Podcasts about feel loved

Sonja Lyubomirsky is a psychologist, professor, and author. What does it really mean to feel loved? People say "I love you" all the time, but why doesn't it always register? Why can someone love you deeply, yet you still don't feel it? What does real love actually feel like? Expect to learn if there is a commonality between all of the happiness interventions out there, why feeling loved is important, how self-esteem and self-love are related, why having a sharing mindset is so important, what it actually means to be understood, the things that make you happier you might be overlooking, and much more... Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: ⁠⁠https://chriswillx.com/deals⁠⁠ Timestamps: (0:00) Why Do We Need to Feel Loved? (2:51) Don't Spend Your Life Trying to Be Loveable (5:22) What It Really Means to Feel Loved (6:36) The Biggest Ways Push Love Away (9:39) Do Self-Esteem Interventions Exist? (13:43) Is Romantic Love the Most Important Type of Love? (16:20) The Words More Powerful Than ‘I Love You' (18:10) Why Receiving Love Is a Skill (19:24) The Importance of a Sharing Mindset (24:35) Are Vulnerable People More Likeable? (30:09) Why Validation Changes Everything (32:54) Is Therapy Speak Helping or Hurting? (36:59) We Need to Ask Deeper Questions (40:03) Why Multiplicity Can Be So Hard (44:07) The Strongest Predictors of Relationship Success (48:51) Should Everything Be Reciprocal? (55:24) The Habits That Make You Feel Loved (58:34) The Most Fascinating Study Sonja Has Conducted (01:01:17) Is This the Best Definition For Introvert and Extrovert? (01:05:23) The Biggest Misconception About Happiness (01:08:56) What Should We Prioritise to Be Happy? (01:11:19) Where to Find Sonja Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: ⁠⁠https://chriswillx.com/books⁠⁠ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: ⁠⁠https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom⁠⁠ Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: ⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠ #712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs: ⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠ #700 - Dr Andrew Huberman - The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain: ⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠ - Get In Touch: Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx⁠⁠ Twitter: ⁠⁠https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠https://chriswillx.com/contact⁠⁠ - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Forrest is joined by one of the world's leading happiness researchers, Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, to discuss the real secret to happiness: feeling loved. Dr. Lyubomirsky explains the key difference between being loved and feeling loved, why self-improvement (usually) isn't the answer, and how giving love leads to getting love. They then walk through five mindsets that help people both get more love and feel more loved. Other topics include the vulnerability paradox, capitalization and the importance of enthusiasm, using the mindsets to evaluate our relationships, polyamory and non-monogamous love, and AI companions. You can find Sonja's diagnostic quiz at howtofeelloved.com  About our Guest: Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky is a Professor of Psychology at UC Riverside, and the author of a number of bestselling books including How to Feel Loved with Dr. Harry Reis. She is one of the most frequently cited well-being researchers in the world. Key Topics: 0:00: Intro: connection as the key to happiness 2:31: The difference between being loved and feeling loved 6:58: What love is 9:09: If only beliefs and the vulnerability paradox 19:36: Mindsets to embrace if you're looking for more love and connection 23:26: The relationship “sea”saw 31:44: Five mindsets to embrace if you want to feel more loved 51:51: AI companionship, polyamory, and MDMA 1:08:03: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Visit Rula.com/BEINGWELL to find affordable, high-quality therapy that's actually covered by insurance.  Level up your bedding with Quince. Go to Quince.com/BEINGWELL for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

BEBBO takes over this Stereo Productions Radio Show with an exclusive mix featuring his forthcoming release "Feel Loved", plus a selection of unreleased tracks and fresh music straight from the studio. Expect soulful grooves, uplifting energy, and a preview of the sounds set to define his summer.

Footie legend Jimmy Floyd Hasselbaink gets us excited about the England World Cup game against Croatia.Awesome actor Himesh Patel lifts the lid on his huge new films, Enola Holmes 3 and The Odyssey.Super psychologist and best-selling author Sonja Lyubomirsky leafs through her relationship guide How to Feel Loved.Catch TFI Unplugged on Channel 4 at 11:05pm on Friday nights and on the Virgin Radio UK YouTube channel! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Quinlan Walther is a writer and a relationship coach. Why do we keep choosing the wrong partners? We meet someone new and think, “Maybe this is finally the one.” But then the pattern starts to feel familiar. Different face, same pain. Different relationship, same lesson. So why do we keep dating our trauma, and what does it actually take to break the cycle? Expect to learn how to build self-worth and have a better relationship with your partner, why you often choose a “wound” other than a partner, how to stop mistaking anxiety for chemistry, how to set good standards versus unrealistic expectations, the internet's big problem when dolling out relationship advice and much more… Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: ⁠⁠https://chriswillx.com/deals⁠⁠ Get a free bottle of D3K2, an AG1 Welcome Kit, and more when you first subscribe at https://ag1.info/modernwisdom Get the brand new Whoop 5.0 and your first month for free at https://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom Get 15% off your first order of my favourite Non-Alcoholic Brew at https://athleticbrewing.com/modernwisdom Get 160+ lab tests for just $365 and save an extra $25 at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom Get ChatGPT to explore ideas, solve problems, and learn faster at ⁠https://chatgpt.com Timestamps: (0:00) What Your Partner Says About Your Self-Worth (2:31) Where Does Self-Trust Come From? (5:18) Why Curiosity and Capacity Feel So Difficult (8:53) Are Our ‘Types' Just Unresolved Trauma? (19:17) Who Do You Need to Be to Feel Loved? (23:31) Are You Choosing a Partner Or a Wound? (34:41) Are Avoidant People the Most Attractive? (38:21) Why Healing the Past Changes Everything (41:07) Is Too Much Empathy a Bad Thing? (45:43) The Boundary Lessons Everyone Needs (52:04) Is Ego Getting in the Way? (56:43) The Most Common Misconceptions Between the Sexes (01:00:39) The Mistake Many Women Make When Men Open Up (01:02:01) Have Dating Standards Become Unrealistic? (01:07:16) The Hardest Relationship Cycles to Break (01:08:33) How to Repair Ruptures in Your Relationship (01:15:01) Balancing Impulse and Overthinking (01:18:03) Why You Need Self-Trust in a Relationship (01:23:36) What AI Relationships Reveal About Modern Love (01:32:40) Where to Find Quinlan Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: ⁠⁠https://chriswillx.com/books⁠⁠ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: ⁠⁠https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom⁠⁠ Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: ⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠ #712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs: ⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠ #700 - Dr Andrew Huberman - The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain: ⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠ - Get In Touch: Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx⁠⁠ Twitter: ⁠⁠https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠https://chriswillx.com/contact⁠⁠ - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sonja Lyubomirsky, happiness researcher and author of How to Feel Loved, joins Offline to explain the secret to living a contented life—and why the internet makes it so damn hard. If everyone we love and seek to impress is reachable at all times…why are Americans getting less happy, year after year? Sonja and Jon chat about how social media curation may be seeping offline, the ways our digital lives have affected our ability to form strong relationships, and whether AI could actually help bring under-socialized, under-romanced teens out of their shells.For a closed-captioned version of this episode, click here. For a transcript of this episode, please email transcripts@crooked.com and include the name of the podcast, episode title, and episode date.

