Leadership Parenting

Big changes—like moving, starting a new job, or shifting family plans—can feel overwhelming for kids, especially when they had no say in the decision. In this episode of Leadership Parenting, we dive into a powerful listener question: “What do I do when my kids are upset about a move we decided to make?” If you've ever had to make a necessary decision your child didn't like, you're not alone. This episode will walk you through how to stay strong in your leadership role and emotionally connected to your child. You'll learn the key tools that help kids cope, how to validate their big feelings without backpedaling, and how to foster resilience—even when your decision brings discomfort.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

That constant inner dialogue running through your mind all day? It's shaping your entire parenting experience more than any external circumstance ever could. In this episode, we dive deep into the world of self-talk—exploring how to recognize when your inner voice has become your harshest critic and how to gently transform it into your most compassionate ally. You'll learn the 5 most common types of negative self-talk that keep parents stuck, discover a simple 3-question framework to evaluate and reframe unhelpful thoughts, and see real examples of transforming criticism into kindness. This isn't about toxic positivity—it's about speaking to yourself with the same grace you'd offer your children, because the way you treat yourself becomes the model for how they learn to treat themselves. When you change your inner voice, you change everything.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Have you ever felt that quiet ache of disconnection from your child? Like you're speaking two different languages, or like nothing you do is really landing?In this episode, we're diving into three simple but powerful tools every parent has: Time, Talk, and Touch.These aren't just nice ideas—they're practical ways to soothe stress, strengthen connection, and help your child feel truly seen and safe.If you've been longing to reconnect or just want a fresh way to show up for your child—this episode is for you. Let's get into it.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

As we wrap up our focus on Mental Health Awareness Month, I want to turn our attention to something foundational—something that often gets missed in mental health conversations, but is absolutely essential to our emotional well-being: the nervous system.The more I work with women and mothers, the more I see how understanding and caring for the nervous system changes everything. It shifts how we experience stress, how we respond to our children, and how we show up in the world. So today, we're going to take a deep dive into why your nervous system needs a break—and how you can begin to give it the care it deserves.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Today, we're diving into the invisible but exhausting reality of the mental load—the constant thinking, planning, and remembering that so many moms carry daily. You'll learn what the mental load really is, why it feels so heavy, and how to begin lightening it through six practical, mindset-shifting steps. From redefining your household standards to sharing responsibilities more effectively and reclaiming your recovery time, this episode offers a powerful reset for any mom who feels like she's always on. You don't have to carry it all—and this is your starting point for feeling lighter, clearer, and more at peace.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Today, I want to shine a light on something really important: the everyday things we do—often without realizing—that slowly chip away at our mental well-being.I'm not talking about the big, obvious stressors. I'm talking about the subtle patterns and habits that feel normal but may actually be keeping us stuck in survival mode. We're going to walk through 10 things you might not know are hurting your mental health—and what you can do instead to begin feeling better, more connected, and more in charge of your emotional life. Let's dive in.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Today, we're looking at the often painful experience of self-consciousness—those moments when we feel overly aware of how we're coming across, disconnected from ourselves, and caught in comparison. We'll walk through five powerful, compassionate steps to help you drop self-consciousness and reconnect with your deep, unchanging wholeness. This is a reminder that you are already enough— and you can come home to that truth anytime. Let's figure out how to stop feeling self conscious!If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or stressed? In this episode of the Leadership Parenting Podcast, We look at a simple but powerful practice every mom needs: Centering. Learn how to reconnect with yourself in just a few minutes a day and create a deep sense of inner calm, even in the busiest moments of motherhood. I walk you through the 3-step centering process that helps you ground your body, quiet your mind, and build lasting resilience. Whether you're standing in line at the grocery store or facing a tough parenting moment, this practice can bring you home to yourself—and help you show up with more peace, presence, and strength.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

