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Reverse mortgages have carried a negative reputation for years, especially among Christians who are cautious about debt. But as with any financial tool, faithful stewardship calls us to understand how it works before deciding whether it belongs in a financial plan. Harlan Accola leads the reverse mortgage team at Movement Mortgage, a FaithFi underwriter. He joined the show today to explain why reverse mortgages remain controversial, how today's Home Equity Conversion Mortgage (HECM) differs from older products, and when it might play a useful role in retirement planning. Why Are Christians Hesitant About Reverse Mortgages? For many believers, the hesitation begins with debt itself. Scripture repeatedly encourages wisdom, contentment, and caution in financial matters, so borrowing against a home's equity can feel contrary to good stewardship. There is also the lingering reputation of earlier reverse mortgage products. Many people remember stories involving high costs, confusing terms, or homeowners facing difficult circumstances later in life. Accola says those concerns are understandable. “I felt the same way in the past before I understood them,” he said. But he argues that many people are evaluating today's federally insured reverse mortgages based on older versions of the product—or confusing them with other home-equity arrangements that work very differently. That makes it important to understand exactly which product is being considered and how its protections, costs, and obligations work. What Is a HECM? The most common type of reverse mortgage is the Home Equity Conversion Mortgage, or HECM, which is insured by the Federal Housing Administration. Unlike a traditional mortgage, a HECM generally does not require the borrower to make monthly principal and interest payments. Instead, the loan balance typically grows over time and becomes due when the borrower no longer occupies the home as a principal residence, sells the property, or dies. The homeowner still retains ownership of the home and remains responsible for obligations such as property taxes, homeowners insurance, and property maintenance. HECMs also include protections designed specifically for older homeowners. Borrowers must complete independent counseling before obtaining the loan, and the loans are non-recourse, meaning the borrower or heirs generally will not owe more than the home's value when the loan is repaid. Certain eligible non-borrowing spouses may also be able to remain in the home after the borrowing spouse dies, provided they meet program requirements. Those features make today's HECM significantly different from some of the products that contributed to reverse mortgages' poor reputation in earlier decades. Turning Home Equity Into Retirement Flexibility For many retirees, a home represents one of their largest assets. Yet that wealth is often difficult to use without selling the property or taking on more debt. A reverse mortgage can potentially convert a portion of that equity into accessible funds. One possible benefit is improved monthly cash flow. Eliminating a required mortgage payment could help a retiree living on reduced income balance a budget without turning to credit cards or other higher-cost borrowing. Reverse mortgage proceeds may also provide additional resources for expenses such as home repairs, healthcare, or long-term care. A HECM line of credit can offer another form of flexibility. For example, retirees may be able to draw from home equity during a market downturn rather than selling investments after they have declined in value. Used carefully, that could give an investment portfolio more time to recover. Home equity might also help preserve other retirement assets for later years, a surviving spouse, or heirs. The goal isn't simply to access more money. It's to consider all the resources God has entrusted to us and ask how they can work together wisely. As Luke 16:10 reminds us, “One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much.” Faithfulness includes not only how we accumulate resources but also how thoughtfully we use what God has already provided. Could a Reverse Mortgage Support Generosity? Accola has also seen situations where accessing home equity allowed retirees to give more generously during their lifetime rather than waiting for assets to transfer after death. That won't be the right choice for everyone. Giving should never come at the expense of maintaining appropriate provision for yourself or a spouse. But the example highlights an important stewardship principle: a home is not necessarily separate from the rest of a financial plan simply because its value is tied up in real estate. For some families, home equity may be another resource to consider prayerfully alongside savings, investments, retirement income, and other assets. Start With the Plan, Not the Product A reverse mortgage is not appropriate for every homeowner. Before pursuing one, Accola recommends beginning with the bigger financial picture. Ask questions such as: How long do we expect to remain in this home? How would a reverse mortgage affect our monthly cash flow? What costs are associated with the loan? How will we continue paying property taxes, insurance, and maintenance? How could the loan affect what we eventually leave to our heirs? Are there other resources available that might accomplish the same goal? How does this decision fit within our overall retirement, estate, and generosity plans? That last question may be the most important. A reverse mortgage should not be viewed simply as a financial product to purchase. It should be evaluated within the context of a thoughtful retirement plan. Working with professionals who understand both the technical details of the loan and the homeowner's broader financial goals can help families consider the tradeoffs carefully. Is a Reverse Mortgage Right for You? A reverse mortgage isn't for every household, and using home equity should never be an excuse for careless spending. But you shouldn't reject the product simply because of its reputation. For the right homeowner, a modern HECM may turn otherwise inaccessible home equity into a flexible resource for cash flow, retirement planning, long-term care, or even greater generosity. Faithful stewardship means looking carefully at every resource God has entrusted to us, understanding our options, and making decisions that serve the larger financial plan. To learn more about reverse mortgages through Movement Mortgage, visit FaithFi.com/Movement. On Today's Program, Rob Answers Listener Questions: My daughter was approved for a $325,000 mortgage, but the rate wasn't locked. Now that she's found a home, the lender says she has to choose when to lock, with rates ranging from about 5.6% to 6.75%. How should she decide when to lock in her rate? I'm 78 and considering buying a $300,000 home in a 55+ community. I also own a rental property with about $88,000 left on a 4% mortgage, and I don't need the rental income to cover my expenses. Should I keep the rental or move into it? And if I buy in the 55+ community, how should I balance paying cash versus taking a traditional or reverse mortgage? Resources Mentioned: Faithful Steward: FaithFi's Quarterly Magazine (Become a FaithFi Partner) Movement Mortgage Thriving in Love and Money: 5 Game-Changing Insights about Your Relationship, Your Money, and Yourself by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn FaithFi Field Guide: How Much Money is Enough?  Our Ultimate Treasure: A 21-Day Journey to Faithful Stewardship by Rob West Wisdom Over Wealth: 12 Lessons from Ecclesiastes on Money Look At The Sparrows: A 21-Day Devotional on Financial Fear and Anxiety Rich Toward God: A Study on the Parable of the Rich Fool Find a Certified Kingdom Advisor® (CKA) FaithFi App Remember, you can call in to ask your questions every weekday at (800) 525-7000. Faith & Finance is also available on Moody Radio Network and American Family Radio. You can also visit FaithFi.com to connect with our online community and partner with us as we help more people live as faithful stewards of God's resources. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. 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Tracy speaks with therapist Lauren LaRusso, author of the new book "Beyond Infidelity: How to Turn the End of Your Relationship into the Beginning of Your Life." LaRusso shares her own chump street cred -- how discovering her (now ex) husband's affair changed her life and how she practices therapy today. Most of all, she focuses on new beginnings. How the awful catalyst of betrayal can lead to a much better life on the other side. 

