your power and simply ‘be'. It's OK to just ‘be'.When we act, and live-in authenticity, we give everyone else who hears and sees us living authentically, permission to do the same.In accepting ourselves, our queerness, we are taking one step closer in accepting that ‘things' change in life; things change all the time in life.‘Things' don't happen TO-us in life; ‘things' happen FOR us in our lives.We all need to learn to ‘let go' and trust that we're always taken care of and everything that's happening in our lives is happening for us.Kari reveals HER secret to living an authentic and soulful life - it's all in the STARs: Surrendering, Trusting, Allowing, and finally, Releasing.Learn to love yourself first; we simply cannot fully love another human being until we learn how to love ourselves first.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources:THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, KARI DEWITT:To learn more about Kari DeWitt and her LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach, AND Spiritual Mentor offerings, go to: https://www.karidewitt.comTO LISTEN TO EPISODE #5, MY NOVEMBER 2021 CONVERSATION w/KARI DEWITT, GO TO:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-out-late/id1589128068?i=1000540356354WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassCOMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate.Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm ESThttps:/

    Ep. #65 Catching Up w/Late Bloomer, Kari DeWitt, Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 26, 2022 44:51 Transcription Available


    In this Part Two episode, Robin continues her conversation with late bloomer and LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach AND Spiritual Mentor, Kari DeWitt. Robin picks back up with the challenging question for Kari, “...how do we help our LGBTQ+ coming out late community overcome debilitating feelings of selfishness while they're navigating their new trajectory in life as a gay person…?” Kari's answer may surprise you. Likewise, Robin and Kari also look back at how much about themselves and about their lives have changed, in just one short year. In this episode you will also hear Robin and Kari talk about . . . How Kari's look has changed over the past year; how she identifies today, as opposed to a year ago, and what she ‘labels' herself as today. There are no rules when it comes to who you are ‘supposed' to be. Give yourself permission to play with the way you look, the way you wear your hair, the way you sound and how you talk. Experiment and play around and when something feels right or you say, “Ooh, I like the way that looks. I like the way I feel when I wear my hair this way…” Stand in your power and simply ‘be'. It's OK to just ‘be'. When we act, and live-in authenticity, we give everyone else who hears and sees us living authentically, permission to do the same. In accepting ourselves, our queerness, we are taking one step closer in accepting that ‘things' change in life; things change all the time in life. ‘Things' don't happen TO-us in life; ‘things' happen FOR us in our lives. We all need to learn to ‘let go' and trust that we're always taken care of and everything that's happening in our lives is happening for us. Kari reveals HER secret to living an authentic and soulful life - it's all in the STARs: Surrendering, Trusting, Allowing, and finally, Releasing. Learn to love yourself first; we simply cannot fully love another human being until we learn how to love ourselves first. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  Links to resources: THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, KARI DEWITT: To learn more about Kari DeWitt and her LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach, AND Spiritual Mentor offerings, go to: https://www.karidewitt.com TO LISTEN TO EPISODE #5, MY NOVEMBER 2021 CONVERSATION w/KARI DEWITT, GO TO: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-out-late/id1589128068?i=1000540356354 WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate. Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135 COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to the western coast of Florida in March, and setting up our Retreat in the Phoenix, or Scottsdale, Arizona area in April. To be put on the waiting list for either the Florida March Retreat OR the April Arizona Retreat, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

    Ep. #64: A Couple o' Late Bloomers Catch Up, Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2022 30:07 Transcription Available


    In this episode, Robin talks with Kari DeWitt, an LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach as well as a Spiritual Mentor. This is not Robin & Kari's first rodeo or podcast episode together - Robin interviewed Kari back in Episode 5 of the “Coming Out Late” podcast in November of 2021, as her first-ever podcast guest. Back then, they chatted with one another about all-things LGBTQ+, sharing bits ‘n pieces of their own coming out late stories, as well as talking about the enormous growth each were experiencing in their own private Facebook groups, Kari's “Late Bloomer Lesbians + Support Group”, and Robin's “Coming Out Late” group. A year later, they pick up where they left off, continuing to address LGBTQ topics, but this time perhaps, in more broader terms as they zoom-out from their microscopic views of simply coming out late, and explore the deeper realms of what their queer awakening may really mean. In this episode you will hear Robin and Kari discuss . . . How has Kari's coming out late journey changed in the year that passed since Kari was last on the “Coming Out Late” podcast? What has Kari learned about herself and about her sexuality in the last year? Has the “landscape” of coming out changed at all, in the last year? What has ‘spirituality' have to do with my gayness, my coming out?. This is bigger than our sexuality; our awareness and declaration of our queerness is a stepping stone to something greater for each of us. What is the difference between ‘woke', and ‘being awake'? Awakening to our true ‘beingness' also gives space for other doors to open and for you to get curious in your life. We each have a purpose here. We came into this life as this particular human to have this particular experience, to learn a specific lesson. What is the kryptonite for ‘shame' and ‘guilt'? Helping women get closer to their authentic self, which is soul - that which is greater than ourselves. Getting quiet with yourself long enough to be able to have a relationship with this inner being. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources: THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, KARI DEWITT: To learn more about Kari DeWitt and her LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach, AND Spiritual Mentor offerings, go to: https://www.karidewitt.com TO LISTEN TO EPISODE #5, MY NOVEMBER 2021 CONVERSATION w/KARI DEWITT, GO TO: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-out-late/id1589128068?i=1000540356354 WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate. Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135 COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to the western coast of Florida in March, and setting up our Retreat in the Phoenix, or Scottsdale, Arizona area in April. To be put on the waiting list for either the Florida March Retreat OR the April Arizona Retreat, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

    Ep. #64: A Couple o' Late Bloomers Catch Up, Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2022 30:07


    In this episode, Robin talks with Kari DeWitt, an LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach as well as a Spiritual Mentor. This is not Robin & Kari's first rodeo or podcast episode together - Robin interviewed Kari back in Episode 5 of the “Coming Out Late” podcast in November of 2021, as her first-ever podcast guest. Back then, they chatted with one another about all-things LGBTQ+, sharing bits ‘n pieces of their own coming out late stories, as well as talking about the enormous growth each were experiencing in their own private Facebook groups, Kari's “Late Bloomer Lesbians + Support Group”, and Robin's “Coming Out Late” group. A year later, they pick up where they left off, continuing to address LGBTQ topics, but this time perhaps, in more broader terms as they zoom-out from their microscopic views of simply coming out late, and explore the deeper realms of what their queer awakening may really mean.In this episode you will hear Robin and Kari discuss . . .How has Kari's coming out late journey changed in the year that passed since Kari was last on the “Coming Out Late” podcast?What has Kari learned about herself and about her sexuality in the last year?Has the “landscape” of coming out changed at all, in the last year?What has ‘spirituality' have to do with my gayness, my coming out?.This is bigger than our sexuality; our awareness and declaration of our queerness is a stepping stone to something greater for each of us.What is the difference between ‘woke', and ‘being awake'?Awakening to our true ‘beingness' also gives space for other doors to open and for you to get curious in your life.We each have a purpose here. We came into this life as this particular human to have this particular experience, to learn a specific lesson.What is the kryptonite for ‘shame' and ‘guilt'? Helping women get closer to their authentic self, which is soul - that which is greater than ourselves.Getting quiet with yourself long enough to be able to have a relationship with this inner being.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, KARI DEWITT:To learn more about Kari DeWitt and her LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach, AND Spiritual Mentor offerings, go to: https://www.karidewitt.comTO LISTEN TO EPISODE #5, MY NOVEMBER 2021 CONVERSATION w/KARI DEWITT, GO TO:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-out-late/id1589128068?i=1000540356354WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassCOMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate.Bisexually Spea

    Ep. 63: A Late Bloomer Interview w/Dee Burrell

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 12, 2022 67:19 Transcription Available


    In this episode, Robin interviews late bloomer and emotional wellness coach, Dee Burrell. Robin and Dee's chemistry and easy-conversation style make it easy to ponder the possibilities that our thoughts are not who we are - that they're just thoughts. Likewise, the two discuss and disclose what it was like to realize you are gay at the age of 5 but living in the south being raised a staunch southern baptist. After four children, eight years of clawing her way out of the closet and fourteen years of a hetero-normative marriage, it is obvious to Robin's listeners that Dee IS finally living her best life. In this episode you will hear Robin and Dee talk about . . . What does it mean when Dee says, “...we are not our thoughts?” What external factors impact and affect our inner knowing? How adult questioning, when we're young, can be SO off-putting and presumptuous. For Dee, *something* didn't fit their line of questioning. Dee recalls thinking, “...I'd grow out of it, I'd marry a man, I'd have kids…you know, I'd do all the things that were expected of me…” Choosing the men we are to marry: “...you'll do just fine; you're smart, you're attractive…we'll have adorable babies…you know, like, this is what I'm supposed to do…”  We convince ourselves that THIS is where we're supposed to be. Our lives, and our marriages, they were definitely NOT what they appeared to be; people looking from the outside in, idolized what they thought we had. Typically, NONE of the ‘things' that we are terrified will happen, ever happen at all. They are all just thoughts in our minds, stories we tell ourselves that don't even exist. Using personal development tools to get through familial betrayal. Allowing ourselves to feel ALL the feelings. Do not resist the hard feelings. What we resist, persists. Our power is latent in us all; we just need develop the courage to tap into it. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources: THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, DEE BURRELL: To learn more about Dee Burrell and her emotional wellness offerings, go to: https://www.sapphiccoaching.com THE 2023 VISION BOARD WORKSHOP:Take advantage of the special Presale Offer to join the year-long, 2023 Vision Board Workshop by registering before January 1st in order to snag the $249 presale deal. Starting January 1st, registration into this one-of-a-kind Workshop goes up to $299 per person, for the year-long Workshop. To find out how you can Register and pay NOW, please email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate. Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135 THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” in Florida in March, and setting up our Retreat in the Phoenix Arizona area in April. To be put on the waiting list for either the Florida March Retreat OR the April Arizona Retreat, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

