An Invitation To Share

What if speaking about your anxiety could be therapeutic? Today we're reducing the stigma surrounding anxiety,  discussing different ways to engage in conflict resolution, why "keeping the peace" might not always be the answer, and much more.As we venture further into this conversation, we discuss how coping mechanisms can change with the seasons and the ones that currently work for my panic attacks vary from distraction, grounding, taking cold showers, and finding calming scents.Disagreements are part of life, and learning to navigate them is also a part of this  episode. Whether it is disagreements with people in my life or a disagreement related to this podcast, we explore how respect and welcoming conversation can lead to resolution. Instagram: clare_goffxoTikTok: clare_goffEmail: cg.claregoff@gmail.com

Joy is not only about "big life moments", but also the seemingly mundane ones - like a new moon or a delicious Halloween Oreo. This episode is about the boundless emotion of joy and the value of treasuring small moments. I share my personal journey of embracing joy, happiness, and freedom, and the often overlooked struggle a lot of us face when trying to genuinely feel and express emotions. I also share what I've done to start removing emotional blockages that have prevented me from opening up and feeling joy in the past. This conversation is a gentle reminder that you are deserving of good things in life, and it's okay to let in a little joy, even on the harder days. Instagram: clare_goffxoTikTok: clare_goffEmail: cg.claregoff@gmail.com

Today we delve into the world of personal starter packs - a unique assembly of items that encapsulate your identity, quirks, and passions. I share the contents of my own starter pack and I also invite you to brainstorm your own, providing a creative avenue to articulate parts of your identity.Our exploration takes us deeper as we reflect on our identities and how advocacy shapes us. The significance of protective factors in managing heavy news and maintaining our engagement in advocacy is emphasized and how this can also relate to your identity. Our conversation extends to mental health topics, special interests, and even safety. I hope you enjoy this episode, love always. Instagram: clare_goffxoTikTok: clare_goffEmail: cg.claregoff@gmail.com

Did you know that the desire to feel and the instinct to avoid feeling can coexist? We explore the common lies we tell ourselves about our emotions and how these distortions can lead us to disconnect from our authentic selves. In our discussion, we also highlight why it's important to validate our own emotions, even if we're not able to express them. This episode focuses on the importance of our emotional narratives, emphasizing the need for self-kindness and empowerment through truth.In our search for answers to “Should I approach life from an analytical or emotional perspective (or perhaps both)”, we explore the difference between intellectualizing feelings and actually feeling them. We also consider how our truths can evolve over time and how recognizing the present moment can significantly influence our physical and emotional states. Instagram: clare_goffxoTikTok: clare_goffEmail: cg.claregoff@gmail.com

Anthony joins us as we share insights on gender roles, self-growth, and even the surprising benefits of separate blankets offer a new perspective on married life. Marriage is a journey that comes with its own share of lessons, growth, and sometimes, uncomfortable truths. As we share lessons learned from our three-year adventures of marriage, we reveal the importance of open discussions, and the necessity to recommit to each other daily. We share the art of communication, and the controversial idea of 'going to bed angry'. As we round up the episode, we tackle the burning question: Can an animal, a child or even a marriage resolve existing issues in a relationship? We share our thoughts on individuality, interests, hobbies, and the healing power of laughter and hugs. Tune in for a heartfelt conversation that aims to resonate with not only married couples but anyone seeking to understand the intricacies of healthy and fulfilling partnerships. Instagram: clare_goffxoTikTok: clare_goffEmail: cg.claregoff@gmail.com

This episode navigates through the struggles of overperformance and the significance of taking a break to reconnect with yourself and others. As we learn to set boundaries and prioritize self-healing, we discuss why it's okay to slow down, to rest, and to reduce  external noise that can in turn help us better experience our full range of emotions.Are you feeling overwhelmed by the noise of the world and struggling to find balance? Tune in to see how focusing on mindful consumption has reduced my desire to "fill the void" and numb my mind. Together we'll discuss how identifying our values can help strike a balance between healing, productivity, and rest, while fostering deeper connections with your inner circle. Instagram: clare_goffxoTikTok: clare_goffEmail: cg.claregoff@gmail.com