Send us Fan Mail You can lose self-trust without noticing it happen. It doesn't always come from one explosive event. Sometimes it's the slow accumulation of tiny moments you explain away because “reasons” feel safer than doubt. We open with that quiet collapse, then we're joined by Reese Wilson, founder of UnstoppableLife.com and the author of the forthcoming memoir The Black Cup, to talk about what it looks like to live for years in that blurred space where you seem fine, yet something in you knows you're not okay. Reese shares how she began recognising patterns instead of isolated incidents, including the small but jolting “black cup” moment after 24 years of marriage. We explore how second-guessing becomes a habit, how subtle relationship dynamics can train you to ignore your own preferences, and why “proof” isn't always the path back. We also talk frankly about the toll this takes on mental health, including reaching a crisis point, and why your body can send clear signals long before your mind is ready to name what's happening. From there, we get practical: the difference between self-confidence and self-trust, why overthinking can freeze your life, and how to rebuild by taking one doable step at a time. Reese uses a half-marathon training mindset to explain sustainable change, setbacks, rest, and continuing anyway. If you're searching for language around intuition, boundaries, resilience, and healing from toxic relationship patterns, this conversation offers a grounded place to start. If this resonates, subscribe so you don't miss what's next, share it with someone who needs it, and leave a review to help more people find the show. What's one pattern you're ready to stop explaining away? Connect with Reese:  https://unstoppable-life.com/ Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Immunology Diagnostics 30% off of IMBXX. Code: Healthymind Get the test, insurance covers. Jumppoint Consulting Offer: 30% Subscription | Join COO and author Chelsea Byers for her weekly newsletter. Towards Wellness Coaching Offer: 25% off | Code: POD2026. Available internationally in paperback and eBook formats. Extraordinary People LLC All free so we can get to know each other! Patrick Casey Marissa Zwetow Offer: 12 taboo postpartum truths Jen Katsev Offer: 5 Day "Wake Up IN LOVE With Your Life" Challenge. Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Send us Fan Mail If you've ever looked back on a year of nonstop motion and wondered, “I've been busy, but did I actually grow?” you're not alone. I sit down with Ben Barbic to talk about the kind of personal growth that doesn't show up on social media and doesn't arrive in one dramatic breakthrough. We get honest about why growth can feel invisible, why life rarely moves in a straight line, and how the real wins are often the quiet choices: patience over anger, curiosity over certainty, progress over perfection. Ben shares a simple, realistic approach to self-improvement that doesn't rely on hype or massive overnight change. We talk about why people repeat the same habits and relationships even when they want something better, and how introspection can uncover what “comfort” is really costing you. From there, we focus on micro habits: small, specific changes you can actually commit to, like a few minutes of reading, meditation, stretching, journaling, or cutting back one step at a time. The goal is consistency, not intensity, so your habits become part of your normal Tuesday instead of a plan you abandon by day three. We also dig into frustration and slow progress, comparing growth to building strength at the gym: the gains are real, but subtle, and they compound over time. And when you slip back, we don't treat it as failure. We treat it as normal human behavior and sometimes the exact reminder you need of what your routines were giving you. Finally, we challenge the lure of the “easy” past, and why purpose often matters more than comfort. If you want practical personal development strategies that feel doable and meaningful, hit play. Subscribe, share this with a friend who feels stuck, and leave a review with the one small choice you're making this week. Connect with guest: Website: https://www.risenclimb.com Book & Audiobook: Rise and Climb: Finding Purpose Through Pain (Amazon, Audible, Barnes & Noble) Music: available on all major streaming platforms Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/benbarbic/ X (Twitter): https://x.com/BenBarbic YouEx Get 50% off the first 6 months of YouEx.ai! Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Friending, Inc Offer: 15% off our coffee as stated above | Code: Podcast10 Find friends in real-life in a verified Patrick Casey Marissa Zwetow Offer: 12 taboo postpartum truths Jennifer Westcott Offer: free hypnosis sessions Jen Katsev Offer: 5 Day "Wake Up IN LOVE With Your Life" Challenge. Elizabeth Pritchard Offer: Mention Healthy Mind Healthy Life Podcast & receive 10% off the next course. | Code: AL10Disc Suzanne Rath Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Send us Fan Mail Everyone is told the same lie about success: be more polished, more normal, more “professional.” But what if the part you keep editing out is the part that actually sells? We sit down with writer and creative business coach Amber Petty to talk about weirdness as a business strategy, not as a gimmick but as a repeatable way to stand out, get attention, and build an audience that feels like your people.  We dig into what “weird” really means, why generic authenticity advice often fails, and how one simple prompt can unlock better marketing ideas fast: “What's the weirdest way I could do it?” Amber shares real examples from her work, including the surprisingly effective power of leaning into your natural tone, your references, and even playful design choices. In an era where AI makes it easy to produce more average content, we explain why specificity is the competitive edge.  We also go where most business conversations avoid: mental health and entrepreneurship. Amber opens up about building through depression and anxiety, the trap of perfectionism, and how shrinking the time you give worry can help you ship work without burning out. We talk sustainable consistency, working with your energy, and focusing on what clients actually need instead of creating endless “extras” to feel safe.  If you've ever felt like you're not cut out for business because you struggle mentally, this will give you a grounded, hopeful path forward. Subscribe for more conversations like this, share it with a creative friend who needs permission to be specific, and leave a review so more listeners can find us. Connect With the Guest: Website: https://www.amberpetty.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ambernpetty Free workshop "Revenue Revenge": https://www.amberpetty.com/revenge Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Extraordinary People LLC All free so we can get to know each other! The Kloaked Signal Select for pre-order discount 10% | Code: podfans10 Emotional Musings Offer: Mention this ad listing & receive $15 off your 1st session | Code: Healthy mind/Healthy life Astrologer Royale Offer: Save $50 on your Natal Chart Reading | Code: POD50 Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Send us Fan Mail Your attention is getting pulled in a hundred directions, and somehow you're expected to “find yourself” in the middle of it. We sit down with Olga Ramora, entrepreneur, author, product designer, and co-founder of Moonly, a self-discovery and wellness platform used by more than 10 million people, to ask a question that hits right now: can technology support self-awareness instead of stealing it?  We talk about tech as an instrument, not a villain, and why the outcome depends on intention, design, and the way we use the tool. Olga shares how she works with symbolic systems like Vedic astrology, lunar cycles, tarot, and other traditions, not as shortcuts to identity, but as languages that can help us reflect, notice patterns, and stay honest about our inner life. We also get real about the speed of the digital world: new apps, new AI, and endless inputs that can leave even good practices feeling stale unless we keep coming back to the body and to true desire.  We dig into why stories and symbols still land so deeply, from music and myth to archetypes like the moon priestess, and how narrative can carry meaning when life feels chaotic. If you feel disconnected while balancing work, family, and personal stress, Olga offers grounded places to begin: nature, movement, and simple daily practices that rebuild inner contact, plus deeper psychological work around childhood patterns when needed.  If this conversation helps you breathe a little easier, subscribe, share it with a friend who feels stretched thin, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What's one small step you can take today to come back to yourself? Connect with Olga Ramora: Moonly App: https://moonly.app Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moonlyapp/ YouEx Get 50% off the first 6 months of YouEx.ai! Immunology Diagnostics 30% off of IMBXX. Code: Healthymind Get the test, insurance covers. Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Friending, Inc Offer: 15% off our coffee as stated above | Code: Podcast10 Find friends in real-life in a verified Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Send us Fan Mail Your mind can write the neat story, but your body tells the true one. We sit down with Elizabeth Janowski to talk about embodiment, emotional safety, and why so many of us keep trying to think our way out of feelings that were never meant to live only in our heads. We unpack what embodiment actually means in real life, beyond the “perfect day” version of wellness. Elizabeth explains how we're embodied all the time, even when we're dissociated, distracted, or chasing achievement. If you've ever powered through insomnia, anxiety, tension, or burnout by telling yourself to just try harder, you'll recognise the pattern and the cost. We also touch on interoception, those small internal signals that guide us back to a grounded, regulated nervous system. From there, we get practical. Elizabeth shares a simple somatic practice: a quiet walk with no music, no podcast, and no performance goals, where you practise noticing sensations and allowing them without rushing to fix them. We also explore freeform movement and the role of being witnessed without judgement, especially for people who learned early that it wasn't safe to be angry, loud, or emotionally honest. The payoff shows up everywhere: more self-trust, more space for your kids' feelings, and deeper intimacy and authenticity with partners, family, and friends. If you've been craving peace, presence, and real self-connection, press play and start small. Subscribe to Helly Mind, Helly Life, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review telling us what your body has been trying to say lately. Connect With the Guest: Website: https://www.permissionary.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/permissionary/ Substack: https://healthymindbyavik.substack.com/ (Liz's own Substack is under the Permissionary name) Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Astrologer Royale Offer: Save $50 on your Natal Chart Reading | Code: POD50 Vegout Voyage Offer: 15% off all personalized Armchair Iceland merch | Code: ICELANDGEAR15 Jennifer Westcott Offer: free hypnosis sessions Marissa Zwetow Offer: 12 taboo postpartum truths Suzanne Rath AEtherbal Offer: 20% off | Code: Tryfor20 Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Send us Fan MailYou can look successful on paper and still feel like it is never enough.In this episode, we have Elizabeth Husserl, a sought-out speaker, entrepreneur, registered investment advisor, mother and cofounder of Peak360, a boutique wealth planning firm. She expertly guides people to a deeper understanding of their relationship to money and wealth. But more than anything, she is a thought leader at the intersection of psychology and money. Her debut book, The Power of Enough: Finding Joy in Your Relationship with Money, is a paradigm- shifting exploration that invites readers to redefine success, loosen the emotional grip of traditional financial beliefs, and build a more joyful, self-aligned relationship with wealth.Why do so many women feel financially insecure even when the numbers look good on paper?Because we measure wealth mentally but experience it physically. We hit the metrics and the goalpost moves. The missing piece is learning to actually feel wealthy in your body, not just know it in your head.What is the wealth mandala and how do you use it?It is a circle with twelve human needs like health, connection, freedom, and purpose. You rate each one from one to ten and color it in. Then you look at your whole life like a flower and see where your time and resources actually need to go.What is the difference between money, wealth, and power?Money is a tool. Wealth is a state of wellbeing where your human needs are being met. Power is the agency to design your own life. None of them are the same thing and only one of them lives in your bank account.What is satiation and why does it matter more than gratitude?Gratitude is a heart experience. Satiation is a body experience. It is that feeling when a meal truly hits the spot. Elizabeth says we need to bring that same felt sense of enough into our financial lives, not just think it, feel it.How do you define enough when the world keeps telling you it is never enough?Start by feeling what enough actually feels like before you take it to a spreadsheet. Then do the math in five-year segments. And compound your moments of meaning the same way you compound interest.Join us for next week's Money Talks, “Your Complete Financial Protection Plan: Estate, Insurance & Investments Simplified” Most women have one of the three dialed in. Fewer have all of them. We're laying out exactly what you need to protect what you've built, grow it intentionally, and make sure it goes where you want it to go. Click here to register for FREE and bring your questions! Follow & connect with Elizabeth:WebsitePeak360 Wealth ManagementInstagram LinkedIn Book: The Power of EnoughChatGPT tool “Conversations with Money”Want to take this conversation one step further? Join us for our next Money Talks, a free 30 minute live session where we'll dig into a question we hear all the time from women business owners: Budgeting for Businesses to Offer Benefits. Click here to register for FREE and bring your questions! Follow & connect with us!Website Facebook PageFacebook groupInstagramTikTokLinkedInYouTubeReddit ResourcesHave questions? Click this to check out our expert Q&A for tips from industry experts, tailored to help women address their most common financial concerns. Subscribe to our newsletter to receive financial tips delivered weekly here!...

Send us Fan Mail Success is supposed to feel like safety, but what if the life you built starts to feel like a cage? We sit down with award-winning author, speaker, and Executive Medicine of Texas CEO Judy Gaman to talk about the kind of reinvention that doesn't come from a crisis, but from clarity. If you've been quietly wondering whether you're allowed to want something different now, you're in the right place.  We dig into the hidden cost of hustle culture and the constant pull of phones, notifications, and “busy” as an identity. Judy shares why slowing down is not falling behind, it's returning to yourself, and how practices like meditation, prayer, and “the pause” support mental health, resilience, and long-term wellbeing. This is a conversation about burnout recovery and purposeful living, not in theory, but in the real choices we make every day.  Judy also brings in her work on longevity, including lessons from centenarians about what actually helps people live to 100 happy, healthy, and wise. We talk about friendships, sleep, healthy habits, service, and the surprising fact that elementary school kids often name the same essentials. Along the way, she offers a simple but powerful exercise to hold both your hardest seasons and your biggest dreams, so you can see proof that you've already made it through and you still get to grow.  If you're ready to turn the page without needing the whole plan tonight, press play. Subscribe, share this with someone who's in a transition, and leave a review telling us what “begin again” looks like for you.  

Send us Fan Mail You can look “high functioning” and still feel like you're one dropped ball away from falling apart. That's the paradox we unpack: when control becomes the only path to safety, fear ends up running the show, and your nervous system pays the bill in tension, exhaustion, and a constant need to manage everything. I'm joined by Malisandre to talk about nervous system safety, the real difference between control and trust, and how to tell when healthy responsibility has turned into chronic overcontrol. We get specific about what this can look like in the body and in daily life, from feeling sick when you're not in charge to automatically rejecting help because receiving feels like weakness. Malisandre also shares a key distinction between taking control and consensual authority, a choice to let someone else hold structure so your system can step out of vigilance and finally exhale. We also move into what to do with all of this. If you want a practical first step that doesn't require you to “change your whole personality,” Malisandre offers a simple ritual you can start tomorrow morning: a phone-free routine that builds self-trust, reframes your inner dialogue, and gently teaches your body that it's safe to soften. If you've struggled with receiving support, compliments, rest, or love, this conversation will meet you right where you are. Subscribe for more honest mental health conversations, share this with someone who carries too much alone, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What's one thing you're ready to let yourself receive? Find Malisandre through her official Linktree, which includes:  Website   Social media profiles   Substack articles   Coaching services Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Friending, Inc Offer: 15% off our coffee as stated above | Code: Podcast10 Find friends in real-life in a verified Extraordinary People LLC All free so we can get to know each other! Avita Yoga Free Avita Yoga class and exclusive interview with Jeff: Know Your Constitution AEtherbal Offer: 20% off | Code: Tryfor20 The Soulfluence Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Sam Dordulian, Esq. and I sat down to discuss digital coercion, and steps that you can take when being threatened with sextortion. *If you or someone that you know are experiencing image abuse or sextortion, please contact your local police department.* Visit Sam Dordulian, Esq.'s website here -> Samuel Dordulian | Former Deputy District Attorney *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to every situation or person. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner. Some of the information discussed on the podcast can be sensitive in nature, therefore listener discretion is advised. The opinions of the guests on A Date with Darkness Podcast are independent of the opinions of Dr. Natalie Jones, PsyD, LPCC. For more information on the podcast visit www.adatewithdarkness.com Email Dr. Jones at admin@drnataliejones.com Want more information and tips about narcissistic abuse and how to heal? Visit www.drnataliejones.com and sign up for the newsletter and get the free e-book on Red Flags in Your Relationship. If you are interested in individual and group membership coaching sessions with Dr. Jones, slots will be opening soon. Join the mailing list to be the first in the know when the program launches, click https://www.healingwithdrjones.com/signup. To connect with others who are seeking support from hurtful and abusive relationships please join the Facebook group: A Date With Darkness group here https://www.facebook.com/groups/196036654267594/ If you are interested in counseling, consulting, corporate wellness, or public speaking services from Dr. Natalie Jones, visit www.drnataliejones.com If you like what you heard, leave a podcast rating and review HERE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-date-with-darkness-podcast/id1271234927

