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Hey ladies, welcome to another Revitalized Womanhood Podcast episode! Today, I'm joined by my friend and founding member of the Revitalized Sisterhood! We jump right into the throes of postpartum life with multiple kids. We chat about everything from postpartum depression, the pressures of social media, managing life with a newborn, and the unrealistic expectations we place on ourselves. Amy shares her journey of having five kids, homeschooling, and the challenge of balancing it all. We also discuss the importance of giving ourselves grace, shifting our mindsets, and embracing where we are right now. If you're a mom feeling overwhelmed, this one's for you! Connect with the Revitalized Womanhood today! https://revitalizedwomanhood.com/ CHAPTERS: 00:00 Welcome and Introduction 00:38 Postpartum Experiences and Challenges 02:52 Impact of Social Media on New Mothers 06:11 Navigating Parenting and Self-Doubt 13:37 Coping Strategies and Mindset Shifts 15:30 Struggling with Expectations and Self-Judgment 16:11 Mindset Shift and Self-Reflection 17:01 Embracing Imperfection and Seeking Support 19:09 Navigating Motherhood and Personal Growth 24:26 The Importance of Slowing Down 27:37 Focusing on Abundance and Gratitude 30:18 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Order my newest book Make Money Easy! https://lewishowes.com/moneyyouCheck out the full episode: greatness.lnk.to/1759"Women need to realize that other women are their sisters, and whenever they're in competition with other women, they're actually in competition with themselves." - Danny MorelDanny Morel reveals the three key barriers keeping women from experiencing true love: competition with other women, focusing too much on external appearance, and refusing to allow men to fully love and protect them. With profound insight, he explains how these patterns often stem from childhood wounds where the masculine figures who should have provided protection failed to do so. This creates defensive patterns that block the natural flow of feminine energy and the ability to receive love.Morel challenges conventional thinking by emphasizing the importance of polarity in relationships—the masculine provides while the feminine receives. He compares this essential dynamic to other natural dualities like day and night, beginning and end. His compassionate yet direct approach offers women a path toward self-acceptance and authentic connection by honoring their inherent value rather than conforming to societal expectations or past relationship trauma.Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter
In this powerful episode, we dive into a topic that holds so many people back: self-judgment. If you constantly criticise yourself, overanalyse your actions, or struggle to feel "good enough," this conversation is for you.Connect with me:Instagram:jonnycpardoeFacebook:jonnycpardoeTikTik:jonnycpardoeLinkedIn:Jonny PardoeFor me to speak or speaking enquiries: speaking@jonnypardoe.com
Melanie Waite shares with Ipek Williamson her transformative journey of self-love, healing, and embracing her true essence in this powerful episode of The Ultimate Coach Podcast. From a childhood experience that shaped her self-image for decades to a life-changing breakthrough that allowed her to see herself with new eyes, Melanie's story is a testament to the impact of internal narratives and the freedom that comes from rewriting them.As a holistic health expert, she discusses how her personal struggles informed her path of helping others unlock their inner resources and cultivate radical self-acceptance. She also reflects on the deep connections she has built, including her lifelong relationship with Steve Hardison, and how love, support, and powerful shifts in awareness have shaped her life. This episode is an invitation to let go of self-judgment, embrace your inherent worth, and step into a life of limitless possibility.About the Guest: Melanie Waite is a holistic health enthusiast and passionate educator. With a multifaceted background as a Nutrition Teacher, Fitness Instructor, Massage Therapist, Aromatherapist, and GNM student, Melanie weaves together the intricate connections between mind, body, and spirit.Driven by the inseparable bond between physical and mental health, Melanie is dedicated to sharing her knowledge to inspire transformative growth and to support individuals in recognizing that their health truly is in their own hands.Melanie enjoys staying active, exploring the latest research on mind-body connections, and connecting with like-minded individuals who share her passion for wellness.Melanie lives in northern California with her husband Paul.About the Host: A beacon of change and a catalyst for transformation, Ipek Williamson is a multifaceted professional who seamlessly integrates two decades of corporate expertise with a diverse skill set as a coach, mentor, speaker, author, meditation advocate, and teacher. Her mission is to guide individuals through the complexities of modern life, helping them find deep peace and harmony. Ipek's coaching approach, rooted in Core Values, Mental Fitness, and Mind Mastery, empowers clients to unlock their hidden potential and confidently embrace change with joy.Beyond coaching, Ipek's influence spreads through her 100+ meditations on the Insight Timer App and live meditation sessions, where she shares transformative wisdom. Her impact extends to workshops, courses, and training sessions for individuals, groups, and corporations. As a Change Champion, Ipek Williamson is dedicated to promoting positive change, nurturing inner calm, and empowering others to script their own transformation stories.ipek@ipekwilliamsoncoaching.comhttps://linktr.ee/IpekWilliamsonhttps://ipekwilliamsoncoaching.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/ipekwilliamson/The Ultimate Coach Resourceshttps://theultimatecoachbook.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theultimatecoachInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theultimatecoachbookLinkedIn:
In this episode, I speak with Dr. Laura Gallaher. Dr. Gallaher is a professional speaker, leadership development expert, organizational psychologist, and USA Today's best-selling author who inspires driven self-starters to transform their relationships with themselves and accomplish more than ever. She combines insights on radical self-acceptance with humour to create a unique connection with her audience. Despite being a national best-selling author, Dr. Laura stands out from the typical "academic" personality of her PhD peers. Her notable achievements include being hired by NASA to reshape organizational culture after the Columbia accident, leading significant changes in performance management at Disney, and inspiring Yahoo's global teams to pursue transformation from within. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:23 - Journey into Organizational Psychology 00:01:07 - NASA's Culture Change Initiative 00:02:10 - Understanding Organizational Culture 00:03:15 - Self-Deception and Its Impact 00:04:56 - Defining Self-Deception 00:05:20 - The Inner Critic and Vulnerability 00:06:56 - The Role of Self-Acceptance 00:08:11 - The Importance of Self-Awareness 00:10:32 - Defensiveness and Its Roots 00:12:25 - The Journey of Self-Acceptance 00:13:48 - The Story in Your Head 00:15:24 - Significance, Competence, and Likability 00:17:54 - Self-Judgment vs. Self-Acceptance 00:19:05 - The Impact of Self-Judgment on Growth 00:25:11 - Stress as a Choice 00:35:08 - The Meaning We Attach to Stress 00:39:22 - Transforming Stress Through Self-Acceptance 00:42:41 - Personal Journey of Radical Self-Acceptance Connect with Laura Website: https://drlauragallaher.com/Email: laura@gallaheredge.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drlauragallaher/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laura-gallaher-phd/ Take the Self-Acceptance Quiz: https://www.gallaheredge.com/sa-quiz-lp Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE. Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This helps the show grow! Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG. Click HERESubscribe on YouTube. Click HERE
In this episode of The Tragedy Academy Podcast, Dr. Adi Jaffe joins Jay for a deep, unfiltered discussion on addiction, transformation, and the illusions of identity that hold us back.From his personal journey of addiction and incarceration to becoming a UCLA-trained psychologist and best-selling author, Dr. Jaffe breaks down the misconceptions around addiction, the power of shifting perspective, and why breaking free from societal expectations is key to personal growth.
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Perfectionism is a double-edged sword. It drives us, and can also derail us. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Marina Harris, a former Division I gymnast turned psychologist and performance consultant, who's mastered the art of turning high-pressure expectations into healthy, high performance.Marina brings a unique perspective from the front lines at Bloom Psychology Group, where she works with anxious and perfectionistic high achievers striving to balance their mental well-being with their ambitions. Today, she'll share transformative insights on how closely mental health and performance are intertwined, and why a flexible, compassionate approach can be your greatest asset in managing perfectionism.Whether you're an athlete, coach, or anyone who's ever felt paralyzed by the need to be perfect, this episode is tailored for you. Tune in to discover how you can start embracing your imperfections and transform the way you approach challenges—both on and off the field.Let's head into the lab and unpack these insights to forge a healthier, more sustainable path forward in our quest for excellence.- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Learn more about The Mental Training LabConnect with Pete on Instagram | LinkedIn | WebsiteSubscribe to the podcast on Apple | Spotify This show is produced and edited by the team at Palm Tree Pod Co.
Discipline isn't about proving something to the world—it's about honoring yourself. In this episode, Marta Brummell dives into the power of starting small with a minimum baseline mindset, redefining discipline as an act of self-care and devotion rather than self-judgment. Discover how sustainable change comes not from fixing yourself but from embracing your worth and showing up with love.____________________________________________________________We are so glad you're here. Big love.Connect with Marta:Ask Marta Anything for a chance to be featured in a future episode!https://martabrummell.com/Instagram: @martabrummellLinkedIn: @martabrummellIf you're loving the insights and tools shared on the podcast, we'd love to invite you to join The Practice, our online membership community for women. It's a space for growth, connection, and transformation, where like-minded and like-hearted women come together to navigate life's challenges with intention and courage. Through meaningful conversations, compassionate collaboration, and weekly coaching, you'll gain practical tools and support to enrich your life and reconnect with your true self.Join The Practice here.
Beloved, last week we talked about the myth and false teaching of hell and how we have been so terrorized by it. That and other false teachings cause us to think and believe the most awful things about ourselves. Things that are just not true!Today, we tell you some true things… about you. Jesus said for us to love our neighbor AS WE LOVE OURSELVES. The most important freedom is freedom from your own self-judgment – so we can love and accept ourselves unconditionally and fully and lavishly – so we can love our neighbor the same way.Send us a private message. *Note: INCLUDE YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS if you'd like us to answer. :-) Support the show
What if the scarce mindset you've been battling isn't something you're born with but a behavior learned from past scars? Join me on a personal journey through a transformative plant medicine ceremony in Tulum, where I faced the depths of scarcity and its roots in psychological wounds. This episode uncovers how life guides us on paths of healing, not necessarily where we want to go but where we need to go, to embrace true abundance. By sharing my experience of taking six cups of ayahuasca, I highlight the power of confronting and healing these psychological barriers.Join the Elite Mindset Group Coaching Mastermind Here!
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R' Jonathan Rietti!00:00 Introduction01:00 The Timeliness of the Torah02:18 Understanding the Torah's Perfection03:21 The Relationship Between Written and Oral Torah04:37 The Importance of Detail in Torah Study09:54 The Concept of Gratitude in Chanukah18:02 The Essence of Shashua in Olam Haba25:15 The Meaning of Gadol and Divine Independence44:01 The Importance of Distinctions in Translation44:42 David's Early Life and Struggles45:35 Reliance on Hashem and Praise46:51 The Power of Gratitude49:31 The Concept of Self-Judgment in Prayer57:07 The Significance of Language in Torah01:02:19 The Essence of Tefillah and Connection01:07:01 The Impact of Gratitude on Life01:10:10 Concluding Thoughts and Reflections
In this introspective episode of the Better Podcast, Dr. Stephanie shares a personal tradition of gratitude that she practices annually. This year, like last year, the gratitude episode involves reflecting on the past year and planning for a fulfilling 2025.Dr. Stephanie delves into various aspects of life, including how time and money were spent, relationships, personal goals, and internal reflections. She also explores topics such as personal judgment, self-sabotage, and the manifestation of desired qualities. By reflecting on these areas, Dr. Stephanie aims to inspire you to introspect on your own life and foster personal growth as you embark on the new year.Episode Overview:0:03 Welcome to the End of 20241:20 Reflecting on the Past Year3:55 Evaluating Relationships and Time5:15 Financial Reflections and Spending Habits7:50 Learning and Personal Growth10:30 Filling Your Life Buckets12:50 Self-Judgment and Inner Reflections19:40 Daily Routines and Long-Term Goals24:15 Embracing Your Weirdness and Fighting for What You Want27:55 Encouragement & GratitudeQuestions Stephanie is asking herself:* Where were you a year ago?* Do you enjoy how you're spending your time?* Am I happy with how my money is being spent?* Who do I spend the most time with and are they filling my cup?* What do you want to learn next?* Are your buckets (or verticles) getting filled?* Are you satisfied with your career?* What can my most aggressive judgments about others tell me about myself?* If you knew everything was going to be okay so you could create the best version of yourself, who are you?* Do I take time to articulate and get clarity on my own thoughts before expressing them to others?* Does my daily routine reflect my long-term goals?* What do the things I envy in others tell me about what I really want to give to myself?* What did the people who hurt me most in my life ultimately teach me?* Do I embody the qualities of the person that I always dreamed of marrying?* What is the most common way that I self-sabotage and what does that tell me about my unmet needs?
