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In this special "From the Archive" episode, Susan Guthrie, top family law attorney and mediator, sits down with Dr. Debi Silber, the Founder of the PBT (Post-Betrayal Transformation) Institute, to discuss the trauma caused by betrayal and the path to healing and a better future. Dr. Debi shares her expertise on moving beyond betrayal, the five stages of healing, and offers invaluable tips to start your healing journey. Highlights from the Episode: What is betrayal and why is it so devastating? Why does Dr. Debi say that "even though it happened to you, it's not about you?" The five stages of betrayal and healing: Where are you? Three reasons people don't heal from betrayal How failure to heal can be like an addiction Top tips to start the healing process About Our Guest: About Our Guest: Dr. Debi Silber, Ph.D. is the founder of The PBT® (Post-Betrayal Transformation®) Institute, National Forgiveness Day, and runs a WBENC-Certified WBE company. A holistic psychologist and personal development expert, she authored Trust Again and The Rebuild Roadmap, and hosts the globally ranked podcast From Betrayal to Breakthrough. Her Ph.D. study on betrayal has made groundbreaking discoveries, and she's dedicated to helping people overcome betrayal and other blocks to achieve health, happiness, and success. Important Links and Resources: Dr. Debi Silber's TEDx Talk: Do You Have Post-Betrayal Syndrome? Take the "Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz": PBT Institute Quiz - Discover if you have PBS, what stage you are in, and receive tips for healing by email. The PBT (Post-Betrayal Transformation) Institute: PBTInstitute.com Please Note: This is an archive episode, so some of the links and offers mentioned in the episode may no longer be valid. For the most up-to-date information and resources, please refer to the links provided above in these show notes. ************* Our Sponsors: Gabrielle Hartley, the Creator of the Better Apart Method:  Leading divorce lawyer, coach and mediator, Gabrielle Hartley's book book "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate" is a runaway best-seller and she provides mediation and consulting services to couples and individuals navigating the divorce process through her Better Apart Mediation practice. 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You can find out more about Susan and her services here: https://susaneguthrie.com Divorce & Beyond is a Top 1% Overall and Top 100 Self-Help podcast designed to help you with all you need to know to navigate your divorce journey and most importantly, to thrive in your beautiful beyond! ***************************************************************************** SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES AVAILABLE! If you would like to sponsor the show please reach out to us at  divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com for pricing and details!!! ********************************************************************* Remember to follow Susan Guthrie and THE DIVORCE AND BEYOND PODCAST on social media for updates and inside tips and information: Susan Guthrie on Facebook @susanguthrieesq Susan on Instagram @susanguthrieesq Susan on Twitter @guthrielaw Susan on TikTok @divorceandbeyond If you want to see the video version of the podcast episodes they are available on The Divorce & Beyond YouTube Channel!  Make sure to LIKE and SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a single episode! Finally, we'd really appreciate it if you would  give us a 5 Star Rating and tell us what you like about the show in a review - your feedback really matters to us!  You can get in touch with Susan at divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com.  Don't forget to visit the webpage www.divorceandbeyondpod.com and sign up for the free NEWSLETTER to receive a special welcome video from Susan and more!! ***************************************************************************** DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM  

Better Apart: Strategies for Getting Along & Resolving Conflict with Gabrielle Hartley, Esq. While it can be worthwhile to see if your marriage can be saved, sometimes you are better off apart. While the road to dissolving your marriage can be long and challenging, it doesn't have to be terrible. If you have felt shut down because you think your situation is unresolvable, this episode is for you. Today's guest is Gabrielle Hartley, an attorney and mediator who specializes in resolving unresolvable situations. She will share actionable tips to help you productively navigate conflict from her books, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate (2019), and The Secret to Getting Along; Three Steps to Life Changing Conflict Resolution. Top Take-a-Ways: Why defensiveness is the enemy of resolution and tools to stay calm in every moment. Deescalating both yourself and others when tensions rise. How to hold yourself up high, respect yourself, and find happiness, which just happens to be the best revenge. Download a copy of your Fetish Finder Worksheet and start scheduling in your self-care, pleasure, and joy today! https://loracheadle.com/freebies/ Get Relief Now! Get the understanding, clarity, & support you deserve today! Schedule your one-hour Zoom session with Lora, and we will figure it all out together. *BONUS!* This session includes 30 minutes of follow-up support. Schedule and pay here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after. Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT  SOLAWAVE Reduce the appearance of wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles, blemishes, and dark spots while de-puffing and energizing your skin. This 7x Award-Winning Skincare Wand combines Red Light Therapy, Galvanic Current, Therapeutic Warmth, and Facial Massage for an easy-to-use and effective treatment. https://www.pjtra.com/t/2-574028-273174-269792 The most comfortable shoes you will ever wear! Available in seven heel heights, these shoes will keep you comfortably on your feet for 12 hours. Made with cork, many styles are available including heels, wedges, and boots. www.EuropeanHeels.com $25 off with Discount Code Flaunt Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!

What if the secret to resolving conflict and getting along is simpler than you think?Gabrielle Hartley, divorce lawyer turned author, joins us on this episode, and her transformative experiences have culminated in her latest book, The Secret to Getting Along: And Why It's Easier Than You Think.Gabrielle shares what she's learned along her publishing journey—from manifesting an endorsement by Gwyneth Paltrow to navigating publishers with no prior connection. Through the ups and downs, her path illustrates the power of persistence and belief in oneself.She also shares her unique YES method—a powerful tool for unraveling arguments at their emotional core, promoting mutual understanding and resolution. This episode isn't just about writing; it's about reframing your approach to challenges and turning obstacles into opportunities. We hope you can carry some of her tools and inspiration into your own journey.Resources: Connect with Gabrielle: https://gabriellehartley.com/ Apply for Fran & Bethany's Fall 2024 BOOKBOUND Accelerator here.Produced by Share Your Genius

While it can be worthwhile to see if your marriage can be saved, sometimes you are better off apart. While the road to dissolving your marriage can be long and challenging, it doesn't have to be terrible. If you have felt shut down because you think your situation is unresolvable, this episode is for you. Today's guest is Gabrielle Hartley, an attorney and mediator who specializes in resolving unresolvable situations. She will share actionable tips to help you productively navigate conflict from her books, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate (2019), and The Secret to Getting Along; Three Steps to Life Changing Conflict Resolution. Top Take-a-Ways: Why defensiveness is the enemy of resolution and tools to stay calm in every moment. Deescalating both yourself and others when tensions rise. How to hold yourself up high, respect yourself, and find happiness, which just happens to be the best revenge. Download a copy of your Fetish Finder Worksheet and start scheduling in your self-care, pleasure, and joy today! https://loracheadle.com/freebies/ Get Relief Now! Get the understanding, clarity, & support you deserve today! Schedule your one-hour Zoom session with Lora, and we will figure it all out together. *BONUS!* This session includes 30 minutes of follow-up support. Schedule and pay here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session   About Lora: Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT   Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!   The most comfortable shoes you will ever wear! Available in seven heel heights, these shoes will keep you comfortably on your feet for 12 hours. Made with cork, many styles are available including heels, wedges, and boots. www.EuropeanHeels.com $25 off with Discount Code Flaunt   SOLAWAVE Reduce the appearance of wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles, blemishes, and dark spots while de-puffing and energizing your skin. This 7x Award-Winning Skincare Wand combines Red Light Therapy, Galvanic Current, Therapeutic Warmth, and Facial Massage for an easy-to-use and effective treatment. https://www.pjtra.com/t/2-574028-273174-269792  

A divorce process can often be physically and emotionally draining for both parties and children involved, especially if the case goes to trial. In this re-broadcasted episode, Ryan Kalamaya and Gabrielle Hartley sit down to discuss the positive divorce movement and her Better Apart Method, which are changing how people think about divorce. They also highlight the importance of finding amicable solutions during separation. They explore various topics, including the adverse effects of litigation and conflict in a divorce, how to avoid conflict in the divorce process, and when a mediator realizes that a case might need to go to trial. They also discuss the steps a mediator can take to ensure that an agreement sticks.About Gabrielle HartleyGabrielle Hartley, Esq., is a leading online mediator and family law attorney known for keeping 99% of her cases at the settlement table.  She  is the author of Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate  which received a glowing recommendation from Gwyneth Paltrow and People Magazine.Before opening the Better Apart® Blitz Online Divorce Mediation Gabrielle clerked in matrimonial court in NYC where she resolved HUNDREDS of high conflict divorces.She is a sought after expert in the positive divorce space in media outlets such as The New York Times, The New York Post, Real Simple, Vice and many others as well as a frequent podcast guest.She's a regular guest on NBC Mass Appeal.  Gabrielle is the incoming co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee.Gabrielle trains divorce professionals in the Better Apart Method Online to help other lawyers and mediators to keep more cases out of court.  Gabrielle is also of counsel to a top litigation firm in New York City.  Learn how to work with Gabrielle at gabriellehartley.com.What is Divorce at Altitude? Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha provide tips and recommendations on issues related to divorce, separation, and co-parenting in Colorado. Ryan and Amy are the founding partners of an innovative and ambitious law firm, Kalamaya | Goscha, that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries, and criminal defense in Colorado. To subscribe to Divorce at Altitude, click here and select your favorite podcast player. To subscribe to Kalamaya | Goscha's YouTube channel where many of the episodes will be posted as videos, click here. If you have additional questions or would like to speak to one of our attorneys, give us a call at 970-429-5784 or email us at info@kalamaya.law. ************************************************************************ DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS ON THIS PODCAST IS FOR ENTERTAINMENT AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE. CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE OR AREA TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE ON ANY OF THESE ISSUES.

As a divorce attorney and mediator with over two decades of experience, Gabrielle shares her valuable insights on how to mitigate unsolvable conflicts by focusing on a productive way forward. Gabrielle's unique ability to resolve high-conflict divorces by keeping children out of trial is a must-listen for anyone undergoing a divorce. Need tips on how to consistently communicate with clients? Want to create an amicable divorce online? Or are you looking for ways to resolve conflicts in business partnerships or friendships? Gabrielle's book "The Secret to Getting Along" introduces her unique approach and stresses the importance of self-care during stressful times. Tune in and hear Gabrielle talk about the benefits of combining mediation with legal expertise and the importance of informed decisions. Whether you're going through a tough divorce or just want to improve your communication skills, The Confident Retirement will give you the tools you need. Here is what to expect on this week's show: ● Gabrielle Hartley's career journey ● The benefits of choosing mediation over litigation ● Combining mediation and legal expertise ● Making informed decisions in mediation ● Effective communication during stressful divorces ● Controlling emotions and changing the conversation around divorce ● Boundaries and selectivity in legal practice ● Mediation tips for couples Connect with Carolina: gabrielle@gabriellehartley.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Divorce & Beyond, Susan Guthrie, Esq., author and divorce mediator Gabrielle Hartley, Esq. returns to the show to share the secret to getting along. You'll hear just how easy it truly can be!   We experience conflict everywhere, including within relationships or at work. Susan Guthrie, Esq., welcomes returning guest Gabrielle Hartley, Esq., to discuss the five common conflict behaviors exhibited during the divorce process.  In this conversation, Gabrielle and Susan help listeners understand what it takes to reframe relationships, work through conflict, and walk away with a greater sense of peace.  Gabrielle Hartley is co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee, a divorce attorney, online mediator, founder of The Private Divorce Solution, and author of "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate." Her new book, “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It's Easier Than You Think,” is available now for pre-order. Topics and Golden Nuggets include: The five destructive behaviors we all have that show up in divorce “Forgiveness of yourself is the most important part of conflict resolution.” Finding what behavior(s) you are demonstrating is the first step in working to resolve conflict Getting along with anyone includes the YES Method, Understanding Your Role, and Shelving Heated Conversations. **************************************** About this week's special guests: Gabrielle Hartley Gabrielle Hartley is co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee, a divorce attorney, online mediator,  founder of The Private Divorce Solution, and author of "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate." Her new book “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It's Easier Than You Think” will be released this May. She offers a weekly newsletter, The Conflict Code” and hosts The Better Apart Blog and is a frequently quoted media expert in the peaceful divorce realm (The New York Times, Vice, WNYC, Forbes, Psychology Today,etc.) Gabrielle is former court attorney to NYS Supreme Court Judge Jeffrey Sunshine.   While writing her first book, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate (HarperCollins2019) she realized that we all need to get along better in all facets of our lives. Gabrielle developed the YES Method based on more than 25 years working as a top divorce lawyer and mediator. The Secret to Getting Along was recently selected as a Next Big Idea Club must-read and her Tedx Talk on her strategy has been viewed over 62 thousand times. Gabrielle's website: www.gabriellehartley.com Gabrielle on Instagram and Facebook:  @gabriellehartleyesq Gabrielle's new book, “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It's Easier Than You Think”: https://gabriellehartley.com/thesecrettogettingalong/ The Secret To Getting Along is Easier Than You Think TEDx Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/gabrielle_hartley_the_secret_to_getting_along_is_easier_than_you_think Check out Gabrielle's past appearances on Divorce & Beyond: Gabrielle Hartley Has the Secret to Helping Us All Get Along Better, and It Starts with Y.E.S. Is Your Divorce Taking Too Long? BLITZ IT and BE DONE with Gabrielle Hartley The Best Thing to Happen to Divorce in Ages with Very Special Guest Gabrielle Hartley ***************************************** THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:   SOBERLINK Thriving in divorce and beyond means not having to worry about the safety of your children when it comes to co-parenting. With alcohol abuse on the rise, many co-parents are turning to the system committed to providing proof, protection, and peace of mind. Soberlink's alcohol monitoring system is the most convenient, reliable, and reasonable way for a parent to provide evidence that they are not drinking during parenting time. Soberlink's real-time alerts, facial recognition, and tamper detection ensure the integrity of each test, so you can be confident your kids are with a sober parent. With Soberlink, judges rest assured that your child is safe, attorneys get court-admissible evidence of sobriety, and both parents have empowerment and peace of mind.  Pull back the curtain on the mysteries of parenting time and trust The Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to keep you informed and your kids safe and secure. To download the addiction and children resource page that I developed with Soberlink, visit www.Soberlink.com/Susan   ___________ HOLLIS HARDIMAN Regardless of where you are in the divorce process, Hollis can provide the insights and tools to make informed decisions and secure your financial future.  Schedule your complimentary consultation with Hollis by emailing hhardiman@meritfa.com. Be sure to tell her you heard about her on Divorce & Beyond.  ********************************************************************* SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES ARE AVAILABLE!  https://divorcebeyond.com/Sponsorship-Info ******************************************************************* MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: SUSAN GUTHRIE®, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  Susan is the Vice Chair of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution and is a sought-after keynote speaker, business and practice consultant, coach and trainer. You can find out more about Susan and her services here:  https://neon.page/susanguthrie Internationally renowned as one of the leading experts in online mediation, Susan created her Learn to Mediate Online® program and has trained more than 25,000 professionals in how to transition their practice online.  Susan recently partnered with legal and mediation legend, Forrest "Woody" Mosten to create the Mosten Guthrie Academy which provides gold-standard, fully online training for mediation and collaborative professionals at all stages of their careers.   Follow Susan Guthrie and THE DIVORCE AND BEYOND PODCAST on social media for updates and inside tips and information: Susan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susaneguthrie/ Susan on Instagram @susanguthrieesq ********************************************************************* We'd really appreciate it if you would give us a 5 Star Rating and tell us what you like about the show in a review - your feedback really matters to us!  You can get in touch with Susan at divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com.  Don't forget to visit the webpage www.divorceandbeyondpod.com and sign up for the free NEWSLETTER to receive a special welcome video from Susan and more!! ********************************************************************* DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

THE BEST DIVORCE POSSIBLE WITH GABRIELLE HARTLEY, MEDIATOR AND AUTHOR - EPISODE 81In this episode of the Her Empowered Divorce Expert Series podcast, Beverly Price interviews Gabrielle Hartley, Esq. about what is needed to have the Best Divorce Possible and about her new book, The Secret to Getting Along. Key Interview Questions that Beverly Asked Gabrielle:1. You wrote a book entitled Your power to have the best divorce possible--Author of “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It's Easier than You Think” Here's a link to purchase this incredible book. https://www.amazon.com/Secret-Getting-Along-Easier-Think/dp/172825891X2. What inspired you to write the book?Your power to have the best divorce possible-2. Once a person has made the decision to reach out to a family lawyer and has scheduled their initial consultation with the lawyer, what should they do to ensure they get the most out of their consultation?3. What tips do you have for women to help maintain their sanity during what can seem a never ending and frustrating process?4. Why is taking of your emotional health during a divorce so important?5. What is the best way to make sure that you continue to take care of yourself during the divorce process6.What do you mean by the magic of dancing with conflict How can I keep my divorce from spinning out of control what if I have to go to court Is a private divorce possible7.What 3 actionable takeaways can you give women that they can do to enhance their journey from beginning to end and recovery from the divorce processYou have agency and accountability and using them wisely is your best source of power slowest is fastest (hard to remember in this age of immediacy) Ask hard questions (of yourself) --knowing your why will set you freea. Assemble your team of professionals to help you- lawyer, coach/therapist, CPA, financial planner, valuation expertsb. Practice self-carec. Take baby stepsABOUT Gabrielle Hartley Esq.:Gabrielle Hartley is a divorce attorney and nationally recognized online mediator. She co chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee and former New York State Court Attorney. She is expert at resolving entrenched conflict and can be heard across media outlets sharing her wisdom and insights. Gabrielle has authored two books including Better Apart, The Radically Positive Way to Separate and The Secret to Getting Along which comes out next week. Check out her TEDx on this same topic on youtube.CONNECT WITH Gabrielle –Website: https://gabriellehartley.com/Gabrielle's Blog - voted #1 in New York! https://gabriellehartley.com/better-apart-blog/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/gabriellehartleyesq/Linked In https://www.linkedin.com/in/gabrielle-hartley-esq-0b43139/https://www.instagram.com/gabriellehartleyesq/To Purchase her book: The Secret to Getting Along https://www.amazon.com/Secret-Getting-Along-Easier-Think/dp/172825891XMore links for sharing: https://gabriellehartley.com/moreinfo/https://gabriellehartley.com/thesecrettogettingalong/CONNECT WITH PODCAST HOST AND DIVORCE AND EMPOWERMENT COACH, BEVERLY PRICE:Website - www.herempowereddivorce.comEmail -

Gabrielle Hartley returns to the show to discuss the secret to getting along with others! Gabrielle is co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee, a divorce attorney, online mediator,  founder of The Private Divorce Solution, and author of "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate." Her new book, “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It's Easier Than You Think,” is available for pre-order.  Gabrielle says that when you learn the steps of getting along, there is nothing more satisfying than being in agreement. Listen to this episode to hear how meeting your deepest emotional needs will lead to resolving conflict. Featured topics include: The framework of Gabrielle's YES Method and how it encourages people to get along (12:50) Knowing when to shelve a conversation and take space (19:30) If you can understand what the other person really needs, you can settle almost any argument (24:47) Gabrielle explains what she means when she says, “Defensiveness is the enemy of resolution.” (32:42) The VIR protocol: visualizing how you want things to be (36:14) Learn more about Gabrielle Hartley, Esq.: Gabrielle Hartley is co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee, a divorce attorney, online mediator,  founder of The Private Divorce Solution, and author of "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate." Her new book “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It's Easier Than You Think” will be released this May. She offers a weekly newsletter, The Conflict Code” and hosts The Better Apart Blog and is a frequently quoted media expert in the peaceful divorce realm (The New York Times, Vice, WNYC, Forbes, Psychology Today,etc.) Gabrielle is former court attorney to NYS Supreme Court Judge Jeffrey Sunshine.   While writing her first book, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate (HarperCollins2019) she realized that we all need to get along better in all facets of our lives. Gabrielle developed the YES Method based on more than 25 years working as a top divorce lawyer and mediator. The Secret to Getting Along was recently selected as a Next Big Idea Club must-read and her Tedx Talk on her strategy has been viewed over 62 thousand times. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-215-the-secret-to-getting-along-with-gabrielle-hartley-esq/ Join me for a special Split UP: The TEEN Years screening event on Friday, May 12th! To secure your spot and get all the details, visit http://kateanthony.com/split. A Conversation about the film Split UP: The TEEN Years with Christina McGhee and Ellen Bruno Gabrielle's website Gabrielle on Facebook Gabrielle on Instagram The Secret To Getting Along and Why It's Easier Than You Think The Secret To Getting Along is Easier Than You Think TEDx Talk TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: COZY EARTH Cozy Earth is the world's foremost source of high-quality, authentic bamboo viscose bed linens. Listeners can enjoy this exclusive offer from Cozy Earth today: Receive 35% off site-wide when you use the code “DSG” at CozyEarth.com! Thanks to our sponsor, Cozy Earth, and thank you, listeners, for supporting this show! DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Filing for divorce can be one of the most challenging decisions a person might make. And once you've filed, there are all kinds of legal and emotional challenges you might face. Joining us to take listener calls about all things divorce are two experts. Dr. Elizabeth Cohen is a New York City therapist who specializes in divorce and couple's counseling. Gabrielle Hartley is an attorney specializing in divorce mediation and author of the upcoming book, The Secret to Getting Along (And Why It's Easier Than You Think): 3 Steps to Life-Changing Conflict Resolution. They join us to take listener calls.

Mediator Gabrielle Hartley joins the podcast to discuss the issue of pets in divorce - a topic that's becoming more and more popular. Gabrielle shares her insight on this issue and how couples should approach their pet's well-being in divorce, even when the court might dismiss it.

Online mediator, Author of "Better Apart" and "Secrets to Getting Along". Former court attorney. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.gettingdivorced.org/subscribe

Understanding and skillfully engaging in the Art of Negotiation is vital for you, the high net worth individual.  Today we discuss the value and nuance of negotiating with mastery.    Familiarize yourself with the essential steps to negotiating your divorce settlement with mastery.  This includes understanding both your legal rights and financial risks and being clear on what you need. Additionally, we explore the subtlety of listening for what's beneath your spouse's position and when to use leverage.  Above all is your state of mind. When you enter negotiations with your rational rather than emotional mind and overcome your internal resistance, you will  create a settlement that everyone can feel good about.   Our guest and negotiator extraordinaire is Gabrielle Hartley.  Ms. Hartley is a leading divorce attorney, online mediator and author of the highly acclaimed book, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate. Gabrielle is known to resolve 99% of her cases at the negotiation table. She is a sought after divorce expert, on dozens media channels including the New York Times, The New York Post, Vice, Thrive Global and is a regular guest on an NBC morning program.   insta @gabriellehartleyesq fb @gabriellehartleyesq twitter @gabhartleyesq   Survive and Thrive Bundle gabriellehartley.com Gabrielle's Blog    Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Ready to dive into the next installment of our Bonus Divorce & Beyond Headlines Round Up Monthly episode?  This month, Host and Top Divorce Attorney, Susan Guthrie is joined by one her good friends and a favorite guest, Attorney and Author, Gabrielle Hartley, whose experience withhigh profile divorces will give us a peek inside the inner workings behind the headlines.  Susan and Gabrielle review some of the top stories from recent headlines and news about divorce, parenting, relationships and more and share some insights and lessons that you can learn from and use in your journey though divorce and BEYOND!  Get a behind the scenes look at some celebrity splits, high profile break ups and the stories behind the headlines from the Voice You Can Trust. In this month's Headline Round-up Susan and Gabrielle discuss: Divorce Shocker! Valerie Bertinelli's Estranged Husband Reveals Actress Pulls In $180k A Month While He's Paid $16 An Hour As Support War Heats Up Meghan King is Getting an Annulment from Husband, Cuffe Biden Owens Kara Ross, Wife of Trumpy Miami Dolphins Billionaire, Stephen Ross Files for Divorce Jerry Hall, 66, Files to Divorce Billionaire, Rupert Murdoch, 91, and Asks Judge for Spousal Support Google Billionaire Sergey Brin Works to Keep Divorce Details Under Wraps The Weatherman Divorce - Rob Marciano Offers Wisdom After Wife Eryn Files for Divorce Lisa, Lenny Hochstein Put on United Front for Son Logan's Birthday Amid Divorce How Americans Became Convinced Divorce Is Bad for Kids Listen in and you will never look at the Headlines and Divorce the same way again!   Episodes Mentioned: The Good Divorce: Honoring the Work of the Late Dr. Constance Ahrons with Special Guest, Terri Breer  Special Bonus Episode:  A Conversation with Celebrity Divorce Attorney, Laura Wasser on Divorce & Beyond   ***************************************** More about our Special Guest:  Gabrielle Hartley Beth is an equity partner at Beermann LLC here in Chicago and her practice focuses on: highly complex family law matters with vast experience in complex litigation, mediation and collaborative law. Beth also represents children, when appointed by the court, Beth appreciates the sensitivity surrounding high net-worth, high-profile, and child-related matters, with each requiring a very different skill set. As one of the most influential attorneys in Chicago, Ms. McCormack has naturally become a mentor to many professionals in the legal community. Her peers consistently nominate her as a Best Lawyer, Super Lawyer, and Leading Lawyer. Most recently, Beth was named top 50 women Super Lawyers. Her work ethic and community involvement have earned her accolades within the legal community, and beyond, Find our more about Beth:  https://www.beermannlaw.com Email:  BMcCormack@beermannlaw.com Instagram:  @bethfmccormack **************************************************************************** Listen to Beth's Other Appearances on Divorce & Beyond! Lessons from a Billion Dollar Divorce Attorney and GAL  AMC  OMG – Demystifying the Role of Guardian ad Litem and Attorney for the Minor Children Part One and Part Two ************************************************************************************* MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: SUSAN GUTHRIE®, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  Susan is a member of the Executive Council of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution and is the Founder of Divorce in a Better Way® which provides a curated selection of resources and information for those facing divorce and other life changes.  Internationally renowned as one of the leading experts in online mediation, Susan created her Learn to Mediate Online® program and has trained more than 20,000 professionals in how to transition their practice online.  Susan recently partnered with legal and mediation legend, Forrest "Woody" Mosten to create the Mosten Guthrie Academy which provides gold standard, fully online training for mediation and collaborative professionals at all stages of their career.   ****************************************************************************************** Remember to follow Susan Guthrie and THE DIVORCE AND BEYOND PODCAST on social media for updates and inside tips and information: Susan Guthrie on Facebook @susanguthrieesq Susan on Instagram @susanguthrieesq Susan on Twitter @guthrielaw ********** If you want to see the video version of the podcast episodes they are available on The Divorce & Beyond YouTube Channel!  Make sure to LIKE and SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a single episode! *********** Finally, we'd really appreciate it if you would  give us a 5 Star Rating and tell us what you like about the show in a review - your feedback really matters to us!  You can get in touch with Susan at divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com.  Don't forget to visit the webpage www.divorceandbeyondpod.com and sign up for the free NEWSLETTER to receive a special welcome video from Susan and more!! ***************************************************************************** DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM

We needed her in 1988 when our first reaction was to react. Conflict resolution guru Gabrielle Hartley shows us how to simmer down. Use her 3 step method any time you find yourself in a heated situation. It's easy, it works and she's funny.Her boundless energy is infectious, which is why she has had an incredible response to her recent TEDx Talk and to her book. She's a master.To us, she will always be a pledge two years behind us in our sorority, but to the rest of the world she is one of the most successful and sought after mediators.Can't wait for you to hear.Here's where you can find everything Gabrielle:Gabriellehartley.com(Not affiliated with or sponsored by Cornell University)Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cornellthanku/

Hot off the release of her worldwide Top 10 TEDx Talk, Gabrielle Hartley joins Susan to share her insights into the ways that we can all get along better, and it's easier than you think! In a world that seems increasingly fully of conflict, the idea of getting along better seems highly desirable yet out of reach.  Perhaps that is why Gabrielle Hartley's new TEDx Talk, "The Secret To Getting Along is Easier Than You Think" rose to the Top 10 chart WORLDWIDE in it's first weeks of release!  Gabrielle has broken the secret down into a simple approach that she calls the YES method and you can apply it to any situation where there is conflict, including during your divorce!  Ultimately, we can all prioritize peace over being right and isn't this a message that we all need to hear more than ever today?!   Catch Gabrielle's Other Appearances on Divorce & Beyond:   Issues with Your Ex and Nowhere to Go?  Online Options with Gabrielle Hartley (Special Bonus Episode)   The Best Thing to Happen to Divorce in Ages #144   Is Your Divorce Taking Too Long?  BLITZ it and BE DONE! #176   More About Gabrielle Hartley: Gabrielle Hartley, Esq., is a leading online mediator and family law attorney known for resolving 99% of her cases. She's the author of Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate, which received glowing recommendations from Gwyneth Paltrow and People Magazine. As a sought-after media divorce expert, Gabrielle has been featured in The New York Times, Real Simple, Vice, The New York Post, Psychology Today, NBC Mass Appeal and on dozens of podcasts. She is a co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee, maintains a private mediation practice and is of counsel to a top NYC litigation firm. Her forthcoming book, How to Get Along is due out in 2023. Find out more about Gabrielle:   Website:  https://www.gabriellehartley.com Better Apart Blog:  https://www.gabriellehartley.com/better-apart-blog Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabriellehartleyesq Watch the TEDx:  https://youtu.be/Uq-2ARYXyOM ***************************************************************************** MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: SUSAN GUTHRIE®, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  Susan is a member of the Executive Council of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution and is the Founder of Divorce in a Better Way® which provides a curated selection of resources and information for those facing divorce and other life changes.  Internationally renowned as one of the leading experts in online mediation, Susan created her Learn to Mediate Online® program and has trained more than 20,000 professionals in how to transition their practice online.  Susan recently partnered with legal and mediation legend, Forrest "Woody" Mosten to create the Mosten Guthrie Academy which provides gold standard, fully online training for mediation and collaborative professionals at all stages of their career.   ********************************************* Remember to follow Susan Guthrie and THE DIVORCE AND BEYOND PODCAST on social media for updates and inside tips and information: Susan Guthrie on Facebook @susanguthrieesq Susan on Instagram @susanguthrieesq @divorceandbeyond Susan on Twitter @guthrielaw If you want to see the video version of the podcast episodes they are available on The Divorce & Beyond YouTube Channel!  Make sure to LIKE and SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a single episode! 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Join Paulette and Gabrielle as they engage in a candid and fact filled, heartfelt conversation about all things divorce. Are you in need of direction and clarity on how to know if mediation is the right choice for you? Look no further. Gabrielle Hartley is a nationally recognized divorce attorney, online mediator, divorce strategy coach and author of Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate. She is committed to keeping the online divorce mediation process as simple and streamlined as possible. She trains divorce professionals to bring the highest level of conflict resolution into their practice. She is a highly respected negotiator, author and an engaging, dynamic speaker Gabrielle is known for her unique, non-toxic approach to divorce that she has developed over twenty five years. She keeps 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and at the negotiating table, as she effectively supports her clients to create a healthy, uplifted post-divorce life for them. Her parents split when she and her brother were children in the 1980s. Even when the road was bumpy, they resolved their differences out of court and modeled positive co-parenting. When she clerked for Judge Sunshine in the divorce court in New York City both in private practice and clerking for a judge, she realized that her parents were onto something. Gabrielle created The Better Apart® Blitz Mediation to help people move through and beyond the divorce process with minimal stress and maximum ease. When Gabrielle was a baby lawyer mediation was not widely accepted or respected. After working for years to create a streamlined effective practice model that is delivered across the country online. Today Gabrielle offers The Better Apart® Total Practice Makeover to help divorce professionals to create their optimal divorce mediation practice. www.gabriellehartley.com Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS Consultant/Coach Author Speaker Podcast Host 1:1 Retreats Find out more about Paulette at www.betterdivorceacademy.com www.bettercareerproject.com www.betterdivorceblueprint.com www.betterdivorcesummit.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thriving-in-chaos/message

While many of us may be better together, some of us can actually become better apart. This week, Jill interviews Gabrielle Hartley - attorney, mediator, and author of Better Apart, which radically reframes the way couples experience, execute, and recover from when “for better or worse” is no longer an option, and helps you find the road to a new mindset and better life. 

A divorce process can often be physically and emotionally draining for both parties and children involved, especially if the case goes trial.Ryan Kalamaya and Gabrielle Hartley sit down to discuss the positive divorce movement and her Better Apart Method and how those are changing how people think about divorce. In This Episode- The adverse effects of litigation and conflict in a divorce-  How to avoid conflict in your divorce process -  When does a mediator realize that a case might need to go to trial-  What steps a mediator can take to make sure an agreement sticks-  The Blitz Mediation Method- The positive divorce movement About Gabrielle HartleyGabrielle Hartley, Esq., is a leading online mediator and family law attorney known for keeping 99% of her cases at the settlement table.  She  is the author of Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate  which received a glowing recommendation from Gwyneth Paltrow and People Magazine.Before opening the Better Apart® Blitz Online Divorce Mediation Gabrielle clerked in matrimonial court in NYC where she resolved HUNDREDS of high conflict divorces.She is a sought after expert in the positive divorce space in media outlets such as The New York Times, The New York Post, Real Simple, Vice and many others as well as a frequent podcast guest.She's a regular guest on NBC Mass Appeal.  Gabrielle is the incoming co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee.Gabrielle trains divorce professionals in the Better Apart Method Online to help other lawyers and mediators to keep more cases out of court.  Gabrielle is also of counsel to a top litigation firm in New York City.  Learn how to work with Gabrielle at gabriellehartley.com.What is Divorce at Altitude? Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha provide tips and recommendations on issues related to divorce, separation, and co-parenting in Colorado. Ryan and Amy are the founding partners of an innovative and ambitious law firm, Kalamaya | Goscha, that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries, and criminal defense in Colorado. To subscribe to Divorce at Altitude, click here and select your favorite podcast player. To subscribe to Kalamaya | Goscha's YouTube channel where many of the episodes will be posted as videos, click here.  If you have additional questions or would like to speak to one of our attorneys, give us a call at 970-429-5784 or email us at info@kalamaya.law.************************************************************************DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS ON THIS PODCAST IS FOR ENTERTAINMENT AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE. CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE OR AREA TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE ON ANY OF THESE ISSUES.

In this episode of We Chat Divorce, we're joined by Gabrielle Hartley to discuss the topic of What You Need to Know Before You Get Married. Here's an overview of Gabrielle's experience:   Gabrielle Hartley, Esq. is a leading online mediator and family law attorney known for keeping 99% of her cases at the settlement table. She is the author of Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate, which received a glowing recommendation from Gwyneth Paltrow and People Magazine.   Before opening her full-service online mediation and professional training center, Gabrielle clerked in matrimonial court in NYC where she resolved hundreds of high conflict divorces.   She is a sought-after expert in the positive divorce space in media outlets such as The New York Times, The New York Post, U.S. News and World Report, has been interviewed on dozens of podcasts and is a regular guest on NBC Mass Appeals. Gabrielle serves on many committees within the ABA Mediation Access to Justice Week 2020, and co-chair of the DR Just Resolutions Mediation Edition. She is also on the Western MA Mediation and Collaborative Dispute Resolution Steering Committee.   Gabrielle trains divorce professionals in the Better Apart Method Online. In addition to offering training for professionals, she maintains a private mediation practice and is of counsel to Lisa Zeiderman's law firm in Westchester and NYC.   Hosts, Karen, and Catherine sit down with Gabrielle Hartley to discuss what you need to know before you get married. Learn More >> www.gabriellehartley.com Connect with Grace on LinkedIn >> @Gabrielle Hartley   ----more---- The We Chat Divorce podcast (hereinafter referred to as the “WCD”) represents the opinions of Catherine Shanahan, Karen Chellew, and their guests to the show. WCD should not be considered professional or legal advice. The content here is for informational purposes only. Views and opinions expressed on WCD are our own and do not represent that of our places of work. WCD should not be used in any legal capacity whatsoever.  Listeners should contact their attorney to obtain advice with respect to any particular legal matter. No listener should act or refrain from acting on the basis of information on WCD without first seeking legal advice from counsel in the relevant jurisdiction. No guarantee is given regarding the accuracy of any statements or opinions made on WCD. Unless specifically stated otherwise, Catherine Shanahan and Karen Chellew do not endorse, approve, recommend, or certify any information, product, process, service, or organization presented or mentioned on WCD, and information from this podcast should not be referenced in any way to imply such approval or endorsement. The third-party materials or content of any third-party site referenced on WCD do not necessarily reflect the opinions, standards or policies of Catherine Shanahan or Karen Chellew. WCD, CATHERINE SHANAHAN, AND KAREN CHELLEW EXPRESSLY DISCLAIM ANY AND ALL LIABILITY OR RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANY DIRECT, INDIRECT, INCIDENTAL, SPECIAL, CONSEQUENTIAL, OR OTHER DAMAGES ARISING OUT OF ANY INDIVIDUAL'S USE OF, REFERENCE TO, RELIANCE ON, OR INABILITY TO USE, THIS PODCAST OR THE INFORMATION PRESENTED IN THIS PODCAST ----more----     Karen: Welcome to We Chat Divorce, Catherine and I are honored to welcome attorney Gabrielle Hartley to our podcast, today. In this episode, we're going to discuss what you need to know before you get married. Expert advice from the divorce lawyer, so you won't ever need one. But first, let me take a couple of minutes to introduce Gabrielle. Gabrielle is a Leading Online Mediator and Family Law Attorney. She is the author of Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate, which received a glowing recommendation from Gwyneth Paltrow and People Magazine. [inaudible 00:00:37], an expert in the positive divorce space and media outlets such as The New York Times, the New York Post, U.S. News & World Report. She's been interviewed on dozens of podcasts and is a regular guest on NBC Mass Appeal. And here she is with us today. Gabrielle trains, divorce professionals in the Better Apart method online. Welcome, Gabrielle. Gabrielle: Hi. Catherine: Hello. I love this. Flipping the story, what to do before you get married. We don't often, or do we ever even talk about that? Gabrielle: Well, I find the Millennial generation is really on top of things. I know there's a lot of conversation about, everything that's wrong with them, but I'm going to say they're a planning group. And so I get a lot of phone calls with people asking me what they need to know? Do they maybe need a prenup? Or sometimes they're not even really interested in a prenup, but they're just literally interviewing me to find out what do I see that goes wrong? And so I decided to write this book, what you need to know before you get married so that people who couldn't afford an hour with me could just get it for free right now. And then just for a couple of bucks on Amazon, when it goes up there. And to talk about the things that you really need to pay attention to, which you may be totally ignored while you're in the throes of romance. Catherine: Yeah. I say this all the time, because, I say that people will budget for their wedding. They'll... How much they can spend on their dress? And how much they can spend in a venue? And what's the band? But do you ever really talk about your budget post marriage? No. What are the expectations between the two of you post the big fun marriage? Just not a conversation, a lot of people have. Gabrielle: That's right. They don't talk... They're so wedding-oriented, but they're not talking about how they're going to plan for retirement, life insurance, childcare, somebody's mom going to watch kids? Are you going to have kids? Even away from the money and we will circle right back to the money. But do one of you expect that you're going to have dinner with your parents once a week or twice a week, even? Right. Are they going to come to you or are you expected to go there for Sunday dinner? Do you expect that your spouse is always going to go with you? Gabrielle: These are things that really break people up. What about partying? Right. I have a little section called, my girl wants to party all the time or maybe I said guy, I don't remember. But, it might be a lot of fun to go out every night when you're dating and you're just living it up. But then when you finally are settling down, it may be that one of you decides it's time to open quote, "Grow up." Close quote. And the other of you might say, "What do you mean grow up? This is who I am. This is who I thought you were." There's a lot of important conversations that don't happen. And what's so interesting is when you're getting divorced, all of these conversations are often happening for the first time. Catherine: And it's the blame game. "You never wanted to go out at night. You never wanted to do this. You never held my hand. You never got me flowers." But, they never did that before. You never had the conversation before they got married. Gabrielle: Or maybe when you were dating, they did get you flowers, but they were in the courting stage, right. But now it's real-life in your marriage. So, I love that you just brought up the blame game. That's something I talk a lot about in the context of divorcing positively. It's about becoming an active visionary. Same thing, having these important conversations is not just about doing an investigation of your betrothed to be, right. It's like an investigation and to yourself, what's your vision? So what you need to know before you get married is also about, really having an important conversation about what you want out of your life with yourself. Do you want to work 70 hours a week? Or do you want to work for somebody? Or do you want to work for yourself? Do you want to work part-time? Are you picturing that you're going to be a homemaker? Are you going to have a career? Or are you going to have a job just to make some money? Or does one of you have significant family money? How's that going to work with your marriage? Right. Catherine: But, even when you have the vision, it changes. I wanted to be Donna Mills from Knots Landing. That was my goal. I was going to be this little kind of aggressive woman in the work field. And then I had my daughter and once I had her, I didn't want to work anymore. I just could not see myself leaving her. So your goals and your dreams can change, but how do you communicate that with each other? Gabrielle: Right. And it's really ongoing. And, we touched briefly on the idea of, you can have... Everybody's heard of the idea of a prenup, which is making an agreement before you get married, to tie up what would happen in the case of dissolution or divorce after you're married. And there's a lot of things that we could sort of dive into that, but also just so anyone listening to this knows if you've become, if you've gotten married and things were going well for the first, seven to 13 years and year 14, your spouse says, "You know what, I'm going to take on a bunch of debt because I've always wanted to open a restaurant." And suddenly you're like, "Oh My Gosh, I don't want to take this debt with you." Or for whatever other set of reasons there is something called a postnuptial, that you can enter into, which is basically a contract after you're married, which would designate how things will unfold. Should you get divorced? Catherine: Let me back you up there for one second. So our listeners can understand because it's a common question and quite confusing at times. So the Millennials or whatever they're called, the younger generation, I just call them all. A lot of them keep separate accounts. The first time I got married, you wouldn't even think of keeping separate accounts because I didn't grow up that way. But now they're keeping separate accounts. And does that protect them? How do they protect those separate accounts? If they don't, if they didn't get it prenup? Gabrielle: It really depends where they live. In Massachusetts, anything that's acquired after the marriage is definitely considered marital, regardless of how it's titled, the same thing in New York. It's really important that you have conversations. And quite frankly, if you want to really protect yourself, you really do need to have a written agreement just because something is not in your name... Is in your name alone does not mean that it's not both of yours. In fact, in Massachusetts, even if things were acquired before marriage, everything comes into the marital part until you prove that it's not part of the marital part. Gabrielle: Whereas in New York, everything is considered, anything marital is marital, separate is separate, and then you have to discuss and explain and prove why it should come into the marital part? And I'm only familiar really intimately with those two states. And I would suggest anybody who has money and they want to make sure that it's considered separate, that they create a contract that protects it. Let's talk a minute about inheritances or trusts, right. Those aren't necessarily going to be deemed separate property either in case of a dissolution. And that can be really shocking for some people to find out. So it's really important, they have all these conversations. Karen: So to that point, we have a lot of couples come to us or individuals come to us with their net worth statement. And so that obviously defines what they consider their marital estate. But all of those points you just made and change that net worth statement as it relates to the division of property. And so I think you usually have one person who's a spreadsheet person, right. And they come in with that and they want that to be what they're dividing. And so many times that's not what you're dividing at all, because of all of these different factors. So that's why financial clarity is so important. And having financial conversations is so important so that your goals and what you're doing? And how you're living? And how you're behaving? Is in tandem with each other. So that when you, if you would choose to separate, for whatever reason, you're not having to reach that huge gap of yuckiness. Lack of a better word there. Gabrielle: I always say hard now, easy later, right. That's what I see about mediating with people who are having a difficult time working through details, they just want to sort of glaze over things and you never want to glaze over things. The same thing when you're getting married, you really want to have these conversations. I know, Ruth Bader Ginsburg is famous for saying, "A long-term marriage is predicated on everybody being a little deaf." And yes, there's value to ignoring some of the things that could make us upset and angry once we are married. But when it comes to your financial stability and integrity and ability to move forward and have respect for each other and not want to, blow your own head off or each other's heads off. Gabrielle: It's really important that you have these conversations. Especially if you're marrying people from different backgrounds. So, it doesn't matter if you have similar amounts of money, our money narratives are so strong and they really play into how we go through life. I was just going to say, sometimes I have clients who have millions and millions of dollars and they really don't want to spend money on two hours of mediation, where somebody else has very little money and they don't want anything for free. And they just have a different relationship with money. Catherine: That's exactly it. Everybody has a different money story and whether it's good or bad, it's an intimidating conversation. But I think if my advice would be for everyone to approach it with an expectation outlook. So it's not really a questioning outlook about the finances, but if you came to your spouse or your partner and said, I just want to discuss expectations as it relates to finances." It's a much gentler, kinder way to walk into that conversation. And it's something, again, like you both said, it's an ongoing conversation. So again, two years into your marriage, you can say, "Maybe our expectations have shifted here, let's re-discuss what our plan was from two years ago to today." And if you start that pattern of expectations, it's really great because it doesn't put anybody on the defensive. Just, is a great conversation to have, and I encourage everyone to have it. Gabrielle: I think that that's a really great point. But going back to the idea of having these conversations before you get married. Typically, how we view things, yes, of course, we mature and we grow and we start to see things differently. As we become older, we tend to feel more powerful and more able if things are going in a favorable way. But, who we essentially are? Is sort of there from the beginning and having conversations about all different things, including money, even if the conversations are uncomfortable, you're doing yourself a favor. Even if you end up breaking your engagement, right. Or maybe you say, "We're going to get married." But, you get married with the knowledge of how each other thinks. You just saved yourself in 20 years, like, "Oh My Gosh, who are you?" I never knew conversations. Right. Catherine: Exactly. Yeah. Karen: Yeah. Gabrielle, how often should the prenup be revisited? Gabrielle: So a prenup is just what it says, it's prenuptial. It is created before you get married. And once you are married, you cannot have a new prenup. That would be a postnup. So after you're married, typically actually people don't revisit them all that often. The whole idea is that it's done, right. The only reason that typically people would enter a postnup is that something changed, maybe the economic position of one person or another, or the attitudes of one person or the other has changed. Maybe the people, somebody found out that their husband or wife cheated on them and they want a divorce. And they say, "The only way I'm going to stay with you is if you enter a postnup where I get 80% of everything." And the person says, "I promise, I'll never do it again." And then they call me and I say, "Oh, don't make those promises. You might not keep buddy." Right. Catherine: Yeah. Karen: Yeah. Catherine: Give her the 80%. Yeah. We have a lot of people that come through our and do our portrait. And because we provide a space where they can decompress, where they're gathering information and really let out their feelings on how their financial life has been for the past 20 years or what have you. They come to a new understanding and we send them to mediation afterward, or we send them to a marriage counselor because they decide that they just want to postnup. They want to stay together, but they want a new financial understanding between the two of them. And they want to work on their emotional side, not so much the financial side because that would be taken care of. And I think it's really a good approach if you're not sure whether you want to get divorced or not. Gabrielle: Absolutely. I actually have, I train mediators in the Better Apart method. And I have a set of mediators who I refer to, who that's, all they do is people who want to stay married, but need to create new rules for their marriage going forward, right. So it's not one size fits all. It's just when I say that, I mean the outcome is not one size fits all. People can get through all kinds of adversity. You can have really different ways of viewing things. There's always compromise concessions, acquiescence, all different ways to get along, right. But you have to be able to have meaningful conversations to get there. And I'm just going to add in a little conflict resolution tip, when you're stuck in an argument loop, let's say you start having these important premarital conversations or you're already married and you're having a hard time. When we get stuck in a loop, we're typically perseverating on the, what? What we're arguing about? Right. But if we can get beneath the what? And get to the why we care? We can start to have conversations that get some movement. Gabrielle: So it's like what we want? That's our wants and the why we want it? Is typically the need. So when we can satisfy our needs, then we can start making agreements with each other. So let's say you're getting married. And one of you wants a big family and one of you doesn't want kids. Well, red flag stop, have a conversation, "Why do you want a big family?" "Well, because we said, we're moving across the country and I don't want to feel isolated." "Why don't you want any kids?" "I feel like I'm going to be pulled in too many directions and I want a career." Well, there's a lot of space in there, right. Maybe you don't need to move across the country. Maybe you can agree to have a nanny. When we get to the why? When we dive into the why? We can create solutions and it's the same thing with financial wellness, "Why do we need $10 million of life insurance?" "Well, if you die, I'm afraid of this, that, and the other thing." "Okay, how else might we find a solution for that?" Catherine: So I call that the emotional value to a financial asset. That's finding what's the emotional connection to this asset or to the debt? Why you're acquiring this debt? Because that's really what needs to be fixed or that's the conversation that needs to be fixed. We have the data and we can give your attorneys and your mediators, the data and all the recommendations and considerations and all of that. But then you need to do the work to get to the why? Or the emotional value behind it. Excuse me. Gabrielle: Yeah. And, the Better Apart process, that book was written specifically for, [inaudible 00:17:45], can see the book, for people who are going through a divorce, but it's really navigation of getting your own inner alignment in check. So it's like, "How can I slow down? How can I get clear? How do I move past disagreements? How can I address things from a zero valence clear, neutral way?" All of these things are actually important to all of us, whether we're single, married, divorced, an artist at home on a commune or a businesswoman on wall street, no matter who we are. When we are aware of our inner thoughts, we can start changing them, we can start neutralizing and then we can start having important conversations. Karen: Yeah. And I think to your point, it's never too late to start having those conversations and start making those agreements. Because I think, the Gray Divorce is a big movement in our country right now. And I feel like it's a lot of people looking for autonomy and having those conversations and having those agreements can create for a lot of people, not for everybody, of course, that level of autonomy that they can continue their relationship that maybe is perfectly intact, except for people have lost their autonomy. Gabrielle: That's so on point Karen, that is... That's my story in a way, right. I was really unhappy in my marriage because everything was about my husband and I was very full of resentment. And I wanted to write this book and I was like, "I want to write this book. I want to be a global conversation changer around divorce. And I want to get Gwyneth Paltrow to endorse it." I had this vision and I didn't know what it was going to do to my marriage because I was suddenly playing big or whatever you want to call it. And, it was definitely created some bumps in the road, but there were bumps anyway, right. So, why not see if there's a way that you can make your relationship, whatever that relationship may be like with a spouse or with whomever, see if you can make it work and you change your own behavior? You can always leave. But why not try to change from within the context of the relationship first? Catherine: Yeah. And it's a hard conversation because the longer you wait, the harder it is. So the earlier you can do that. Good for you. My daughter did the best thing for me when she got married this past August, the prior year, she gave me the talk, "Mom, I'm not going to be home for every Christmas, Charlie and I will be alternating Christmas and Thanksgiving." And I was kind of like, "What? I can't imagine, not having my daughter there." But she really set me up to like, "This is what we discussed and we're going to alternate holidays, Christmas and Thanksgiving." [crosstalk 00:20:56]. So I was able to settle myself into that as her being my first one to go off and do that to me. Gabrielle: Catherine, that's such a great example because case in point, it's not just about who you're married to. We have lots of close relationships, our children, my goodness, right. Your children are like your lifeblood and the idea of not having holidays with them, I have three sons, so I'm like, "Oh my gosh, I'm never going to see them again." But, I can always try to trap them with me right now. But, but the fact of the matter is, what a gift that your daughter was so clear with you. And I'm sure she was that clear because she had a mom who did a lot of work around clarity and you modeled clarity to her. That's amazing, you should be really proud. You literally gave me complete chills on my arms. Catherine: What I thought was the cutest was because of my first holiday that she wasn't here. I was so worried about my son because I always want my kids to always know... As a mom, we all feel like, [inaudible 00:22:04], to know when you're not here, your kids are there to take care of each other, right. And so I remember the first thing, he was like, "Well." Trying to see if he should be with his dad that time because Danielle would be. He was trying to align the two of them. I just was so happy with that. I thought, "Oh, that's so sweet. And maybe they did this with to me." Gabrielle: They say it seeps in. Catherine: Yeah, it does seep in, right. Gabrielle: My kids are total teenagers. So... Catherine: Yeah. You'll get there. Gabrielle: Right now, you're all just really sweet. Catherine: Oh yeah. That's a sweet age. Yeah. Karen: All right. Gabrielle, how about three tips for people approaching marriage?  Gabrielle: Okay. Well, the first one we... [crosstalk 00:22:52]. Right, we've just gone through ad nauseum, which is know your financial picture, have a conversation about what you both need and want. Talk about the idea that you're going to check in every other year for adjustments. And remember taking a pause or a step back is always the best way forward. Karen: Love that. Catherine: Love that. We both just said that. That's awesome. This is awesome. Karen: Thank you, Gabrielle, for being here with us today. Gabrielle: It's my pleasure. I always love talking to you guys. Karen: We love talking with you too. Such a ball of energy. So this concludes this episode of what you need to know before you get married. Thank you for a great conversation. Gabrielle: Thank you.

In this episode of The Defense Never Rests podcast, we are joined by divorce attorney, online mediator, and divorce strategy coach Gabrielle Hartley. Tune in to hear her personal journey that led her to her position today, and the ins-and-outs of bring a divorce attorney. Be sure to check out her book Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate.

Gabrielle Hartley is a nationally-recognized divorce attorney, online mediator and divorce strategy coach with a strong focus on conflict resolution. She is the author of Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate and she joins us today to share how she brings mindfulness to the divorce process.No, Gabrielle doesn't lead her clients through a yoga practice in the mediation process. But she does lead us through some specific exercises focusing on breathing and returning to our bodies in a way that can help remain positive and attentive under stress. Her approach is to help her clients to remember that patience, respect, clarity, and peace are all part of an everyday practice, integrating new behaviors in our lives to help us accomplish our greatest challenges. Links & NotesAbout Gabrielle HartleyBuy the Book — Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate by Gabrielle Hartley

Gabrielle Hartley is a nationally-recognized divorce attorney, online mediator and divorce strategy coach with a strong focus on conflict resolution. She is the author of Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate and she joins us today to share how she brings mindfulness to the divorce process. No, Gabrielle doesn't lead her clients through a yoga practice in the mediation process. But she does lead us through some specific exercises focusing on breathing and returning to our bodies in a way that can help remain positive and attentive under stress. Her approach is to help her clients to remember that patience, respect, clarity, and peace are all part of an everyday practice, integrating new behaviors in our lives to help us accomplish our greatest challenges. Links & Notes About Gabrielle Hartley Buy the Book — Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate by Gabrielle Hartley

On this week's episode of The Divorce & Beyond Podcast, Susan Guthrie gets together with friend and colleague, Top Attorney, Mediator and Best-Selling Author, Gabrielle Hartley, to get her top tips for getting your divorce moving and DONE! It’s hard enough to go through a divorce but that difficulty is compounded when your divorce drags on and on.  Why is it taking so long?  This is a common lament from those stuck in the never-ending limbo of their divorce.  Susan is joined by Gabrielle Hartley, known in the divorce world as “The Closer,” who helps couples get through their divorce in a speedy fashion with her “Blitz Mediation Method!”  Gabrielle shares her top tips to held you identify what is holding you back from the finish line, and how you can move that needle forward to BE DONE!  She even shares the one magic word that can get you past impasse when your spouse is being unreasonable.  This is THE EPISODE for you if you want to know “why your divorce is taking so long?!” More information about Gabrielle:   Gabrielle Hartley, Esq., is a leading online mediator and family law attorney known for keeping 99% of her cases at the settlement table.   She is the author of Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate which received a glowing recommendation from Gwyneth Paltrow and People Magazine. Before opening her full-service online mediation and professional training center, Gabrielle clerked in matrimonial court in NYC where she resolved HUNDREDS of high conflict divorces. She is a sought-after expert in the positive divorce space in media outlets such as The New York Times, The New York Post, U.S. News and World Report, has been interviewed on dozens of podcasts and is a regular guest on NBC Mass Appeal.  Gabrielle serves on many committees within the ABA Dispute Resolution Section including serving as Vice Chair of Membership Marketing, co-chair of the ABA Mediation Access to Justice Week 2020, and co-chair of the DR Just Resolutions Mediation Edition.  She is also on the Western MA Mediation and Collaborative Dispute Resolution Steering Committee.   Gabrielle trains divorce professionals in the Better Apart Method Online.  In addition to offering training for professionals, she maintains a private mediation practice and is of counsel to Lisa Zeiderman's law firm in Westchester and NYC.  *** For Divorce Professionals who would like to uplevel their practice and take Gabrielle's training, contact her at gabrielle@gabriellehartley.com and mention "Divorce & Beyond" to receive 10% off the cost! *** You can find out more about Gabrielle on her website at www.gabriellehartley.com. Follow Gabrielle on Instagram @gabriellehartleyesq and be sure to check out her Better Apart Blog at www.gabriellehartley.com/betterapartblog ********************** SUSAN GUTHRIE, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  She is one of the Co-Chair's of the American Bar Association's DR Section Mediation Committee and is the Founder of Divorce in a Better Way which provides a curated selection of resources and information for those facing divorce and other life changes.  Susan has created a website of curated resources for those facing divorce.  Find out more at www.divorceinabetterway.com. ***************************************************************************** ********************************************* THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR! DTOUR.LIFE  dtour.life is an easy to navigate system that finally brings much needed technology to an inefficient system. 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Nina Collins in Conversation with Gabrielle Hartley, ESQ.   Gabrielle is a nationally recognized divorce attorney, online mediator, and divorce strategy coach. She trains divorce professionals to bring the highest level of conflict resolution into their practice. She is a highly respected negotiator, author, and engaging, dynamic speaker Gabrielle is known for her unique, non-toxic approach to divorce that she has developed over twenty-five years. She keeps 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and at the negotiating table, as she effectively supports her clients to create a healthy, uplifted post-divorce life for them.

Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it. – Maya Angelou Gabrielle Hartley is a nationally recognized divorce attorney, online mediator, and divorce strategy coach. She trains divorce professionals to bring the highest level of conflict resolution into their practice.  She is a highly respected negotiator, author and an engaging, dynamic speaker. Gabrielle is known for her unique, non-toxic approach to divorce that she has developed over twenty five years. She keeps 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and at the negotiating table, as she effectively supports her clients to create a healthy, uplifted post-divorce life for them. Find her online at gabriellehartley.com Today’s episode is sponsored by Aura Merchandising, a proud women-owned full-service brand marketing and global sourcing agency. Visit them at www.auralimited.com Find Us Online! Website: www.nextstopcrazytown.com Instagram: @iamjuliethahn Twitter: @iamjuliethahn LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/julietnhahn FB: https://www.facebook.com/julietnicolehahn Clubhouse: Juliet Hahn @fulfilling YouTube: Juliet Hahn

Gabrielle discusses the purpose for the book, explains her 5 steps to changing your state of being in order to have an amicable divorce, and daily exercises to redirect the way you think and how you respond to your spouse in divorce settlement talks and co-parenting.

Gabrielle Hartley is a leading online mediator and family law attorney known for keeping 99% of her cases at the settlement table. She has a private mediation practice and is of counsel to Lisa Zeiderman's law firm in Westchester and New York City. Gabrielle authored Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate. She is a sought after expert in the positive divorce space in media outlets such as The New York Times, The New York Post, U.S. News and World Report, has been interviewed on dozens of podcasts and is a regular guest on NBC Mass Appeal. Gabrielle trains divorce professionals in the Better Apart Method Online. *********Don't miss an episode! Subscribe at Apple Podcasts, Spotify, wherever you get your podcasts, or at our website. Audio editing and original music provided by Encompass Podcast Studio.  Need  their help for your own project? Send an email at info@themediatenow.com and tell then Winter sent you! Want to join The Mediate Now™ conversation? Get involved with the Facebook group!Chat with Winter! Chat with Gabrielle Hartley!Need to schedule a mediation? Contact Winter at winter@winterwheeler.com, and check out her mediation and coaching website.

As a former family law litigator, former Judge's assistant, and now a mediator and coach, Gabrielle sheds light on the reality of how Judge's make decisions, what's in store for you in court, and how mediation can save the day - if you're ready. Gabrielle shares stories and gives guidance to the right path for you in your divorce strategy.

Understanding and skillfully engaging in the Art of Negotiation is vital for you, the high net worth individual.  Today we discuss the value and nuance of negotiating with mastery.    Familiarize yourself with the essential steps to negotiating your divorce settlement with mastery.  This includes understanding both your legal rights and financial risks and being clear on what you need. Additionally, we explore the subtlety of listening for what’s beneath your spouse’s position and when to use leverage.  Above all is your state of mind. When you enter negotiations with your rational rather than emotional mind and overcome your internal resistance, you will  create a settlement that everyone can feel good about.   Our guest and negotiator extraordinaire is Gabrielle Hartley.  Ms. Hartley is a leading divorce attorney, online mediator and author of the highly acclaimed book, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate. Gabrielle is known to resolve 99% of her cases at the negotiation table. She is a sought after divorce expert, on dozens media channels including the New York Times, The New York Post, Vice, Thrive Global and is a regular guest on an NBC morning program.   insta @gabriellehartleyesq fb @gabriellehartleyesq twitter @gabhartleyesq   Survive and Thrive Bundle gabriellehartley.com Gabrielle's Blog    Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Gabrielle Hartley is a strong, compassionate advocate coach who, for 25 years, has helped couples reach amicable resolutions during separation or divorce, even leading them to realize that, maybe, the relationship is worth a second try.  She authored Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate, a book endorsed by Gwyneth Paltrow herself, and was named “The Conscious Uncoupling How To Book” by People Magazine. About Guest/Topic Gabrielle has counseled countless couples over the years and has kept 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and back on the road of second chances and new beginnings. She may not be able to conclude on first glance the fate that awaits a relationship, but by sharing her carefully curated methods of working through the self and the emotions a person has experienced, her clients are able to reach a peaceful resolution, whether it’s by letting go or hanging on.  In this episode, Gabrielle talks about the positive ways to go through separation, letting go of the pain and resentment and finally finding peace within yourself.   In This Episode Learn how the things that are happening to you may not typically be about you Figure out how you can have a positive experience amidst separation and betrayal  Explore the five elements that will help you navigate the roadmap of your relationship Learn the ways you can forgive someone who has betrayed you and find peace within yourself  Learn why the wrong type of support can do more harm than good Quotes “The possibilities are really endless. The possibilities come from within the person who's coming to see me.” (02:20) “Easy now, hard later. Hard now, easy later. Take your pick, it's going to be one of those two.” (11:10) “Patience is about slowing down, giving yourself tools to respond rather than react.” (08:30) “What respect is all about, of course, it’s about you. It’s about building up yourself especially when you feel like garbage after you've just been betrayed.” (12:20) “It's this concept of death and rebirth and there really is the death of the old relationships, the death of the old you, the death of the expectations and the grieving process that goes along with it.” (20:37)  "The thing about forgiveness is it's truly all about you. It is an exercise in being compassionate with yourself.” (23:45) Resources Mentioned Gabriel Hartley Website Post-Betrayal Syndrome QuizThe PBT Institute Group: Women Hacking Betrayal

Gwyneth Paltrow called her book, "Better Apart", the uncoupling "how-to".  Tune in to hear how Gabrielle Hartley's journey as a child of divorced parents, lead her to reshape and reimagine the divorce process to make it more compassionate for all. 

Gwyneth Paltrow called her book, "Better Apart", the uncoupling "how-to".  Tune in to hear how Gabrielle Hartley's journey as a child of divorced parents, lead her to reshape and reimagine the divorce process to make it more compassionate for all. 

In this episode, Susan Guthrie is joined by Leading Divorce Attorney and Best-Selling Author (and Susan's Work BFF!), Gabrielle Hartley, to talk about the BEST THING to happen to Divorce in ages:  Online Divorce Mediation. With the advent of Covid, many court systems around the country (and the world) are effectively closed or operating only on an emergency basis, and in most cases, they don't consider your divorce an emergency!  This can affect divorcing couples in many ways; if they are thinking of divorce, they often can't file and even when they do, they can't get into court.  For ongoing cases, couples can't get court dates for hearings or trials so are on indefinite hold, and for those who are done but need help due to changes that have occured, as they have for so many during Covid with job loss and health issues, they also struggle to get a court date.  Even as some courts open for limited business, the backlog of cases that has been building for months, will take years, if not decades, to subside.  It's just one long, never-ending DIVORCE LIMBO! So what is a couple to do?  One of the best (and only) options for many is online divorce mediation and it's a great option!  Both Susan and Gabrielle have been conducting mediations online with couples for years, long before Covid made the practice popular.  There are many reasons, beyond social distancing and safety, that make online mediation particularly well-suited for divorce cases.  This conversation between two of the top online divorce mediators in the country will enlighten you and show you how you can mediate online and move through your divorce and BEYOND! Some MORE Highlights from the Episode: Find out what the mediation process looks like online. Hear why not having to sit in the same room with your spouse can be so helpful to the process. Discover why online mediation is often even faster and easier than in-person mediation. Learn about Gabrielle's innovative online mediation blitz, her Positive Divorce approach and how you can learn to be Better Apart with her book and program! There are just so many benefits to mediating your divorce online, listen to this episode and get your life out of LIMBO! For More Information on This Week's Special Guest:  Gabrielle Hartley Esq., is a leading divorce attorney, online mediator and creator of The Better Apart Method.  She's known for keeping 99% of her cases at the negotiation table and out of the courtroom. Her Book, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate was given a glowing endorsement from Gwyneth Paltrow, and People Magazine.  Gabrielle is a sought after divorce expert in the media and has been quoted in the New York TImes, Psychology Today, Vice, Thrive Global, and Yoga Journal to name a few.  PLUS she's a regular guest on NBC talking about all things related to what Gabrielle terms, The Positive Divorce Movement. Gabrielle can be reached at gabrielle@gabriellehartley.com Find out more about Gabrielle at www.gabriellehartley.com Follow Gabrielle on Instagram at www.instagram.com/gabriellehartleyesq       ******************************************************************************************************* SUSAN GUTHRIE, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  She is one of the Co-Chair's of the American Bar Association's DR Section Mediation Committee and is the Founder of Divorce in a Better Way which provides a curated selection of resources and information for those facing divorce and other life changes.  Susan has created a website of curated resources for those facing divorce.  Find out more at www.divorceinabetterway.com. ***************************************************************** THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR!!    FAYR, the BEST Co-Parenting App on the Market!   What makes FAYR different?  At FAYR it's not just about efficiency and ease (though they love those).  They also help you create a better co-parenting experience by providing tools for: constructive communication, argument diffusion, and emotional support.  For information on our FAYR, the ONLY co-parenting app recommended by Susan Guthrie and The Divorce and Beyond Podcast,  visit their website at www.fayr.com.  Don't forget to use the code "SUSANG18" for 20% off!! ***************************************************************************** SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES AVAILABLE! 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Is a Positive Divorce Possible? The big “D” carries so many emotions with it. What if I told you there was something called the positive divorce movement? Don't believe me?...

Is a Positive Divorce Possible? The big “D” carries so many emotions with it. What if I told you there was something called the positive divorce movement? Don’t believe me?...

https://youtu.be/XirQNr4LWY4 Is a Positive Divorce Possible? The big “D” carries so many emotions with it. What if I told you there was something called the positive divorce movement? Don’t believe me? Well, my next guest is leading the way in just that. Gabrielle Hartley is a nationally recognized divorce attorney, online mediator, and divorce strategy coach known for her unique, non-toxic approach to divorce. She keeps 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and at the negotiating table, as she effectively supports her clients to create a healthy, uplifted post-divorce life for them. She teaches divorce lawyers on how to be better lawyers. Gabrielle and her work have been featured in People Magazine, The New York Post, The New York Times, and The Yoga Journal just to name a few. Sometimes Better Apart is Better She has also authored the book Better Apart which was endorsed by Gwyneth Paltrow! Basically, she's a big deal. Check out our conversation for the full scoop. Guest Contact Info Instagram: /https://www.instagram.com/gabriellehartleyesq/ Website: https://gabriellehartley.com/

Divorce has long had a bad reputation. It is often incredibly stressful for the couple and leaves broken families in its path. Have you ever wondered, “does it really have to be this way?” Are there people out there who have successfully dissolved their marriages in a peaceful and healthy way? Are there children who don't feel like their lives have been torn apart by their parents' divorce? The answer is yes. Enter Benjamin Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo, authors of https://ourhappydivorce.com/ (Our Happy Divorce), and today's guests on this episode of Divorce, Healthy! When Ben and Nikki got divorced 13 years ago, there were far fewer resources available for collaborative processes and co-parenting. Luckily, they were both able to successfully navigate the divorce process and make decisions that have resonated positively in their lives and the lives of their children. Benjamin stresses the importance of keeping your child's best interest at heart. With painful memories of his own parents' divorce, Ben knew he didn't want to put his child through the same hardship. Conversely, Nikki's parents remain married after 52 years, and she claims this was the driving force for making things work throughout the divorce process. (5:26) At first, Ben did what most people do and hired an attorney. He soon realized his attorney may be more interested in a fight than in doing what was best for Ben and his family. Instead of pursuing a fight, Ben decided to step away from everything for a while. After taking time to weigh his options, he ultimately decided to team up with Nikki to tackle the problem together. “She was on my team and I was on her team. So, if you want to talk about collaborative, that's the ideal behind it. But we truly were on each other's team… as team captains.” (19:22) Ben and Nikki admit that there is no easy way out of a divorce; there will always be fights, arguments, anger, etc. However, there are ample resources for people going through separation and divorce to consider. One resource the couple endorse is the https://www.fayr.com/app (App Fayr), developed by Micheal Daniels, who joins the conversation at 30:12. “Fayr is really just my sincere effort in trying to…communicate on the core issues, the things that need to be communicated on and try to clear up some of the misunderstandings and disagreement that oftentimes escalate into a costly court motion. And it has an emotional cost too.” (30:54) As Ashley-Nicole mentions in prior episodes, the divorce industry is a broken one, and only some people benefit from it. Echoing her thoughts, Michael says “[Divorce] is such a broken system… everybody talks about the broken system. The truth is the system is working just fine for those who are financially benefiting from it.”(38:37) This is why “we're all here to try to scream and say, you do not have to follow the norm just because it's the norm,” says Ashley-Nicole. (45:52) For more information on Benjamin and Nikki's book Our Happy Divorce, visit https://ourhappydivorce.com/ (ourhappydivorce.com). To download the Fayr App visit https://www.fayr.com/app (fayr.com/app) Like this interview with Benjamin Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo? Check out https://player.captivate.fm/episode/1ca7f163-696c-4181-b551-b4ca3ecb57ce (How to Move Forward After Divorce, With Divorce Attorney & “Better Apart” Author, Gabrielle Hartley). To inquire about speaking engagements, purchase your copy of Ashley-Nicole's book “The Cure for Divorce Culture,” or to schedule your private orientation meeting, head to http://www.anrlaw.com (www.anrlaw.com). You can also find us on social media @ANRLaw. Find a better way forward, right here, on Divorce, Healthy!

If you're going through a divorce or have recently been through one, you've probably experienced stressful emotions and have felt lonely in the process. Maybe you've seen your kids affected or are afraid they will be negatively impacted in the future. Divorce has a bad reputation in the United States, as we're inundated on a daily basis with the spectacle of divorces gone wrong. Here, on Divorce, Healthy!, Ashley-Nicole Russell wants to turn that reputation on its head. Welcome back to Divorce, Healthy! In this episode, our host is accompanied by Divorce Attorney and “Better Apart” author, Gabrielle Hartley. Gabrielle is a divorce mediator and lawyer who practices in New York and Massachusetts. In her book, Hartley provides readers with the five keys on how to move forward after divorce. 7:28 Both Gabrielle and Ashley-Nicole have had experiences with either being divorced or having divorced parents. They know first-hand the tremendous consequences divorce can have on you, your children, and your family. They stress the importance of being true to your own path during your divorce. It's not necessary to follow in the footsteps of others, even best friends or family members. “If you're getting divorced and your best friend had to hire private investigator, it doesn't mean you need a private investigator (by the way, nobody needs a private investigator, but I mean for divorces!)” 14:08 They also address how negatively divorce can impact your children. It's vital to allow your children, “especially the younger children…to have their childhoods.” 17:04 Gabrielle shares with us how her mother said to her, “Dad and I have grown up problems, and you're a child and you need to worry about being a kid and we need to worry about our problems.” She points to that conversation as helping her navigate the emotional turmoil of her parents divorce. 17:21 Another key point they discuss is the internal struggle you may encounter during divorce. You need to overcome divorce; look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself who you are, where you are headed, how much are you planning on fighting unnecessarily? “You may get the windfall, but what is the win? Who are you?... Even if you win, sometimes you really lost… if you got that down and dirty, is that the you you want to look back on?” 29:13 For more information on Gabrielle Hartley and her Better Apart™ program, visit https://gabriellehartley.com/ (gabriellehartley.com). Purchase Gabrielle's book https://www.amazon.com/Better-Apart-Radically-Positive-Separate-ebook/dp/B0728MY47W (Better Apart). Like this interview with Gabrielle Hartley? We think you'll appreciate https://player.captivate.fm/episode/fac4b290-8f80-49b4-83a1-041801d4c4b6 (A Millennial's Perspective On Marriage & Divorce with TV Personality Aaron Deane). To inquire about speaking engagements, purchase your copy of Ashley-Nicole's book “The Cure for Divorce Culture,” or to schedule your private orientation meeting, head to http://www.anrlaw.com (www.anrlaw.com). You can also find us on social media @ANRLaw. Find a better way forward, right here, on Divorce, Healthy!

Gabrielle Hartley discusses her better apart method for divorcing.  Gabrielle Hartley, Esq., is an experienced compassionate and effective divorce lawyer mediator, author and speaker. For the last 25 years, she has served couples in reaching reasonable resolution. She is well-known for keeping 99% of her cases at the negotiation table and out of the courtroom and for launching The Positive Divorce Movement. Gabrielle founded The Better Apart Method, authored Better Apart; The Radically Positively Way to Separate (HarperCollins 2019) and is the Founder of The Better Apart Method Online Certification. This program is designed for divorce professionals to deliver greater value to their clients using the key teachings of The Better Apart Method. The Better Apart Method provides tools to close cases more efficiently and to decrease stress for the professional. Better Apart is the first book of its kind to combine the life changing, healing wisdom of mindfulness, meditation and yoga with practical advice and legal wisdom to get the reader through and beyond the divorce. Better Apart features a carefully curated five step process that promotes wellness through and beyond divorce. Better Apart was endorsed by Gwyneth Paltrow, and was named “the conscious uncoupling how-to” by People Magazine. She has been featured throughout media channels including The New York Times, U.S. News and World Report, Vice, The New York Post, Yoga Journal,Vice Mind Body Green, Thrive Global, Kitchn, The Hampshire Gazette, and The Brian Lehrer Show. She is a regular expert guest and blogger featured NBC television (Mass Appeal) and radio as well as dozens of podcasts and blogs around the world. Gabrielle is known for her signature talks and workshops. www.gabriellehartley.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this episode, I sat down with Gabrielle Harley, divorce attorney, online mediator and author of Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate and had an amazing conversation about divorce and all of the things that you can do, including the need for clarity, patience, and forgiveness to get to the place where you feel that you are truly better apart.

For so many people going through divorce or difficult change, the future can suddenly look like a big, black void.  The life you saw and planned is no longer available and you have no idea how things will unfold as you go forward.  This can create a great deal of fear that often keeps people stuck in the trauma of the divorce long after the legal process is over.  In this episode, Host Susan Guthrie speaks with Certified Coach, Shannon McGorry, who helps people chart their path beyond divorce to create a future that is in keeping with their interests and values.  Things that sometimes get set aside in the give and take of a relationship and the turmoil of it's breakdown.  Having been through it herself, Shannon knows the uncertainly that the drastic change of divorce can bring and she also knows how to help you through the loss and the way to turn to the future so that you can thrive after your divorce.   Some highlights from this episode: Divorce does not define you.  You get to choose how you are going to live your next chapter (6:30) Why Shannon's therapist told her she shouldn't stay in ugly too long. (7:00) How fear shows up in divorce as fear of the loss, fear of the process and fear of the outcome. (7:45) What are the two tracks to follow to start taking action? (10:20) Why do you need to get in touch with and define your values in order to create your new future. (14:25) What does Shannon's "categories of life" exercise do to help you unhit the pause button on your life. (19:15) What exactly does Shannon mean by becoming empowered and why is it SO important for moving forward after your divorce?  (25:35) How can you regain your power when the divorce is not something that you chose or want? (27:05) Shannon knows the fear you are feeling and also the steps you can take to move through that fear or avoid it entirely so that you CAN thrive into your new future - Don't miss this episode!  More about this week's Special Guest:  Shannon McGorry is a Certified Professional Coach specializing in Divorce and Life Empowerment. Expertise, Prioritization, Clarity, and Accountability are the principles of Shannon’s practice. Shannon empowers her clients to show up confident, well informed, and educated as they make decisions and take consistent, intentional action in support of their future reality. Shannon obtained her coaching certification through the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching, and she graduated Magna Cum Laude from Siena College with a Bachelor of Arts in Economics. She is a woman of faith, a mom of two daughters, a yoga enthusiast, a huge fan of the beach, of being outside, and of laughter. Shannon is available for private coaching, workshops, and speaking engagements via her website, http://www.lovestrengthandgrace.com. Shannon's Special Gift for Listeners of The Divorce & Beyond Podcast:  A very special 15-minute audio with 4 tips to start the shift in your thinking!  You can access Shannon's gift here: https://lovestrengthandgrace.lpages.co/audio-training-whats-next-creating-a-powerful-shift-in-focus-after-divorce/ **************************************************************************** WANT TO BE A GUEST ON THE DIVORCE & BEYOND PODCAST?  You can apply on the website: https://divorceandbeyondpod.com/want-to-be-a-guest%3F ********************************************************************  SUSAN GUTHRIE, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  She is one of the Co-Chair's of the American Bar Association's DR Section Mediation Committee and is the Founder of Divorce in a Better Way which provides a curated selection of resources and information for those facing divorce and other life changes.  Susan also provides legal coaching and divorce mediation services to select clients around the world through an online platform.  Find out more at www.divorceinabetterway.com. ****************************************************************************   For Mediation Professionals:  As one of the country's leading experts in online mediation, Susan is now sharing her expertise and knowledge and offering her ONLINE MEDIATION TRAINING PROGRAM which will show you how to implement an online platform into to your existing practice in just two short one-hour online sessions!  Increase your potential client base, convenience and income by learning the ethical and practical considerations to know when mediating online!  Find out more at www.learntomediateonline.com and mention you are a listener of the Divorce and Beyond Podcast to get $50 off the cost of the 1:1 training!   Susan's Family Mediation Training Webinar:  To find out more about Susan's BRAND NEW Divorce & Family Mediation Primer that will help you set up your family mediation practice, go to the website www.learntomediateonline.com! This webinar is focused specifically on the fundamentals of setting up a mediation process for parties facing divorce and other family law issues. Susan Guthrie, one of the leading family law and mediation attorneys in the country, shares her practice tips for providing a superior mediation experience to clients while also meeting your needs as a practitioner.  The program will cover suggestions regarding: Establishing Processes and procedures  Effective Consultations Efficient fact and data gathering  Document preparation Establishing Fees and Packages Streamlined Use of an Agenda Mediation format both online and in-person  and MORE! Efficiency, client satisfaction, technology and troubleshooting will be reviewed with an eye to making practitioners aware of technology that can be implemented to assist both mediator and clients.  All live webinars will include a live Q & A with Susan at the end of the webinar for those who wish to stay online.   Best of all?  Each participant will receive a sample Consultation Checklist and Mediation Agenda for use in their own practice.  This fast-paced webinar program will be conducted in one two-hour session and the LIVE Q & A will follow. Join us for the first webinar on: WEDNESDAY, JUNE 17TH AT 9 AM PT / 12 PM ET *************************************************************************** THIS WEEK'S SPONSOR INFORMATION:  Gabrielle Hartley, the Creator of the Better Apart Method:  Leading divorce lawyer, coach and mediator, Gabrielle Hartley's book book "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate" is a runaway best-seller and now she has created the Better Apart Master Class, available for download online, which provides powerful tools to help you get clear, feel better and reclaim your life!  For a limited time you will receive a mini consultation with Gabrielle herself when you sign up for the Master Class.  Listeners of the podcast receive $25 off the price of the Master Class with code "BEYOND25"!!!   Susan's Family Mediation Training Webinar:  To find out more about Susan's BRAND NEW Divorce & Family Mediation Primer go to the website www.learntomediateonline.com! If you would like to sponsor the show please reach out to us at  divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com for pricing and details!!! ******************************************************************** Don't forget to check out the Divorce & Beyond Podcast website at www.divorceandbeyondpod.com where you can find all of our episodes, links to sponsors and special offers and SIGN UP FOR THE FREE NEWSLETTER and Receive a Special Welcome Video from Susan! Remember to follow Susan Guthrie and THE DIVORCE AND BEYOND PODCAST on social media for updates and inside tips and information: Susan Guthrie on Facebook @Susan Guthrie Susan on Instagram @susanguthrieesq Susan on Twitter @guthrielaw Divorce & Beyond Podcast on Instagram @divorceandbeyond Divorce & Beyond on Twitter @DivorceBeyond If you want to see the video version of the podcast episodes they are available on The Divorce & Beyond YouTube Channel!  Make sure to LIKE and SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a single episode! Finally, we'd really appreciate it if you would  give us a 5 Star Rating and tell us what you like about the show in a review - your feedback really matters to us!  You can also get in touch with Susan at divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com. **************************************************************************** DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.  

This conversation with Gabrielle Hartley, author of "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate," is not our usual health conversation. However, we felt the health factors around marriage stress were important to address during this pandemic. Divorce lawyer Gabrielle Hartley walks us through some of the best and worst decisions that can be made at this time, especially for couples who are experiencing stress yet unable to move apart because of financial or other constraints imposed by the pandemic. Gabrielle Hartley is a leading elite divorce strategy and wellness coach, mediator, attorney, consultant, speaker, and author.Gabrielle is known for her unique, non-toxic approach to divorce that she has developed over twenty five years. She keeps 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and at the negotiating table, as she effectively supports her clients to create a healthy, uplifted post-divorce life for them.After growing up in New York City, Gabrielle attended Cornell University and Brooklyn Law School. She served as court attorney for Judge Jeffrey Sunshine in NYC matrimonial court and is a member of the Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation. She currently resides in Northampton, MA with her husband and three sons.Click here to learn more about Gabrielle and her book, Better Apart.

"Everything is negotiable.  Whether or not the negotiation is easy is another question."  - Carrie Fisher Whether it is negotiating with the plumber who is going to fix your toilet, your twelve year old over cleaning her room or with your boss for a raise, we negotiate matters big and small every day.  The difference is, when we sit down at the table to negotiate our divorce settlement with our soon to be ex-spouse, the emotions are high and the decisions can be some that will impact our lives and our family for years to come.  We worry that we aren't up to the task but that is where Professor Andrea Schneider can help.  She literally wrote THE book that teaches lawyers how to negotiate. Negotiation Essentials for Lawyers!  In fact, Professor Schneider gives negotiation trainings around the world to law school students, corporations, law firms, court systems, and even other faculty and she is here to help you get ready for your divorce negotiation.  Host Susan Guthrie and Professor Schneider review all the steps you need to take to arrive at the best settlement that you can, from pre-negotiation preparation to how to get your spouse to agree to what you want.  This is essential listening not just for those who are divorcing, but really everyone, because these skills are necessary every day and in every way! Some Highlights from this episode: Find out why you may already have more negotiation skills than you think you do. What happens in a negotiation that gives you a signal that you need to pay attention because this is important? Why are the steps you take BEFORE the negotiation some of the most important and what are they? How do your goals, interests and limits play into your negotiation strategy? What does BOBO stand for and why do you need to know? How is a bicycle like the negotiation process? And so much more that will help you to negotiate a divorce agreement that works for you! More about this week's guest: Professor Andrea Schneider joined the faculty of Marquette University Law School in 1996. She teaches ADR, Negotiation, Ethics, and International Conflict Resolution. She is the inaugural director of the Institute for Women’s Leadership at Marquette University and also serves as the Director of the nationally ranked ADR program at Marquette University Law School. Professor Schneider is the author or co-author of numerous books and book chapters in the field of dispute resolution.  Her most recently published works include Negotiating Crime: Plea Bargaining, Problem Solving and Dispute Resolution in the Criminal Context with Cynthia Alkon (Carolina Academic Press 2019) and Negotiation Essentials for Lawyers (ABA Publishing, 2019) and The Negotiator’s Desk Reference (DRI Press 2017) both co-edited with Chris Honeyman.  Another recent book, which she co-authored with her father David Kupfer, is Smart & Savvy: Negotiation Strategies in Academia (Meadows Communication 2017).   Her textbooks include Dispute Resolution: Examples and Explanations (Aspen 2009, 2nd ed. 2011, 3rd ed. 2014) with Michael Moffitt as well as Negotiation: Processes For Problem-Solving (Aspen 2006, 2nd ed. 2014),  Mediation: Practice, Policy & Ethics (Aspen 2006, 2nd ed. 2013) and Dispute Resolution: Beyond The Adversarial Model (Aspen 2005, 2nd ed. 2011, 3rd ed 2019), with Carrie Menkel-Meadow, Lela Love & Michael Moffitt. She also is a co-author of two additional books on negotiation with Roger Fisher, Beyond Machiavelli: Tools for Coping with Conflict (Harvard University Press 1994) and Coping with International Conflict (Prentice-Hall 1997). Professor Schneider also wrote Creating the Musee The Politics of Culture in France (Penn State Press, 1998). Professor Schneider has published numerous articles on negotiation, pedagogy, ethics, gender and international conflict. She currently serves as the co-editor of the ABA Dispute Resolution Magazine and on the Board of Advisors for the Saltman Center for Conflict Resolution at UNLV School of Law. You can reach Professor Schneider at andrea.schneider@marquette.edu and can purchase her book, Negotiation Essentials for Lawyers, by clicking the title or go here:  https://amzn.to/2Y9o8o7! **************************************************************************** WANT TO BE A GUEST ON THE DIVORCE & BEYOND PODCAST?  You can apply on the website: https://divorceandbeyondpod.com/want-to-be-a-guest%3F ********************************************************************  SUSAN GUTHRIE, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  She is one of the Co-Chair's of the American Bar Association's DR Section Mediation Committee and is the Founder of Divorce in a Better Way which provides a curated selection of resources and information for those facing divorce and other life changes.  Susan also provides legal coaching and divorce mediation services to select clients around the world through an online platform.  Find out more at www.divorceinabetterway.com. ****************************************************************************   For Mediation Professionals:  As one of the country's leading experts in online mediation, Susan is now sharing her expertise and knowledge and offering her ONLINE MEDIATION TRAINING PROGRAM which will show you how to implement an online platform into to your existing practice in just two short one-hour online sessions!  Increase your potential client base, convenience and income by learning the ethical and practical considerations to know when mediating online!  Find out more at www.learntomediateonline.com and mention you are a listener of the Divorce and Beyond Podcast to get $50 off the cost of the 1:1 training!   Susan's Family Mediation Training Webinar:  To find out more about Susan's BRAND NEW Divorce & Family Mediation Primer that will help you set up your family mediation practice, go to the website www.learntomediateonline.com! This webinar is focused specifically on the fundamentals of setting up a mediation process for parties facing divorce and other family law issues. Susan Guthrie, one of the leading family law and mediation attorneys in the country, shares her practice tips for providing a superior mediation experience to clients while also meeting your needs as a practitioner.  The program will cover suggestions regarding: Establishing Processes and procedures  Effective Consultations Efficient fact and data gathering  Document preparation Establishing Fees and Packages Streamlined Use of an Agenda Mediation format both online and in-person  and MORE! Efficiency, client satisfaction, technology and troubleshooting will be reviewed with an eye to making practitioners aware of technology that can be implemented to assist both mediator and clients.  All live webinars will include a live Q & A with Susan at the end of the webinar for those who wish to stay online.   Best of all?  Each participant will receive a sample Consultation Checklist and Mediation Agenda for use in their own practice.  This fast-paced webinar program will be conducted in one two-hour session and the LIVE Q & A will follow. Join us for the first webinar on: WEDNESDAY, JUNE 17TH AT 9 AM PT / 12 PM ET *************************************************************************** THIS WEEK'S SPONSOR INFORMATION:  Gabrielle Hartley, the Creator of the Better Apart Method:  Leading divorce lawyer, coach and mediator, Gabrielle Hartley's book book "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate" is a runaway best-seller and now she has created the Better Apart Master Class, available for download online, which provides powerful tools to help you get clear, feel better and reclaim your life!  For a limited time you will receive a mini consultation with Gabrielle herself when you sign up for the Master Class.  Listeners of the podcast receive $25 off the price of the Master Class with code "BEYOND25"!!!   Susan's Family Mediation Training Webinar:  To find out more about Susan's BRAND NEW Divorce & Family Mediation Primer go to the website www.learntomediateonline.com! If you would like to sponsor the show please reach out to us at  divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com for pricing and details!!! ******************************************************************** Don't forget to check out the Divorce & Beyond Podcast website at www.divorceandbeyondpod.com where you can find all of our episodes, links to sponsors and special offers and SIGN UP FOR THE FREE NEWSLETTER and Receive a Special Welcome Video from Susan! Remember to follow Susan Guthrie and THE DIVORCE AND BEYOND PODCAST on social media for updates and inside tips and information: Susan Guthrie on Facebook @Susan Guthrie Susan on Instagram @susanguthrieesq Susan on Twitter @guthrielaw Divorce & Beyond Podcast on Instagram @divorceandbeyond Divorce & Beyond on Twitter @DivorceBeyond If you want to see the video version of the podcast episodes they are available on The Divorce & Beyond YouTube Channel!  Make sure to LIKE and SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a single episode! Finally, we'd really appreciate it if you would  give us a 5 Star Rating and tell us what you like about the show in a review - your feedback really matters to us!  You can also get in touch with Susan at divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com. **************************************************************************** DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

https://gabriellehartley.com/ Gabrielle Hartey, Esq., is a strong and compassionate advocate, coach and a highly skilled divorce mediator and coach. For the last 25 years, she has served couples in reaching reasonable resolutions for her cases both in person and online. She is well-known for keeping 99% of her cases at the negotiation table and out of the courtroom and for launching The Positive Divorce Movement. With extensive experience in and out of the courtroom, her agreements are arrived at swiftly and are both clear and comprehensive. She founded The Better Apart Method, authored Better Apart; The Radically Positively Way to Separate (HarperCollins 2019). She committed to keeping the toxicity and damage in her cases to a minimum. Gabrielle is the Founder of The Better Apart Method Certification. This program is designed for divorce professionals to deliver greater value to their clients using the key teachings of The Better Apart Method. The Better Apart Method provides tools to close cases more efficiently and to decrease stress for the professional. Better Apart is the first book of its kind to combine the life changing, healing wisdom of mindfulness, meditation and yoga with practical advice and legal wisdom to get the reader through and beyond the divorce. Better Apart features a carefully curated five step process that promotes wellness through and beyond divorce. Better Apart was endorsed by Gwyneth Paltrow, and was named “the conscious uncoupling how-to” by People Magazine. She has been featured throughout media channels including The New York Times, U.S. News and World Report, Vice, The New York Post, Yoga Journal,Vice Mind Body Green, Thrive Global, The Hampshire Gazette, and The Brian Lehrer Show. She is a regular expert guest and blogger featured NBC television (Mass Appeal) and radio as well as dozens of podcasts and blogs around the world. Gabrielle is known for her signature talks, Becoming The Best You Ever and Self Care for Attorneys; The Better Apart Method Each presentation is carefully curated to each audience.

The portrayal of divorce in the media doesn’t put people going through a split on a healthy or healing path. An acrimonious and bitter divorce does not create the inner narratives that bring emotional freedom or the legacy we want to give our children.    We require a space for patience and positivity, a process that will improve our lives going forward. This is where the Better Apart Method comes in.    What steps do we need to take to heal and live more wholeheartedly after a divorce? How do mantras envelope our thinking and change our way of being? How do we grieve our marriages in a constructive way?    In this episode, I’m joined by divorce lawyer mediator, author, speaker and founder of the Better Apart Method, Gabrielle Hartley. She talks about a different approach to divorce, and why it’s changing lives. 3 Things You’ll Love About This Episode    - How to go from reacting in a heightened state to responding from a thoughtful and neutral place  - Gabrielle’s process for creating a shift in our narratives to get ourselves on the right track - An insight into the difference between a broken home and a transformed home     Guest Bio    Gabrielle Hartley, Esq., is an experienced compassionate and effective divorce lawyer mediator, author and speaker. For the last 25 years, she has served couples in reaching a reasonable resolution. She is well-known for keeping 99% of her cases at the negotiation table and out of the courtroom and for launching The Positive Divorce Movement. Gabrielle founded The Better Apart Method, authored Better Apart; The Radically Positively Way to Separate and is the Founder of The Better Apart Method Online Certification.   For more information and to get Gabrielle’s Survive and Thrive giveaway, and to buy her 6-week online program visit gabriellehartley.com.    Buy Gabrielle’s book Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate on Amazon.      Feeling stuck and unable to move forward? Get 5 proven tips to get unstuck while waiting for your divorce to be done.  Click here to download instantly. (https://www.wendysterling.net/5-Free-Tips-To-Move-Forward)

On this week's episode, which is Part Two of a Special Two-Part Episode, Susan Guthrie, nationally recognized family law attorney and mediator, continues her conversation with Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond, the authors of "Our Happy Divorce: How Ending Our Marriage Brought Us Together" which shares their journey through marriage, divorce and finding a different kind of love. "Our Happy Divorce" - Now that you have listened to Part One of this interview (If you haven't heard it yet, click here) , I know that you too must be a huge fan of  Nikki and Ben's story and there is so much more to hear!  In Part One, we heard their unusual path to create their own definition of divorce and how they measured every decision that they made by the phrase "What's best for Asher?"  Now, in Part Two, Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond share the details of their journey after the divorce was final and they both moved into new relationships and a new relationship with each other.  As Ben says in the episode, "if Nikki and I can do it, then anyone can do it!"  Find out how they made it all work and hear how things are now, 13 years down the road.  You will be inspired - Listen now! Highlights from this episode: Nikki and Ben hit a major roadblock soon after the divorce was final - find out what that was and how they handled it. How have Ben and Nikki continued to measure everything by "What's best for Asher as they moved into their new lives?" How did Nikki and Nadia meet for the first time, and what role did Asher play in the introduction? What did Chad do that won Ben over? Why is the last chapter of the book so significant? Ben and Nikki forged their own path through divorce and created a new and lasting love, relationship and family.  Listen to this episode to find out how you can do the same! More about Nikki and Ben: From weeknight dinners and homework sessions with their son to Christmas card photos and vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events—and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their new amazing spouses and children. Nikki knows how being supported by a strong, loving family can influence the way a person navigates life, love, marriage, and motherhood. Having grown up as a member of the iconic San Francisco 49ers football family, she was thrown into the limelight at a young age. The values her family instilled in her have helped shape who she is today, and she continues to live by them. Ben intimately understands the detriment divorce can cause in the lives of children. The example of his parents’ divorce instilled in him a deep commitment to do better by his own kids. Ben is an investor, board member, philanthropist, golfer, and sports enthusiast. But above all, he is a dedicated father and family man who understands the importance of putting his ego aside and his children first. You can find out more about Our Happy Divorce, Ben and Nikki at www.ourhappydivorce.com Follow Our Happy Divorce on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. Buy the Book on Amazon or on the website www.ourhappydivorce.com.  You can also reach out to Ben and Nikki for a FREE COPY of the book - just mention The Divorce & Beyond Podcast!  The best way to reach them is to DM them on Instagram at @ourhappydivorce. Read the Our Happy Divorce Guest Blog on Gabrielle Hartley's Better Apart website!   ********************************************************************   SUSAN GUTHRIE, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  She is one of the Co-Chair's of the American Bar Association's DR Section Mediation Committee and is the Founder of Divorce in a Better Way which provides a curated selection of resources and information for those facing divorce and other life changes.  Susan also provides legal coaching and divorce mediation services to select clients around the world through an online platform.  Find out more at www.divorceinabetterway.com. **************************************************************************** THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:  Gabrielle Hartley, the Creator of the Better Apart Method:  Leading divorce lawyer, coach and mediator, Gabrielle Hartley's book book "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate" is a runaway best-seller and now she has created the Better Apart Master Class, available for download online, which provides powerful tools to help you get clear, feel better and reclaim your life!  For a limited time you will receive a mini consultation with Gabrielle herself when you sign up for the Master Class.  Listeners of the podcast receive $25 off the price of the Master Class with code "BEYOND25"!!! For Divorce Professionals:  As one of the country's leading experts in online mediation, Susan is now sharing her expertise and knowledge and offering her ONLINE MEDIATION TRAINING PROGRAM which will show you how to implement an online platform into to your existing practice in just two short one-hour online sessions!  Increase your potential client base, convenience and income by learning the ethical and practical considerations to know when mediating online!  Find out more at www.learntomediateonline.com and mention you are a listener of the Divorce and Beyond Podcast to get $50 off the cost of the 1:1 training!  If you would like to sponsor the show please reach out to us at  divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com for pricing and details!!! ******************************************************************** Don't forget to check out the Divorce & Beyond Podcast website at www.divorceandbeyondpod.com where you can find all of our episodes, links to sponsors and special offers and SIGN UP FOR THE FREE NEWSLETTER and Receive a Special Welcome Video from Susan! 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In this episode we discuss important advice for anyone seeking to live a happier, more peaceful life, regardless of relationship status.  Gabrielle Hartley is a divorce attorney who helps couples navigate divorce in a non-toxic way. Her book is endorsed by Gwyneth Paltrow and reveals Gabrielle’s unique approach which keeps 99% of clients out of the courtroom. In addition to being an attorney, Gabrielle is a coach, mediator, speaker and author of Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate.

We have Gabrielle Hartley on the show and she is a strong and compassionate advocate, coach and a highly skilled divorce mediator and coach. For the last 25 years, she has served couples in reaching reasonable resolutions for her cases both in person and online. She is well-known for keeping 99% of her cases at the negotiation table and out of the courtroom and for launching The Positive Divorce Movement. With extensive experience in and out of the courtroom, her agreements are arrived at swiftly and are both clear and comprehensive. She founded The Better Apart Method, authored Better Apart; The Radically Positively Way to Separate (HarperCollins 2019). She committed to keeping the toxicity and damage in her cases to a minimum. Better Apart was endorsed by Gwyneth Paltrow, and was named “the conscious uncoupling how-to” by People Magazine. She has been featured throughout media channels including The New York Times, U.S. News and World Report, Vice, The New York Post, Yoga Journal,Vice Mind Body Green, Thrive Global, The Hampshire Gazette, and The Brian Lehrer Show. She is a regular expert guest and blogger featured NBC television (Mass Appeal) and radio as well as dozens of podcasts and blogs around the world. Gabrielle is known for her signature talks, Becoming The Best You Ever and Self Care for Attorneys; The Better Apart Method Each presentation is carefully curated to each audience. LINKS BELOW! Website - http://www.gabriellehartley.DISCOUNT CODE - Better30 (LIMITED TIME OFFER comes with 1to1) Instagram - http://www.instagram.com/gabrielle_ha... http://www.instagram.com/betterapart Twitter - http://www.twitter.com/gabhartleyesq Facebook - http://www.facebook.com/gabriellelhar...

New York Matrimonial Law Expert, Divorce Coach & Mediator Gabrielle Hartley, Esq. joins Laura to discuss her brand new book “Better Apart: A Radically New Way To Separate.” In the book, Gabrielle presents a unique perspective on divorce that resonates with Laura. The two attorneys discuss the emerging trends in modern divorce and share strategies anyone contemplating divorce, or anyone in the midst of a dissolution, can apply in their own process. Gabrielle reveals what inspired her to write the new book, and she breaks down how breathing, meditation, and being mindfully present can help clear the way for an amicable settlement. PLUS, you'll hear tips that can help you focus on forgiveness even in the toughest of situations, co-parenting and how to resolve conflict. On the Sunny Side Up Report, LAW and Johnnie highlight this week's divorce stories with seven movies & TV shows that tackle divorce and get it RIGHT, Katie Perry's quotes about marriage and divorce, and 90 Day Fiancé star Larissa Dos Santos Lima's divorce party… at Las Vegas strip club Crazy Horse!?