The Crappy Childhood Fairy Podcast with Anna Runkle

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When you dated them, it started out AMAZING -- like you were made for each other. But as soon as you got close to them, they started casually bringing up their many “friends” – friends they'd had sex with in the past, friends you had weird feeling were kind of maybe still having sex with them, but you were embarassed to ask. In this video I break down the signs that you've been worn down from a love interest to a source of supply for your narcissistic ex, and what you can do about it!

If a friend suddenly refuses to speak to you and you don't understand why, it may be that they were not a good friend in the first place. But if it keeps happening with several friends, the evidence points to something in you – a blind spot, or an unconscious habit of saying or doing something that hurts other people – that pushes people away. In this video, I respond to a letter from a woman who is scared to consider that SHE may be the one who is damaging connections. Do You Struggle to Connect with People?: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3LcjDD8

When I started teaching about trauma I never expected that one of my biggest challenges -- feeling like I didn't fit in with other people -- was actually a common trauma symptom. If you have CPTSD or you have trouble feeling connected with others, you're going to want to see this. Do you have CPTSD? Take the QUIZ: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3X9MZ7J

In this video, I respond to an angry comment on my YouTube channel from a woman annoyed that some people appear to accept others' bad behavior, justifying it as "trauma." Hear the comment, and my take on why some people with CPTSD take a hard-ass approach to healing that I call "The Cowboy Response." While she's not very kind, she's not wrong! Do you have CPTSD? Take the QUIZ: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3X9MZ7J

Healing trauma is more than psychological. It's physical, it's practical -- and here's the part where trauma experts are curiously silent -- it's spiritual. Abuse and neglect are injuries to the spirit, and where we are spiritually injured, a vulnerability opens to further harm from destructive people, and even from our own self-defeating behaviors. This is how the battle between good and evil is waged in our own lives, and in this four-video compilation, I share four of my most popular videos teaching how you can work with the power of good through prayer, meditation, courage and the willingness to take courageous actions to transform the damage that was done to you. Ten Signs Your Trauma Is Healing: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3raZghI

I make it VERY clear that I'm not a therapist or doctor, but sometimes viewers ask why I didn't go the route of becoming a therapist, and how I learned to do what I do. In this video, I give the full story on how I recovered from my own Complex PTSD symptoms, and how teaching my method grew from a few people to millions of people over the course of 30 years. My focus is not on childhood or the origins of trauma (this is the special expertise of licensed clinicians). Rather, I focus on practical ways to regulate the nervous system, and principles and techniques to get your life together and NOT fall into the old self-defeating behaviors that used to drag you down. Need Online Therapy? https://betterhelp.com/CCF Try the FREE Daily Practice Course: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3Y4263I

Everyone, not just traumatized people, gets dysregulated sometimes. And virtually everyone eventually re-regulates. But if you were traumatized at a young age, it can cause you to get dysregulated more easily than other people, and stay dysregulated longer. How can you do this ON THE SPOT? In this video, I teach you my expanded list of emergency measures to re-regulate. This is super helpful for people with CPTSD, or who need to "act normal" in a stressful situation. Learn Quick Measures to Get Re-Regulated: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3YBrIVg

When you're into someone but you hide how you really feel, don't be surprised when the reality of the situation smacks you down. People who were traumatized as kids are particularly vulnerable to this “just friends” behavior. And unhealthy people can detect that in us – the way we see what they just did and -- and how we pretend it didn't affect us. In this video, I respond to a letter from a woman who is getting strung along by a "friend" with JUST enough hope to keep her from leaving. 10 Things Romantic Manipulators Say: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3ZcUnkm

The stories you tell yourself are an expression of what YOU believe is important about you. And if you're wedding to saying life is never fair, everyone's terrible, they take advantage of you, you never get a break – this is actually another sign that you might be playing SMALL. It's something that those of us who had a rough childhood can sometimes get stuck in. And while trauma really happened, we don't have to stay identified with it. In fact, as long as we keep telling the sad stories and making those the story of our lives, we run the risk of staying stuck in SMALL. Heal Trauma in Just One Year?: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3JrPdvx

