Podcasts about better apart

Better Apart: Strategies for Getting Along & Resolving Conflict with Gabrielle Hartley, Esq. While it can be worthwhile to see if your marriage can be saved, sometimes you are better off apart. While the road to dissolving your marriage can be long and challenging, it doesn't have to be terrible. If you have felt shut down because you think your situation is unresolvable, this episode is for you. Today's guest is Gabrielle Hartley, an attorney and mediator who specializes in resolving unresolvable situations. She will share actionable tips to help you productively navigate conflict from her books, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate (2019), and The Secret to Getting Along; Three Steps to Life Changing Conflict Resolution. Top Take-a-Ways: Why defensiveness is the enemy of resolution and tools to stay calm in every moment. Deescalating both yourself and others when tensions rise. How to hold yourself up high, respect yourself, and find happiness, which just happens to be the best revenge. Download a copy of your Fetish Finder Worksheet and start scheduling in your self-care, pleasure, and joy today! https://loracheadle.com/freebies/ Get Relief Now! Get the understanding, clarity, & support you deserve today! Schedule your one-hour Zoom session with Lora, and we will figure it all out together. *BONUS!* This session includes 30 minutes of follow-up support. Schedule and pay here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after. Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT  SOLAWAVE Reduce the appearance of wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles, blemishes, and dark spots while de-puffing and energizing your skin. This 7x Award-Winning Skincare Wand combines Red Light Therapy, Galvanic Current, Therapeutic Warmth, and Facial Massage for an easy-to-use and effective treatment. https://www.pjtra.com/t/2-574028-273174-269792 The most comfortable shoes you will ever wear! Available in seven heel heights, these shoes will keep you comfortably on your feet for 12 hours. Made with cork, many styles are available including heels, wedges, and boots. www.EuropeanHeels.com $25 off with Discount Code Flaunt Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!

While it can be worthwhile to see if your marriage can be saved, sometimes you are better off apart. While the road to dissolving your marriage can be long and challenging, it doesn't have to be terrible. If you have felt shut down because you think your situation is unresolvable, this episode is for you. Today's guest is Gabrielle Hartley, an attorney and mediator who specializes in resolving unresolvable situations. She will share actionable tips to help you productively navigate conflict from her books, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate (2019), and The Secret to Getting Along; Three Steps to Life Changing Conflict Resolution. Top Take-a-Ways: Why defensiveness is the enemy of resolution and tools to stay calm in every moment. Deescalating both yourself and others when tensions rise. How to hold yourself up high, respect yourself, and find happiness, which just happens to be the best revenge. Download a copy of your Fetish Finder Worksheet and start scheduling in your self-care, pleasure, and joy today! https://loracheadle.com/freebies/ Get Relief Now! Get the understanding, clarity, & support you deserve today! Schedule your one-hour Zoom session with Lora, and we will figure it all out together. *BONUS!* This session includes 30 minutes of follow-up support. Schedule and pay here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session   About Lora: Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT   Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!   The most comfortable shoes you will ever wear! Available in seven heel heights, these shoes will keep you comfortably on your feet for 12 hours. Made with cork, many styles are available including heels, wedges, and boots. www.EuropeanHeels.com $25 off with Discount Code Flaunt   SOLAWAVE Reduce the appearance of wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles, blemishes, and dark spots while de-puffing and energizing your skin. This 7x Award-Winning Skincare Wand combines Red Light Therapy, Galvanic Current, Therapeutic Warmth, and Facial Massage for an easy-to-use and effective treatment. https://www.pjtra.com/t/2-574028-273174-269792  

A divorce process can often be physically and emotionally draining for both parties and children involved, especially if the case goes to trial. In this re-broadcasted episode, Ryan Kalamaya and Gabrielle Hartley sit down to discuss the positive divorce movement and her Better Apart Method, which are changing how people think about divorce. They also highlight the importance of finding amicable solutions during separation. They explore various topics, including the adverse effects of litigation and conflict in a divorce, how to avoid conflict in the divorce process, and when a mediator realizes that a case might need to go to trial. They also discuss the steps a mediator can take to ensure that an agreement sticks.About Gabrielle HartleyGabrielle Hartley, Esq., is a leading online mediator and family law attorney known for keeping 99% of her cases at the settlement table.  She  is the author of Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate  which received a glowing recommendation from Gwyneth Paltrow and People Magazine.Before opening the Better Apart® Blitz Online Divorce Mediation Gabrielle clerked in matrimonial court in NYC where she resolved HUNDREDS of high conflict divorces.She is a sought after expert in the positive divorce space in media outlets such as The New York Times, The New York Post, Real Simple, Vice and many others as well as a frequent podcast guest.She's a regular guest on NBC Mass Appeal.  Gabrielle is the incoming co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee.Gabrielle trains divorce professionals in the Better Apart Method Online to help other lawyers and mediators to keep more cases out of court.  Gabrielle is also of counsel to a top litigation firm in New York City.  Learn how to work with Gabrielle at gabriellehartley.com.What is Divorce at Altitude? Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha provide tips and recommendations on issues related to divorce, separation, and co-parenting in Colorado. Ryan and Amy are the founding partners of an innovative and ambitious law firm, Kalamaya | Goscha, that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries, and criminal defense in Colorado. To subscribe to Divorce at Altitude, click here and select your favorite podcast player. To subscribe to Kalamaya | Goscha's YouTube channel where many of the episodes will be posted as videos, click here. If you have additional questions or would like to speak to one of our attorneys, give us a call at 970-429-5784 or email us at info@kalamaya.law. ************************************************************************ DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS ON THIS PODCAST IS FOR ENTERTAINMENT AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE. CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE OR AREA TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE ON ANY OF THESE ISSUES.

This week on Divorce & Beyond, Susan Guthrie, Esq., author and divorce mediator Gabrielle Hartley, Esq. returns to the show to share the secret to getting along. You'll hear just how easy it truly can be!   We experience conflict everywhere, including within relationships or at work. Susan Guthrie, Esq., welcomes returning guest Gabrielle Hartley, Esq., to discuss the five common conflict behaviors exhibited during the divorce process.  In this conversation, Gabrielle and Susan help listeners understand what it takes to reframe relationships, work through conflict, and walk away with a greater sense of peace.  Gabrielle Hartley is co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee, a divorce attorney, online mediator, founder of The Private Divorce Solution, and author of "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate." Her new book, “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It's Easier Than You Think,” is available now for pre-order. Topics and Golden Nuggets include: The five destructive behaviors we all have that show up in divorce “Forgiveness of yourself is the most important part of conflict resolution.” Finding what behavior(s) you are demonstrating is the first step in working to resolve conflict Getting along with anyone includes the YES Method, Understanding Your Role, and Shelving Heated Conversations. **************************************** About this week's special guests: Gabrielle Hartley Gabrielle Hartley is co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee, a divorce attorney, online mediator,  founder of The Private Divorce Solution, and author of "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate." Her new book “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It's Easier Than You Think” will be released this May. She offers a weekly newsletter, The Conflict Code” and hosts The Better Apart Blog and is a frequently quoted media expert in the peaceful divorce realm (The New York Times, Vice, WNYC, Forbes, Psychology Today,etc.) Gabrielle is former court attorney to NYS Supreme Court Judge Jeffrey Sunshine.   While writing her first book, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate (HarperCollins2019) she realized that we all need to get along better in all facets of our lives. Gabrielle developed the YES Method based on more than 25 years working as a top divorce lawyer and mediator. The Secret to Getting Along was recently selected as a Next Big Idea Club must-read and her Tedx Talk on her strategy has been viewed over 62 thousand times. Gabrielle's website: www.gabriellehartley.com Gabrielle on Instagram and Facebook:  @gabriellehartleyesq Gabrielle's new book, “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It's Easier Than You Think”: https://gabriellehartley.com/thesecrettogettingalong/ The Secret To Getting Along is Easier Than You Think TEDx Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/gabrielle_hartley_the_secret_to_getting_along_is_easier_than_you_think Check out Gabrielle's past appearances on Divorce & Beyond: Gabrielle Hartley Has the Secret to Helping Us All Get Along Better, and It Starts with Y.E.S. Is Your Divorce Taking Too Long? BLITZ IT and BE DONE with Gabrielle Hartley The Best Thing to Happen to Divorce in Ages with Very Special Guest Gabrielle Hartley ***************************************** THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:   SOBERLINK Thriving in divorce and beyond means not having to worry about the safety of your children when it comes to co-parenting. With alcohol abuse on the rise, many co-parents are turning to the system committed to providing proof, protection, and peace of mind. Soberlink's alcohol monitoring system is the most convenient, reliable, and reasonable way for a parent to provide evidence that they are not drinking during parenting time. Soberlink's real-time alerts, facial recognition, and tamper detection ensure the integrity of each test, so you can be confident your kids are with a sober parent. With Soberlink, judges rest assured that your child is safe, attorneys get court-admissible evidence of sobriety, and both parents have empowerment and peace of mind.  Pull back the curtain on the mysteries of parenting time and trust The Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to keep you informed and your kids safe and secure. To download the addiction and children resource page that I developed with Soberlink, visit www.Soberlink.com/Susan   ___________ HOLLIS HARDIMAN Regardless of where you are in the divorce process, Hollis can provide the insights and tools to make informed decisions and secure your financial future.  Schedule your complimentary consultation with Hollis by emailing hhardiman@meritfa.com. Be sure to tell her you heard about her on Divorce & Beyond.  ********************************************************************* SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES ARE AVAILABLE!  https://divorcebeyond.com/Sponsorship-Info ******************************************************************* MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: SUSAN GUTHRIE®, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  Susan is the Vice Chair of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution and is a sought-after keynote speaker, business and practice consultant, coach and trainer. You can find out more about Susan and her services here:  https://neon.page/susanguthrie Internationally renowned as one of the leading experts in online mediation, Susan created her Learn to Mediate Online® program and has trained more than 25,000 professionals in how to transition their practice online.  Susan recently partnered with legal and mediation legend, Forrest "Woody" Mosten to create the Mosten Guthrie Academy which provides gold-standard, fully online training for mediation and collaborative professionals at all stages of their careers.   Follow Susan Guthrie and THE DIVORCE AND BEYOND PODCAST on social media for updates and inside tips and information: Susan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susaneguthrie/ Susan on Instagram @susanguthrieesq ********************************************************************* We'd really appreciate it if you would give us a 5 Star Rating and tell us what you like about the show in a review - your feedback really matters to us!  You can get in touch with Susan at divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com.  Don't forget to visit the webpage www.divorceandbeyondpod.com and sign up for the free NEWSLETTER to receive a special welcome video from Susan and more!! ********************************************************************* DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

THE BEST DIVORCE POSSIBLE WITH GABRIELLE HARTLEY, MEDIATOR AND AUTHOR - EPISODE 81In this episode of the Her Empowered Divorce Expert Series podcast, Beverly Price interviews Gabrielle Hartley, Esq. about what is needed to have the Best Divorce Possible and about her new book, The Secret to Getting Along. Key Interview Questions that Beverly Asked Gabrielle:1. You wrote a book entitled Your power to have the best divorce possible--Author of “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It's Easier than You Think” Here's a link to purchase this incredible book. https://www.amazon.com/Secret-Getting-Along-Easier-Think/dp/172825891X2. What inspired you to write the book?Your power to have the best divorce possible-2. Once a person has made the decision to reach out to a family lawyer and has scheduled their initial consultation with the lawyer, what should they do to ensure they get the most out of their consultation?3. What tips do you have for women to help maintain their sanity during what can seem a never ending and frustrating process?4. Why is taking of your emotional health during a divorce so important?5. What is the best way to make sure that you continue to take care of yourself during the divorce process6.What do you mean by the magic of dancing with conflict How can I keep my divorce from spinning out of control what if I have to go to court Is a private divorce possible7.What 3 actionable takeaways can you give women that they can do to enhance their journey from beginning to end and recovery from the divorce processYou have agency and accountability and using them wisely is your best source of power slowest is fastest (hard to remember in this age of immediacy) Ask hard questions (of yourself) --knowing your why will set you freea. Assemble your team of professionals to help you- lawyer, coach/therapist, CPA, financial planner, valuation expertsb. Practice self-carec. Take baby stepsABOUT Gabrielle Hartley Esq.:Gabrielle Hartley is a divorce attorney and nationally recognized online mediator. She co chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee and former New York State Court Attorney. She is expert at resolving entrenched conflict and can be heard across media outlets sharing her wisdom and insights. Gabrielle has authored two books including Better Apart, The Radically Positive Way to Separate and The Secret to Getting Along which comes out next week. Check out her TEDx on this same topic on youtube.CONNECT WITH Gabrielle –Website: https://gabriellehartley.com/Gabrielle's Blog - voted #1 in New York! https://gabriellehartley.com/better-apart-blog/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/gabriellehartleyesq/Linked In https://www.linkedin.com/in/gabrielle-hartley-esq-0b43139/https://www.instagram.com/gabriellehartleyesq/To Purchase her book: The Secret to Getting Along https://www.amazon.com/Secret-Getting-Along-Easier-Think/dp/172825891XMore links for sharing: https://gabriellehartley.com/moreinfo/https://gabriellehartley.com/thesecrettogettingalong/CONNECT WITH PODCAST HOST AND DIVORCE AND EMPOWERMENT COACH, BEVERLY PRICE:Website - www.herempowereddivorce.comEmail -

