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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss the reasons why some black individuals may not pursue certain interests or activities that are perceived as traditionally "white." They explore the idea of certain hobbies associated with specific racial groups and how societal perceptions can impact a person's choices.
Parenthood is hard. Marriage is hard. Sometimes both feel overwhelming. And, oftentimes, one person carries more of the load. How much is too much? How little is too little? A listener wrote into the show looking for marriage advice. The listener says that her husband works all day and then immediately comes home and plays video games. The wife, on the other hand, handles all the cooking, cleaning, child care, and domestic tasks on top of working as a nurse. She is at a loss and doesn't know what to do next.
Is there such a thing as "weaponizing sex?" In this episode, the Trufants discuss another question submitted by a loyal listener. The listener's wife allegedly withholds sex when she doesn't get what she wants, claims the listener. We have a few serious questions about this topic - Is it ever OK to withhold sex? What would happen if the husband withholds sex? Is withholding sex a form of emotional abuse? Listen up as the Trufants discuss this topic and offer their best relationship advice. How do you feel about this topic? Help our podcast reach more listeners by leaving a rating and a review! We appreciate all your help!
In this episode, The Trufants get into the topic of sexual frequency in marriage - is there such thing as TOO much sex in a relationship?The hosts discuss the now-viral clip of Larsa Pippin saying that she and Scottie Pippin has sex FOUR times every night of their 20+ year marriage. The episode also provides practical advice and tips for couples to create a healthy and fulfilling sex life in their marriage.
Divorce brings up the question of last names - some women change their last names while others keep their ex-husband's surname. Ok, cool. But, what would you do if your new wife wanted to keep her ex-husband's last name and not take your last name? Would you feel disrespected or is it no big deal? In this episode, we're talking about when (and if) it's ok to keep your ex-husband's last name.
Is it ok to date before a divorce is final? Does public perception matter? Also, when is it ok to introduce your new relationship to your kids? All that and more on this episode of Truly Unruly.
Happy New Year! In this episode, the Trufants look back at 2022 and ask some important questions about their relationships and individuals. Get your notes ready so you can ask the same questions about your relationship!What's the biggest mistake of the year, and the lesson learned as a result?What did you learn about your friends this year?What would you say were some highlights of this year when it came to your marriage?What was my biggest relationship accomplishment?What do you think you can work on in your relationship in the upcoming year?If I could travel back to the beginning of the year, what advice would you give me?What's the status of the goals I set last year and what goals do I want to set for the year going forward?
"I'm not one of your little friends" - if you were raised by a Black mom, you've definitely heard that one! If you're now a Black mom, you've probably said all of these phrases. In this episode, The Trufants laugh about all the things their moms said growing up and if they say the same things now to their kids. Get ready to laugh!
How happy or unhappy you are in your marriage certainly affects you and your spouse's emotional state and feelings of happiness, but does it affect your children? Do children pick up on the vibes of a stressful, emotionally draining marriage? Do they pick up on the vibes of a happy, respectful loving marriage? In this episode, the Trufants dive in.
We call this episode "our freestyle" episode, we're talking crazy about dating, marriage, and everything in between. Get ready to laugh because we have some funny stories ready to dish up.
Fighting and arguing in relationships feel uncomfortable and can really hurt the relationship if both parties are trying to hurt each other. But, fighting is normal in relationships. Learning to fight fairly, however, takes some time and practice to learn. If you want a healthy, long-lasting relationship it's important to take key steps to fight fair and to grow from the fight. Instead of hurting your relationship, a "fair" fight might actually help the relationship.In this episode, the Trufants, discuss their "fighting style" - if they fight fair and how they (and you) might improve your communication during a fight - and actually grow from the fight.
Talking with a good friend can easily turn into a vent session all about your relationship. Sometimes it just feels good to get it out and to get someone else's take on the situation. But, is venting to your friends about your relationship healthy? Listen to what the Trufants say about this topic in their marriage.
Has your spouse fallen asleep during sex? Do they fall asleep immediately after sex? Or, maybe YOU are the one falling asleep. One of the Trufants fell asleep during sex...can you guess who? Find out how the Trufants reacted in this episode.
Disagreements in relationships are normal. But, constant bickering can cause havoc even in the most healthy relationships. There comes a point when it's important to learn how to choose which fights are worth fighting and which ones are easier to just let go of. In this episode, The Trufants discuss the art of picking your battles wisely in a relationship.
