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In this episode, Mike and Liz discuss ways to strengthen family relationships. They provide four tangible ideas that will help to foster a healthy family culture and enhance the bond of family members. They provide insights on the importance of these types of activities, and how to include them into a busy lifestyle. Resources: Family Questions Activity (Worksheet) | Therapist Aid Relationship Gratitude Tips (Worksheet) | Therapist Aid Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer

Mike and Liz discuss the basics of the communication skill, validation, and provide an understanding of why it is crucial for healthy relationships. Mike and Liz talk about what is validation, why it matters, and how to best provide validation in communication. They also discuss what validation is not and provide helpful tips on how to apply this communication skill right away. Resources: Reflective statements: Reflections: Communication Skill (Worksheet) | Therapist Aid Book: THE ART OF EMOTIONAL VALIDATION: Improve Your Communication Skills and Transform Your Relationships by Validating Emotions and Feelings. By Emily Wright Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer

Being willing to take ownership and responsibility is part of any healthy relationship. And being accountable for your actions is an empowering reminder that you have lots of control in your relationship. In this episode, Liz and Mike talk about what taking responsibility in your relationships truly looks like. They give tips on how to take ownership of your actions as well as how to avoid misplacing blame. Check out the episode and take your relationships to the next level. Resources: Book: Is It You or Is It Me? Is It You or Is It Me?: Why Couples Play the Blame Game by Scott Wetzler 0060930292 9780060930295 (discoverbooks.com) Worksheet: Couples Negative Cycle – EFT Worksheet (mindfullyhealing.com) Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer

Relationships can be very tricky when attempting to decipher the fine line between appropriate compromise versus betraying our own wants, needs, and boundaries. Mike and Liz explore six primary components to consider when contemplating what a healthy relationship looks like. Whether you are currently in a relationship, or single and looking to start a new relationship, it is crucial it includes safety, respect, trust... and certainly fun! Resources: Book: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love / Authors: Levine & Heller Boundaries Worksheet: Boundaries Discussion Questions (therapistaid.com) Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer

Valentine's Day can be hard whether you are single or in a relationship. In this podcast Liz and Mike give some tips on how to make the day a great one. They discuss the importance of being intentional about the day and not just expecting it to go well. Liz and Mike talk through some suggestions on how to spend the day, including getting some time outside, indulging in your favorite foods and doing some gratitude journaling. Listen to this episode to ensure that you have a great Valentine's Day. Resources: How to Survive Valentine's Day: How to Survive Valentine's Day - A Practical Guide (lifehack.org) Gratitude Journal: The Gratitude Journal: Prompts, PDFs and Worksheets (positivepsychology.com) Recipes: 30+ Best Valentine's Day Dinner Recipes | Food Network Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer

Effective communication can be really hard! It can be difficult to express ourselves openly and honestly out of fear of being dismissed or misunderstood. In this episode, Mike and Liz discuss five ways to improve your communication skills in order to be more clear with the messages that you are sending, as well as to be more attentive and understanding with the messages that you are receiving. Resources: Book: Couple Skills: Making your Relationship Work / Author: McKay, Fanning, & Paleg "I" Statements: https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/i-statements.pdf Active Listening Worksheet: Active Listening: Communication Skill (therapistaid.com) Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer

Elizabeth and Michael review 5 basic things that every kid or teen needs to hear from their parents. They talk through the importance of parents being openly complementary of each other in front of others. They also detail how critical it is for parents to be open about what is difficult for them as well as asking for help when it's needed. Lastly, Elizabeth and Michael review the ways to explain emotions to kids and teens. Resources: Book: 50 Things You Needed To Hear As a Child 50 Things You Needed To Hear As A Child by Jackson, Craig: New, Paperback, $7.05 at Alibris Article: 44 Things Every Child Needs to Hear 44 Things Every Child Needs to Hear | Power of Positivity Article: 10 Things Your Child Needs to Hear From You Every Day 10 Things Your Child Needs to Hear from You Every Day (parentsenlight.com) Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer

The holidays can be a wonderful experience for kids. However, with lots of new toys and games, sharing those new things can often be difficult. Michael and Elizabeth discuss the best ways to get siblings to be able to share with one another. They talk through the ways to prepare your children for difficult situations that tend to come up in the home. Michael and Elizabeth also give tips on using praise when sharing goes well. Lastly, the go through how to avoid accusations and assumptions when things don't go well. Resources: Book: Share and Take Turns Share and Take Turns (Learning to Get Along, Book 1): Cheri J. Meiners M.Ed.: 9781575421247: Amazon.com: Books Article: Why You Shouldn't Force Your Kids to Share Why You Shouldn't Force Your Kid to Share (verywellfamily.com) Podcast: Always Evolving: Validate, Investigate, Regulate Parenting Evolved: Validate, Investigate, Regulate - YouTube Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer

Michael and Elizabeth explore barriers to busy parents setting and maintaining personal goals. They discuss the importance of parents making themselves a priority and how this sets a great example for your children. Michael and Elizabeth provide ideas on how to set goals and ways to follow through on the necessary habits to reach these goals. Resources: Book: Atomic Habits by James Clear Book: Better than Before by Gretchen Rubin App: Productive Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer

Michael and Elizabeth discuss the difficulties of peer conflict and natural tendencies as parents to be either under or overly involved in this conflict. They discuss ways to ensure your child is being supported, as well as suggestions for your role in this process. They provide tangible take-aways on meeting your child's emotional needs, as well as assisting your child in learning necessary lessons to carry throughout life. Resources: Book: Boundaries with Kids by Cloud and Townsend Book: The Teen's Guide to Social Skills: Practical Advice for Building Empathy, Self-Esteem, and Confidence by Kate Fitzsimons Title: Parenting Self-Care: Preparing for the New Year Description: Michael and Elizabeth explore barriers to busy parents setting and maintaining personal goals. They discuss the importance of parents making themselves a priority and how this sets a great example for your children. Michael and Elizabeth provide ideas on how to set goals and ways to follow through on the necessary habits to reach these goals. Resources: Book: Atomic Habits by James Clear Book: Better than Before by Gretchen Rubin App: Productive Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer

Welcome back to Always Evolving. In this week's episode, Liz and Mike discuss the best ways to help deal with your child when they have a nightmare. They get into the reasons why nightmares happen. Liz and Mike also break down how to prevent nightmares for kid along with the best things to do in the moment when a child wakes up from a nightmare. They also go over the best tips about how to follow up the morning after a nightmare. Resources: Calm, Cool and Connected Podcast: How to Get Your Child To Fall Asleep Faster Article: How to Help Kids With Nightmares How to Help Kids With Nightmares | Parenting… | PBS KIDS for Parents Article: 6 Steps To Stop Scary Dreams Nightmares: 6 Steps to Stop Scary Dreams | Parents Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer

Welcome back to Always Evolving. In this week's episode, Liz and Mike look at all the reasons why it is so hard to wake up your kid. They break down how to look at the most important questions to ask about why it might be so hard for your youth in the mornings. Liz and Mike discuss the importance of an evening and morning routine along with the importance of positive praise when things are going right. Lastly, they give 8 great tips on how to structure the mornings for a great wake up. Resources: Always Evolving Video: How To Get Your Child To Comply WIthout Consequences Episode 41 - How to Get Your Kid to Comply Without Consequences - YouTube Always Evolving Video: Help! My Kid Won't Sleep! Help! My Kid Won't Sleep! - YouTube Article: How To Wake A Sleep Teenager How To Wake A Sleeping Teenager (scarymommy.com) Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer

Welcome back to Always Evolving. In this week's episode, Liz and Mike dig into the reasons why your teen doesn't want to spend time with you the way that they used to. And yes, your teen probably still loves you. Liz and Mike review that it is developmentally appropriate for your teen to focus more on their peers than their parents. Liz and Mike also give ways to examine if your relationship with your teen is strong enough for them to want to spend time with you. Lastly, Liz and Mike give 5 practical tips that any parent can use to help increase their quality time with their teen. Resources: Always Evolving Video: Strengthening Your Relationship With Your Kid, Part 1 Strengthening Your Relationship With Your Kid (Part 1) - YouTube Always Evolving Video: Strengthening Your Relationship With Your Kid, Part 2 Strengthening Your Relationship With Your Kid (Part 2) - YouTube Article: How To Connect With A Teen That Doesn't Want To Talk How To Connect With A Teen That Doesn't Want to Talk | A Parenting Resources Guide - Hand in Hand Parenting Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer

Welcome back to Always Evolving. In this week's episode, Liz and Mike talk about ways to support your child with anxiety. They go through the obvious not so obvious signs of anxiety that your child may show. Liz and Mike also review the importance of co-regulation with your child as well as the ways to help your child co-regulate. They also give some great take-away's for how to avoid shaming your child for their anxiety. Resources: NPR Podcast: How To Help A Child With Anxiety How To Help A Child With Anxiety : Life Kit : NPR Article: Helping Your Anxious Child or Teen Helping Your Anxious Child or Teen | Here to Help Article: Strategies To Support Anxious Children Strategies to support anxious children (beyondblue.org.au) Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer

Divorce is a really difficult and confusing time for both parents and kids. Transitioning to new living environments, the financial burden, and the emotional toll can all be really overwhelming. On top of that, trying to remain calm and present for your kids can feel almost impossible. In this episode, Mike and Liz discuss ways to help both you and your child navigate through the divorce process. They provide ideas on ways meet your child's social-emotional needs during this time, while also ensuring that you are taking care of yourself. Resources: Good Parenting Through Your Divorce: The Essential Guidebook to Helping Your Children Adjust and Thrive Based on the Leading National Program: Hannibal, Mary Ellen: 9781569242575: Amazon.com: Books The Co-Parenting Handbook: Raising Well-Adjusted and Resilient Kids from Little Ones to Young Adults through Divorce or Separation: Bonnell, Karen, Little, Kristin: 9781632171467: Amazon.com: Books Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer

Welcome back to Always Evolving. In this week's episode, Liz and Mike talk about the best ways to help “scaffold” and support your child so that they can succeed at school. Liz and Mike take a controversial stance on whether parents should focus on grades as well as the importance of praising your child. They go through the importance of a daily routine and having a dedicated homework space. Resources: Getting Your Kid To Do What You Ask - YouT ube Strengthening Your Relationship With Your Kid (Part 2) - YouTube How to Help Your Child Get Motivated in School - Child Mind Institute Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer

Parents are often looking for the most effective discipline techniques, when in fact, getting your kid to comply prior to using discipline is actually the most effective approach for increasing compliance and is also the best method for maintaining the quality of the parent-child relationship. Mike and Liz explore through various methods to help you to get your kid to listen and comply without the need for consequences. Resources: Beyond Time-Out: From Chaos to Calm: Grosshans Ph.D., Beth A., Burton L.C.S.W., Janet H.: 9781402777646: Amazon.com: Books Strengthening Your Relationship With Your Kid (Part 1) - YouTube Strengthening Your Relationship With Your Kid (Part 2) - YouTube Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer

Welcome back to Always Evolving. In this week's episode, Liz and Mike talk about the tips and tricks to be a patient parent, even when it's really difficult. Kids can do a great job at pushing our buttons and getting us angry. Elizabeth and Michael go over their 4 steps for success so that you can remain calm. Tune in to find out the ways to stay cool even when your child is heating up. Resources: Communicating More Effectively (Five Necessary Skills) - YouTube Why Do Kids Lie? - YouTube How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids by Carla Naumburg PhD | Audiobook | Audible.com Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Elizabeth and Michael detail how to stop always having to play the “bad cop” when parenting.  They get into how to break up the patterns and present a united front..  Elizabeth and Michael review the ways you can build upon where you agree and how to dole out consequences together.  They finish up with emphasizing the importance of giving lots of praise and not just focusing on consequences   Areas to address: -Why it's a problem:             -Makes one parent ineffective in dealing with discipline             -Breeds anger and resentment toward the Bad Cop -It's important to present a united front  -Need to have some tough conversations with your parenting partner -Identify the areas of parenting/discipline where you differ and are similar (You can build off of where you agree and why you agree on those) -Make plans when you are calm about how to deal with areas where you differ:-what each of you will do and say -If you disagree about something, commit to do so in private -Deal with giving out consequences together, good cop be the one to say what they are -Make sure you are giving lots of positive labeled praise    Take aways:  -Be aware of where you disagree and make a plan -Disagree in private -Give lots of praise, don't just focus on consequences Resources: 5 Steps Toward a Healthier Parenting Dynamic: 5 Steps Toward a Healthier Parenting Dynamic | Psychology Today   Good Cop/Bad Cop Parenting: Why it Doesn't Work: Good Cop/Bad Cop Parenting: Why It Doesn't Work & How It Does Damage – SheKnows   A Mother is Tired of Being The Bad Cop: Mother is tired of being the bad cop (irishtimes.com)   Strenghtening Your Relationship With Your Kid, parts 1 & 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RCMfwLx2URw&t=55s Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Michael and Elizabeth discuss the fourth and final attachment style, secure attachment. They discuss how this attachment style develops in childhood, as well as how it can be achieved later in life if it was not the primary attachment style developed for an individual. They provide insights regarding how a secure attachment style impact all types of relationships and the benefits of working to achieve this attachment style. Resources: -Raising a Secure Child: How Circle of Security Parenting Can Help You Nurture Your Child's Attachment, Emotional Resilience, and Freedom to Explore by Hoffman, Cooper, & Powell  Attachment Theory Workbook: Why is your attachment type impacting upon your happiness in relationships? Discover how to identify who is right for you and help to heal your wounds by David Lawson  Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Michael and Elizabeth dig deep into the disorganized attachment style.   They discuss what causes this attachment style and the ways that it will show up in the lives of those who are attached this way. They discuss common triggers for this attachment style and how a person with disorganized attachment can react to those triggers. Michael and Elizabeth discuss ways to more towards a more secure attachment style for individuals who identify with a disorganized attachment style.  