Wanting it More

If you've been curious about what the concepts of Doing It Together can do for your sex life and marriage in the long term, this is the episode for you! Justin and Sandra, married for 19 years, took Doing It Together two years ago and they graciously share VERY specific details about what their relationship and sex life look like now. They open up about how they've learned to talk, play, remain curious, and change things up through life's ups and downs.They also share how their marriage has changed outside the bedroom and the routines they've incorporated to keep their connection at the forefront of their marriage. You can listen to Justin and Sandra's personal stories by listening to these previous episodes:Justin's Story in Episode 82Sandra's Story in Episode 74The Michelle Mays episode on Betrayal Trauma can be found here: Episode 108The next round of Doing It Together is open for registration! Get $300 off for this round only! Register now!Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Janna answers questions she's received from men and women about her Doing It Together program.Questions include:• I've never had a sex drive—not even before marriage. Will this program help me?• My husband is a good guy. What if the problem really is just me?• What if I already tried therapy, supplements, hormones, books, scheduling sex… and nothing worked?• Is this the end of sex as I know it?• Can you guarantee this will work? The next round of Doing It Together is open for registration! Get $300 off for this round only! Register now!Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

In part two of Janna's conversation with Ryan, he opens up about his decision to wait until marriage to have sex—a choice rooted in a desire to escape the guilt he'd carried for most of his life. While the experience was fine at first, their intimacy gradually faded. Over time, Ryan began to feel isolated and deeply unloved. Determined to fix their relationship, he turned to podcasts and books for advice. But as his frustration grew, he found himself blaming his wife for not putting in the same level of effort.Ironically, it was his wife who discovered the Doing It Together course and suggested they try it. Ryan admits that much of the content wasn't entirely new to him. What was new, however, was seeing that information through the lens of intimacy within marriage. It shifted his entire perspective. Instead of focusing on what he saw as her "problem," Ryan began to reflect on his own role in their dynamic. The course helped him realize the powerful impact of making changes on his side—both emotionally and physically—which began to transform their connection, in and out of the bedroom.The next round of Doing It Together is open for registration! Get $300 off for this round only! Register now!Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

In Part 1 of Ryan's story, he opens up about his early experiences learning about sex—lessons that came in crude form on the school bus, mixed messages from his Christian upbringing, and early exposure to internet pornography. This exposure led to an addiction that left him feeling trapped and overwhelmed with guilt. Ryan shares what it took for him to finally reach out for help, and the powerful lesson he learned about the importance of listening without judgment.Tune in next week for the rest of Ryan's story, where he discusses his marriage, their struggles with sex, and the breakthrough insight that transformed the way he understands intimacy.Janna's free classes for women and men are happening May 12 & 13.Register for the women's free class, Wanting It More 101: https://jannadentonhowes.com/freeclassRegister for the men's free class, Getting It More 101: http://jannadentonhowes.com/free-class-menThe next round of Doing It Together is open for registration! Get $300 off for this round only! Register now!Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

At 62, Bill has been married to his wife for 32 years. They waited until marriage to become intimate, but soon after discovered she had endometriosis, a condition that made intercourse painful and unfulfilling. As a result, she began to withdraw—avoiding physical affection and emotional affirmation to steer clear of intimacy. Meanwhile, Bill deeply missed the emotional closeness they had shared during their dating years.Over time, resentment and frustration took root. The emotional disconnect between them grew, creating a silent distance that neither knew how to bridge.Through his work with Janna, Bill began to reconnect with his emotions and learn how to express what he was truly feeling. This emotional awareness opened the door to conversations they had never had before—conversations made possible by a shared language of vulnerability and understanding that was new to them.Today, Bill says they are more emotionally connected than ever. That connection, he shares, has been the key to rekindling their relationship in a way that feels real, deep, and truly meaningful.Resources: Google How We Feel AppJanna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Get $300 off for this round only! Join the Waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

I'm continuing my powerful conversation with Carey from last week. If you haven't heard that episode yet, I highly recommend going back to Episode 142 to catch up—she opened up so vulnerably about her 30-year marriage and the challenges she's faced with intimacy over the years.In this episode, Carey shares how her entire understanding of sex has evolved, the hard truths she and her husband had to confront together, and how their intimate life looks completely different now—in ways that might surprise you.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Get $300 off for this round only! Join the Waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

In this honest and vulnerable two-part episode, Carey shares the hidden struggles she faced with intimacy throughout her 30-year marriage while raising seven children.At just nine years old, Carey was exposed to adult magazines that distorted her understanding of intimacy. By 13, she found herself in relationships where intimacy felt more like something expected of her than something she chose.Married at 21 while still finishing school, she quickly began to see sex and intimacy as a burden—an obligation she was expected to fulfill. Guilt weighed heavily on her for not wanting it, and resentment grew toward her husband's repeated attempts to initiate. Eventually, Carey stopped touching him altogether, leading to mounting tension and emotional distance in their marriage.In her search for answers, Carey turned to countless “experts,” only to be met with confusion and misinformation that left her feeling even more broken and isolated. Meanwhile, her husband was left wondering if she truly loved him.But that wasn't the end of their story.

