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Art of Spousing is for marriages that what to move from being mundane to becoming masterpiece relationships. Hosts James and Lisa Duvall share truths and lessons learned from their 29 years of marriage and over a decade of teaching, coaching and speaking

James and Lisa Duvall


    • Oct 14, 2024 LATEST EPISODE
    • infrequent NEW EPISODES
    • 25m AVG DURATION
    • 59 EPISODES


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    Empty Nesters Take Two: Navigating Transitions, Family, and Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2024 25:43


    In this episode, James and Lisa return after a few months break to kick off a new season! They take us on a journey through the whirlwind of life changes they've faced, from becoming "empty nesters" to James' major career shift and Lisa's experience caring for her mother. Together, they unpack how they navigated this season of transitions, challenges, and blessings while fighting to maintain a strong connection in their marriage.Key Takeaways: 1. Major Life Transitions: James shares about stepping out of 30 years of vocational ministry to launch a new tech company. Lisa reflects on how they both approached this significant career shift, even as they anticipated becoming empty nesters.  2. Embracing Unexpected Changes: Just as they were settling into their new season, Lisa's mother moved in with them due to a diagnosis of Lewy Body Dementia. The couple opens up about how this shift in their daily lives impacted their marriage and family dynamics.  3. Fighting for Connection: Despite the disruptions, they discuss how they stayed intentional about prioritizing each other, reclaiming moments of connection, and ensuring their relationship remained a priority amidst caregiving responsibilities.  4. The Importance of Community: They explore the vital role community played during this season, both in providing support and in the emotional challenges of feeling isolated.  5. Lessons Learned: From God's provision to the power of community and being intentional about nurturing their marriage, James and Lisa share the key lessons they've learned through these past months.Resources mentioned in this episode:- The CollectiveNext Episode Teaser: Join James and Lisa next time as they teach the concept of "liminality." If you're wondering what that means and how it applies to marriage, don't miss the upcoming episode where they unpack this intriguing idea!Connect with Us:  - Instagram: @artofspousing  - Website: www.artofspousing.com - Email Newsletter: Sign up HERE to get the latest podcast episodes delivered to your inbox!Subscribe & Review:  If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review. Your feedback helps us reach more couples seeking to build strong, resilient marriages.Thank you for listening! We hope this conversation encourages you to embrace life's seasons with grace and intentionality in your marriage. We'll see you next time on the Art of Spousing podcast!

    Christmas Traditions and Memories

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 25, 2023 19:26


    Merry Christmas, and welcome to the season four finale of the Art of Spousing Podcast!  As we wrap up another incredible season, we're grateful for the journey we've shared and excited for what Season 5 will bring. In this episode, we're diving into the heart of Christmas, exploring traditions and memories that make this season so special.We reminisce about our own Christmas experiences. We invite some of our  Season 4 guests back to share their heartwarming Christmas traditions. You'll hear:- Our Personal Memories: James reminisces about Christmas day at his grandparents' home, filled with music and laughter. Lisa shares a humorous childhood practice of sneakily unwrapping gifts and a heartwarming family tradition involving a special moon pie box.- Decorating the Tree: We hear from the Gormans about their delightful tree decorating ritual, complete with fun music and the three Christmas keys tradition.- Creative Gift Giving: Discover our family's unique tradition of creating riddles for gift tags, adding a touch of mystery and fun to our Christmas morning.- Stocking Surprises: Dive into the debate of where the best gifts belong – under the tree or in the stocking. Hear the Kushes' story of how their stocking tradition began.- Food and Festivities: From James' standing rib roast tradition to Lisa's pumpkin bread, food plays a central role in our Christmas celebrations.- Embracing Change: We discuss how traditions evolve over time, adapting to life's changes, as exemplified by the Robinsons and their Christmas Eve celebration.- Gift Giving with a Heart: Learn about the Luffmans' tradition of adopting a family each Christmas and their lively Christmas Eve gathering.- Gratitude and Vision: We share insights from the noble marriage, highlighting the importance of gratitude and vision planning post-Christmas.We invite you to share your Christmas traditions with us. Whether you're newly married or enjoying the golden years, every tradition enriches the festive season.From our hearts to yours, we wish you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. Join us for this festive episode as we celebrate the love, joy, and togetherness that Christmas brings. Stay tuned for Season 5, where we'll continue to explore the art of nurturing a loving, God-centered marriage. Resources:Marriage Reboot Discovery CallSUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterLife Plan Discovery Call (With Lisa)Life Plan Discovery Call (With James)Support the Podcast:patreon.com/ArtofSpousingStay tuned for the upcoming episodes, and make sure to join the conversation on our social media platforms:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Navigating the Knots of Blended Family Life with Terry and Carol Moss

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 18, 2023 32:29


    In this heartwarming episode of Art of Spousing, we welcome Terry and Carol Moss, whose story is a testament to the beauty of God's grace and the power of second chances in marriage. With humor, honesty, and a deep faith, the Mosses open up about their journey from individual struggles and growth to finding unexpected love and unity in a blended family. They share the challenges of blending two families into one harmonious unit, the importance of respect and honor in marriage, and how they've navigated the complexities of co-parenting and step-parenting with grace.Terry and Carol also delve into their passionate work with blended families, offering encouragement, practical advice, and the wisdom they've gained from their own experiences. Whether you're part of a blended family or know someone who is, the Mosses' insights on maintaining a strong marital foundation amidst the "knots" of blended family life are invaluable.Moreover, the Mosses discuss their book "In the Beginning, It Was Not So," where they draw powerful lessons from the very inception of marriage as intended by God. It's an episode filled with laughter, poignant moments, and above all, an unshakable belief in the covenant of marriage. Join us as we explore the intricacies of blended family dynamics and learn how to strengthen your own family bonds with Terry and Carol Moss.Resources mentioned in this episode:- Marriage Reboot Discovery Call- SUBSCRIBE: Monthly Newsletter- In The Beginning, It Was Not So: Seven Marriage Lessons Learned In The GardenFor more on Terry and Carol's ministry and to connect with their community, visit:- URL: One Flesh Ministries- IG: @onefleshministries- FB: OneFleshMinistriesConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallOther Resources:Life Plan Discovery Call (With Lisa)Life Plan Discovery Call (With James)SUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    A Little Q&A Session

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 4, 2023 31:22


    In this episode of "The Art of Spousing" podcast, hosts James and Lisa bring their unique perspectives to the table, discussing the complexities and joys of marriage and family life. We start off with a light-hearted reflection on our own experiences, setting the tone for an episode filled with warmth, humor, and insightful discussions.They revisit a compelling Q&A session from a Re Engag gathering, focusing on pressing questions that resonate with many married couples. A significant part of the conversation revolves around the intricacies of nurturing intimacy in marriage, especially when balancing the demands of parenting. They introduce the concept of 'parent office hours,' a practical approach to carving out precious time for each other amidst the busy rhythms of family life.Diving into the theme of trust and transparency, James and Lisa discuss the delicate balance of managing personal devices and friendships within a marriage. Emphasizing voluntary transparency over control, we share our thoughts on building a foundation of trust and openness in a relationship.Addressing the often-misunderstood dynamics of parenting, they challenge the notion that children are a distraction to marriage. Instead, they explore how children can actually enrich the marital bond. We offer strategies for handling different stages of child development, emphasizing the impact on marital health and unity.The conversation also covers the sensitive topic of setting boundaries with extended family and in-laws. James and Lisa stress the importance of prioritizing the marital relationship while maintaining respectful and healthy relationships with extended family members.Lastly, they touch upon the importance of spiritual guidance in making major life decisions. James and Lisa highlight the need for unity and collaboration within marriage, especially when faced with significant choices.The Art of Spousing podcast is more than just a conversation; it's an invitation to grow and thrive in your relationship.Resources:Marriage Reboot Discovery CallSUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterLife Plan Discovery Call (With Lisa)Life Plan Discovery Call (With James)Support the Podcast:patreon.com/ArtofSpousingOther episodes mentioned:Mastering the Art of In-Laws: Navigating Relationships with GraceStay tuned for the upcoming episodes and make sure to join the conversation on our social media platforms:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    How the Act Agape App Can Deepen Your Connection with Dr. Scott Symington