    Ep. 63: A Late Bloomer Interview w/Dee Burrell

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 12, 2022 67:19


    In this episode, Robin interviews late bloomer and emotional wellness coach, Dee Burrell. Robin and Dee's chemistry and easy-conversation style make it easy to ponder the possibilities that our thoughts are not who we are - that they're just thoughts. Likewise, the two discuss and disclose what it was like to realize you are gay at the age of 5 but living in the south being raised a staunch southern baptist. After four children, eight years of clawing her way out of the closet and fourteen years of a hetero-normative marriage, it is obvious to Robin's listeners that Dee IS finally living her best life.In this episode you will hear Robin and Dee talk about . . .What does it mean when Dee says, “...we are not our thoughts?”What external factors impact and affect our inner knowing?How adult questioning, when we're young, can be SO off-putting and presumptuous. For Dee, *something* didn't fit their line of questioning.Dee recalls thinking, “...I'd grow out of it, I'd marry a man, I'd have kids…you know, I'd do all the things that were expected of me…”Choosing the men we are to marry: “...you'll do just fine; you're smart, you're attractive…we'll have adorable babies…you know, like, this is what I'm supposed to do…”  We convince ourselves that THIS is where we're supposed to be.Our lives, and our marriages, they were definitely NOT what they appeared to be; people looking from the outside in, idolized what they thought we had.Typically, NONE of the ‘things' that we are terrified will happen, ever happen at all. They are all just thoughts in our minds, stories we tell ourselves that don't even exist.Using personal development tools to get through familial betrayal.Allowing ourselves to feel ALL the feelings. Do not resist the hard feelings. What we resist, persists.Our power is latent in us all; we just need develop the courage to tap into it.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, DEE BURRELL:To learn more about Dee Burrell and her emotional wellness offerings, go to: https://www.sapphiccoaching.comTHE 2023 VISION BOARD WORKSHOP:Take advantage of the special Presale Offer to join the year-long, 2023 Vision Board Workshop by registering before January 1st in order to snag the $249 presale deal. Starting January 1st, registration into this one-of-a-kind Workshop goes up to $299 per person, for the year-long Workshop. To find out how you can Register and pay NOW, please email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate.Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” in Florida in March, and setting up our Retreat in the Phoenix Arizona area in April. To be put on the waiting list for

    Ep. #62: Coming Out Late was Inevitable

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 5, 2022 19:01 Transcription Available


    In this episode, Robin debuts a new segment of her podcast called, “Consider the Possibility”. In “Consider the Possibility”, Robin introduces a particular topic or theme or idea that she hopes will help us all think a little deeper, feel a little more awakened and possibly even inspire us to act a little differently as we navigate through this journey of life and of coming out. In this episode you will consider the possibility of ‘impermanence' and learn . . . What is the meaning of ‘impermanence', and why is it important? How does ‘impermanence' affect us: Emotionally? Socially? Intellectually? Mentally? Spiritually? Physically? Does the knowledge of ‘impermanence' affect our daily lives? Does ‘impermanence' impact our mindfulness and being present in the moment? What are the benefits of accepting ‘impermanence'? What can happen if we do not accept the idea of ‘impermanence'? By embracing ‘impermanence', we learn acceptance and that ‘change' is inevitable. How does the intersection of ‘impermanence' and ‘comp-het', ‘homophobia', and deep-seeded denial play in our lives and how self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem can be the medicine! Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources: THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.Get on the waiting list for the March 2023 Coming Out Late Retreat to be held in the Phoenix or Scottsdale, Arizona area by emailing ARIZONA to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. THE 2023 VISION BOARD WORKSHOP:Get on the waiting list for the January, 4-week Vision Board Workshop. Cost includes instruction and guidance, assessments, four, weekly 90-minute Workshop sessions and three additional quarterly, hour-long accountability meetings throughout the year. To be added to the Waitlist and for more information about the workshop, please email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate. Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135 COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

    Ep. #62: Coming Out Late was Inevitable

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 5, 2022 19:01


    In this episode, Robin debuts a new segment of her podcast called, “Consider the Possibility”. In “Consider the Possibility”, Robin introduces a particular topic or theme or idea that she hopes will help us all think a little deeper, feel a little more awakened and possibly even inspire us to act a little differently as we navigate through this journey of life and of coming out.In this episode you will consider the possibility of ‘impermanence' and learn . . .What is the meaning of ‘impermanence', and why is it important?How does ‘impermanence' affect us: Emotionally? Socially? Intellectually? Mentally? Spiritually? Physically?Does the knowledge of ‘impermanence' affect our daily lives?Does ‘impermanence' impact our mindfulness and being present in the moment?What are the benefits of accepting ‘impermanence'?What can happen if we do not accept the idea of ‘impermanence'?By embracing ‘impermanence', we learn acceptance and that ‘change' is inevitable.How does the intersection of ‘impermanence' and ‘comp-het', ‘homophobia', and deep-seeded denial play in our lives and how self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem can be the medicine!Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.Get on the waiting list for the March 2023 Coming Out Late Retreat to be held in the Phoenix or Scottsdale, Arizona area by emailing ARIZONA to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.THE 2023 VISION BOARD WORKSHOP:Get on the waiting list for the January, 4-week Vision Board Workshop. Cost includes instruction and guidance, assessments, four, weekly 90-minute Workshop sessions and three additional quarterly, hour-long accountability meetings throughout the year. To be added to the Waitlist and for more information about the workshop, please email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate.Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

    Ep. #61: Who, and Why Am I?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2022 76:24 Transcription Available


    In this episode, Robin is interviewed by Greg Sowell, host of his own podcast called, “Why Am I?” Greg's premise behind his “Why Am I?” podcast, is that he likes talking to interesting people and tries to trace a path to where they were to where they find themselves today. Nonetheless, Robin makes an excellent guest on his show, because clearly her path to where she was to where she finds herself today is quite an unlikely path indeed. In this episode, you will hear Greg interview Robin and learn . . . How and why Robin became a solopreneur, and what that means. (Hint: an unexpected and abrupt - and illegal - ending to her marital alimony suddenly had Robin scrambling to support herself.) Why Robin thinks we are all going through a metamorphosis throughout our lives, explaining why it's important we embrace change and impermanence, because nothing stays the same - change is inevitable. Robin says, “...I always knew there was something more for me to do, to accomplish…always wanting to know my purpose in life…” How Robin followed the breadcrumbs along a 10-year journey. Recuperating from her nearly three-year divorce and how two and a half years after her divorce, she was faced with a very difficult financial and legal decision. How Robin freed herself from being beholden to her ex-husband, wanting to be fully self-sufficient and independent - depending only on herself. Theories on why there are droves of people coming out late in the last 4-7 years; and how many come out near their 30th, 40th, 50th, 60th, 70th+ birthdays. Coming to terms with being gay and how we choose to express ourselves (as gay people), publicly, AND, reconciling that expression of our gayness. Fear paralyzes us. When you're feeling the fear, ask yourself, “What's the worst that can happen?” Feel the fear and do it anyway. What roles do ‘comp-het', ‘homophobia', and deep-seeded denial play in our lives and how self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem can be the medicine! Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources: SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: A Conversation with Hulu's star couple from “Mormon No More”, and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne & Lena Schwen.You can purchase the RECORDING from this Speaker Summit by sending $27 to either Venmo: @comingoutlater or PayPal: @NovareInternational, THEN emailing Robin at Comingoutlater@gmail.com, to request your copy of the Recording. COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups: Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122 Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135 Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137 Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST (Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22) https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

    Ep. #61: Who, and Why Am I?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2022 76:24


    In this episode, Robin is interviewed by Greg Sowell, host of his own podcast called, “Why Am I?” Greg's premise behind his “Why Am I?” podcast, is that he likes talking to interesting people and tries to trace a path to where they were to where they find themselves today. Nonetheless, Robin makes an excellent guest on his show, because clearly her path to where she was to where she finds herself today is quite an unlikely path indeed.In this episode, you will hear Greg interview Robin and learn . . .How and why Robin became a solopreneur, and what that means. (Hint: an unexpected and abrupt - and illegal - ending to her marital alimony suddenly had Robin scrambling to support herself.)Why Robin thinks we are all going through a metamorphosis throughout our lives, explaining why it's important we embrace change and impermanence, because nothing stays the same - change is inevitable.Robin says, “...I always knew there was something more for me to do, to accomplish…always wanting to know my purpose in life…”How Robin followed the breadcrumbs along a 10-year journey.Recuperating from her nearly three-year divorce and how two and a half years after her divorce, she was faced with a very difficult financial and legal decision.How Robin freed herself from being beholden to her ex-husband, wanting to be fully self-sufficient and independent - depending only on herself.Theories on why there are droves of people coming out late in the last 4-7 years; and how many come out near their 30th, 40th, 50th, 60th, 70th+ birthdays.Coming to terms with being gay and how we choose to express ourselves (as gay people), publicly, AND, reconciling that expression of our gayness.Fear paralyzes us. When you're feeling the fear, ask yourself, “What's the worst that can happen?” Feel the fear and do it anyway.What roles do ‘comp-het', ‘homophobia', and deep-seeded denial play in our lives and how self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem can be the medicine!Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: A Conversation with Hulu's star couple from “Mormon No More”, and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne & Lena Schwen.You can purchase the RECORDING from this Speaker Summit by sending $27 to either Venmo: @comingoutlater or PayPal: @NovareInternational, THEN emailing Robin at Comingoutlater@gmail.com, to request your copy of the Recording.COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST(Next date

    Ep. #60: What Did the Pansexual Say to the Lesbian?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 21, 2022 60:29 Transcription Available


    In this episode, Robin is interviewed by Abigail, a relatively new, self-proclaimed pansexual, and Host of her own podcast all about relationships called, “The Manic Pixie Weirdo”. The week before this episode aired with Robin, Abigail did a solo episode on her podcast called, “My Relationship with Coming Out”, and therefore wanted to interview Robin to learn more about her own relationship with coming out, and what Robin's process was like. In this episode, you will hear Abigail interview Robin and learn about . . . My “Aha!” moment, at 54 years young! My ten-year span of ‘awakening' after a lifetime of heteronormativity. There's no puttin' the genie back in the bottle once she pops out! There are two camps of women: those who ‘knew' but for external societal reasons had to stuff it down; and those of us who stuffed it so far down, (due to implicit societal reasons), that it took decades to ‘know'. How inexplicable, confusing infatuations back then, make complete sense now. Do we need ‘labels'? Do we want labels? Married women liking women: oh my gosh, this IS a ‘thing'! How do you know for sure you're gay, having never been intimate with a woman? Is it ‘normal' to feel resentments about NOT coming out sooner? In what ways have I, and do ‘we', personally grow, since coming out? I've come out late in life, so, what else don't I know about myself? Everything in my life happens FOR me, not TO me! Hetero-dating versus same-sex dating - who makes the first move? How do you flirt? Indoctrinating yourself into the gay culture; ask for guidance if you need it. When in doubt, just use “ya'll” for everyone's pronouns. Coming out later: is self-care selfish? Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass   Links to resources: THE FIRST “COMING OUT LATE” RETREAT OF 2023: Come join Robin and your coming out late peers at the very first retreat of 2023 in March, in Phoenix Arizona. To be added to the Phoenix Retreat waiting list, email Robin your name to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: A Conversation with Hulu's star couple from “Mormon No More”, and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne & Lena Schwen.You can purchase the RECORDING from this Speaker Summit by sending $27 to either Venmo: @comingoutlater or PayPal: @NovareInternational, THEN emailing Robin at Comingoutlater@gmail.com, to request your copy of the Recording. COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups: Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122 Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135 Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137 Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST (Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22) https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