In this reair of Ep. 111, Janna chats with Michael Kaufman, the author of The Time Has Come: Why Men Must Join the Gender Equality Revolution. Michael, a renowned advisor, activist, and keynote speaker, shares his insights on how traditional male roles in the bedroom and beyond often don't benefit women. They dive into why it's crucial for men to confront their own privilege and engage in open dialogues about gender equality.Michael also discusses the rapid shifts in societal roles for both men and women. By listening to women's voices and addressing their own defensiveness, men can better contribute to a more equitable world. Tune in to hear Michael's innovative approaches for transforming men's lives and fostering positive change for a more equitable society.REFERENCES:Michael Kaufman: https://michaelkaufman.com/the-time-has-come/Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Get $300 off for this round only! Join the Waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Romance novels promised Amy that her man would always know exactly what to do. The church assured her that sex would be wonderful once she was married. But when her first wedding night was filled with pain instead of pleasure, she was shocked.And the pain never went away. Over the course of her 30-year marriage, it evolved from undiagnosed endometriosis to rheumatoid arthritis to menopause. She felt exhausted, dismissed, and unhappy, but continued to push herself to be intimate with her husband—every other day for 30 years—believing it was simply her duty as his wife.After searching for answers in books, through medical professionals, and online, she finally found Janna, and everything started to make sense. Tune in to hear what Amy learned, and how she finally took control of her body, her feelings, and her desires.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

One of the most common questions we get is: "How do I talk to my kids about sex?" In today's episode, Janna sits down with her teammates, Melissa C. and Melissa W., to discuss how they approach these conversations with their kids, whose ages range from 6 to 21.They share stories from their own childhoods, reflecting on how they navigated these topics largely on their own, and the education they wish they had received. The conversation touches on the fears they had to overcome to talk openly with their own children about sex, and how those discussions have gone. Lastly, they talk about how they've chosen to share about the importance of their own intimate experiences with their kids and their hopes and dreams for their children's future relationships.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

It's been a year since Chris and his wife of 21 years took the Doing It Together course, and he's here to give an honest update on how things are going.For two decades, Chris and his wife struggled with intimacy, trying everything they could think of to improve their connection. From counseling and self-help books to even participating in a university sex study, they explored every option. Despite their efforts, nothing seemed to work. Chris found himself spiraling with thoughts like, “Is she cheating?” “Does she not find me attractive?” and “Does she still love me?”Now, after celebrating their 21st anniversary, Chris reflects on the changes they've experienced over the past year since learning from Janna. He explains how their sex life has transformed and why it's dramatically better than its ever been.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Luke and his wife have been married for 25 years and have struggled with sex through most of that time. Things changed after kids and his wife experienced post-partum depression. Her libido plumeted and didn't come back. Luke took the stance that this was her problem to solve and waited for years for her to 'fix' herself.It wasn't until they found Janna and the Doing It Together program that Luke learned how big of a role he played in the lack of intimacy in their relationship. He shares what he's learned about empathy, compassion, communication. Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Janna discovered Jaime and Josh through their shared Instagram profile, @marriageishappening, and was so moved by their marriage story that she invited them to join her on the podcast.Married at 21 with four kids soon after, they initially adhered to traditional gender roles—Jaime stayed at home while Josh worked outside the house. Jaime, an extrovert, describes early parenthood as a time filled with "shock and horror." She found herself isolated in a basement suite with no help, limited adult interaction, and minimal support from her husband. She felt sad, lonely, and disconnected from both her mind and body. Meanwhile, Josh, an introvert, struggled in his demanding social work position and came home feeling drained, unsure how to support his wife and children in a meaningful way.After years of unfulfillment, Jaime reached a breaking point, contemplating self-harm, death, and even leaving her marriage. It wasn't until she realized she needed to focus on her own well-being and make changes that things began to shift. But when she embraced newfound joy and freedom, Josh struggled to adjust. His defensiveness and emotional immaturity made it hard for him to process the changes she was going through.Together, Jaime and Josh share how they've made progress in their marriage by redefining their roles and discovering a new way to be together.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Keith continues his story from Episode 134, diving deeper into his experience of starting the Doing It Together (DIT) program with his wife. Having gone through his own therapy, Keith thought he was way ahead of the game when he began DIT. However, he quickly realized the role he played in his relationship dynamic was much more complex than he had originally thought. In this episode, Keith shares the valuable lessons he learned about processing emotions, truly listening to and understanding his partner, and rethinking what it really means to be a man.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