Finally, they review ways to support the people in your life who have this attachment.   Resources:  Attachment Style Assessment: Attachment Styles Test: Attachment Styles Test: Attachment Style Quiz from Dr. Diane Poole Heller Nurturing Resilience by Kathy Kain and Stephen Terrell  Nurturing Resilience: Helping Clients Move Forward from Developmental Trauma-An Integrative Somatic Approach by Kathy L. Kain (goodreads.com) Causes and Symptoms of Disorganized Attachment https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/disorganized-attachment/ Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Michael and Elizabeth take a deep dive into the avoidant attachment style and discuss how it often develops, as well as how it shows up in all types of relationships. They discuss common triggers for this attachment style and how an avoidantly attached person might react to those triggers. Michael and Elizabeth discuss ways to more towards a more secure attachment style for individuals who identify with an avoidant attachment style.  Finally, they review ways to support the people in your life who have an avoidant attachment.   Resources:  Attachment Style Assessment: Attachment Styles Test: Attachment Styles Test: Attachment Style Quiz from Dr. Diane Poole Heller The Attachment Theory Workbook by Annie Chen  The Attachment Theory Workbook: Powerful Tools to Promote Understanding, Increase Stability, and Build Lasting Relationships: Chen, Annie: 9781641523554: Amazon.com: Books Attachment and the Defence Against Intimacy by Linda Cundy  Amazon.com: Attachment and the Defence Against Intimacy: Understanding and Working with Avoidant Attachment, Self-Hatred, and Shame: 9781138330450: Cundy, Linda: Books Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Michael and Elizabeth dive deeper into the anxious attachment style and discuss how it often develops, as well as how it shows up in adult relationships. They discuss common triggers for this attachment style and how it might impact romantic relationships and parenting behaviors. Michael and Elizabeth discuss ways to more towards a more secure attachment style for individuals who identify with an anxious attachment style, as well as discuss ways to support individuals in your life who might experience anxious attachments. Resources: Attachment Style Assessment: Attachment Styles Test: Attachment Style Quiz from Dr. Diane Poole Heller  Insecure in Love: How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried and What You Can Do About It: Becker-Phelps PhD, Leslie: 0884519489798: Amazon.com: Books  Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Michael and Elizabeth provide an understanding of attachment styles and how they influence relationships in adulthood, including romantic, friendships, and with parenting. They briefly explain the four different attachment styles, how they often develop as a result of childhood experiences, and how they might be showing up in relationships present day. Michael and Elizabeth will provide a more in-depth look into each of these attachment styles over the next four episodes and will help you to understand ways to move towards a healthy and secure attachment. Resources: Attached: Are you Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the science of adult attachment can help you find – and keep – love: Levine, Amir, Heller, Rachel: 9781529032178: Amazon.com: Books  Amazon.com: Healing Your Attachment Wounds: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships (Audible Audio Edition): Diane Poole Heller, Diane Poole Heller, Sounds True: Audible Audiobooks  Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Michael and Elizabeth discuss ways to effectively help your child de-escalate from a tantrum at any age, from toddlers to teens. They discuss the possible reasons for tantrums, as well as ways to prevent tantrums from taking place. Michael and Elizabeth provide three tangible ways to tame the tantrum and to help your child, and yourself, regulate and move from chaos to calm. Resources: Book: Beyond Time-Out: From Chaos to Calm: Grosshans Ph.D., Beth A., Burton L.C.S.W., Janet H.: 9781402777646: Amazon.com: Books 10 phrases to help your child calm down: Be Your Child's Emotion-Coach With These 10 Powerful Parenting Phrases (nurtureandthriveblog.com) Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Liz and Mike talk about how to deal with kids and teens who just won't go to sleep.  They explore the ways that technology and screen time can impact sleep.  Liz and Mike review the importance of a routine and connection before bed.  They provide easy ways that you can change your family's bedtime practices so that going to sleep doesn't have to be a battle anymore.   Resources: -Child Bedtime Routines Do's and Don'ts:  Child Bedtime Routines Dos and Don'ts (verywellfamily.com) -Sleep Tips for Teens: Sleep tips for teenagers - NHS (www.nhs.uk) -Creating a Nighttime Routine for Your Family: Creating a Night Routine for Your Family | Bright Horizons | Bright Horizons® Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Liz and Mike discuss how why kids lie and if it is okay.  