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Latest podcast episodes about place we find ourselves

Embodied Faith: on Relational Neuroscience, Spiritual Formation, and Faith
111 Healing Power of Story: Making Sense of Your Life (with Adam Young)

Embodied Faith: on Relational Neuroscience, Spiritual Formation, and Faith

Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2025 31:25 Transcription Available


Sometimes, when you feel stuck, and overwhelmed, you don't need more and better information. Sometimes you need to engage your story, to better understand how the past influences the present. That's what we talk about with Adam Young. Adam Young is a therapist who focuses on trauma and abuse, and the host of The Place We Find Ourselves podcast. He currently serves as a Fellow and Instructor at The Allender Center.  Adam is the author of Make Sense of Your Story: Why Engaging Your Story with Kindness Changes Everything.Also, check out his mini-conference hosted each month. Adam explains the concept of story work as a therapeutic and spiritual practice that helps individuals understand how their past experiences shape their present. He emphasizes the importance of approaching one's story with kindness and the role of attachment, neuroscience, and spirituality in the healing process. They also delve into the significance of exploring familial, cultural, and spiritual narratives to achieve wholeness and integration, or 'Shalom.' Additionally, Adam provides insights into addressing common resistance to story work and the importance of leaders engaging in this process to foster supportive community environments. He concludes by sharing information about his ongoing mini-conference series aimed at helping individuals delve deeper into their stories.Stay Connected: Check out our Attaching to God 6-Week Learning Cohort. Join the Embodied Faith community to stay connected and get posts, episodes, & resources. Support the podcast with a one-time or regular gift (to keep this ad-free without breaking the Holsclaw's bank).

Restoring the Soul with Michael John Cusick
Episode 345 - Adam Young, "Making Sense of Your Story: Healing and Freedom from Trauma"

Restoring the Soul with Michael John Cusick

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2025 53:00 Transcription Available


Welcome to another episode of Restoring the Soul with Michael John Cusick. In today's conversation, Michael sits down with Adam Young—trauma therapist, host of The Place We Find Ourselves podcast, and author of the brand new book, Make Sense of Your Story. Together, they explore the profound journey of making sense of the stories that shape our lives, diving into how our earliest experiences continue to form our hearts, minds, and relationships well into adulthood.From raw personal anecdotes to reflections on faith and neuroscience, Adam and Michael unpack why true healing requires curiosity, kindness, and courage to examine the ground-level scenes that haunt or shape us. They tackle the exhaustion that comes from running from our pain, the importance of kindness toward our past selves, and how our earliest attachments impact not only our relationships with others but our connection to God.This episode is an honest and vulnerable exploration of pain, redemption, and beauty in embracing our full stories. Whether you're deeply familiar with story work or just beginning to question how your past affects your present, you'll find encouragement, practical wisdom, and hope here.ENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Flying Free
What Do We Do About Wicked People? [318]

Flying Free

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 11, 2025 35:44


Get a one-week trial of Flying Free for only $1 when you go to flyingfreetrial.com! In today's episode, I explore the difficult and often shocking realization that wickedness exists in the world—and sometimes within our closest relationships. Responding to a listener's inquiry and using insights from Adam Young's “The Place We Find Ourselves” podcast, we'll unpack the biblical definition of wickedness and discuss how it operates. I'll also share personal experiences and strategies for recognizing and dealing with destructive individuals.Key Takeaways:The Bible differentiates between normal and wicked people. Understanding these distinctions helps us navigate relationships wisely.Wicked individuals attack and blame others when confronted with their harmful actions.Evil individuals actively seek to destroy and humiliate their targets.A person's true nature is revealed in difficult situations, especially when they are confronted about their harmful behavior.Healing from exposure to wicked or evil individuals is a lifelong process, but it becomes possible when we remove ourselves from the toxic environment.Read the show notes and/or ask Natalie a question hereRelated Resources:Check out Episode 93 of “The Place We Find Ourselves” podcast with Adam Young.Read the article I mentioned, “Why Foolproofing Your Life Will Save Your Life,” and then grab Jan Silvious' book, Foolproofing Your Life.Some related Flying Free Podcast episodes you may enjoy: “What Do You Do If You're Married to a Fool?” and “What are the Biblical Grounds for Divorce? (And Other Questions!)” 

Sparking Wholeness
Episode 280: How to Make Sense of Your Story and Find Wholeness with Adam Young

Sparking Wholeness

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 11, 2025 41:30


Adam Young is a trauma therapist and the host of The Place We Find Ourselves podcast. He is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with master's degrees in social work and divinity. Adam regularly speaks at conferences and currently serves as an instructor and facilitator with The Allender Center in addition to his private practice. He lives in Fort Collins, Colorado, with his wife and two children. His new book, Make Sense of Your Story, is available now. Key Topics: - What it means to engage in “story work” and why it matters - How to feel your unfelt feelings - The concept of your body as a “truth-teller” and how not to dismiss the information it gives you - How to dig into what your body is telling you - Why Christians are uncomfortable with the idea of listening to their bodies - The problem with minimizing and spiritualizing your story - Understanding your story with God - Moving towards shame instead of away from it - How making sense of your story impacts all your relationships Learn more about Adam at https://adamyoungcounseling.com/ and buy his new book wherever books are sold. Get Erin's FREE Food is Mood Guide here: https://mailchi.mp/055b20577ebc/food-is-mood-guide

Shifting Culture
Ep. 275 Adam Young - Make Sense of Your Story

Shifting Culture

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2025 55:14 Transcription Available


Today, we dive into the power of reckoning with our personal stories - the formative experiences and wounds from our past that shape who we are today, often in ways we don't fully understand. My guest, Adam Young, has spent years helping people make sense of their stories, to find freedom and wholeness. As Adam shares, the truth is, our past isn't just the past - it's deeply woven into our present. The feelings, fears, and patterns we carry from childhood can profoundly impact our relationships, our mental health, even our sense of calling. But the good news is, our brains have an incredible capacity for change and integration. Through curiosity, kindness, and the support of others, we can begin to uncover the hidden narratives that have been subtly steering the course of our lives. And in doing so, we open the door to a deeper, truer version of ourselves - one that can finally step into the unique purpose we were made for. This is a conversation about the transformative power of reckoning with our stories, no matter how messy or painful they may be. It's about finding the courage to face our past, so we can step more fully into our future. So join us as we make sense of our stories. Adam Young is a therapist who focuses on trauma and abuse, and the host of The Place We Find Ourselves podcast. Adam is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with a Master degree in Social Work (Virginia Commonwealth University) and Divinity (Emory University). Adam is the author of Make Sense of Your Story: Why Engaging Your Story with Kindness Changes Everything. He currently serves as a Fellow and Instructor at The Allender Center. Adam lives in Fort Collins, CO, with his wife and two children.Adam's Book:Make Sense of Your StoryAdam's Recommendations:The Prophetic ImaginationGenesis: InterpretationSubscribe to Our Substack: Shifting CultureConnect with Joshua: jjohnson@allnations.usGo to www.shiftingculturepodcast.com to interact and donate. Every donation helps to produce more podcasts for you to enjoy.Follow on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Threads, Bluesky or Email jjohnson@allnations.us, so we can get your creative project off the ground! Email jjohnson@allnations.us, so we can get your creative project off the ground! Faith That Challenges. Conversations that Matter. Laughs included. Subscribe Now!Breaking down faith, culture & big questions - a mix of humor with real spiritual growth. Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify Faith That Challenges. Conversations that Matter. Laughs included. Subscribe Now!Breaking down faith, culture & big questions - a mix of humor with real spiritual growth. Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the show

