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403. Save Your Life By Letting Go (of Codependency) with Terri Cole  Licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert, Terri Cole, returns to talk more about high-functioning codependency—a term Terri coined to describe those who appear highly capable but feel deeply exhausted, resentful, and overwhelmed in relationships. In part two of our conversation, we will discuss recovery: where to start and what healing looks like. -The biggest cost to being an active HFC and how to stop paying the price -How to stop giving immediate yeses and what to do instead  -The two reasons we actually gossip and what it reveals about what we need to work on  -Over a dozen actionable tools to release being a High Functioning Codependent Check out part one of our conversation, Are You A High Functioning Codependent? Find Out with Terri, here: Part 1 On Terri: Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert and the author of Boundary Boss and Too Much! She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients –including parents, celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs – achieve sustainable change.  You can find her through her blog, courses, her podcast, The Terri Cole Show, and at terricole.com.  Check out www.terricole.com/hfc for a special offering from Terri. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

402. Are You A High Functioning Codependent? Find Out with Terri Cole. Amanda, Glennon, and Abby are joined by licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert, Terri Cole, to talk about high-functioning codependency—a term Terri coined to describe those who appear highly capable but feel deeply exhausted, resentful, and overwhelmed in relationships. In this episode, we'll explore how being overly invested in others' outcomes can take a toll on your peace and relationships, and how to begin your healing journey. Be sure to tune in next episode for a deep dive into codependent recovery and how to navigate the process. -Why the more capable you are, the less codependency looks like codependency -Terri's personal story about how she finally got into recovery for codependency -The two questions you should ask yourself as a codependent before you say yes to anything -The three quick practices you must do to protect your energy On Terri: Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert and the author of Boundary Boss and Too Much! She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients –including parents, celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs – achieve sustainable change.  You can find her through her blog, courses, her podcast, The Terri Cole Show, and at terricole.com. Check out www.terricole.com/hfc for a special offering from Terri just for the podsquad! To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Steve chats with Terri Cole.

Are you someone who feels responsible for everyone else's happiness, often at the expense of your own? When does “being nice” cross over into “unhealthy”?  Join us for a powerful conversation with Terri Cole, psychotherapist and author of Too Much: High Functioning Codependency, as we dive deep into the hidden costs of being a high-functioning codependent. Terri shares insightful perspectives on recognizing subtle patterns, setting healthy boundaries, and reclaiming your emotional freedom. Learn how to stop over-functioning, release the burden of constant caretaking, and finally prioritize your own wellbeing without guilt.  This episode is essential listening for anyone looking to break free from the cycle of 'too much' and step into a healthier, happier version of themselves. Follow Terri on Instagram @terricole For more information on Terri click here To get your own copy of Too Much: High Functioning Codependency  Follow us on Instagram: @every.body.talks @jenngiamo @schully Subscribe to our YouTube channel! Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening. Apple Podcasts Spotify Be sure to leave a 5 star rating! It really helps grow the show. If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing!

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In this empowering episode, we unpack what boundaries really are—beyond the buzzwords. If you're a sensitive, ambitious woman who struggles with saying no, overgiving, or feeling drained, this episode is for you.You'll learn:What boundaries actually are (internal vs. external)How to tell when a boundary is neededSimple scripts to set them without guiltCommon myths that keep women stuck in burnoutWhy boundaries are an act of self-respect, not selfishnessWith insights from experts like Dr. Henry Cloud, Terri Cole, Robin Norwood, and more—this episode gives you the clarity and tools to start honoring your time, energy, and peace.Quote to Remember:“You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.” – Dr. Henry Cloud

Are you someone who can't say no without feeling guilty? Do you find yourself constantly doing too much for others while neglecting your own needs? In this candid, unfiltered conversation, bestselling author Terri Cole ("Boundary Boss" and "Too Much") joins with celebrity chef Cat Cora to tackle the boundary issues that keep so many of us—especially women—stuck in patterns of overgiving and resentment.The conversation delivers practical, actionable advice you can implement immediately. Learn how to conduct a "resentment inventory" to identify exactly where boundaries are needed in your life. Discover why the simple act of "buying time" before saying yes can revolutionize your relationships. And perhaps most importantly, understand that setting boundaries doesn't require being cold or mean—you can establish healthy limits with both compassion and clarity.Whether you're struggling with people-pleasing tendencies or simply want more energy and authenticity in your life, this conversation offers a roadmap to the freedom that comes when you finally give yourself permission to matter as much as everyone else.To watch the segment with Terri Cole, Cat Cora and Sabrina, The Sabrina Soto Show: https://www.sabrinasoto.com/the-sabrina-soto-show/Connect with Sabrina on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/sabrina_sotoConnect with Terri Cole here:https://www.terricole.com/Terri Cole on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/terricole/#Connect with Cat Cora https://catcora.com/pages/about-catCat Cora on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/catcora/#

Terri Cole is a Psychotherapist, Relationship & Boundary Expert and Best Selling Author.Find Terri Here: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/Want to work 1:1 with me? : https://calendly.com/jamesbrackin/1?month=2024-12What's One Boundary Everyone Needs To Set? (01:00)How Much of Your Personality Is Shaped by Society? (02:56)Why Is Extremism On The Rise More Than Ever Today? (05:49)Is Your Mental Health Stopping You from Reaching Your Potential? (08:52)Are You Subconsciously Sabotaging Your Own Growth? (09:57)How Well Do You Really Know Yourself? (12:54)Are You Holding onto Hidden Resentment Without Realizing It? (18:03)Why Do People Disrespect Your Boundaries? (20:54)The Morning Routine Mistakes That Ruin Your Day (23:04)Why Do We Often Neglect Our Health? (29:36)Are You Ignoring the One Habit That Prevents Burnout? (32:24)How to Win Political Arguments Without Losing Friends (35:10)Are You Stuck in a Codependent Relationship Without Knowing It? (39:30)What If Everything You Believe About Aging Is a Lie? (43:00)

Fan Favorite: This episode originally aired on December 14, 2022. What up, homies! It's your girl Lisa Bilyeu, and welcome back to the Women of Impact podcast, where we dive deep into powerful stories and come out stronger than ever. Today, we're diving into one of my favorite topics—how to be a high-value woman and own your freaking space! Joining me is the incredible Terri Cole, a true boundary boss and the ultimate guide to setting limits that liberate us. Guys, if you're fed up with being manipulated, pushed around, and just downright disrespected, this episode is your life raft! Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist, is here to share her expertise on setting boundaries that empower and protect us. Trust me, you're not going to want to skip a moment of this game-changing conversation. We're unpacking why knowing your non-negotiables and clearly defining boundaries can change your damn life. From relationships to self-care, Terri is dropping the truth bombs on how boundaries can either build us up or tear us down if they're ignored. And you know I'm all about those actionable steps and real talk that help us rise up and kick ass. So let's get into it! Whether you're struggling to say no without guilt, or need some clarity in your relationships, Terri's got the insights to help us step into our power, declare our value, and teach others how to treat us right. SHOWNOTES 00:00 Intro to High-Value Woman Status 00:00:39 Forgive and Forget: A Deep Dive into Cheating Boundaries 00:01:26 Know Thy Self: Defining Your Non-Negotiables 00:02:14 Define Your Words: Navigate Relationship Dynamics 00:02:55 Flirting, Porn, and Strip Clubs: Set Specific Boundaries 00:06:59 Communication is Key: Articulating Boundaries 00:08:45 Social Media Triggers: Set Those Limits 00:12:30 Intimate Boundaries: Kiss But No Lip Lock 00:14:05 Navigating Verbal Boundaries 00:17:17 Language Nuances: Refining and Evolving Boundaries 00:19:18 Small Boundaries, Big Impact: Household Chores 00:21:48 Resentment Inventory: Catch It Early 00:28:15 Happy Wife, Happy Life? No Thanks! 00:30:19 Family Pressure: Handling Parental Expectations 00:35:55 Talk It Out Before Acting Out: Avoid Transference 00:41:03 Emotional Containment: Manage Defensive Responses ********************************************************************** CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Audible: Sign up for a free 30-day trial at https://audible.com/WOI  Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out.  SKIMS: Check out the Fits Everybody Collection at https://www.skims.com/woi  #skimspartner  Kettle & Fire: Get 20% off at https://kettleandfire.com/lisa with code LISA Quince: Check out Quince: https://quince.com/woi  Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa NPR Fresh Air: Tune into Fresh Air from NPR to hear some of the most insightful interviews anywhere—wherever you get your podcasts. ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:  apple.co/womenofimpact ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This weeks clip is from an episode with Terri Cole Episode 158!Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/diary-of-an-empath-by-keresse-thompson-lcsw/id1581907208?i=1000685645908Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/episode/42mWBj4eNNRgtWyEmsUyA7?si=bdbffdec11a0457aIn this engaging conversation, Terri Cole and Keresse Thompson discuss the nuances of high functioning codependency, its impact on relationships, and the importance of setting boundaries.Follow Keresse on Instagram for more inspiration and updates on future episodes. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform!Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed by the guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the podcast host or platform.Join us every Monday for a new episode filled with insightful conversations, empowering stories, and transformative wisdom. Thank you for being part of our soulful community!1:1 Services, Coaching, Readings, Courses & more:www.therapeutichealingbyreese.comFollow me on Instagram!https://instagram.com/_keresse_?utm_medium=copy_linkFollow me on Facebook!https://www.facebook.com/TherapeuticHealingByReese/TikTok:@DiaryofanEmpathpodcastFor more info on my services such as Therapy, Coaching & Tarot readings please visit my website at www.therapeutichealingbyreese.com