Gabrielle Hartley returns to the show to discuss the secret to getting along with others! Gabrielle is co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee, a divorce attorney, online mediator,  founder of The Private Divorce Solution, and author of "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate." Her new book, “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It's Easier Than You Think,” is available for pre-order.  Gabrielle says that when you learn the steps of getting along, there is nothing more satisfying than being in agreement. Listen to this episode to hear how meeting your deepest emotional needs will lead to resolving conflict. Featured topics include: The framework of Gabrielle's YES Method and how it encourages people to get along (12:50) Knowing when to shelve a conversation and take space (19:30) If you can understand what the other person really needs, you can settle almost any argument (24:47) Gabrielle explains what she means when she says, “Defensiveness is the enemy of resolution.” (32:42) The VIR protocol: visualizing how you want things to be (36:14) Learn more about Gabrielle Hartley, Esq.: Gabrielle Hartley is co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee, a divorce attorney, online mediator,  founder of The Private Divorce Solution, and author of "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate." Her new book “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It's Easier Than You Think” will be released this May. She offers a weekly newsletter, The Conflict Code” and hosts The Better Apart Blog and is a frequently quoted media expert in the peaceful divorce realm (The New York Times, Vice, WNYC, Forbes, Psychology Today,etc.) Gabrielle is former court attorney to NYS Supreme Court Judge Jeffrey Sunshine.   While writing her first book, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate (HarperCollins2019) she realized that we all need to get along better in all facets of our lives. Gabrielle developed the YES Method based on more than 25 years working as a top divorce lawyer and mediator. The Secret to Getting Along was recently selected as a Next Big Idea Club must-read and her Tedx Talk on her strategy has been viewed over 62 thousand times. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-215-the-secret-to-getting-along-with-gabrielle-hartley-esq/ Join me for a special Split UP: The TEEN Years screening event on Friday, May 12th! To secure your spot and get all the details, visit http://kateanthony.com/split. A Conversation about the film Split UP: The TEEN Years with Christina McGhee and Ellen Bruno Gabrielle's website Gabrielle on Facebook Gabrielle on Instagram The Secret To Getting Along and Why It's Easier Than You Think The Secret To Getting Along is Easier Than You Think TEDx Talk TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: COZY EARTH Cozy Earth is the world's foremost source of high-quality, authentic bamboo viscose bed linens. Listeners can enjoy this exclusive offer from Cozy Earth today: Receive 35% off site-wide when you use the code “DSG” at CozyEarth.com! Thanks to our sponsor, Cozy Earth, and thank you, listeners, for supporting this show! DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Online mediator, Author of "Better Apart" and "Secrets to Getting Along". Former court attorney. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.gettingdivorced.org/subscribe

This week's guest is Los Angeles based recording artist Dresage. A blend of genres ranging from dreamy synth wave to indie art pop, Dresage is the artist project of producer, songwriter, and composer Keeley Bumford. In addition to releasing her own music she also co-wrote and was the featured vocalist on Jai Wolf's single "Better Apart". Co-scored as well as wrote and performed all the original songs in the Hulu/Blumhouse film "My Valentine," and was featured on Andrew Huang's "4-Producers One Sample" Youtube series. She also has loads sync placements in various shows and ad spots, including Netflix's The Crown and an Apple Watch trailer. We chat about making her latest EP, and how embracing the idea that it's ok to not know everything can empower you to experiment, learn, and ultimately find your creative voice.In this episode, we'll dig in on...Making her Terror Nights / Terror Days EPKeeping perspective as a self-producing, self-recording artistCommitting to your production because it informs all the decisions that followHow music fits into TV and Film vs Ads and TrailersBeing intentional about the choice to keep your artist voice and not get lost behind the scenesBuilding a community on DiscordDiscovering jazz and the Great American SongbookAttending Berklee College of MusicBuilding relationships and supporting your collaboratorsShazaamTaking advantage of opporunitiesWorking at the Interscope recording studiosTop-lining in the EDM worldTravis' Intro Topic...How all of your gigs and experiences come together to make you a better creative and person.Learn More About Dresage...Check out Terror Nights / Terror Days EP - HERE!Website: https://www.dresage.la/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dresagemusicTwitter: https://twitter.com/dresagemusicYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/dresagemusicTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dresagemusicFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/dresagemusicSupport Dresage on Patreon HERE!Join Dresage's Discord Server HERE!Our Sponsors:Sign Up for Complete Producer Network HERE!Get on the Waitlist for The Beats Accelerator Process HERE!Get on the Waitlist for The Mix Accelerator Process HERE!Progressions Links:Support Progressions on Patreon!Sign up for the Progressions Mailing ListInstagram:

Understanding and skillfully engaging in the Art of Negotiation is vital for you, the high net worth individual.  Today we discuss the value and nuance of negotiating with mastery.    Familiarize yourself with the essential steps to negotiating your divorce settlement with mastery.  This includes understanding both your legal rights and financial risks and being clear on what you need. Additionally, we explore the subtlety of listening for what's beneath your spouse's position and when to use leverage.  Above all is your state of mind. When you enter negotiations with your rational rather than emotional mind and overcome your internal resistance, you will  create a settlement that everyone can feel good about.   Our guest and negotiator extraordinaire is Gabrielle Hartley.  Ms. Hartley is a leading divorce attorney, online mediator and author of the highly acclaimed book, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate. Gabrielle is known to resolve 99% of her cases at the negotiation table. She is a sought after divorce expert, on dozens media channels including the New York Times, The New York Post, Vice, Thrive Global and is a regular guest on an NBC morning program.   insta @gabriellehartleyesq fb @gabriellehartleyesq twitter @gabhartleyesq   Survive and Thrive Bundle gabriellehartley.com Gabrielle's Blog    Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Hot off the release of her worldwide Top 10 TEDx Talk, Gabrielle Hartley joins Susan to share her insights into the ways that we can all get along better, and it's easier than you think! In a world that seems increasingly fully of conflict, the idea of getting along better seems highly desirable yet out of reach.  Perhaps that is why Gabrielle Hartley's new TEDx Talk, "The Secret To Getting Along is Easier Than You Think" rose to the Top 10 chart WORLDWIDE in it's first weeks of release!  Gabrielle has broken the secret down into a simple approach that she calls the YES method and you can apply it to any situation where there is conflict, including during your divorce!  Ultimately, we can all prioritize peace over being right and isn't this a message that we all need to hear more than ever today?!   Catch Gabrielle's Other Appearances on Divorce & Beyond:   Issues with Your Ex and Nowhere to Go?  Online Options with Gabrielle Hartley (Special Bonus Episode)   The Best Thing to Happen to Divorce in Ages #144   Is Your Divorce Taking Too Long?  BLITZ it and BE DONE! #176   More About Gabrielle Hartley: Gabrielle Hartley, Esq., is a leading online mediator and family law attorney known for resolving 99% of her cases. She's the author of Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate, which received glowing recommendations from Gwyneth Paltrow and People Magazine. As a sought-after media divorce expert, Gabrielle has been featured in The New York Times, Real Simple, Vice, The New York Post, Psychology Today, NBC Mass Appeal and on dozens of podcasts. She is a co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee, maintains a private mediation practice and is of counsel to a top NYC litigation firm. Her forthcoming book, How to Get Along is due out in 2023. Find out more about Gabrielle:   Website:  https://www.gabriellehartley.com Better Apart Blog:  https://www.gabriellehartley.com/better-apart-blog Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabriellehartleyesq Watch the TEDx:  https://youtu.be/Uq-2ARYXyOM ***************************************************************************** MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: SUSAN GUTHRIE®, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  Susan is a member of the Executive Council of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution and is the Founder of Divorce in a Better Way® which provides a curated selection of resources and information for those facing divorce and other life changes.  Internationally renowned as one of the leading experts in online mediation, Susan created her Learn to Mediate Online® program and has trained more than 20,000 professionals in how to transition their practice online.  Susan recently partnered with legal and mediation legend, Forrest "Woody" Mosten to create the Mosten Guthrie Academy which provides gold standard, fully online training for mediation and collaborative professionals at all stages of their career.   ********************************************* Remember to follow Susan Guthrie and THE DIVORCE AND BEYOND PODCAST on social media for updates and inside tips and information: Susan Guthrie on Facebook @susanguthrieesq Susan on Instagram @susanguthrieesq @divorceandbeyond Susan on Twitter @guthrielaw If you want to see the video version of the podcast episodes they are available on The Divorce & Beyond YouTube Channel!  Make sure to LIKE and SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a single episode! 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Soberlink's alcohol monitoring system is the most convenient, reliable, and reasonable way for a parent to provide evidence that they are not drinking during parenting time. Soberlink's real-time alerts, facial recognition, and tamper detection ensure the integrity of each test, so you can be confident your kids are with a sober parent. With Soberlink, judges rest assured that your child is safe, attorneys get court-admissible evidence of sobriety, and both parents have empowerment and peace of mind. Pull back the curtain on the mysteries of parenting time and trust The Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to keep you informed and your kids safe and secure. To download the addiction and children resource page that I developed with Soberlink, visit www.Soberlink.com/Susan   ******************************************************************* SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES AVAILABLE! 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Meet Gabrielle Hartley, Esq., Co-Chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee, is a nationally recognized divorce attorney, online mediator, divorce strategy coach, and author of Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate. Her parents split when she and her brother were children in the 1980s. Even when the road was bumpy, they resolved their differences out of court and modeled positive co-parenting. When she clerked for Judge Sunshine in the divorce court in New York City both in private practice and clerking for a judge, she realized that her parents were onto something. Gabrielle created The Better Apart® Blitz Mediation to help people move through and beyond the divorce process with minimal stress and maximum ease. Her experience as an attorney helped her realize how smooth her parents' divorce really was (01:30) How to take better care of yourself so you can navigate the divorce process well (03:30) Notice the neutral because those are actually positives (05:05) About her mediation and family law services (08:56) Her closing advice - slowest is often fastest and a step back is the best way forward (13:20) Gabrielle is known for her unique, non-toxic approach to divorce that she has developed over her twenty-five years in family law service. She keeps 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and at the negotiating table, as she effectively supports her clients to create a healthy, uplifted post-divorce life for them. Join Our Community: Instagram @The.Graceful.Exit Facebook @TheGracefulExit Pinterest @TheGracefulExitOfficial

This week's guest is Los Angeles based artist Dresage. A blend of genres ranging from dreamy synth wave to indie art pop, Dresage is the artist project of producer, songwriter, and composer Keeley Bumford. In addition to releasing her own music she also co-wrote and was the featured vocalist on Jai Wolf's single "Better Apart". Co-scored as well as wrote and performed all the original songs in the Hulu/Blumhouse film "My Valentine," and was featured on Andrew Huang's "4-Producers One Sample" Youtube series. She also has loads sync placements in various shows and ad spots, including Netflix's The Crown and an Apple Watch trailer. We chat about making her latest EP, and how embracing the idea that it's ok to not know everything can empower you to experiment, learn, and ultimately find your creative voice. In this episode, we'll dig in on... Making her Terror Nights / Terror Days EP Keeping perspective as a self-producing, self-recording artist Committing to your production because it informs all the decisions that follow How music fits into TV and Film vs Ads and Trailers Being intentional about the choice to keep your artist voice and not get lost behind the scenes Building a community on Discord Discovering jazz and the Great American Songbook Attending Berklee College of Music Building relationships and supporting your collaborators Shazaam Taking advantage of opporunities Working at the Interscope recording studios Top-lining in the EDM world Travis' Intro Topic... How all of your gigs and experiences come together to make you a better creative and person. Learn More About Dresage... Check out Terror Nights / Terror Days EP - https://ffm.to/dresage_terrornightsterrordays (HERE)! Website: https://www.dresage.la/ (https://www.dresage.la/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dresagemusic (https://www.instagram.com/dresagemusic) Twitter: https://twitter.com/dresagemusic (https://twitter.com/dresagemusic) YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/dresagemusic (https://www.youtube.com/dresagemusic) TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dresagemusic (https://www.tiktok.com/@dresagemusic) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dresagemusic (https://www.facebook.com/dresagemusic) Support Dresage on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dresagemusic (HERE)! Join Dresage's Discord Server https://discord.com/invite/KCwHeNw (HERE)! Our Sponsors: Sign Up for Complete Producer Network https://www.completeproducer.net/share/z_LJhc8M_GtKZ1OX?utm_source=manual (HERE)! Get on the Waitlist for The Beats Accelerator Process https://knowledge.completeproducer.pro/bapwaitlist (HERE)! Get on the Waitlist for The Mix Accelerator Process http://mixaccelerator.com/ (HERE)! Other Links: https://www.travisference.com/coffeecup (Give Me a Coffee Cup!) Support Progressions on https://www.patreon.com/progressionspod (Patreon)! Sign up for the https://mailchi.mp/87a95bbfe666/progressionspod (Progressions Mailing List) https://kit.co/travisference (Gear and Recommended Reading List) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/progressionspod/ (https://www.instagram.com/progressionspod/) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ProgressionsPod/ (https://www.facebook.com/ProgressionsPod/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/progressionspod (https://twitter.com/progressionspod) Learn more about Travis: https://www.travisference.com/ (https://www.travisference.com/) Credits: Guest: Dresage Host: Travis Ference Editor: Travis Ference Theme Music: inter.ference

