Life On Purpose with Erica Layne

Are you a fixer? Do you manage, fix, smooth, and (TBH) manipulate things—so that they usually work out? There's comfort in being a fixer, but there's also a COST. Join me today to learn why it might just be time to let go of all that fixing. xo! -Erica Resources: * Find the blog post for this episode here: https://ericalayne.co/being-a-fixer     * Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelifeonpurposemovement/  

It's a BIG claim, but I really believe that “thought work” is the most important work you'll learn to do in your life. Learn what it is and how to do it in this episode!    **This is the last episode of Season 3! Be sure to hit follow in your podcast app so you'll know when I launch Season 4 - sometime in 2022!    Additional segments: * What Matters Most: Things I hope you know. * New paper product! Introducing The Mindful Box—a 90-day, interactive box to help you develop a life-changing mindfulness practice. Order here! https://laynepaper.com/mindful       Resources: * Find the blog post for this episode here: https://ericalayne.co/thought-work  * The Mindful Box: https://laynepaper.com/mindful     * Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelifeonpurposemovement/  

Does gift-shopping ever lead to you buying things for YOURSELF instead of others? (Oops!) Or just buying too much in general? The pull of sales and consumerism is strong this time of year, but I've got four crucial tips to help you stick to your list and keep yourself from overbuying. Less is more!   Additional Segments:    Self-care spotlight: Maybe you're not crippled by your stress but by your resistance to it. How to let go. Off ramp: A segment where I share something I see women doing that I'd love for you to quit! Today, quit hiding.   Resources:  Blog post for this episode: https://ericalayne.co/overbuying-this-holiday-season/  Email your comments & questions to podcast@ericalayne.co  This week only, get 20% off The Authenticity Calendar! http://theauthenticitycalendar.com

Have you ever felt like a failure because you can't seem to get a morning routine to stick? A good morning routine is the secret to success, right? Maybe not! Let's talk about a pocket of time many of us are hugely underutilizing—and how that bit of time might change your life for the better. Additional segments: * Off ramp: Are you a smoother (like me)?   * Decluttering tip: a quick and easy tip to lighten your mental clutterResources: * Find the blog post for this episode here: https://ericalayne.co/failing-at-your-morning-routine/  * Take the bedtime routine challenge, Unwind: https://ericalayne.co/unwind/   * Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelifeonpurposemovement/

If you want to live a simpler, slower life, the hard truth is that you're going to have to say no when people ask things of you. For most of us, saying no almost feels physically painful: We were raised to be helpful, kind, and maybe even self-sacrificing. But you CAN gain more confidence in your no's. Here's how.    Additional segments: *Ask the Expert: Today I'm welcoming Rose Rousenbury onto the show to share about her decision to let go of something in her home that was tied up with her identity. Connect with Rose at her website (https://roselounsbury.com/) or on Instagram @roselounsbury.  * Trace It to Face It: A new segment where I dig into something I'm currently struggling with. Today, why I've been hesitant to show up online lately (and how it might apply in your life, too).   Resources: * Find the blog post for this episode here: https://ericalayne.co/saying-no-101-webinar/   * Get The Authenticity Calendar! http://theauthenticitycalendar.com   * Determine your top 3 values: https://ericalayne.co/values/  * Questions or comments? Email me at podcast@ericalayne.co   * Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelifeonpurposemovement/ 

It's normal to hit a slump in your decluttering journey; we ALL run out of steam sometimes. But the difference between someone whose home never really changes and someone whose home DOES is that the second person takes the following steps...   Additional segments: *A quick intro to my signature course, Declutter Your Life! If you're ready to clear out alllll the clutter in your life, visit https://ericalayne.co/declutteryourlife/ to join the fall session! * Permission to NOT be happy all the time—a secret that (ironically) might make your life a bit happier.   Resources: * Find the blog post for this episode here:  * Questions or comments? Email me at podcast@ericalayne.co   * Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelifeonpurposemovement/ 