Why is it that so many of us are loved... and yet don't actually feel loved?Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky is a Professor of Psychology at UC Riverside and one of the world's leading researchers on happiness. Her newest book, How to Feel Loved, co-authored with relationship scientist Harry Reis, lands at a strange moment: a time when more people than ever say they are connected, and more people than ever say they don't actually feel it. In this conversation with Dr. Michael Gervais, Sonja offers a quietly radical reframe. After 36 years of studying what makes a life happy, she has come to believe the answer lies in this: Feeling loved.And here is where it gets interesting. Sonja's research is showing that feeling loved is not something we have to wait for. It's something we can help create. Most of us, when we sense the absence, default to one of two strategies. We try to be more lovable. Or we try to change the person on the other side. Sonja argues that neither one actually works. What changes a relationship is changing the conversation.She walks Mike through the five mindsets at the heart of the book: the sharing mindset, listening to learn, radical curiosity, open heart, and multiplicity. Along the way, they explore why most of us are listening to respond instead of listening to learn, the three words people actually want to hear (hint: it's not I love you), and why ‘tell me more' might be one of the most loving phrases in the English language. Sonja shares her foggy glass metaphor for why being known is the prerequisite to being loved, the Michelangelo effect, and a striking line the Dalai Lama once said to her about how we hold each other.The conversation also gets honest about the harder edges. Bridging political divides at the dinner table. Staying curious about a partner of 30 years. Navigating the modern questions around AI companions, monogamy, and what it means to really go deep with another human. And the research on what tiny acts of kindness, including the impact a 10-second compliment can have.If you've ever been surrounded by people who love you and still felt unseen, this conversation is a gentle invitation back in. The good news is that feeling loved is under your control, more than you think. Sonja's research will show you exactly where to start.Most of us are waiting to feel loved. Sonja shows us how to create the conditions for it... starting today._____________________________________________________Links & ResourcesThis episode is brought to you in part by our partner Sunlighten, the company that has pioneered infrared sauna technology. Go to https://findingmastery.com/sunlighten to see how you can save up to $2,200 on their mPulse Intelligent Sauna.Subscribe to our YouTube Channel for more conversations at the intersection of high performance, leadership, and wellbeing: https://www.youtube.com/c/FindingMastery Get exclusive discounts and support our amazing sponsors!Go to: https://findingmastery.com/sponsors/ Subscribe to the Finding Mastery newsletter for weekly high performance insights: https://www.findingmastery.com/newsletter Download Dr. Mike's Morning Mindset Routine: findingmastery.com/morningmindsetFollow on YouTube, Instagram, LinkedIn, and XBook: How to Feel Loved by Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky and Harry Reis. Learn more and take the mindset quiz at howtofeellove.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Send us Fan MailKnowing God's love and actually feeling loved by Him can seem like two completely different things.That gap is exactly what this episode is about. My co-host Kari Eliza of Held Right Here has spent years at the intersection of attachment science, nervous system health, and Christian faith. And what she taught me about experiencing God's love didn't just change how I pray. It shifted how I move through my whole day.In this episode, Kari Eliza walks us through a simple daily practice, one that started not as a spiritual exercise at all but as a way to calm her nervous system. What grew out of it was something she describes as the most transformative thing she has ever done.Three things you will take away from this conversation:Why knowing God loves you and feeling His love are two different things and what creates that gapHow a practice rooted in secure attachment can help you move from performance and striving into genuine rest with GodPractical ways to begin, even if sitting quietly with God feels uncomfortable or unfamiliar at firstWe talk about why Zephaniah 3:17 hits differently when you have experienced what God's delight in you actually feels like. She also highly recommends the book Anatomy of the Soul (affl.) by Dr. Curt Thompson, if you want to go deeper.This is the kind of midlife Christian women spiritual growth conversation that does not come with a five-step formula. It comes with an invitation to slow down and let God love on you.If you are pursuing a God-shaped dream, the intimacy you build with the Lord in this practice is not separate from your calling. It is the foundation of it.If you want to keep growing in community, come find us at Dream Believers, my online space for Christian women who are done waiting on the sidelines and ready to make real progress together. Come find us at merrittonsa.com/dreambelievers.

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Allen Sliwa is the host of Hoops Talk on YouTube and the co-host of Schaeffer & Sliwa on San Diego Sports 760. Allen is a longtime Lakers insider and he pulled the curtain back on what he believes LeBron will do about next year after he takes some time to meet with his family. Also discussion on whose team is it now - LeBron's or Luka's - and what do the Lakers need to add if they hope to make a run next season. The Christopher Gabriel Program ----------------------------------------------------------- Please Like, Comment and Follow 'The Christopher Gabriel Program' on all platforms: The Christopher Gabriel Program is available on the KMJNOW app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube or wherever else you listen to podcasts. --- The Christopher Gabriel Program | Website | Facebook | X | Instagram | --- Everything KMJ KMJNOW App | Podcasts | Facebook | X | Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Allen Sliwa is the host of Hoops Talk on YouTube and the co-host of Schaeffer & Sliwa on San Diego Sports 760. Allen is a longtime Lakers insider and he pulled the curtain back on what he believes LeBron will do about next year after he takes some time to meet with his family. Also discussion on whose team is it now - LeBron's or Luka's - and what do the Lakers need to add if they hope to make a run next season. The Christopher Gabriel Program ----------------------------------------------------------- Please Like, Comment and Follow 'The Christopher Gabriel Program' on all platforms: The Christopher Gabriel Program is available on the KMJNOW app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube or wherever else you listen to podcasts. --- The Christopher Gabriel Program | Website | Facebook | X | Instagram | --- Everything KMJ KMJNOW App | Podcasts | Facebook | X | Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hosted by future King Priest and certified real estate investment member Jodi Jedele, Jehovah's Witnesses are reminded that Jehovah is the most loving father in the universe, despite criminal abuse, shunning, death and more!TWITTER: @exjwpodcastINSTAGRAM: survivingparadisepodcast

