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Can religion ruin your sex life? This week on A Little Bit Culty, Sarah and Nippy are joined by psychotherapists and certified sex therapists Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Pastima—co-hosts of the podcast Sexvangelicals: The Sex Education the Church Didn't Want You to Have. Together, they explore how religion, especially purity culture and fundamentalist gender roles, can cause lasting damage to relationships and sexual well-being. From internalized shame to rigid scripts about gender and sex, Jeremiah and Julia explain how high-control religious environments affect intimacy long after someone leaves the faith. They also discuss the complexities of deconstructing religion as a couple, the importance of finding shared values, and why therapy can be a vital lifeline through it all. If you're trying to untangle your beliefs from your bedroom, this conversation offers both validation and guidance. This one's extra spicy, so listener discretion is advised. Resources mentioned in this episode: When Religion Hurts You by Dr. Laura Anderson available on her website. Sex, God, and the Conservative Church by Tina Schermer Sellers can be found on her website. Come As You Are and Come Together by Dr. Emily Nagoski is available on Amazon. To hear more from The, listen to their podcast, check out their blog, and visit their website. Also… let it be known that: The views and opinions expressed on A Little Bit Culty do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything. Nobody's mad at you, just don't be a culty fuckwad. Check out our lovely sponsors Join ‘A Little Bit Culty' on Patreon Get poppin' fresh ALBC Swag Support the pod and smash this link Cult awareness and recovery resources Watch Sarah's TEDTalk CREDITS: Executive Producers: Sarah Edmondson & Anthony Ames Production Partner: Amphibian.Media Co-Creator: Jess Tardy Writer: Kristen Reiter Associate producers: Amanda Zaremba and Matt Stroud of Amphibian.Media Audio production: Red Caiman Studios Theme Song: “Cultivated” by Jon Bryant co-written with Nygel Asselin
The Geelong Revival Centre, one of Australia’s longest-running cults, has been hiding in plain sight for years. Led by Pastor Noel Hollins until his death in 2024, the ultra-conservative church controls every aspect of its followers' lives. For the past two years, investigative journalist Richard Baker has collected disturbing audio recordings from Hollins and testimonies from survivors. They’ve told him stories of alleged physical and sexual abuse, emotional stories of families being torn apart by strict rules and disturbing allegations of medicine being banned. Due to legal constraints, he’s been unable to share it… until now. You can listen to Richard's podcast Secrets We Keep: Pray Harder here. THE END BITS Subscribe to Mamamia CREDITS Guest: Richard Baker Host: Gemma Bath Producer: Tahli Blackman Audio Producer: Jacob Round GET IN TOUCH Feedback? We’re listening! Email us at truecrime@mamamia.com.au If any of the contents in this episode have caused distress, know that there is help available via Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
“Sexual shame causes profound wounding in people's lives, because it hurts in their ability to do attachment, to give love, and to receive love. They don't believe they are fundamentally worthy of love, and so they put up a mask. So if somebody loves them, they think that they couldn't possibly love me if they knew who I was. So that love doesn't get in.And then, the loving coming out is behind this mask, like, I'm going to do what I think you want me to do.It affects our ability to do attachment. And as a human one of my core desires is to be seen. known, loved, and accepted. And this interrupts that, at every level.”Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a licensed sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, best-selling author, researcher, emeriti professor, and media personality whose expertise spans sex therapy, spiritual intimacy, parenting, medicine, and social justice. Her revolutionary perspectives have been expressed on platforms such as Spirituality & Health, Refinery 29, Vocal, Medium, and Bust Magazines, along with many podcast, radio, news, and TV outlets. Known for exposing the impact of patriarchy and sexual shame on our ability to securely attach to our partners, and instruct our children to attach to theirs, Dr. Sellers' book Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy has had a global impact. Her latest book, Shameless Parenting – Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident, Kids and Heal Your Shame Too! was a New Release Bestseller in eight categories. She speaks throughout the world on how to heal, and how to raise shame-free relationally confident children. In 2015, Dr. Sellers founded the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, a post-graduate institute to train psychotherapists, educators, clergy, and physicians in sexual health, healing sexual shame and trauma, and understanding their sexual biases. In 2023, Dr. Tina founded InannaRising.org - A private membership community for psychedelic assisted therapists and medical providers to get ongoing clinical consultation, collaboration, training, and support in creating scholarships for the under resourced, and participation in an indigenous reparation fund. Dr. Tina's websites and social media:https://www.instagram.com/drtinashameless/https://www.instagram.com/inanna_rising_pat/https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/https://inannarising.org/Shameless Parenting: https://www.amazon.ca/Shameless-Parenting-Everything-Shame-free-Confident/dp/B0BZF5865H/Sex God and the Conservative Church: https://www.amazon.ca/Sex-God-Conservative-Church-Intimacy-ebook/dp/B07252M2H2Reference: Audre Lorde reads Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic As Power https://youtu.be/aWmq9gw4Rq0?si=HopYif_ttLzfBosvwww.rachealcharlie.comIf you wish to support my podcast, it will be warmly received and appreciated here: buy me a coffeeIntro and outro music recorded, composed, and performed by Racheal Charlie.
Do you experience religious shame or guilt because you choose to live a consensually non-monogamous lifestyle? Are you trying to find a way to reconcile these 2 different aspects of your personhood?In this episode we talk with Mitch & Cyndee, experts on the reconciliation of religion and non-monogamy. They give some phenomenal advice on carving a path forward that allows you to live this beautiful non-monogamous lifestyle while still being true to your religious faith.They also refer us to some great books that can help you navigate this issue:Sex, God, and the Conservative Church, by Tina Shermer SellersShameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good (About Sex), by Nadia Bolz-WeberThe Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, & Connection through Embodied Living, by Hillary L. McBrideThey further recommended an online course called "The Bible and Swinging" written specifically to address this issue.---------------
We are rebroadcasting one of Janna's favorite episodes: her fascinating conversation with Dr. Tina Schermer Seller, a licensed therapist who specializes in sex and gender issues. Dr. Schermer Seller is the author of one of Janna's favorite and most recommended books, Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy.In this episode, Dr. Schermer Seller discusses her research on the Christian conservative church and the rise of abstinence-only education and purity culture in the early 1980s. Her findings reveal that this shift has had significant negative effects on both women and men, impacting their ability to form meaningful and healthy sexual relationships.Whether you come from a religious background or not, this discussion will help you understand the global influence of this narrative on our lives and how we can begin the healing process.Find out more about Dr. Tina Schermer Seller and her books here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/Join the Waitlist for the next round of Doing It Together. Join Now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your rating and review to help the podcast reach more women.Learn about Doing It Together: Program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Visit now.
