The Mean Lady Talking Podcast

Today's episode wraps up where we've been since episode 126. We're talking unresolved grief, loss, the burden of the legal system to restore victims to some semblence of healed and how the rest of closure happens from inside us. We look through the lens of the Waukesha Wisconsin Christmas Parade Attack of 2021 and how botched that coverage has been. Hope this holiday season brings healing to all victims of crime and those who are grieving for lost loved ones. 

MLT Ep 129 continues the Life in Dysfunction Junction series and will wrap up in 130 regarding how unresolved childhood grief affects us and our relationships all of our lives. 

This is the 3rd in a 5 part series about how childhood issues can affect you as an adult and how we learn what we live and live what we learn. If we grow up being the one who is the Identified Patient or "scapegoat" we carry that into adult relationships.  If we're lucky, as I was, to finally have enough and go "UNCLE!" we  have a chance to be happy and healthy. The Getting Past Your Breakup program can lead you on that journey and make the devastating loss be the best thing that ever happened to you.

Episode 127 is part of the series that began with 126 and will end at 130. Unresolved grief and loss. Relationships broken. Divorce. How childhood issues carry into adult life. 

This is the first podcast in a series about growing up in a dysfunctional family where all are losing their heads and blaming it on you.  You never think, "It's not me, it's them..." and learning to survive there is all you can really think about. Emotions, for children are really a difficult landscape. They're either screaming bloody murder or sucking it all in. But no one gets a lesson on truly how to act and what life is like for a child in a completely crazy landscape. I'm going to bring this to a conclusion in a few upcoming podcasts to be released this week.  Stay tuned and please let me know what you think!

This podcast has 4 topics: No Contact when you share children; Revealing yourself when dating and/or a new relationship; Making Healthy Choices; and Get Back Where You Belong Messages.  Enjoy!

When we want to analyze our relationship "health," we need not look further than our partner.  Water seeks its own level and we are attracted to those we can dance with.

Status report and those who lie about DV etc.

This episode covers the Laundrie/Petito relationship timeline and the letter he wrote before his death. 

Status of the podcast and talking about kids continuing relationships with step parents and integration in grief. 

In this episode we discuss the situations created by commitmentphobic people, the frustration of those involved with them and how to deal with the distressing aftermath of recovering from a relationship with a commitmentphobe.

The last episode of Season 3 - thoughts about "Toxic Positivity" and healing through BALANCE.

This episode is answering a few emails that are too long for Lightening Road questions and too short for Mail We Get Mail. YouTube version is here: https://youtu.be/WOLgl8cTtH0  and the ending contains the long version of the theme song - listener requested. ENJOY!

Adult children of dysfunctional parents continued.  YouTube version here: https://youtu.be/aXnVlbArsz8

This episode is a Meanie-requested topic: if you have nothing but bad memories of an adult caregiver, why do we find ourselves attracted to the same type that hurt us? It's a bit of a complex answer but one that is worth figuring out and resolving, once and for all. The YouTube link is: https://youtu.be/eEyYEr6AQZE (please go there, like and subscribe, but listen to the episode on the most convenient app to you). 

This is the response to some of the comments from the Boundaries series.  Good people are not doormats and thinking you're "good and loving" when you're merely foolish is not a winnin strategy and you will never get healthy like that. 

This episode explains the "narcissism continuum" from the DSM definition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Pathological Narcissism, through healthy self-esteem. There is a discussion about subtypes, mostly covert and overt but I mention others, misconceptions about female narcissists, a bit of a deep dive into the differences between male and female narcissists and reasons why studies on female narcissists are scant, and on part C I discuss the narcissistic relationships of Chris Watts and Chris Coleman which led each to murder his wife and children.

This episode explains the "narcissism continuum" from the DSM definition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Pathological Narcissism, through healthy self-esteem. There is a discussion about subtypes, mostly covert and overt but I mention others, misconceptions about female narcissists, a bit of a deep dive into the differences between male and female narcissists and reasons why studies on female narcissists are scant, and on part C I discuss the narcissistic relationships of Chris Watts and Chris Coleman which led each to murder his wife and children.