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Tony welcomes guests Nate and Marla Christensen to discuss the concept of self-compassion. Nate is an ALPC, and Marla is an ALPC and AMFT. They delve into the groundbreaking research of Kristen Neff, who has spent 20 years studying the benefits of self-compassion, including its effects on PTSD, anxiety, depression, and overall mental health. The episode explores the three main components of self-compassion—mindfulness, self-kindness, and common humanity—and addresses common misconceptions such as self-compassion being viewed as weakness, self-indulgence, or selfishness. They share personal insights and clinical experiences, making a compelling case for incorporating self-compassion into daily life and therapy. Nate and Marla are both currently working under Tony's license, and both currently have openings in their schedule. To reach Nate, email him at natechristensencounseling@gmail.com, and for Marla, email marlachristensencounseling@gmail.com, or you can contact them through Tony at contact@tonyoverbay.com. You can view Nate and Marla's episode on LeadingSaints.org here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=0f9P-Xk5ZaE 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 02:46 Guest Introduction: Nate and Marla Christensen 02:53 Discussing Self-Compassion 03:45 Nate and Marla's Professional Background 08:16 The Importance of Self-Compassion 14:25 Common Misconceptions About Self-Compassion 17:04 Scientific Insights on Self-Compassion 25:25 Historical Context and Recent Research 27:27 Exploring Self-Compassion 28:32 Understanding Mindfulness 30:59 Practicing Self-Kindness 32:52 Embracing Common Humanity 34:58 Motivation Through Self-Compassion 35:53 Challenges in Self-Compassion 39:14 Cultural Perspectives on Compassion 41:11 Reparenting and Emotional Maturity 45:52 Final Thoughts and Reflections
In this conversation, Nadia Islam, a licensed clinical supervisor at Yellow Chair Collective, discusses the importance of evidence-based and culturally humble approaches in therapy. She discusses the importance of accepting reality and moving towards one's values, as well as the power of voice and the impact of self-judgment. Follow Yellow Chair YCC IG: https://www.instagram.com/yellowchaircollective/?hl=en YCC Events: https://yellowchaircollective.com/ycc-events/ Takeaways Evidence-based therapy involves using strategies that have been proven to lead to significant improvement in clients' symptoms or conditions. Cultural humility recognizes the limitations of research and aims to create a collaborative space that respects diverse populations. Client advocacy and empowerment are important in therapy, allowing clients to drive the conversation and make decisions about their own lives. The therapist's role is to guide the conversation, using active and directive approaches when necessary. Understanding and defining the client's problem is a crucial step in therapy. Maslow's hierarchy of needs is a complex framework that may not fully capture the overlapping phases of personal growth and community focus. Personal background and cultural influences shape a therapist's approach to therapy. Transitioning to therapy and facing challenges can be a transformative experience for both the therapist and the client. Becoming a licensed therapist requires dedication and perseverance. Accepting reality and moving towards one's values can bring meaning and fulfillment. Unconditional love in adult relationships may not be realistic or fair, as reciprocity and equality are important. Self-judgment can hinder personal growth and happiness, while curiosity can lead to greater understanding and acceptance. Focusing on the dynamics of relationships and the qualities of the connection can be more important than finding the 'right' person. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 01:06 Evidence-Based Practice & Cultural Humility 03:00 The Importance of Client Advocacy 06:00 The Therapist's Role in Guiding Conversations 08:17 Balancing Active and Directive Approaches 11:30 Helping Clients Identify and Define Problems 13:59 Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs 16:09 Indigenous Framework and Overlapping Phases 18:07 Personal Background & Cultural Influences 22:14 Navigating Challenging Situations and Making Decisions 26:37 Experiences in New York City and California 30:17 Transitioning to Therapy, Facing Challenges 35:26 Nadia's Journey to Becoming a Licensed Therapist 36:05 Pursuing International Social Work 36:31 Working in Sri Lanka 37:41 Challenges and Failures 40:52 Dealing with Disappointment 41:41 Values and Acceptance 42:48 The Power of Voice 43:45 Defining Values 46:15 Dealing with Uncertainty 47:10 Self-Judgment and Curiosity 49:11 The Belief of Unlovability 51:37 Unconditional Love in Adult Relationships 54:46 Letting Go of Expectations 57:09 Focusing on the Relationship 58:35 Lessons from Intimate Partner Violence 01:00:08 Identifying What You Want 01:01:15 The Dance of Relationships
Do you struggle with self-judgments? What if you could find a way to navigate self-criticism without using it to justify or defend yourself? In this episode, we explore why it's generally not recommended to start questioning self-judgments if you're new to The Work of Byron Katie and how to balance between self-compassion and responsibility. You'll learn how to trust your stress to guide you toward inner peace and clarity while questioning your thoughts in a way that brings freedom, not self-blame. In this episode, you'll discover: Why starting with self-judgments might not be ideal for beginners, and when it's okay to focus on them. The difference between self-judgment and self-compassion, and why one leads to freedom while the other keeps you stuck. How to take responsibility for yourself without falling into the trap of justification or self-defense. Tune in now to learn how to question your self-judgments in a healthy, balanced way and bring more peace into your life. Todd P.S. Help me create the content you want by taking my survey about the kinds of stresses you face as an HSP: https://n3bdg4lsifv.typeform.com/to/Ypjxsjya Are you a highly sensitive person (HSP) or someone who identifies as hypersensitive or neurodivergent? This podcast is dedicated to helping highly sensitive people (HSPs) navigate overwhelm and stress by using The Work of Byron Katie—a powerful method for questioning stressful thoughts and finding true inner freedom. We dive deep into stress management strategies, coping with stress, and stress relief methods specifically tailored for HSPs. Learn how to manage emotions, especially negative ones, and explore effective stress reduction techniques that go beyond the surface to address the root causes of anxiety and pressure. Whether you're interested in learning how to lower stress, handle stress and pressure, or reduce stress through practical techniques, we provide insights and support based on The Work of Byron Katie. Discover how this transformative approach can help you decrease stress, find inner peace, and create balance in your life. Join us to learn about various coping strategies for stress, all designed to support HSPs in their journey toward emotional well-being.
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In this talk, Rev Lee discusses that When we judge ourselves, we create an invisible barrier between who we are and who we long to be. Embrace self-compassion, for it is through acceptance that true growth and freedom unfold. If you like this message and want to learn more about what is happening at Agape and get a copy of my favorite affirmation, sign up for my daily thought and weekly newsletter by clicking this link: https://www.agapespiritualcenter.com/free-affirmations/
Struggling with self-judgment? This episode explores how practicing loving-kindness toward yourself can ease negative self-talk, reduce stress, and improve emotional resilience. Learn to embrace self-compassion and grow from setbacks with grace. If you want to learn more from Rosie, head to her IG! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Have you ever felt trapped by the endless cycle of self-criticism and the need to be a perfectionist? In this episode, Matt O'Neill dives deep into the profound impact of the wounds of judgment and guilt – and uncovers transformative strategies for overcoming these destructive thought patterns. Discover the importance of self-acceptance, the role of natural consequences in learning, and the freedom that would come from creating a judgment-free environment for growth and authentic expression. Break free from the shackles of perfectionism and cultivate a life of true happiness. Here are some power takeaways from today's conversation: Embrace imperfection as an essential part of the human experience. Utilize the power of natural consequences as a teacher, rather than punishment. Create a safe haven for vulnerability and authentic expression in relationships. Shift from a mindset of criticism to one of learning and growth. Cultivate self-acceptance and extend compassion to yourself and others. [02:07] The Lasting Impact of Childhood Wounds The wounds of judgment and guilt are not only deeply rooted in our childhood experiences but also have a profound impact on our adult lives. These thought patterns can lead to an endless cycle of self-criticism, conditional love, and a tit-for-tat mentality in our relationships. [06:39] The Two Forms of Guilt There are two distinct forms of guilt – overcompensating and undercompensating. The overcompensating form of guilt leads to harsh self-criticism and impossibly high standards, while the undercompensating form manifests as people-pleasing and conflict avoidance. Both stem from a fear of judgment and a desire for perfection, profoundly impacting self-perception, relationships, and well-being. [10:27] The Beauty in Embracing Your Imperfection Embracing imperfection and allowing natural consequences to be the teacher, rather than punishment, is key to healing the wounds of judgment and guilt. Surrounding ourselves with people who understand, have compassion, and allow for mistakes is crucial, as it fosters an environment of mutual understanding and growth, where both individuals can extend the same empathy and patience when mistakes occur. [11:01] The Transformative Power of Affirmations in Healing Judgment and Guilt By regularly repeating positive statements, we can retrain our brains to focus on the constructive rather than the critical, countering the trauma of constant self-judgment. These affirmations remind us that imperfection is part of the human experience, enabling us to extend the same compassion to ourselves and others and approach mistakes as opportunities for growth. [26:30] The Role of Natural Consequences in Learning Look at natural consequences as a teacher, rather than punishment in the healing process. By sitting with the discomfort of our choices and allowing the consequences to guide us, we foster true growth and self-esteem, without the need for harsh judgment or criticism. Resources Mentioned: Download this week's free resource instantly when you sign up for The Good Mood Show newsletter here! Or, reach out on our contact page at https://mattoneill.com/contact and we will email you a copy of any free resource you request.
Our minds contain a version of us that we have developed through our lives' experiences. If we take the time to get to know who it thinks we are, by becoming conscious of our thoughts, we will learn more about ourselves. If we liken ourselves to a battery, because everything is energy, when we berate ourselves and have negative thoughts about ourselves, we deplete energy from our battery. BUT When we practice self forgiveness, we refill our battery. The more we practice self forgiveness and release self judgement, the more our lives will improve, as we begin to see ourselves differently. #selfjudgment #forgiveness #forgiveyourself #letgo #fillup www.sarahdawkins.com
Here Is How to Stop Stuttering and Say What You Want with Michael Williams
Learn how to reduce stuttering anxiety by applying two powerful laws that can transform your speech into smooth, confident communication. In this video, we discuss practical strategies to help you manage speech pressure, minimize stuttering, and improve your fluency. Michael Williams shares his personal journey of overcoming stuttering and offers actionable tips you can implement today. Don't miss this opportunity to enhance your speech and build lasting confidence. Grab our Labor Day Special Now: https://www.pro90d.com/start-speaking-smoothly-in-3-months#section-3b91bc4b Do you think these guys regret investing in their speech: https://www.pro90d.com/before-and-after-pro90d Here are the chapters with each one on its own line: 0:00 Introduction and Survey on Perfectionism 0:13 Discussing Perfectionism and Speech Fluency 1:08 Understanding Perfectionism in Speech 1:49 Handling Disfluencies and Expectations 2:46 Coping with Criticism and Self-Judgment 3:33 Addressing Anxiety and Nervousness Before Speaking 5:12 Identifying Triggers of Speech Anxiety 7:22 Introduction to the Law of Relaxation 8:28 Personal Experience and the Law of Relaxation 10:07 Strategies to Refocus and Avoid Negative Thinking 11:39 Shifting Focus from Negative Anticipation to Positive Preparation 13:33 Utilizing Opportunities to Shine in Public Speaking 15:18 Replacing Negative Thoughts with Positive, Constructive Ones 17:24 Patterns and Habits in Thinking and Speaking 18:24 Importance of Believing in the Science Behind Speech Transformation 19:38 Neuroplasticity and Rewiring the Brain for Fluent Speech 21:19 Replacing Negative Patterns with Positive Ones 22:23 The Power of Preparation Over Worrying 24:59 The Role of Being Present in Conversations 25:20 Managing Expectations and Being Present 29:31 Dealing with Speech Dips and How to Improve 30:26 Leaning into Practice During Speech Dips 31:59 The Science Behind Speech Patterns and Myelination 33:03 Structuring Presentations to Reduce Pressure 34:19 Applying the 80-20 Rule to Presentations 35:08 Visualizing Positive Outcomes in Speaking 36:29 Recording Yourself for Improvement 38:05 The Impact of Recording and Tweaking Speech 40:28 Dealing with the Pressure of Speaking in Front of an Audience 42:47 Applying Vic and Rick Techniques in Conversations 44:15 The Importance of Emptying the Mind During Conversations 46:22 Continuing Exercises Even When Results Aren't Immediate 47:52 The Science Behind Persistence in Speech Exercises 51:06 Introduction to the Law of Flexibility and Fluidity 52:44 Applying Flexibility in Speech Situations 55:26 The Concept of Speech Flowing Like Water 57:49 Reducing Pressure by Creating Speech Flow 59:24 Overcoming Speech Barriers with Flexibility 1:01:00 Success Breeds Success in Speech Practice 1:02:12 Using the PIES Method for Speech Improvement 1:05:23 Overcoming the Challenges of Scripted Speech 1:07:23 Modeling Speech Without Mimicking Exactly 1:09:23 Avoiding the Traps of Scripted Speech 1:10:22 The Role of Pausing and Breathing in Speech 1:11:55 Handling Hard Words in Speech Progress 1:15:11 Measuring Short-Term and Long-Term Speech Progress 1:18:28 The Importance of Immersion in Speech Practice 1:21:04 Addressing the Challenges of New vs. Old Speaking Styles 1:22:47 Identity Shifts in Different Speaking Situations 1:24:39 Explaining Speech Style Changes to Family Members 1:26:08 Adapting to New Speaking Styles in Various Contexts 1:28:45 Encouragement to Apply Learned Techniques 1:30:02 Final Thoughts and Encouragement to Invest in Speech Improvement Let me know if this format works for you! #stuttering #fluentspeech #speechanxiety #overcomestuttering #speechtherapy #confidencebuilding #michaelwilliams #smoothspeech #speechimprovement #labordaysale PRO90D SMOOTH SPEECH PROGRAMS: ✅ Private Laser-Focused Coaching: https://bit.ly/laser-focused-coaching-michael ✅ Ultimate Smooth Speech Self-Study Course: https://bit.ly/pro90d-self-study ✅ 7-Step Program: https://www.pro90d.com/7steps
This week on Rebel Spirituality we uncover the pitfalls of judging our low moods & discuss the wisdom in allowing our moods to flow naturally.
