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Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something…Are all Godparents created equal? Seriously, ya'll, as we were discussing Godparents & GOD-Parenting, it appears not everyone has the same definition of this once-coveted position. Maybe there's a bigger conversation that needs to be had...

The vibes are here, so no intro needed! Between squash, mashed carrots, liver, and corn bread WITH the corn inside, the UN•THERAPISTs had a lot to say about food that don't deserve a seat at the table. During our Thanksgiving 2025 episode “PTFD: POST TRAUMATIC FOOD DISORDER, we dived into foods, in our opinion, that deserve to be left behind. 

Is an intro needed? Nope, just vibes! During our Thanksgiving 2025 episode “PTFD: POST TRAUMATIC FOOD DISORDER," Lady J made it known that THE SOUTH has a lot to offer, and in her opinion, Soul Food is at the top of that list. Tune in to hear what the UN•THERAPIST had to say. 

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You know what it is, no intro, just vibes. During our Thanksgiving 2025 episode “PTFD: POST TRAUMATIC FOOD DISORDER,” Coach shook the room, claiming that the frosting/icing determines the flavor of the cake… not the cake itself, and we ALL had questions.According to Coach, a yellow cake with chocolate frosting is considered a “chocolate cake” as opposed to a yellow cake.Tune in as we dive further into our individual descriptions of popular Thanksgiving foods that have to be on the table every year.  

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something…We invited some of our friends over to have Friendsgiving with UN•THERAPY and discuss the dishes they were looking forward to, and the answers were a little different than some of us might have experienced growing up.Not everyone is consuming dressing, yams, mac & cheese, buteveryone is using food to bring family together & celebrate life.Not only did we talk about dishes we loved, but we also spoke about some we wouldn't mind not seeing on the dinner table & this conversation turned out epic!!!Join us for another session of UN•THERAPY as we UN•THERAPIZE our favorite foods on Thanksgiving, our least favorite foods, & what is the real definition of chocolate cake!Connect with UN•THERAPY PodcastInstagram: ⁠⁠@UntherapyPodcast⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠UN•THERAPY Podcast ⁠YouTube: UN•THERAPY  PodcastUN•THERAPY Facebook Group: 

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something…What is the “Soft Girl Era?"For some, it's about peace, pampering, and self-care, but for others, it's about being fully taken care of (bills paid, stress-free, and living in leisure). 

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something…Have baby showers and gender reveals quietly replaced weddings as the new “major milestone” event? Let's be honest, folks are out here dropping full production budgets on these celebrations, but weddings? Not so much. Coach questions when the cultural shift happened and when celebrating parenthood started overshadowing marriage...while the squad debates whether it's about priorities or just social media influence.But that's not all...things took a deeper turn when the crew started talking about time and focus. Rev said something real: "Most of us don't actually lack time, we just lack discipline". Coach chimed in that focus is the difference between “busy” and “productive,” and Shay reminded everyone that real growth requires balance, not burnout.Then came the question that hit everyone: Does friendship automatically mean accountability? Because let's be real, some friends hype you up, but few hold you down when it's time for correction.Join us for another session of UN•THERAPY as we UN•THERAPIZE the evolution of celebration culture, the truth about time and focus, and whether accountability should be an expectation or an agreement.Connect with UN•THERAPY PodcastInstagram: ⁠⁠@UntherapyPodcast⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠UN•THERAPY Podcast ⁠YouTube: UN•THERAPY  PodcastUN•THERAPY Facebook Group: 

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something…What do you do when someone shares their trauma with you: Do you believe them right away, or wait for proof? Let's be honest, that's not as easy as it sounds. It's one thing to say “I believe you,” but when emotions, loyalty, and history get involved, things can get complicated real fast.Coach Fernz kicked it off with a tricky question: "If someone you love accuses another person you love, how do you decide who to stand with?"Shay & Lady J said their first instinct is to "believe and listen," but even she admitted… “If it's family on both sides, now I'm playing detective.” And when Coach brought up how false accusations can destroy a life just as fast as silence can destroy a soul... whew, it got deep.Join us for another session of UN•THERAPY as we UN•THERAPIZE, believing victims vs. seeking proof, how to respond when someone trusts you with their truth, and whether compassion and caution can truly coexist.Connect with UN•THERAPY PodcastInstagram: ⁠⁠@UntherapyPodcast⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠UN•THERAPY Podcast ⁠YouTube: UN•THERAPY  PodcastUN•THERAPY Facebook Group: 