Husband Material
Make Sense Of Your Sexual Story (with Adam Young)

Husband Material

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 23, 2024 40:22 Transcription Available


You have a story. Your sexuality has a story. Adam Young explains why and how to engage your sexual story: desires and disappointments, arousal, emotions, shame, abuse, and your war with hope. Adam also gives us a preview of the workshop he will lead at The Porn Free Man Conference on "Engaging God About Your Story." This episode is incredible!Adam Young is a therapist who focuses on trauma and abuse, and the host of The Place We Find Ourselves podcast. Adam is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with a Master's degree in Social Work (Virginia Commonwealth University) and Divinity (Emory University). Adam is the author of Make Sense of Your Story: Why Engaging Your Story with Kindness Changes Everything. He currently serves as a Fellow and Instructor at The Allender Center. Adam lives in Fort Collins, CO, with his wife and two children. Buy Adam's new book here:Make Sense Of Your Story: Why Engaging Your Past with Kindness Changes Everything (this is a paid link)Learn more at adamyoungcounseling.com~~~You're invited to The Porn Free Man Online Conference!When: Friday, January 10 and Saturday, January 11, 2025Get your free ticket now at thepornfreeman.com~~~Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Real Life Mentoring
Our Take on Adam Young's: The Big Six (Part Two)

Real Life Mentoring

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2024 22:08


Today, Chris and Christina continue to discuss "The Big Six", a podcast episode of Adam Young's The Place We Find Ourselves.In his episode, The Big Six, Adam talks about the way children's brains development based upon the level of care and kindness in the family environment. The "Big Six" are the six things you needed from your parents:AttunementResponsivenessEngagementAbility to Regulate Your AffectAbility to Handle Your Big EmotionsWillingness to Repair HarmShow sponsor: Lori E Kenney CPA Firm. (loriekenney.com)Podcast: The Place We Find Ourselves by Adam Young; The Big Six, Episode 159, airdate July 15, 2024.Adam Young (licensed clinical social worker with a master degree in social work (Virginia Commonwealth University) and Divinity (Emory University), host of podcast The Place We Find Ourselves and Fellow with The Allender Center).

Real Life Mentoring
Our Take on Adam Young's: "The Big Six" (Part One)

Real Life Mentoring

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 29, 2024 21:43


Today, Chris and Christina discuss a recent podcast hosted by Adam Young (licensed clinical social worker with a master degree in social work (Virginia Commonwealth University) and Divinity (Emory University), host of podcast The Place We Find Ourselves and Fellow with The Allender Center).In his episode, The Big Six, Adam talks about the way children's brains development based upon the level of care and kindness in the family environment. The "Big Six" are the six things you needed from your parents:AttunementResponsivenessEngagementAbility to Regulate Your AffectAbility to Handle Your Big EmotionsWillingness to Repair HarmPart one will focus on the first three of the "Big Six". Chris and Christina will define and give examples of each one.Show sponsor: Lori E Kenney CPA Firm. (loriekenney.com)Podcast: The Place We Find Ourselves by Adam Young; The Big Six, Episode 159, airdate July 15, 2024.

Enneagram and Marriage
Finding and Releasing the Emotions Holding You Back w/Adam Young, Enneagram 8

Enneagram and Marriage

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 9, 2024 35:33


Culturally, it's very hard for busy, overwhelmed individuals to take time to sit with and process emotions. Yet today's podcast guest, renowned trauma and StoryWork therapist Adam Young, (The Place We Find Ourselves podcast) Enneagram 8 (8-9 pairing), encourages us to do exactly that - sit in the hard and allow yourself time and attention to what's holding you back from thriving so you can heal together with support. This is a must-listen episode as we examine his journey on this, why many people ignore their own issues in favor of helping others with theirs, and what we must do to truly find health and healing from our past. Deep dive with Adam Young and his therapy and trauma tips with conversations on his podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves: https://open.spotify.com/show/36bU2hcguX97EDOi9Ja0tQ Pre-order Adam's book, "Make Sense of Your Story: Why Engaging Your Past with Kindness Changes Everything," here: https://a.co/d/7KVJJ2F Find Adam's website: https://adamyoungcounseling.com/ Follow Adam on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adamyoungcounseling/ Watch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/riP-QQqsRP0 Spread the word about the podcast here!

The Worship Circle Podcast
Why Your Story Matters // Adam Young

The Worship Circle Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 9, 2024 33:58


We all have a story. It primarily influences who we are and who we are becoming. In this episode, we talk with Adam Young who is a counselor and the host of “The Place We Find Ourselves” podcast to begin paying attention to how significant it can be to ourselves, our family, and those we lead for us to heal from the past harm we have all encountered on the earth.  http://www.worshipcircle.com

Soul Sense with Mark Verkler
Healthy Processes For Healing From Grief with Adam Young, LCSW

Soul Sense with Mark Verkler

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 20, 2024 39:23


This week, we are joined by Adam Young, LCSW. Adam hosts The Place We Find Ourselves podcast and is a Fellow with The Allender Center. His website is adamyoungcounseling.com, and his new book, Make Sense of Your Story, will be released in March 2025. Thanks for joining us for this teaching! If you benefited from this video, please like it and send it to a friend you know would like it. For more information on counseling, resources, workshops, newsletters, and more, go to samaritanswell.com​. Email us questions to cover on the podcast at info@samaritanswell.org. Stay connected: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samaritanswell/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/samaritanswelldallas LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/samaritan%E2%80%99s-well/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samaritanswellcounseling?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc Never miss an episode of our podcast! Subscribe now and stay updated with our latest teachings. We also value your feedback, so please consider leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Free Relationship "Talk Time" Guide: https://samaritanswell.thinkific.com/products/digital_downloads/talk-time-guide Music from Uppbeat: https://uppbeat.io/t/sky-toes/featherlight License code: GAUXTZHWAYJROEFL Music from Uppbeat: https://uppbeat.io/t/northwestern/all-i-need License code: LQFV9XYEQIWRJLNT

Husband Material
Story Work For Men Outgrowing Porn: What Is Story Work? (Part 1)

Husband Material

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2024 40:59 Transcription Available


What is story work? Where did it come from? What does it look like? In part 1 of this 4-part series, Drew shares his story: "The Day I Got Braces."If you love this series, you'd love Husband Material Groups.Apply to join a group at husbandmaterial.com/groupDrew Boa (MA, PSAP) a Certified Unwanted Guide and Inner Child Recovery Specialist. Drew is the founder of Husband Material, where he helps men outgrow porn. Learn more at husbandmaterial.comWendell Moss (MA, LMHC) is a therapist, lead instructor, and facilitator at The Allender Center. Wendell serves as adjunct faculty at The Seattle School Of Theology & Psychology. Email Wendell at bishopmoss@gmail.comMarcus Spaur is a Certified Husband Material Coach, Inner Child Recovery Specialist, and CCAR Coach. Marcus is the founder of Between The Covers Coaching. Learn more at betweenthecoverscoaching.comChris Inman (M.Div, PSAP) is a Certified Unwanted Guide and Certified Professional Recovery Coach. Chris is the founder of Porn-Free Masculinity. Email Chris at chris@np-recovery.comResources for Story Work:The Allender Center and Allender Theory (organization, podcast, courses)Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way To Healing, by Jay Stringer (book)Redeeming Heartache, with Cathy Loerzel (video)The Place We Find Ourselves, by Adam Young (podcast)The ReStory Course, by Restory Counseling (video course)Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