Do you ever struggle with feeling like you're not good enough or experience imposter syndrome? Here is the link to the video on imposter syndrome that was mentioned in this episode, so check it out and let me know your thoughts! In this heartfelt episode, I open up about my journey towards self-acceptance and how focusing on our community, creative passions, loved ones, and finding joy can free up space in our minds and lives. Together, we'll explore the importance of checking in with ourselves and acknowledging our raw emotions, while sharing a laugh over a funny hotel toilet mishap.But it's not just about our personal experiences - it's also about the power of conversation and community in creating meaningful change. We'll discuss how the people in our lives can be anchors that keep us grounded in the present, and how even a grandmother teaching herself shorthand can make a lasting impact. So, let's connect and share our own stories, finding comfort and strength within ourselves during challenging times.Instagram: clare_goffxoTikTok: clare_goffEmail: cg.claregoff@gmail.com

In this heartfelt and honest episode, I open up about my personal experiences with starting to reprocess sexual trauma and what that has looked like. Through various therapeutic modalities and conversations, I've discovered the importance of connecting with our community, our past selves, and our bodies as part of the healing process. No two journeys are the same, but I want you to feel safe, wanted, and supported here.We explore diverse coping skills like singing loudly in the car,  long walks in nature, dancing, activating our different senses, and more.  Additionally, we discuss the significance of having someone to talk to about your experiences and deepening relationships with people you trust. Join me as we discuss the winding road to healing and finding comfort in the process, knowing that we are not alone.Instagram: clare_goffxoTikTok: clare_goffEmail: cg.claregoff@gmail.com

I'm answering questions you submitted on dating, love bombing, social media, mental health in the workplace, PTSD, and more! This is a new segment where I get to hear from my listeners and we talk about advice, tips, and stories related to ANYTHING. This week is juicy, informative, deep, emotional, and light hearted all at the same time, I hope you love it!Instagram: clare_goffxoTikTok: clare_goffEmail: cg.claregoff@gmail.com

What if leaning into imposter syndrome can help you? We all have self-doubt and even if you don't believe in yourself, you never know who you can reach if you put your work, thoughts, ideas, music, art, and emotions out there. I was so afraid to release my first podcast episode 1 year ago and I felt like it wasn't “good enough”, but it ended up being my most downloaded episode where I had to most feedback! I had to lean into my own insecurities (it sounds weird I know) and just trust that it was better to put myself out there then keep holding everything in. In this episode I also share what we can learn by being alone and the value of asking ourselves deep questions. I often try to project what I desire or what I feel like I'm missing in life because I'm too scared to sit with myself and soul search. We go into a few ways we can begin to feel empowered while being alone and how slowly breaking down our walls can lead to eye opening self-growth. Instagram: clare_goffxoTikTok: clare_goffEmail: cg.claregoff@gmail.com

What drives shame? Is it self preservation, fear, negative core beliefs, or insecurities? In this episode we discuss what being vulnerable might look like and how this is connected to shame in society. Using inspiration from Brené Brown's TED talk “Listening to Shame” and one of my new favorite quotes, we dive into opening up authentically and why vulnerability and shame are NOT a sign of weakness, but a display of courage. Instagram: clare_goffxoTikTok: clare_goffEmail: cg.claregoff@gmail.com

Energy levels, flexible vs. porous schedules, 60 second breaks, and reflecting on our habits are just a few highlights from this episode. Anthony joins us on the podcast this week to discuss gentle discipline and the value of prioritizing “finding modifications + options” instead of giving up on habits and routines. Together we're learning how to be kind to ourselves and not push ourselves into burnout, while also finding balance in our minds and bodies.Instagram: clare_goffxoTikTok: clare_goffEmail: cg.claregoff@gmail.com

How can we put down our computer, unplug, and take a deep breath to settle into the present moment? Let's talk about giving ourselves permission to dream of a relaxing vacation that you deserve and why it's important to take a break. If we are not creating time for our bodies to rest, our bodies might "make time to rest" in unexpected ways. Vacations don't have to be elaborate or expensive to be memorable, and core memories can happen at any moment. I have such beautiful (and crazy) core memories from vacations and small trips, which I share in today's episode as I reflect on how I view my personal experiences. In this episode, we talk about everything from dreaming, to taxes, to driving anxiety, to vision boards, and even a rocket launch! This unedited episode is one you won't want to miss.Instagram: clare_goffxoTikTok: clare_goffEmail: cg.claregoff@gmail.com