Hello, Beautiful...I'm so grateful you're here with me. Happy Mother's Day, beautiful. This heartfelt meditation for women invites you to slow down, feel appreciated, and soak in love, gratitude, and deep emotional connection. Whether you're celebrating, remembering, or simply being, this space is here to hold you in warmth and reflection. Love,

Hello, Beautiful...I'm so grateful you're here with me. Happy Mother's Day, beautiful. This heartfelt meditation for women invites you to slow down, feel appreciated, and soak in love, gratitude, and deep emotional connection. Whether you're celebrating, remembering, or simply being, this space is here to hold you in warmth and reflection. Love,

Hello, Beautiful...I'm so grateful you're here with me. Happy Mother's Day, beautiful. This heartfelt meditation for women invites you to slow down, feel appreciated, and soak in love, gratitude, and deep emotional connection. Whether you're celebrating, remembering, or simply being, this space is here to hold you in warmth and reflection. Love,

Hello, Beautiful...I'm so grateful you're here with me. Happy Mother's Day, beautiful. This heartfelt meditation for women invites you to slow down, feel appreciated, and soak in love, gratitude, and deep emotional connection. Whether you're celebrating, remembering, or simply being, this space is here to hold you in warmth and reflection. Love,

Hello, Beautiful...I'm so grateful you're here with me. Happy Mother's Day, beautiful. This heartfelt meditation for women invites you to slow down, feel appreciated, and soak in love, gratitude, and deep emotional connection. Whether you're celebrating, remembering, or simply being, this space is here to hold you in warmth and reflection. Love,

There is a certain irony in your situation, visible only if you step back far enough. You have spent your entire adult life getting very good at one particular skill: earning. It built the career, the bank account, the reputation. Then you walked into the one room in life where earning stops working — love — and wondered why your strategy had failed you. Your strategy didn't fail. It's just that the room is now different. Underlying all of it is one contract, signed before you could read, and honoured every day since. The contract says you must earn love. But love, the real kind, cannot be earned. And you will never know it — with a partner, an ageing parent, an old friend — until you face the foundation beneath. A part of you, learned long ago, believes you are not worthy of love. But you are. Your existence is the proof. This episode shows you why every relationship has ended the same way. It names the capacity that carries you through any loss, any failure, any pain an intimate life will eventually bring. And it shows you what the right foundation actually is, and how to lay it. Retire the contract. Before you sign it once more on a marriage certificate. Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: The one capacity you must build if you want a fulfilling intimate life (and why you don't need the right partner, the right circumstances, or the right timing to start cultivating this skill) (0:26)  Why you don't have a dating problem or a finding the right partner problem (even though the real problem wears both of these masks to deceive you) (1:35)  How to stop carrying the baggage of a lack of self-worth that will cripple every relationship you have until you're fed up with feeling empty inside (2:10) Why finding the right partner fundamentally cannot help you feel worthy of love (2:45)  The insidious "disease acting like the cure" trap you're falling into in relationships and in therapy that will take you further from a fulfilling intimate life as it pretends to bring you closer (3:30)  How greeting cards and pop songs have warped your perception of love and actually has made it harder to find unconditional love (4:57)  The precise psychological process of how your nervous system learned you're not worthy (and how a seemingly innocent memory can control every aspect of your adult life) (8:52)  How to help your nervous system know that you carry a worth that no resume and no failure could ever take away (11:25)  Why changing just one word in your vocabulary can almost mystically open up a new door in your life: one that leads to unconditional love (18:40)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Feeling like success in one area of life has come at the expense of another? Maybe you've crushed it in your career, but your relationships feel strained. Or you've built the life you thought you wanted, yet there's still something important missing. I've put together a free 3-minute assessment to help you see what's really holding you back. Answer a few simple questions, and you'll get instant access to a personalized masterclass that speaks directly to where you are right now. It's fast. It's practical. And it could change the way you approach leadership, love, and fulfillment. Take the first step here → https://dtphd.com/quiz

What if the issue isn't whether people love you, but whether you actually feel it? In this episode, Sonja Lyubomirsky joins us to explore the gap between being loved and feeling loved, and why that disconnect happens. Drawing from her book How to Feel Loved, we talk about the psychology behind connection, challenge common myths like love languages, and dig into how curiosity, vulnerability, and better conversations can help you build more meaningful relationships. Topics [0:00] Intro and Speed Round with Sonja Lyubomirsky [11:08] Being Loved vs. Feeling Loved [14:14] Why Love Doesn't Always “Land” [19:42] Deep Conversations vs. Small Talk [23:47] Vulnerability: The Key to Real Connection [32:01] What Are Love Mindsets? [37:24] Psychological Barriers to Feeling Loved [44:53] The #1 Happiness Tip  [50:51] Are Love Languages Real? [53:23] Music, Focus, and Flow [56:21] Grooving Session: Letting Love In ©2026 Behavioral Grooves Links Groove vs Grind Survey About Sonja How to Feel Loved by Sonja Lyubomirsky and Harry Reis Join us on Substack! Join the Behavioral Grooves community Subscribe to Behavioral Grooves on YouTube Support Behavioral Grooves Musical Links Tina Turner - What's Love Got To Do With It The Lumineers - Stubborn Love

Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky is one of the world's leading researchers on happiness, human flourishing, and what actually helps people feel connected. A Professor of Psychology at UC Riverside, she is the bestselling author of The How of Happiness and The Myths of Happiness, published in 39 countries. Her latest book, written with Harry Reis, is How to Feel Loved. Sonja's work has shaped the modern science of happiness and earned major honors, including recognition as a Fellow of the American Association for the Advancement of Science, an Honorary Doctorate from the University of Basel, and several leading awards in personality and positive psychology. She also writes a popular newsletter on the science of happiness, and her research has been featured widely in media, documentaries, podcasts, and public conversations around the world. On the show, we cover: Self-help culture and happiness The happiness trap: doing what we think will make us happy that can backfire The counterfactual gratitude practice The "masking effect": seeking admiration and its impact on connection The vulnerability paradox Being loved vs. feeling loved Curiosity as a way of making other people feel seen Challenging the Five Love Languages Why small daily moments of connection matter so much On AI: the rise of AI companions and simulated connection The multiplicity mindset: why people are more than one trait or action For show notes and more, visit larryweeks.com