This episode explains the "narcissism continuum" from the DSM definition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Pathological Narcissism, through healthy self-esteem. A discussion about subtypes, mostly covert and overt, misconceptions about female narcissists, a bit of the differences between male and female narcissists and reasons why studies on female narcissists are scant, part C I discuss the narcissistic Watts and Coleman affairs and murders.

A round robin update/answering your questions episode with a short commentary on the #GabbyPetito case and #DomesticViolence at the end. 

In this episode we are talking about intimacy and what it entails and how you should be measuring your relationships as to whether or not they are "intimate." 

When is it okay to withhold information from a potential mate?  How much do you need to share? What is the difference between secrets that are okay, secrets that are not okay and lies of omission? 

Here is the Almost Labor Day podcast!  Speaking of Labor and taking a break from the work: Sometimes we need complex, multi-level answers to complicated issues.  But other times, the simplest answer is the best.  We all know the slogan Keep It Simple, S....  but we don't need to call ourselves names...Just keep it simple! The YouTube version is at https://youtu.be/3i7_C1wI51o  

One of the reasons why some of us hold on is because we fear that when we let go for good, our ex will become the person we wanted him or her to be. It doesn't matter and we need to let that go. Holding on for something that may not happen and may not work even if it does, isn't a solid plan. 

Following up with some points left out of the recent Boundaries and Jealousy podcasts.

These are the true crime cases that illustrate when jealousy and envy go too far and someone winds up dead. 

The first part of this episode explaining jealousy/envy and the pathological forms of it. 

The ending of a relationship never feels good, but it feels even worse when you didn't see it coming.  In this "Mail. We Get Mail" episode, we discuss 2 scenarios where people - one man and one woman - were each blindsided by the end. 

THE FINALE of the MUCH requested 4-part Boundaries episode. If you didn't listen to the other 3 parts, this is not going to have the impact it would have it you had. Yes, I know it's long but all of this is necessary to the importance of the ultimate lesson here.

Part 3 - of the MUCH requested 4-part Boundaries episode.  It's long but all of this is necessary to the importance of the ultimate lesson here.

Part 2 - Episode 106B - of the MUCH requested 4-part Boundaries episode. There is no intro/outro music in parts b and c and only outtro in d.  It's long but all of this is necessary to the importance of the ultimate lesson here.

The MUCH requested 4-part Boundaries episode. There is no intro/outro music in parts b and c and only outtro in d.  It's long but all of this is necessary to the importance of the ultimate lesson here. 

Continuing on with the rest of the answers to your questions, the future of the podcast and the MLT JOKE that you have to know for future reference. 

Podcast 105A explaining where the podcast has been, where it is going and the answer to your recent questions. 

When you grow up being blamed, you find yourself in relationships the same way. It takes work to get out of the habit of blaming and being blamed. Gaslighting and triangulation are deadly to relationships. If you've grown up in a dysfunctional family system, you sometimes fall into this quite naturally. It takes work to learn to be responsible, own what you own, don't own what you don't own, and move out of the blame game. #dysfunction #breakup #divorce #relationships #ACOA I know that most of you listen on podcast apps, which is GREAT, but if you could pleas go to YouTube and subscribe, you can also leave questions and comments when you have them. You DO NOT have to listen on YouTube (I know it's a pain if you're not home) but it would help the podcast A LOT.  So PLEASE SUBSCRIBE! Also, I am putting time stamps in the YouTube description (below the "video") so you can go right to the content if you want to do that.  https://youtu.be/p4cPOcfKQKU

#obsession #infidelity #socialme #spying #Gerardot #JennairGerardot #MarkGerardot #MeredithChapman #truecrime Many people have told me that they can't stop following their ex on social media, that they are obsessed with what their ex is doing or has done (cheating). There can be grave results when there is a failure to address obsessing about an ex and their new love or the person they cheated with It's important to block and move on. Obsession is a murky water that will drown you if you don't get out. It becomes a deep dark black hole of emotional despair. I use my life and the very tragic Gerardot case as examples. PLEASE GO TO YOUTUBE AND COMMENT ON THIS PODCAST AND SUBSCRIBE. https://youtu.be/iRQxSd7sRuU

A follow up to some other episodes I've done on covert narcissism. Please go to the YouTube version of the podcast to find links to articles and the MLT/GPYB Narcissism playlist. 

