Unbreakable You: Breakup Without Being Broken

Sometimes the word co-parenting is a myth. We have our own beliefs about what co-parenting should be like and get frustrated when that isn't the reality.My guest on this episode is Michelle Dempsey, the author of Moms Moving On: Real-Life Advice on Conquering Divorce, Co-Parenting Through Conflict, and Becoming Your Best Self.Episode Highlights:Setting realistic expectations about co-parentingWhat to do when rules are different for your kids in each homeHow oversharing and other types of communication with your ex can backfire If you're looking for coparenting help, you can purchase my online masterclass on Parallel Parenting (another word for when coparenting doesn't work) for just $25. Click here to purchase! https://startovercoach.kartra.com/page/dsQ65Other resources:Buy Michelle's Book Linktree: Michelle Dempsey-MultackInstagram: @themichelledempsey and @momsmovingonMoms Moving On Website

How many times a day do you hear a voice inside you that is putting you down? I hear it multiple times. It's not really my voice, though. It's a culmination of voices that I've heard over the years criticizing me. My guest Jacquie Elliott has a name for it: abusive brain chatter. This episode will help you get the tools you need to find the loving voice that's within you.Jacquie is a certified life, relationship, and spiritual coach who leads retreats that help women find their purpose and let go of things that are blocking them from moving forward. You'll also get a sneak peek of her forthcoming book the ABC's of Abusive Brain Chatter. Episode Highlights:How to quiet abusive thoughtsWhy it's good to challenge your core beliefsHow to tap into your inner voice and become your divine highest self Why people pleasers are actually manipulativeJacquie Elliott's Website Spa For the Soul Retreat: Oct. 14-16Instagram - @jacquieelliottclc

Being a good listener is critical to building healthy relationships. It's easy for us to think we are good listeners when, in reality, there is still a lot to learn. My guest on this episode is Christine Miles, and she will help you transform the way you listen. Chistine is the founder of EQuipt, a training and consulting company that uses a method called The Listening Path to help improve organizations and create cultures of understanding. She has taught at various Fortune 100 corporations, universities, law firms, and privately-held companies nationwide.Episode highlights:What good listening meansWhat to focus on first during conflict resolutionWhat you can do if you feel someone isn't listening to you Tips on communicating with children and teens Resources:EQUIPT website‘What Is It Costing You Not To Listen?' book

This discussion with the founders of Best Self Magazine will help you avoid parenting mistakes during a breakup or divorce. Bill Miles and Kristen Noel are the creators of the Best Self Intuitive Divorce Coaching Program, which focuses on achieving the best outcomes for kids during a divorce. Together they help parents in the early stages of divorce avoid unnecessary pain and suffering, so they can take control of their divorce before it takes control of them.  Episode highlights:What it means to have an intuitive divorceUsing divorce to reframe and improve your next chapter in lifeIssues parents commonly struggle with during divorceHow children process divorceBest Self Intuitive Divorce Program

When I got divorced, I felt like I didn't know anything about finances because my husband had always managed our money. It was a scary situation, and I had no confidence in my financial  future. If you find yourself in a similar situation, my guest Rachael Burns has some solid advice for women on how to achieve financial independence after the loss of their partner. Episode highlights:How to take control of day-to-day finances when you're newly single The importance of taking stock of your assetsThe process of negotiation About Rachael BurnsRachael Burns is a certified financial planner and a certified divorce financial analyst. She helps newly-single women achieve financial independence after the loss of their partner to death or divorce. eBook by Rachael Burns5 Things Newly Single Women Should Do to Protect Their FinancesInstagram: @trueworthFPRachael's Recommended Resources:Podcasts So Money with Farnoosh TorabiHer Money with Jean ChatzkyWebsitesClever Girl FinanceHerMoneyBooksYou Need A Budget

I remember the time in my life when I was at my lowest. I honestly didn't know how I was going to get out of all the pain alive. Maybe you have been there or you are there right now. My guest George Kalantzis has also been at that point. George is a combat veteran, a podcast host, and author of the book Nowhere To Go. He shares his story of overcoming a suicide attempt and finding a life of meaning, inspiration, and empowerment.  Episode Highlights:Why George decided not to commit suicideHis journey toward making peace with his family and childhoodHow you can trust the unknown Instagram: @_georgekalantzisDM George on Instagram for a free digital copy of his book. Website: https://sociatap.com/georgekalantzis/

