Podcast appearances and mentions of terri cole

We talk a lot about people-pleasing, perfectionism, overachieving, anxiety, and self-doubt. But what if those aren't actually the root problem? What if they're symptoms of something deeper, heavier, and far more hidden? In this episode, Nicole sits down with Dr. Zoe Shaw — licensed psychotherapist, relationship coach, speaker, podcast host, and author of Stronger in the Difficult Places — to unpack the uncomfortable but life-changing topic of complex shame. Not the fleeting embarrassment kind. The deep, identity-level shame that quietly shapes how we see ourselves, what we believe we deserve, and how small or safe we allow ourselves to play in life. Dr. Zoe shares her own deeply personal story and explains how shame develops, how it disguises itself as “normal” behavior, and why healing requires more than just positive affirmations and surface-level self-help. This conversation dives into trauma, self-worth, people-pleasing, boundaries, vulnerability, confirmation bias, and the stories we carry about ourselves — often without realizing it. In This Episode, We Explore: The difference between guilt, shame, and complex shame Why people-pleasing and perfectionism may actually be rooted in shame How shame shapes identity, relationships, and self-worth The hidden ways women learn to hide themselves Why overachieving can become a coping mechanism The “phantom critic” vs. the “courageous truth teller” Why healing starts with honesty, not toxic positivity Practical first steps for untangling deep shame patterns How vulnerability helps shame lose its power Thank you to our sponsors! Become a Fora Advisor today at Foratravel.com/WOMAN - and make sure to tell them we sent you! Elevate your summer wardrobe: Go to Quince.com/tiww for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns! Visit Upwork.com right now and post your job for free! Families are better when they're working together… go to myskylight.com/WOMANSWORK for $30 off your Skylight Calendar. Start your risk-free Greenlight trial today at Greenlight.com/TIWW. Don't wait to teach your kids real-world money skills! Connect with Zoe: Book: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/740766/stronger-in-the-difficult-places-by-dr-zoe-shaw/  Website: https://drzoeshaw.com/  IG: https://www.instagram.com/drzoeshaw/ Related Podcast Episodes High-Functioning Codependency: When Being “The Strong One” Is Slowly Killing You with Terri Cole | 341 Normalize It: Breaking The Silence & Shame That Shape Women's Lives with Dr. Jessica Zucker | 303 Like A Wave, We Break: How Falling Apart Builds Confidence with Jane Chen | 388 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform!

Fan Mail: Tell Wendy how you're saying yes to yourself!Join Wendy for her dreamy Summer Solstice White Party on Saturday June 20, 2026 —an al fresco evening of delicious food, intention-setting, and celebration at the Phineas Wright House. Wear white, gather at the long table in the field, and toast to the season ahead. Save you seat here: phineaswrighthouse.com/the-shop/p/summer-solstice-white-partyIn this episode, Wendy sits down with Lynn Harris, founder of Gold Comedy and an industry veteran who's spent her career at the intersection of entertainment and social change. After 5 years of eldercare and other demands, Lynn is saying yes to herself again by setting boundaries, scheduling creative projects, and pursuing her own work.They explore:How comedy works as a delivery system for challenging conversations and cultural shiftWhy the specificity of storytelling creates unexpected connection across differenceWhat it means to set boundaries and reclaim your creative life after burnoutLynn talks about the social contract of comedy and when you attend a show, you're required to listen to someone, even if they don't look like you or share your background. That simple act normalizes different perspectives and creates the possibility for cultural change. She's built Gold Comedy to help women and underrepresented voices succeed in comedy and entertainment, because the industry hasn't evolved enough since the 90s. Her insight is clear: it's not that women need to speak up more. It's that people need to listen.Connect with Lynn:GoldComedy.comDiscount Code Coming Soon!Youtube.com/GoldComedyInstagram: instagram.com/goldcomedyReferenced in this Episode:Boundary Boss by Terri Cole: amazon.com/dp/1683647688?tag=syty-20A Course in Miracles Links:amazon.com/Course-Miracles-Combined-Quality/dp/1883360242?tag=syty-20marianne.com/acim/apps.apple.com/us/app/acim-remind/id737568020________________________________________________________________________________________Connect with Wendy:LinkedinInstagram: @wendy.harropFacebook: Phineas Wright HouseWebsite: Phineas Wright House PWH Farm StaysPWH Curated Experience and TravelInterested in being a guest on the show? Send your pitch to podcast@phineaswrighthouse.comPodcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective Want to start your own podcast? Let's chat!If this episode resonated, follow Say YES to Yourself! and leave a  5-star review. It helps more women in midlife discover the tools, stories, and community that make saying YES not only possible, but powerful.

If you've been feeling pulled between honoring your own needs and keeping everyone else happy, this episode is for you. In this deeply personal conversation, I share what I've been learning as I navigate major life changes, shifting relationships, stronger boundaries, and the uncomfortable reality that growth often makes other people uncomfortable. I open up about patterns of codependency, people-pleasing, and trying to control outcomes so that everyone around me feels okay — even when it comes at the expense of my own peace. Together, we'll explore why choosing yourself doesn't have to mean losing everyone you love, how the brain creates false either-or choices, and why personal growth often requires us to tolerate discomfort while staying rooted in truth, integrity, and self-awareness. In this episode, you'll learn: How codependency can quietly shape our relationships Why people-pleasing often comes from a desire to control outcomes The truth about boundaries and why others may resist them How to navigate identity shifts in midlife Simple practices that help build strength during difficult seasons Terri Cole's website: https://www.terricole.com/codependency-over-functioning/ If this conversation resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email me at hello@mikkigardner.com and let me know what you're discovering about yourself as you navigate your own next chapter. If you'd like to schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/clarity_call For more information, visit https://www.mikkigardner.com/within © 2021 - 2026 Mikki Gardner Coaching

Are you helping… or are you overfunctioning?This week Amie is joined by psychotherapist and relationship expert Terri Cole to talk about the hidden emotional pattern so many women live inside: high functioning codependency.This conversation is especially powerful for women navigating betrayal trauma, divorce, parallel parenting, emotional exhaustion, and the deep work of rebuilding boundaries.Listen to learn:Why strong women become overfunctionersHow betrayal trauma fuels codependent patternsWhat boundaries actually look likeWhy self-trust starts smallHow to stop rescuing everyone around youWhat healing really requiresConnect with Terri: website, InstagramTake the boundary quizGet the HFC Toolkit Chapters01:51 Meet Terri Cole05:18 Defining High Functioning Codependency13:01 Anticipatory Anxiety Control19:30 Boundaries Quiz26:27 What Am I Tolerating?31:07 VIP Section Relationships39:45 Mourning the Dream43:43 Chosen Me MindsetRegister Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***

Are you the person everyone relies on, but no one really checks in on? In this episode, psychotherapist Terri Cole is back to break down the often-overlooked pattern of overgiving and over-functioning that can lead to burnout, resentment, and disconnection in your relationships. She shares how this shows up especially for high-achieving women who “have it all together” and why it's so hard to recognize in yourself. We talk about how to spot the signs, the difference between caring and controlling, and the small but powerful shifts you can start making today. Get ready to stop fixing everyone else and start prioritizing yourself.  Check out our Sponsors: Granola - Granola is an AI-powered notepad built for the way real people actually meet. Get three months free at http://granola.ai/earn. Shopify - Try the ecommerce platform I trust for Glōci, Sign up for your $1/month trial period at http://Shopify.com/happy Indeed - Spend less time searching, and more time actually interviewing candidates who check all your boxes. Indeed is giving Earn Your Happy listeners a $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to help get your job the premium status it deserves. Just go to http://Indeed.com/podcast right now and support our show by saying you heard about Indeed on Earn Your Happy. Rella - Rella is a project management platform built specifically for social media managers and teams. Go to http://getrella.com and use code EARN for 10% off your first three months or annual plan. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 What does high-functioning codependency (HFC) look like? 06:00 Signs you might be over-functioning in your relationships. 11:30 How auto-advice giving can create resentment. 17:30 What's the difference between compromise and self-abandonment in partnerships? 25:00 How to stop trying to control others and protect your peace. 31:45 The red flags of taking on too much emotional responsibility. 39:00 How to deal with guilt when you feel like you “should” do more. 45:00 How changing your behavior improves your relationships. 49:00 The FREE toolkit to help you start setting boundaries today! RESOURCES Learn more about Terri's Free HFC Toolkit HERE Get your copy of Terri's “Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency” HERE Apply for the Elite Entrepreneur Mastermind HERE! Get on the waitlist for Mentor Collective Mastermind HERE! Try glōci for 40% off your first order with code HAPPY at checkout - head to getgloci.com FOLLOW Follow me: @loriharder Follow glōci: @getgloci Follow Terri: @terricole

