Relationship Transformer

First things first, let’s celebrate the success of the July 2020 Relationship Breakthrough Retreat. This was the first RBR we did online. We reached so many more people than past in-person breakthrough retreats. We delivered multiple breakthroughs, and we were so happy to see people achieve great results.We are reimagining several of our programs to better serve you and we have several releases coming out this fall. One of them is the Relationship Development Parenting Program. It has three courses for you in the program - the 14-day boost program, the quick start program, and the yearlong program.With that said, we’ve retired the 2nd edition of the Relationship Breakthrough Quickstart Program. We are also creating a brand new Relationship Breakthrough Program that will be launching on September 23rd. We are so excited about this because the new program is completely reimagined with some awesome new features. The other huge announcement we want to make is that we will be holding, for the first time ever, a 2nd Relationship Breakthrough Retreat in a year in December. We’ve always wanted to hold two RBR events in a year and it is unbelievable that this year we’ll finally be able to do that.Key TakeawaysCelebrating the success of the July 2020 Relationship Breakthrough Retreat (02:45)Reimagining several of our programs to better serve you (07:07)The exciting new Relationship Development Parenting Program (07:34)How to get the RD Parenting Boost Program as a bonus (13:24)Retiring the 2nd edition of the Relationship Breakthrough Quickstart Program and creating a new Quickstart Program (15:58)Holding a 2nd Relationship Breakthrough Retreat in a year for the first time ever in December (23:17)Taking  our Relationship Development Methodology to as many families as we can (39:32)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share a talk that they recently had with their Relationship U students on what is going on in real life today behind closed doors when couples and families are stuck together because of the COVID-19 related self-quarantining. Paul and Stacey have been working very hard in sharing amazing tools and strategies on what people can do to avoid kerfuffles and all sorts of negative issues in their households, but it’s very hard for anyone to really tell just how effective they are. So they decided to share the raw, vulnerable, and real life testimonies of families that are successfully implementing those tools and strategies.One such testimony came from Joe and Adriana, a couple that has really benefited immensely from Paul and Stacey’s programs. The two have been married for 33 years, are empty nesters, and have been navigating the quarantine together so well despite the fact that a few years ago they could not even be in the same room together for even a few minutes. They’ve been having meals together, going out for walks every day, watching shows or plays, and doing many other fun things together. They had previously been separated for a year and a half, but finding Paul and Stacey’s programs changed everything, and now they are a true testament to just how effective Paul and Stacey’s tools and strategies are. Denise is another person who will share how the Relationship U program has changed her life in terms of teaching her to get deeper into the ownership of her happiness, and knowing that no matter what happens in the world, she’s responsible for her own happiness and needs in life. There are several other people who will share how relationship development has changed their lives, especially during the current pandemic where people are stuck together in their homes with each other. Tune in to find out how you can transform your own household and navigate this quarantine time in the best way possible.Key Points Discussed: How Joe and Adriana are navigating being together in the quarantine (01:33)How Paul and Stacey’s programs can make people better versions of themselves (03:34)Working on our happiness and needs before we can work on our relationships  (04:28)The true power of relationship development (08:25)The most appropriate time to practically apply the tools and strategies (11:08)Becoming the change that you want to see in your relationships (15:55)Taking a stand for your family so you can create a better legacy (18:53)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Stacey will share part two of her talk on how couples (and parents) can maintain their sanity during these social distancing and self-quarantining times. She will talk about what she sees as two of the most common causes of kerfuffles that are going on right now and how to solve that, and how to deal with the effects of the current pandemic on our lives. She will also dive into how to look at everything that’s going on in a way that's empowering, as opposed to feeling like it’s all just happening to us.One of the things one must get rid of is unreasonable expectations and control. We must all drop a lot of our levels of control right now because our desire to want things to be a certain way will only lead to misery for us and others around us. One cannot control everybody else but they can set reasonable standards for others to follow when it comes to basic things in life. When something is complicated and out of one’s control, one should just let go of it. A great example of that is homeschooling. People have certain invisible expectations about what it should be like, but what they don’t realize is that it’s a full-time job, takes a lot of commitment, and is very stressful. Stacey will share her insights on how to really go about that and so much more, so stay tuned to learn how you can navigate this from the same place, increase the peace and harmony in your home, and decrease the kerfuffles. Key Points Discussed: Letting go of unreasonable expectations and certain levels of control (01:34)The difference between homeschooling and online schooling (04:01)The stress of trying to replace a teacher and give your kids the same learning experience they get at school (06:34)The temporary nature of more screen time for your kids during these challenging times (10:55)Using time chunks to focus on what’s important (14:21)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Stacey will talk about how couples can maintain their sanity during these social distancing and self-quarantining times where parents have to be at home all day every day with their kids. She recently did training with their RelationshipU students on the same subject and it had immediate phenomenal results for those who applied the tools and strategies they learned in their households. Right now families are having a hard time being quarantined at home, and parents are having to navigate things that they’re not used to navigating. That is making frustrations and kerfuffles arise much more frequently and it’s causing more harm than good.Parents always have an uphill task of raising their kids while also working and making sure everything runs smoothly, and a lot of the times they take on too many things at the same time because they feel it’s their responsibility to do so. Running a household, for example, is a full-time job all on its own, and it can be quite taxing. Especially if the parent responsible also has to work a regular job to make ends meet. The first step to gaining some sanity is to look at all the things one takes on every day and dropping those that can be done by someone else. Stacey will talk about living a life in reaction and living a life by design, and how living a life by design is the only way to regain sanity, joy, and happiness in any household during these difficult times. Stay tuned as she shares some tools and strategies for reducing kerfuffles and increasing harmony during the current quarantine (and any other time you and your family find yourselves stuck together) to help you navigate everything as best as possible.Key Points Discussed: The importance of being reasonable about what can and cannot be done simultaneously (03:31)The frustrations of not being able to escape the craziness-relief pattern (06:38)The great opportunity the self-quarantine is creating (08:44)How to create sanity and predictability in your days (09:43)Creating a plan of how you're all going to operate together as a team (11:10)How time chunking can help in doing things more effectively and harmoniously (12:10)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Stacey will share a recording that she made to talk about pivoting instead of canceling their Breakthrough in Paradise live event in Jamaica. She will talk about the decision that they made to pivot the event, what they will be doing instead, and how they made that decision in confidence and not fear. The live event was planned for next week, and Paul, Stacey, and 120 of their relationship students were going to Jamaica. They were all so desperate to get to that event and have an amazing time together on the islands, but it was not to be because with the whole Coronavirus pandemic going on, international travel