BEMA Session 1: Torah
378: Lea Schrumpf — Entering Our Stories

BEMA Session 1: Torah

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 15, 2024 60:55


Marty Solomon and Brent Billings are joined by Lea Schrumpf, Director of Pastoral Care at Purdue Christian Campus House, to discuss how we are shaped by harm, but how we are created for delight and honor, and how we can enter our stories with compassion and kindness.BEMA 242: Spiritual Abuse — Commodities and VariablesThe Allender CenterAnatomy of the Soul by Curt ThompsonBeing Known PodcastAdam Young CounselingThe Place We Find Ourselves podcastThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der KolkMy Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa MenakemThe Reconnect InstituteReconnect Marriage PodcastPurdue Christian Campus HouseSnack-Stadium by Ordi Stefan Hossu — FacebookAdditional audio production by Gus Simpson Special Guest: Lea Schrumpf.

Real Life Mentoring
The Six Areas: Mental (Part Two)

Real Life Mentoring

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 12, 2024 21:25


In today's episode, Chris and Christina continue the discussion about "the six areas", focusing on the mental. How do we stay mentally healthy? How do we stay engaged mentally? What does it mean to renew your mind? These are the topics they tackle today. You'll gain some new perspective as you examine your own mental aspect.Here's a practical tool to use when talking about the mental with a mentee:How do you rate your mental status on a scale from 1 to 10?Why did you give yourself that rating?What is your vision for your future with your mental? What would it take to move that number forward?What is a natural next step you can take?Resources:National Alliance for Mental Health, 1-800-950-6264Text "helpline" to 62640Podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves with Adam Young CounselingPodcast, Being Known with Curt Thompson, MD

Real Life Mentoring
The Six Areas: Mental Part One

Real Life Mentoring

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 5, 2024 25:42


Today's episode is a two part series on the mental health component that makes up a person. In today's episode, Chris and Christina begin their discussion about "the six areas", focusing on the mental. How do we stay mentally healthy? How do we stay engaged mentally? What does it mean to renew your mind? These are the topics they tackle today. You'll gain some new perspective as you examine your own mental aspect.Here's a practical tool to use when talking about the mental with a mentee:How do you rate your mental status on a scale from 1 to 10?Why did you give yourself that rating?What is your vision for your future with your mental? What would it take to move that number forward?What is a natural next step you can take?Resources:National Alliance for Mental Health, 1-800-950-6264Text "helpline" to 62640Podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves with Adam Young CounselingPodcast, Being Known with Curt Thompson, MD

Solo Parent Society
How to Forgive Your Family of Origin with Adam Young

Solo Parent Society

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2023 44:11


Many of us experienced neglect and abuse from our family of origin–the people, whether parents, grandparents, or other caregivers, that raised us. Some of us might suspect that things happened to us but aren't really sure, and some are very aware of the abuse and neglect brought on by our parents or even that we were over-parented or too sheltered. How do we move toward forgiveness when it comes to the pain that was brought on by the people who are supposed to love and protect us the most? Our guest, Adam Young, a licensed trauma therapist and host of the podcast The Place We Find Ourselves, joins us to discuss this critical topic. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Training4Manhood
Ten Powerful Principles for Progress in Life (Part 2 of 2)

Training4Manhood

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2023 56:10


Guest: Cory Butler, Lead Students Minister, Citizens Church   Numbers 1-5 are on last week's episode with Cory, this week we are looking at numbers 6-10.   6. Long obedience in the same direction Long Obedience in the Same Direction: Discipleship in an Instant Society by Eugene Peterson Hebrews 12:10-11 - For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share in his holiness. For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.   7. Awareness of how culture disciples (trains/teaches/shapes) us Reminder to connect yourself first to Christ, then children to your parents - not their peers - if children are connected primarily to their peers, their growth and development will be limited and lack creativity   8. Feelings are good servants and terrible kings (so many boys don't know how to feel) One of the good things that has been brought forth from the COVID crisis was the increase in people seeking professional licensed counseling - remember that as Christians, we should be seeking BIBLICAL counseling! The Place We Find Ourselves, a podcast from Adam Young, LCSW, MDiv. Proverbs 12:15 - The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.   9. Hard things aren't necessarily bad things (some of the best things require the most work) Do Hard Things: A Teenage Rebellion Against Low Expectations by Alex and Brett Harris Serious Times: Making Your Life Matter in an Urgent Day by James Emery White The only thing that grows without work is weeds. If you want to cultivate a garden, it will take effort. Catching Foxes: A Gospel-Guided Journey to Marriage by John Henderson   10. You can be humble and strong (Biblical paradox, concept of “meekness”) Humility: The Journey Towards Holiness by Andrew Murray From Humility: No tree can grow except on the root from which it sprang - if your root is humility, then humility will be the fruit of your life. The chief mark of counterfeit holiness is its lack of humility. Gentle and Lowly: The Heart of Christ for Sinners and Sufferers by Dane Ortlund   10(a) - put Biblical definitions on things - don't look with the world's eyes, but through the Word of God - this is the development of a “Biblical worldview.”   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Solo Parent Society
How to Forgive Your Family of Origin with Adam Young

Solo Parent Society

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2023 44:11


Fund conversations that matter: donate.accessmore.com Many of us experienced neglect and abuse from our family of origin–the people, whether parents, grandparents, or other caregivers, that raised us. Some of us might suspect that things happened to us but aren't really sure, and some are very aware of the abuse and neglect brought on by our parents or even that we were over-parented or too sheltered. How do we move toward forgiveness when it comes to the pain that was brought on by the people who are supposed to love and protect us the most? Our guest, Adam Young, a licensed trauma therapist and host of the podcast The Place We Find Ourselves, joins us to discuss this critical topic. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Becoming Me
Becoming Free(er) from Parental Wounds

Becoming Me

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2023 53:41 Transcription Available


Episode 80      The most difficult and courageous thing I've ever had to do in the interior journey was confront the TRUTH of my relationship with my parents and the ways they have wounded me even though they loved me the best they could.In this episode I share why acknowledging the painful truth of how our parents have wounded us is a non-negotiable for anyone wanting to become integrated, and also how we can be hopeful even when nothing external changes.This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects of the interior journey every day for 30 days straight. Watch this recording on YouTube. Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.RESOURCEAdam Young's The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast Ep 2CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:25) - Introduction(00:01:30) - Parental Wounds(00:08:11) - The Place We Find Ourselves(00:11:58) - My Own Interior Journey(00:14:44) - 3 Parts of my Journey(00:15:02) - 1st Part - Being Trapped in my Younger Self(00:24:00) - 2nd Part - Being a Safe Adult(00:39:27) - 3rd Part - Becoming Freer(00:41:25) - Attuning to Myself & Others(00:51:20) - Recognising Some Signs of Being Ready(00:52:31) - ConclusionSupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

Love Thy Neighborhood presents: The EnneaCast
#94: Your Desire to Be Protective w/ Adam Young (Type 8)

Love Thy Neighborhood presents: The EnneaCast

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 27, 2023 55:32


In this episode, Jesse and Lindsey talk through the desire to protect yourself and how this is expressed in the qualities of Enneagram Type 8. Adam Young of The Place We Find Ourselves podcast joins the show and shares how the desire to be protective has shaped his life as well as his journey to tell the difference between protection and control. Everyone plays Your Worst Nightmare, where Lindsey will try to predict Adam's fears.

