Podcast appearances and mentions of Edwin H Friedman

"Till death do us part." Those words haunt you. The enemy was supposed to be outside of your home and family. Easy to see. Protection just a prayer or a locked door away. But the one stealing from and killing and destroying you is the one you lie beside at night. The one you promised your forever to.And he's counting on it. You need to listen if: You're overcome with desperation to leave and consumed by guilt to stay Your husband is the greatest source of pain and harm in your life You are responsible for everything, and you are constantly sacrificing your physical health, life dreams, and sanity to make your marriage work (to no avail) You've begun to wonder just how much of his behavior is intentional and whether he truly wants to destroy you, piece by piece Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here**Friedman's Fables by Edwin H. Friedman 1990. Copyright Guilford Press. Reprinted with permission of The Guilford PressIf you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

We're back for season two! In this episode, Fawn Ellerbrook sits down with a few of our pastors to chat about what we've been learning since our last episode in 2021. Each of these men are incredible leaders and they share some great encouragement for challenging yourself to take steps of growth and to chase after your goals & dreams. To learn more about Faith Community, visit FaithCommunity.co or connect on Instagram, Facebook or YouTube  @faithcommunity.  Show Notes: In this episode, Pastor Josh mentions a book called "Failure of Nerve" by Edwin H. Friedman. 00:00 Welcome & Introductions04:30 What we're learning18:30 What we're seeing in culture21:30 How do we lead & follow Christ in the midst of change?25:40 Finding yourself in Scripture27:06 Hot wings & the desire for instant gratification32:50 The need for boundaries with technology 26:51 Reconnecting with our identity and the narrative of the Gospel41:45 Looking to the future & processing change52:00 Discovering new things to learn55:45 How to make a move on your goals1:04:15 How do you measure success?

Unexpected 2/2 ft. Andrew Park *Season Finale*   This is the official ending of season 2. In this episode we wrap up the life-changing story of Andrew Park, current president of GYC, and how God led him to complete surrender. God has a place for each of us in His service, and it's been our aim to set before you the lives of amazing people who have discovered their calling. I hope you've been inspired to Go. Discover. Accomplish whatever God has called you to do.   This week's topics include: How to stand firm in the midst of negative peer pressure. The importance of treating new believers and visitors with special care and kindness. How to register for this year's GYC in Phoenix, Arizona.   Andrew's Favorite Books   The Bible and Spirit of Prophecy (EGW Books) 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey: https://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-People-Powerful/dp/1982137274/ref=sr_1_1?crid=39XSL0WZD5VLR&keywords=7+habits+of+highly+effective+people&qid=1659579949&sprefix=7+ha%2Caps%2C200&sr=8-1 The Failure of Nerve by Edwin H. Friedman: https://www.amazon.com/Failure-Nerve-Revised-Leadership-Quick/dp/1596272791/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=the+failure+of+nerve&qid=1659580124&sprefix=the+failure+of+nerve%2Caps%2C128&sr=8-1 Business Unusual by Johnny Wong: https://www.amazon.com/Business-Unusual-Competencies-Effective-Ministry/dp/1539844560/ref=sr_1_1?crid=OMWF1X2ZUGH9&keywords=business+unusual&qid=1659580254&sprefix=business+unusual%2Caps%2C107&sr=8-1     Support the channel: https://www.flowcode.com/page/samuelfrancis Visit our website: https://www.thenextdropoff.com/ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/?hl=en   Follow GYC on IG: https://www.instagram.com/gycweb/?hl=en REGISTER today for GYC: https://gycweb.org/   Check out our clothing brand: https://wearjesusis.com/ Email: thenextdropoff@gmail.com   Thanks for listening and join us again!