Send us Fan Mail Stress is not a business strategy, even when entrepreneur culture treats it like one. We sit down with Drew Dorenfest, a marketing expert who's worked with global brands and now leads Client Magnet CRM, to talk about the inner reality behind building a small business: anxiety, overload, and the fear that if you stop pushing, everything falls apart. We get honest about workaholism and the myth that burnout is “the price of admission.” Drew shares what it's like to carry deadlines when you're sick, why a strong support system matters, and how setting client boundaries protects both your mental health and your long-term performance. We also explore the hidden pattern many solopreneurs don't notice until it hurts: tying self-worth to productivity so tightly that rest starts to feel threatening. Then we bring it down to a regular Tuesday. Drew offers practical mindfulness tools that don't require a perfect schedule, like a 10-minute guided body scan, a midday walk, and choosing one meditation you genuinely connect with (not the one you think you “should” do). On the business side, we talk SEO strategy that rewards quality over quantity, and why automation can be about peace of mind as much as growth, giving you back the hours and headspace your nervous system has been asking for. If you're building a brand while trying to stay human, this conversation is for you. Subscribe, share with a friend who's stretched thin, and leave a review so more small business owners can find it. Connect with guest: https://clientmagnetcrm.com/  Social: @ClientMagnetCRM  YouEx Get 50% off the first 6 months of YouEx.ai! Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Friending, Inc Offer: 15% off our coffee as stated above | Code: Podcast10 Find friends in real-life in a verified Our Protector Development Offer: $100 OFF ENROLLMENT | Code: ENROLL100 Wake up ltd Self Mental Healthcare/Stress Relief Practices - Buddha way, backed by science | Code: healthymind Vegout Voyage Offer: 15% off all personalized Armchair Iceland merch | Code: ICELANDGEAR15 Focal Point Coaching of Oak Park Offer: First session FREE | Code: Mention "HealthyMind" in your email Royalty Coaching and Consulting Offering Coaching to help men go through the workbook and achieve freedom in all areas of life! Avita Yoga Free Avita Yoga class and exclusive interview with Jeff: Know Your Constitution Convergence Offer: 50% off | TRANSFORM50 Patrick Casey Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Send us Fan Mail Instagram makes fatherhood look effortless. Real life feels more like trying to stay patient while your stomach is tight with worry, and wondering if you're doing enough for your kids. We sit down with Arky Jones , co-host of the Sydney-based Papa Lens podcast, to talk about the version of modern fatherhood that rarely gets said out loud: anxiety, pressure, and the lonely parts of being “the provider” when you're still figuring yourself out. We get into fatherhood and men's mental health head-on, including why dads often have fewer spaces to process emotions and how friendship actually works when time is scarce. Arky shares a practical approach: build a small circle, meet consistently, and connect side by side through doing, not just talking. We also unpack the “modern madness” parents face in 2025, from housing affordability and inflation to the way the old life script no longer fits. That shift forces a deeper question: if we can't promise a clear path, how do we teach purpose, responsibility, and hope? We close with grounded parenting advice on authority, trust, and truth telling, plus a simple self-improvement framework: one small step each day can change the kind of dad you are. Arky also points listeners to personalitypeak.com, his platform for understanding personality and building the self. If this conversation helps you feel less alone, subscribe, share it with a dad who needs it, and leave a review. What's one belief about fatherhood you want to rewrite? Connect With the Guest: Personality Peak: https://www.personalitypeak.com Papa Lens Podcast on X: https://x.com/PapaLensPodcast Papa Lens Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@PapaLens LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ralph-k-jones-author/ Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Friending, Inc Offer: 15% off our coffee as stated above | Code: Podcast10 Find friends in real-life in a verified The Yielding Warrior Offer: Free book just pay for shipping | Code: TYW Emotional Musings Offer: Mention this ad listing & receive $15 off your 1st session | Code: Healthy mind/Healthy life Towards Wellness Coaching Offer: 25% off | Code: POD2026. Available internationally in paperback and eBook formats. Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Is Alcohol Becoming the Third Person in Your Relationship?What happens when a glass of wine after work slowly becomes something much bigger? And how do you know when alcohol is no longer just part of your social life, but has become something that's standing between you and your partner?In this episode, Sara and Anna explore the impact alcohol can have on relationships. From the subtle signs that drinking is changing the dynamic between you, to the loneliness felt by the partner who doesn't drink, this is a compassionate conversation about one of the most difficult topics couples can face.The Love Desk also introduces the idea of a "sunset clause" in relationships. Could setting a date to fully commit or move on help people avoid years of uncertainty?Finally, the listener question asks:"Since my partner and I moved in together, they've stopped seeing friends and pursuing hobbies. Now they rely on me for all of their social interaction. How do I encourage them to build an independent life outside of our relationship?"As always, Sara and Anna share practical advice, honest reflections and plenty of warmth along the way.In this episode:• What the "sunset clause" is and whether it could strengthen relationships.• Why staying in an unhappy relationship often feels easier than leaving.• When alcohol stops being something you share and starts becoming the third person in your relationship.• The warning signs that alcohol is affecting your connection.• Why conversations about drinking are often so difficult to have.• The difference between compassion and enabling.• Why you cannot change someone who isn't ready to change.• How to start difficult conversations with care rather than criticism.• Why maintaining friendships and hobbies matters after moving in together.• The difference between dependence and healthy interdependence.• How supporting your partner's independence can actually strengthen your relationship.Key takeawayHealthy relationships aren't built on dependence. They're built on two people choosing each other while still allowing one another to grow as individuals. Whether you're navigating difficult conversations about alcohol, commitment or independence, approaching each other with curiosity, compassion and honesty creates the strongest foundation for lasting connection.We'd love to hear from youHave a relationship question you'd like us to answer on the podcast?Email us at info@geordielass.comOr connect with us:Sara (Geordie Lass)Website: https://inflori.co.ukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/inflori_coachingAnna (Doc Sass)Website: https://www.drannakaminsky.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.anna.kaminskyIf you've enjoyed this episode, please follow the podcast, leave a review and share it with someone who might find it helpful. It really helps more people discover the show and join the conversation.Until next time, keep choosing connection.

Send us Fan Mail Loyalty gets praised like a simple virtue, but most of us have felt the dark side of it: staying too long, keeping quiet to “keep the peace,” or confusing commitment with fear. We go straight at the uncomfortable question: is loyalty a fixed promise, or something that changes as we change? I'm joined by keynote speaker, author, and consultant Elliot Sawyer, who argues that self-interest is the root of disengagement. When our hidden motive is transactional, what can I get, what can I extract, people feel used, even if the results look good on paper. We talk about the first real shift that creates lasting trust: motives start in the mirror. From there, loyalty becomes practical, honour people with your time, energy, attention, and resources, and choose service over ego, manipulation, or leverage. We also explore how childhood experiences, neglect, and trauma can make us guarded, defensive, and reluctant to be generous, and why healing is often the missing link between good intentions and consistent behaviour. Then we bring it into leadership and organizational culture: how “success” can hide low loyalty, why exploiting and taking destroy trust, and what it means to do the next right thing when you mess up. Elliot shares the Johnson & Johnson Tylenol recall story as a powerful example of transparency and sacrifice creating decades of customer loyalty. If you want healthier relationships, stronger workplace culture, and a leadership style people actually trust, press play. Subscribe, share this with someone who leads a team, and leave a review so more listeners can find the show.  Connect With the Guest: Website: https://elliotsawyer.com Free trust assessment: https://elliotsawyer.com/trustaudit LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elliotsawyer/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elliot.sawyer/ Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Friending, Inc Offer: 15% off our coffee as stated above | Code: Podcast10 Find friends in real-life in a verified Vegout Voyage Offer: 15% off all personalized Armchair Iceland merch | Code: ICELANDGEAR15 Extraordinary People LLC All free so we can get to know each other! Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Most men go their entire lives running on substitute friendships without realizing their tank is completely empty. In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down the 5 types of men in your life - from the convenient neighbor to the group chat clown - and reveals why only one of them will actually stand by you in a crisis. Learn how to audit your inner circle, eliminate friction-free surface relationships, and build genuine 2 AM friendships through intentionality and radical honesty.   Ready to surrounding yourself with high-caliber men? Join the Iron Council brotherhood at orderofman.com/ironcouncil.     SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The Friendship Trap Most Men Fall For 00:21 - Category 1: The Convenient Friend 04:55 - Category 2: The Default Friend 07:11 - Category 3: The Clown 11:02 - Category 4: The Casual Friend 15:04 - Category 5: The 2 AM Friend 18:10 - Why 2 AM Friendships Still Have Limitations 20:07 - Taking Responsibility for Your Relationships 22:25 - The 80/20 Rule of Male Vulnerability 26:47 - How to Build Intentional Brotherhood    Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