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 20, 2023 28:19


    Do you want to deepen your connection and foster a greater understanding in your relationship? Are you seeking a solution to enhance the love between you and your spouse? Look no further. Dr. Scott Symington joins us to share the key to achieving a heightened bond and a more profound connection with your spouse. Discover how intentional acts of love can transform your relationship and bring about a result of enriched love and strengthened commitment.  Dr. Symington, co-founder of Act Agape shares how this app can foster intentionality and help you fill you and your spouse fill each other's love tank.Resources:Marriage Reboot Discovery CallSUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterLife Plan Discovery Call (With Lisa)Life Plan Discovery Call (With James)Connect with Guests:Website: actagape.comDr. Scott Symington IG: @drscottsymingtonConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Jeremy & Kourtney Roseberry - Courageous Faith: Finding Strength in the Face of Adversity

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 6, 2023 36:35


    Do you long for a marriage that not only survives adversity but thrives in the face of it? Are you seeking inspiration and guidance to strengthen your relationship? Look no further because today we have a special guest, Jeremy and Kourtney Roseberry, who will be sharing the key to achieving a resilient and flourishing marriage. They have overcome immense challenges and will reveal their solution for building a marriage that withstands any storm. Get ready to unlock the secret to a marriage filled with unwavering perseverance, vulnerability, and a deep-rooted faith that leads to an unbreakable bond.Resources:Marriage Reboot Discovery CallSUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterLife Plan Discovery Call (With Lisa)Life Plan Discovery Call (With James)Connect with Guests:Jeremy IG: @roseberryjeremyKourtney IG: @kourtney.roseberryConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Unleashing the Power of Grace: Strengthen Your Marriage Through Humility

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 16, 2023 26:36


    In this episode of the Art of Spousing podcast, hosts James Duvall and Lisa Duvall dive into the importance of grace and humility in marriage. They've learned a thing or two about this topic through their own experiences and want to share their insights with you. They discuss the power of viewing your spouse through a lens of value, celebrating their strengths instead of focusing on weaknesses. They also introduce the concept of pride and how it can hinder intimacy and cause conflict in a relationship. But don't worry, they've got the antidote: humility. They define humility as having an accurate estimate of your worth and thinking of yourself less, not thinking less of yourself. They provide practical applications of humility in marriage, like putting your spouse first and being quick to listen and slow to speak. By incorporating these principles, you can cultivate a healthier and more fulfilling relationship. So, if you're looking to improve communication and strengthen your marriage, this episode is definitely worth a listen!Resources:Marriage Reboot Discovery CallSUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterLife Plan Discovery Call (With Lisa)Life Plan Discovery Call (With James)Support the Podcast:patreon.com/ArtofSpousingOther episodes mentioned:Shifting Gears for CommunicationConflict: The Opportunity for Unity10 Ways to Avoid Misunderstandings with Your Spouse!Stay tuned for the upcoming episodes and make sure to join the conversation on our social media platforms:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Marriage on Mission: Prioritizing Love, Parenting, and Sacrifice

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 2, 2023 38:01


    In this episode, James and Lisa welcome Cole and Karissa Robinson to the podcast. They share their love story, which begins with an "arranged marriage". Cole's shares candidly about his commitment issues. They hilariously recount breaking up after an introduction to Cole's mother at Disney. Despite three breakups, Karissa stuck with Cole, and they reflect on their rollercoaster journey. They discuss the importance of personal growth and self-reflection before entering marriage. Cole and Karissa share their decision to become foster parents, which initially caused some hesitation. They explain how their church gathering and a vision Karissa had inspired them to foster children. They talk about the challenges and rewards of fostering, including the emotional attachment they develop with the children. They emphasize the importance of prioritizing marriage and work-life integration. Lastly, they discuss the impact of investing in the lives of foster children and the support they receive from their church community and share two marriage tips that are sure to help any marriage relationship.Resources:Marriage Reboot Discovery CallSUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterLife Plan Discovery Call (With Lisa)Life Plan Discovery Call (With James)Other episodes you'll enjoy:The Marriage Reboot: Reset, Rebuild & Find Common Ground With Greg and Julie GormanConnect with Guests:Cole IG: @colejbrJasmine IG: @karissabrConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Trust Builders & Busters in a Marriage Relationship

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2023 27:36


    In this episode, Lisa and James discuss the importance of trust in marriage and relationships.  The hosts emphasize that trust is the glue that holds all relationships together and can be built over time through small moments, but can also be broken in an instant. They discuss the concepts of trust builders and trust busters in relationships, sharing examples and stories of couples who have faced trust issues and worked towards restoration. They also touch on the importance of good communication, keeping promises, and the role of honesty and respect in building trust. Throughout the episode, they provide practical tips and tools for building trust in relationships. They end by encouraging listeners to take action and start implementing trust builders in their own relationships.Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Email UpdatesHope Ride For FreedomSponsor James for Hope Ride '24Unrelenting Pursuit - helping couples get on the road to recovery.Support the Podcast:patreon.com/ArtofSpousingOther episodes mentioned:From Infidelity to Intimacy: A Journey of Healing and Restoration withTravis & Adelle GrahamShifting Gears for CommunicationConflict: The Opportunity for Unity10 Ways to Avoid Misunderstandings with Your Spouse!Stay tuned for the upcoming episodes and make sure to join the conversation on our social media platforms: Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    From Infidelity to Intimacy: A Journey of Healing and Restoration withTravis & Adelle Graham

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 4, 2023 34:38


    In this compelling episode, we explore the powerful impact of the past on our present and future. We dive deep into a conversation about the destructive force of pornography on marriages and relationships, guided by their insightful guests Travis and Adelle Graham of The Noble Marriage.Topics discussed include the journey of healing from infidelity, the importance of personal responsibility, the process of forgiveness, rebuilding trust, establishing boundaries, and the role of God in filling emotional voids. Listeners will gain valuable insights on how to navigate the complexities of infidelity, rebuild trust, and find healing in their own relationships. The episode also highlights practical tools and resources, including an online community and a forthcoming book, to support individuals on their journey to wholeness. Don't miss out on this engaging conversation that offers hope and healing to struggling couples.Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterWalking Through Betrayal Course (75% discount with code "artofspousing")Other episodes you'll enjoy:The Marriage Reboot: Reset, Rebuild & Find Common Ground With Greg and Julie GormanThe Noble Marriage Resources:Website: thenoblemarriage.comIG: @thenoblemarriageFB: thenoblemarriageYT: thenoblemarriageConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    10 Ways to Avoid Misunderstandings with Your Spouse!