When you create a message with emotional content, it attracts people. Leadership consultant Edwin H. Friedman puts an even finer point on it, saying, “People can only hear you when they are moving toward you, and they are not likely to when your words are pursuing them.” Emotion pulls, it doesn't chase.I've always been a fan of humour in advertising, and most of the ten-thousand-plus commercials I've directed over the last twenty-five years were humorous. All marketing is an intrusion. It piggybacks on the real reason people have focused their attention—watching television, listening to radio, perusing a newspaper or surfing online. They are there for the content, not the advertising (though the Super Bowl may be the one exception to this rule). So if advertising is an interloper, how do you make that interruption the most polite or, at minimum, the least intrusive message possible? Even more, how do you give something back in return for the loud knocking? Humour is one answer.It's important to understand the difference between humour and comedy. Humour is giving, it's generous. Comedy subtracts and is usually sarcastic or biting. That's why humour is better suited to marketing. To make someone smile, or laugh, forges an emotional connection. Humour gathers people. Think about people you know. The ones who make you smile are the ones you most want to be around. Humour doesn't pursue, it pulls.Not long ago, I attended a talk given by filmmaker Richard Curtis at the Cannes advertising festival. Curtis is a very successful screenwriter and director whose credits include Mr. Bean, Blackadder, Four Weddings and a Funeral, Love Actually, Bridget Jones's Diary, and Notting Hill, to name but a few. Not a bad resumé. He was in Cannes to unveil a new marketing campaign he was spearheading to tackle extreme poverty and climate change. The campaign was going to begin with a cinema ad that would be shown on the same day in every movie theatre in North America and Europe. It would be the first global cinema ad ever done. When Curtis previewed the ad during his talk, the press was surprised that its treatment of extreme poverty and climate change was humorous. Didn't the subject matter call for a more serious tone?Here's what Curtis said: In his early days as a writer on Blackadder, he realized the only way to get the audience to remember an important plot point was to attach it to humour. So if Sir Nigel Ridgley was coming for dinner, few people would remember that beat. But if Sir Nigel Fatbottom was coming, no one forgot. Humour made it stick.Now, humour isn't the only answer to effective marketing, but it illustrates the rule. Emotional content makes people care. That said, most learning institutions put much more value on intellectual reasoning than they do on emotion. Yet emotion fuels the world. Even in a math-and-science-driven institution like NASA, the decision to go to the moon wasn't driven by rational facts. It was propelled by the emotion of John F. Kennedy's challenge of landing a man on the moon by 1970 to prove American superiority. Throughout the 1960s, NASA continually marketed the moonshot with emotion. It signed an ongoing contract with Life magazine to feature full-colour stories on the astronauts and their families; it framed the new satellite communications technology and even the small RCA cameras the astronauts took onboard as innovations that would have a beneficial impact on the daily lives of Americans. Maybe the most emotional pitch was the one that warned of letting the Russians (read: Communists) control outer space, dropping bombs on America “like kids dropping rocks from a highway bridge.” That pitch alone persuaded the government to keep signing those big cheques.Full text is here www.penguinrandomhouse.ca/books/258334…0373/excerpt

"Till death do us part." Those words haunt you. The enemy was supposed to be outside of your home and family. Easy to see. Protection just a prayer or a locked door away. But the one stealing from and killing and destroying you is the one you lie beside at night. The one you promised your forever to.And he's counting on it. You need to listen if: You're overcome with desperation to leave and consumed by guilt to stay Your husband is the greatest source of pain and harm in your life You are responsible for everything, and you are constantly sacrificing your physical health, life dreams, and sanity to make your marriage work (to no avail) You've begun to wonder just how much of his behavior is intentional and whether he truly wants to destroy you, piece by piece Read or download the transcript**Friedman's Fables by Edwin H. Friedman 1990. Copyright Guilford Press. Reprinted with permission of The Guilford PressIf you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

Welcome back to Thy Kingdom Pod, a podcast about living in the unfinished mission of Jesus, we're so glad you're tuning in. A traditional rule of etiquette has always been to never talk about politics in our shared spaces. Even in our churches, there are issues that pastors seem reluctant to discuss, especially if they involve race or other social topics. But what if discussing these issues is vital to the church's mission on earth? Joining us on the show is Jon Stallsmith, the pastor of Grace Snellville. In this discussion, Jon shares about his own journey as a pastor, how his church has approached the issue of racial justice, and how the church can bring a perspective to the table that is informed by a deep understanding of scripture and creates opportunity for discipleship. Jon's sermon referenced in the episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6lZTtjRT6h4&t=1s&ab_channel=GraceSnellville "A Failure of Nerve" by Edwin H. Friedman: https://www.amazon.com/Failure-Nerve-Leadership-Age-Quick/dp/159627042X

Edwin Friedman maintained that paradox and playfulness were important to maintaining a non-anxious presence. The leverage of the dependent and the conflict of wills are key concepts to understanding how this works. Show Notes: Friedman's Fables by Edwin H. Friedman Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message

Luke, Hannah, and Chris discuss why the “soft” stuff of leadership really is the “hard” stuff: human dynamics are incredibly complex, so anytime we are in a role where we work with people in some capacity, it gets hard. This episode dives into the challenge and possible solutions to this leadership quandary. In today's episode, we also mention the book by Edwin H. Friedman called A Failure of Nerve, Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix. You can locate the book here.  