Imagine freeing yourself from the chains of self-judgment and stepping into a life of true authenticity. In this electrifying episode, we sit down with the brilliant Dr. Dain Heer, bestselling author and co-creator of Access Consciousness, as he unlocks the secrets to living with self-trust and integrity. It's time to stop beating yourself up over the past and start making choices that align with who you truly are. We dive deep into the game-changing shift from judgment to awareness—a concept Dain explores with passion and clarity. While traditional judgment boxes us into fixed mindsets, asking empowering questions like "What else is possible?" opens up a universe of new opportunities. Whether it's navigating triggers or embracing your inner knowing, this episode is packed with nuggets that will leave you fired up and ready to live a more compassionate, authentic life. Love you guys, enjoy the journey, and if this episode resonates with you, don't forget to leave a 5-star review! 5:07 - Reframing Judgment 13:08 - Creating Miracles Through Conscious Awareness 16:59 - Living Successfully Through Vulnerability 21:49 - Increasing Quality and Success Effortlessly 25:40 - The Power of Self-Judgment 34:59 - Navigating Childhood Trauma and Self-Awareness 43:52 - Creating a Different Future Through KnowingTo join our community click here.➤ To connect with Craig Siegel follow Craig on Instagram➤ Order a copy of my new book The Reinvention Formula today! ➤ Join our CLS texting community for free daily inspiration and business strategies to elevate your day, text (917) 634-3796To follow The CLS Experience and connect with Craig on Social Media:➤ INSTAGRAM➤ FACEBOOK➤ TIKTOK➤ YOUTUBE➤ WEBSITE➤ LINKEDIN➤ TWITTER
In this episode of the Wealthy Consultant Talks Podcast, hosts Taylor Welch and Mike Walker discuss the challenges of maintaining motivation and energy as an entrepreneur. They delve into the concept of burnout, its causes, and the importance of energy management over time management. The episode also covers the significance of simplifying and streamlining business processes, the cyclical nature of markets and industries, and the need for the right tools and support systems. The hosts share personal experiences, insights on scheduling for productivity, and how to align business growth with personal well-being. Additionally, they touch on books they are currently reading and the value of having a supportive peer group.Enjoy the episode and check the links below for more info & ResourcesGet an inside look at how to get involved with The Wealthy Consultanthttps://wealthyconsultant.com/Our Monthly Printed Memos - Free Trialhttps://consultingmemo.com/optin-568134011666363883437See our Portfolio of Brands https://welchequities.com/OVERVIEW: (00:00) Introduction (01:15) Upcoming Sales Event in Miami(02:21) Discussing Market Trends and Burnout(03:25) Navigating Economic and Industry Cycles(05:53) Importance of Energy Management(09:17) Maintaining Business Health(12:57) The Role of Peer Support and Mindset(13:54) Handling Burnout and Productivity Tips(17:41) Personalized Productivity and Self-Judgment(19:14) Implementing Lag Days for Better Energy Management(20:03) Current Reading List(26:00) Exploring Virtues, Values, and Behavioral Profiles(32:10) Rebuilding Motivation and Love for Learning(33:03) Final Thoughts and Encouragement
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Does your mind feel like a constant sea of judgment? Do thoughts popcorn day and night about how you're flawed or how someone else has it all wrong? You're not alone. Those kind of thoughts are common, but they can also be pretty destructive. There's clear evidence that the more we sit in judgment, the higher our risk for depression and anxiety. We'll dig into all this, including some exploration of the concept of aversion in relation to judgment and how it manifests inside our body and out. Most important, we'll dig into self-compassion as a powerful antidote to judgment and provide practices to shift towards acceptance and less judgment. Joy Lab and Natural Mental Health are community-supported. When you buy through the links below, we may earn a commission. That support helps keep the Joy Lab podcast free for all! Sources and Notes: Joy Lab Program: Take the next leap in your wellbeing journey with step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life. Your Joy Lab membership also includes our NMH Community! NMH Community: Gain access to lots of extra resilience-boosting resources AND join a group of inspiring folks who play an integral role in keeping this podcast going. Related episodes to check out: Feel Hopeless? Hope's Out There (and in you too) (ep. 146) Accept Yourself Just As You Are & Then You Can Change (ep. 150) Self-Compassion: You Are Not Alone (ep. 86) Self-Compassion: Self-Kindness vs Self-Judgment (ep. 85) Self-Compassion: Don't Believe Everything You Think About Yourself (ep.84) Backdraft: When Being Good to Yourself Feels Bad (ep.29) You're Wired for Compassion (ep. 7) Where to shop: Our partner store, Fullscript: Here you can find high-quality supplements and wellness products. Except for our CBD Gummies, any product links mentioned in the show notes will require an account. Sign up for free. Resilient Remedies: Shop our line of trusted, high-quality CBD gummies. Subscribe to our Newsletter: Join us over at NaturalMentalHealth.com for exclusive emails, updates, and additional strategies. Check out our favorite resilience-boosting reads at Bookshop.org. Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.
In episode 650 of The Half Size Me™ Show, Heather talks with Kristen about managing her negative thoughts about treats, plus they chat about -- how to stop judging yourself -- why you should give yourself permission to enjoy -- how to handle nighttime snacking -- and more! Support Half Size Me Show's mission and help us stay free of third-party ads! As a subscriber to Half Size Me Podcast Premium, you will get: --Access to the entire 600+ episode archive --Access weekly episodes a day EARLY --Access to EXCLUSIVE, subscriber-only episodes including the Coaching Karolina and Coaching Sarah series --Access to subscriber-only audio responses to “Ask Me Anything” questions Become a podcast premium subscriber today and make Heather and the Half Size Me show a part of your weight loss journey! Do you want to get support and connection at a price you can afford? Then check out the Half Size Me Academy here: https://www.halfsizeme.com/hsm-academy/ About Half Size Me The Half Size Me™ Show is a weekly podcast. It will inspire and motivate you no matter where you are in your weight loss journey. Whether you're just getting started losing weight or having worked on your health and wellness for years, this show is for you! The Half Size Me Show is hosted by Heather Robertson, who lost 170 pounds over a period of 5 years and has maintained since 2012. Heather did it by learning new eating habits, getting regular exercise, and changing her mindset. On her popular weekly podcast, The Half Size Me Show, Heather shares her own lessons and struggles with you, and she shows you how to handle the real challenge of any weight loss journey... weight maintenance. Be sure to subscribe to The Half Size Me Show and join Heather every week as she shares information, inspiration, coaching, and conversations with REAL people who've learned weight loss isn't only about losing pounds, it's about finding yourself. Disclaimer: Heather is not a doctor, nurse, or certified health professional. What worked for her or her guests may not work for you. Please talk with your doctor, dietician, or other certified health professionals when seeking advice about your own weight loss or weight maintenance plan. All information included in The Half Size Me™ Podcast and on HalfSizeMe.com is for informational and inspirational purposes only. For additional disclaimer information, please visit HalfSizeMe.com.
Are you feeling stuck in patterns of self-doubt and fear, unsure of how to break free and heal? Join Brandy as she explores the intricate web of subconscious patterns that often keep us feeling trapped and unwell. As Brandy works with our beautiful volunteer, Noelle, Brandy uncovers how interconnected patterns like feeling not good enough and fear of being hurt can complicate the healing process. This episode offers profound insights into changing one's relationship with emotions and expectations to transform health issues. Learn how recognizing underlying reasons for feeling stuck and addressing them can lead to real, lasting healing. Brandy's compassionate guidance provides practical steps and encourages listeners to embrace deep transformation, envisioning and committing to positive changes in relationships and life. Additional links and resources: Website: https://brandygillmore.com Free Self-Healing Training: https://brandygillmore.com/healing Facebook: https://facebook.com/brandy.gillmore/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brandygillmore/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/BrandyGillmore TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5dEbqRYqY_0
Join Levi and Andrew as they dive into an insightful conversation right before filming an episode of "Being Yoga" about the power of letting go and embracing uncertainty. They discuss the value of showing up authentically without rigid plans, exploring how spontaneity can lead to deeper connections and greater personal growth. Reflecting on experiences from yoga classes to live performances, they uncover the beauty of sensitivity and the courage it takes to trust ourselves in the moment. Perfect for anyone seeking to balance structure with flexibility, this episode offers practical wisdom on living fully present and embracing life's natural flow. 00:00:00 Introduction and Overview 00:00:35 Discussing the Nature of Showing Up 00:02:15 The Lightness of Being Present 00:04:01 Reflections on Structured vs. Unstructured Approaches 00:05:36 The Role of Sensitivity in Personal Growth 00:08:11 Relearning Sensitivity and Trusting the Process 00:10:39 Embracing Uncertainty in Yoga and Beyond 00:12:26 Real-Life Examples of Unexpected Outcomes 00:15:27 Self-Judgment and External Validation 00:18:12 Authenticity and Breaking Free from Narratives 00:21:07 The Impact of Our Assumptions on Experiences 00:23:55 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Send us a Text Message.Welcome to another episode on the MoneyfitMD Podcast.In today's episode, I'm sharing a powerful exercise that can help you move from self-judgment to empowered action, especially regarding your finances.After coaching hundreds of women physicians, I've discovered that self-judgment is a common barrier to financial success and freedom. Today, we'll tackle how to break free from this destructive cycle and instead cultivate a mindset that fuels growth and abundance.In this episode, we'll discuss:The impact of self-judgment on our financial decisions and overall well-being.A simple yet effective exercise that takes just 2 minutes to help shift your mindset.My experiences with overcoming fear and self-doubt, including my journey with the fear of flying.Practical tips to replace self-judgment with gratitude and forward-thinking.You'll also hear real-life examples of how this exercise has transformed lives and learn how to implement it in your daily routine. Plus, I share some exciting news about our community and how you can get involved!Don't miss this opportunity to transform your mindset and take control of your financial future.Text "Free" to +1 (717) 973-8883 to schedule your complimentary personalized Financial Freedom Diagnostic session EXCLUSIVE for women physicians (MD/DO/MBBS/DMD only)Click Here to Secure Your Spot for the 2025 Wealthy You In-Person Gathering.It's time to finally take action on your financial goals. Join other women physicians who are choosing an uncommon life of financial and life freedom by registering for the 5-DAY Money Moves Challenge for women physicians. Register HereReady to explore the transformative power of sabbaticals?Download the free Sabbatical Guide at Moneyfitmd.com/Sabbatical and embark on a journey to financial freedom and personal growth. Share the link with your fellow physicians and join the movement to normalize taking pauses for a healthier and more fulfilling life.If you are a Hardworking, Busy Woman physician who wants to get good at money without wasting more time sifting through the internet. This is for you. https://www.moneyfitmd.com/guideWe are social:Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/MoneyfitMD/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moneyfitmd/Youtube: youtube.com/@moneyfitmd
Recover Your Soul: A Spiritual Path to a Happy and Healthy Life
Send Rev Rachel a Text Message!!!! What do you love and what would you like to hear more about?Ever wondered how to transform that relentless inner critic into a source of strength and empowerment? In this episode, Rev Rachel shares personal stories and practical Soul Recovery tools to help you turn those harsh self-judgments into a powerful voice of courage. Through reflections on personal experiences with self-criticism, we explore the essential role of compassion, tenderness, and grace in our journey towards self-love and healing. By prioritizing our own well-being and recognizing our inherent wholeness, we can better navigate external pressures and stresses and live from our Higher Self.For more information about Rev. Rachel Harrison and Recover Your Soul- visit the website www.recoveryoursoul.net use the code TRYASESSION for 40% off your first Spiritual Coaching session when you book on the website. Visit the website for all events and groups to get involved in Soul Recovery and the community.Soul Recovery Support Group on Zoom -The 1st Monday of the Month, 6PM Mountain Time. This is a drop in support group where we can come together to explore, connect and support each other on our Soul Recovery journey. Visit the website to register and receive the meeting invite. Free to attend and donations appreciated.Join others on the Soul Recovery journey on Monday July 1st from 6-7PM on Zoom for the FREE Soul Recovery Support Group. This month we will be talking about 'Criticism and Judgement.' I will give a brief talk, open for questions and then we will break into small groups. Register on the website, or if you have already registered- be on the look out the day of the meeting in your inbox for a reminder email. This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not allied or representative of any organizations or religions, but is based on the opinions and experience of Rev. Rachel Harrison. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein. Take what you need and leave the rest.Support the Show. Make a one time donation to support the Recover Your Soul Podcast on the home page or become a monthly supporter from $3 to $10, follow us on Instagram, Insight Timer, TikTok, YouTube and Facebook and join the private Facebook group to be part of the RYS community. Support this podcast and have access to bonus content by becoming a Patreon Member or subscribing on Apple Podcasts and have access to an EXTRA episode each Friday. Episode Transcripts found here https://recoveryoursoul.buzzsprout.com
Join us as we dive deep into the transformative power of self-awareness and honesty. This episode explores the nuanced experiences of micro-dosing psychedelics, the raw truths unveiled at our Denver mini-retreat, and the profound impact of embracing discomfort and vulnerability. We discuss the sobering yet liberating realizations about our insecurities, fears, and the illusions of control we cling to. Discover how facing these truths head-on can lead to genuine growth and freedom. Whether you're new to our community or a long-time listener, this episode offers valuable insights into the journey of self-discovery and the power of collective support. Embrace the journey, challenge your perceptions, and step into a new phase of self-awareness and freedom. [00:00:01] Introduction and reflection on the Denver mini-retreat and its transformative impact. [00:00:37] Discussion on the effects of micro-dosing psychedelics and the introspective journey it entails. [00:01:09] Insights on the importance of self-awareness and recognizing underlying insecurities and fears. [00:02:04] Mention of the end of the first run of retreats and plans for future events. [00:03:32] Gratitude to listeners and participants, reflection on the business aspect of Dualistic Unity. [00:04:42] Further reflections on recent retreats and their sobering impact. [00:05:57] Discussion on the layers of self-perception and the influence of psychedelics. [00:07:15] Insights on dealing with insecurities and fears, and the process of self-honesty. [00:09:37] Reflections on the ego conversation and the complexities of self-judgment. [00:13:11] Addressing audience feedback and the value of the retreats in fostering vulnerability. [00:19:25] Personal anecdotes and the importance of pushing through discomfort and fear. [00:22:26] Discussion on judgment, insecurity, and the importance of authenticity. [00:26:39] Reflections on taking first steps and the concept of beginner's luck. [00:31:16] Discussion on the value of unfamiliar environments for personal growth. [00:34:57] Insights on mastery, patience, and the process of learning. [00:41:36] Conclusion and a thank you to listeners, upcoming retreats, and season one recommendations.
