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In this episode of 'Called to Marriage, we dive deep into the challenges and joys of the postpartum period, emphasizing the crucial role of paternity leave. We share personal experiences from our journey with our second child, contrasting it with our first, and highlight the transformative power of teamwork and spousal support. This episode is packed with practical advice and inspiring testimonies, making it a must-listen for mothers, fathers, and anyone involved in family life. 00:00 Introduction to Today's Episode 00:32 Postpartum Period and Paternity Leave 01:07 Experiences and Challenges with Newborns 02:17 Importance of Paternity Leave 03:42 Father's Role in Postpartum Support 04:35 Teamwork and Family Bonding 07:20 Rest and Prioritizing Family 16:09 Home Adjustments and Planning 22:23 Planning for Family Time 23:02 The Sacrifices of Paternity Leave 24:18 The Importance of Being Present 25:09 Supporting Your Spouse 28:55 The Benefits of Taking Time Off 30:48 Making Career Decisions During Leave 34:29 Cherishing Family Moments 36:35 Encouragement for Fathers 42:46 Concluding Thoughts and Future Topics

In this episode, we share our personal experience of home birthing our second child, Nti. We recount the details from the early contractions to the challenges of labor, and the joyous moment of delivery. We discuss the spiritual significance of childbirth, the importance of trust in God, and the significance of supportive spouse roles. Marcia provides insights on labor pain, the concept of the mucus plug, and the physical demands of birth, while Thomas touches on the father's role and our collective experience as a family. This episode includes a mix of personal anecdotes, scriptural reflections, and practical advice on pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum recovery. 00:00 Introduction and Scripture Reflection 01:14 Early Labor Signs and Timeline Confusion 03:28 Errands and Increasing Discomfort 05:48 Active Labor and Midwife Support 10:58 The Birth and Immediate Aftermath 18:01 Unexpected Sensory Experience 19:06 Reflecting on Childbirth Experiences 19:57 Delivering the Placenta 22:07 The Mystery of Childbirth 26:34 Postpartum Journey and Breastfeeding 28:14 Father's Role and Paternity Leave 29:10 Healing and Reintegration 34:05 Final Thoughts and Advice for Husbands

In this episode, we delve into the thought-provoking and personal journey of naming our sons. From discussing the significance of names to sharing family traditions and personal anecdotes, this episode provides a heartfelt look at how we navigated this important aspect of parenthood. Learn about the stories behind our choices, how we balanced tradition with personal preference, and the meaningful conversations that strengthened our bond. Whether you're expecting, already a parent, or just curious about the naming process, this episode offers valuable insights and a bit of fun. Don't forget to share your own experiences in the comments! 00:00 Introduction and Today's Topic 01:09 Naming Our First Child: Charles 11:35 The Significance of Names 14:48 Cultural Perspectives on Naming 23:05 Introducing Our Second Child: Nt 25:27 The Significance of Names 26:58 Cultural and Personal Reflections on Names 30:16 The Importance of Names in History and Religion 34:02 The Process of Naming a Child 36:15 Concluding Thoughts on Naming 46:30 Final Reflections and Farewell FOLLOW US FOR MORE CONTENT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtomarriage Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtomarriage TikTok: tiktok.com/@calledtomarriage

In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of breastfeeding. We discuss the challenges and rewards associated with breastfeeding, share personal experiences, and explore cultural perspectives. Marcia highlights the difficulties she faced while breastfeeding both of our children and emphasizes the invaluable benefits, including health and emotional bonding. We also touch on the important role of men in supporting breastfeeding mothers and the cultural shifts impacting breastfeeding practices. Tune in for a heartfelt and insightful conversation on nurturing the next generation! 00:00 Welcome Back to Call to Marriage 00:23 Diving into Breastfeeding 02:14 Challenges and Rewards of Breastfeeding 03:25 Learning Curve and Support 06:50 Health Benefits and Cultural Perspectives 14:20 Struggles and Solutions 21:34 Cultural Shifts and Formula Marketing 39:36 Understanding the Letdown Reflex 40:29 Cultural Perceptions of Breastfeeding and Formula 42:05 Personal Anecdotes on Food and Perceived Wealth 46:17 The Practical Benefits of Breastfeeding 53:10 The Role of Men in Breastfeeding Support 01:04:10 Societal and Policy Implications 01:14:48 Encouragement and Final Thoughts --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/support