When something is beyond our control, our initial reaction to this is one filled with fear. Yet, during these times, our dependence on Jesus is what helps us through. What would it look like to start “scaring” ourselves in a good way, so that we can grow closer to Jesus? Join Rick as we continue a series devoted to practices that naturally draw us into a closer “orbit” around Jesus. Diving into the Gospels, we’ll look at examples of how Jesus guides others when they’re experiencing fear. Have you joined the Pigs? We’re a group of friends ready to go all-in with Jesus—to live a life that’s “free indeed” because we’re wholly dependent on him. Join us for exclusive behind-the-scenes insights, opportunities to make your voice matter, prayer support, and connections to other Pigs inside our private Facebook group. Join Here: www.mylifetree.com/pratj-member-sign-up/ Related Resources: The Jesus-Centered Planner 2020 https://www.mylifetree.com/shop/jesus-centered-planner-2020/ The Jesus-Centered Bible www.mylifetree.com/jesus-centered-bible-shop-page/ The Jesus-Centered Life: The Life You Didn’t Think Was Possible, With the Jesus You Never Knew by Rick Lawrence www.mylifetree.com/shop/the-jesus-centered-life/ The Jesus-Centered Journal  https://www.mylifetree.com/?s=jesus-centered+journal&post_type=product&tags=1&limit=20&ixwps=1 Center Your Life on Jesus https://www.mylifetree.com/shop/jesus-centered-devotions-center-life-jesus/ Drawn In: A Perfectly Messy Way to Experience Jesus https://www.mylifetree.com/shop/drawn-in/ The God Who Fights for You: How He Shows Up in Your Suffering by Rick Lawrence www.amazon.com/God-Who-Fights-You-Suffering/dp/073697704X Spiritual Grit: A Journey Into Endurance. Character. Confidence. Hope.       www.mylifetree.com/shop/spiritual-grit/ Growing Spiritual Grit for Teenagers: 40 Devotions   https://www.mylifetree.com/shop/growing-spiritual-grit-for-teenagers-40-devotions/ Growing Spiritual Grit: 52 Personal Devotions    https://www.mylifetree.com/shop/growing-spiritual-grit-52-personal-devotions/ A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix by Edwin H. Friedman https://www.amazon.com/Failure-Nerve-Leadership-Age-Quick/dp/159627042X Photo by Jakub Kriz on Unsplash https://unsplash.com/photos/3FFEdm8TOek

Tracy Judge (EP 110) discusses how she left her job with no set plan (and is thriving), why we should always give ourselves grace and how the best times are always after the toughest times. Enjoy! Show Notes: 4:40 - Missing the restaurant industry.  6:48 - What is a travel director? 8:10 - Living in Philly vs. San Diego. 9:36 - What inspired Tracy to go out on her own.  14:14 - "Courageous or really, really crazy ... " 17:00 - "I love creative minds ... " 19:33 - The decision to go to grad school.  23:25 - The application of your personal life in business.  26:20 - "Give yourself grace ... " 32:25 - The blackout experience.  37:09 - Advice for acquiring quality mentors. 39:28 - "The hard times are what builds character in who you are ..." 45:20 - Tracy the saxophone player.  47:13 - "Put down that 40!" 52:02 - "I really exist to help other people grow their businesses and help them as entrepreneurs ..." 56:01 - The personal and professional benefits of joining a professional association. How to reach Tracy: Website | Instagram | Linkedin | Facebook  Book Recommendations: Start With Why - Simon Sinek A Failure of Nerve - Edwin H. Friedman