What's the difference between being loved and feeling loved? Psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky joins us to discuss the distinction, and how we can create a stronger feeling of closeness in our relationships. Then, in our latest installment of Your Questions Answered, psychologist Greg Walton returns to answer listeners' questions about negative thought spirals.As individuals and as a society, we often overlook a strategy that can help us to improve our lives. We discuss this tool in a new video on Hidden Brain's YouTube channel. Please check it out, and let us know what you think! Episode illustration by Getty Images for Unsplash+ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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Host Diana Korte speaks with Psychology Professor Harry Reis whose newest title is "HOW TO FEEL LOVED. The Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most." We can be loved and still not feel loved. Many people believe that if they behave the right way, say the right things, or make themselves more lovable, they will feel more loved. Turns out it doesn't work that way. In this exceptional book the authors, a relationship expert (Reis) and a happiness researcher (Lyubomirsky), present a hopeful science-backed shift in how to think about love. As they say, don't change yourself—change the conversation.

How important are relationships and the feeling of being loved to human happiness? How have the fields of happiness studies and relationship studies converged?  Sonja Lyubomirsky is a professor of psychology at the University of California, Riverside. She is also the author or co-author of the books How to Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most, The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want, and The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, but Doesn't, What Shouldn't Make You Happy, but Does. Greg and Sonja discuss her shift from happiness research to her co-authored book with Harry Reis, How to Feel Loved. Sonja explains that many happiness interventions (gratitude letters, kindness practices, and variations like texting gratitude vs. social media posting vs. private writing) work largely because they increase feelings of love and connection They also discuss why listening is difficult, with Sonja sharing her experience in a Tel Aviv listening workshop, and the need for compassion and a growth mindset. Other themes include the Michelangelo effect (helping others become who they aspire to be), balancing sharing and listening (avoiding monologues or interrogations), appropriate vulnerability and gradual self-disclosure, and the “multiplicity” mindset of seeing people as complex quilts of good and bad traits to reduce harsh judgment.  The episode also considers whether people can feel loved without being loved, including AI companions that can mimic excellent listening but lack a genuine open heart, and the risk that some people may substitute simulated relationships for real ones.  *unSILOed Podcast is produced by University FM.* Episode Quotes: What's the distinction between being loved and feeling loved? 07:42: A lot of us are loved, but we do not feel loved. So we might have, we might know that our partner loves us or child, or a family member or friend or colleague. But we do not really feel loved. And when you think about it, feeling loved is what really matters even more, right? Because if, you know, if you love me, but I do not feel loved by you, it is almost like you do not love me, right? Like, because I am not really sensing that, and so feeling loved is really important. That is what really matters to happiness. The key to feeling loved is really to be known and to know the other 10:16: The key to feeling loved is really to be known and to know the other, and we get known by taking the wall down a little bit. And I get to know you if I help you take your wall down. How do I help you take your wall down? By showing curiosity. Then hopefully you will start to open up a little bit. I show even more curiosity. I ask you questions and I l truly listen, not really just try to fix it or help you or tell my own story. I just listen to learn. The first step to feel more loved 09:11: If I want to feel more loved, the first step, which may sound counterintuitive, is to help the other person feel loved first. You go first. I go first. The first step is to show genuine curiosity in the other person, in their inner life and the details of their day, their dreams, goals, values, fears. We all want that. We want to be seen, we want to be heard, and we do not get genuine curiosity very often. When was the last time you remember telling a story about yourself and the other person was so curious they could not wait for you to finish the sentence? It is rare. When it happens, it is priceless. That is such a gift to someone, to show authentic curiosity in them. It has to be authentic because you cannot fake it. That is the first step. You help the person be seen by showing curiosity in them, and that helps them open up more. Real connection requires both listening and sharing 18:48: If you only share, it is a monologue. You are spouting off. If you only listen, then it is an interview. It is an interrogation sometimes. You really need to do both. They go together. That is where the emotional intelligence comes in. Because when you are sharing, the entire time you are sharing, and we all know people who do not do this, they go off and they seem to not see any cues that the other person is not interested in continuing the story. Show Links: Recommended Resources: Harry Reis Relationship Science Michelangelo Phenomenon Impression Management Multiplicity The All-or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work Esther Perel Love 2.0: How Our Supreme Emotion Affects Everything We Feel, Think, Do, and Become Techne Unsiloed 208: Psychological Safety and the Benefits of Discomfort with Todd Kashdan Guest Profile: SonjaLyubomirsky.com Faculty Profile at UC Riverside LinkedIn Profile Profile on Wikipedia Social Profile on Instagram Social Profile on X Guest Work: Amazon Author Page How to Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, but Doesn't, What Shouldn't Make You Happy, but Does Google Scholar Page TED Talk | 1 thing you can do today to be happier Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. 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Your kid rolls their eyes before you finish a sentence. Screens compete with your voice. Homework feels like a performance review. Dr. Kathy Koch shows how to get past the noise and actually connect. Learn simple, practical ways to be seen as more than a nag, to help your kids feel known, loved, and brave, and to raise relationally strong kids who can thrive—inside and outside the digital world. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/84/29?v=20251111

Roger Whitney shifts from financial planning to the non-financial pillar of relationships, sharing a live conversation with Harry Reis about how to feel more loved and connected in retirement. Together they explore the science behind belonging and loneliness, introduce practical mindsets for deepening relationships, answer listener questions, and close with the team's latest book recommendations.OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE OF THE RETIREMENT ANSWER MAN(00:00) This show is dedicated to helping you not just survive retirement but have the confidence and clarity to lean in and rock it.(00:27) Roger outlines the month ahead: a focus on relationships, an upcoming financial deep dive with Wade Pfau, wisdom from retirees navigating health care before Medicare, a candid discussion on retirement calculators, and a live Noodle hangout.CONVERSATION WITH HARRY REISS(02:00) Roger introduces Harry Reis, co-author (with Sonja Lyubomirsky) of How to Feel Loved, for a conversation recorded live in the Rock Retirement Club.(05:17) Roger asks Harry what led him down the path to study relationships and partner with Sonja Lyubomirsky for the book.(15:00) Harry talks about the loneliness epidemic and the effects of not feeling loved.(17:45) Roger and Harry talk about the obstacles and myths of being loved. (23:15) Harry introduces the sea-saw framework for relationships.(27:00) Harry shares practical mindsets for strengthening connection, including listening to learn, radical curiosity, multiplicity, and mutual vulnerability.(43:30) Roger reflects on why this is important.LISTENER QUESTIONS(45:00) Listeners share questions about one-sided conversations, vulnerability, and love languages, leading to practical discussion about compatibility, communication, and choosing people willing to “play seesaw.”WHAT'S ON THE BOOKSHELF?(58:00) The team shares recent reads.SMART SPRINT(1:05:55) Consider one relationship you want to deepen. Practice listening to learn this week. Ask one more follow-up question than you normally would and notice what happens.REFERENCESSubmit a Question for RogerSign up for The NoodleThe Retirement Answer ManHow to Feel Loved  by Sonja Lyubomirsky and Harry Reis

Feeling loved sounds simple, but it is not something that just happens because someone cares about you. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael talks with Sonja Lyubomirsky and Harry Reis about their book, How to Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most, and why it is possible to be loved but not actually feel loved.They explore what really helps people feel cared for and understood in any kind of relationship, why stress or attachment patterns can get in the way, and how small mindset shifts like listening to learn or being willing to go first can make a big difference in how connected you feel.It is less about following relationship rules and more about how you show up. Your curiosity, your openness, and your willingness to understand someone else and let yourself be understood too. If connection sometimes feels harder than it should, this episode is for you.Listen and Learn: How the happiness habits you already know, like gratitude or kindness, may actually work by strengthening a hidden relationship dynamic that makes people feel deeply understood and loved in everyday interactionsWhat are the key ingredients that quietly combine to make us feel truly loved and understood by others?How feeling loved often depends less on what's done for us and more on whether we truly feel seen, understood, and connected in the momentHow shifting your mindset in love can transform simple behaviors into deeper, more genuine connections that naturally grow intimacyHow showing up first in relationships can feel risky, but it often unlocks deeper connections in ways you might not expectWhy feeling loved isn't just about what you receive, it's about how you understand and respond to the love others are trying to giveEmbracing the messy, multifaceted parts of yourself to completely change how you experience love and connectionResources: How to Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780063426665 Sonja's Website: https://sonjalyubomirsky.com Card deck from Sojna's recommendation: The Andhttps://howtofeelloved.com/ Connect with Sonja on Social Media: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sonja-lyubomirsky-21283bb/https://www.instagram.com/sonjalyubomirsky/https://www.facebook.com/sonja.lyubomirsky About Sonja Lyubomirsky and Harry Reis: Sonja Lyubomirsky is a Distinguished Professor of Psychology at UC Riverside and the author of The How of Happiness and The Myths of Happiness. She's also a returning guest on Psychologists Off the Clock — you can catch her first appearance in episode 227.Harry Reis is a Dean's Professor of Psychology at the University of Rochester and one of the most influential relationship scientists working today, known for foundational research on intimacy, responsiveness, and what makes people feel truly connected.Together, they've written How to Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets that Get You More of What Matters Most — a book that reframes the question most of us have been asking wrong.Related Episodes:172. Performing Under Pressure with Sian Beilock227. The Science of Happy with Sonja Lyubomirsky413. Validate with Caroline Fleck422. Mindwise with Nicholas EpleySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

​Sonja Lyubomirsky​ is one of the most influential happiness researchers of our time. Sonja moved to the United States from Moscow at age 9 in the 70s. She went to Harvard and Stanford in the 80s and began studying happiness in 1989 ... longer than almost anyone else alive! Positive psychology wasn't "founded" by ​Martin Seligman​ and ​Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi​ for another decade. Sonja has published hundreds of papers including her ​Most Cited 2005 paper​ which defined the field by flipping a long-held assumption on its head: That happiness doesn't follow success but causes it. Sonja is now following up her bestsellers '​The How of Happiness​' and '​The Myths Of Happiness​' with a new book called '​How to Feel Loved​', a joint effort co-written with relationship expert ​Dr. Harry Reis​, which is a culmination of 30 years of research that all point to one central truth: that feeling loved (not just being loved!) is a crucial ingredient of happiness. In this conversation we talk about the four horsemen that can ruin a marriage, what MDMA does to our brains, why small talk doesn't build connection, the best advice for dating, how our brains respond to love, the single best way to feel happier today, and, of course, the eminent Professor Sonja Lyubomirsky's 3 most formative books. Let's flip the page to Chapter 158 now...

Are you a Highly Sensitive Person under stress? Find out—take the free test at https://trueinnerfreedom.com/hsp-stress-test/ Have you ever wondered why, even when someone genuinely loves you, it still doesn't feel real? If you're a highly sensitive person (HSP), your nervous system may be wired to detect subtle inconsistencies—and those same signals can quietly distort your ability to trust and receive love. This episode explores how stress, past experiences, and survival stories filter love before it can ever reach your heart. Understand why it feels so hard to take in love—even when it's real and present. Discover the unconscious beliefs HSPs carry that block their sense of worth and connection. Learn a gentle, meditative method to question these beliefs and reconnect with the truth of who you are. If you're ready to feel the love that's been here all along, press play and start untangling the stories that stand in your way. Todd Smith, founder of True Inner Freedom Dreaming of a stress-free, balanced life? Visit trueinnerfreedom.com and complete the HSP Stress Survey. Gain clarity on your stress triggers and enjoy a free 15-minute Inner Freedom Call designed to guide you toward lasting inner peace and fulfillment. Are you a highly sensitive person (HSP) or someone who identifies as hypersensitive or neurodivergent? This podcast is dedicated to helping highly sensitive people (HSPs) navigate overwhelm and stress by using The Work of Byron Katie—a powerful method for questioning stressful thoughts and finding true inner freedom. We dive deep into stress management strategies, coping with stress, and stress relief methods specifically tailored for HSPs. Learn how to manage emotions, especially negative ones, and explore effective stress reduction techniques that go beyond the surface to address the root causes of anxiety and pressure. Whether you're interested in learning how to lower stress, handle stress and pressure, or reduce stress through practical techniques, we provide insights and support based on The Work of Byron Katie. Discover how this transformative approach can help you decrease stress, find inner peace, and create balance in your life. Join us to learn about various coping strategies for stress, all designed to support HSPs in their journey toward emotional well-being.