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something…Why do we chase the look of luxury more than the life of ownership? Why are we so drawn to the appearance of having “made it,” even when the price tag doesn't match our priorities?Let's be honest, some folks don't own the car, the house, or even the clothes they're flexing in. But the illusion of wealth? Impeccable. And in a world that celebrates the image of success, perception can feel more powerful than truth.

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something…Have you ever lost someone twice? Maybe that didn't make sense when you first heard it, so let's ask it a different way. 

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something…How long are you supposed to hold the door open for somebody? Like, is there a magic number? Two people max? Three? And what if they don't even say “thank you” after you did the good deed...do you still feel like holding it open for the next person?This might sound small, but let's be real: manners, respect, and courtesy shift depending on where you are, who you're around, and how you were raised. What feels normal in New York might feel rude in North Carolina. And let's not even get started on generational gaps or cultural expectations. 

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Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something…At the family cookout, who really eats first?Is it the kids who can't wait, the elders who earned their respect, the pregnant women who need that plate, or the grill master who's been sweating over the fire all day? Everybody's got a different rule, but when that food hits the table, traditions start clashing with appetites real quick!And let's be real, nothing starts family debates faster than food. From church mothers who never wait in line, to questionable kitchen etiquette (looking at you, “Lickety”), some people who should be banned from serving duty altogether.Join us for another session of UN•THERAPY as we UN•THERAPIZE barbecue etiquette, family traditions, and why respecting the food line might just be the real measure of household order.Connect with UN•THERAPY PodcastInstagram: ⁠⁠@UntherapyPodcast⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠UN•THERAPY Podcast ⁠YouTube: UN•THERAPY  PodcastUN•THERAPY Facebook Group: 

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Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...What's more difficult, apologizing or forgiving?I mean, saying "I'm sorry" can be tough, especially if you don't feel like you were wrong in the first place. But forgiveness? Whew… that's a whole other level. Forgiveness requires the work after the words; the inner work of not keeping score, not throwing it back in someone's face, and not punishing them for something you already said you released.But here's the twist: 

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...

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Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something…Do ya'll remember back in the early 2000s, when mixtapes were fire, 106 & Park was lit, & rom‑coms and hip-hop movies were a big part of our Friday nights; days where life felt just a little simpler. 

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Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...Ever since B.I.G. released that classic hit, "Mo' Money, Mo' Problems", we've been hearing that phrase from a lot of people who increased their financial status, and it seemed to make sense.Now that I've matured in life, I can't say that they're wrong, but I can ask this question in response to that statement:

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...Based on your past decisions in relationships, what has been more important to you:Someone being attractive or someone being responsible?Now I know what I've chosen, but that may be why I've ended up with some of the results that I've gotten. It's not a crime to want both of these characteristics in someone, but if you had to choose, which one has reigned more supreme in your life when entering a relationship?Join us for another UN•THERAPY session as we explore being attractive vs. being responsible, enunciation based on geography, and comprehension vs. exposure.Connect with UN•THERAPY PodcastInstagram: ⁠⁠@UntherapyPodcast⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠UN•THERAPY Podcast ⁠YouTube: UN•THERAPY  PodcastUN•THERAPY Facebook Group: 