In this two-part episode, Keith shares the first part of his story. Growing up as a child of color, Keith learned early on what was and wasn't acceptable to express around his family and friends, especially the men and boys. While the women in his life supported his artistic side and sensitivity, Keith feared being labeled as weak or ridiculed by the men. His culture taught him that toughness and strength were the key qualities of being a "real" man.As a result, Keith struggled with his emotions in his marriage. He longed for a deeper connection with his wife, but nothing he'd been taught from tough-guy culture seemed to work. Feelings of confusion and resentment grew, and he felt rejected and unwanted. When his wife tried to express her wants and needs, he couldn't hear her without becoming very defensive. After finding Janna's work, Keith begins to unpack what he has learned to make sense of his jumbled emotions and find the real connection he was seeking.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

In this enlightening episode, 40-year-old Brandi shares her inspiring journey of self-discovery and rekindled desire. Growing up in southern Utah within the Mormon faith, Brandi's sex education was rooted in the belief of abstinence until marriage. After her first marriage ended due to years of betrayal, she ventured into the eye-opening world of online dating before meeting her current husband. In the beginning, their sex life was amazing, but after she became pregnant, her desire faded completely, and things became challenging. She and her husband found themselves stuck in endless arguments, and Brandi felt lost and broken, unsure of where to turn for help. Everything changed when she discovered Janna's Doing It Together program. Through the program, Brandi experienced many powerful “aha” moments and, together with her husband, learned how to reignite their connection. Now, with hope restored, Brandi shares the transformative lessons they've learned.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Kate and her husband started out having what she describes as a great sex life. It felt exciting, easy and fun and her pleasure was easily accessible. As the years passed and life got more stressful and overwhelming, her desire plummeted. She couldn't understand what happened. She started keeping a calendar to track how often they had sex and if too much time went by she would shame herself into doing it. Even though sex felt fine in the moment, she had no desire and felt broken and very alone.Desperate for help, she searched for ‘low libido' in her podcast browser and discovered Janna's podcast. She listened to the first episode on the way to the grocery store and exclaimed, “That's me, that's me, that's me!” Hearing her story for the first time prompted her to listen and learn further, and finally take the program with her husband. Listen as Kate describes what was really going on, what she and her husband learned, and how their communication and sexual relationship has dramatically improved. Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations course for women is open for registration. Get $100 off until Feb. 10!The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

On the final day of the last round of Doing It Together, Janna and her team gathered all the husbands and wives for a farewell Zoom call. During this heartwarming session, she asked, "What's been your most unexpected takeaway from this program?"The couples' honest responses were deeply moving. After just eight weeks on their journey, they had already made remarkable progress in rekindling their intimacy. Although the journey wasn't without its challenges, witnessing their progress in real-time continually reinforced the mission of Doing It Together—to empower couples with the skills to create an intimate life that feels fulfilling for both partners.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025 and is now open for registration until Jan. 29, 2025.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations course for women is open for registration. Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

In this special episode, Janna talks with her coaching teammates, Justin and Melissa, about the upcoming round of Doing It Together, what couples can expect from the program, and common questions they are asked about low libido and sexual connection from both men and women.Justin and Melissa answer:What are men and women worried about when considering joining Doing It Together?What would you say to someone considering joining but is on the fence?What do you hear men and women share about their experience of Doing It Together? How have their lives improved and become better?You can listen to Justin and Melissa's personal stories by listening to these previous episodes:Justin's Story in Episode 82Melissa's Story in Episode 4The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025 and is now open for registration until Jan. 29, 2025.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations course for women is open for registration. Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