Feeling weighed down by self-judgement? It's time to lighten the load! Get comfy and press play on this soothing meditation that will help you shed those negative thoughts. Learn to discern between having healthy standards for yourself and needless meanness. LINKS Follow @novapodcastsofficial on Instagram CREDITS Host: Casey Donovan @caseydonovan88 Writer: Amy Molloy @amymolloy Producer: Adair SheppardEditor: Adrian Walton Listen to more great podcasts at novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode, Sam shares different ways to overcome the challenges of comparison and self judgment. We are reminded that these feelings are normal and all part of the journey. Topics include: -The Temecula Retreat -Overcoming Comparison and Self Judgment -Moving Through Emotions and Returning Back to Love Join our 2024 Temecula Retreat July 18-21! See more info HERE or DM Sam on Instagram. Let's connect on IG: @samanthajoharvey @fullout_podcast Grab Sam's free POWER PORTAL GUIDEBOOK with 7 days of actionable steps to come home to you and unlock your next level. Meet CLUB FULL OUT: The Membership your one stop shop for all things FULL OUT. Your membership includes:
In this episode of the Wellness Diaries podcast, I chat with my client Sam, who candidly discusses her struggle with gym resistance and her fitness journey. Sam opens up about her resistance to the gym, her past experiences with physical activity, and the challenge of maintaining a consistent workout routine. I offer empathy and practical advice, suggesting breaking down gym visits into smaller steps and exploring the underlying reasons for Sam's resistance. We touch on the dangers of comparing oneself to others, especially celebrities, and the importance of setting personal benchmarks for success. Sam reflects on the need for self-compassion and the process of redefining her measures of success, moving away from rigid goals like step counts to more meaningful personal victories. The conversation highlights the importance of mindset, community support, and embracing one's unique journey in fitness and wellness. TIME STAMPS Sam's history with physical activity (00:00:48) Sam shares her history with physical activity, including her struggles with gym resistance and past experiences with exercise. Overcoming avoidance to the gym (00:02:09) Sam discusses her avoidance of the gym, her past experiences with working out, and her struggles with feeling overwhelmed by the gym environment. Challenges with gym resistance (00:06:12) Sam talks about her recent efforts to overcome her resistance to working out, including her progress with walking and attending an exercise class. Understanding resistance and taking small steps (00:07:18) Ashleigh discusses the reasons behind resistance to the gym and the importance of taking small steps to make the process feel more manageable. Dealing with self-comparison and mindset shifts (00:14:33) Sam and Ashleigh discuss the challenges of self-comparison in relation to past fitness levels and the importance of mindset shifts in accepting changes in fitness priorities. Being understanding and compassionate with oneself (00:17:27) Ashleigh emphasizes the importance of being understanding and compassionate with oneself, especially when fitness priorities and capabilities change over time. Embarking on a Journey of Self-Discovery (00:19:36) Sam discusses her experiences and challenges with self-acceptance and comparison to others. Reframing Success and Self-Compassion (00:20:37) Sam reflects on the impact of comparing herself to others, particularly in terms of fitness and weight loss, and the need for self-compassion. Defining Personal Measures of Success (00:22:20) Sam explores the evolving definition of success and the challenge of transitioning to a more nuanced understanding of personal achievements. Exploring Personal Values (00:26:39) Ashleigh and Sam discuss the importance of identifying and aligning with personal values, and how they impact decision-making. Recognizing the Impact of Values on Behavior (00:33:37) Ashleigh and Sam delve into the influence of personal values on behavior, particularly in relation to health and fitness goals. Navigating Shame and Self-Judgment (00:36:22) Sam addresses feelings of embarrassment and shame related to her experiences at the gym, and the impact of external judgment on her mindset. The importance of not letting others' opinions control us (00:39:24) Discussion on the significance of not allowing others' thoughts to dictate our actions and the potential assumptions we make about others' opinions. Mindset and self-awareness in overcoming resistance (00:40:31) Sam reflects on her mindset and self-awareness in overcoming resistance, acknowledging the importance of being aware of assumptions and projecting onto oneself. Reflecting on past experiences and building awareness (00:41:49) Sam discusses how past experiences and awareness have influenced her current mindset and approach to fitness, emphasizing the importance of being mindful of oneself. Accountability and finding enjoyment in fitness (00:43:04) The role of accountability in maintaining consistency in fitness, finding enjoyment in different workout settings, and the significance of aligning activities with personal values. Encouragement for struggling with gym routine (00:45:31) Sam offers words of encouragement for those struggling with getting back into the gym, emphasizing the importance of relationships and finding activities aligned with personal interests. Exploring varied physical activities and reducing judgment (00:46:57) Discussion on the value of exploring diverse physical activities, reducing judgment, and the significance of trying new activities without fear of commitment. Overcoming barriers and finding enjoyment in fitness (00:48:09) Exploration of individual barriers to fitness, the impact of online subscriptions, and the importance of finding enjoyment in fitness activities. Building new neural pathways and patience with self (00:52:20) Discussion on building new neural pathways for fitness routines, the patience required in the process, and the importance of being kind to oneself. Values and objectivity in behavior (00:54:10) The role of values in coaching, promoting objectivity in behavior, and the significance of understanding personal values in shaping fitness habits. Building new habits and reflecting on progress (00:56:30) Reflection on building new habits, such as eating breakfast, and the excitement for future progress in building new gym habits. 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Dive into an eye-opening conversation that challenges the very core of your identity and beliefs. In this episode, we tackle the illusion of control and the fabricated stories we tell ourselves. From exploring the spectrum of human sexuality beyond binary labels to confronting deep-seated fears and misconceptions about self-worth, we unravel the mental constructs that keep us trapped in a cycle of self-judgment and suffering. We discuss the often overlooked simplicity of being present and the power of breathing to anchor ourselves in reality. Join us as we dissect the myths around self-perception, societal expectations, and the pursuit of enlightenment. This episode is not just about self-discovery; it's about shedding the weight of unnecessary mental burdens and embracing the liberating truth that there is no path, no journey, just the present moment. Ready to break free from the confines of your mind and experience life unfiltered? Tune in now to redefine your understanding of self and reality. [00:00:01] - Introduction and Initial Meditation Practice [00:03:17] - Personal Reflections and Letting Go of Self-Perception [00:06:01] - The Emotional Roller Coaster of Self-Judgment [00:09:23] - Exploring Fears Related to Sexual Identity [00:14:14] - Human Sexuality Beyond Labels [00:19:20] - Gender as a Spectrum [00:23:32] - Overcoming Insecurities About Physical Appearance [00:32:38] - The Cycle of Self-Identification and Suffering [00:41:13] - Heaven on Earth Through Present Awareness [00:50:44] - The Futility of Defining Self by Preferences [01:01:57] - Encouragement to Attend the Retreat and Invest in Uncertainty [01:04:59] - Rethinking the Purpose of Retreats [01:11:30] - The Need for Control and the Illusion of Self [01:15:26] - Conclusion and Upcoming Events
It's Not About You - Trauma, PTSD, Abuse & Recovery - Joe Ryan
- Website: https://joeryan.com - Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeryan - Coaching: https://joeryan.com/coaching/ - Subscribe To All Episodes https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ If you grew up in a family system that was shame-based, you may feel weighed down by shame. Shame shields us from pain and neglect, but it's also a burden. Shame-based family systems are harsh and judgmental. As a child, you were exposed to criticism and verbal attacks because people didn't do things the way your family did. When you're shame-based, you need to surround yourself with people who share your views. This can cause you to judge yourself harshly. Shame wants to stay hidden. We fear being judged, so we try to be perfect. Perfectionism often stems from shame. We feel like we're being scrutinized, like a celebrity without the fame. We are usually our harshest critics. As children, we internalize the negative feedback we hear and try to fit into a box that doesn't feel right. We may develop self-hatred for not being like everyone else in our family. We try to conform to an ideal painted for us instead of living our own lives. Some people live their entire lives not realizing they're living a lie. They've bought into the system and think they're defective, broken, or unhappy. But the truth is, being authentic is more important than fitting into someone else's mold.