While exploring a gentle approach in my extended recovery from my eating disorder, I share some of the things I have learned along the way. Changing the way I view exercise, integrating non-appearance related compliments, and creating feelings of safety within my body through yoga have been a few key factors in facilitating trust with myself through this journey. Your energy and heart are the beauty that I value, and I hope you continue to experience healing with your own body, even if you have not struggled with food / body image in the past. We all deserve safety and love, and I appreciate you creating space to explore these ideas together. Instagram: clare_goffxoTikTok: clare_goffEmail: cg.claregoff@gmail.com

Feeling the pressure to be 'on' all the time and to be perfect was all I used to know. We're talking about society's unreachable standards today and how pushing ourselves too far can leave us feeling lost and unsure of who we are at the core. Finding my way back to healing has included different therapeutic and pharmacological modalities. As we dive into my medication journey, I also share the details of my migraine and ADHD struggles in an effort to reduce stigma around taking medication for your mental well-being. Instagram: clare_goffxoTikTok: clare_goffEmail: cg.claregoff@gmail.com

To ring in my 25th birthday I'm coming out of hibernation to share what I've learned in the last year along with past birthday memories. As someone who has struggled with mental health & trying to stay alive, birthdays have felt lonely, while simultaneously a huge milestone. This year I felt like all the major lessons I have learned were put to the test and maybe I'm slowly finding my way. I share why I've ditched the phrase “forgive & forget” and why this birthday has been feeling heavy & anxious as it approaches. You're not alone if birthdays feel full of feelings. We're in this together, love Clare.Instagram: clare_goffxoTikTok: clare_goffEmail: cg.claregoff@gmail.com

Looking to deepen conversations in your partnership? Using our favorite relationship app, ‘Paired', Anthony and I answer some of the hottest relationship questions related to attachment style, friendship, and jealousy. The value of communication and not only listening, but learning to understand your partners needs can help elevate your connection. We always recommend referring to a professional (couples therapist or mental health professional) for personalized support and further details! Episode Resources: Paired IG: get.pariedPaired Website: https://www.paired.com/If you liked the show you can leave a review for An Invitation to Share here!Instagram: clare_goffxoTikTok: clare_goffEmail: cg.claregoff@gmail.com

Is it possible to move on from 2022 without closure? In this episode we discuss following your intuition to flow into the new year, and for me that meant keeping the door to 2022 open! As we continue exploring the pros and cons of New Year's resolution's we talk about the negative effects of diet culture, how to start amplifying the voices of people of color, and some plans for this podcast & community as we head into 2023.  

This is ‘boundaries for beginners' where we break down different ways you can start creating your own boundaries in a relationship, with family, in the workplace, or even with yourself. Tune in to laugh, cringe, and relate as Anthony and I share stories from when people have crossed the line in our lives and when we have made mistakes. There is an impromptu sharing of what tabs we have open on our phones when we talk about phone privacy & trust as well as an emotional moment at the end.

Anthony is back on the show this week! We go into how you can communicate holiday expectations and what we've done to create realistic plans leading into December and January. We also talk about our favorite gifts we've given and received, making our own holiday traditions, holiday budget talk, and looking back at past holidays together.

Why I got a new therapist, how I'm finding creativity again, and realigning the podcast this week. We go into grief around the holidays, the mind & body disconnect I'm struggling with,  the value of creatively expressing ourselves, and an in person event I'm planning for 2023!

Setting boundaries with yourself and others can help set you up for success whether you're introverted or extroverted! Anthony and I share our experience with taking a ‘Are You An Introvert or Extrovert' quiz and we answer some questions like how we spend our time, where we feel the most productive, and how we relax. We also talk about how this relates to the workplace, my personal relationship with alcohol, and our differences in energy levels.

Using humor and laughter to cope with difficult emotions can be so helpful. All the cringe-worthy memories from when we were younger came out in this episode and we hope you can laugh, relate, and be awkward with us this week!