Do you have a favorite R&B song to listen to during sex? Or are you a rap person? Do you like it better silent? Maybe you like the TV on in the background? In this hilarious episode, the Trufants share their favorite bedroom sounds (or not).
Jessica had her birth chart done recently and was in for a few major life surprises. In this episode, the Trufants share some of Jessica's astrological secrets and how it has changed her life.
Marcus Trufant joins the Seahawks Stories podcast with Robert Turbin to discuss a unique football life spent entirely in the PNW. Today's show: Marcus Trufant introduction (01:32), a whole career in the PNW (09:57), playing for Mike Holmgren and Pete Carroll (17:51), WSU journey (26:55), welcome to the NFL (36:16), and tough competition (40:01).See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
One day you wake up and your kid is not so kid-like anymore and they're wanting to start dating. You knew this day would come. Maybe you've prepared for it. Chances are, you're not. The Trufants have 5 kids, a few of them are teenagers and their preteens are quickly reaching that age. In this episode, Marcus and Jessica share how they approach dating and relationships with their kids and how to talk to your teen about those complicated years.
Don't sacrifice and compromise essentially mean the same thing? Short answer, no. Sacrifice and compromise are totally different actions. So, what do they even mean? Is it important to practice BOTH sacrifice and compromise to have a healthy relationship? Relationships get more complicated when words like compromise and sacrifice are just thrown around all the time. In this episode, The Trufants dive into the questions that plague all of us in relationships when it comes to making sacrifices or learning to compromise.
26 of the Trufant's closest friends met up in the Dominican Republic for Jessica's 40th birthday party. It was a wild, kid-free vacation! Hear all the tea in this episode.
Seahawk's Radio's Marcus Trufant, Headline Rewrites // NFL Headlines: Kirk Cousins tested positive for COVID, he'll miss Minnesota's preseason opener against the Raiders, Deshaun Watson's camp says they would accept an 8-game suspension and a fine of $5 million, Darren Waller suffers a hamstring injury, Malik Willis made his Titans debut last night going 6/11, 107 yards, 1 rushing TD, and an 88.1 QB rating, The Browns say they will consider Jimmy G if Watson suspension is increased from 6 games // Should the Seahawks take a look at Jimmy G? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Jessica is turning the big 4-0! Listen to how she feels about hitting the milestone birthday and what their plans are for the big day (hint: it's a tropical vacation with NO kids)
Good looks can fade. Money comes and goes. Personalities can change. So, what's the MOST important when it comes to dating and relationships? A lot of money, good looks, or a great personality? Everyone could have their own answer to that question depending on their preferences. Here's what the Trufants say matters most to them.
In the heat of the moment, it's easy to rush into sex without thinking about the consequences of unprotected sex. Sometimes it seems like people are more concerned with pregnancy than with STDs. Until YOU catch something. With an estimated 80% of sexually active adults being infected with HPV, sexual health is something that needs to be talked about more often. In this episode, the Trufants discuss safe sex, how long to wait before sex, when it's ok to have unprotected sex, and how to go about having the STD talk with a new partner.
Is Father's Day less important? Dads Marcus and Kel say that sometimes Father's Day feels less important. While Jessica debates the reasons why such a huge emphasis is placed on Mother's Day. And, is it OK for single mothers to hijack Father's Day? Do dads deserve better gifts?
Breakups suck. They're hard and they hurt. It's just part of life - relationships don't always work out. Maybe you're just not compatible or you mutually decide to call it quits. But, there comes a point where you not being able to "keep a man" might be more about YOU and you're own unresolved issues. It's a tough pill to swallow and even harder to admit that maybe, just maybe, you are not "perfect" and that you have faults as well. A strong, lasting, healthy relationship is made up of two whole individuals who are ready for a long-term commitment. Sometimes, before you are able to reach that level of commitment you need to do some self-care and get work on yourself. It's not always easy, but it's worth it in the long run. In this episode, the Trufants get real about the 3 main reasons why some women can't keep a man and the steps they can take to make sure they find "Mr. Right"...instead of "Mr. Right Now" or "Mr. WRONG"
Do you do everything for your boyfriend that you think a wife does? Sex, cook, clean, grocery shop, laundry...blah, blah, blah? Basically, giving him all the privileges of being a husband without the commitment? Then you wonder why he hasn't married you yet after all this time. Now, if you're in a relationship where you have both decided that marriage is not your thing, this episode is probably NOT for you. For everyone else - your boyfriend is NOT your husband and it's time to stop treating him as such, especially if you want to get married and he doesn't. Period. And all those things you "think" you're doing for him that a wife should do - any woman could do that. Maybe he's stringing you along. Maybe he doesn't want to "fix something that's not broken"...Whatever the case may be, in this episode the Trufants get real about relationships where the couple is not married, but (usually) the woman goes above and beyond to act like a wife in an attempt to possibly prove herself as worthy wife. Listen up, this one is going to ruffle a few feathers.