Join host, Lily Craven, in this enlightening episode as she welcomes Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, author and expert on sexual intimacy and shame-free parenting. Dive deep into her groundbreaking insights from her bestselling books *Sex God and the Conservative Church* and *Shameless Parenting*. Discover how to erase shame from sexual intimacy and raise confident, shame-free children. Dr. Tina shares practical advice, personal stories, and powerful strategies to help you release your shame attached to sexual intimacy. Don't miss this transformative conversation that promises to empower and inspire! www.tinaschermersellers.com Instagram.com/drtinashameless --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phonesexwithlily/support
In this episode, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a licensed psychotherapist, best-selling author, and researcher shares her insight on shameless parenting and our ability to heal while we learn alongside our kids. Dr. Tina and I dig into how sexual shame impacts our ability to form secure attachments and relationships. She shares her experience as a professor and noticing the shift as the first wave of "purity culture" took on a different narrative that was harmful to the students she was teaching. One of my favorite books, Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy was powerful in helping me understand how and why shame is rampant in our culture, but often hard to notice. And she has recently another book called, Shameless Parenting: How to Raise Confident, Shame free Kids and Heal Your Own Shame Too!Dr. Sellers emphasizes the role of parents in fostering shame-free environments for their children, regardless of their family makeup. She encourages open conversations with teenagers, addressing myths and stereotypes about sex, and prioritizing connection and pleasure over obligation in relationships. Dr. Sellers emphasizes the importance of ongoing learning, dispelling myths, and staying on the path of personal growth to lead a fulfilling life.Follow Dr. Sellers on Instagram at @DrTinaShamelessIn this episode:0:02:28 Dr. Tina Shermer Sellers bio 0:08:45 Healing Through Shameless Parenting0:27:26 Importance of Social and Emotional Learning0:32:51 Parenting Insights Beyond Traditional Family Structures0:39:39 Embodying Sexuality for a Fulfilling Life0:42:13 Connect with Dr. Tina on Instagram0:42:37 Dr. Tina's Podcast EpisodesAlthough this will be my last episode, please stay in touch! Check out what I have going on @shannonhamaker on Instagram!Also on my website: shannonhmaker.com will share the latest and greatest in my offerings through coaching and retreats. Support the show
In this episode, we chat with author of Sex, God and the Conservative Church, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers about Sexual Ethics, Shame Based Teaching VS Positivity Based Teaching and more! You don not want to miss this episode! This is a lesson the entire world needs to hear. You can learn more and find her books here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/ Support Spirituality Adventures so we can continue bringing your episodes like this one: https://spiritualityadventures.com/support
Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a licensed sex psychotherapist, best-selling author, and researcher whose expertise spans sex therapy, intimacy, parenting, and social justice.Her book Sex, God, & the Conservative Church has had a global impact. And Her latest book, Shameless Parenting – Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident, Kids and Heal Your Shame Too! was a New Release Bestseller in eight different categories.She speaks throughout the world on how to heal, and how to raise shame-free relationally confident children. In 2015, Dr. Sellers left her academic position of 28 years to found the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, a post-graduate institute to train psychotherapists, educators, clergy, and physicians in sexual health and understanding their sexual biases. Dr. Tina can be followed on Instagram @DrTinaShameless-------------Interested in getting 1:1 coaching support? Learn about my Coaching Program and apply for a free discovery call: https://www.jeremylipkowitz.com/introGET NOTIFIED WHEN DOORS OPEN TO UNHOOKED RECOVERY: https://jeremylipkowitz.mykajabi.com/unhookedConnect with me on Social:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeremylipkowitz/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JeremyLipkowitzABOUT JEREMY LIPKOWTZJEREMY IS A MEDITATION TEACHER, LIFE COACH, AND DIGITAL HABITS EXPERT WHO WORKS WITH ENTREPRENEURS, EXECUTIVES, AND LEADERS.Jeremy overcame addiction, shame, self-judgement, and depression in his early twenties with the help of mindfulness meditation. Mindfulness not only helped him let go of destructive behaviors, it also allowed him to connect with deeper meaning and purpose in his life.For the past 10 years Jeremy has been teaching mindfulness and emotional intelligence practices at universities, recovery centers, and companies throughout Asia and the US. He holds a Bachelors and Master's degree in Genetics and Genomics, and spent several years at Duke University working towards a PhD in Genetics & Systems Biology before he turned full-time to teaching mindfulness.Jeremy is also an ICF certified Executive Coach. As a former scientist and academic, Jeremy has a great passion for bringing his EI based coaching skills into the corporate and professional world. He realizes how powerful & transformative these practices can be for skeptics and senior-level managers. He is known for his calm and grounded demeanor, his expertise in habits and high-performance, and his compassionate approach to transformation.Coaching Certifications* CPCC, Co-Active Training Institute* ICF Member* ACC International Coaching FederationJeremy is a Certified Teacher with the Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute, a mindfulness-based emotional intelligence program initially developed at Google. He also spent time living and training as a fully-ordained Buddhist monk in Myanmar. He now combines his science-based expertise with a hunger for personal development to help others discipline their minds and achieve genuine inner- peace and fulfillment.
Dr. Tina is a licensed sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, best-selling author, researcher, emeritus Professor and media personality whose expertise spans sex therapy, spiritual intimacy, parenting, medicine and social justice. Join Ailsa and special guest Dr. Tina in this discussion of Shame and how it affects our ability to parent our kids effectively and in a healthy way. Dr. Tina can be found on Instagram @DrTinaShameless Her published works include: 'Sex, God and the Conservative Church' and 'Shameless Parenting' available on Amazon and most booksellers. You can find out more about Ailsa at www.pleasureforhealth.com
Janna talks to the author of one of her most recommended books, "Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy." In this captivating conversation with Dr. Tina Schermer Seller, a licensed therapist specializing in sex and gender issues, they discuss her research of the Christian Conservative church and the rise of abstinence-only education and purity culture in the early 1980s. This shift has had serious negative effects on both women and men, impacting their ability to have meaningful and healthy sexual relationships. Whether you come from a religious background or not, this discussion will help you understand the global influence of this narrative on our lives and how we can start the healing process. Find out more about Dr. Tina Schermer Seller and her books here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/
Feel free to contact us at fearlessinlovepodcast@gmail.com. We would love to hear from you! In this episode we begin a discussion on intimate knowing by looking at Jewish tradition and how that tradition helps inform our understanding of the Apostle Paul's teaching on marriage and sexual union. Join us in the conversation! Resources mentioned in this episode are Unwanted by Jay Stringer and Sex, God and the Conservative Church by Tina Schermer Sellers.
Dr. Tina Shermer Sellers is a therapist and sex educator who is particularly interested in erasing shame from sexual intimacy. Her books, "Sex, God, and the Conservative Church", and "Shameless Parenting", are helping folks to heal their own shame and raise their children with a different lens on sexuality. The hosts chat with Dr. Tina about the history and context of sexual education in schools as well as her own unique sex education experience growing up in a Christian immigrant family in the US. You can find out more at tinaschermersellers.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dr. Tina Sellers talks about her book, "Sex, God, and the Conservative Church." In it, she reclaims a healthy sexuality for the church.
Who says God is not SXY? In this episode we speak to Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, author of "Sex, God & the Conservative Church" and "Shameless Parenting" about what it means to be spiritual yet live fully into our entire being, including and especially, our sexual beings. It is time to put our faith in a higher power to the test and step into our divine spirituality. Listen in and find out why 'shameless' sexuality is the way forward to sexual freedom!!
Hi, friends! Welcome back to another episode of Happily Together. This week, we sat down with our friend, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers to talk about her book, Shameless Parenting and how we can build sex-positive homes (and why it's so important.) On this episode, we discuss: How is Dr. Tina staying emotionally centered while remaining flexible in these times? Why the book Shameless Parenting What it means to be a shameless parent Is the cultural trend around sex education and sex positive homes changing? Where the social construct of virginity came from Which group of people are having the worst sex A more comprehensive look at sex How to wake up sensuality and pleasure in your life Owning our sexual shame as parents Additional Links: Find Dr. Tina on IG, here. Learn more about Dr. Tina and her work, here. Find Dr. Tina's New Book, Shameless Parenting, here. Website: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/ Sex, God and The Conservative Church: https://amzn.to/3KsBkLW Shameless Parenting: https://amzn.to/3fCHE5o Northwest Institute on Intimacy: https://www.nwioi.com/ Learn more about Caleb, here. Learn more about Kara, here. Find Caleb on IG, here. Find Kara on IG, here.
Spiritual wounds span in severity from annoyance to serious debilitation and they can keep us from being open and vulnerable to ourselves and others.Carol Howard Merritt knows a lot about this. She was raised in a strict, conservative Christian home where loving and well-meaning people nonetheless harmed her. In this class, based on Carol's book, Healing Spiritual Wounds, she defines what spiritual wounding is and how she has found help. Her lectures include:What Are Spiritual Wounds?When Institutions HurtFinding HealingWalking in HealthThis course is ideal for those who are curious about spiritual healing.