    Ep. #60: What Did the Pansexual Say to the Lesbian?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 21, 2022 60:29


    In this episode, Robin is interviewed by Abigail, a relatively new, self-proclaimed pansexual, and Host of her own podcast all about relationships called, “The Manic Pixie Weirdo”. The week before this episode aired with Robin, Abigail did a solo episode on her podcast called, “My Relationship with Coming Out”, and therefore wanted to interview Robin to learn more about her own relationship with coming out, and what Robin's process was like.In this episode, you will hear Abigail interview Robin and learn about . . .My “Aha!” moment, at 54 years young!My ten-year span of ‘awakening' after a lifetime of heteronormativity.There's no puttin' the genie back in the bottle once she pops out!There are two camps of women: those who ‘knew' but for external societal reasons had to stuff it down; and those of us who stuffed it so far down, (due to implicit societal reasons), that it took decades to ‘know'.How inexplicable, confusing infatuations back then, make complete sense now.Do we need ‘labels'? Do we want labels?Married women liking women: oh my gosh, this IS a ‘thing'!How do you know for sure you're gay, having never been intimate with a woman?Is it ‘normal' to feel resentments about NOT coming out sooner?In what ways have I, and do ‘we', personally grow, since coming out?I've come out late in life, so, what else don't I know about myself?Everything in my life happens FOR me, not TO me!Hetero-dating versus same-sex dating - who makes the first move? How do you flirt?Indoctrinating yourself into the gay culture; ask for guidance if you need it.When in doubt, just use “ya'll” for everyone's pronouns.Coming out later: is self-care selfish?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  Links to resources:THE FIRST “COMING OUT LATE” RETREAT OF 2023:Come join Robin and your coming out late peers at the very first retreat of 2023 in March, in Phoenix Arizona. To be added to the Phoenix Retreat waiting list, email Robin your name to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: A Conversation with Hulu's star couple from “Mormon No More”, and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne & Lena Schwen.You can purchase the RECORDING from this Speaker Summit by sending $27 to either Venmo: @comingoutlater or PayPal: @NovareInternational, THEN emailing Robin at Comingoutlater@gmail.com, to request your copy of the Recording.COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassCOMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:Women Helping Women,

    Ep. #59: Late Blooming Conversations, Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2022 35:55


    In this episode, Robin takes us back into an inside look, (“Part Two”), into several really poignant conversations that took place in one of her four weekly support groups she facilitates for women coming out late in life. With permission from all the women in this small group this particular week, they collectively agreed that the conversation that transpired was just too good NOT to share with her podcast listeners.In this Part Two episode, you will hear and learn about . . .We pick up the conversation with the idea that ‘feeling uncomfortable' and ‘feeling uncertain' are simply aspects of life that we must accept. That we must get comfortable with being UNcomfortable; that we must learn how to be comfortable while also feeling uncertainty.We talk about how “we don't HAVE to make this moment, or this situation tolerable for everyone else just so that I can tolerate it.”We collectively agreed that we WISHED someone would have said to us, as young girls, that it's ok to disappoint people - that they'll be ok. We shared what the magnitude of that conversation would have had on our young lives, and beyond, had we been told that it's ok to disappoint others.How much growth and ‘riches' exist in the sitting-in the unknown, and sitting in the discomfort.We learned how to manipulate and control as a result of feeling out of control growing up; those tactics and auto-responses come with us into our adult relationships.Learning to feel safe and trustworthy within ourselves.As children, we learned coping mechanisms to conform and ‘not disappoint' in order to keep the peace. As adults, we need to shed these coping mechanisms that no longer serve us when we learn to trust ourselves.THIS is it! A declaration - no longer a question!Staying (in my marriage or hetero-relationship would have been easier. Easier for who? What IS “easier”?Don't look back(wards). Appreciate the experiences that made us into who we are today. We are the sum of ALL of our experiences!Our lives unfold precisely how they are meant to unfold.Our lives, our stories do NOT have to look like everyone else's.What does “gay” look like today? How do you represent? If you're very femme, how do you let others know you're gay?Some Bonus conversation about Episode #55, and if/how we should come out to elderly parents and grandparents.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources:SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: How to Handle the Holidays Before, During or After Coming Out!!Join us virtually in Zoom on Wednesday, November 16, from 7pm to 9pm EST when we invite Hulu's star couple from “Mormon No More” and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne and Lena Schwen. Who better to talk to us about how to handle the holidays than this family of seven children, and two ex-husbands, than a couple of former Mormons. $27 pp. Register using the Calendly link below. Recordings are available for purchase for $27, by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Register for the Live, virtual event here:https://calendly.com/comingoutlatecommunity/speaker-summit-4COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to

    Ep. #59: Late Blooming Conversations, Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2022 35:55 Transcription Available


    In this episode, Robin takes us back into an inside look, (“Part Two”), into several really poignant conversations that took place in one of her four weekly support groups she facilitates for women coming out late in life. With permission from all the women in this small group this particular week, they collectively agreed that the conversation that transpired was just too good NOT to share with her podcast listeners. In this Part Two episode, you will hear and learn about . . . We pick up the conversation with the idea that ‘feeling uncomfortable' and ‘feeling uncertain' are simply aspects of life that we must accept. That we must get comfortable with being UNcomfortable; that we must learn how to be comfortable while also feeling uncertainty. We talk about how “we don't HAVE to make this moment, or this situation tolerable for everyone else just so that I can tolerate it.” We collectively agreed that we WISHED someone would have said to us, as young girls, that it's ok to disappoint people - that they'll be ok. We shared what the magnitude of that conversation would have had on our young lives, and beyond, had we been told that it's ok to disappoint others. How much growth and ‘riches' exist in the sitting-in the unknown, and sitting in the discomfort. We learned how to manipulate and control as a result of feeling out of control growing up; those tactics and auto-responses come with us into our adult relationships. Learning to feel safe and trustworthy within ourselves. As children, we learned coping mechanisms to conform and ‘not disappoint' in order to keep the peace. As adults, we need to shed these coping mechanisms that no longer serve us when we learn to trust ourselves. THIS is it! A declaration - no longer a question! Staying (in my marriage or hetero-relationship would have been easier. Easier for who? What IS “easier”? Don't look back(wards). Appreciate the experiences that made us into who we are today. We are the sum of ALL of our experiences! Our lives unfold precisely how they are meant to unfold. Our lives, our stories do NOT have to look like everyone else's. What does “gay” look like today? How do you represent? If you're very femme, how do you let others know you're gay? Some Bonus conversation about Episode #55, and if/how we should come out to elderly parents and grandparents. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  Links to resources: SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: How to Handle the Holidays Before, During or After Coming Out!!Join us virtually in Zoom on Wednesday, November 16, from 7pm to 9pm EST when we invite Hulu's star couple from “Mormon No More” and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne and Lena Schwen. Who better to talk to us about how to handle the holidays than this family of seven children, and two ex-husbands, than a couple of former Mormons. $27 pp. Register using the Calendly link below. Recordings are available for purchase for $27, by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Register for the Live, virtual event here:https://calendly.com/comingoutlatecommunity/speaker-summit-4 COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups: Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122 Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135 Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137 Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST (Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22) https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

    Ep. #58: Late Blooming Conversations, Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2022 53:19 Transcription Available


    In this episode, Robin shares with us an inside look into one of her four weekly support groups she facilitates for women coming out late in life. With permission from all the women in this small group, on this particular day, they collectively agreed that the conversation that transpired was just too good NOT to share with her podcast listeners. In this episode you will hear and learn about . . . We initially opened the conversation by pondering the following comment/question: “Do you find that it's much more intense dating women than men?” Discussing that first question then morphed into us discussing THIS question: “Have you found it hard to not get caught up in the ‘new relationship energy' feelings? What are some tools you would suggest to help with those intense ‘new relationship energy' feelings?” Feel the feelings. Feel ALL the feelings. BUT…do NOT let new relationship-energy cloud your judgment! What is New Relationship Energy? (NRE)? And is it something to avoid, fear or dive-into? How do recovering people pleasers handle the intoxicating feelings from new relationship energy? Are there tools to deal with new relationship energy? How do you transition, within a relationship, from ‘new relationship energy', to something more sustainable? From obsession to success & sustainable? The importance of our female friendships and their ability to tell us with loving kindness the difficult things we need to hear about ourselves. Setting realistic expectations for yourself, AND within a relationship. The value in maintaining personal autonomy within your relationship. While sounding cliché, the critical nature of communication in ALL of our (close) relationships. Trusting our feelings and our intuition. Tools for our personal growth. Having everything, but still feeling, “...is this it?” If somebody would have just said this to me when I was a little girl . . . Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass   Links to resources: SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: Handling the Ho-Ho-Ho-mophobia During the Holidays!Join us virtually in Zoom on Wednesday, November 16, from 7pm to 9pm EST when we invite Hulu's star couple from “Mormon No More” and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne and Lena Schwen. Who better to talk to us about how to handle the holidays than this family of seven children, and two ex-husbands, than a couple of former Mormons. $27 pp. Register using the Calendly link below. Recordings are available for purchase for $27, by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Register for the Live, virtual event here:https://calendly.com/comingoutlatecommunity/speaker-summit-4 COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups: Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122 Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135 Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137 Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST (Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22) https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

    Ep. #58: Late Blooming Conversations, Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2022 53:19


    In this episode, Robin shares with us an inside look into one of her four weekly support groups she facilitates for women coming out late in life. With permission from all the women in this small group, on this particular day, they collectively agreed that the conversation that transpired was just too good NOT to share with her podcast listeners.In this episode you will hear and learn about . . .We initially opened the conversation by pondering the following comment/question: “Do you find that it's much more intense dating women than men?”Discussing that first question then morphed into us discussing THIS question: “Have you found it hard to not get caught up in the ‘new relationship energy' feelings? What are some tools you would suggest to help with those intense ‘new relationship energy' feelings?”Feel the feelings. Feel ALL the feelings. BUT…do NOT let new relationship-energy cloud your judgment!What is New Relationship Energy? (NRE)? And is it something to avoid, fear or dive-into?How do recovering people pleasers handle the intoxicating feelings from new relationship energy? Are there tools to deal with new relationship energy?How do you transition, within a relationship, from ‘new relationship energy', to something more sustainable? From obsession to success & sustainable?The importance of our female friendships and their ability to tell us with loving kindness the difficult things we need to hear about ourselves.Setting realistic expectations for yourself, AND within a relationship.The value in maintaining personal autonomy within your relationship.While sounding cliché, the critical nature of communication in ALL of our (close) relationships.Trusting our feelings and our intuition.Tools for our personal growth.Having everything, but still feeling, “...is this it?”If somebody would have just said this to me when I was a little girl . . .Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  Links to resources:SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: Handling the Ho-Ho-Ho-mophobia During the Holidays!Join us virtually in Zoom on Wednesday, November 16, from 7pm to 9pm EST when we invite Hulu's star couple from “Mormon No More” and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne and Lena Schwen. Who better to talk to us about how to handle the holidays than this family of seven children, and two ex-husbands, than a couple of former Mormons. $27 pp. Register using the Calendly link below. Recordings are available for purchase for $27, by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Register for the Live, virtual event here:https://calendly.com/comingoutlatecommunity/speaker-summit-4COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDougla

    Ep: #57 - Holy Sh*t! I'm (STILL) Gay! Oh Thank You Lesbian Lords!