Marcia and Thomas challenge the conventional wedding and event culture, emphasizing a return to simplicity and biblical principles. They discuss the significant impact of societal norms on our celebrations and explore key themes such as financial stewardship, cultural traditions, and the true intent behind events. Through engaging conversation, they provide insights on navigating cultural pressures and highlight the importance of honoring God in every aspect of wedding and event planning. 00:00 Introduction and Today's Topic 01:33 Biblical Perspective on Weddings 02:19 Western Wedding Culture and Its Influence 04:27 Questioning Wedding Traditions 14:34 Financial Implications of Weddings 28:14 Cultural Expectations and Personal Values 34:09 Parental Influence and Setting Boundaries 45:27 Validating and Acknowledging Efforts 46:17 Setting Boundaries with Family 47:05 Intent Behind Events 52:20 The Value of Presence Over Gifts 58:45 Financial Wisdom in Celebrations 01:01:07 Challenging Cultural Norms 25:19 The Unnecessary Pressure of Big Weddings 26:30 The Temptation of Long Engagements 28:14 Questioning Cultural Norms 30:18 Redefining Cultural Expectations 33:11 Setting Boundaries with Parents 47:05 Intent Behind Celebrations 57:06 Living Within Your Means 01:03:43 Final Thoughts and Advice --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/support

In this episode of 'Called to Marriage,' we delve into the significance of finding contentment and simplicity amidst the busyness of life. Beginning with a scripture from Ecclesiastes 4:6, we reflect on its meaning and relevance to our current season of life, which is characterized by living simply and making financial sacrifices. We share our personal experiences of choosing to live on one income, downsizing our home, and the challenges and joys that come with these decisions. We address the societal pressures that often lead to dissatisfaction and compare our journey to others, highlighting the importance of contentment and the dangers of succumbing to FOMO (fear of missing out). Furthermore, we discuss the importance of having a strong vision for the future to navigate life's challenges confidently and the role of sacrifice in achieving long-term goals. We emphasize that life is seasonal, and understanding this can help foster contentment and gratitude in every stage of life. Throughout the episode, we encourage our listeners to embrace their current season, find joy and contentment in the simple things, and remember that personal growth and character development are just as important as material success. We wrap up the episode by inviting our listeners to engage with us through comments and feedback, expressing our gratitude for their support and love. 00:00 Opening and Scripture Reflection 00:45 Embracing Simplicity and Contentment in Life 03:42 The Joy of Living Within Your Means 07:30 The Long Game: Sacrifice Today for Comfort Tomorrow 13:33 The Importance of Vision in Navigating Life's Seasons 17:19 Closing Thoughts and Call to Action --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/support

What are you waiting on the Lord for? How are you waiting? What is your attitude and posture toward God in delay? Thomas and I answer these questions for ourselves on this episode. We are waiting, hoping, and praying for another baby. Feel free to agree with us in prayer

In this episode, we share our tips on qualities to look out for when dating/courting/in a relationship! Do you agree? Disagree? Let us know in the comments! A few things to look for in a potential spouse: 1. Equally yoked (not just a professing Christian, but shared/biblical values) 2. Flexible/Adaptable 3. Self-sacrificing 4. Committed/Faithful Bonuses: *A man with a strong vision or devotedly seeking *A woman who respects and admires you FOLLOW US FOR MORE CONTENT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtomarriage Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtomarriage TikTok: tiktok.com/@calledtomarriage --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/support

After a few lovely years in our last apartment, we have decided to move! Some would consider it a downgrade, but we consider it a great move for us in this season! God has prospered us, and we are trusting Him in our new place and in this new season! We are just sharing some life updates for testimony and posterity sake. FOLLOW US FOR MORE CONTENT: YouTube Instagram Facebook TikTok --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/support

Counsel is important for life in general, and especially when making one the the most important decisions of life, which is who to marry. On this episode, we discuss the value of counseling at every stage of a relationship, whether simply interested in someone, actually seeing someone, about to get married, or married for several years. The Bible said that in the multitude of counselors there is safety, so we conclude that it is wise to get counsel from family, godly friends, seminars, workshops, books, and so forth as you navigate your romantic relationship life. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/support

Lessons we've learned from Charlie 1. The activity of the flesh causes visceral reactions in us. We should apply grace but also discipline! (00:43) 2. We are made to be moving constantly! (9:06) 3. From a young age, we have the capacity for extreme focus and diligence (17:10) 4. We are born with courage that we should work to protect. Fear hinders you. (Release your inhibitions!) (22:00) 5. *bonus* Eating habits are learned. (24:55) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/support

We're talking about the wisdom of the ancestors! NO, we aren't talking about soliciting the voice of your dead ancestor through seance or mediums. We are talking about walking in the GOOD ancient path referred to in Jeremiah 6:16. We are talking about not forgetting the old, good ways of the past that societies sometimes lose value for as they advance in technological conveniences and modernize in culture. FOLLOW US FOR MORE CONTENT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtomarriage Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtomarriage TikTok: tiktok.com/@calledtomarriage CALLED TO MARRIAGE PODCAST: https://anchor.fm/calledtomarriage You can listen on several different platforms, including Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, etc. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/support

