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Beth McCord is an accomplished Enneagram speaker, author, coach and teacher with over 2 decades of dedicated experience. Her passion lies in helping individuals rewrite their life stories, empowering them to realize that lasting change and meaningful relationships are possible. I first became aware of Beth through her book, Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage and I was thrilled to be able to interview her about her new book. My goal during this conversation was to help husbands understand how our wife's core motivations and desires shape her personality. And when we seek to understand our wife, we can grow in connection. Men are simple and the Enneagram is a tool that can help us understand our wife, kids and others personality type which can help us communicate and connect at a higher level. -Is there a cheat sheet at the back of the book? -What did God create you, your wife and your kids to be? -How can I learn why my wife does what she does by learning about her Core Fears, Desires, Weaknesses and Strengths? -What is Confrontational Intimacy?   Check out Beth McCord's new book The Enneagram for Moms HERE Link to Tyler Zach's Should Christians Use the Enneagram Video HERE Join our FREE Facebook community The Journey of a Christian Dad HERE I helped write a book called Notes From Dad - Amazon Link HERE Check out the Funniest Dad Joke Kid's Book HERE      

Hey hey! We're back for Part 3 of our Enneagram series. I couldn't let this series go by without taking the chance to re-air a conversation I got to have with one of my most popular guests ever, Beth McCord. You may recognize my friend, Beth. She is an Enneagram expert and coach, best-selling author of multiple Enneagram books, and founder of Your Enneagram Coach, the leading platform for all things Enneagram.  Beth's enneagram work is all about how to use this amazing tool through the lens of the Gospel. She has written a book for every type, and with her husband, Pastor Jeff McCord, wrote Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving, Gospel-Centered Marriage.  Listen in as Beth and I talk about: How understanding the Enneagram types as nine different perspectives can grow your compassion for others (especially your spouse) Why assuming is so harmful, Beth calls it assumicide Two ways not to use the Enneagram What has surprised Beth most in all of her work with the Enneagram and couples Beth McCord is an Enneagram expert, world-renowned speaker, coach, and teacher of over 20 years. Beth founded Your Enneagram Coach and co-authored Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving, Gospel-Centered Marriage with her husband, Jeff. They live outside Nashville, Tennessee, and have two adult children.  Favorite quotes: “The Enneagram is pointing out why we do what we do, our heart condition, and then the Gospel shows us how we will heal it.” “The Enneagram gives us the nine lenses that all types see through. Each of us has on a particular lens.” “Each of the nine types are going to have the things that make them soar and things that make them struggle in life.” “Don't use the Enneagram as a sword or a shield.” “Think of the Enneagram as a flashlight or an x-ray. It is pointing out what is there or what is broken. The x-ray cannot heal you. It just exposes what is wrong and needs healing.” “The Enneagram is this great amazing tool but it's the Gospel that transforms it.” “It means you have resources and the Gospel is always there to heal and restore when we are willing to surrender and depend on him to do the work in and through us.” Teaching Series from Remaining You While Raising Them: Habits           The Power of Identity with Our Actions (43:47) Links to great things we discussed:  Beth McCord Website Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving, Gospel-Centered Marriage Becoming Us Beth McCord Instagram The EnneaDog Guy Ritchie's The Covenant Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli  

Despite their busy lives, Beth and Jeff McCord never could have imagined that the Enneagram would lead them on a journey of profound discovery and transformation - not just in their own marriage and parenting, but in the lives of their Christian community as well. What was this unexpected twist and how did it bring healing and wholeness to their relationship?In this episode, you will be able to: 1. Discover the power of Enneagram as an instrument to transform marriages. 2. Uncover ways to fuse Enneagram insights with Christian perspectives for a holistic approach. 3. Harness your unique attributes for more effective couple communication. 4. Delve into the complexities of Enneagram-based marriage dynamics and how to better navigate them. 5. Root your marriage improvement journey in faith and self-awareness.These personality tools actually name something of our glory, of our God-given glory, about how we can uniquely reflect something of who God is for us. - Jeff McCordOur special guests are Jeff and Beth McCord, founders of Your Enneagram Coach, an organization dedicated to helping individuals and couples understand the Enneagram and use it to transform their lives. They are also the authors of two books, "Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage" and "More Than Your Number: A Christ-Centered Enneagram Approach to Becoming Aware of Your Internal World." With a strong foundation in theology, Jeff and Beth have dedicated their lives to helping couples strengthen their marriages through a Gospel-centered approach to the Enneagram.The resources mentioned in this episode are: Visit becomingus.com to access the 45 unique Enneagram couple-type courses offered by Jeff and Beth McCord. Schedule a call with James and Lisa Duvall to learn more about their Marriage Reboot retreat at artofspousing.com/marriagecoaching or direct message them on Instagram with the word Call. Read Jeff and Beth McCord's books, Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage and More Than Your Number: A Christ-Centered Enneagram Approach to Becoming Aware of Your Internal World. Follow Your Enneagram Coach on social media to stay updated on their content and resources. Explore the Enneagram from a biblical perspective and use it to deepen your understanding of yourself, your spouse, and your relationship with Christ. Share the Enneagram with friends, family, and the church community to help them better understand themselves and their relationships. Reflect on your Enneagram type and consider how it may affect your marriage and other relationships and how you can use it to align with the Gospel. Look into other resources, such as John Gottman's material on marriage, to gain further insights into maintaining a healthy, Christ-centered relationship. Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: NewsletterSupport the Podcast:patreon.com/ArtofSpousingOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingMe Awareness We AwarenessConnect with Guest:Websites: yourenneagramcoach.comIG: @yourenneagramcoachFB: YourEnneagramCoachConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

In this week's episode of the For Everyday Leaders Podcast, Brandon and Alex sit down with Dustin Denton. Dustin is one of the owners of Seamless Roofing and a handful of small businesses in Indianapolis. Seamless Roofing offers innovative commercial roofing solutions to building owners, managers, and general contractors and offers repairs, restoration, and replacements for all roof types. Dustin shares his story of growing from past experiences, maturing as a leader and the importance of building a good work culture. Dustin shares his continuing desire to grow in serving others in all aspects of life and how integrating that into your business is simple and impactful. SHOW NOTES Learn more about two of the companies Dustin helps lead. Seamless Roofing: https://seamlessroofingllc.com Ascend Roofing: https://www.ascendroofingllc.com Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage https://a.co/d/duhd3kB The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry: How to Stay Emotionally Healthy and Spiritually Alive in the Chaos of the Modern World https://a.co/d/dJkepGU

*Some topics mentioned in this episode may not be suitable for young children.   Have you ever thought about the importance of helping your adoptive child figure out his identity concerning his heritage? Is it even important? What are the potential ramifications if you don't?   Join Michael and Christy today as they talk with Jeff McCord about his experience being adopted and growing up in a transracial family. You'll hear about the decisions his adoptive parents made concerning his identity and how those decisions still affect him today.   Jeff is the co-founder of Your Enneagram Coach, where he and his wife, Beth, seek to help others see themselves with astonishingly clarity with the Enneagram through the lens of the Gospel. He and Beth also host the Your Enneagram Coach podcast and have written a book together called Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage.   CONNECT WITH JEFF Website – Your Enneagram Coach Podcast – Your Enneagram Coach Book – Becoming Us Facebook - @YourEnneagramCoach Instagram - @YourEnneagramCoach   Connect with Michael: Facebook – @MichaelPritchard901 Instagram – @MichaelPritchard901   Connect with Christy: Facebook – @ChristyPritchard901

Enneagram expert Beth McCord joins Blake to talk about using the enneagram as a tool as a believer in Christ. Listen in as they discuss the impact the enneagram has had on both of their lives and marriages and what their answer is for people who seem to have an issue with Christians using the enneagram. Beth is an enneagram coach and leader, and the author of Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving, Christ-Centered Marriage, available everywhere now! The Crappy Christian Community is making an effort to change the lives of kids in need in Brazil! Join us in providing health care, nutrition, education, & love by visiting crappychristianco.com/links

I remember taking the Enneagram years ago - and quite frankly, I got pretty defensive about the results. It's funny now to think about! "This isn't me," I sarcastically decided. But I learned a lot about not only that defensiveness but the great insights the Enneagram has to offer through this conversation with author, speaker and Enneagram expert Beth McCord. She and her husband Jeff created Your Enneagram Coach, after spending years training under the top Enneagram experts, Beth is now leading the way in simplifying what she terms as the  "deep truths of the Enneagram." We kept this interview quite ecumenical but the McCords do add a biblical perspective as they teach. Beth believes strongly that the Enneagram can help you understand not only what you think and feel, but why you think and feel what you do. So welcome to this bonus episode of SelfWork, sponsored by the wonderful Athletic Greens! Important Links: Click Here for the fabulous offer from Athletic Greens with bonus product with your subscription! Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage by Beth and Jeff McCord For Beth's own Enneagram test, click here!  You can hear more about mental health and many other topics by listening to my podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to my website and receive one weekly newsletter including my weekly blog post and podcast! If you'd like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome! My book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has arrived and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism or need for control which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions, long hidden away, that are clouding and sabotaging your current life. And there's a new way to send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. You'll have 90 seconds to do so and that time goes quickly. By recording, you're giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I'll look forward to hearing from you!    

Join me as I share my favorite books from 2020. Top 10 Books of 2020: 1. Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage By Beth McCord 2. The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery By Ian Cron 3. Walk to Beautiful: The Power of Love and a Homeless kid Who Found the way By Jimmy Wayne 4. I'm Failing at This Thing Called Home: One busy mom's thoughts on changing the narrative, embracing possibilities and remaking home by Brooke Sailer 5. Seamless: Understanding the Bible as One Complete Story By Angie Smith 6. Letting Go of Leo: How I Broke up with Perfection By Simi Botic 7. The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry: How to Stay Emotionally Healthy and Spiritually Alive in the Chaos of the Modern World By John Comer 8. Love Unending: Rediscovering Your Marriage in the Midst of Motherhood By Becky Thompson 9. Anne of Green Gables #1 By: L.M. Montgomery 10. Cilka's Journey By Heather Morris

Are you looking for a way to better understand yourself and better understand your spouse? If so, Episode 15 of the No More Perfect Podcast is for you!If you're familiar with the Enneagram but want to better understand how it plays out in your marriage, this episode is for you. If you've never heard of the Enneagram but are looking for a way to better understand how your different personalities can work together better in marriage, this episode is also for you!My guests are Beth and Jeff McCord of YourEnneagramCoach.com. Authors of Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage the McCords help couples better understand the dynamics, both good and frustrating, they experience in their marriage. Their mission is to help people see themselves with astonishing clarity, so they can break free from self-condemnation, fear, and shame through the unconditional love, forgiveness, and freedom in Christ.In this episode, Jeff and Beth McCord help us explore exactly what the Enneagram is and how it can help us in relationships. Their perspective is that when we pair the introspection that the Enneagram can bring with the transformation of the Gospel, we have the ability to grow in new ways! Through powerful personal stories, Beth and Jeff share their journey from conflict to connection and their wisdom helps us do the same!Listen in to gain powerful insight that will help you navigate the relationships that mean the most to you! Beth and Jeff's Website: YourEnneagramCoach.comFollow Beth on Facebook and Instagram: @yourenneagramcoachJill's website: www.JillSavage.orgFollow Jill Savage on Facebook and Instagram: @jillsavage.author

100% of married couples have conflict. But, not 100% of married couples know how to resolve their conflict. We recently watched the Netflix movie, Marriage Story. While it is a heartbreaking to watch a marriage literally fall apart, the movie points out some very important relationship lessons that can make or break a marriage. On Episode 89, Daniel and Christina discuss 6 crucial relationship lessons from the Netflix movie, Marriage Story. Whether you have watched the movie or not, these 6 points will help you re-center and re-focus your marriage on the path to growth, connection, respect, and love for one another.  Have You Grabbed Your FREE Guide to Better Relationships with The Enneagram? We can’t wait for you to get your hands on this resource! This printable will help you have a healthier marriage, deeper friendships, and better work relations. Download our FREE printable: The Enneagram and Conflict Resolution: A Guide to Better Relationships In This Episode, You Will Hear About: Important marriage lessons from the Netflix movie Marriage Story How marriage is hard, but divorce is harder  What bids are and why they are crucial to your relationship The importance of learning to resolve conflict with your spouse  Resources Mentioned During the Episode: Want to find out more about bids? Read Dr. John Gottman's books The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Workand The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships and What Makes Love Last? How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal  Tune into our previous episodes about resolving conflict: Episode 19: How to Handle and Resolve Conflict Episode 37: One of The Greatest Secrets to a Successful Marriage Episode 61: I Think I've Married The Wrong Person  Episode 69: Enneagram and Communication Styles (with Lauren Gray) Episode 70: Resolving Conflict with the Enneagram (with Lauren Gray) Episode 86: The Good, The Hard, and The Beautiful  Curious about how the Enneagram can help your marriage? Check out Beth and Jeff McCord's book, Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage Quotables & Tweetables: "Getting divorced with a kid can be one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. It’s like a death without a body." @marriagestory Walking away from conflict does not solve it nor does it end it. @imbetweenshow Marriage is hard, divorce is harder. @imbetweenshow Maybe it’s not the depth of intimacy in conversations that matters. Maybe it doesn’t even matter whether couples agree or disagree. Maybe the important thing is how you pay attention to each other, no matter what your spouse is talking about or doing. @gottmaninst Simply put, successful couples are attentive. They listen, and they put their phones down when the other person wants to chat. @gottmaninst Gottman found when couples break up, it’s usually not because of issues like big fights or infidelity. More often, it’s a result of the resentment and distance that builds up over time when partners continually turn away from bids for connection.@gottmaninst Seek to understand the situation and your spouse's feelings. @imbetweenshow Assumicide is when we incorrectly believe we know another person’s thoughts, feelings, and motivations. We assume we understand why they are behaving in a particular way, and then we respond without asking clarifying questions. @enneagram_coach Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow And don't forget to subscribe to our podcast, so that you will never miss an episode! For the full show notes and downloadable images, go to IMbetween.org/episode89

Join Shine.FM's Heather Erbe as she welcomes guest Beth McCord. Beth has been a coach for the Enneagram for over 17 years. You can find out more about the Enneagram and Beth here. Find Beth's book Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage and The Enneagram Journal collection at Amazon.com, Barnes and Noble or through her website.

Enneagram experts Beth and Jeff McCord join me on the podcast today to talk through the enneagram as a tool for us as we live the Christian life. We cover a wide range of topics including emotional and spiritual health, as well as the importance of becoming more aware of how others experiences us as we lead.

Part two exploring how the Enneagram can help build your relationships with Enneagram coaches, authors, and spouses, Beth and Jeff McCord. Connect with the McCords Facebook | Twitter | Instagram Resources Mentioned in this Episode  Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage  YourEnneagramCoach.com Free Enneagram Type Assessment   

Explore how the Enneagram can help build your relationships with Enneagram coaches, authors, and spouses, Beth and Jeff McCord. Connect with the McCords Facebook | Twitter | Instagram Resources Mentioned in this Episode  Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage  YourEnneagramCoach.com Free Enneagram Type Assessment  The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types - Don Riso & Russ Hudson Books by Jerry Bridges book regarding the gospel of God’s grace 

Okay Awesome, so you know your Enneagram number. Now what? One of the most awesome aspects of the Enneagram is discovering how it affects you and your relationships so that you can continue to grow in all areas of life. Today, Enneagram coach Beth McCord returns to Sorta Awesome, and this time, she’s brought her husband Jeff! They sit down with Meg to talk about all things Enneagram and marriage and their brand new book Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage. Tune in to hear them answer questions from the Awesomes ranging from what to do when your partner is totally uninterested in the Enneagram and other personality systems to how to communicate our fears to our partners and everything in between!Check out Sorta Awesome’s Amazon shop!THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:Rothys: Go to rothys.com/awesome to check out the latest stylesGrove: Go to Grove.co/AWESOME and receive and get your Sustainable Swap gift set FREE with purchase, plus free shipping and a free 60 day VIP member trial!Mathnasium: Go to mathnasium.com/awesome today or call 855-401-MATHThank you to all of our Sorta Awesome sponsors! SHOW NOTES:Sorta Awesome Enneagram Lovers GroupBecoming Us on AmazonBecoming Us pre-order specialsYou can find Meg on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram!You can find Beth at YourEnneagramCoach.com and becomingus.com , or find her on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter!Visit sortaawesomeshow.com for show notes on this and every episode. And don’t forget to find us in the Sorta Awesome Hangout on Facebook or @sortaawesomeshow on Instagram, and @sortaawesomepod on Twitter!

This week we continue in our marriage series, Yoked, by discussing the oh so popular topic- the Enneagram. To help us work through how the Enneagram plays out in our marriages, we invited Beth McCord to join us. Beth is an enneagram author, speaker, and coach. She is the founder and lead content creator of Your Enneagram Coach, a community designed to be a safe place for individuals to explore the Enneagram. With years of experience and a passion for coming alongside individuals, couples, and groups, Beth is leading the way in simplifying the deep truths of the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective. Her mission is to make personal awareness and growth accessible for everyone, anywhere, so they can experience health and transformation in every area of their lives.    Beth and her husband Jeff are releasing a book on the Enneagram in marriage entitled Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage on October 1. Pre-order wherever books are sold. They also host live events and provide marriage courses specifically designed for each Enneagram couple paring. To learn more, visit www.becomingus.com. For more information on the Enneagram in general, visit Beth at Your Enneagram Coach, and follow her on IG and FB at the same name. We are grateful for Beth's time and wisdom!

On this week’s episode of Cultivating the Lovely, host MacKenzie Koppa Talks with Beth McCord of YourEnneagramCoach.com. Beth and her husband Jeff live outside of Nashville, Tennessee and have two grown children. She has been teaching people about the enneagram personality type tool for 17 years. You can now pre-order Beth and Jeff’s book Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving, Gospel-Centered Marriage. Beth and MacKenzie are taking a deep dive into all things enneagram today, including: Beth's journey toward learning about the enneagram and eventually teaching others Patterns in certain types gravitating to each other Alignment and misalignment with the Gospel   Understanding your true identity in Christ and finding our security in that truth Using the Enneagram as a tool to identify when you go off course and realign with the truth   The differences in types preferred in various environments and cultures Letting God in to work on us as we find out about our weaknesses Embracing who we are and finding our value and purpose in Christ, not comparisons Using the enneagram to develop compassion for others and live in the Gospel’s grace How knowing others’ types can help us communicate better A little about the 9 types, wings and tritypes and how they interact with each other MacKenzie and Beth’s reactions to the Sleeping At Last podcast enneagram songs Trusting the work of Christ as our foundation, no matter where we are on our journey Sneak peak into upcoming books and courses from Your Enneagram Coach A typical day in Beth’s life Current Lovelies- Beth: being intentional about creating margin, enjoying sitting by the fire outside in the evenings MacKenzie: reading a fun novel just for fun and finding that really refreshing Resources Mentioned- Michael Hyatt Your Enneagram Coach free type test Katherine Fauvre on Tritypes Kyra Hinton Type 4 Art Music Video Books: The Road Back to You Becoming Us The Sacred Enneagram The Enneagram Collection Podcasts: Sleeping At Last Movies: Shawshank Redemption Find Beth- You can find Beth McCord on her website, yourenneagramcoach.com. You can also follow Beth across social media on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Find MacKenzie- You can find MacKenzie Koppa on Instagram, Facebook, and the CTL Facebook Group, of course! You can also listen to her family podcast The Same Page! Thanks to our Sponsors- This week’s show is brought to you by the Homer reading app. Visit learnwithhomer.com/lovely for a free 30-day trial. This episode of Cultivating the Lovely is brought to you by Embr. Save $50 off your own Embr Wave when you go to EmbrWave.com and use code LOVELY at checkout. CTL is also brought to you by Plan to Eat meal planning service. Visit PlanToEat.com/LOVELY to start your free 60-day trial instead of the normal 30-day trial.

That's a wrap, folks! Season 2, focused on the enneagram, is O-VER! To wrap it up, I discuss: what happened to those last 3 episodes I promised what the enneagram has taught me about the gospel, my flesh, and the Holy Spirit why I am on a "doing detox" some insight into season 3   Keep your growth journey going! Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage The Path Between Us: An Enneagram Journey to Healthy Relationships The Complete Enneagram The 9 Types of Leadership Podcast: Enneacast

  This week, we’re excited to be focusing on a subject that we’ve mentioned quite a few times already on this podcast—the Enneagram. For those of you who haven’t been swept up in the Enneagram mania yet, it’s sort of like a personality test. But it actually goes deeper than that to show the motivations behind our actions and thoughts. To help us with this complex topic, we brought in a couple who knows the Enneagram well—Beth and Jeff McCord. Beth is the creator of Your Enneagram Coach, which helps introduce people to the Enneagram and connect them with a personal Enneagram coach. Her husband, Jeff, is the executive pastor at Southpointe Community Church in Nashville, Tennessee. Beth and Jeff have been married for over 20 years have two adult children. Interview Can you tell us about yourselves and how you got into the Enneagram? We’ve been married almost 24 years and have two kids in college. We started learning about the Enneagram in the early 2000’s. We were in the stage of life with little kids when you’re trying to live like Christ, but find your internal world derailing all the time. I wanted to be at my healthiest but was struggling. That’s when someone showed us the Enneagram and it helped me understand why I veer off course and what my healthiest was. We felt whatever tool we found had to be paired with the gospel. The Enneagram will tell you why you think, feel and behave in particular ways. Can you explain what the Enneagram is? The Enneagram has been around for thousands of years and used in lots of different sectors. It’s become more modernized with psychology since the 70’s and we’ve looked at how the tool can help illuminate our heart condition. I want people to realize that the Enneagram is a great tool, but the gospel is what transforms us. We’re always safe and secure in our identity in Christ, but sometimes we have times we’re not doing well. We want it to be a wakeup call to the patterns that aren’t best for or your relationships. Jeff, can you tell us about your role? I’m an executive pastor. I’ve been pastoring in the local church since 2002. When we started using the Enneagram as a couple, we started in the local church at our dining room table. Even back then, we would bring the insight of the Enneagram and apply the gospel to see hearts change. My beautiful bride is a type 9, who had a tendency to hide her talents, but she brought the depth to that conversation. How do your two Enneagram types interact? Jeff: Let’s start by talking about my love for ice—I love ice and cold drinks. Beth: We have a great ice story. I’m a 9 and our thought process is that we don’t matter—our voice doesn’t matter, our presence doesn’t matter. It’s a common theme for 9s. Jeff: I’m a type 6 and there’s a roaring committee of thoughts in my head all the time. Beth: For the 9, who feels like their presence doesn’t matter, when I do talk I want his full attention. When he looks at his phone what happens instantly in my mind is, “see, my voice doesn’t matter”. If I’m healthy I can navigate around that. Jeff: I often get a little impatient with her pace—9s meander in storytelling. So as she was telling a story one day, I decided to take a little break while listening. Beth: Jeff got up to get some water behind me and has a 32oz glass. The fridge is crushing ice into his Yeti and I’m still talking. He is getting his ice and I’m thinking: “see, he doesn’t want to listen to me”. Ordinarily I would shut down and stop talking and we start this dance and start to spiral. But that’s when the Holy Spirit came in and he’s told me time and time again that he is listening. So while he was still crushing ice, I’m thinking” “He loves me, we’re best friends, he’s just getting ice and it doesn’t have to spiral out of control”. And we’re able to move forward. Jeff: There are four things we hear from people as we talk to them about their dances: I didn’t understand my spouse and now I have clarity It’s compassion – I’m so sorry that’s what you’re feeling I understand our dance and our dynamics The Enneagram gives us great language to able to talk about it How does the Enneagram reveal both people’s strengths and weaknesses? The Enneagram is going to tell you like it is—blunt and straightforward. You’re going to see some things that are really hard to swallow. But if you’re able to recognize that Christ has already taken care of things, you can see these trouble spots and not be overcome with self-condemnation, fear and shame. You have to own it and ask for forgiveness but you’re able to do that because you’re already free. What are the benefits and challenges of each of your types? Jeff: There’s a book out there that talks about how we marry people who bring out a good we desire for ourselves. There’s something about Beth’s peacefulness, steadiness and sincerity that is very safe to me. Beth attunes to me in a way that brings peace and rest to my heart. I appreciate her strength, resolve, quiet perseveres and the attention she gives to me and our home. I want to be better at that because I’m not naturally at rest. Beth: The strengths that Jeff brings is absolute commitment and loyalty, hard work and being able to see what I miss. When you use this in marriage, your spouse cannot come through for you in the way you long for but Christ did. Everything has to hinge on Christ or you’ll be back in the ditch again. What have you learned about Jeff being a 6? Beth: 6s really need safety and security. They’re not all the same—my mom is a 6 and wants physical security (food, money, health). Jeff is more relational security. When we are in an argument and I withdraw, that is only saying to him “abandonment”. I’m not intending to do that to him. When I feel myself starting to check out I can say to him, “I know this is important, but I need some time to settle down and process”. That’s so much more helpful to me and communicates to him that I know safety and security are important to him. Jeff: The work for me is to believe it—that after 15 or 30 minutes she’s going to re-engage. And even if she doesn’t, I’m still secure in my relationship with Christ. It ends up creating a very hospitable dance between us. What resources do you have available for people who want to learn more? Jeff: This is going to be a big year for us. We’ve written a book called, Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage. It’s really the foundation to a number of other resources. We’re going to be releasing a new marriage assessment in June to help couples get an introduction to their dance and what they think about their dance and that’s going to be free. We’re also going to be doing date night events throughout the United States beginning in June. Those are going to be fantastic opportunities where we’re going to introduce the idea of the dance. Beth: We are developing 45 marriage courses. The reason there’s 45 is because there are 45 couple types. So there’s a course for you and your spouse and we’re going to specifically talk about your dance and get into your kitchen. Not only will we show you the negative parts of your dance but also the redeeming factors of Christ and what He brings. That will be coming out in June. We also have a free assessment if you don’t know your type. And then we also have Discovering You which is a cliff notes version of the Enneagram if you’re new to the Enneagram. If you know your type you can do Exploring You where I do pre-recorded coaching sessions where I break down your personality type into bite sized lessons. We’ll have 9 more books coming out in December—one on each of the types. Your One Simple Thing this week Get your Becoming Us marriage course and get insight into yourself and your spouse. Show Closing Thanks for joining us for the Married People Podcast. We hope you’ll subscribe to the podcast on iTunes and leave a review—they help us make the podcast better. We want to hear from you! Share with us on Facebook, Instagram or our site.  If you want more resources, check out the MarriedPeople membership or Ted’s book Your Best Us.  You can find more from Beth and Jeff at Your Enneagram Coach.

