Real Life Mentoring

Today Chris and Christina tackle the complex topic of compassion fatigue.What is it?What are the signs you have it?Who gets it?What leads to it?How do you cope with it?How can you keep from falling into it?This two part series will answer all those questions and more!References from today's episode:Canadian Medical Association ArticleBoys and Girls Clubs of America ArticleToday's sponsor: Lori E Kenney, CPAProfessional CPA advice for individuals or small businesses. If you're looking for a blend of personalized attention and professional experience, you've come to the right place. Working with them is the best thing you can do for your small business!Loriekenneycpa.com

Today Chris and Christina tackle the complex topic of compassion fatigue. What is it? What are the signs you have it? Who gets it? What leads to it? How do you cope with it? How can you keep from falling into it? This two part series will answer all those questions and more!References from today's episode:Canadian Medical Association ArticleBoys and Girls Clubs of America ArticleToday's sponsor: Lori E Kenney, CPAProfessional CPA advice for individuals or small businesses. If you're looking for a blend of personalized attention and professional experience, you've come to the right place. Working with them is the best thing you can do for your small business!Loriekenneycpa.com

We've all got needs. We should first handle our needs by recognizing we have them! There's no shame in knowing what your needs are - especially when it relates to being in healthy relationships with others.Today's podcast is inspired by the organization Relational Values (relationalvalues.com). They empower people to experience and reproduce great relationships!Knowing your relational needs helps you:Communicate your needs.Know how to communicate with others.Know how to set healthy boundaries.Know where you are "missing" someone in the area of needs.According to Relational Values, there are ten relational needs:Acceptance, Affection, Appreciation, Approval, Attention, Comfort, Encouragement, Respect, Security, Support.To take the relational needs assessment that Chris and Christina talked about today, go to The Relational Values website.You will then be prompted to an appropriate assessment tool. Once you've completed the assessment, you may want to do further digging into your top needs by yet another assessment that you will be prompted to take following the instructions provided.Today's Sponsor: https://commercialbrick.com/

Today concludes part three of the series: Image of a Mentor. Today's image: soldier.In the Bible, soldiers are often seen as symbols of authority, discipline and power They are also associated with faith, obedience and spiritual warfare.As a soldier, a mentor helps a mentee identify their enemies such as an unhealthy mindset about themselves or others. Giving them tools to fight the enemy such as addictions, insecurity and/or troubled relationships.As Chris and Christina wrap up this series, let's take a look at 2 Timothy 2:3-7 has to say about our images of mentors:"Endure suffering along with me, as a good soldier of Christ Jesus. Soldiers don't get tied up in the affairs of civilian life, for then they cannot please the officer who enlisted them. And athletes cannot win the prize unless they follow the rules. And hardworking farmers should be the first to enjoy the fruit of their labor. Think about what I am saying. The Lord will help you understand all these things."

Today continues the images of a mentor as Chris and Christina discuss the traits of an athlete and compare them to a mentor.An athlete, according to Google, is most commonly a person who competes in one or more sports involving physical strength, speed, power or endurance.Some characteristics of an athlete that can be compared to that of a mentor include:Being intrinsically motivatedEndurance and perseveranceSpecial trainingKnowing when to recoverThe importance of exhibiting character traits of an athlete as a mentor helps mentees determine goals and helps them with a plan to reach those goals.If you like today's content, consider becoming a financial donor. Go to our website: fahrenheitmentoring.org, click on the podcast tab and select donate.Sponsor for today's show: Commercial Brick . For more information, please click here

Often visual images help us picture concepts in more concrete forms. Today, Chris and Christina will introduce a three part series of images to help form a picture of a mentor: farmer, athlete, soldier.According to google, a farmer's responsibilities can vary depending on their specialty. The same is definitely true of a mentor.Some characteristics of a farmer:Hard physical workpatienceconsistentfocusChris and Christina also discuss the life cycle of a farmer and how these same concepts apply to mentors.If you like today's content, consider becoming a financial donor. Go to our website: fahrenheitmentoring.org, click on the podcast tab and select donate.Sponsor for today's show: Commercial Brick . For more information, please click here