Are You Secretly a High-Functioning Codependent?“The irony is that the more capable you are, the less codependency looks like codependency but it's still codependency.” - Terri ColeBuckle up for a conversation that's going to rock your world and potentially change everything you thought you knew about yourself. When I first heard Terri Cole talk about high-functioning codependency, I literally stopped brushing my teeth and stood there, mouth agape, thinking, "OH. MY. GOD. This is ME." If you're a high-achieving woman who's constantly giving, solving everyone else's problems, carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders, and running yourself into the ground - this episode is your wake-up call. I'm talking to all you incredible, capable women who are secretly exhausted, overwhelmed, resentful, and wondering why you can never seem to catch a break. Terri Cole is dropping some truth bombs that will help you understand why you're stuck in this cycle and, more importantly, how to break free. We're diving deep into what high-functioning codependency really looks like, why it's not just about "being nice," and how these patterns are keeping you from living your most authentic, joyful life. Trust me, by the end of this episode, you'll have a whole new understanding of yourself and the tools to start making powerful changes.Terri Cole, MSW, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert, and best-selling author of “Boundary Boss” and “Two Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.” She inspires millions weekly through her blog, social media, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. Key Takeaways:Defining high-functioning codependency and its prevalence among highly capable women.How to identify if you are a high-functioning codependent.Terri's practical tools for recovery and the benefits of recovery like personal peace.Saying no to self-abandonment, self-sacrifice, and saying yes.Looking at root causes of HFC like the "Cult of nice" conditioning and childhood patterns.Redefining your self-worth outside of high-functioning codependency.Terri's 3 Q's For Clarity: Who did that person remind you of?Where had you felt like that before?How was that relational dynamic familiar to you? Did it mirror something you'd seen before?Terri Cole Says: You're Not Too F***ing Old! To up your erotic intelligence. Learn more about Jen Marples at https://www.jenmarples.comWant to work with Jen? Book a complimentary 20-minute call HERE. Follow Jen @jenmarples on Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok and YouTubeSubscribe to Jen's NewsletterUnedited AI Transcript HereCONNECT WITH TERRI COLE:Free HFC ToolkitThis podcast is sponsored by The Jen Marples Agency which has one mission and that is to help you step into the spotlight and get the visibility you deserve! Through our signature Stepping Into the Spotlight program, we fast-track your visibility journey. Are you ready to be seen and heard? Book your complimentary strategy call today!

Fan Favorite: This episode originally aired on March 23, 2022. What up, homies! It's your girl Lisa Bilyeu, and welcome back to the Women of Impact podcast. Today, we've got the fierce, boundary-crushing powerhouse Terri Cole in the house! Known as The Boundary Boss, Terri is here to help us stop being pushed around and to dive deep into the power of boundaries. Ladies, this episode is all about setting the boundaries that serve you to become the person you truly want to be. Terri's insights and steps in her book, Boundary Boss, are transformational and trust me, you are in for a game-changer today! We'll be digging into what the heck 'corrupt boundary data' is, how to assess where you might be a bit off with those boundaries, and what it really means to live with self-love so that you can attract the right kind of energy into your life. SHOWNOTES 00:00 Understanding Boundaries and Resentment 00:01:28 Welcome Terri Cole as The Boundary Boss 00:01:44 Exploring Corrupt Boundary Data 00:02:37 Boundary Blueprints Unpacked 00:03:14 Self-Assessing Your Boundaries 00:04:20 Myths Around Boundaries Debunked 00:05:17 Self-Abandonment Explained 00:06:04 High Functioning Codependency Unveiled 00:08:37 Recognizing Codependent Behaviors 00:10:00 Personal Revelations and Codependency 00:14:29 Navigating Guilt in Boundary Setting 00:19:05 Obligations and Choices in Family Dynamics 00:22:37 Boundary Setting as a Fluent Language 00:25:01 Over-Giving and Resentment 00:31:13 Introduction to Boundary Categories 00:34:05 Physical to Material Boundaries 00:36:18 Emotional Boundary Insights 00:40:17 Rigid Boundaries Explanation 00:46:36 Handling Narcissistic Boundaries 00:50:34 Staying in Your Lane with Boundaries 00:57:52 Understanding Indecision in Boundaries FOLLOW TERRI COLE: Website: https://terricole.com Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/terricole Boundary Quiz: https://boundaryquiz.com ********************************************************************** CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Audible: Sign up for a free 30-day trial at https://audible.com/WOI  Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out.  SKIMS: Check out the Fits Everybody Collection at https://www.skims.com/woi  #skimspartner  Kettle & Fire: Check out their new Venison Bone Broth in partnership with Maui Nui at a Whole Foods near you! Quince: Check out Quince: https://quince.com/woi  Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa NPR Fresh Air: Tune into Fresh Air from NPR to hear some of the most insightful interviews anywhere—wherever you get your podcasts. ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:  apple.co/womenofimpact ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Ash sits down with Terri Cole, a renowned therapist, author, and empowerment coach, for an insightful conversation on life, growth, and maintaining genuine connections. Terri discusses how to navigate codependency and boundaries in relationships. Ash and Terri dive into the pain body concept and its profound impact on relationships. You don't want to miss this! The episode is packed with wisdom and actionable advice, making it a must-listen for anyone looking to improve their relationships, well-being, and personal boundaries. Key Topics: 01:11 The Secret to Being Liked  07:48 Tools to Setting Healthy Boundaries  13:41 Visualizing Your Ideal Relationship  18:15 Realizing Core Wounds 18:38 Prompts for Self-Discovery 19:17 Embracing Passions and Aliveness 20:29 Navigating Relationships and Workaholism 21:51 Understanding Dharma and Career Fulfillment 23:33 Dealing with Difficult Clients 27:38 Exploring Father Wounds 29:43 Mastermind Program Overview    Join Terri Cole's Mastermind: terricole.com/ashley   Connect with Ash: https://www.instagram.com/ashleystahl/ Want to become a professional speaker and skyrocket your personal brand?  Ashley's team at Wise Whisper Agency offers a done-with-you method to get your signature talk written and booked and it's helped more than 100 clients onto the TEDx stage! Head over to WiseWhisperAgency.com/speak

High-functioning codependency takes center stage as we welcome licensed psychotherapist and boundary expert Terri Cole to the Addicted Mind podcast. With a unique journey from a talent agent to a psychotherapist, Terri shares her personal experiences and insights from her book, "Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency." We dive into the world of individuals who seem to manage life with ease yet secretly bear the weight of excessive responsibilities. Terri provides valuable strategies to help listeners recognize and break free from these patterns, offering a path towards healthier relationships and personal well-being. The episode also shines a light on the connection between highly sensitive people and high-functioning codependency. Terri and I explore the challenges of managing the instinct to control others' emotions and the importance of setting healthy boundaries. Personal anecdotes bring these discussions to life, including the struggle to support a loved one while respecting their autonomy. By acknowledging the discomfort of letting go, listeners can learn to empower others to be the heroes of their own stories, fostering genuine connection and intimacy. In this episode, you will hear: High-functioning codependency and its hidden struggles explored with Terri Cole Transition from talent agent to psychotherapist; insights from Terri's book "Too Much" Connection between highly sensitive people and high-functioning codependency Strategies for setting boundaries and fostering healthier relationships Embracing vulnerability and authenticity as part of recovery Importance of self-discovery and courage to disappoint for personal growth Follow and Review: We'd love for you to follow us if you haven't yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: NovusMindfulLife.com Instagram: Terri Cole (@terricole) Book: Too Much https://www.terricole.com/ Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Terri Cole returns to share powerful insights on building a supportive community and setting boundaries in friendships that no longer serve us. We explore how to cultivate meaningful connections and surround ourselves with people who truly want us to win.• Taking a friendship inventory to evaluate which relationships truly support your growth• Creating a "VIP section" in your life for people who celebrate your successes• Managing friendship breakups, which can sometimes be harder than romantic breakups• Setting boundaries with friends who consistently drain your energy• Using energetic cord-cutting to distance yourself from unhealthy relationships• Understanding the difference between helping someone and overstepping boundaries• Identifying patterns in relationships using Terri's "Three Cues for Clarity"• Learning how past experiences influence current relationships• Transforming your community through mastermind groups and intentional connectionCheck out Terri's mastermind for ambitious women at terricole.com/flourish or join her community at terricole.com/TCM. Pick up her books "Boundary Boss" and "Too Much" to deepen your understanding of healthy relationships.

