Coaching Connect Resilient Young Minds

Watching your child becoming immersed in mental distress can be so frightening for parents. What can you do? How can you best support them? In this podcast Liz Scott speaks to someone who regularly engages with young people and parents. Marie Arymar gives an overview of how to assess the situation with a young person. During this conversation Liz and Marie discuss 7 ways to support the child. Here is a run down of the points they discuss: 1.  Listen deeply. Don't try to fix them or rationalise. Just listen. 2. Love them unconditionally even if their behaviour is mean or nasty. 3. Remember your beautiful child is still there - celebrate the moments of connection 4. Boundaries are important. Young people feel safe when they know the expectations. 5. As parents, keep communicating. Back each other up and support one another. 6. What if I'm separated from the other parent? Find a way to speak to each other. Consider how to put your differences aside to ensure you can both support the child. 7. Know 'this will pass' - it might be frightening to feel you're losing the child you once knew. Trust this will pass. It's also so important to look after yourself and to realise that you're doing a good job (even if it doesn't always feel that way). Marie Arymar is a clarity coach - you can find out more at Realisationworks.com Become a Wellbeing Listener with Liz at Inner Compass Guide CIC Buy Marie's book 'Do You Want to Know a Secret?'  

Is your child reluctant to go to school? Have they become withdrawn and uncommunicative? Do you fear your child might be the victim of bullying? In this podcast Liz Scott speaks to someone who regularly engages with young people and parents. Marie Arymar gives an overview of how to assess the situation with a young person. During this conversation Liz and Marie discuss: The signs of bullying - what to look at for The importance of working with the school - contacting the school, Head of Year or Safeguarding Lead Ensure your child has a trusted adult to talk to Be curious about the bully - what is the school doing about supporting the perpetrator? Marie Arymar is a clarity coach - you can find out more at Realisationworks.com Her book is 'Do You Want to Know a Secret?' Become a Wellbeing Listener with Liz at Inner Compass Guide CIC  

Are you scared that your youngster may be taking drugs? What can you do about it? How do you talk to them about it? In this podcast Liz Scott speaks to someone who regularly engages with young people and parents. Marie Arymar gives an overview of how to assess the situation with a young person. During this conversation Liz and Marie discuss: The importance of taking stock - ask yourself 'What is going on with my child?' Consider why the youngster is taking drugs? Is it masking something, is he/she keeping in with the crowd? What boundaries do you have with your child around drugs? Is your child getting mixed messages about what is or isn't acceptable? Is your fear getting in the way of connecting with them? Do you ask questions which causes them to shut down? Be present and aware that your young person, the one you deeply love and care for, is still there. They are not their behaviour. Give yourself time to connect with them in ordinary ways. Marie Arymar is a clarity coach - you can find out more at Realisationworks.com Marie's book 'Do You Want to Know a Secret?' Become a Wellbeing Listener with Liz at Inner Compass Guide CIC  

If you're waking up to the climate crisis, the disintegration of the natural world and the fragility of our planet... then you probably feel a sense of urgency, insecurity and helplessness. At least that's what I felt when 2 years ago the climate crisis hit me between the eyes. For years it had been a periphery thing - it was something that other people were getting worked up about. Then suddenly the enormity and reality of it landed. In this interview with Kimberley Hare we head towards a heart-based exploration and explore 'What is mine to do?' rather than 'what is going wrong?' During this interview Kimberley refers to 7 questions to ask yourself when you are reflecting on what you're being asked to do. We don't go into detail with these questions in the conversation - but she sent them on following the interview. The questions are as follows. Here are SEVEN POWERFUL QUESTIONS:   RESILIENCE – What is it that we most value and how can we keep that? How can we build and sustain our resilience – both inner and outer? What's MOST important now?   RELINQUISHMENT – What can we give up in order not to make matters worse?   RESTORATION – What can we bring back that has been lost?   RECONCILIATION/RECONNECTION – What can we do to make peace with, love and support others? How can we live with kindness, joy and peace?   RECLAMATION – What power could we collectively reclaim to reduce harm and improve possibilities?   REVERENCE – What do you want me to know?  Who do you want me to be?  What do you want me to do? (Asked of source, or the universe, or Gaia)   RE-IMAGINING – What's the story of my life that I'm proud to tell now – no matter what happens? How can we imagine and create the more beautiful world our hearts know is possible?   Email Kimberley at kim@heartofthriving or visit her website to discover events and talks she's involved in https://heartcommunitygroup.org/events    

PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) can often feel like a life-sentence. It manifests after a traumatic experience and you can suffer nightmares, flashbacks, anger, guilt and isolation. Families, partners and friends can also feel the impact of a loved one going through this unpredictable and life-diminishing disorder. But what if PTSD was something that needed understanding rather than curing? What if by understanding the nature of thought, you were able to experience real hope in navigating through life?  What if you were to realise you could trust something much more powerful than these frightening flashback thoughts? Dr Suraj Gogoi, a psychiatrist and Rob Cook, a US Air Force Veteran, join me (Liz Scott) and Stu Newberry to share a hopeful message around PTSD.  In this conversation we explore: - The power of being in the now - Separating the past from the present - The built-in safety of the psychological system - Trusting the energy that keeps you safe - Seeing through the veil of unsettled thought to the heart of who you truly are. If you'd like to connect with Rob Cook you can find him at https://imrobcook.com If you'd like to connect with Suraj Gogoi head to https://www.drsranisuraj.com If you'd like to learn more about being a Wellbeing Listener then check out the next dates on innercompassguide.com