Together we can find comfort in change by experimenting with different rituals and patterns that might bring us emotional support. Once I starting visualizing my life as “different seasons” or “different chapters” I could lean into change more, which allowed me to break free from my inner critic and unrealistic expectations. This is not about changing other people or changing your entire life - this is about finding small ways to talk to yourself more compassionately and beginning to rewrite old routines!

Explore podcasting as a hobby or a way creatively express yourself! In this episode, you can learn what equipment and resources can help you begin recording your own podcast. Although learning something new can be difficult, don't let the fear of failure hold you back. We all make mistakes along the way when learning, and I am still growing too! We can be imperfect together – This is your invitation to take a leap and start your own podcast, or send this episode to friend who has been wanting to create their own show too.  

The goal is not to shut down the emotions or run away from the panic, but distraction and coping skills can certainly help after coming down from those fight, flight, or freeze feelings. In this imperfect episode I share how we can practice moving through our most anxious feelings – Using my personal experience and tools I've acquired from trial and error, therapy, and videos online we go through 5 ways to move through panic attacks today. I hope you learn something new to apply to your own life or share with a friend, and hopefully talking about the hard things now can make them seem less scary if/when they happen in the future! Love, Clare. 

Today, my husband and I share exactly how we meet each other's needs, why our wedding was not what we thought it would be, how we maintained a long distance relationship, and how we navigate mental health in our marriage. I sat down with Anthony this week to continue our conversation from the last podcast episode, and we are going into ‘all things relationships/difficulties we have overcome'. Together we realized it's not about what we do, but who we are in this life – Tune in to see how this philosophy has brought us closer than ever.

We are bringing romance, laughter, and joyful conversation to this week's episode! My husband, Anthony, joins us to debut the story of how we met. In part 1 we begin to share how our friendship quickly evolved, what being a supportive partner has looked like throughout the years, and why we initially fell in love. 

I can talk about coping skills, but I'm also scrolling on social media. I can talk about healing, but I'm also hurting. Let's grieve together with our own timelines and no expectations - Join me this week for a low key episode that I recorded from my bed where I continue to share the dreams I've been having, what I do to distract myself, what's happening day to day, and how I'm expressing my love for my grandma who passed away. 

The feelings of denial and disassociation when experiencing trauma and the death of a loved one can be scary and unpredictable. We don't need to automatically bounce back and start feeling “better” after a traumatic event. In this episode I share more about my relationship with my grandma, the chaotic story of speaking at her funeral, and how it's okay to feel lost + empty in the unknown.

Have you ever asked yourself if you are experiencing REAL joy & pleasure in the things you do everyday? This was a scary question I had to ask myself after 20 years of 'going through the motions' and only trying to please everyone around me.  In this episode I share 3 ways you can start to build a foundation for exploring a relationship with yourself and why that is valuable! You deserve to have meaningful and fulfilling experiences in this life and that starts with discovering things you actually enjoy doing. Sending love. xx

Is it possible to ‘feel' your anxiety without being anxious? It's at least worth a shot to try! I have recently been trying out new ways to combat my anxiety & panic attacks and I share my new favorite tip in this episode. We also break down how having a healthy body image in the health & fitness world can be tricky sometimes due to social media and unrealistic beauty filters & standards. Additionally, as I continue to share more about my past eating disorder in this episode, we also dive into why I haven't had a healthy relationship with the gym. If you're in a similar place and you feel safe to listen to body image talk, I encourage you to follow along to learn about ways I have been working to improve my relationship with the gym & myself!

Learn about a few of my favorite ‘social practices' to reduce social fatigue & mental burnout! I also review various types of therapy in hopes of letting others know there are a lot of options out there, and most importantly I touch on EMDR therapy + my personal experience with it so far. Additionally, I begin to open up about being vulnerable when discussing addiction.

Tune in to learn a few of my go-to coping skills and talk about normalizing things we all might be struggling with. I share more about my ‘30 Days of Compliments' challenge and how building up confidence as a skill has been encouraging me to follow my dreams. We start discussing body image, negative self-talk, and how to give ourselves permission to live our lives to the fullest this summer.

Get the inside scoop on my mental health journey over the last 10 years! Whatever you may be going through, I want to welcome you with love and open arms. Today we'll talk about therapy, how healing can be messy, and the reason I started this podcast. I invite you to take a look at your own mental health and follow along on this journey together. I'm so grateful you're here, Love Clare.