From a young age, Kris learned to suppress his emotions and handle his feelings alone. His friends, family, and culture reinforced this mindset, showing him quick fixes for managing his growing anxiety, such as drinking alcohol, using drugs, or turning to adult entertainment. Over time, he became an expert at burying his emotions, but this came at a cost—dark moods, silence, and withdrawal from his family and marriage.After decades of living this way, Kris hit a breaking point and, with hesitation, opened up to his wife about his struggles. What he didn't know was that she had been listening to Janna's podcast for years and suggested they try the Doing It Together program. In this episode, Kris shares his transformative experience in the program, how he faced his greatest fears, and what he's learned about emotions, communication, and the difference between intimacy and sex.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025 and is now open for registration until Jan. 29, 2025.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations course for women is open for registration. Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Chloe and her husband, married for 12 years, struggled with their intimate relationship from the very beginning. However, they found it difficult to have honest conversations with each other. Both raised in Britain with the belief in keeping a “stiff upper lip,” discussing emotions or sensitive topics didn't come naturally to them. Her husband's moods often turned dark and tense, and Chloe learned to tread carefully, trying to manage his unspoken feelings. Instead of confronting the issues, they both silently stewed in frustration for years.Five years ago, Chloe came across Janna's program but never mentioned it to her husband, fearing it might hurt his feelings. Eventually, after reaching a breaking point, they had an honest conversation and decided to try the Doing It Together program. Chloe shares how surprised she was by what she discovered about herself, especially the depth of certain issues she hadn't fully recognized before.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations course for women is open. The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Tim and his wife have been married for 30 years. Their initial connection was deep and fulfilling, but once they got married, something changed. His wife began to touch him less and less, and Tim felt rejected and confused. This led to frequent arguments. After their three kids moved out, Tim hoped things would improve, but they didn't. He fell into an emotional spiral, convincing himself that the only explanation was that his wife no longer loved him.Thankfully, Tim's wife discovered Janna's podcast. After listening to just half an episode, Tim immediately recognized their own experience in what was being shared, and they decided to sign up for the program. In the men's group, Tim was able to open up honestly with other men for the first time and realize he wasn't alone. Meanwhile, in the women's program, his wife discovered she wasn't broken either.For the first time in years, they felt like they were on the same team, working together to find a solution. Listen to why Tim now feels free from the emotional turmoil that sex had caused in his life, and why he and his wife have never been closer.Episode References: Zoe's Episode 121: https://jannadentonhowes.com/121-breaking-the-cycle-zoes-30-year-journey-to-reclaim-intimacy/Ep. 79: https://jannadentonhowes.com/79-is-wanting-it-more-the-right-program-to-solve-my-low-libido-problem/Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations course for women is open. The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

33-year-old Bri was convinced something was wrong with her. She hadn't been intimate with her husband in over two years, and their once passionate relationship had dwindled to a series of weekly arguments and frustrations on both sides. She was convinced she had low libido because she was too young to have lost interest in sex—what else could it be?After following Janna for several years, Bri and her husband decided to enroll in Doing It Together to finally understand what had gone wrong with their sexual relationship. Through the program, they learned how to break old patterns and replace them with healthier ways of connecting and expressing themselves. Bri shares what she discovered about effective communication, compassion, and empowerment—along with the importance of putting her needs first and speaking her mind.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations course for women is open. The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Jason describes himself as an adventurous thrill-seeker, always in search of a rush. When he discovered the internet in college and the types of images and videos that could be accessed secretly and anonymously, it led him down a dark path marked by decades of manipulation, lying, and gaslighting as he tried to protect his secret behaviours.His marriage suffered as a result, but he was unable to recognize the damage his actions were causing to his wife. He believed he knew the "right way" for intimacy to look, so that became the path they tried to follow. This only left him feeling more frustrated and her feeling more broken.It wasn't until they discovered Doing It Together that they both realized this wasn't just a "her" problem to fix. Once they understood the root issues, they were able to address them together and begin healing.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations course for women is open. The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

As a young girl trying to understand sex and sexuality, Kelly experienced a lot of shame from her parents and the small-town culture she grew up in. Without any sex education, she and her friends had to figure things out on their own, trying their best to support each other along the way.Now, as a mother raising two daughters, Kelly still sees the same shame directed at young women and the sexualized way they are often viewed. These messages had a significant impact on Kelly's own intimate life with her husband. It wasn't until she heard other women share their stories on this podcast that she finally understood why she felt so disconnected from the experience.Kelly is now happy to join the many others who have shared their stories in this space. She talks about what she and her husband have learned about true sexual intimacy and what she is teaching her children to help remove shame from the conversation.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations course for women is open. The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Zack had always thought of himself as respectful towards women—until he confronted the reality of how his daily consumption of porn, starting at age 12, affected his relationship with his wife. For over 20 years, this habit was a part of his life, and though he never intended to objectify anyone, he learned that it deeply harmed his ability to connect emotionally and intimately with his wife. Through the Doing It Together program, Zack took a hard look at his behaviors and realized just how much his actions were impacting his relationship. Now, free from this pattern, he and his wife have experienced a dramatic transformation in their shared intimacy. His wife now feels completely safe and valued in their connection, something Zack hadn't fully understood was missing before. Zack's story shows how personal reflection and growth can bring profound healing, not just for ourselves, but for our marriages as well.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations course for women is open. The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Janna is joined by Danielle, the creator, host, and executive producer of the Sex Ed with DB podcast. Danielle's current series, Rom-Com V