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2023 22:00


    In this episode of the Art of Spousing Podcast, hosts James and Lisa dive into the topic of misunderstandings in marriage and provide practical tips to strengthen communication and prevent tensions. They highlight that misunderstandings are normal and even healthy in a relationship, and emphasize the importance of addressing and discussing them. The hosts explore different types of misunderstandings, such as when the speaker is not aware or the listener does not understand. They discuss the responsibility of both spouses as speakers and listeners, and provide ten ways to avoid misunderstandings, including listening to understand, using I statements, speaking calmly and clearly, and avoiding blame, complain, or defend. They also touch on the significance of body language, shared calendars, and practicing patience. The episode concludes with the powerful advice of praying together to maintain unity. Don't miss the next episode featuring Travis and Adele Graham, who will share their story about overcoming infidelity and the impact of pornography in a marriage.Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Email UpdatesCues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic CommunicationSupport the Podcast:patreon.com/ArtofSpousingOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicJoin us as we explore the intricacies of marriage, the ups and downs, the joy and challenges, and the sheer art of spousing. Remember, it's not just about being married; it's about mastering the art of doing it right.Stay tuned for the upcoming episodes and make sure to join the conversation on our social media platforms. Happy spousing!Art of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Greg & Julie Gorman: Tools for Couplepreneurs

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2023 34:28


    In this episode of the podcast, James and Lisa talk with guests, Greg and Julie Gorman, founders of Married for a Purpose. The Gormans share their recent trip to Africa and the impact they had on couples there. They discuss the challenges and benefits of working together as a couple and the importance of setting boundaries. They also provide recommendations and advice on navigating tough decisions as a couple. The conversation highlights the need for unity, good communication, and finding common ground. They mention resources such as the Marriage Reboot, the Couplepreneur video curriculum, and the Peacemaker tool. The episode concludes with a reminder to prioritize one's marriage and seek growth together. Listeners are encouraged to check out the Gormans' resources and share the episode with others. In the next episode, James and Lisa will discuss communication and how to avoid misunderstandings in relationships.Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterCOUPLEPRENEUROther episodes you'll enjoy:The Marriage Reboot: Reset, Rebuild & Find Common Ground With Greg and Julie GormanGreg and Julie GormanMarried For a Purpose Resources:Website: marriedforapurpose.comIG: @marriedforapurposeFB: marriedforapurposeBooks:What I Wish My Mother Had Told Me About Marriage: Unlocking 10 Secrets to a Thriving MarriageMarried for a Purpose: New Habits of Thinking for a Higher Way of Living: 52 Weekly Devotions for CouplesTwo Are Better Than One: God Has a Purpose for Your MarriageWhat I Wish My Mother Had Told Me About MenGentle Whispers: Experience God's Promises In Life's StormsConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Season Four Preview

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 7, 2023 18:31


    Welcome to the preview episode of Season 4 of the "Art of Spousing" podcast. In this 19-minute teaser, your hosts James and Lisa give you a sneak peek into the season ahead.James and Lisa highlight the various topics that will be covered and guests who will appear throughout Season 4, giving listeners a taste of what's to come. This season promises a range of perspectives and fresh insights on marriage, relationships, and the art of successful spousing.Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Email UpdatesSupport the Podcast:patreon.com/ArtofSpousingOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicJoin us as we explore the intricacies of marriage, the ups and downs, the joy and challenges, and the sheer art of spousing. Remember, it's not just about being married; it's about mastering the art of doing it right.Stay tuned for the upcoming episodes and make sure to join the conversation on our social media platforms. Happy spousing!Art of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Mastering the Art of In-Laws: Navigating Relationships with Grace

    Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2023 23:01


    Welcome to the Art of Spousing Podcast! We're thrilled to have you here as we dive into today's topic: in-laws, or as we like to call them, "in-loves." This is a significant aspect of marriage that requires careful navigation and setting boundaries.In this episode, we'll share practical strategies to strengthen your relationship with your in-laws and create a harmonious family dynamic. We believe that by implementing these strategies, you can foster a loving and supportive environment that allows your marriage to thrive.First and foremost, setting boundaries is crucial. We'll guide you through the process of discussing and agreeing on boundaries with your spouse, including visits, holiday plans, and involvement in major decisions. By establishing clear expectations, you can maintain a healthy balance between your in-laws' influence and your own married life.Navigating relationships with in-laws can sometimes be challenging, but patience and understanding are key. We'll share insights on practicing empathy and seeing things from their perspective. By approaching these relationships with love and respect, you can build a strong foundation for lasting connections.We'll also discuss the importance of presenting a united front with your spouse when dealing with in-law issues. Together, you'll learn effective communication strategies for addressing concerns and finding common ground. We'll provide practical tips for maintaining a positive outlook and appreciating the unique contributions your in-laws bring to your life.Throughout this episode, we'll emphasize the significance of seeking God's guidance in your relationship with your in-laws. We'll explore the power of prayer, wisdom, and forgiveness as essential components of building healthy and thriving connections.Thank you for joining us on this episode of the Art of Spousing Podcast. If you find this content valuable, please share it with others who may benefit from it. Don't forget to rate and review our podcast to help us reach more listeners like you. Stay connected and continue nurturing your marriage to new heights. Until next time!Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Email UpdatesSupport the Podcast:patreon.com/ArtofSpousingOther episodes you'll enjoy:The Journey to Independence: Navigating the Four Stages of Parenting Practising the Art of SpousingConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    The Journey to Independence: Navigating the Four Stages of Parenting

    Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2023 31:24


    As a parent, we strive to raise our children to be independent individuals. That's why we were intrigued when we learned about the Journey to Independence: Four Stages of Parenting. In this episode of the Art of Spousing podcast, we discuss the different stages of parenting and how parents can navigate each stage successfully. The first stage is the caretaker stage, where parents protect and provide for their children. The second stage is the cop stage, where parents must teach and discipline their children, and the third stage is the coach stage, where parents guide and encourage their children. The final stage is the consultant stage, where parents provide friendship, counsel, and support. We emphasized the importance of not staying in one stage too long and moving to the next stage at the right time. We believe this episode will help parents raise their children to become independent individuals and reduce some of the tension that happens in marriage as a result of raising kids.In this episode, you will be able to: Discover the four crucial stages of parenting and their role in your child's development. Master tips for nurturing independence in your children throughout each phase. Embrace your parenting phase and effectively adapt to challenges, setting an example as a role model. Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Email UpdatesSupport the Podcast:patreon.com/ArtofSpousingOther episodes you'll enjoy:Navigating Three Types of Tension in MarriageHow to Strengthen Your Marriage by Building on Common GroundPractising the Art of SpousingConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Unlocking the Secret Sauce of Lasting Marriages with 3 Key Ingredients

    Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2023 17:47


    In this episode, James and Lisa talk about their experiences with commitment - from when they were in college to now - and share practical tools that listeners can use to transform their relationships from mundane to masterpiece level. They dive into the three types of commitment, first introduced by Penn. State University Sociology Professor Dr. Micheal Johnson; moral, structural, and personal, and explore how they relate to building a vibrant and long-lasting marriage. Through humorous anecdotes and relatable personal stories, the hosts provide insight into the ups and downs of relationships and offer hope for every couple out there. If you're looking for ways to strengthen your commitment, reignite the spark in your relationship, and have fun doing it, tune in to this podcast episode.Topics Discussed:- The importance of commitment in marriage- The three specific dimensions or types of commitment: moral, structural, and personal- How each dimension of commitment is necessary to build a successful and thriving marriage- Practical tools and activities for strengthening commitment in relationships- The hosts' Marriage Reboot Retreat and how it can help couples reconnect and recharge their relationshipResources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Email UpdatesSupport the Podcast:patreon.com/ArtofSpousingOther episodes you'll enjoy:How to Strengthen Your Marriage by Building on Common GroundPractising the Art of SpousingConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    The Lost Art of Gratitude in Marriage: An Essential Tool for a Thriving Relationship

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2023 19:05


    In today's episode of the Artist Spousing podcast, we're exploring the profound impact that practicing gratitude can have on marriage and, more specifically, on sexual intimacy. Studies have shown that gratitude is essential in any relationship, and toxic relationships are often void of gratitude. Through experiencing moments of thankfulness, couples can create a cycle of giving and receiving which deepens their emotional, spiritual, and physical connection. We'll also share some practical ways to increase gratitude in a marriage, from showing interest in your partner to expressing appreciation for even the smallest victories. Join us for today's episode to learn about the benefits of practicing gratitude and how to strengthen your own gratitude muscles. Topics discussed: - The relationship between gratitude and sexual intimacy - The impact of gratitude on marriage and toxic relationships - The benefits of practicing gratitude in a committed relationship - Practical ways to increase gratitude in a marriage Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Email UpdatesSupport the Podcast:patreon.com/ArtofSpousingOther episodes you'll enjoy:Conflict: The Opportunity for UnityPractising the Art of SpousingConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    More Than Your Number with Beth and Jeff McCord