was not so safe, and they wanted to ensure that their students were safe and protected. Despite that hiccup, they did not cancel the event and instead decided to pivot it and do it virtually. Stay tuned as she also shares how her and their team are working tirelessly to make the virtual event a reality, and hopefully, this episode will teach you how to make decisions in uncertain times in every aspect of your life. Enjoy!Key Points Discussed: Pivoting the five days unbelievable Breakthrough in Paradise live event (01:30)Decisions based on fear are always bad decisions (03:02)From live event to virtual event to keep the ball rolling (06:02)The need for all of us to give and support each other during this time (08:12)Teaching people how to reverse the kerfuffles in their households and increase harmony during this time of increased stress (10:59)Looking at the facts and what’s going on, and making decisions based on that (14:33)Being cautious, careful and smart, and avoiding crowded places (16:45)The foundation of demand relationship that pulls people apart (18:50)Don't do decisions based out of fear unless you want the boomerang (23:20)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about a common point of view that most people in a relationship have that negatively affects their relationships without their knowing. And that is the view that they have something figured out more than their partner and so they have to get their partner to subscribe to it too so their relationship can become better. That’s a common thing that Paul and Stacey hear from their program participants all the time. One particular relationship transformer who was doing the 14-Day Boost Program posted on the relationship transformers Facebook group about how she loved the program module on alignment, especially where they were learning about how to get to the win-win, instead of staying stuck in the win-lose. She felt that it was a great module for her husband to learn from, but she needed advice on how to make him listen to it. That’s a great example of that detrimental point of view and Paul and Stacey will seek to deal with it in this episode.It’s part of our natural wiring to think that way because it comes from the demand relationship wiring that is just so deep in our blueprint, and we must learn to shift away from it by first realizing that there is no “me and you” in a relationship. Partners in a relationship are one, and if one partner loses in any way, then the other one loses too. Stay tuned as Paul and Stacey lay out all the steps you will need to take to build a win-win relationship with your partner.Key Points Discussed: How to get to the win-win instead of staying stuck in the win-lose (01:02)There’s no “You and Me” in a relationship, it can only be “Us” (02:53)It’s always win-win or lose-lose in a relationship (03:46)Extending the end of our skill set so we can learn how to wrap up something in a way that our partner can receive it (04:41)Building a rock solid relationship and focusing on the tools and strategies that can help us take our families to the next level (06:54)Stop telling yourself that you’re not the one in the relationship who needs to do that thing (10:51)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about a dynamic where someone in a relationship gets stuck in the false belief that their way is the right way and that their partner’s way is all wrong. The issue between a couple could be just about anything, but with this dynamic, one partner feels that their way of solving the issue or their perspective on the issue is the correct one while their partner’s is not, and so they feel that they must make their partner see their way and agree to it. Paul and Stacey see this dynamic all the time among couples, and it sucks the energy out of people, causes kerfuffles, doesn’t solve anything, and in the end completely breaks down a relationship.A great example of that dynamic is with Susan, one of Paul and Stacey’s students. Susan and her husband Daniel were at loggerheads with each other over their parenting styles. Daniel preferred a disciplinary approach with their kids while Susan was trying to implement a relationship development parenting kind of approach. This made them go head to head all the time, with each being frustrated with the other because they were both trying to convince each other to go with each other's approach.This dynamic is very destructive, but it’s not anyone’s fault because it’s deeply wired into our blueprints. Most people have been conditioned to think that they must always convince others to see things from their perspective, and this is what Paul and Stacey will seek to help us break away from before they can give us the relationship development tools we need to move forward in the best way possible. If you’re familiar with that dynamic and you wanna learn how to make it a thing of the past in your relationship or marriage, then listen in to this episode.Key Points Discussed: Missing everything by holding on to the “my way” belief (00:59)Breaking the pattern first before learning the relationship development parenting tools (04:42)Being raised in the conformity mindset and how it affects us (05:20)Everybody has a reason for why they believe what they believe (07:14)Understanding that we can’t just have our way because we live within a family setting (13:10)Solving your own trigger so you can start collaborating with your partner (17:02)Would you rather have some fears and emotional worries, or the real collaboration that you're looking for? (19:44)Catch yourself, listen with curiosity, and up-level your skill set (23:55)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about a very common complaint that they get from women about how their husbands are too blunt and mean in their conversations, and how that triggers or embarrasses them. Stacey will share the story of one of their relationship transformers who asked them what she should have done when she asked her husband if she could take a certification class for her work, but he responded in a rude way. The lady felt her husband was an ass and treated her like crap, which she didn’t deserve.The root cause of such an issue is the fact that masculine and feminine perspectives are worlds apart. For the feminine, when a man speaks in very blunt and direct language, a woman feels like the man has made his decision, and she either has to go by it or against it. But in reality, what happens in such a situation is all a misunderstanding of how the masculine is wired. If the woman in that situation gets a similar response from another woman, she wouldn’t find it mean or rude. The same applies when men talk to other men. When a man asks another man for his opinion on a subject, he gets a very blunt and direct response because it’s in men’s nature not to sugarcoat things, and they understand each other in that regard. They are wired to be logical and assertive when tackling issues. So really, the best way to deal with such situations is to understand how other people are wired, and interact with them in a way that brings out the best in them, instead of assuming everybody's wired like us and interacting blindly, which then triggers the other person. Paul and Stacey will talk about that farther, and tell us where we can start in implementing that solution, so we can start experiencing kerfuffle free interactions with our loved ones.Key Points Discussed: The common misunderstanding that takes place of how the masculine is wired, and how the masculine communicates (02:11)The huge difference between masculine to masculine versus masculine to feminine (05:54)The relationship dynamics that are happening to everyone (10:50)Stopping when you're in the win-lose is what makes it a win-lose, not what he says (13:00)The importance of understanding the other side so that whatever you say back comes out in a way that it can be received well (14:31)Being nothing but who we really are in order to be successful in our relationships (18:45)It’s all about getting a relationship education instead of becoming a different person (20:03)Stop applying your meanings to what your partner is saying, it's your meanings that are causing you pain (24:15)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about the invisible expectations that women have of their partners and the harm they cause their relationships. They will start off by sharing a story from a long time ago of how Stacey ruined their Valentine’s Day. Paul had told Stacey that he would take her out to dinner for Valentine’s when he got back from work, and she was so excited about it. She got a nice new outfit and was expecting Paul to send her a large bouquet of flowers to her office. So every time a truck drove down the street, she would think it was her delivery. As time went by, and she hadn’t gotten any deliveries, she started thinking that maybe Paul was planning to bring the flowers himself, but when he finally got there, all he had for her was a single red rose. Stacey didn’t express any disappointment to his face, but deep