In this week's episode, Janna sits down with Zoe, who shares her deeply personal journey through 30 years of struggles with intimacy in her marriage. For years, what was meant to be a natural part of life became a chore—a cycle of guilt, resentment, and exhaustion that left her feeling broken. Even after the kids moved out, Zoe thought the situation would improve, but it didn't. When her husband expressed his dissatisfaction, Zoe blamed herself, unsure how to break free from the pattern that had trapped her for decades.But everything changed when Zoe found this podcast. In the episodes, she discovered she wasn't alone. Other women were struggling with the same issues, and hearing their stories opened up new possibilities for her and her marriage. Today, Zoe feels a sense of freedom she never thought possible. Tune in to hear her story and learn how breaking the cycle is not only possible—it's transformative. If you've been feeling stuck, this episode could be the first step toward reclaiming your intimacy, joy, and connection.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations course for women is open. The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

In this empowering solo episode of Doing It Together, host Janna Denton-Howes delves into the transformative power of self-advocacy for women. Janna, a seasoned relationship coach and sex educator, shares her insights on overcoming cultural barriers to embrace true pleasure and connection. Discover the essential stages of self-advocacy, the roadblocks you might face, and the importance of understanding your unique needs. Janna also introduces her new program, Wanting It More Foundations, designed to empower women to enjoy a fulfilling sex life. Join the conversation and learn how to advocate for yourself and foster deeper intimacy.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations course for women is open. The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Too often, societal pressures push women into roles where productivity and selflessness overshadow the importance of personal joy and connection. Instead of being encouraged to embrace their desires and fully experience their bodies, many women find themselves burdened by guilt, expectation, and a sense of duty to provide for others. This episode uncovers how these ingrained beliefs create barriers to genuine enjoyment in the bedroom, and lead women to feel a low desire for sex.Janna shares practical steps for rediscovering joy in life, helping women reconnect with their bodies and desires. By breaking free from the notion of how they "should" act in bed, listeners can learn to cultivate a fulfilling sexual experience rooted in authenticity and self-love.The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

I have some very exciting news! After years of requests from thousands of women, I'm finally ready to launch a DIY video and journaling program specifically designed for women. This course is your first gentle step toward gaining clarity about your feelings toward sex.Wanting It More Foundations aims to empower women through reflection and observation. You'll experience freedom and relief as you discover your true self and understand your needs.You don't need to involve your partner in this process. The course is designed for you to work at your own pace, featuring simple journaling prompts, exercises, and a moderated discussion forum where you can interact with other women if you choose.Since this is the inaugural round, I'm offering a very special bonus. This will be the only session of the WIM Foundations course I'll be teaching live in, giving you the opportunity to ask questions and participate in discussions with me. Plus, I'm offering a one-time-only price of $200 USD (the regular price is $300 USD).Visit jannadentonhowes.com/waitlist to be notified when this special round opens for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Janna is joined by licensed professional counselor Dr. Jake Porter to explore the complex dynamics of shame and secrecy surrounding pornography and sex addiction in relationships. They discuss the role of denial and defense mechanisms while emphasizing the value of the therapeutic disclosure process. Listeners will receive advice on where to seek help and how to navigate the healing journey.Dr. Porter shares insights on the importance of being honest with your partner and the potential damage caused by withholding information. He explains why addressing the root causes of addiction—rather than simply stopping the behavior—is essential for the health of the relationship. Finally, he discusses the rewards of this transformative journey, highlighting how embracing vulnerability can lead to personal growth and enrich your relationship.Find all of Dr Jake Porter's resources here: https://drjakeporter.com/The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Janna has an eye-opening conversation with Dr. Ashley Southard, a licensed marriage and family therapist of 22 years, about her work helping overfunctioning women in love with underfunctioning partners. They discuss what this dynamic looks like for both women and men, why women tend to take on the emotional labour for both partners, and what women can do to self-restore inside or outside of the relationship. Find all of Dr. Ashley's resources here: http://drashleysouthard.com/resourcesThe next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

We are re-airing this episode in which Janna gathers with real couples who have completed the Doing It Together program and asks, “In what beneficial ways has the program impacted your life or marriage that you didn't expect?”. You'll hear from both men and women on what they learned and how they are applying this new knowledge to strengthen themselves, their marriages, and their intimate relationship with one another. This recording is from the last round before the name change, so that is why you'll hear some people refer to the program with the old name- Wanting It More or WIM for short.Registration for the next round of Doing It Together is open until Oct. 1.The 8-week program runs Oct. 2 - Nov. 30, 2024. Learn about Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Janna answers the most common questions she's asked by both men and women about her Doing It Together program. If you're considering joining the next round, this is a great short episode to listen to.To hear the wrap-up call with husbands and wives from last round, listen to Ep. 62.Registration for the next round of Doing It Together is now open until Oct. 1! The 8-week program runs Oct. 2 - Nov. 30, 2024. Learn about Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