Welcome back, babes! In today's episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, I'm joined by the one and only Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist, author of Boundary Boss, and expert on all things boundaries, people-pleasing, and codependency. We're breaking down what boundaries actually are (and what they aren't), why so many people get them wrong, and how to set them without guilt. Terri also shares her personal journey of leaving the entertainment industry to follow her passion for psychology, plus practical tools to help you stop self-abandoning, start advocating for yourself, and build stronger, healthier relationships. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✅ The #1 reason people struggle with boundaries (Hint: It starts in childhood) ✅ The difference between a boundary, a preference, and an ultimatum – and how to know which one you're setting ✅ Why people-pleasing isn't “nice” – it's dishonest (and how to stop) ✅ How to handle the guilt that comes with setting boundaries – and why it's actually a sign of growth ✅ What to do when someone says, “You've changed” (spoiler: it's a good thing) ✅ The truth about texting, boundaries, and dating expectations – why demanding daily texts is not a boundary, it's control ✅ How to know if your standards are “too high” or if you're avoiding intimacy ✅ The red flags of high-functioning codependency and how to break the cycle Get Terri's Book: Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free Take Terri's boundaries quiz MERCH IS NOW AVAILABLE! Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can't control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Get $10 off and FREE shipping at Nutrafol HERE! Code is SABRINA Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formally known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

In this episode of The Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I sit down with the incredible psychotherapist and author, Terri Cole, to discuss high-functioning codependency, boundaries, and how we can break free from people-pleasing tendencies. Terri shares her own journey from working in the entertainment industry to becoming a therapist and how her personal struggles with boundaries led her to specialize in this area. We dive deep into the traits of high-functioning codependency, where it comes from, and actionable steps you can take to create healthier relationships and reclaim your inner peace. What We Cover in This Episode: Terri's journey from talent agent to psychotherapist Recognizing high-functioning codependency in yourself How childhood and societal expectations shape codependency The role of self-awareness and therapy in breaking codependency patterns Practical tools for overcoming codependent tendencies The importance of setting boundaries and learning to say no How to conduct a resentment inventory and why it's helpful Addressing difficult family dynamics around social and political issues How Terri's book, Too Much, can help you break free from codependency Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction to Terri Cole and her background 01:00 – How Terri transitioned from talent agent to psychotherapist 16:00 – Recognizing high-functioning codependency 25:00 – Childhood & societal influences on codependency 30:00 – The importance of self-awareness and therapy 39:00 – Practical tools for overcoming codependency 42:00 – Navigating difficult family dynamics 49:00 – Setting boundaries and learning to say no 52:00 – Conducting a resentment inventory 58:00 – How Too Much can help you break free Resources Mentioned: Too Much by Terri Cole: https://www.terricole.com High-Functioning Codependency Toolkit: https://www.terricole.com/HFC Mastermind program (Flourish): https://www.terricole.com/flourish Terri's membership community: https://www.terricole.com/TCM The Terri Cole Show Podcast: https://www.terricole.com/podcast Connect with Me: Email: duffthepsych@gmail.com Website: https://www.duffthepsych.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@duffthepsych Instagram: https://instagram.com/duffthepsych If you found this episode helpful, please consider sharing it with someone who might benefit. And as always, take care of yourself!

Do you often feel exhausted, resentful, or underappreciated in your relationships? In this episode, Gabe Howard and licensed psychotherapist Terri Cole explore the complexities of codependency, including its less-talked-about form: “high functioning codependency.” Terri shares practical tools like the “resentment inventory” to identify unhealthy relational patterns and explains how overgiving can be an unconscious attempt to control chaos. You'll also learn how societal pressures, especially on women, play a role in this dynamic and how setting boundaries can lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Whether you're managing relationships with friends, family, or colleagues, this episode will help you understand the line between healthy care and codependent behaviors. If you're tired of saying yes when you want to say no or struggling to let others help you, this is a must-listen conversation. “I coined the phrase high functioning codependency because my clients were these highly capable women, in particular, who did not identify with sort of the old school, Melody Beattie, “Codependent No More,” it's enabling an addict. That's all it is, basically. They're like dependent? I'm not dependent on squat. Everyone's dependent on me. I'm making all the money. I'm making all the decisions. I'm kind of the boss around here, so I can't be codependent, which is not true.” ~Terri Cole To learn more -- or read the transcript -- visit the official episode page. Our guest, Terri Cole, is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert and the author of “Boundary Boss” and “Too Much.” For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com. Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe is also the host of the "Inside Bipolar" podcast with Dr. Nicole Washington. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we sit down with Terri Cole, a best-selling author, licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert, and empowerment coach. We discuss Terri's career transition, her work (and first book) on setting boundaries, and her expertise in high-functioning codependency. You will learn what is high-functioning codependency (HFC) and learn how you can recognize and address your own codependent behaviors, set healthy boundaries and have better relationships.  Terri shares tangible tips and takeaways to help you change the way you approach relationships today, so grab a pen and paper! Episode Highlights:Terri shares her own career change, transformation & healing process How should you think about boundaries and Terri's book, Boundary Boss. What is the Downloaded Love Blueprint and how is it affecting your current relationships? What is high-functioning codependency (HFC)? What steps can you take if you exhibit the behaviors of HFC? Overinvestment and resentment - what role they play in your relationships, how you see others, and how they see you. Follow Terri & Learn More: Get your free resources, order Terri's book(s) and sign up to stay connected at: https://www.terricole.com/hfc/Learn more about Terri by visiting: https://www.terricole.com/Want more from SheSpeaks?* Sign up for our podcast newsletter HERE! * Connect with us on Instagram, FB & Twitter @shespeaksup Contact us at podcast@shespeaks.com WATCH our podcast on YouTube @SheSpeaksTV

In this episode, Terri Cole discusses how to break the people-pleasing cycle and set healthy boundaries. She explores the fine line between kindness and people- pleasing and how sometimes, what feels like generosity might actually be an attempt to control someone else’s reaction or avoid conflict altogether. Terri also explains why so many of us fall into this “peace at any cost” mentality and the toll it takes on us. She offers powerful tools to help us break free from that compulsion and get clear on what we’re really responsible for, and how to show up authentically in our relationships. Key Takeaways: 00:03:03 – Tending to the Shadow Side 00:04:12 – Finding Balance: Reacting vs. Responding 00:06:06 – The Resentment Inventory 00:10:04 – Taking Responsibility for Our Feelings 00:11:14 – Understanding Activation and Transference 00:15:43 – The Impact of Past Relationships 00:19:01 – Defining High Functioning Codependency 00:20:15 – Characteristics of High Functioning Codependents 00:26:38 – The Importance of Mindful Habit Changes 00:27:32 – Distinguishing Kindness from Codependency 00:29:04 – Questions to Differentiate Responsibility 00:34:48 – The Role of Boundaries in Relationships 00:37:01 – The Challenge of Letting Go 00:40:28 – The Power of Asking the Right Questions 00:43:41 – Conclusion: The Balance of Giving and Receiving For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you feel like you're carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? Are you the one everyone turns to when things go sideways at work, home, or with friends?  And yet, despite all your effort and capability, you find yourself drained, resentful, and maybe even turning to wine or Netflix just to numb out. If that sounds like you, you might be struggling with high-functioning codependency. In this episode of The Hello Someday Podcast, I'm diving into the world of high-functioning codependency with Terri Cole, psychotherapist, author, and expert on boundaries and relationships.  For the full shownotes, kindly go to this podcast episode link: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/high-functioning-codependency-what-it-is-and-how-to-break-free/ 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking  Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson To find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Rejoining us on today's episode is former guest Terri Cole! In case you missed her first episode with us, Terri is a licensed psychotherapist, global leading relationship expert, and author of the book Boundary Boss. In this conversation, we dive into the topic of High Functioning Codependency, the subject of Terri's new book Too Much…and oh boy, was it a MAJOR eye opener for us! From 20 years of practical psychology and Eastern mindfulness, join us to hear Terri's powerful insights on how you can start living a more joyful and peaceful life by breaking cycles of over-extending, over-giving, and feeling overly-responsible for others.    Key Takeaways: How High Functioning Codependency may differ from what we would traditionally define as codependent behavior The root cause of caring too much Identifying the line between supporting others and overstepping How to break unhealthy cycles that lead to burnout, overwhelm, and anxiety  The pathway to establishing better boundaries, embracing surrender, and ultimately creating a happier life Connect With Terri Cole: Free HFC Toolkit Flourish Mastermind Podcast: The Terri Cole Show Her book: Too Much Her book: Boundary Boss Instagram: @terricole Youtube: @terri_cole terricole.com DayLuna: EXPLORE LUNYA Use code: DAYLUNA for 15% off   Human Design Chart Software: BodygraphChart.com Use code: DAYLUNA for 50% off your first 12 months!   Book a Reading With Us Here! Get our book: Your Human Design! Your Human Design Besties Online Human Design Reader Training Physical Products & Ritual Kits Digital Products & Video Courses daylunalife.com Instagram: @d.a.y.l.u.n.a  

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are thrilled to be joined by the one and only Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist, author, speaker, and global expert in relationships and empowerment! Terri is here to share her infinite wisdom and tell us all about her new book Too Much. Too Much focuses on the concept that Terri coined called High Functioning Codependency (HFC). Terri explains what HFC looks like, where it begins, and who it tends to affect. She discusses its traits and behaviors like feeling responsible for the emotions of others, the desire to control others' outcomes, and the idea of "auto-accommodating." Terri sheds light on the costs of being an HFC and shares her personal experience with it. She gives us all the tangible tips on how to begin to break the cycle. You do not want to miss this one! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: There is no intro for today's episode - join us right away for the content. The HFC Toolkit Terri's Podcast The Boundary Quiz Flourish Mastermind Terri's IG: @terricole Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: Prose: See the difference custom care can make with 50% off your first haircare subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks Ibotta: Ibotta is offering our listeners $5 just for trying it! Go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app to start earning cash back and use code SHRINKCHICKS when you register Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks Manscaped: Get 20% off + free shipping with the code shrinkchicks at manscaped.com Hiya: Receive 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/shrinkchicks Mint Mobile: Cut your wireless bill to 15 bucks a month at mintmobile.com/shrinkchicks Bilt: Earn points by paying rent right now when you go to joinbilt.com/shrinkchicks