Beth and I chat about the Enneagram being an internal GPS that can help you know your heart condition at any given moment. We chat about using the Enneagram to help you see, believe, and walk in the freedom Christ has already given you. 4:26 Beth begin sharing her faith journey and how that intersects with becoming an Enneagram coach. "A lot of times if we are a believer, we have a lot of mixed theology in our mind. Whether it is the flesh, or bad theology just being spoken to us or who knows what. And we just really want them to understand who are you in Christ, because we are already are free in him, but so often we don't feel free....What we are doing with Enneagram coaching is really trying to give them the best theological base for who they are in Christ according to their personality type, because each of us have the core lies that are hard wired into us, from a flesh stand point...We hear the good news and we think this is amazing, but we still feel stuck. My goal is to say, 'Yeah, I can see that you feel stuck, but you're actually not, you're free.  Let me show you exactly how in Christ, for you and your personality type.' " 7:37 Beth begins explaining the Enneagram "Enneagram itself is just a neutral tool." Think of it as being an "internal GPS. It is going help you to know where your heart condition is in any given moment." Your Enneagram Coach Mission: For people to see themselves with astonishing clarity, so they can break free from self-condemnation, fear and shame by knowing and experiencing the unconditional love, forgiveness and freedom in Christ. 11:27 "The Enneagram...is really going to help you to know, am I aligned with the gospel? Is my heart mis-aligned or out of alignment?" 13:00 "The Enneagram is trying to assess why you do what you do.... [it] is getting to the core." "When you are trying to find your main type, we want you to find the 4 core motivations in your personality type." Core Motivations Core Fear: something you are always running away from Core Desire: if I just had that life would be grand and perfect Core Weakness: that thing you cry out to the Lord to be delivered from; constant struggle (shows us we are always dependent upon Jesus)  Core Longing: the message your heart has always longed to hear (only Christ can fulfill this. no one else is sufficient, although we try to get it from other people.) 16:00 Beth shares a few stories of her Enneagram coaching that have helped to bring freedom. "The whole way through I am coaching you into seeing how Christ has set you free and His love for you, so that when that self-condemnation pops up and shame I am right there to say, "[No way]. Nope. Let's look at exactly who you are and what He has done for you.' And all of a sudden, over those 5 sessions, you can see this person really coming to life. " 19:28 Beth discusses Enneagram wings 9 basic Enneagram types Wings: 2 numbers on either side of your main type For visual of star click HERE You can access attributes of your wings in both healthy and unhealthy ways. "We aren't just one dimensional...We are very fluid, as people. God created us with lots of dynamics." In addition, every number has two lines (like a star would) coming from it. One line leads to an enneagram number that you take on when under stress, the second line leads to an enneagram number that you take on when growing. 24:22  "I am trying to help people realize what you long for is already there. Christ has already accomplished it for you, but our mind and our heart get derailed so quickly with false messages, lies, the world. etc. I am trying to help people to realize here's how your personality, when it is not doing well, thinks, this is how it operates, but when you are doing well, when it's aligned with the gospel this is where it is going to take you." 25:43 Beth speaks to the idea that personality types "put you in a box." Russ Hudson and Don Richard Risso: The Enneagram doesn't put you in a box it gets you out of the box you are already in. "Our personality when it is not healthy is hard wired to think in very specific ways, that's the box, but we're already free....The personality itself is not bad or wrong. It's beautiful. God created us with our personality, but when we're not thinking in a healthy correct way it's going to be really harmful and destructive to us." "No one likes their type, because it is going to reveal what you are like when you aren't doing well. Here is the good news, Christ knew not only all you know about your personality type, but He knows when it is even worse and that's why in Romans 5:8 it says, 'While we were still sinners, Christ came for us.'..." "All 9 types are the body of Christ. We need all 9 types." Indelible Grace Rendition of I Need You Every Hour 33:12 Beth shares when is a good time for children to begin exploring their Enneagram number. Your Enneagram Coach courses, free resources, and one on one coaches can be HERE. COMING October 2019: Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to create a thriving gospel-centered marriagebook and course COMING December 2019: Each type Gift books  www.graceenoughpodcast.com IG: @graceenoughpodcast_amber  