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2022 58:17 Transcription Available


    In this episode, Robin is being interviewed by Annie McKinnon, creator and Host of “Talking All Things LGBTQ”. With a full year under her belt, since starting her own podcast and coming out to the world in the first few episodes, this is an interesting inside look at Robin's recount of her story a year later, as well as her reflecting on the many lessons she has learned along the way. One thing she knows for sure, is that loving a woman has been a beautiful journey and “easier” for her, than loving and being involved with a man, but? It is not always easy either! In this episode you will hear and learn about . . . Sleep-walking through life, then married with children for 28+ years - but the Universe was whispering a different message to me. Compulsory-Heteronormativity and deep social conditioning. Fearing the unknown; we fear what we do not understand. What is homophobia? Is it innate? Is it real? Is it suppressed? Learned? Stuffing down and numbing the feelings. Unconventional research to figure this sh*t out! And meeting the women who gave me absolute affirmation, confirmation and validation. The “Aha!” moment; and how did that feel - in the moment? The painful Messy Middle, dealing with my divorce and telling my children. That moment when I knew my life, (moving forward), was never going to be the same. Coming clean to my loved ones - regardless of their potential reactions. Through self-assessment and self-reflection, you will learn your attachment styles, love languages, and self-love. Learn by doing: educating ourselves with every interaction and every relationship we have, and asking yourself: are you well-aligned with this person in all aspects of being human? Book:, “Attachment Theory: by Joan Our awakening to our sexuality is our super power! Unlearning old values and beliefs. Is that MY belief or someone else's ‘voice'? Q: “When can I put all this (difficult stuff) behind me?” A: “When you take the time to put it in front of you.” Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  Links to resources: COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups: Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122 Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135 Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137 Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST (Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22) https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass COMING OUT LATE “COMP HET” SPEAKER SUMMIT #3: For those of you who were unable to attend the LIVE CompHet Speaker Summit Event, you can still purchase the recording for $27 by going to either PayPal @NovareInternational or Venmo @Comingoutlater. You missed QUITE the event, so grab your recorded copy and catch-up on all things Compulsory Heterosexuality!

    Ep: #57 - Holy Sh*t! I'm (STILL) Gay! Oh Thank You Lesbian Lords!

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2022 58:17


    In this episode, Robin is being interviewed by Annie McKinnon, creator and Host of “Talking All Things LGBTQ”. With a full year under her belt, since starting her own podcast and coming out to the world in the first few episodes, this is an interesting inside look at Robin's recount of her story a year later, as well as her reflecting on the many lessons she has learned along the way. One thing she knows for sure, is that loving a woman has been a beautiful journey and “easier” for her, than loving and being involved with a man, but? It is not always easy either!In this episode you will hear and learn about . . .Sleep-walking through life, then married with children for 28+ years - but the Universe was whispering a different message to me.Compulsory-Heteronormativity and deep social conditioning.Fearing the unknown; we fear what we do not understand.What is homophobia? Is it innate? Is it real? Is it suppressed? Learned?Stuffing down and numbing the feelings.Unconventional research to figure this sh*t out! And meeting the women who gave me absolute affirmation, confirmation and validation.The “Aha!” moment; and how did that feel - in the moment?The painful Messy Middle, dealing with my divorce and telling my children.That moment when I knew my life, (moving forward), was never going to be the same.Coming clean to my loved ones - regardless of their potential reactions.Through self-assessment and self-reflection, you will learn your attachment styles, love languages, and self-love.Learn by doing: educating ourselves with every interaction and every relationship we have, and asking yourself: are you well-aligned with this person in all aspects of being human?Book:, “Attachment Theory: by JoanOur awakening to our sexuality is our super power!Unlearning old values and beliefs. Is that MY belief or someone else's ‘voice'?Q: “When can I put all this (difficult stuff) behind me?” A: “When you take the time to put it in front of you.”Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources:COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST(Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22)https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.comCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out L

    Ep. #56: Late Blooming Break-Ups w/Samantha Fox

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2022 72:55 Transcription Available


    In this episode, Robin discusses the in's and out's of relational compatibility, emotional EQ, timing, chemistry and of course, ‘curiosity' with friend, colleague and Lesbian Curiosity Coach herself, Samantah Fox. In this episode you will hear and learn about . . . Figuring out chemistry: even with video-chatting, and audio-texting constantly, ‘chemistry' may be evident for some, and not for others; everyone processes at their own pace and in their own way. The importance of understanding each other's ‘intentions' for meeting, AND, being open and honest about your wants, needs, intentions and expectations. The importance of gaining CLARITY! The importance of understanding your own “triggers” and what makes you put your guard-up and what you can do to avoid misunderstandings and miscommunications. The importance of REALLY recognizing when you and another person are misaligned. It is SO common, (and SO unhealthy) for us to, (all along the course of getting to know someone), hope and dream for ‘her' and for ‘things' to be a certain way, when they really aren't. The necessity of self-assessment and self-awareness in order to figure out what you want and need in a relationship; AND, be open to the possibility that those things you think you need and want may change and evolve. How much it matters that two people are, (as much as possible), in very similar points in their lives as they try to enter into a relationship with one another, (i.,e., just divorcing, the messy middle, new to dating, been out for several years, in an open marriage, not out to anyone yet, etc.). No matter where you are in the “Coming Out Late” journey, the necessity of learning who you are; being rigorously honest with yourself and others. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources: THE LESBIAN CURIOSITY COACH - SAMANTHA FOX website-https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.com TikTok- https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/lesbiancuriositycoach/ YouTube-https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups: Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122 Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135 Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137 Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST (Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22) https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass COMING OUT LATE “COMP HET” SPEAKER SUMMIT #3: For those of you who were unable to attend the LIVE CompHet Speaker Summit Event, you can still purchase the recording for $27 by going to either PayPal @NovareInternational or Venmo @Comingoutlater. You missed QUITE the event, so grab your recorded copy and catch-up on all things Compulsory Heterosexuality!

    Ep. #56: Late Blooming Break-Ups w/Samantha Fox

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2022 72:55


    In this episode, Robin discusses the in's and out's of relational compatibility, emotional EQ, timing, chemistry and of course, ‘curiosity' with friend, colleague and Lesbian Curiosity Coach herself, Samantah Fox.In this episode you will hear and learn about . . .Figuring out chemistry: even with video-chatting, and audio-texting constantly, ‘chemistry' may be evident for some, and not for others; everyone processes at their own pace and in their own way.The importance of understanding each other's ‘intentions' for meeting, AND, being open and honest about your wants, needs, intentions and expectations. The importance of gaining CLARITY!The importance of understanding your own “triggers” and what makes you put your guard-up and what you can do to avoid misunderstandings and miscommunications.The importance of REALLY recognizing when you and another person are misaligned. It is SO common, (and SO unhealthy) for us to, (all along the course of getting to know someone), hope and dream for ‘her' and for ‘things' to be a certain way, when they really aren't.The necessity of self-assessment and self-awareness in order to figure out what you want and need in a relationship; AND, be open to the possibility that those things you think you need and want may change and evolve.How much it matters that two people are, (as much as possible), in very similar points in their lives as they try to enter into a relationship with one another, (i.,e., just divorcing, the messy middle, new to dating, been out for several years, in an open marriage, not out to anyone yet, etc.).No matter where you are in the “Coming Out Late” journey, the necessity of learning who you are; being rigorously honest with yourself and others.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources:THE LESBIAN CURIOSITY COACH - SAMANTHA FOXwebsite-https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.comTikTok- https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoachInstagram-https://www.instagram.com/lesbiancuriositycoach/YouTube-https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQCOMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST(Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22)htt

    Ep.#55: Coming Out Late in the Land of Oz

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 17, 2022


    In this episode, Robin continues to break the mold in the world of LGBTQ podcasting by introducing us to one of her listeners, Michelle, hailing all the way from Australia. Robin was so struck by a note she received from Michelle, that she knew she had to share it with her listener's, with MIchelle's consent of course. Robin also knew that the impact of Michelle's words and all the sentiment behind them would be better spoken by Michelle herself. So, Michelle agreed to read her own letter to Robin, aloud, for the Coming Out Late audience. Whether covered directly, or implied, this episode touches upon topics which get us thinking about . . . The universal nature of coming out late, no matter where in the world we live. The effect of women in non-traditional, but male-dominated occupations. Is it a woman's responsibility to help make a man feel ‘whole' if he feels emasculated or threatened by a woman? Being with men, cutting off bits of myself and making myself smaller in order that they would feel like men. Many of the late in life stories include complex arrangements and rearrangements of marriage and children and Incredibly courageous and challenging journeys. This guest doesn't have children, and is not married. There is more to “identity” than just our sexuality. A life lived out of other people's expectations is a life dominated by fear and resentment. Being honest with other women, from the very start. Am I an “L”? A “B”? Or maybe a “P”? Do we need labels? How do I flirt with a woman? Do I now need to dress differently and wear beanies? Which life-lived is my real reality? Everything feels completely flipped upside-down, or sideways, or completely averse. Sexual identity versus cultural conditioning; internalized homophobia, people pleasing and the female anatomy. It seemed that the rainbow world offered many possibilities for stepping out of one cage and into another. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources: COMING OUT LATE “COMP HET” SPEAKER SUMMIT #3: For those of you who were unable to attend the LIVE CompHet Speaker Summit Event, you can still purchase the recording for $27 by going to either PayPal @NovareInternational or Venmo @Comingoutlater. You missed QUITE the event, so grab your recorded copy and catch-up on all things Compulsory Heterosexuality! COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups: Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122 Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135 Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137 Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST (Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22) https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