In this episode,  we're exploring a fundamental truth: your worth isn't something you earn, and it doesn't diminish when life becomes challenging. If you've ever asked yourself, "What's wrong with me?" and felt overwhelmed by self-doubt, this episode is for you. We'll delve into three practical steps to help you reconnect with your inner strength and remember that you are not broken.​If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

As moms, we tend to push through exhaustion, ignore discomfort, and treat our bodies like they're supposed to just keep up. But real, lasting resilience begins with learning how to listen in. This isn't about doing more—it's about doing differently. So if you're feeling tired, stretched thin, or just craving a better relationship with your body, this episode is for you.”If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

When we put feelings into words, we're actually creating neural pathways that connect the limbic system (our emotional center) with the prefrontal cortex (our logical thinking center). The science behind this is fascinating- and you need to know it so you can teach your kids how to name their emotions and learn how to manage them so they can never be afraid of having big feelings again.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Motherhood is a journey that requires endless perseverance, and sometimes, it feels like we're running on empty. In this episode, we're diving into the power of grit—that blend of passion and persistence that helps moms keep going, even when parenting feels overwhelming. You'll discover why grit matters, how it shapes your parenting experience, and simple ways to cultivate it so you can stay grounded, resilient, and connected to what matters most.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

You've probably heard of growth mindset—maybe in the context of school or education—but today we're going to bring it home. We're going to talk about what it looks like in motherhood, why it's so important for us as parents, and how to start cultivating it in real, practical ways.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

As parents, we're tasked with helping our kids manage technology in a world that is constantly pulling them toward screens. In today's episode, we're looking at how screen time impacts our kids, why structured guidelines matter, and how we can work with technology—rather than letting it take over—so our kids can thrive in both the digital and the real world.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

In this episode, we're diving into why certain parenting moments trigger intense emotional reactions and how to break free from automatic responses. You'll learn how past experiences shape your triggers, why they are clues rather than failures, and how to work with them instead of feeling stuck in guilt. We'll introduce the D.I.G. method to uncover the root of your triggers and the A.I.M. framework to help you stay calm and respond with intention in the moment. If you're ready to understand your reactions, regulate your emotions, and parent with more confidence and connection, this episode is for you.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Do you find yourself constantly second-guessing your parenting decisions—big and small? Laying awake at night replaying conversations, wondering if you got it right? In this episode, we're diving into why self-doubt shows up, how it steals your confidence, and, most importantly, how to break free from the cycle of overthinking so you can start trusting yourself as a mom. You already have the wisdom you need—let's turn down the volume on self-doubt and hear it more clearly. Because when you trust yourself, you parent with more confidence, connection, and peace.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Love is at the heart of every strong relationship—but are we expressing it in a way that truly connects? Often, we assume that what makes us feel loved will do the same for others, but the truth is, everyone experiences love differently. In this episode, we're exploring love languages and how understanding them can transform the way we connect with our children, partners, and even ourselves. We'll break down the five love languages, dive into the science of connection, and share real-life examples of how small shifts in the way we express love can make a big difference. Whether you're parenting, in a relationship, or simply wanting to strengthen your bonds with the people in your life, this episode is packed with practical insights.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

This month, we've been talking all about love—the kind that shapes our families, deepens our connections, and strengthens our bonds. And since we're stepping into Valentine's Day, today we're turning our focus to one of the most foundational relationships in our lives- our marriages.No matter where you are—whether your marriage feels strong or a little strained right now—This episode aims to be real, encouraging, and most of all, doable. Because the truth is, a thriving marriage isn't built on grand gestures or dramatic changes—it's built in the small, intentional choices we make every day. So today, we're diving into what it actually takes to keep a marriage alive, how small moments of connection make a big impact, and how you can start strengthening your relationship right now, in the middle of your busy, messy, real life.  If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