Mentoring should be personal, practical, meaningful and effective. That's the lens in which Chris and Christina look through one-on-one mentoring.Today, guest Davey Blackburn shares his story through pain and suffering and how it led to a beautiful, healing and redeeming story of God's faithfulness.In 2015, Davey lost his wife, Amanda of 7 years and his unborn baby in a random shooting spree in his neighborhood. Serving God through being church planters and ticking off all the boxes of doing the "right" things, Davey never suspected his life would unravel into such a heap of pain.And that's where God began to write a new story. In the middle of his world being turned upside down, Davey found himself a single father trying to be a ministry leader while in the middle of grief and shock.Fast forward to today. Davey now leads a ministry called, Nothing is Wasted.The mission of Nothing is Wasted is to meet people in their pain and providing a pathway through.Chris, Christina and Davey will talk about the mystery of suffering and why it's important God's people talk about suffering, its role and how it can shape us to be more like Christ.Davey and his wife, Kristi live in Indiana with their children and lead Nothing is Wasted. To find out more about the ministry, book, podcast and other invaluable resources, check out the website: nothingiswated.com

The fuel for today's podcast is based on the initial viewing of Beyond Weightloss, a documentary hosted by Keith Kline.Are you like most of us who find it difficult to get and stay motivated? In today's episode, Chris and Christina discuss the topic of motivation.Did you know there are three levels of motivation:Level One: Fear based motivation. This gets your attention, may elicit immediate change but will not be long lastingLevel Two: Feedback based motivation. Progress is dependent on the positive feedback from others and spurs future growth.Level Three: Intrinsic based motivation. Innate, inborn, comes from within that results in long lasting change.When looking at what Chris and Christina call The Six Areas (physical, mental, emotional, relational, spiritual, professional or educational) it is a beneficial mentoring tool to ask a mentee to evaluate their motivation level for each of the Six. Addressing your current motivational level helps you to truthfully assess where you are and how to move forward.Today's episode has been brought to you by Commercial Brick. A family owned business since 1975, Commercial Brick offers quality products and are passionate about what they do and are dedicated to manufacturing quality brick.

As Chris and Christina jump into a new year, they suggest taking some time to look back. In looking back, what are some things you need to grieve? In looking back, what are some things you need to celebrate?In every transition, this is a great exercise to engage not just yourself but a mentee. Taking time to grieve loss while at the same time to celebrate success is a worthwhile task.Chris and Christina are quick to acknowledge this concept of grieving and celebrating have been taken from JennieAllen.Jennie Allen is a best-selling Christian author, podcaster and Bible study teacher. Each year, she provides a free Dream Guide that helps you wrap up the following year. To learn more about the Dream Guide, click the link above.The challenge for this episode is to take the time to look back, grieve and celebrate!

Over the years, Christina has found that there seems to be reoccurring themes that come up when mentoring. Often, mentors give advice, ask questions, make observations and generalize to help a mentee see more clearly. This is exactly what today's episode reveals. Christina walks us through the "top 10" pieces of advice, questions, observations and generalizations that she has given to women or received from women.Today's insights include ..... recover well after giving to others.... set healthy boundaries.... ask the Holy Spirit what He thinks about your situation.Despite these being insights for women from women, many of these are universally applicable for anyone!We'd like to thank today's sponsor, Commercial Brick. A family owned business since 1975, they are passionate about what they do and are dedicated to manufacturing quality brick. For more information, contact: commericalbrick.com

Knowing our self-worth begins from feeling cared for and nurtured by our parents. Knowing our self-worth and being genuinely confident does not just happen it must be shown, talk about and lived out. That's where a good mentor comes in!Today, Chris and Christina jump into the topic of self-worth. Where does it come from? How does it get distorted? What role does social media and advertising play? Do our childhood's play a part?A good mentor can help boost low self-worth. Using God's Word and encouraging mentees to apply the truth of scripture is an invaluable service to helping self-worth!Today's podcast is brought to you by Commercial Brick. A family owned business since 1975, Commercial Brick is passionate about what they do and are dedicated to manufacturing quality brick. Check them out: commercialbrick.com