Culture Matters
Wisdom and Vulnerability with Adam Young

Culture Matters

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2023 39:32


This week we have a conversation with counselor, speaker and host of The Place We Find Ourselves podcast, Adam Young. Adam is a wealth of knowledge when it comes to wisdom in vulnerability, engaging with your story and learning how to listen well. He provides really helpful insights on how to sit with yourself and your own wounds and how to sit with others in their wounds. Resources referenced: adamyoungcounseling.com  The Allender Center The Nap Ministry Resources for learning to engage with your story Listen to: The Place We Find Ourselves Follow Adam Young: Instagram — One of the best ways to support the show is by becoming a Patron. Your support helps us continue producing this show. Follow us on social: Instagram Twitter Editing and support by The Good Podcast Co. If you would like to sponsor this show, email sponsor@thegoodpodcast.co

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The Unseen Story
Becky // Abundant Life

The Unseen Story

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 15, 2023 22:26


A battle with breast cancer leads Becky to Jesus. As she falls in love with scripture she seeks more and is led into an abundant life!Becky mentions The Place We Find Ourselves podcast. Specifically she referred to a 3 part series called Warfare. Here's the link to get you started Warfare Part 1Support the showVisit our website for more information on our ministry.https://theunseenstory.org/

The Place We Find Ourselves
131 Engaging Your Family of Origin Story with Dan Allender

The Place We Find Ourselves

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2023 46:18


This episode is a joint release of The Allender Center podcast and The Place We Find Ourselves. We have all experienced hurt, abandonment, or disappointment at the hands of our parents or caretakers, whether it was intentional or not. So much of our beauty and brokenness — so much of what makes us human — is tied to our family of origin. In today's episode, Dan Allender and I discuss what it means to begin engaging the harm that we endured during our growing up years. Are we dishonoring our father and mother if we name the hurt we experienced growing up? Should we just “let it go?” If you want to learn more about how to engage your story in your family of origin, please join Dan and I for a 2 hour webinar on February 23, 2023. You can register here.

Pirate Monk Podcast
Episode 336 The Skill of Attuned Listening * w/ Adam Young

Pirate Monk Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 3, 2022 53:22


Nate and Aaron have a fascinating conversation on topics of Story, Attachment, and Attunement with Adam Young, therapist and host of "The Place We Find Ourselves" podcast. For more information and registration for the International Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-international-retreat-italy-2022 For more information and registration for the Annual Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-national-retreat-2022.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

Parenting Human Beings
Episode 12: Unpacking Depression Project with Laurie Hamm

Parenting Human Beings

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 22, 2022


Laurie is a social worker who is passionate about mental health, connecting with people, and providing a listening ear. She is currently working on her Master's in Clinical Social Work with a specialization in community health and well-being. Outside of work and school, Laurie enjoys spending time with her dog and her friends, singing in a choir, and travelling. When she has spare time, she loves listening to music and podcasts (including Brené Brown's podcasts, The Place We Find Ourselves, and Dear Hank and John to name a few) and practicing creativity through hand-lettering.

Solo Parent Society
How, what and when to talk about sex to our kids. With Adam Young and Bethany Robbins

Solo Parent Society

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2022 45:42


PARENTAL ADVISORY: Today we are talking about sex which may not be appropriate for younger kids to hear. Sexuality is more complicated now and so much more widely accessible, especially to our kids… it's everywhere we look. And as a single parent, the other parent may often have different views on sexuality than us. So how do we walk our kids into a healthy understanding of what sex is? It's not a matter of if they're going to be exposed to it; it's a matter of when. We want to be proactive, as uncomfortable as it is, but for so many of us, we don't know how, what or when to do it. Often it wasn't modeled well for us, and now that it's everywhere around us, our kids are exposed more than we ever would've imagined we would be. Many of us raised in the church associate sex with shame, so we're walking into this with our own bag of complexities. We want to make this disclaimer: We will not be talking today about what is right or wrong, what we tell our kids they should or shouldn't do because there are enough available resources that can help you define those boundaries for your kids. Today we are going to talk about how we approach the topic, when we approach the topic, and probably most importantly, how to create a safe, open place for talking about sex without shaming, which, studies show, keep us from bringing sexual topics into the light. And when things are left in the shadows, the enemy can turn those thoughts into destructive forces. ?We have a couple of experts on this episode to guide us through this. Adam Young, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with a Master degrees in Social Work and Divinity. Serves as a Fellow with The Allender Center, and I am the host of The Place We Find Ourselves podcast. He is married with two kids. Bethany Robbins served at Theological College of Zimbabwe and is in advanced training under Dan Allender as a lay counselor. She and her husband are missionaries in Malawi, bringing theological education and training leaders to embrace ministry to the fatherless, sojourner, and widow. For the detailed show notes, tips and links visit SoloParentSociety.com Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Solo Parent Society
How, what and when to talk about sex to our kids. With Adam Young and Bethany Robbins

Solo Parent Society

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2022 45:42


PARENTAL ADVISORY: Today we are talking about sex which may not be appropriate for younger kids to hear. Sexuality is more complicated now and so much more widely accessible, especially to our kids… it's everywhere we look. And as a single parent, the other parent may often have different views on sexuality than us. So how do we walk our kids into a healthy understanding of what sex is? It's not a matter of if they're going to be exposed to it; it's a matter of when. We want to be proactive, as uncomfortable as it is, but for so many of us, we don't know how, what or when to do it. Often it wasn't modeled well for us, and now that it's everywhere around us, our kids are exposed more than we ever would've imagined we would be. Many of us raised in the church associate sex with shame, so we're walking into this with our own bag of complexities. We want to make this disclaimer: We will not be talking today about what is right or wrong, what we tell our kids they should or shouldn't do because there are enough available resources that can help you define those boundaries for your kids. Today we are going to talk about how we approach the topic, when we approach the topic, and probably most importantly, how to create a safe, open place for talking about sex without shaming, which, studies show, keep us from bringing sexual topics into the light. And when things are left in the shadows, the enemy can turn those thoughts into destructive forces. ?We have a couple of experts on this episode to guide us through this. Adam Young, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with a Master degrees in Social Work and Divinity. Serves as a Fellow with The Allender Center, and I am the host of The Place We Find Ourselves podcast. He is married with two kids. Bethany Robbins served at Theological College of Zimbabwe and is in advanced training under Dan Allender as a lay counselor. She and her husband are missionaries in Malawi, bringing theological education and training leaders to embrace ministry to the fatherless, sojourner, and widow. For the detailed show notes, tips and links visit SoloParentSociety.com Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

