No More Perfect Podcast with Jill Savage

If you're familiar with the journey Mark and I have walked together, then you know that I spent a year “standing for my marriage” while Mark had an affair and separated. (You can explore more about our story here.) It was the darkest season of my life—and also the season that produced the most personal, emotional, and spiritual growth I've ever experienced.My guest for this conversation has a similar story. Jason Carver is a pastor and the founder of Standing Supernaturally For Marriage Restoration Ministry. He has served in various pastoral roles in the church for over 35 years and is also a Certified Christian Counselor through the National Association of Christian Counselors.Whether you are currently separated, in the midst of a divorce, or praying for restoration after divorce, we want you to know that God can do an amazing work in your personal life and relationship.In this episode, you'll hear:How God can resurrect dead thingsThe importance of maintaining hopePractical steps to stand for your marriageAnd more!I am so grateful to bring you even more stories of marriages that have been restored.Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/jason-carver-250You're invited to our Transform Weekend June 6-8, 2025 or October 17-19, 2025. Learn more and register here.Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Over the years, we've had our fair share of expectations that ended in disappointment—sometimes around big moments like birthdays, and other times over something as simple as how we spend a Saturday.It's taken us a while to discover that what caused many of these conflicts was a lack of proactive communication, or as we like to say, a failure to “push information.” Pushing information is simply taking the time to communicate in advance your current hopes and desires (or even how you are used to doing things in the past).Pushing information to your spouse may take some time and effort upfront, but we know from experience what a valuable tool this strategy can be in avoiding unnecessary arguments and hurt.In this episode, you'll learn about:The importance of comparing your “normals”Why proactive communication is key for healthy relationshipsPractical tips for being clear with your expectationsAnd more!This has been such a helpful tool that we've used in coaching and in our marriage! We hope it helps you turn confusion and disappointment into clarity and contentment.Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/proactive-communication-249You're invited to our Transform Weekend June 6-8, 2025 or October 17-19, 2025. Learn more and register here.Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Every marriage is an ongoing story with its own highs and lows, joys and difficulties. Depending on which season we are in, we may start to see marriage as the best thing that has ever happened to us or the source of our angst. If you've been following our journey for a while, you know that my husband Mark and I share openly about the struggles as well as the victories in our marriage. God has used every obstacle we've encountered to grow us in so many ways.The truth we hope you walk away with today is that marriage is actually our ultimate invitation to grow.  If we allow it, God will use our marriage to shape us into someone who is deeper, healthier, and more rooted in Christ. Our guest believes wholeheartedly that if we are willing to examine the stories of our past that are influencing the present, we can write a new story for the future.Dr. Dan Allender has a long history in the therapy world. As the author of over two dozen books and the founder of The Allender Center, he believes that true healing and restoration occur when we courageously step into our stories of pain.In this episode, you'll hear:The value of vulnerably stepping into each other's pastsWhy it's important to disrupt destructive patternsOne of the key factors to resolve any conflictAnd more!These principles have proven so beneficial in our marriage. We hope this conversation helps you write a new story for your own relationships.Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/dan-allender-248You're invited to our Transform Weekend June 6-8, 2025 or October 17-19, 2025. Learn more and register here.Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

©2025 FamilyLife. All Rights Reserved. Used with permission.If we're being completely honest, many of us enter into marriage with stars in our eyes and the hope that our spouse will live up to our every expectation. Isn't it funny how we can spend months preparing every last detail for our marriage ceremony—yet we spend little, if any, time preparing our mindsets for what our marriage will actually look like in practice?That reality often shows up fast—like the moment you realize the person you just vowed forever to puts the toilet paper on the roll backward! No matter how big or small they may be, unmet expectations can cause conflict, disappointment, and frustrations to develop in your marriage and other relationships.Today, we have the honor of sharing a special episode with you. Earlier this year, Mark and I did a workshop on managing expectations in marriage for the FamilyLife Love Like You Mean It Cruise (which we highly recommend!). With their permission, we wanted to share it with you as well.While this message was created for married couples, the reality is that all of us need to manage our expectations better. After all, they can impact all areas of our lives—from our kids, to our extended family, and even our friendships.In this episode, you'll learn about:Four types of expectationsWhere unrealistic expectations come fromHow we use cats and dogs to describe attachment stylesAnd more!Understanding how expectations may be showing up in your relationships can help you avoid dynamics that contribute to discontentment, disappointment, and more. We hope you enjoy this special episode—recorded in front of a live audience!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/managing-expectations-247You're invited to our Transform Weekend June 6-8, 2025 or October 17-19, 2025. Learn more and register here.Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Have you heard some variation of this before? “Marriage is hard. It's unfair. One of you will always pull more weight. Marriage doesn't make you happy; it makes you miserable.” I'd like to push back against that pessimistic mindset. Yes, it's true that marriage can be challenging—but it can also be one of the greatest relationships you will experience!Marriage is certainly not easy, but it can be easier if we approach it the right way. Joining us to share her insights on doing just this is my friend, Arlene Pellicane. Arlene is a speaker, host of the Happy Home podcast, and author of several books including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Arlene has been featured on the Today Show, Fox & Friends, the Wall Street Journal, and Focus on the Family.In this episode, you'll hear:The four decisions that deeply impacted Arlene's marriageWhy you should silence your phone while spending time with your spouseThe benefits of trying something new togetherAnd more!I thoroughly enjoyed my time with Arlene, and she has so many great tips on how to make marriage easier.Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/arlene-pellicane-246You're invited to our Transform Weekend June 6-8, 2025 or October 17-19, 2025. Learn more and register here.Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

When a loved one hurts, it can be hard to know how to respond and support them through the crisis or pain they feel.Our first response is often to jump straight into “fix it” mode or lighten the mood by offering platitudes. However, the key to true comfort lies in a few key areas that Mark and I are going to talk about in this conversation. In our story, we've had quite the journey of learning how to best support one another—whether we are experiencing physical pain, emotional hurt, or just a difficult season of life.In this episode, you'll learn about:Some examples of crises and pain a loved one may be experiencingThe importance of sitting in the pain with someone elseA few ways to practically support someone going through a crisisAnd more!Through my cancer journey and our marriage crisis, we received so much help and comfort from our friends, our family, and each other. We hope you will feel more equipped to offer support to a loved one after listening to this candid conversation.Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/hurting-loved-one-245You're invited to our Transform Weekend June 6-8, 2025 or October 17-19, 2025. Learn more and register here.Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