    Ep.#55: Coming Out Late in the Land of Oz

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 17, 2022 32:48


    In this episode, Robin continues to break the mold in the world of LGBTQ podcasting by introducing us to one of her listeners, Michelle, hailing all the way from Australia. Robin was so struck by a note she received from Michelle, that she knew she had to share it with her listener's, with MIchelle's consent of course. Robin also knew that the impact of Michelle's words and all the sentiment behind them would be better spoken by Michelle herself. So, Michelle agreed to read her own letter to Robin, aloud, for the Coming Out Late audience.Whether covered directly, or implied, this episode touches upon topics which get us thinking about . . .The universal nature of coming out late, no matter where in the world we live.The effect of women in non-traditional, but male-dominated occupations.Is it a woman's responsibility to help make a man feel ‘whole' if he feels emasculated or threatened by a woman?Being with men, cutting off bits of myself and making myself smaller in order that they would feel like men.Many of the late in life stories include complex arrangements and rearrangements of marriage and children and Incredibly courageous and challenging journeys. This guest doesn't have children, and is not married.There is more to “identity” than just our sexuality.A life lived out of other people's expectations is a life dominated by fear and resentment.Being honest with other women, from the very start.Am I an “L”? A “B”? Or maybe a “P”? Do we need labels? How do I flirt with a woman?Do I now need to dress differently and wear beanies?Which life-lived is my real reality? Everything feels completely flipped upside-down, or sideways, or completely averse.Sexual identity versus cultural conditioning; internalized homophobia, people pleasing and the female anatomy.It seemed that the rainbow world offered many possibilities for stepping out of one cage and into another.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:COMING OUT LATE “COMP HET” SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:For those of you who were unable to attend the LIVE CompHet Speaker Summit Event, you can still purchase the recording for $27 by going to either PayPal @NovareInternational or Venmo @Comingoutlater. You missed QUITE the event, so grab your recorded copy and catch-up on all things Compulsory Heterosexuality!COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137Fifty Plus & Fabulous

    Ep. #54 Part2: Online Dating & Internet Safety

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2022 49:28


    In this episode, Robin continues the candid and informative conversation with the members of her weekly Women Loving Women Wednesday evening support group about Online Dating and Internet Safety with former Detective Sergeant Becky Rodgers. They talk about, and engage others to discuss, how and what it means to stay safe in AND out of the online dating apps as well as in and around the internet in general. This conversation was recorded with permission by ALL participants who attended this support group. Our Women Loving Women Wednesday night support group gives participants the chance to talk-out all of the different feelings, emotions, challenges and celebrations associated with Coming Out Late in ‘today's' hetero-world AND gay environment. This casual, open discussion covers a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on. In this episode, you will learn . . . The common patterns & tactics that catfish and scammers use on us. To develop the ability to know what to look for and listen-for. Where and where not to go on a first ‘date' with someone you've met online.. Safety tips and tricks to use when you DO go out on that first date. How long should you wait before suggesting to meet in-person? What kinds of homework you should be doing, before meeting/engaging w/someone online. The consequences of sending/sharing nude & suggestive photos. Internet safety for your children. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass   Links to resources: COMING OUT LATE “COMP HET” SPEAKER SUMMIT #3: For those of you who were unable to attend the LIVE CompHet Speaker Summit Event, you can still purchase the recording for $27 by going to either PayPal @NovareInternational or Venmo @Comingoutlater. You missed QUITE the event, so grab your recorded copy and catch-up on all things Compulsory Heterosexuality! COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups: Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122 Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135 Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137 Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST (Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22) https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

    Ep. #54 Part2: Online Dating & Internet Safety

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2022 49:28


    In this episode, Robin continues the candid and informative conversation with the members of her weekly Women Loving Women Wednesday evening support group about Online Dating and Internet Safety with former Detective Sergeant Becky Rodgers. They talk about, and engage others to discuss, how and what it means to stay safe in AND out of the online dating apps as well as in and around the internet in general. This conversation was recorded with permission by ALL participants who attended this support group. Our Women Loving Women Wednesday night support group gives participants the chance to talk-out all of the different feelings, emotions, challenges and celebrations associated with Coming Out Late in ‘today's' hetero-world AND gay environment. This casual, open discussion covers a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on.In this episode, you will learn . . .The common patterns & tactics that catfish and scammers use on us.To develop the ability to know what to look for and listen-for.Where and where not to go on a first ‘date' with someone you've met online..Safety tips and tricks to use when you DO go out on that first date.How long should you wait before suggesting to meet in-person?What kinds of homework you should be doing, before meeting/engaging w/someone online.The consequences of sending/sharing nude & suggestive photos.Internet safety for your children.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  Links to resources:COMING OUT LATE “COMP HET” SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:For those of you who were unable to attend the LIVE CompHet Speaker Summit Event, you can still purchase the recording for $27 by going to either PayPal @NovareInternational or Venmo @Comingoutlater. You missed QUITE the event, so grab your recorded copy and catch-up on all things Compulsory Heterosexuality!COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST(Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22)https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.comCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:

    Ep.#53: Online Dating & Internet Safety, Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2022 56:11


    In this episode, Robin invites the members of her weekly Women Loving Women Wednesday evening support group to join her in a candid and informative conversation with former Detective Sergeant Becky Rodgers. They talk about, and engage others to discuss, how and what it means to stay safe in AND out of the online dating apps as well as in and around the internet in general. This conversation was recorded with permission by ALL participants who attended this support group. Our Women Loving Women Wednesday night support group gives participants the chance to talk-out all of the different feelings, emotions, challenges and celebrations associated with Coming Out Late in ‘today's' hetero-world AND gay environment. This casual, open discussion covers a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on.In this episode, you will learn . . .How to spot/identify predators, scammers and catfish.To develop the ability to know what to look for and listen-for.To be able to identify red flags and not fall into traps.How to become a harder target.Why do the various predator tactics work on us?How to conduct self-assessments, making ourselves a harder target.The psychology behind why we get scammed.How to spot and understand our own exploitable vulnerabilities.How to catch our own catfish.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources:COMING OUT LATE “COMP HET” SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:For those of you who were unable to attend the LIVE CompHet SPeaker Summit Event, you can still purchase the recording for $27 by going to either PayPal @NovareInternational or Venmo @Comingoutlater. You missed QUITE the event, so grab your recorded copy and catch-up on all things Compulsory Heterosexuality!COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm ESThttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.comCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/W

    Ep.#53: Online Dating & Internet Safety, Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2022 56:11


    In this episode, Robin invites the members of her weekly Women Loving Women Wednesday evening support group to join her in a candid and informative conversation with former Detective Sergeant Becky Rodgers. They talk about, and engage others to discuss, how and what it means to stay safe in AND out of the online dating apps as well as in and around the internet in general. This conversation was recorded with permission by ALL participants who attended this support group. Our Women Loving Women Wednesday night support group gives participants the chance to talk-out all of the different feelings, emotions, challenges and celebrations associated with Coming Out Late in ‘today's' hetero-world AND gay environment. This casual, open discussion covers a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on. In this episode, you will learn . . . How to spot/identify predators, scammers and catfish. To develop the ability to know what to look for and listen-for. To be able to identify red flags and not fall into traps. How to become a harder target. Why do the various predator tactics work on us? How to conduct self-assessments, making ourselves a harder target. The psychology behind why we get scammed. How to spot and understand our own exploitable vulnerabilities. How to catch our own catfish. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  Links to resources: COMING OUT LATE “COMP HET” SPEAKER SUMMIT #3: For those of you who were unable to attend the LIVE CompHet SPeaker Summit Event, you can still purchase the recording for $27 by going to either PayPal @NovareInternational or Venmo @Comingoutlater. You missed QUITE the event, so grab your recorded copy and catch-up on all things Compulsory Heterosexuality! COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you've paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups: Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122 Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135 Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137 Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

    Coming Out Late AND Bisexual, Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 26, 2022 41:03


    In this Part 2 episode, Robin continues the conversation with the people in her weekly Bisexually Speaking support group continuing to discuss what it's like to not only come out late, but come out late AND bisexual - it's a complex journey. Robin's weekly support group, Bisexually, is not always recorded, but we collectively agreed that it was time to record this conversation in an effort to begin dispelling the many myths surrounding being a bisexual, and coming out late today. The Bisexually Speaking support group gives participants the chance to talk-out and tell their stories regarding all of the different ways that coming out as bisexual can look in ‘today's' gay world - all in a virtual, private, safe, and supportive environment. This pre-recroded, casual, roundtable discussion covers a whole range of topics, things to consider, lots to reflect on, and reveals just some of the many challenges a woman might face if coming out late, AND coming out as bisexual. In this episode, you will learn to question and explore . . . What DOES “being bisexual” mean?. Why are ‘veteran' lesbians so judgmental and opinionated toward late blooming bisexuals? To ‘label', or not to ‘label'? Who's decision is it anyway? Can I give myself permission to fall in love with whomever I want to fall in love with? Are there different “attraction” categories too? Should we react-to and stop “outside forces/strangers” from labeling and boxing-in our young children with hetero-norms? The multitude of myths about bisexuality. Was there any gay sexuality representation when you were growing up? If not, would it have made a difference in your coming out journey? Is “representing” your gay sexuality important to you? In what ways do YOU “represent”, or show-up-for your sexuality? What is the “default” and do we need to get away from it? Ask ourselves: how do I want to GIVE myself to another person? What are the different categories of attraction? Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  Links to resources: COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3: Mark your calendars and plan to join us Virtually on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality and Compulsory Heteronormativity. ALL ARE WELCOME!! EARLY BIRD SAVINGS ends on 9/21/22!!! CAN'T ATTEND “LIVE”? Purchase the recording for $27. Learn how by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com Here's the link to Register and pay IF attending it LIVE: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3 COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID's and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/ WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

    Coming Out Late AND Bisexual, Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 26, 2022 41:03


    In this Part 2 episode, Robin continues the conversation with the people in her weekly Bisexually Speaking support group continuing to discuss what it's like to not only come out late, but come out late AND bisexual - it's a complex journey. Robin's weekly support group, Bisexually, is not always recorded, but we collectively agreed that it was time to record this conversation in an effort to begin dispelling the many myths surrounding being a bisexual, and coming out late today. The Bisexually Speaking support group gives participants the chance to talk-out and tell their stories regarding all of the different ways that coming out as bisexual can look in ‘today's' gay world - all in a virtual, private, safe, and supportive environment. This pre-recroded, casual, roundtable discussion covers a whole range of topics, things to consider, lots to reflect on, and reveals just some of the many challenges a woman might face if coming out late, AND coming out as bisexual.In this episode, you will learn to question and explore . . .What DOES “being bisexual” mean?.Why are ‘veteran' lesbians so judgmental and opinionated toward late blooming bisexuals?To ‘label', or not to ‘label'? Who's decision is it anyway?Can I give myself permission to fall in love with whomever I want to fall in love with?Are there different “attraction” categories too?Should we react-to and stop “outside forces/strangers” from labeling and boxing-in our young children with hetero-norms?The multitude of myths about bisexuality.Was there any gay sexuality representation when you were growing up? If not, would it have made a difference in your coming out journey?Is “representing” your gay sexuality important to you?In what ways do YOU “represent”, or show-up-for your sexuality?What is the “default” and do we need to get away from it?Ask ourselves: how do I want to GIVE myself to another person?What are the different categories of attraction?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources:COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:Mark your calendars and plan to join us Virtually on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality and Compulsory Heteronormativity. ALL ARE WELCOME!!EARLY BIRD SAVINGS ends on 9/21/22!!!CAN'T ATTEND “LIVE”? Purchase the recording for $27. Learn how by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.comHere's the link to Register and pay IF attending it LIVE:https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID's and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.comCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support ou