With Valentine's week here, love is in the air—but the deepest, most lasting love is the one we build with our children every day. In this episode, we're exploring how everyday moments of connection shape your child's emotional well-being, strengthen attachment, and build the foundation for their future relationships. From the first time your baby grasps your finger to the moments your teenager seeks comfort after a tough day, these interactions are more than just sweet memories—they're essential for secure attachment and healthy development. We'll dive into the science behind connection, including the power of “serve and return” interactions, and discuss practical ways to strengthen bonds with your child—even in the midst of busy schedules and distractions. Join me as we unpack the simple but profound ways you can create lasting emotional security for your children and why, at the heart of parenting, connection is the key to raising confident, resilient kids. If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

If you've ever cringed at the phrase ‘love yourself' or felt resistance to the idea of self-compassion, you're not alone—today, we're breaking down why this happens, what self-love really means, and how to start treating yourself with the same kindness you give everyone else. We explore why so many moms struggle to include themselves in the love and care they so freely give to others, and why self-compassion isn't just a nice idea—it's a practice that can change the way you show up for yourself and your family.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

In this episode, we're diving into the heart of why so many moms feel like they're failing and uncovering the truth about your worth. You'll learn how to reconnect with your essential self—the unshakable core of who you are—and discover practical tools to quiet your inner critic, embrace self-compassion, and let go of the impossible standards you've been carrying. If you've ever felt overwhelmed, doubted yourself, or wondered if you're enough, this episode will remind you that you already are.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Motherhood is full of love and joy, but let's be honest—it can also feel heavy and overwhelming at times. If you've ever felt stretched too thin or unsure how to handle all the stress that comes your way, you're not alone. In this episode, we're creating a space to talk about those hard moments and how to cope with them in ways that feel manageable and kind to yourself. We'll explore practical, gentle ways to take care of yourself, ease your mind, and find your calm in the chaos. Because no matter how heavy things feel, learning to cope can help you better deal with stress in your life.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

How do we handle those intense moments with our kids when their behavior is way outside of what we find acceptable?Maybe it's a meltdown, name-calling, or your child flat-out ignoring you. In these moments, it's natural to want the behavior to stop. Our instincts kick in, and we want to teach, train, or maybe even hand out a consequence right away. But today, we're going to talk about something powerful we can do before all that—validate our child's feelings.I know this can feel hard, especially when emotions are high. But when we take the time to see things through our child's eyes, something incredible happens. We connect with them on a deeper level, and that connection opens the door to learning, growth, and even better behavior.In this episode, we'll explore why validation matters, how it can help us hold on to our kids even as we set boundaries, and how it serves our ultimate goal: raising emotionally healthy and resilient kids.So grab a cup of coffee, settle in, and let's talk about what it means to validate your kids—and why it's one of the greatest tools in your parenting toolkit. If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

In this episode of Leadership Parenting, we explore a refreshing approach to goal setting that prioritizes what truly matters to YOU. Instead of overwhelming resolutions or rigid plans, we focus on intentional, process-driven goals that align with your unique needs, values, and circumstances. You'll learn how to reflect on the past year, identify areas of growth, and create sustainable habits for your Body, Heart, and Relationships. This episode offers practical steps, insightful questions, and an encouraging perspective to help you design a resilient, joyful year without the pressure to do it all. Whether you're a busy mom or simply seeking clarity for the year ahead, this episode is here to inspire and guide you.