Join Paulette and Gabrielle as they engage in a candid and fact filled, heartfelt conversation about all things divorce. Are you in need of direction and clarity on how to know if mediation is the right choice for you? Look no further. Gabrielle Hartley is a nationally recognized divorce attorney, online mediator, divorce strategy coach and author of Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate. She is committed to keeping the online divorce mediation process as simple and streamlined as possible. She trains divorce professionals to bring the highest level of conflict resolution into their practice. She is a highly respected negotiator, author and an engaging, dynamic speaker Gabrielle is known for her unique, non-toxic approach to divorce that she has developed over twenty five years. She keeps 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and at the negotiating table, as she effectively supports her clients to create a healthy, uplifted post-divorce life for them. Her parents split when she and her brother were children in the 1980s. Even when the road was bumpy, they resolved their differences out of court and modeled positive co-parenting. When she clerked for Judge Sunshine in the divorce court in New York City both in private practice and clerking for a judge, she realized that her parents were onto something. Gabrielle created The Better Apart® Blitz Mediation to help people move through and beyond the divorce process with minimal stress and maximum ease. When Gabrielle was a baby lawyer mediation was not widely accepted or respected. After working for years to create a streamlined effective practice model that is delivered across the country online. Today Gabrielle offers The Better Apart® Total Practice Makeover to help divorce professionals to create their optimal divorce mediation practice. www.gabriellehartley.com Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS Consultant/Coach Author Speaker Podcast Host 1:1 Retreats Find out more about Paulette at www.betterdivorceacademy.com www.bettercareerproject.com www.betterdivorceblueprint.com www.betterdivorcesummit.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thriving-in-chaos/message

While many of us may be better together, some of us can actually become better apart. This week, Jill interviews Gabrielle Hartley - attorney, mediator, and author of Better Apart, which radically reframes the way couples experience, execute, and recover from when “for better or worse” is no longer an option, and helps you find the road to a new mindset and better life. 

A divorce process can often be physically and emotionally draining for both parties and children involved, especially if the case goes trial.Ryan Kalamaya and Gabrielle Hartley sit down to discuss the positive divorce movement and her Better Apart Method and how those are changing how people think about divorce. In This Episode- The adverse effects of litigation and conflict in a divorce-  How to avoid conflict in your divorce process -  When does a mediator realize that a case might need to go to trial-  What steps a mediator can take to make sure an agreement sticks-  The Blitz Mediation Method- The positive divorce movement About Gabrielle HartleyGabrielle Hartley, Esq., is a leading online mediator and family law attorney known for keeping 99% of her cases at the settlement table.  She  is the author of Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate  which received a glowing recommendation from Gwyneth Paltrow and People Magazine.Before opening the Better Apart® Blitz Online Divorce Mediation Gabrielle clerked in matrimonial court in NYC where she resolved HUNDREDS of high conflict divorces.She is a sought after expert in the positive divorce space in media outlets such as The New York Times, The New York Post, Real Simple, Vice and many others as well as a frequent podcast guest.She's a regular guest on NBC Mass Appeal.  Gabrielle is the incoming co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee.Gabrielle trains divorce professionals in the Better Apart Method Online to help other lawyers and mediators to keep more cases out of court.  Gabrielle is also of counsel to a top litigation firm in New York City.  Learn how to work with Gabrielle at gabriellehartley.com.What is Divorce at Altitude? Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha provide tips and recommendations on issues related to divorce, separation, and co-parenting in Colorado. Ryan and Amy are the founding partners of an innovative and ambitious law firm, Kalamaya | Goscha, that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries, and criminal defense in Colorado. To subscribe to Divorce at Altitude, click here and select your favorite podcast player. To subscribe to Kalamaya | Goscha's YouTube channel where many of the episodes will be posted as videos, click here.  If you have additional questions or would like to speak to one of our attorneys, give us a call at 970-429-5784 or email us at info@kalamaya.law.************************************************************************DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS ON THIS PODCAST IS FOR ENTERTAINMENT AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE. CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE OR AREA TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE ON ANY OF THESE ISSUES.