Send us Fan Mail Parenting stress isn't a quirky side effect of raising kids. It's layered, exhausting, and often made worse by the quiet belief that you should naturally know what to do. We sit down with Dr. Lindsay Emmerson, a clinical psychologist and creator of the Better Behavior Blueprint, to name what so many parents feel but rarely say out loud and to replace guilt with practical, psychology-backed skills.  We unpack why parenting works best when you treat it like any other learnable skill, not a test of your worth. Dr. Lindsay Emmerson walks us through the 5Cs framework: Communication, Consistency, Choices, Checkpoints, and Consequences, with a powerful “check yourself” practice that brings the focus back to the parent's nervous system. You'll hear concrete examples like using unconditional positive regard to correct behaviour without criticising a child's personality, tightening choices for younger kids to prevent overwhelm, and building consistent routines that reduce daily friction around mornings, meals, and bedtime.  We also talk about what doesn't help: collecting endless parenting tips that work once and then disappear. A single trusted system, practised over time, can rebuild confidence, lower parental burnout, and create the calmer home you're aiming for. If you've been trying to outwork exhaustion, this conversation offers a different path: support, structure, and real-life tools.  Subscribe for more grounded mental health and parenting conversations, share this with a parent who needs a reset, and leave a review so more families can find the show. What part of the 5Cs do you want to practise first? Connect With Dr. Lindsay Emmerson: Website: drlindsayemmerson.com Workshop: drlindsayemmerson.com/workshop Instagram: instagram.com/drlindsayemmerson TikTok: tiktok.com/@drlindsayemmerson Facebook: facebook.com/drlindsayemmerson Podcast: Parenting With Psychology Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Friending, Inc Offer: 15% off our coffee as stated above | Code: Podcast10 Find friends in real-life in a verified Vegout Voyage Offer: 15% off all personalized Armchair Iceland merch | Code: ICELANDGEAR15 Extraordinary People LLC All free so we can get to know each other! Emotional Musings Offer: Mention this ad listing & receive $15 off your 1st session | Code: Healthy mind/Healthy life The Kloaked Signal Select for pre-order discount 10% | Code: podfans10 Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Send us Fan Mail There's a kind of spiritual fog that's hard to explain until you've lived it: you still believe, but you feel unmoved, unsure, and stuck between what used to fit and what comes next. We call that season “the in-between” and we made space for it without trying to rush it, fix it, or dress it up with easy answers. I'm joined by Briana Bass, a certified professional coach, Christian fiction author, and founder of Proverbs and Fears. Briana shares her own in-between moments, including a season of severe burnout that didn't just drain her career energy, but rippled into relationships, habits, and her sense of connection with God. We talk honestly about the questions many Christian women quietly carry: Am I doing enough? Am I making mistakes? Am I still worthy and lovable when my faith feels fragile? We also dig into what pulls women into spiritual doubt and deconstruction-adjacent seasons, from a single life event like church hurt to the slow drip of pressure from social media and the “perfect Christian aesthetic.” Along the way, Briana offers practical, grounded next steps for mental health and spiritual health: talking to a trusted person or neutral third party, journaling to name what's true, and using creativity or art therapy to express feelings you can't yet put into words. If you're in an in-between season right now, I hope this conversation helps you feel less alone and more whole. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review with the question you're currently wrestling with. Connect With Briana Bass: Website: authorbrianabass.com Blog: Proverbs and Pearls (on authorbrianabass.com) Instagram: instagram.com/authorbrianabass Royal Oasis Psychotherapy Institute Free for life, and no code needed. Download now, and start changing your life today! Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Towards Wellness Coaching Offer: 25% off | Code: POD2026. Available internationally in paperback and eBook formats. Avita Yoga Free Avita Yoga class and exclusive interview with Jeff: Know Your Constitution Convergence Offer: 50% off | TRANSFORM50 Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

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Send us Fan Mail Your mind goes blank, your throat tightens, and suddenly the thing you know best feels unreachable the moment the camera turns on. That reaction gets labelled “stage fright,” but we dig into why it often isn't about a stage at all. I'm joined by Rick Altman, a presentation consultant with more than two decades of experience, founder of the Presentation Summit, and author of *Crush Your Next Virtual Presentation*. Together we look at what's really being triggered when we fear being seen and why that fear can follow you from keynote stages into everyday meetings. We talk about confidence in a way that's actually usable: preparing without sounding scripted, building a narrative roadmap so you can speak with clarity, and treating nervousness as energy instead of evidence you're failing. Rick shares a perspective many high performers need to hear: audiences are usually rooting for you, and they're not demanding perfection. They want authenticity, a voice that sounds human, and a pace they can follow. Then we get practical about virtual presentation skills for Zoom and beyond. Rick explains what “warming to the camera” really takes, how eye contact changes on video, and why being natural in an unnatural setting is the real job. We also cover body-based tools that help immediately, like standing up to gesture bigger, slowing your speaking pace to calm your whole system, and making small tech upgrades that improve presence on screen. If you want better public speaking, stronger leadership communication, and less dread before meetings, press play, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review. Connect With Rick Altman: Website: betterpresenting.com Book: Crush Your Next Virtual Presentation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/rickaltman X: x.com/rickaltman Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Towards Wellness Coaching Offer: 25% off | Code: POD2026. Available internationally in paperback and eBook formats. Royalty Coaching and Consulting Offering Coaching to help men go through the workbook and achieve freedom in all areas of life! The Yielding Warrior Offer: Free book just pay for shipping | Code: TYW Convergence Offer: 50% off | TRANSFORM50 Jen Katsev Offer: 5 Day "Wake Up IN LOVE With Your Life" Challenge. Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Send us Fan Mail Testosterone talk is everywhere right now, but most of it is either fear-driven or fitness-forum folklore. We sit down with  Dr. Khashayar Farzam, a Canadian emergency physician board certified in Canada and the US, with a clinical focus on obesity medicine, men's health, testosterone-related care, and body composition. He also competes as a drug-tested powerlifter, which gives him a rare blend of real-world performance context and evidence-based medicine. We start with the line he hears every day in clinic: “I don't feel like myself.” From there, we break down what can actually sit underneath that feeling, including low libido, fatigue, mood changes, poor sleep, loss of muscle, and increased visceral fat. Just as important, we name the common “costume” conditions that can look hormonal but aren't, like sleep apnea, chronic stress, and burnout. If you've been tempted to self-diagnose based on a single lab result or a social clip, this conversation helps you slow down and get clearer on what to test, when to test, and why. Then we tackle the big myths head-on: TRT and heart attacks, TRT and prostate cancer, and how decades-old low-quality evidence still shapes modern opinions. Dr. Farzam explains what responsible testosterone replacement therapy looks like in real medical practice, including choosing a modality, starting with a physiologic dose, and doing the follow-up that keeps people safe, like blood pressure checks and lab monitoring for hematocrit and cholesterol. We also talk about the dangerous gap between supervised care and unregulated online or DIY protocols. If you care about safe TRT, low testosterone symptoms, and long-term men's health, listen through and share it with a friend who's getting mixed messages. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: what's the biggest question you still have about testosterone therapy? Connect With the Guest: Website: https://www.truenorthmetabolic.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorkhash/ Immunology Diagnostics 30% off of IMBXX. Code: Healthymind Get the test, insurance covers. Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Send us Fan Mail Your life can look polished on the outside while you're falling apart on the inside, and that gap is where so many people quietly get lost. We talk with Jack Nolan, one of the UK's youngest mental health and empowerment speakers and a published author, about what it really means to grow through what you go through when the pressure to succeed becomes a threat to your mental health. Jack takes us back to 19, when ambition, sleep loss, and nonstop “next mission” energy pushed him toward a mental health breakdown. We dig into the warning signs many of us miss: changing behaviour, erratic decisions, bottled-up emotion, and the belief that asking for help is weakness. He shares his lived experience with bipolar disorder, including psychosis, mania, paranoia, and the shock of hospitalisation, plus the moment reality hit when he realised just how far things had gone. We also get practical and honest about recovery and personal development without toxic positivity. We talk about the question that cuts through small talk, “How are you for you?”, why rest is not laziness, and why a “pit stop” can be the most courageous move a high performer makes. If you're smiling while exhausted, or convincing yourself your pain “isn't big enough,” this conversation offers language, perspective, and a next step you can take today. If it resonates, subscribe, share it with someone who needs a nudge to talk, and leave a review so more people can find support through these stories. Connect With the Guest: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jacknolan_ycb Brand: You Can Become (search "You Can Become" or "Jack Nolan YCB" on your preferred platform to find his books and talks) Royal Oasis Psychotherapy Institute Free for life, and no code needed. Download now, and start changing your life today! Towards Wellness Coaching Offer: 25% off | Code: POD2026. Available internationally in paperback and eBook formats. Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. YouEx Get 50% off the first 6 months of YouEx.ai! Immunology Diagnostics 30% off of IMBXX. Code: Healthymind Get the test, insurance covers. Friending, Inc Offer: 15% off our coffee as stated above | Code: Podcast10 Find friends in real-life in a verified Jumppoint Consulting Offer: 30% Subscription | Join COO and author Chelsea Byers for her weekly newsletter. Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Send us Fan Mail A proposal can feel like a spotlight moment, but the real story is what happens underneath: nerves, hope, fear of getting it wrong, and the desire to be fully seen by the person you love. We sit down with Ash Fox, owner of one of the world's first marriage proposal planning businesses, to unpack what makes a proposal meaningful when the stakes feel impossibly high and the pressure to “perform” is everywhere. We talk about the biggest misconceptions around marriage proposal planning and why getting help is often less about extravagance and more about emotional support, strategy, and clarity. Ash shares how she guides clients away from “bells and whistles” and back toward authenticity: What does your partner actually want? What feels true to your relationship? How do you plan a romantic gesture that fits your personality, your budget, and your values, especially when friends and family opinions start creeping in? We also dig into the psychology of memory. A wedding is a public milestone, but a proposal can be a private ritual that strengthens intimacy. Ash explains how a great engagement story becomes part of a couple's “memory bank,” something they can return to when marriage gets hard. And if things go sideways like rain, timing hiccups, or nerves, you'll hear how to reframe the moment so it becomes a better story, not a disappointment. If you're looking for proposal ideas, engagement advice, relationship insights, or a New York City proposal planner's perspective on what actually lasts, press play. Subscribe, share this with someone planning a ring moment, and leave a review with the one detail you think matters most in a proposal.  Connect With the Guest: Website: https://ashfoxproposals.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashfoxproposals/ Podcast: The Proposal Podcast (available on Spotify and Apple Podcasts) Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Friending, Inc Offer: 15% off our coffee as stated above | Code: Podcast10 Find friends in real-life in a verified Convergence Offer: 50% off | TRANSFORM50 Suzanne Rath Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Send us Fan Mail Your life isn't random, it's patterned and those patterns leave clues. I sit down with Alexander and Viki to explore Source Cards, a system that uses your birth date and the standard 52 playing cards to map repeating cycles in your life. If you keep meeting the same conflict, the same fear, or the same emotional “loop,” this conversation offers a fresh lens: treat the repetition as information, not failure. We dig into the biggest misconceptions right away. Skeptics tend to file anything birth date based under astrology or numerology and move on, while open minded people often assume a real “life blueprint” must be complicated. Alexander and Viki explain why this method stays intentionally simple: with just your month and day, you can calculate a birth card and a broader life path of 13 plus cards. The goal is practical self awareness, not vague fortune telling, so you can spot the template you've been playing out and start making different choices. We also connect the Saturn card to real life stress, health, and long term lessons. Viki shares how learning her Saturn card helped her understand a lifelong fear of speaking up and how holding things in showed up physically. Alexander translates it into everyday language: sometimes talk therapy is the medicine, even when the symptom looks “purely physical.” We close with the difference between knowing your cards and playing them well, plus how acceptance helps when you slip back into old patterns. If you're ready to find your birth card and start reading the map you've carried all along, listen now, then subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find the show. Connect with the Guests: Website: https://www.thesourcecards.com Book: Play Your Cards Right (available through their website) Programs: Card lookups, classes, life audits, certification, and executive coaching. Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Astrologer Royale Offer: Save $50 on your Natal Chart Reading | Code: POD50 The Soulfluence Convergence Offer: 50% off | TRANSFORM50 YouEx Get 50% off the first 6 months of YouEx.ai! Immunology Diagnostics 30% off of IMBXX. Code: Healthymind Get the test, insurance covers. Royal Oasis Psychotherapy Institute Free for life, and no code needed. Download now, and start changing your life today! Friending, Inc Offer: 15% off our coffee as stated above | Code: Podcast10 Find friends in real-life in a verified Jumppoint Consulting Offer: 30% Subscription | Join COO and author Chelsea Byers for her weekly newsletter. Towards Wellness Coaching Offer: 25% off | Code: POD2026. Available internationally in paperback and eBook formats. Our Protector Development Offer: $100 OFF ENROLLMENT | Code: ENROLL100 The Rooted Co-op 50% off the Nervous System Work: Be the Change Course! | Code: POD50 Wake up ltd Self Mental Healthcare/Stress Relief Practices - Buddha way, backed by science | Code: healthymind Extraordinary People LLC All free so we can get to know each other! The Kloaked Signal Select for pre-order discount 10% | Code: podfans10 Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Learning to 'lean into' our relationships can be a challenge because even in good relationships our primitive brain can feel scared and threatened by the vulnerability required. But when we do choose to lean in, we find greater connection and intimacy and partnership. Here are 15 ways that you can lean in with more intention. Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #7 Boundaries Part 1 on Apple on Spotify #8 Boundaries Part 2 on Apple on Spotify #9 Boundaries Part 3 on Apple on Spotify #60 Mental and Emotional Abusive Behaviors on Apple on Spotify #61 Charity is the Antidote on Apple on Spotify #92 Clean Love on Apple on Spotify #118 100% Responsibility  on Apple  on Spotify #130 Exploring Our Darkness on Apple on Spotify #161 Developing More Intimacy in Your Relationships on Apple on Spotify #174 Better Boundaries on Apple on Spotify #193 No Back-Burner Issues on Apple on Spotify #203 Cleaning Up Your Apology on Apple on Spotify #204 Being a Peacemaker on Apple on Spotify #216 One Up and One Down Relationships on Apple on Spotify #239 How to Own Your Own on Apple on Spotify #242 Circling Back Around on Apple on Spotify #243 Having More Honest Communication on Apple on Spotify #269 Fine - The 4-Letter F-Word on Apple on Spotify #271 Equal Partnerships on Apple on Spotify #272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify #283 How To Be a Better Partner on Apple on Spotify #319 Get Ready to Rock The Boat on Apple on Spotify #357 How to Be More Understanding on Apple on Spotify #359 10 Ways to Be a Safer Spouse on Apple on Spotify #384 Relational Living on Apple on Spotify #389 The Partnership of Marriage on Apple on Spotify   Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Send us Fan Mail The scariest kind of restart is the one you never planned. Ronald Platt joins me to talk about what happens when the story you've been living collapses at once: divorce, a toxic relationship, a sudden recession, and financial hardship so sharp you open the refrigerator and realize you can't afford food. Ronald shares what that moment taught him about the trap of tying happiness to money and chasing proof of worth through cars, homes, and status.  We dig into the tools that helped him rebuild a healthier mindset from the inside out. Ronald explains how mentorship changed him, why journaling became his therapy for more than 20 years, and how daily gratitudes and affirmations helped him regulate fear and keep moving when life felt overwhelming. We also get practical about resilience: focusing on basic needs, learning to budget, adapting your work skills in a broken market, and holding onto ethics even when you badly need cash.  One of the most useful parts of this conversation is boundaries. Ronald talks about negotiating debt, being honest with friends when you can't afford “normal life,” and remembering that “no” is a complete sentence. If you're rebuilding after divorce, job loss, burnout, or a financial crisis, take this as a steady reminder that the smallest first step still counts. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs a restart, and leave a review with the one step you're taking this week. Connect With Ronald Platt: Website (PLATTinum Team): https://www.theplattinumteam.com NASDF Website: https://www.nasdf.org Instagram: @theplattinumteam — https://www.instagram.com/theplattinumteam/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ronald-platt-a6b49016/ Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Friending, Inc Offer: 15% off our coffee as stated above | Code: Podcast10 Find friends in real-life in a verified Wake up ltd Self Mental Healthcare/Stress Relief Practices - Buddha way, backed by science | Code: healthymind Convergence Offer: 50% off | TRANSFORM50 Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