Roger Whitney wraps up the four-part series on navigating health care before Medicare by introducing a practical decision-making framework using the OODA Loop—observe, orient, decide, act—to help you avoid unforced errors and make a confident judgment call. He walks through organizing your retirement cash flow, estimating MAGI and ACA subsidy eligibility, evaluating COBRA, ACA, and private coverage options, and weighing tax optimization against simplicity and continuity of care. He's joined by Taylor Schulte of Define Financial to discuss how professionals navigate Roth conversions, Social Security timing, ACA cliffs, and the trade-offs between optimizing for subsidies versus long-term tax planning.OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE OF THE RETIREMENT ANSWER MAN(00:00) This show is dedicated to helping you not just survive retirement, but have the confidence to lean in and rock it.(00:30) Roger introduces the final week of the health care before Medicare series and previews upcoming episodes with Harry Reese (co-author of How to Feel Loved) and retirement researcher Wade Pfau.PRACTICAL PLANNING SEGMENT(02:30) Roger reviews the three “heads” that must be managed before Medicare- cost, continuity of care, and complexity.(03:30) Roger talks about avoiding unforced errors that could cost you money, disrupt care, or create unnecessary stress.(05:18) Roger introduces the OODA Loop—observe, orient, decide, act—as a practical way to think step by step about health coverage choices. (05:52) Observe: Build a 5-year retirement income and spending plan, estimate taxes and MAGI, identify where you fall relative to the ACA subsidy cliff, and review withdrawal sources (taxable, pre-tax, Roth) along with future RMD implications.(14:21) Orient: Clarify what matters most to help you make a decision.(20:00) Decide & Act: Choose a direction, document your reasoning, update your plan of record, and implement the distribution strategy that supports your choice.CONVERSATION WITH TAYLOR SCHULTE(22:25) Roger introduces Taylor Schulte from Define Financial(23:15) Why health care before Medicare shouldn't automatically delay retirement and how assumptions often go untested.(26:50) Evaluating alternatives beyond ACA, including COBRA as a short-term bridge and private plans.(31:50) The tension between Roth conversions and ACA subsidies, and how Social Security timing affects MAGI.(34:20) Avoiding the “optimization trap”: sometimes paying more for simplicity still results in a resilient retirement plan.(36:40) The key takeaway is that there's no perfect answer—retirees should explore options, make informed decisions without fear, and use healthcare planning as a tool rather than a barrier or excuse to delay retirement.SMART SPRINT(43:35) Set a reminder to review your health care strategy using a structured approach—especially if retirement or Medicare enrollment is approaching. The goal is to be intentional, not reactive.REFERENCESSubmit a Question for RogerSign up for The NoodleThe Retirement Answer ManKaiser Family Foundation (KFF)Healthcare.govDefine Financial- Taylor SchulteStay Wealthy Retirement Show- Taylor Schulte (podcast)

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happy Chinese New Year! Cam shares with taryn what it means for them both and Taryn teaches Cam what she learned about how to be better loved.send us your gossip stories or ask for advice!call the PP hotline 323-577-8857 or email us at stayinguppod@gmail.comJoin our Patreon: http://patreon.com/StayingUpJoin our Discord: https://discord.gg/am5t7kZTdRCam's shopmy https://shopmy.us/cammiescottTar's shopmy https://shopmy.us/tarynarnoldscottListen: https://stayingup.lnk.to/listenFollow: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stayinguppodFollow Cam: https://www.instagram.com/cammiescott/Follow Tar: https://www.instagram.com/thetarynarnold/Contact for business inquires only:stayinguppod@gmail.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

happy Chinese New Year! Cam shares with taryn what it means for them both and Taryn teaches Cam what she learned about how to be better loved.send us your gossip stories or ask for advice!call the PP hotline 323-577-8857 or email us at stayinguppod@gmail.comJoin our Patreon: http://patreon.com/StayingUpJoin our Discord: https://discord.gg/am5t7kZTdRCam's shopmy https://shopmy.us/cammiescottTar's shopmy https://shopmy.us/tarynarnoldscottListen: https://stayingup.lnk.to/listenFollow: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stayinguppodFollow Cam: https://www.instagram.com/cammiescott/Follow Tar: https://www.instagram.com/thetarynarnold/Contact for business inquires only:stayinguppod@gmail.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cammie Michelle Victoria #IRL - FAAF 251In this 251st episode, I share my reflections from Feb 8-13, 2026. Check out the WHOLE SPOTIFY PLAYLIST I put together with all the listens mentioned below:>>> bit.ly/E251FreshAirAtFivePlaylist

For today's self-care practice, we are keeping it simple. Tomorrow is Valentine's Day, and it's time to do something that makes you feel loved. Rachel shares some beautiful examples, and you can choose what intuitively feels right for you. Tune in to begin. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you struggling to feel loved—by God, others or even yourself? There's a reason, and it goes deeper than you think. Counselors Jerry and Denise Basel join Kyle to uncover the hidden wounds that quietly shape how you see God, yourself and others.

What if your husband isn't asking for less responsibility…but feel seen for everything he already carries?In this deeply personal episode, I'm sharing a real conversation my husband and I had that opened my eyes to how provider men often experience appreciation, pressure, and emotional support in relationships.This isn't about being a “perfect wife.”It's about perspective, empathy, and learning how love actually lands for the man you're building a life with.In This Episode You'll Hear...✨ What provider husbands often carry behind the scenes✨ Why appreciation matters more than you might realize✨ How feeling “safe and respected” fuels masculine devotion✨ Putting yourself in his shoes emotionally✨ Loving him in his love language (without overthinking it)✨ How intimacy and affection can reset connection✨ Moving from criticism to admiration (go listen to Episode #87 too!)✨ Building a power-couple relationship rooted in reciprocity, devotion, and mutual supportIf your husband provides financially, emotionally, or energetically for your life together — this episode will help you see him in a deeper way.And honestly?That shift alone can transform a marriage.