Nearly 70% of divorces in the US are initiated by women. So, why do more women than men call it quits on marriage? Maybe, just maybe, it's because they do not benefit from marriage in the same way that men do. Gender roles traditionally teach women to prepare to be a "good wife" their entire lives whereas men are taught to build careers. Ultimately, as times have changed, married women might get fed up with this narrative and decide that marriage cannot benefit them in the way they need. In this episode, the Trufants discuss who usually benefits more from marriage - men or women? And, what can be done to make it feel more equal on both sides to have a lasting marriage.
The "honeymoon" phase of relationships inevitably wanes and you're left to deal with REAL love. Real love is not always easy and it takes a lot of work. From feelings of loneliness to one person chasing the other to toxic partners - there are some very brutal truths that are often learned the hard way, by living (and learning) through them. Ask anyone you know who's been together a long time and they'll probably agree that these 5 things are true in most successful relationships. Or, they learned them in previous relationships. In this episode, the Trufants discuss these harsh truths and how they made it through.
Marcus Trufant is a family man, entrepreneur, and philanthropist who is the epitome of class, leadership, and hard work. After an All-Pro 10-year career wearing the number 23 for his hometown Seattle Seahawks, Marcus has taken the same approach to empower his community through the Trufant Family Foundation and his multiple entrepreneurial ventures. Instead of locking down receivers, he locks down business deals while also mentoring, coaching, and advising people across Washington on how to take their game -in sports and life- to the next level by staying “Tru” to themselves. Marcus juggles the duties of being an entrepreneur, father of five, husband, and philanthropist with grace. He brings his perspective in a podcast he shares with the love of his life, Jessica Trufant, on Truly Unruly. A show about life, love, and living with five kids! To View This Episode- https://youtu.be/j4yCuSdoa3M #MarcusTrufant #SeattleSeahawks #WashingtonStateFootball #WhoKnewInTheMoment?
From "liking" someone's old pics to sliding in their DMs - what is considered flirting and what is considered just being friendly? In this episode, the Trufants discuss what is going too far on Instagram, when to steer clear of an "admirer" (or stalker) or when to get your flirt on (if you're single, that is)
Are you jealous AF over the pettiest things? Maybe they're not "petty" to YOU, but they feel silly to your spouse...in this episode, the Trufants talk about the top 6 things that make partners jealous in a relationship and if it's even appropriate to feel jealous in those situations.
We're joined by the legend Marcus Trufant and he's here to talk Draft with the boys. Lofa predicts The Seahawks will draft a quarterback in an early round. Marcus thinks Bobby has something to prove with the Rams. And Brett and the guys reminisce about Tru's play against the Carolina Panthers... Go Hawks!
After 14 years of marriage, we've made it through so much together. On our anniversary we like to reflect on our lives together and celebrate all that we have accomplished. In the episode, we let you in on some of the funny moments, personal stories, and best advice we've learned over the years.
Disney with kids is supposed to be a magical experience! LOL! Disneyland is the happiest place on earth, but let's be real it can get overwhelming fast. Hear all about The Trufant's trip to Disneyland with 5 kids and two grandmas. Will they ever make that trip again? Listen to find out.
True or false: all women can orgasm from penetration? Pounding equals more pleasure, right? WRONG! For your safety and sexual satisfaction, Sexologist Tiffynee Terry-Thomas debunks some of the most common sex myths. She joins the Trufants in a hilarious, candid discussion about sex myths that you probably believe to be true and drops some sex-truth bombs for you to use tonight (wink wink)
Marriage ain't easy! Here are the 5 "hot button" issues plaguing couples today and what to do about it.
If you've ever lived with someone of the opposite sex you've probably noticed that men and women react totally differently to "colds" or the flu. Usually, men are DOWN FOR THE COUNT with any little ache or sniffle. Women, on the other hand, will suck that shit up and go about their life. Where's the lie? In this episode, the Trufants discuss the "Man Flu" phenomenon. Do the stereotypes ring true in their household or is it all a myth?
s your spouse super selfish? Or, maybe you're the selfish one in the relationship? If so, it's time to nip that sh*t in the bud! Do you know "someone" who ALWAYS has to be right?! Who is QUICK to react? Who always takes control of the conversation. When it comes to healthy, happy relationships, it's important to be selfLESS, understanding, and flexible. In this episode, the Trufants discuss what it means to be selfish, who is the selfish one in their marriage, and how to overcome your selfish ways.