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If you've ever wondered how self-perception can influence your journey to personal success, this conversation on the HIListically Speaking Podcast with guest Dr. John Demartini is for you. A world-renowned luminary in human behavior and emotional intelligence, Dr. Demartini will have you asking yourself, “How do I elevate my self-awareness?” But also inspire authentic living through balance and embracing both the inner hero and the bully within. Dr. Demartini shares his trauma-to-triumph stories that will leave you in awe. Including two powerful lessons he learned as a high school dropout from one of the world's most successful entrepreneurs of his time, to the words he lives by that have been the blueprint for humanity, wisdom, and love. CHAPTERS/KEY MOMENTS 0:00 Intro 0:10 Human Potential Through Emotional Intelligence 03:38 Imposter Syndrome, the Ego for Authenticity 07:17 Self-Judgment and Behavior 16:08 Lesson in Wisdom and Courage 21:54 Creating Original Ideas for Humanity 29:09 Free Masterclasses with Dr. Demartini 31:00 Essentials of Emotional Intelligence Book 32:50 Unlocking Your Inner Genius 38:47 Self-Talk for Success 42:48 Authenticity and Self-Acceptance 46:25 The Power of Gratitude and Love 56:28 Life's Balance and Self-Confidence CONNECT WITH DR. DEMARTINI https://drdemartini.com/ or @drjohndemartini Essentials of Emotional Intelligence Book (available on Amazon May 2024 CONNECT WITH HILARY https://www.instagram.com/hilaryrusso https://www.youtube.com/hilaryrusso https://www.facebook.com/hilisticallyspeaking https://www.tiktok.com/@hilisticallyspeaking https://www.hilaryrusso.com/podcast Music by Lipbone Redding https://lipbone.com/ Never miss an episode or info on upcoming workshops and events. Subscribe to the Brain Candy Newsletter. EPISODE TRANSCRIPT (Full Transcript https://www.hilaryrusso.com/podcast) 00:00 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) Every symptom in our physiology, every symptom in our psychology, every symptom in our sociological connections, in our relationships, even in our business transactions. Our feedback mechanisms trying to get us back to authenticity, where we have equanimity within ourselves and equity between ourselves and others, so we can create a transaction that has a sustainable, fair exchange, where we maximize our potential. So we understand that, no matter what's going on, it's on the way for that objective, not in the way. 00:30 - Hilary Russo (Host) Am I unlocking my greatest human potential? Think about that question just for a moment, because that's where we're going today. Sit with it for a moment and then think about that, because you're about to meet somebody who can challenge you with that question and help you find the answer. He is not your typical expert. He has a unique blend of wisdom and wit and insight, and he's dedicated his life to unraveling the mysteries of human behavior and helping people, including himself, discover that human potential. Thank you so much for joining us here. As I mentioned, you are a world leading human behavior specialist. You're a philosopher and international speaker, multi bestselling author and founder of the Demartini Method, which is a revolutionary tool in modern psychology, and it is just such a pleasure and a joy to have you here to share more about what you do and how you hold space in this world. So thank you. 01:32 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) Thank you. What a great intro. Thank you. 01:35 - Hilary Russo (Host) Well, I've been really tapping into everything you're sharing and you talk a lot about, most recently the emotional intelligence side of things with your most recent book, and I want to touch on that because you really have made such a significant difference in how people are truly transforming their own lives. So let's go there first. What is making this book, this most recent book, the Essentials of Emotional Intelligence, different from all these other amazing pieces of literature you've written in the past? 02:28 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) not always appreciate themselves, not love themselves, because of the emotional vicissitudes and volatilities that they allow themselves to participate in. I'll give an example. You see somebody walking down the street. You meet them and you think, wow, they're more intelligent than me, or maybe they're more achieving, successful than me, or maybe wealthier, or maybe they're more, have a stable relationship, or maybe they're more of a leader or more they're physically fit or more inspired. 02:59 And then you put them a bit on a pedestal because you're conscious of the upsides and blind and subjectively biased and unconscious of the downsides. And then you beat yourself up and minimize yourself and then you're not honoring your magnificence Because you're comparing yourself to others instead of comparing your daily actions to your own values. Or you might meet somebody and you look down on them and think I'm superior to them, I'm too proud to admit what I see in them, inside me, and you'll now put them down intellectually or in business or finance or family or social or physical or spiritual. And then you now put them in the pit and exaggerate yourself. Anytime we put some in a pedestal and minimize ourselves or put people in a pit and exaggerate ourselves, we're not being ourselves. We've got an imposter syndrome. We've got a facade, a persona, a mask that we're wearing the superiority complex, the inferiority complex, the puffed up, the beat up. 04:03 - Hilary Russo (Host) And as long as we do that, we're in a state of becoming, not our authentic state of being. I love that you touch on that state of the becoming versus the being, because a lot of times I'll say are you being, are you in a state of being or a state of doing? But using the word becoming is is something that is really resonating with me. And going back to the idea of the imposter syndrome, I think we're hearing a lot more about that now and I imagine that's because we live in this global village where everything is right at the touch of our fingertips, you know. So we're infiltrated with so much information and comparison game that it could be very detrimental, whether you're a child or an adult. 04:40 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) Well, we're not here to compare ourselves to others. We're here to compare our own daily actions to what's most meaningful to us, and how congruent are we with what's really priority? But the second we put people on pedestals or pits, we distorted our views, subjectively, of them and we simultaneously created the symptoms in ourselves to let us know that simultaneously created the symptoms in ourselves to let us know that All of the physiological symptoms that we generate genetically, epigenetically or autonomically are feedback mechanisms to guide us back to authenticity. And when we puff ourselves up, we tend to activate our narcissistic side, because we feel superior and we tend to project our values and expect others to live in our values, which creates futility to humble us. Period, we tend to project our values and expect others to live in our values, which creates futility to humble us. And anytime we minimize ourselves and exaggerate them, we tend to go into our altruistic persona and we try to sacrifice for them, which is futile because we can't sustain it. So both of those are feedback mechanisms that are futility, that allow us to go back to who we are. 05:42 Every symptom in our physiology, every symptom in our psychology, every symptom in our sociological connections, in our relationships, even in our business transactions, our feedback mechanisms, trying to get us back to authenticity, where we have equanimity within ourselves and equity between ourselves and others, so we can create a transaction that has a sustainable, fair exchange, where we maximize our potential. So we understand that, no matter what's going on, it's on the way for that objective, not in the way, and we transcend our fantasies of our amygdala of avoiding pain and seeking pleasure and only going to one-sided realities. As the Buddha says, the desire for that which is unobtainable and the desire to avoid that which is unavoidable is a source of human suffering. But when we finally realize that there's a balance of life and there's nothing to get rid of in yourself and there's nothing to try to go and find in yourself, it's already present and you embrace it in yourself and not compare it to somebody else, because you won't honor it in yourself when you're comparing what you think it needs to be in you with somebody else, what? 06:43 - Hilary Russo (Host) you think it needs to be in you with somebody else, For those out there that are hearing you and want so desperately I don't even want to say desperately, but are really open to the possibility of the neuroplasticity of the brain right, being able to really truly change your thoughts, change your life, kind of thing. How are there easy steps to go about that approach? If they're stuck in the imposter syndrome, if they are on the pedestal or the pit, there must be a simple step to take first. 07:17 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) Yes, well, I've been fascinated by this, for I've been teaching 51 years, so I've been doing it a bit. And you know, there's a statement in Romans 2.1 of the New Testament not that that is the ultimate source by any means, it's just a source but it says that beware of judging other people, for whatever you see in them, you do the same thing. So I was 40-something years ago. I found myself when I was saying something about other people. I found myself talking to myself Whatever I was saying to them and being adamant about. I was thinking I'm really talking to myself, trying to convince myself of what I'm saying to them. Isn't it interesting. So, instead of waiting for people to push my buttons, I decided to go to the Oxford English Dictionary and underline every possible human behavioral trait that could be found. Now Gordon Halport did the same thing years earlier. I didn't know about that at the time, but he must have been as neurotic as I was, because I went through every one and underlined every one of them. 08:19 In the book I found 4,628 character traits of human beings. Then what I did is I put an initial of the individual out to the side of the margin of the dictionary. Who is it that I know that displays this trait to the furthest degree. So if I saw somebody that was generous, who is the most generous? If I saw somebody that was inconsiderate, who is the most inconsiderate In my perception? These are my distortions, but I put the names out there. Once I put the name next to each of those, I then asked myself John, go to a moment where and when you perceive yourself displaying or demonstrating this particular trait. And I had to be honest with myself because I knew that I did because you only react to things on the outside that represent parts of yourself you haven't loved. So if you're resentful to somebody, they're reminding you that you're too proud to admit you've done it. They're reminding you of something you're feeling ashamed of and they're bringing it out. The reason you want to avoid them is because you don't want to dissociate away from what you're judging in yourself. So I went through there and I found every one of those traits inside myself to the same degree, quantitatively and qualitatively, as I saw in them. And I didn't stop until I saw it which was waking up intuition and unconscious information about me and took out the subjective bias and allowed me to see myself objectively and I realized I was hero and villain, and saint and sinner, and I had every one of those traits. I had all pairs of opposites. 09:53 Heraclitus, 5th century BC, said there's a unity of opposites in all of us. And it was Wilhelm Watt, in the 1895 Father Experimental Psychology, that said that there's a simultaneous contrast in all people. When they become aware of it, they're fully self-actualized. So nothing's missing At the level of the soul, nothing's missing At the level of the senses. Things appear to be missing. The things that appear to be missing are the things you're too proud or too humble to admit that you see in others, inside yourself, and pure, reflective awareness, which allows true loving intimacy, allows you to realize that whatever you see is you. So the first thing to help you transcend the vicissitudes and the volatilities of the incomplete awareness is to take the time to go and look at where you do the same thing. That's just one of many steps, and when I did that I found all 4,628 traits. I sat and I documented where I had them all. So that means that no matter what anybody said about me, it was true, but maybe not in the context they were projecting, but I owned it and I found out that any trait you don't own is a trait that people push your buttons with, but when you own it, you go. 11:08 Yes, sometimes I'm this way, sometimes I'm that If I walked up to somebody and I said you're always nice, you're never mean, you're always kind, you're never cruel, you're always positive, never negative, they would go. Not exactly, their intuition would point out the times when they've been the other and they'd immediately be thinking about the time when they're the opposite of that. If I said you're always mean, you're never nice, you're always cruel, you're never kind, always stingy, never generous, they'd go. No, that's not true either. But if I said sometimes you're nice, sometimes you're mean, sometimes you're kind, sometimes you're cruel, they'd go. That's me, because we know innately, with certainty, that we have a unity of pairs of opposites and when you can embrace both sides of those and don't try to get rid of half of yourself, you finally can love yourself. But the futility of trying to get rid of half of yourself is going to undermine it. 11:52 So the first step in transcending, because anything you infatuate with or resent occupies space and time in your mind and runs your life, and you can't even sleep at night when you're highly infatuated or resentful, because your mind is intruded by these incomplete awarenesses and it's creating symptoms to let you know you're not loving and not whole. You're playing part in the posture and your symptoms are giving you feedback to let you know that to help you. So when I went through and I owned all those traits, I noticed that there was more poise, more presence, more productivity. Noticed that there was more poise, more presence, more productivity, more able to be prioritized and not influenced by other people's opinions, and able to. You know, I'd rather have the whole world against me than my own soul. I was able to listen to my soul, the state of unconditional love, not the imposter syndrome, because if you put people in pedestals you'll minimize. If you put people in pitch, you can exaggerate, and those are becoming, instead of being so you get to be being when you own all your traits. So that's the first little step. 13:05 1947, he said it's not that we don't know so much, we know so much. That isn't so. We've been taught moral hypocrisies. Alistair McIntyre, in his book on the history of ethics, shows that we've been given a bunch of ideals that nobody lives by, but everybody thinks they're supposed to, and then they beat themselves up and because they do. They brain offload decisions to outer authorities, and the outer authorities set up the moral hypocrisies for ability to control people as a strategy. So I realized that it's not that we don't know so much. We know so much. That isn't so. So it's time to confront the fantasies and idealisms and the unrealistic expectations and to look at things in a broader perspective. In a broad mind, it's neither positive or negative. In a narrow mind, it's neither positive or negative. In a narrow mind, it's either positive or negative. 13:48 So I started to go and ask the trait that I listed on the encyclopedia did I interpret it as a positive trait or a negative trait? And if I interpret it as a positive trait, I then asked what are the downsides of the trait? Until I found enough drawbacks to see both sides? And if I saw it as a negative trait, what are the upsides to it? Until I saw both sides? Because I realized that you may infatuate with a guy. You may meet this guy. He's highly intelligent, ooh. He's an aphrodisiac. He turns me on, he's so intelligent, ooh. But then you go. But he's argumentative, he thinks he's right, he knows it all, he doesn't want to listen, he wants to always win in a fight of argument. And then you go oh, there's downsides to that. 14:27 But because I was infatuated and fantasizing about how good it was, I was blind, I minimized myself, I sacrificed to get with this guy. I feared his loss and I disempowered myself until I saw both sides. And when I saw both sides, he didn't control me. I gave myself power, my power back. In the process of doing it, I went through the 4,628 traits and looked for the upsides to what I thought was down, the down to what was up, until I saw that it was neither positive nor negative. And then I transcended the moral hypocrisies that I'd been indoctrinated by, which was the dogma, and I got to see that there was nothing but love. All else was illusion, because love is the synthesis and synchronicity of complementary opposites, which is the state of being, which is our spiritual path, as Hagel says oh, fascinating. 15:18 - Hilary Russo (Host) I love this conversation so much. I'm just sitting here and I'm thinking with such wisdom that you have, with over 50 years of studying, which everything that you're sharing here on the show in just a small period of time. I'd love to know who is your inspiration Like, who helped you come to this place, because I know you share personally that you had your own story even as a high school dropout, as someone who had his own challenges in his youth. Who truly was your inspiration to move you into the space of becoming and being? 15:58 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) Well, I don't know if there's one, there's probably 30,000. 16:03 - Hilary Russo (Host) Maybe a couple of your favorites. 16:08 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) When I was a young boy, I left home and I left home at 13. At 14, I hitchhiked from Houston, texas, to California. On that hitchhike I was confronted by three cowboys. In El Paso, texas, I had a headband, a Hawaiian shirt on, some shorts, some sandals and I had a surfboard. And I was hitchhiking to California. I got confronted by three cowboys. Cowboys and surfers didn't get along in those days, 1968. 16:39 I was walking through downtown because the freeway wasn't in those days. You had to go through the downtown and three cowboys lined up across the front of me and they were going to not let me through. They didn't like long-haired hippie kids. I didn't know what to do. I couldn't outrun them, I couldn't go in the store, I couldn't go in the street. I had to confront them and somehow a great ingenious idea came to me. I looked like a wild animal and barked like some wild wolf and dog. Okay, now that that's talking about genius. Now that was that low level genius. So I did and the guys moved aside. They moved aside and they let me through the sidewalk and I'm growling at him with my and they let me through. 