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Leaning into relationships is the process of choosing the relationship over everything else, including our fears and insecurities. It can feel super scary because it requires vulnerability and openness, and this can mean that we may need to courage up and step into discomfort. Because when things in a relationship get tough, it can be super easy to lean out to protect our point of view, our struggling sense of self, and our ego. But leaning out increases the distance and drives disconnect. If we want meaningful, connected, and intimate relationships, we have to have the courage to lean in. Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #92 Clean Love on Apple on Spotify  #110 The Cost of Being Right on Apple on Spotify #130 Exploring Our Darkness on Apple on Spotify #148 Grace & Grudges in Our Relationships on Apple on Spotify #156 The Benefits of Being Wrong on Apple on Spotify #161 Developing More Intimacy in Your Relationships on Apple on Spotify #164 How Being in Control is Destroying Your Life on Apple on Spotify #165 I Would Never Act That Way on Apple on Spotify #190 Protective Walls on Apple on Spotify #218 Honest Relationships on Apple on Spotify #223 It Really Is All About You on Apple on Spotify #243 Having More Honest Communication on Apple on Spotify #257 Other People's Agency on Apple on Spotify #258 Communication That Connects on Apple on Spotify #290 Resentment and Contempt in Our Relationships on Apple on Spotify #295 Safety in the Relationship Circle on Apple on Spotify #296 Creating More Safety in Your Relationship on Apple on Spotify #298 Friendship in Marriage on Apple on Spotify #304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives on Apple on Spotify #326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe on Apple on Spotify #331 Sense of Self on Apple on Spotify #332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head on Apple on Spotify #341 Choosing to Be All In on Apple on Spotify Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Send us Fan Mail Everything can be “working” on paper and still feel fragile inside. That tension sits at the heart of our conversation with  Billie Jo Aasen, CEO and festival producer behind Extreme Mudfest, as she traces the gap between chasing success and actually feeling successful. Billy grew up in rural Canada, found refuge in music, and once believed big achievements could permanently change her story. Years of building live events across North America and taking productions international taught her a harder lesson: the goalpost always moves, and fame is a terrible metric for a meaningful life. We dig into the real cost of high-pressure entrepreneurship and leadership, including burnout that hides in plain sight. Billy shares how running too hard can look normal in founder culture, why delegating matters, and how women often carry extra invisible labour while still hesitating to ask for what they are worth. Then the conversation takes a sharp turn into the most human part of her journey: months in the NICU with premature twin daughters. She explains how fear, uncertainty, and learning a new medical language reshaped what she prioritises and how she leads. From there, we explore a practical model for values-driven business: setting non-negotiables, building community impact into client work, and treating profit as the tool that funds generosity rather than the opposite. Billy also breaks down the mission behind Lifted Youth and Mental Health Foundation, including youth empowerment, accessible counselling, and a new program supporting kids with cerebral palsy when funding gaps leave families on their own. If you care about mental health, community leadership, and sustainable success, subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find these conversations.  Connect With Billie Jo Aasen: Instagram: @billiejoaasen Megaphone Project: megaphoneproject.com Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Wake up ltd Self Mental Healthcare/Stress Relief Practices - Buddha way, backed by science | Code: healthymind Vegout Voyage Offer: 15% off all personalized Armchair Iceland merch | Code: ICELANDGEAR15 Extraordinary People LLC All free so we can get to know each other! Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Not Forgiving Someone HURTS YOU and NOT Your Perceived Offender; Forgive Like Jesus Who Forgives You, Unconditionally MESSAGE SUMMARY: If God has forgiven you, why do you have to confess your sins? Confession is for you. For you to forgive, as the Christ forgives you. Your forgiving others means that you release others from the offense that you believe they have committed. Jesus set the “forgiveness standard” for you as Paul tells us in Ephesians 4:31-32: “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.". Someone said that “holding a grudge and not forgiving is like drinking poison yourself to kill your enemy”. However, your forgiveness is not conditioned on the offender coming and asking you for their forgiveness – if you are like Jesus, you have already forgiven the offender. If you do not forgive like Jesus, the offense festers and turns into resentment; and these unhealthy feelings are happening in you and not in the perceived offender because you have not forgiven your perceived offender as instructed be Jesus – “forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you”.    TODAY'S PRAYER: Lord, fill me with the simple trust that even out of the most awful evil around me, you are able to bring great good — for me, for others, and for your great glory. In Jesus' name, amen.     Scazzero, Peter. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Day by Day (p. 91). Zondervan. Kindle Edition. TODAY'S AFFIRMATION: Today, I affirm that because I am in Jesus Christ, I will seek God's perspective on my situation. For I know that in all things God works together for good to those of us who love Him and are called according to His purpose. From Romans 8:28 SCRIPTURE REFERENCE (ESV): Ephesians 4:31-32; Mathew 6:14-15; Psalms 130:3-4; Psalms 32:1-11. A WORD FROM THE LORD WEBSITE: www.AWFTL.org. THIS SUNDAY'S AUDIO SERMON: You can listen to Archbishop Beach's Current Sunday Sermon: “Are You Willing to Speak Up and Share, Publicly, Your Relationship with Jesus” at our Website: https://awordfromthelord.org/listen/ DONATE TO AWFTL: https://mygiving.secure.force.com/GXDonateNow?id=a0Ui000000DglsqEAB

The Holy Spirit, God's Personal Relationship Presence, Is Our Life's Ultimate Counselor and Helper – the Creator of the Universe MESSAGE SUMMARY:  Your relationship with God is a continuous and not a one-time event; therefore, followers of Jesus are to be continuously filled with the Holy Spirit, as we are told in Acts 2:3-4: “And divided tongues as of fire appeared to them and rested on each one of them. And they were all filled with the Holy Spirit and began to speak in other tongues as the Spirit gave them utterance.". We should ask the Lord to fill us with the Holy Spirit every day. You need the continuous refreshing of the Holy Spirit because YOU are a broken vessel – you sin; you get tired; you work hard; you act stupid; and you rebel against God. Be filled with the Holy Spirit now – filled in this moment of the present. Being filled with the Holy Spirit, the presence of God in our lives in a personal relationship, provides us with the ultimate counselor and helper in our life – the Creator of the Universe. Do you ask the Holy Spirit to fill you every day to experience the continuous power of God's gift?     TODAY'S PRAYER: Lord, I relate to Peter's headstrong nature, and to his struggle to understand what you were telling him. It is difficult for me to understand how you are running the universe and my place in it. Transform my stubborn will, O Lord. Teach me to wait on you. Help me to trust you. In Jesus' name, amen. Scazzero, Peter. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Day by Day (p. 95). Zondervan. Kindle Edition. TODAY'S AFFIRMATION: Today, because I am filled with the Holy Spirit, I will not be controlled by my Inconsistencies. Rather, I will walk in the Spirit's fruit of Faithfulness. “The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” (Galatians 5:22f). SCRIPTURE REFERENCE (ESV): Ephesians 5:21; Acts 2:1-4; 1 Peter 4:1-6; Psalms 31b:13-24. A WORD FROM THE LORD WEBSITE: www.AWFTL.org. THIS SUNDAY'S AUDIO SERMON: You can listen to Archbishop Beach's Current Sunday Sermon: “Are You Willing to Speak Up and Share, Publicly, Your Relationship with Jesus” at our Website: https://awordfromthelord.org/listen/ DONATE TO AWFTL: https://mygiving.secure.force.com/GXDonateNow?id=a0Ui000000DglsqEAB