Most have heard that you should love God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength, but what does “all your strength” really entail? When our strength inevitably fails, what does it look like to rely on Jesus and stand our ground? Join Rick for a series exploring the human side of Jesus and the practical ways we can incorporate this into our lives. By looking at examples in the Bible, we’ll explore how Jesus modeled strength to us. Have you joined the Pigs? We’re a group of friends ready to go all-in with Jesus—to live a life that’s “free indeed” because we’re wholly dependent on him. Join us for exclusive behind-the-scenes insights, opportunities to make your voice matter, prayer support, and connections to other Pigs inside our private Facebook group. Join Here: www.mylifetree.com/pratj-member-sign-up/ Related Resources: Spiritual Grit: A Journey Into Endurance. Character. Confidence. Hope.  www.mylifetree.com/shop/spiritual-grit/ Growing Spiritual Grit: 52 Personal Devotions  https://www.mylifetree.com/shop/growing-spiritual-grit-52-personal-devotions/ Growing Spiritual Grit for Teenagers: 40 Devotions  https://www.mylifetree.com/shop/growing-spiritual-grit-for-teenagers-40-devotions/ The Jesus-Centered Bible: www.mylifetree.com/jesus-centered-bible-shop-page/ The Jesus-Centered Journal: https://www.mylifetree.com/?s=jesus-centered+journal&post_type=product&tags=1&limit=20&ixwps=1 The Jesus-Centered Life: The Life You Didn’t Think Was Possible, With the Jesus You Never Knew by Rick Lawrence www.mylifetree.com/shop/the-jesus-centered-life/ The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma-ebook/dp/B00G3L1C2K A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix, Revised Edition by Edwin H. Friedman https://www.amazon.com/Failure-Nerve-Leadership-Quick-Revised-ebook/dp/B071R6P7MJ/ref=sr_1_3?crid=1820U1M8F32FP&keywords=failure+of+nerve&qid=1557779173&s=digital-text&sprefix=failure+o%2Cdigital-text%2C202&sr=1-3 Photo by Caleb Ekeroth on Unsplash

Following on from last week, Jo and Steph discuss three more pitfalls of power: celebrity status, experiencing powerlessness and hoarding power. Listen in to hear why being a celebrity is so often confused with anointing, what experiencing powerlessness can lead us to do and how to avoid hoarding power in order to give other people a voice.   Book mentioned: The Failure of Nerve - Edwin H. Friedman   Discussion questions:   1. Would you do what you are doing anyway, if nobody was watching? Is there anything you wouldn’t be doing if other people were watching? 2. Can you think of a time where you experienced feeling powerless? How did it make you feel? How did you react? 3. Are you ever tempted to hoard power? How can you amplify other people’s voices, especially those voices that are underrepresented? 4. Which of the 6 pitfalls mentioned in the last two podcasts (or any others you can think of) are you most vulnerable to? (1. Not recognizing Relative Power (rather than positional power) 2. Lack of accountability and transparency 3. (The lie) that the end justifies the means 4. Seeking celebrity status 5. Responding badly to experiencing powerlessness and 6. Hoarding power) Follow Lead Stories Podcast to interact with Steph and Jo: Twitter: @LeadStoriesVox Instagram: @LeadStoriesPodcast Facebook: LeadStoriesPodcast Connect with Jo at www.josaxton.com @josaxton Connect with Steph at www.pastorsteph.com @pastorsteph Subscribe on iTunes to have the podcast automatically download to your device every week or listen at www.leadstoriespodcast.com www.leadstoriesmedia.com    Don’t forget to check out Lead Stories Community at www.leadstoriesmedia.com/community

Our Show [00:15] Introduction - ZAMRs (and our other miscellaneous content) are located on our YouTube Channel [02:41] Fable - Kevin Love, The Cavs, and Anxiety. [10:20] Are things getting worse? We take a look through our lense of Systems Theory. [37:55] Conclusion and shoutouts. Resources and quotes from this episode A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix Paperback by Edwin H. Friedman The ultimate irony of societal regression, however, is that eventually it co-opts the very institutions that train and support the leaders who could pull a society out of its devolution. It does this by concentrating their focus on data and technique rather than on emotional process and the leader's own self. These always goes hand-in-hand. Roberta Gilbert, MD Contact us (and special thanks) Find us on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/theofpodcast Email us at the theOFPodcast@gmail.com Special thanks to Jesse Hufstetler for our theme song. You can find him at Jetler and Fortune Of Souls