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2023 31:54


    Are you tired of falling into the same old patterns in your marriage? Do you want to deepen your connection with your spouse? Look no further than this episode of Art of Spousing. Lisa and James speak with Beth and Jeff McCord, founders of Your Enneagram Coach and authors of two books focused on using the Enneagram to create stronger, gospel-centered marriages. In this episode, they delve into the Enneagram types of James and Lisa and discuss the tensions that can arise in relationships. They highlight the importance of communicating intentionally and asking good questions to truly know your partner. Plus, they offer insights on how to use the Enneagram to lead and manage the different parts of yourself and navigate conflict with greater empathy and understanding. Don't miss out on this valuable tool for improving your marriage. "All parts of us need leadership and can show up in healthy or unhealthy ways. We can use all of these parts of ourselves to live out our sense of calling." - Jeff McCordIn this episode, you will be able to: Unlock the potential of Enneagram principles to enhance communication and empathy within your marriage. Pinpoint recurring patterns that ignite conflict and initiate personal growth within your relationship. Expertly navigate diverse Enneagram types to maintain harmony and balance in your partnership. Apply an Enneagram Internal Profile (EIP) for proactive conflict resolution and long-lasting marital satisfaction. Discover valuable resources for delving deeper into the power of Enneagram principles in relationships. Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: NewsletterSupport the Podcast:patreon.com/ArtofSpousingOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingEnneagram: The Secret to Understanding Your Marriage with Jeff and Beth McCordConnect with Guest:Websites: yourenneagramcoach.comIG: @yourenneagramcoachFB: YourEnneagramCoachConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Do you love this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Enneagram: The Secret to Understanding Your Marriage with Jeff and Beth McCord

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2023 23:42


    Despite their busy lives, Beth and Jeff McCord never could have imagined that the Enneagram would lead them on a journey of profound discovery and transformation - not just in their own marriage and parenting, but in the lives of their Christian community as well. What was this unexpected twist and how did it bring healing and wholeness to their relationship?In this episode, you will be able to: 1. Discover the power of Enneagram as an instrument to transform marriages. 2. Uncover ways to fuse Enneagram insights with Christian perspectives for a holistic approach. 3. Harness your unique attributes for more effective couple communication. 4. Delve into the complexities of Enneagram-based marriage dynamics and how to better navigate them. 5. Root your marriage improvement journey in faith and self-awareness.These personality tools actually name something of our glory, of our God-given glory, about how we can uniquely reflect something of who God is for us. - Jeff McCordOur special guests are Jeff and Beth McCord, founders of Your Enneagram Coach, an organization dedicated to helping individuals and couples understand the Enneagram and use it to transform their lives. They are also the authors of two books, "Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage" and "More Than Your Number: A Christ-Centered Enneagram Approach to Becoming Aware of Your Internal World." With a strong foundation in theology, Jeff and Beth have dedicated their lives to helping couples strengthen their marriages through a Gospel-centered approach to the Enneagram.The resources mentioned in this episode are: Visit becomingus.com to access the 45 unique Enneagram couple-type courses offered by Jeff and Beth McCord. Schedule a call with James and Lisa Duvall to learn more about their Marriage Reboot retreat at artofspousing.com/marriagecoaching or direct message them on Instagram with the word Call. Read Jeff and Beth McCord's books, Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage and More Than Your Number: A Christ-Centered Enneagram Approach to Becoming Aware of Your Internal World. Follow Your Enneagram Coach on social media to stay updated on their content and resources. Explore the Enneagram from a biblical perspective and use it to deepen your understanding of yourself, your spouse, and your relationship with Christ. Share the Enneagram with friends, family, and the church community to help them better understand themselves and their relationships. Reflect on your Enneagram type and consider how it may affect your marriage and other relationships and how you can use it to align with the Gospel. Look into other resources, such as John Gottman's material on marriage, to gain further insights into maintaining a healthy, Christ-centered relationship. Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: NewsletterSupport the Podcast:patreon.com/ArtofSpousingOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingMe Awareness We AwarenessConnect with Guest:Websites: yourenneagramcoach.comIG: @yourenneagramcoachFB: YourEnneagramCoachConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Secrets of Sex and Marriage with Shaunti Feldhahn

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2023 32:58


    In this episode James and Lisa have a conversation with Shaunti Feldhahn, co-author of the book "Secrets of Sex and Marriage." The episode tackles one of the most taboo topics in most relationships - Sex in marriage. Shaunti and her co-author, renowned sex therapist Michael Sytsma, spent three years and $120,000 on a research project involving interviewing over 5,300 people, leading to major surprises and aha moments. They identified the little things that make a big difference in making marriage sex work. The episode reveals how communication is crucial and how making people understand the differences in desire and addressing underlying issues can bring freedom and growth in a relationship. With the book designed to be read together, Shaunti believes that "Secrets of Sex and Marriage" can help couples understand each other better and feel validated. "Communication is the elephant in the room - the topic we avoid because of its awkwardness. Despite having close friends, we rarely address it with them. It's the only issue we never speak about, leading to the creation of myths and misunderstandings which guide our actions. If we don't learn to communicate with our partners, these myths will keep us from true understanding." Topics discussed:- How intimacy in marriage is the least talked-about topic- Research on the little things that make a big difference in making marriage intimacy work- Communication gaps and misunderstandings and how they impact intimacy- Understanding the differences in desire- Establishing signals or cues for willingness to engage in sexual activity- The church as a safe place for difficult conversations, and the creation of a curriculum on intimacy in marriage Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: NewsletterSupport the Podcast:patreon.com/ArtofSpousingOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingGuest Resources:Websites: shaunti.com, secretsofsexandmarriage.comIG: @shauntifeldhahnFB: Shaunti FeldhahnShaunti's Books: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference FOR WOMEN ONLY: What Men Think 98% of the Time: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men. What You Need to Know About How Guys Think For Men Only, Revised and Updated Edition: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women Thriving in Love and Money: 5 Game-Changing Insights about Your Relationship, Your Money, and Yourself Shark Tank Episode Mention in PodcastConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Navigating Three Types of Tension in Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2023 18:54


    Are you looking for ways to improve your marriage? If so, then this podcast episode is for you! James and Lisa discovered new truths about their relationship, even after 30 years of marriage. They share a personal experience that led to some realizations in their marriage, believing that their podcast can help you take your marriage from survival mode to thriving. In this episode, they discuss the three types of tension that can create conflict in marriage and offer practical tips on how to navigate them. They emphasize that acknowledging a season of tension can help keep things in perspective, and staying connected with your spouse is crucial in difficult seasons. They even discuss how the power of the Holy Spirit can help us avoid heartache and frustration by speaking correction. Tune in to learn how to address tension in your marriage and gain greater unity."Conflict is not the absence of unity. Conflict is the opportunity for greater unity."Topics Discussed:- Three types of tension- Conflict management tools- Marriage Reboot Retreat- Situational, seasonal, and systemic tensions- The power of the Holy Spirit in marriage- Identifying the root causes of tension- Check-ins on different dimensions of intimacy- Conditional clause rules for conflict managementResources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Email UpdatesSupport the Podcast:patreon.com/ArtofSpousingOther episodes you'll enjoy:Conflict: The Opportunity for UnityPractising the Art of SpousingConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Four Choices to a Masterpiece Marriage with Don and Joy Bray