In this illuminating and refreshingly honest conversation, Anna sits down with Richelle Fredson, Book Proposal Coach, publishing aficionado, and former Director of Publicity & Book Marketing at Hay House. With 20+ years of industry experience — including roles in acquisitions, author development, and major launches — Richelle has helped thousands of authors turn their ideas into compelling proposals and land publishing deals.Richelle has worked with powerhouse authors like Farnoosh Torabi, Chrissy King, Jennifer Racioppi, Terri Cole, Jen Winston, and more. But what makes her so unique is her commitment to transparency. She lifts the veil on an industry that often feels opaque, intimidating, and gatekept — and replaces fear with clarity and empowerment.This conversation goes far beyond book deals. It's about visibility, identity, confidence, and what happens inside someone when they decide to put their voice into the world in print.In this episode, we explore:• Why Richelle believes we need more books — especially from mission-driven leaders, creatives, and underrepresented voices• Why the idea that “there are already enough books” is a myth that keeps people silent• The most common fears aspiring authors face (imposter syndrome, pressure to have a perfect platform, fear of rejection) and how she helps them move through it• How the publishing industry actually works — and what most people misunderstand about it• Why a strong book proposal is not just a business document, but a clarity document• The deeper emotional and identity transformation authors experience during the proposal and writing process• How visibility wounds show up when someone starts writing a book — and what it takes to move through them with compassion• Why writing a book is as much about personal evolution as it is about craft, platform, or salesWhether you're already writing, secretly dreaming, or just curious about the world of publishing, this episode gives you both the strategy and the soul of what it takes to bring a book to life. Connect with Richelle Fredson• Website: https://richellefredson.com/• The Book Proposal Assembly: https://richellefredson.com/assembly/• Podcast: Bound and Determined• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/richellefredson/ Connect with Anna• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anna_holtzman/• Website: https://www.annaholtzman.com/• Free workshop — Let Yourself Be Seen: https://www.annaholtzman.com/beseen

Today's solo episode is a topic close to my heart. Wouldn't life be a little bit easier if many people were better at listening and true, genuine apologies?! — I think so. Whether that be politicians, abusers... anyone really.In this episode I speak about:saying sorry too muchwhere apologies may be due or even needed (and it's ok to say that!)where emotional intelligence, doing the work and owning our sh*t is helpfulwhy forgiveness isn't always the holy grailhandling criticism and tips to avoid/reduce defensivenessThemes: apologies, relationships, forgivenessI mention Harriet Lerner, Mark Groves, Terri Cole, my boyfriend Roly Starr.At the end, I read a poem written by me.Did you enjoy this episode? If so, I would really appreciate it if you could please leave a review on the platform that you listen.For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram, and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com

In this eye-opening episode, Bela Gandhi sits down with relationship expert Terri Cole to talk about boundaries, self-worth, and why high-achievers often struggle to find love.If you are dating after divorce, feeling burned out, or wondering why you keep attracting the wrong people, this episode will shift everything.You will learn how to stop overgiving, raise your standards, and finally create the healthy, balanced relationship you deserve.

Tired of saying yes when you mean no and feeling resentful later? In this powerful compilation episode, you'll learn how to set healthy boundaries without guilt, conflict, or losing the people you care about.If you're exhausted from overgiving, overworking, people-pleasing, or overfunctioning, this conversation will feel deeply familiar. We explore why so many high-functioning adults struggle to communicate limits and how small, clear boundary shifts can radically change your relationships, work life, and inner peace.Today's episode features insights from therapist and bestselling author Nedra Glover Tawwab, author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, and psychotherapist and relationship expert Terri Cole, author of Boundary Boss. Together, they unpack the psychology of boundaries, codependency, people-pleasing, and how to finally talk true and live free.In this episode, you'll discover:A one-sentence boundary formula that prevents arguments and shuts down guilt spiralsThe hidden secondary gain that keeps you stuck in overgiving and overfunctioningThe six dysfunctional boundary styles and how to identify your “boundary blueprint”A simple way to set time boundaries at work without risking your jobPractical scripts you can use when someone asks intrusive questions or ignores your limitsIf you're ready to stop feeling unseen, stretched thin, or quietly resentful, press play and learn how to create the boundaries that make a good life possible.Episode TranscriptYou can find Nedra at: Website | InstagramYou can find Terri at: Website | Instagram | Discover Your Secondary Gain | The Terri Cole ShowNext week, be sure to tune in for my conversation with Gretchen Rubin about what actually happens when kids leave home and how that season reshapes identity, relationships, and purpose.Check out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the WheelVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Trying to eliminate anxiety can make it worse. Do this instead…If you wake up with a tight chest, a racing mind, or a constant sense of unease, this conversation offers clarity, relief, and a more grounded way forward.In this episode, we unpack what anxiety actually is, why it shows up the way it does, and how to tell the difference between normal anxiety and anxiety that starts running, or even ruining your life. You'll learn how fear, uncertainty, and your nervous system interact, and why trying to eliminate anxiety often makes it worse.Dr. Tracey Marks is a psychiatrist, mental health educator, and creator of one of the most trusted science-based mental health platforms online. With over twenty years of clinical experience, she translates neuroscience into practical tools, and she's the author of Why Am I So Anxious? Powerful Tools for Recognizing Anxiety and Restoring Your Peace.In this conversation, you'll discoverHow to tell when anxiety is helping you versus quietly harming youA simple way to recognize when worry has crossed into catastrophizingWhy anxiety can feel physical even when medical tests come back normalThe overlooked body-based tools that calm your nervous system naturallyA healthier expectation for anxiety that makes it easier to live withAnxiety doesn't mean you're broken. But ignoring how it works can keep you stuck. Press play to understand what your mind and body are asking for, and learn how to respond with more clarity and self-trust.You can find Tracey at: Website | Instagram | Episode TranscriptNext week, we're sharing a really meaningful conversation with Nedra Glover Tawwab and Terri Cole about life-changing boundaries, how to say no without guilt, and how to stop overgiving.Check out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the WheelVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Send Cathy a text:)In this episode of The Caregiver Cup Podcast, we're talking about one of the hardest — and most important — skills every caregiver needs: setting boundaries without guilt.If you've ever felt selfish for needing rest… If you've said yes when you meant no… If you've carried resentment because everyone else's needs came before your own… this conversation is for you.We explore what healthy boundaries really are (and what they are not), why caregivers struggle so deeply with guilt, and how boundaries actually protect both you and the people you love. Drawing on insights from Terri Cole's “Boundary Boss” and real-life caregiving stories, you'll learn why boundaries aren't walls — they're bridges and paths that make caregiving sustainable.Inside this episode, you'll discover:What healthy boundaries look like in everyday caregivingWhy guilt shows up when you start saying no — and what it really meansThe emotional and physical cost of having no boundariesSimple scripts and tools for setting boundaries with family, friends, and loved onesHow to handle pushback, emotional reactions, and the fear of disappointing othersYou'll also get reflection questions, one small action step, and encouragement to begin practicing gentle boundaries that protect your energy, health, and heart.Because caring for others starts with caring for yourself — and boundaries are how you make that possible.

Are you often taken advantage of?  Have you been worried about having boundaries? We discuss all things boundaries today, so this is for you. In this episode I talk with Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. We dive into dysfunctional boundaries, boundary violations, co-dependency, dealing with the urge to fix people, and so much more. **Sign up for the Wild Horses Project – email Info@sisterhoodofSweat.com or DM Linda on Instagram**   Questions I asked: How did you become the boundary boss? What would be an example of someone who has unhealthy boundaries? How do you deal with unhealthy situations? What are typical boundary violations? How do we figure out disordered emotional boundaries? How do you deal with people-pleasing? What is the Boundary Bill of Rights? What's a boundary blueprint? Why do we need to make sure we make time for self-care? How do we stop trying to help people who don't deserve it? How do we stop being a fixer? How do we navigate finding self-love? How do we deal with looking for external validation? Topics Discussed: Boundaries Codependency Self-Esteem. Having good boundaries. Being brave. Your VIP section. People pleasing. Being a fixer Quotes from the show: "You have the right to say Yes or No to someone without feeling guilty." @terri_cole @SisterhoodSweat "When you have disordered boundaries, you take on the emotional states of others." @terri_cole @SisterhoodSweat "You have the right to course-correct anytime." @terri_cole @SisterhoodSweat "Being uncomfortable is fleeting and you're not that fragile." @terri_cole @SisterhoodSweat "We end up feeling abused because we didn't get our own needs met." @terri_cole @SisterhoodSweat "You have the right to talk true, be seen, and live free." @terri_cole @SisterhoodSweat How you can stay in touch with Terri: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/terri_cole FB Page: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/terricoleny Podcast: https://terricole.com/itunes Grab Your Book: https://boundarybossbook.com/ Real Love Revolution Course: https://terricole.com/rlr Free Gift: https://boundaryboss.me/sisterhood How you can stay in touch with Linda: Website Facebook Twitter Instagram Pinterest YouTube SoundCloud   "Proud Sponsors of the Sisterhood of S.W.E.A.T" Essential Formulas

This is a fan fav episode. What up homies! Lisa Bilyeu here. If you've ever wondered if his romantic gestures were just a ploy to trap you, this conversation with Terri Cole is just what you need. In today's powerful two-part episode of Women of Impact with the insightful Terri Cole, we expose the love bombers and boundary manipulators for what they are. Their tactics of 'unearned intimacy' have not earned your time, your attention or love. As we dive into how they manipulate emotions, paint B.S. visions of a future together you really want to hear just to gain control, I hope you're taking notes. It's time to have your own back and demand truth in action. Remember, manipulation isn't about love, it's about power. Let's arm ourselves with knowledge and kick these red flags to the curb.  “Our job is to have our own back. Our job is to go, ‘I can count on me to not people-please myself out of my own integrity.'” -Terri Cole If you're dealing with any kind of abuse and feel unsafe in your relationship, please check out Terri's podcast episode, How to Safely Leave An Abusive Relationship: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/safely-leave-abusive-relationship/⁠  And… Don't forget to check out Terri's latest Boundary Boss Workbook: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Workbook-Strategies-Over-Giving/dp/1649631421⁠  Original air date: 11-16-2023 Follow Terri Cole: Website: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/⁠  Podcast: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/podcast/⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/terricole/⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This is a fan fav episode. What up homies! Lisa Bilyeu here. If you've ever wondered if his romantic gestures were just a ploy to trap you, this conversation with Terri Cole is just what you need. In today's powerful two-part episode of Women of Impact with the insightful Terri Cole, we expose the love bombers and boundary manipulators for what they are. Their tactics of 'unearned intimacy' have not earned your time, your attention or love. As we dive into how they manipulate emotions, paint B.S. visions of a future together you really want to hear just to gain control, I hope you're taking notes. It's time to have your own back and demand truth in action. Remember, manipulation isn't about love, it's about power. Let's arm ourselves with knowledge and kick these red flags to the curb.  “Our job is to have our own back. Our job is to go, ‘I can count on me to not people-please myself out of my own integrity.'” -Terri Cole If you're dealing with any kind of abuse and feel unsafe in your relationship, please check out Terri's podcast episode, How to Safely Leave An Abusive Relationship: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/safely-leave-abusive-relationship/⁠  And… Don't forget to check out Terri's latest Boundary Boss Workbook: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Workbook-Strategies-Over-Giving/dp/1649631421⁠  Original air date: 11-16-2023 Follow Terri Cole: Website: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/⁠  Podcast: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/podcast/⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/terricole/⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a fan fav episode. What up homies! Lisa Bilyeu here. If you've ever wondered if his romantic gestures were just a ploy to trap you, this conversation with Terri Cole is just what you need. In today's powerful two-part episode of Women of Impact with the insightful Terri Cole, we expose the love bombers and boundary manipulators for what they are. Their tactics of 'unearned intimacy' have not earned your time, your attention or love. As we dive into how they manipulate emotions, paint B.S. visions of a future together you really want to hear just to gain control, I hope you're taking notes. It's time to have your own back and demand truth in action. Remember, manipulation isn't about love, it's about power. Let's arm ourselves with knowledge and kick these red flags to the curb.  “Our job is to have our own back. Our job is to go, ‘I can count on me to not people-please myself out of my own integrity.'” -Terri Cole If you're dealing with any kind of abuse and feel unsafe in your relationship, please check out Terri's podcast episode, How to Safely Leave An Abusive Relationship: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/safely-leave-abusive-relationship/⁠  And… Don't forget to check out Terri's latest Boundary Boss Workbook: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Workbook-Strategies-Over-Giving/dp/1649631421⁠  Original air date: 11-15-2023 Follow Terri Cole: Website: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/⁠  Podcast: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/podcast/⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/terricole/⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This is a fan fav episode. What up homies! Lisa Bilyeu here. If you've ever wondered if his romantic gestures were just a ploy to trap you, this conversation with Terri Cole is just what you need. In today's powerful two-part episode of Women of Impact with the insightful Terri Cole, we expose the love bombers and boundary manipulators for what they are. Their tactics of 'unearned intimacy' have not earned your time, your attention or love. As we dive into how they manipulate emotions, paint B.S. visions of a future together you really want to hear just to gain control, I hope you're taking notes. It's time to have your own back and demand truth in action. Remember, manipulation isn't about love, it's about power. Let's arm ourselves with knowledge and kick these red flags to the curb.  “Our job is to have our own back. Our job is to go, ‘I can count on me to not people-please myself out of my own integrity.'” -Terri Cole If you're dealing with any kind of abuse and feel unsafe in your relationship, please check out Terri's podcast episode, How to Safely Leave An Abusive Relationship: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/safely-leave-abusive-relationship/⁠  And… Don't forget to check out Terri's latest Boundary Boss Workbook: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Workbook-Strategies-Over-Giving/dp/1649631421⁠  Original air date: 11-15-2023 Follow Terri Cole: Website: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/⁠  Podcast: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/podcast/⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/terricole/⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most entrepreneurs create content hoping it will somehow translate to sales… but hope isn't a strategy. Here's the thing: your audience wants to support you. They're literally asking for ways to go deeper with your content. The problem is, you're not making it easy enough for them to take the next step.   Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, relationship & empowerment expert, podcast host, and author of bestselling books Boundary Boss and Too Much. But what makes her particularly fascinating is how she transformed her podcast into a $3M revenue engine without being salesy or sacrificing her values.   Listen in this week as Terri breaks down exactly how she turned her show into a lead-generating machine. You'll also learn why she refuses to grind on people's pain points for sales, how she structures her work week to batch content while maintaining balance, and the surprisingly simple tech setup that allows her to produce high-quality episodes from her home studio.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://safimedia.co/WO79   Connect with Eleanor on LinkedIn or Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/in/eleanorbeaton/ https://www.instagram.com/eleanorbeaton/?hl=en

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Licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert Terri Cole is back in KICK-ASS Stepmom to dive into how to break the cycle of high-functioning codependency. Stepmoms, you're going to see yourself in this one!   Get The Disengaging Without Disconnecting Masterclass www.jamiescrimgeour.com/disengaging  Work With Me. www.jamiescrimgeour.com/coaching  Get My Ebook -  120 Ways To Be A KICK-ASS Stepmom www.jamiescrimgeour.com/ebook  Episode Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Go to www.cozyearth.com and use the code COZYJAMIE for 20% off of your order OSEA | Clean skincare that actually works.  Shop OSEA:https://bit.ly/47jvKIj OSEA Ocean Body Glow Set: https://bit.ly/4h16E59 Use code KICKASSSTEPMOM10 for 10% off your first order Metabolic Reset Program | Get $350 off with the code JAMIE350 at https://www.jentherhn.com

Welcome back to the Homeward podcast.  I'm so excited to share today's conversation with my dear friend, Terri Cole.  Terri is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert and the author of Boundary Boss and Too Much! For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. In today's conversation we discuss the mother (and father) wound, boundaries, what it means to be a high-functioning codependent, and how to honor the child within so you can heal and live your most deeply connected life.  I can't wait for you to listen.    Links Mentioned:  Download Terri's free High-Functioning Co-Dependent Toolkit: terricole.com/hfc Join Terri's community: terricole.com/tcm Apply for Terri's 8-month mastermind, Floursih: terricole.com/flourish Follow Terri over on Instagram: @terricole Book your Breakthrough Call today! Tag me in your big shifts + takeaways: @amberlilyestrom Did you hear something you loved here today?! Leave a Review + Subscribe via iTunes  

Tired of mixed signals and emotional rollercoasters? In this episode, Terri Cole breaks down what real relationship green flags and red flags look like—so you can stop guessing and start choosing better. Learn how to spot inconsistency, emotional immaturity, and genuine care before getting too deep. Healthy love isn't about drama—it's about steady effort, respect, and shared growth. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/778

Powerhouse psychotherapist, boundary expert, and author Terri Cole joins me today for an incredibly enlightening talk about boundary setting, codependency, and how it all plays out in sobriety. Terri will share how she came to dedicate her life to helping people navigate boundary setting and what she has coined ‘high functioning codependency'. She'll share what boundaries and codependency truly are, how alcohol plays into disordered boundaries, the first steps you can take if you're ready to create stronger boundaries in your relationships, and why codependency is weakening your relationships with others. Terri has offered a free high functioning co-dependent toolkit at www.terricole.com/hfc Check out Terri's website www.terricole.com for her incredible books, podcast, and Youtube channel I was on Terri's podcast recently! That episode can be heard here. Are you craving a community in sobriety? Join us in the Sober Mom Life Cafe! You'll get access to 12 weekly peer support meetings, the exclusive Cafe social feed, our monthly book club, happy hour, the chance to share your story on The Real Sober Moms, and more! Get one week free at this link! Or, check out our new community offering - The Sober Mom Collective! With one peer support meeting a week and access to the community social feed, this is a great way to dip your toes in. Get Your Copy of my book The Sober Shift I'm on a book tour! Take a look at my events calendar for a book tour stop near you. https://www.instagram.com/thesobermomlife/See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week's episode is for anyone who struggles to speak up the people who overthink every ask, soften every sentence, or apologise before they've even said anything.It unpacks why asking for what you want feels so uncomfortable (especially for women), the psychology behind it, and how to start doing it without guilt.+A huge thank you to the wonderful Terri Cole for speaking to me for this episode! Read Boundary Boss here: https://boundarybossbook.com/Terri's free boundary quiz: https://boundaryquiz.com/ Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ +SIGN UP TO THE WORKING HARD NEWSLETTER: https://graceb.myflodesk.com/k0sfhlac34+FOLLOW THE PODCASTInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/workinghard...TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@workinghardpo...+DILEMMA SUBMISSIONIf you'd like to submit any dilemmas to the podcast to be answered in the bonus episodes, please send them to podcast@grace-beverley.com with the subject beginning DILEMMAS or DM us @workinghardpod on instagram!+MY LINKS: https://gracebeverley.komi.io/+RETROGRADE, SHREDDY, TALA and THE PRODUCTIVITY METHOD are my own businesses, therefore any mention of them - whilst not being a sponsorship - is monetarily endorsed. As usual, sponsorships do not change my opinions nor my honesty, but I will always disclaim to make sure motives are clear

In this special episode, John Kim brings together five brilliant voices - Amy Chan, Terri Cole, Dene Logan, Vanessa Bennett, and Daniel Stewart - for a raw and honest conversation about love, grief, codependency, and what it really means to grow. They unpack: Turning loss into a wake-up call

Delanie Fischer chats with licensed psychotherapist Terri Cole about high-functioning codependency (HFC) and how to set healthy boundaries to prevent burn out, resentment, and feeling underappreciated. They explore signs like auto advice-giving, auto-accommodating, and keeping the peace at all costs, and uncover why many try to control others unknowingly. Terri shares actionable tools for shifting these over-functioning behaviors to let go of what's not your responsibility—freeing up your time and energy while empowering those around you. Discussed in this episode:  Busting The Biggest Codependency Myth Hyper-Independence and Anticipatory Planning Auto Advice-Giving and The Auto-Yes Taking Your Resentment Inventory Let Them Be The Hero of Their Story Escaping the Cult of Nice 5 Scripts for Setting New Boundaries How To Identify a Transference Primary vs. Secondary Gain 8 Questions to Ask Before You Fix or Rescue --- If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven't already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ---- Episodes related to this topic: What If You Did The Opposite Action Today? with Dr. Luana Marquez: ⁠https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/273fa5be/self-helpless-snack-what-if-you-did-the-opposite-action-today-with-dr-luana-marquez⁠ 7 Shocking Truths About Codependency And Addiction with Heidi Rain: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24c74079/7-shocking-truths-about-codependency-and-addiction-with-heidi-rain The Real Reason Women Don't Trust Themselves With Money (And How They Actually Spend It): ⁠https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/20bc245f/self-helpless-snack-the-real-reason-women-dont-trust-themselves-with-money-and-how-they-actually-spend-it⁠ Exposing False Choices, Narratives, and Pulling Wisdom From Wounds with Dr. Thema Bryant: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/26cdb69d/exposing-false-choices-narratives-and-pulling-wisdom-from-wounds-with-dr-thema-bryant Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra will be taking you through how to take care of yourself and your relationship when your partner is struggling. Perhaps your partner is struggling with a job loss, a health diagnosis, a mental health challenge, the loss of a loved one, family drama, co-parenting with an ex, or something else entirely. Whatever it is, the theme is that there is some scenario that is taking up more of your partner's bandwidth than usual, leaving less bandwidth for you and your relationship.In this second part, Dr. Alexandra is going to take you through five internal strategies to cope with the situation at hand – strategies designed to help you tend to and take care of yourself. Then she will take you through nine relational strategies that will help you and your partner maintain or restore your relationship even as your partner struggles. You'll come away with this conversation with:A toolkit of five internal strategies to support your own emotional health while caring for your partner.Nine actionable relational strategies to enhance communication and understanding in your relationship.Insights on the significance of self-care for the non-struggling partner and how it contributes to relationship health.Food-for-thought on resentment, grieving, high-functioning co-dependency, celebrating small victories, and rebuilding after a dark period (and so much more!)Resources worth mentioning from the episode:Terri Cole's Too Muchhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/too-much-a-guide-to-breaking-the-cycle-of-high-functioning-codependency-terri-cole-msw-lcsw/077213db5957f23e?ean=9781649631862&next=t&Reimagining Love episode, High-Functioning Codependency: From Managing to Loving with Terri Cole https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/high-functioning-codependency-from-managing-to-loving-with-terri-cole/Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass:  http://masterclass.com/backtoschoolContinue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra's newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

How many times have we spoken up, set a boundary, or asked for what we need, and immediately thought, “Am I being a b**ch?” That's the head-trash of good girl conditioning talking, not reality. In this episode, women's empowerment coach and novelist Megan Walrod helps us separate distortion from truth, spot body cues that signal self-abandonment vs. self-advocacy, and practice being what she calls a generative b**ch: fierce, values-aligned, and unapologetic. We unpack scripts for setting boundaries without apology, how to reframe the inner critic (“Doubting Diva,” anyone?), and why it's normal to sometimes under- or overshoot the mark. Plus, Megan shares her favorite embodiment practice—the infamous “F-You Walk”—to release suppressed emotion and reclaim your voice. We also dig into her debut novel, It's Always Been Me, where the heroine saves herself (as it should be). Because at the end of the day, being direct, self-respecting, and powerful isn't bitchy—it's integrity. Connect with Megan: Website: https://www.meganwalrod.com/ Substack: https://meganwalrod.substack.com/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/megan.walrod IG: https://www.instagram.com/meganwalrod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@megan_walrod Take the hidden power quiz: https://www.meganwalrod.com/quiz Book: https://www.meganwalrod.com/book Related Podcast Episodes High-Functioning Codependency: When Being “The Strong One” Is Slowly Killing You with Terri Cole | 341 The Fourth Trauma Response You've Never Heard Of (And How It's Running Your Life) with Dr. Ingrid Clayton | 342 Confidence Isn't Born, It's Built — Lessons from the Cockpit to Real Life with Michelle “MACE” Curran | 343 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform!

This is a fan fav episode. Hey ladies! Welcome to Women of Impact, I'm your host, Lisa Bilyeu, and today I have an important question for you. Are you ready to seriously tackle the issue of setting boundaries? Are you ready to tap into your inner power and finally take control? If that's a yes, then you're in the right place because today, we're diving deep into this topic with none other than the Boundary Boss herself, my dear friend, Terri Cole. For those of you who've listened to my previous episodes with Terri, you know that she's like the wise big sister handing out reality checks left and right. Our shared mission is to empower you to set boundaries without feeling guilty and to stop accepting less than you deserve from anyone. In today's special Q&A episode which we recorded live on YouTube, we're addressing those feelings of manipulation, dismissiveness, and belittlement. If these feelings resonate with you, it's a clear sign that you need to establish some solid boundaries. I always find these live Q&A sessions with experts like Terri incredibly energizing. They fuel my commitment to show up for you and help you build your confidence, one episode at a time. To further support you on this journey, I've created a FREE course that will help you build the kind of confidence that says, 'These are my boundaries, respect them or step aside!' You can access this course at⁠ 4stepworkshop.com⁠. Let's build your confidence together! And… Don't forget to check out Terri's latest Boundary Boss Workbook: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Workbook-Strategies-Over-Giving/dp/1649631421⁠  Now, let's dive into the episode. Original air date: 11-2-2023 Follow Terri Cole: Website: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/⁠  Podcast: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/podcast/⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/terricole/⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This is a fan fav episode. Hey ladies! Welcome to Women of Impact, I'm your host, Lisa Bilyeu, and today I have an important question for you. Are you ready to seriously tackle the issue of setting boundaries? Are you ready to tap into your inner power and finally take control? If that's a yes, then you're in the right place because today, we're diving deep into this topic with none other than the Boundary Boss herself, my dear friend, Terri Cole. For those of you who've listened to my previous episodes with Terri, you know that she's like the wise big sister handing out reality checks left and right. Our shared mission is to empower you to set boundaries without feeling guilty and to stop accepting less than you deserve from anyone. In today's special Q&A episode which we recorded live on YouTube, we're addressing those feelings of manipulation, dismissiveness, and belittlement. If these feelings resonate with you, it's a clear sign that you need to establish some solid boundaries. I always find these live Q&A sessions with experts like Terri incredibly energizing. They fuel my commitment to show up for you and help you build your confidence, one episode at a time. To further support you on this journey, I've created a FREE course that will help you build the kind of confidence that says, 'These are my boundaries, respect them or step aside!' You can access this course at⁠ 4stepworkshop.com⁠. Let's build your confidence together! And… Don't forget to check out Terri's latest Boundary Boss Workbook: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Workbook-Strategies-Over-Giving/dp/1649631421⁠  Now, let's dive into the episode. Original air date: 11-2-2023 Follow Terri Cole: Website: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/⁠  Podcast: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/podcast/⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/terricole/⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the very thing we fear could actually make us stronger? In this powerful conversation, Terri Cole sits down with Jeff Krasno to explore how good stress can be a surprising ally for health, vitality, and longevity. Together, they uncover how challenges, when embraced in the right way, can activate the body's natural capacity to heal and grow. Jeff shares his personal journey, the science behind beneficial stress, and why our modern lifestyle has stripped away the kinds of challenges we actually evolved to handle. From fasting and movement to tough conversations, he shows that leaning into discomfort can transform both body and mind. If you're ready to rethink your relationship with stress, this episode will open your eyes to practical tools you can use right away. Instead of avoiding all discomfort, discover how harnessing the right kind of stress can expand your healthspan, increase resilience, and unlock your longevity. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/756

Most of us think codependency looks like someone clinging to a toxic partner, losing themselves to someone else's addictions, or being a doormat. But Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and author of Boundary Boss and her brand-new book Too Much, is here to blow that outdated definition out of the water. Terri has spent over two decades working with everyone from stay-at-home moms to Fortune 500 CEOs, helping them break free from self-sacrificing patterns and build healthier, more authentic relationships. She inspires more than a million people weekly through her blog, social media, signature courses, and The Terri Cole Show podcast. In this episode, Nicole and Terri unpack high-functioning codependency—the kind that hides behind promotions, praise, and the “she can handle it all” reputation. Spoiler: it still feels like shit. Together, they dive into how to spot the signs, why resentment is the red flag you can't ignore, and how boundaries, self-consideration, and surrendering (without self-abandoning) might be the antidote you've been missing. Because friend, if you're exhausted, resentful, and constantly over-giving, this episode is your permission slip to drop the cape, stop fixing everyone else's mess, and finally start considering yourself. Connect with Terri: Website: https://www.terricole.com/  Book: hfcbook.com  IG: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/terricoleny Podcast: https://terricole.com/itunes Related Podcast Episodes Healing Relationships: The 4 Essential Pillars for Lasting Love with Dr. Rachel Glik | 283 7 Rules of Self-Reliance with Maha Abouelenein | 240 How To Be Selfish with Naketa Ren Thigpen | 329 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform!

In this episode, you'll discover:• How to spot the signs of high functioning codependency - the difference between healthy helping and compulsive over-functioning• Why your advice-giving might be hurting more than helping - and how to support people without fixing them• Two simple questions to ask before saying yes to anything - so you can stop abandoning yourself in the name of being niceWhat if being the "strong one" is actually making you weaker? What if all that advice-giving, crisis-managing, and problem-solving you do for everyone else is slowly draining the life out of you?You don't think you're codependent. You're not sitting around waiting for some addict to come home. You're not needy or clingy or desperate. Hell, you're the opposite—you're the one everyone depends on. You make the money, handle the crises, give the advice, and keep everyone's world spinning. So when someone mentions codependency, you immediately think, "That's not me. Everyone's dependent on ME."But here's what nobody talks about: there's a brand of codependency that hides behind competence. It looks like strength, sounds like leadership, and feels like love. I spent years thinking my ability to fix everyone's problems was my greatest asset. I was the friend with all the answers, the daughter who managed family drama, the partner who handled everything so smoothly that no one even knew there were problems to handle. From the outside, my life looked like I had it all together. On the inside, I was drowning in everyone else's emotional chaos while completely abandoning my own needs.Today our guest is Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert who coined the term "high functioning codependency" after seeing the same patterns show up repeatedly in her practice with successful, accomplished women. She's the author of "Too Much" and has spent decades helping people recognize and break free from these invisible chains.Links from the episode:Show Notes: mindlove.com/417Join the Mind Love CollectiveSign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspiredSupport Mind Love SponsorsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Today on Can't Be Contained, I am beyond excited to welcome back one of my absolute favorite humans, Terri Cole. If you've been around this space, you already know she's the OG boundary queen, psychotherapist, bestselling author, and a woman who has radically changed the way thousands of us show up in life and love. This conversation? It's all about reclaiming yourself. We go deep into boundaries—not as some rigid rulebook, but as your sacred rules of engagement with the world. We talk about what it really takes to release resentment, stop self-abandoning, and create the kind of relationships that feel safe, alive, and deeply nourishing. Terri and I get real about: ✨ The difference between standing in your truth vs. getting hijacked by old triggers ✨ The sneaky ways high-achieving women (yes, us) fall into codependency—especially with our work ✨ How to clean up energetic leaks so you can reclaim your freedom + vitality ✨ Why empathy (not advice) is the medicine your relationships are craving ✨ Simple, doable steps to set and express boundaries—without drama, guilt, or shame And because Terri is pure magic, she shares her signature “three cues for clarity” that will shift the way you understand your reactions forever. We even explore what it looks like to have a codependent relationship with your own business (yep, it's a thing) and the liberation that comes when you finally choose YOU. If you're ready to call your energy back, stop doing it all, and step into more joy, more wealth, and more love—you don't want to miss this one. Terri brings the wisdom, the heart, and the fire… and my prayer is that this episode feels like a giant permission slip to stop overgiving and start thriving. Check the show notes for Terri's free toolkit, her incredible community, and all the details on what she's creating next, you'll want in. Claim a Free 30-Day Trial in GoHighLevel: http://www.pausebreathwork.com/highlevel Join the Women & Wealth Event: https://www.pausebreathwork.com/wealth Learn How to Grow Your Income, Impact and Freedom by Becoming a Certified Breathwork Facilitator: https://do.pausebreathwork.com/breathwork-training About Can't Be Contained Can't Be Contained' is the unscripted, unedited – fully uncontained journal entries & real-life experiences of those who follow their bliss & intuitive hits, the freedom seekers, the sacred rebels – the ones who are here to disrupt what preceded us & create what is ahead of us. Subscribe now to stay tuned for every episode!   For full show notes, resources, and links: https://www.samanthaskelly.com/episode-351-terri-cole-no-more-self-abandonment/   The Pause Breathwork App is the #1 app to clear stress using your breath. Download the app here: https://pause.live/Pause-Breathwork-App   

Terri Cole is a therapist, author and former high-powered talent agent. From navigating the high-glam world of modeling agencies to helping A-listers through rehab, Terri's journey from powerhouse talent agent to renowned psychotherapist is anything but ordinary. In this episode, we get into the hidden cost of success, high-functioning codependency, why hyper-independence can backfire, and how conflict entrepreneurs thrive on chaos. Terri opens up about navigating addiction in her own family, being engaged to the wrong person, and the magnetic pull between codependents and narcissists—plus the crucial difference between overt and covert narcissism. It's a candid, layered conversation about healing, boundaries, and reclaiming yourself.This episode is brought to you by YNAB, Prolon, Open Phone, Just Thrive, LMNT, Puori, and Fatty15Claim an exclusive three-month free trial with no credit card required at www.YNAB.com/wellVisit www.ProlonLife.com/BLONDE to claim your 15% discount and your bonus giftVisit www.OpenPhone.com/blonde for 20% off your first 6 monthsVisit www.justthrivehealth.com/discount/Well and save 20% on your first 90 day bottle of Just Thrive probiotic with promo code WELLGet a free sample pack with any purchase at www.DrinkLMNT.com/WELLVisit www.Puori.com/BLONDE and use my promo code BLONDE at checkout for 20% offYou can get an additional 15% off their 90-day subscription Starter Kit by going to www.fatty15.com/WELL and use code WELL at checkoutPlease note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

“You don't have to do this alone. You don't have to guess, or feel guilty. You just have to say yes to support that actually gets it.” Ever feel like you're walking on eggshells in your own home? Like no one truly sees how hard you're working to hold it all together? In this powerful mini episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on why the FREE annual Stepmom Summit (coming up September 4-6th) has become a lifeline for thousands of stepmoms around the world - and why it might be exactly what you've been needing, too. I share my own raw and real moments (yes, including the one where my stepson called 911 on me), and why this annual virtual gathering is more than just a few Zoom sessions—it's a community, a permission slip, and a freaking game-changer. Plus, get a sneak peek at the surprises in store at this year's event (hint: you're going to get to ask all of our speakers your most burning questions in real-time) - along with our jaw-dropping speaker lineup! We'll discuss: Why even “strong” stepmoms need safe spaces The shift from isolation to belonging (with real stories from past attendees) How the summit is going 100% live this year - and why that changes everything Featured Speakers Sneak Peek: Eve Rodsky – on burnout, boundaries, and reclaiming your joy Terri Cole – setting unapologetic boundaries Patricia Papernow - the globally-recognized top stepfamily expert in the field Samantha Boss – parenting plans during high conflict Kristin Cogan - mindfulness in the midst of chaos Jessica Frew, Alicia Krasko, and even a lawyer from the Real Housewives

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This is a Fan Fav episode. There is something both sobering and chilling about being manipulated, especially by someone close to you. The feeling of betrayal and pain can leave you untrusting of everyone after that, and the emotional aftermath can lead to years of therapy or unhealthy behaviors. If you're a ‘Yes' to any of these, this episode is a must for you: Have fallen for people's fake concern at the expense of invalidating yourself Felt suffocated by the weight of someone's constant complaining Started questioning your version of reality because you were being gaslit The Boundary Boss and one of our favorite homies on Women of Impact, Terri Cole, is back for another round and this time she's unpacking everything you need to never be tricked by manipulative people again! They want to get their way no matter what at your expense, and it's your job to recognize it and put an end to it with the right boundaries in place. Terri Cole is a licensed therapist and bestselling author who helps women like you break the cycle of living without boundaries. It doesn't matter who you are or what your past is, everyone deserves and needs boundaries to create and maintain healthy relationships. If you're walking on eggshells at home, it's time to sit up straight and pay attention. Original air date: 5-17-23 Check out Terri's new book, Boundary Boss: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Essential-Guide-Finally/dp/1683647688⁠ Follow Terri Cole: Website: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/⁠  YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-OC1zN27enpTA_eNWB7dKw⁠  Podcast: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/podcast/⁠  Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/terri_cole⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/terricole/⁠  Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a Fan Fav episode. There is something both sobering and chilling about being manipulated, especially by someone close to you. The feeling of betrayal and pain can leave you untrusting of everyone after that, and the emotional aftermath can lead to years of therapy or unhealthy behaviors. If you're a ‘Yes' to any of these, this episode is a must for you: Have fallen for people's fake concern at the expense of invalidating yourself Felt suffocated by the weight of someone's constant complaining Started questioning your version of reality because you were being gaslit The Boundary Boss and one of our favorite homies on Women of Impact, Terri Cole, is back for another round and this time she's unpacking everything you need to never be tricked by manipulative people again! They want to get their way no matter what at your expense, and it's your job to recognize it and put an end to it with the right boundaries in place. Terri Cole is a licensed therapist and bestselling author who helps women like you break the cycle of living without boundaries. It doesn't matter who you are or what your past is, everyone deserves and needs boundaries to create and maintain healthy relationships. If you're walking on eggshells at home, it's time to sit up straight and pay attention. Original air date: 5-17-23 Check out Terri's new book, Boundary Boss: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Essential-Guide-Finally/dp/1683647688⁠ Follow Terri Cole: Website: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/⁠  YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-OC1zN27enpTA_eNWB7dKw⁠  Podcast: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/podcast/⁠  Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/terri_cole⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/terricole/⁠  Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

"How you feel, what you want, and what you think have to be important to you. But it has to be more important than what anyone else wants, thinks, or feels." - Terri Cole Have you ever wondered why you feel exhausted despite being incredibly capable and getting everything done? Licensed psychotherapist Terri Cole joins me to expose the hidden epidemic of high-functioning codependency that's leaving accomplished women in their 40s and beyond feeling burned out, resentful, and unknown by the people closest to them. This powerful conversation reveals why boundary setting for women isn't just about saying no—it's about reclaiming your authentic self and creating relationships where you're truly known. We dive deep into why saying "I don't care" when you actually do care is corrupting your relationships, how anticipatory planning is stealing your peace, and why that voice in your head saying "I don't want them to feel bad" is actually about control, not love. Terri reveals the two game-changing questions that will transform how you respond to every request and opportunity, plus why your automatic "yes" might be the very thing preventing authentic intimacy in your life. If you're ready to stop being everyone's rock and start honoring your own needs, this episode on boundary setting for women will transform how you show up in every relationship.  What you'll learn: How to identify if you're a high-functioning codependent versus someone who's simply caring and thoughtful The hidden cost of being the "rock" everyone relies on and why nobody checks in on your well-being Two essential questions to ask before agreeing to anything that will save you from resentment and burnout Why giving advice immediately instead of asking expansive questions is sabotaging your relationships The difference between your preferences, desires, limits, and deal breakers in boundary setting for women How to use a resentment inventory as your GPS to identify where boundaries are needed Why tolerating behaviors and situations is a form of self-abandonment that leads to bitterness The connection between people-pleasing patterns and childhood indoctrination into the "cult of nice" Love the Podcast? Here's what to do: Make My Day & Share Your Thoughts! Subscribe to the podcast & leave me a review Text a screenshot to 813-565-2627 Expect a personal reply because your voice is so important to me. Join 55,000+ followers who make this podcast thrive. Want to listen to the show completely ad-free?  Go to subscribetojj.com Enjoy the VIP experience for just $4.99/month or $49.99/year (save 17%!) Click “TRY FREE” and start your ad-free journey today! Full show notes (including all links mentioned): https://jjvirgin.com/terri Get Terri's HFC High-Functioning Codependent) Toolkit Order Terri's book Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency Learn more about Terri Cole  Terri on Instagram Terri on Facebook Terri's YouTube channel The Terri Cole Show Vital Choice wild-caught seafood Episode Sponsors:  Try Qualia risk free for up to 100 days and code VIRGINWELLNESS for an additional 15% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert, author and podcast host. Today on the show we discuss: red flag phrases that narcissists and manipulators commonly use, why great people stay stuck in toxic relationships, early signs that you are dating someone toxic, how narcissists secretly manipulate you, what you can do to take your power back, why conflict in relationships is actually healthy, and much more. Today's sponsor: Vitali Skincare Get 20% off ⁠Vitali Skincare⁠ by using code "Doug" at checkout ⁠https://www.vitaliskincare.com/ ⁠ ⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠ Please be advised; the topics related to health and mental health in my content are for informational, discussion, and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your health or mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your current condition. Never disregard professional advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard from your favorite creator, on social media, or shared within content you've consumed. If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately. If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help: Emergency Medical Services—911 If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org. SAMHSA addiction and mental health treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727) and https://www.samhsa.gov Get 20% off ⁠Vitali Skincare⁠ by using code "Doug" at checkout ⁠https://www.vitaliskincare.com/ ⁠ ⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠ Please be advised; the topics related to health and mental health in my content are for informational, discussion, and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your health or mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your current condition. Never disregard professional advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard from your favorite creator, on social media, or shared within content you've consumed. If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately. If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help: Emergency Medical Services—911 If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.  SAMHSA addiction and mental health treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727) and https://www.samhsa.gov Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a Fan Fav episode. Ever felt like setting boundaries is just too damn hard? I hear you, and honestly, you're not alone! So many of us women struggle to stand our ground—then end up feeling resentful, invisible, or straight-up used. That's why I sat down with legendary psychotherapist and “Boundary Boss” Terri Cole to break down exactly why we freeze, people-please, and self-abandon—and, most importantly, how to stop. Terri gets brutally honest about the root causes of poor boundaries, from family expectations to people-pleasing patterns, and gives us the roadmap for becoming our own damn advocates. With real talk, tactical steps, and compassion for every woman still learning to use her voice, Terri reveals the warning signs of weak boundaries (they're not what you think!), the power of resentment as your wake-up call, and scripts for even the most awkward family encounters—hello, narcissistic mothers and nosy Aunt Betty! Get ready to ditch guilt, drop the drama, and start setting limits that honor YOU. SHOWNOTES 00:00 – Why boundary setting triggers insecurity, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment 02:29 – Resentment as a red flag: How to spot disordered boundaries in your life 06:44 – Taking responsibility for your “50%” and the art of clear, proactive communication 14:18 – Childhood conditioning, people-pleasing, and the roots of boundary struggles 36:28 – High-functioning codependency: Why “superwomen” still give too much 51:28 – Suppressed anger, the power of naming your feelings, and setting stronger boundaries 1:09:06 – Scripts for handling invasive relatives & rude questions at family gatherings 1:19:33 – Narcissistic mothers: Signs, hard limits, and how to protect your energy 1:28:44 – Relationship boundaries: From stating your needs to enforcing consequences and non-negotiables 1:29:43 – Making boundaries a language—why practice and self-compassion change everything FOLLOW TERRI COLE: Instagram: https://instagram.com/terricole Website: https://www.terricole.com Book: https://boundarybossbook.com Ready to become a BOUNDARY BOSS? Let's go! CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off.  OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a Fan Fav episode. Ever felt like setting boundaries is just too damn hard? I hear you, and honestly, you're not alone! So many of us women struggle to stand our ground—then end up feeling resentful, invisible, or straight-up used. That's why I sat down with legendary psychotherapist and “Boundary Boss” Terri Cole to break down exactly why we freeze, people-please, and self-abandon—and, most importantly, how to stop. Terri gets brutally honest about the root causes of poor boundaries, from family expectations to people-pleasing patterns, and gives us the roadmap for becoming our own damn advocates. With real talk, tactical steps, and compassion for every woman still learning to use her voice, Terri reveals the warning signs of weak boundaries (they're not what you think!), the power of resentment as your wake-up call, and scripts for even the most awkward family encounters—hello, narcissistic mothers and nosy Aunt Betty! Get ready to ditch guilt, drop the drama, and start setting limits that honor YOU. SHOWNOTES 00:00 – Why boundary setting triggers insecurity, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment 02:29 – Resentment as a red flag: How to spot disordered boundaries in your life 06:44 – Taking responsibility for your “50%” and the art of clear, proactive communication 14:18 – Childhood conditioning, people-pleasing, and the roots of boundary struggles 36:28 – High-functioning codependency: Why “superwomen” still give too much 51:28 – Suppressed anger, the power of naming your feelings, and setting stronger boundaries 1:09:06 – Scripts for handling invasive relatives & rude questions at family gatherings 1:19:33 – Narcissistic mothers: Signs, hard limits, and how to protect your energy 1:28:44 – Relationship boundaries: From stating your needs to enforcing consequences and non-negotiables 1:29:43 – Making boundaries a language—why practice and self-compassion change everything FOLLOW TERRI COLE: Instagram: https://instagram.com/terricole Website: https://www.terricole.com Book: https://boundarybossbook.com Ready to become a BOUNDARY BOSS? Let's go! CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off.  OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When we hear the word “codependent,” we often picture someone clinging to toxic relationships or constantly rescuing others.  But the brilliant psychotherapist and boundary expert Terri Cole challenges this idea, revealing how capable, competent, and successful people can struggle with codependent patterns too,  just hidden under the mask of over-functioning and over-investing in people's lives.  Doing it all? That's the problem. In this episode, Terri shares how our deep desire for peace and control can drive us to do too much for others—emotionally, mentally, and physically— even at the cost of our own well-being. This conversation is a loving nudge to pause and ask:  “What am I doing for others that they could be doing for themselves?” We explore how stepping out of this “handle-it-all” mindset isn't just freeing—it's life-changing.  Tune in to this episode to learn to overcome high-functioning codependence and find ease, joy, fun, balance, and healthier relationships in your life! Terri Cole Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert. She's the author of the books Boundary Boss and Too Much. For over 20 years, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients–  from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She makes complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so the people she works with can achieve sustainable change.  IN THIS EPISODE Understanding the term “high-functioning codependency” Physical manifestations of being a high-functioning codependent  Helpful ways to set and maintain boundaries with others  Addressing resentment in a relationship  Why burnout is common among high-functioning codependents  Letting go of intervening to “help” others & focusing on yourself QUOTES “You see it as well, that high functioning codependence. We give too many F's for too long about all the things and all the people… and perfectionism and making sure everything gets done.” “There are ways we can help children and people we love find their own answers without therapizing them. But giving them our answers is not loving. It's treating people as projects.” “When you spend decades of your life checking boxes that someone else constructed, you end up with this existential crisis of loneliness– like, ‘wow, people do not know ME'.”  RESOURCES MENTIONED Get The HFC Toolkit:  Simplify & Do Less video lesson with integrative exercises & meditations  Terri's Website Order Terri's Book Too Much HERE  High-quality olive oil: go to www.getfreshenergized.com to get your free $39 bottle for just $1 shipping. Skin longevity made simple: Head to oneskin.co/ENERGIZED and use code ENERGIZED. Terri's Socials:  Instagram Facebook YouTube Podcast  RELATED EPISODES  #569: How to Build a Strong Emotional Connection with Your Partner and How to Transform Your Love Life with Vanessa and Xander Marin #629: Unlocking Emotional Resilience with Awareness, Lifestyle and Tools to Regulate Your Stress Triggers with Dr. Drew Ramsey #170: Saying NO to People Pleasing and Establishing Effective Boundaries with Amy Smith

403. Save Your Life By Letting Go (of Codependency) with Terri Cole  Licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert, Terri Cole, returns to talk more about high-functioning codependency—a term Terri coined to describe those who appear highly capable but feel deeply exhausted, resentful, and overwhelmed in relationships. In part two of our conversation, we will discuss recovery: where to start and what healing looks like. -The biggest cost to being an active HFC and how to stop paying the price -How to stop giving immediate yeses and what to do instead  -The two reasons we actually gossip and what it reveals about what we need to work on  -Over a dozen actionable tools to release being a High Functioning Codependent Check out part one of our conversation, Are You A High Functioning Codependent? Find Out with Terri, here: Part 1 On Terri: Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert and the author of Boundary Boss and Too Much! She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients –including parents, celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs – achieve sustainable change.  You can find her through her blog, courses, her podcast, The Terri Cole Show, and at terricole.com.  Check out www.terricole.com/hfc for a special offering from Terri. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

402. Are You A High Functioning Codependent? Find Out with Terri Cole. Amanda, Glennon, and Abby are joined by licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert, Terri Cole, to talk about high-functioning codependency—a term Terri coined to describe those who appear highly capable but feel deeply exhausted, resentful, and overwhelmed in relationships. In this episode, we'll explore how being overly invested in others' outcomes can take a toll on your peace and relationships, and how to begin your healing journey. Be sure to tune in next episode for a deep dive into codependent recovery and how to navigate the process. -Why the more capable you are, the less codependency looks like codependency -Terri's personal story about how she finally got into recovery for codependency -The two questions you should ask yourself as a codependent before you say yes to anything -The three quick practices you must do to protect your energy On Terri: Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert and the author of Boundary Boss and Too Much! She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients –including parents, celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs – achieve sustainable change.  You can find her through her blog, courses, her podcast, The Terri Cole Show, and at terricole.com. Check out www.terricole.com/hfc for a special offering from Terri just for the podsquad! To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back, babes! In today's episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, I'm joined by the one and only Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist, author of Boundary Boss, and expert on all things boundaries, people-pleasing, and codependency. We're breaking down what boundaries actually are (and what they aren't), why so many people get them wrong, and how to set them without guilt. Terri also shares her personal journey of leaving the entertainment industry to follow her passion for psychology, plus practical tools to help you stop self-abandoning, start advocating for yourself, and build stronger, healthier relationships. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✅ The #1 reason people struggle with boundaries (Hint: It starts in childhood) ✅ The difference between a boundary, a preference, and an ultimatum – and how to know which one you're setting ✅ Why people-pleasing isn't “nice” – it's dishonest (and how to stop) ✅ How to handle the guilt that comes with setting boundaries – and why it's actually a sign of growth ✅ What to do when someone says, “You've changed” (spoiler: it's a good thing) ✅ The truth about texting, boundaries, and dating expectations – why demanding daily texts is not a boundary, it's control ✅ How to know if your standards are “too high” or if you're avoiding intimacy ✅ The red flags of high-functioning codependency and how to break the cycle Get Terri's Book: Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free Take Terri's boundaries quiz MERCH IS NOW AVAILABLE! Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can't control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Get $10 off and FREE shipping at Nutrafol HERE! Code is SABRINA Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formally known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

If you've ever felt like you're doing too much for everyone else (or even just one person) at the expense of yourself, this episode will speak to your soul. We're talking about high-functioning codependency with psychotherapist and author Terri Cole. She explains high-functioning codependency, how it differs from traditional codependency, and how to know if you're this type of person and/or in this type of relationship with a partner, friend, or family member. We discuss breaking these cycles, what to do instead of “auto advice giving,” co-parenting, the sneaky codependency of female friendships, why codependents attract narcissists, how to handle “boundary destroyers,” and more. Before Terri joins us, we're talking about our new favorite sex toy, an iconic email Rayna's sister-in-law sent to the family, and Ashley's strong feelings about breakfast hours. Enjoy! Find Terri on Instagram @terricole and get her new book Too Much.  Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for tour dates, merch, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: La Croix: Find a list of retailers that sell La Croix Sparkling Water at lacroixwater.com. Robinhood Gold: Get the privileges of high net worth for any net worth for $5/month at https://robinhood.com/gold. Hand and Stone: Enjoy free aromatherapy with your introductory facial at https://handandstone.com with code GGE or in spa. Fresh Direct: Get $50 off your first order at https://freshdirect.com with code GGE. Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first month's subscription and free shipping at http://nutrafol.com with code GGE10. Helix: Get 20% off all mattress orders and two free pillows at https://helixsleep.com/gge.

If you've ever felt like you're doing too much for everyone else (or even just one person) at the expense of yourself, this episode will speak to your soul. We're talking about high-functioning codependency with psychotherapist and author Terri Cole. She explains high-functioning codependency, how it differs from traditional codependency, and how to know if you're this type of person and/or in this type of relationship with a partner, friend, or family member. We discuss breaking these cycles, what to do instead of "auto advice giving," co-parenting, the sneaky codependency of female friendships, why codependents attract narcissists, how to handle "boundary destroyers," and more. Before Terri joins us, we're talking about our new favorite sex toy, an iconic email Rayna's sister-in-law sent to the family, and Ashley's strong feelings about breakfast hours. Enjoy! Find Terri on Instagram @terricole and get her new book Too Much. Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for tour dates, merch, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: La Croix: Find a list of retailers that sell La Croix Sparkling Water at lacroixwater.com. Robinhood Gold: Get the privileges of high net worth for any net worth for $5/month at https://robinhood.com/gold. Hand and Stone: Enjoy free aromatherapy with your introductory facial at https://handandstone.com with code GGE or in spa. Fresh Direct: Get $50 off your first order at https://freshdirect.com with code GGE. Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first month's subscription and free shipping at http://nutrafol.com with code GGE10. Helix: Get 20% off all mattress orders and two free pillows at https://helixsleep.com/gge.