You can grow up in the same household and yet have differing perspectives. How does that happen? Today we will find out how that happened in the Elledge household.Kim Cary joins Chris and Christina as they discuss the stories that siblings share. Kim is the youngest sister of the Elledge family in which Chris is the oldest brother. Growing up in poverty, dysfunction and never really communicating, Chris and Kim share stories about growing up.What was it like growing up as the youngest? How did it feel to not have "guard rails" to know how to navigate life?Did you feel supported by your siblings?What did it feel like when all the older siblings left for college?Kim and Chris will jump into these conversations and reveal their unique experience as they share their sibling story.Today's episode is brought to you by Commercial Brick. Commercial Brick is a family owned company, passionate about what they do and are dedicated to manufacturing quality brick. To find out more, contact them: commercialbrick.com

Kim Cary returns to talk about how God gave her the most incredible "R" words during one of the most difficult seasons she's experienced. In today's interview, Chris and Christina dive into how Kim received these powerful words.Release was the first word, given during her difficult journey of caring for her aging mother. Rest followed a year later as she knew rest was exactly what she needed as she faced a taxing job and was dealing with the effects of high stress. Renew came a year later after sitting in a workshop as a reminder that until she fully released things into God's hands, rested her body and mind, He could not renew her. And finally, after making a decision to retire from her career in higher education after 30 years, reveal was the final "r" word that made it's way into her life.Kim shares her journey not just with the four "r" words that have impacted her life in the last few years but also the journey those words has taken her on with her relationship with God.Today's episode is brought to you by Commercial Brick. Commercial Brick is a family owned company who is passionate about what they do and are dedicated to manufacturing quality brick. For information, contact: commercialbrick.com

When most men come to church, they are searching for more than a worship service. They are hoping for a genuine connection with other men where they can be vulnerable and transparent. When men connect at a heart level, they will most likely want to be a part of the church and will, as a result, lead their family in that involvement.This is the basic idea that Chris leads with in today's episode. Men, within the walls of the church, are struggling. The challenge is not to condemn the church but to challenge men within it to reach out and become a safe person for another man.Common struggles men are facing:misunderstanding manhood, social anxiety, depression, lust, alcoholism, drug use, sexual identity, fear, work stress, no practical application for the Bible, misunderstanding God.If you would are a man who can relate, reach out to a safe person. If you are man who can be that safe person, do it! There is power in men connecting.Today's sponsor: Lorie E Kenney, CPA firm. loriekenneycpa.com

Today, Chris and Christina continue to discuss "The Big Six", a podcast episode of Adam Young's The Place We Find Ourselves.In his episode, The Big Six, Adam talks about the way children's brains development based upon the level of care and kindness in the family environment. The "Big Six" are the six things you needed from your parents:AttunementResponsivenessEngagementAbility to Regulate Your AffectAbility to Handle Your Big EmotionsWillingness to Repair HarmShow sponsor: Lori E Kenney CPA Firm. (loriekenney.com)Podcast: The Place We Find Ourselves by Adam Young; The Big Six, Episode 159, airdate July 15, 2024.Adam Young (licensed clinical social worker with a master degree in social work (Virginia Commonwealth University) and Divinity (Emory University), host of podcast The Place We Find Ourselves and Fellow with The Allender Center).

Today, Chris and Christina discuss a recent podcast hosted by Adam Young (licensed clinical social worker with a master degree in social work (Virginia Commonwealth University) and Divinity (Emory University), host of podcast The Place We Find Ourselves and Fellow with The Allender Center).In his episode, The Big Six, Adam talks about the way children's brains development based upon the level of care and kindness in the family environment. The "Big Six" are the six things you needed from your parents:AttunementResponsivenessEngagementAbility to Regulate Your AffectAbility to Handle Your Big EmotionsWillingness to Repair HarmPart one will focus on the first three of the "Big Six". Chris and Christina will define and give examples of each one.Show sponsor: Lori E Kenney CPA Firm. (loriekenney.com)Podcast: The Place We Find Ourselves by Adam Young; The Big Six, Episode 159, airdate July 15, 2024.