They talk about the reasons why kids lie and how to deal with different levels of lying.  Liz and Mike go through the importance of focusing on being honest versus focusing on the problems of... Liz and Mike discuss how why kids lie and if it is okay.  They talk about the reasons why kids lie and how to deal with different levels of lying.  Liz and Mike go through the importance of focusing on being honest versus focusing on the problems of dishonesty.  They also go over dealing with the reasons for the lie, not just the lie itself.  They give three keys for success.   https://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources: Age by age guide to lying: https://www.parents.com/kids/development/behavioral/age-by-age-guide-to-lying/  Appropriate consequences for lying: https://www.verywellfamily.com/what-to-do-when-kids-lie-620107  Book: The Lying King https://www.amazon.com/Lying-King-Alex-Beard/dp/1626345287 Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Michael and Elizabeth explore the stress that many people are experiencing due to working from home. While working from home for some has been a positive experience, there are many others who are struggling to stay focused and motivated, to balance c... Michael and Elizabeth explore the stress that many people are experiencing due to working from home. While working from home for some has been a positive experience, there are many others who are struggling to stay focused and motivated, to balance childcare and career, and who are being truly impacted by the ongoing social isolation. Michael and Elizabeth explore the common stressors that are being faced by many in regard to these working from home concerns, as well as ways to effectively manage these stressors and the anxiety associated with STILL working from home. https://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources: Coping Skills: https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/coping-skills-anxiety.pdf  Balancing work & homeschooling: https://www.popsugar.com/family/how-to-balance-work-homeschooling-47362077  Ways to stop worrying: https://www.inc.com/amy-morin/6-ways-to-stop-worrying-about-things-you-cant-control.html  Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Michael and Elizabeth explore various parenting styles and provide an explanation of common parenting types. They discuss the likely outcomes for children who are raised by each parenting style and provide an understanding of why not all parenting st... Michael and Elizabeth explore various parenting styles and provide an explanation of common parenting types. They discuss the likely outcomes for children who are raised by each parenting style and provide an understanding of why not all parenting styles are created equally. Michael and Elizabeth provide an explanation of the most effective parenting style, authoritative parenting, and provide ideas on how to implement this parenting style into every day interactions. Resources: Parenting Styles: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hx8Yqo9LZ9w https://www.parentingscience.com/parenting-styles.html Book: Authoritative Parenting (Larzelere, Morris, & Harrist) Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Michael and Elizabeth discuss the anxiety that many parents and children are feeling about returning to school. They discuss what is leading to these feelings of anxiety, as well as the different ways that parents are experiencing anxiety over this s... Michael and Elizabeth discuss the anxiety that many parents and children are feeling about returning to school. They discuss what is leading to these feelings of anxiety, as well as the different ways that parents are experiencing anxiety over this situation versus ways that children are experiencing anxiety. They provide ideas on how to help manage your anxiety as a parent, and ways to also help your child manage their anxiety about returning to school.  http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Elizabeth and Michael discuss how to get your child to do when you want them to.   They talk about letting your child being less than perfect when they do the task you ask.  Elizabeth and Michael detail the importance of making sure you ask at a time... Elizabeth and Michael discuss how to get your child to do when you want them to.   They talk about letting your child being less than perfect when they do the task you ask.  Elizabeth and Michael detail the importance of making sure you ask at a time and in a way that will allow for best possible responses from your child.   They give three keys for success for you and your child.  http://www.evovlecounselingaz.com Resources: https://theparentcue.org/how-to-get-your-kids-to-do-what-you-want-2/ https://raisingchildren.net.au/school-age/behaviour/behaviour-management-tips-tools/requests-instructions https://www.verywellfamily.com/how-to-get-your-child-to-do-what-you-ask-the-first-time-620212 Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