In this episode of We Chat Divorce, we're joined by Gabrielle Hartley to discuss the topic of What You Need to Know Before You Get Married. Here's an overview of Gabrielle's experience:   Gabrielle Hartley, Esq. is a leading online mediator and family law attorney known for keeping 99% of her cases at the settlement table. She is the author of Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate, which received a glowing recommendation from Gwyneth Paltrow and People Magazine.   Before opening her full-service online mediation and professional training center, Gabrielle clerked in matrimonial court in NYC where she resolved hundreds of high conflict divorces.   She is a sought-after expert in the positive divorce space in media outlets such as The New York Times, The New York Post, U.S. News and World Report, has been interviewed on dozens of podcasts and is a regular guest on NBC Mass Appeals. Gabrielle serves on many committees within the ABA Mediation Access to Justice Week 2020, and co-chair of the DR Just Resolutions Mediation Edition. She is also on the Western MA Mediation and Collaborative Dispute Resolution Steering Committee.   Gabrielle trains divorce professionals in the Better Apart Method Online. In addition to offering training for professionals, she maintains a private mediation practice and is of counsel to Lisa Zeiderman's law firm in Westchester and NYC.   Hosts, Karen, and Catherine sit down with Gabrielle Hartley to discuss what you need to know before you get married. Learn More >> www.gabriellehartley.com Connect with Grace on LinkedIn >> @Gabrielle Hartley   ----more---- The We Chat Divorce podcast (hereinafter referred to as the “WCD”) represents the opinions of Catherine Shanahan, Karen Chellew, and their guests to the show. WCD should not be considered professional or legal advice. The content here is for informational purposes only. Views and opinions expressed on WCD are our own and do not represent that of our places of work. WCD should not be used in any legal capacity whatsoever.  Listeners should contact their attorney to obtain advice with respect to any particular legal matter. No listener should act or refrain from acting on the basis of information on WCD without first seeking legal advice from counsel in the relevant jurisdiction. No guarantee is given regarding the accuracy of any statements or opinions made on WCD. Unless specifically stated otherwise, Catherine Shanahan and Karen Chellew do not endorse, approve, recommend, or certify any information, product, process, service, or organization presented or mentioned on WCD, and information from this podcast should not be referenced in any way to imply such approval or endorsement. The third-party materials or content of any third-party site referenced on WCD do not necessarily reflect the opinions, standards or policies of Catherine Shanahan or Karen Chellew. WCD, CATHERINE SHANAHAN, AND KAREN CHELLEW EXPRESSLY DISCLAIM ANY AND ALL LIABILITY OR RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANY DIRECT, INDIRECT, INCIDENTAL, SPECIAL, CONSEQUENTIAL, OR OTHER DAMAGES ARISING OUT OF ANY INDIVIDUAL'S USE OF, REFERENCE TO, RELIANCE ON, OR INABILITY TO USE, THIS PODCAST OR THE INFORMATION PRESENTED IN THIS PODCAST ----more----     Karen: Welcome to We Chat Divorce, Catherine and I are honored to welcome attorney Gabrielle Hartley to our podcast, today. In this episode, we're going to discuss what you need to know before you get married. Expert advice from the divorce lawyer, so you won't ever need one. But first, let me take a couple of minutes to introduce Gabrielle. Gabrielle is a Leading Online Mediator and Family Law Attorney. She is the author of Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate, which received a glowing recommendation from Gwyneth Paltrow and People Magazine. [inaudible 00:00:37], an expert in the positive divorce space and media outlets such as The New York Times, the New York Post, U.S. News & World Report. She's been interviewed on dozens of podcasts and is a regular guest on NBC Mass Appeal. And here she is with us today. Gabrielle trains, divorce professionals in the Better Apart method online. Welcome, Gabrielle. Gabrielle: Hi. Catherine: Hello. I love this. Flipping the story, what to do before you get married. We don't often, or do we ever even talk about that? Gabrielle: Well, I find the Millennial generation is really on top of things. I know there's a lot of conversation about, everything that's wrong with them, but I'm going to say they're a planning group. And so I get a lot of phone calls with people asking me what they need to know? Do they maybe need a prenup? Or sometimes they're not even really interested in a prenup, but they're just literally interviewing me to find out what do I see that goes wrong? And so I decided to write this book, what you need to know before you get married so that people who couldn't afford an hour with me could just get it for free right now. And then just for a couple of bucks on Amazon, when it goes up there. And to talk about the things that you really need to pay attention to, which you may be totally ignored while you're in the throes of romance. Catherine: Yeah. I say this all the time, because, I say that people will budget for their wedding. They'll... How much they can spend on their dress? And how much they can spend in a venue? And what's the band? But do you ever really talk about your budget post marriage? No. What are the expectations between the two of you post the big fun marriage? Just not a conversation, a lot of people have. Gabrielle: That's right. They don't talk... They're so wedding-oriented, but they're not talking about how they're going to plan for retirement, life insurance, childcare, somebody's mom going to watch kids? Are you going to have kids? Even away from the money and we will circle right back to the money. But do one of you expect that you're going to have dinner with your parents once a week or twice a week, even? Right. Are they going to come to you or are you expected to go there for Sunday dinner? Do you expect that your spouse is always going to go with you? Gabrielle: These are things that really break people up. What about partying? Right. I have a little section called, my girl wants to party all the time or maybe I said guy, I don't remember. But, it might be a lot of fun to go out every night when you're dating and you're just living it up. But then when you finally are settling down, it may be that one of you decides it's time to open quote, "Grow up." Close quote. And the other of you might say, "What do you mean grow up? This is who I am. This is who I thought you were." There's a lot of important conversations that don't happen. And what's so interesting is when you're getting divorced, all of these conversations are often happening for the first time. Catherine: And it's the blame game. "You never wanted to go out at night. You never wanted to do this. You never held my hand. You never got me flowers." But, they never did that before. You never had the conversation before they got married. Gabrielle: Or maybe when you were dating, they did get you flowers, but they were in the courting stage, right. But now it's real-life in your marriage. So, I love that you just brought up the blame game. That's something I talk a lot about in the context of divorcing positively. It's about becoming an active visionary. Same thing, having these important conversations is not just about doing an investigation of your betrothed to be, right. It's like an investigation and to yourself, what's your vision? So what you need to know before you get married is also about, really having an important conversation about what you want out of your life with yourself. Do you want to work 70 hours a week? Or do you want to work for somebody? Or do you want to work for yourself? Do you want to work part-time? Are you picturing that you're going to be a homemaker? Are you going to have a career? Or are you going to have a job just to make some money? Or does one of you have significant family money? How's that going to work with your marriage? Right. Catherine: But, even when you have the vision, it changes. I wanted to be Donna Mills from Knots Landing. That was my goal. I was going to be this little kind of aggressive woman in the work field. And then I had my daughter and once I had her, I didn't want to work anymore. I just could not see myself leaving her. So your goals and your dreams can change, but how do you communicate that with each other? Gabrielle: Right. And it's really ongoing. And, we touched briefly on the idea of, you can have... Everybody's heard of the idea of a prenup, which is making an agreement before you get married, to tie up what would happen in the case of dissolution or divorce after you're married. And there's a lot of things that we could sort of dive into that, but also just so anyone listening to this knows if you've become, if you've gotten married and things were going well for the first, seven to 13 years and year 14, your spouse says, "You know what, I'm going to take on a bunch of debt because I've always wanted to open a restaurant." And suddenly you're like, "Oh My Gosh, I don't want to take this debt with you." Or for whatever other set of reasons there is something called a postnuptial, that you can enter into, which is basically a contract after you're married, which would designate how things will unfold. Should you get divorced? Catherine: Let me back you up there for one second. So our listeners can understand because it's a common question and quite confusing at times. So the Millennials or whatever they're called, the younger generation, I just call them all. A lot of them keep separate accounts. The first time I got married, you wouldn't even think of keeping separate accounts because I didn't grow up that way. But now they're keeping separate accounts. And does that protect them? How do they protect those separate accounts? If they don't, if they didn't get it prenup? Gabrielle: It really depends where they live. In Massachusetts, anything that's acquired after the marriage is definitely considered marital, regardless of how it's titled, the same thing in New York. It's really important that you have conversations. And quite frankly, if you want to really protect yourself, you really do need to have a written agreement just because something is not in your name... Is in your name alone does not mean that it's not both of yours. In fact, in Massachusetts, even if things were acquired before marriage, everything comes into the marital part until you prove that it's not part of the marital part. Gabrielle: Whereas in New York, everything is considered, anything marital is marital, separate is separate, and then you have to discuss and explain and prove why it should come into the marital part? And I'm only familiar really intimately with those two states. And I would suggest anybody who has money and they want to make sure that it's considered separate, that they create a contract that protects it. Let's talk a minute about inheritances or trusts, right. Those aren't necessarily going to be deemed separate property either in case of a dissolution. And that can be really shocking for some people to find out. So it's really important, they have all these conversations. Karen: So to that point, we have a lot of couples come to us or individuals come to us with their net worth statement. And so that obviously defines what they consider their marital estate. But all of those points you just made and change that net worth statement as it relates to the division of property. And so I think you usually have one person who's a spreadsheet person, right. And they come in with that and they want that to be what they're dividing. And so many times that's not what you're dividing at all, because of all of these different factors. So that's why financial clarity is so important. And having financial conversations is so important so that your goals and what you're doing? And how you're living? And how you're behaving? Is in tandem with each other. So that when you, if you would choose to separate, for whatever reason, you're not having to reach that huge gap of yuckiness. Lack of a better word there. Gabrielle: I always say hard now, easy later, right. That's what I see about mediating with people who are having a difficult time working through details, they just want to sort of glaze over things and you never want to glaze over things. The same thing when you're getting married, you really want to have these conversations. I know, Ruth Bader Ginsburg is famous for saying, "A long-term marriage is predicated on everybody being a little deaf." And yes, there's value to ignoring some of the things that could make us upset and angry once we are married. But when it comes to your financial stability and integrity and ability to move forward and have respect for each other and not want to, blow your own head off or each other's heads off. Gabrielle: It's really important that you have these conversations. Especially if you're marrying people from different backgrounds. So, it doesn't matter if you have similar amounts of money, our money narratives are so strong and they really play into how we go through life. I was just going to say, sometimes I have clients who have millions and millions of dollars and they really don't want to spend money on two hours of mediation, where somebody else has very little money and they don't want anything for free. And they just have a different relationship with money. Catherine: That's exactly it. Everybody has a different money story and whether it's good or bad, it's an intimidating conversation. But I think if my advice would be for everyone to approach it with an expectation outlook. So it's not really a questioning outlook about the finances, but if you came to your spouse or your partner and said, I just want to discuss expectations as it relates to finances." It's a much gentler, kinder way to walk into that conversation. And it's something, again, like you both said, it's an ongoing conversation. So again, two years into your marriage, you can say, "Maybe our expectations have shifted here, let's re-discuss what our plan was from two years ago to today." And if you start that pattern of expectations, it's really great because it doesn't put anybody on the defensive. Just, is a great conversation to have, and I encourage everyone to have it. Gabrielle: I think that that's a really great point. But going back to the idea of having these conversations before you get married. Typically, how we view things, yes, of course, we mature and we grow and we start to see things differently. As we become older, we tend to feel more powerful and more able if things are going in a favorable way. But, who we essentially are? Is sort of there from the beginning and having conversations about all different things, including money, even if the conversations are uncomfortable, you're doing yourself a favor. Even if you end up breaking your engagement, right. Or maybe you say, "We're going to get married." But, you get married with the knowledge of how each other thinks. You just saved yourself in 20 years, like, "Oh My Gosh, who are you?" I never knew conversations. Right. Catherine: Exactly. Yeah. Karen: Yeah. Gabrielle, how often should the prenup be revisited? Gabrielle: So a prenup is just what it says, it's prenuptial. It is created before you get married. And once you are married, you cannot have a new prenup. That would be a postnup. So after you're married, typically actually people don't revisit them all that often. The whole idea is that it's done, right. The only reason that typically people would enter a postnup is that something changed, maybe the economic position of one person or another, or the attitudes of one person or the other has changed. Maybe the people, somebody found out that their husband or wife cheated on them and they want a divorce. And they say, "The only way I'm going to stay with you is if you enter a postnup where I get 80% of everything." And the person says, "I promise, I'll never do it again." And then they call me and I say, "Oh, don't make those promises. You might not keep buddy." Right. Catherine: Yeah. Karen: Yeah. Catherine: Give her the 80%. Yeah. We have a lot of people that come through our and do our portrait. And because we provide a space where they can decompress, where they're gathering information and really let out their feelings on how their financial life has been for the past 20 years or what have you. They come to a new understanding and we send them to mediation afterward, or we send them to a marriage counselor because they decide that they just want to postnup. They want to stay together, but they want a new financial understanding between the two of them. And they want to work on their emotional side, not so much the financial side because that would be taken care of. And I think it's really a good approach if you're not sure whether you want to get divorced or not. Gabrielle: Absolutely. I actually have, I train mediators in the Better Apart method. And I have a set of mediators who I refer to, who that's, all they do is people who want to stay married, but need to create new rules for their marriage going forward, right. So it's not one size fits all. It's just when I say that, I mean the outcome is not one size fits all. People can get through all kinds of adversity. You can have really different ways of viewing things. There's always compromise concessions, acquiescence, all different ways to get along, right. But you have to be able to have meaningful conversations to get there. And I'm just going to add in a little conflict resolution tip, when you're stuck in an argument loop, let's say you start having these important premarital conversations or you're already married and you're having a hard time. When we get stuck in a loop, we're typically perseverating on the, what? What we're arguing about? Right. But if we can get beneath the what? And get to the why we care? We can start to have conversations that get some movement. Gabrielle: So it's like what we want? That's our wants and the why we want it? Is typically the need. So when we can satisfy our needs, then we can start making agreements with each other. So let's say you're getting married. And one of you wants a big family and one of you doesn't want kids. Well, red flag stop, have a conversation, "Why do you want a big family?" "Well, because we said, we're moving across the country and I don't want to feel isolated." "Why don't you want any kids?" "I feel like I'm going to be pulled in too many directions and I want a career." Well, there's a lot of space in there, right. Maybe you don't need to move across the country. Maybe you can agree to have a nanny. When we get to the why? When we dive into the why? We can create solutions and it's the same thing with financial wellness, "Why do we need $10 million of life insurance?" "Well, if you die, I'm afraid of this, that, and the other thing." "Okay, how else might we find a solution for that?" Catherine: So I call that the emotional value to a financial asset. That's finding what's the emotional connection to this asset or to the debt? Why you're acquiring this debt? Because that's really what needs to be fixed or that's the conversation that needs to be fixed. We have the data and we can give your attorneys and your mediators, the data and all the recommendations and considerations and all of that. But then you need to do the work to get to the why? Or the emotional value behind it. Excuse me. Gabrielle: Yeah. And, the Better Apart process, that book was written specifically for, [inaudible 00:17:45], can see the book, for people who are going through a divorce, but it's really navigation of getting your own inner alignment in check. So it's like, "How can I slow down? How can I get clear? How do I move past disagreements? How can I address things from a zero valence clear, neutral way?" All of these things are actually important to all of us, whether we're single, married, divorced, an artist at home on a commune or a businesswoman on wall street, no matter who we are. When we are aware of our inner thoughts, we can start changing them, we can start neutralizing and then we can start having important conversations. Karen: Yeah. And I think to your point, it's never too late to start having those conversations and start making those agreements. Because I think, the Gray Divorce is a big movement in our country right now. And I feel like it's a lot of people looking for autonomy and having those conversations and having those agreements can create for a lot of people, not for everybody, of course, that level of autonomy that they can continue their relationship that maybe is perfectly intact, except for people have lost their autonomy. Gabrielle: That's so on point Karen, that is... That's my story in a way, right. I was really unhappy in my marriage because everything was about my husband and I was very full of resentment. And I wanted to write this book and I was like, "I want to write this book. I want to be a global conversation changer around divorce. And I want to get Gwyneth Paltrow to endorse it." I had this vision and I didn't know what it was going to do to my marriage because I was suddenly playing big or whatever you want to call it. And, it was definitely created some bumps in the road, but there were bumps anyway, right. So, why not see if there's a way that you can make your relationship, whatever that relationship may be like with a spouse or with whomever, see if you can make it work and you change your own behavior? You can always leave. But why not try to change from within the context of the relationship first? Catherine: Yeah. And it's a hard conversation because the longer you wait, the harder it is. So the earlier you can do that. Good for you. My daughter did the best thing for me when she got married this past August, the prior year, she gave me the talk, "Mom, I'm not going to be home for every Christmas, Charlie and I will be alternating Christmas and Thanksgiving." And I was kind of like, "What? I can't imagine, not having my daughter there." But she really set me up to like, "This is what we discussed and we're going to alternate holidays, Christmas and Thanksgiving." [crosstalk 00:20:56]. So I was able to settle myself into that as her being my first one to go off and do that to me. Gabrielle: Catherine, that's such a great example because case in point, it's not just about who you're married to. We have lots of close relationships, our children, my goodness, right. Your children are like your lifeblood and the idea of not having holidays with them, I have three sons, so I'm like, "Oh my gosh, I'm never going to see them again." But, I can always try to trap them with me right now. But, but the fact of the matter is, what a gift that your daughter was so clear with you. And I'm sure she was that clear because she had a mom who did a lot of work around clarity and you modeled clarity to her. That's amazing, you should be really proud. You literally gave me complete chills on my arms. Catherine: What I thought was the cutest was because of my first holiday that she wasn't here. I was so worried about my son because I always want my kids to always know... As a mom, we all feel like, [inaudible 00:22:04], to know when you're not here, your kids are there to take care of each other, right. And so I remember the first thing, he was like, "Well." Trying to see if he should be with his dad that time because Danielle would be. He was trying to align the two of them. I just was so happy with that. I thought, "Oh, that's so sweet. And maybe they did this with to me." Gabrielle: They say it seeps in. Catherine: Yeah, it does seep in, right. Gabrielle: My kids are total teenagers. So... Catherine: Yeah. You'll get there. Gabrielle: Right now, you're all just really sweet. Catherine: Oh yeah. That's a sweet age. Yeah. Karen: All right. Gabrielle, how about three tips for people approaching marriage?  Gabrielle: Okay. Well, the first one we... [crosstalk 00:22:52]. Right, we've just gone through ad nauseum, which is know your financial picture, have a conversation about what you both need and want. Talk about the idea that you're going to check in every other year for adjustments. And remember taking a pause or a step back is always the best way forward. Karen: Love that. Catherine: Love that. We both just said that. That's awesome. This is awesome. Karen: Thank you, Gabrielle, for being here with us today. Gabrielle: It's my pleasure. I always love talking to you guys. Karen: We love talking with you too. Such a ball of energy. So this concludes this episode of what you need to know before you get married. Thank you for a great conversation. Gabrielle: Thank you.

On this week's episode of The Divorce & Beyond Podcast, Susan Guthrie gets together with friend and colleague, Top Attorney, Mediator and Best-Selling Author, Gabrielle Hartley, to get her top tips for getting your divorce moving and DONE! It’s hard enough to go through a divorce but that difficulty is compounded when your divorce drags on and on.  Why is it taking so long?  This is a common lament from those stuck in the never-ending limbo of their divorce.  Susan is joined by Gabrielle Hartley, known in the divorce world as “The Closer,” who helps couples get through their divorce in a speedy fashion with her “Blitz Mediation Method!”  Gabrielle shares her top tips to held you identify what is holding you back from the finish line, and how you can move that needle forward to BE DONE!  She even shares the one magic word that can get you past impasse when your spouse is being unreasonable.  This is THE EPISODE for you if you want to know “why your divorce is taking so long?!” More information about Gabrielle:   Gabrielle Hartley, Esq., is a leading online mediator and family law attorney known for keeping 99% of her cases at the settlement table.   She is the author of Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate which received a glowing recommendation from Gwyneth Paltrow and People Magazine. Before opening her full-service online mediation and professional training center, Gabrielle clerked in matrimonial court in NYC where she resolved HUNDREDS of high conflict divorces. She is a sought-after expert in the positive divorce space in media outlets such as The New York Times, The New York Post, U.S. News and World Report, has been interviewed on dozens of podcasts and is a regular guest on NBC Mass Appeal.  Gabrielle serves on many committees within the ABA Dispute Resolution Section including serving as Vice Chair of Membership Marketing, co-chair of the ABA Mediation Access to Justice Week 2020, and co-chair of the DR Just Resolutions Mediation Edition.  She is also on the Western MA Mediation and Collaborative Dispute Resolution Steering Committee.   Gabrielle trains divorce professionals in the Better Apart Method Online.  In addition to offering training for professionals, she maintains a private mediation practice and is of counsel to Lisa Zeiderman's law firm in Westchester and NYC.  *** For Divorce Professionals who would like to uplevel their practice and take Gabrielle's training, contact her at gabrielle@gabriellehartley.com and mention "Divorce & Beyond" to receive 10% off the cost! *** You can find out more about Gabrielle on her website at www.gabriellehartley.com. Follow Gabrielle on Instagram @gabriellehartleyesq and be sure to check out her Better Apart Blog at www.gabriellehartley.com/betterapartblog ********************** SUSAN GUTHRIE, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  She is one of the Co-Chair's of the American Bar Association's DR Section Mediation Committee and is the Founder of Divorce in a Better Way which provides a curated selection of resources and information for those facing divorce and other life changes.  Susan has created a website of curated resources for those facing divorce.  Find out more at www.divorceinabetterway.com. ***************************************************************************** ********************************************* THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR! DTOUR.LIFE  dtour.life is an easy to navigate system that finally brings much needed technology to an inefficient system. 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In this episode we will discuss Grey's anatomy's season 17 episode 10, breathe and we will discuss some of the unexpected things that I thought we're going to happen and we're going to discuss the possibilities of what could have happened if the show was going to end

Gabrielle discusses the purpose for the book, explains her 5 steps to changing your state of being in order to have an amicable divorce, and daily exercises to redirect the way you think and how you respond to your spouse in divorce settlement talks and co-parenting.