In this engaging conversation, Terri Cole and Keresse Thompson discuss the nuances of high functioning codependency, its impact on relationships, and the importance of setting boundaries. Terri shares her journey from a talent agent to a psychotherapist, emphasizing the transformative power of therapy. They explore common myths surrounding codependency, how to identify over-functioning behaviors, and the significance of asking the right questions in relationships. The discussion highlights the importance of compassion and holding space for others without trying to control or fix their problems. In this conversation, Terri Cole and Keresse Thompson explore the complexities of high functioning codependence, its roots in family dynamics, and the challenges faced in relationships, particularly with narcissistic partners. They discuss the emotional toll of over-responsibility, the importance of vulnerability, and the journey towards empowerment and self-acceptance. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-awareness and the courage to make changes in one's life to foster healthier relationships and personal growth.takeawaysHigh functioning codependency is about being overly invested in others' outcomes.Resentment can serve as a guide to identify where boundaries are needed.It's important to ask others how they want to be supported.Many capable individuals struggle with codependency without realizing it.Setting boundaries is essential for maintaining personal peace.Compulsive caring can lead to burnout and resentment.Asking expansive questions fosters deeper connections.Therapy can empower individuals to change their life narratives.Authenticity in relationships is crucial for emotional well-being.Recognizing one's own needs is vital in helping others. High functioning codependents often feel responsible for others' well-being.Hyper-independence can hinder vulnerability and connection.Family dynamics play a significant role in shaping codependent behaviors.Narcissists often attract high functioning codependents due to their complementary needs.Self-awareness is crucial in breaking the cycle of codependence.Burnout and health issues are common consequences of codependency.Parentified daughters often bear unrealistic emotional responsibilities.Empowerment comes from recognizing one's own needs and boundaries.Disappointment is a natural part of asserting oneself in relationships.Change is possible with the right guidance and support.titlesChapters00:00Introduction and Book Launch Excitement05:45Terri Cole's Journey to Therapy12:08Myths and Misunderstandings of Codependency18:01Resentment as a Guide to Boundaries24:09Holding Space and Compassion in Relationships32:23The Impact of Family Dynamics44:36The Costs of High Functioning Codependence53:39Empowerment and Taking Control of Your LifeTo get in touch with Terri:https://www.terricole.comBuy Terri's book here “Too Much”https://hfcbook.com/If you like this podcast please leave me a review and rate!For more info on my services such as Therapy, Coaching and Tarot readings please visit my website at www.therapeutichealingbyreese.comFollow me on Instagram!https://instagram.com/_keresse_?utm_medium=copy_linkFollow me on Facebook!https://www.facebook.com/TherapeuticHealingByReese/

Join Lindsey and Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist and global relationship expert, as they dive deep into a topic so many of us can relate to: codependency. Terri shares wisdom from her new book, Too Much: A Guide To Breaking The Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.Ahead, Terri, our boundary-setting guru, opens up about her experiences as a codependent and highlights the difference between true support and control. Get practical tips around setting boundaries, determining your "bandwidth," and practicing healthy detachment for true freedom.Morning Microdose is a podcast curated by Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, the hosts and founders of Almost 30, a global community, brand, and top rated podcast.With curated clips from the Almost 30 podcast, Morning Mircodose will set the tone for your day, so you can feel inspired through thought provoking conversations…all in digestible episodes that are less than 10 minutes.Wake up with Krista and Lindsey, both literally and spiritually, Monday-Friday.If you enjoyed this conversation, listen to the full episode on Spotify here and on Apple here.

Do you ever feel like you're doing so much for everyone in your life—managing relationships, fixing problems, carrying the emotional load—only to end up completely burned out? Today, I sit down with the incredible Terri Cole, psychotherapist and author of Boundary Boss, to uncover why so many of us fall into this cycle and, most importantly, how to break free.  Terri dives deep into what high-functioning codependency really looks like, and trust me, it's not the old-school definition you might have in mind. This conversation hit home for me in a big way, and I got super vulnerable about my own recovery journey. Together, we unpack everything from unsolicited advice-giving (yep, we've all done it!) to setting boundaries that stick and respecting others' autonomy even when it's hard.  If you're constantly over-functioning, people-pleasing, or just plain exhausted from “managing” everyone in your life, this episode is your permission to stop. You'll walk away with actionable steps to start shifting your habits, nurture healthier relationships, and finally put yourself back on your priority list. Tune in for this and much more! "You need to get in recovery. Because we need everything that you have to give to the world, and you're only going to be able to do it if you're not micromanaging a million other people." ~ Terri Cole  In this episode: - Defining high-functioning codependency - Recognizing codependent traits and behaviors - How to escape the advice-giving trap  - Overcoming the fear of setting boundaries - Dealing with the illusion of control and its impact - Managing emotional triggers during recovery  - Self-sacrificing and auto-accommodating behaviors - Anticipatory planning and over-functioning in relationships - Action steps to break codependent habits  - The path to recovery and peace - Recognizing and dealing with personal growth in recovery  - Embracing joy and peace: the evidence of codependency recovery - How to access the High-Functioning Codependency Toolkit  Resources Mentioned in the Episode: Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1683647688 Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1649631863   High-Functioning Codependency Toolkit (HFC Toolkit): https://www.terricole.com/hfc/  Nutrafol is offering our listeners $10 off our first month's subscription and free shipping when you go to www.Nutrafol.com and enter the promo code JENG. Connect with Terri Cole: Website:https://www.terricole.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/terri-cole Where to find me: IG: https://www.instagram.com/jen_gottlieb/    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jen_gottlieb     Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jenleahgottlieb    Website: https://jengottlieb.com/    My business: https://www.superconnectormedia.com/     YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@jen_gottlieb

“Not wanting to do something is a perfectly legitimate reason for not doing it." - Terri Cole In the 2nd episode of the "Best Of 2024” series, join host Meg Durham, a wellbeing educator and teacher wellbeing specialist, as she shares some of the best, most insightful moments from experts featured on The School of Wellbeing in 2024. If you often find yourself shouldering the weight of others' needs at the expense of your wellbeing, this special episode is perfect for you. Featuring insightful conversations with Terri Cole, Adrienne Hornby, and Melinda Phillips, this episode explores the critical issue of high-functioning codependency and the importance of setting boundaries. Learn how to set better boundaries, prioritise your wellbeing, and understand that self-care is not selfish but essential. By sharing personal journeys from burnout to balance, the episode offers practical advice on managing energy, setting healthy boundaries, and maintaining a balanced life, ultimately enhancing leadership and overall wellbeing. --- Listen To The Full Conversations: Terri Cole: High-Functioning Codependency & People Pleasing | Episode 133 Adrienne Hornby: Functional Freeze & Why You Feel Wired And Tired | Episode 125 Melinda Phillips: Release the Pressure & Reclaim The Joy Of Teaching | Episode 117 --- Meg Durham - Website | LinkedIn | Instagram Weekly Newsletter - Subscribe here Speaker Request - Complete the booking form to start the conversation. ---- ** The School of Wellbeing is one of Australia's best health and wellbeing podcasts for teachers, educators and school leaders! **

Are you constantly taking responsibility for other people's feelings, problems, or successes? You might be a high-functioning codependent. In this episode, psychotherapist Terri Cole is back sharing the sneaky pattern of overgiving and over-functioning that leads to burnout, resentment, and even sabotage your relationships and career. She breaks down how to recognize these behaviors and start your recovery. We talk about how to set boundaries, stop controlling outcomes, and prioritize self-care in a way that feels empowering. Get ready to stop fixing everyone else and start prioritizing yourself.  Check out our Sponsors: Open Phone - Stop juggling all your customer calls and texts from your personal phone. Save 20% off your first 6 months when you go to openphone.com/earn  Rocket Money - go to rocketmoney.com/EYH to check out the personal finance app that helps find and cancel your unwanted subscriptions, monitors your spending, and helps lower your bills so you can grow your savings.  HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 What does high-functioning codependency (HFC) look like? 06:00 Signs you might be an HFC. 11:30 How auto-advice giving creates resentment in relationships. 17:30 The difference between compromise and self-abandonment in partnerships. 25:00 How to stop trying to control others and reclaim your peace. 31:45 The red flags of taking on too much emotional responsibility. 39:00 Ways to deal with guilt when you feel you “should” do more. 45:00 How to improve your relationships by breaking the over-functioning cycle. 49:00 The FREE toolkit to help you start setting boundaries today! RESOURCES Learn more about Terri's Free HFC Toolkit HERE Get your copy of Terri's “Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency” HERE Listen to my free SECRET PODCASTS SERIES - Operation: Rekindle This B*tch Get glōci HERE Use code: HAPPY at checkout for 25% off! Text DAILY to 310-496-8363 for daily manifesting affirmations, journal prompts, and motivation. Sign up for GrowthDay - https://www.growthday.com/lori?via=harder Watch on YouTube - @LoriHarder My book: A Tribe Called Bliss FOLLOW Follow me: @loriharder Follow Earn Your Happy: @earnyourhappy Follow glōci: @getgloci Girlfriends & Business: @girlfriendsandbusiness Follow Terri: @terricole

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Welcome to EVEMAS DAY 24; If you are new here, EVEMAS is a series I began where I upload an episode everyday from December 1st until December 25th. Through this series, we will cover all topics involving becoming the best version of yourself possible in a very realistic and relatable way. Today we have on Terri Cole! Terri's new book, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency ; Too Much is Terri's handbook on how to break down the characteristics of high-functioning codependency so you can get more clarity around what's going on under the surface of your behavior and take steps toward better boundaries, inner peace, and integrity. Each chapter brings you insights and practices to transform how you see yourself and the world, honor your own needs, and reclaim the freedom and joy you deserve. Break the cycle of overdoing and over-giving and start living a more authentic and joyful life.  Find Terri here: https://www.terricole.com/media-sh/ 2025 GAME PLAN: https://d5163f-08.myshopify.com/products/2025-game-plan?utm_source=copyToPasteBoard&utm_medium=product-links&utm_content=web Loved how this episode came out! Thank you for all your constant love and support on my show - I truly appreciate each and every one of you! LinkTree (all links) : https://linktr.ee/foryoufromeve Youtube Channel (weekly vlogs) : https://www.youtube.com/@foryoufromeve Website + Services: https://www.foryoufromeve.org Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/foryoufromeve Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@foryoufromeve Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/influencer-e333d6b9?utm_source=hoobe&utm_medium=social LTK: https://www.shopltk.com/explore/Olivia_Eve_Shabo This episode is sponsored by Mint Mobile. Go to mintmobile.com/fromeve to cut your bulls to $15.00 / month. This episode is sponsored by Scheduele35. Get 15% Off with code FROMEVE at Schedule35.co - That's 15% off at Schedule35.co and use code FROMEVE This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/fromeve This episode is sponsored by PrettyLitter. Go to prettylitter.com/fromeve to save 20% off your first order + a free cat toy!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you finding it harder and harder these days to stick to your boundaries? Whether it's a lack of physical space at your house (hello, homeschooling)… or a lack of breathing room and space in your calendar, causing you to overwork, strive, and feel flustered with it all. Or maybe it's a Boundary Destroyer in your life, which is a whole other ball of wax.   My all-star special guest today is psychotherapist Terri Cole and she's simplifying how to stick to your boundaries. In her book, Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free is a must-read for me and so many girlfriends of mine as we are looking to break free from the nonsense. And more importantly, live a more authentic, fulfilled life by mastering how we create and maintain healthy boundaries. Here's how.  My all-star special guest today is Terri Cole and she's simplifying how to stick to your boundaries. We tackle and simplify all aspects of it, including: Through her research, what she found are some common myths that women believe when setting boundaries  What the psychological aspect is behind why we DON'T set boundaries for ourselves? What's happening, really? How to understand what your internal ‘Boundary Blueprint' is and how to communicate our desired (more positive) boundaries are to other people In a work setting, what to do if you're afraid you'll be seen as a “bitch” or if you fear being fired by your client after you state your boundaries And ultimately, at home… what you must do when it's a family member (a parent, spouse or child) who you cannot remove from your life entirely and you're having to constantly state and restate your boundaries all the time? Terri is a brilliant bright light in this field of study and she's going to show us a better way of sticking to our boundaries. In our conversation today, you'll gain a glimmer into her work, teaching each of us how to stop abandoning ourselves for the sake of others without guilt or drama. But rather, she shows us a way that healthy boundaries can help us gain better communication and better relationships… more satisfaction, abundance, and success. All of it is a result of doing the work, gaining clarity on our subconscious beliefs, and sticking to our boundaries. Q: Are you ready to learn how to stick to your boundaries better? If yes, this one is for you. It's time to #DoTheThing! ---- Show notes available with all links mentioned here:https://www.thesimplifiers.com/posts/369-how-to-stick-to-your-boundaries---with-terri-cole-all-star

In this episode, we're exploring the world of high-functioning codependency with our guest, Terri Cole. This isn't your typical chat about codependency; Terri's giving it a fresh spin, especially for those of us who juggle a million things and still find time to care a little too much about everyone else's problems. Terri breaks down how high-functioning codependents — often the go-getters and perfectionists among us — end up sacrificing their own well-being. Sound familiar? We get into the nitty-gritty of societal norms, early family expectations, and how these can set the stage for burnout. But luckily, Terri has strategies to help us break free from these patterns and set healthy boundaries. Terri shares how to foster real connections without feeling like you have to manage everyone else's life. If you're ready to transform your relationships and reclaim your personal freedom, you won't want to miss this chat.  In this episode, you will hear: The origins and societal pressures contributing to high-functioning codependency. Strategies for overcoming self-abandonment and shifting from external validation to internal peace. The importance of setting boundaries and recognizing unhealthy patterns in relationships. The difference between guilt and shame and the impact of societal upbringing on codependency. Resources for fostering genuine connections and achieving personal freedom. Resources from this Episode   https://www.terricole.com/HFC/ MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Membership: The Academy of Awakening theacademyofawakening.com   Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Are you the capable, high-achieving creative entrepreneur who's always solving everyone else's problems? Licensed psychotherapist Terri Cole reveals why this "high functioning codependency" might be creating an invisible ceiling in your business growth. Learn practical strategies for breaking free from over-functioning, setting healthy boundaries, and building a more sustainable creative business. Discover why being "great in a crisis" might actually be holding you back and how to transform your relationships without sacrificing your success.In this episode, you'll discover:[4:25] The surprising signs of high functioning codependency in creative entrepreneurs[8:15] Why being everyone's problem solver is damaging your business growth[12:30] How to break free from the auto-advice giving habit[15:45] The unexpected connection between hyper-independence and business limitations[21:10] Practical steps for setting boundaries without damaging relationshipsHere are the resources mentioned in the show:Get Terri's Book “Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency:Free HFC ToolkitJoin Terri's MembershipConnect with Terri:Instagram: @terricoleWebsite: terricole.comPodcast: The Terry Cole ShowSpecial Offers:FREE MASTERCLASS: Your Best Year Yet!: Turn Your Abundant Ideas Into a Simple to Execute Business Plan That Supports Your Dream Life (Without the Overwhelm or Burnout)! Watch now: flourishthriveacademy.com/bestyearmasterclassYour Year to Thrive Program: flourishthriveacademy.com/thriveAre you enjoying the podcast? We'd be so grateful if you gave us a rating and review! Your 5 star ratings help us reach more businesses like yours and allows us to continue to deliver valuable content every single week. Click here to review the show on Apple podcast or your favorite platformSelect “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review”Share your favorite insights and inspirationsIf you haven't done so yet, make sure that you subscribe to the show wherever you listen to podcasts and on Apple Podcast for special bonus content you won't get elsewhere.xo, Tracy MatthewsFollow on Social:Follow @Flourish_Thrive on InstagramFollow @TracyMatthewsNY  InstagramFollow Flourish & Thrive Facebook

What does it really mean to help someone, and where do we draw the line? In this episode of A Really Good Cry, I sit down with the incredible Terri Cole, a psychotherapist whose own life experiences offer a profound look into the world of high-functioning codependency. Terri shares an unforgettable story about the night she brought a stranger home from the train station—a gesture that sparks our exploration into the blurred lines between helping and interfering. Join us as we delve into the psychological impacts of codependency, discussing how our desires to help can sometimes control both our lives and those around us. Terri provides crucial insights on recognizing when empathy exceeds healthy limits and the vital importance of establishing boundaries for our well-being. If you’ve ever found yourself in the role of a rescuer, or if you’re seeking to understand the emotional intricacies of codependency, this heartfelt discussion is not to be missed. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:56 Bringing home a stranger 03:13 What is high functioning codependency? 06:02 Signs of an HFC 07:47 The line between helping and controlling 11:14 How to support without overstepping 15:59 The power of asking expansive questions 18:30 The burden of being 'nice' 20:47 Breaking the cycle of auto advice-giving 25:20 Letting someone be their own hero 28:03 Why parents should let kids fail sometimes 39:05 Asking before giving advice 43:20 How projection affects our relationships 46:07 Why asking for help feels so hard 52:26 How to stop tying worth to helping others 58:09 Stop caring what others think 1:02:18 Showing up the same online and offline 1:07:40 The cost of perfectionism 1:12:25 How to truly rest your mind and body Follow Terri: https://www.terricole.com/ https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ https://www.youtube.com/@terri_cole https://www.tiktok.com/@terri_cole Follow Radhi: https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/ https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Terri Cole is back for her 7th appearance—yes, 7th—to dive into high-functioning codependency and boundaries. Her latest book, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency, is a game-changer and I am thrilled to welcome Terri back to the show! Together we unpack the myth of what codependency is—especially for high-achieving women—and give us a clear picture of high-functioning codependency (HFC). We're talking about things like auto advice-giving and running everyone else's life at the expense of your sanity. Terri and I also break down tools such as resentment inventory and the art of detachment (she explains what these are - don't worry!). And we also talk about boundaries, of course! Specifically how healthy boundaries aren't about shutting people out; they're about letting yourself breathe.  What you'll hear in this episode: What is high-functioning codependency and how does it show up? (6:11) Where it all begins: understanding root causes and the need for control (17:38) Mastering the art of detachment without losing the connection (23:58) The secret to setting boundaries that actually work (27:49) Resentment inventory: your tool for spotting burnout and over-giving (33:30) Resources:

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This reflective episode dives deep into the powerful lessons and transformative themes from the past year, offering a spotlight on codependency, boundaries, and the courage to prioritize yourself without fear of losing relationships. Through a curated compilation of insights from conversations with renowned guests like Dr. Laura Berman, Africa Brooke, Dr. Stephen Porges, Sabrina Zohar and Terri Cole, it unpacks the cost of silencing your truth to keep others comfortable and the empowerment that comes from embracing your full self. As we prepare to close one chapter and begin another, this episode invites you to release limiting patterns, set healthier boundaries, and step into the new year with clarity, intention, and a renewed sense of personal power. Featured Episodes: — #360: Nurturing the Sensitive Soul & Grounding Through Grief w/ Dr. Laura Berman: https://markgroves.com/episode/nurturing-the-sensitive-soul-and-grounding-through-grief-with-dr-laura-berman/  —#368: Polyvagal Path: Healing Your Nervous System & Your Life with Dr. Stephen Porges: https://markgroves.com/episode/polyvagal-path-healing-your-nervous-system-and-your-life-with-dr-stephen-porges/ —#372: Are You Feeding Division? The Cost of Censoring Yourself with Africa Brooke: https://markgroves.com/episode/are-you-feeding-division-the-cost-of-censoring-yourself-with-africa-brooke/  —#380: Take Accountability For Your Relationships: How to Do The Work with Sabrina Zohar: https://markgroves.com/episode/take-accountability-for-your-relationships-how-to-do-the-work-with-sabrina-zohar/  —#414: High-Functioning Codependents: How to Stop Being Everything for Everyone with Terri Cole: https://markgroves.com/episode/high-functioning-codependents-how-to-stop-being-everything-for-everyone-with-terri-cole/  Resources: —Ready to transform your relationships? Download The Relationship Toolkit for free and learn the 5 essential skills to thrive in love and life! https://go.markgroves.com/relationship-toolkit-podcast  —Have a Question For Mark That You'd Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Leave us a Voice Note Here: https://www.speakpipe.com/TheMarkGrovesPodcast  —Join My Online Community: http://markgroves.com/aligned  —Get My New Book! Liberated Love - Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire: https://markgroves.com/book  —Explore My Courses: https://markgroves.com/courses Follow me and my work here: —Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/markgrovestv  —Follow my Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markgrovespodcast  —Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://markgroves.com/newsletter —Subscribe to my Substack: https://markgroves.substack.com Find an archive of my work here: —Instagram - @createthelove: https://www.instagram.com/createthelove —Facebook - @createthelove: https://www.facebook.com/createthelove If you want to dive deeper into Mark's content, search through every episode, find specific topics we've covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com Themes: Codependency Recovery, Setting Healthy Boundaries, How to Stop People Pleasing, Personal Growth Journey, Emotional Healing, Overcoming Limiting Beliefs, Self-Worth and Boundaries, Relationship Advice 2024, Healing from Toxic Relationships, How to Be Your Authentic Self, Building Confidence and Self-Esteem, Best Podcast Episodes on Growth, Emotional Resilience Tools, New Year Transformation Tips, Vibrational Energy in Relationships, Letting Go of Past Trauma This episode is sponsored by: —BON CHARGE: Use code MARKGROVES to save 15% at http://boncharge.com/MARKGROVES —Organifi: Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off sitewide at http://www.organifi.com/createthelove —Mighty Networks: Go to http://www.markgroves.com/mightynetworks to learn how you can create your own community! Drop us a note at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, guest suggestions, or just to say hello! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, Gina shares part 2 of her interview with Terri Cole, an author and expert on high functioning codependency. Terri shares her wisdom and experience as a psychotherapist to provide important information on how to handle one's codependent social patterns. Use this information to transform your own way of relating to others and become healthier and happier as a result! Links mentioned in today's episode https://www.terricole.com https://hfcbook.com https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors! https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/sponsors/ Thank you for supporting The Anxiety Coaches Podcast. FREE MUST-HAVE RESOURCE FOR Calming Your Anxious Mind 10-Minute Body-Scan Meditation for Anxiety Anxiety Coaches Podcast Group Coaching link ACPGroupCoaching.com To learn more, go to: Website https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com Join our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership Program Learn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety? Find even more peace and calm with our Supercast premium access membership: For $5 a month, all episodes are ad-free! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.com/ Here's what's included for $5/month: ❤ New Ad-Free episodes every Sunday and Wednesday ❤ Access to the entire Ad-free back-catalog with over 600 episodes ❤ Premium meditations recorded with you in mind ❤ And more fun surprises along the way! All this in your favorite podcast app! Quote: Boundaries aren't just about keeping people out; they're about letting peace in. Anxiety lessens when we protect our emotional space. -Terri Cole Chapters 0:42 Introduction to Codependency 2:02 The Struggle of High-Functioning Codependents 5:17 Understanding Our Origins 8:37 Historical Context of Codependency 11:34 Navigating Relationships as HFCs 13:42 Practical Solutions for HFCs 18:00 Setting Boundaries and Self-Care 22:09 Prioritizing Yourself in Relationships 23:30 Resources and Community for Recovery Summary In this episode of the Anxiety Coaches Podcast, I continue my insightful conversation with Terry Cole, a global empowerment and relationship expert. We dive deeper into the dynamics of high-functioning codependency, a topic that resonates with many individuals on their journey toward better mental health and empowered relationships. Terry's latest book, *Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency*, serves as the backdrop for our discussion, providing a roadmap to understanding and overcoming the patterns that often hold us back. We reflect on the common struggle of over-giving in relationships—where we instinctively prioritize helping others often at the expense of our own needs. Terry poignantly articulates the tendency of high-functioning codependents (HFCs) to project positivity onto others, leading to frustration when the expected support isn't reciprocated. Together, we explore how this can create unbalanced dynamics, ultimately making HFCs feel as though they are not deserving of the care they so willingly provide to others. We examine significant societal pressures that have shaped these behaviors, particularly for women navigating the complexities of independence while managing emotional labor within their homes and relationships. Understanding the roots of these behaviors is crucial. As we discuss familial dynamics and societal expectations, we uncover the notion that HFCs might emerge not just from trauma, but also from a long history of conditioning—especially for those raised within patriarchal frameworks that undervalue emotional expression. Through shared anecdotes and personal reflections, Terry emphasizes the importance of recognizing our own boundaries and the necessity of allowing others the space to navigate their own challenges. #codependency #highfunctioningcodependency #HFC #mentalhealth #relationships #selfhelp #therapy #personalgrowth #mindfulness #anxietycoachespodcast #acp #GinaRyan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, Gina interviews Terri Cole, a psychotherapist and relationship expert who has recently written a book on High-Functioning Codependency. Terri shares her story and wisdom regarding this situation (and behavioral set) that is frequently paired with anxiety. Listen in for another angle on a behavioral pattern that is commonly associated with anxiety and how to transform it to feel and live better. Links mentioned in today's episode https://www.terricole.com https://hfcbook.com https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors! https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/sponsors/ Thank you for supporting The Anxiety Coaches Podcast. FREE MUST-HAVE RESOURCE FOR Calming Your Anxious Mind 10-Minute Body-Scan Meditation for Anxiety Anxiety Coaches Podcast Group Coaching link ACPGroupCoaching.com To learn more, go to: Website https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com Join our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership Program Learn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety? Find even more peace and calm with our Supercast premium access membership: For $5 a month, all episodes are ad-free! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.com/ Here's what's included for $5/month: ❤ New Ad-Free episodes every Sunday and Wednesday ❤ Access to the entire Ad-free back-catalog with over 600 episodes ❤ Premium meditations recorded with you in mind ❤ And more fun surprises along the way! All this in your favorite podcast app! Quote: Boundaries aren't just about keeping people out; they're about letting peace in. Anxiety lessens when we protect our emotional space. -Terri Cole Chapters 0:42 Introduction to High Functioning Codependency 5:53 Recognizing Early Signs of HFC 10:30 The Role of Anxiety in Codependency 13:57 Personal Story: A Sister's Struggle 19:02 Building Healthier Relationships 20:29 Conclusion and What's Next Summary In this episode of the Anxiety Coaches Podcast, we dive deep into the world of high functioning codependency with renowned author and psychotherapist Terry Cole, whose new book, "Too Much," sheds light on this often misunderstood issue. Terry begins by exploring the concept of high functioning codependency, a pattern characterized by overgiving, people-pleasing, and emotional exhaustion, often mistaken for selflessness. She emphasizes how these behaviors can manifest in our lives and compromise our authentic selves, ultimately impacting our mental and emotional well-being. Through her extensive experience as a psychotherapist, Terry discusses the motivations behind these patterns, pointing out that many individuals, especially women, carry a heavy burden of responsibility for the happiness and success of those around them. She reflects on the irony that the more capable someone is, the harder it is to recognize their codependent behaviors. Terry challenges the traditional view that codependency is solely tied to enabling alcoholics, expanding the definition to encompass a broader spectrum of behaviors that lead to emotional distress. Terry shares her personal journey, detailing her own struggles with codependency. She recounts a pivotal moment that brought clarity to her understanding of these patterns, sparked by her relationship with her sister, who was in an abusive situation. This experience, combined with professional insights, helped her recognize the distinction between caring for someone and taking on responsibility for their life outcomes. She emphasizes that genuine love allows others to learn and grow from their choices, rather than rescuing them or solving their problems. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to another empowering episode of Women of Impact! I'm your host, Lisa Bilyeu, and today we'll dive deep into the art of setting boundaries with in-laws, the challenges of maintaining independence in a partnership, and the importance of clear communication. Whether you're dealing with toxic family members, navigating difficult in-law relationships, or simply striving for a healthier family dynamic, this episode is packed with valuable tips and powerful stories to inspire your journey. Tune in as we explore the delicate balance of maintaining personal authenticity and protecting your mental health amidst the complexities of family expectations and societal norms. It's a conversation you won't want to miss! SHOWNOTES 130:53 Family dynamics complicate boundaries; break generational patterns. 132:43 Avoid discussing food-related topics; set expectations. 142:07 Hold boundaries for self-worth and safety. 143:35 Setting boundaries can revoke undeserved privileges. 152:58 Boundaries have shifted; reevaluation is essential. 154:34 Attempt to set boundaries led to escalation. 101:01:06 Shifted mindset: openness, curiosity, self-assured communication. 101:04:51 Embracing change transforms difficult family dynamics. CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS: Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Found Banking: Sign up for Found for FREE today at https://found.com/lisa. Caraway: Visit https://carawayhome.com/woi  or use code WOI at checkout and get 10% off your next purchase! Masterclass: 15% off any annual membership at https://masterclass.com/lisa FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en LISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to another compelling episode of Women of Impact! Today, we're diving deep into the world of personal boundaries, narcissistic family dynamics, and the power of self-preservation. Joining us is the insightful Terri Cole, an expert in boundaries and emotional intelligence. In this episode, our host Lisa Bilyeu opens up about her journey towards self-empowerment, particularly her desire to feel strong enough to leave a relationship in the event of infidelity. We'll explore the complexities of dealing with narcissistic mothers, the importance of setting and enforcing boundaries, and how to handle inappropriate or intrusive questions with confidence. Terri brings a wealth of strategies, from using humor to deflect provocations to preparing mentally for challenging family gatherings. She also emphasizes the significance of self-awareness, self-preservation, and the necessity of clear, open communication in maintaining healthy relationships. Whether you're struggling with boundary issues, dealing with a narcissistic parent, or looking for practical tips on maintaining your mental health, this episode is packed with valuable insights and actionable advice. Then, We'll dive deep into the art of setting boundaries with in-laws, the challenges of maintaining independence in a partnership, and the importance of clear communication. Whether you're dealing with toxic family members, navigating difficult in-law relationships, or simply striving for a healthier family dynamic, this episode is packed with valuable tips and powerful stories to inspire your journey. Tune in as we explore the delicate balance of maintaining personal authenticity and protecting your mental health amidst the complexities of family expectations and societal norms. It's a conversation you won't want to miss! SHOWNOTES Challenge invasive questions with "Why ask me that?" Strategically prepare to manage family gathering interactions. Setting boundaries takes time and practice. Understanding narcissistic mothers: It's a hidden struggle. Ineffective delegation leads to disordered boundaries. Betrayed friend's trust drops relationship level. Unwillingness to discuss toxic, narcissistic relationships. Stopped engaging due to unhealthy relationship dynamics. Overcame abuse; family reacted with disbelief, slander. Boundaries clash with cultural differences, acceptance needed. CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS: Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Found Banking: Sign up for Found for FREE today at https://found.com/lisa. Caraway: Visit https://carawayhome.com/woi  or use code WOI at checkout and get 10% off your next purchase! Masterclass: 15% off any annual membership at https://masterclass.com/lisa FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en LISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you've ever felt drained from constantly over-giving or managing everyone else's needs, this episode with psychotherapist and Too Much author Terri Cole is the wake-up call you didn't know you needed. In Part 2, Terri uncovers how high-functioning codependency keeps us stuck in cycles of over-responsibility and how this impacts our closest relationships—and even our health. Terri reveals her strategies like “resentment inventory,” redefining your “VIP section,” and tools for self-reflection. She walks us through the steps to take back our power, communicate boundaries, and release the pressure to “fix” everyone around us. PLUS, she dives into the importance of letting go of guilt and facing any pushback with strength and compassion. If you're ready to build healthier, balanced relationships and reclaim your energy, Terri's techniques will guide you there.  HEALERS & HEAL-LINERS: The Resentment Inventory. Identify where you feel resentment in your life. This inventory helps pinpoint situations where you're over-giving or sacrificing your own needs, laying the foundation for boundary-setting. Redefine Your “VIP Section.” Not everyone deserves a spot in your life's “VIP section.” Prioritize relationships that nourish you, set boundaries to protect your emotional energy and foster balanced connections. “Good Girl Syndrome”. Many are conditioned to please others at their own expense. Learn the ways to recognize and shift this mindset, encouraging self-respect and authenticity over people-pleasing. Teaching Kids Healthy Boundaries. For parents, raising kids who understand that it's okay to say no and set limits. Modeling boundaries teaches children to prioritize their well-being and empowers them to avoid the same “good girl” or “good boy” patterns. -- HEAL SQUAD SOCIALS IG: https://www.instagram.com/healsquad/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@healsquadxmaria HEAL SQUAD RESOURCES: Heal Squad Website: https://www.healsquad.com/ Maria Menounos Website: https://www.mariamenounos.com My Curated Macy's Page: Shop My Macy's Storefront OUAI: https://theouai.com/ use promo code: HEALSQUAD for 15% off Nanit: https://www.nanit.com/ use promo code: DREAM20 for 20% off your first order Prenuvo: Prenuvo.com/MARIA for $300 off   Terri Cole's Resources Instagram https://www.instagram.com/terricole/?hl=en  Website https://www.terricole.com/  HFC Toolkit https://www.terricole.com/hfc/  Book https://hfcbook.com/  Terri Cole on Heal Squad: https://youtu.be/xZbBICLPVAo?feature=shared  https://youtu.be/hD7ktpOScG8?feature=shared  ABOUT MARIA MENOUNOS: Emmy Award-winning journalist, TV personality, actress, 2x NYT best-selling author, former pro-wrestler and brain tumor survivor, Maria Menounos' passion is to see others heal and to get better in all areas of life. ABOUT HEAL SQUAD x MARIA MENOUNOS: A daily digital talk-show that brings you the world's leading healers, experts, and celebrities to share groundbreaking secrets and tips to getting better in all areas of life. DISCLAIMER: This Podcast and all related content ( published or distributed by or on behalf of Maria Menounos or Mariamenounos.com and healsquad.com ) is for informational purposes only and may include information that is general in nature and that is not specific to you. Any information or opinions provided by guest experts or hosts featured within website or on Company's Podcast are their own; not those of Maria Menounos or the Company. Accordingly, Maria Menounos and the Company cannot be responsible for any results or consequences or actions you may take based on such information or opinions. This podcast is presented for exploratory purposes only. Published content is not intended to be used for preventing, diagnosing, or treating a specific illness. If you have, or suspect you may have, a health-care emergency, please contact a qualified health care professional for treatment.