Chapter 2 of the book of Revelation begins the messages of Christ to the 7 churches of the ancient world. The first message we will study is addressed to the church at Ephesus, a doctrinally sound and strong church that had nevertheless lost their love for Christ. This is a message of serious warning to conservative churches of any time, that while we should be concerned with right doctrine, we must not neglect our love for Jesus, each other and the lost souls of the world.--Come visit us on our various social platforms---Facebook- https---www.facebook.com-pbc.nyc-----Instagram- https---www.instagram.com-pbc.nyc-----Youtube- https---www.youtube.com-pbcnyc---
Chapter 2 of the book of Revelation begins the messages of Christ to the 7 churches of the ancient world. The first message we will study is addressed to the church at Ephesus, a doctrinally sound and strong church that had nevertheless lost their love for Christ. This is a message of serious warning to conservative churches of any time, that while we should be concerned with right doctrine, we must not neglect our love for Jesus, each other and the lost souls of the world.--Come visit us on our various social platforms---Facebook- https---www.facebook.com-pbc.nyc-----Instagram- https---www.instagram.com-pbc.nyc-----Youtube- https---www.youtube.com-pbcnyc---
Co-host of the Thereafter podcast, Meghan Crozier visits the VCW hall to talk about her evangelical story, purity culture, purity culture 2.0, exvangelical CCM karaoke, and more. Mentioned on the pod: "The Djembe Thread" - https://twitter.com/thepursuinglife/status/1486759817565794307 Resources Meghan Crozier recommends on the topic of Purity Culture: Talk Purity to Me - https://www.instagram.com/talkpuritytome/?hl=en Erica Smith - https://www.instagram.com/ericasmith.sex.ed/?hl=en Meg Cowan - https://www.instagram.com/megccowan/?hl=en Dr. Tina Sellers - https://www.instagram.com/drtinashameless/?hl=en Jo Luehmann - https://www.instagram.com/joluehmann/?hl=en Brenda Marie Davies (God is Grey) - https://www.instagram.com/godisgrey/?hl=en Ms. Charlotte - https://twitter.com/charlotteirene8 QueerTheology.com (Brian and Shay) - https://www.queertheology.com/ The Snarky Gent - https://twitter.com/thesnarkygent Tyler Krumland - https://twitter.com/TylerKrumland Kevin Garcia - https://www.instagram.com/thekevingarcia/?hl=en Alicia T. Crosby - https://www.aliciatcrosby.com/about Books: Pure by Linda Kay Klein Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms by Matthias Roberts #churchtoo by Emily Joy Allison Sex, God, and the Conservative Church by Dr. Tina Sellers Shameless by Nadia Bolz Weber You Are Your Own by Jamie Lee Finch Love Him Well by Tyler Krumland On Her Knees: Memoir of a Prayerful Jezebel by Brenda Marie Davies Big Big Love Revised: A Sex and Relationships Guide for People of Size - Hanne Blank Sex For One: The Joy of Self Loving - Dr. Betty Dodson Come As You Are - The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life - Dr. Emily Nagoski Good Christian Sex: Why Chastity Isn't The Only Option And Other Things The Bible Says About Sex - Bromleigh McCleneghan Damaged Goods: New Perspectives on Christian Purity - Dianna Anderson The Body Is Not An Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love - Sonya Renee Taylor Exhibitionism For The Shy - Carol Queen Our Bodies, Ourselves - Boston Women's Health Collective All About Love - bell hooks -Check out Zach's music by going to: https://muzach.bandcamp.com Twitter: @vcwpod Zach- @muzach Dave- @Davejlester Podcast music by Zach Malm Logo by Zach Malm
On this BONUS episode, Cortland and Meghan talk through recent conversations about the new version of purity culture, sexual ethics, queer affirmation, and sex positivity. This unique episode doesn't have a guest interview, but gives our listeners a window into the way we navigate dialogue about ethics and values on the other side of faith change. We know that we are always learning, and we want to point to the voices that we have learned so much from in this space. Please check out these creators and support their work. Also know that this is not an exhaustive list, it's always growing, and we will continue to add to it! Instagram/Twitter/Web: Talk Purity to Me, Erica Smith, Meg Cowan, Dr. Tina Sellers, Jo Luehmann, Brenda Marie Davies (God is Grey), Ms. Charlotte, QueerTheology.com (Brian and Shay), The Snarky Gent, Tyler Krumland, Kevin Garcia, Alicia T. Crosby Please check out this list of book recommendations shared in this tweet by Ms. Charlotte. Books: Pure by Linda Kay Klein Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms by Matthias Roberts #churchtoo by Emily Joy Allison Sex, God, and the Conservative Church by Dr. Tina Sellers Shameless by Nadia Bolz Weber You Are Your Own by Jamie Lee Finch Love Him Well by Tyler Krumland On Her Knees: Memoir of a Prayerful Jezebel by Brenda Marie Davies We would love to hear feedback about the show, and specifically about this episode. Feedback from listeners helps us determine the future direction of the show! Send us a note on Twitter or Instagram or leave a review on Apple Podcasts. Thanks for being fellow travelers on this messy journey we call life.
This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a woman who's worried about her husband's secret habit, and offer suggestions for oral sex to a letter writer who has a unique problem. Mentioned in the episode: Sex, God, and the Conservative Church by Tina Schermer Sellers Is Porn Addiction a Real Thing? Moody Bitches by Julie Holland “TMJ and Intimacy” by S. Michael Plaut Slate Plus members get another episode of the How to Do It podcast every Monday. Sign up for Slate Plus now and get $25 off. Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you're in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at (347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it's anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing! Production by Chau Tu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a woman who's worried about her husband's secret habit, and offer suggestions for oral sex to a letter writer who has a unique problem. Mentioned in the episode: Sex, God, and the Conservative Church by Tina Schermer Sellers Is Porn Addiction a Real Thing? Moody Bitches by Julie Holland “TMJ and Intimacy” by S. Michael Plaut Slate Plus members get another episode of the How to Do It podcast every Monday. Sign up for Slate Plus now and get $25 off. Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you're in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at (347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it's anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing! Production by Chau Tu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Lauren is a counselor who has experience in the ministry and now specializes in helping couples with intimacy and connection. She joins the channel to discuss her perspective on how purity culture has shaped the way marriages experience intimacy. She also addresses how to talk your children about sexuality in a healthy way. Singles/Parents: Redeemed Sexuality by Tim and Dr. Jennifer Konzen https://www.christianbook.com/redeemed-sexuality-christian-singles-students-parents/tim-konzen/9781595543516/pd/543516?en=google&event=SHOP&kw=books-0-20%7C543516&p=1179710&utm_source=google&dv=c&gclid=Cj0KCQiAnuGNBhCPARIsACbnLzohwrPaK_EaMPNe5sAQVxPnierx4NIvSXWu_PDzHbdzcYZ_naTrukgaAme0EALw_wcB Soul Virgins by Doug Rosenau https://www.amazon.com/Soul-Virgins-Redefining-Single-Sexuality/dp/0985810718 Unwanted by Jay Stringer https://www.amazon.com/Unwanted-Sexual-Brokenness-Reveals-Healing/dp/1631466720/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=unwanted&qid=1639515342&s=books&sr=1-1 Married Individuals: The Art of Intimate Marriage by Tim and Dr. Jennifer Konzen https://www.amazon.com/Art-Intimate-Marriage-Christian-Intimacy/dp/0692730702/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=art+of+intimate+marriage&qid=1639515376&s=books&sr=1-2 Restoring the Pleasure by Clifford and Joyce Pennerhttps://www.amazon.com/Restoring-Pleasure-Thomas-Nelson/dp/0718077555/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=restoring+the+pleasure&qid=1639515436&s=books&sr=1-1 Ministers: Sex, God and the Conservative Church by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers https://www.amazon.com/Conservative-Church-Tina-Schermer-Sellers/dp/1138674982/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1639515494&sr=1-3 Pure by Linda Kay Klein https://www.amazon.com/Pure-Inside-Evangelical-Movement-Generation/dp/150112482X/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=pure&qid=1639515558&s=books&sr=1-5
Lena Elkhatib, LMFT, CST, joins Lisa Butterworth on this episode of Mormon Sex Info. Lena shares her experience as a therapist with her Muslim community and, in particular, addressing sexual health. For more about Lena, you can visit: https://essentiatherapy.com/ Resources Mentioned in this Podcast: “Sex, God, and the Conservative Church” by Tina Sellers Please consider donating to keep Mormon Sex Info going past 2021 please donate by clicking on the DonorBox button at the top of this page.
Matt and Merry talk about the recent exodus from conservative evangelical churches. Why do people leave, and where do they go? Along the way, we chat about running across the Chesapeake Bay, trick or treating, and our awesome family costume theme.
Note: Intro ends and our conversation with Erica begins at 9 min.Hey friends, and welcome back to another episode and we're so excited that you are here! This week's episode is so insightful, full of insight, some hard conversation, and we know you're going to love it. Erica Smith Erica Smith, M.Ed., is an award winning, nationally recognized sex educator with over 21 years of experience. She is the creator of Purity Culture Dropout, an intensive sexuality education and coaching program for folks who were raised in purity culture and who are seeking the queer inclusive, shame free, trauma informed, medically accurate, and comprehensive sex education they need.For most of her career, Erica provided sex education, HIV prevention, and advocacy to young people in juvenile detention. Erica believes that access to compassionate, comprehensive, evidence-based sexuality education is a key component to wellness and equality for all.Erica is a wealth of information when it comes to understanding and talking about sexuality. She's informative, data driven, and helps people breakdown barriers and fears when it comes to talking about sex. On this episode, we talk about her years of experience in education around sex, and we talk about cultural shifts in the conversation that are so important to note and understand. On this episode we talk about: Why we're so afraid to talk about sexThe purity movement and purity culture, and it's damaging effects on our sexual identitiesCurrent research happening around pornography and sexual educationWhat is ethical porn and how does it differWhat exactly do we mean when we say sexuality?Some important references:Sex, God, & the Conservative Church by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers: https://amzn.to/3jibH4qYou Are Your Own by Jamie Lee Finch: https://amzn.to/3DVTJwzSex Positive Families: https://sexpositivefamilies.com/Parenting Forward by Cindy Brandt: https://amzn.to/3vqcHIEAdvocates For Youth: https://www.advocatesforyouth.org/You can find Erica on Instagram @ericasmith.sex.edYou can find Erica's website here: https://www.ericasmitheac.com/You can find Kara on Instagram @bykaraeliseYou can find Caleb on Instagram @Caleb_campbellYou can find Kara + Caleb on TikTok @karaandcalebSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Such a pleasure to have Erica Smith (@ericasmith.sex.ed) on the show to talk all about her work helping people heal from purity culture through her Purity Culture Dropout program! Erica and Caitlin talk about how she supports queer folks healing from purity culture, how to think about casual sex & dating, and the benefits and pitfalls of Instagram._________________________Show NotesSign up for the Purity Culture Dropout Program The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der KolkSex, God, and The Conservative Church and Shameless Parenting by Dr. Tina Shermer-Sellers Book recs: Ace by Angela Chen, Getting It by Alison MoonFollow Erica on Instagram @ericasmith.sex.ed_________________________You can find all book recommendations mentioned on the podcast on Bookshop.org here (and if you shop through the affiliate link, Caitlin gets a little commission!)Remember to rate, review, and subscribe to help the pod grow!You can follow the podcast @betweenthepagespod on Instagram and Caitlin's bookish content @bookescait on Instagram
As part of our First Person series, Forum invites Bay Area residents to share their lived experience leading remarkable and important lives within our community. Matt Marostica lives in Berkeley but is the High Councilor in the Oakland Stake of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, as people within the faith prefer to be called instead of the more common term Mormon. Marostica, a former bishop of the Berkeley ward, says his congregation is made up of all sorts of people, from openly-gay members, to undocumented immigrants, to conservatives. Marostica says he loves his church and faith community, and is working to change it from the inside.