It is good to make a frequent habit of appreciating your spouse. On this episode, we list the ways we help and add value to one another. Gratitude is good for the soul, and it helps your spouse feel joyful and fulfilled in their service to you. Try it! OUR WEBSITES: thomasandmarcia.com calledtomarriage.org FOLLOW US FOR MORE CONTENT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtomarriage Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtomarriage TikTok: tiktok.com/@calledtomarriage --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/support

On this episode of CTM, we dig a little deeper into how we live on one income, particularly since having our son. The lifestyle is not for everyone at every time, but if you want it, there is a very good chance you could do it! Set your priorities and make decisions according to them. Most of all, align with your spouse! FOLLOW US FOR MORE CONTENT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtomarriage Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtomarriage TikTok: tiktok.com/@calledtomarriage --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/support

Many families struggle to imagine how they could possibly live on one income, but on this episode of Called to Marriage, Thomas and Marcia offer encouragement to those who aspire to do so. They recount going from Marcia being the “primary breadwinner”, to both working for a short period, to neither working for an even shorter period, to finally Thomas being the sole provider. Everyone's marriage and financial journey is different. Let's seek to live by the Spirit, trusting God and resting in His promise to provide our needs. CALLED TO MARRIAGE PODCAST: https://anchor.fm/calledtomarriage You can listen on several different platforms, including Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, etc. FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtomarriage Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtomarriage TikTok: tiktok.com/@calledtomarriage --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/support

Responsibility. Life calls for it, and most of the good things in life require it. Sometimes we are afraid of being responsible for anyone or anything other than ourselves. It feels very risky, but we must remember: with big risk comes big reward. We talk about all that and more on this episode of the Called to Marriage podcast. CALLED TO MARRIAGE PODCAST: https://anchor.fm/calledtomarriage You can listen on several different platforms, including Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, etc. FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtomarriage Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtomarriage TikTok: tiktok.com/@calledtomarriage --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/calledtomarriage/support

On this episode, we discuss the importance of going to church. We start out by naming some reasons folks give for not attending church, and then we break down our thoughts and finally try to summarize some reasons why people absolutely should go to church. In addition, we make mention of the fact that the way churches gather in different places and times varies greatly, so regardless of where or how you choose to do so, the main takeaway is that you need the body, and the body needs you. Stay connected, or begin to die! CALLED TO MARRIAGE PODCAST: https://anchor.fm/calledtomarriage You can listen on multiple platforms! FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtomarriage Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtomarriage TikTok: tiktok.com/@calledtomarriage --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/calledtomarriage/message

Date night is OVERRATED!

Does a person's sex life diminish and become boring and dry once he/she gets married? What can you expect your sex life to look like once you start your married life? On this episode of Called to Marriage, we discuss what we've discovered over the past four years concerning sex. The reality of sex within marriage is not as grim as it is sometimes portrayed to be! CALLED TO MARRIAGE PODCAST: https://anchor.fm/calledtomarriage Also available on Apple, Spotify, and other major podcast players FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtomarriage Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtomarriage TikTok: tiktok.com/@calledtomarriage --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/calledtomarriage/message

I reflect on how when we look back to the past, we're able to make sense of many things that we were blind to. One of the lessons I take away from this realization is that I need to be humble. I figured the more I grow, the more I'm able to recognize and sincerely appreciate the fact that I'm not as wise as I thought. Someday, I may look back to myself at this very moment I'm typing these words and admit that I thought I knew what I was doing, but I didn't - why not stay humble now? Let me know what you think in the comments, thank you. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/calledtomarriage/message

In-law relationships can be tough to navigate! On this episode, we draw out the good qualities that our in-laws have which others can adopt for the benefit of everyone. We also caution against some notoriously shady in-law behaviors! Finally, we thank God that in Him we find wisdom for every relationship and circumstance. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/calledtomarriage/message

   Or who shut in the sea with doors, When it burst forth and issued from the womb; When I made the clouds its garment, And thick darkness its swaddling band; When I fixed My limit for it, And set bars and doors; When I said, ‘This far you may come, but no farther, And here your proud waves must stop!' -Job 38:8-11 Boundaries are very important. Even God sets boundaries. Why do we then have so much trouble drawing healthy and helpful boundaries for ourselves? On this episode, we muse on this topic - why boundaries are important, the consequences of not having them, and some areas where we ought to make boundaries for ourselves. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/calledtomarriage/message

 What does it mean to have security in marriage? And what does it mean for a man to protect his wife? On this episode, we discuss the importance of having a level of commitment that endures even when your spouse isn't doing the right thing. We give some examples of things that cause insecurity in marriage and how commitment to God and our marriage causes us to be willing to work through things that threaten to destabilize it! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/calledtomarriage/message