down she couldn’t believe that Paul had just given her a single red rose for Valentine’s. She then started thinking to herself that maybe Paul would make up for that by taking her to some really magical place for dinner, but to her shock, Paul took her to a restaurant they were both familiar with, and he had not made any reservations. It was Valentine’s so the place was packed, and thus they didn’t get a table. They went to two more places and still couldn’t get a table, so they just got take out (Chinese food) and went home.At that point, Stacey was so grumbly and unhappy with the way the night had turned out, and at some point Paul asked her why she was so upset when all he was doing all night was trying to make things nice for her. To him, everything was alright, and he was just doing his best to show Stacey that he loved her, and give her a great Valentine’s experience. This story highlights the root cause of the problems brought about by women’s invisible expectations, and it all boils down to the differences in the feminine and the masculine. Stay tuned as Paul and Stacey dive deeper into that and share the best action steps to take to ensure that the problems caused by invisible expectations will be a thing of the past in your relationship. Key Points Discussed: The time when Stacey used to ruin all the holidays (01:13)Masculine energy is usually a single focus so men don’t really plan ahead far enough (07:46)The harm carrying invisible expectations causes relationships (14:03)Ladies should give their men the answers to the test (17:03)He wants nothing more than to light her up (21:22)Taking personal responsibility and committing to not getting triggered (26:22)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will cover part three of busting the myths series, and talk about the “But my partner is …” myths, which are all about how one partner thinks that their partner is keeping them from having their desired relationship because they behave a certain way.Key Points Discussed:Depressed spouses and the dangers of labeling (00:52)Everyone changes at different points in life for various reasons (02:53)Whatever comes after the statement “I am” is super powerful (06:31)Showing up differently in your relationship for your partner (09:05)Anxiety is just a pattern (12:03)The masculine dynamic wired into a man’s blueprint (15:19)The widespread misuse of the word abusive (18:27)Physical abuse is not a relationship issue (20:04)Everyone has a unique brilliance (24:49)Additional Resources:Daily Inspiration for Relationship TransformersYou can find this episode and more at:RelationshipDevelopment.org/listenSubscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about a topic that is literally fundamental to what we think of when we think of relationship struggles. And that is the tendency of taking sides when we re-tell stories or people re-tell stories to us, mostly about terrible situations, either with their partners, or their parents, or somebody at their workplace. And when they tell us, we immediately go right into it with them either to console them or to hopefully give them some advice.In the process, we end up taking sides because we have the best of intentions with that person. Even in life in general, when we're looking for advice, or we're giving advice, we always get into that pattern of taking sides. That whole pattern is fundamental to relationship situations, and we can literally hear it everywhere we go. You could just be walking through the grocery store, and you will hear people telling stories about how horrible somebody else was to them, or whatever the situation was.That tendency has insidious and destructive effects, and if we don't awaken to it, it's can destroy things for us as we know them. Paul and Stacey will turn that pattern on its head, show us how destructive it is, and what we can do instead to not only learn to take personal responsibility in all our relationship situations but also strengthen those relationships for the long haul. Take out your pen and paper because you won’t wanna miss the lessons from this. Enjoy!Key Points Discussed:The only answer we should give when we’re asked if we have a question (02:02)Learning to ask questions in the form of personal responsibility (03:05)How blaming or bad-mouthing others triggers other people to take sides (05:57)Building up our relationships rather than protecting our triggers for a lifetime (07:02)Navigating situations from relationship development and not demand relationship (08:52)Putting on our relationship transformer goggles, being compassionate, kind, and awake (10:48)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about a persistent and repetitive kerfuffle that they used to have often in the car when Paul was driving, and it’s a kerfuffle that a lot of couples can relate to. They’re going to share a clip from their previous three day live immersion event, the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat, where they ended up sharing the story of that kerfuffle in great detail.It all revolved around how Paul drives, and to give a little context to that, Paul is a very confident driver and can drive pretty fast. He spent more than a decade of his youth as a professional driver and so he’s always keen when he’s driving. But with the fast driving, Stacey, who is not a fan of intensity, used to constantly have issues when they were on the road. She actually used to be terrified, and that would in turn distract Paul.He used to get pissed off about it because he felt like Stacey didn’t trust him and her reactions would endanger them on the road. That became a trigger for Paul and he didn’t know how to deal with it. Stacey tried to sort it out by shifting her reactions from yelling and making all sorts of sudden movements, to tapping her hand, which meant that she was still terrified. That was until one night when they were driving and Stacey realized there was a huge difference in their eyesight.Paul could see really far ahead, and that’s what made his driving so good despite going fast. Stacey on the other hand couldn’t see as far, and so to her, Paul always seemed to be driving fast somewhat in darkness which is what made her feel scared. From then on, she started leaning on that skill that Paul had that she didn’t, and that was the breakthrough for both of them that put an end to the kerfuffle. Stay tuned for more on that and how you can apply the lessons from it into profoundly changing your marriage.Key Points Discussed:The job Paul had for 14 years and the valuable lessons he learned from it (01:26)The lions coming at you on the road (02:57)The high insurance rates in Philadelphia because of crazy drivers (06:59)Paul’s disdain for her Stacey’s overreaction and her not trusting him (08:34)How redirecting all his focus inside the car caused him to loose focus outside the car (11:03)Seeing far and speeding through the darkness (14:09)Raising your standard for yourself and lowering your expectations of others (17:42)The shift in perspective that changed everything (19:13)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

This week we are replaying one of our most popular episodes! In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about the invisible force that stops people from living with a relationship development mindset and instead continues to enslave them in a demand relationship mindset. That force blocks people from getting the results that they desire in their relationships and keeps leading them in the wrong direction.Paul and Stacey will expose it and teach you how to overcome it.Key Points Discussed:The Truth: It’s all about blame (01:47)Blaming someone else renders you powerless (02:33)The act of willingly handing all your power to the other person (04:02)Personal responsibility is not a dirty word (06:11)Fault and responsibility do not go together (09:09)Everyone lives in the results of the decisions that they make (12:42)-Additional Resources:YouTube Video: Fault Vs Responsibility by Will SmithThe Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019-You can find this episode and more at:RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.