The Arise Podcast
Checking in on 2 Years of a Global Pandemic, the war in Ukraine

The Arise Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2022 40:25


CORRECTION: Ancestors from Melitopol, Ukraine not Mariupol, Ukraine.The Daily Show's Trevor Noah on Refugees: "...refugee is not a synonym for brown person. Anyone could become a refugee. It's a thing that happens to you, it's not who you are." -Trevor NoahNAACP's tweet comparing the treatment of Haitian Refugees in 2021 to the treatment of enslaved people in the 1800s. Photo of Strollers left at the Poland Train Station for incoming Ukrainian Refugees.  Unpacking Workshops: Purity Culture Register HereINFO: Unpacking Purity Culture, Sex and Race, May 22, 2022 9AM-12:30PM PSTThis online workshop consists of 3 hours of content from the panelists discussing the intersections of sexuality, faith, body image, race, gender and church structures that are impacted by purity culture.  There will be two 15 minute breaks, moderated discussion in the chat, and resources to encourage further exploration into these complex intersections.  Panelists: Jenny McGrath (LMHC)      indwellcounseling.comTiffany Bluhm, Author, Speaker, Podcaster tiffanybluhm.comDanielle S. Castillejo (LMHCA) wayfindingtherapy.comAbby Wong-Heffter, (LMHC)        abbymwong.comKeisha Polonio, (MSWI) counselingandwellnessboutique.com/keishaWith Support From: , Kali A. Jensen, MA, LMHC cultivatecs.com, Susan Kim, MA, LMHCWay Finding TherapyRacial Trauma Care for Women of Color Summer in Story Group with Maggie and Vanessa Sadler of Abiding in Story. Application here. Racial Identity Work for White Folks - Story Group launching Fall of 2022 Danielle is reading: The newsDanielle is listening to: Soundtrack of Encanto, Dr Dre & Snoop Dogg, Soundtrack of The West Side StoryDanielle is inspired by: Working with others and her kids. Maggie is reading: The Gospel of John in Eugene Peterson's The Message, Redeeming Heartache by Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel, Building a Story Brand by Don Miller. Maggie is listening to: Muse with her kids, Adam Young's podcast The Place We Find OurselvesMaggie is inspired by: the global response in support of Ukraine

Redemption Church Podcast
November 14th - The Place We Find Ourselves

Redemption Church Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 11, 2022 28:08


Formation Sunday, November 14th. This month we are focusing on our context, and how we can be committed to our community- here in Costa Mesa, California. Christine Nolf speaks on the first letter to the Corinthians as we continue to explore The Place We Find Ourselves. 

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After Sunday
An Interview with Christi Hagans on Attachment

After Sunday

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2022 53:13


On this episode of After Sunday, Pastor Dustin Turner is joined by Christi Hagans, a Licensed Professional Counselor and Vintage Church's vWomen Coordinator. Vintage Church is in the middle of their new year series, Changes. So, Pastor Dustin wanted to discuss an important topic related to Change––Attachment. Pastor Dustin and Christi discuss what attachment is, what are the ways we attach, how our past relationships affect our attachment style, how our present and future relationships are affected, how attachment affects our relationship with God, and more. There's so much in this episode that is worth considering. Listen, grow, and change! Learn more about the ministry of Vintage Church at http://vintagechurchmvmt.com. Other Resources on Attachment: The 4 Attachment Styles you Need to Know, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LRSsEP-xEQw "What Is Attachment & Why It Matters," The Place We Find Ourselves by Adam Young, https://open.spotify.com/episode/16sJONNQxjnK0Bnr1Dnd2g?si=1148898e2e6548f4 "How Your Attachment Style Affects the Way You Relate to Others," The Place We Find Ourselves by Adam Young, https://open.spotify.com/episode/433qgQ9HttBUHEKOJCCyqx?si=vaE9fNZOSzquzLZPAXAnhw "Attachment: What Is It?", Adam Young, https://adamyoungcounseling.com/2019/12/07/attachment-what-it-is/ "Ambivalent Attachment," Adam Young, https://adamyoungcounseling.com/2019/12/09/ambivalent-attachment/ "Avoidant Attachment," Adam Young, https://adamyoungcounseling.com/2019/12/08/avoidant-attachment-2/ "How Attachment Impacts Our Relationship with God, Pt. 1," Curt Thompson, https://open.spotify.com/episode/6s7zs8jya9AoFx2SuLr6KU?si=f8ef995e9dba4f98 "How Attachment Impacts Our Relationship with God, Pt. 2," Curt Thompson, https://open.spotify.com/episode/4SZyCOTBnnozXnayhVlP7d?si=d3bf930641974cb9

BEMA Session 1: Torah
243: Spiritual Abuse — The Place We Find Ourselves

BEMA Session 1: Torah

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 28, 2021 47:04


Marty Solomon and Brent Billings reflect on a conversation between Rachel Clinton Chen and Adam Young that provided some helpful notes to illuminate the journey into the world of spiritual abuse.The Place We Find Ourselves 89: Spiritual AbuseSpiritual Abuse Archives — The Allender CenterSpiral Dynamics — Wikipedia