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2023 28:29


    On this week's episode of the Art of Spousing podcast, listeners will hear from Don and Joy Bray, a couple who have been married for 58 years and are considered a godly example of longevity and vibrancy in marriage. Don and Joy share their story with the podcast hosts, discussing the significant choices they have made to create their masterpiece marriage. Listeners will learn how the couple chose to grow and find a lifelong commitment in each other, as well as how they chose to fight fair, take responsibility for their emotions and actions, and learn to appreciate each other's differences. The couple emphasizes the importance of grace, choosing joy, and choosing wonder in daily life. The podcast also features recommendations for finding a mentor, praying together daily, and respecting one another.Topics Discussed:- Don and Joy's first date and chemistry- Four significant choices for a masterpiece marriage: growth, commitment, appreciation, and grace- Childhood scars and tendencies- Communication in marriage- Learning to appreciate each other's differences- Choosing joy and wonder in life- Gratitude and generosity- Parenting and teaching love- Conflict resolutionResources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: NewsletterSupport the Podcast:patreon.com/ArtofSpousingOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practicing the Art of SpousingConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Three Simple Practices to Increase Physical Touch in Your Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2023 20:16


    Are you struggling to connect physically with your partner in your marriage? Do you feel like you're unsure where to start or perhaps lack the confidence to initiate touch? In this episode, hosts Lisa and James discuss the importance of physical touch in a marriage and how it can improve intimacy, reduce stress and anxiety, and strengthen the bond between partners.They share their personal experiences, including small practices they have implemented in their own marriage such as squeezing hands three times to say "I love you." They also offer practical advice on how to initiate physical touch and the importance of communication and understanding each other's boundaries and preferences.If you struggle to connect with your partner physically, this episode offers practical tips and encouragement to help you start small and work towards a more intimate and fulfilling marriage."Get over yourself and grow yourself!"Topics Discussed: Resistance to new things, physical touch, marital intimacy, communication, relationship boundaries and preferences, intentional touch, sexual intimacy.Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Email UpdatesOther episodes you'll enjoy:Intentional IntimacyPractising the Art of SpousingConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Expedition Marriage with Chris and Jamie Bailey

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 6, 2023 28:52


    Chris and Jamie Bailey use their journey of overcoming dysfunction to offer real hope and practical tools to other couples through their podcast, courses, and social media, showing that you're never "too far gone" for God to redeem your situation."It's not the problems that take you out in your marriage. It's what you do with them. It's how you choose to handle them. And dealing with chronic pain, I can allow that to depress me, defeat me, and just give me this negative mindset, which is not easy to give into, but that's not what I choose to do. The Lord says I can have joy despite my circumstances, and that's what I'm going to fight for." Chris and Jamie Bailey are Christian counselors and marriage coaches passionate about helping couples live their best lives together. They are the founders of Expedition Marriage, where they encourage and equip marriages to reflect the love, grace, forgiveness, and vitality they were made to have.Chris and Jamie Bailey's marriage began in dysfunction, but through Jesus and personal growth, they have been able to transform their relationship and help others. Through their ministry, they have been giving practical tools and messages of hope to couples all over, helping them to recognize that their marriage is a journey and that God is still good even when hard times come. God has redeemed their situation and given them a passion for helping others, and they are determined to spread the message of hope to all.In this episode, you will learn the following:1. How did Chris and Jamie's marriage start in dysfunction and evolve into a story of redemption?2. What practical tools do Chris and Jamie offer to couples on their journey of marriage?3. How can men overcome fear and insecurity to participate in their families and marriages?Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: NewsletterOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingGuest Resources:Website: expeditionmarriage.orgIG: @expedition_marriageFB: Expedition MarriagePodcasts:Expedition MarriageNot Your Average ManConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    How To Create An Emotionally Safe Environment In Your Marriage (Part 2)

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 27, 2023 19:46


    James and Lisa continue the conversation around how to create an emotionally safe environment in your marriage by actively implementing four practices; giving and receiving forgiveness, validating each other's feelings, being willing to compromise, and seeking professional help."Even if you're responsible for only 2% of the issue, you're still 100% responsible for that 2%."In this episode, you will learn the following:1. Four practices to create an emotionally safe environment in your marriage.2. How quickly asking for and giving forgiveness can foster emotional intimacy.3. The power of validating your spouses feelings.4. The benefits of practicing compromise in a relationship.5. Why seeking professional counseling or coaching can make a significant impact in a marriage that feels stuck.Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Email UpdatesOther episodes you'll enjoy:How To Create An Emotionally Safe Environment In Your Marriage (Part 1)Practising the Art of SpousingLove: Defining the Three EssentialsConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    How To Create An Emotionally Safe Environment In Your Marriage (Part 1)

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2023 19:55


    Lisa and James teach how to create an emotionally safe marriage and foster a lasting bond of love and trust!To create an emotionally safe environment in your marriage, it is important to avoid criticism, contempt, and defensiveness. "Don't let small offenses build up. If you can't get over something in 24 hours, then you need to have a conversation with your spouse about it so it doesn't build up and cause resentment or contempt."In this episode, you will learn the following:1. How to create an emotionally safe environment in your marriage that will foster emotional intimacy.2. What steps can be taken to avoid criticizing your spouse and having a critical spirit?3. What are the non-negotiables for communication between spouses to avoid breeding contempt?Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Email UpdatesOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingHope Rising: 3 Ways to Invest in Your Marriage This YearLove: Defining the Three EssentialsConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Marriage On Deck: Howard & Danielle Taylor's Marriage Journey

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2023 35:48


    Experience the power of spiritual intimacy in marriage and learn to trust God's divine plan when He tells you to "go" with Danielle and Howard's story."God gave us a very specific template in how to nurture marriage and serve in the marriage space, because we found through Facebook Live, it was like a great litmus test to the fact that people were hungry and they needed some advice, and oftentimes they needed it silently. We would do videos. It was like, no comments and no engagement, because they don't want to put their own marriage on blast publicly, but they listen in silence and get fed in silence, which was beneficial."Howard and Danielle Taylor met in college in 2001 and have been married since 2005. They have committed to breaking the legacy of divorce in their families and are passionate about helping other couples build healthy marriages through their ministry, Marriage on Deck.Howard and Danielle connected by chance at a college Bible study. In that moment, they both knew they'd found something special in each other. Despite a difficult upbringing, Howard had always wanted to have a strong marriage, and found it in Danielle. To strengthen their relationship and faith, they fast together quarterly and at the end of each year. After a week of fasting, God told them to move their family to Duluth, Georgia, and their faith was rewarded when an email arrived that same night confirming the move. Through this experience, Howard and Danielle learned the power of fasting and how to build spiritual intimacy in their relationship.In this episode, you will learn:1. How to form a spiritually intimate relationship with your spouse2. How to use fasting to draw closer to God3. How to act on a call from God to move into a new season.Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: NewsletterOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingGuest Resources:Website: Marriageondeck.comIG: @marriage_on_deckFB: marriageondeckBooks:The Fundamentals of Marriage: 8 Essential Practices of Successful CouplesConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    How To Take the Love in Your Marriage Relationship to the Next Level

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2023 26:29


    We have learned that expressing extraordinary love to one another is not only important for a thriving marriage, but is also a way to demonstrate God's love to the world. Through the Bible passage of 1 Corinthians 13, we found three practices to level up our love: patience and kindness, forgiveness, and building endurance.  By doing these things, we can enjoy our marriage, rather than just enduring it."Love takes no pleasure in other people's sin, but delights in the truth. It's always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes. Love does not come to an end."In this episode, you will learn the following:1. That Valentine's Day is actually Valentine's Week.2. What the Bible says about how we should love each other.3. How we take our love to the next level and move from mundane to masterpiece.And as a bonus...The Valentines gift that James gave to Lisa that earned James a pass on Valentines for the rest of their marriage...Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Email UpdatesOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingHope Rising: 3 Ways to Invest in Your Marriage This YearLove: Defining the Three EssentialsConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Us in Mind: How Changing Your Thoughts Can Change Your Marriage With Ted Lowe