Beth's favorite hobbies are studying and producing helpful Enneagram resources, fly fishing, and driving through the beautiful hillsides of Tennessee with her family.Beth lives outside of Nashville and has been married to her best friend, Jeff, for 23 years (Type 6, Loyal Guardian). They have two children (Nate, 20-year-old and a Type 6 The Loyal Guardian and Libby an 18-year-old and a Type 2 The Supportive Advisor).Combining the gospel and the Enneagram has been instrumental in Beth and Jeff's marriage and parenting. Discovering You CourseCoupon Code for 50% off: DISCOVERINGYOUExploring You Course Coupon Code for $24.50 off: NEXTSTEPFree AssessmentEndorsed Certified Coaches for private coaching sessions Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage by Beth and Jeff McCord. Release date is Oct. 1, 2019.

Beth's favorite hobbies are studying and producing helpful Enneagram resources, fly fishing, and driving through the beautiful hillsides of Tennessee with her family.Beth lives outside of Nashville and has been married to her best friend, Jeff, for 23 years (Type 6, Loyal Guardian). They have two children (Nate, 20-year-old and a Type 6 The Loyal Guardian and Libby an 18-year-old and a Type 2 The Supportive Advisor).Combining the gospel and the Enneagram has been instrumental in Beth and Jeff's marriage and parenting. Discovering You CourseCoupon Code for 50% off: DISCOVERINGYOUExploring You Course Coupon Code for $24.50 off: NEXTSTEPFree AssessmentEndorsed Certified Coaches for private coaching sessions Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage by Beth and Jeff McCord (Release date is Oct. 1, 2019)