Talbot Boulter is a theology, philosophy, and sexuality nerd, Enneagram 9, arts & music lover currently living in Dallas, TX. She hopes to become a marriage/family and sex therapist. I'm very passionate about building healthy sexual ethics and bridging the gaps in controversial conversations. Which is why she's obviously perfect for this podcast! We dive deep into pleasure, masterbation, and navigating our relationship with our bodies as women who grew up in purity culture & are now in fully committed relationships. Author Tags: Paige Breese, Talbot Boulter (Always include the HOST(s) and GUEST(s), and also relevant company names or keywords that are mentioned in the episode). Notes for iTunes & Feed: Talbot Boulter is a theology, philosophy, and sexuality nerd, Enneagram 9, arts & music lover currently living in Dallas, TX. She hopes to become a marriage/family and sex therapist. I'm very passionate about building healthy sexual ethics and bridging the gaps in controversial conversations. Which is why she's obviously perfect for this podcast! We dive deep into pleasure, masterbation, and navigating our relationship with our bodies as women who grew up in purity culture & are now in fully committed relationships. Resources cited in this episode! https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform-ebook/dp/B00LD1ORBI (Come As You Are - Emily Nagoski) https://www.omgyes.com/ (OMG Yes) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-refined-collective-podcast/id1348034641 (The Refined Collective Podcast) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/faith-and-feminism/id1438368947 (Faith & Feminism Podcast) https://www.amazon.com/Conservative-Church-Tina-Schermer-Sellers/dp/1138674982 (Sex, God, and The Conservative Church by Tina Schermer Sellers PhD) Follow Talbot! https://www.instagram.com/tchristeva7/ (INSTAGRAM) | https://talbotjenkins.wixsite.com/insightunspoken (INSIGHT, UNSPOKEN BLOG) Stay Up To Date: ● Follow https://instagram.com/thebabelpodcast (@TheBabelPodcast) and https://instagram.com/paigeterynbreese (@PaigeTerynBreese) on Instagram ● Visit http://paigebreese.com (paigebreese.com) COVER ART PHOTOGRAPHY - HANNA HUNT & STYLE SHUTTER https://www.instagram.com/style_shutter/ (INSTAGRAM) | https://my.captivate.fm/www.style-shutter.com (WEBSITE)
John Gresham Machen was born on July 28, 1881. It was prosperous time - the gilded age of America. Skyscrapers were going up as well as wages. The Machen family was affluent. John's mother Mary came from a wealthy family and was a devote Presbyterian. She was a voracious reader and had even published a work on the Bible and poetry. She was 21 years younger than her husband, Arthur Webster Machen, a successful lawyer and an Episcopalian. But despite the couple's different Christian affiliations, Mary taught John along with her other two sons, the Westminster Shorter Catechism from an early age. The family attended Franklin Street Presbyterian Church, and in time, John came to make the Presbyterian Church his own. But in a twist of fate as only God could know, much of the Presbyterian church would one day make Machen their own. As an adolescent, he received a classical education and was taught in Greek and Latin. It would serve as formational to his future career as a New Testament scholar. At seventeen years of age, John enrolled at the newly founded, John Hopkins University where he excelled in his studies. In 1901 he decided to pursue Theology at Princeton University.After four years there, John found himself doing his post study in Germany - the very home of Protestantism. It was there that John learned under Professor and Lutheran Theologian, Wilhelm Herrmann. For better or worse, Herrmann was one of many Theologians in Europe greatly influenced by Immanuel Kant. In general, Herrmann's Theology viewed God as an ultimate power and source of goodness, but was less concerned with the accuracy or the inherency of the Christian Scriptures, or even the historicity of the person of Jesus. To make things more confusing for young Machen, Herrmann was a passionate and devoted Christian whose preaching deeply moved John's heart. Because of this, the young theology student had a hard time reconciling a real Christian faith that was not built upon historical and biblical truths. To Machen, Herrmann's philosophy of Christian faith was a bit illogical. John knew that a substantial and vibrant faith in Jesus should not be separated from what the Bible clearly revealed. History and Doctrine must be integrated. He would later write, “Christ died"--that is history; "Christ died for our sins"--that is doctrine. Without these two elements, joined in an absolutely indissoluble union, there is no Christianity.”(J. Gresham Machen, Christianity and Liberalism)While it tested his faith, it would seem that John's time in Germany only strengthened his convictions that modern or liberal theology was not just a different form of the historic Christian faith, but a growing threat to it. But even by this time in John's young life, he still seemed to be somewhat aimless concerning his career. In letters written to his parents, John conveyed that he found many fields of study to be intriguing and worth engaging in. He loved sports as well. Thus, the young, wealthy academic was not convinced that the life of a Theologian / Teacher or Pastor was a life he really wanted to pursue. But upon his return to the states in 1906, Machen had decided on a career having joined Princeton Seminary as an instructor in New Testament studies. And so began for John, not only a personal and spiritual struggle against the rising tide of Modernism's influence of Theology but an academic and vocational one as well.As the years past, Machen was becoming a notable New Testament scholar and one, even more rare, that could post a solid intellectual, historical, and exegetical defense for the foundations of the Christian Faith against the progressive theology that had spread and was continuing to infiltrate academia and churches all across America. And While Machen's influence and controversy became more widespread and although the Presbyterian Church in the United States of America (PCUSA) was growing more tolerant of Modernism, John was promoted as Princeton's Assistant Professor of New Testament studies in 1914 - on the eve of WW1.So just as soon as he advanced in Princeton, Machen left to help the war efforts in France. John didn't want to serve from the guarded position of a Chaplain, so he chose to work though the YMCA as a secretary. But for all practicality, he was a literal waiter, making and serving hot chocolate to the soldiers all day and night. While John was located near the front lines of the war, and was never in combat, he was close enough to the action to see death and suffering firsthand. Thankfully the war was relatively short lived and John left for home. But upon his return, another war was in full swing - a theological one in John's mind, that while it didn't destroy the human body, had every potential to destroy the soul. There were clearly two camps of Protestants now, each preaching two different and oppositional interpretations of the gospel. And in May of 1922, Baptist and modernist preacher, Harry Emerson Fosdick made that even more apparent by preaching a now famous sermon against his theological opponents entitled, “Shall the Fundamentalists Win?"And indeed, that was the question - one that John would try and answer. But frustratingly, it seemed that he would do it mostly alone. John was not only philosophically distressed at the open front that Modernist Theology posed to the Historic Christian faith, but personally disheartened, by the fact that he didn't see many others trying to defend it with him. The Conservative Church was largely apathetic which was leading to its ruin. He would later write, “The mass of the Church here is still conservative — but conservative in an ignorant, non-polemic, sweetness-and-light kind of way which is just meat for the wolves.”So, in continuing to shepherd the flock of God, Machen wrote the short but powerful book, Christianity and Liberalism in 1923. In the introduction, he clarified, “In my little book, Christianity and Liberalism, I tried to show that the issue in the Church of the present day is not between two varieties of the same religion, but, at bottom, between two essentially different types of thought and life.” A few years later, Machen wrote another similar book entitled, What Is Faith? In it, Machen tried to reveal that real Christian faith should not only capture one's heart and emotions but must engage one's mind and knowledge as well. Even though his books were received relatively well, there was more work to be done. So, besides teaching on weekdays, preaching on weekends, and publishing in the time between, Machen also took advantage of the air waves. The Radio was not even a decade old, and John made effective use of it. So much so, that by his numerous teachings on what makes Christianity authentically Christian, he became known as Dr. Fun-da-men-ta-lis or (The Dr. of the Fundamentals).But in the very midst of all of this, the more liberal Northern Presbyterians were doing their own work to break free from fundamentalism's long hold on their denomination. And in May of 1924, the Auburn Affirmation was dated and presented to the General Assembly - the authoritative body of the Presbyterian church. The Auburn Affirmation sought to liberate the Presbyterian Church from the requirements of those seeking ordination. Since the church's beginning, every ordained minister had to believe and confess five fundamentals of the Christian faith. 