-If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will do part two of the two-part series on relationship development parenting. They will share the second clip from behind scenes of their filming for the Relationship Development Parenting Program that they will be releasing this year. In this particular clip, they addressed the issue of misery in parenting. This is a topic that might ruffle some feathers with a lot of people, but it’s a not so open secret that it affects a lot of parents in our society today. Most, if not all parents, have moments when they struggle with their parenting, and it’s an issue that they don’t like to talk about or admit because they fear that it may make them sound like bad parents, but this issue has to be discussed openly for it to be solved, and Paul and Stacey will do just that. When a parent finds themselves being miserable in their parenting, they usually think it’s because they hate their kids, but the reality is that it all comes from the fact that they hate demand parenting because it never works.Stay tuned as Paul and Stacey dive deeper into that, and share how you can solve it today so you can stop demand parenting, break its chains on your family's legacy, create a new foundation for your kids based on relationship development parenting, build up your relationship with them instead of watching it deteriorate over time, and prepare them for a future where they will be able to navigate life. Key Points Discussed: It’s the demand parenting you hate not the kids (02:18)The detriment of never accepting the invisible assumptions that we operate from as parents (03:56)We must stop beating ourselves up for our actions as parents (07:29)The boomerang effect of being stuck in demand parenting (10:06)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will do part one of a two part series on relationship development parenting. They teach a lot of tools on how people can stop doing demand parenting with their kids, and start doing relationship development parenting so they can create peaceful harmonious households, build up their relationships with their kids over time, and reduce the kerfuffles that they have of parenting. They are actually building a relationship development parenting program which will hopefully be released in 2020. It's going to be a substantial program with lots of tools and strategies, and they've so far been recording and filming content for it. They will share a couple of pieces from that filming that are so key to helping parents in their relationships with their children. Parents always have the absolute best of intentions, but parenting kerfuffles keep happening because they don’t realize that they’re applying demand parenting by using their leverage as the power players to try to get the results that they want from their kids.It's a really predictable pattern, and it's only so easy to fall into demand parenting because nothing can ever prepare us for being parents. To help us out on that, Paul and Stacey will break down how to apply relationship development parenting, so that we can learn from that and create shifts in our households that will help us build phenomenal relationships with our children. Listen in and enjoy!Key Points Discussed: The difference between demand parenting and relationship development parenting (02:19)The ramifications of demand parenting and how to create a safe place where our kids can grow to become the people they’re supposed to be (06:07)Why demand parenting no longer works (10:30)How parents teach their kids how to lie and manipulate them (14:00)Building up a real relationship with your child with rapport and trust (15:30)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Stacey will dive into step two of their 10-step planning and strategy day framework, and talk about the thing that keeps us from seeing the biggest version of ourselves and the reason why most goal-setting/strategy setting doesn't actually work.The way most people do their goal setting does not work to create results and it eventually backfires which makes them feel bad, and ends up creating a very vicious cycle. There's actually a strategic reason for that, and Stacey will unravel it so that we can be well aware of it before we do our goal setting. One thing that is core to every goal-setting process is visualization. That basically entails looking back at the year that has already passed and writing down everything that we are grateful to have achieved. But that process is not as easy as it sounds because people actually do it in a way that does not work, and Stacey will share some strategies around how to do it properly.She will reference a story by Steve Harvey about the flea in a jar where he talks about how a flea can jump as high as six feet, but if put in a covered mason jar can only jump as high as the point where it hits the jar’s lid. That refers to how we all have limitations instilled in us by the people around us who expect us to live life the way they think we should live it, and achieve what they think we can achieve. Stacey will dive deeper into that and quickly teach us how to actually do our goal setting so that we can get great results.Key Points Discussed: The one year later look back and what it’s all about (02:14)Take the lid off your jar and go do what you need to do (04:11)The four things that must be aligned and congruent in order to create and manifest what you want (06:24)“I hope I can” is not having it (08:25)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share the strategy and planning framework that they use in both their business and personal lives to get results that exceed their expectations every year. They just recently shared the framework with their Relationship U students and they got so much power from it to easily set achievable goals for this new year.So many people do their annual goal setting, but it never actually works because they use the traditional kind of goal setting which is really counterproductive or counteractive to getting real results. That’s because with that kind of goal setting, one is always working against themselves. For example, you may say that you want to make $50,000 extra in cash by April 1st 2020, but there's a lot of things that will happen that will cause it to backfire, because what you’ll have done by setting that goal, is to focus on the lack of the $50,000 more that you want to have in cash.And anytime you focus on the lack and believe in it, that’s what you’ll get in the end. It can be very daunting when you think about the year ahead, all the outcomes you want to create, and the achievements you want to have, but with Paul and Stacey’s framework, you’ll be able to avoid flying blind into 2020 and achieve all your goals for the year. Listen in for more on that.Key Points Discussed:Either life is going to happen to you as you hope or you're going to do it (02:09)Happening to life instead of having it happening to us (03:23)Our beliefs, thoughts, words, and actions must be congruent for us to succeed in setting goals we can achieve (06:39)The Groundhog’s day process and how powerful it is in strategic planning for a year (09:25)Doing things differently in order to get the results that you really want (12:13)Taking our learning opportunities and baking them into our processes to always get the benefits our experiences (19:25)Creating a different dynamic by having the tools to show up differently in a way that creates peace and harmony (24:08)Additional Resources:Get the 10-Step Framework now!https://go.relationshipdevelopment.org/optin-2886540735203974The 14-Day Boost Programhttps://14dayboost.com/www.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about the Yellow Brick Road, a tool that they created to help people learn how life works, and what is required to move from one level  of life to another. They teach the tool to all their students, and Stacey even taught an expanded version of it to 5,000 entrepreneurs at a Funnel Hacking Live.In the movie, The Wizard of Oz, there is a yellow brick road that people follow to get to Oz, and that yellow brick road that Paul and Stacey created is somewhat similar in that when we are talking about life, everybody has an Oz. That Oz could be a goal, an outcome, or a purpose, and for every Oz, there is a yellow brick road that one must follow to achieve it or get to it.The yellow brick road looks more like a video game with different levels, and it has all of the lessons, challenges, and experiences to prepare a person to be the version of themselves that they need to be in order to reach and hold their Oz. Like with every video game, when one fails at one level, they can’t go on to the next one until they’ve repeated the one they’ve failed at and succeeded. And that’s the exact same way that life works. Paul and Stacey will expound more on that in this episode, and if you listen in, you can expect that it will definitely change your life for the better. Enjoy!Key Points Discussed: We can’t compare ourselves to others because everyone is on their own unique yellow brick road (01:57)Understanding how life works by understanding the squares on your yellow brick road (02:54)Facing it, owning it, and solving it so you can qualify to move on (04:35)How to become the person that you need to be to go to the next and better level in life (07:16)Nobody else can resolve the issues for us (08:27)Knowing what the yellow brick ahead is like by reaching for the hand of Vlad (12:26)(15:47)Being the observer instead of judging or valuating or getting triggered by appreciating that everybody has their own yellow brick road. Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will answer the question, “What are the strategies for being able to work with your spouse in a way that strengthens your marriage instead of weakening it?” This is something that they get asked a lot because most spouses who work together find it nearly impossible to separate their marriages from their businesses.Most of those spouses end up failing at one of those things, and usually, it’s the marriage that loses out since it’s easier to do business than to do marriage. Why? Because there are plenty of easily accessible resources everywhere like books and courses about business to help people run their businesses much more easily, but similar resources for marriage are limited. Spouses working together is always a magnifier for their marriage relationship. If they have things in their marriage relationship that they can't talk about, it's always a hundred times that in their business relationship. That’s the dynamic that people need to understand, and Paul and Stacey will share the four main things that spouses who work together or wish to work together can do to ensure that they achieve the desired win-win in both their marriage and business relationships.Key Points Discussed: If there's something wrong in your relationship, it comes into the business, and vice versa (00:52)The ceiling on your business is the ceiling on your relationship (03:38)It’s a relationship deficit of what we don’t see that creates a loop (06:35)Investing in our relationship skills for ourselves pays off for a lifetime (14:39)The importance of the strategic reason for each of you to work in the same business (18:59)Don't try to solve personal problems with a business solution (22:59)You can’t win without systems and processes (27:51)Understanding the invisible assumptions that create problems (31:21)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about triggers and how to go about them. We all have those moments where we get triggered by our partner, and unfortunately, people don’t know what to do in that moment, and it happens to the best of us.The one thing that’s most important to know is that every single trigger is unique, and therefore requires a unique solution that only we ourselves can come up with and not our partners. There’s so much value in a person learning to solve their triggers instead of reacting to them because every piece of trigger one solves puts back a piece of themselves back into making them whole.If your partner ever triggers and you need to know how to react better when they trigger you, then this episode is just for you, because Paul and Stacey will be sharing some very valuable action steps that you can take to start accomplishing that.Key Points Discussed: What to do when your spouse triggers you (01:31)The beauty of triggers and how to solve them (03:06)Mastering your state in the moment so that you can respond instead of react (04:04)How when we blame we put the power to fix things in someone else’s hands (06:06)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share the surprising answer they have to the popular questions, "Why do people make promises they don't keep?" and "What can I do when my partner keeps making promises they don't keep?"These are two questions that plague a lot of relationships (including with family and friends) because people tend to award blame on the other person when in reality they too are party to the problem. Paul and Stacey will share a clip from their recent Relationship Breakthrough Retreat Live Event, where someone from the audience asked them about this issue, and Stacey dropped some life changing gold truth bombs in her answer, so stay tuned to find out more.Key Points Discussed:It’s all about conditioning someone please you in the moment to get out of pain with you (02:49)Taking personal responsibility for our part in the dynamic (06:13)We shouldn’t have to let go and be okay with it (07:41)Using relationship development tools and strategies to collaborate with people in your world (09:02)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Stacey will share a special video that she recorded where she shares the three secrets that can revolutionize the way any of us does relationships. She will talk about how we can implement the relationship development tools in our relationships in order to get the love and passion that we really want.She will then dive into the three secrets and talk about each of them in detail while sharing the real life actionable steps we can take to turn our relationships around for the better. Stacey will also talk about their amazing Black Friday sale where they’re offering huge discounts on the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2020 tickets, and so much more. Listen, learn, and don’t forget to go get your Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2020 ticket now.Key Points Discussed: Asking your partner to change is actually killing your relationship (00:47)Removing your triggers so you can catapult forward and avoid getting hijacked by the people around you (03:43)Getting answers to real life, real family challenges that we assume there is no answer for (07:30)Committing and knowing that it only takes one person to transform a relationship (12:07)The relationship transformer guide and workbook, and the many other bonuses on offer (14:41)The biggest boost a relationship can have in just 14 days (20:28)Breaking down the relationship transformer Black Friday sale (23:10)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about a very powerful dynamic that keeps so many people stuck and miserable. It’s a dynamic that goes beyond marriages, and into all the relationships that people have in life, and it impacts us every single day, and yet it’s invisible to us.Paul and Stacey will reveal what it is, how people have a lot of misconceptions about it, and how it always puts us in endless battles with the people that we are in relationships with. They will also share the action steps we can take right now to stop being victims of the dynamic, so we can start experiencing joy and fulfillment in all our relationships. Listen in and learn.Key Points Discussed:Fairness is determined by the perspective of the person who is deciding whether it's fair or not (02:38)Our need for things to be fair only holds us back (03:46)Measuring what we get in exchange for what we’re giving (08:21)The concept of fairness in relationships is borne by measuring and keeping scores (10:20)The withdrawal and holding back that comes from expecting others to give in the same way we do (13:34)Accepting the unfairness of life without being bitter or negative (16:18)Be the one to take action in your relationship without depending on your partner (19:46)Making a decision and committing for 90 days (22:40)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about the biggest mistake people make with their relationship development method, mainly from misinterpreting it to mean that they should put up with things or just let things go. This comes from a deeply wired demand relationship thinking which only results in things staying the same or getting worse.Paul and Stacey discovered that their students didn’t quite understand that implementing the relationship development tools and strategies is supposed to result in one’s partner changing in response to how they show up differently, and so this episode is geared towards teaching us how to implement relationship development properly, so we can get to experience the changes that we really want to see in our relationships.Key Points Discussed:The huge misconception of what relationship development is (00:45)Creating our outcomes with the way we show up (03:49)Doing things that will actually generate the response that we totally want (06:01)Be the one to start nurturing that plant (11:54)Demand relationship thinking can run really deep (14:47)Following the relationship development yellow brick road (16:15)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share some behind the scenes content from their recent relationship development parenting live event day and specifically focus on sharing one major nugget that we can all implement immediately in our parenting.Listen in as they dive into the differences between demand parenting and relationship development parenting, and share some real-life parenting scenarios where relationship development parenting works perfectly so we can easily apply the same with our kids at home.Key Points Discussed:The recent relationship development parenting live event (00:55)The reality of what the parenting job is and how to properly approach it (05:39)Empowering our kids by teaching them the skills and tools to navigate real-life (09:03)The two ways of getting the biggest building in town (15:27)Robbing our kids of the skillset that they need to be prepared for the world (19:31)Stop yourself, ask yourself, and reach out when you’re stuck (23:40)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share their most popularly downloaded episode where they explained in detail how it’s possible that it only takes one partner to transform any relationship. There have been thousands of people who have single-handedly saved their marriages, transformed their relationships, and divorce-proofed their marriages.Society has for many years been brainwashed to believe that it takes two people to achieve