Gabrielle Hartley is a leading online mediator and family law attorney known for keeping 99% of her cases at the settlement table. She has a private mediation practice and is of counsel to Lisa Zeiderman's law firm in Westchester and New York City. Gabrielle authored Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate. She is a sought after expert in the positive divorce space in media outlets such as The New York Times, The New York Post, U.S. News and World Report, has been interviewed on dozens of podcasts and is a regular guest on NBC Mass Appeal. Gabrielle trains divorce professionals in the Better Apart Method Online. *********Don't miss an episode! Subscribe at Apple Podcasts, Spotify, wherever you get your podcasts, or at our website. Audio editing and original music provided by Encompass Podcast Studio.  Need  their help for your own project? Send an email at info@themediatenow.com and tell then Winter sent you! Want to join The Mediate Now™ conversation? Get involved with the Facebook group!Chat with Winter! Chat with Gabrielle Hartley!Need to schedule a mediation? Contact Winter at winter@winterwheeler.com, and check out her mediation and coaching website.

Understanding and skillfully engaging in the Art of Negotiation is vital for you, the high net worth individual.  Today we discuss the value and nuance of negotiating with mastery.    Familiarize yourself with the essential steps to negotiating your divorce settlement with mastery.  This includes understanding both your legal rights and financial risks and being clear on what you need. Additionally, we explore the subtlety of listening for what’s beneath your spouse’s position and when to use leverage.  Above all is your state of mind. When you enter negotiations with your rational rather than emotional mind and overcome your internal resistance, you will  create a settlement that everyone can feel good about.   Our guest and negotiator extraordinaire is Gabrielle Hartley.  Ms. Hartley is a leading divorce attorney, online mediator and author of the highly acclaimed book, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate. Gabrielle is known to resolve 99% of her cases at the negotiation table. She is a sought after divorce expert, on dozens media channels including the New York Times, The New York Post, Vice, Thrive Global and is a regular guest on an NBC morning program.   insta @gabriellehartleyesq fb @gabriellehartleyesq twitter @gabhartleyesq   Survive and Thrive Bundle gabriellehartley.com Gabrielle's Blog    Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Gabrielle Hartley is a strong, compassionate advocate coach who, for 25 years, has helped couples reach amicable resolutions during separation or divorce, even leading them to realize that, maybe, the relationship is worth a second try.  She authored Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate, a book endorsed by Gwyneth Paltrow herself, and was named “The Conscious Uncoupling How To Book” by People Magazine. About Guest/Topic Gabrielle has counseled countless couples over the years and has kept 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and back on the road of second chances and new beginnings. She may not be able to conclude on first glance the fate that awaits a relationship, but by sharing her carefully curated methods of working through the self and the emotions a person has experienced, her clients are able to reach a peaceful resolution, whether it’s by letting go or hanging on.  In this episode, Gabrielle talks about the positive ways to go through separation, letting go of the pain and resentment and finally finding peace within yourself.   In This Episode Learn how the things that are happening to you may not typically be about you Figure out how you can have a positive experience amidst separation and betrayal  Explore the five elements that will help you navigate the roadmap of your relationship Learn the ways you can forgive someone who has betrayed you and find peace within yourself  Learn why the wrong type of support can do more harm than good Quotes “The possibilities are really endless. The possibilities come from within the person who's coming to see me.” (02:20) “Easy now, hard later. Hard now, easy later. Take your pick, it's going to be one of those two.” (11:10) “Patience is about slowing down, giving yourself tools to respond rather than react.” (08:30) “What respect is all about, of course, it’s about you. It’s about building up yourself especially when you feel like garbage after you've just been betrayed.” (12:20) “It's this concept of death and rebirth and there really is the death of the old relationships, the death of the old you, the death of the expectations and the grieving process that goes along with it.” (20:37)  "The thing about forgiveness is it's truly all about you. It is an exercise in being compassionate with yourself.” (23:45) Resources Mentioned Gabriel Hartley Website Post-Betrayal Syndrome QuizThe PBT Institute Group: Women Hacking Betrayal

Gwyneth Paltrow called her book, "Better Apart", the uncoupling "how-to".  Tune in to hear how Gabrielle Hartley's journey as a child of divorced parents, lead her to reshape and reimagine the divorce process to make it more compassionate for all. 

Gwyneth Paltrow called her book, "Better Apart", the uncoupling "how-to".  Tune in to hear how Gabrielle Hartley's journey as a child of divorced parents, lead her to reshape and reimagine the divorce process to make it more compassionate for all. 

In this episode, Susan Guthrie is joined by Leading Divorce Attorney and Best-Selling Author (and Susan's Work BFF!), Gabrielle Hartley, to talk about the BEST THING to happen to Divorce in ages:  Online Divorce Mediation. With the advent of Covid, many court systems around the country (and the world) are effectively closed or operating only on an emergency basis, and in most cases, they don't consider your divorce an emergency!  This can affect divorcing couples in many ways; if they are thinking of divorce, they often can't file and even when they do, they can't get into court.  For ongoing cases, couples can't get court dates for hearings or trials so are on indefinite hold, and for those who are done but need help due to changes that have occured, as they have for so many during Covid with job loss and health issues, they also struggle to get a court date.  Even as some courts open for limited business, the backlog of cases that has been building for months, will take years, if not decades, to subside.  It's just one long, never-ending DIVORCE LIMBO! So what is a couple to do?  One of the best (and only) options for many is online divorce mediation and it's a great option!  Both Susan and Gabrielle have been conducting mediations online with couples for years, long before Covid made the practice popular.  There are many reasons, beyond social distancing and safety, that make online mediation particularly well-suited for divorce cases.  This conversation between two of the top online divorce mediators in the country will enlighten you and show you how you can mediate online and move through your divorce and BEYOND! Some MORE Highlights from the Episode: Find out what the mediation process looks like online. Hear why not having to sit in the same room with your spouse can be so helpful to the process. Discover why online mediation is often even faster and easier than in-person mediation. Learn about Gabrielle's innovative online mediation blitz, her Positive Divorce approach and how you can learn to be Better Apart with her book and program! There are just so many benefits to mediating your divorce online, listen to this episode and get your life out of LIMBO! For More Information on This Week's Special Guest:  Gabrielle Hartley Esq., is a leading divorce attorney, online mediator and creator of The Better Apart Method.  She's known for keeping 99% of her cases at the negotiation table and out of the courtroom. Her Book, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate was given a glowing endorsement from Gwyneth Paltrow, and People Magazine.  Gabrielle is a sought after divorce expert in the media and has been quoted in the New York TImes, Psychology Today, Vice, Thrive Global, and Yoga Journal to name a few.  PLUS she's a regular guest on NBC talking about all things related to what Gabrielle terms, The Positive Divorce Movement. Gabrielle can be reached at gabrielle@gabriellehartley.com Find out more about Gabrielle at www.gabriellehartley.com Follow Gabrielle on Instagram at www.instagram.com/gabriellehartleyesq       ******************************************************************************************************* SUSAN GUTHRIE, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  She is one of the Co-Chair's of the American Bar Association's DR Section Mediation Committee and is the Founder of Divorce in a Better Way which provides a curated selection of resources and information for those facing divorce and other life changes.  Susan has created a website of curated resources for those facing divorce.  Find out more at www.divorceinabetterway.com. ***************************************************************** THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR!!    FAYR, the BEST Co-Parenting App on the Market!   What makes FAYR different?  At FAYR it's not just about efficiency and ease (though they love those).  They also help you create a better co-parenting experience by providing tools for: constructive communication, argument diffusion, and emotional support.  For information on our FAYR, the ONLY co-parenting app recommended by Susan Guthrie and The Divorce and Beyond Podcast,  visit their website at www.fayr.com.  Don't forget to use the code "SUSANG18" for 20% off!! ***************************************************************************** SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES AVAILABLE! 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https://youtu.be/XirQNr4LWY4 Is a Positive Divorce Possible? The big “D” carries so many emotions with it. What if I told you there was something called the positive divorce movement? Don’t believe me? Well, my next guest is leading the way in just that. Gabrielle Hartley is a nationally recognized divorce attorney, online mediator, and divorce strategy coach known for her unique, non-toxic approach to divorce. She keeps 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and at the negotiating table, as she effectively supports her clients to create a healthy, uplifted post-divorce life for them. She teaches divorce lawyers on how to be better lawyers. Gabrielle and her work have been featured in People Magazine, The New York Post, The New York Times, and The Yoga Journal just to name a few. Sometimes Better Apart is Better She has also authored the book Better Apart which was endorsed by Gwyneth Paltrow! Basically, she's a big deal. Check out our conversation for the full scoop. Guest Contact Info Instagram: /https://www.instagram.com/gabriellehartleyesq/ Website: https://gabriellehartley.com/

If you're going through a divorce or have recently been through one, you've probably experienced stressful emotions and have felt lonely in the process. Maybe you've seen your kids affected or are afraid they will be negatively impacted in the future. Divorce has a bad reputation in the United States, as we're inundated on a daily basis with the spectacle of divorces gone wrong. Here, on Divorce, Healthy!, Ashley-Nicole Russell wants to turn that reputation on its head. Welcome back to Divorce, Healthy! In this episode, our host is accompanied by Divorce Attorney and “Better Apart” author, Gabrielle Hartley. Gabrielle is a divorce mediator and lawyer who practices in New York and Massachusetts. In her book, Hartley provides readers with the five keys on how to move forward after divorce. 7:28 Both Gabrielle and Ashley-Nicole have had experiences with either being divorced or having divorced parents. They know first-hand the tremendous consequences divorce can have on you, your children, and your family. They stress the importance of being true to your own path during your divorce. It's not necessary to follow in the footsteps of others, even best friends or family members. “If you're getting divorced and your best friend had to hire private investigator, it doesn't mean you need a private investigator (by the way, nobody needs a private investigator, but I mean for divorces!)” 14:08 They also address how negatively divorce can impact your children. It's vital to allow your children, “especially the younger children…to have their childhoods.” 17:04 Gabrielle shares with us how her mother said to her, “Dad and I have grown up problems, and you're a child and you need to worry about being a kid and we need to worry about our problems.” She points to that conversation as helping her navigate the emotional turmoil of her parents divorce. 17:21 Another key point they discuss is the internal struggle you may encounter during divorce. You need to overcome divorce; look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself who you are, where you are headed, how much are you planning on fighting unnecessarily? “You may get the windfall, but what is the win? Who are you?... Even if you win, sometimes you really lost… if you got that down and dirty, is that the you you want to look back on?” 29:13 For more information on Gabrielle Hartley and her Better Apart™ program, visit https://gabriellehartley.com/ (gabriellehartley.com). Purchase Gabrielle's book https://www.amazon.com/Better-Apart-Radically-Positive-Separate-ebook/dp/B0728MY47W (Better Apart). Like this interview with Gabrielle Hartley? We think you'll appreciate https://player.captivate.fm/episode/fac4b290-8f80-49b4-83a1-041801d4c4b6 (A Millennial's Perspective On Marriage & Divorce with TV Personality Aaron Deane). To inquire about speaking engagements, purchase your copy of Ashley-Nicole's book “The Cure for Divorce Culture,” or to schedule your private orientation meeting, head to http://www.anrlaw.com (www.anrlaw.com). You can also find us on social media @ANRLaw. Find a better way forward, right here, on Divorce, Healthy!

Gabrielle Hartley discusses her better apart method for divorcing.  Gabrielle Hartley, Esq., is an experienced compassionate and effective divorce lawyer mediator, author and speaker. For the last 25 years, she has served couples in reaching reasonable resolution. She is well-known for keeping 99% of her cases at the negotiation table and out of the courtroom and for launching The Positive Divorce Movement. Gabrielle founded The Better Apart Method, authored Better Apart; The Radically Positively Way to Separate (HarperCollins 2019) and is the Founder of The Better Apart Method Online Certification. This program is designed for divorce professionals to deliver greater value to their clients using the key teachings of The Better Apart Method. The Better Apart Method provides tools to close cases more efficiently and to decrease stress for the professional. Better Apart is the first book of its kind to combine the life changing, healing wisdom of mindfulness, meditation and yoga with practical advice and legal wisdom to get the reader through and beyond the divorce. Better Apart features a carefully curated five step process that promotes wellness through and beyond divorce. Better Apart was endorsed by Gwyneth Paltrow, and was named “the conscious uncoupling how-to” by People Magazine. She has been featured throughout media channels including The New York Times, U.S. News and World Report, Vice, The New York Post, Yoga Journal,Vice Mind Body Green, Thrive Global, Kitchn, The Hampshire Gazette, and The Brian Lehrer Show. She is a regular expert guest and blogger featured NBC television (Mass Appeal) and radio as well as dozens of podcasts and blogs around the world. Gabrielle is known for her signature talks and workshops. www.gabriellehartley.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this episode, I sat down with Gabrielle Harley, divorce attorney, online mediator and author of Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate and had an amazing conversation about divorce and all of the things that you can do, including the need for clarity, patience, and forgiveness to get to the place where you feel that you are truly better apart.