Do you feel truly loved? In their new book, psychology professors Harry Reis and Sonja Lyubomirsky explore the connection between love and happiness. According to their research, a key to happiness is feeling loved. They argue that the actions we usually associate with being loved, loving someone, or falling in love differ from truly feeling loved. So how can you nurture that feeling? This hour, we sit down with Reis and his University of Rochester colleague, psychology professor Bonnie Le, to explore the science of love and happiness and what it takes to feel more of both. In studio: Harry Reis, Ph.D., professor of psychology and Dean's Professor in Arts and Sciences at the University of Rochester, and co-author of "How to Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most" Bonnie Le, Ph.D., assistant professor of psychology at the University of Rochester ---Connections is supported by listeners like you. Head to our donation page to become a WXXI member today, support the show, and help us close the gap created by the rescission of federal funding.---Connections airs every weekday from noon-2 p.m. Join the conversation with questions or comments by phone at 1-844-295-TALK (8255) or 585-263-9994, email, Facebook or Twitter. Connections is also livestreamed on the WXXI News YouTube channel each day. You can watch live or access previous episodes here.---Do you have a story that needs to be shared? Pitch your story to Connections.

Grounding Meditation, Overthinking in relationships, Emotional safety, Nighttime hypnosis for sleep, Self-trust in relationshipsA 30-Night Practice for Calming Overthinking & Building Emotional SafetyIf you find yourself overthinking romantic connections, scanning for signals, or struggling to feel comfortable in love, this nighttime hypnotic journey is for you.In this episode of Seer Sessions, Jina leads a calming nighttime hypnosis designed to help your body and nervous system feel safe within love. This journey isn't about fixing anything or forcing clarity — it's about shifting the internal state you're living from so love can feel steadier, softer, and more natural.Listen to this episode each night for 30 nights as you fall asleep. Layer by layer, many listeners notice less reactivity around love, more self-trust, and a deeper sense of emotional safety within themselves and their relationships.Best experienced somewhere quiet, without interruptions, as you drift into sleep.//  PATREON  Seer Sessions: Stories & Sessions: https://www.patreon.com/cw/JinaSeer//  TIME STAMPS  :00 - 4:28 :: How to use this journey4:58 - End :: Nighttime Hypnosis Journey// MORE HYP JOURNEY INFO + PREP  Access the PDF, hypnotic track and more here - https://www.jinaseer.com/session-prepEpisode 3 - Anatomy of a Past Life RegressionEpisode 214 - Awareness: Your New RealityEpisode 215 - Anatomy of a Hypnotic Journey: Another Lifetime, Higher Self & SuggestionEpisode 257 - What If Love Felt Easier? Hypnotic Journeys for Connection, Calm & Emotional Safety //  FREE HYPNOTIC JOURNEYS  Journey to Another Life, Meet Your Higher Self, or Connect with Loved Ones on the Other Side: https://www.jinaseer.com/free-hyp

What does it really mean to feel loved?In this conversation with Sonja Lyubomirsky, we explore why being loved isn't the same as feeling loved, how changing the conversation can shift a relationship, and why loneliness is a moment, not an identity.This one will change how you think about connection.Thrive Global Article: Sonja Lyubomirsky on How to Feel LovedAbout Our Guest:Sonja Lyubomirsky is Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside and author of the best-selling The How of Happiness and The Myths of Happiness (published in 39 countries). Lyubomirsky and her research on the science of happiness have been the recipients of many grants and honors, including Fellow of the American Association for the Advancement of Science (AAAS), an Honorary Doctorate from the University of Basel, the Diener Award for Outstanding Midcareer Contributions in Personality Psychology, the Christopher Peterson Gold Medal, and a Positive Psychology Prize. She lives in Santa Monica, California, with her family.About Lainie:Lainie Rowell is a bestselling author, award-winning educator, and TEDx speaker. She is dedicated to human flourishing, focusing on community building, emotional intelligence, and honoring what makes each of us unique and dynamic through learner-driven design. She earned her degree in psychology and went on to earn both a post-graduate credential and a master's degree in education. An international keynote speaker, Lainie has presented in 41 states as well as in dozens of countries across 4 continents. As a consultant, Lainie's client list ranges from Fortune 100 companies like Apple and Google to school districts and independent schools. Learn more at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠linktr.ee/lainierowell⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Website - ⁠LainieRowell.com⁠Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@LainieRowell⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn - @LainieRowellX/Twitter - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@LainieRowell ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Evolving with Gratitude, the book is available ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And now, Bold Gratitude: The Journal Designed for You and by You is available too!Both Evolving with Gratitude & Bold Gratitude have generous bulk pricing for purchasing 10+ copies delivered to the same location.

For this special Valentine's Day episode of Hurt to Healing, I'm joined by psychologist and relationship researcher Harry Reis, co-author of How to Feel Loved, to talk about something we don't often stop to ask: what does it actually mean to feel loved, not just by other people, but inside ourselves. Why is it that even when we're cared for, chosen, or wanted, so many of us still struggle to believe we're truly lovable?We get into how early experiences shape the way we show up in relationships, why being admired isn't the same as feeling loved, and how things like vulnerability, curiosity, and everyday conversations really build connection over time. It's an honest chat about love without the clichés - perfect for Valentine's Day, whether you're partnered, dating, or very much figuring it out.Buy How to Feel Loved: https://www.penguin.co.uk/authors/311060/harry-reisStay Connected with Hurt to Healing:Instagram: instagram.com/hurttohealingpodTikTok: tiktok.com/@hurttohealingpodLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/hurt-to-healingSubstack: substack.com/@hurttohealingWebsite: hurttohealing.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever gone all out to love your spouse, only to be met with a lukewarm response? You meant well. You put in real effort. And somehow, it still missed the mark.In this episode of One Degree Marriage, we're talking about what it actually looks like to love your spouse in the way they feel most loved, not just the way that comes naturally to you. Using real-life examples, biblical truth, and practical questions you can ask this week, we unpack why love is meant to be self-giving and sacrificial rather than self-expressive.We discuss love languages, why gratitude and intention both matter, how seasons of life change the way love is received, and why regular check-ins (like a Weekly Marriage Meeting) are key to staying connected. If you want to move from well-intentioned effort to meaningful connection, this episode will help you take that next step.