all that, but the truth is that with Paul and Stacey’s relationship development methodology, one person can indeed transform a relationship all on their own, and in the episode, they share just how people can implement that methodology in their marriages and relationships.Key Points Discussed: The most powerful force in human relationships today (02:49)Waiting for the other person to change is setting yourself up for failure (04:37)Men process completely differently than women (08:49)Solving our own triggers (12:16)Disrespect only happens within you (15:58)The empowerment of relationship development (19:56)The fear-based protection (23:42)The relationship transformers community (26:04)-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share the story of where they were 10 years ago when they lost everything and had to start over. It all started when they lost their consulting business and started experiencing financial difficulties that pushed them to get jobs.Fast forward 10 years, they’re now doing great, and they will share how overcoming financial challenges helped them create relationship development for the benefit of others. Their story will help you plan out your future towards success and fulfillment in your personal and professional lives, so you won’t wanna miss it. Enjoy!Key Points Discussed: Reflecting back on the changes in the last 10 years (01:45)Heading towards bankruptcy and having to take up jobs (04:27)Fighting the wrong enemy: Blame games in a marriage (08:10)Breaking the chains of demand relationship for the future of the children (12:27)We take the boldest, biggest action when we have the most certainty (16:56)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost ProgramThe Marketing Secrets Show-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about the well-meaning people in our lives who have the best intentions for us, and how they might be negatively affecting our lives. Advice is something that we all get every day, from every body, even when we’ve really not asked for it.That’s because the people in our lives always have an opinion about everything, and Paul and Stacey will teach us how to see that dynamic and navigate it in a way that doesn’t negatively impact us individually, and doesn’t destroy the relationship with them either. Enjoy!Key Points Discussed: How the masculine responds to a woman who goes into her masculine (02:15)Nobody has the right to tell you what you should do in your life (09:14)Being clear about who you’re listening to (10:31)Taking personal responsibility for triggering friends to give us advice (15:15)Growing by investing in your mindset, your skillset, and your network (16:11)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.CashflowTactics.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about how learning more actually moves people backward in their relationships. People get obsessed with knowledge, especially those who are growth-oriented, and they’re always looking for the next thing to learn.Tune in as Paul and Stacey show us how that not only blocks us from getting the results that we want in our relationships, but also moves us backwards, and away from our goals.Key Points Discussed: Learning how to forgive so we can move forward (01:01)The dynamic of the dabbler and how it affects us (03:21)Implementing what we learn is what creates transformation (06:23)People who don't get results get addicted to information (08:42)There’s a difference between education and transformation (11:18)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share with you one of the biggest reasons why nothing changes for you.They hear these statements from people all the time; “I've asked a million times, but nothing changes” or “We talked and agreed to X, Y, Z, but still nothing changes.”   Often it comes down to how YOU interpret and respond to the situations that you are presented with. Paul and Stacey will dive into how you can begin to see things in a positive light and alter how you respond to these situations that once would trigger you.If you’ve ever experienced that yourself, then you need to listen to today's podcast. Key Points Discussed:Something so simple turned into a big kerfuffle (02:24)Owning what it is that you want to change; Why nothing changes for you (03:50)Re-framing what your partner says to you that triggers you (07:30)The world changes according to the color of the lens that you're wearing (10:09)You have no power when you're focused on getting others to change (12:07)Shifting how you show up to change how your partner reacts to you (17:39)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Program-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share a clip of themselves teaching one of the most powerful tools LIVE during Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019. The session was all about the importance of recognizing and seizing opportunities whenever they present themselves to us.They talked about the hand of Vlad, a tool that we all need to learn in order to seize opportunities and solve any challenges that we come across in life. Listen and learn.Key Points Discussed:Aiming for those things that are outside your comfort zone (00:53)Life is like Vlad on a trapeze (03:50)Asking for help is not a weakness (06:28)The one thing you're scared to do is exactly the thing you need to do (08:04)Things that go wrong are not a failure (09:53)Additional Resources:www.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share all about how the societal pressure to live in balance is making you miserable and creating crap results. The fact is, when everybody tells you you have to live in balance, all that does is make you feel bad about yourself.You feel bad because you think that you're not getting good results by not living in balance. Listen in to learn how you can live out of balance and create extraordinary results for yourself and your family.Key Points Discussed:The biggest boost for any relationship (01:07)Living in balance versus living out of balance (04:42)Living beyond where you’ve been living to get extraordinary results (07:34)Living strategically and living your priorities (11:15)Going all in to create and release the 14-Day Boost Program (16:33)Investing our time in solving the kerfuffles (20:56)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Program-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share a clip from the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat during the live Q&A segment. A woman got up to ask a question about what she can do when her spouse tells their kids something that she absolutely does not agree with. Has that ever happened to you? Of course, it has! Well, Paul and Stacey’s answer on how to solve this might surprise you, but it will surely give you some great actionable tips on how to implement impactful relationship development parenting and teach your kids how to navigate life the right way. Key Points Discussed: Using relationship development to release your triggers (01:14) The road map to collaboration (02:35) Teaching kids to navigate moments from relationship development (04:42) Triggers are necessary for growth to take place (10:31) Getting curious about your partner's perspective (12:21) Additional Resources: www.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com Get "The D.I.R.T." Daily Inspiration for Relationship Transformers at http://martinopodcast.com/dirt You can find this episode and more at: RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen -- Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share a clip of themselves teaching live at their recent RBR 2019 event. The title of the session was, "Getting Your Way in Relationships", and it was all about overcoming the challenges that couples have whenever they try to get their way in their relationships. Listen in as they tackle that and share some action steps on how to overcome the culprit in the picture, accidental alignment predicament, which negatively impacts marriages and families. Enjoy! Key Points Discussed: My way versus your way (01:14) Being too focused on the other person’s white knuckle grip (03:59) The breakdown from the fallout of demand relationship (06:29) Fighting the wrong enemy (10:51) Household systems are needed (13:45) Additional Resources: www.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com www.RelationshipDevelopment.org/Programs www.RelationshipDevelopment.org/Events You can find this episode and more at: www.RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share their experience moving from Pennsylvania to Idaho. They’ll talk about how hectic it was to pack up and move across the country, and the numerous challenges that that presented for their business and personal lives. If you wanna learn how to live by design and transform your life, listen in as they share why they chose to move to Idaho, the good and bad of the moving process, their kids’ experiences through it all, and some of the very interesting things that the movers had to say about them. Key Points Discussed: Moving to Idaho and people’s response (01:14) A priceless gift for the kids (04:54) Comfort cannot be your standard if you want an amazing life (10:14) Choosing to live a life by design will transform your life (15:59) Getting great insight from the packers and movers (20:22) The importance of taking the hand of Vlad (27:07) The action steps towards your life by design (28:49) Additional Resources: OrgoDomo.com Get the D.I.R.T. delivered to your inbox You can find this episode and more at: www.RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk all about the just concluded Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019. They will talk about what their favorite moments were, what the challenges were, how things went behind the scenes, and most importantly, the breakthroughs that different attendees experienced. Listen in to get that behind the scenes look at this life changing event, get a feel of what it would have been like to attend, and get some tools you can use to build better relationships in your life. Key Points Discussed: The best delivery and breakthroughs at the RBR 2019 (01:00) Delivering to the audience dynamically (03:07) The five-step forgiveness process (05:06) The four minute mile: From Can I? to How can I? (10:07) The best event team in the world (15:10) The breakthroughs that people share (18:16) Walking in one way and walking out another (25:02) Additional Resources: RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com You can find this episode and more at: RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will answer a question about what to do when one’s kid wants to quit something. So many parents have struggled with this because no parent wants to raise a quitter, but whatever it is cannot be forced on them from a demand relationship approach. Tune in as Paul and Stacey share the relationship development tactics you can use to tackle this issue with your kid and make sure that they’re A-okay moving forward. Key Points Discussed: It comes down to instilling values in our kids (02:46) Looking at your trigger first (05:56) Demand parenting brings up a conformer or a rebel (08:53) Losing out is just as good a teacher (10:41) Do not side with an authority figure over your kid’s life (14:47) Supporting your kids to have their own life experiences (17:44) You can find this episode and more at: Learn about the next live event: http://bit.ly/rbr_podcast Get "The D.I.R.T." Daily Inspiration for Relationship Transformers http://martinopodcast.com/dirt Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will be tackling the question of how to handle your kid when he or she triggers you. This is something that happens to every parent, and the biggest reason why parents can’t seem to find a solution to that problem is because they think that “fixing the kid” is the key, but its not. Stay tuned as Paul and Stacey dive into the issue of demand parenting, and learn how you can use relationship development parenting to get the results you want in your household and for your children. Key Points Discussed: It’s all a demand relationship kind of parenting (03:11) Mastering your emotions first before demanding the same of your kid (05:41) The detriment of demand parenting (08:25) People don’t trigger you, they just show you your own triggers (11:00) Having a higher standard for ourselves as parents (17:29) Allowing your kids to experience the natural consequences of life (27:53) Teaching our kids how to navigate life (37:03) You can find this episode and more at: www.RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen Get "The D.I.R.T." Daily Inspiration for Relationship Transformers http://martinopodcast.com/dirt -- Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey are going to talk about the power of immersion events in profoundly changing a person’s life versus just general learning. Learning is important and can be resourceful, but people usually tend to forget whatever they learn with time, but when they attend an event on what is important to them, they get to both learn and experience, and it’s the experience that sticks with them their entire lives. Paul and Stacey will also share the kind of action steps you can start doing now in regard to getting into beneficial live events to really start walking towards making that lasting change that you so desperately need in your relationship. Key Points Discussed: The hustle of doing live events (00:49) Immersion versus learning (01:48) There's a big difference between learning it and living it (03:46) The power of focus time on one thing (08:22) A good distraction with no lasting change (13:47) Getting to the next level by willingly getting resourceful (19:00) Additional Resources: The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019 You can find this episode and more at: RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey are going to dive into the most common fights that all couples have. When it comes to real life issues like parenting, money, work, family of origin, religion, spirituality, health, education, and others, most couples think that they share similar opinions until they get confronted by their differences on the same. That brings about conflicts between them, and because they lack the tools to tackle that, the conflicts become frequent and eventually lead them to a worse place than they would have intended. Paul and Stacey will teach you what you need to know to overcome all that and build the relationship that your family deserves. Key Points Discussed: The accidental alignment predicament (01:12) The next evolution of freedom (04:27) The invincible assumptions will bite you in the ass (07:03) Coordinating and working together to be successful (12:41) Men’s assumptions on different issues (16:25) A true authentic alignment design (23:12) We all have gifts to bring every time (30:55) When you design alignment, the accidental alignment predicament disappears (39:54) Additional Resources: The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat You can find this episode and more at: RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Stacey is going to talk about the feminine, and how women unknowingly get stuck in a dynamic that exhausts them, makes them feel miserable, causes kerfuffle, and zaps the passion right out of their marriage. Most women don’t understand how the masculine is wired, and so they tend to expect their men to react like women to different situations, and when they don’t, they get upset about it which causes a rift between them. Stacey will teach you how to stop looking at your man from a feminine lens, so that you can relate to him in a way that builds your relationship instead of breaking it down. Key Points Discussed: The feminine does not understand the masculine (01:17) Women judging men through the filter of what other women would do (04:06) The masculine is not wired for connection and support (05:46) Emotional spikes trigger a fight or flight reactive need in men for order (10:08) Stacking and how it causes unnecessarily higher levels of reaction (15:53) Judgement doesn’t build relationships (19:05) Additional Resources: The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019 You can find this episode and more at: RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul, with Stacey’s support, will be speaking directly to men, and women too, about how men see relationships. Men tend to view the topic of relationships and marriage as a feminine topic when in reality they need to know what makes a relationship work because they relate with so many different people in their lives. This episode will help in having men’s voice heard and understood, by giving women an inside look at the masculine perspective. Paul and Stacey will also share some insights on the steps men can take to become their masculine selves authentically and really understand relationship dynamics. Key Points Discussed: A man’s thought process around relationships and marriage (01:02) Masculine energy has been wired for freedom and autonomy (03:15) Relationship is a human topic (08:22) Misunderstanding relationship dynamics equals the 50% to 80% divorce rate (12:18) We’re equal but there are differences (15:27) Reacting and trying to run away from it won’t fix it (21:57) The gift is for the person who takes the action (25:32) Additional Resources: The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019 -- You can find this episode and more at: RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will take on one of the most common and pervasive relationship killers, and it's called pleasing. This isn't just about love relationships, because when a person is a pleaser in any of their relationships, they are most likely pleasing in many of their relationships, and that actually causes way more damage than good. Paul and Stacey will talk extensively about it and share some very effective tools that we can use to stop being pleasers and embrace the relationship development practices that will help us achieve true happiness in all