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...This may be a conversation for the future, but do you believe that their own people should manage each culture?This question stems from an observation made on two shows: "Pop The Balloon" and "Sinners.""Pop The Balloon" has become a cultural phenomenon on YouTube, garnering multi-millions of views and also landing them a Netflix deal. Yet, the version of the show that isn't heavily controlled by the culture takes away the essence of what people enjoyed about the show.On the flip side, "Sinners" was one of those movies that had so many cultural references that you'd have to be a part of the culture or heavily engulfed in it to pick up some of the clues of what was going on.But how is it that two of the same ideas can translate differently depending on who presents them?Join us for another session of UN•THERAPY as we UN•THERAPIZE the importance of who tells the stories, discussing the cultural impact of "Sinners" and "Pop The Balloon."Connect with UN•THERAPY PodcastInstagram: ⁠⁠@UntherapyPodcast⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠UN•THERAPY Podcast ⁠YouTube: UN•THERAPY  PodcastUN•THERAPY Facebook Group: 

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...Coach shared with us that he heard a fellow brother state that he didn't believe that women are affirmed enough, and I almost agreed for a moment.But then Coach posed a question that really had us thinking. The question was... 

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Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...Have you ever had a moment where so many great things were happening in your life, so many nice things were being said about you...then, out of nowhere, someone slides in a negative comment, and it changes your whole mood?

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Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...When you were younger, did your family ever do something that you knew was wrong, but you didn't say anything?Now, this doesn't have to be that deep, but we've all got some family members that snuck food into the movie theatres, lied about all your little cousins' ages at the buffet, or even brought your own Tupperware to the holiday party.But is it wrong, or is it just frowned upon? If there's no rule against it, should we keep doing it?Join us for another session of UN•THERAPY as we UN•THERAPIZE things our family did wrong that we didn't say anything about and the proper etiquette on girls' trips. Connect with UN•THERAPY PodcastInstagram: ⁠⁠@UntherapyPodcast⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠UN•THERAPY Podcast ⁠YouTube: UN•THERAPY  PodcastUN•THERAPY Facebook Group: 

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...Have you ever looked at someone and thought, "This person is always winning?" It feels like no matter what they do, it always succeeds. Well, when we talk success, we had to invite the familia "EP THE GREAT" to have a conversation with the UN•THERAPISTS about some of the amazing work he's doing in the film industry, music industry, food industry, podcasting, & so much more. But let me ask you this: 

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...Have you ever looked at someone and thought, "This person is always winning?" It feels like no matter what they do, it always succeeds. Well, when we talk success, we had to invite the familia "EP THE GREAT" to have a conversation with the UN•THERAPISTS about some of the amazing work he's doing in the film industry, music industry, food industry, podcasting, & so much more. But let me ask you this: 

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...Have you ever made a decision that was so tough, but you knew that although it may have been difficult to make, the compound interest from that decision would yield amazing interest in your life?!?!?!

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...The greatest forces behind a narrative are the people who are pushing it. But are the people who carry those narratives really affected by them? Or are they helping to perpetuate a cycle that doesn't really exist?Now, there is no question that you don't have to be directly affected by a narrative to be impacted by it, but one has to wonder, should we do some personal inventory on these "shared" stories & experiences before passing them on to someone else? Are some of these things the reason we have deficiencies in our mental wealth banks?Well, have no fear, UN•THERAPY family. We also have our guest UN•THERAPIST here with us, P. Simon, to share some of her resources that can help address some of the concerns these "negative" narratives may bring & position us to redirect that energy toward where we want to be.Join us for another session of UN•THERAPY as we UN•THERAPIZE giving grace in the service industry abandoned narratives within our communities, & resources that contribute to creating progressive positive mental health habits.Connect with UN•THERAPY PodcastInstagram: ⁠⁠@UntherapyPodcast⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠UN•THERAPY Podcast ⁠YouTube: UN•THERAPY  PodcastUN•THERAPY Facebook Group: 

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...Do you believe we are natural consumers or producers?There is no wrong answer here, but whichever you choose may very well affect how you approach life. Most people approach life as a "producer" or "consumer."Now, although you can be both, leaning more to one side vs. the other could have a significant impact on the elements & environments that control your life. The lack of one & the abundance of the other is a choice, but which side you feed will determine your level of growth.Join us for another session of UN•THERAPY as we UN•THERAPIZE the repossession of ideas we've given people, over-consuming vs. under-producing, & what holds people back from being able to produce.Connect with UN•THERAPY PodcastInstagram: ⁠⁠@UntherapyPodcast⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠UN•THERAPY Podcast ⁠YouTube: UN•THERAPY  PodcastUN•THERAPY Facebook Group: 