    Coming Out Late AND Bisexual, Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 19, 2022 52:53 Transcription Available


    In this episode, Robin invites the members of her weekly Bisexually Speaking support group to join her in a candid and complex conversation about what does it mean to be bisexual in 2022-2023, AND, what is it like coming out late AND coming out as bisexual. Recorded with permission, the Bisexually Speaking support group gives participants the chance to talk-out all of the different ways that Coming Out as Bisexual can look in ‘today's', gay environment; as well as what are some of the challenges a woman might face if coming out late, AND coming out as bisexual. This casual, roundtable discussion covers a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on. In this episode, you will learn to question and explore . . . How and why bisexuality is NOT the same as ethical nonmonogamy or polyamory. Reconstructing what your marriage looks like versus leaving your spouse/partner. Why ‘change' doesn't happen overnight. As a bisexual, where do I ‘belong' in terms of “community”? What is my ‘relationship capacity'? Will my husband agree to me dating a woman, outside my marriage? Is bisexuality ‘real'? The multitude of bisexuality Myths. What is the difference between bisexuality and pan-sexuality? When your husband doesn't want you to fall in love with a woman, (but it's ok if you have a physical relationship with a woman). WHat are the different types & styles of relationship models? Will my husband be comfortable with me dating a woman? Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  Links to resources: COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3: Mark your calendars and plan to join us Virtually on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality and Compulsory Heteronormativity. ALL ARE WELCOME!! EARLY BIRD SAVINGS ends on 9/21/22!!! CAN'T ATTEND “LIVE”? Purchase the recording for $27. Learn how by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com Here's the link to Register and pay IF attending it LIVE: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3 COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID's and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/ WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

    Coming Out Late AND Bisexual, Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 19, 2022 52:53


    In this episode, Robin invites the members of her weekly Bisexually Speaking support group to join her in a candid and complex conversation about what does it mean to be bisexual in 2022-2023, AND, what is it like coming out late AND coming out as bisexual. Recorded with permission, the Bisexually Speaking support group gives participants the chance to talk-out all of the different ways that Coming Out as Bisexual can look in ‘today's', gay environment; as well as what are some of the challenges a woman might face if coming out late, AND coming out as bisexual. This casual, roundtable discussion covers a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on.In this episode, you will learn to question and explore . . .How and why bisexuality is NOT the same as ethical nonmonogamy or polyamory.Reconstructing what your marriage looks like versus leaving your spouse/partner.Why ‘change' doesn't happen overnight.As a bisexual, where do I ‘belong' in terms of “community”?What is my ‘relationship capacity'?Will my husband agree to me dating a woman, outside my marriage?Is bisexuality ‘real'?The multitude of bisexuality Myths.What is the difference between bisexuality and pan-sexuality?When your husband doesn't want you to fall in love with a woman, (but it's ok if you have a physical relationship with a woman).WHat are the different types & styles of relationship models?Will my husband be comfortable with me dating a woman?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources:COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:Mark your calendars and plan to join us Virtually on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality and Compulsory Heteronormativity. ALL ARE WELCOME!!EARLY BIRD SAVINGS ends on 9/21/22!!!CAN'T ATTEND “LIVE”? Purchase the recording for $27. Learn how by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.comHere's the link to Register and pay IF attending it LIVE:https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID's and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.comCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

    How Do You Know That You're Gay (Ft. YES!)

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 12, 2022 41:19 Transcription Available


    In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin introduces you to two new friends of hers - Rebecca and Issy, the co-founders of YES!, via an episode of one of their very own podcasts. YES! is a nonprofit educational organization that provides sex-positive, intersectional, consent-based, sexuality education to people of ALL ages. Yes! stands for Your Empowered Sexuality. They offer anti-oppressive and shame-free educational programs using interactive workshops, social media, and other mediums - both virtually and in-person. And YES! has their own podcast too, called, What Is Sex? So, why does Robin want you to listen to an episode of YES!'s podcast today? To get you familiar with this incredible non-profit, because the Co-Founders of YES! have accepted our invitation to be our guest speakers at the upcoming virtual Coming Out Late Speaker Summit on Wednesday evening, September 28 at 7pm EST. They are joining us on September 28th to talk with us about comphet, (compulsory-heterosexuality), a topic which affects us ALL in the LGBTQIA+ community. In the meantime, Robin thought it would be fun for you to listen to one of their podcast episodes appropriately called, “How do you know that you're gay?”, which originally aired in S2:E4 of What Is Sex?, on October 11, 2020. In this episode of What Is Sex?, “How do you know that you're gay?”, you will hear YES! Co-Founders Rebecca and Issy talk about . . . The question behind the question, “when do you first remember wondering if you are gay?” Did you ever think about women/girls romantically? If so, when? Why are feelings for women so different and confusing compared to feelings toward men? If I'm not feeling aroused from kissing a woman, am I allowed to still say I'm attracted to women? Is it maybe because I'm kissing straight girls/women? Gay Gossip; the Gay Straight Alliance (GSA). The CompHet Speaker Summit: the link to purchase your ticket to attend the Speaker Summit Live is posted here, (as well as in these Show Notes below). Here's the link to Register to attend and pay: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3 If you cannot attend the Speaker Summit Live, not to worry, we got you - you can purchase a recording of the 2+ hour long event by using the email below. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources: COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT: COMPULSORY HETEROSEXUALITY Mark your calendars and plan to join us on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality; Compulsory Heteronormativity; Compulsory Femininity... ALL ARE WELCOME!! Our expert guests are from YES! - Your Empowered Sexuality - a non-profit organization dedicated to providing intersectional, consent-based, shame-free sexuality education to all people using interactive workshops, social media, and other mediums. Check them out at: www.yourempoweredsexuality.org The EARLY BIRD SPECIAL starts....now!!! Here's the link to Register to attend and pay: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3 Can't attend the Speaker Summit Live? You can purchase the recording of the entire evening (2+ hours) by submitting your name for the Recording Wait List, by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID's and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/ WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass STAY TUNED: A NEW  “COMING OUT LATE COMMUNITY” Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who are, or have, Come Out Late in life. (It will likely be called the Coming Out Late Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with approximately 12-15 Founding Firefly Members by the end of the summer, and for Early Bird Members by mid-September. The Coming Out Late Community will be available to ALL Coming Out Late Women by late-September. Stay tuned for more details. NOTE: To be put on the Waiting List to join the NEW “Coming Out Late Community”, email Robin the word “COMMUNITY” to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

    How Do You Know That You're Gay (Ft. YES!)

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 12, 2022 41:19


    In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin introduces you to two new friends of hers - Rebecca and Issy, the co-founders of YES!, via an episode of one of their very own podcasts. YES! is a nonprofit educational organization that provides sex-positive, intersectional, consent-based, sexuality education to people of ALL ages. Yes! stands for Your Empowered Sexuality. They offer anti-oppressive and shame-free educational programs using interactive workshops, social media, and other mediums - both virtually and in-person. And YES! has their own podcast too, called, What Is Sex?So, why does Robin want you to listen to an episode of YES!'s podcast today? To get you familiar with this incredible non-profit, because the Co-Founders of YES! have accepted our invitation to be our guest speakers at the upcoming virtual Coming Out Late Speaker Summit on Wednesday evening, September 28 at 7pm EST. They are joining us on September 28th to talk with us about comphet, (compulsory-heterosexuality), a topic which affects us ALL in the LGBTQIA+ community.In the meantime, Robin thought it would be fun for you to listen to one of their podcast episodes appropriately called, “How do you know that you're gay?”, which originally aired in S2:E4 of What Is Sex?, on October 11, 2020.In this episode of What Is Sex?, “How do you know that you're gay?”, you will hear YES! Co-Founders Rebecca and Issy talk about . . .The question behind the question, “when do you first remember wondering if you are gay?”Did you ever think about women/girls romantically? If so, when?Why are feelings for women so different and confusing compared to feelings toward men?If I'm not feeling aroused from kissing a woman, am I allowed to still say I'm attracted to women? Is it maybe because I'm kissing straight girls/women?Gay Gossip; the Gay Straight Alliance (GSA).The CompHet Speaker Summit: the link to purchase your ticket to attend the Speaker Summit Live is posted here, (as well as in these Show Notes below).Here's the link to Register to attend and pay: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3If you cannot attend the Speaker Summit Live, not to worry, we got you - you can purchase a recording of the 2+ hour long event by using the email below.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT: COMPULSORY HETEROSEXUALITYMark your calendars and plan to join us on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality; Compulsory Heteronormativity; Compulsory Femininity... ALL ARE WELCOME!!Our expert guests are from YES! - Your Empowered Sexuality - a non-profit organization dedicated to providing intersectional, consent-based, shame-free sexuality education to all people using interactive workshops, social media, and other mediums. Check them out at: www.yourempoweredsexuality.orgThe EARLY BIRD SPECIAL starts....now!!!Here's the link to Register to attend and pay: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3Can't attend the Speaker Summit Live

    Part 2: Coming Out Late & Scared to Date

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 5, 2022 52:26


    In this Part Two episode of Coming Out Late & Scared to Date, Robin picks up the conversation where she left off last week. Last week Robin initiated an impromptu group discussion recorded in Zoom, around a topic that seems to be on everybody's mind lately - navigating dating after coming out late. Whether you are newly out and have never dated a woman, or have had your share of dating experiences, this two-part series titled, “Coming Out Late & Scared to Date”, Robin asks her guests four basic foundational questions, as well as together, venturing off into a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on.In this episode, you will hear other late blooming women talk about . . .Why do you want to date? What's motivating you to date?Being ‘Ok' sitting in silence with yourself.All human relationships are complex; and can we learn from one another?Are you someone who “has” to be in a relationship all the time?Looking for that person who gets me, understands me and doesn't just like the “theory of dating me”, but actually likes dating me-for-me.Is this the right time for you to be dating? Are you going through enormous life changes? Does your job exhaust you? Are you physically available to date?What is scary to you about dating?Do you fear someone really ‘seeing' you in this authentic new version of yourself, when newly dating?How would it feel or what would it look like if we dated ourselves?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources:COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:And the winner is . . . . . . Compulsory Heterosexuality!Mark your calendars and plan to join us on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality; Compulsory Heteronormativity; Compulsory Femininity... ALL ARE WELCOME!!Our expert guests are from YES! - Your Empowered Sexuality - a non-profit organization dedicated to providing intersectional, consent-based, shame-free sexuality education to all people using interactive workshops, social media, and other mediums. Check them out at: yourempoweredsexuality.orgThe EARLY BIRD SPECIAL starts....now!!!Here's the link to Register to attend and pay: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID's and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.comCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