If you know my husband Mark and I, then you know we are passionate about moving people from a 1.0 version of themselves to a new-and-improved 2.0 version. We've taken this journey ourselves and know the difference it can make in your relationships, as well as how you view yourself.We want you to know that whether you are navigating a life transition, experiencing a relationship crisis, trying to rediscover your purpose, or looking for direction on how to move forward, you are always just one choice away from making a change.Today, we have two incredible guests joining us to explore this topic. Justin and Trish Davis are pastors, speakers, coaches, and the founders of Refine Us Ministries. Through their powerful story of failure, loss, and transformation, they help others find renewed hope and purpose. Justin and Trish have co-authored and individually authored several books, the latest being One Choice Away from Change: Break the Cycles That Hurt Your Relationships and Hold You Back.In this episode, you'll hear:How God restored their relationship after an affairCommon barriers that hold us back in lifePractical steps to take when you feel stuckAnd more!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/justin-trish-davis-244You're invited to our Transform Weekend June 6-8, 2025 or October 17-19, 2025. Learn more and register here.Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Everyone has baggage. We carry it around with us everywhere–into marriage, adulthood, and every aspect of our lives. It's part of being human, and while there's no shame in having baggage, it's important to take the time to consider how the behaviors we've picked up over the years could be potentially harmful to ourselves and others.The question we are addressing in today's conversation is: how do we pinpoint our baggage and begin to heal those areas of our lives? We define “baggage” as places where we need to pursue personal growth, instances of trauma or hurt from the past that remain unhealed, and learned behaviors, habits, and thinking patterns from our childhood that no longer serve us. Whether you are married, dating, or single, doing the individual work to unpack your baggage is an investment you will never regret making. You may also want to consider working with a coach, counselor, or therapist to assist you in your journey.In this episode, you'll learn about:The importance of discovering your baggageHow to look back at the past to uncover unhealthy coping mechanismsWhy we should pay attention to relational feedbackAnd more!Dealing with our own baggage has been transformative in our marriage, and it played a crucial role in our individual journeys to become Jill 2.0 and Mark 2.0. We hope this conversation can be a stepping stone for others to dig deeper into their own habits and behaviors.Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/uncover-baggage-243Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

What does your morning routine look like? A typical morning may look like rolling out of bed, getting ready, and grabbing breakfast to feed your body before you tackle the day. But how often do you prioritize feeding your soul as well as your physical body?My guest for this conversation discovered that there is no better way to start her day than by sitting with Jesus. Tera Elness is a writer and a speaker. In her first book, Sitting with Jesus: A Yearlong Faith Journey, each individual entry is a glimpse into her personal journal as she shares with God and about God.In this episode, you'll hear:The importance of opening God's WordWhat your time with God could look likeHow Tera uses 80s music to deliver a biblical messageAnd more!If you long to have vibrant, personal, and fulfilling moments connecting with our Heavenly Father, you won't want to miss this conversation with my friend Tera.Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/tera-elness-242Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Have you ever had a conversation where it seemed like you and the other person kept misunderstanding one another? At some point, it may have even felt like you were speaking two different languages. This is a challenge that pops up in many marriages—after all, there's a reason why people say men and women could be from different planets!Teaching others how to have safe conversations is a passion of ours, as this skill has played a big role in taking our marriage to the next level. You may have heard us teach about this topic if you've done coaching with us or attended one of our No More Perfect Marriages Seminars. Today, we're honored to speak with two professionals whose work has significantly shaped the way couples everywhere approach healthy dialogue.Harville Hendrix, Ph.D, and Helen Hunt, Ph.D., are the creators of Safe Conversations®, a training institute focused on relational intervention. They are the co-authors of three New York Times bestsellers, including Getting the Love You Want, which has sold over four million copies. Married for over 40 years, they have six children and seven grandchildren, and they split their time between Dallas and New York City.In this episode, you'll hear:Why it's important to listen more than we speakThe elements of a safe conversationTwo things you can try during your next “negative” conversationAnd more!We are thrilled to have gotten the opportunity to sit down with the two people who laid the groundwork for our understanding of safe conversations!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/hendrix-hunt-241Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Dear Mark & Jill,I listen to your podcast every week and I love it. It seems like when you are talking together, we hear a lot more about what Mark did wrong before and during your marriage crisis. I identify more with Jill's personality before your marriage crisis. I would love to hear more about “Jill 1.0” when you are discussing problems in your marriage. What were some of the things you (Jill) did during that time that you felt did not help the situation, and how did you correct them to become Jill 2.0?This was an email we got from a listener—and it sparked an hour-long conversation between Mark and I! It was such a good question that we decided to answer their email in this episode of the podcast.We often talk openly about our marriage crisis, Mark's infidelity, and how I contributed to the dysfunction in our marriage before we became what we affectionately refer to as Mark & Jill 2.0.For this conversation, we want to examine Jill 1.0 more closely—not to blame her for what happened, but to honestly consider the role she played in our marriage crisis.In this episode, you'll learn about:The 6 dysfunctions Jill brought into our marriageWhat the “strong woman, silent man cycle” looks likeThe characteristics of an “avoider”And more!It was enlightening for Mark and I to examine some of my behaviors during the first half of our marriage and how they impacted our relationship. I hope this can be a helpful resource for you, especially if you relate to or have a similar personality to mine.Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/old-version-jill-240Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