In part two of this two part series, Michael and Elizabeth chat about effective ways to strengthen your relationship with your kids. They discuss the importance of spending time with your children in intentional and connected activities, as well as w... In part two of this two part series, Michael and Elizabeth chat about effective ways to strengthen your relationship with your kids. They discuss the importance of spending time with your children in intentional and connected activities, as well as why this is so important to your child's social-emotional development. They provide ideas on ways to support your child's social-emotional development, as well as ways to ensure your child's emotional needs are being met. http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources: Book: The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Payne Bryson) https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/child-quiz/ https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/emotion-thermometers.pdf Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

In part one of this two part series, Michael and Elizabeth chat about effective ways to strengthen your relationship with your kids. They discuss the importance of connection and trust in a healthy parent-child relationship, as well as ways to assist... In part one of this two part series, Michael and Elizabeth chat about effective ways to strengthen your relationship with your kids. They discuss the importance of connection and trust in a healthy parent-child relationship, as well as ways to assist your child in calming down by remaining calm yourself (and ideas on how to do this!). They explore activities that can be used to build trust and safety, as well as how to increase healthy communication. Resources: VIR Resource from website Positive Labeled Praise: https://ttaconline.org/Content/documents/ipop/Module3/Specific%20Labeled%20Praise%20Examples.pdf https://positivepsychology.com/emotional-intelligence-for-kids/ https://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Michael and Elizabeth explore the current events that are impacting society and discuss the impact this is having on mental health, including symptoms of anxiety. Michael and Elizabeth discuss the combination of external stressors, as well as daily l... Michael and Elizabeth explore the current events that are impacting society and discuss the impact this is having on mental health, including symptoms of anxiety. Michael and Elizabeth discuss the combination of external stressors, as well as daily life stressors, and how this is feeling stressful and overwhelming for most people. They explore ways to more effectively manage this increase in stress and discuss three useful tips for decreasing symptoms of anxiety. https://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources: https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/coping-skills-anxiety.pdf https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/healthy-unhealthy-coping-strategies.pdf https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/how-to-cope-with-anxiety#quick-coping-methods Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Elizabeth and Michael discuss how to survive the crazy summer of this crazy year. They work through whether to send your kid to camp, whether to have your child do educational activities, and how to set limits about screen time. Elizabeth and Micha... Elizabeth and Michael discuss how to survive the crazy summer of this crazy year. They work through whether to send your kid to camp, whether to have your child do educational activities, and how to set limits about screen time. Elizabeth and Michael give 3 Keys to survive this summer. You got this! https:www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources: Social Distancing Survival Tips https://www.kidfriendlydc.com/2020/03/24/social-distancing-survival-tips-for-parents-with-toddlers/ Tips From School Psychologists https://www.laparent.com/10-covid-19-tips-from-school-psychologists/ Summer Survival Tips for Working Moms https://www.moms.com/20-summer-survival-tips-for-working-moms-thank-us-later/ Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Elizabeth and Michael discuss how to motivate your child or teen.. They talk about the ways to encourage your kids instead of trying to control them and what it means when your kids are pushing back against you. Elizabeth and Michael dig into wheth... Elizabeth and Michael discuss how to motivate your child or teen.. They talk about the ways to encourage your kids instead of trying to control them and what it means when your kids are pushing back against you. Elizabeth and Michael dig into whether procrastination is good or bad and they detail the 3 C’s-Control, Core Beliefs and Connection. Resources: https://www.additudemag.com/how-to-motivate-a-lazy-teenager-adhd-parenting-strategies/ https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/how-to-motivate-teenagers-part-1/ https://motherwellmag.com/2017/12/05/how-to-realize-to-your-son-is-not-lazy/ ; Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Elizabeth and Michael go over the basics of changing a negative thought pattern. They examine the important first steps in changing a thought pattern along with ways to best ensure success. Elizabeth and Michael review the importance of journaling... Elizabeth and Michael go over the basics of changing a negative thought pattern. They examine the important first steps in changing a thought pattern along with ways to best ensure success. Elizabeth and Michael review the importance of journaling when it comes to changing these patterns. And finally, they provide three keys on how to change a negative thought pattern. Resources: Book: “The Science of Positivity” by Loretta Breuning https://www.mottchildren.org/health-library/uf9857 Worksheets to help challenge negative thought patterns: https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/cognitive-model-example-practice.pdf https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/cbt-for-kids.pdf https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/core-beliefs.pdf Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Michael and Elizabeth dive into the current stressor facing our nation: To re-integrate or not to re-integrate... What is the better choice and what is the impact of making the "wrong" choice? Michael and Elizabeth explore the mental health component... Michael and Elizabeth dive into the current stressor facing our nation: To re-integrate or not to re-integrate... What is the better choice and what is the impact of making the "wrong" choice? Michael and Elizabeth explore the mental health component of this tremendous decision from multiple angles. They provide perspective on recognizing that there is no "wrong" choice, and explore the importance of making our own decisions and setting boundaries with those who might disagree with our choices. Michael and Elizabeth provide insight into the impact of this decision on our mental health, as well as ways to feel more confident in the decision that you make for yourself and your family. http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources: https://www.today.com/health/it-s-not-just-quarantine-s-getting-us-down-it-t181752 https://exploringyourmind.com/right-make-decisions/ Stress management tips: https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/stress-management-tips.pdf Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Michael and Elizabeth explored the impact of the quarantine on the quality and functioning of the parent-child relationship. They explore how too much time together can start to lead to increased frustration and irritability, which can then actually... Michael and Elizabeth explored the impact of the quarantine on the quality and functioning of the parent-child relationship. They explore how too much time together can start to lead to increased frustration and irritability, which can then actually lead to disconnect (in spite of being lock in the same house together 24/7). They provide ideas on ways to stay connected to your kids and ensuring that there is a good amount of quality vs. quantity when it comes to time spent together. http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources: https://www.evolvecounselingaz.com : Sign up for our email newsletter to receive free mental health (and parenting) tools and resources. https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ Book: The Five Love Languages of Children (Chapman & Campbell) https://www.emindful.com/2020/03/30/10-activities-you-can-do-with-your-kids-while-on-coronavirus-quarantine/ Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Elizabeth and Michael talk about the increase of anxiety and depression that has been happening with some kids and teens. They list out what could make a child or teen more at risk for anxiety or depression. Elizabeth and Michael also list out the... Elizabeth and Michael talk about the increase of anxiety and depression that has been happening with some kids and teens. They list out what could make a child or teen more at risk for anxiety or depression. Elizabeth and Michael also list out the signs of anxiety and depression in children and teens along with some tips on what a parent can do if they start to notice these signs. And they provide three keys on noticing and handling the signs of anxiety and depression. http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources: https://www.mentalhealthfirstaid.org/external/2018/06/3-tips-for-talking-and-listening-to-your-anxious-teen/ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/parents-guide-to-teen-depression.htm https://www.kqed.org/mindshift/52994/how-to-help-teenage-girls-reframe-anxiety-and-strengthen-resilience Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Michael and Elizabeth discuss the challenges that high schoolers are facing due to the quarantine. They discuss the various emotional reactions that many teenagers are facing, including loneliness, fear, and boredom. They also explore ways to support... Michael and Elizabeth discuss the challenges that high schoolers are facing due to the quarantine. They discuss the various emotional reactions that many teenagers are facing, including loneliness, fear, and boredom. They also explore ways to support your teen and ways to help them process through this difficult time. They also provide suggestions to ensure you are also taking care of yourself as their parent, in order to best support your teen. http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources: https://teenstrongaz.com/grieving-what-has-been-lost/ https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/blog/2020/03/what-you-need-know-about-coronavirus-and-grief https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/2020/04/08/coronavirus-covid-19-celebrations-birthdays-anniversaries-baby-showers/2958997001/ Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Elizabeth and Michael talk about an important parenting skill, VIR: Validate, Investigate and Regulate. They explore how to use the skill to help a child, of any age, regulate their emotions. Elizabeth and Michael review how to use the skill and ho... Elizabeth and Michael talk about an important parenting skill, VIR: Validate, Investigate and Regulate. They explore how to use the skill to help a child, of any age, regulate their emotions. Elizabeth and Michael review how to use the skill and how effective it is in helping an upset child be able to calm themselves. Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Michael and Elizabeth explore the importance of effective communication and explain how poor communication can be very triggering and damaging to a relationship. They discuss ways to avoid putting others on the defense, as well as ways to stay presen... Michael and Elizabeth explore the importance of effective communication and explain how poor communication can be very triggering and damaging to a relationship. They discuss ways to avoid putting others on the defense, as well as ways to stay present and mindful in conversations even when they are difficult. The provide helpful ideas on setting boundaries in communication, and also explain specific techniques that will result in vast improvements in communication and overall relational functioning. http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources: https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-... https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-... https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-... Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Elizabeth and Michael discuss a recent increase they have seen in children suddenly starting to show signs of separation anxiety due to COVID-19. They describe the signs of separation issues and what to do if your child is starting to show some issu... Elizabeth and Michael discuss a recent increase they have seen in children suddenly starting to show signs of separation anxiety due to COVID-19. They describe the signs of separation issues and what to do if your child is starting to show some issues with separation. Elizabeth and Michael review the importance of stopping the pattern before it starts. They provide three take aways on how to deal with separation issues with children. http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources: Book: Separation Anxiety by Laura Zigman https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/anxiety/the-signs-of-separation-anxiety/?utm_source=AdWords&utm_medium=Search_PPC_c&utm_term=_b&utm_content=77548444015&network=g&placement=&target=&matchtype=b&utm_campaign=6459244691&ad_type=text&adposition=&gclid=CjwKCAjwp-X0BRAFEiwAheRui9tS24O-FVOCvesc-Y8SEcscZlhRC4uP9sDliBlCT783GJLSeBL3EhoCp2oQAvD_BwE https://www.informedfamilies.org/blog/kids-coping-social-distancing-home-schooling-parenting-tips-advice-coronavirus?utm_term=how%20to%20help%20a%20child%20with%20anxiety&utm_campaign=%5BTraffic%5D+Blog&utm_source=adwords&utm_medium=ppc&hsa_acc=8904231823&hsa_cam=834700785&hsa_grp=102359003714&hsa_ad=426613282257&hsa_src=g&hsa_tgt=kwd-297253929489&hsa_kw=how%20to%20help%20a%20child%20with%20anxiety&hsa_mt=b&hsa_net=adwords&hsa_ver=3&gclid=CjwKCAjwp-X0BRAFEiwAheRui_ifcrX5uZlcXbDEIX_VqphuG9yMKv8hMuGhAF4tYdp8vcfoMdQiWhoCn1MQAvD_BwE Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Michael and Elizabeth explore what boundaries are and why they are important. They discuss how we can decide on appropriate boundaries and how we can effectively implement them with others. They discuss what boundaries look like with your quarantine... Michael and Elizabeth explore what boundaries are and why they are important. They discuss how we can decide on appropriate boundaries and how we can effectively implement them with others. They discuss what boundaries look like with your quarantine crew, extended family and friends, work and school, as well as the general public. Michael and Elizabeth give examples of what boundaries are, and tangible ideas for setting and maintaining boundaries in all of your relationships and social interactions. http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources: Book: Boundaries (Cloud & Townsend) https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-worksheet/boundaries-psychoeducation-printout https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-worksheet/setting-boundaries/relationships/none Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Elizabeth and Michael talk about how to deal with the hopeless and scary feelings associated with COVID-19. They explore the typical feelings that many of us are experiencing right now as well as the causes behind those feelings. Elizabeth and Mich... Elizabeth and Michael talk about how to deal with the hopeless and scary feelings associated with COVID-19. They explore the typical feelings that many of us are experiencing right now as well as the causes behind those feelings. Elizabeth and Michael review what to do for yourself if you are feeling hopeless along with how to know when to seek professional help. They provide take aways on how to manage hopeless feelings during this difficult time. http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources: https://www.samhsa.gov/sites/default/files/tips-social-distancing-quarantine-isolation-031620.pdf https://www.vibrant.org/safespace/?_ga=2.243816908.893048701.1586572147-1078489988.1586572147 https://www.redcross.org/about-us/news-and-events/news/2020/steps-to-help-cope-with-evolving-coronavirus-situation.html Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Elizabeth and Michael detail how to talk to your tween and teen about COVID-19. They explore what will allow your tween and teen to open up and then provide them what will help. Elizabeth and Michael review the importance of paying attention to beh... Elizabeth and Michael detail how to talk to your tween and teen about COVID-19. They explore what will allow your tween and teen to open up and then provide them what will help. Elizabeth and Michael review the importance of paying attention to behaviors and letting your child feel that they have a sense control. They provide three take aways on how to have the ongoing conversations with your middle school/high school age children. http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources: https://www.unicef.org/coronavirus/how-teenagers-can-protect-their-mental-health-during-coronavirus-covid-19 https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/rachelysanders/teens-teenagers-at-home-isolation-coronavirus-school https://www.nj.com/coronavirus/2020/03/heres-how-im-coping-with-social-distancing-for-two-teenagers-amid-coronavirus-concerns.html Disclaimer http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Elizabeth and Michael detail how to talk to your elementary aged children about COVID-19. They delve into what will allow for helpful conversations and help calm any fears that your child may be experiencing. Elizabeth and Michael review the import... Elizabeth and Michael detail how to talk to your elementary aged children about COVID-19. They delve into what will allow for helpful conversations and help calm any fears that your child may be experiencing. Elizabeth and Michael review the importance of listening to behaviors, not just words, for kids . They provide three take aways on how to have the ongoing conversations with your elementary aged children. http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources: Book: Dawn Hebner-“Something Bad Happened” https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/daily-life-coping/talking-with-children.html https://www.vox.com/2020/3/20/21186739/coronavirus-kids-parents-covid-19-pandemic-parenting Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Michael and Elizabeth discuss various reasons that behavioral concerns for middle schoolers and high schoolers may be increasing during this time. They explore the developmentally appropriate, emotional reactions that many teens and adolescents are e... Michael and Elizabeth discuss various reasons that behavioral concerns for middle schoolers and high schoolers may be increasing during this time. They explore the developmentally appropriate, emotional reactions that many teens and adolescents are experiencing as a result of the quarantine, including losing structure, socialization, and extracurricular activities. They provide ideas on how to be aware of your child's emotional reactions, as well as ideas on how to assist your child in feeling validated and supported. They also provide various approaches to addressing behavioral concerns... The information they provide goes beyond "taking away electronics" and instead they offer solutions to address the root of the behaviors. http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources: Book: Untangled (Lisa Damour) Book: The Teenage Brain (Frances Jensen) https://www.empoweringparents.com/article-categories/ages-and-stages/adolescent-teen-behavior/ Disclaimer http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Michael and Elizabeth discuss various reasons that behavioral concerns for elementary aged children and younger may be increasing during this time. They explore the emotional reactions that many children are experiencing as a result of the quarantine... Michael and Elizabeth discuss various reasons that behavioral concerns for elementary aged children and younger may be increasing during this time. They explore the emotional reactions that many children are experiencing as a result of the quarantine, including losing structure, socialization, and extracurricular activities. They provide ideas on how to be aware of your child's emotional reactions, as well as ideas on how to assist your child in feeling validated and supported. They also provide various approaches to addressing behavioral concerns... The information they provide goes beyond "time-out" and instead they offer solutions to address the root of the behaviors. http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources: Book: Boundaries With Kids (Cloud & Townsend) https://emotioncoaching.gottman.com https://www.cdc.gov/parents/essentials/communication/goodbehavior-praise.html (this source says it is specific to toddlers & preschoolers, however this approach can be used for all ages) Disclaimer Http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com

Elizabeth and Michael discuss the fact that a lot of us are getting much more easily annoyed and triggered by our partners due to the stay at home orders and so many people working from home now. They work through how to handle when you and your sig... Elizabeth and Michael discuss the fact that a lot of us are getting much more easily annoyed and triggered by our partners due to the stay at home orders and so many people working from home now. They work through how to handle when you and your significant other do not agree on how serious the pandemic is and what steps to take to ensure safety. Elizabeth and Michael also describe tips and tricks to focus on the things you can control right now. They provide three take aways about to handle the conflicts at home right now and how to create connections even in times like these. http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com Resources https://howwelove.com/ https://www.inquirer.com/health/coron... https://www.mother.ly/news/how-to-han... Disclaimer http://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/disclaimer Royalty free music from https://www.fesliyanstudios.com This podcast is hosted by ZenCast.fm