    Part 2: Coming Out Late & Scared to Date

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 5, 2022 52:26 Transcription Available


    In this Part Two episode of Coming Out Late & Scared to Date, Robin picks up the conversation where she left off last week. Last week Robin initiated an impromptu group discussion recorded in Zoom, around a topic that seems to be on everybody's mind lately - navigating dating after coming out late. Whether you are newly out and have never dated a woman, or have had your share of dating experiences, this two-part series titled, “Coming Out Late & Scared to Date”, Robin asks her guests four basic foundational questions, as well as together, venturing off into a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on. In this episode, you will hear other late blooming women talk about . . . Why do you want to date? What's motivating you to date? Being ‘Ok' sitting in silence with yourself. All human relationships are complex; and can we learn from one another? Are you someone who “has” to be in a relationship all the time? Looking for that person who gets me, understands me and doesn't just like the “theory of dating me”, but actually likes dating me-for-me. Is this the right time for you to be dating? Are you going through enormous life changes? Does your job exhaust you? Are you physically available to date? What is scary to you about dating? Do you fear someone really ‘seeing' you in this authentic new version of yourself, when newly dating? How would it feel or what would it look like if we dated ourselves? Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  Links to resources: COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3: And the winner is . . . . . . Compulsory Heterosexuality! Mark your calendars and plan to join us on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality; Compulsory Heteronormativity; Compulsory Femininity... ALL ARE WELCOME!! Our expert guests are from YES! - Your Empowered Sexuality - a non-profit organization dedicated to providing intersectional, consent-based, shame-free sexuality education to all people using interactive workshops, social media, and other mediums. Check them out at: yourempoweredsexuality.org The EARLY BIRD SPECIAL starts....now!!! Here's the link to Register to attend and pay: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3 COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID's and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/ WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass STAY TUNED: A NEW  “COMING OUT LATE COMMUNITY” Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who are, or have, Come Out Late in life. (It will likely be called the Coming Out Late Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with approximately 12-15 Founding Firefly Members by the end of the summer, and for Early Bird Members by mid-September. The Coming Out Late Community will be available to ALL Coming Out Late Women by late-September. Stay tuned for more details. NOTE: To be put on the Waiting List to join the NEW “Coming Out Late Community”, email Robin the word “COMMUNITY” to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

    Coming Out Late & Scared to Date, Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 29, 2022 40:29 Transcription Available


    In this episode, Robin ventures into new territory and initiates an impromptu group discussion recorded in Zoom, around a topic that seems to be on everybody's mind lately - navigating dating after coming out late. Whether you are newly out and have never dated a woman, or have had your share of dating experiences, this two-part series titled, “Coming Out Late & Scared to Date”, addresses four basic foundational questions we ALL should be asking ourselves, as well as a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on. In this episode, you will learn to question and explore . . . Have you tried dating yet? And if so, what was that experience like? What does “dating” mean to you? How do you define “dating”? If you met yourself on a dating app or “in-the-wild”, would YOU date “you”? What are the red flags you should concern yourself with and how/when should you handle them? Dating is never a waste of time, and shall always be looked upon as gaining experience and insight into yourself. How much of your past relationships and experiences and childhood impact your approach to dating and the kind of girlfriend you make? What are some basic questions we should be asking ourselves and our dates, before and upon-entering into the “dating arena”? One late bloomer's categorization of the various types of women who are putting themselves “out there” and claiming they're ‘ready' to date. And so much more in this riveting two-part series on “Dating”. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources: COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3: And the winner is . . . . . . CompHet!!! Mark your calendars and plan to join us on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality; Compulsory Heteronormativity; Compulsory Femininity... ALL ARE WELCOME!! EARLY BIRD SPECIAL starts....now!!! Here's the link to Register and pay: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3 COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID's and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/ WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass FIREFLY RETREAT: Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only a few slots remaining - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com  “Firefly Tour”. Or, go to: www.womenOUTwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours STAY TUNED: A NEW  “COMING OUT LATE COMMUNITY” Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who are, or have, Come Out Late in life. (It will likely be called the Coming Out Late Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with approximately 12-15 Founding Firefly Members by the end of the summer, and for Early Bird Members by mid-September. The Coming Out Late Community will be available to ALL Coming Out Late Women by late-September. Stay tuned for more details. NOTE: To be put on the Waiting List to join the NEW “Coming Out Late Community”, email Robin the word “COMMUNITY” to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

    Coming Out Late & Scared to Date, Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 29, 2022 40:29


    In this episode, Robin ventures into new territory and initiates an impromptu group discussion recorded in Zoom, around a topic that seems to be on everybody's mind lately - navigating dating after coming out late. Whether you are newly out and have never dated a woman, or have had your share of dating experiences, this two-part series titled, “Coming Out Late & Scared to Date”, addresses four basic foundational questions we ALL should be asking ourselves, as well as a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on.In this episode, you will learn to question and explore . . .Have you tried dating yet? And if so, what was that experience like?What does “dating” mean to you? How do you define “dating”?If you met yourself on a dating app or “in-the-wild”, would YOU date “you”?What are the red flags you should concern yourself with and how/when should you handle them?Dating is never a waste of time, and shall always be looked upon as gaining experience and insight into yourself.How much of your past relationships and experiences and childhood impact your approach to dating and the kind of girlfriend you make?What are some basic questions we should be asking ourselves and our dates, before and upon-entering into the “dating arena”?One late bloomer's categorization of the various types of women who are putting themselves “out there” and claiming they're ‘ready' to date.And so much more in this riveting two-part series on “Dating”.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:And the winner is . . . . . . CompHet!!!Mark your calendars and plan to join us on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality; Compulsory Heteronormativity; Compulsory Femininity... ALL ARE WELCOME!!EARLY BIRD SPECIAL starts....now!!!Here's the link to Register and pay:https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID's and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.comCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassFIREFLY RETREAT:Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only a few slots remaining - so email

    Coming Out Late: First Woman, First Love & First Breakup

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 22, 2022 37:59 Transcription Available


    In this episode, Robin reads from a particularly heartwarming AND painful social media post that covers one woman's first-time love, (and catalyst), with a woman. Jennifer's social media post is raw, real and relatable on so many levels. And her vulnerable, courageous and inspirational share is met with an outpouring of love, support, and shared emotions and experiences. In this episode, you will learn… That by sharing our stories and sharing our experiences - that even the painful ones - in fact, especially the painful ones, can be cathartic and healing for EVERYONE involved. Why this woman wanted to break her anonymity in sharing her story with us, because, in her words, “...it tells people that I'm real. This was a real person with real feelings in a really hard situation…” Why, “...maybe we ought just to be grateful that we got to meet these people at all. That we got to love them. That we got to learn from them. That we got to have our lives expand as a result of having known them…” (A quote from the movie, “Call Me By Your Name”). Why Jennifer says, “...But I don't want to be responsible for someone else's happiness…” How knowing and understanding your pain does not necessarily spare you from it - but also knowing that that's ok. Why, after loving and losing love, we still need to take time to recover and take care of ourselves for a while. The the name and origin-of of the poet and his poem which summarizing why it's better to love, than not at all. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources: COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3: And the winner is . . . . . . CompHet!!! Mark your calendars and plan to join us on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality; Compulsory Heteronormativity; Compulsory Femininity... ALL ARE WELCOME!! EARLY BIRD SPECIAL starts....now!!! Here's the link to Register and pay: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3 COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID's and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/ WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass FIREFLY RETREAT: Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only a few slots remaining - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com  “Firefly Tour”. Or, go to: www.womenOUTwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours STAY TUNED: A NEW  “COMING OUT LATE COMMUNITY” Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who are, or have, Come Out Late in life. (It will likely be called the Coming Out Late Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with approximately 12-15 Founding Firefly Members by the end of the summer, and for Early Bird Members by mid-September. The Coming Out Late Community will be available to ALL Coming Out Late Women by late-September. Stay tuned for more details.

    Coming Out Late: First Woman, First Love & First Breakup

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 22, 2022 37:59


    In this episode, Robin reads from a particularly heartwarming AND painful social media post that covers one woman's first-time love, (and catalyst), with a woman. Jennifer's social media post is raw, real and relatable on so many levels. And her vulnerable, courageous and inspirational share is met with an outpouring of love, support, and shared emotions and experiences.In this episode, you will learn…That by sharing our stories and sharing our experiences - that even the painful ones - in fact, especially the painful ones, can be cathartic and healing for EVERYONE involved.Why this woman wanted to break her anonymity in sharing her story with us, because, in her words, “...it tells people that I'm real. This was a real person with real feelings in a really hard situation…”Why, “...maybe we ought just to be grateful that we got to meet these people at all. That we got to love them. That we got to learn from them. That we got to have our lives expand as a result of having known them…” (A quote from the movie, “Call Me By Your Name”).Why Jennifer says, “...But I don't want to be responsible for someone else's happiness…”How knowing and understanding your pain does not necessarily spare you from it - but also knowing that that's ok.Why, after loving and losing love, we still need to take time to recover and take care of ourselves for a while.The the name and origin-of of the poet and his poem which summarizing why it's better to love, than not at all.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:And the winner is . . . . . . CompHet!!!Mark your calendars and plan to join us on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality; Compulsory Heteronormativity; Compulsory Femininity... ALL ARE WELCOME!!EARLY BIRD SPECIAL starts....now!!!Here's the link to Register and pay:https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID's and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.comCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassFIREFLY RETREAT:Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only a few slots remaining - so email Robin NOW

    Ep.46: Coming Out Late to Your Doctor

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 15, 2022 51:29 Transcription Available