The Arise Podcast
Mental Health, Story Work with Therapist Cyndi Mesmer

The Arise Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2021 43:10


Cyndi Mesmer – colleague, mentor and friend to Danielle. She's first and foremost a wife and a mom of five. She's a therapist and owns her own group practice called Art of Living Counseling based out of Illinois. She also works at the Allender Center, based out of Seattle, WA, and wears many hats as a teacher and trainer as well as story facilitator. Cyndi is an avid reader and loves to hang out with her kids. Cyndi is doing well, just came off of a 4-day intensive at the Allender Center called Story Workshop where they engaging trauma stories and teaching. It's both a blast and so much fun as well we exhausting. She likens it to deep sea diving; you go down deep and then have to come up for air every once and while before going back down. She's well but really busy. Danielle says it feels like the mental health field is slammed during this ongoing trauma of COVID. Cyndi enthusiastically agrees it is slammed! Initially when COVID hit she felt like they bought into the idea that it was just going to be three weeks, and then we'll be back at the office and everything will be well. But three weeks turned into six weeks, then three months, then here we are [18 months later] and it just keeps going. “In many ways, it turned the world upside down.” She is experiencing in her practice within the mental health field a huge influx of people needing care. Her view is that the trauma that has been embedded in people bodies that normally stays hidden—under coping mechanisms and other techniques to suppress, ignore or avoid—has come to the surface during COVID. She sees this playing out for her clients in their family dynamics, their marriages, with people struggling with depression and anxiety and are now seeking help. Cyndi doesn't know many therapists that don't have completely full practices—everyone is full. She herself has a 45 person wait-list and finds herself emailing around every week to see if there are any therapists in her network that have room for new clients. She's even trying to hire new therapists for her counseling group to in order to try to meet the demands for mental health care. And it's not just adults who are looking for care—Cyndi says adolescences are having a really hard time.Maggie asks if Cyndi if the actual work she does with clients has changed at all since the pandemic start. Cyndi thinks people now are more “raw”; they are showing up more authentically and eager to do the work that they need to do because of the unprecedented levels of distress they are feeling.  Before people before the pandemic would come to therapy for “crisis resolution”– to fix an immediate issue—but they didn't really want to get to the underside of what's actually causing their symptoms or to engage the embedded trauma in their bodies. They would come for a few sessions and feel better and be gone. But with the pandemic, everyone's schedules, routines and nervous systems are getting triggered and changed. What seems like it would be restful—being more at home and slowing down—has actually unsettled people and created a significant amount of distress for their nervous systems. Everyone is exhausted! The people who are coming to therapy now are doing really good work because they are more ready, raw and eager to do the deep work of engaging the underlying trauma. Danielle has felt like a mental health emergency responder. She says is it like the past trauma shows up in ways that creates internal activation; People want to get regulated and to learn to self-regulate knowing that the isolation could continue. What comes with that, Cyndi says, is confusion. People are asking, “why am I experiencing what I am experiencing? They can name that we're in a pandemic or that their kids are now at home when they would have been at school, but there is so much more going on and people don't really know what is happening. Now they are willing to unpack the hard stuff. Maggie says the disruption that occurred globally with the pandemic triggered internal disruption for people on the individual level. Pre-pandemic people normally on a regular everyday basis have good coping skills, tools, resources and mechanisms for getting through the day. But when the world turned upside with the pandemic, the disruption caused their coping skills to not be as effective. This left people wondering, “what is happening to me?”Some of those defense mechanisms, Cyndi said, were actually built into structures—they were tied to our routines and schedules. “We are routine structured people: we operate really well, our bodies operate well, when we have routine, structure, a typical schedule we follow. I think our bodies like that. I think our bodies operate best like that.” And when the pandemic hit, it disrupted and upset our normal routines and schedules and our bodies didn't know what to do with that. Her schedule changed: Now, she goes to her office once a week when she used to go 4 times a week. And when she's home. she has to contend with her kids being home when she didn't have to do that when she was at work. Her body is confused because it used to be when she was home, she spent time with her kids but now she's working from home most days. It's a big shift and change. Cyndi believes all the change is activating people's nervous systems, their embedded trauma and their attachment issues. The profound sense of isolation is what she thinks triggering people's attachment issues—their anxious-ambivalent attachment, their avoidant attachment. The language she uses is that the younger parts of people that are embedded in the very neurons of their bodies are being activated and are coming up to the surface. She says this feels like a sense of powerlessness, looming fear and indecision (not knowing what to do).Danielle said even when she's in her office she feels the attachment with her kids—she says when she comes out of a therapy session with a client and sometimes she'll have 40 text messages from her kids with emojis of hearts, smiley faces, more hearts. In that moment, she can't make sense of it, but she says she needs to know from them; “what is going on? Is there an emergency?” Danielle says even folks with children and adolescence in their lives feel their attachment is disrupted with those kids. The patterns and normal healthy patterns of relating are disrupted. This is what came to mind when Cyndi mentioned the increase in adolescence in therapy. Cyndi names that kids being taken out of school for so long was very hard for them. For her own children (one out of school, one senior in college, two in high school and one in junior high) she wonders how much they really learned last year online. Not because the teachers weren't doing an awesome job trying to teach virtually, but more around the fact that their brain was offline. How much information did they take in? She's seeing high levels of anxiety, not just in her own kids but in the adolescence she sees in her practice. They felt anxious during the [lockdown part of the] pandemic wonder what is going on with our world, feeling anxious they can't be with the friends. Now that they are back at school there is a high level of anxiety about how re-enter: will I have the same friends? What will school look like now, with everyone wearing masks? Cyndi says they are holding so much anxiety in their bodies. Even her college student struggled significantly when COVID and decided to return home to take a year off because it was too much. Kids are really struggling. Cyndi says kids are also picking up on and are aware of all the anxiety that parents and other adults are feeling. Sometimes parents are working from home now and she says some marriages do really well with both parents home and some don't; Some marriages function really well because someone (or both) go to work. She is seeing a rise in domestic violence, more fighting going on at home. Kids are confused when they have a parent working from home and try to engage them; “hey come watch a movie with me” or “let's go for a bike ride,” but the parent is actually working. It's a lot of turmoil and disruption happening in homes.Cyndi says she is grateful that people are reaching out and are asking for help. Some of the new clients she took on during the pandemic she had only been meeting with virtually. So now that she's seeing clients in person again she's realizing she'd never met them in-person before. That was true for her and Danielle—they would talk all the time on the phone and built a friendship but didn't actually meet in person until they recently attended an in-person intensive training. It's weird. Maggie agrees, the only words that seem to fit this strange season are weird and disruptive. Every relationship within family systems have been disrupted: marriages, parents and their kids, kids going to school, kids staying at home. It is no wonder that there is so much confusion when we're in such chaos! Maggie asks Cyndi, when she works with adolescence, how does she help kid re-engage their bodies?Part of it is giving them language, Cyndi answers, to help them process, make meaning around their experiences and to connect to their bodies. To be able to teach kids and adolescences how to identify where in their body they are feeling, what does it feel like and then validate what they are feeling. And it's not just kids that need language, adults do too! There is comfort and validation in being able to name what your body is telling you. Then next step after identification is to honor what you have come to know about your embodied experience and to say, “Thank you, body for communicating that to me.” It is helping them to find the answer to “How do I create a sense of peace and calm for my body and to soothe in healthy ways?” We talk a lot about body work: Knowing what is happening in our bodies and how to care well for our bodies. Danielle adds, we are built to co-regulate, to be with other people. And not just one person, but a village. When there is so much anxiety pent up in a family, co-regulation becomes more difficult. It then becomes disruptive for kids to navigate and readjust when they go to school. Danielle asks if Cyndi works with families and what do you do when a family comes to you?Cyndi says, yes she work with families. Her experience has been that a child will start showing symptoms, the parents don't know what to do with the child so they send them to therapy so that the child can be “fixed.” But usually, it's a parental or family issue. She said what she finds difficult is getting families to join the process of change. Often times what comes up for the child is caught up in their family dynamics, their role in the family. When she invites parents to look at the family system, they don't want to. They just want their kids “fixed.”Maggie says that feels true and it's a perfect segue into Story Work. What Maggie hears Cyndi saying is that with families there's an invitation for the parents to do their own work. Maggie asks Cyndi what is the different between story work and therapy?Cyndi loves Story Work. She is currently doing 5 story groups a week and says it is super fun for her. She even does one group with young adults. Cyndy says that Story Work is an invitation to bring a particular story to look at and engage. She usually asks people to bring a “young story” (from formative years, 5- 18 years old) because how someone shows up today in the present is based on what happened in the past. “The past is always showing up in the present.”Participants write a story and then they stay in the context of that story. Which is very different than therapy – it can go all over, the present, the past, etc. Story work stays in the context of the story where there may have been harm. What we're looking for in the story is where is the person bond? Where do they carry the most shame or complicity? What we've found in story work in the context of trauma or harm is that we didn't get good attunement, containment or the offer for repair. This trauma is then embedded in the very organs and cells of our bodies and we end up shifting our style of relating to try to cope with that. Staying in the context of the story can bring better awareness and better understanding of the characters in the story. Cyndi says having a group bear witness and speak into their story with kindness and care, offering attunement, containment and repair can actually shift their narrative and bring a sense of healing. This doesn't change the past, but it helps them to see a clearer picture of what happened in the context of the story which leads to more agency and freedom to change the here and now.There is a sense of understanding why we are the way respond the way we do in the present as a result of our experiences. The ways in which we were harmed impacts how we show up today. Story work is kind mystical, she says. And she's aware that you have to experience it to really get. Many times, she'll invite a client to engage in a story group and people are often put off with the thought of sharing their personal story with a bunch of strangers. But she continues to ask them to try it because she knows what goodness can come through story groups. So much change happens in a short amount of time. Once they experience it, they're hooked. It creates significant change; more change in 12 weeks than in a whole year because you're getting access points from all over the place as others engage your story and as you watch other people's story receive care. It's just beautiful she says. Danielle does story intensives with a colleague for couples and groups of people with the agreement that they are in regular therapy outside of it so they have somewhere to do back to. She says, the movement is incredible! She sees more openness and ability to move someone forward with story work. Maggie adds to what Cyndi said about story work in that you have to experience it to really grasp it: when we're harmed in relationship, healing will also happen in relationship. There is something so powerful about the seeing and caring eyes of others while doing story work. Of course in therapy you have your therapist kind and caring eyes, but to have the others speaking and looking into your story—because they think and see things differently than you do—it brings new awareness. “There is so much power in the group dynamic that happens in story work.”Cyndi agrees and adds that another thing that happens when you do groups is over time people start playing their family roles. This creates fun group dynamics to play with. When you start showing up in story group with your family dynamics it gives people a safe and trusted place to try new styles of relating and to get help with not self-sabotaging. “There are so many different layers to doing group work that is not only in regards to story work but also the group dynamics that play out in the here and now.” When someone comes away missed or hurt by something that was said and they bring it back to group, there's an opportunity to experience repair. Danielle asks about Cyndi's trainings. Cyndi loves story work and story groups – her deepest desire is for there to be more story groups going on. “My feeling is that story groups are how church should be.” She has been a part of church since she was born and when she does story groups it feels like church to her – holy and scared. When she does trainings, her goal is to train people to do story groups all over the place. I train pastors, lay people and therapists to engage stories well. This is different than just saying things to make people feel better. To really engage a story well, it creates disruption because it invites people to grief and to name people in their story. It is hard work. She does consultations – one-on-one teaching someone about story work and how to do it. She also does trainings twice a year with folks who have already had some training in story work, maybe from the Allender Center and desire to grow and hone their skills. It is a place to practice facilitating stories and build on what they've already learned. This Spring she's invited three of her friends, Danielle, Jenny McGrath and Adam Young, doing intense training, engaging their own story as well as how to form your own story group. Training, supervision, coaching as well as guidance on how to start their own story groups in their spaces. Connect with Cyndi, join one of her story groups or sign-up for a spot for her Spring Training at www.artoflivingcounseling.comShe has hybrid options: both online and in-person Cyndi is reading: Brain Talk by David SchnarchCyndi is listening to: ON being with Krista Tippet, Adam Young's Podcast called The Place We Find Ourselves, The Rise and Fall of Mars HillCyndi is inspired by: her kids. They are constantly teaching her new things.

