Tea with the Queen

Christmas can be one of the hardest times to co-parent, especially when your ex thrives on control, conflict, or last-minute chaos. As a family lawyer, at this time of year I get asked the same questions every year, around various Christmas disputes separated parents face. From sudden plan changes and silence tactics to withheld handovers, gift battles, excessive FaceTiming, and emotional manipulation through the children.Using real-life examples and years of court experience, this guide explains what the law actually expects at Christmas, how judges view “high-conflict” behaviour, and how to protect your children emotionally while staying calm, child-focused, and legally safe. You'll learn what to do if your ex refuses contact, won't confirm plans, uses Christmas as leverage, bad-mouths you to your child, or tries to control the narrative, and why your response matters more than their actions.If you're dreading Christmas because of a narcissistic or high-conflict ex, this episode will give you clarity, confidence, and practical steps to get through the holidays with your dignity intact and your children protected.

Matt spent over two decades trapped by gambling, losing money, trust and years of his life, until a string of physical symptoms, panic and shame forced him to confront it. In this episode, Matt traces the roots of his addiction, the relapses, the bankruptcy, and the moment he chose recovery. Now sober and building a recovery community online, Matt explains the tools, meetings and routines that saved him, and why he believes gambling addiction is one of the biggest problems society faces in the next few years. If you or someone you love is struggling, this episode offers hope, practical steps and the real-life cost of staying silent.Check out Matt (Addictedtogrowth):Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/addictedtogrowth__/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@addictedtogrowth_YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AddictedToGrowth-gi2re

From a rising young golf talent to the depths of addiction, loss and rebuilding, this is Ross's powerful and brutally honest story.In this episode, Ross opens up about his childhood, falling in love young, supporting his wife through cancer, becoming a father, and chasing his dream of becoming a professional golfer. But behind the success was a growing dependence on alcohol that slowly took everything from him — his marriage, his career, his confidence, and his sense of self. Ross shares the moment he hit rock bottom, the painful reality of addiction, the therapy that changed his life, and the long road to sobriety.Today, he's a father, business owner, and a man rebuilding with purpose, discipline and gratitude. This conversation is raw, uplifting, and full of lessons for anyone facing their own struggles. If you've ever battled addiction, trauma, or the pressure to hold everything together, Ross's story will stay with you.Check out Cash Fore Clubs: Cashforeclubs: https://cashforeclubs.co.uk/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cashforeclubs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cashforeclubs?lang=en YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CashForeClubs Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/p/Cash-Fore-Clubs-100090272641548/

In this powerful episode, former Royal Marine and Special Boat Service operator James Hill takes us deep inside the world of the UK's most elite military unit. From a tough childhood and finding purpose in the Marines, to surviving brutal commando training, multiple Afghanistan tours, piracy missions at sea, and the gruelling Special Forces selection process, James reveals the reality behind the uniform. He opens up about firefights, IED blasts, live combat, the mental toll of constant danger, and the moment he was shot five times during a daring operation. James also shares rare insight into SBS culture, selection, evasion training, and what civilians never truly understand about the people who protect the country in complete silence. This is a raw, honest and emotional conversation about courage, brotherhood, trauma, sacrifice and the price paid by the few who stand between danger and the rest of us.

Helen Villiers, psychotherapist and narcissist expert, joins me to unpack the hidden dynamics of narcissism. From love bombing and gaslighting to the trauma bond that keeps victims trapped, we explore why it's so hard to leave, how narcissists use empathy as a weapon, and the powerful steps to reclaiming your identity and self-worth.Helen Villiers is a psychotherapist, coach, and author specializing in narcissism, emotional abuse, neurodivergence, and recovery. She is the co-author of the Sunday Times bestseller 'You're Not the Problem: The Impact of Narcissism and Emotional Abuse', hosts the popular podcast 'The Liberation Effect', and has been featured on BBC Radio 4's Woman's Hour and in publications including The Independent, The Telegraph, The Mirror, and Hello! Magazine. Follow Helen:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/helenvilliersmaTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@helenvilliersma YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@helenvilliersma Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HelenVilliersMA/ ⌚️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - Introduction 04:15 - The Most Surprising Thing About Narcissism 05:50 - The Five Core Traits of Narcissism08:53 - Narcissism: Personality Type, Disorder, or Both? 10:15 - When Self-Absorption Becomes Harmful 10:55 - Love Bombing and Early Red Flags 14:14 - The Science Behind Trauma Bonds 17:00 - Do Narcissists Know What They Are Doing? 18:10 - Do Narcissists Target Empaths? 21:01 - Confidence vs Control: How to Tell the Difference 22:48 - The Narcissistic Abuse Cycle Explained 28:15 - The Emotional Fallout After The Discard 31:06 - The “Gray Rock” Method: How To Escape a Narcissist 32:45 - Rebuilding Identity After Narcissistic Abuse 38:00 - Overcoming the Fear of Being “Selfish” 39:30 - Perfectionism and the Fear of Judgment 45:30 - How Therapy and Community Help Recovery 47:16 - Choosing the Right Therapist (and Avoiding the Wrong One) 50:28 - How to Begin Healing After Narcissistic Abuse 51:58 - How Long Healing Takes (and What It Looks Like) 54:45 - Why People-Pleasing is Toxic 56:35 - Can You Heal Without a Therapist? 59:04 - What a Healthy Relationship Really Looks Like 01:01:15 - Final Message: It's Not You.