With the next round of Doing It Together approaching, we're excited to introduce Janna's team and share their personal stories and insights. Melissa and Justin, both alumni of the program, discuss their experiences of taking the program, what participants can expect from the 8-week course, and their dedication to changing the narrative around low libido in women and the realities of sex in marriage.Melissa and Justin share how Janna's approach to sex and intimacy has profoundly impacted their lives and marriages. They offer a glimpse into what participants can expect from the Doing It Together program and coaching calls, and explain their passion for helping couples create fulfilling intimate experiences.You can listen to Justin and Melissa's personal stories by listening to these previous episodes:Justin's Story in Episode 82Melissa's Story in Episode 4Do you feel alone in your struggle to want and enjoy sex but have no idea where to start?If so- I invite you to join my free class happening on Tuesday, Sept 17 at 5:00-6:30 PACIFIC TIME: Wanting It More 101: Increase Interest and Enjoyment without Pressure or Guilt​If you're a man and would like to get information specifically aimed at you, I'm running a brand new free class for men, called Getting It More 101: Increase Her Interest and Enjoyment without Adding Pressure on Thursday, Sept. 19 at 1:00 - 2:30 pm PACIFIC TIME. Register here.​Registration for the next round of Doing It Together is now open! The 8-week program runs Oct. 2 - Nov. 30, 2024. Learn about Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Sandra shares her incredible journey of transforming painful sexual experiences into a space of safety and pleasure. She recalls how, in the early days of her marriage, she and her husband were deeply connected and satisfied with their intimate life. However, after the traumatic birth of her fifth child, Sandra suffered a severe pelvic injury that left her in constant pain and made traditional intercourse nearly impossible. This created a fear of sex and a sense of rejection for her husband.But everything changed with Janna's program. Sandra and her husband discovered a whole new world of intimacy they had never explored before. Sandra dives into the details of their transformed experiences, their new intentions for their time together, and how they've achieved a satisfying, pain-free, and mindful connection. Hear how they've turned their challenges into a fulfilling and therapeutic journey.Previous Episodes Mentioned: Justin in Episode 82Sandra in Episode 74Justin & Sandra in Episode 104Do you feel alone in your struggle to want and enjoy sex but have no idea where to start?If so- I invite you to join my free class happening soon: Wanting It More 101: Increase Interest and Enjoyment without Pressure or Guilt​The two live classes I'm running for women are on:Monday, Sept 16th at 1:00-2:30 pm PACIFIC TIMETuesday, Sept 17th at 5:00-6:30 PACIFIC TIMEIf you're a man and would like to get information specifically aimed at you, I'm running a brand new free class for men, called Getting It More 101: Increase Her Interest and Enjoyment without Adding Pressure on Thursday, Sept. 19th at 1:00 - 2:30 pm PACIFIC TIME. Register here.​Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women.The next round of Doing It Together runs Oct. 2 - Nov. 30, 2024. Learn about Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Janna chats with Michael Kaufman, the author of The Time Has Come: Why Men Must Join the Gender Equality Revolution. Michael, a renowned advisor, activist, and keynote speaker, shares his insights on how traditional male roles in the bedroom and beyond often don't benefit women. They dive into why it's crucial for men to confront their own privilege and engage in open dialogues about gender equality.Michael also discusses the rapid shifts in societal roles for both men and women. By listening to women's voices and addressing their own defensiveness, men can better contribute to a more equitable world. Tune in to hear Michael's innovative approaches for transforming men's lives and fostering positive change for a more equitable society.REFERENCES:Janna's Program: Doing It TogetherMichael Kaufman: https://michaelkaufman.com/the-time-has-come/Do you feel alone in your struggle to want and enjoy sex but have no idea where to start?If so- I invite you to join my free class happening soon: Wanting It More 101: Increase Interest and Enjoyment without Pressure or Guilt​The two live classes I'm running for women are on:Monday, Sept 16th at 1:00-2:30 pm PACIFIC TIMETuesday, Sept 17th at 5:00-6:30 PACIFIC TIMEIf you're a man and would like to get information specifically aimed at you, I'm running a brand new free class for men, called Getting It More 101: Increase Her Interest and Enjoyment without Adding Pressure on Thursday, Sept. 19th at 1:00 - 2:30 pm PACIFIC TIME. Register here.​Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women.The next round of Doing It Together runs Oct. 2 - Nov. 30, 2024. Learn about Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Janna speaks with Ericka about the use of alcohol and how it can become a crutch in intimate situations. Ericka started drinking in high school, initially finding that alcohol eased her anxiety and helped her feel more relaxed before sexual encounters. However, this pattern led to risky situations and a troubling reliance on alcohol to numb out her fears and concerns about sexual performance. The result was a disconnection from her true feelings and intuition.Now four years sober, Ericka has created a valuable resource kit for women navigating intimacy and sobriety, available at sobrietycurious.com. She's seen many women in online sobriety groups struggle with the question, "What do I do about sex now that I'm not drinking?" Listen as Ericka shares her journey to a healthier, more authentic way of rediscovering intimacy and self-worth without the haze of alcohol.Join the Waitlist for the next round of Doing It Together. ​Join Now.​Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women.Learn about Doing It Together: Program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