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2023 32:40


    Ted Lowe reveals a startling truth about the secret to a great marriage--that it's not the opposite of a struggling marriage, but something different--he embarks on a journey to help couples shift their thinking and focus on the positive to experience true marital bliss."It's so great to have people in this space like you guys that are co champions, that we're both going after the same thing. We want to help couples and just every time I'm with you guys, I am encouraged just to keep going."Ted is a speaker, blogger, and the director of Married People, the marriage division of Orange, a nonprofit organization devoted to influencing those who influence the next generation. Ted is also the author of a New Marriage book, Us in mind how changing your thoughts can change your marriage. Ted Lowe had always been passionate about helping couples, but he noticed a pattern: some couples would take the advice he gave and change their marriage, while others would just hear it and do nothing. He was determined to find out why and discovered a powerful truth: the happiest couples were those who thought the best of their spouses. Ted then set out to write a book about it, and in the process discovered the power of intentional thoughts and positive illusions. After teaching this material to couples, he found that his simple exercise of asking people to think about what their Abba Father would say to them was liberating. He was so glad he'd taken the time to write the book and help couples find true joy in their marriages.In this episode, you will learn the following:1. What do couples who are really doing well do differently?2. How can we shift our thinking to better align with God's desires for us?3. What are some techniques to help couples focus on what they love about their spouse rather than what they don't?Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingMarried For a Purpose Resources:Website: tedlowe.comIG: @tedloweBooks:Us In Mind: How Changing Your Thoughts Can Change Your MarriageYour Best Us: Marriage Is Easier Than YouMarried People: How Your Church Can Build Marriages that LastConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Six Practises For Avoiding Complacency in Your Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2023 21:48


    When striving for a masterpiece marriage, couples must avoid complacency by proactively prioritizing time, practicing honest communication, investing in the relationship, keeping romance alive, and exercising spontaneity.We share Six Practises For Avoiding Complacency in Your Marriage on the Artist Spousing Podcast. These practices can help prevent the feeling of growing apart and increase emotional intimacy and connectedness in a marriage, helping to reverse feelings of complacency."if you're concerned about complacency in your marriage, it's important to pay attention to it and address any issues that may be contributing to the problem."In this episode, you will learn the following:1. What are the signs of complacency in marriage and how can they be addressed?2. What strategies can be implemented to prioritize time, practice open and honest communication, and invest in the relationship?3. How can romance be kept alive and spontaneity be exercised to prevent complacency in marriage?Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Email UpdatesEvents, Retreats, ExperiencesWinshape MarriageOutbackRe|engageOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingHope Rising: 3 Ways to Invest in Your Marriage This YearThe Marriage Reboot: Reset, Rebuild & Find Common Ground With Greg and Julie GormanConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    The Marriage Reboot: Reset, Rebuild & Find Common Ground With Greg and Julie Gorman

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 16, 2023 34:04


    Greg and Julie Gorman, desperate to rekindle their struggling marriage and provide hope for other couples, embarked on a powerful journey to create their Marriage Reboot - a one-on-one, two-to-three day intensive to reset, unify, and reignite marriages."We become what we think about. If I'm thinking, okay, don't think about what a jerk Greg is. Don't think about how he's not doing this or that. What happens?  I become even more hyper aware of those issues or problems. So it's not just stop doing this. What it is is it's thinking about what do we really want as a couple."Greg and Julie Gorman are marriage experts, authors, and coaches who specialize in helping couples reset and rebuild their marriages through their Marriage Reboot program.Greg and Julie Gorman have been married for many years and have experienced the ups and downs of a marital relationship. After much healing and growth, they created the Marriage Reboot, a two to three-day intensive to help couples reset and build on common ground and unity. It provides a safe, non-judgmental environment for couples to be seen, heard and understood by each other, and to find hope and purpose in their marriage. The Marriage Reboot provides a forward-thinking process for couples to identify what they both want in their marriage, and build on a common vision and purpose. It is designed for both couples in crisis and those who are looking to take their marriage to the next level.In this episode, you will learn the following:1. What is the Marriage Reboot and how was it created?2. How does the Marriage Reboot differ from other marriage intensives or programs?3. Who is the Marriage Reboot designed for, and how can it help couples strengthen their relationship?Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingGreg and Julie GormanMarried For a Purpose Resources:Website: marriedforapurpose.comIG: @marriedforapurposeFB: marriedforapurposeBooks:What I Wish My Mother Had Told Me About Marriage: Unlocking 10 Secrets to a Thriving MarriageMarried for a Purpose: New Habits of Thinking for a Higher Way of Living: 52 Weekly Devotions for CouplesTwo Are Better Than One: God Has a Purpose for Your MarriageWhat I Wish My Mother Had Told Me About MenGentle Whispers: Experience God's Promises In Life's Storms Connect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    Hope Rising: 3 Ways to Invest in Your Marriage This Year

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 9, 2023 19:35


    A determined husband and wife can make this their best year of marriage yet, proactively investing in themselves and each other to find the hope they need to overcome the 92% of New Year's goals that fail.You will learn how to unlock the secrets of a successful marriage and discover why intentionally investing in your relationship is key.This episode is all about Intentionally investing in your marriage. We have learned that investing in your marriage can be done in three ways: investing in yourself, investing in intentional time together and proactively investing resources to grow your relationship. Investing in yourself requires self awareness and self management, and setting goals that will make something of you to achieve them. Investing in intentional time together with your spouse requires making your relationship a priority, unplugging from the regular grind and serving together. Finally, proactively investing resources to intentionally grow your marriage relationship includes coaching, marriage intensives, marriage retreats, and marriage reboots. Investing in your marriage is a proactive way to ensure a successful relationship."Hope is the belief that your future can be brighter and better than your past and that you actually have a role to play in making it better."In this episode, you will learn the following:1. What is the Science of Hope and how can you apply it to your marriage?2. What are some practical ways to invest in yourself and your marriage?3. How can you proactively invest resources to intentionally grow your marriage relationship?Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    3 Questions Answered about a Strong and Healthy Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 21, 2022 22:48


    "The best instructions come from the creator of a product."We've been married for 30 years, and one of the things that has helped us stay strong is that we've been intentional about our intimacy. We've always put God first in our marriage, and we've been intentional about growing in our spiritual, emotional, and sexual intimacy. We wish we would have had more adventure in our first five years of marriage, and we wish we would have been more intentional about creating healthy habits. In this episode you will learn:1. The most important factors for us maintaining a strong, healthy marriage?2. What we would do differently if you could go back and do our first five years of marriage over again?3. Two general themes that, if addressed, would make the biggest difference in most marriages?Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingIntentional IntimacyConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here 

    With Christopher and Jasmine Catoe

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2022 24:44


    This is Christopher and Jasmine Catoe's story...I'm a worship leader at Christ Fellowship Church and my wife, Jasmine, is a content producer. We met in middle school and have been married for almost three years. Recently, we took an enneagram test and discovered that I am actually a five, not a one like we thought. This was a bit of a shock to me, but it made sense when I thought about my perfectionism and my love for data and planning. As a five, I tend to hoard information and resources, which can make collaboration difficult. However, I am working on delegating and trusting others with my ideas in order to build up the community around me.In this episode, you will learn the following:1. How the Catoe family views and uses the Enneagram2. The difference between a one and a five on the Enneagram3. The importance of collaboration in the creative process4.  How core motivations affect our actionsResources:SUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterAMPLIFY YOUR MARRIAGE - Discovery CallOther episodes you'll enjoy:With Brandon and Michelle CatoeConversations About Marriage and The EnneagramPractising The Art of SpousingConnect with Guests:Christopher IG: @ccatoexJasmine IG: @jasminecatoeConnect with Us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comIG: @artofspousingFB Group: artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.