Integrity builds trust. Trust is essential for good relationships. At the end of the day, this podcast is all about relationships.Today, Chris and Christina talk about the disease of partial integrity.Disease: illness, sickness, infection, ailments, disorder, afflictionWe don't allow a disease to stay in our bodies. If you have an illness, the doctor asks for your symptoms. Just like a doctor may ask for symptoms, what are the "symptoms", your proof, that you are a person of integrity?In today's discussion, you will be able to assess your level of integrity, discover some consequences of not being a person of integrity as well as hear some practical ways you can practice integrity.Proverbs 10:9 "He walks in integrity walks securely, but he who perverts his way will be found out."Sponsor of today's show: Commercial Brick (commercialbrick.com)

No script! Today, Chris and Christina recount their spontaneous thoughts about the power of connection.Why do we connect?How do we connect?Where do we connect?If you have a best friend, co-worker, spouse or children it is important to connect. The concept of connecting well with others get explored today in depth!Sponsor for today's show: Commerical Brick (commercialbrick.com)

Today, Chris and Micheal pick back up with their talk about the loss and grief they have experienced through death of a loved one as well as the benefits of talking about death, the reason why we don't talk about death, and why as a trusted Mentor, you could have the privilege of initiating one the most important conversations with others.At Fahrenheit: Real Life Mentoring, we care about and engage the whole person. We are spiritual, physical, mental, emotional, relational, and professional/educational.Jesus talked about his own death repeatedly. He didn't run from the fact that his life would be cut short or try to hide that from his followers. He talked openly about it and I believe it helped him stay focused on what He was here to do and not get distracted by the crowds or temporary celebrations.If Jesus talked about death, we think we should, too! Today Chris talks with Micheal Gerecke on the topic of death, perspective and real life. They mention the book by author Micheal Hebb, Let's Talk About Death Over Dinner which spurred part one of this two part discussion.Resources:Let's Talk About Death Over Dinner, Micheal Hebb, Hachette Go; Reprint edition (February 9, 2021).

At Fahrenheit: Real Life Mentoring, we care about and engage the whole person. We are spiritual, physical, mental, emotional, relational, and professional/educational.Jesus talked about his own death repeatedly. He didn't run from the fact that his life would be cut short or try to hide that from his followers. He talked openly about it and I believe it helped him stay focused on what He was here to do and not get distracted by the crowds or temporary celebrations. If Jesus talked about death, we think we should, too! Today Chris talks with Micheal Gerecke on the topic of death, perspective and real life. They mention the book by author Micheal Hebb, Let's Talk About Death Over Dinner which spurred part one of this two part discussion.Today, Chris and Micheal will talk about the loss and grief they have experienced through death of a loved one as well as the benefits of talking about death, the reason why we don't talk about death, and why as a trusted Mentor, you could have the privilege of initiating one the most important conversations with others.Resources:Let's Talk About Death Over Dinner, Micheal Hebb, Hachette Go; Reprint edition (February 9, 2021).

Today, Nathan Brewer joins Chris and Christina once again to discuss The Working Genius. The Working Genius Model is the fastest way to find out what kind of work brings you joy and energy and the simplest way to maximize your team's productivity.In today's podcast, Nathan will give a short review based on the past two episodes. Then he will go into the dynamics of using The Working Genius in marriage, other relationships and teams.If you want to learn more, reach out to Nathan.Contact Nathan: Nathan@workinggenius.euWebsite: https://workinggenius.euAnd, as an added bonus, the first 3 listeners that share this episode on their social media platforms will receive a 33% discount on an online workshop for their team!