We are rebroadcasting one of Janna's favorite episodes: her fascinating conversation with Dr. Tina Schermer Seller, a licensed therapist who specializes in sex and gender issues. Dr. Schermer Seller is the author of one of Janna's favorite and most recommended books, Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy.In this episode, Dr. Schermer Seller discusses her research on the Christian conservative church and the rise of abstinence-only education and purity culture in the early 1980s. Her findings reveal that this shift has had significant negative effects on both women and men, impacting their ability to form meaningful and healthy sexual relationships.Whether you come from a religious background or not, this discussion will help you understand the global influence of this narrative on our lives and how we can begin the healing process.Find out more about Dr. Tina Schermer Seller and her books here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/Join the Waitlist for the next round of Doing It Together. ​Join Now.​Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women.Learn about Doing It Together: Program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

We are rebroadcasting our very popular episode with betrayal trauma expert Michelle Mays. Partner betrayal is SO complex compared to other forms of trauma. The lying, manipulation, scapegoating and gaslighting create a cycle of shame of wanting to simultaneously connect and disconnect from a cheating partner. Michelle shares her own betrayal story and outlines the rationalization, minimization and justification used by cheating partners to make their behaviour ok. She also speaks to the vital importance of restoring the relationship with oneself after experiencing partner betrayal.Join the Waitlist for the next round of Doing It Together. ​Join Now.​Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women.Learn about Doing It Together: Program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

We're re-airing one of our most popular episodes (Ep. 27) with Mandy Röscher, a Pelvic Health Physiotherapist based in Brisbane, Australia who specializes in chronic pelvic pain conditions. Painful experiences in the bedroom are unfortunately extremely common for women. Mandy share her extensive knowledge and training with us to shed some light on this rarely-discussed issue.We tackle the common myths about pelvic pain, explaining how these misconceptions can make the experience even worse for those who suffer from it. Mandy stresses the importance of feeling safe both physically and emotionally while healing, pointing out that recovery is about more than just treating the body. She also breaks down the phrase "it's all in your head," clarifying that while pelvic pain has psychological aspects, it doesn't mean the pain isn't real. She shares her insights on the natural variety of female vulvas, based on her experience with hundreds of cases, to reassure everyone that there's no "normal" down there. Finally, Mandy dives into the different types of pelvic pain and what each one feels like, giving us a thorough understanding of this complex issue.RESOURCES MENTIONED:The Centers for Vulvovaginal Disorders: https://vulvodynia.com/publicationsBrisbane Pelvic Physiotherapy: https://www.brisbanepelvicphysio.com.au/Join the Waitlist for the next round of Doing It Together. ​Join Now.​Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women.Learn about Doing It Together: Program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

For 24 years, Jennie Delreeve has been a beacon of hope for women overcoming trauma and reversing pelvic organ prolapse naturally, helping them reclaim their active lifestyles. Jennie's journey began with her own experience of prolapse, which plunged her into a cycle of shame and fear. She soon discovered that the mental tension she carried was significantly contributing to her condition. This realization led her to understand the necessity of healing both mind and body to achieve optimal health. Jennie shares real-life examples of how to genuinely navigate thoughts and emotions, truly feeling and believing in the process. She also reveals how this transformative approach can enhance sexual intimacy, offering a pathway to holistic healing and rejuvenation.Find out more about Jennie here: https://www.unshakeableyou.com/Join the Waitlist for the next round of Doing It Together. ​Join Now.​Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women.Learn about Doing It Together: Program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Stacey, a 42-year-old physical therapist, described her sex life as feeling like she was on autopilot. Her experiences were neither particularly good nor bad but rather monotonous and formulaic. She sensed there was something more to discover. To her shock and surprise, she had no idea how much she had to learn until she met Janna.Stacey shares what it was like to truly understand the intricate workings of her own body for the first time in her forties. She also reveals how developing a curiosity about herself has opened the door to more fulfilling intimacy and greater enjoyment in her life.Join the Waitlist for the next round of Doing It Together. ​Join Now.​Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women.Learn about Doing It Together: Program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