Caribbean vacations are great, but that's not where our marriages get strengthened. It's the everyday affections and moments of connection that keep our relationships strong. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about ways to show our wives we love them every day.Why This MattersHusbands should aim to make their wives feel loved every day.Key Takeaways·      Love is a basic human need.·      Everyday affection beats infrequent, grand gestures·      Connection is built in small, consistent moments. Practical Tips for Husbands1. Handle conflict with kindness.2. Respond to her bids for connection.3. Celebrate her wins.4. Laugh together.5. Show love through non-sexual touch.Important Episode Timestamps00:03:11 – 04:10 | Why Small Acts Matter More Than Big Gestures04:10 – 05:09 | Radical Selflessness Builds Strong Marriages05:57 – 06:47 | How You Start Conflict Predicts Marriage Health06:47 – 07:41 | Handling Conflict With Gentleness Instead of Negativity11:48 – 12:11 | Responding to Your Wife's Bids for Connection12:11 – 12:59 | The “Stop and Drop” Rule for Husbands14:09 – 15:21 | Celebrating Your Wife's Wins Builds Intimacy18:00 – 19:04 | Why Non-Sexual Touch Is So Important in Marriage19:04 – 19:39 | The Power of a 20-Second Hug21:37 – End | Choosing Daily Connection Over AutopilotAPD Pro Move:This week, choose to do one of the five actions steps with your wife. All Pro Dad ResourcesEpisode 91 – Is There a Secret to Balancing Marriage and Fatherhood?Episode 101 – How Does Having Kids Change Your Marriage?Episode 105 – How Do I Keep Fighting For My Marriage?How 4 Minutes 4 Times a Day Can Protect Your MarriageWe love feedback, but can't reply without your email address. Message us your thoughts and contact info!Connect with Us: Ted Lowe on LinkedIn Bobby Lewis on LinkedIn BJ Foster on LinkedIn Subscribe on Apple Podcasts Get All Pro Dad merch! EXTRAS: Follow us: Instagram | Facebook | X (Twitter)Join 200,000+ other dads by subscribing to the All Pro Dad Play of the Day. Get daily fatherhood ideas, insight, and inspiration straight to your inbox.This episode's blog can also be viewed here on AllProDad.com. Like the All Pro Dad gear and mugs? Get your own in the All Pro Dad store.Get great content for moms at iMOM.com

Knowing someone loves you is one thing. Actually feeling that love in your body and daily life is another—and that's where many relationships get stuck. In this episode, we move from problem to solution, exploring five research-backed mindsets that help love land and deepen real connection. I am joined once again by Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, a Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside and author of the best-selling books The How of Happiness and The Myths of Happiness. Her latest book, co-authored with Dr. Harry Reis, is titled How To Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More Of What Matters Most. Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include: How does the “Relationship Sea-Saw” explain the give-and-take of feeling loved? What does healthy self-disclosure actually look like in a relationship? How can couples sustain curiosity in long-term partnerships? How can we approach our relationships with more compassion and less scorekeeping? How can we learn to become better listeners and stop having repetitive conflicts? To learn more about How to Feel Loved, click here. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors!  Wrap the ones you love in luxury with Cozy Earth. Share a little extra love this February and wrap yourself—or someone you care about—in comfort that truly feels special. Head to cozyearth.com and use my code JUSTIN for up to 20% off.  If you’re ready to ditch the shady stuff and choose a libido supplement that's effective and that you can feel confident about, it’s time to check out Drive Boost.  Visit vb.health and use code JUSTIN for 10% off.  The Kinsey Institute is where the world turns to understand sex and relationships. You can help continue its expert-led research by donating to the Kinsey Institute Research Fund. Learn more and make a donation here: https://give.myiu.org/centers-institutes/I380010749.html  *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Bluesky to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

You can be deeply loved—and still not feel it. In this episode, we’re exploring the gap between being loved and feeling loved, the myths that keep love from landing, and how modern life can amplify disconnection. If you've ever felt unseen, insecure, or lonely inside an otherwise good relationship, this conversation will help you understand why, and what you can do about it. My guest is Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, a Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside and author of the best-selling books The How of Happiness and The Myths of Happiness. Her latest book, co-authored with Dr. Harry Reis, is titled How To Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More Of What Matters Most. Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include: Why do so many people struggle to feel loved, even when they clearly are? How can admiration and praise actually leave us feeling lonelier? Why does believing you have to “earn” love block you from experiencing it? What happens to our mental health, relationships, and desire when we don't feel loved? How is modern technology undermining our sense of connection? To learn more about How to Feel Loved, click here.  Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors!  If you’re ready to ditch the shady stuff and choose a libido supplement that's effective and that you can feel confident about, it’s time to check out Drive Boost.  Visit vb.health and use code JUSTIN for 10% off.  Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you’ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Bluesky to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Most men want to love their wives and kids well—but still feel stuck, disconnected, or misunderstood.In this episode of the Dad Tired Podcast, Jerrad sits down with Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, to talk about the deeper issue beneath most marriage and parenting struggles:

My partner doesn't feel loved—Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores why this happens and how to help him feel emotionally seen and cared for without losing yourself in the process. Dr. Alexandra offers a calm, grounded path toward rebuilding desire, understanding, and connection.   Give your marriage the gift of deeper connection this holiday season.

My partner doesn't feel loved—Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores why this happens and how to help him feel emotionally seen and cared for without losing yourself in the process. Dr. Alexandra offers a calm, grounded path toward rebuilding desire, understanding, and connection. Give your marriage the gift of deeper connection this holiday season.

The holidays can bring out both the best and the worst in a marriage. Between packed schedules, family dynamics, and endless to-do lists, it's easy for connection to get lost in the chaos. But this season doesn't have to feel like survival mode or that you are just getting through the functions. There are a few key areas in your relationship that—if you focus on them each day—can make you feel appreciated and united as a couple, no matter what the holidays throw your way. In this episode, we're sharing three powerful shifts with the "3C's" to help you stay emotionally close and work as a team through the holiday season. You'll walk away knowing exactly where to put your attention so the two of you can feel loved, supported, and in sync instead of drained or distant at the end of this holiday season.  Desiring to bring back more affection, intimacy, and spark during this season

You don't want flowers.You want reassurance.If he can post a story, he can send a sentence that says “I care about you.”This episode is for every woman who feels crazy for needing words - because guess what? You're not clingy. You're not insecure. You're under-affirmed.We're unpacking why hearing “I love you,” “I'm proud of you,” or “I'm here” hits like emotional oxygen… and why silence feels like abandonment.If his silence makes you overthink,if you keep replaying one compliment for three weeks,if you've ever begged a man to just communicate —you're in the right place.Hit play and stop settling for men who “feel it” but can't say it.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.