Welcome to episode 50! If you're looking for a way to reconnect, laugh, and get to know your significant other even deeper here are 8 questions you must ask - tonight! Take notes, because Marcus and Jessica get real deep and funny with these questions.
Maybe you convinced yourself that your partner would never find out about your side-piece. Of course, your partner DID find out and now you're about to lose your family over some fling. Do marriages survive infidelity? Short answer - yes. But, if you're the cheater, you have to realize that you made the decision to RISK. IT. ALL. Now you have to do absolutely everything you can to rebuild your partner's trust, to make your partner feel safe with you again, to convince your partner that you are not only reliable but that you are also credible. In this episode, the Trufants discuss the emotional journey toward healing that takes place after infidelity. Cheating doesn't always lead to divorce. But, cheating does 100% lead to some uncomfortable moments that, if you overcome them, can help you rebuild a strong, trusting, loving marriage.
From stepping outside your marriage to intense arguments and just pure exhaustion - if you're thinking about calling it quits and are considering divorce this episode is for you. Sure, relationships are hard and go through ups and downs, but how do you know when it's definitely time to divorce? Let's talk about how to know when it's for sure time to get out.
If you're having money problems in your marriage, you're not alone. At some point, most marriages encounter financial stress. From student loans to overspending and financial secrets - money issues can kill a happy marriage. In this episode, the Trufants discuss the top money issues that impact marriages (according to experts). We dive into questions like, - How do you resolve money issues in a marriage? - Can a marriage survive money problems?- Should you put your spouse on an allowance? - How to deal with debt in marriage? Follow on Instagram @trulyunruly_podcast
Do you get mad that your significant other has friends of the opposite sex? Or, is it no-big-deal? What's appropriate and what's inappropriate when you have friends of the opposite sex and are married or in a committed relationship? When could these relationships be seen as a threat to your marriage? What are some things you should NEVER do with a friend of the opposite sex? In this episode, we talk about what relationship experts say and how Marcus and Jessica feel about these relationships.Follow on Instagram @trulyunruly_podcast
Do you tell your friends and family about your relationship problems? You probably are (and you don't even know it). There are times when you might feel like you're venting, but the experts say that oversharing is toxic. It can break your partner's trust, cause your friends/family to think differently about your partner, and cause a ton of other problems in your marriage. In this episode, we reveal 5 ways you're oversharing and how to stop. Follow on Instagram @trulyunruly_podcast
We asked sex expert Tiffynee Terry-Thomas all the juicy questions to keep a relationship fresh, sexy, and exciting. We talked about experimenting and trying new things between the sheets, the idea of "open relationships" (and if it can really work), and what GOOD sex even is. If you're ready to have the best sex of your life this year, listen on!Follow on Instagram @trulyunruly_podcast
As 2021 closes out, it's important to reflect on your relationship together and ask some important questions to make the next year, the best year. In this episode, the Trufants open up about 2021 and share answers to some questions - like, Jessica buying a puppy (without Marcus). Follow on Instagram @trulyunruly_podcast
Life can get hard when a man has a wife and also a baby mama. From insecurities, disrespect, attention, personalities, and taking responsibility - it's a lot to juggle. Sometimes there are issues between all parties involved. So, where do you draw the line? Can wives and baby-mamas ever get along? What exactly is a baby mama? In this episode, we dive into the nitty-gritty of this sometimes complicated family dynamic. Follow on Instagram @trulyunruly_podcast
Times have changed - in the past, men have usually been the breadwinners while in today's marriages more wives are out-earning husbands. Women are doing it all - raising careers and babies! And, we're HERE FOR IT. But, does this shift in dynamics affect a marriage? What does science say? And, more importantly, what do Marcus and Jessica have to say about it? Find out in this episode.
BODY SHAMING IN A RELATIONSHIP: is it ever OK to comment on your spouse's insecurities? What to do if you feel fat-shamed by your partnerWe came across a video on Instagram of a husband fat-shaming his wife after having their children. We all agree that this man was doing his wife dirty on so many levels. This video sparked a much deeper conversation on fat-shaming (or body shaming) in relationships and what to do about it. Plus, how partners can support their significant others who are going through body changes.