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This conversation with Gabrielle Hartley, author of "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate," is not our usual health conversation. However, we felt the health factors around marriage stress were important to address during this pandemic. Divorce lawyer Gabrielle Hartley walks us through some of the best and worst decisions that can be made at this time, especially for couples who are experiencing stress yet unable to move apart because of financial or other constraints imposed by the pandemic. Gabrielle Hartley is a leading elite divorce strategy and wellness coach, mediator, attorney, consultant, speaker, and author.Gabrielle is known for her unique, non-toxic approach to divorce that she has developed over twenty five years. She keeps 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and at the negotiating table, as she effectively supports her clients to create a healthy, uplifted post-divorce life for them.After growing up in New York City, Gabrielle attended Cornell University and Brooklyn Law School. She served as court attorney for Judge Jeffrey Sunshine in NYC matrimonial court and is a member of the Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation. She currently resides in Northampton, MA with her husband and three sons.Click here to learn more about Gabrielle and her book, Better Apart.

https://gabriellehartley.com/ Gabrielle Hartey, Esq., is a strong and compassionate advocate, coach and a highly skilled divorce mediator and coach. For the last 25 years, she has served couples in reaching reasonable resolutions for her cases both in person and online. She is well-known for keeping 99% of her cases at the negotiation table and out of the courtroom and for launching The Positive Divorce Movement. With extensive experience in and out of the courtroom, her agreements are arrived at swiftly and are both clear and comprehensive. She founded The Better Apart Method, authored Better Apart; The Radically Positively Way to Separate (HarperCollins 2019). She committed to keeping the toxicity and damage in her cases to a minimum. Gabrielle is the Founder of The Better Apart Method Certification. This program is designed for divorce professionals to deliver greater value to their clients using the key teachings of The Better Apart Method. The Better Apart Method provides tools to close cases more efficiently and to decrease stress for the professional. Better Apart is the first book of its kind to combine the life changing, healing wisdom of mindfulness, meditation and yoga with practical advice and legal wisdom to get the reader through and beyond the divorce. Better Apart features a carefully curated five step process that promotes wellness through and beyond divorce. Better Apart was endorsed by Gwyneth Paltrow, and was named “the conscious uncoupling how-to” by People Magazine. She has been featured throughout media channels including The New York Times, U.S. News and World Report, Vice, The New York Post, Yoga Journal,Vice Mind Body Green, Thrive Global, The Hampshire Gazette, and The Brian Lehrer Show. She is a regular expert guest and blogger featured NBC television (Mass Appeal) and radio as well as dozens of podcasts and blogs around the world. Gabrielle is known for her signature talks, Becoming The Best You Ever and Self Care for Attorneys; The Better Apart Method Each presentation is carefully curated to each audience.

The portrayal of divorce in the media doesn’t put people going through a split on a healthy or healing path. An acrimonious and bitter divorce does not create the inner narratives that bring emotional freedom or the legacy we want to give our children.    We require a space for patience and positivity, a process that will improve our lives going forward. This is where the Better Apart Method comes in.    What steps do we need to take to heal and live more wholeheartedly after a divorce? How do mantras envelope our thinking and change our way of being? How do we grieve our marriages in a constructive way?    In this episode, I’m joined by divorce lawyer mediator, author, speaker and founder of the Better Apart Method, Gabrielle Hartley. She talks about a different approach to divorce, and why it’s changing lives. 3 Things You’ll Love About This Episode    - How to go from reacting in a heightened state to responding from a thoughtful and neutral place  - Gabrielle’s process for creating a shift in our narratives to get ourselves on the right track - An insight into the difference between a broken home and a transformed home     Guest Bio    Gabrielle Hartley, Esq., is an experienced compassionate and effective divorce lawyer mediator, author and speaker. For the last 25 years, she has served couples in reaching a reasonable resolution. She is well-known for keeping 99% of her cases at the negotiation table and out of the courtroom and for launching The Positive Divorce Movement. Gabrielle founded The Better Apart Method, authored Better Apart; The Radically Positively Way to Separate and is the Founder of The Better Apart Method Online Certification.   For more information and to get Gabrielle’s Survive and Thrive giveaway, and to buy her 6-week online program visit gabriellehartley.com.    Buy Gabrielle’s book Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate on Amazon.      Feeling stuck and unable to move forward? Get 5 proven tips to get unstuck while waiting for your divorce to be done.  Click here to download instantly. (https://www.wendysterling.net/5-Free-Tips-To-Move-Forward)

On this week's episode, which is Part Two of a Special Two-Part Episode, Susan Guthrie, nationally recognized family law attorney and mediator, continues her conversation with Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond, the authors of "Our Happy Divorce: How Ending Our Marriage Brought Us Together" which shares their journey through marriage, divorce and finding a different kind of love. "Our Happy Divorce" - Now that you have listened to Part One of this interview (If you haven't heard it yet, click here) , I know that you too must be a huge fan of  Nikki and Ben's story and there is so much more to hear!  In Part One, we heard their unusual path to create their own definition of divorce and how they measured every decision that they made by the phrase "What's best for Asher?"  Now, in Part Two, Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond share the details of their journey after the divorce was final and they both moved into new relationships and a new relationship with each other.  As Ben says in the episode, "if Nikki and I can do it, then anyone can do it!"  Find out how they made it all work and hear how things are now, 13 years down the road.  You will be inspired - Listen now! Highlights from this episode: Nikki and Ben hit a major roadblock soon after the divorce was final - find out what that was and how they handled it. How have Ben and Nikki continued to measure everything by "What's best for Asher as they moved into their new lives?" How did Nikki and Nadia meet for the first time, and what role did Asher play in the introduction? What did Chad do that won Ben over? Why is the last chapter of the book so significant? Ben and Nikki forged their own path through divorce and created a new and lasting love, relationship and family.  Listen to this episode to find out how you can do the same! More about Nikki and Ben: From weeknight dinners and homework sessions with their son to Christmas card photos and vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events—and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their new amazing spouses and children. Nikki knows how being supported by a strong, loving family can influence the way a person navigates life, love, marriage, and motherhood. Having grown up as a member of the iconic San Francisco 49ers football family, she was thrown into the limelight at a young age. The values her family instilled in her have helped shape who she is today, and she continues to live by them. Ben intimately understands the detriment divorce can cause in the lives of children. The example of his parents’ divorce instilled in him a deep commitment to do better by his own kids. Ben is an investor, board member, philanthropist, golfer, and sports enthusiast. But above all, he is a dedicated father and family man who understands the importance of putting his ego aside and his children first. You can find out more about Our Happy Divorce, Ben and Nikki at www.ourhappydivorce.com Follow Our Happy Divorce on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. Buy the Book on Amazon or on the website www.ourhappydivorce.com.  You can also reach out to Ben and Nikki for a FREE COPY of the book - just mention The Divorce & Beyond Podcast!  The best way to reach them is to DM them on Instagram at @ourhappydivorce. Read the Our Happy Divorce Guest Blog on Gabrielle Hartley's Better Apart website!   ********************************************************************   SUSAN GUTHRIE, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  She is one of the Co-Chair's of the American Bar Association's DR Section Mediation Committee and is the Founder of Divorce in a Better Way which provides a curated selection of resources and information for those facing divorce and other life changes.  Susan also provides legal coaching and divorce mediation services to select clients around the world through an online platform.  Find out more at www.divorceinabetterway.com. **************************************************************************** THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:  Gabrielle Hartley, the Creator of the Better Apart Method:  Leading divorce lawyer, coach and mediator, Gabrielle Hartley's book book "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate" is a runaway best-seller and now she has created the Better Apart Master Class, available for download online, which provides powerful tools to help you get clear, feel better and reclaim your life!  For a limited time you will receive a mini consultation with Gabrielle herself when you sign up for the Master Class.  Listeners of the podcast receive $25 off the price of the Master Class with code "BEYOND25"!!! For Divorce Professionals:  As one of the country's leading experts in online mediation, Susan is now sharing her expertise and knowledge and offering her ONLINE MEDIATION TRAINING PROGRAM which will show you how to implement an online platform into to your existing practice in just two short one-hour online sessions!  Increase your potential client base, convenience and income by learning the ethical and practical considerations to know when mediating online!  Find out more at www.learntomediateonline.com and mention you are a listener of the Divorce and Beyond Podcast to get $50 off the cost of the 1:1 training!  If you would like to sponsor the show please reach out to us at  divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com for pricing and details!!! ******************************************************************** Don't forget to check out the Divorce & Beyond Podcast website at www.divorceandbeyondpod.com where you can find all of our episodes, links to sponsors and special offers and SIGN UP FOR THE FREE NEWSLETTER and Receive a Special Welcome Video from Susan! Remember to follow Susan Guthrie and THE DIVORCE AND BEYOND PODCAST on social media for updates and inside tips and information: Susan Guthrie on Facebook @Susan Guthrie Susan on Instagram @susanguthrieesq Susan on Twitter @guthrielaw Divorce & Beyond Podcast on Instagram @divorceandbeyond Divorce & Beyond on Twitter @DivorceBeyond If you want to see the video version of the podcast episodes they are available on The Divorce & Beyond YouTube Channel!  Make sure to LIKE and SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a single episode! Finally, we'd really appreciate it if you would  give us a 5 Star Rating and tell us what you like about the show in a review - your feedback really matters to us!  You can also get in touch with Susan at divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com. **************************************************************************** DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE AND COUNSEL.

On this week's episode, which is Part One of a Special Two-Part Episode, Susan Guthrie, nationally recognized family law attorney and mediator, speaks with Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond, the authors of "Our Happy Divorce: How Ending Our Marriage Brought Us Together" which shares their journey through marriage, divorce and finding a different kind of love. "Our Happy Divorce", I love this book, I truly do, and not just because it has a happy ending.  I love it because it tells a truthful tale of one couples' journey through the pain of divorce, which started out as many do, with anger, hurt and a "shark attorney", but but then reveals how they pulled back and found a different path that allowed for forgiveness, hope and a new kind of love.  Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond share the details of how they created a new life, a new definition of family and came to love each other again, just in a different way.  Make no mistake, this was not an easy path, but they share the actual steps that helped them to get there.  This is so important, that it just had to be a special two-part episode so that we could cover it all.  Find out why I say that this book should be required reading for all couples contemplating divorce and LISTEN TODAY! Highlights from this episode: Find out what role the "shark attorney" played in the Happy Divorce. How did Ben and Nikki clean up their side of the street so that they could move forward? What impact did Ben and Nikki's very different childhoods have on their Happy Divorce? Why does Ben say that "nothing good comes from living in the past? What was the one overriding principal that Nikki and Ben measured every decision by and still do? Ben and Nikki found a way to avoid the worst of divorce and successfully restructure their family.  Listen to this episode to find out how you can do the same! More about Nikki and Ben: From weeknight dinners and homework sessions with their son to Christmas card photos and vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events—and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their new amazing spouses and children. Nikki knows how being supported by a strong, loving family can influence the way a person navigates life, love, marriage, and motherhood. Having grown up as a member of the iconic San Francisco 49ers football family, she was thrown into the limelight at a young age. The values her family instilled in her have helped shape who she is today, and she continues to live by them. Ben intimately understands the detriment divorce can cause in the lives of children. The example of his parents’ divorce instilled in him a deep commitment to do better by his own kids. Ben is an investor, board member, philanthropist, golfer, and sports enthusiast. But above all, he is a dedicated father and family man who understands the importance of putting his ego aside and his children first. You can find out more about Our Happy Divorce, Ben and Nikki at www.ourhappydivorce.com Follow Our Happy Divorce on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. Buy the Book on Amazon or on the website www.ourhappydivorce.com. Read the Our Happy Divorce Guest Blog on Gabrielle Hartley's Better Apart website. ********************************************************************   SUSAN GUTHRIE, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  She is one of the Co-Chair's of the American Bar Association's DR Section Mediation Committee and is the Founder of Divorce in a Better Way which provides a curated selection of resources and information for those facing divorce and other life changes.  Susan also provides legal coaching and divorce mediation services to select clients around the world through an online platform.  Find out more at www.divorceinabetterway.com. **************************************************************************** THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:  Gabrielle Hartley, the Creator of the Better Apart Method:  Leading divorce lawyer, coach and mediator, Gabrielle Hartley's book book "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate" is a runaway best-seller and now she has created the Better Apart Master Class, available for download online, which provides powerful tools to help you get clear, feel better and reclaim your life!  For a limited time you will receive a mini consultation with Gabrielle herself when you sign up for the Master Class.  Listeners of the podcast receive $25 off the price of the Master Class with code "BEYOND25"!!!   If you would like to sponsor the show please reach out to us at  divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com for pricing and details!!! For Divorce Professionals:  As one of the country's leading experts in online mediation, Susan is now sharing her expertise and knowledge and offering her ONLINE MEDIATION TRAINING PROGRAM which will show you how to implement an online platform into to your existing practice in just two short one-hour online sessions!  Increase your potential client base, convenience and income by learning the ethical and practical considerations to know when mediating online!  Find out more at www.learntomediateonline.com and mention you are a listener of the Divorce and Beyond Podcast to get $50 off the cost of the 1:1 training!   ******************************************************************** Don't forget to check out the Divorce & Beyond Podcast website at www.divorceandbeyondpod.com where you can find all of our episodes, links to sponsors and special offers and SIGN UP FOR THE FREE NEWSLETTER and Receive a Special Welcome Video from Susan! Remember to follow Susan Guthrie and THE DIVORCE AND BEYOND PODCAST on social media for updates and inside tips and information: Susan Guthrie on Facebook @Susan Guthrie Susan on Instagram @susanguthrieesq Susan on Twitter @guthrielaw Divorce & Beyond Podcast on Instagram @divorceandbeyond Divorce & Beyond on Twitter @DivorceBeyond If you want to see the video version of the podcast episodes they are available on The Divorce & Beyond YouTube Channel!  Make sure to LIKE and SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a single episode! Finally, we'd really appreciate it if you would  give us a 5 Star Rating and tell us what you like about the show in a review - your feedback really matters to us!  You can also get in touch with Susan at divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com. **************************************************************************** DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE AND COUNSEL.

We have Gabrielle Hartley on the show and she is a strong and compassionate advocate, coach and a highly skilled divorce mediator and coach. For the last 25 years, she has served couples in reaching reasonable resolutions for her cases both in person and online. She is well-known for keeping 99% of her cases at the negotiation table and out of the courtroom and for launching The Positive Divorce Movement. With extensive experience in and out of the courtroom, her agreements are arrived at swiftly and are both clear and comprehensive. She founded The Better Apart Method, authored Better Apart; The Radically Positively Way to Separate (HarperCollins 2019). She committed to keeping the toxicity and damage in her cases to a minimum. Better Apart was endorsed by Gwyneth Paltrow, and was named “the conscious uncoupling how-to” by People Magazine. She has been featured throughout media channels including The New York Times, U.S. News and World Report, Vice, The New York Post, Yoga Journal,Vice Mind Body Green, Thrive Global, The Hampshire Gazette, and The Brian Lehrer Show. She is a regular expert guest and blogger featured NBC television (Mass Appeal) and radio as well as dozens of podcasts and blogs around the world. Gabrielle is known for her signature talks, Becoming The Best You Ever and Self Care for Attorneys; The Better Apart Method Each presentation is carefully curated to each audience. LINKS BELOW! Website - http://www.gabriellehartley.DISCOUNT CODE - Better30 (LIMITED TIME OFFER comes with 1to1) Instagram - http://www.instagram.com/gabrielle_ha... http://www.instagram.com/betterapart Twitter - http://www.twitter.com/gabhartleyesq Facebook - http://www.facebook.com/gabriellelhar...

Gabrielle Hartley is a leading elite divorce strategy and wellness coach, mediator, attorney, consultant, speaker and author.   Gabrielle is known for her unique, non-toxic approach to divorce that she has developed over twenty five years. She keeps 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and at the negotiating table, as she effectively supports her clients to create a healthy, uplifted post-divorce life for them.   She wrote Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate with the mission and vision of smashing the shame and stigma surrounding divorce. This groundbreaking work combines her practical advice and legal wisdom with the life-changing practices of yoga and meditation offered by yoga guru Elena Brower.   Gabrielle connects with Lou Diamond on Thrive LOUD.

Genet & Christina sit down with Gabrielle Hartley and discuss the complexities of blended family life... through the eyes of a divorce attorney. Gabrielle provides insights on mediation, the stepmom role and how to hold compassion during high conflict. G&C will always keep it real and authentic when discussing the realities of their co-parenting issues, but they were drawn to Gabrielle's expertise and her ability to speak to the other side of the mediation table. “Life is short..and if we can take a step back, we can really take a leap forward." - Gabrielle Hartley About Gabrielle: Gabrielle is a divorce attorney, mediator, coach, case closer, author and speaker with nearly 25 years of experience. She founded The Better Apart Method, and released her book Better Apart; The Radically Positively Way to Separate in 2019. Social Media: Instagram @gabrielle_hartley_esq Visit her at: https://gabriellehartley.com/ and pick up a FREE copy of the Divorce Survival Kit (great for parents AND Stepparents) Read Her Book: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Apart-Radically-Positive-Separate-ebook/dp/B0728MY47W ————————— Find us on Instagram: @radicalstepmomspodcast Website: www.radicalstepmomspodcast.com Email: radicalstepmomspodcast@gmail.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/radicalstepmoms/message

Turning Divorce into a Positive  This week’s guest is Gabrielle Hartley, a divorce mediator who is known as a case closer. She has been able to keep 99% of her cases out of the courtroom. She chats with Stacy Francis about how she manages to move her clients through the divorce process without using the courts. She also discusses why she believes divorce can be a positive in your life. Gabrielle is committed to leading the positive divorce movement because her own parents had an amicable divorce. The ‘Better Apart’ method helps you to clarify your thinking through the lens of patience, respect, clarity, peace, and forgiveness. Gabrielle reminds listeners that you are whole just as you are; your family is not broken, it is transformed; your child’s life is not shattered, it is reconfigured; and this is the perfect moment to reassess what you want from your life, and to have the confidence to activate your inner agency. Stacy takes away three new tools from this week’s show. Her new ‘screwdriver’ is the bookending exercise. Resources Reach out to receive a complimentary consultation  FrancisFinancial.com Stacy Francis: Stacy@Stacyfrancis.com  Phone: 212-374-9008  GabrielleHartley.com Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate

Gabrielle Hartley is a leading divorce attorney, mediator, & author of The Better Apart Method; The Radically Positive Way to Separate (Harper Collins), which combines the healing wisdom of mindfulness, meditation and yoga with practical advice and legal wisdom to get the reader through and beyond the divorce.  Gabrielle maintains a private law, mediation and coaching practice in Northampton, Massachusetts and in New York City where she offers live and online consultation and mediation.  Contact Gabrielle at www.gabriellehartley.com. Find out more about us at www.modernseparations.com

Divorce can be messy, gut wrenching, and throw you off balance for at least 1-3 years. But divorce attorney, mediator, and author of the book Better Apart, Gabrielle Hartley, shares her radical ideas on how we can separate without losing ourselves in the process. Hint: It's about your mindset and how you look at it! Join her masterclass and use "Better30" for a discount into the program. https://www.masterclass.gabriellehartley.com/better-apart-masterclassLiked this episode? Please leave a review!

I talk to Gabrielle Hartley Esq a leading divorce attorney, mediator, case closer, author and speaker. She founded The Positive Divorce Movement, is the creator of The Better Apart Method and her book, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate (Harper Collins) is the first book of its kind to combine the life-changing, healing wisdom of mindfulness, meditation and yoga with practical advice and legal wisdom to get the reader through and beyond the divorce. With a glowing cover endorsement from Gwyneth Paltrow, Better Apart was named “the conscious uncoupling how-to” by People Magazine. We talk divorce, kindness and compassion, sharing our common beliefs, vision and thoughts about the future of divorce with advice and tips to support you. Gabrielle:  Website: gabriellehartley.com IG: @gabrielle_hartley_esq Tosh:  Website: divorcegoddess.com IG: @divorcegoddess

Kerry Ford is a holistic/NeuroScience based wellness expert in Tonic herbalism, Intuitive|Quantum healing, Medical Meditation +Spiritual Consulting. She mentors high performers on how to get UN stuck + step into Peak Purpose, Performance+Creativity, liberating the GENIUS laying dormant in their genes. A published writer and speaker for reputable wellness + conscious magazines+media outlets, Kerry has contributed to GOOP approved authors through my blog (Better Apart by Gabrielle Hartley, Elena Brower) penned for THE GOOD MEN PROJECT; featured as guest expert on national radio stations NBC’s IHUB RADIO and featured as guest expert in wellness courses alongside Dr. Josh Axe, Dr. Dale Bredesen, Dr. Marvin Singh for CLEAN EATING MAGAZINE. She Founded NEURO-FLOW, a simple, powerful neuro-roadmap that takes dormant genius + activates it into action, clearing unconscious blocks(beliefs) that stop our flow of Genius to Greatness. Today on the show we chatted with Kerry about: Why we hate "trends" and other things that bug us in the "wellness space" Her fave go-to herbs Natural skincare tips for more beauty and less stress The importance of drinking the RIGHT KIND of water You can check Kerry out at https://kerryfordco.com/.

Gabrielle Hartley, a divorce lawyer, coach, and mediator, discusses her practice and book, both entitled “Better Apart,” focusing on active validation techniques in mediation. She highlights how mindfulness, meditation, and yoga play a powerful role in the process of conscious uncoupling. She concludes with words of empowerment for young professionals, with practical ways to reduce stigma and animosity around divorce. Gabrielle also serves as Co-Chair of the Section’s Dispute Resolution Journal and Co-Chair of the Mediation Committee.

This week I am joined by the fabulous, Gabrielle Hartley, Esq. Gabrielle is a leading divorce attorney and is the author of Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate. Gabrielle founded the positive divorce movement and is known for keeping 99% of her cases at the negotiation table and out of the courtroom.  With her book, Better Apart, she has created a complete Bible on how to get through your divorce in the most positive and elegant way possible. And I just love that word, elegant. Can you imagine your divorce being described as elegant? Her book is the first of its kind to combine the life-changing and healing wisdom of mindfulness, meditation, and yoga with practical advice and legal wisdom to get the reader through and beyond divorce. I cannot recommend her book highly enough.  Gabrielle joins me to talk about the five elements of the Better Apart Method. She answers the question, “Can divorce really spark joy?” and talks about how to create an elegant divorce for you and your children.  Show Highlights The positive divorce movement can spark the change we need in the world of divorce (3:10) Can divorce really spark joy? (4:02) Clearing the emotional clutter can help regulate your response to common divorce triggers (6:03) If you struggle with responding versus reacting, give yourself the permission you need to make space in your body first (8:20) Creating an elegant divorce for you and your children (13:50) Many of the relationships we have are dictated, partially, in how we interact with those people; plus understanding we are not responsible for others behaviors or choices (16:46) The five elements of the Better Apart Method and some exercises to put them into practice: patience, respect (respecting the process and yourself), peace (noticing the neutral), clarity (where we go from blame game to active visionary), and forgiveness (forgiving yourself will provide emotional freedom). (18:52) In order to move forward, we need to take a big step back; plus how reflective listening and marriage counseling can help you even if you do decide to divorce (37:24) Learn More About Gabrielle: Gabrielle Hartley Esq. , is a leading divorce attorney, mediator, case closer, author and speaker.  She founded The Positive Divorce Movement and is the creator of The Better Apart Method. She is known for keeping 99% of her cases at the negotiation table and out of the courtroom.    Her new book, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate (Harper Collins) is the first book of its kind to combine the life changing, healing wisdom of mindfulness, meditation and yoga with practical advice and legal wisdom to get the reader through and beyond the divorce. Better Apart was named “the conscious uncoupling how-to” by People Magazine.  She been featured throughout media channels including The New York Times, U.S. News and World Report, The New York Post,Yoga Journal,  Mind Body Green, The Hampshire Gazette, The Brian Lehrer Show.  She is a regular guest and blogger featured on local television and radio as well as dozens of podcasts and blogs around the world.    Gabrielle is on the faculty of The American Bar Association (ABA) Mediation Institute and is a sub-committee chair at the ABA Dispute Resolution Section.  She is also a member of the Association of the Bar of the City of New York, The Hampshire Bar Association and the Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation.  Gabrielle is committed to wellness and technological innovation in the divorce space. She serves as advisor to the FAYR co-parenting application.   She is former Court Attorney to Judge Jeffrey Sunshine.    Gabrielle maintains a private law, mediation and coaching practice in Northampton, Massachusetts and in New York City where she offers live and online consultation and mediation.  Work with Gabrielle at gabriellehartley.com.  Links:Gabrielle’s websiteBetter Apart Masterclass - Listeners Use Code BETTER30 for $30 offGabrielle on InstagramGabrielle on LinkedInGabrielle on Facebook Resources:NEW! The Ultimate Divorce Survival GuideShould I Stay or Should I Go Facebook Group

Maybe you're better apart? Gabrielle Hartley is a divorce lawyer, coach, and mediator who helps people navigate relationships, even failing ones, in a healthy manner. She's is known for her unique, non-toxic approach to divorce; she even wrote the book on it! Tune in to learn about the power found through deeply engaging with what's hard and how that internal awareness brings about change.Gabrielle's parents divorced when she was a child. However, it wasn't until she spent time working in family law that she realized their amicable separation was a true gift. After navigating hundreds and hundreds of families through their own divorces, Gabrielle felt called to contribute in a more impactful way. She knew she could help others reach reasonable, if not positive, resolutions through divorce. It's no small action to not only tell people they'll be okay, but to also show them how to be okay.Tell us what you think by calling 312-646-0205CALL IN AND SHARE WHAT YOUR MOST GRATEFUL FOR OUR ANNUAL GRATITUDE EPISODE!! 312-646-0205Read the detailed show notes here.Check out Gabrielle's "Better Apart" masterclass.Support The Brave Files on Patreon and help us grow our Brave Community!

Divorce is a tricky subject for many people, but divorce attorney Gabrielle Hartley aims to make it about resolution rather than arguing. We discuss the silly things people have argued about, what people can do if they’re unhappy in their marriage and the story of her parents’ divorce in the 70’s and co-parenting. Links mentioned … Continue reading #27: About the Delicate Subject of Divorce (Interview with Gabrielle Hartley, leading divorce attorney, founder of the Positive Divorce Movement and creator of the Better Apart Method) →

Author Gabrielle Hartley "Better Apart | Can one really divorce gracefully?!" on Crackin' the Kid Code Podcast #103Gabrielle Hartley is an attorney, mediator, speaker and author. She is known for a unique, non-toxic approach to divorce that she developed over two decades in practice. Gabrielle keeps 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and at the negotiating table as she effectively supports her clients to create a healthy, uplifted post-divorce life for them. Gabrielle served as court attorney for Judge Jeffrey Sunshine in NYC matrimonial court and is a member of the Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation. She currently resides in Northampton, MA with her husband and three sons. Find out more at GabrielleHartley.com. Visit Grace At The Baby SpotVisit Atara At Curlee GirleeBuy Curlee Girlee and pre-order Curlee Girlee’s Got Talent 

This week, Dr. Martha welcomes back Gabrielle Hartley, Esq to discuss “Better Apart the Radically Positive Way to Separate. “

This week, Dr. Martha welcomes back Gabrielle Hartley, Esq to discuss “Better Apart the Radically Positive Way to Separate. “

Gabrielle Hartley is a leading divorce attorney, mediator, coach, author and speaker.  Her new book, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate (Harper Collins) is the first book of its kind to combine the life changing, healing wisdom of mindfulness, meditation and yoga with practical advice and legal wisdom to get the reader through and beyond the divorce. Better Apart was named “the conscious uncoupling how-to” by People Magazine.  She has also been featured throughout media channels including The New York Times, U.S. News and World Report, The New York Post, Yoga Journal, & Mind Body Green.  Gabrielle is the founder of Better Apart Divorce Coaching, Co-Parenting and Mediation Services as well as live and now online class for individuals and professionals working with divorce. She speaks around the nation on radical self care. In her practice, she is known for a unique, non-toxic approach to divorce that she developed over two decades in practice. Gabrielle is committed to smashing the divorce stigma.  She served as court attorney for Judge Jeffrey Sunshine in NYC matrimonial court and is a member of the Association of the Bar of the City of New York, and the Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation.  She currently resides in Northampton, MA with her husband and three sons.  Work with Gabrielle at gabriellehartley.com

melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com www.blendedfamilypodcast.com   Gabrielle Hartley is a leading divorce attorney, mediator, coach, author and speaker.  Her new book, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate (Harper Collins) is the first book of its kind to combine the life changing, healing wisdom of mindfulness, meditation and yoga with practical advice and legal wisdom to get the reader through and beyond the divorce.    Better Apart was named “the conscious uncoupling how-to” by People Magazine.  She has also been featured throughout media channels including The New York Times, The New York Post, Yoga Journal, & Mind Body Green. Gabrielle is the founder of Better Apart Divorce Coaching, Co-Parenting and Mediation Services as well as live and online class for individuals and professionals working with divorce. She speaks around the nation on radical self care.  In her practice, she is known for a unique, non-toxic approach to divorce that she developed over two decades in practice. Gabrielle is committed to smashing the divorce stigma. She served as court attorney for Judge Jeffrey Sunshine in NYC matrimonial court and is a member of the Association of the Bar of the City of New York, and the Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation. She currently resides in Northampton, MA with her husband and three sons.   In this show we discuss Her personal story Her book, Better Apart Self care Mediation and coaching services Co Parenting Peaceful conflict resolution Healthy divorce BYE Divorce retreats And much more!   Connect with Gabrielle Website TwitterFacebook Instagram Instagram (for Better Apart) LinkedIn   Connect with me Join the Private Facebook Group Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Connect with me on Instagram   Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes   Schedule an interview, coaching session, or financial review here Take my money quiz here to see how financially literate you are!                   

Practical wisdom for separation and divorce; shifting internal narratives, prioritizing positives, taking the high road, and the importance of the long view. Length: 43:20 Timecodes: 0:43 Holding a state of being Better Apart by separating with the five pillars: Patience, Clarity, Respect, Peace and Forgiveness. 2:35 How divorce attorneys responded to the book. 5:35 Gabrielle’s work as a divorce attorney, and her experience of her own parents’ divorce. 7:40 Creating a safe environment within yourself. 9:10 Seeking help if someone is unable or afraid to leave. 10:58 Shifting your internal narrative. 12:45 Finding a counsellor or meditator to set up interim living situations. 13:44 Patience. Slowest is fastest. 17:32 Clarity. Asking for precisely what you need. Acknowledging what you brought to the table. 24:36 Peace. Reconstructing your separation/divorce as a sanctuary of possibility. Peace as a practice. Creating a mantra for yourself. 30:52 Respect for yourself and others. Creating stronger boundaries. Spending more time with things that you happy. 36:46 Forgiveness as a gift to yourself. Recognizing your own humaneness. From contraction to expansion. Acknowledging the reason you came to this person in the first place. 41:25 Masterclass based on the five pillars. Resources https://gabriellehartley.com/

I love this episode so much. We talk about doing what needs to be done in ourselves so that we can avoid court (if possible), and even when things are contentious, she empowers us with ways to think so that we can encourage love and transformation in the most toxic of relationships. Gabrielle is honest and tells it like it is, she’s funny and she truly wants you to succeed. We talk about her book that is getting a lot of media attention, Better Apart, and the tenets which are the backbone of the book, as well as techniques to bring you back to a safe place when you’re overwhelmed, can’t sleep, can’t think and your anxiety is off the charts. We also get into parenting plans, what to look for in a lawyer and why forgiveness is everything.   To learn more about Gabrielle Hartley and to get her free gift 10 Tips for a Drama Free Divorce, go to gabriellehartley.com  

Divorce is almost as much a part of life as marriage. Yet most couples are in the dark about pro-social, non-toxic approaches to divorce. Enter Gabrielle Hartley, attorney, mediator and co-author of Better Apart, a practical guide for skillfully executing a divorce and emerging a wiser, more compassionate and resilient human being. The uniqueness of this approach comes from expert integration of sound legal wisdom and teachings on skillful means from yogic and Buddhist philosophies. You will detect my deep appreciation for Gabrielle and this book, as it has radically simplified the way I counsel patients who find themselves in divorce pre-contemplation or ultimately deciding to separate and/or divorce. This episode is inspiring and informative. I ask many difficult questions, many of which I often hear as a Marriage and Family Therapist; particularly in Silicon Valley where divorce can be ugly, protracted and wreak financial devastation and emotional turmoil for all involved parties. Website: https://gabriellehartley.com Disclaimer: The information in this episode or on groundlessground.com is intended for information and entertainment purposes only, and does not claim to be or constitute therapeutic advice or mental health treatment.

Gabrielle Hartley, Esq. joins us this week to talk about her book Better Apart and the 5 elements needed to help you find peace as you navigate the choppy waters of divorce.

In this short episode, Jonah and I touch upon: - his experience of what we did well in our separation (we minimized fighting, always apologized, and shared stories of the trajectory in a loving way) - advice to parents for how to handle separation and divorce (no fighting, always apologize, and be kind) - not requiring eye contact with your kid - allowing the kid to open up more freely - our shared appreciation of Sex Education on Netflix - on sources of stress in his life - a friendly meditation challenge - Better Apart

Love is complex. If the fairy tales were true there wouldn’t be a greater than 50% divorce rate. Sooooo many factors to great relationships. We know now, more than ever about attachment theory as it relates to successful relationships. All that being said — 50% are still ending in divorce at this time. High conflict divorce is the cause of so many detrimental things to adults and children. There is....another way!! My guest, Gabrielle Hartley is going to be on the show to talk about her book, Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate. Gabrielle Hartley is an attorney, mediator, consultant, speaker and author. She is known for her unique, non-toxic approach to divorce that she has developed over two decades in practice. Gabrielle keeps 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and at the negotiating table as she effectively supports her clients to create a healthy, uplifted post-divorce life for them. Gabrielle launched Your Elegant Divorce to offer support to clients regardless of their location. Find Gabrielle here --> https://gabriellehartley.com/ Find Better Apart Here --> https://www.amazon.com/Better-Apart-Radically-Positive-Separate-ebook/dp/B0728MY47W www.allwaysanotherway.com

Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate will transform your divorce and level-up your life. Gabrielle Hartley is an attorney, mediator, consultant and author, with Elena Brower, she gives you the...READ MORE The post Gabrielle Hartley Roadmap to Making Separation and Your Life Better Apart appeared first on That Got Me Thinking.

Divorce is a difficult, painful process. But at the end of the day, people pursue divorce because they want to be happier and improve their lives. The experience CAN afford you the opportunity to look inward, rediscover yourself and architect a better future—if you approach divorce in a mindful, non-toxic way. Gabrielle Hartley is committed to helping couples divorce with dignity and ease. Gabrielle has 20-plus years of experience as a divorce attorney and mediator, and in that time, she has developed a unique approach to the process that supports clients in designing a healthy post-divorce life. Gabrielle is also the coauthor of Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate. Today, Gabrielle joins Katherine to share the philosophy behind Better Apart and offer insight around her intention to help divorcing couples gain clarity. She describes several practical strategies you can use to remain mindful and practice active self-care during the divorce process and discusses how to choose an attorney that will represent you in a way you can be proud of. Listen in for Gabrielle’s advice around responding rather than reacting to the conflict dynamic and learn how to leverage divorce as an opportunity to remap your future! Topics Covered The philosophy behind Gabrielle’s new book, Better Apart Gabrielle’s intention to help divorcing couples gain clarity How Gabrielle encourages clients to be kind to themselves The 5 lenses Gabrielle uses to help people navigate divorce How to train your mind with a positive affirmation journal How listening to your inner voice is part of active self-care Surrounding yourself with people who let you be happy The danger in overgeneralizing other’s stories of divorce Gabrielle’s advice on choosing the right divorce attorney How divorce affords an opportunity to remap your future The value of giving yourself something to look forward to Gabrielle’s strategies for responding rather than reacting Connect with Gabrielle Hartley Gabrielle’s Website : https://gabriellehartley.com/ Resources Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate by Gabrielle Hartley and Elena Brower: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Apart-Radically-Positive-Separate/dp/006268938X Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765

Author of Better Apart (released by Harper Wave 2019). Divorce mediator and attorney. Mom to 3.   The Gram: gabriellehartley1 Twitter @elegantdivorce LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gabrielle-hartley-0b43139/  

Gabrielle Hartley is a leading divorce attorney, mediator, coach, author and speaker. Her book, Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate, is the first book of its kind to combine the life changing, healing wisdom of mindfulness, meditation and yoga with practical advice and legal wisdom to get the reader through and beyond the divorce. Better Apart was named “the conscious uncoupling how-to” by People Magazine. She has also been featured throughout media channels including The New York Times, The New York Post, Yoga Journal, & Mind Body Green. She is known for a unique, non-toxic approach to divorce that she developed over two decades in practice. She served as court attorney for Judge Jeffrey Sunshine in NYC matrimonial court and is a member of the Association of the Bar of the City of New York, and the Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation. Gabrielle brings her spirit, smarts and energy to every life she touches. She provides a robust array of resources (webinars, live classes, one to one coaching, workshops, key notes and connection to other professionals and resources) for people who are ready to feel better through and beyond divorce. Gabrielle will help you move beyond feeling victimized by your relationship or situation, learn to manage your emotions around your ex's manipulations (or irritations) and start to feel better. She currently resides in Northampton, MA with her husband and three sons.In This Episode, You Will Learn:The greatest challenges that most couples face during divorce.Five essential elements to cultivating an elegant divorce.How to deal with an ex who isn't interested in an elegant divorce.Connect with Gabrielle:GabrielleHartley.comBetter Apart: The Radically Positive Way to SeparateFacebookInstagramTwitterLinkedInDon’t Miss A Single Episode:Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.Leave a quick review on any of the podcast apps to tell people what you think about the show.Take a screenshot of the podcast and post it on Instagram or Instagram Stories. Tag us @insporising. We’ll repost and give you a shoutout!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/inspiration-rising/donations