What if instead of hustling, pushing, and wearing yourself out trying to be the perfect parent, you just RESTED in your imperfection and began modeling more self-acceptance? Maybe this, in the end, would be a million times better for your kids—and for you—than high performance ever was.   Additional segments: * Try-on session: A new memo for parents, a much-needed message from Untamed by Glennon Doyle. (Find the full excerpt here.) * Self-care spotlight: my very favorite self-care product is the Mindful Mineral Soak from https://myeq.com/. Full spectrum CBD, & it smells amazing! Use code LIFEONPURPOSE for 15% off your first purchase!   Resources: * The blog post for this episode includes 30 MORE things you don't have to do—to be enough. Find it here! https://ericalayne.co/to-be-enough/  * Questions or comments? Email me at podcast@ericalayne.co   * Let's connect on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/thelifeonpurposemovement/

Are you unconsciously comparing your home to the hundreds of immaculate, styled homes you see on Pinterest? But here's the better question: What if instead of criticizing your home for everything it's not, you thanked it for everything it is?   Additional segments:    * Self-care spotlight: What's one tiny thing you used to do as a kid—purely for fun—that you can do now? Try it, and tell me about it! Email me your experience to podcast@ericalayne.co.  * Decluttering tip: Let's define the three main types of clutter and identify which one is your biggest hangup!    Resources: * Take my new quiz to find out which kind of clutter is tripping you up—AND what you can do to get free! https://ericalayne.co/clutterquiz   * Visit the blog post for this episode: https://ericalayne.co/imperfect-home 

Affirmations have been on the self-help scene for decades, but what exactly are they, and more importantly, do they work?    Additional segments:    * Off ramp: A word to my fellow approval junkies!  * What matters most: The time I brought my elderly neighbor her last meal in bed—and what it reminded me about our priorities in life.    Resources: * Free download! 100 Affirmations to Strengthen Your Kind Mind: https://ericalayne.co/affirmations/   * Visit my website: https://ericalayne.co/  * Questions or comments? Email me at podcast@ericalayne.co 

A lesson from my therapist in how to observe the negativity around us without internalizing it! This episode is especially for the empaths and highly sensitive people, but I think most of us tend to take on more than we’re meant to carry, so tune in!    This episode is the last of Season 2, so be sure to hit subscribe so you don’t miss the new episodes when I return in the fall!    Additional segments: * What Matters Most: It’s hard running the race you’re running, and you’re doing a GREAT job.   Resources: * Blog post for this episode: https://ericalayne.co/how-to-hear-negativity  * Get your copy of The Authenticity Calendar! http://theauthenticitycalendar.com  * Questions or comments? Email podcast@ericalayne.co  * Join us on Instagram to stay connected over the summer! https://www.instagram.com/thelifeonpurposemovement/ 

Did you know a third to a half of the population is introverted? So even if you aren’t, you definitely love someone who is. Today we’re clearing up some of the confusion surrounding introverts and extroverts—because only good things can come from understanding ourselves and each other better!  Additional segments: * Self-care spotlight: A simple practice to help you check in with yourself.    Resources: * My 7-day challenge for (overwhelmed) introverted moms is on sale! Join here—https://ericalayne.co/talkedoutchallenge/  * Blog post for this episode: https://ericalayne.co/introversion-and-extroversion-defined  * Susan Cain’s Ted Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts/transcript?language=en#t-261295  * Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Won’t Stop Talking - https://bit.ly/2QudwQT  * The Highly Sensitive Person - https://bit.ly/3w7OJRBhttps://bit.ly/3w7OJRB  * When did YOU first realize whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert? Email me your story! erica@ericalayne.co

If you’re enjoying THIS podcast, here are eight more shows you’ll love!    In case you need to hear this today, you are the designer of your own life and the creator of your own happiness. These podcasts will help you believe this in your core—and teach you how to build the life you want.    Additional segments: * Off ramp: Do you beat yourself up in hopes of making yourself better? Why this fails—and what to do instead. * Declutter de-stress: A surefire practice to help you lighten your mental load!    Resources: * Grab my free, 5-step worksheet The Mental Clear-Out: https://ericalayne.co/mental/  * Blog post for this episode (including links to all of the podcasts I recommend): https://ericalayne.co/9-podcasts-to-help-you-create-your-own-happiness/  * Questions or comments? Email podcast@ericalayne.co 