Dr Linda Pettit has a way of awakening the flame of love within those she is talking to and this conversation is no exception. Linda has had an extraordinary life, which has seen her as a professor, a dean, a counselling psychologist, an author, coach and speaker.  In this episode Linda shares stories from her life.  We discuss the loss of her first husband in a car accident and the way she experienced her way through grief. She realised that grief was a moment-to-moment experience - it wasn't there 100% of the time. It was during these times of being struck by beauty, whilst in the midst of sadness, that helped her find her way through. We talk about life after death and her sense that consciousness does not end at death.  We explore her Catholic upbringing and her searching for God. When she came across the 3Ps she began to settle and bring together the conflicting Christian messages from her childhood and to see the beauty of God as pure love in motion. Linda looks to the formless energy in life that guides  us. She is also inspired by the Divine Feminine. We discuss how the world has trampled on 'mother nature' and 'mother earth'. Linda sees that it is time to reclaim this energy.  If you want to listen into a conversation that explores the spiritual nature of what it is to be human, then look no further.  Linda Pettit https://lindasandelpettit.com/about/

Dr Amy Johnson has first hand experience of debilitating anxiety and worry for many years. Here's how she describes it: "I experienced severe anxiety, panic attacks, and binge eating/bulimia for several years. I was told by many well-trained, well-intentioned professionals that these issues would likely be with me for life in one form or another. They could become manageable; I could learn to cope—but they weren't the kind of things people just “got over”. Thankfully, nothing could be further from the truth today. Several years ago I came across a down-to-earth spiritual understanding of life that changed everything for me. It is the basis of everything I teach and write about. It is the foundation for how I help people end their own unwanted habits and unnecessary worries." The 'down-to-earth' spiritual understanding Amy refers to is the 'Inside-Out' understanding and in this podcast she explains what she means by the life-transformative message that, 'We're all sitting in the middle of perfect mental health'. Amy now supports people in recognising addictive patterns of behaviour and thinking and she points them back towards their source of settled wellbeing.  If you get up in your thinking, then you'll be relieved to know that this is a human experience. Everyone experiences this from time to time. When you get caught up in thinking  Amy realises it is no big deal ... it will move on .... there is nothing that needs to be done to get rid of it.  In this conversation Liz Scott and Stu Newberry also explore the power of insights. In other words the inner realisation that seems to magically unstick us from habitual, insecure thinking. Amy also shares how she helps clients to 'lean in' to feelings, rather than be fearful of them. This is a deliciously rich exploration and a must-listen if you find yourself at the mercy anxiety or addictive behaviours.

When Dr Jack Pransky heard about the Modello housing project he realised  that he was encountering something unique and extraordinary. Jack is quoted as saying: “In all my years in prevention I have never seen this level of change in people!” At the time (over 20 years ago) Jack was an expert on Community Prevention work and was writing books based on his expertise.  His whole life started to change when  he listened to the women from the Modello community speak at a conference.  Jack realised that he was witnessing something profound. It led him to write Modello: A Story of Hope for the Inner City and Beyond  and it also took him on a life-long journey of exploring the Three Principles.  I wanted to speak to Jack because I'm inspired by the potential of the Inside-Out understanding in transforming communities. I was delighted when Jack agreed to have a conversation with me I knew I had lots to learn and I wasn't disappointed. During our time together Jack talks about his life, about his work and he also answers questions from a small group of people who gathered to hear this podcast being recorded. Jack also spends time outlining his 4 step model for community change.  This model encapsulates what is needed for transformation in communities to take place.  Here's a synopsis of it. Step 1 - Make sure you in your own mental health and experiencing grounded, mental wellbeing. Be certain and steadfast with what you know about the Inside-Out understanding. Step 2 - Help people settle in their minds. A relaxed mind is one that is able to absorb and listen. Step 3 - Listen deeply. Listen to the deeper spiritual energy and tune in to what it is saying. This spiritual energy is beyond the core of what we and others know ... allow this energy to reveal the solution to the problem. Stay in the 'don't know' mode until you know what to say. Step 4 - Don't talk about the Inside-Out understanding or the 3Ps (unless wisdom guides you to do so). If you'd like to learn more about Jack and his work then go to his website.  You can also buy his books there. In this podcast we talk about the following books:  Modello: : A Story of Hope for the Inner City and Beyond Somebody Should have Told Us If you'd like to learn more about the project we're running in Ivybridge, then this interview about Wellbeing Listening will give you a flavour of what we're up to Inner Compass in Ivybridge episode.  

Three years ago I felt an intuitive nudge to go into my local community (Ivybridge)to share the Inside Out Understanding. I had no plan, no contacts and no idea what to do. I just felt a strong  intuitive sense to find a way. It was going to be a 6 month experiment, but the experiment continues to this day. Since 2020 (the start of the experiement) we've started a Social Enterprise, created Wellbeing Listener courses, received Lottery Funding, collaborated with a variety of community groups and businesses, trained up dozens of Wellbeing Listeners and helped to create a group supporting the lonely and isolated ... and I've written a book.  I don't use social media and I have never sat down and created a plan. I've been muddling my way along, listening into intuition, often feeling scared because I don't know what I'm doing.. so I just keep taking the next step and the next step. I know (in my bones) that real change in communities comes from people having an understanding that they are much more than they think they are. When people are scared and isolated they build walls and they retreat or attack. When people feel connected, they ooze compassion and love and they reach out to support. I see my role is in helping people realise we are not separate beings but that we are connected to the energy of life itself .... we are all connected. In the interview my dear friend Otto Collins interviews me about this 3 year journey and what I've learned along the way.

What relevance has the Inside-Out understanding got in the world today? How do you share it? Why is this simple message so hard to express? Jamie Smart (Sunday Times Best Selling Author) joins us on today's podcast. He explains the power of insight in today's unstable world. We also discuss how wisdom (rather than intellect) is necessary to make sustainable global change. We also explore how the Inside-Out message keeps becoming more and more simple. If you'd like to find out more about Jamie Smart then Jamiesmart.com is the place to go. For further information on the Inner Compass - visit our website  

What is the secret to connecting with young people? Have you ever felt frustrated because you find your teenager shuts down and is uncommunicative? Marie Arymar works with children, young people and adults, sharing simple ideas on connection, resilience and wellbeing. In this conversation she explains the four common barriers to listening - this includes: Criticism and judgments Chatter in the Head 'Yes but'   Being Solutions focussed Marie explains that young people don't want to be fixed, they actually want to be heard. We also explore the 'mental health crisis' and explore whether Social Media is really as bad as it is often made out.  We see how the pandemic has (for some young people) been a blessing and we talk about Marie's simple, easy book 'Do you Want to Know a Secret?" which is perfect for young and old alike. You can find out more about Marie and buy her book at realisationworks.com

If you'd like a refreshing take on mental health then you'll be inspired by Drs Rani and Suraj. They are both psychiatrists and they are inspired by an understanding of mental wellbeing that sees beyond labels and medication. In this refreshing conversation we explore questions around: Are people broken? Is wellbeing present even in those with mental health challenges? Can anyone talk to someone with mental-health issues, or should this be only for people who are 'qualified?' What are the limitations of the medication model that psychiatrists follow? You can find out more about Drs Rani and Suraj at drsraniandsuraj.com

What is the magic that horses seem to tap into when it comes to supporting people with mental health challenges? In this fascinating conversation with Belinda Seaward from Horsemanship for Health, we discuss the ability of horses to help people to connect to intuition and deep wisdom. The NHS refers patients to Belinda, and along with two Arabian horses and Dartmoor ponies she supports people with varying mental health challenges. In this conversation we explore: - the power of horses to tap into an intuitive wisdom - stories of people touched by this therapeutic work - the humbling nature of working with animals We're joined, at the beginning of this conversation with Teio, Belinda's vocal whippet. Please note the recording is a tiny bit glitchy in places. Horsemanship for Health FACEBOOK Belinda's blog  Email Belinda - horsemanshipforhealth@gmail.com

What hope is there for people incarcerated in the Criminal Justice System? Is there any chance of rehabilitation for career criminals? In this inspiring podcast we hear from two former prisoners who learned about the Three Principles whilst in prison. They explain how their lives have since transformed and how they now support other prisoners and families to reconnect with their wellbeing and resilience. Derrick Mason and Omar Wilson were participants on the 'Beyond Recovery' programme run by Jacqueline Hollows. Jacqueline (or Mama J as she's known to them) explains how she started her social enterprise as a rookie, but enthusiastic practitioner. The photo above is of Jacqueline and Derrick - he's now a Director of Beyond Recovery. In this conversation we explore why the Beyond Recovery programme has been so successful and reflect on whether there is a chance for this kind of work to be shared more extensively in prisons. Beyond Recovery Website 

What would it be like to freely express yourself and allow your natural creativity to flow? Dorothy Kolomeisky is an author and coach; she loves working with writers and creators to bring 'what's in their heads out in to the world." If you've wanted to find a way of expressing your voice in the world (through writing, art, music or any other form) then this conversation is for you. We discuss: - How creativity isn't what we do it's who we are - How to see through the fear that can keep us small - Being light and playful in the creative process - Responding to that which we love and realising we are capable beyond our wildest dreams Dorothy shares this quote by Rumi: "Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love." You can connect with Dorothy on Facebook  Or Linked-In 

"There is wisdom in addiction." These words from Charli Wall might seem surprising at first. Charli has had first hand experience of a traumatic life and how addiction to drugs, alcohol and food became a coping mechanism for her. A huge shift occurred for Charli when she saw that she wasn't broken and didn't need fixing. This insight was the beginning of a shift in the way she saw life and approached the world. In our conversation Charli shares the upheaval of her teenage years. Her brother was killed in a motorbike accident, her father was seriously injured in the same incident. Charli became her dad's carer and , trained as a psychiatric nurse and battled her own addiction with drugs and alcohol. Nowadays she supports people (particularly women) through her coaching and support groups. She is an incredible listener and in this interview we explore: What's going on in the mind of addicts How to listen to someone with an addiction How urgent thoughts are not an instruction they are actually a warning of 'over-thinking' You can find out more about Charli at her website

If you want to share the Inside Out understanding in businesses, then you need to know what they're interested in. Businesses are NOT usually motivated by wellbeing or learning about psychology. They aren't interested to learn about the Inside-Out understanding. So what do you do? The answer is you need to start your conversation that inspires their curiosity. Elizabeth Lovius has spent years as a consultant and trainer. She knows what businesses want and has distilled these areas into three key points. Performance (the numbers) Teams (collaboration and relationships) Innovation (being at the cutting edge) In this far-reaching conversation Elizabeth explains her 'Five Cs model' and explains how she would use this to engage with a businesses. The five Cs are: Clarity Confidence Collaboration Creativity. The fifth C (which is the one that impacts all the others) is Core Elizabeth ultimately knows that when someone is interested in aligning with their core (one of the five Cs) then their business and their teams will flourish. Join Elizabeth Lovius, Liz and Stu in a wide-ranging fascinating conversation. As well as businesses we discuss mental health and in one of my favourite parts of the interview (just near the end) Elizabeth ultimately says that everything boils down to 'love' "When you take away al the concepts and ideas of who we are" .... "what remains of us is love." Here are some of the resources mentioned in our interview Elizabeth Lovius Website  Sign up to the Resource Library with Elizabeth Lovius here  A PDF document about Wellbeing in Businesses  Interview with Dr Bill Pettit Book: Relationship Handbook by George Pransky

You've heard of a 'horse-whisperer' - but what about a people-whisperer? That's how I see Jacquie Moses. She has an extraordinary way of connecting with people, particularly those who feel marginalised. Jacquie works with many who are on the outskirts of society, like people who are in prison and youngsters on the verge of exclusion. In this conversation we hear stories of connection and transformation which are based on the power of listening. Jacquie understands that listening is at the heart of relating and connecting with people. People need to feel heard and listening is the way to do this. In this interview you'll learn why: Relatedness is more important than having a shared background experience. We are often trained to listen for 'what's wrong', rather than listening for innate health Listening from a place of presence is the most powerful gift you can give to someone. Here are some of the comments of the people who have listened to the interview: "A really lovely session of magical presence" "Such a warm and settling time. It has pointed me back home, thank you" "Thank you once again Stu and Liz and Jacquie, for a lovely, inspiring session" "Thank you so much Jacquie - such an inspiration" Find Jacquie Moses on Linked-In here  email jacquie info@jacquiemoses.com

We're diving deep into Wellbeing in today's podcast. Many people chase wellbeing, they're keen to feel a sense of happiness and flow. But what if wellbeing was more than just feel good? What if wellbeing was actually at the core and essence of who we truly are? In this beautiful interview Ian Watson speaks of the many facets of wellbeing. He shares how it is an intrinsic part of the human make-up and he challenges the idea that wellbeing is only available when we feel happy. You can find out more about Ian at theinsightspace.com

  We're exploring the theme of freedom in this week's In the Convo, with artist Terri Broughton. Terri only started to describe herself as an artist 3-years ago. She was haunted by the feeling of being a fraud. She never felt she had the right to be called an artist, even though she (as a teacher) was instrumental in some inspiring art projects in schools that were adopted by the curriculum. It's likely that her experiences as a child (she was orphaned and then abused by her carers) haunted her for much of her adult life. A couple of years ago Terri picked up a paint-brush and felt an incredible freedom of expression through painting. The judgemental feeling of being a fraud has disappeared and she now feels free to 'play' and to 'just be'. The painting above is called 'There Is No Place Like Home'. This painting represents the transition between the old Terri and the new, grounded Terri that dances with life. In this interview we explore: The difference between being and doing Seeing beyond the fear of being a fraud The freedom of creativity and 'play' You can find out more about Terri and her art work at her website Terribroughtonart.co.uk

Schools have been up against it as they manage COVID. Over the past year staff, parents and pupils have been experiencing a bumpy, ever-changing year of disruption. Deputy Head, Russell Pearson knows that wellbeing is right at the heart of his school moving forward. He sees that the Inside-Out understanding will help create a foundation of authentic wellbeing in the school. He sees that connection and compassion have been some of the positive impacts of COVID in his school community. Stuart Newberry from Inner Compass Guide talks to Russell Pearson in this interview. Don't forget to check out our free introduction webinars if you'd like to learn more about becoming a wellbeing listener for your friends, family, clients or colleagues. The information is here You can find out more about Russell and Dynamic Deputies on Facebook Follow Russell on Twitter @enrichlearning

Dr Bryan MceElroy is worth listening to - he's a GP with a different view on mental health and mental illness. HIs curiosity and studies have given him insight into various states of distress such as depression, anxiety and paranoia and how people can find some peace of mind. He isn't wedded to the 'medical model'. Instead he explores a wider range of interventions and is inspired by the results. Wellbeing is something that Bryan is passionate abut. Here's how he describes it: "Wellbeing is your experience living day to day with a sense of presence and light-heartedness and not getting too caught up in negative thoughts/feelings". He regularly sees patients who are struggling with anxiety and worry and rather than immediately prescribe medication he wants patients to explore something deeper and more intuitive. "If you're feeling well in yourself with a spiritual connection with something 'greater' to yourself you'll start looking after yourself." In this conversation we explore:: What is Wellbeing? The Inside Out understanding and how it can support patients The challenges for GPs and the health service Listening as an important missing piece to mentally well society. Find out more about Dr Bryan McElroy and his work by going to his website.  If you're interested in our Wellbeing Listening work - check out our online training and courses here.

What is left without our thinking? What happens when we see beyond the labels and identities we have created through our life? Natasha Swerdloff, works as a consultant in businesses, she is also a writer, speaker and trainer. This is the question she explores with her clients. Rather than looking at what's wrong or broken, she looks to the essence within. It is from this space of connection that healing occurs. As she says: "When I speak to people from this space I see into their soul." I first met Natasha 5 years ago. We were at the London 3P conference and we both ended up with a group of people eating out at a restaurant. We sat next to each other and fell into an easy conversation. At the time Natasha was transitioning away from working as a traditional coach and consultant, she had come across the Three Principles and was starting to engage in a whole new way of working. Catching up with her after all these years was a real pleasure and as we connected on Zoom I fell into, what I can only describe as a 'love bubble'. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Natasha has written a book with Dicken Bettinger "Coming Home" Visit her website here:  Her YouTube channel is here

Sam Jarman and Liz continue their conversation around the three questions: Who am I? What is this reality? What is the purpose of life? It's a good idea to check out the first part of our conversation before listening to this one.  

It seems to me that many people feel lost, insecure and adrift in the world. It seems that many are trying to chase happiness and find fulfilment in the world. It is exhausting. Rather than turning our attention outwards, what if we looked within and what if we explored some of the most profound questions of the ages? My guest is someone who regularly reflects on this question with his clients. Sam Jarman is a golf professional, author and writer. Sam asks three questions when with his clients. The questions are 1. Who am I 2. What is this? 3. What is the purpose of life? Our conversation was so rich and deep I've split this podcast into two parts. We start by exploring the question 'Who am I'? and then in part 2 of the podcast we continue the conversation. If you'd like to learn more about Sam and his work: Twitter @samjarmangolf samjarmangolf.com -  sportsprinciples.com -  Sam mentioned Rupert Spira and Francis Lucille - here are links to their sites. Rupert Spira  Francis Lucille   

What is it like to live without fear? Imagine that. Imagine walking through the world without listening to and answering the whispering fears, shoulds and shouldn't that populate your head. What freedom! Recently Sarah Tyers experienced several months of living without fear and she discovered that life was a playground. For someone with cancer and who at one point feared she might just 12 months to live - living fearlessly seems a contradiction. How can you face death and yet not be scared? Yet Sarah attributes her incredible psychological freedom to her journey with cancer. When she saw through and beyond the stories she was telling herself about the disease she saw something that struck her keenly: "It was pivotal seeing the love in myself and realising I was already a radiant human being." Sarah and I discuss the power of listening for wellbeing. We can listen for wellbeing even if the person in front of us is seriously ill. When we listen out for the resilience in the other person - we are seeing who they truly are. You can find out more about Sarah and her work at Proudstore.co.uk 

How well do you know your friends? When I spoke with my dear friend Ivana Culham I was shocked that I hadn't known about her struggles as a mum. Ivana is always so friendly, kind and supportive. I had no idea that she had a near-break-down and burned out as a mum. Her ideals of a happy family hit rock bottom when she found herself struggling and feeling disconnected with her young daughter. Then when she realised she was about to have twin boys she found she couldn't cope. In this interview we explore how Ivana started to heal when a friend said to her 'Ivana, there is nothing wrong with you' she became curious to learn more... it led her to the Inside-out understanding. Now her whole family has adopted a way of talking about the Inside Out understanding and Ivana sees her family as her Wellbeing Listener project. Want to be a Wellbeing Listener? You can join our free introductions or find out about our other programmes here 

I've just been on a lovely walk that links dementia-awareness, the outdoors, wellbeing and the city of my birth. Today's podcast is a celebration of this. My dad has dementia and over the years he has gradually deteriorated. He no longer remembers who I am and he often gets confused finding his way around his own home. When I take my dad out, he loves to say hello to people, but often gets confused if they strike up a conversation. I'm so grateful to those strangers who realise dad has dementia and continue chatting with him, even if they don't understand what he says. The kindness of strangers is very powerful indeed. When two dear friends of mine in Exeter (both of whom are passionate about raising awareness around dementia) teamed up to create a walking route around the outskirts of Exeter that adds up to the length of a marathon (26.2 miles) I asked if I could meet them. The route is split into shorter sections ranging from 3-7 miles each and each section explores footpaths, lanes and villages that circle the heart of the city. I joined them on a 3 mile route linking Clyst St Mary and Clyst St George. We took our dogs and had a leisurely stroll on a sunny late September day. Here at the Inner Compass Guide we shine a light on wellbeing and Jo Earlam (who's husband has dementia) and Gina Awad (founder of the Exeter Dementia Alliance) both ooze wellbeing - I'm inspired by what they're up to. Exeter Dementia Action Alliance:  Cosy Route (Circle of Somewhere Yours): 

What if you were to see physical discomfort and unwanted symptoms as your friend rather than your enemy? What if these symptoms were actually trying to communicate important information? Physical symptoms can often be wearing and draining. Many of us quickly resort to medication or seeking experts in a bid to rid ourselves of the discomfort. In this conversation with Rachel Singleton, we explore a beautiful, balancing way of 'listening' to your body and learning its language to help return to wellbeing. Rachel Singleton is now a holistic practitioner and mentor, but for years she experienced chronic pain and debilitating fatigue. It took some time before she realised her body was trying to communicate what it needed; it was showing through the medium of symptoms when she was in imbalance and disharmony. In this conversation we explore the importance of listening to your body. rachelsingleton.com

When Sandy Krot suggested that listening might solve the world's problems I sat up and took notice. Really? Solve the world's problems? Sandy is no pushover. She works with high-flying businesses, supported companies in overcoming intractable problems and has co-authored a best-selling book (Invisible Power). When Sandy suggested that something as simple as listening might solve the world's problems, I felt goose-bumps. I've thought this myself, but then tell myself off for being so naive.Surely it'd take more than listening to make a difference on a big scale? But what if she's right? What if listening holds the power to move beyond conflict and differing opinions and what if listening is what is needed to access fresh, new and creative thinking? In this podcast interview we explore how: - The single most important area for leaders to improve is listening - Most people are only listening to the voice in their head and not the other person - We all have the capacity to listen for others. - Listening might solve the problems in the world You can find out more about Sandy and her work here https://insightprinciples.com Want to become a Wellbeing Listener - Discover more with Inner Compass Guide CIC

Dicken Bettinger is a rare person. Whenever I hear him speak I experience a wonderful sense of ease and inner stillness. I often joke that Dicken could read the phone directory and people would listen to him and get something from just being in his presence. So when I got to speak to him on the podcast about the power of listening I jumped at the chance. He was as every bit as gracious, gentle and humble as I had imagined. I could have talked to him all day. Like me, he is passionate about listening and the power of listening as a catalyst to touch the deeper intelligence both within ourselves as the listener but also by enabling the other person to experience innate wisdom. Listening is such a beautiful thing. On the face of it listening appears to be something we need to 'do'. However, when you start to realise that listening is actually our natural state - then it takes the exploration around listening to a different level. In this podcast we explore how: -Listening is not about 'doing' - listening is a state of being -Dropping out of our head and into our heart is a beautiful gateway to connection -Wisdom is waiting to break through the noise of thinking You can find out more about Dickens's work on Youtube.

How do you listen beyond the chatter in your head? Do you need to learn a load of tools and techniques to become a better listener? According to best-selling author Jamie Smart, we don't need to learn something new, instead we need to remember our innate ability to listen and to connect. When you realise that listening is a natural state then listening becomes a catalyst for connection. As Jamie says: "Listening is one of the simplest ways for anyone to find their way into a deeper connection with another human or themselves' Rather than change or fix the story - we can listen and help the other person experience connection. In that space of connection insights naturally arise. Connection is a portal for people to have insights. The route to connection is to listen. Jamie is the author of Clarity and Results Jamiesmart.com

How do you bring Wellbeing to a community? What does it take to create a foundation of people who are able to listen deeply to friends, colleagues and family? Ivybridge in Devon is part of an experiment that's being run by Liz and Stu from the Inner Compass Guide CIC. They are shining a light on the existing wellbeing and then building up the capacity of listening within the town and surrounding parishes. Otto Collins in the guest presenter on the podcast and he's interviewing Liz about her project. In this interview they explore: What happens when you share the message that wellbeing is constant? How do you spread the message of wellbeing in a community? What happens when you allow a project to unfold, rather than adhere to a strict business plan? Thanks to Otto - for this great guest interview. You can find out more about his relationship work at: https://susieandotto.com

Many of us feel the need to fix people who come to us with a problem or issue. It comes from a good place, but people don't need fixing and it's the wrong way to approach things. This week Liz is with Gillian Christison a coach who has a background as a nurse and healthworker.  In recent years she's shifted from trying to fix to supporting others through listening.  Gillian Christison Facebook    

What is the key to listening? It's much simpler than you think. It's got nothing to do with eye contact, or reflecting back what you've heard. Listening has got nothing to do with mirroring someone's actions or nodding in the right place. The true power of listening is in being present. Elizabeth Lovius joins me on this week's podcast as we explore listening. When you realise how simple it really is I guarantee you'll listen to everyone differently.

What the world needs right now is a good listening to. This podcast is one part of a short series that looks specifically at listening. Today I'm speaking former surgeon Dr Giles Croft. We explore how our capacity to listen greatly increases when we understand 'separate realities'. In other words we begin to see how we are all creating our individual interpretation and perception of the world. In this rich conversation we explore: That our experience is dependent on our mood or state of mind at any one time. The best way to listen is to hear someone beyond the weather of their moods It's about being present with nothing on your mind and just listen You can find out more about Giles at his website gilespcroft.com  

Nature is a restorative and healing space of exploration and discovery. Witnessing the cycles of nature as they daily unfold, is one of my deepest joys. That is something that is mirrored by Ian Watson. Ian is a 3P facilitator and homeopath. He believes we all have a yearning to have nature present in our lives: " It's is a requirement for us to participate in the natural world and to not be cut off from it." In this podcast we explore the wisdom and deeper intelligence that is present in the natural world and we explore how this provides a wonderful gateway into exploring our true nature. Ian Watson - theinsightspace.com

Clare Dimond has spent a restless life seek, searching and trying hard to improve herself. She says she never felt quite right and didn't feel that she fitted in. In recent years she came across something that saw an end to this hunt for self-improvement. All the trying has fallen away and she has uncovered something that is universal to human-kind. Clare realises that all of us are actually peaceful, free, alive and fundamentally secure. If this is the case, then why do so many people feel so bad all the time? In this insightful interview Clare shares a clear message of hope.   Clare is the author of several books: 'Free' - 'Sane' - 'Ease' - 'Game' https://claredimond.com

Caroline Brewer has a background in HR and at one time used to be a serial planner and organiser.  She would learn tools, techniques and models to pass on to clients. Now she's happy to turn up and allow conversations to flow without a specific structure in mind. So what happened? In this interview Caroline shares what happened. "Before this understanding (the Inside Out understanding) my ego and self-preservation was top of the agenda" Nowadays... "I love to see peoples minds settle and they are in a different space... (to see) their innate resilience and resourcefulness" Caroline runs retreats and conducts 'conscious conversations' with teachers - she's providing a space for a very different kind of interaction. Designed2Thrive.co.uk

Andrew Bridgewater knows all about depression. He suffered a severe bout of depression and burn out when he was in his mid forties. It left him in a psychiatric hospital for 5 weeks. At the time of his depression he was a qualified psychologist which baffled him. How could someone who had studied the mind and who knew so much about mental illness end up with depression? He’s now fully recovered and supporting others as an author, speaker and stress relief coach. You can find out more about Andrew at his website www.andrewbridgewater.com

When Debra Simmons escaped an abusive relationship she thought her problems would be over. However when the relationship with her children began to suffer she saw fresh problems emerge. It was only when she came across her Inner Compass (through the Three Principles) that he began to realise that she was lost in a world of thought. She also realised that she had been trying to find something in her relationships to make her feel fulfilled: “I saw that my insecurity came from this place that I lacked something and I needed someone else to love me to complete me. So from that place I went into a relationship trying to be loveable trying to get something I hadn’t got.” Join Debra Simmons in this heart warming interview as she explains her journey from living a life of fear and insecurity to living in freedom, love and laughter.

What if there is a new take on mental illness? What if the medical profession began to see beyond the diagnosis and labels?  One psychiatrist Dr Rani Bora, offers real hope to her patients. Rather than focus on the transient thoughts and feelings, Rani wants her patients to see something that is beyond words. She points to the deeper essence and intuitive knowing that there is more to life. Several years ago she had a personal realisation about herself. She realised that she wasn't broken. This has become an important message in her practice. Now she helps her patients see that they are 'lost' rather than 'broken'. "Sometimes they get lost for short term and sometimes they can get lost for a long time but they’re never broken" Website www.drsranisuraj.com Facebook – www.facebook.com/drsranisuraj

What's the missing piece from the message of Christianity? That was the question Lizzie Paish kept asking herself. When she came across the Inside-Out understanding, the Christian message began to resonate more fully for her. She saw that the philosophy of Inside Out which is 'to look within' is something that is also present (but often missed) in the Bible. Bible passages have now taken on fresh energy as Lizzie continues to look within. For example, the Bible often says ‘Do not be afraid’ or ‘Fear not’. Lizzie sees this as reminding us that when we live in fear we are forgetting who we are.  We forget we are connected to a spiritual essence. In this fascinating and frank interview Liz and Lizzie explore Christianity through the lens of the Inner Compass understanding.

Russell Pearson is the Deputy Head at an Exeter primary school. He is acutely aware that mental health is a key issue in all schools. He’s determined not to provide a tokenistic approach to wellbeing. He doesn’t want to provide tick-box staff meetings or training sessions. In this podcast Russell shares his own wellbeing journey. He also explores three areas that have made a big difference to him. That he was seeing life through a lens. That lens was his thinking. It was a huge eye-opener to discover that no two people experience the same situation in the same way. In other words everyone sees the world through their thinking and not the way it actually is. The fluid nature of feelings. Feelings go up and down and they are a symptom of thinking. Feelings are giving feedback on the world ‘out there’ feelings just let you know what you’re thinking in the moment. Wisdom, resilience and resourcefulness is innate. This is probably the key area for Russell. Rather than see wellbeing as something he has to make time to catch or find, he now sees it as his default setting. He clearly sees that everyone is resilient – regardless of the mood they or he is in.  

Stuart Newberry is a wellbeing coach, pointing people towards universal consciousness and oneness. His message is 'you are more than you think you are.' It's a far cry from his former role as a police Detective Superintendent, dealing with some of the most serious crimes in Devon and Cornwall. What happened? In this podcast Stu talks about: his time in Devon and Cornwall police and how he remembers it with great fondness. He retired in 2004. working on challenging cases, like murders, rapes and serious assaults. It was a time of hard work, long hours and he witnessed the worst of human behaviour. But it was also a time of tremendous satisfaction, working with dedicated teams and people. how some of the assumptions he had about criminals began to look different. Rather than see criminals as fundamentally bad people, he realised that these were people that were believing thinking in the moment. They were taking thought as an instruction to behave a certain way, they didn't realise that thinking is transient and shifts. Now as Stu looks forward in his work as a coach, he realises more than ever that his clients are usually looking in the wrong place for wellbeing. They often forget that they are more than they think they are.

What would it be like if everyone knew that they were okay? That's the message Marie Arymar shares with her young clients. She often meets with troubled young people, who are struggling with life and are confused about what to do next. Marie doesn't cajole, or motivate or try to build confidence; she's got a much more powerful and sustainable way of connecting with young people. She points them back to their inner diamond, to the core of who they are. In this podcast you'll discover how Marie: Overcame her own challenging childhood to take on a pastoral lead at a college. Saw things completely differently when she came across the Inner Compass. Dropped being a victim when she saw that she wasn't at the centre of every thing. Life wasn't all about her, life was impersonal. Marie realises that the best support she can be for her young clients is to highlight their wellbeing. "I have a huge torch and I shine it back on their beautiful diamond and the innate wellness that they've always had and always will have - even when they feel they've lost it." Marie is at realisationworks.com To learn more about your Inner Compass go to innercompassguide.com

What if communities were founded on wellbeing? What difference would that make to the way we connect with each other? In January 2020 liz started an experiment in her local community Ivybridge. The project is called #ivybridgewellbeing and it is designed to explore the wealth of wellbeing, inspiration and good-heartedness that is already present in the town. They recorded this after the first week of the experiment. In this episode Liz and Stu reflect on the extraordinary wellbeing, resilience and resourcefulness that we all have access to. When people in communities connect to this natural power within, imagine what that would be like.

Many people are reticent about sharing the Inside-Out understanding. They are worried they don't know enough and they need to do more training to get ready. If you're the kind of person that says, 'I'll share this when, I've read more books OR I've been on another course OR I know more" Then this is for you. In today's podcast Liz and Stu bust some of the common myths that hold people back. There are three questions that they look at: Should I wait before sharing the Inside-Out understanding with others? What are the advantages of taking the step to share? What will I learn when I share with others?  Let us know what you think of the podcast - we'd love to hear from you Website: Innercompassguide.com Twitter: Innercompassliz Innercompassstu Linkedin: Liz Scott Instagram: Inner_compass_liz

If you've ever got caught in the cycle of yo yo dieting, then you'll know the frustration of going on a strict eating plan, losing weight and then putting it straight back on again. What if there is a different way to healthy eating? What if it's not about building your willpower, but instead it is about understanding how the human mind actually works. This podcast will explain why faddy diets don't work - but there is good news. In this interview I went to speak to Paola Royal a Wellbeing & Resilience Coach& Nutritional Therapist. We explore how healthy eating doesn't need to be a tough slog. All you need is to understand the Inner Compass and to see how the mind actually works.   Join us at the Inner Compass to explore a new psychological understanding that is transforming communities https://innercompassguide.com Paola Royal:healthylivingwithpaolaroyal.co.uk  

  How can horses help those in mental distress? Deep in the heart of Devon two Arab geldings are playing a key role in supporting adults and young people in a therapeutic setting. We went to visit Belinda Seaward, Jo Frodsham and the two beautiful animals Dragonfly and Sherani to find out what they're up to. A recent course has been for women who have experienced abuse and another course supported service personnel with PTSD. A fascinating exploration into the true "It's deep inner work that we're doing here" "Horses are deeply sensitive to where you are at emotionally ... and they reflect your energy back to you" "We've embedded the Inside-Out understanding into our courses ... there's something about the connection between horses and people that allows people to access a deeper intuitive intelligence.'   Website: Innercompassguide.com Twitter: Innercompassliz Innercompassstu Linkedin: Liz Scott Instagram: Inner_compass_liz

What use is a spiritual/psychological understanding (the Inner Compass) when you've just gone through heart surgery? This is the question we explore in this podcast. Stu Newberry was diagnosed with heart disease in 2018 and then went through heart surgery in August 2019. Here's some of what Stu had to say: "It's so easy to get in crazy thinking about what may or may not happen with the health condition,' .... "The Inner Compass is the bit that says 'it doesn't make sense to indulge that thinking because you're already OK." How can you 'be OK' if you have heart disease? That's another question Stu answers in this honest interview that shines a light on trusting your own navigation system (the Inner Compass).   Website: Innercompassguide.com Twitter: Innercompassliz Innercompassstu Linkedin: Liz Scott Instagram: Inner_compass_liz