17:26 As I came on the other side there was a guy on the street corner leaning on a lamppost, trying to compose himself from laughing so hard, because he just saw what I did. And he comes up behind me and he puts his arm on top of my shoulder and he said, sonny, that's the funniest dang thing I've ever seen. You took them cowpokes like a pro. Can I buy you a cup of coffee? And I said, sir, I don't drink coffee. Can I get you a Coca-Cola? And I said yes, sir. 17:53 So he took me to a little malt shop and we're swiveling on these things and I had a little Coke with this guy. He was 62 years old at the time but he seemed older, because when you're 14, that seems old. Now it seems young. I'm 70 almost. So I listened to him and he said you finished with your Coke? I said yes, sir. He said then follow me, I have something to teach you. 18:16 So he took me two blocks, another two blocks up these steps to the downtown El Paso library. We asked the lady at the information booth if she could keep my surfboard and my little duffel bag there watched while we went too library. We asked the lady at the information booth if she could keep my surfboard and my little duffel bag there, watched while we went to the library. We go down these steps, walk a ways up these little steps and sat there in front of a table and he said just sit here, young man. 18:36 He went off into the bookshelves, he came back with two big books, put them on the table and sat catty corner to me and he said, son, there's two things I want to teach you. You have to promise me that you will remember these things and never forget them. I said yes, sir. He said number one don't ever judge a book by its cover. I said yes, sir. And he says let me tell you why. 19:02 Young man, you probably think I'm some old guy on the street, some old bum, but, young man, I'm one of the wealthiest men in the world. I have everything that money can buy. I've got planes and boats and businesses and homes and companies, everything that money can buy. He says so don't ever judge a book by its cover, because he can fool you. I said yes, sir. Then he grabbed my hand and he stuck them on top of the two books, and it was Plato and Aristotle. And he said to me young man, you learn how to read. You learn how to read, boy. I said, yes, sir, and he said and here's why they can take away your possessions. People can die, but there's only two things they can never take away from you, and that is your love and your wisdom. So you gain the wisdom of love and you gain the love of wisdom, because that's something that nobody can ever take away from you and that will accumulate through your life. You promise me you'll never, forget that young man. 20:10 My cufflinks today say love and wisdom. It turned out it was Howard Hughes. 20:16 - Hilary Russo (Host) Oh wow, how many times have you told that story and had that response? That's pretty. 20:26 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) Not that many times, but oh, I feel honored. He was doing an El Paso natural gas deal with El Paso Natural Gas for a brewery he was building in Austin, Texas. This is right before he went to Las Vegas with his germaphobic outcome. 20:46 - Hilary Russo (Host) I mean, that's incredible. 20:48 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) At 17, I met a guy named Paul Bragg. He told me that he says we have a body, we have a mind and we have a soul, and the body must be directed by the mind and the mind must be guided by the soul to maximize who we are. And he says you want to set goals for yourself, your family, your community, your city, your state, your nation, your world and beyond for 100 to 120 years, because by the time you grow up you'll be living to 100 years. This is a 1972. And he said what you see, what you say, what you see, what you say, what you think, what you feel and the actions you take determine your destiny. So if you take command of your life and don't let others take command of your life, you can create a life by design, not duty, and you give yourself permission to shine, not shrink, and you can live in a sense ontologically as a state of being, instead of deontologically as a state of becoming. So he had an impact on me when I was 17. Then I made it to age 23. 21:54 I made a guy named Lakishwaram. He had six PhDs at 35 years old PhDs at 35 years old already six PhDs and I got to mentor under this guy and learn from this guy, and it was just an amazing breadth of knowledge this man had. And he asked me one day to a question. He asked a question, he answered it and then he said are you certain about your answer? And I said, well, no, is that an answer that's accurate? He says yes, it is. You know inside, trust yourself. Whenever you minimize yourself to others, you'll offload the decision and think they know better than you. Find your core competency where you have highest on your values, where you have the greatest epistemological pursuit, and honor that and stick to your core competence and then do something in your life that fulfills what's core competent and you will excel and do something great with your life. So I have had, I've been blessed to study all of the great classics, both Eastern and Western mysticism, from the Vedanta to Buddhist teachings to all the Greek philosophers. I've slayed all the Nobel Prize winners, anybody who has had any global influence that's done anything amazing I've devoured, and one thing that I'm certain about, that the originators of the various disciplines of life are the people I've learned the most from, the people who gave themselves permission to be an unborrowed visionary, and not somebody that's borrowing and copying, but somebody who is actually an originator. See, I've said since I was about 20, I create original ideas that serve humanity. I create original ideas that serve humanity. 23:38 I also said I learned something from Albert Einstein. Albert Einstein said I'm not a man of my family or my community or my city or my state or even my nation. I'm a citizen of the world. So I've since I was 18 years old I want to be a citizen of the world. Pictet has said that. 23:54 Socrates said that I could go down the list of people that understood that they didn't want to be localized, they wanted to be non-locally entangled with the universe. So I live on a ship called the world. It goes to every country around the world. I've said since I was 20 to 21 years old the universe is my playground, the world is my home. Every country is a room in the house, every city is a platform to share my heart and soul. My life is dedicated to love and wisdom and doing whatever I can to expand awareness and potential and the involvement of human consciousness, which has already evolved. It's just us waking up to it and do whatever I can to do that, and I do that seven days a week because I can't think of anything else I'd rather be doing. 24:34 - Hilary Russo (Host) Like what is the idea of true originality. 24:37 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) Well, you distill and then you integrate into oneness the information, you link it to what you value most. Aristotle had a thing he called the telos, which is the study of which is teleology was the study of meaning and purpose. When I was 23 years old, I realized I asked the question what is it that makes a difference between people that walk their talk and limp their life, people that do what they say and not? And I was fascinated by what the distinction is, and I found that people who set goals and objectives true objectives, not fantasies that are aligned and congruent with what they truly value most, what their life demonstrates is truly most important to them, they increase the probability of original thinking, and original thinking comes when you're willing to pursue challenges that inspire you. The moment you pursue challenges that inspire you, and the greatest challenge to inspire you, are the ones that serve the greatest number of people, the problems that serve the greatest number of people. You know it's interesting. Elon Musk is a good example of this. He finds what's the biggest problems on the planet and he goes and finds a way of solving them. 25:50 I have a girlfriend that I dated for a while. My wife passed away and she was at Harvard and Oxford and Cornell. She went to four major universities. A very bright lady and she went to the professor at Harvard Her name is Trish Went to the professor at Harvard and this is a time when there was still a little bit of discrepancy between males and females right, it's starting to get a little bit more even but at the time it was still polarized. And she said I want to be able to create a massive business. And he said well, if you do, you need to find the biggest challenge that the society is facing and find a more efficient solution. She said, okay. 26:35 So she went back to her country, which was South Africa, and she saw that the energy crisis was the biggest one, because ESCOM in South Africa was constantly rationing energy and had a bit of corruption and it wasn't really serving the people to the fullest. So she says I'm going to find a solution to the energy crisis. When she did, she concluded that nuclear was probably the most efficient probably the most efficient. So she, as an individual, raised the funds and borrowed the money to build a private nuclear power plant. Now no one can say that she's the only one that I know in the world that's pulled that off. Most of these are governments that do so. She ended up building a nuclear power plant, selling it back to the government and doing quite well. Now her husband at the time disowned her and divorced her because he didn't want to have the debt, because this is billions. 27:28 So she took on the risk to solve the problems at the time. When she solved that, she said what's the next issue in the country? Transportation. People are walking everywhere. They can't afford transportation. So she decided to build commuter trains. 27:45 But the other thing was unemployment and uneducation. So what she did is she did an aerial view of South Africa. She looked at all the problems where the most poverty was, where jobs were needed and these kind of things. She looked at where the rail was and she rerouted rails into the areas that had the most poverty. She set up educational systems to educate them for engineering and hired these people to build trains and commuter trains and put thousands of people to work and created a computer train manufacturing system in three major locations to transform the education, the economics, job opportunities which reduce crime issues and solve the problem. 28:29 So people who care about humanity, that are dedicated to finding major problems, the greater the problem they get, the more fulfillment they get in life and the more ingenious and original creative thinking comes out of them to solve it. But if you don't have a big enough problem that inspires you to solve, don't expect genius to emerge. It's there in all of us, but we sometimes want to live in our amygdala, avoiding pain and seeking pleasure and avoiding challenge and seeking ease, that we don't go after. The challenges that inspire us, that make a difference, and those are the ones that wake up the genius and creativity of original thinking. 29:09 - Hilary Russo (Host) Before we go any further, I do want to mention if you're just overwhelmed with this unbelievable conversation we're having, please know that he has been so gracious to offer a number of free masterclasses and I'm going to put those links in the listen notes of this podcast episode of HIListically Speaking so that you can pick what look. I would say, download them all, because we're talking about the law of attraction. We're talking about how to increase and deserve that level of finally getting what you want in your life. All of these free gifts, the power of your full advantage and potential. The list goes on and on. 29:42 I'm not going to run down them all. You're going to, just you're going to go to the list of notes, you're going to see what's up, what is there for you, and take your time. You know I say it all the time on this podcast Every guest I have is like a masterclass, and here you are offering additional master classes in addition to this conversation. So let me just say thank you so much, so grateful, for everything that you are sharing. It is just a wealth of information, from your own experiences and your own growth to how you are serving others in this world from that original, authentic self that you present here today. 30:22 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) so thank you for that uh, thank you for having give me the opportunity to share with people, because without the people, what good am I? 30:31 - Hilary Russo (Host) absolutely. We need each other in this world, right? So your book, the ascent the essentials of emotional intelligence, is your latest book. Where are you hoping this book will go that perhaps other books haven't, from somebody who has released what close to 50 books, if not more? 30:48 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) Yeah, I've written about 300, but there's about 50 that are paperbacks. Okay, the mission of this book was to give some practical tools on how to stabilize the emotional vicissitudes, the impulsive and instinctual seeking and avoidings that distract us from being present, and how to awaken the four brains executive center, the medial prefrontal cortex, which, according to Scientific American in the October edition of 2022, was called the seat of the self. It's a neural correlate for the seat of the self. It's not our self, but it's the neural correlate. And when we allow that to occur, when we live by priority, that blood glucose and oxygen goes into that forebrain, activates that area. That area has nerve fibers down into the amygdala, nucleus, acumens and palladium, and it uses glutamate and GABA to neutralize the impulses and instincts and dampens the volatility that distract us into the imposter syndrome, so we can be our magnificent self. 31:58 So that's why, if we don't fill our day with high priority actions that inspire us, that integrate us, our day is designed to fill up with low priority distractions that don't to create chaos in our life, to get us guided back to what is authentic. All the symptoms are trying to get us back to authenticity and a lot of people think there's something wrong with them, but actually they're misinterpreting what this feedback is offering them. Their body and mind is doing what it's designed to do to get them back to authenticity. And when you actually go back and prioritize your life, dedicate to what's highest in priority, delegate what's lowest in priority and delegate to those people that would be inspired to do what you want to delegate, so you give job opportunities and help the economy and help people fulfill their lives. You liberate yourself from the distractions of impulses and instincts and the imposter syndrome. That's what the book's for. 32:50 - Hilary Russo (Host) And is this a book that is relatively easy to read for those who might be approaching this kind of mindset, maybe taking a deep dive and making some changes in their own lives? Is this the first book that they should look at, or are there other books? 33:07 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) There's many books. Everybody when you go to the bookstore you find the one that resonates at that time and 10 weeks later you got another one. I have many books that you could go through and scan and see which ones resonate with you. But I believe that because I have an editor to help me with it, because he would, you know, bring it to where it's. I don't understand that. Clarify it, kind of thing. I think between us we've tried to make the book as understandable as we can. 33:34 But at the same time I learned many years ago I've been teaching speed learning programs and how to wake up. You know photographic memories and genius and all kinds of stuff in people for many years now. And what people do is they have a conscious self and an unconscious self, right the explicit and implicit, and most people read verbally, not visually, and they're used to phonemes and they're used to you know what they say and only reading and learning as fast as they can speak and as a result of it, anytime they go beyond that speech speed, which is two to 300 words for most people. They go. I didn't get it, but what I've learned is that it's all there in your visual system. Your thalamus filters out certain information, but it's still there. And then when you need it and the information is needed and it helps you fulfill a purpose, it comes from the unconscious up to the conscious level. So I teach people to just take in the information and don't question whether you got it, just take it in, look at it, see it, because then all of a sudden, when you're in a conversation and somebody asks you a question, where that information is needed out, it will come, but you won't need it, you won't even hear it, didn't even know, you knew it until that moment. When you do, then you realize that we're so we limit ourselves to our conscious awareness, which is a small portion of what we are capable of taking in, and then we don't honor the other part of our life that knows. And so I'm a firm believer just delivering the information and letting people trust what they learn, to trust both sides of themselves and to embrace it, because we have a capacity to learn way farther than even most people ever imagined. I mean, I'm absolutely certain I read 11,000 pages in one day and absorbed it, and people start asking questions on it and they go. 35:33 I don't think I didn't know how you could do that and I said because I didn't question it. I stopped questioning what I learned and believing that it's only what I got consciously. And then, when you asked me the question, whatever was unconscious was there for me. So a lot of people don't realize that they have a genius. There's no uniqueness. Everyone has a genius and it can be awakened and I've been working on that. The first statement that I ever got from Paul Bragg is because I told him I didn't know how to read. I didn't read until I was 18. I didn't know. I was learned and disabled and I was told I would never be able to read. He told me say every single day, say to yourself I'm a genius and I apply my wisdom. 36:17 - Hilary Russo (Host) So I did. 36:19 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) I didn't know what that even meant. I asked my mom. When I saw my mom, I said what the heck is a genius? She says people like Albert Einstein and Da Vinci. I said well then, get me everything you can about those guys. 36:28 I later learned that a genius is one who listens to their inner voice and follows their inner vision and obeys and lets the voice and vision on the inside be louder than all opinions on the outside, and then they master the path of their life. They're on their dharmic path, not their karmic wheel, and they liberate themselves from the bondage of all the infatuations, resentments, all the exaggerations of pride and shame that stop them from being authentic when they exaggerate and minimize other people through judgment. So we have a genius inside and it's spontaneously ready to come out, but we don't give it permission to come out because we're too preoccupied with what others think and how we're positioned. And there was two Nobel Prize winners that got their Nobel Prize in 2016 on the place in grid cells and in January February of 2020. 