    How to Use the Support Challenge Matrix to Liberate Your Spouse & Kids

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2022 28:46


    In this episode, you will learn the following:1. The Support Challenge Matrix: a tool for empowering relationships2. The four quadrants of the Support Challenge Matrix: Protector, Dominator, Abdicator, Liberator3. The consequences of living in each quadrant of the Support Challenge MatrixResources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterSupport Challenge Matrix and Circles of InfluenceDiscussion Questions: How do you experience me in our relationship? (Protector or Dominator) What does challenging me look like for you to feel empowered? What does support from me look like for you to feel empowered? If you are a protector you can ask…Have there been ways that I have created mistrust because of my lack or misuse of challenge?If you are a challenger you could ask…Have there been ways that I have made you feel fearful or manipulated because of my lack of or misuse of support?Other episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingMe Awareness We AwarenessConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.

    With Gabe and Kasey Mejia

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2022 36:15


    Gabe and Casey Mahia are a young couple who have only been married for two years, but they have already learned a lot about themselves and each other. One of the things that Gabe has learned about Casey is that she is a self-proclaimed enneagram six. For those of you who are not familiar with the enneagram, it is a tool of empathy that reveals core motivations. Gabe is a video producer and he manages a team of content creators at Christ Fellowship Church. Casey is a social media content creator and she manages all the social media for Christ Fellowship Church."I think that just helped put some language around things that I had been feeling. And I was like, that really does sound like me."In this episode, you will learn the following:1. How Gabe and Casey met2. What it was like for them to get married during the Covid pandemic3. The dynamics of Gabe's enneagram type 4 and Kasey's enneagram type 6 in their marriage.4. The challenge and power of giving and receiving feedbackResources:SUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterAMPLIFY YOUR MARRIAGE - Discovery CallOther episodes you'll enjoy:Conversations about Marriage and the EnneagramConnect with Guests:Gaber IG: @_gabemejiaKasey IG: @kaseymejia_Connect with Us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comIG: @artofspousingFB Group: artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.

    The Power of a Pro-Marriage Collective

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2022 28:40


    For a marriage to be secure and strong, you need to build a pro marriage collective, a community with like minded, growth minded couples. "The people you spend the most time with will change you in ways you cannot anticipate or ever fully understand."Over the last 30 years, we have surrounded ourselves with couples who are pro-marriage. They are always championing us and our relationship and they model the behavior we want to emulate in our own marriage. We've learned so much from them and our marriage is stronger because of it.In this episode, you will learn the following:1. The importance of having a strong marriage collective to help push you forward in your marriage2. The benefits of being part of a marriage collective, including accountability, encouragement, and wise counsel3. The dangers of isolating yourself from others when you're struggling in your marriageResources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterMarried for a Purpose MembershipOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.

    With Brandon and Michelle Catoe

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 17, 2022 33:24


    Brandon and Michelle Catoe are long-time friends of the hosts of the Art of Spousing podcast. They have been married for almost 27 years and have two adult children. Brandon is a three on the enneagram and Michelle is a six. They have both been involved in ministry for many years and currently serve on the senior leadership team at their church.This is Brandon and Michelle Catoe's story...Brandon and Michelle Catoe have been married for 27 years and have two kids. They met in kindergarten and started dating in high school. Brandon is a three on the enneagram and Michelle is a six. They have found that their different enneagram types have played out in their marriage in various ways, including how they communicate and handle conflict. Brandon and Michelle have also found that their enneagram types have affected their parenting style and how they relate to their kids.Resources:SUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterAMPLIFY YOUR MARRIAGE - Discovery CallOther episodes you'll enjoy:Conversations about Marriage and the EnneagramConnect with Guests:Brandon IG: @branfdoncatoeMichelle IG: @catoemichelleConnect with Us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comIG: @artofspousingFB Group: artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.

    The Tension is Real: Money Stress in Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2022 25:24


    The Art of Spousing Podcast tackles the reasons for money causing tension in marriage and provides tools to combat the stressors. "An ounce of disciplines weighs far less than a ton of regret" - Jim RohnLisa and I have different money styles. I tend to be a saver, while she is more of a spender. This can cause tension in our relationship, especially when it comes to budgeting and making financial decisions. However, we've learned to work together and compromise on spending in order to avoid arguments and keep our finances in order. We also have a plan for paying off any debt we may have, which has helped us stay on track and avoid accumulating more debt.In this episode, you will learn the following:1. How money styles can impact a marriage2. The emotional and psychological implications of financial strain3. How to overcome excessive debt4. The one game changer for all your financial tensionsResources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterCURATE Date Night Event - October 14th, 2022 | Southwest Church, Indian Wells, CADebt Snowball CalculatorYou Need a Budget Other episodes you'll enjoy:Conflict: The Opportunity for UnityPractising the Art of SpousingConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.

    Grant and Stephanie Gardner: Forever With Purpose

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2022 27:04


    Grant and Stephanie Gardner are high school sweethearts who have been married for 38 years. They are the founders of Forever with Purpose, a ministry that empowers marriages to maximize their vision and purpose. They are also the hosts of the Pillow Talk with Grant and Stephanie podcast."I always say that, we were knocked up, but not out. we got our cart before the horse and got married at a very, very early age; 17 going into our senior year."In this episode, you will learn:1. The enneagram as a tool for empathy and self-awareness in marriage2. How the Gardners' different personality types affect the way they process change in their relationship 3. How to know yourself to lead yourselfResources:SUBSCRIBE: Monthly NewsletterSchedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootCURATE Date Night Event - October 14th, 2022 | Southwest Church, Indian Wells, CAOther episodes you'll enjoy:Conversations about Marriage and the EnneagramConnect with Guests:Forever With Purpose IG: grant_steph_foreverwithpurposeForever With Purpose FB: Married With PurposePodcast: Pillow Talk with Grant and StephanieConnect with Us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comIG: @artofspousingFB Group: artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.

    How to Strengthen Your Marriage by Building on Common Ground

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 26, 2022 24:13


    By building on common ground, you can strengthen your marriage."Couples who know how to play and have fun together develop a bonding that can carry them through the most difficult times."Lisa and I were talk about strengthening our marriage by building on common ground. We discussed how marriages built on common ground have the ability to stand up against challenges that happen in life. In this episode, you will learn the following:1. Why does your marriage exist?2. What is your shared vision for your marriage?3. How to set priorities and boundaries to guard your purpose and vision.Resources:IGNITE One Day Marriage Enrichment EventMarriage Reboot Discovery CallOther episodes you'll enjoy:Intentional IntimacyPractising the Art of SpousingConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.

    With Dave and Bethany Kush

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 19, 2022 34:01


    In this episode, James and Lisa talk with Dave and Bethany Kush, who share their lifelong journey of learning and growth as a couple, in light of the Enneagram."Oh, my gosh, now everybody knows. They see me with all my flaws. I felt like I'm standing in front of a crowd wearing just my underpants."Dave and Bethany Kush are a couple who have been married for 33 years. They have known each other since college and have been friends for a long time. Dave has worked in the corporate world for 15 years, and Bethany has been a stay-at-home mom for most of their marriage. They have both been involved in ministry for the past 15 years.In this episode we cover:1. How the enneagram can help you understand yourself and your spouse better2. How the enneagram can help you navigate conflict in a healthy way3. How the enneagram can help you understand your motivations and fearsResources:IGNITE One Day Marriage Enrichment EventDave IG: @davekushBethany IG: @bethkushOther episodes you'll enjoy:Conversations about Marriage and the EnneagramConnect with us:Schedule a Discovery Call about coaching opportunities.Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comIG: @artofspousingFB Group: artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.

    Love: Defining the Three Essentials

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 12, 2022 16:28


    When committed love, emotional intimacy, and passion collide, the result is a work of art called marriage."Love is more than a feeling and deeper than a crafty slogan or a line of a song."Today we're talking about love. The word love is described in so many different ways. Some make sense. Some are just silly. Some talk about love. Some try to define love. Some of these you may have heard of well, and other others may be new to you. Love is blind. Love is in the air. All you need is love. Love is like war. Easy to begin and hard to end. Not sure about that one. Love means differences can be worked out. Love is reaching your dreams together. Our love is like dividing by zero. It can't be defined. That kind of feels more like a bad pickup line. Yeah, it does. While some of those could be true, it's really difficult to define love. What makes up love?In this episode, you will learn the following:1. How can love be defined? 2. What are the components of love? 3. What does love look like in a healthy marriage?Other episodes you'll enjoy:Intentional IntimacyPractising the Art of Spousing Connect with us:Marriage Reboot Discovery CallSend Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comFB: artofspousingIG: @artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.