Jesus Followers Have, Are, and Will Face Derision, Persecution, and Death; But God Addresses “Impossible” Situations and Transforms Lives MESSAGE SUMMARY: The Apostles did not get into their life roles, after Jesus Resurrection and Ascension, without much grief and anguish; but Jesus transformed their lives. God addresses impossible situations in our lives, too; and then He transforms our lives, through His grace, into something of beauty. Jesus' Cross was an impossible situation, but now we view the Cross as a sign of triumph -- our triumph as believers and followers of Jesus! In John 10:27-30, Jesus succinctly describes how He transforms the lives of those that follow Him: “My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they will never perish, and no one will snatch them out of my hand. My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all, and no one is able to snatch them out of the Father's hand. I and the Father are one.”. Additionally, in today's uncertainties and fears and with the new and uncharted paths that our life today demands that we follow, Paul, in Colossians 1:5-6, gives us hope through God's Grace and the Gospel: “because of the hope laid up for you in heaven. Of this you have heard before in the word of the truth, the gospel, which has come to you, as indeed in the whole world it is bearing fruit and growing—as it also does among you, since the day you heard it and understood the grace of God in truth".     TODAY'S PRAYER: Father, when I think about my losses, it can feel like I have no skin to protect me. I feel raw, scraped to the bone. Looking at Job and Jesus helps, but I must admit that I struggle to see something new being birthed out of the old. Enlarge my soul through the trials and losses of my life. In Jesus' name, amen.        Scazzero, Peter. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Day by Day (p. 101). Zondervan. Kindle Edition. TODAY'S AFFIRMATION: Because of who I am in Jesus Christ, I will not be driven by Inadequacy. Rather, I will abide in the Lord's Abundance. “I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in Me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from Me you can do nothing.” (John 15:5). SCRIPTURE REFERENCE (ESV): Colossians 1:5-6; John 11:25-26; John 10:14-18; Psalms 31a:1-12. A WORD FROM THE LORD WEBSITE: www.AWFTL.org. THIS SUNDAY'S AUDIO SERMON: You can listen to Archbishop Beach's Current Sunday Sermon: “Are You Willing to Speak Up and Share, Publicly, Your Relationship with Jesus” at our Website: https://awordfromthelord.org/listen/ DONATE TO AWFTL: https://mygiving.secure.force.com/GXDonateNow?id=a0Ui000000DglsqEAB

Discussions Today Are Void of Respect About Anything; Therefore, Jesus Followers Are Called to Lift Others Up with Praise and Encouragement MESSAGE SUMMARY: Be humble, gentle, and patient bearing with one another in love. Your “calling” by Jesus is to love one another; to lift each other up; and to praise and to encourage one another. How often, in the church, do we get our feathers ruffled and start “acting like a bunch of turkeys”? Too many of us “are not responding to God's call”; but we “are doing our duty”. After all, isn't just “doing our duty” what we have been taught? Paul succinctly defines our obligations as a follower of Jesus in Ephesians 4:31-32: “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.". Our service to God is more than service or obligation (i.e., “duty”). Your “calling” should be to respond to Jesus' call by emulating Jesus in your life.   TODAY'S PRAYER: Lord, everything in me resists following you into the garden of Gethsemane to fall on my face to the ground before you. Grant me the courage to follow you all the way to the cross, whatever that might mean for my life. And then, by your grace, lead me to resurrection life and power. In Jesus' name, amen.                                                                                            Scazzero, Peter. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Day by Day (p. 100). Zondervan. Kindle Edition. TODAY'S AFFIRMATION: Today, I affirm that, because I am in Jesus Christ, I will live as Jesus would (Philippians 1:27). “I can do everything through Him who gives me strength.”. (Philippians 4:14). SCRIPTURE REFERENCE (ESV): Mathew 6:14-15; Psalms 130:3-4; 2 Corinthians 5:17-21; Psalms 30:1-12. A WORD FROM THE LORD WEBSITE: www.AWFTL.org. THIS SUNDAY'S AUDIO SERMON: You can listen to Archbishop Beach's Current Sunday Sermon: “Are You Willing to Speak Up and Share, Publicly, Your Relationship with Jesus”, at our Website: https://awordfromthelord.org/listen/ DONATE TO AWFTL: https://mygiving.secure.force.com/GXDonateNow?id=a0Ui000000DglsqEAB

Jesus Followers Must Meet Jesus' Expectation of His “Great Commission” By Both “Going” and “Making Disciples” MESSAGE SUMMARY: Jesus, in Luke 15:4-7, tells us, through His Parable of The Lost Sheep, the importance to God of our discipleship: “What man of you, having a hundred sheep, if he has lost one of them, does not leave the ninety-nine in the open country, and go after the one that is lost, until he finds it? And when he has found it, he lays it on his shoulders, rejoicing. And when he comes home, he calls together his friends and his neighbors, saying to them, ‘Rejoice with me, for I have found my sheep that was lost.' Just so, I tell you, there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine righteous persons who need no repentance.".   Immediately before His Ascension into Heaven Jesus told the Apostles and us today, in His Great Commission found in Matthew 28:18-20, that as we go into our communities and into all parts of the world, we are to make disciples: “And Jesus came and said to them, ‘All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.'”. We must begin, as followers of Jesus, to meet His fundamental expectation for us by both going and making disciples!   TODAY'S PRAYER: Abba Father, I open my clenched fists to surrender everything you have given to me. Reestablish my identity in you — not in my family, my work, my accomplishments, or what others think of me. Cleanse the things in me that are not conformed to your will. By faith I unite my will to yours so that the likeness of Jesus Christ may be formed in me. In his name, amen.         Scazzero, Peter. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Day by Day (p. 85). Zondervan. Kindle Edition. TODAY'S AFFIRMATION: Today, because I am filled with the Holy Spirit, I will not be controlled by my Anxiety. Rather, I will walk in the Spirit's fruit of Peace. “The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” (Galatians 5:22f). SCRIPTURE REFERENCE (ESV): Matthew 28:18-20; Matthew 10:16; Matthew 16:24-28; Psalms 29:1-11.  A WORD FROM THE LORD WEBSITE: www.AWFTL.org. THIS SUNDAY'S AUDIO SERMON: You can listen to Archbishop Beach's Current Sunday Sermon: “Are You Willing to Speak Up and Share, Publicly, Your Relationship with Jesus”, at our Website: https://awordfromthelord.org/listen/ DONATE TO AWFTL: https://mygiving.secure.force.com/GXDonateNow?id=a0Ui000000DglsqEAB

Can you be understanding and compassionate with someone who has differing views than you do? How can you allow for the conflict that might ensue?  Or do you just walk away? According to our guest today, author, therapist, and relationship expert Carolyn Sharp, there are ways to handle being triggered. This is a normal and natural response when we feel fear. If we can soften, it will ease the trigger, and we can begin to feel calmer. Carolyn explains that if we learn to be curious, rather than judgmental, we can get through these intense moments. When we stay focused on just the facts, we disconnect from the curiosity. We can feel misunderstood and not heard. We can feel that people are not respecting us. This is prevalent in our country and especially missing culturally now. We all want to be understood and recognized. For example, many people may disagree about how the government wants to enforce judgements and control the narrative. We must create space to talk about things in a safe way. Make it safe for both sides. It's a matter of acknowledging and not judging. If someone feels wrong, it erodes compassion. This can lead to violence and lack of safety. Carolyn also discusses her recent book, "Fire It Up: Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship" and how she wrote it for couples and people in relationships. It's about compassionate communication. She addresses various aspects of couples including what to do when one lies or even is unfaithful. She talks about how lying is extraordinarily common in relationships, especially during the courtship phase. As an example, someone may ask, "How do you like the dinner I cooked?" and the other person may feel the need to be overly complimentary, even if they dislike it. She talks about a culture where people feel safe enough to be completely honest. If we continue with "white lies" we eventually stop recognizing that we are lying. In this Age of Social Media, we are experiencing general people, who are not trained journalists, reporting what they believe is fact. People are stating opinions and claiming it as fact. This becomes very hard for us to decipher and can lead to major disagreements. Carolyn also talks about the importance of investing in your relationships, and specifically with your partner. She addresses if someone in the partnership cheats and how traumatic it can be.  If the other person is not hearing you, it's important to decide if it's healthy to stay in the relationship. If it's in a situation with co-workers or with your boss, you may need to just "agree to disagree." We are not able to change others. We can only change ourselves. Fighting doesn't allow for this opportunity. In politics and such a divided nation, it's challenging to acknowledge one another. It is impacting many aspects of our lives. Many people feel betrayed and hurt. We are living in an intense time, and Carolyn suggests getting support around your feelings. These are complicated times, but there are ways to de-escalate and disengage. Everyone has to decide what they need in their relationships. You can value the other person's support yet not agree with them. It's better to be honest and respectful and see if you can come to a place of radical acceptance. Info: CarolynSharp.com and SecureConnectionsRetreats.com

Jesus Followers Are Sinners Who Have a Savior Because “Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners . . .”; Is Jesus Your Savior Too? MESSAGE SUMMARY: We are all sinners, but we now have a Savior – Jesus. As Paul tells us, in 1 Timothy 1:15-16, that the Gospel provides Salvation for all followers of Jesus, including the worst of sinners -- Paul: “The saying is trustworthy and deserving of full acceptance, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners, of whom I am the foremost. But I received mercy for this reason, that in me, as the foremost, Jesus Christ might display his perfect patience as an example to those who were to believe in him for eternal life.". Also, Paul, in 1 Timothy 2:3b-6, further points out that God wants all of us to be saved by His Grace through Jesus if we only, as sinners like Paul, reach out to bring Jesus into our lives: “God our Savior, who desires all people to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth. For there is one God, and there is one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus, who gave himself as a ransom for all, which is the testimony given at the proper time.”. It is only because of Jesus the Christ that we receive the healing that we need. “I am a sinner who now has a Savior – do you”?   TODAY'S PRAYER: Abba Father, I open my clenched fists to surrender everything you have given to me. Reestablish my identity in you — not in my family, my work, my accomplishments, or what others think of me. Cleanse the things in me that are not conformed to your will. By faith I unite my will to yours so that the likeness of Jesus Christ may be formed in me. In his name, amen. Scazzero, Peter. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Day by Day (p. 85). Zondervan. Kindle Edition. TODAY'S AFFIRMATION: Today, Because of who I am in Jesus Christ, I will not be driven by Loneliness. Rather, I will abide in the Lord's Presence. “I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in Me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from Me you can do nothing.” (John 15:5). SCRIPTURE REFERENCE (ESV): 1 Timothy 1:15-17; 1 Timothy 2:3b-6; 2 Timothy 1:8-12; Psalms 89a:1-13. A WORD FROM THE LORD WEBSITE: www.AWFTL.org. THIS SUNDAY'S AUDIO SERMON: You can listen to Archbishop Beach's Current Sunday Sermon: “Are You Willing to Speak Up and Share, Publicly, Your Relationship with Jesus?”, at our Website: https://awordfromthelord.org/listen/ DONATE TO AWFTL: https://mygiving.secure.force.com/GXDonateNow?id=a0Ui000000DglsqEAB