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...In a previous session, we mentioned that we would be reminiscing on some of our favorite TV shows & movies growing up. As we watched some of these movies growing up, it was pure entertainment, and we practiced dance moves in the mirror.But as we grew older and watched it through a more mature lens, it started to uncover a different set of values that are essential to our development.

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Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...I'm sure we've learned about the law of polarity in school & it wasn't something we cared about, but as Coach was discussing it, the reality is that everything in life has TWO sides.

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...I know it "appears" that we are all in the same fight...but are we really?We know the nation is in an uproar over what may be considered some pretty basic needs, but let me ask you this...

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...Would you consider someone unauthentic if they didn't give 100% in a relationship or partnership?There's definitely no wrong answer. In a world full of intentionality, it's totally fair to want someone to give you their all.

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...During our session, we had a conversation about potlucks and what people expect from you when you show up because you've mastered it.We had seafood on the menu, collard greens, mac & cheese...I mean the list was extensive. But the reason we were so sure about what we would be bringing is because we've done such a great job at executing those things that people have requested that we continue to do it.That's exactly how it should be. Not only as it relates to food but also as it relates to life.

Hey UN•THERAPIST,Usually, we need your help UN•THERAPIZING something, but today we CELEBRATE...

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...Is it just me, or do some of us say more about what we don't want to happen rather than what we do want to happen?Speaking things into existence can work both ways; you either see what u wanted to happen because you said it, or you see what you didn't want to happen because you spoke it.Sometimes, we don't realize that the narratives that we speak or, as they say, "buy into" determine where our energy is directed and, at times, cause us to withdraw out of our mental wealth bank instead of making deposits into it.

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...Do you believe friendships need to be watered? Or should they be self-sustaining?The reason we ask is because we heard someone say "relationships grow where they are watered," and we totally agree,  but isn't it also true that all don't need the same amount of watering. Now the question is:

Hey UN•THERAPIST, We need your help UN•THERAPIZING some things because we can't leave 2024 without setting some ground rules... So we have two questions, although they're going to seem like three, and maybe even one of them is more of a statement:

Hey UN•THERAPIST, We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something... First things first, Merry CHRISTMAS and Happy Hanukkah UN•THERAPY Family!!!  Although we know it's the holiday season, there's gotta be that one song that puts you & your loved ones in the mood for holiday cheer. Now, once you finally get to the living room & that song is playing throughout the house, what's that one thing that you hope to see under "the tree" (figuratively speaking) that will make your day complete? Is it the food, is it the family, or is it that gift that you've waited all year to get on this special day? Join us for another session of UN•THERAPY as we UN•THERAPIZE our favorite Xmas songs & things we desire under our tree that would make our Xmas complete. Connect with UN•THERAPY PodcastInstagram: ⁠⁠@UntherapyPodcast⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠UN•THERAPY Podcast ⁠YouTube: UN•THERAPY  PodcastUN•THERAPY Facebook Group: 

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We know this episode has NO intro.. but just vibe with us because we need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...

Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something..."You can't judge a book by its cover" may be one of the truest symbolisms that has been passed down from generation to generation.The truth is, you don't really know what a book is like until you read it.

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Hey UN•THERAPIST,We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...Growing up, we've always heard "Real over Fake," and we have taken that mindset with us throughout life, but after this conversation, some of the UN•THERAPISTs may have different opinions.Now we know what some of ya'll be thinking, and we want to clear up that we are not talking about a person's characteristics, but in this case, we're talking about food & beverages.Being it's Thanksgiving & there's nothing like a good ol' home-cooked meal full of all of the MVP foods that your family makes, let me ask you this: in the midst of a table full of natural foods, does that artificial stuff hit sometimes?