    In this episode, Robin interviews Dr. Cecily D. Havert, M.D., who is a big LGBTQ+ ally and physician at Northern Virginia Family Practice Associates (NVFP), a family medicine practice that offers full-service concierge health care in the Northern Virginia area. Dr. Havert specializes in women's health with an emphasis on the LGBTQ+ community. Robin and Dr. Havert discuss the reasons why you should ‘come out' to your healthcare provider and what the benefits of doing-so are. In this episode, you will learn… Should we or shouldn't we ‘come out' to our healthcare provider(s)? The if, why and how you should come out to your healthcare provider. HOW do we ‘come out' to our Primary Care Physicians? What are the unique and important considerations that queer folks must take into account when assessing their overall health and their mental health? What signs to look for when assessing if your healthcare provider is LGBTQ-friendly? How Dr. Havert approaches getting to know her female patients: screening, creating a safe place, and empathic communication. How does our mental and emotional well-being affect our physical well-being? Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  Links to resources: FIREFLY RETREAT: Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only a few slots remaining - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com  “Firefly Tour”. Or, go to: www.womenOUTwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/ COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: Join our nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group, OR our daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group, both in Zoom, by emailing Robin a request for the Zoom ID & PW's: Comingoutlater@gmail.com WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM/RobinDouglass Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass STAY TUNED: A NEW  “COMING OUT LATE COMMUNITY” Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who are, or have, Come Out Late in life. (It will likely be called The Coming Out Late Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with approximately 12-15 Founding Firefly Members by the end of the summer, and for Early Bird Members by mid-September. The Coming Out Late Community will be available to ALL Coming Out Late Women by late-September. Stay tuned for more details. DR. CECILY D. HAVERT, M.D. Cecily D. Havert, M.D., who is a huge LGBTQ+ ally and physician at Northern Virginia Family Practice Associates (NVFP), a family medicine practice that offers full-service concierge health care in the Northern Virginia area. Dr. Havert specializes in women's health with an emphasis on the LGBTQ+ community. Website: www.nvafamilypractice.com

    Ep.46: Coming Out Late to Your Doctor

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 15, 2022 51:29


    In this episode, Robin interviews Dr. Cecily D. Havert, M.D., who is a big LGBTQ+ ally and physician at Northern Virginia Family Practice Associates (NVFP), a family medicine practice that offers full-service concierge health care in the Northern Virginia area. Dr. Havert specializes in women's health with an emphasis on the LGBTQ+ community. Robin and Dr. Havert discuss the reasons why you should ‘come out' to your healthcare provider and what the benefits of doing-so are.In this episode, you will learn…Should we or shouldn't we ‘come out' to our healthcare provider(s)? The if, why and how you should come out to your healthcare provider.HOW do we ‘come out' to our Primary Care Physicians?What are the unique and important considerations that queer folks must take into account when assessing their overall health and their mental health?What signs to look for when assessing if your healthcare provider is LGBTQ-friendly?How Dr. Havert approaches getting to know her female patients: screening, creating a safe place, and empathic communication.How does our mental and emotional well-being affect our physical well-being?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources:FIREFLY RETREAT:Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only a few slots remaining - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com  “Firefly Tour”. Or, go to: www.womenOUTwesttours.com/SpecialtyToursCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:Join our nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group, OR our daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group, both in Zoom, by emailing Robin a request for the Zoom ID & PW's: Comingoutlater@gmail.comWWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM/RobinDouglassWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSTAY TUNED: A NEW  “COMING OUT LATE COMMUNITY”Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who are, or have, Come Out Late in life. (It will likely be called The Coming Out Late Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with approximately 12-15 Founding Firefly Members by the end of the summer, and for Early Bird Members by mid-September. The Coming Out Late Community will be available to ALL Coming Out Late Women by late-September. Stay tuned for more details.DR. CECILY D. HAVERT, M.D.Cecily D. Havert, M.D., who is a huge LGBTQ+ ally and physician at

    Ep. 45: Stuck In the Messy Middle

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 8, 2022 25:32 Transcription Available


    In this episode, Robin reads a post written by a member of her “Coming Out Late” community about feeling stuck and sad while in the beginning stage of the messy middle. Robin also shares with us the outpouring of beautiful and practical support and encouragement - something we all need at some point along this turbulent and unpredictable journey of coming out late in life. Grab your pen and paper because you are going to want to write down some of the really useful suggestions, as well as some of the poignant positive affirmations that the authors' responders shared with her. In this episode, you will learn… The necessity of taking care of yourself first during this time of coming out. Why it is critically important during this journey to always protect yourself first. The importance of setting goals and making lists and why you should start with small goals for yourself first. That by setting goals and achieving them, no matter how small they are (and the smaller the better in the beginning), you will begin to feel a lot less stuck! That now is a good time to go back to school or obtain additional training so that you make yourself more marketable when seeking employment. That you need to become as financially literate as possible; and open up a separate bank account, (in your name only), in a different banking institution from any joint accounts you share with your partner. The importance of seeking 2-3 free consultations from a few different divorce lawyers - with the sole purpose of knowing and understanding what your legal rights are for the particular state you reside in. Seek therapy, (a queer therapist if possible), and encourage your partner to seek his own therapist as well. That crying and breathing - as much as you can - really IS therapeutic! That by staying committed to “kindness”, you and your partner have a better chance of going through this journey amicably and communicate effectively. That every day will come with its different feelings and those will change constantly. It is OK to feel however you're feeling in that moment and the importance of ‘feeling ALL the feels'. To prioritize your well-being like a training Olympian! Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources: FIREFLY RETREAT: Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only a few slots remaining - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com  “Firefly Tour”. Or, go to: www.womenOUTwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/ COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW's: Comingoutlater@gmail.com WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass STAY TUNED: A NEW  “COMING OUT LATE COMMUNITY” Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who are, or have, Come Out Late in life. (It will likely be called The Coming Out Late Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with approximately 12-15 Founding Firefly Members by the end of the summer, and for Early Bird Members by mid-September. The Coming Out Late Community will be available to ALL Coming Out Late Women by late-September. Stay tuned for more det

    Ep. 45: Stuck In the Messy Middle

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 8, 2022 25:32


    In this episode, Robin reads a post written by a member of her “Coming Out Late” community about feeling stuck and sad while in the beginning stage of the messy middle. Robin also shares with us the outpouring of beautiful and practical support and encouragement - something we all need at some point along this turbulent and unpredictable journey of coming out late in life. Grab your pen and paper because you are going to want to write down some of the really useful suggestions, as well as some of the poignant positive affirmations that the authors' responders shared with her.In this episode, you will learn…The necessity of taking care of yourself first during this time of coming out.Why it is critically important during this journey to always protect yourself first.The importance of setting goals and making lists and why you should start with small goals for yourself first.That by setting goals and achieving them, no matter how small they are (and the smaller the better in the beginning), you will begin to feel a lot less stuck!That now is a good time to go back to school or obtain additional training so that you make yourself more marketable when seeking employment.That you need to become as financially literate as possible; and open up a separate bank account, (in your name only), in a different banking institution from any joint accounts you share with your partner.The importance of seeking 2-3 free consultations from a few different divorce lawyers - with the sole purpose of knowing and understanding what your legal rights are for the particular state you reside in.Seek therapy, (a queer therapist if possible), and encourage your partner to seek his own therapist as well.That crying and breathing - as much as you can - really IS therapeutic!That by staying committed to “kindness”, you and your partner have a better chance of going through this journey amicably and communicate effectively.That every day will come with its different feelings and those will change constantly. It is OK to feel however you're feeling in that moment and the importance of ‘feeling ALL the feels'.To prioritize your well-being like a training Olympian!Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:FIREFLY RETREAT:Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only a few slots remaining - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com  “Firefly Tour”. Or, go to: www.womenOUTwesttours.com/SpecialtyToursCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW's: Comingoutlater@gmail.comWWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of apprecia

    Ep 44: Coming Out Late & Your Sexual Attraction, Energy and Desire!

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 1, 2022 59:01


    In this episode, Robin invites Samantha Fox back to her Show. Samantha is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist AND Lesbian Curiosity Coach. Today, they talk about the dynamic flow of our sexual attraction and desires…and SO much more!In this episode, you will learn…What IS “dynamic flow”?How does dynamic flow affect my sexual attraction and desires?What is YOUR sexual energy? And why is sexual energy important?What is a stone-top? A stone-bottom? A switchy? And why is it important to know what YOU are?What it means to pick the best ‘external partner' versus the best ‘internal partner'.How does ‘compulsory heterosexuality' affect how we feel about our own sexual energy? What does society teach us to think and feel?That there really are lots of ways to be a sexual human.To think about, “...What am I attracted to? Androgynous women? Women with masc-energy? Women with fem-energy? Something in between?”Why “vulnerability” is vital to great a great flow of sexual energy between you and your partner.Why communicating about your sexual desires with your partner is critical to a healthy sex life.That sexual energy and sexual desire shouldn't be “heavy” topics; have fun, play, experiment and explore these sides of you.The importance of doing the work on ourselves regarding “internalized homophobia”!Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources:SAMANTHA FOX:Website: https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.comTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoachInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/lesbiancuriositycoach/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW's: Comingoutlater@gmail.comWWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSTAY TUNED: A NEW  “COMING OUT LATE COMMUNITY”Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who are, or have, Come Out Late in life. (It will likely be called The Coming Out Late Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with approximately 12-15 Founding Firefly Members in August, and for Early Birds at the end of the summer. The Coming Out Late Community will be available to ALL Coming Out Late Women by early September.

    Ep 44: Coming Out Late & Your Sexual Attraction, Energy and Desire!

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 1, 2022 59:01 Transcription Available


    In this episode, Robin invites Samantha Fox back to her Show. Samantha is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist AND Lesbian Curiosity Coach. Today, they talk about the dynamic flow of our sexual attraction and desires…and SO much more! In this episode, you will learn… What IS “dynamic flow”? How does dynamic flow affect my sexual attraction and desires? What is YOUR sexual energy? And why is sexual energy important? What is a stone-top? A stone-bottom? A switchy? And why is it important to know what YOU are? What it means to pick the best ‘external partner' versus the best ‘internal partner'. How does ‘compulsory heterosexuality' affect how we feel about our own sexual energy? What does society teach us to think and feel? That there really are lots of ways to be a sexual human. To think about, “...What am I attracted to? Androgynous women? Women with masc-energy? Women with fem-energy? Something in between?” Why “vulnerability” is vital to great a great flow of sexual energy between you and your partner. Why communicating about your sexual desires with your partner is critical to a healthy sex life. That sexual energy and sexual desire shouldn't be “heavy” topics; have fun, play, experiment and explore these sides of you. The importance of doing the work on ourselves regarding “internalized homophobia”! Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  Links to resources: SAMANTHA FOX: Website: https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.com Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/lesbiancuriositycoach/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/ COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS: Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW's: Comingoutlater@gmail.com WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass STAY TUNED: A NEW  “COMING OUT LATE COMMUNITY” Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who are, or have, Come Out Late in life. (It will likely be called The Coming Out Late Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with approximately 12-15 Founding Firefly Members in August, and for Early Birds at the end of the summer. The Coming Out Late Community will be available to ALL Coming Out Late Women by early September. Stay tuned for more details.

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