our relationships. Key Points Discussed: The difference between giving and pleasing (01:02) Giving feels good but pleasing will always feel not so great (02:33) A culture conditioned to be pleasers (04:32) The emotional guidance scale (05:47) The result of pleasing is resentment (07:52) The dangers of demand parenting (10:28) How to authentically show up in any situation (16:24) The blame-sides-compromise dynamic is very broken (20:48) Pleasing doesn’t actually create happiness (27:51) How to stop being a pleaser (30:44) Additional Resources: The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019 Ask and It Is Given by Esther Hicks and Jerry Hicks You can find this episode and more at: RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will continue with part two of their reignite the passion series, and talk about what actually kills the passion in long-term relationships. It is something that impacts almost everyone at some point in their long-term relationship, and yet it remains invisible to almost everyone. They are going to expose that passion killer today to empower you to reignite the passion. Key Points Discussed: Passion organically fades in a long-term relationship (01:20) Loves goes deeper with sameness (02:30) Breaking the belief that something is wrong with you (03:33) You have to create that hotter and more amazing passion (08:56) Feminine core energy and masculine core energy (10:01) Being a nice guy mutes who you are authentically (13:24) Suppressing our natural core energy makes us unhappy (16:32) Focusing on yourself instead of your partner (23:12) Additional Resources: The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019 You can find this episode and more at: RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share the truth about why passion fizzles in long-term relationships and what we can do to reignite it! They will dive into the two most common phases of a relationship where people need help in creating an unleashed passion that is hotter than it's ever been. Paul and Stacey will be very detailed about this so it can help you get the kind of relationship you deserve. If you are looking to reignite the passion in your relationship, don’t miss out on this value-packed episode! Key Points Discussed: The hanging-by-a-thread and the passionless (01:00) The salad versus garbage concept (02:29) Passion is not meant to fade (05:27) Building up walls of resentments (08:12) It’s not your fault and you’re not alone (11:30) Breaking the chains for the sake of future generations (15:02) A height of passion that matches the depth of love is possible (16:10) Additional Resources: The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019 You can find this episode and more at: RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will cover part three of busting the myths series, and talk about the “But my partner is …” myths, which are all about how one partner thinks that their partner is keeping them from having their desired relationship because they behave a certain way. Key Points Discussed: Depressed spouses and the dangers of labeling (00:52) Everyone changes at different points in life for various reasons (02:53) Whatever comes after the statement “I am” is super powerful (06:31) Showing up differently in your relationship for your partner (09:05) Anxiety is just a pattern (12:03) The masculine dynamic wired into a man’s blueprint (15:19) The widespread misuse of the word abusive (18:27) Physical abuse is not a relationship issue (20:04) Everyone has a unique brilliance (24:49) Additional Resources: Daily Inspiration for Relationship Transformers You can find this episode and more at: RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will go into part two of busting the marriage and relationship myths that are misleading people today. They are going to dive into the "but my partner is not..." myths, which are the myths where people will say that their relationships are not working, or that they are hard, or that they might not be with the right person. Key Points Discussed: The “but my partner is NOT” myth (01:00) The differences between partners are always a gift (02:11) Every balloon needs it’s string (04:12) The trigger behind why it bothers you that your partner is different (07:52) You’re supposed to be different (10:41) The battle of the invisible alignment predicament (13:34) Misalignments in parenting between parents (17:35) When you know better you do better (23:28) When you collaborate, what you create is bigger (26:22) Additional Resources: The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019 You can find this episode and more at: RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey bust a lot of the marriage and relationship myths that keep people so enslaved in their own lives. They are also going to debunk some beliefs about what relationship development really is, and hopefully all that will set you free, and totally revive your marriage or relationship. Key Points Discussed: You don’t have to be nice, suck it up and make everyone else happy (01:19) The power player and the non-power player (01:34) Confusion is a quality question that you brain is facing (03:09) The relationship development approach (04:42) Being happy and your best self within a thriving relationship (08:09) Measuring and score keeping in your relationship (12:07) Inspiring change in the people around us (17:04) Breaking the chains of demand relationship in your family (22:25) Additional Resources: Get Big Results in Your Relationships in Just 10 Seconds a Day -- You can find this episode and more at: http://RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen -- Join us at the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat: http://bit.ly/rbr_podcast -- Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about the very confusing issue of whether an individual should leave their marriage and give in to divorce. This is something that a lot of people in someone’s life will prescribe when their marriage is in trouble, but the truth is that none of them has the right to do that. Paul and Stacey will expose that for the lie that it is and tell us the best way to go about an impending divorce situation. Key Points Discussed: It’s a lie to say you’ve tried everything and nothing will work (01:59) Noone has the right to tell you to get a divorce (02:54) People prescribe divorce when they’ve reached the end of their skillset (05:08) Calling off the divorce: Suzanne and Don’s story (07:10) Advice is crap and destructive (12:29) Knowing when to leave (14:14) Rebuilt marriage or harmonious co parenting (20:27) Cognitive learning is not enough to save a marriage or turn it around (25:11) Additional Resources: The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019 You can find this episode and more at: RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about the invisible force that stops people from living with a relationship development mindset and instead continues to enslave them in a demand relationship mindset. That force blocks people from getting the results that they desire in their relationships and keeps leading them in the wrong direction. Paul and Stacey will expose it and teach you how to overcome it. Key Points Discussed: The Truth: It’s all about blame (01:47) Blaming someone else renders you powerless (02:33) The act of willingly handing all your power to the other person (04:02) Personal responsibility is not a dirty word (06:11) Fault and responsibility do not go together (09:09) Everyone lives in the results of the decisions that they make (12:42) Additional Resources: YouTube Video: Fault Vs Responsibility by Will Smith The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019 You can find this episode and more at: RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will explain in detail how it’s possible that it only takes one partner to transform any relationship. There have been thousands of people who have single-handedly saved their marriages, transformed their relationships and divorce-proofed their marriages. Society has for many years been brainwashed to believe that it takes two people to achieve all that, but the truth is that with Paul and Stacey’s relationship development methodology, one person can indeed transform a relationship all on their own, and they will teach us how we can implement that methodology in our marriages and relationships. Key Points Discussed: The most powerful force in human relationships today (02:49) Waiting for the other person to change is setting yourself up for failure (04:37) Men process completely differently than women (08:49) Solving our own triggers (12:16) Disrespect only happens within you (15:58) The empowerment of relationship development (19:56) The fear-based protection (23:42) The relationship transformers community (26:04) Additional Resources: The Relationship Development Community Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019 You can find this episode and more at: RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!