1. The Inerrancy of the Scriptures, 2. The Virgin birth of Jesus, and His deity, 3. The Substitutionary Atonement, 4. The bodily resurrection of Jesus, and 5. The authenticity of Jesus' miracles - (belief in the supernatural). Although the affirmation was authored by an eleven-member Conference Committee, it was signed by over twelve hundred ministers of the PCUSA, and supported by many other clergymen. The General Assembly convened to consider the affirmation and set about to probe deeper into the division within their church that had now been brewing for nearly 30 years.But just after this, in 1925, the American mood towards the Modernist / Fundamentalist theological controversy drastically changed over the Summer of that year. And it happened outside the walls of the Church.In July, William Jennings Bryan, the three time Democratic Presidential candidate, the Conservative Christian, and long time Presbyterian elder, participated in the highly publicized Scopes Trial - or the Scope's Monkey Trial. While the Trial technically debated the legality of teaching the theory of evolution in public schools, the case was much bigger than that. It highlighted, and nationalized the ongoing controversy of Liberal VS. Conservative, and Modernist VS. Fundamentalist. The aging Bryan represented the prosecution, arguing against evolution being taught in schools where the famed Clarence Darrow defended John Scope's right to instruct and teach the theory. But on the seventh day of the trial, Darrow unorthodoxly questioned Byran as a witness to basically defend the Bible, and the miracles described within it. Byran, although relatively well versed in the Bible, was not ready for this line of questioning - and it embarrassingly showed. The news coverage, namely led by Henry Mencken ridiculed and branded Bryan as a Southern, anti-intellectual, Bible believing dope. On the eight and last day of the trial, the jury took only nine minutes to deliberate. Although Mr. Scope's was found guilty on a technicality and fined one hundred dollars, the American public believed the media coverage that largely portrayed fundamentalist Christians as naive, rigid, and unscientific.William Bryan died five days after the trial in his sleep from a stroke. He was 65 years old.In the aftermath of the Scope's case, what was once a nation that had grown somewhat indifferent to theological fundamentalism had now become openly opposed to it. With the movement presently on the side of the Progressives in every aspect of the culture and now in the Church, (as the General Assembly ended up supporting the Auburn Affirmation), Machen and the many others like him, felt they had no place to go. Their belief in the foundational truths of the Christian Faith were not welcomed in the arts, or humanities. Worse, they were not welcomed in Princeton or even the PCUSA. So, with firmness of purpose, academic influence, and much financial help from his inheritance, Machen took the lead in founding Westminster Seminary in Philadelphia in 1929. He would teach New Testament there until his death, which sadly, wasn't too far away for the 48 year old professor.While the emergence of a Seminary that remained faithful to the historic and conservative doctrines of the faith was a success, there was still only one Presbyterian Church, to which all those “fundamentalists” reluctantly belonged. The new Seminary was no doubt an academic solution, but it was not an ecclesiastical one. And within only a few years after the new Seminary had opened, Machen saw more problems on the horizon of a church divided.That's because a certain theology sown must reap a certain practice. And sure enough, some missionaries from the PCUSA revealed that their work in foreign countries had less to do with the saving work of Jesus than it did spreading general Christian philosophy and ethics. In the wake of the Auburn Affirmation, many missionaries straightforwardly denied the deity of Christ, and therefore, His redemptive work, like novelist Pearl S. Buck who openly denied the core tenets of the gospel. Because of this, Machen could not, in good faith give the church's tithes to a missionary board that spread such unbiblical theology upon lost souls. Gresham wrote that the "missionary of liberalism” sought to spread "the blessings of Christian civilization (whatever that may be), and is not particularly interested in leading individuals to relinquish their pagan beliefs." (Christianity and Liberalism). Due to the two opposing groups of Christians inside their walls, the PCUSA clearly had two different missions. And so, in 1933 Machen, finally formed The Independent Board for Presbyterian Foreign Missions.While this new Foreign Missions Board was a victory, much like Westminster Seminary was, at least from the Conservative point of view, it was only another band aid applied to a much bigger and festering wound. Not only was the PCUSA, growing tired of being challenged on every level, but was now receiving less income from their tithes being split between two Missionary Agencies. They felt it was time to confront the new mission board head on. The General Assembly demanded that the members of the Independent Missions committee step down. This command was ignored - the conservatives in general believed that the Presbytery would not seriously punish other Presbyterians whose sole purpose was to preach the gospel. But they were wrong. In February and March of 1935, Machen was tried on six charges all related to his support for the Independent Board for Presbyterian Foreign Missions. Although he plead “Not Guilty”, the court not only denied his chance to defend himself against the accusations of disobedience, but ruled that their judicial resolution could not be challenged. Friend and colleague of Machen later wrote how wrong it was, “…that a Presbyterian court should thus have flouted the most elementary principles of justice, [and] That it happened can only be attributed to a shocking disregard of the basic Protestant principles that God alone is Lord of the conscience and that the Scriptures are the only infallible rule of faith and practice by which all controversies are to be judged.” [-Stonehouse, Ned B., J. Gresham Machen: A Biographical Memoir (Grand Rapids: Wm. B. Eerdmans, 1954), pages 490-491.]Machen was officially and finally defeated. Not by the world, but by his own church, the PCUSA. He was tried, convicted, and suspended from his ministerial duties. In essence, his ordination from the church he grew up, taught, and served in was revoked.This unsurprisingly led to the culmination of the great Presbyterian split.Having done all to unite and yet warn his body of believers, concerning the dangers of Modern Theology, Machen, and the many with him, were convinced they had no other option than to officially start their own church - the Orthodox Presbyterian Church, or the OPC. It was launched in mid 1936. But while the controversial scholar, and defrocked church planter was busy with all his commitments, Machen was never too occupied to preach to anyone, anywhere. During the Westminster's Christmas break of the 1936, (just six months after the OPC began), John was asked to preach to some churches in North Dakota. Close friends of his lightly tried to dissuade him from going since he was already clearly tired and stressed from fresh church split. Yet, ever devoted to his work and to the preaching of the gospel, John did not heed their caution. He took the train into the inhospitable weather of the North Dakota winter. But there would be no train ride back.While the 55 year old, weathered many storms in his life up to this point, the 20 below 0 winds got to him and John soon fell ill with pneumonia. Just after Christmas day away from home, Machen was admitted to a Roman Catholic hospital in Bismarck. On the morning of New Year's Day 1937, John still gravely ill, was well enough to send a telegram to his close friend and Westminster colleague, John Murray. But later that day, around 7:30 p.m., John Gresham Machen finally succumbed to his chest infection and died. With little imagination, one could speculate that John's last days on earth was nothing more than an old, haggard, academic polemist, bitter at how he was handled by the church, saddened by the friends he lost, confused as to his poor health, complaining in all these things resentfully asking “why”? But it seems, anything like that was far from the truth. John, whom, rest and tranquility often eluded, was at peace. His last recorded words, from the telegram Mr. Murray received simply said, “I'm so thankful for [the] active obedience of Christ. No hope without it.” You see, John's hope and peace were nothing the world or the church could give or take away. His ultimate rest was solely in the person and redeeming work of Jesus. That is why Machen could write that he was “thankful” on the very day he died, probably alone, in an unfamiliar hospital in the harsh weather of North Dakota. All of John's work - his preachings, his teachings, his writings, viewed as both defensive and offensive, was not just convincing one about lifeless creeds or beliefs, or philosophical theories, and impersonal theology, but rather the personally deep relationship that can be had in his friend and savior Jesus. And for Machen, that was worth living for, fighting for, and dying for.Sources:1. Youtube: The Boswell Sisters 1930's music - USA Best female singers vol.1 (1930-1935) / ill rec2. Youtube: LGBTQ+ Against God's Design? Progressive VS Conservative Christian (Part 1) / Anchored North (Clip used out of context).3. Youtube: Inherit the Wind (1960) - Fanaticism and Ignorance Scene (5/12) | Movieclips / Feb 2, 20174. Youtube: Scopes Monkey – Rare Footage of the "Trial of the Century" | Flashback | History / Jul 20, 2018 Questions:What does it look like for you to contend for the faith today in your circle of influence?What doctrines should the Church be split over? Extra Material:Christ, Culture & Coffee, An Apologetics Podcast / Episode 153: The Dangers of Progressive Christianityhttps://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cDovL2ZlZWRzLnNvdW5kY2xvdWQuY29tL3VzZXJzL3NvdW5kY2xvdWQ6dXNlcnM6NDMyMTM2NTYwL3NvdW5kcy5yc3M/episode/dGFnOnNvdW5kY2xvdWQsMjAxMDp0cmFja3MvMTAwNDM4OTE4OQ?sa=X&ved=0CAUQkfYCahcKEwjAkOH_0PHwAhUAAAAAHQAAAAAQAg&hl=en
Tina talks to Morgan about being a sex therapist and sex educator. She explains how U.S. culture has evolved politically in relation to the Christian church. Her book, "Sex, God, and the Conservative Church," explains the integration of spirituality and sexuality. Her new book is called "Shameless Parenting: Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident Kids & Heal Your Shame Too." Link for book: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/ Link for classes for professionals: nwioi.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/morgan-mcgill/support
Shelsa & Julisa discuss growing up a girl in their conservative church culture, how the boys seemed to have been treated differently, and how it has affected their views of themselves, their bodies, and their relationships.