In this special episode, Janna reunites with Justin and Sandra, a couple who have each appeared on the podcast separately before (Justin in Episode 82 and Sandra in Episode 74). Together, they tackle some of the most frequently asked questions from Janna's community, such as:How do you cultivate emotional safety and connection in your relationship?How do you bring up and phrase issues that have hurt you?How do you navigate defensiveness?Is it realistic for men to be satisfied with a sex life that differs from cultural norms?What does a husband learn from watching porn, and how does it affect his relationship with his wife?How can you tell if porn is truly gone from a partner's life and not just hidden?Justin and Sandra share their wealth of knowledge gained from the intense work they've done to heal their relationship, offering valuable insights for other couples.Join the Waitlist for the next round of Doing It Together. ​Join Now.​Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women.Learn about Doing It Together: Program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Amanda, 35, has always enjoyed sex. She explored with confidence from an early age and used the term "great sex" to describe her intimate life with her husband. But everything changed when they had kids. As a mother of four, Amanda found that sex transformed from fun and fulfilling into a vicious cycle of guilt, pressure, rejection, and shame.With Janna's help, Amanda and her husband rediscovered a mutually enjoyable experience. Listen as Amanda shares the lessons she learned, transforming their intimate relationship into a true place of pleasure.Join the Waitlist for the next round of Doing It Together. ​Join Now.​Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women.Learn about Doing It Together: Program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Celeste truly felt like she found her soul mate when she married her husband. She loved him deeply and could be her authentic self in their marriage...except during sex. She couldn't understand how she could love someone so much yet dislike the sexual experience so intensely. She could never find the right words to express her feelings and would often cry after sex because she felt confused, frustrated, and broken.Raised in a culture that discouraged asking for help, it took her years to finally talk to her husband about seeking guidance about low sex drive from Janna. Together, they took the leap into the Doing It Together program, which opened the gates to the communication they had both been searching for, leading to transformative change in their relationship.Join the Waitlist for the next round of Doing It Together. ​Join Now.​Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women.Learn about Doing It Together: Program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

At 51, Heather is finally discovering what truly brings her pleasure in sexual experiences by asking herself, “What do I need?” Although she was once a curious and precocious sexual being, her desire diminished during marriage when sex became an expectation and duty. The traditional formula of what sex should be didn't work for her and depleted her natural libido, but she couldn't articulate why. It wasn't until she and her husband participated in the Doing It Together program that she realized she had been missing the nuances of true intimacy and neglecting the acts that brought her real pleasure and enjoyment. Listen to how Heather learned to unfollow the "media sex formula" rules, give specific directions, set boundaries, and savor the wide range of possibilities in the buffet of the sexual experience.Join the Waitlist for the next round of Doing It Together. ​Join Now.​Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women.Learn about Doing It Together: Program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

It's our 100th episode! To celebrate, I'm announcing a big change: a name change. As I've evolved over the years and learned from the couples I've served, so has my program. After adding an entire men's coaching and education program to Wanting It More, I realized the name needed to reflect a broader perspective. I was no longer exclusively speaking to women with low libido; I was teaching couples to work together to achieve fulfilling sex lives in their marriages.So, as of today, the Wanting It More program and this podcast will now be called Doing It Together. I will continue to share the stories of men and women to help you better understand your own journey and to ultimately know that you aren't broken, you never were, and there's a better way forward.Join the Waitlist for the next round of Doing It Together. ​Join Now.​Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women.Learn about Doing It Together: Program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Crystal is a self-defined good girl. Since childhood, she was expected to, and praised for, doing as she was told and not rocking the boat. While this behavior was effective in her formative years, her passive nature had consequences on multiple levels in her 25-year marriage, including in the bedroom.Crystal shares her struggle with speaking up for herself or asking for help, and how her lack of assertiveness resulted in years of emotional and physical suffering. She sought help for her low sexual desire through multiple doctors and therapists, but nothing worked until she found Janna. She describes Janna's program as having "transformed" her marriage, and she explains why she thinks the lessons she and her husband learned are essential for a successful marriage.Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women.Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Tyler and his wife struggled with intimacy throughout their 11 years of marriage. After meeting at 16 and waiting until marriage four years later, they both expected that the sexual experience would bring joy and fun to their lives, but it did not. His wife was plagued by pain, and after having two children, the exhaustion and stress of their lives dimmed all expressions of genuine connection and intimacy.Tyler thought that doing more around the house would help, but this only turned the experience into a transaction, which felt inauthentic and forced. After many failed attempts to fix their problem, his wife found Janna's podcast and realized they weren't alone in their struggle. Tyler shares the difficulties they both faced unlearning a lifetime of inaccurate information and how they are rebuilding their connection today.Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women.Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.