Many people are having a hard time this year. The pandemic makes post-breakup holidays even WORSE.  Hope this episode helps in some small way. 

A funny thing happened on the way to the word of the week. It became the YT topic of the week. Discussion of the misused word EMPATH and Empathetic and a bit about Shane Dawson (this is less about him and more about the general use of the word). The description on YouTube has links to others' videos about Shane #empath #empathic #empathetic #shanedawson #narcissist #boundaries #metaphysical #psychic #codependency #sciencefiction #grieving #identification #sensitivity

The second in a series we talk about Chris and Shanann meeting and not being honest about who they were. It wasn't straight-up dishonesty but it was more or less 2 facades meeting each other. All of the groundwork is here for what would become a troubled marriage...trouble that is unknown to everyone until the last final fatal weeks. 

 While this has been around a bit, there have been some channels reporting misinformation about this case and I needed to address some of this as well as use this as an opportunity to talk about DV, custody, boundaries & coparenting with a personality disordered ex. There is a lot of information on here, but PLEASE ask questions about leave comments about this story, domestic violence and custody, visitation, etc. #geoffreypaschel #90dayfiance #custody #domesticviolence #boundaries #coparenting #DVLiars #AmberHeard #coparenting #personalitydisorders #personalitydisorderedex #narcissist #sociopath

In this episode we talk about grief from a psychological and legal standpoint. We talk about the role of the victim in the legal system (both criminal and family) and the grief process and no contact and boundaries with coparent. Dealing with ex threatening selfharm if you breakup with them (listen to the Male Stalking podcast talking about #travisalexander and #ryanposton victims of #jodiarias and #shaynahubers and NOT being friends with the ex.) PLEASE LEAVE COMMENTS ON THE YOUTUBE VERSION OF THIS PODCAST TO LET ME KNOW IF YOU WANT MORE EPISODES ON THIS TOPIC!

Part 1 of the series: The Definitive Chris Watts where we will be talking about the legal issues the psychological issues and the relationship issues between Chris and Shanann and Nicole and his family. How did everyone miss his personality disorders? Please leave comments and questions or to suggest things for future episodes on the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/7MRAvoOpZAo

Welcome back to Season 3 of the Mean Lady Talking podcast where we will be talking mental health relationships breakups divorce children custody nocontact NC dating movingon 

Here it is the LAST episode in Season 2!!!! And as promised we are covering 3 types of addiction: internet, sex and pornography and for the last 2, the effect on partners, which can result in betrayal trauma. https://youtu.be/ud-MyavgJPc

More preview of Season 3, more loose ends tying up - talking about Chris Watts, the nitwit network, narcissism, ASPD, a discussion of troubling YT and TT personalities like Zoe Laverne and ACE Family, "Stan" behavior, recommended channels for some lulz.

99A a preview of Season 3, a return to the horrible Psychology Today debacle (for a reason), cyberbulllying, name calling, quick take on the Stauffers, and tying up loose ends in Season 2. I will link to all the channels mentioned in parts A & B as soon as I finish up with C.

In this episode we're continuing the "go round" and discussion of Antisocial Personality Disorder as well as Conduct Disorder and Oppositional Defiant Disorder in children.  This episode will give a preview of the frauditor material coming in Season 3 (the material that was pushed off).

As promised, this 2-part episode concentrates on the anger and acting out of the covert narcissist focusing on Chris Watts. We compare the covert narcissist to the overt narcissist (or vulnerable v. grandiose) and the slow burn they do which starts as sulking and can end up, as it did with Watts, in murder. 

The rest of the 2-part episode which concentrates on the anger and acting out of the covert narcissist focusing on Chris Watts. We compare the covert narcissist to the overt narcissist (or vulnerable v. grandiose) and the slow burn they do which starts as sulking and can end up, as it did with Watts, in murder and how he turned from a covert narcissist into a primary psychopath. 

We are doing a bit of a go-round for the end of Season 2 and comments on Chris Watts appeal.  More Watts material in Episode 98.