God Sees Jesus Followers as “In Christ”: “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus” MESSAGE SUMMARY: As Followers of Jesus, we are "In Christ" -- God looks at us and sees Jesus in us. Throughout the Epistles we find: "In Christ" or "In Him". In Galatians 3:14, Paul tells us that our faith in Jesus makes us “In Christ” and recipients of God's Covenant with Abraham: “so that in Christ Jesus the blessing of Abraham might come to the Gentiles, so that we might receive the promised Spirit through faith.". Also, Paul goes even further, in Galatians 3:25-28, to tell us that, through our faith in Jesus, we no longer need any kind of intermediary because we are “In Christ” and we have a personal relationship with God, the Creator of the Universe: “But now that faith has come, we are no longer under a guardian, for in Christ Jesus you are all sons of God, through faith. For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. But now that faith has come, we are no longer under a guardian.”. The benefit our position "In Christ", as Christians, is that when God looks at us, He sees Jesus, the Son; therefore, He then sees us as His sons and daughters.   TODAY'S PRAYER: Keeping the Sabbath, Lord, will require a lot of changes in the way I am living life. Teach me, Lord, how to take the next step with this in a way that fits my unique personality and situation. Help me to trust you with all that will remain unfinished and to enjoy my humble place in your very large world. In Jesus' name, amen.    Scazzero, Peter. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Day by Day (p. 129). Zondervan. Kindle Edition. TODAY'S AFFIRMATION: Today, I affirm that because of what God has done for me in His Son, Jesus, I AM FORGIVEN. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9 SCRIPTURE REFERENCE (ESV): Romans 3:21-26; Romans 6:5-11; Romans 6:22-23; Psalms 77a:1-10. A WORD FROM THE LORD WEBSITE: www.AWFTL.org. THIS SUNDAY'S AUDIO SERMON: You can listen to Archbishop Beach's Current Sunday Sermon: “Are You Willing to Speak Up and Share, Publicly, Your Relationship with Jesus?” at our Website: https://awordfromthelord.org/listen/    DONATE TO AWFTL: https://mygiving.secure.force.com/GXDonateNow?id=a0Ui000000DglsqEAB  

Are You Willing to Speak Up and Share, Publicly, Your Relationship with Jesus? MESSAGE SUMMARY: Are You Willing to Speak Up and Share Publicly Your Relationship with Jesus? (Resurrection Anglican Church; Woodstock, GA) To what extent are you willing to share with others your relationship with Jesus? What price are you willing to pay, personally, so that others may know the good news of Jesus – the Gospel? What are you willing to go through to advance the Kingdom of God? In Ephesians 3:1-2, the Apostle Paul summarizes the price that he joyfully accepts to carry the news of the Gospel to the Nations: “For this reason I, Paul, a prisoner for Christ Jesus on behalf of you Gentile -- assuming that you have heard of the stewardship of God's grace that was given to me for you.". In Acts 26:19, Paul gives his public testimony, in his hearing before King Agrippa; and told the King and everyone in attendance that he, Paul, felt privileged to testify, to the Nations, about his conversion and his relationship with Jesus: “Therefore, O King Agrippa, I was not disobedient to the heavenly vision, but declared first to those in Damascus, then in Jerusalem and throughout all the region of Judea, and also to the Gentiles, that they should repent and turn to God, performing deeds in keeping with their repentance.". Paul was in prison facing a trial by the despotic Emperor of Rome, Nero. However, you may never have to go to prison or face death to communicate the Gospel; but you will face both physical and emotional discomfort as you become a visible follower of Jesus. While articulating the Gospel to others is important, the most effective way to communicate the Gospel is not by what you say but how you live – walk the talk and let others see Jesus in you. The world, the country, your friends, and your family have so many issues and hurts for which Jesus and His Gospel are the answer; but we keep this good news a secret by our unwillingness to live a visible life walking the talk of the Gospel and sharing the Gospel. Do you have the faith and courage and are you willing to share the Gospel? If you do, then pray for God's guidance to you for His will and role for you.     TODAY'S PRAYER: Keeping the Sabbath, Lord, will require a lot of changes in the way I am living life. Teach me, Lord, how to take the next step with this in a way that fits my unique personality and situation. Help me to trust you with all that will remain unfinished and to enjoy my humble place in your very large world. In Jesus' name, amen. Scazzero, Peter. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Day by Day (p. 129). Zondervan. Kindle Edition. TODAY'S AFFIRMATION: Today, I affirm that because of what God has done for me in His Son, Jesus, I AM FORGIVEN. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9 SCRIPTURE REFERENCE (ESV): Ephesians 3:1-21; Acts 9:15; Acts 26:12-23; Psalms 124:1-8. A WORD FROM THE LORD WEBSITE: www.AWFTL.org. WEBSITE LINK TO DR. BEACH'S DAILY DEVOTIONAL – “God Sees Jesus Followers as “In Christ”: “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus””: https://awordfromthelord.org/devotional/ DONATE TO AWFTL: https://mygiving.secure.force.com/GXDonateNow?id=a0Ui000000DglsqEAB

Quinlan Walther is a writer and a relationship coach. Why do we keep choosing the wrong partners? We meet someone new and think, “Maybe this is finally the one.” But then the pattern starts to feel familiar. Different face, same pain. Different relationship, same lesson. So why do we keep dating our trauma, and what does it actually take to break the cycle? Expect to learn how to build self-worth and have a better relationship with your partner, why you often choose a “wound” other than a partner, how to stop mistaking anxiety for chemistry, how to set good standards versus unrealistic expectations, the internet's big problem when dolling out relationship advice and much more… Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: ⁠⁠https://chriswillx.com/deals⁠⁠ Get a free bottle of D3K2, an AG1 Welcome Kit, and more when you first subscribe at https://ag1.info/modernwisdom Get the brand new Whoop 5.0 and your first month for free at https://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom Get 15% off your first order of my favourite Non-Alcoholic Brew at https://athleticbrewing.com/modernwisdom Get 160+ lab tests for just $365 and save an extra $25 at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom Get ChatGPT to explore ideas, solve problems, and learn faster at ⁠https://chatgpt.com Timestamps: (0:00) What Your Partner Says About Your Self-Worth (2:31) Where Does Self-Trust Come From? (5:18) Why Curiosity and Capacity Feel So Difficult (8:53) Are Our ‘Types' Just Unresolved Trauma? (19:17) Who Do You Need to Be to Feel Loved? (23:31) Are You Choosing a Partner Or a Wound? (34:41) Are Avoidant People the Most Attractive? (38:21) Why Healing the Past Changes Everything (41:07) Is Too Much Empathy a Bad Thing? (45:43) The Boundary Lessons Everyone Needs (52:04) Is Ego Getting in the Way? (56:43) The Most Common Misconceptions Between the Sexes (01:00:39) The Mistake Many Women Make When Men Open Up (01:02:01) Have Dating Standards Become Unrealistic? (01:07:16) The Hardest Relationship Cycles to Break (01:08:33) How to Repair Ruptures in Your Relationship (01:15:01) Balancing Impulse and Overthinking (01:18:03) Why You Need Self-Trust in a Relationship (01:23:36) What AI Relationships Reveal About Modern Love (01:32:40) Where to Find Quinlan Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: ⁠⁠https://chriswillx.com/books⁠⁠ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: ⁠⁠https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom⁠⁠ Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: ⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠ #712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs: ⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠ #700 - Dr Andrew Huberman - The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain: ⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠ - Get In Touch: Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx⁠⁠ Twitter: ⁠⁠https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠https://chriswillx.com/contact⁠⁠ - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us Fan Mail Soul purpose can feel like a riddle with a deadline, but I wanted a conversation that makes it usable and human. I'm Yusuf, and I'm joined by  Helen Ye Plehn, founder of Helen Creates Beauty and author of the Aura Color Wheel, to unpack a bold claim in plain language: your soul is an energy signature, and your purpose is evolution. If you've ever felt stuck asking “What am I here to do?”, this gives you a different way to find your footing without forcing a single perfect answer. We dig into Helen's framework of soul aura color and how it relates to the chakra system. She explains the difference between mood aura, personality aura, and the more permanent soul aura around the heart chakra, then connects aura “layers” to frequency, wavelength, and the information your energy carries. From there, we make it practical by breaking evolution into three parts: using your gifts in service, healing a soul wound, and learning the lessons that keep repeating until you choose differently. My favorite thread is the reframe that a wound isn't just an obstacle to purpose. It can be part of the map. When you read it with compassion rather than shame, you get choices back. Helen also shares ways to explore her system through her website, the Aura Color Wheel book, guided meditations, and a free quiz as a low-pressure starting point for self-discovery, spirituality, and personal growth. If this conversation sparks something, subscribe to Healthy Mind, Healthy Life, share it with someone who might need it, and leave a review so more people can find these honest mental health and wellbeing conversations. Connect With the Guest: Website: helencreatesbeauty.com A free soul aura color quiz is available there for the curious. Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Astrologer Royale Offer: Save $50 on your Natal Chart Reading | Code: POD50 The Soulfluence Convergence Offer: 50% off | TRANSFORM50 Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