37:23 Fantastic article on that in the Scientific American showing how we socially put ourselves in pecking orders and hierarchies in society because we disown parts and if we went and we go and take the most powerful people on the planet and go find what do I admire in them, what do I dislike in them, and own them all, we reposition ourselves and we awaken the same playing field that they're playing on and I've proven that in thousands of cases. We have people that have now Grammy award-winning, people that we're just barely seeing, and we got people that are doing amazing things economically, because there's nothing missing in us and fulfillment is the realization. There's nothing missing, never was missing, but we were too busy, preoccupied with being too proud or too humble to admit what we see in others, inside us. And when we finally embrace our hero and villain in all parts of ourselves and not try to get rid of half of ourselves, we finally awaken that magnificent genius that's sitting there dormant, ready to emerge spontaneously into inspired action of creativity and origination. The second we be authentic. 38:30 - Hilary Russo (Host) It so comes back to balance Everything you're saying, like the yin, the yang. It's so balanced and I think you're opening my mind to think of things more than just like work-life balance, and I think you're opening my mind to think of things more than just like work-life balance, and it's so much more. And what you just said about the inner voice because truly this is the loudest voice in the room is our own right. And how are we speaking to ourselves? What is that inner bully doing? That's stepping up on the playground constantly. It's truly embodying the beauty that exists within each and every one of us. The genius remark you said. I would love for you to reiterate that statement, that conversation you had with your mom, because, if anything, that is something that should be up on everyone's wall, your mirror, that thing you see every day, a reminder to yourself of what follows those words. I am. I am a genius. And you said something else. Could you share that Cause? That was brilliant. 39:29 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) Well, that that that came from Paul Bragg. He gave it to me when I was 17. Well, I just turned 18. At the time he said cause? I told him I didn't know how to read, how am I going to be a teacher? I wanted to travel the world and teach. And he said and I thought that's what I saw in my dream. And he says just say to yourself every single day. I'm a genius and I apply my wisdom. Said every single day, until the cells of your body tingle with it, and so with the world. I didn't know how to read at the time. I learned how to read after I started saying that every day. 40:01 - Hilary Russo (Host) Well, I'm sure there was an inner dialogue you were having where the words on paper didn't matter as much as the words that you were telling yourself. 40:08 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) Well, the thing is, as many times many people have this internal dialogue, self-depreciation, but they don't realize that they're addicted to praise is the source of it. The addicted to fantasy is the source of it. There's a thing called a moral licensing effect and I hope everybody looks that up. And when everybody's done it without knowing it, most people have gone out and they've worked out. They went to the gym, they worked out, they really did a workout and they kind of got their abs looking good and they got their butt looking good and then all of a sudden they go. Well, I gave myself permission, I can eat more chocolate, I can eat more food and I can drink some more wine tonight. That's the licensing effect. The moment you do something you're proud of, you give yourself permission to do something you're ashamed of. Now that same truth. 40:54 This is a homeostatic mechanism. I've been studying interceptive homeostatic mechanisms in biological systems for decades and what is interesting is the second you go above equilibrium, like the temperature goes up, you create sweating to bring it back, and the second you go below and it's cold, you create shivering to bring it back. We have a built-in homeostatic interceptive feedback inside our consciousness and anytime we get a neurochemistry that's imbalanced. The pre and post-synaptic brain will automatically rebalance it and attempt to balance it. And so we create for every memory an anti-memory and we create it and we'll dissociate. If it's a traumatic memory, we'll dissociate and create a fantasy, and if it's a fantasy thing, we'll create a paranoia to get a balance, to keep the homeostasis balanced. So the second we're beating ourselves up. Most people go, oh, get rid of that, get rid of that, get rid of that. And they can't get rid of it as long as they're building themselves up with fantasies. And so the second they compare themselves to others and put people on pedestals and go, oh, I want to be like that and set up a fantasy. And then they say only these positive things about themselves. They automatically have to self-depreciate to counterbalance it. So a balanced orientation you don't have that polarity, You've integrated the polarity. 42:08 So I don't try to be positive all the time, or nice all the time, or peaceful all the time. I'm a human being and I have a set of values. When I live by my highest values, I'm most objective and neutral. When I'm living by lower values, I become more volatile. That's why anybody that does something that's really high priority during the day, they're resilient and adaptable. Because they're neutral, because they don't feel the loss of things they infatuate with, they don't feel the gain of things. They resent the moment they balance themselves and bring themselves up and live by priority, they're more neutral. But if not, they're more polarized. When they get polarized and they end up fearing the loss of the things they infatuate with and fearing the gain of that, they're now distracted. 42:48 So I basically learned many years ago to ask questions. That rebalanced it and I realized that the second I got addicted to praise, criticism hurt, and the second I puffed myself up. I attract challenge, criticism, distractions. 43:06 There's a thing called depurposing and repurposing. The second, you get proud and think you're successful. You depurpose, you give yourself permission to do low priority things and the purpose of that is to get you back into authenticity because you're puffed up and then, if you go down, you go okay, now I overate. So now the next morning I'm now going to get up and jog. I haven't been jogging for weeks, but now I overate, I'm going jogging. 43:28 So you give yourself to repurpose, so you have a built-in homeostatic mechanism to guide you to authenticity. But you're constantly being taught what isn't so, as Dirac said, about how you're supposed to be one-sided. Get rid of half of yourself, Be nice, don't mean, be kind, don't be cruel, be positive, don't be negative. And so you're set up like I got to get rid of half of myself and the whole personal development journey out. There is misleading people into thinking they have to get rid of themselves to love themselves, and the truth is integrating and embracing both sides of yourself is what liberates you and makes you realize the magnificence of who you are and the contributions you're making. 44:07 - Hilary Russo (Host) Now you don't build yourself up. 44:08 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) You don't build yourself up. You don't beat yourself up. People come up to me, and sometimes in interview, and they say, dr Demartini, how did you become successful? And I go I'm not successful. And they go what it says? 44:22 I have no desire for success because my addiction to success is the very thing that creates the fear of failure. I'm a man on a mission and I see success and failure as feedback mechanisms to help me stay focused and authentic. And if I get successful, I'm proud and I do low priority things to get me back down and if I feel like I'm a failure, I go back to high priority things to get me back up. When I'm in the center, I don't even think of success or failure. I think of my mission. 44:48 And that is always a perfect blend between myself and other people, because if I'm thinking of success, I think about myself and I forgot my people, and if I think of a failure, I'm thinking about myself, I forgot my people. But when I'm in perfect balance, I'm thinking of perfect balance, reflective awareness of the people, humanity and myself. As Schopenhauer says, we become our true self to the degree that we make everyone else ourself. It's all us out there, and when we get there, we don't think of success or fair. We think of we're working as a team on the planet. And when we get there, we don't think of success or failure, we think of we're working as a team on the planet period. 45:20 - Hilary Russo (Host) Thank you so much for that. Thank you for the reminder moment of just a new piece of information for folks to ingest and think about and process and think how they can be both sides and find that center. Find that center Really, it's not even being both sides, it's becoming right. I have some work to do myself, so I really appreciate you and all that you're sharing and just becoming and being, and what I would love to do with you in this moment. I know we have a few seconds left. If you hang with me for just a few seconds, I would love to do a quick game with you and throw out some words that you've shared during this episode and see what the first word is that comes back. A little word association. I love to do with my guests. Do you have a moment? 46:22 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) Sure. 46:23 - Hilary Russo (Host) All right, great. So I'm just going to just go with. The first word that comes to mind is wisdom. Just one word, come back. 46:32 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) In my case, it's what I feel is my mission. 46:36 - Hilary Russo (Host) Mission Okay, and love Same thing Okay, and love Same thing Okay. Venous Same thing World. 46:50 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) Destined. 46:52 - Hilary Russo (Host) Emotions. 46:55 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) Feedback systems to the truth of love. 46:58 - Hilary Russo (Host) Authenticity. Being feedback systems to the truth of love, authenticity being becoming feedback systems to being you're good, I'm going to leave it with this last word, because it is my word of the year and I want to know what your word for balance would be. 47:21 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) Equanimity of both mind and body. 47:26 - Hilary Russo (Host) I want to sit with that one for a moment and I appreciate everything you're sharing, your personal story, your wisdom, your wit and everything you're putting out there into the world while you, while you sail along on the world and I hope at some point I am at a port where you are speaking in person, cause I, I would just really love to be in your personal, your space to really feel that energy, because this is, this is, I'm feeling it right here across the airwaves, that energy, because this is, this is I'm feeling it right here across the airwaves. But I have a feeling it's even more, it's even greater in to be in person with you, where are you next? 48:09 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) What's what's on? Where's the ship sailing? Next I go from here. I'm here for till tomorrow. Then I go to La Habla, Brazil, and then I'm off to Rio de Janeiro the carnival starts there, so I'm passing through there and then I quickly run over to Chennai and Mumbai to do three presentations at a Change makers conference Thousands of people will be there and then I run back down to Cape Town to do some filming and also presentations there. And then we sail up to Maputo, Mozambique, and then I quickly run to London to do presentations there. 48:46 And then I get back on a French island and my girlfriend's meeting me in the Seychelles Islands and the Maldives for a little romance Lovely. And then off to India, then Lovely, and then off to India then. And then we go to Sri Lanka and off to Indonesia and Malaysia and Cambodia and Vietnam and those areas. So we circumnavigate the planet and I get off and on, if I have to do live speaking, otherwise I do presentations. But tomorrow I'm in Japan and the next two days I'll be in Australia from the ship here. So I say the universe is my playground, the world is home. 49:22 - Hilary Russo (Host) On that note, would you have anything you would like to close and share with listeners of the HIListically Speaking podcast? 49:32 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) Yeah, can I share a story? I know I go a couple of seconds over, but I think this is. 49:38 Doctor, it is your time and I graciously accept your stories 34 years ago almost 35, I was speaking in San Francisco and I was doing a seven-day program on self-mastery and leadership and one of the ladies there asked if I could, at lunch, go over to the hospital there and meet with a particular patient. And I said, if you get me a bagel to eat on the way there and back because I have to start, I only got an hour. If you can get me there and back in an hour and give me a bagel or something to eat, I'll be glad to. We went over there and there was a. We went into this hospital room and there was a guy that was kind of leaning up in the bed and was sort of half asleep and a motion covered with sores and he was dying of AIDS. And he was didn't look like he had much farther to go. His immune deficiency is pretty collapsed. 50:38 And I sat on the edge of the bed, grabbed his hands. He didn't know who I was and I just looked at him and I said to him please repeat with me what I say no matter what I've done or not done, I'm worthy of love. No matter what I've done or not done, I'm worthy of love. No matter what I've done or not done, I'm worthy of love. And I made him say that and at first he just said the words and about five repetitions he started to cry Because he had accumulated and stored a whole lot of judgments on himself and when we judge ourselves and condemn ourselves, our immune system responds. And so I made him say that until he cried, until he literally leaned over and fell literally onto me. I'm twisted on the bed holding him now on to me. I'm twisted on the bed holding him. Now. There was a nurse there, there was another lady I don't know who, she was administration lady and there was a lady that asked me to come. We're all in tears, we're all just in a moment of grace and authenticity. When you have a tear of gratitude, you have a gamma wave in the brain, you get a moment of authenticity. It's a confirmation. In that moment. He did that and he looked up at me and he said I've never in my life ever felt that or believed or ever said that Thank you. And I said Thank you and we hugged each other and I left, went back to do my prose presentation and didn't know anything about it for a few weeks and finally I got a letter from the lady who asked me to come and a picture. Somehow the man changed his perceptions and rallied. 52:43 I really don't know the limitations of our ability to heal. I've seen things that would be considered less than probable but all I know is that this man rallied. They thought he was going to die. Didn't die Now, I don't know. Maybe he later. I'm sure somewhere down the line he did, but he didn't die in that recent weeks for sure. 53:10 So I wrote a book called Count your Blessings the Healing Power of Gratitude and Love. 53:14 I still believe that that's still one of the great healers on the planet. 53:17 When we're graced by seeing the hidden order of life and we really, truly realize that there's nothing but love, all else was illusion and we've stopped judging ourselves for just a moment and get a glimpse of our real self, that the power of our physiology to normalize and to homeostasis are stored, subconsciously stored imbalances, epigenetic lock-ins, you might say are freed. 53:45 So I just want to end on a story that, in case you've ever judged yourself, just know that no matter what you've done or not done, you're worthy of love and the only reason you're judging yourself is because you're comparing yourself to somebody else's value system Because the decisions you made was based on what you believed at that time were more advantage and disadvantage to you and yours. But if you try to compare it to somebody else, you'll think you're making mistakes, just like if you try to expect others to live in your values. You think they're making mistakes. But maybe there's no mistakes after a while and maybe it's wise to look back a different way and ask how is whatever I've experienced and whatever I've done, how is it helping me fulfill my mission in life? And don't stop until you get a tear of gratitude for whatever you've done or not done. And that is definitely liberating and empowering for any human being, regardless of the situation. It can help relationships, it can help healing, it can help your body, it can help your business. 54:43 - Hilary Russo (Host) Gratitude and love is still one of the great healers on the planet. I am so in a place of gratitude right now. So thank you, and I can only imagine that those who are tuning in are going to feel that as well. Thank you for leaving those words with people to sit with and think about and remember that we're all geniuses and we're all the gift. Thank you, dr Demartini. Appreciate it. 55:09 - Dr. John Demartini (Guest) Thank you. Thank you, thank you. 55:12 - Hilary Russo (Host) I know we have covered a lot of territory during this conversation, but the beauty is you have so many possibilities to connect with Dr Demartini and learn from him yourself, and I'm going to help you with that. I've shared a number of links in the notes of this podcast episode to his free webinars and, of course, to his latest book, essentials of Emotional Intelligence. And once you've had some time to process this, once you've had some time to listen to the show this week, I'm going to suggest that you come back and do it again, because when you give things a listen more than once, you'd be surprised what you unpack the second or the third time or even the fourth. Then, once you have a little time to sit there with it, go ahead and leave a rating or review, or just let me know what you think about this episode, this show on HIListically Speaking and how it has been serving and supporting you, because that's really what this show is about. 56:14 HIListically Speaking is edited by 2MarketMedia with music by Lipone Redding and, of course, listened to by you time and time again. So thank you so much for taking time to tune in and remember this, and you know this is my word of the year. This year. Life is about balance, and you heard Dr Demartini talk about it himself, and you, my, are already the perfect genius in your own right, so embrace that and always remember to be kind to your mind. I love you, I believe in you and I will see you next week.