In this podcast, I interview psychotherapist Terri Cole about high functioning codependency (HFC), a term Terri coined to describe high-achieving individuals who take on excessive responsibility for others, often at their own expense. Terri explains the impact of HFC, such as stress and strained relationships, and highlights the importance of setting boundaries and allowing others to handle their own issues. Terri offers practical advice for breaking the cycle, including mindfulness techniques and self-regulation strategies. We discuss the benefits of overcoming HFC, like improved energy and relationships. Terri also shares relatable examples and encourages small, manageable steps to start change. The episode concludes with resources, including Terri's book and a starter kit for those looking to break free from HFC. More about Terri: Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert and the author of Boundary Boss and Too Much! For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show.  Liked this episode? Make sure to subscribe to our podcast and leave a review with your takeaways, this helps us create the exact content you want!  KEY POINTS:  00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:42 Meet Terry Cole: Expert on Codependency 01:51 Understanding High Functioning Codependency 05:45 Terry's Personal Journey and Insights 11:55 Traits of High Functioning Codependency 17:03 Challenges and Recovery 23:30 Setting Boundaries with Loved Ones 24:22 The Journey to Recovery 25:13 The Cost of Overfunctioning 26:18 The Real Flex: Resisting the Urge to Fix 26:58 Surrender and Acceptance 28:04 Recognizing High Functioning Codependency 28:40 Tools for Change 30:08 The Importance of Vulnerability 31:17 Living Life Fully Present 31:44 Practical Steps to Recovery 40:18 Family Dynamics and Delegation 42:45 Conclusion and Resources QUOTABLES: And really, you start to see how, if they just give themselves the gift of surrender—and truly seeing and loving people for who they are, nothing more, nothing less—they can allow themselves to experience life, relationships, and intimacy in a whole new way  - Julie Solomon I'm talking about things we do voluntarily—things we've automatically taken on as our job, even when they don't really need to be. The first question is, do I have the bandwidth to do this without becoming resentful? And the second is, do I even want to do it? - Terri Cole GUEST RESOURCES: Check out Terri's Book, TOO MUCH: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High Functioning Codependency. RESOURCES: [HIGH LEVEL SUPPORT] Ready to Scale Your Business and Build a Legacy? Join the Luminary Waitlist Now! [GET MORE VISIBLE] Turn your messaging into a client-attracting machine. Grow your authority and drive sales in just 1 hour per week. Click here to get access to my new training!  [ORDER] my book or Audible, Get What You Want: How to Go From Unseen to Unstoppable so you can leverage the power of your own influence. ➡️Follow Julie on Instagram! MUST HAVES THIS MONTH: [MEMBERFUL] Start growing your audience into a thriving community and membership business at memberful.com/julie. 

Happy Tuesday, Heal Squad! We're thrilled to bring back Terri Cole, psychotherapist and author of Too Much, as she dives into the journey of breaking free from high-functioning codependency. Terri walks us through her concept of high-functioning codependency and the hidden costs of over-giving and over-functioning - especially for highly capable, self-sufficient individuals who find themselves constantly managing the needs of others. Terri reveals practical steps to reclaim your energy, set boundaries, and resist the urge to "fix" everyone else's problems. She explores the importance of self-respect, learning to tolerate discomfort, and building autonomy. If you've ever felt exhausted from trying to manage others' lives, this episode is your wake-up call to prioritize your own inner peace. Get ready to rediscover your boundaries and tune in to find the freedom that comes with letting go! HEALERS & HEAL-LINERS: The Hidden Cost of High-Functioning Codependency. A form of over-giving and over-functioning that many high achievers don't recognize in themselves. While it may look like strength, it often leads to burnout, resentment, and compromised inner peace. Embrace Boundaries as Self-Respect. Boundaries aren't just about managing others—they're crucial for self-respect. Building boundaries protects our energy, preserves our well-being, and helps us step back from trying to "save" everyone else. Pause the Need to “Fix” Everything. Resist the urge to auto-give advice or fix others' problems. Instead, asking others what they think they should do promotes autonomy and healthier dynamics, allowing them to find their own solutions. -- HEAL SQUAD SOCIALS IG: https://www.instagram.com/healsquad/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@healsquadxmaria HEAL SQUAD RESOURCES: Heal Squad Website: https://www.healsquad.com/ Maria Menounos Website: https://www.mariamenounos.com My Curated Macy's Page: Shop My Macy's Storefront OUAI: https://theouai.com/ use promo code: HEALSQUAD for 15% off Nanit: https://www.nanit.com/ use promo code: DREAM20 for 20% off your first order Prenuvo: Prenuvo.com/MARIA for $300 off    Terri Cole's Resources Instagram https://www.instagram.com/terricole/?hl=en  Website https://www.terricole.com/  HFC Toolkit https://www.terricole.com/hfc/  Book https://hfcbook.com/  Terri Cole on Heal Squad: https://youtu.be/xZbBICLPVAo?feature=shared  https://youtu.be/hD7ktpOScG8?feature=shared  ABOUT MARIA MENOUNOS: Emmy Award-winning journalist, TV personality, actress, 2x NYT best-selling author, former pro-wrestler and brain tumor survivor, Maria Menounos' passion is to see others heal and to get better in all areas of life. ABOUT HEAL SQUAD x MARIA MENOUNOS: A daily digital talk-show that brings you the world's leading healers, experts, and celebrities to share groundbreaking secrets and tips to getting better in all areas of life. DISCLAIMER: This Podcast and all related content ( published or distributed by or on behalf of Maria Menounos or Mariamenounos.com and healsquad.com ) is for informational purposes only and may include information that is general in nature and that is not specific to you. Any information or opinions provided by guest experts or hosts featured within website or on Company's Podcast are their own; not those of Maria Menounos or the Company. Accordingly, Maria Menounos and the Company cannot be responsible for any results or consequences or actions you may take based on such information or opinions. This podcast is presented for exploratory purposes only. Published content is not intended to be used for preventing, diagnosing, or treating a specific illness. If you have, or suspect you may have, a health-care emergency, please contact a qualified health care professional for treatment.