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Steve discusses the intricacies of Liberal and Conservative churches and dissects the differences between them.
Take a listen as a black liberal Christian and a white Conservative Christian have a very difficult conversation about Donald Trump, Race, and silence coming from the Conservative Church when it comes to the killing of unarmed black men and women at the hand of white officers. He is @galen.rae, a husband, father, song writer, worship leader, music teacher, and Trump supporter. This is part 2 of this very difficult and very important conversation. Be sure to subscribe to the channel. Follow me at: www.instagram.com/geralddavispodcast, or www.instagram.com/geralddavisart Follow Galen at: www.instagram.com/galen.rae --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Take a listen as a black liberal Christian and a white Conservative Christian have a very difficult conversation about Donald Trump, Race, and silence coming from the Conservative Church when it comes to the killing of unarmed black men and women at the hand of white officers. He is @galen.rae, a husband, father, song writer, worship leader, music teacher, and Trump supporter. This is part 1 of this very difficult and very important conversation. Be sure to subscribe to the channel. Follow me at: www.instagram.com/geralddavispodcast, or www.instagram.com/geralddavisart Follow Galen at: www.instagram.com/galen.rae --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Dr. Shermer-Sellers discusses her book Sex, God, and The Conservative Church, Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy. Shae discusses why she wrote the book, her research in writing the book, she shares the connection between God, Sex, and the Church and what the relationship with God, sexuality, and Intimacy really is.
AASECT-certified supervisor, founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, mother, wife and author Dr. Tina Sellers joins Taylor to discuss religious sexual shame. As the author of Sex, God, and the Conservative Church, Tina shares her four-step model for healing religious sexual shame, which includes touch and non-touch exercises. This episode will help empower you to rise above your sexual shame and embrace your value. RESOURCES Dr. Tina Sellers Sex, God, and the Conservative Church Books Mentioned: Girls and Sex by Peggy Orenstein
Dr. Tina founded the Northwest Institute on Intimacy (NWIOI), an organization dedicated to empowering therapists to provide excellent levels of care to their clients around topics of sexuality and intimacy. "I want people everywhere to live shamelessly as sexual beings, knowing they deserve connection and pleasure." Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/about #sexpositive #Christianity #progressive #exvangelical #evangelical #Jesus #bible #theology --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/Godisgrey/support
Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a therapist, sex educator, speaker, author, mother, and wife. She wrote the book “Sex, God, and the Conservative Church” which helps everyday people and clinicians to understand what it means to grow up with abstinence education or a faith mired in sexual shame and dysfunction. This book provides new narratives and practices for those who desire to both heal and hold on to their faith orientation. In this episode we dive into questions like why so many Christians are scared of sex and how to overcome guilt from sexual “sins” from the past? @drtinashamlesssex @deconstruct.pod https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/social-links --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Did you grow up in the conservative Christian Purity Movement? Did you learn that sexuality of any kind is something to be ashamed of unless you are married? Did you grow up feeling guilty about your sexual feelings? Author, Linda Kay Klein experienced sexual shame and felt guilty for decades before leaving church and finding sexual freedom in more progressive Christianity. Hear her powerful story and how she helps to liberate other women oppressed by the sex-shaming teachings of the conservative church. Join my free series “Sex and Spirituality: Passionate Intimacy Without Shame,” at https://helenhillix.com/joinsummit. Be sure to subscribe and grab my free gift: https://heal.helenhillix,.com/sacred-sexuality and follow me on Facebook and Instagram: https://instagram.com/helenhillix https://facebook.com/helenhillix https://bit.ly/MyHearttoYours https://YouTube/helenhillix https://helenhillix.com
In this episode: Is Psalm 137 relevant for today? Recommendation on The Conservative Church by David de Bruyn Review of To Change the World by James Davison Hunter Review of "Return to the Ordinary Means of Grace" by Sean Nolan What does it mean to be "people of the Book"?
Tina Schermer Sellers is the author of the book, Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy. She is a nationally known speaker on religious sexual shame. She has a PhD in clinical sexology and is an associate professor of sexuality and director of medical family therapy in the Department of Psychology, Family and Community at Seattle Pacific University, in Seattle, Washington. Tina serves on the board of The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, and is a Co-Creator of She Is Called – a Leadership Collective for Women. She is also the founder and Medical Director of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy. More information about the guest can be found at http://tinaschermersellers.com/
An Intimacy that Includes Mind, Body, Heart, and Spirit My guests are Tina Schermer Sellers and Kamara McAndrews, and together they are sharing the important work of Gina Odgen who passed away last year. Gina herself was a sexual educator and researcher who explored the intersection of sexuality and spirituality. From it came the 4-D wheel of mind, body, heart, and spirit. In this episode, Tina and Kamara share their expertise in the 4-D wheel and gives many examples of its transformational power. Tina Schermer, Ph.D. is a marriage and family therapist, the author of Sex, God, and the Conservative Church, as well as an award-winning speaker and the founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy. Kamara McAndrews LMFT, CST is a certified sex therapist, the director of programming at the 4-D Network, an expert in teaching and spearheading wheel programs, and studied personally with Dr. Ogden herself. Gina Odgen's Life and Mission As she is described during the episode, Gina was an amazing researcher in sexuality and devoted her life to her work. Her work began with studying women who were easily orgasmic, and it evolved into the connection between spirituality and sexuality. She also studied Native American spiritualism, which was the precursor for her developing the 4-D Network for Mind, Body, Heart, & Spirit. She was also one of the first researchers to ask these personalized sexual questions to such a large number of people. Her methodology was very narrative driven, and she noticed that the responses people were giving in their surveys all touched upon the 4 crucial aspects of the wheel model she pioneered. The 4-D Wheel To understand the 4-D wheel, we are told to imagine a square clock on the ground that has 4 separate quadrants: one for the mind, body, heart, and spirit. Both Tina and Kamara share just how versatile the wheel is, as well. It can be used for just about anything in your life. For instance, if you are stuck in any position, you can take objects that have certain representations and place them in quadrants. This works very well with couples' therapy as well. And for those who have anxiety, it can function as a very powerful tool for handling it. This means you take an object that represents anxiety and move into the emotional quadrant or the mental quadrant. And then you take an object that represents the opposite of anxiety, like calm, and put it wherever you feel you need it most. This type of exercise is great for thinking about things from a creative perspective and for externalizing specific areas. Much more is said within the episode; don't miss it! Sexually Specific Examples of the 4-D Wheel Tina said she's had couples come in who were really stuck in their relationship. In one of these couples, there was trauma in the man's life that had surfaced. They had seen 5 different therapists for addiction recovery, group work, and various individual counseling, and then they came to Tina. She did wheel work with this couple who had struggled for so long. They brought symbols with them about what it meant for each of them to move closer into intimacy with each other. And it was through the wheel work and the externalization and explanation of his struggles that led to an impactful realization between them. The female partner was able to see his trauma externalized, and it was eye-opening. Really awesome example and she says much more within the episode! Group Versus Individual Wheel Work There are a lot of differences between group and individual wheel work. One of these differences is that we all often feel isolated in our suffering. Even if we go to therapy, it can still be a very alienating experience sometimes. Group work, on the other hand, actually focuses on using triggers to get at the root of traumas and bring it out or externalize it. In the midst of a group, this can not only be effective but also powerful as well. This can apply to sexual issues of premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, desire discrepancies between couples, shame from an overactive libido, and myriad other things. Suggestions for Those Who Want to Try Kamara suggests going to Gina Odgen's website and looking through the many valuable resources and books there. Also, Tina has a book called Sex, God, and the Conservative Church, which is amazing as well. In addition to all the books that Gina has written, Kamara suggests that you could also just write down cards that say mind, body, heart, and spirit on them and actually apply the same techniques for externalizing feelings and thoughts through objects. It's an extremely versatile practice with a lot of flexibility. There are more suggestions within! Other Practitioners of the 4-D Wheel Network Tina and Kamara share that they are teaching people how to become certified 4-D practitioners. On the 4-D website, there is an events page that includes other people who lead retreats and various outreaches for these types of teachings. Be sure to check out all of the resources and get in touch with them if you are interested in this fascinating offshoot of the field. 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And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcast Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/More info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