Today, Chris and Christina continue the conversation with Nathan Brewer on The Working Genius. The Working Genius Model is the fastest way to find out what kind of work brings you joy and energy and the simplest way to maximize your team's productivity.The Working Genius can bring clarity to you in the workplace as you discover how you best operate in and how your "genius" brings you joy in your work.In part two, Nathan will provide you with a short review of The Working Genius and then take a deep dive into each of the six areas: • Wonder• Invention• Discernment• Galvanizing• Enablement• TenacityAfter listening, if you find this intriguing and want to know how you can get started then Check out https://workinggenius.euContact Nathan: Nathan@workinggenius.euBonus: The first 2 listeners: 20% off 2-hour online Workshop for your team

Today, Nathan Brewer joins Chris and Christina once again to discuss The Working Genius. The Working Genius Model is the fastest way to find out what kind of work brings you joy and energy and the simplest way to maximize your team's productivity.Today kicks off a three-part series in which Nathan will help you, the listener, understand how The Working Genius can bring clarity to you in the workplace as you discover how you best operate in and how your "genius" brings you joy in your work. The 6 types of working geniuses have significant implications for not only teams but also families and other relationships.In today's podcast, Nathan will give an overview of the types and provide you with information on how you can learn more.Contact Nathan: Nathan@workinggenius.euWebsite: https://workinggenius.euBonus for Real Life Mentoring listeners: $10 off Working Genius Assessment + Online Coaching Session (50 minutes)

Words are powerful. We've all been on the receiving end of words that built us up or unfortunately tore us down. But how many times has a conversation changed your life?Today Chris and Christina take a look at how a conversation has the power to potentially change your life. They give some examples from their own lives of conversations that were used to impact the trajectory of their lives as well as take a look at a recent article in Psychology Today.Link:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/shift-mind/201803/do-you-have-real-conversations

The foundation of family is important. Building tools that keep these relationships healthy takes intentional effort over time.By way of what NOT to do, today Chris and Christina talk about the top 12 ways that choosing these repeated behaviors could potentially damage the relationships within your family.If you enjoy the content that Real Life Mentoring puts out each week, consider becoming a donor. By donating to the podcast, you are insuring the continued real life tools for real life mentors!https://www.fahrenheitmentoring.org/podcasts

Today Chris and Christina continue their conversation with Shannon Irwin. Picking up from the last weeks episode in which Shannon talks about her own journey with mentoring, today she talks about her role in the public school system. In her role as New Teacher Liaison, Shannon has the opportunity to mentor Mentor Teachers. She talks about how mentoring looks like on the job, what benefits are provided when you mentor on the job and some practical steps you can take if you want to be a mentor in the workplace.If today's episode is helpful, like, subscribe and share!If you would like to contribute to this kind of content, please visit our website: fahrenheitmentoring.org and click on the "podcast" tab!

In today's episode, Chris and Christina interview Shannon Irwin. Shannon is a wife, mother, soon to be mother-in-law, school teacher and mentor. She candidly shares how not having a mentor in her early years affected her. She also talks about the role mentors played in her life to give her tools that have benefited her today. You won't want to miss today's interview on Shannon's journey with mentoring!

Amy Whitson joins Chris and Christina today for part two of talking about learning styles. Why talk about learning styles on a mentoring podcast? Knowing more about another person - including their learning style - is an invaluable deposit into healthy relationships. Amy Whitson is an educator with over 20 years experience. Amy currently serves as the Culture and Communication Coordinator at Jasco Products linkedin.com/in/amy-whitson-9a2466268.In part one, Chris and Christina explore the learning styles:https://vark-learn.com/the-vark-questionnaire/If you'd like to know more about The Five Love Languages referred to in today's episode:https://www.amazon.com/s?k=dr+gary+chapman+5+love+languages&hvadid=174238047079&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=1024290&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=14736960190825395674&hvtargid=kwd-44793353963&tag=googhydr-20&ref=pd_sl_2caygymrfz_eIf you liked today's podcast, like and subscribe!