The Allender Center Podcast
Engaging Our Stories with Adam Young

The Allender Center Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 27, 2021 49:20


For the final episode in our series on engaging stories, Dan and Rachael talk with therapist, podcast host, and Allender Center facilitator,  Adam Young. Many of you may be familiar with Adam from his podcast, “The Place We Find Ourselves,” and throughout this conversation you'll begin to hear more about Adam's story and how a life-altering encounter with his father set him on a path to become a mental health counselor. Follow along as Dan and Rachael engage his story by asking key questions, from how he experiences beauty to how he lives as someone attuned to and in the middle of the trauma around him. Listener Resources: Learn more about Adam and his podcast “The Place We Find Ourselves” Curious about pursuing your own story work? Learn more about and apply to Story Workshop—applications due September 20, 2021

The Art Of Being You with Rachel Wortman
What do I do with my kid's emotions?

The Art Of Being You with Rachel Wortman

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 17, 2021 27:13


In this episode, Rachel dives into the crazy world of emotions in kids lives. How do we help our kids become emotionally healthy and emotionally intelligent people? This episode will give you specific tips and a process that you may find helpful.   In this episode Rachel mentions a podcast about attuning emotions called The Place We Find Ourselves by Adam Young. She also mentions a book called "How We Love Our Kids" by Milan and Kay Yerkovich which is available on Amazon.

Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast
79. Adam Young – Attachments: How Science Informs Our Relationships and Leadership

Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 22, 2021 69:27


Welcome to Episode #79 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast.    Today's conversation is with Adam Young. Adam is a licensed Clinical Social Worker with Master's Degrees in both Social Work and Divinity. He is a certified colleague of The Allender Center, co-founded by renowned psychologist Dr. Dan Allender and our previous Red Ink Revival guest therapist Cathy Loerzel. Dr. Allender and his trained clinicians–including Adam Young–are the foremost thinkers on Story Work. Adam is a certified EMDR clinician, which addresses trauma and brain function. He has also served as a pastor in a local church. Adam's podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves, is a favorite. Adam's practice is in Fort Collins, Colorado.   Today Adam and I talk about attachments, and how they organize all of our relationships including our leadership connections.   Our conversation includes the following:   * Adam's faith story and how he became a therapist. * Why historical story work is so important for people–especially pastors and leaders–to explore. * What an attachment style is, the four kinds of attachments, and how our brains evolved with our own style. * How pastors and leaders are better leaders when they know the truth behind their own stories and attachment style. * What Scripture has to offer us to compel us to dig into attachments. * How to “earn” a secure attachment style. * How early childhood development of the brain and attachment has informed our instincts in relating with romantic partners, friends, and even God. * How spiritual disciplines and exercises are experienced differently based on individual attachment styles. * How repentance looks different for those with different attachment styles. * How pastoral preaching is styled after the pastor's own attachment style. * How attachment predisposes us to emotional flooding and dysregulation. * How knowing the truth of our stories in the context of our family of origin is critical to repentance and healing.   If you have questions you would like addressed in a future episode, topics you would enjoy hearing, or just want to give us feedback, we would love to hear from you. Email us at redinkrevival@gmail.com.    Visit our website: redinkrevival.com.   Please rate, review, share, and subscribe!   Edited and produced by Evan (Emac) McAlister.

Regulated & Relational
Ep 3: Why Relational?