An episode to help you take a deeper look at your consumption and collection habits—and to inspire you to let go and live free.    Additional segments: * Try-on session: Instead of waiting for others to celebrate YOU this Mother’s Day, try celebrating yourself!  * Self-care spotlight: two book recommendations! (1) Then She Was Gone by Lisa Jewel, and (2) The Silent Wife by Kerry Fisher   Resources: * Grab my free decluttering checklist! 100 Things to Get Rid Of—To Simplify Your Home * Blog post for this episode: https://ericalayne.co/9-hard-truths-about-clutter/  * My ebook going deeper into the 9 truths: The Truth About Clutter ($5.99) * Connect with me on Instagram!

Every twelve episodes we’re mixing things up with a Q&A! I answer your questions about what I do when I feel panic or anxiety coming on, how to let kids help in the kitchen without getting overwhelmed, my favorite quick weeknight dinner—and more!   Resources: The Authenticity Calendar is on sale for Mother's Day! Put 2 or more in your cart and get 20% off + free shipping! Pin down your 3 core values: https://ericalayne.co/values/  21 question to discover your purpose: https://ericalayne.co/purpose/  Flecks of Gold Journal   Comments or suggestions? Email podcast@ericalayne.co

Decluttering is one of the most tangible, accessible, and immediate ways to lighten your load. But there are a few common blocks that we ALL come up against, and today, I’m going to teach you how to break through them!    Do YOU get stuck on any of these?   “I might need this someday!” “I paid good money for this!” “I can’t use this special item; it might get damaged or worn out!” “I want to declutter, but I have such a hard time getting rid of sentimental things!” “I can’t declutter because my partner and kids aren’t on board.”   Additional segments: * Ask the expert: How to live with messes AND enjoy a tidy home, from Desirae Endres, host of Life with Intention     Resources: * Drowning in STUFF? Free checklist: 100 Things to Get Rid Of—To Simplify Your Home * Blog post for this episode * Grab my short book, The Truth About Clutter, this week while it’s on sale! * Connect with me on Instagram * Got a question for our upcoming Q&A? Email podcast@ericalayne.co with “Question” in the subject line

“If you want to change the world, go home and love your family.” - Mother Teresa   It’s so true; it all starts at home. The only problem? I love my family best when I’m not stressed about the HOUSE. I love my family best when I have the headspace to actually see them.    Today’s episode will help you simplify your home life so you can give more love to the people you share it with.   Additional segments: * What matters most: What signposts, do you want to leave behind for anyone who’s (metaphorically) hiking behind you?    Resources: * Grab my free 5-step checklist, The Mental Clear-Out (get it allllll out!) * Blog post for this episode: https://ericalayne.co/simplify-your-home-life/  * Favorite cord organizers * Favorite drop zone organizers  * Connect with me on Instagram!

Do you struggle with indecision and over-researching? It can seem harmless, but if you take a deeper look, you might notice that it’s contributing pretty heavily to your mental load. Let’s open up some time in your schedule and some space in your head by learning to curb the researching, make quicker decisions, and (most importantly) love what you choose.    Additional segments: * Try-on session: Are your goals not motivating you lately? Here’s why—and what you can use for motivation instead.    Resources: * Grab my free guide to determine your core values!  * Book rec - Essentialism (it’s excellent!) * Connect with me on Instagram

Is your self-worth tangled up with how much you GET DONE every day? Do you feel guilty when you rest? This message is for the doers, the hustlers, the steady, non-stop workers. How productive you are does not determine how worthy you are.   Additional segments: * Off ramp: Stop letting other people’s opinions matter more than your own. Go inside instead. * Decluttering tip: A simple but super effective exercise that’ll help you clear some clutter not from your home but from your calendar!   Resources: * Visit the blog post for today’s featured message: https://ericalayne.co/productivity-and-your-self-worth/   * Grab my free guide to determine your core values: https://ericalayne.co/values/  * Do YOU sometimes pin your worth on your productivity? I’d love to hear your story! Email me at podcast@ericalayne.co 

You start every week—every day—determined to stay on track with your goals. But somehow, willpower only takes you so far. Self-control seems to evaporate as the day goes on. (Same here, friend!) But habits? Habits are something you do on autopilot. They don’t take self-control because they don’t require a decision. Why habits MATTER and how to set ones that stick: my top 5 lessons.   Additional segments: * Off ramp: Do you ever worry about what you’ll do with your time once your kids are older? Are you intimidated by the idea of finding traditional work again? * Self-care spotlight: Notice the wall before you HIT the wall.    Resources: * Visit the blog post for today’s featured message: http://ericalayne.co/top-5-things-about-habits/    * Book rec: Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin * Book rec: Atomic Habits by James Clear  * My free monthly habit tracker: https://ericalayne.co/habits/  * My free worksheet to discover your purpose: https://ericalayne.co/purpose/ 

It’s uncomfortable to hold two conflicting emotions at once, and today I want to validate the fact that you’re normal for having them!   Additional segments:   * Decluttering tip: What if every time you finished a product, you took a beat before replacing it?   Resources: * Do you have any conflicting emotions right now? Email me them at podcast@ericalayne.co   * Visit the blog post for today’s featured message: http://ericalayne.co/conflicting-emotions   * Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelifeonpurposemovement/  * Declutter your home in just 7 days: https://ericalayne.co/declutter-destress/ 

Imagine how your life would change if you could let go of or rewrite the most common negative scripts inside your head. Because you can! Today, I’ll teach you how with my five steps to clearing out your emotional clutter!    Additional segments: * Try-on session: Are you stuck in an in-between season of life? Tune in.   Resources: * Email your old negative thought and your new & improved version here! podcast@ericalayne.co   * Visit the blog post for today’s featured message: https://ericalayne.co/emotional-clutter/   * Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelifeonpurposemovement/    As always, if you have questions about your mental health, please seek the support of a professional.

Would you like to be a more conscious consumer and maybe even create a capsule wardrobe? A wardrobe that makes you actually look forward to getting dressed every day? Today’s fun concept will HELP.    Additional segments: * Ask the expert: A new segment featuring Denaye of Simple Families. Find her excellent podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/simple-families/id1202569587  * Self-care spotlight: A foundational principle for living happier   Resources: * Got an idea for a segment? Email me here! podcast@ericalayne.co   * Visit my website: https://ericalayne.co/ * Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelifeonpurposemovement/ 

That’s a wrap on season one! Thank you so much for listening—and for every Instagram comment, email, or iTunes review you’ve sent me! Today, a short message to close the year on! It’s not supposed to be perfect. It’s not supposed to be easy. You’re not doing it wrong. In the end, everything is going to be okay.   Reminders:    Be sure to hit subscribe so you don’t miss the start of season two in the new year! Got a comment or an idea for a segment? Email me at podcast@ericalayne.co   Connect with our community on Instagram, or join our Facebook group here!

Brené Brown says that wholeheartedness is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. Here are seven simple truths to help you on your journey to becoming your most wholehearted, authentic self.   Additional Segments:   Try-on session: A thought to help you through this unusual, pandemic holiday season Decluttering tip: Did you know that kids are more creative with fewer toys? Here’s the research.   Resources:

Does gift-shopping ever lead to you buying things for YOURSELF instead of others? (Oops!) Or just buying too much in general? The pull of sales and consumerism is strong this time of year, but I’ve got 4 crucial tips to help you stick to your list and keep yourself from overbuying. Less is more!

Today we’re mixing things up with a Q&A episode! I answer your questions on how to destress when you can’t find a way that works, how to get kids to accept having fewer toys, how much sleep I get, how much screen time my kids use—and more! Resources: The BEST holiday gift: The Authenticity Calendar Our community on Facebook Books recs: Atomic Habits & Better Than Before Comments or suggestions? Email podcast@ericalayne.co

When you picture a perfectionist, you may not think of yourself. But perfectionism takes many forms, and you might be falling into it more than you realize. This episode will help you recognize it—and release it. (Because... constantly striving for excellence is exhausting!)   Additional segments:  Try-on session: Today I encourage you to try this thought on for size: “Personality isn’t permanent.” You are capable of meaningful change. What matters most: How picturing your deathbed (yep! your deathbed) can bring your relationships into focus.   Resources:    Personality Isn't Permanent, a great book by Benjamin Hardy. The Introverted Moms Club, my Facebook group for, well, introverted moms! Connect with Erica at ericalayne.co or on Instagram @thelifeonpurposemovement If you enjoyed the show, please take three seconds to leave a rating! Thank you!

If there’s one time we’ve ever needed a peaceful holiday season, 2020 might just be it! Today I’m sharing 5 actionable steps you can take—starting today—to cut your typical holiday stress by half. Let’s go into Christmas with more CALM—and less chaos—in our heads and hearts.   Additional Segments: Permission To: A segment where I give you full permission to be the person you already are. Today, permission to (ironically) be BUSY. Decluttering Tip: The best decluttering method for when you're intimidated by all you have to get done! Resources: The Mental Clear-Out: A five-step, science-backed checklist to help you clear out your mind and destress! Download it for free here: https://ericalayne.co/mental/  The Authenticity Calendar: My page-a-day calendar of inspiring quotes & affirmations. (It makes a beautiful holiday gift!) Connect with Erica on her website or Instagram. Thanks for listening, and don’t forget to hit subscribe!

Most people talk about boundaries as something you set and then expect other people to honor. But this puts the power in someone else’s hands, and I believe it belongs in yours! Here’s how to set boundaries that YOU can honor.     Additional Segments: Permission to: A segment where I give you full permission to be who you really are. Today, permission to MESS UP. Try-on session: Today’s thought, for you “try on," will help you drop your resentment for doing more than your share of housework.   Resources: The Authenticity Calendar: My page-a-day calendar of inspiring quotes & affirmations. On sale until stock runs out! Do YOU struggle with resentment over the amount of work you do at home? Visit me on Instagram to discuss! @thelifeonpurposemovement Don’t forget to hit subscribe, so you never miss an episode!

Do you ever feel like your time isn’t your own? Like you’ve parceled it out to everyone around you and can’t seem to get any back for yourself? Today, let’s reclaim your time! No one can decide how to use it but you, and today’s minimalist strategies will help you devote your time to the things you care about most. Additional Segments:  * Permission to ____: A segment where I give you full-on permission to be who you really are. * Self-care spotlight: A morning practice to help you clear out the chatter in your mind. Resources:  * Use this list of 62 values to pin down your top 3: ericalayne.co/values * Erica’s website: https://ericalayne.co/  * Connect on Instagram: @thelifeonpurposemovement * Please take one minute to rate and review the show—it helps new listeners find us! Thank you!

If alone time feels like oxygen to you, there's nothing wrong with you. It’s HARD to care for yourself when you’re a mom (especially during a pandemic!), but your needs matter. You deserve to breathe.  Additional Segments: * Try-on session: A segment where I share a new thought for you to try on for size. Today’s thought: Losing motivation doesn’t have to mean giving up! * Decluttering tip: Today, a tip not for your physical space but for your mental landscape. Resources: * My 7-day challenge to help you THRIVE (not hide) as an introverted mom: https://ericalayne.co/talkedoutchallenge/ * The podcast’s Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/LOPwithericalayne/  * Please take a moment to rate and review the show!

Are you getting the most out of your therapy sessions? Today’s tips will help you (1) go to your sessions knowing what you want to tackle, and (2) help you capture and build on your key takeaways. (And if you’re never done therapy before, I make a case for it!)   Additional Segments:  * Off ramp: A segment where I encourage you to quit comparing your struggles to anyone else’s. Pain is pain, and empathy (including empathy for yourself!) is always the answer.   * Decluttering tip: What if you got rid of your duplicates? Resources:  * Grab my free, room-by-room decluttering guide, 100 Things to Get Rid Of—To Simplify Your Home! https://ericalayne.co/declutter/ * Got an idea for a segment? Email me at podcast@ericalayne.co  * Connect on Instagram at @thelifeonpurposemovement