An Intimacy that Includes Mind, Body, Heart, and SpiritMy guests are Tina Schermer Sellers and Kamara McAndrews, and together they are sharing the important work of Gina Odgen who passed away last year. Gina herself was a sexual educator and researcher who explored the intersection of sexuality and spirituality. From it came the 4-D wheel of mind, body, heart, and spirit. In this episode, Tina and Kamara share their expertise in the 4-D wheel and gives many examples of its transformational power.Tina Schermer, Ph.D. is a marriage and family therapist, the author of Sex, God, and the Conservative Church, as well as an award-winning speaker and the founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy.Kamara McAndrews LMFT, CST is a certified sex therapist, the director of programming at the 4-D Network, an expert in teaching and spearheading wheel programs, and studied personally with Dr. Ogden herself.Gina Odgen’s Life and MissionAs she is described during the episode, Gina was an amazing researcher in sexuality and devoted her life to her work. Her work began with studying women who were easily orgasmic, and it evolved into the connection between spirituality and sexuality. She also studied Native American spiritualism, which was the precursor for her developing the 4-D Network for Mind, Body, Heart, & Spirit.She was also one of the first researchers to ask these personalized sexual questions to such a large number of people. Her methodology was very narrative driven, and she noticed that the responses people were giving in their surveys all touched upon the 4 crucial aspects of the wheel model she pioneered.The 4-D WheelTo understand the 4-D wheel, we are told to imagine a square clock on the ground that has 4 separate quadrants: one for the mind, body, heart, and spirit.Both Tina and Kamara share just how versatile the wheel is, as well. It can be used for just about anything in your life. For instance, if you are stuck in any position, you can take objects that have certain representations and place them in quadrants. This works very well with couples’ therapy as well.And for those who have anxiety, it can function as a very powerful tool for handling it. This means you take an object that represents anxiety and move into the emotional quadrant or the mental quadrant. And then you take an object that represents the opposite of anxiety, like calm, and put it wherever you feel you need it most.This type of exercise is great for thinking about things from a creative perspective and for externalizing specific areas. Much more is said within the episode; don’t miss it!Sexually Specific Examples of the 4-D WheelTina said she’s had couples come in who were really stuck in their relationship. In one of these couples, there was trauma in the man’s life that had surfaced. They had seen 5 different therapists for addiction recovery, group work, and various individual counseling, and then they came to Tina.She did wheel work with this couple who had struggled for so long. They brought symbols with them about what it meant for each of them to move closer into intimacy with each other. And it was through the wheel work and the externalization and explanation of his struggles that led to an impactful realization between them. The female partner was able to see his trauma externalized, and it was eye-opening.Really awesome example and she says much more within the episode!Group Versus Individual Wheel WorkThere are a lot of differences between group and individual wheel work. One of these differences is that we all often feel isolated in our suffering. Even if we go to therapy, it can still be a very alienating experience sometimes. Group work, on the other hand, actually focuses on using triggers to get at the root of traumas and bring it out or externalize it. In the midst of a group, this can not only be effective but also powerful as well.This can apply to sexual issues of premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, desire discrepancies between couples, shame from an overactive libido, and myriad other things.Suggestions for Those Who Want to TryKamara suggests going to Gina Odgen’s website and looking through the many valuable resources and books there. Also, Tina has a book called Sex, God, and the Conservative Church, which is amazing as well.In addition to all the books that Gina has written, Kamara suggests that you could also just write down cards that say mind, body, heart, and spirit on them and actually apply the same techniques for externalizing feelings and thoughts through objects. It’s an extremely versatile practice with a lot of flexibility.There are more suggestions within!Other Practitioners of the 4-D Wheel NetworkTina and Kamara share that they are teaching people how to become certified 4-D practitioners. On the 4-D website, there is an events page that includes other people who lead retreats and various outreaches for these types of teachings.Be sure to check out all of the resources and get in touch with them if you are interested in this fascinating offshoot of the field.Key Links: Tina’s Website: http://www.tinaschermersellers.com/Institute on Intimacy Website: https://nwioi.com/The 4-D Network Site: https://4-dnetwork.com/Thank God For Sex: http://www.thankgodforsex.org/She Is Called: https://www.sheiscalled.com/Affiliate links: Tina’s book – Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: https://amzn.to/2EZEjeGFrom Diapers to Dating: https://amzn.to/2WqKmnoMore info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
An Intimacy that Includes Mind, Body, Heart, and SpiritMy guests are Tina Schermer Sellers and Kamara McAndrews, and together they are sharing the important work of Gina Odgen who passed away last year. Gina herself was a sexual educator and researcher who explored the intersection of sexuality and spirituality. From it came the 4-D wheel of mind, body, heart, and spirit. In this episode, Tina and Kamara share their expertise in the 4-D wheel and gives many examples of its transformational power.Tina Schermer, Ph.D. is a marriage and family therapist, the author of Sex, God, and the Conservative Church, as well as an award-winning speaker and the founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy.Kamara McAndrews LMFT, CST is a certified sex therapist, the director of programming at the 4-D Network, an expert in teaching and spearheading wheel programs, and studied personally with Dr. Ogden herself.Gina Odgen’s Life and MissionAs she is described during the episode, Gina was an amazing researcher in sexuality and devoted her life to her work. Her work began with studying women who were easily orgasmic, and it evolved into the connection between spirituality and sexuality. She also studied Native American spiritualism, which was the precursor for her developing the 4-D Network for Mind, Body, Heart, & Spirit.She was also one of the first researchers to ask these personalized sexual questions to such a large number of people. Her methodology was very narrative driven, and she noticed that the responses people were giving in their surveys all touched upon the 4 crucial aspects of the wheel model she pioneered.The 4-D WheelTo understand the 4-D wheel, we are told to imagine a square clock on the ground that has 4 separate quadrants: one for the mind, body, heart, and spirit.Both Tina and Kamara share just how versatile the wheel is, as well. It can be used for just about anything in your life. For instance, if you are stuck in any position, you can take objects that have certain representations and place them in quadrants. This works very well with couples’ therapy as well.And for those who have anxiety, it can function as a very powerful tool for handling it. This means you take an object that represents anxiety and move into the emotional quadrant or the mental quadrant. And then you take an object that represents the opposite of anxiety, like calm, and put it wherever you feel you need it most.This type of exercise is great for thinking about things from a creative perspective and for externalizing specific areas. Much more is said within the episode; don’t miss it!Sexually Specific Examples of the 4-D WheelTina said she’s had couples come in who were really stuck in their relationship. In one of these couples, there was trauma in the man’s life that had surfaced. They had seen 5 different therapists for addiction recovery, group work, and various individual counseling, and then they came to Tina.She did wheel work with this couple who had struggled for so long. They brought symbols with them about what it meant for each of them to move closer into intimacy with each other. And it was through the wheel work and the externalization and explanation of his struggles that led to an impactful realization between them. The female partner was able to see his trauma externalized, and it was eye-opening.Really awesome example and she says much more within the episode!Group Versus Individual Wheel WorkThere are a lot of differences between group and individual wheel work. One of these differences is that we all often feel isolated in our suffering. Even if we go to therapy, it can still be a very alienating experience sometimes. Group work, on the other hand, actually focuses on using triggers to get at the root of traumas and bring it out or externalize it. In the midst of a group, this can not only be effective but also powerful as well.This can apply to sexual issues of premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, desire discrepancies between couples, shame from an overactive libido, and myriad other things.Suggestions for Those Who Want to TryKamara suggests going to Gina Odgen’s website and looking through the many valuable resources and books there. Also, Tina has a book called Sex, God, and the Conservative Church, which is amazing as well.In addition to all the books that Gina has written, Kamara suggests that you could also just write down cards that say mind, body, heart, and spirit on them and actually apply the same techniques for externalizing feelings and thoughts through objects. It’s an extremely versatile practice with a lot of flexibility.There are more suggestions within!Other Practitioners of the 4-D Wheel NetworkTina and Kamara share that they are teaching people how to become certified 4-D practitioners. On the 4-D website, there is an events page that includes other people who lead retreats and various outreaches for these types of teachings.Be sure to check out all of the resources and get in touch with them if you are interested in this fascinating offshoot of the field.Key Links: Tina’s Website: http://www.tinaschermersellers.com/Institute on Intimacy Website: https://nwioi.com/The 4-D Network Site: https://4-dnetwork.com/Thank God For Sex: http://www.thankgodforsex.org/She Is Called: https://www.sheiscalled.com/Affiliate links: Tina’s book – Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: https://amzn.to/2EZEjeGFrom Diapers to Dating: https://amzn.to/2WqKmnoMore info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