Sometimes when you get injured and have to stop running, you start to lose your identity. One of the things that I notice most in runners who have gone weeks or months without running, is they are really bummed out. These runners seem really grumpy. In some cases, they don't even view themselves as a "runner" anymore...well, because they're "not running." If you want to heal and get back to running as quickly as possible this can be a real problem. How can self-judgment actually slow down your injury recovery when you have an overtraining injury as a runner? Well, that's what we're talking about today on the Doc On The Run Podcast.
In this talk Rev Lee discusses that our tendency to judge ourselves stems from external influences such as societal standards, cultural expectations, and past experiences. We internalize these messages, creating unrealistic ideals of perfection that we constantly strive to meet. If you found this content valuable, please support our mission by donating: https://app.easytithe.com/app/giving/agapespiritualcenter If you want more information like this, please order My New Book "The Power in You" on Kindle, a printed copy, or the audible version on Amazon today. https://www.amazon.com/Lee-Wolak/e/B09PF5BQNR... Follow me: Facebook: Agape Spiritual Center Instagram: leewolak Twitter: Lee_Agape TikTok: RevLeeWolak Podcast: “Agape Spiritual Center” (Weekly) Podcast: “Thoughts That Can Change Your Life” (Daily) YouTube: @RevLeeWolak Email: Info@AgapeSpiritualCenter.com Website: AgapeSpiritualCenter.com
In this solo episode, Emily Hayden discusses the 10 reasons why people might be feeling stuck in life and what to do to get unstuck. She covers a wide range of topics including the importance of being deeply honest with yourself, effective time and energy management, having a clear vision, accountability, overcoming limiting beliefs, detaching from the past, surrounding yourself with the right people, gaining perspective, letting go of comparison and judgment, and connecting with your inner divinity. Emily shares personal stories and examples to illustrate her points, such as her recent experience building a home in Mexico which gave her a profound sense of gratitude and perspective. She also touches on exciting announcements like an in-person event she's hosting called "Evolve with Emily at the Beach" (Register Here) and a giveaway for a free coaching session with previous guest Eric Uresk. Throughout the episode, Emily provides practical tips and actionable advice for overcoming each of the 10 reasons for feeling stuck. She emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, mindset shifts, making intentional choices, and tapping into your inner wisdom and spirituality to create the life you truly desire. Today's Key Points: The Importance of Being Deeply Honest With Yourself Effective Time and Energy Management Creating a Clear Vision and Purpose The Power of Accountability Overcoming Limiting Beliefs Detaching from the Past and Embracing New Opportunities Surrounding Yourself With an Uplifting Circle Gaining Perspective and Gratitude Letting Go of Comparison, Self-Judgment and Shame Connecting With Your Inner Divinity Connect with Emily Here: All links: https://stan.store/EmilyHayden Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilyhayden/ Podcast Instagram: ttps://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilypodcast Podcast Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2QNxStu5bOK9e2zp19G18w Subscribe to The Evolve With Emily Show here: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/evolve-with-emily/id1448788631 Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3v10YPs
We've all got that little voice inside our heads, right? The one that loves to dish out criticism like it's going out of style. Well, in this episode, we're talking about self-judgment and how it's sabotaging our happiness and success. We're diving deep into why we judge ourselves, the effects it has on our wellbeing, and most importantly, how to silence that inner critic. Key topics discussed include: The roots of self-judgment The human condition and insecurities Breaking the cycle of self-judgment Setting realistic goals and more Enjoy!
Neurodivergence and Friendship: The Struggle is Real I talk about the challenges and complexities of friendships for neurodivergent folks, and the changing nature of friendships, the importance of reciprocity and communication. I discuss navigating difficult conversations, recognizing and addressing needs, and setting boundaries. I talk about the tendency to feel central in someone's life, and the challenges of accepting neurodivergence in relationships. I explore the importance of self-awareness, authenticity, and honoring one's own needs in relationships. HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways · Not all friendships are meant to last forever, and it's important to recognize that friendships come and go. · Communication and reciprocity are key in maintaining healthy relationships. · Navigating difficult conversations and setting boundaries is essential for personal growth and maintaining healthy relationships. · Recognizing and honoring one's own needs is crucial in navigating relationships. · Understanding and accepting neurodivergence in relationships can be challenging but necessary for fostering understanding and connection. Other Insights: Insights on building relationships based on emotional intelligence. Strategies for holding space for feelings in friendships. Importance of rupture and repair in relationships. The significance of taking space in challenging relationships. Communication dynamics in maintaining connections. Evaluation of relationship importance in personal growth. Practices for healing and growth within relationships. Challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in friendships. Strategies for navigating friendship complexities. Understanding the impact of neurodiversity on relationships. Coping mechanisms like rage writing for emotional processing. Recognition that not all friendships are lifelong. Quick connection and oversharing tendencies in relationships. Awareness of assumptions about closeness in friendships. Identifying personal values in seeking friendships. Reflection on reasons for leaving relationships. Difficulties in maintaining friendships for neurodivergent individuals. Exploration of evolving friendships with neurodivergent needs. Insights into the dynamics of neurodivergent friendships. Understanding the complexities of neurodiversity in relationships. Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction) 00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage 00:55 Challenges in Making and Keeping Friendships 02:02 The Changing Nature of Friendships 03:35 Reciprocity and Communication in Relationships 04:58 Recognizing the Lack of Reciprocity 05:58 Testing Relationships and Making Assumptions 06:56 Navigating Difficult Conversations 08:05 Recognizing and Addressing Needs in Relationships 09:21 Dealing with Resentment and Setting Boundaries 10:24 Navigating Relationships During Tragedy 11:44 Feeling Central in Someone's Life 12:41 Recognizing Support Systems in Relationships 13:40 Navigating Relationships with Different Perspectives 16:00 Missteps and Room for Growth in Relationships 17:21 Challenges in Accepting Neurodivergence in Relationships 18:52 Understanding the Nuances of Autism and ADHD 20:16 Navigating Relationships with Limited Understanding 21:43 Setting Boundaries and Ending Relationships 23:13 Processing Grief and Emotions in Relationships 24:21 Having Vulnerable Conversations with Loved Ones 25:46 Navigating Emotional Needs and Connection 27:30 Recognizing and Honoring Personal Needs 29:32 Navigating Decision-Making and Overwhelm 31:30 Communicating Needs and Boundaries in Relationships 33:34 Navigating Overwhelm and Self-Judgment 35:19 Summary and Closing Remarks PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Meet Rachel Fleischman – a licensed social worker, psychotherapist, registered expressive arts therapist, workshop facilitator, and speaker who, over the last two decades has supported thousands of humans to deepen their creativity, feel understood, and love themselves fiercely. Through her private practice, Bliss Counseling, and a unique movement system she developed called Dance Your Bliss, Rachel works with individuals and couples and has expertise in crisis management, trust, body image, premarital and marital issues, sex therapy, depression, anxiety, life transition, and panic disorder, to name a few. Rachel's love for supporting others began at a young age in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, where she grew up experiencing complex trauma and learned about resilience and self-reliance as she raised herself. She found reprieve through dance classes and put herself through college and graduate school, where she also taught aerobics (which she thoroughly enjoyed). At the age of 24, Rachel took care of her dying father by teaching him exercises, which sparked the ideas surrounding the Dance Your Bliss classes and programs that she would later go on to develop. “As a young person, I often found myself being called upon to help others who were having difficulty coping with life situations. I had this ability to really “get” them and wanted desperately to learn more about how we process emotions, deal with adversity, and thrive,” says Fleischman. “During my 23 years practicing, I've trained with Esther Perel, the Gottmans and many other clinicians. I have studied Couples Counseling, sex therapy, CBT, and Solution-Focused Therapy. I refuse to stop learning – my clients mean the world to me!” Fleischman is currently developing new e-books and coursework surrounding perimenopause and menopause, and working with individual clients. She can regularly be found leading international workshops and programs at conferences, corporate retreats, and wellness centers such as the Esalen Institute, the Omega Institute's Women and Courage Conference, Canyon Ranch, the Naropa Institute's Hakomi Conference, the Hollyhock Retreat Center, UCSF Women's Health, Rancho La Puerta Spa, and the International Dance Therapy Conference. Her sought-after mental health expertise has been featured on numerous podcasts and in magazines such as Verywell Mind, Best Life, Psychology Today and Elephant Journal. Rachel also aims to give back to her local community by volunteering at the San Francisco Public Libraries and leads a variety of pro-bono movement activities at organizations such as the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. In her spare time Fleischman enjoys crafting and spending time in nature with her husband in and around San Francisco, California, where she currently resides. Join us in this heartfelt episode as Rachel opens up about her personal journey and the origins of her deep passion for serving others. Discover the profound connection between movement and dance, and how it can transform your life. Rachel explores the importance of healthy vibrations for healing, breaking free from self-judgment and judgment of others, and finding self-love and acceptance through grace. Rachel's Beginnings and story of hope: Rachel shares her early experiences and how they shaped her into the person she is today. Discover the roots of her passion for making a positive impact on others' lives. The Connection Between Movement and Dance Explore the profound connection between movement, dance, and personal growth. Learn how embracing movement can bring about profound changes in your life. Healing Through Dance and Vibration Rachel discusses the concept of healthy vibrations and their role in the healing process. Discover practical tips for incorporating healthy vibrations into your daily life. Finding Self-Love and Acceptance Through Grace Explore the concept of grace and its role in the journey toward self-love and acceptance. Rachel offers insights on how to cultivate grace in your life. Get in touch with Rachel: https://www.blisscounseling.com https://www.instagram.com/danceyourbliss.sf/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/dancingyourbliss/ Get in touch with Jana and listen to more Podcasts: https://www.janashort.com/ Show Music ‘Hold On' by Amy Gerhartz https://www.amygerhartz.com/music. Get the Best Holistic Life Magazine APP! One of the fastest-growing independent magazines centered around holistic living. https://www.presspadapp.com/digital-magazine/best-holistic-life-magazine Grab your gift today: https://www.janashort.com/becoming-the-next-influencers-download-offer/ Connect with Jana Short: https://www.janashort.com/contact/
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