Empathy is usually seen as a positive thing...so why didn't Jesus use it to set people free? Join Rick and Becky as they wrap up a month-long focus on resetting your life by examining the difference between empathy and compassion and why they shouldn’t be used interchangeably. Turning to the Bible, they’ll explore Lazarus' death and resurrection (John 11) through a new lens, paying ridiculous attention to how Jesus displays compassion to Martha and Mary, but shies away from empathy. Have you joined the Pigs? We're a group of friends ready to go all in with Jesus--to live a life that's “free indeed” because we’re wholly dependent on him. Join us for exclusive behind-the-scenes insights, opportunities to make your voice matter, prayer support, and connections to other Pigs inside our private Facebook group. Join Here- https://www.mylifetree.com/pratj-member-sign-up/ Related: {Pre-order} Spiritual Grit- https://www.amazon.com/Spiritual-Grit-Endurance-Character-Confidence/dp/1470750899/ Jesus-Centered Bible- https://www.mylifetree.com/jesus-centered-bible-shop-page/ Brené Brown on Empathy- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw Brené Brown TED Talk on vulnerability- https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability A Failure of Nerve by Edwin H. Friedman- https://www.amazon.com/Failure-Nerve-Revised-Leadership-Quick/dp/1596272791/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1517247294&sr=8-1&keywords=a+failure+of+nerve+by+edwin+friedman Lars and The Real Girl- https://www.amazon.com/Lars-Real-Girl-Ryan-Gosling/dp/B001954D80/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1517247319&sr=8-1&keywords=lars+and+the+real+girl 2018 Jesus-Centered Digital Planner Download- https://www.mylifetree.com/shop/jesus-centered-planner-2018-digital-download/ {Pre-order} NEW Jesus-Centered Practical Guides- https://www.mylifetree.com/?s=practical+guides&post_type=product&tags=1&limit=20&ixwps=1 Similar Podcast Episodes: What Your Infertile Friend Wishes You Knew- https://www.mylifetree.com/podcast-what-your-infertile-friend-wishes-you-knew/ Pursuing a Life of Being You- https://www.mylifetree.com/podcast-pursing-a-life-of-being-you/ Why Hard Things Are Hard- https://www.mylifetree.com/podcast-why-hard-things-are-hard/

Quote: “People have a greater tolerance for evil than for violence. If crooked gambling, thieving and robbing are covered over folks will tolerate it longer than out right violence, even when the violence may be cleansing.” Louis L’Amour, The Daybreakers Summary: Do you want to lead? I hope so. If that’s the case, put being “good” before being popular...and even before winning. Because those external things will damage your character. Luckily, there are ways to fight back. Here’s one attitude change that will help you fight other people’s expectations. Notes: Quote from The Daybreakers, by Louis L’Amour, found here: http://amzn.to/2mW4CdQ Inspired by A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix, by Edwin H. Friedman, found here: http://amzn.to/2np4pgP Quote from The Man Called Noon, by Louis L’Amour, found here: http://amzn.to/2molhUb

“Nobody has ever gone from slavery to freedom with the slaveholder cheering them on.” -Edwin H. Friedman Summary: Directness in communication clears out all kinds of confusion. Unfortunately, lots of people benefit from that confusion. And even though their explanations are very logical, they’ll sound very reasonable. It takes a leader with directness and a lack of concern for what seems reasonable to cut those people off at the knees and get the culture moving to a healthier place.

Jo and Steph are answering questions from a live audience on leadership and life. Questions include: - What key questions or conversations should I have when I start working with a new boss? - What tips do you have on finishing well? - Is there a common thread in the lives of those leaders you look up to? - How do you motivate or move on people you are leading who are not doing a role well? - How do you deal with toxic people as a leader? - What would be your utensil of choice to eat ice cream if a spoon was not available? - What does self-leadership look like for you right now? Resource mentioned: Edwin H. Friedman - A Failure of Nerve Jo and Steph would love to hear any questions you have about leadership to help them plan future podcasts. See their social media contacts below to get in touch! Discussion questions: 1) Think of three people who have influenced or directly led you in different ways and discuss what you admired about them. (Keep it positive!) 2) What goodbye rituals do you have already in place in your life for seasons of transition? Discuss some different ideas which could be used for future transitions. 3) How honest are you with ‘toxic’ people you are leading? How can you have honest but loving conversations? Share ideas.   Follow Lead Stories Podcast to interact with Steph and Jo: Twitter: @LeadStoriesVox Instagram: @LeadStoriesPodcast Facebook: LeadStoriesPodcast Connect with Jo at: www.josaxton.com @josaxton Connect with Steph at: www.pastorsteph.com @pastorstephMPLS Subscribe on iTunes to have the podcast automatically download to your device every week or listen at www.leadstoriespodcast.com