When we are triggered, our initial instinct is to fight back or stand up for ourselves using words that often come out as confrontational. Immediately after the trigger, we produce a negative thought, which leads to a negative emotion, which always produces a negative outcome. But if you use my ABC method, it will mitigate the negative thought from occurring, and thus, give you a much better outcome!“Always Be Curious” will help you put resentment and unresolved anger aside and give you the upper hand, rather than leaving a situation feeling hurt and vulnerable. It will save you a lot of stress, so take a listen! Episode highlights:How not to engage with or react to a person's bad moodHow to stay grounded and remain your authentic self when you are caught off guardHow to neutralize power struggles 

What is happiness and how do we achieve it? My guest Mike Duffy actually has a formula for it, based on his research and the wisdom of thought leaders. Our conversation on forgiveness, especially, could help you get one step closer to being happy! Episode Highlights: Managing negative thinkingThe ‘purpose + progress = happiness' formula and what it meansThe law of reciprocity and how it relates to happinessFinding your purpose Resources:Happiness Hall of Fame Mike Duffy Speaks Happiness Wealth Management TEDxBerkley talk About Mike Duffy:Author and speaker Mike Duffy is the founder of the non-profit Happiness Hall Of Fame, which recognizes and encourages people and organizations that have advanced the cause of happiness. Duffy is also CEO of Happiness Wealth Management, which helps clients with money management so they can do the things that make them happy, like traveling and engaging in philanthropic giving. 

You meet someone for the first time. The passion is head-spinning. You feel like you've known them forever. But then, they begin to pull back. And just when you're ready to say goodbye, they come back into your life. And the cycle keeps repeating itself. I call this drunk love. In this episode, I break down the characteristics of a love addict and a love avoidant, and how you can be both. But more importantly, the key indicators for a healthy relationship, and how you can break the cycle of unhealthy love.  And, if this sounds like you, and you are serious about ending this unhealthy love pattern, schedule your FREE breakthrough session today and let's talk! Episode highlights:What typically causes love addictionThe difference between a love addict and a love avoidant and why they attractThe characteristics of healthy love How things can get better and how I can help - because I've been there, too!This month, I'm taking on new clients who are interested in solving their love addiction. Reach out to me and schedule a breakthrough session! I hope to hear from you soon! 

I want to share with you an inspiring story of a warrior who overcame what she once thought was impossible. Susie Pettit went through a tumultuous divorce and knew she had to break a pattern of codependency if she wanted to create a life filled with happiness. She is now taking the important lessons she learned during this difficult time and coaching others about setting healthy boundaries and breaking away from people-pleasing. Our conversation might help you or a loved one identify codependency issues and stop these harmful patterns of behavior. SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: Boundary Bootcamp TOMORROWAre you wanting to gain confidence in setting and communicating boundaries? I know how hard it can be and I can help. Join me TOMORROW, June 29, for my Boundary Bootcamp! If you can't make it live, there will be a recording available for a limited time to those who sign up.Episode HighlightsHow to recognize codependencyThe difference between codependent and interdependent relationshipsHow books and movies often promote codependent behaviorThe importance of realizing we are not responsible for other people's feelingsAbout Susie PettitLife Coach Susie Pettit is the owner of Strength: Mind & Body, LLC. Her goal is to help women create lives they love. She helps her clients through mindfulness-based cognitive behavioral coaching. Susie teaches on topics like battling codependency, parenting teens, and overcoming stress. She is the mother of three sons. Episode ResourcesSMBWELLLove Your Life Show podcastInstagram: @smb.wellnessParenting Teens: A Survival Course

When we have a physical injury, like the broken foot I had recently, we usually take the steps needed to acknowledge the injury and heal it. Why is it then that we often take the opposite approach with our emotional wounds? We try to pretend they don't exist and want to hide them from the world. In this episode, I share how we can protect our emotional scars so that they can heal and stay healed. It is my hope that after you listen, you'll be better equipped to get close to those people you want to become close to while preventing old wounds from opening back up. 

The majority of my listeners and clients are women. Many people think this is by choice and that I market specifically to women. That's actually not the case. My theory as to why I have fewer male clients is that men often suffer in silence, especially when they are dealing with a narcissistic spouse or partner. In my opinion, female narcissists can be far more covert and manipulative than male narcissists. Women can be verbally and emotionally abusive to men, but our culture often keeps us from believing that a man can be a victim. This can make men ashamed to talk about their struggles and seek help. Men deserve all of the support and resources available to have a healthy and less traumatic divorce and we must help them get there. Episode Highlights:Men and women have the same emotions about divorce and breakups, they just tend to manifest differently Why men tend to be more isolated during divorce than women Why being the nice guy often fails How to spot your codependency in a relationshipAbout Jude Sandvall:Jude Sandvall, also known as The Divorced Dadvocate, has made it his life's mission to connect men who are going through divorce with the resources they need to feel supported, be healthy, and thrive. His work helps men navigate their lives when it comes to issues like legal challenges, parenting skills, co-parenting, and dating with kids.Jude is a divorced, single father of three children. As an Integrative Wellness & Life Transformation Coach and Integrative NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) Practitioner, he uses cutting-edge approaches to coach fathers. He assists dads with creating a vision for their lives after divorce and uncovering hidden challenges that may be sabotaging them. Jude has a podcast called The Divorced Dadvocate and a website by the same name. You can take his Divorce Quiz to see how you compare to others going through the challenges of divorce. Divorced Dadvocate WebsiteDivorce QuizThe Divorced Dadvocate podcast

Have you ever wanted to share your personal story either by writing a book or starting a podcast? Finding your voice and then being able to speak it authentically is what today's episode is all about. I'm talking with Jackie McDougall who is an expert on coaching people on how to find their voice from within and crafting a story that is uniquely theirs. I'm incredibly passionate about this topic because if it wasn't for me finding my voice, and being able to share my story with you every week, I'd be missing out on one of the most intimate pleasures in life; connecting with others in the most amazing way. I hope this episode inspires you to tell your story from your voice within so that you can change the world because you absolutely can.  Episode Highlights:We are all born worthy; then we begin to listen to outside influencers who tell us who we are, how to be, and what they think we are worthAsk this question, “Whose story am I perpetuating? Is this my voice?”Jackie shares strategies for cultivating your voice How to discover the uniqueness of your story Why Jackie believes mid-life is a magical time

How many times a day do you find your inner critic getting in the way of your success, dreams, or relationships? Are you even aware of how much it sabotages your authentic self from rising and thriving in your life? Today I am talking all about the inner critic with Leadership Expert, Maureen Ross Gemme.Episode Highlights:Maureen's unique approach to inner critic management begins with giving a name to your inner critic voice  Some of the ways the inner critic shows up in our livesWhat to do when the inner critic shows up during times of reinvention Why it is important to have an internal and external support systemMaureen's 5-step process for managing your inner criticPlan for the obstacles, and also, plan for the fun things

I have come to think of Mother's day like Valentine's Day. It has so much hype and hope, coupled with all the social media posts we see of happy people, happy couples, or happy families doing their thing… to me, Mother's day is a huge setup for disappointment and hurt.  In this episode, I share how this year's Mother's Day was heartbreaking, and the lesson I learned in overcoming the pain. It's a short but sweet episode, aimed to keep things real and recognize all you moms out there, who aren't always recognized.  

Money coach, Morganna Rae, joins me for an eye-opening discussion about how to rebuild yourself financially and heal the rift between heart, spirit, and money.Have you ever thought about your relationship with money? Did you even know there was such a thing? If you are newly divorced or thinking about it, it's very likely your relationship with money is wrought with fear, scarcity, resentment, or another negative emotion. Morganna explains the root cause of money issues and the connection between love and money, and even asks a mic-dropping question, which left me speechless. Make sure you listen all the way to the end, where I share the answers to her question (which really surprised me!)Episode Highlights:Money is the number one excuse for what we can't have, do, or beIf you dig deep enough, money issues are love issuesFiguring out the root cause of your issues with money. Hint: it's not about money, it's about what money representsWhen you change your relationship with money, you change the way you see yourself and relate to the world

The most common question I get from my clients or readers is, “What if I'm the narcissist?” This is a question wrought with fear. And it often comes from the actual narcissist, accusing you of being a narcissist.  If you think you're a narcissist, then that means you are concerned about other people's feelings, as well as questioning your own behavior and taking accountability for it. This is the exact opposite of how a narcissist thinks and operates.  Your biggest problem with a narcissist isn't worrying if you are one, but instead, it's how you think of them, how you see them, and mostly how you see yourself. In this episode, I break down how you view the narcissist in your life may be working against you and what you can do instead.  Thinking like a narcissist does not mean you are one. But it does mean you are no longer stuck in a frenzied, scared mindset.  Episode Highlights: Why you must stop fearing what a narcissist says, does, or thinks of you The importance of breaking down the illusions and thought distortions we once used to survive our childhood or past traumas The reason you must see a narcissist as a squirrel and not as a bear  How a narcissist sees you, is ultimately how you see you A narcissist is terrified to be seen as who they really are, but so are you

“When you take away the illusions and defenses you had to deal with growing up, the path to authenticity becomes very clear” -Dion, Breakup Breakthrough graduate. Rarely do I get the chance to interview men who have overcome narcissistic abuse, because so few like to openly talk about it. But this week, I'm honored to have you meet Dion, my client and recent Breakup Breakthrough graduate, who shares his rise out of an abusive marriage and finding a life filled with peace and joy.   Dion found me after realizing therapy took him as far as he could go. Yet he still had questions about why he continued to fall into similar patterns of toxicity. He knew something needed to change within himself but didn't know what. Through our work together, he has been able to discover remarkable changes in his life, relationships, and his newfound passion for novel writing.   He shares his new skill of recognizing his wounded child's thoughts and how he “short circuits”  them by stepping into his true reality. I hope you are inspired by Dion's strength and resiliency, as much as I am!   Episode Highlights:Dion shares his experience of being in a 12-year toxic marriageHow the severity of depression led him to therapy and ultimately my programDion explains how when you face your childhood trauma and how it shaped you, coupled with a knowledge that your emotions are generated within yourself, a huge light bulb goes on, and it's truly liberatingWhen we expose our ego states and rediscover the authentic self, profound changes happen in all areas of life including love, relationships, and careersHis realization that when we learn to regulate our emotions, we can model those behaviors to our children as wellDion offers some advice for men who are experiencing or think they may be experiencing abuse

Today I'm sharing an unbelievable story about a miracle that happened in my life and its message of forgiveness. I share my experience in hopes that you can find a piece of my story that is relatable to you and your life.  In order to understand the present, I first need to take you back to the past. In this episode, I detail the traumatic event that happened when I was six years old and how it resurfaced in 2020, in more ways than one! The moment I was able to accept not knowing the truth about my past and forgive those involved, was precisely when the truth showed up.  This story is a testament that when we heal, miracles happen. Episode Highlights:My story of realizing that unresolved trauma made my life dysfunctional and unmanageable. A surprising revelation: When I began to unravel my trauma, I discovered hidden anger that was the source of what held me back The miraculous story of how I finally learned the version of the story I've been searching for, for over 40 years. 

You may have heard of law of attraction principles such as “like attracts like,” or whatever you think, you will get. It's that simple, right?  No, it's not. Most law of attraction books and teachings skip over something extremely important: how the traumatized brain is in exact conflict of the laws we want to attract. In this episode, I explore how the ego, conscious mind, and subconscious mind coupled with trauma can impact (or even sabotage) the things we want to attract into our lives.I have spent years reading books on positive thinking and manifesting, only to find that I would always default back into my old thinking patterns. I would give up on Law of Attraction altogether.  Once I learned the tools to unravel my adapted self, and was finally able to step into my authentic self, I saw a massive shift in my thinking. Which in turn impacted my life in a positive way. The fact of the matter is this: you attract who you are, not what want.Episode Highlights: Thoughts have a high or low frequency depending on how positive or negative they are.In the mind of a traumatized brain, any change is seen as a threat, which is in exact conflict with the laws we want to attractHow your ego is the gatekeeper of your conscious mindYour ego is not in charge of your actual survival, it just thinks it is. So, you have to heal your trauma in order to tell your ego you've got this!When you are able to safely expose your trauma and heal from it, you can use it for your benefit and not your detriment. Then and only then are you able to attract what you want.The episode ends with a self-realization exercise to help you understand how your ego may be sabotaging you.Click HERE to apply for my Breakup Breakthrough program.  I can't wait to hear from you!

Today we are going to talk about the authentic self versus the adapted self and how each type affects the way in which you show up in the world.  The authentic self is your innate being, your inner knowing. It encompasses your earliest thoughts, likes and dislikes, your passions, and your capabilities. Think of your authentic self as the way you shine for all to see.  The adapted self is the opposite. When your personality begins to develop around the age of four or five, you must learn how to thrive or survive within the family system in which you were raised. You bend, and therefore, adapt in order to survive. This is your adapted self and can dim the brightest parts of who you are and are meant to be.   You might be surprised to hear how much you operate from your adapted self versus your authentic self. In this episode, I share a personal story about the development of my adapted self. I then share how later, as an adult, I began to live life from my authentic self and how when doing so, things began to align in the greatest possible way.  As you listen to my story, I invite you to look inward and ask, “What part of me adapted to be the person I am today and why?” And then ask, “How can I move into alignment with my authentic self?”  Episode Highlights: When we start to depart from our authentic selves and start taking on a role that is larger than who we are; we lose a huge part of our innocence. We all have subconscious marching orders that we gain to survive and thrive in our familial household. The people and events in our lives are vibrationally matching our adapted selves versus our authentic selves. When you move further apart from who you are, you will see the effects in two main areas of your life: your romantic partnerships and your professional life. Returning to self means being one with your divine purpose and your authentic self. 

This week we're going deep into childhood traumas and how it affects your relationships. A few weeks ago, I was invited by my dear friend and colleague, Jennifer Hurvitz, to join her on her podcast, Doing Relationships Right.  The episode turned out great and Jennifer gave me permission to broadcast it on my channel so you can benefit from it too. You have heard me talk a lot about childhood trauma in previous episodes, and it's something that's near and dear to my heart. It is also a huge centerpiece of my coaching. In fact, unresolved trauma is the root cause of so many of our relationship problems.  In this episode, I break down the big T's and little T's of trauma and how even a small childhood event can alter your self-worth so much that it can have long-term damaging effects in your adult life.  Episode Highlights: The definition of trauma and what happens when we experience it.  The big T's and little T's of trauma, plus the covertness of little T trauma. Some signs that you may still dealing with unresolved trauma from your past.  How you can work to heal childhood trauma and find the authentic child within.  

Narcissistic abuse is a heavy topic. It takes a special person to go into the hard discussions that many people don't really want to talk about, and that is where Tracy Malone comes in. She takes on the nuanced difficulties of narcissistic abuse. She helps victims learn the strategies needed to get through divorce and move on to being “sur-thrivers.” In this episode, Tracy joins Lindsey to discuss narcissistic abuse and divorce.  Tracy is an internationally recognized expert on emotional abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, covert narcissists, divorcing a narcissist, co-parenting, gaslighting, co-dependency, people-pleasing, boundaries, and how to heal after emotional abuse. She is also the author of Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can't Make This Shit Up.  Listen in as Lindsey and Tracy offer insight and advice on how to successfully divorce a narcissist. Episode Highlights: Some of the challenges and mistakes victims face when divorcing a narcissist.  Why knowing what battles to fight is so important.  What kind of lawyer you should hire when divorcing a narcissist - a bulldog lawyer, another narcissist, or an empathetic lawyer?  The gray areas of a divorce decree and why laying everything out, in the beginning, will help you to narc-proof co-parenting plans and more.  Tracy offers this reminder, “You will be okay - even if you've lost everything.” 

Late last summer, Michelle was in the middle of court negotiations with a high-conflict narcissist and she was in a toxic relationship post-divorce, but desperate to get out. Before she found me on my podcast, she was stressed out and could hardly focus on her life and young daughter.But Michelle made the best investment of her life by enrolling in my signature Breakup Breakthrough coaching program. And after just 8 weeks, she had such a remarkable outcome, I knew I had to bring her on my show!She has healed from childhood spiritual trauma, broke free of two toxic relationships, divorced a narcissist, and is finally in recovery from love addiction. I hope our conversation offers inspiration to those who might be struggling with moving on from someone, getting a divorce, or even dealing with a narcissist.  Listen in to hear Michelle's empowering journey of transformation.Episode Highlights: Michelle shares some of her relationship struggles including divorcing a narcissist and toxic relationshipsHow being unkind, feeling unworthy, and distrust of self spiderwebbed into many areas of her life. Later she shares how she learned the importance of extending forgiveness and compassion to herselfThe effects on the authentic child when someone else's belief system or narrative is forced upon themHow Michelle was able to process the layers of family system abuse without holding anger or shame toward her parents.  She also explains how she made peace with spirit and higher powerThe steps Michelle took to end her toxic relationship with “Chad”Lessons learned from divorcing and co-parenting with a narcissist--->  If you're inspired by Michelle's journey and are interested in having your own Breakup Breakthrough, go HERE to learn more and apply!

In theory, boundaries sound like an easy thing, but we all struggle with honoring them. When we don't have healthy boundaries with ourselves or with other people, we are setting ourselves up for failure in our relationships at work, with family, with siblings, and even with romantic partners. To discuss how to honor and navigate boundaries like a boss, Lindsey is joined by leading boundaries expert, Terri Cole. Together, Lindsey and Terri discuss how cultural upbringing influences boundaries, how ineffective boundaries can wreak havoc on relationships, and the importance of daily actions of self-love. Take a listen to see where your boundaries might be skewed and determine what actions you might be able to take in order to finally talk true, be seen, and live free. I hope you enjoy this episode. Episode Highlights: Today's boundaries epidemic and why women, specifically, struggle with boundaries so much. Terri explains high-functioning co-dependency, why it is unhealthy, and how it messes up your internal peace (and potentially the peace of others).  How to create and enforce better self-protection boundaries with friends or family members who are energy vampires. Boundary destroyers and why the normal rules of boundary engagement do not apply. It is our job to negotiate for our needs and share our preferences with the people in our lives. Effective versus ineffective boundaries, Terri's Boundary Revolution, and stopping generational pain that ineffective boundaries cause.  Connect with Terri through her website, on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.  

I'm back with author Robert Jackman, who wrote the best selling book, Healing Your Inner Child. I spoke with Robert in a previous podcast (Season 3, Episode 4) about that book, and now he's back with a new book titled, Healing Your Wounded Relationship. If you are struggling with getting over a breakup, or  you're trying to repair an existing relationship, then this is the episode for you. You can find his newest book HERE - make sure you check it out! 

In this episode I talk with Dr. Don Russell who specializes in trauma and trauma treatment. We discuss how we can experience trauma in relationships, how to recover, and how to manage trauma triggers or responses. Dr. Don's Trauma Treatment Companion can be found HERE. 

If you've been cheated on or if you've been the mistress (or mister) of a cheater, then this episode is for you. I talk with Affair Recovery Coach (and former mistress) Kate London, who unveils the complicated emotions and psychology of those who are in a relationship with a married person. If you've been cheated on, you may see a lot of similarities between you and the mistresses' mind set. Take a listen!Check out Kate's website!

I took almost a year off and have written a new book where I share all the details. I also give you an update on why I took off and share personal details about all that happened, and what's new for this season. 

In this episode, I interview Board Certified Therapist Robert Jackman, author of Healing Your Lost Inner Child. When you're having an emotional response, your 5-year-old self may be protecting. That child may be waiting for a trigger to appear. As a responsible adult, you may be trying to figure out why you reacted as you did. In this fascinating conversation, Robert explains why you may be reacting a certain way and how you can heal the Inner Child and change your behavior.Robert Jackman can be found:Website: https://theartofpracticalwisdom.com/https://www.facebook.com/The-Art-of-Practical-Wisdom-106724507754215/

You may consider yourself a perfectionist, which may or may not be a good thing (depending on who you ask), but have you ever wondered where your perfectionism comes from? In this episode, I explore my "issues" around my own perfectionism, and how certain details of my childhood created this oh, so lovely, little trait of mine. Find out why you may be a perfectionist and what you can do to reign it in should it throw you off course.

Hey everyone, I'm back from the dead! Actually, that is almost a literal statement. After taking a few months off, I share with you my very personal story of what happened to me this summer, and why I had to get some help. I hope my sharing can help you on whatever journey you may be on. I am back and so excited to rock a new season, with lots of new episodes and all that I have learned. Subscribe to my channel to get all the new goodies!

Lindsey interviews Dr. Alexandra Solomon, author of Taking Sexy Back about sex and sexuality. As women in our culture, we have been bombarded with messages from the outside world about who we should be, who we shouldn't be, what we should and shouldn't be doing. In this riveting episode, Lindsey & Dr. Soloman discuss how we look at sex as a society, how women can change their perspective on what 'sexy' is and what it means, and how we can feel better about their bodies. They discuss the female sex organs and how they relate to sex and the latest research on women and sexuality.This is a must-listen-to episode for all genders!Learn more about Dr. Alexandra Soloman.Mentioned in this episode:Erika Lust PhotographyMake Love Not Porn, TedX with Cindy GallopThe Beauty Myth by Renee EngleEsther Perel

This episode isn't really a podcast but a recording of my free "Power Hour" calls that I sometimes have with my subscribers. There's no show intro, but I am posting it here because it truly is worth a listen for anyone who feels alone in their situation and wants to be uplifted!

I get this question all the time so I reached out to one of the top mediators (and attorney) in the country, Susan Guthrie, to set us straight. The answer? Yes, you can! But unfortunately, not always, but it mostly has to do with the mediator and less about you and your case. On this episode, find out what you should be asking mediators and how to find one who has the experience to handle your (potentially) high conflict case.Have a question for Susan? Find her on her site, DivorceInaBetterWay.com. And be sure to listen to her podcasts, as they are a wealth of information! Check them out HERE!.

How many times have you lost track on what your ex owes you? Or how many times do you receive child support late or don't get reimbursed at all? (raises hand: Me!) Marco Munoz, co-founder of DComply, shares the story of his financial coparenting nightmare, and the app he created to solve the headaches of shared expenses with your co-parent.Get the app HERE.

In this episode, I speak with Heidi Busche, author of Relationship Ready: How I Stopped Fucking Randos and Started Cupcaking My Soulmate (is that not the best title?) After striking out with guy after guy, she was finally ready to try something different. After completing some soul-level, transformational work around men and relationships, Heidi decided that women every where could benefit from the tools that had helped her. She left that cubicle life in 2018 to write her first book, Relationship Ready, and to chase her passion - helping women identify and change painful patterns in their relationships. If you're ready to date, or maybe just thinking about, this episode is for you. Learn from our mistakes and hey, you may just laugh along the way!Get a copy of her book HERE.

Negotiating with a narcissist (or a high conflict person) seems like an oxymoron, right? And have you ever had an attorney who has no idea HOW to negotiate with such a person? Well in this episode, I talk with superstar attorney, Rebecca Zung, who is a master at negotiating, and understands the difficulties of negotiating first-hand. She offers a methodology called M.A.T.T.E.R and she breaks down each letter as an action plan for how to create your best negotiation. Update: Check out Rebecca's new online course, SLAY Your Negotiation, which teaches you how to divorce a narcissist. I am blown away by all of this great content! Use 'Slay200' as coupon code to get $200 off!You can find a copy of her book HERE.

Divorce can be messy, gut wrenching, and throw you off balance for at least 1-3 years. But divorce attorney, mediator, and author of the book Better Apart, Gabrielle Hartley, shares her radical ideas on how we can separate without losing ourselves in the process. Hint: It's about your mindset and how you look at it! Join her masterclass and use "Better30" for a discount into the program. https://www.masterclass.gabriellehartley.com/better-apart-masterclassLiked this episode? Please leave a review!

Meet Susan Eckstein, empowerment coach, badass, mom warrior and advocate. Eight years ago she divorced her husband and made the brave choice to be the non-custodial parent, a heart-wrenching decision she made for her two boys. For years she hid her decision from her social circle, until she decided, only recently, to release her shame, define motherhood for herself, and share her journey with the world. And for all you non-custodial dads out there, listen to this! This episode is also for you. Find Susan at www.susanecksteincoaching.comInstagram: @susan_ecksteinFB: https://www.facebook.com/susanecksteincoaching/

How many times have you texted your ex and gotten no response? Or when you ask for reimbursement on something and you lose track of all that you are owed? Or what about all those texts between the tow of you and you can't keep track of all that back and forth? Finally, there's a solution and it's called Fayr - a robust app that makes coparenting easier. I talk with Michael Daniels, founder of Fayr and divorced father of two. He shares his personal story of his divorce, losing everything, living out of his car and his big idea that got him back on his feet, helping millions of parents struggling with coparenting. Ready to get the app? Go to BeFayr.com and sign up using the discount code "Lindsey1" - NOTE: You must go through website and not the app store to get the discount! P.S. - Check out his appearance on Planet of the Apps, Apple TV's reality show for rising tech stars HERE and see how Gwyneth Paltrow backs his investment. Pretty cool!

Many people tell me all the time, "Lindsey, I really should write a book on my life, how do I get started?" For starters, you will need a writing platform, a website, and a good number of subscribers and followers so that you can SELL your book, or whatever service you have. Since so many people asked me how to get started, I figured I'd do a podcast episode and share the behind the scenes on how I got started, and how I keep it going. Enjoy!

How many times do you tell yourself things like, "I'm never organized, I'm not good at money, I'll never find love again, or I'm so stupid...." These are what I call 'negative labels' and you tell yourself these things because they were likely put on you by someone else (your ex, parent, sibling, etc). So how do you overcome these labels and find a more positive label for yourself? Take a listen!

Research shows that we when are raised by a narcissistic parent, we will likely get into a romantic relationship with a narcissist. I explain the many reasons why this might be true, but the focus of this episode is about looking at your past and what baggage you brought into your relationship that didn't work out. And until you heal those childhood wounds, you will continue to manifest yet another narcissist in your life, romantically or even professionally! I call this baggage "The ghost of our fathers (or mothers)" and how they continue to subconsciously haunt us, but also how to let them go!

How many times do you get derailed when someone criticizes you, puts you down, jabs at you, etc? And how often do you get hurt when it's your ex, spouse, parent, or someone you care about (or used to care about)? This episode is all about how to NOT take it personally, and understanding WHY people actually put you down (hint: it's not about you, at all!). If you're struggling with emotional boundaries, then this episode is for you.Show notes:I refer to the book, The Four Agreements, get your copy HERE.

Wondering whether you should stay or go in a relationship can grip you with paralysis and mind boggling uncertainty! But I talk with fellow coach Kate Anthony where we break it down to help you with your decision and give you clarity on how to navigate your uncertain relationship. We discuss that "grey" zone where it isn't always black and white, and what kind of questions you should ask yourself. This episode will leave you feeling more secure with whatever decision you make!Show Notes:Take Kate's handy quiz and check out her website: https://www.kateanthony.com/Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcesurvivalguide/Check out her podcast: https://www.kateanthony.com/podcast-1

People ask me this question all the time so I thought I'd nip this in the bud, right here on this episode! (Hint: If you're listening to this podcast, and looking for ways on how to improve yourself, you're NOT!)

Whenever we go through a bad breakup, we wonder WHY is this happening, and what the hell do we do with this mess? Or perhaps you wonder the meaning of the breakup, but can't see it because you're in too much pain. Well, meet Anna Larimore, a client of mine who I met a year and half ago who went through a bad break up and has just launched a new podcast called Enough.Anna took everything she learned from me and the journey of her breakup and realized she had enough, and that she was ENOUGH, and it was time to spread her message to the world. She just launched her new podcast and shares how she did it, and what inspired her to do so.If you're wondering what you'll end up doing with your mess, take a listen to this inspiring episode so maybe one day, you'll be making your mess into your big message! Check out Anna's podcast ---> HERE!

Meet Stephanie Roberts, founder of her podcast, The Audacious Life, which discusses dealing with abusive relationships. Stephanie shares her own personal story of leaving a relationship with a narcissist, and her own journey of starting over, as well as starting her podcast, and her latest venture of helping "Mompreneurs" start and run their own businesses, as well as her new podcast, Audacious Mamas. Her podcasts can be found at www.theaudaciouslife.com and www.audaciousmamas.com

Lindsey talks with author and expert, Kristie Overstreet about her latest book, Fix Yourself First: 25 tips to Stop Ruining Relationships.Kristie offers profound advice about negative self talk, setting healthy boundaries, sexual self esteem, and how to turn your hurt and pain into opportunity. Her book can be found at www.kristieoverstreet.com

Pain sucks - why? Because it HURTS! So when we have pain, we often want to avoid it because it doesn't feel good. And our culture often tells us to avoid pain by taking this or that kind of drug to make us feel better. But Shannon Elhart, life coach and founder of The Healing Journey, tells us that we must dive into the pain and find the gift it's trying to teach us. She shares her raw and painful story of losing her child at birth, and how it gave her a remarkable gift of peace. Don't miss this incredible episode about survival, and how to step out of your own pain.Shannon can be found at www.shannonelhart.com. Ask her about Akashic record readings and learning about your past lives!