    With Ben and Elisa Haake

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 5, 2022 27:32


    "The Enneagram's effect on marriage." is not about: 1. The Enneagram is a perfect tool for predicting compatibility in marriage. 2. The Enneagram can help identify and correct relationship problems. 3. The Enneagram can help couples resolve conflicts and improve communication. Do you know your Enneagram type? It just might be the key to a happy marriage."I felt understood for the first time and found out that castling is okay because it's how I restore and how I even when we first got married, I had to look at her and say, I need you to hear that I love you dearly, but I need to be awayBen and Elisa Haake are a married couple who have been together for 12 years. They have two children and live in Florida. Ben is a worship pastor at Christ Fellowship Church and Elisa is a vocal coach and worship leader. They are both super hosts with Airbnb.This is Ben and Elisa Haake's story...Ben and Elisa Haake have been married for twelve years and have two kids. They met when Ben asked Elisa out on a double date. Eight years into their marriage, they realized that they never fought. After taking the enneagram test, they learned the reason why. The enneagram has given them language to understand their marriage dynamic and has helped them to grow in self-awareness, spouse awareness, and couple awareness.In this episode, you will learn the following:1. How the enneagram can help you understand your relationship dynamic 2. How to use the enneagram to grow in self-awareness, spouse-awareness, and couple-awareness 3. How the enneagram can help you understand your shadow side.Resources:Justin IG: @benhaakeAndrea IG: @elisahaakeOther episodes you'll enjoy:Conversations about Marriage and the EnneagramConnect with us:Schedule a Discovery Call about coaching opportunities.Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comIG: @artofspousingFB Group: artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing is edited using Descript...the all-in-one audio & video editing application.

    The Moment You Realize You Need Help in Your Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 29, 2022 21:26


    Are you dealing with any of this?1. You may feel like your partner isn't listening to you or understanding your feelings. 2. You may feel like you're always the one giving and never receiving. 3. Your partner may not be meeting your needs emotionally or physically. "So one of my favorite leadership teachers, Jim Rohn, taught small errors in judgment over a period of time will result in accumulated disaster."I used to love running. I would go out every day and explore new routes. But after a while, I started to notice some pain in my right hip. I thought it was just muscle soreness at first, but it didn't go away. I saw a general practice doctor and they said everything was fine, but after a few weeks I knew something was really wrong. I ended up going to an orthopedic specialist and they told me I had a serious fracture in my hip. I had to have surgery and it was a really long recovery process. I think this is a really good illustration of what can happen in a marriage relationship. Small fractures can grow and cause real damage if they're not addressed. In this episode you will learn: 1. How small errors in judgment can accumulate into disaster in a marriage relationship? 2. How  ignoring ongoing pain in a marriage relationship can lead to larger problems? 3. What are some signs that there may be a stress fracture in a marriage relationship?Resources:Marriage Reboot Discovery CallFor Discussion:1. Is there something right now in your marriage that has the potential to create disconnection or a break in your relationship?2. What action can each of you do to address the concern? 3. Is there an opportunity for you to invite help into the situation, and if so who would that be? Other episodes you'll enjoy:Episode 6: The Gap Between the Event and the ResponseEpisode 2: Shifting Gears for CommunicationConnect with us:Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comIG: @artofspousingFB Group: artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon Music

    Justin and Andrea Lathrop

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 22, 2022 28:55


    If you're looking for a marriage that will last, look no further than Justin and Andrea Lathrop."The greatest gift Justin has been in my life was to kind of model for me and perfectly, of course, like unconditional love and that it wasn't based on my performance, which ties into my enneagram number, too."Justin and Andrea Lathrop are a married couple of 22 years. They met in college and have since had four children. Justin is the vice president for strategic partnerships at Southeastern University and Andrea is an executive pastor at a large church. They are both committed to their marriage and to helping others grow in their own relationships.This is Justin and Andrea Lathrop's story...Justin and Andrea Lathrop have been married for 22 years and have known each other for 25. They met in college and have been through multiple breakups. They have four children. Justin is a nine wing one and Andrea is a three wing two. They both find value in counseling and assessments.In this episode, you will learn the following:1. How Justin and Andrea Lathrop met and started dating 2. How the enneagram has helped them understand each other better 3. How they use the enneagram to improve their communication and relationshipResources:Justin IG: @justinlathropAndrea IG: @andrealathropOther episodes you'll enjoy:Episode 8: Conversations About Marriage and the EnneagramEpisode 10: Greg and Julie GormanConnect with us:Schedule a Discovery Call about coaching opportunities.Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comIG: @artofspousingFB Group: artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallSUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon Music

    Intentional Intimacy

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 15, 2022 21:29


    Lisa and James share insights around the five types of intimacy, and how a husband and wife can practice the art of intentional intimacy in spousing.  Topics include; relational intimacy, spiritual intimacy, physical intimacy, emotional intimacy, and sexual intimacy.___________________________________________________SUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about coaching opportunities.Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comIG: @artofspousingFB Group: artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvall

    Greg and Julie Gorman

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 8, 2022 32:19


    Lisa and James sit down with good friends Greg and Julie Gorman, the founders of Married for a Purpose, to talk about their 23 year marriage dynamic of an ennea 7 and ennea 2.___________________________________________________SUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about coaching opportunities.Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comIG: @artofspousingFB Group: artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallMarried For a Purpose Resources:Website: marriedforapurpose.comIG: @marriedforapurposeFB: marriedforapurposeBooks:What I Wish My Mother Had Told Me About Marriage: Unlocking 10 Secrets to a Thriving MarriageMarried for a Purpose: New Habits of Thinking for a Higher Way of Living: 52 Weekly Devotions for Couples Two Are Better Than One: God Has a Purpose for Your MarriageWhat I Wish My Mother Had Told Me About MenGentle Whispers: Experience God's Promises In Life's Storms 

    Me Awareness and We Awareness

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 1, 2022 24:07


    James and Lisa teach on the importance of growing in self-awareness (ME) and awareness of each other (WE).  Topics discussed include; the difference between nature and nurture, Personality types, birth order, core motivations, love languages, and family of origin.___________________________________________________SUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about coaching opportunities.Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comIG: @artofspousingFB Group: artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallMentioned Resources:The Intimate Connection: Secrets to a Lifelong RomanceThe 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that LastsThe Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual GrowthFamily of Origin Discussion Questions

    Conversations About Marriage and The Enneagram

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 18, 2022 30:26


    James and Lisa share learnings around the power of The Enneagram, as a tool for building connection in a marriage relationship.  They unveil their personal Enneagram types and the dynamics of how their two types compliment and at times cause conflict in their relationship.___________________________________________________SUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about coaching opportunities.Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comIG: @artofspousingFB Group: artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallMentioned Resources:The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-DiscoveryThe Path Between Us: An Enneagram Journey to Healthy Relationships The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to SpiritualBecoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage

    The Gap Between Here and There

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 4, 2022 19:51


    James and Lisa unpack the Gap and the Gain made famous by Dan Sullivan.  How you measure progress in your marriage relationship will determine the potential for happiness and contentment in you relationship.  ___________________________________________________SUBSCRIBE ON:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicArt of Spousing Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about coaching opportunities.Send Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.comWebsite: artofspousing.comIG: @artofspousingFB Group: artofspousingJames IG: @thejamesduvallLisa IG: @lisaduvallMentioned Resources:The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and SuccessSnowball Debt Reduction Spreadsheet

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