Regulated & Relational

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 8, 2021 42:39


In Episode 3, Ginger & Julie dig into Attachment – what it is and how it's developed. We'll take a look at Attachment Theory and the 5 attachment styles, as well as what attachment theorists mean when they say “good enough” parenting. Definition to add to your vocabulary: Attunement is being able to tune in to your child's emotional state. Allowing them to feel seen, known and understood at an emotional level. Providing nurture rather than making the child earn it. (Karen Buckwalter) The following are additional resources about Attachment Theory: · Harvard's Serve & Return – building relationships with infants. https://developingchild.harvard.edu/science/key-concepts/serve-and-return/ · Attachment Theory in Action podcast https://attachmenttheoryinaction.podbean.com/ · The Place We Find Ourselves podcast: https://adamyoungcounseling.com/podcast/ · ATN's Resource Directory – for locating trauma-informed/attachment-focused therapists https://www.attachmenttraumanetwork.org/directory/

The Honest Pod
Episode 29: Why Your Story Matters with Adam Young

The Honest Pod

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 18, 2021 50:31


This week, Karrie and Shara interview trauma therapist and host of The Place We Find Ourselves podcast, Adam Young, about why it's important to name the harm and wounds in your story, so that true freedom can arise. Adam is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with Master degrees in Social Work and Divinity. He has completed extensive training with The Allender Center, including the Certificate Program and Externship Program and is also certified in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). You can listen to Adam's podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves: https://adamyoungcounseling.com/podcast/ Follow Adam on Instagram: @adamyoungcounseling Check out his website for current offerings: https://adamyoungcounseling.com/ — You can keep up with our hosts on Instagram at @karriescottgarcia and @sharahaus.  We would love to hear from you! Submit your questions or thoughts to hello@thehonestpodcast.com.  If you enjoyed listening to our show, please head over to iTunes to leave us a review. Thanks for joining us — we are so glad that you are here!  Music by Tanya Godsey (@tanyagodsey)

Meristem
Jay and Grayson discuss an episode of "The Place We Find Ourselves"

Meristem

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 27, 2020 69:01


In this episode Jay Cook and Grayson Furlough are discussing Season 1 Episode 9 of "The Place We Find Ourselves" podcast titled Why Engaging Your Story Requires Anger at God. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/meristem/message

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The Christ-IN Culture

Join us this week as we discuss the spirituality of isolation within the COVID-19 quarantine as well as "The Giver" book series, and the song 'No Roots' by Alice Merton. Our conversation focuses on the themes of letting go of attachments, gifts, and the longing within each of us for something more than the world that we live in. #WelcomeToTheAdventure Media References: Yahtzee! (Board Game) A Series of Unfortunate Events: The Perilous Parlor Game (Board Game) A Series of Unfortunate Events by Lemony Snicket (Book Series) 'Hey Big Boy' by Bert Kreisher (Netflix Comedian Special) Adult Content 'Ball Hog' by Tom Segura (Netflix Comedian Special) Adult Content Luke Spehar (Catholic Folk Musician) 'Be Still' by Luke Spehar (Song) 'To St. Michael' by Luke Spehar (Song) Aly Aleigha (Catholic Folk Musician) 'Jealous Love' by Aly Aleigha (Song) The Place We Find Ourselves (Podcast) Movie Soundtracks (Music) "The Giver" by Lois Lowry (Book) "Gathering Blue" by Lois Lowry (Book) "Messenger" by Lois Lowry (Book) "Son" by Lois Lowry (Book) 'No Roots' by Alice Merton (Song) Challenges: Consider what gifts God has given you and ask yourself if you are using those how God wants you to right now especially in light of COVID-19 isolation. Since most of us are now isolated from COVID-19 take advantage of the opportunity to pray and dialogue with God about what it means that your "home" is not here but rather with him. Don't forget to tithe and to support those who are losing their jobs and their loved ones. Check Us Out Website Twitter Facebook Youtube

The Tending Lambs Podcast
S2 E3: Depression and Anxiety; an Honest Discussion Part 2

The Tending Lambs Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2020 25:22


Hey there, Katie here.After listening through and editing this episode, I decided that I need to say just a little bit more. What I wanted to convey wasn't exactly clear, and by writing just a few words, I hope to clarify some things that I thought were lacking.One; I realize that when you're facing social anxiety, choosing to engage in community is THE hard part. Honestly, in my experience, the same could be said about depression. The thing about these issues is that they feel like never-ending cycles. The depression causes isolation, and the isolation causes the depression to spiral deeper, which causes the isolation to deepen. Of course, there are other contributing factors to why depression deepens; it's not only the isolation. But the reason I drive home that isolation is such a huge problem, is that both anxiety and depression are problems that cannot be faced alone. All of the things that contribute to these disorders cannot be fixed by the person who is being overcome and overwhelmed by them. You may need a doctor, you likely need a therapist, and you definitely need a church family, and of course, a confidant like a best friend and/or spouse. And two; many of us will at some point encounter seasons of isolation, whether we have a ton of friends around us, or only one. I don't want anyone to walk away from this episode feeling like I, or Sam, think it's just a matter of "make a few friends and this won't be a problem". The pain and fear of both anxiety and depression are real, they are debilitating, and we know that it isn't easy to get the help you need to get through it.But we also want you to know that it's okay to acknowledge weakness and that in fact, true relationship requires that you do. Recovery and healing also require it. None of this is easy, but it is crucial. It's crucial to fight against the apathy of depression, and the over-the-top urgency of anxiety, and the truth is we cannot fight this fight alone. If you need assistance seeking community and resources for dealing with depression and anxiety, please join our Facebook group for fellowship with likeminded parents, and direction toward resources like counseling that can be instrumental in helping you live and parent well, even with depression and anxiety. For further reading & listening Depression and Anxiety; an Honest Discussion Part 1 - Tending Lambs podcast, Sam and KatieChristian, You Depression is Real. So is God's Deliverance - JD GreearPractical Encouragement Through Depression and Anxiety - Sam MatherlyThe Place We Find Ourselves Podcast - Adam Young"The Place We Find Ourselves podcast features private practice therapist Adam Young (LCSW, MDiv) and interview guests as they discuss all things related to story, trauma, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology. Listen in as Adam unpacks how trauma and abuse impact the heart and mind, as well as how to navigate the path toward healing, wholeness, and restoration. Interview episodes give you a sacred glimpse into the real-life stories of guests who have engaged their own experiences of trauma and abuse. Drawing from the work of neuroscientists such as Allan Schore, Dan Siegel, and Bessel van der Kolk, as well as Christian thought leaders Dan Allender and John Eldredge, this podcast will equip and inspire you to engage your own stories of harm in deep, transformative ways."

The Sisters Collective
Year-End Goal Setting

The Sisters Collective

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2019 39:01


As the end of decade nears, The Sisters Collective offers goal seeing tips that could help your live a fuller life. Episode Links: 6 Steps For Setting Career Goals at the End of the Year https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DlMAIYd7-J4&feature=youtu.be First episode of “The Place We Find Ourselves” https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-place-we-find-ourselves/id1373926216?i=1000409178850 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/sisterscollective/message

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The Complicated Heart Podcast with Sarah Mae
Processing Trauma with Counselor Adam Young - Episode 21

The Complicated Heart Podcast with Sarah Mae

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2019


Today I'm talking with Adam Young, counselor and host of the podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves. In this episode we discuss trauma, healing, therapy, and steps to take if you're ready to move toward freedom. Links: Adam Young Counseling The Place We Find Ourselves (Adam's podcast) The Body Keeps the Score   You can also listen on: iTunes Spotify Stitcher Google Play!   Encouraged by the this episode? Head over to iTunes to subscribe, rate, and leave a review. Reviews are how people know if they should listen or not, so please if you like the show, take a minute and give it a review. Thank you so much! Questions or comments? Email podcast@sarahmae.com