From being £730,000 in debt to building a million-pound law firm, this is my story.In this first episode of Tea with the Queen, I open up about how I went from a young mum in Australia to a family law barrister, and later rebuilt my entire career after losing everything. I share the lessons learned from failure, resilience, and starting over at 50 and how that journey led to becoming The Legal Queen, with over 1.8 million followers on social media and a law firm that earns over £1 million every year. If you've ever faced setbacks, self-doubt, or felt like giving up, this episode is proof that it's never too late to rebuild your life and thrive.

Ep:13 - Join me for my Live Phone InTea with the queen is a podcast where Tracey aka 'the legal queen' discusses all things family law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs. Todays episode contains questions from parents on how to make an application to the court, if a solicitor is needed when going to court, how to begin divorce proceedings and many more. I really hope you enjoy listening and remember if you have a question that you would like me to answer then drop me a line at tracey@moloneyfamilylaw.com

Season 3: Ep:13 - Join me for my Live Phone InTea with the queen is a podcast where Tracey aka 'the legal queen' discusses all things family law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs. Todays episode contains questions from parents where the other parent is out of control, should they allow contact, a mother dependant on drugs and the father doing his best to represent himself in court, a husband who cuts his wife out of his will and a couple fighting over who keeps the car. If you have questions, or topics you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 3: Ep:12 - 'Community Q&A with the legal queen'Tea with the queen is a podcast where Tracey aka 'the legal queen' discusses all things family law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have questions, or topics you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/ to Follow

Season 3: Ep:11 - 'Community Q&A with the legal queen'Tea with the queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka 'the legal queen' discuss all things family law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have questions, or topics you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 3: Ep:10 - 'Community Q&A with the legal queen'Tea with the queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka 'the legal queen' discuss all things family law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have questions, or topics you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 3: Ep:09 - 'Community Q&A with the Legal Queen'Tea with the Queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka ‘The Legal Queen' discusses all things Family Law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have question, or topic you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 3: Ep:08 - 'Community Q&A with the Legal Queen'Tea with the Queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka ‘The Legal Queen' discusses all things Family Law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have question, or topic you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 3: Ep:07 - 'Community Q&A with the Legal Queen'Tea with the Queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka ‘The Legal Queen' discusses all things Family Law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have question, or topic you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 3: Ep:06 - 'Community Q&A with the Legal Queen'Tea with the Queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka ‘The Legal Queen' discusses all things Family Law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have question, or topic you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 3: Ep:05 - 'Community Q&A with the Legal Queen'Tea with the Queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka ‘The Legal Queen' discusses all things Family Law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have question, or topic you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 3: Ep:04 - 'Community Q&A with the Legal Queen'Tea with the Queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka ‘The Legal Queen' discusses all things Family Law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have question, or topic you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 3: Ep:03 - 'Community Q&A with the Legal Queen'Tea with the Queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka ‘The Legal Queen' discusses all things Family Law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have question, or topic you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 3: Ep:02 - 'Community Q&A with the Legal Queen'Tea with the Queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka ‘The Legal Queen' discusses all things Family Law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have question, or topic you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 3: Ep:01 - 'Community Q&A with the Legal Queen'Tea with the Queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka ‘The Legal Queen' discusses all things Family Law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have question, or topic you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 2: Ep:08 - 'Lets talk Mortgages!'Tea with the Queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka ‘The Legal Queen' discusses all things Family Law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have question, or topic you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 2: Ep:7 - 'Q&A with the Legal Queen!'Tea with the Queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka ‘The Legal Queen' discusses all things Family Law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have question, or topic you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 2: Ep:06 - 'Single V Married PART 2'Tea with the Queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka ‘The Legal Queen' discusses all things Family Law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have question, or topic you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 2: Ep:05 - '10 Top Tips when hiring a Solicitor'Tea with the Queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka ‘The Legal Queen' discusses all things Family Law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have question, or topic you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 2: Ep:04 - 'Solicitor V Mediator' Tea with the Queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka ‘The Legal Queen' discusses all things Family Law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have question, or topic you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 2: Ep:03 - 'Men V Women in the Family Court'Tea with the Queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka ‘The Legal Queen' discusses all things Family Law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have question, or topic you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 2: Ep:02 - 'Let's talk finances..'Tea with the Queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka ‘The Legal Queen' discusses all things Family Law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have question, or topic you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

Season 2: Ep:01 - 'Single V Married' Tea with the Queen is a brand new podcast where Tracey aka ‘The Legal Queen' discusses all things Family Law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs.If you have question, or topic you wish to be discussed on the show, submit your question at https://moloneyfamilylaw.com/podcast/

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