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Send us Fan Mail You can do everything “right” and still feel wrong. You've read the books, tried therapy, journaled, learned the language of healing, and somehow anxiety still spikes, overwhelm still hits, and the same relationship patterns keep replaying. We're naming that gap without sugar-coating it, then getting practical about what actually shifts when progress feels stuck. Ben Oofana joins us to talk about why cognitive insight often isn't enough, especially when trauma, grief, and attachment wounds are still living as sensation in the body. We explore a grounded, somatic view of healing: emotional digestion, nervous system capacity, and the kind of disciplined practice that turns awareness into change. Ben shares a simple breath-based method you can use when you're triggered, plus a walking version for moments when you feel flooded and need a safe way to stay present. We also get honest about the “information paradox” of modern mental health: endless content, endless tools, and not enough embodied repetition. If you've ever wondered why you keep attracting unavailable partners, why a breakup wrecks you for months, or why your growth feels real on paper but not in your body, this conversation gives you a different doorway. If it resonates, subscribe so you don't miss what's next, share it with someone who's quietly carrying a lot, and leave a review to help more people find these grounded mental health conversations. Connect With the Guest: Website: https://www.benoofana.com  Meditation site: https://www.teachmetomeditate.com  Courses: Breakup First Aid and Heal My Heartache — available via his website Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. YouEx Get 50% off the first 6 months of YouEx.ai! Astrologer Royale Offer: Save $50 on your Natal Chart Reading | Code: POD50 Avita Yoga Free Avita Yoga class and exclusive interview with Jeff: Know Your Constitution The Soulfluence Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Julie Nise is a Relationship Trainer and Communication Strategist known for her direct, results-oriented approach. With more than two decades of combined corporate, entrepreneurial and clinical experience, Julie brings a rare balance of empathy and practicality to her coaching. She has successfully guided more than 8,000 individuals and couples through challenges in communication, trust and leadership, offering clear, actionable strategies that create lasting change. Her insight and authenticity have earned her national recognition, including multiple appearances on the Dr. Phil Show, where her compassionate yet focused style resonated with both audiences and producers. As a regular commentator on NewsRadio KTRH Houston, Julie shared expert perspectives on relationships, communication, current events and leadership.In this episode, we discuss:--The Communication Reset: How to Stop Arguing and Start Understanding--Building Real Connection in a Digital World--Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal: The Step-by-Step Path to Healing--Leadership Through Listening: What Great Relationships Teach Us About Influence--From Conflict to Clarity: Turning Relationship Stress into Growth"Over the years, I've helped thousands of people—including couples on the brink of divorce and leaders seeking clarity in their relationships—achieve breakthroughs and focus on creating positive change," Julie says. "Whether you're looking to improve your marriage, reconnect with your family, or lead your team with confidence, my goal is to provide the clarity, tools, and strategies you need to thrive.... We are who we practice to be."Her new book, Romance ESP--Seeing Patterns and Responding to the Changes in Your Relationship, comes out in 2026. Among other things, readers will learn how to master the art of understanding and reacting to the non-verbal clues that influence relationship dynamics.Outside her work, Julie enjoys time with family, coastal living and encouraging others to grow in purpose and connection.Learn more and follow Julie:https://www.outcomesonly.com/https://www.instagram.com/outcomesonly/https://www.facebook.com/people/Outcomes-Only/61572479851741/

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever caught yourself caring more about a conversation on a screen than the one happening right in front of you? That moment can feel harmless, even comforting, but it can also be a sign that loneliness is quietly steering the wheel. We go straight into the tension between real connection and safe fantasy, and why so many of us attach to who someone could be instead of who they are.  I'm joined by Catherine Crestani, a leadership coach, intuitive healer, and the author of My Virtual Obsession. Together we unpack how virtual companionship, online relationships, and “perfect” imagined futures can become an escape hatch when real life feels uncertain or painful. Catherine shares how the nervous system protects us through denial or fantasy, and how spiritual frameworks like chakras can describe that same drift away from grounded reality.  We also talk about the roots: bullying, shame, grief, and the masks we learn to wear to feel safe and accepted. Then we get practical. Catherine offers a simple mirror practice for self love, and a powerful idea for healing loneliness: rebuild self trust by keeping small promises to yourself, day after day. If you're ready for a reality check that still feels compassionate, this conversation will land.  Subscribe to Healthy Mind, Healthy Life, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway. Connect With the Guest Website: https://willowhealing.org Book: https://willowhealing.org/my-virtual-obsession (also on Amazon and Kobo) Podcast: Willow Healing Matters Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/willowhealingsh/ Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Astrologer Royale Offer: Save $50 on your Natal Chart Reading | Code: POD50 Vegout Voyage Offer: 15% off all personalized Armchair Iceland merch | Code: ICELANDGEAR15 Our Protector Development Offer: $100 OFF ENROLLMENT | Code: ENROLL100 The Soulfluence Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Send us Fan Mail Exhaustion doesn't always mean you're doing too much. Sometimes it means you're doing the wrong things for the wrong reasons, and your body is trying to get your attention. We dig into what “living out of alignment” actually feels like when your life looks great from the outside but your nervous system is stuck in stress mode on the inside. I'm joined by  Dr. Esther Zeledón , best-selling author, former diplomat and scientist, and founder of Be Act Change. She shares her journey from a childhood health crisis and a family shaped by survival to building a values-led life and career. Along the way, we unpack the “unpaid debt” many high achievers carry, why we confuse our worth with production, and how to redefine value as the way you solve problems and serve. You'll also hear her signature prompt, the $40 billion question, and how your answer reveals a practical map to purpose and meaningful work. We also get specific about the body: how misalignment can show up as shallow breathing, tension, poor sleep, rumination, and high cortisol, and why breathwork is more than a relaxation hack. Dr Esther explains how longer breathwork sessions can support nervous system regulation, improve clarity, and help you move from emotional hijack to grounded decision-making. Finally, we explore motivation profiles so you can build habits that match your natural flow and stop the start-stop cycle that leads to burnout. If you want a realistic approach to values alignment, stress management, breathwork, and sustainable personal growth, press play. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway. Connect With the Guest Website: https://www.beactchange.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beactchange LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/estherzeledon Book: Creating Your Limitless Life — available on Amazon Extraordinary People LLC All free so we can get to know each other! Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Avita Yoga Free Avita Yoga class and exclusive interview with Jeff: Know Your Constitution Convergence Offer: 50% off | TRANSFORM50 Jumppoint Consulting Offer: 30% Subscription | Join COO and author Chelsea Byers for her weekly newsletter. Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Send us Fan Mail Most people don't struggle with communication because they lack confidence. They struggle because nobody taught them how to create trust while they speak, or how to feel safe enough to truly listen. Sean Weaver joins us to unpack a simple idea that changes everything: the meaning of communication is the response you get, and if the response is not what you hoped for, the first place to look is how you're landing emotionally, not how “right” your words sound.  We talk practical communication skills you can use immediately in relationships, leadership communication, and sales conversations. Sean explains why asking questions is so powerful, how questions quietly guide attention, and why a well-placed request works better than an instruction. We also explore personality differences in how people process information, why pacing matters, and how mismatched styles can create overwhelm or shutdown even when both people mean well.  Then we go deeper into what's happening under the surface: insecurity, threat assessment, and the fight-or-flight habits that make people talk too much, go silent, or get confrontational. You'll hear how silence can become a tool for gravitas, how “I must / I have to” self-talk increases stress, and why lasting change looks like kaizen style incremental improvement, not a perfect straight line. Sean also shares a grounding practice for anyone who feels lonely or misunderstood: write it down, externalize the fears, and turn them into a clear plan for the conversation you really want to have.  If this resonates, subscribe, share the episode with someone who needs calmer conversations, and leave a review so more people can find these tools. What's one communication habit you want to change this week?  Connect With the Guest Website: https://seanweafer.com SalesMentor.pro: https://salesmentor.pro ExpertToAdvisor.pro: https://experttoinfluence.pro LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/seanweafer/ Book: The Highly Trusted Advisor: How to Lead Teams and Win Clients in the Digital Age on Amazon and Waterstones Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Extraordinary People LLC All free so we can get to know each other! Avita Yoga Free Avita Yoga class and exclusive interview with Jeff: Know Your Constitution Towards Wellness Coaching Offer: 25% off | Code: POD2026. Available internationally in paperback and eBook formats. The Yielding Warrior Offer: Free book just pay for shipping | Code: TYW Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

Send us Fan Mail Listener note: This episode contains a brief discussion of childhood sexual abuse. Please listen with care. We talk about mental health more openly than ever, and yet so many people still hesitate at the door of a therapist's office, carrying stories they were never taught to name. In this conversation, Dr. Shanta Kanukollu, licensed clinical psychologist, TEDx speaker, and founder of SNK Therapy in Chicago, joins host Yusuf for an honest look at what gets in the way of healing, particularly in South Asian and immigrant communities. You will hear why the biggest myth about therapy is the one that keeps people waiting too long, how intergenerational trauma actually shows up in everyday life, and a remarkable finding from Dr. K's own research that exposes how our hidden gender biases shape who we believe and who we protect. Vulnerable, surprising, and quietly transformative. About the Guest: Dr. Shanta N. Kanukollu, known to many as "Dr. K," is a licensed clinical psychologist, TEDx speaker, author, and founder of SNK Therapy, a private practice in downtown Chicago. She holds a dual doctorate in Clinical Psychology and Women's Studies from the University of Michigan and has over a decade of clinical experience working across forensic and medical settings, with a particular focus on the South Asian community, veterans, and individuals navigating gendered violence and intergenerational trauma. She also teaches and lectures on diversity, gender, and mental health across the country. Key Takeaways: You do not have to be in crisis to start therapy. The biggest myth in mental health is treating therapy like a heart attack response, instead of an annual check-up for your inner life. Silence between generations is its own kind of trauma. When one generation cannot name what happened, the next generation often inherits the pattern without ever understanding why. Intergenerational trauma is not only emotional, it is also physiological. Genetics, modelling, parenting styles, and the unspoken rules of a household all carry stories forward. Gender shapes how we recognise abuse. Dr. K's own research found that the same scenario of childhood sexual abuse is more readily labelled "abuse" when the victim is a girl, and softened or misdiagnosed (sometimes as "sex addiction") when the victim is a boy. Our biases quietly decide who gets believed. Unless we examine the assumptions we carry as parents, aunts, uncles, and friends, we keep passing on the same gendered silence. Therapy can be a model, not just a treatment. When a parent, uncle, or aunt openly says, "I go to therapy," a child learns there is a door they can knock on long before they ever need to. Connect With the Guest: Website: https://www.snktherapy.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/snk_therapy/ Email: drk@snktherapy.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanta-kanukollu-ph-d-7943ab45/ Episode Chapters: [00:00] The Quiet Door of a Therapist's Office  [05:00] What Drew Dr. K Into This Work  [08:00] The Biggest Myth: You Have to Be in Crisis to See a Therapist  [10:00] Why the Myth Survives: Culture, Generations, and Media  [12:00] Intergenerational Trauma Explained Simply  [15:00] The Gendered Nature of Trauma: A Patient's Story  [19:00] What Dr. K's Research Revealed About Hidden Bias  [23:00] Healing Through Modelling and Curiosity  [25:00] Where to Find Dr. K and SNK Therapy  [26:00] A Closing Invitation to Stay Curious #podmatch #healthymindbyavik #podhub.club #therapy #intergenerationaltrauma #genderedtrauma #southasianmentalhealth #mentalhealthstigma #snktherapy #drk #shantakanukollu #immigrantmentalhealth #childhoodtrauma #mentalhealthpodcast #breakingsilence #healingjourney Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?

More money, more problems? Says who? This week, we sit down with Investment Advisor, Co-Founder of Peak360 & Author of The Power of Enough: Finding Joy in Your Relationship to Money, Elizabeth Husserl for a conversation about money, and let's just say this episode is RICH. Elizabeth breaks down the reasons why money is still such a taboo subject, how childhood and family dynamics shape the way we spend, save, date (and argue) & why financial security and emotional safety are NOT always the same thing. We also talk about how to invest, identifying your “money archetype”, the pressure to constantly chase money and the societal effects of women who out earn men.  Follow : https://www.instagram.com/elizabethhusserl/ Book : https://elizabethhusserl.com/book Follow Kamie @kamiecrawford on TikTok and Relationshit @relationshit on IG for more, besties. Watch on YouTube at youtube.com/@relationshitpod and of course, follow the show on Spotify, Apple, YouTube, or wherever you get your podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices