You Need Therapy

Last week, some college grads were handed the short hand of the stick when it came to their graduation ceremony. Sooo, this week Kat is reflecting on some things that could have been helpful to hear as she graduated college. In this episode, she offers some thoughts that may feel more inspiring to hear as all the recent graduates celebrate their meaningful and important accomplishment. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat responds to a listener email about wanting to buy her own engagement ring because her partner can't afford the one she wants.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Troubled Teen Industry has some explaining to do and this week Caroline Cole and Rebecca Mellinger Grone are here to tell us why. They are the co-hosts of the podcast Trapped in Treatment (produced by Paris Hilton & Warner Brothers) that weaves together personal accounts with historical detail and expert opinions to shine a light on what really happens at teen behavior modification centers and how this billion-dollar industry has flourished for so long. The industry that promises hope and help to parents struggling with making the best decisions for their kids... is actually handing out more trauma than actual therapy. As Kat, Caroline, and Rebecca talk about these programs, in which some have ZERO licensed clinical staff & are run by teams focussed on dollar signs, this episode will leave you not just shocked, but pissed off.  Caroline Cole is an entrepreneur, policy advocate, and Special Advisor to the International Coalition Against Restraint and Seclusion. After 2 ½ years in a “troubled teen” program, she knew she needed to change the system. In her work, Caroline draws from her own experiences with trauma to drive social change. Caroline, alongside Paris Hilton, penned the federal bill, The Stop Institutional Child Abuse Act, and has successfully passed laws across the country to prevent youth from being abused in institutional settings.  Rebecca Mellinger Grone harnesses the power of entertainment and media platforms to drive social change. Head of Impact at Paris Hilton's media company 11:11 Media, she is reforming the "Troubled Teen Industry" through policy change, public awareness, and providing direct assistance for institutional abuse survivors.   Trapped In Treatment  www.stopinstitutionalchildabuse.com    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com You Need Therapy (find our merch here!) Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat gives feedback to a listener who is afraid she is going to resent her partner who is in the military for his work obligations.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat has best selling author, Amanda Montell on YNT to talk about her new book, The Age of Magical Overthinking. In this episode, they talk about some of the cognitive biases that we all use to try and make sense of the information overload we love these days.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat tells a story from her recent trip to Chicago and a lesson she learned from the grace her husband gave her for booking the wrong days for their hotel room!    Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is joined by the amazing Jonathan Merritt, who is about to release his first children's book, My Guncle And Me. Jonathan is an award-winning columnist and commentator on politics, spirituality, and culture. He is a contributing editor for The Week and has been featured on prominent national outlets including The New York Times, USA Today, The Washington Post, The Atlantic, and CNN. He is also a profoundly kind, caring, and inspiring soul who helped create a space for a conversation about safety, love, & inclusivity. Listen to this episode to hear about what Jonathan calls the difference between "A Thing" and "A Version of a Thing" and learn how he went from experiencing a malicious public outing to feeling more loved & celebrated for who he is than ever before.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat replies to a listener who is wondering what will give her worth and value if she stops performing for others.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is talking about Performative vulnerability again. Performative vulnerability is what happens when we use sharing (or oversharing) parts of our lives in order to gain something in return, such as attention or feelings of superiority. It can look like an example of altruism on the outside; risking judgment for the greater good of others feeling less alone or more connected. However, the intentions of those who engage in this are far from selfless. And although it is super frustrating when we see this displayed around us, this episode is less about how we can call others behavior out and more about how we can learn to pay better  attention to our intentions and our actions.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, a listener writes in about not knowing how to respond to clients as a new counselor/therapist. Kat talks about how to handle situations when you don't know the right thing to say and how to build confidence as a therapist.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Julia Langer is back again to talk all things deconstruction. This episode breaks down what deconstruction is, what inspires someone to deconstruct something, and what are some common misunderstandings surrounding the experience.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, fellow Three Cords Therapy therapist Julia Langer joins us again to talk about challenging relationships.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Josie Oldham LMSW, joins Kat to talk about Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Josie walks us through the components that are present in OCD and gives us a sneak peak into some strategies that can help manage some of the distress invooved within the disorder.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bo us episode of YNT that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week a listener writes in about some questionable text messages that she found on her partners phone.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat gets a new couch. During this episode Kat takes some time to process how our tendency to fix our emotional discomfort might be getting in the way of us actually getting what we need and living the lives we truly long for. In a world where we are obsessed with feeling good ALL of the time - it may be in our best interest to identify for ourselves if feeling “better” is really what we are searching for.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, a listener asks Kat for input on navigating the relationship she has with her mom. Creating boundaries as an adult when you leave your family of origin and begin to create your own adult family can be one of the most confusing experiences that sends messages that we are doing things wrong when we are not. Listen to this episode to hear some of Kat's perspective on what happens when our parent's needs become our responsibility.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Ally Fallon is back for round two of YNT, right ahead of the release of her new book, Write Your Story. Her core message for readers is that they already have the magic to be the hero in their own lives – and the number one way to harness your main character energy is to write down your stories. Using her proven 8-step framework, Ally expertly guides readers to tell a more interesting story and begin to make meaning and live with more purpose. In this conversation, Ally and Kat talk about the importance (and discomfort) of doing things they aren't good at, how we are making meaning regardless of if we want to or not, and what it's like to have a therapist as a parent (possible foreshadowing for Kat's future).  Learn more about Ally HERE.  Follow Ally on Instagram HERE. Listen to the Write Your Story podcast HERE.  Click HERE to see the new YNT merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat shares her favorite and least favorite parts of being a therapist and what advice she would have given herself before she decided to go into this field! Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat has her friend and licensed aesthetician, Hannah Ellis, back again to dive into the confusing world of skin care, anti aging, and the beauty industry. Have you heard of Frownies? Well, Kat had not and was surprised to find out it wasn't a nickname for the wrinkles you get when you frown. They are in fact, one more of the products being marketed to us to “slow down the aging process” and Hannah gives us the 411 on if they really work AND if we really need them. And in the biggest plot twist of the podcast this year, Kat and Hannah go from laughing about Frownies to processing the fact that we are all going to die someday…  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.  This week Kat shares a FUN announcement and then tells a personal story (plus a lesson she learned from said story) from her honeymoon.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat has one of the Three Cords Therapy therapists, Julia Langer, to teach us about something that applies to all of us! During this episode Julia talks about the universal needs of a child (that apply to all humans!) and what happens when these needs do not get met.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answered questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about ways to respond to friends and family when they want to talk about things you no longer want to talk about in recovery.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we are back talking about one of our favorite topics with the help of fellow licensed mental health counselor, Jessica Baum. Jessica is the founder of The Relationship Institute of Palm Beach and her work is focused on developing a meaningful connection with oneself and in understanding our own core patterns so that we can better understand how we relate in our relationships. She recently came out with a new book Anxiously Attached to offer a roadmap to help you go from anxiously attached to building strong, secure relationships. In this episode we hear Jessica's take on Attachment Theory, talk about the "anxious avoidant dance",  and discuss how one's insecure attachment can be affected by using dating apps.  Learn more about Jessica HERE. Follow Jessica on Instagram HERE.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.   This week, however, Kat is taking time to celebrate National Eating Disorder Awareness (NEDA) Week by talking about a form of disordered eating that gets overlooked very easily. Orthorexia is a type of disordered eating where someone becomes obsessed with the health of foods. It is not yet recognized in the DSM (diagnostic statistical manual for mental health disorders) but regardless this type of obsession with food/health can lead to an official diagnosis of an eating disorder a couple of different ways.   Resources for eating disorders - Books: Life Without Ed Feed Yourself Body Image Workbook   Social Media Accounts: @meanttoeat @Yrfatfriend @Victoriabrowne Full Orthorexia Episode: Orthorexia + Whole30   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is joined by not one but two guests, Jolenta Greenberg and Kristen Meinzer. Jolenta and Kristen both consider themselves advice critics. They spent years living by and critiquing advice from self-help books for their podcast By The Book and now they're ready to discuss wellness-related questions and help debunk all the self-help myths and promises in their new podcast, How To Be Fine which premiered on February 23rd. In this episode, Kat, Jolenta, & Kristen talk about their experiences- what they thought was all BS, what they learned, what worked, and what was just weird.  Follow Jolenta: @jolenta_g Follow Kristen: @k10meinzer Check out How To Be Fine: @howtobefinepod Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat gives some quick things to consider to help differentiate between what things that are being sold to us on social media are legit and what ones are not as necessary as they look. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Tara Booker is back for another installment of “The Difference Between,” a series where we break down the difference between a mental health related topic and how it shows up in pop culture. This week we rolled it back to the basics and talked about what therapy really is versuses how some popular tv shows portray it. Spoiler: It isn't just us nodding our heads and asking you how you feel and it also isn't us telling you what to do!   Then we breakdown why sometimes “No” is a complete sentence and why sometimes its helpful to offer more information when setting a boundary. It all goes back to the grey nuanced reality of what relationships really are- and there isn't a right way that works all of the time! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week a listener writes in about the triggering content around diet and exercise that is constantly being brought up in her family's group chat. Kat talks about ways to confront or “carefront” the issue and things to consider when struggling to feel confident sticking up for yourself! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The conversation that has been living rent free in Kat's head for months is now here. And she is THRILLED to have Registered Dietitian AND Certified Eating Disorder Specialist, Caroline Shermer, here to process it all with her. In this episode Kat and Caroline talk about their frustration felt while watching vulnerable populations who are desperate for help be taken advantage of by creative social media marketing tactics. You'll also hear about the latest buzzwords that are being co-opted by influencers (hello gut microbiome) to catch your attention and sell you anything and everything you don't need. Lastly, they discuss how they individually have learned to maintain their own moral and ethical guidelines while engaging in social media in their respective businesses.    More about Caroline: Caroline provides nutrition counseling empowering her clients to discover all they are meant to be and meant to eat apart from their eating disorder. She sees clients virtually nationwide and in person in Nashville TN at her private practice, Meant To Eat Nutrition Counseling. You can find her on meanttoeat.com and @meanttoeat on Instagram! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about the importance of allowing individuals to identify and describe their own experiences, especially when it comes to trauma.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is diving into the type of trauma that tends to get lost, ignored, and easily overlooked. There is a kind of trauma often labeled as "little t" that doesn't look like the typical large scale events you can easily pin point. When this type of trauma is experienced, usually, you'll be able to see the effects of the experience before you recognize the significance. Which is why so many people walk into therapy for the first time looking for relief from a symptom but assuming the problem is them— not something they went through. Listen this week to gain a better understanding of what types of things CAN be traumatic for individuals. Our hope is having a broader idea of the things that can alter the way we respond to the world, can offer both empathy and compassion for our struggles AND opportunities for healing.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about ways to address comments from friends, co-workers etc. that feel hurtful or passive aggressive.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat invites her friend and registered dietitian, Crystal Lunenshloss, back to the show. In this episode you will find both Crystal and Kat differentiating between diet culture and the truth of health.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat reads a listener e-mail responding to a recent episode about culture norms around women and marriage. This episode serves as a reminder that we all can experience life in our own unique way without needing to invalidate someone else's beliefs, experiences, or choices. And, as we do this, we can continue to build each other up and help each other develop our own truth and narrative to our own stories!   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is talking about something that she has become more acutely aware of in the recent years-- her age. The process of growing up and "getting old" can be a weird one- and feel like a sudden one. In this episode, Kat takes listeners through the journey she has found herself on as she realizes that millennials are no longer the future and also no longer the problem child of a generation. We hope this conversation can serve as a fun and interesting listen that maybe doesn't teach you anything new but validates something you might be going through as well. After all, things just tend to feel better when we do them together.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat...   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you heard of a marriage pact? You know, the deal you make with one of your best friends that says, if you aren't married by a certain age, you'll marry each other. Why would anyone do this, you ask? That is one of the questions Kat is asking this week as she dives into the pressure many women experience in finding a partner in early adulthood. Maybe it has to do with the fact single men have historically been swooned over as "eligible bachelors" while women are labeled "old maids" and "spinsters. Or maybe it is because they were scarred by the plot of "My Best Friends Wedding." This episode invites you into the current conversation Kat is having with herself as she reevaluates the way her younger self idealized finding a husband.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat answers a listener question about her and her partners level of physical intimacy.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is diving into the world of shame and secrecy. In this episode you will get a refresh on what shame is, where it comes from, and what it feeds off of. Then Kat walks us through the role secrecy plays in our own shame.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.  This week on Couch Talks Kat answers a listener e-mail asking for help navigating the diet culture ambush that comes at the beginning of each year.