As a coach, one of the things I do most often is help people learn how to manage their emotions in a healthy way. The human capacity to feel is God-given. However, when our feelings go unchecked, that's when emotional ups and downs can start to steal our peace, sabotage our relationships, and fill our minds with self-defeating thoughts.So how can we manage our emotions instead of letting them manage us? Alicia Michelle is here to show us the way. Alicia is a coach, author, speaker, course creator, and podcast host. She blends science and faith together to provide us with a helpful process for working through difficult feelings with compassion and clarity.In this episode, you'll hear:The three-step process to managing emotionsWhy it's important to ground our feelings in God's clarityHow we get to decide where we camp out in our feelingsAnd more!My hope is that the strategies in this conversation will help you develop a healthier, more positive relationship with your feelings.Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/alicia-michelle-239Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Mark and I are excited to bring you another special episode with just the two of us! In this conversation, we are talking about confirmation bias. It's something we have experienced in our own relationship and we see it time and time again in the couples we coach.Confirmation bias occurs when we look for evidence that “proves” what we have already decided to believe about ourselves or others. It's a dangerous thing, because our assumptions are often incorrect. When we put on the blinders to any information that contradicts what we want to believe, we make it almost impossible to let go of flawed ideas.Confirmation bias not only affects our marriages—it can also impact our friendships, family relationships, what we believe about God, and what we think about ourselves. It's so important to identify the relationships in which we are experiencing confirmation bias and take steps to root our thoughts in reality rather than assumptions.In this episode, you'll learn about:How confirmation bias harms relationshipsWhat steps we need to take to change our perspectiveWhy it's important to take our thoughts captiveAnd more!We've experienced the damage confirmation bias can cause firsthand, and we hope this conversation helps you identify it in your own thoughts and beliefs. The first step to letting go of this bias is being aware it exists and observing how it manifests in you.Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/confirmation-bias-238Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

As Christian parents, we do our very best to help our kids develop deep and lasting relationships with Jesus. However, despite our efforts, they will sometimes still choose to walk away from their faith. If you're navigating this struggle with your own child, I want you to know that you are not alone and that this episode is for you.Many parents are experiencing the pain of watching their children live life without Christ. Whether your son or daughter has been drawn away by the allure of a secular lifestyle, fallen into the wrong crowd, or simply turned away from the faith they claimed as a child, it can be difficult to know the best way to help them.My latest guest understands this dilemma well. Laine Lawson Craft is a parenting expert, author, speaker, and host of the Warfare Parenting Podcast. She believes that the best place for parents to fight the battle for their wayward children is on their knees.In this episode, you'll hear:Why prayer is not a last resortHow to place your child in the Lord's handsThe importance of tending to your own heartAnd more!Whether your children are still at home or out on their own, it's never too early to start covering them in prayer!Show Notes: jillsavage.org/laine-lawson-craft-237Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

The topic of this episode was inspired by a question submitted by one of our listeners:What does it take to heal a family after trust has been broken? How do you acknowledge the wider influence of pain, and where do you go from there?As marriage coaches, we often talk about healing your relationship with your spouse. However, after a betrayal, your husband or wife isn't the only person you need to consider. It's also important to make amends with family and friends who've been affected by your actions.Trust can be broken by infidelity, separation, or divorce—but also by false promises, financial misuse, uncontrolled anger, and more. Regardless of how it happened, the first step to rebuilding is recognizing how your choices impact not just your marriage, but those around you. After that, healing what has been damaged takes time, effort, and intentionality.In this episode, you'll learn about:Why infidelity is just one of many ways that trust can be brokenHow to recognize which relationships in your life need repairing after a betrayalHelpful principles for rebuilding trustAnd much more!We've walked the hard road of healing from broken trust as a family, and we hope this conversation is helpful as you navigate this challenging—but essential—journey.Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/broken-trust-236Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

One of the things we say time and time again is that the “perfection infection” happens when we compare our insides to other people's outsides. When we do this, we often come up with inaccurate conclusions about ourselves AND others.Falling into the trap of the perfection infection is especially easy when you're on social media. Not only are your favorite influencers putting the best parts of their lives on public display, but all your friends and family are often doing the same. It's natural to want to highlight happy moments, but constantly scrolling through everyone's best bits can sometimes make you feel like you're not measuring up.This is one of the reasons why we share so honestly and openly about the real stuff in our lives…even when that stuff is ugly, hard, or imperfect.Our guests today can certainly relate to this sentiment. Rebecca St. James and her husband, Cubbie Fink, illuminate the heartaches and triumphs that have shaped their story as a married couple, as parents, as musicians, and—most of all—as Jesus followers in their first co-authored book, Lasting Ever.In this episode, you'll hear:How authenticity shows both the highs and the lows of lifeWhere to find security in who we areWhat to do when you are going through a dark seasonAnd so much more…We so enjoyed having Rebecca and Cubbie share their story and we hope it helps to take some of the perfection infection's weight off your shoulders today.Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/rebecca-st-james-235Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

What is a “Midlife Marriage”? It's the season of life that begins after the whirlwind of kids' soccer practices, dance recitals, and endless extracurriculars comes to an end—when the nest is empty, and it's just you and your spouse, rediscovering life together.As parents, it's natural to focus all your energy on raising your children, and while this journey is so rewarding, it can take a lot out of you. What we have discovered in our coaching and in our own marriage is that, when all of your kids have ventured out on their own, many couples lose the original connection that brought them together. It's almost as if they have become strangers in the empty nester season of life.While maneuvering this midlife marriage stage may sound daunting and you might be wondering if you can ever rekindle your love again, we are here to say that there is life and love after kids!In this episode, you'll learn about:How to build patterns into your marriage that nurture connectionWays you can start reigniting the flameA template for starting the “midlife marriage” conversation with your spouseAnd much more!We hope this conversation is helpful to you, whether you're still in your parenting phase or quickly approaching your midlife marriage!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/midlife-marriages-234Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

After 20 years of youth ministry, my son-in-law recently completed a much-needed, four-month sabbatical. It's encouraging to see that, more and more, both employees and their employers are valuing the soul-satisfying, replenishing healing that comes with taking a break from your normal routine.God invites us to a weekly Sabbath, a one-day rest. My guest today agrees that Sabbath is important—and she says that soup is one simple way that busy women can make a weekly sabbatical a practical possibility.Kathi Lipp is the Publishers Weekly Bestselling Author of over 20 books, including Sabbath Soup, Clutter Free, and The Accidental Homesteader. She is also a national speaker and podcast host. Kathi and her husband, Roger, ran away to the mountains of northern California, where they grow their own food together and turn it into delicious meals!In this episode, you'll hear:The practical benefits of a SabbathHow God invites us to restWhy soup is the best meal for the SabbathAnd so much more…This episode is full of great tips for incorporating a weekly Sabbath into your routine!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/kathi-lipp-233Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

What role does prayer play in your marriage? For us, prayer has been a profoundly positive force in our lives—both as individuals and as a couple. When it comes to strengthening your marriage, there are many tools and strategies to explore, but prayer is one you simply can't overlook. It's a powerful way to invite God into your relationship and deepen your connection with one another.This is an extra special episode for us, because we have two new books on prayer coming out this week: 199 Prayers for My Wife and 199 Prayers for My Husband.This is a passion project we've had in the works for a while, and we're so thrilled to finally share it with you! These books are a daily guide for lifting your spouse in prayer, and they will be released on January 29th.In this episode, you'll learn about:A practical definition of prayerHow God uses prayer to help both you and your spouse growWhy prayer can transform your marriageAnd much more!We are covering all things prayer in this conversation and we are so excited to share these new resources with you.Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Have you ever felt out of sync with your spouse? Some days it can feel like you are on two different planets and you just can't seem to get on the same page.Our guests for this episode can relate! They are the authors of The Rhythm of Us and co-hosts of a podcast by the same name. Chris and Jenni Graebe understand the ups and downs of marriage and are passionate about helping married couples step into the plan and purpose God has for their lives.As the name of their book and podcast suggests, we are discussing the rhythms of a healthy marriage and how to get back in sync with your spouse.In this episode, you'll hear:The five rhythms of marriageHow small acts of service can have a big impactThe importance of pursuing adventureAnd so much more...The wisdom from other couples is so invaluable and our hope is that you would find nuggets of wisdom nestled in the rhythms of life!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/chris-jenni-graebe-231Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Are you struggling with connection in your marriage? Has it been ages since you and your spouse laughed together? We get it. Life gets busy when you are constantly managing to-do lists, taking your kids from one place to another, and more. When your schedule is already overflowing, it can feel almost impossible to carve out meaningful moments to laugh, play, and bond with your spouse.That's why Mark and I are discussing the importance of prioritizing fun in marriage—and why finding a common interest to invest in is a great way to get started toward this goal. Having fun with your spouse takes work and intentionality, but it is well worth the effort!In this episode, you'll learn about:Slow fades that can occur in your relationshipThe value of engaging in fun with your spouseWhy you should stay curious in your marriageAnd much more!As we kick off 2025, we hope this episode encourages you to find time for fun in your relationship!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/fun-together-230Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Do you find it challenging to make exercise a daily part of your routine? If so, you are not alone! This time of year, many people make New Year's resolutions that revolve around the gym. When Mark and I decided we wanted to take our fitness more seriously, we reached out to today's guest to help us get on the right path.James Webster helps people prioritize physical fitness in their lives. He is a fitness coach dedicated to helping believers transform their health and well-being. With over 15 years of experience helping his clients achieve and maintain their health goals, James inspires others to not only prioritize their health but also to keep God first in their lives.In this episode, you'll hear:James' personal story of overcoming addiction and finding hope in fitnessHow faith and fitness can connect to contribute to a fulfilling lifeTips for finding success as you pursue your health goalsAnd so much more…Our hope is that this episode will be helpful for discovering how your faith and fitness journeys can cross paths!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/james-webster-229Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Welcome to the last episode of the No More Perfect Podcast for 2024!At the end of each year, we like to take a moment to look back at everything that happened during the last 12 months and look ahead at all the opportunities the upcoming year holds. We've been blessed to have so many wonderful experiences in 2024, and the path of our lives this year has taught us a few important lessons that we haven't talked about openly until now.We are so excited to share what's been on our hearts, what God has been teaching us, and what we have to look forward to in 2025.In this episode, you'll hear:How and what God has been teaching us this yearWhat we are most looking forward to in 2025A few encouraging words as we close out 2024And much more!We hope this conversation is helpful as you reflect on this past year and look forward to the next!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/behind-the-scenes-228Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Do you find yourself knee-deep in the mundane and longing for something more? Are the rhythms of routine dulling your life? If so, my latest guest says that a little bit of delight, whimsy, and spontaneity may be just what you need.Bob Goff is the NY Times Bestselling author of many books, including two of my favorites—Love Does and Everybody Always. He's a lover of balloons, cake pops, and helping people pursue their big dreams.In this episode, you'll hear:A biblical basis for creating whimsyHow this approach led Bob face-to-face with giraffes (yes, really!)What you can do to create more curiosity in your lifeAnd so much more...This conversation was such a delight for me and I hope it will be for you too!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/bob-goff-227Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Are you gearing up for your very first Empty Nest Christmas? Or perhaps you're a seasoned Empty Nester who is looking for fresh, new ideas that will help you make the most of this holiday season?When we experienced our first Christmas as Empty Nesters, it was jarring—we had to work through all sorts of conflicting emotions. We felt the freedom of being able to do whatever we wanted, but this was mixed with the sadness of not gathering with all our children and their families.Now that we have a few Empty Nest Christmases under our belts, we wanted to share what we've learned, how we've grown, and the key principles you can use to navigate your next Empty Nest Christmas with grace and confidence.In this episode, you'll hear:Various emotions you may encounter and how to deal with themTouching stories from fellow listenersWhat to let go of vs. what to hold on toAnd much more!We hope this conversation is helpful as you set new traditions for your family!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/empty-nest-christmas-226Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Did you know we homeschooled our children for a while? Whether or not you've done the same, every parent serves as a teacher to their children in one way or another—in fact, we do it every single day! We may not always consider the lessons we're passing on to our kids, but there are so many benefits to discipling a child's heart with intentionality and purpose.I can think of no one better to help guide a conversation on this crucial topic than Leslie Nunnery.Leslie is a Christian author, speaker, and homeschooling advocate. She founded Teach Them Diligently, a ministry that provides resources and experiences to strengthen Christian homeschooling families. Leslie has written several books on parenting and homeschooling, including Teach Them Diligently: Raising Children of Promise and Heart School: How Amazing Parents Become Excellent Home Educators.In this episode, you'll hear:What it means to “heart school” childrenWhy it's important to live out your faithHow heart schooling can come from anyone to anyoneAnd so much more…This was a fantastic conversation that I can't wait to share with you!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/leslie-nunnery-225Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

With Christmas right around the corner, we decided it was the perfect time to sit down and have a chat about the expectations that can go hand-in-hand with the holiday season.Whether you're a new parent, an empty nester, or somewhere in between, we're willing to bet you're all too aware of holiday expectations. After all, they seem to come at us from every direction—from our family members, traditions we see in movies, and even social media.When the holidays don't go as planned, it can leave us feeling disappointed, unhappy, and disconnected from our loved ones. The truth is, nobody benefits from the burden of these expectations—so let's let them go. This winter, rather than spending your time frantically rushing to and fro, consider with us how we can better manage our expectations around this busy season.In this episode, you'll hear:How a simple mindset adjustment can help you have a great holiday seasonOur six strategies for managing expectationsWhy you should survey your family about what they really want to doAnd much more!We hope this conversation helps you set realistic expectations and maximize your connection with your loved ones!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/holiday-expectations-224Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

When was your last conflict? Whether it was a spat with your spouse or a clash with a close friend, odds are it felt pretty intense. Most likely, it made you feel disconnected from a person you really care about.Most of us don't think of conflict as a way of connecting in a relationship. In fact, I think most of us would describe it as the opposite! My guest, however, wants to change that perspective.Dana Che Williams is a speaker, a writer, a marriage coach, and the host of the Rebuilding Us podcast. She loves to encourage, empower, and equip people to step up more confidently and courageously in their lives and relationships.In this episode, you'll hear:Why we should consider conflict an opportunity for connectionHow conflict shows us areas of personal growthThe good things that await you on the other side of conflictAnd so much more!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/dana-che-williams-223Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Has your life been turned upside down? Are you walking through hardship? Do your future plans feel completely shaken up? If so, you may be in the midst of what I like to call a “life quake”. A life quake is what happens when our circumstances change drastically, and suddenly, we find ourselves in a whole new season of life we may not have been expecting.Regardless of your age or situation, life quakes happen. When they do, we have to learn how to look forward rather than back. Joining me for an enlightening conversation on this topic is Tracie Miles. Tracie is a best-selling author, the director of COMPEL Writers Training at Proverbs 31 Ministries, and the founder of the Living Unbroken Divorce Recovery Program.In this episode, you'll hear:What it means to embrace God's plan, even when it's not what you envisionedWhy moving forward even when you're afraid is the key to building confidenceHow you have the power to reshape your life through intentional actionAnd so much more!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/tracie-miles-222Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Can you remember the last time a kind word lifted you up? Perhaps it came from a trusted friend or our boss reminded you of how you are particularly skilled at what you do. Words of encouragement do more than just let us know we are appreciated or noticed. They have the power to supercharge our sense of well-being and even boost our productivity as we know that the effort we are putting in does not go unnoticed.Joining me for this conversation on the power of encouragement is my friend, Jordan Montgomery. Jordan is a highly regarded performance coach and keynote speaker who travels the country speaking and coaching executives at Fortune 500 companies, professional athletes, and salespeople. Jordan lives in Iowa with his wife, Ashley, and their four children.In this episode, you'll hear:How brokenness is necessary to know encouragementTips on how to encourage wellWhy anyone can offer encouragementAnd so much more!I hope this conversation is helpful as we learn about the power encouragement can have in our lives!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/jordan-montgomery-221Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Have you ever felt more like roommates than husband and wife? Most couples go into marriage with forever in mind, but then life happens. There are times when you may find yourself clashing with your spouse, and instead of growing closer together, you are being driven further apart.In these cases, you have three options: get divorced and co-parent if you have children, wait until the children are grown and then divorce, or get radical about turning your marriage around.Joining us to discuss this important topic is a couple who chose the third option. Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo are the hosts of the top marriage podcast, The ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show, where they speak to a worldwide audience about sex, love, and commitment. They challenge every listener to make their marriage a priority. Their bestselling book, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy, has changed countless marriages around the world.In this episode, you'll hear:How self-leadership impacts your relationshipWhat it means to go “volcano” or “iceberg” in your marriageThe importance of prioritizing your marriage relationshipAnd so much more!This conversation was such an encouragement to take a closer look at what we can do today to strengthen and invest in our marriage!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/tony-alisa-dilorenzo-220Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Just a heads up that in this episode we are going to be talking openly about genital body parts that you may not want your kiddos to hear. If needed, feel free to put in your earbuds for this one or save it for a time when you can listen in private.After 10 years of experiencing painful symptoms without answers, I was diagnosed with vulvar lichen sclerosus. Multiple doctors had missed the diagnosis and couldn't provide a reason for my pain.What do you do when you have a condition that doctors can't figure out? How can you advocate for your own health? Where can you turn to learn about your diagnosis and find answers?Joining me for this important conversation is Jaclyn Lanthier. Jaclyn has a Ph.D. in philosophy of neuroscience, is on the board of the Lichen Sclerosus Support Network and the steering committee of Core Outcomes for Research in Lichen Sclerosus (CORALS), and is the founder of The Lost Labia Chronicles, which is a content hub for lichen sclerosus information and support.Jaclyn had a similar journey as me and decided to use what she went through to help others. She shares openly about this topic online and I found her posts extremely helpful after my own diagnosis.In this episode, you'll hear:How to educate yourself about lichen sclerosus and lichen planusTips for advocating for your own healthWhy a gynecologist may not always be the best option for diagnosisAnd so much more!Jaclyn has been such an encouragement to me both through our conversation and her online content. I hope this has been helpful for you and your health journey!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/jaclyn-lanthier-219Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