Amy Whitson joins Chris and Christina today in this two-part series about learning styles. Why talk about learning styles on a mentoring podcast? Knowing more about another person - including their learning style - is an invaluable deposit into healthy relationships. Amy Whitson is an educator with over 20 years experience. Amy currently serves as the Culture and Communication Coordinator at Jasco Products linkedin.com/in/amy-whitson-9a2466268.In part one, Chris and Christina explore the learning styles:https://vark-learn.com/the-vark-questionnaire/If you'd like to know more about The Five Love Languages referred to in today's episode:https://www.amazon.com/s?k=dr+gary+chapman+5+love+languages&hvadid=174238047079&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=1024290&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=14736960190825395674&hvtargid=kwd-44793353963&tag=googhydr-20&ref=pd_sl_2caygymrfz_eIf you liked today's podcast, like and subscribe!

Personalities, past experiences and body language ... all of these topics are things to consider in better understanding others. Understanding others help mentors and mentees take their relationships deeper. Today Chris and Christina discuss part two of the complexities of how to better understand others. Taking the time to understand those in your life is a worthwhile undertaking that can deeply affect the relationship for the better.Topics Chris and Christina will unpack today are understanding that ...... body language helps you understand people.... social skills and social anxiety need to be discussed.... talking about the uncomfortable.This conversation is part of the mentor workshop content that YOU can host! Contact Fahrenheit: Real Life Mentoring to find out how.Like and subscribe, share the podcast and reach out for more information!

Personalities, past experiences and body language ... all of these topics are things to consider in better understanding others. Understanding others help mentors and mentees take their relationships deeper. Today Chris and Christina discuss the complexities of how to better understand others. Taking the time to understand those in your life is a worthwhile undertaking that can deeply affect the relationship for the better.Topics Chris and Christina will unpack today are understanding that ...... words and actions don't always tell the same story.... personalities matter.... pain from the past makes an impact.... cultural differences need to be considered.... generational differences are real.... open-ended questions are a great way to find out more information!This conversation is part of the mentor workshop content that YOU can host! Contact Fahrenheit: Real Life Mentoring to find out how.Like and subscribe, share the podcast and reach out for more information!

What would you like to talk about if you had a trusted mentor? How long do you meet with a mentee? What tools do you use with a mentee? These are common questions when talking about a mentor/mentee relationship.In part two of How Do You Mentor, Chris and Christina answer these and other frequently asked questions when it comes to the mentor/mentee relationship.If you are interested in how to host a mentoring workshop in your area, reach out to them! chris@fahrenheitmentoring.orgchristina@fahrenheitmentoring.orgPlease like and subscribe! If you want more information, would like to donate to the podcast or have any other questions, reach out! Fahrenheitmentoring.org

What does it take to be a mentor? It might be easier to talk about what it doesn't take to be a mentor. It doesn't take a lot of time, professional experience or training. What it does take is a desire to invest in another person.Today's discussion is additional content that can be found in the Fahrenheit: Real Life Mentoring Workshop, Session Four. In today's subject about how to mentor, Chris and Christina talk about what it takes to begin the mentoring adventure with another person.Again, this is great supplemental content to the mentoring workshop offered by Fahrenheit: Real Life Mentoring. If you would like to attend or host your own workshop for your organization, contact Fahrenheit: Real Life Mentoring (fahrenheitmentoring.org).

What is a mentor? What does it take to be a mentor? Today Chris and Christina will take an in-depth look into what it really takes to be a good mentor. It doesn't take professional training. It doesn't take a special skill set. It does take intentionality and a desire to see authentic connection with another person. YOU can be a mentor if you have your own challenges. YOU can be a mentor if you have experienced hard things. YOU can be a mentor. It just takes real people getting involved in the lives of other real people. We promise, you can be effective with just a few tools and the goal of making an impact.If you would like to donate toward ongoing mentoring content, check out our website!This content is part of a workshop training: A Guide to Mentoring (Session Three ). To find out how you can join an upcoming workshop or help launch one for your organization or group, contact Chris or Christina via email.chris@fahrenheitmentoring.orgchristina@farenheitmentoring.org

Why mentoring? Chris and Christina continue the ongoing conversation centered around the reasons mentoring is a good idea! If this podcast is helpful to you, would you "like" and "subscribe"? This way, you get up-to-date alerts on when a podcast with an awesome mentoring topic is released! And, share this with someone who is mentoring! We love developing tools for others to help impact lives through the power of mentoring!If you would like to donate toward ongoing mentoring content, check out our website!