Before I ventured into minimalism, if you’d asked me the best way to simplify your life, I would have said it was to cut your belongings in half… or maybe to permanently practice the one-in-one-out rule. But after having done both of those things for years, I can tell you that they help, but they’re not the real answer. Tune in for the BEST, most impactful way to simplify your life—starting today. Additional segments: * A try-on session: A segment where I suggest a new THOUGHT for you to try on for size! Today’s thought will help you lower your day-to-day stress and anxiety.  * Self-care spotlight: A book recommendation that will help you drop your resistance to REST. Resources:  * 7-day decluttering challenge: https://ericalayne.co/declutter-destress/  * Book rec: Do Nothing by Celeste Headlee https://bit.ly/32lBv7J  * Erica on Instagram: @thelifeonpurposemovement

Most days, you can handle this whole pandemic thing (or any other hard time you’re going through). But every now and then, you just. can’t. Here’s what to remember on the hard days.  Additional segments:  * Off ramp: A word far too many women use to describe themselves. (Plus, six positive replacements!) * Decluttering tip: The reason you often give up on your decluttering before you make REAL progress—and what you can do to make living clutter-free STICK. Resources: * Free worksheet to help you unpack your relationship with clutter: https://ericalayne.co/diggingdeep/ * Got an idea for a segment? Send an email! podcast@ericalayne.co  * Erica’s website: https://ericalayne.co/

If “selfless” means having no concern for yourself, is that a concept we really want to aspire to? Is it a message we want to pass on to our kids? Today I share why this word doesn’t sit well with me and what you might want to embody instead. Additional segments: * Self-care spotlight: You don’t need a whole spa day. This is why. * Introvert’s corner: Maybe accepting ALL parts of your personality will become one of the greatest gifts you give your kids.Resources:  * 7-day challenge to help you THRIVE as an introverted mom: https://ericalayne.co/talkedoutchallenge/  * Erica’s website: https://ericalayne.co/ * The podcast’s Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/LOPwithericalayne/

For so many of us, loving others comes naturally. But loving ourselves? That’s where it gets HARD. Today I share six reasons to love yourself fiercely—in hopes of convincing you that genuine self-love will change your life! Additional segments: * Off-ramp: A segment where I share something I see women doing that I’d love for you to QUIT.  * What matters most: If you woke up with lost memories and only have five questions to put your world back together, what would you ask?  Resources: * 6 reasons to love yourself (free printable): https://the-life-on-purpose-movement.ck.page/c978863caf * Email: podcast@ericalayne.co  * Erica’s website: https://ericalayne.co/

Do you ever feel trapped by the roles you play in life? I’m here to tell you that you’re allowed to have identity and purpose OUTSIDE of your roles and titles. Create a more fulfilling life for yourself by discovering your purpose. Additional segments: * What matters most: A simple but oddly effective antidote to stress and overwhelm. * Decluttering tip: Let go of the things that are cluttering up your home, head, and heart. Today’s tip is the perfect place to start! Resources: * 21 questions to discover your purpose (free worksheet): https://ericalayne.co/purpose/ * 7-day decluttering challenge: https://ericalayne.co/declutter-destress/ * Erica’s website: https://ericalayne.co/ * Erica on Instagram:  @thelifeonpurposemovement

I distinctly remember the moment I decided it was all TOO MUCH. Too many toys to pick up off the living room floor. Too many commitments to people who weren’t even in my immediate circle. Too many phone calls to make and errands to run… Too much.   After that moment, I donated most of what our family owned. I decided to focus my energy on the things that matter most to me, and I let go of almost everything else.   Once I let go, I discovered so much more JOY. Let’s get this for you too!   Listen to this trailer to learn about what I’ve got in store for you, and please be sure to hit the SUBSCRIBE button in your podcast app so you never miss an episode!   And remember—You’re doing the best you can with what you have, and it is enough.   Connect with Erica at ericalayne.co/ or on Instagram at www.instagram.com/thelifeonpurposemovement/