If you are a "do-er", the one everyone counts on, carry a huge mental load, takes care of everything/everyone, has difficulty with other people being upset or struggling... this is a must listen!!   Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert and the author of Boundary Boss and Too Much! For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show.  For more, see terricole.com.

In this enlightening episode of Passion Struck, host John R. Miles welcomes back renowned therapist and author Terri Cole to discuss her latest book, "Too Much." Terri dives deep into high-functioning codependency (HFC) and how it affects our relationships and personal well-being.Discover the traits of HFC, the reasons behind the compulsion to fix others, and the importance of self-consideration. Terri shares powerful insights and practical exercises to help you break free from the cycle of over-giving and start prioritizing your own needs.Full show notes and resources:   https://passionstruck.com/terri-cole-break-high-functioning-codependency/SponsorsBabbel: Unlock the power of learning a new language with Babbel's innovative system. Passion Struck listeners can get 60% off their subscription at Babbel.com/PASSION.Hims: Regrow your hair before it's too late! Start your free online visit today at Hims.com/PASSIONSTRUCK.Quince: Experience luxury for less with Quince's premium products at radically low prices. Enjoy free shipping and 365-day returns at Quince.com/PASSION.For more information about our sponsors and promo codes, visit: passionstruck.com/dealsIn this episode, you will learn:The definition and traits of high-functioning codependencyHow to recognize when you're taking on others' problemsPractical steps to cultivate self-consideration and set healthy boundariesThe significance of understanding your relational blueprintConnect with Terri Cole: https://www.terricole.com/Order Passion StruckUnlock the principles that will transform your life! Order my book, Passion Struck: Twelve Powerful Principles to Unlock Your Purpose and Ignite Your Most Intentional Life. Recognized as a 2024 must-read by the Next Big Idea Club, this book has earned accolades such as the Business Minds Best Book Award, the Eric Hoffer Award, and the Non-Fiction Book Awards Gold Medal. Order your copy today and ignite your journey toward intentional living!Catch More Passion StruckMy solo episode on Bridging Divides Through Love and KindnessCan't miss my episode with Lily Walford on How to Create Compatible LoveWatch my episode with Teri Cole on How to Create Healthy Boundaries & Inner PeaceDiscover my interview with Amy Leigh Mercree on Master Your Aura, Master Your LifeCatch my interview with Dr. Scott Rick on Should You Marry for Love or MoneyIf you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review! Even one sentence helps. Be sure to include your Twitter or Instagram handle so we can personally thank you!Show Less

If you've ever felt like you're doing too much for everyone else (or even just one person) at the expense of yourself, this episode will speak to your soul. We're talking about high-functioning codependency with psychotherapist and author Terri Cole. She explains high-functioning codependency, how it differs from traditional codependency, and how to know if you're this type of person and/or in this type of relationship with a partner, friend, or family member. We discuss breaking these cycles, what to do instead of “auto advice giving,” co-parenting, the sneaky codependency of female friendships, why codependents attract narcissists, how to handle “boundary destroyers,” and more. Before Terri joins us, we're talking about our new favorite sex toy, an iconic email Rayna's sister-in-law sent to the family, and Ashley's strong feelings about breakfast hours. Enjoy! Find Terri on Instagram @terricole and get her new book Too Much.  Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for tour dates, merch, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: La Croix: Find a list of retailers that sell La Croix Sparkling Water at lacroixwater.com. Robinhood Gold: Get the privileges of high net worth for any net worth for $5/month at https://robinhood.com/gold. Hand and Stone: Enjoy free aromatherapy with your introductory facial at https://handandstone.com with code GGE or in spa. Fresh Direct: Get $50 off your first order at https://freshdirect.com with code GGE. Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first month's subscription and free shipping at http://nutrafol.com with code GGE10. Helix: Get 20% off all mattress orders and two free pillows at https://helixsleep.com/gge.

How can you free yourself from unconscious codependent patterns? Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist, relationship and empowerment expert, author and podcast host is back to share the most valuable lessons from her new book, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency. She shares how to stop auto-accommodating and over-giving, how to surrender and allow others to love you, how to slow down and learn from your inner child, and how to take one next right action at a time towards a more authentic and joyful life. - Join Cathy's virtual retreat, Oct 22 @ 9 am PT / 12 pm ET cathyheller.com/ready - Get a virtual ticket to Cathy's summit, Nov 4-5! cathyheller.com/november - Get Terri Cole's new book, Too Much: Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency https://hfcbook.com - Follow Terri on Instagram @terricole - Thanks Shopify! Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/dreamjob - Thanks Zocdoc! Find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at Zocdoc.com/dreamjob

Ever wonder why some people who seem highly capable and successful still struggle with people-pleasing and relationship dynamics? This episode features a powerful conversation with psychotherapist Terri Cole where we unravel the hidden patterns of high-functioning codependency — a form of codependency that often goes unrecognized, especially in high-achievers. Drawing from her new book, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency, Terri explains how behaviors like over-giving, fixing, and being overly invested in others' outcomes are often mistaken for love and care but can actually lead to burnout and resentment. We explore how to identify these patterns, shift out of autopilot advice giving, and build authentic connections through healthier boundaries. Packed with relatable insights and real life examples, this episode is a must listen for anyone seeking to reclaim their energy, set empowered boundaries, and transform their relationships. Dive in and discover how small shifts in behavior can lead to a more liberated and fulfilling life. Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss and Too Much! For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. —Terri's Book: https://hfcbook.com/  —Terri's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/  —Terri's Website: https://www.terricole.com/  —Terri & Mark's Crushing Codependency Course: https://crushcodependency.com/mark  Previous Podcast Episodes: —Redesigning Your Love Blueprint with Terri Cole: https://markgroves.com/episode/redesigning-your-love-blueprint-with-terri-cole/  —Codependency, The Disease To Please with Terri Cole: https://markgroves.com/episode/codependency-the-disease-to-please-with-terri-cole/  —Crushing Codependency Myths with Terri Cole: https://markgroves.com/episode/terri-cole-crushing-codependency-myths/ —How To Become A Boundary Boss with Terri Cole: https://markgroves.com/episode/how-to-become-a-boundary-boss-terri-cole/  Resources From Episode: —Melody Beattie's Podcast Episode: Breaking Free from Codependency with Melody Beattie: https://markgroves.com/episode/breaking-free-from-codependency-with-melody-beattie/  —Terri & Mark's Crushing Codependency Course: https://crushcodependency.com/mark  If you want to dive deeper into Mark's content, search through every episode, find specific topics we've covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/markgroves Themes: High-functioning Codependency, Terri Cole, Breaking Codependency, Self-Care and Boundaries, Emotional Burnout Recovery, Codependency in Relationships, Codependency vs Independence, People-Pleasing Habits, Setting Healthy Boundaries, Terri Cole Too Much Book, Relationship Dynamics, Emotional Health Podcast, Empowered Relationships, Overcoming Codependency, Personal Growth Strategies, Mental Health and Relationships, Healing Emotional Exhaustion, Psychology and Relationships, Self-Love and Self-Worth, Transforming Relationships This episode is sponsored by: —BON CHARGE: Use code MARKGROVES to save 15% at http://boncharge.com/MARKGROVES —Qualia Life: Use code MARKGROVES to save 15% at https://qualialife.com/markgroves  Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This country needs a group therapy session, and our favorite psychotherapist, Terri Cole, is up for the task. PRE-ORDER OUR NEW BOOK and find live tour dates + more by clicking here: https://linktr.ee/ivehaditpodcast Thank you to our sponsors: This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp: Take off the mask, with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ihip today to get 10% off your first month. LolaVie: Get 15% off LolaVie with the code Hadit15 at https://www.lolavie.com/Hadit15 #lolaviepod Sundays: Get 40% off your first order of Sundays. Go to https://sundaysfordogs.com/HADIT or use code HADIT at checkout. Follow Us: I've Had It Podcast: @Ivehaditpodcast Jennifer Welch: @mizzwelch Angie "Pumps" Sullivan: @pumpspumpspumps Special Guest: Terri Cole @terri_cole