The Daily Practice is a set of two techniques -- a specific form of writing, followed by a simple meditation, that I was shown 31 years ago when I was in extreme distress after a series of traumas, and was barely able to function. I teach the techniques in a free online course (you can register for it and learn it in less than an hour -- the link is below), and I lead regular free Zoom calls for people who have learned the techniques to try them with me and others, and then I take questions. This video is a recorded call so you can see what it's like. If you'd like to try, it take the free course so you know the techniques (there's a PDF in the course that summarizes it and you can use this to follow along during the call. Once you've registered, we'll e-mail you a schedule and an invitation (also published on my website under the Events tab) to join the calls. It's a lovely community and we hope you'll give it a try. Take the Free Daily Practice Course Here: https://bit.ly/3Y4263I Sign up for Free Daily Practice Calls Here https://courses.crappychildhoodfairy.com/events/

People who were abused and neglected as children sometimes struggle to stay emotionally regulated. Part of healing is to learn to self-regulate; this is a skill that, in substance recovery programs, is called "Emotional Sobriety." Is it the same with trauma? In this 4-video compilation, I share four videos where I teach how the wounds of early trauma can leave you prone to lashing out or getting stuck in anger. How can you tell when you're emotionally "intoxicated", and how can people with CPTSD practice "emotional sobriety? Learn strategies to manage and regulate strong emotions and still express yourself fully. Do you have CPTSD? Take the QUIZ: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3X9MZ7J

In this video, I interview fellow YouTuber and Family Systems expert Jerry Wise. He has a deep background in counseling and marriage and family therapy. Now he's on YouTube teaching people how they can separate themselves from the "WiFi" of their families -- this is the pull, the ethos and the nervous system chatter of their family of origin. He teaches about the "family super self," and the "umbilical cord" that connects it to each member of a dysfunctional family. Learn from Jerry how you can separate and differentiate yourself, and become more fully yourself. Eleven Strategies to Feel Happier Today: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3Z5ynbf

Just when you think things are going well for you, BAM! Someone criticizes you, you get rejected, or you don't get chosen for an opportunity that meant everything to you. A rush of anger, panic and shame rises up, and next thing you know, you feel like you CAN'T. DO. ANYTHING. You freeze, stuck in procrastination, struggling to stay focused or follow through on plans. This disabling reaction to emotional hurt is a known symptom of CPTSD and a common experience for those of us who grew up with abuse and neglect. And though you're not doing it on purpose, when you go into freeze mode, it can keep you stuck "playing small." In this video, I talk about the way cruel remarks and treatment can be so damaging to our productivity, and what we can do to both stand up for ourselves, and avoid falling into long periods of neurological dysregulation, procrastination and avoidance. Try the FREE Daily Practice Course: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3Y4263I

People sometimes use the word “privilege” as an accusation that allows the accuser to feel better than the person they accuse, and even to shame and discredit them. Recently, Dr. Nicole Lepera (@TheHolisticPsychologist) posted an Instagram reel where she pointed out that the ultimate privilege is having a *support system,* and encouraged those of us who grew up neglected to stop comparing ourselves to those who were loved, guided, and helped through life. This is my fourth video in my PLAYING SMALL series, and in it, I talk about why Nicole's video made me cry, and why I now feel more strongly than ever that building a support system is a number one priority to STOP playing small, heal from the past, and build happy lives. Try the FREE Daily Practice Course: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3Y4263I

Recognizing your worth after neglect in childhood – where adults literally don't care for you appropriately, can lead to a kind of emotional “leakiness” where -- even though you've created a good life and set goals as an adult, -- you feel disconnected from people when they are close to you. For people with CPTSD, that memory of NOT being cared for can creep into every situation – you feel it with people you date, with friends, you feel it at work or school, and if it's not healed, it will cause you to get into and STAY in relationships where, in fact, you're NOT cared for. In this 4-video compilation, I share four of my most popular videos about the effects of neglect in childhood on your adult relationships. Learn the signs that the wounds of neglect are affecting you now. Watch Out For These Dating Red Flags DOWNLOAD WORKSHEET: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3T7surQ

If women want to be equal, they should always pay their own share of the bill on dates with men -- or so my mother told me. This is the third video in my "Stop Playing Small" series. In it, I explain what happened during the years I was always quick to throw down money on dates -- what my real reasons were, how that turned out, and THEN what happened when I decided to let the man pay. Dating may be harder than ever these days, but old traditions (many of which were used to control or suppress people) can also function as much-needed structure, and as a filter, for detecting if the person a the table with you might be your future mate. Heal trauma-driven patterns and find real love at last: http://bit.ly/3IBbrv7