In life's darkest moments, have you ever wondered if your prayers are really heard? When desperation strikes, is it possible to actually exchange panic for peace? While God is near and He hears our prayers, it sometimes might feel like He isn't listening.In this conversation, we are going to be talking about how to embrace the power of prayer in life's darkest moments. Helping me do this is my dear friend Rachel Wojo.Rachel is an inspirational author, public speaker, podcaster, and is known for her popular blog, RachelWojo.com, as well as her podcast, Untangling Life. Despite enduring the loss of her mother, her adult special needs daughter, and her father, Rachel remains resilient as she empowers women to discover strength and hope in everyday conversations.In this episode, you'll hear:The purpose of prayerThree ways God speaks to usHow to pray from a dark placeAnd so much more!I hope this episode offers hope and help in whatever circumstances you are facing!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/rachel-wojo-218Join us during October for our No More Perfect Marriages 4-Week Live EventCheck out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

It's been a while since we had a bonus episode of the podcast! These are shorter episodes full of bite-sized encouragement and support that you can apply to your life today.In this episode, we are talking about marriage. Now you may have heard that marriage is 50/50, but we think that marriage is actually 70/30. In our coaching, we've come to strongly believe that marriage is 70% personal growth and 30% couple growth.Too often, couples only focus on fixing the issues within the marriage as a couple and not enough time on how each person needs to grow individually. In this episode, we're explaining more about what this means and how it can impact your marriage. Listen in!Show Notes: jillsavage.org/individual-growthJoin us during October for our No More Perfect Marriages 4-Week Live EventCheck out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Life is full of ups and downs. Each one of us will experience difficult seasons in life. During my darkest and most difficult season, one of the things I learned to say is “It is not well with my circumstances, but I want to make sure it is well with my soul.”My guest, Courtney Joseph Fallick, experienced this as well when her high school sweetheart husband left their marriage for another woman. She found herself fighting for joy and working to overcome the darkness.Courtney is a best-selling author and the founder of Women Living Well Ministries and Good Morning Girls. Courtney is also a great speaker who has been featured on The Rachael Ray Show and many national conferences including Hearts at Home. She's been blogging through the Bible, one chapter per day, since 2014 and she makes her home in Ohio with her blended family.In this episode, you'll hear:More about the dark season of life Courtney walked throughHow to keep bitterness and resentment from building upHow to respond when it feels like God's ignoring our prayersAnd so much more!I hope this episode offers you confidence, support, and hope for the future!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/courtney-joseph-fallick-217Join us during October for our No More Perfect Marriages 4-Week Live EventCheck out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Our topic in this episode is SO IMPORTANT! Mark and I are joined by Reese and VaLisa Palmer, fellow workers in the sphere of marriage coaching and strengthening.Reese is a clinical psychotherapist specializing in marriage and family therapy (LMFT). VaLisa is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LCP) and a National Certified Counselor (NCC) who enjoys working with families and couples. Together, they founded Palmer Counseling where their mission is to provide a safe, affirming, and nurturing therapeutic experience that inspires everyone to live abundant lives and fulfill their God-given purpose.In this episode, you'll hear:How the echos of the past impact your presentThe importance of knowing your attachment style in marriageWhy we get stuck in negative cycles of communicationAnd so much more!We are excited for this conversation all about marriage!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/reese-valisa-palmer-216Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Note for the Listener: As you can probably guess from the title, we talk candidly about sexual intimacy in this episode. We recommend listening to it away from young ears if you have children at home.You may have heard us mention our Date Night Community. Well, we recently did an 8-week deep-dive all about sex and sexual intimacy called “Great Sexpectations.” The content was so good—we wanted to share some of it with everyone!Mark is joining me for this episode as we explore some of the topics like how to create a better sex life, what may surprise you is okay to do in the bedroom, and shifting how we view sexual intimacy within marriage. This is a candid (and a little bit spicy) conversation all about sex!In this episode, you'll hear:Why sex begins in the kitchenA better goal to have for sexual intimacyThe value of understanding your own bodyAnd much more!We hope this conversation inspires you to build deeper sexual intimacy with your spouse!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/improving-intimacy-215Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Can you remember your first breakup? Even if you parted ways amicably, you likely questioned if you were good enough, if you made the right choice, or even criticized yourself for not doing enough to try to make it work. When we journey through breakups, infidelity, trauma, or even divorce, the experience tends to stick with us in the form of intrusive thoughts and triggers.My friend, Leslie Hardie, is an infidelity and trauma expert who has been in private practice since 2003. As a betrayed spouse herself, combined with many years of providing infidelity counseling, she brings meaningful insight and compassion to other betrayed spouses as well as counsels couples. Leslie gives us some tips on what to do when reminders of difficult circumstances we've been through pop up.In this episode, you'll hear:The opportunity behind the hurtHow to cope with the aftermath of betrayalIdentifying thoughts that are from the enemyAnd so much more...There is hope and healing after infidelity!Find resource mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/leslie-hardie-214Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Buckle up, this is the episode where we are covering all things sex! You may feel embarrassed to talk about sex candidly or you may even feel like sex is still a dirty word from your childhood. Whether you have a history that includes pornography, an affair, or sex before marriage, there are many things that can impact how you approach sex with your spouse. However, you may be surprised to learn that there are very few “do nots” when it comes to sex within marriage and a whole lot of freedom.To help us get more comfortable about the topic of sex and to discover God's instruction on the topic, we have some expert friends joining us. Bill and Pam Farrel are international speakers, authors of 60 books, relationship specialists, and together they co-direct Love-Wise Ministry. Bill and Pam have been happily married for 44 years, and have three grown sons and seven grandchildren. They live on a boat that is docked in Southern California.In this episode, you'll hear:How men and women can work together to build intimacyWhy we should design the sex life we want in marriageThe importance of having candid conversations with your spouseAnd so much more...I'm so excited for this episode and I hope you are too! Let's talk about sex!Find resource mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/bill-pam-farrel-213(We've been sharing a shoutout at the beginning of each episode. This is an opportunity for us to celebrate our listeners, and specifically the transformation and celebrations in your life. Want to reach out to us? You can contact us here on our website or text our new No More Perfect hotline at 309-431-1718.)Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Are there some aspects of your relationship where you often feel worked up, angry, or even like things aren't fair? This is a prime breeding ground for resentment to take root. This could be a result of something your spouse has done or something they aren't doing that causes resentment to boil up inside of you. However, resentment often grows as a result of an issue in our own hearts.In this episode, we are exploring how to untangle resentment in your marriage. Joining me is Chelsea Damon, author of I Thought This Would Make Me Happy. Chelsea ​​is an author, blogger, foster and biological mom, and wife to Josh. She is passionate about cultivating a loving family and helping others do the same.In this episode, you'll hear:What causes resentment to grow in marriageWhy it is important to examine our hearts regularlyHow to combat resentment with gratitudeAnd so much more...I can't wait to hear how this conversation has helped you!Show Notes: jillsavage.org/chelsea-damon-212(As we start into our fifth year of the podcast, you'll start hearing a shoutout at the beginning of each episode. This is an opportunity for us to celebrate our listeners, and specifically the transformation and celebrations in your life. Want to reach out to us? You can contact us here on our website or text our new No More Perfect hotline at 309-431-1718.)Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Our phones are often the first thing we interact with when we wake up and the last thing when we go to bed. We check it at all hours of the day to remain connected and fill the empty moments.There is rarely a moment that goes by in our busy lives when we don't have access to technology. It's quite literally in the palm of our hands! But is this 24/7 access to it healthy? Is it doing more harm than good? It's often not until we start intentionally unplugging from it that we realize how much it was taking from our lives.My guest, Hannah Brencher, has experience with slowly putting technology back in its place as she has navigated the tug-of-war between staying plugged in and powering down. She is a writer, a TED speaker, and an entrepreneur. Hannah was even named one of the White House's Women Working to Do Good.In this episode, you'll hear:How to cultivate a lifestyle that unplugsThe power of presenceSome first steps to striking a balance with technologyAnd so much more...This is a super practical episode that I know you will love!Show Notes: jillsavage.org/hannah-brencher-211Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

A little over a year ago, we shared about how we got invited to go to Africa. In this episode, we are sharing the rest of the story!This is actually part two of Episode 135 - To Uganda with Love with Pastor Zachariah. If you want to know more about how this all began, be sure to give that one a listen.There were so many amazing God stories that happened before, during, and after our trip, and we are so excited to share those with you!In this episode, you'll hear:The crazy God story of how this all startedWhy it's important to be sensitive to the Spirit's leadingSome of the amazing ways only God can connect our livesAnd much more!We are so amazed at all the connections God has made as a result of ONE interaction on our way to a coffee shop in Alabama!Find resources mentioned and more in the Show Notes: jillsavage.org/uganda-again-210Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

 What do we do when life seems to fall apart at our very fingertips? Can God still use even the terrible experiences for good in some way?In this conversation, we are talking about why no experience is ever wasted in God's economy. And my guest, Davey Blackburn, knows this personally.In 2015, Davey Blackburn's life was turned upside down when his pregnant wife, Amanda, was murdered in a home invasion. The unthinkable happened and Davey had to pick up the pieces of their broken life while caring for their 18-month-old son.As a high-profile criminal case unfolded over the next several years, Davey took on the seemingly impossible task of finding the strength to restore his shattered soul. He is now the founder and director of Nothing is Wasted, a ministry dedicated to helping others navigate trauma, tragedies, and major life transitions.In this episode, you'll hear:How God meets us in our painHow the work of healing occurs in a processThe importance of forgiveness being a choice, not a feelingAnd so much more...I hope you are encouraged by this conversation, especially if you are in the midst of loss or difficult life circumstances.Show Notes: jillsavage.org/davey-blackburn-209Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

I spent 20 years of my life as a pastor's wife. The role of a pastor's wife is a precarious space to occupy as stereotypes, expectations, and pressures abound! Today, I'm talking with three pastor's wives and they are giving us an inside look at the ins and outs of this role.Jessica Taylor, Jenna Allen, and Stephanie Gilbert are co-hosts of the Pastors' Wives Tell All podcast and co-authors of Pastors' Wives Tell All: Navigating Real Church Life with Honesty and Humor. Collectively, through their Pastors' Wives Tell All ministry, they are breaking down walls within the Church and crushing the pastor's wife stereotypes with a little bit of ministry, therapy, and a whole lot of Jesus.In this episode, you'll hear:Some of the stereotypes people often carry of a pastor's wifeThe importance of pastors' wives finding their own callingWays that we can encourage and support those in this roleAnd so much more...This is an important conversation for all of us to understand better how to love the spouse of our pastor well.Show Notes: jillsavage.org/pastors-wives-208Get Details and Register for The Transform WeekendCheck out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Where is it that you most experience connection? Whether it's grabbing tea with a friend, sharing a meal with family, or even gathering together for a game night, there's something so inviting and connecting about a table. It's a place where community is formed, a meal can be shared, and where people gather to do more than just eat. Throughout the Bible, God uses tables to invite us into His presence.My guest today is Dr. Lina Abujamra. Lina is a Pediatric Emergency Room doctor who now practices telemedicine full-time. She is also an author, Bible teacher, and oversees the ministry of Living with Power. Lina has made it her mission to ignite a passion for Jesus in the hearts of people and to help them experience His healing and the power of hope. Lina was born in Beirut, Lebanon, but now calls Chicago home (although she is a huge Green Bay Packers fan).In this episode, you'll hear:The interesting significance of tables through ScriptureHow communion is a reminder of our connection with GodHow to connect with God and our communityAnd so much more...I hope this conversation is nourishing for your soul!Show Notes: jillsavage.org/lina-abujamra-207Get Details and Register for The Transform WeekendCheck out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

I have my hubby, Mark, with me this week for a conversation on conflict in marriage. Now, conflict is inevitable when you live in close quarters with someone, but even more so when you merge lives together! How you approach life can rub up against the way your spouse approaches life, and this can lead to conflict and even accusations that harm our connection and intimacy.Accusations and conflict can happen in all kinds of relationships, but we want to focus in on how these can impact the marriage relationship.In this episode, you'll hear:The spiritual warfare wrapped up into disconnectionAccusations to avoid when conflict risesHow to reduce conflict in your marriageAnd much more!We hope this episode helps draw you closer to your spouse and strengthens your marriage!Show Notes: jillsavage.org/reduce-conflictHave you noticed the shoutouts at the beginning of our episodes lately? This is an opportunity for us to celebrate our listeners, and specifically the transformation and celebrations in your life. Want to reach out to us? You can contact us here on our website or text our new No More Perfect hotline at 309-431-1718.Get Details and Register for The Transform WeekendCheck out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

I will never forget the day I got a call from my doctor's office and the words “Jill, you have breast cancer.” turned my world upside down. Suddenly, I was thrust into a new world filled with unfamiliar vocabulary and sometimes more questions than answers. My guest Beth Wilmes has also had this experience. Beth took her experience walking through breast cancer and founded Faith Through Fire, a nonprofit that exists to reduce the fear and anxiety that breast cancer patients feel and replace it with hope and a path toward thriving. She is also an author and podcast host of Besties with Breasties Podcast. In this episode, you'll hear:Beth's journey through breast cancerThe physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual toll a diagnosis can haveWhy support needs to be unobtrusiveAnd more!Show Notes: jillsavage.org/beth-wilmes-205Get Details and Register for The Transform WeekendCheck out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

As we start into our fifth year of the podcast, you'll start hearing a shoutout at the beginning of each episode. This is an opportunity for us to celebrate our listeners, and specifically the transformation and celebrations in your life. Want to reach out to us? You can contact us here on our website or text our new No More Perfect hotline at 309-431-1718.We launched our own non-profit, and we want to tell you about it! The Life 2.0 Foundation is the non-profit arm of JAM Savage Ministries. Our mission is to help others create a 2.0 life in both the U.S. and Africa. We are currently helping several orphanages in Africa, offering training for marriage coaches in Uganda, and funding our scholarship fund for marriage coaching and Marriage 2.0 Intensives here in the USA.In this episode, you'll hear:Some of the God-stories that led us to start our own non-profitOur vision to have an impact across the worldHow to link arms with others who want to make a differenceAnd much more!We are so excited to share all that God has been doing behind the scenes in this episode!Show Notes: jillsavage.org/nonprofit-foundation-204Get Details and Register for The Transform WeekendCheck out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Grief can come over us like crashing waves. We most commonly experience it when we have lost a loved one, but grief is wider than that and can accompany all kinds of circumstances. It can happen at the end of a relationship, the death of a dream, or the shock of a diagnosis that you did not see coming. The loss we feel when we experience grief can feel like too much to bear on our own.My guest in this episode knows all about grief. Steve Carter is a pastor, speaker, author, podcast host, and the former lead teaching pastor at Willow Creek Community Church in Chicago. He is also the author of Grieve, Breathe, Receive.In 2018, Steve announced publicly that he was resigning from his dream job as a lead pastor at Willow Creek Community Church. The next morning as he was taking a walk to process all the thoughts and feelings tumbling around in his mind, he cried out to Jesus in desperation, begging for an answer. "What am I supposed to do now?" He expected nothing, but the silence that had overwhelmed him broke as a gentle whisper impressed three words upon his heart: grieve, breathe, receive.In this episode, you'll hear:Steve's personal journey through griefPractical lessons seasons of grief can teach usThe best way to understand and move forward through griefAnd so much more...This conversation meant so much to me and I hope it is meaningful for you as well!Show Notes: jillsavage.org/steve-carter-203Get Details and Register for The Transform WeekendCheck out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

We see the term "female empowerment" throughout mainstream media and it is referenced often in our culture today. This could be defined as believing in yourself or looking within to find the power to succeed.But what happens when we grow weary by trying to do it all in our own power? What happens when we come to the end of ourselves? Jesus offers a better way. In this episode, we are talking about being empowered by Christ.My guest, Becky Beresford, used to believe and even promoted some of society's lies to women. But in God's kindness, Becky came to the end of herself and embraced the healing truth found in the Bible. Tired and frustrated with self-dependence, Becky invites us to be God-dependent. In her latest book, She Believed HE Could, So She Did, Becky invites us to join her as she dismantles commonly held misconceptions and lies so we can live in real freedom with confidence in God.In this episode, we talk about:How to navigate life when you "just aren't measuring up"The importance of cultivating belief in God's faithfulnessWell-intentioned phrases that don't speak the truthAnd so much more...I believe you will be inspired by our conversation today!Show Notes: jillsavage.org/becky-beresford-202Get Details and Register for The Transform WeekendCheck out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

Content Warning: This episode does discuss challenging topics like child abuse and suicide. Please listen carefully or consider skipping this episode if those topics could be triggering for you.As a parent, we would do almost anything for our children and strive to protect them from the dangers in the world. However, when my guest took their child to the hospital to get a bruise checked out, he never imagined it could end with an arrest and time in prison.Matt Everly is usually behind the scenes with our podcast, and not behind the microphone. Matt has edited every podcast episode for us for the last two years as part of my son's content marketing agency. We are so grateful for his work and talent! In addition to his editing skills, he has quite the story to tell. He's walked through hardship after hardship, yet he has remained steady in his faith.Matt is an inspiration to me and I hope he will be to you as well.In this episode, we talk about:The frightening and unexpected journey Matt walkedHow his faith was tested through this season and what faith looks like for him todayWhy having a strong community made all the differenceHow he and his wife navigated such a challenging season for their marriageAnd so much more...I hope you are inspired by our conversation today!Show Notes: jillsavage.org/matt-everly-201Get Details and Register for The Transform WeekendCheck out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...