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy New Year!!!!!!! And on this New Year's Day Kat is challenging us with a new way to approach New Year's resolutions. Imagine walking into 2024 with the goal of becoming more of who you actually are versus trying to be who others expect you to be… sound enticing? Well, listen to this week's episode to find out why this might be more beneficial than you may imagine and more important than you think!  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that's listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com This week, Kat answers a question a listener sent in after listening to Monday's episode. If people accept the love they think they can get, how do I start to believe I can get more? This turns into a conversation about the difference between self esteem and self worth and why we need to spend more time teaching others about self worth versus how to get self esteem. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is a special week because Patrick, AKA Big P, AKA Kat's boyfriend joins the podcast for the FIRST TIME (and hopefully not the last). Have you ever found yourself crying over something like mustard being put on your burger when you asked for ketchup or getting tots instead of fries? How about getting cream cheese on your bagel when you asked for butter? Chances are- you know exactly what we are talking about and this week Kat is walking listeners through the most recent time she cried over getting the wrong food order. Why do small inconveniences sometimes take away our ability to utilizes rational thinking and drive us to make these mountains out of molehills? What is underneath our inability to regulate our emotions in the moment? Kat talks about how she processed her "dramatic" moment and brings Patrick on to give his take on what he saw going on as it was happening. Learn how to gain information about your needs during experiences when it feels like your disappointment is someone else's fault.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode if You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.This week, Kat is ending the year with a round of rapid fire questions: 1. Process for setting new year goals?2. Dating advice for someone having no luck? 3. Favorite Harry Potter book & movie? 4. One daily non negotiable to live a healthy life?   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week y'all are in for A TREAT with our guest, Courtney Grimes, LCSW.  Courtney's passion for helping others is something you will feel in the first 3 seconds of this episode. You will also probably laugh in the first few seconds because she is as hilarious as she is passionate and smart. This particular conversation was inspired by a comment that Courtney made on a work trip that she and Kat went on together when they were talking about the gaps and holes in the treatment and recovery process. Courtney said, "No one else cares about your recovery." This may at first sound off putting and harsh. But when you dig into it, this sentence offers up a huge serving of empowerment to take ownership and control of one's own life. What makes it so hard for people to maintain recovery at home when in treatment? Why do triggers pop up everywhere? What are we supposed to do with said triggers? How am I supposed to heal and be healthy if the world is so F*ed up??? You will find about 1 million reasons to take notes during this episode, so grab a pen and paper (or your notes app on your phone). One of Kat's favorite Courtney takeaways was, "Everything boils down to two things things: love and fear. Fear is made up of what if, versus what is. And what if isn't real." So good, right??  Courtney co-founded a group therapy practice in Nashville called Symmetry Counseling. She serves as the Clinical Director for non-profit Renewed, and more recently founded The Collective. The Collective is an Extended Outpatient program, designed to bridge the gap between IOP and OP services, while providing a welcoming community for clients.  Follow The Collective on Instagram: @thecollectivenashville Follow Symmetry counting on Instagram: @symmertrycounselingnashville Follow Renewed on Instagram: @renewedsupport Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode if You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat responds to a listener who doesn't want to spend her last Christmas before she gets engaged with her partner's family.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat discusses how and when humor fits into how we process trauma.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Gift giving analysis paralysis is a real thing, and this week, Kat is talking about why the season of giving can be so stressful sometimes. Then, she shares a special mental health minded gift guide to help promote simple gift ideas that anyone can benefit and find joy from!   Kat's Amazon Mental Health Minded Gift Guide Giving Keys Bombas Socks Able   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com. This week, a listener writes to Kat about wanting to leave her current job but feeling stuck because of the guilt she has around what it would mean for her boss and co-workers if she left. Kat shares an impactful conversation she had with her boss when she left her job in 2016 and how it helped her to not take on unnecessary guilt and shame.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever decided just to go rogue and things actually turned out better than you could have planned for? Well this week, Kat is talking about a recent last minute (really last second) decision to change plans that worked out in everyone's favor. In this episode you will hear Kat talk about the importance of being flexible with plans and a small mindset change that has started to make a BIG difference in her life. In his book, The Infinite Game, Simon Sinek details the importance in playing to stay in the game versus to beat an opponent. And being that our current culture is obsessed with competition and comparison- Kat thought it may be helpful to talk about some of the brilliance she gathered from Simon's book and viral motivational talks.  Watch the viral TikTok Get The Infinite Game by Simon Sinek Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don't know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.