Why mentoring? What is the motivation for jumping into a mentoring relationship? Chris and Christina examine this question in this two part series.Fact: relationships can be exciting, enjoyable and bring fulfillment.Also a fact: relationships can bring sadness, frustration and hurt.This is how relationships work. But, investing in a mentoring relationship is worth it!After over 30 years of working with people, Chris and Christina find that most people want to connect. They want to have an authentic relationship where they feel seen and heard. That is possible in a healthy mentoring relationship and certainly worth any time investment.

What is mentoring?Chris and Christina get back to the basics today by talking about some of the most fundamental elements of mentoring. They explore a few concepts and give practical illustrations to help you get a visual of what mentoring is all about.As they teach mentoring workshops, most of the content is addressed but not to the depth that they will talk about each component of mentoring in today's episode. You get the benefit of a up close and personal "workshop" that takes you deeper into the wonderful world of mentoring.Specifically:Your life has the potential to impact others.Mentoring can lead to life-changing relationships.Tools and techniques can build effective mentors.Mentoring has the potential to lead to relationship based discipleship that is practical, personal, meaningful and effective.You'll want to listen as they dive into the topic of mentoring.

In today's episode, Chris and Christina take an in depth and personal look into the life of Carl Gulley. Carl is a husband, father, pastor and speaker who is learning to embrace living with a non anxious presence. Alongside you, the listener, find out how Carl emerged from his family of origin with an alcoholic father and a saint of a mother into what he currently calls a season of restoration.You will see the powerful impact of mentoring in his life and how one mentor changed the trajectory of his family by choosing to pour her life into the life of his Mom. Her influence laid the foundation for not only Carl to seek our mentors throughout his own life but also ensure his children were supported by mentors.Carl discusses the last few years of his life referring to them as the dark knight of the soul. Walking with him were ministry mentors who knocked the question marks off from over his head. These mentors weren't just impressed with his accomplishments. They knew him and called out his identity.Carol's authentic interview is a beautiful story of restoration and reconciliation.Resources:Rhythms of a Disciple: A non anxious presence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tplz7H0iIXw&t=1835sThe Cure: What if God isn't who you think He is and neither are you?; Bill Thrall, Bruce McNicol, John S. Lynch, Navpress, 2011.Contact Carl:https://www.linkedin.com/in/carl-gulley-930497249/

Just why is mentoring important? How does a mentor help a mentee? Today Chris and Christina will explore the answers to those questions. They will take a deep dive into the numerous benefits of mentoring. They will share from their own experiences how mentoring has helped shape them.

Find out how you can gain some tools for mentoring through a Fahrenheit: Real Life Mentoring workshop! Chris and Christina give an overview of what a mentoring workshop looks like and how you can get involved. Don't live in the Oklahoma City, Ok area? Not a problem. You can host an online workshop for your organization. Find out more by contacting Chris (chris@fahrenheitmentoring.org) or Christina (christina@fahrenheitmentoring.org), register for an upcoming workshop at cbmcok.com/events.

When you ask real questions, the answers can change your life. Let's normalize questions! Questions need to become part of our "normal". In today's episode, Chris and Christina discuss how questions can be used to help strengthen a mentor/mentee relationship. Why don't we ask them, how do we ask them and why should we ask them? Find out today!

Today, Chris and Christina finish The Six Areas. Part two of the emotional component of a person wraps up with today's discussion.

Chris and Christina will continue the six areas discussion, focussing on emotions. Today's discussion will shed some light into the very complicated world of emotions. Emotions include feelings and mood and are a vital part of a persons life. How do they affect us for the positive or negative? What happens when they are not in balance?Resources:Dr. Caroline Leaf https://drleaf.com/Here's a great discussion starter:How do you rate yourself emotionally on a scale of 1 to 10?Why did you give yourself that rating?What is your vision for your future with you emotional life? What would it take to move that number forward?What is a natural next step you can take?

"The Six Areas" discussion continues as Chris and Christina dive into the topic of the professional/educational area. Real life mentoring looks at real life. Having a mentor discuss the areas of education is needed and necessary. Having a mentor discuss the issues, both good and bad, one the job helps a mentee process their profession. Each of the six areas affect the others. Start talking with your mentor about real life ... all of it!

Picking back up with the six areas, Chris and Christina jump back in with their discussion on relationships. Today, they will explore the effects of social media on relationships. The pitfalls, the advantages, it's all game for today's podcast. There is a generational gap that mentors need to be informed about in the area of social media. This episode will give you some tools to know what they are and how to build healthy relationships around them.

Chris and Christina jump back into "The Six Areas". Today they explore the area of relationships. How do relationships affect us positively and negatively? How do you grow in the areas of relationships? In this two part series, you will find what balance looks like in relationships and how to develop them when they are not.

In today's episode, Chris and Christina continue the discussion about "the six areas", focusing on the mental. How do we stay mentally healthy? How do we stay engaged mentally? What does it mean to renew your mind? These are the topics they tackle today. You'll gain some new perspective as you examine your own mental aspect.Here's a practical tool to use when talking about the mental with a mentee:How do you rate your mental status on a scale from 1 to 10?Why did you give yourself that rating?What is your vision for your future with your mental? What would it take to move that number forward?What is a natural next step you can take?Resources:National Alliance for Mental Health, 1-800-950-6264Text "helpline" to 62640Podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves with Adam Young CounselingPodcast, Being Known with Curt Thompson, MD

Today's episode is a two part series on the mental health component that makes up a person. In today's episode, Chris and Christina begin their discussion about "the six areas", focusing on the mental. How do we stay mentally healthy? How do we stay engaged mentally? What does it mean to renew your mind? These are the topics they tackle today. You'll gain some new perspective as you examine your own mental aspect.Here's a practical tool to use when talking about the mental with a mentee:How do you rate your mental status on a scale from 1 to 10?Why did you give yourself that rating?What is your vision for your future with your mental? What would it take to move that number forward?What is a natural next step you can take?Resources:National Alliance for Mental Health, 1-800-950-6264Text "helpline" to 62640Podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves with Adam Young CounselingPodcast, Being Known with Curt Thompson, MD

Because Christmas only comes once a year, Chris and Christina give you some practical tips to help you engage your heart in this season. There are plenty of things to distract you from the central theme of Christmas. However, God is always with us, Acknowledging His presence during this season really takes some intentionality. They will help you take some time to really explore how this Christmas could be a time you experience the presence of God in a new way.To receive the Advent book Christina has written, contact us via email:christina@fahrenheitmentoring.org

Today's guest, Todd Vinson, unpacks a tool called "The Communication Code". You will discover the importance of clear communication. That sounds easy but how often do we find ourselves being misunderstood? Through the five areas of "The Communication Code" you will begin to better navigate not only how to communicate more effectively but also how to adjust when you aren't!For more information and to connect with Todd:Todd Vinson, linkedin.com/in/j-todd-vinson-81246b32

Chris and Christina begin a new series on "The Six Areas". The Six Areas are the six components that comprise a person: physical, mental, relational, emotion, spiritual, professional/education. Why talk about them? Because in mentoring, the goal is to talk about all aspects of a person. When one of those six areas need more attention than others, imbalance occurs. When imbalance occurs, we have the potential to have difficulty in life. Understanding each component and how to talk about them lead to good mentoring! Enjoy today's kick off to the new series: The Six Areas.Practical tool to use when talking about the mental:How do you rate your mental status on a scale from 1 to 10?Why did you give yourself that rating?What would it take to move that number forward?What is a logical next step you can take?