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. Philippians 2:3-4 Have you ever realized something about yourself that you were oblivious to prior? On this episode, we discuss the insidious nature of self-centeredness. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/calledtomarriage/message

What does it take to have a stay-at-home parent in the house? On this episode, we talk about establishing our values as parents and the associated costs and benefits that come with our decisions. We also declare our thanks to God and trust in God to help us carry out the vision for our family. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/calledtomarriage/message

Oh give thanks unto the Lord, His mercy endures forever! What was it like to experience the thing that many in this season dread? Having survived by the grace of God, we chronicle our experience with Covid-19. With words of encouragement from Scripture, we affirm that we will not fear, and we look to God for help and with a spirit of thanksgiving for His healing power and His love and care through others. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/calledtomarriage/message

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   "A woman, when she is in labor, has sorrow because her hour has come; but as soon as she has given birth to the child, she no longer remembers the anguish for joy that a human being has been born into the world." -John 16:21 On this episode of Called to Marriage, we talk about working through all the ups and downs of our pregnancy, including food aversions, baby movements, and all the emotions that come with bringing new life into the world. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

"There are many plans in a man's heart, nevertheless the Lord's counsel- that will stand." - Proverbs 19:21 In this episode we recount our decision and planning to have a child. We also talk about looking forward to be first time parents and the responsibilities that come with that. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

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At the time of recording this, we were closer than ever to leaving China indefinitely! We were moving back to the States, but before leaving, we wanted to reflect on the process a bit more. Here is Part 2 of the topic, "Leaving China after 4 years." We talked about seeing God at work in the midst of an uncertain time, and we pray you will be encouraged and have hope after listening. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

The countdown begins! After four blessed and exciting years in China, we are moving to the United States. As we close one chapter and begin another, we reflect on what we'll miss about China and what we look forward to in the U.S. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

In this time of global lockdown, people are spending time with family whom they live with, or perhaps reaching out to loved ones distant from them. But how important is it to stay unified with your family? And what are some of the roadblocks to family unity? On this episode, we explore these topics and highlight the value of the family unit in society. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

Just because you had a Christian upbringing doesn't mean you automatically become a Christian yourself. Faith is personal, and on this episode, we talk about the transition from being guided as young people to having and our own personal faith and relationship with God. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

 How did your parents both intentionally and unconsciously raise you in Christian faith in your formative years? We are exploring this question as we reflect on what we feel was the most important gift our parents have given us: fear and knowledge of the Lord, leading to faith in the gospel, and our salvation in Christ. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

What friendships do you consider dear to you, and why? We're discussing our oldest and closest friends, and the roles they have played in our lives. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

 How do we spend time together, both intentionally and unintentionally. We are getting real about what spending time together looks like in our marriage. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

 After some time of hiatus propelled by fear, Marcia returns to talk about encouraging yourself and doing the uncomfortable. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

Should we have achieved complete Independence and success before getting married? We're discussing the humble beginning of our relationship, and how we've been able to embrace it and see advantages of building success together. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

Since we are living in China, the origin country of the Coronavirus, we thought we'd give a personal update on what it's been like for us since the outbreak. Our thoughts may surprise you! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

 Marcia gets vulnerable about her fears and failures, but she refuses to give up trying to improve herself! This segment is a mix of whatever she would like to practice putting out into the world, for the glory of God. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

 What's the food like here in China, from our perspective? And how do we eat while we're here? We answer that and more on today's episode. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

How in the world did Thomas end up in China? Let's hear his account of the series of events that led him to becoming a civil engineering student in Changchun, China. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

How in the world did Marcia end up in China? Let's hear her recount how she ended up becoming an English teacher in Changchun. As well, she covers what her experience has been like as a university English teacher the past few years in China. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

On this episode, guests Jeremy & Faith Muzenda take the topic of having children to another level, contributing their real-life experience to our thoughts and ideas. What an insightful conversation about pregnancy, parenting, and more! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

 Should all Christian marriages bear children? We tackle this controversial topic, as well as revealing how we are dealing with it in our personal marriage. We discuss family planning, parenting, fears, hopes, and adoption. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

Life after marriage for the Oppongs looks like growth, developing our new family unit, humility, learning, and more. On this episode, we cover a hodgepodge of topics related to their lives since being married. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

What were our lives like before getting married? What was our focus? What were our struggles? What helped us in our singleness? What things unique to our singleness changed or were eliminated in marriage? We delve into this and more in a two part series. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

What were our lives like before getting married? What was our focus? What were our struggles? What helped us in our singleness? What things unique to our singleness changed or were eliminated in marriage? We delve into this and more in a two part series. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message

Oh the joys of being one! Today, we discuss the ups and downs of living together and how the grace of God compels us to be gracious to one another. We talk through our approach to keeping a peaceful home, including attitudes like agreement, teamwork, and selflessness. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marciaoppong/message