Another year has flown by, and it's the perfect time to pause, reflect, and honor the journey we've all taken—both the wins and the challenges. In this episode, we're diving into how to close out the year with intention, celebrate our efforts (not just accomplishments), and set a foundation of growth and gratitude for ourselves and our families as we enter the new year.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Today, we're diving into a challenge so many of us face as parents during the holidays: keeping our kids—and ourselves—grounded in values amidst the whirlwind of wish lists, big feelings, and high expectations. The holiday season often amplifies emotions, from the excitement of giving and receiving to the inevitable moments of disappointment or overwhelm. In this episode, we'll explore why kids are naturally drawn to materialism during this time and how we can gently guide them toward gratitude and connection. We'll share practical strategies for preparing kids to give and receive gifts gracefully, fostering resilience in the face of unmet expectations, and navigating those tricky moments with empathy and understanding. Just as importantly, we'll focus on you—how to manage your own stress, let go of perfection, and stay centered when the holidays don't go exactly as planned. This is a conversation about finding balance, embracing imperfection, and creating a season filled with meaning for your family.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Do you feel like you're doing it alone during the holidays, or maybe even feel like you fight more during what is supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year? Well, you're not alone. The holidays often bring stress that weighs heavily on our closest relationships. But we're here today to get ahead of that. There are actually some things you can do to stay connected to your partner so you can approach the holidays as a team. In this episode, you'll get some great ideas for staying close even amidst the chaos. If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

The holidays are coming and it's time to prepare your game plan. This Encore episode will help you focus on what to say yes to and what to let go of this holiday season so you can create space for joy, connection, and a season that truly aligns with your values. We're looking at our holiday to-do lists, all of the expectations, the things that are present that kind of overwhelm us and cause us to feel that stress. So, if you listened to this episode already last year, I want to invite you to listen again. The more we're familiar with these ideas, the more we will feel permission to design the holidays to meet OUR goals.  And if this is your first time, I think you're going to really enjoy the freedom that I'm suggesting you get to have in how you want your holidays to look. I've created a little cheat sheet that you can get in the show notes and maybe put on your fridge. It walks through the steps of lowering your stress and reclaiming your power during this time of year. You can get that on my website LeighGermann.com under episode 71. Happy Holidays!If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

One of the obstacles to gratitude is being too busy- and as moms- that is our universal problem. We are too busy to do the things for ourselves that we so desperately need. Which is why in today's episode, we combine two things that you need: a walk outside and some more gratitude goodness, put together in a walking meditation focused on gratitudeA walking meditation isn't necessarily about relaxing your body, although you might find that it happens naturally. It's about retraining your brain. You see, our minds have a natural instinct to focus on problems or what's missing. This meditation is designed to help you shift that focus. We're going to create and strengthen a new path in your mind—one that leads to gratitude, positivity, and hope. Think of it like walking a new trail through a forest. At first, the trail might feel overgrown and unfamiliar, but the more you walk it, the clearer and easier it becomes. And over time, your brain begins to automate that path, naturally choosing gratitude and optimism more often than negativity. So, what I hope you will do this week, is find time to go on a walk with me and practice putting your attention on things that help you-  making a stronger and clearer path for peace and appreciation in your brain—step by step.  If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Even though we often hear about the benefits of being grateful, Did you know that there are real obstacles that can stop us—and our kids—from fully experiencing it. Today, we'll unpack those obstacles and explore how to overcome them, so gratitude becomes more natural and fulfilling part of our daily lives. If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Today we're diving into one of the most challenging aspects of parenting: dealing with the moments when we lose our cool.We're going to talk about why we yell, what it means, and most importantly, how to handle it afterward. This episode is going to dig into the psychology behind yelling, its effects on both us and our kids, and strategies to keep those stressful moments from taking over. By the end of this episode, I hope you'll feel empowered to approach these challenges with a new perspective, practical tools, and maybe a little more self-compassion. If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Today, we're tackling one of the toughest challenges every parent faces: when our kids' behavior pushes us to our limits.Those moments can catch us off guard, and our first instinct might be to correct or even control the behavior. But what if we could approach these situations with a new perspective? Sometimes, frustration arises not just from what our kids are doing, but from our expectations of what they should be doing. In this episode, we're exploring how adjusting our expectations and expanding our "window of acceptability" can make it easier to respond calmly and parent the way we truly desire. If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Today, we're answering a question from a mom about how to talk with her kids and stay connected to them on a deeper level. We look at how to work with our own worries and fears, and use specific skills to help our kids feel secure enough to tell us what's on their minds. Whether you're navigating tough conversations or looking to improve your everyday interactions, I know these insights will help you feel more confident in connecting with your kidsIf you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Today, we dive into a topic every mom knows all too well: overwhelm. From the endless to-do lists to the emotional load we carry, feeling stretched too thin is a common experience. But how do we recognize when we're overwhelmed, and more importantly, what can we do about it? In today's episode  we explore the signs of overwhelm, the hidden contributors that creep into our lives, and practical steps to regain control. You don't have to do it all—let's talk about how you can lighten the load, delegate, and find your power again.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Have you heard that bedtime is one of the most important times of the day for kids? It's a prime opportunity for connection between parents and children.  Research shows that children are more likely to open up and share their thoughts and feelings when they're winding down, making bedtime a great moment for strengthening emotional bonds. However, as many of us know all too well, bedtime can also be one of the most challenging parts of the day for families.Between exhaustion, power struggles, and kids pushing boundaries, it can quickly turn into a stressful experience. In this episode,  we're going to explore how we can use a couple of small ideas to turn this tricky time into a time of connection that feels good to you.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Do you ever wonder how to wrap your kids up tight with your love? I think this is the goal of every parent—to have our kids feel the security of our connection, not just in the big moments, but in the little everyday rhythms that fill their lives. We all want our children to feel safe, valued, and deeply loved. But how do we create that sense of security when life is so full of distractions and responsibilities?One of the most powerful ways to make that connection stick is through family rituals. Now, I'm not just talking about routines or schedules, but meaningful rituals that infuse heart into the ordinary moments of family life. These are the things that make your home feel like a place of warmth and belonging, the moments your kids will look back on and feel grounded by, no matter where life takes them.In today's episode, we're going to dive into how creating family rituals can be your secret superpower for leading your family with love and intention. If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Today, we're diving into a topic that every parent can relate to—those moments when you find yourself reacting to your kids in ways that you wish you hadn't. You know the ones: when the cereal spills, tempers flare, and you suddenly hear yourself snapping in a way that doesn't quite match the loving parent you strive to be. But what if there was a way to take control of those reactions, to respond in a way that aligns with your values and the kind of parent you want to be? That's what we're talking about today: the difference between bottom-up and top-down responses. These are the two ways our brains handle the chaos of parenting—and understanding them could be the key to more calm, more connection, and fewer regrets. In this episode, we'll break down what it means to respond from the bottom up versus the top down, how to recognize when you're in each mode, and—most importantly—how to train yourself to switch gears and even collaborate with yourself when you need it most. Whether you're knee-deep in the morning rush or navigating the emotional rollercoaster of toddlerhood, these insights will help you steer the ship with more intention and less stress.So, let's get started on this journey to more mindful parenting and discover how to respond to life's challenges with the thoughtfulness and grace we all aspire to—at least most of the time!"If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Ever wondered how to stay energized and resilient amidst the chaos of busy summer months or big life changes? Join us for an empowering episode where we uncover the secrets to recharging your energy bank, especially for moms navigating the whirlwind of family life. Through personal stories and practical tips, you'll learn how to identify and integrate small yet impactful moments of self-care into your daily routine, ensuring you're always ready to tackle whatever comes your way. Discover how playful interactions can not only reduce your stress but also strengthen the bonds within your family, making those hectic days a little more manageable and a lot more joyful.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Digital usage has snuck up on us. . It's up to us to understand what the landscape is right now in our digital world and it keeps changing and it's up to us to prepare our kids to know how to handle that changing landscape. Today I'm starting with your most powerful tool, and that's you, because, like anything in life, your kids are going to be most influenced by you, by your daily example, by your beliefs and values and by your conversations with them. One of the biggest problems I think we have with our devices is the separation between what we do and what we want our children to do, and that concept of being and doing what we want our kids to be and do. That's actually the core of what we are all about here at Leadership Parenting. We are working to be resilient ourselves so we can teach our kids how to do it, and they are going to learn the most by just watching us day in and day out,  how we handle our emotions, how we take care of ourselves, how we treat others. They learn to do these things by observing us doing them. Managing the electronic and digital world is absolutely no different. The first step in helping our kids have a healthy relationship with technology comes from how WE create a healthy relationship with technology. If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Can stress actually be your body's way of telling you that everything is functioning as it should? In this episode, we explore the stress cycle and the dire consequences of burnout. By recognizing the natural on-and-off pattern of stress and allowing time for recuperation, we can protect ourselves from severe health issues like high blood pressure, heart disease, and anxiety. Parenting presents its own unique set of stressors, often making the idea of a perfectly calm household seem like a distant dream. But, there's hope. We delve into practical strategies for managing stress within parenting roles, emphasizing the importance of accepting unavoidable stressors, setting boundaries, and aligning expectations with reality. Listen in and equip yourself with the tools to better manage stress for you and your family.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Join me as we tackle the challenges of parenting when values between a parent and child seem worlds apart. In this episode, we explore a mother's struggle with her need for order and calm contrasted with her nine-year-old son's preference for play and silliness. We dive into the importance of understanding children's developmental needs for exploration and noise, and how parents can stretch their perspectives to accommodate these differences. We'll provide insights into bridging the gap between a parent's need for calm and a child's need for fun, helping to foster connection and harmony within the family.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

When we learn about ourselves and HOW to work with ourselves, we're empowering ourselves to be able to show up and be strong, and I don't mean strong like we don't feel the impact of the hard things, but that we've got this core strength internally to handle the challenges no matter what life throws us. This is resilience! In today's episode we celebrate the one year anniversary of Leadership Parenting by reviewing the top few things that help us become resilient. It's a quick review but one that can help us remember how far we have come in learning these concepts!  By regularly revisiting resilience concepts, we can train our brains to adopt a resilient mindset, leading to a life filled with confidence and joy. Join me for an insightful conversation on building resilience and discovering joy amidst life's unpredictable journey.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

We all experience  automatic negative thoughts. They come really without our choice, and they can also make our life feel really heavy and hard when we're worrying about the future or unforgiving of mistakes or maybe even thinking of the worst things that could happen in our life.  Negative thoughts tend to become habitual thinking and come so fast into our heads that we're totally at their mercy. One of the ways to deal with this is to create alternative thoughts that give us more possibility and that match more of how we want to think. This is what affirmations do, they counter detrimental thoughts with empowering truths about ourselves, In this episode, I show you how to draft affirmations that are not mere platitudes but reflections of your deepest strengths. Whether you're affirming "I am safe" or celebrating that "There is more love in my life than fear," you can cultivate a practice of affirmations that mirror the support you'd give to a cherished friend!  Join me as we talk about affirmation so we can think better and feel better!If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

 In this episode, we delve into the powerful role that automated negative thoughts (ANTs) play in shaping our mental health and provide you with a comprehensive understanding of how ANTs can trigger detrimental emotional reactions.We also look at  practical techniques to help us work with our thoughts.  These strategies are designed to combat negative emotional responses and foster a resilient, positive mental atmosphere. By mastering these techniques, you can develop the skills to navigate the landscape of your mind more effectively, learning how to quiet negative thought patterns and enhance your overall mental health.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Ever found yourself in the throes of frustration, fists clenched, and patience worn thin? We've all been there, and in this episode, I pull back the curtain on the elusive art of frustration tolerance. It's not just about biting your tongue or counting to ten; it's a journey through the emotional wilderness that teaches us resilience, patience, and adaptability. Patience isn't just a virtue—it's a skill, and one that's particularly tested in the realm of parenting. In this episode, we tackle the herculean task of aligning our expectations with the ever-changing developmental stages of our children. By planning for those car seat battles or the painstakingly slow shoe-tying sessions, we're not just teaching our kids; we're learning patience ourselves.  By challenging our assumptions and working with our expectations, we can model better behavior for our children, making for a more resilient and joyful experience in our families. If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Every day, we have to handle our feelings while trying to do the things that we feel are most important to us. I call this being emotional driven or value driven- and it actually matters which way we decide to go.  Do we prioritize values or emotions?  This choice is something few of us are even aware that we can make. Because emotions come quickly and often, we will do anything to avoid the painful ones, maybe even at the expense of what matters most to us. Ultimately, "The Choice" challenges us to explore whether we want to live a life dictated by avoiding painful emotions or one anchored in enduring values. In today's episode, we look at how to navigate this choice and emerge confident in our ability to effectively manage our emotions and show up the way that serves us best.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

We all face moments when life's demands seem to eclipse our capacity to cope. A great framework to understand when this is happening is that of the Window of Tolerance: a tool that's crucial for maintaining our emotional equilibrium. In this episode, we talk about what the Window of Tolerance is, how you know you have been bumped out of it and how to get back into it! I share strategies that range from mindfulness practices to embracing everyday frustrations with grace. We also look at how to train to expand your Window of Tolerance through mindfulness, controlled exposure to discomfort, and the cultivation of frustration tolerance. I emphasize the role of self-care and the power of compassion over judgment, as we steer through life's challenges. This episode unpacks the balance between resilience and vulnerability, and how both are vital in fostering confidence and joy in ourselves and our children. I hope you'll join me!If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

Empathy has the power to help us understand, connect and feel some of the emotions that other people are feeling around us. This is a great skill to have, but it also has a little bit of a dark side. Today, we're talking about how we can use empathy in a way that protects both us and others.I explore how empathy can help us connect and understand others, but also how it can lead us into a trap of judgement and emotional challenges. We chat about the idea of 'selective empathy' and how it affects our society and personal relationships. We also discuss hyper-empathy syndrome, where people feel emotions so deeply, they can't separate their feelings from others. I highlight the importance of setting emotional boundaries so you can still be empathetic without losing yourself. There is a way to use empathy so that it serves you rather than hurts you!  If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

The art of empathy is more than just a concept; it's a practice that, when applied to our relationships, can transform the way we support our loved ones. We discuss the four attributes of empathy and how to implement them, particularly in moments of distress, whether it's a child feeling rejected or a partner misunderstood. Listen in to learn more about empathy and how to use this tool to increase or connection and strengthen our relationships.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

We all know how challenging it can be to feel confident in a society that constantly shifts the goalposts of beauty ideals.  Finding beauty beyond the mirror and nurturing self-worth that transcends our physical appearances is the key to survival.  In todays episode, we're talking about how our children are watching us, picking up on our cues, and, sometimes without us even realizing it, they're learning to navigate their own self-esteem journeys based on what they see in us. This is a conversation that's particularly important for us parents as we guide our children through the choppy waters of an image-obsessed world.  If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

As a therapist and mother, I've observed the transformation of parenting styles from enforcing strict obedience to embracing individuality. Have you ever felt caught up in this transition, unsure of which path to take? We're journeying through this together in today's podcast, where we explore the delicate equilibrium every family seeks between guiding our children and also nurturing ourselves. By revisiting the historical backdrop of parenting, we discuss the importance of adapting to the unique attributes each child brings, and how this shift has affected their resilience and ours. I outline a parenting strategy tailored to the individual needs of your family, one that respects the cultural values we all carry and directs towards a destination where safety, attachment, and life skills are the goals we strive to achieve for our children. I emphasize the importance of maintaining parental authority without stifling your children with excessive control. You'll learn why setting boundaries and making tough decisions can actually help your children experience the joy of simply being kids, while also allowing you the opportunity to prioritize your own self-care and wellness. This episode is an opportunity to introspect on our parenting styles and how they mold our family's future. Whether you're a novice or a seasoned parent, there's something to get you thinking!If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com