An Intimacy that Includes Mind, Body, Heart, and SpiritMy guests are Tina Schermer Sellers and Kamara McAndrews, and together they are sharing the important work of Gina Odgen who passed away last year. Gina herself was a sexual educator and researcher who explored the intersection of sexuality and spirituality. From it came the 4-D wheel of mind, body, heart, and spirit. In this episode, Tina and Kamara share their expertise in the 4-D wheel and gives many examples of its transformational power.Tina Schermer, Ph.D. is a marriage and family therapist, the author of Sex, God, and the Conservative Church, as well as an award-winning speaker and the founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy.Kamara McAndrews LMFT, CST is a certified sex therapist, the director of programming at the 4-D Network, an expert in teaching and spearheading wheel programs, and studied personally with Dr. Ogden herself.Gina Odgen’s Life and MissionAs she is described during the episode, Gina was an amazing researcher in sexuality and devoted her life to her work. Her work began with studying women who were easily orgasmic, and it evolved into the connection between spirituality and sexuality. She also studied Native American spiritualism, which was the precursor for her developing the 4-D Network for Mind, Body, Heart, & Spirit.She was also one of the first researchers to ask these personalized sexual questions to such a large number of people. Her methodology was very narrative driven, and she noticed that the responses people were giving in their surveys all touched upon the 4 crucial aspects of the wheel model she pioneered.The 4-D WheelTo understand the 4-D wheel, we are told to imagine a square clock on the ground that has 4 separate quadrants: one for the mind, body, heart, and spirit.Both Tina and Kamara share just how versatile the wheel is, as well. It can be used for just about anything in your life. For instance, if you are stuck in any position, you can take objects that have certain representations and place them in quadrants. This works very well with couples’ therapy as well.And for those who have anxiety, it can function as a very powerful tool for handling it. This means you take an object that represents anxiety and move into the emotional quadrant or the mental quadrant. And then you take an object that represents the opposite of anxiety, like calm, and put it wherever you feel you need it most.This type of exercise is great for thinking about things from a creative perspective and for externalizing specific areas. Much more is said within the episode; don’t miss it!Sexually Specific Examples of the 4-D WheelTina said she’s had couples come in who were really stuck in their relationship. In one of these couples, there was trauma in the man’s life that had surfaced. They had seen 5 different therapists for addiction recovery, group work, and various individual counseling, and then they came to Tina.She did wheel work with this couple who had struggled for so long. They brought symbols with them about what it meant for each of them to move closer into intimacy with each other. And it was through the wheel work and the externalization and explanation of his struggles that led to an impactful realization between them. The female partner was able to see his trauma externalized, and it was eye-opening.Really awesome example and she says much more within the episode!Group Versus Individual Wheel WorkThere are a lot of differences between group and individual wheel work. One of these differences is that we all often feel isolated in our suffering. Even if we go to therapy, it can still be a very alienating experience sometimes. Group work, on the other hand, actually focuses on using triggers to get at the root of traumas and bring it out or externalize it. In the midst of a group, this can not only be effective but also powerful as well.This can apply to sexual issues of premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, desire discrepancies between couples, shame from an overactive libido, and myriad other things.Suggestions for Those Who Want to TryKamara suggests going to Gina Odgen’s website and looking through the many valuable resources and books there. Also, Tina has a book called Sex, God, and the Conservative Church, which is amazing as well.In addition to all the books that Gina has written, Kamara suggests that you could also just write down cards that say mind, body, heart, and spirit on them and actually apply the same techniques for externalizing feelings and thoughts through objects. It’s an extremely versatile practice with a lot of flexibility.There are more suggestions within!Other Practitioners of the 4-D Wheel NetworkTina and Kamara share that they are teaching people how to become certified 4-D practitioners. On the 4-D website, there is an events page that includes other people who lead retreats and various outreaches for these types of teachings.Be sure to check out all of the resources and get in touch with them if you are interested in this fascinating offshoot of the field.Key Links: Tina’s Website: http://www.tinaschermersellers.com/Institute on Intimacy Website: https://nwioi.com/The 4-D Network Site: https://4-dnetwork.com/Thank God For Sex: http://www.thankgodforsex.org/She Is Called: https://www.sheiscalled.com/Affiliate links: Tina’s book – Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: https://amzn.to/2EZEjeGFrom Diapers to Dating: https://amzn.to/2WqKmnoMore info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
Dr. Tina Sellers talks about her book, "Sex, God, and the Conservative Church." In it, she reclaims a healthy sexuality for the church.
Enjoying God Help Us? Please rate and review on Apple Podcasts. - This very special episode of God Help Us was recorded with a live audience at Cedar & Spokes Coffee and Bar in Seattle on March 2nd at an event we called Undoing: Decolonizing our Bodies and Sexuality, co-hosted by myself and Gabes Torres. This episode is the God Help Us segment of the evening in which I discuss the politics of the evangelical purity movement with sex therapist Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers. Tina is professor emeritus in Seattle Pacific University’s Marriage and Family Therapy program, founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, and the author of Sex, God & the Conservative Church. RECOMMENDED RESOURCES: Sex, Mom, and God Not Under My Roof The Male Brain The Female Brain FIND TINA: tinaschermersellers.com Instagram Twitter - I’m Annie Mesaros: a theologian, writer, spiritual guide, and host of this podcast. I offer coaching and facilitation for individuals and groups that are working to transform the world for good. Learn more and contact me at anniemesaros.com. Follow the podcast on Instagram @godhelppod.
I am very proud to present this talk with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers from Seattle Pacific University and The Northwest Institute on Intimacy. Her book "Sex, God, and the Conservative Church" is an insightful look at how abstinence only education has caused deep levels of sexual shame in people as they grow up. Dr. Sellers and I discuss the nature of religious and cultural sexual shame and then look into the movies to see where this manifests itself. The whole talk was thrilling to be a part of and I am so happy to share it with you.
Sam, Blaine, and Luke sit down to tell some stories from their experiences in dating from high school, into college, and eventually into marriage. This is not meant to be the official posture of And Sons on dating, but a round table where other's stories and experiences can help by way of understanding our own stories. What are the messages your story with dating is telling you, and what are the agreements you might be making over your future? The reference for the purity movement mentioned in the episode is from a lecture at Fuller, but the source is work by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers. Her book is "Sex, God, and the Conservative Church". This episode is not about Dr. Sellers book, nor was the conversation guided by it.
"God loves you like a lover, and longs for you like a lover." This is just one of the many surprising examples that Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers found while researching sexuality in religious scriptures. In this episode, she discusses how the Western church actually used to be sex positive- so where did everything get turned around, and why did religion end up cultivating and capitalizing on sexual fear and shame instead? Dr. Tina Schermer is the author of the book "Sex, God and the Conservative Church," founder of the Northwest Institute of Intimacy, and an advocate for Positive Sexuality. Give us your feedback Show Notes! Follow us on Instagram! Facebook BBXX website Sign up for our digital "book" club — a twice-weekly curation of the best digital content about identity, sexuality, intimacy, and relationships!
Sexual shame is a global issue, but it turns out that in the US it's "even worse that we thought it was." From religion to media, in school and at home, we are bombarded messages about our sexuality that can be subtle yet extremely damaging to ourselves and our relationships. How do we cure sexual shame in order to reclaim not only pleasure but above all else- our mental health and wellbeing? Dr. Tina Schermer is the author of the book "Sex, God and the Conservative Church," founder of the Northwest Institute of Intimacy, and an advocate for Positive Sexuality. Show Notes! Follow us on Instagram! Facebook BBXX website Sign up for our digital "book" club — a twice-weekly curation of the best digital content about identity, sexuality, intimacy, and relationships!
Overcoming Sexual Shame In her work, Sellers places considerable emphasis on reversing sexual shame in her clients' and readers' minds. Growing up in a sexually-open environment, with parents who were very transparent about sexual function, health, and education, Tina learned the importance of communication over the suppression of sexual fact. And by extension, she is a vocal opponent of abstinence-only techniques which are ineffective and detrimental to the overall sexual wellbeing of all who are involved. Tina also likes to probe the depths of religious history to offer broader perspectives on how sexuality and religion can function symbiotically instead of antagonistically. Without further ado, much more is expounded upon within the episode. It is an absolutely phenomenal experience, navigated by an equally phenomenal guest. Enjoy! Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: A Sexual Autobiography? Not exactly. Tina had an upbringing that runs counter to a typical conservative church experience. She grew up in a Swedish immigrant family where everyone was body and sex positive. In addition, sexuality was taught in a transparent manner. This meant that the typical drip-feed of sexual shame had been replaced with a far more positive apparatus for sexual wellbeing and curiosity. Tina goes on to say much more about her background and the importance of her upbringing throughout the episode! Transforming a Fragmented Narrative into a Sexual Legacy So, why would Tina write a book about the suppression of sexuality in religiously-centered families, when she herself had experienced a far-from-stifling upbringing? To completely answer this question requires a brief review of a moment in her life that determined the direction of her research. The pieces for her book began to fall into place during her time as a professor. And more specifically, when she organized assignments that directed her Human Sexuality students to make autobiographical accounts of their own sexual experiences. And it was during the countless drafts she read that she started to notice an influx of narratives that all became pointedly self-conscious and self-disparaging. What had originally been a fragmented narrative began to congeal into a fleshed-out profile of individual sexuality. But what could have caused this shift in perception? Tune in to find out more! The Limitations of Legalism and Abstinence-Only Sellers delves into some of the origins of the more Evangelically-driven modes of thought. Legalistic adherence to biblical laws, literalism, a harsh criticism of sexual expression, and the power and money at the root of all socio-political movements. In addition, she accentuates the fact that the abstinence-only strategies are mentally detrimental for children. Eventually, once a child matures and becomes sexually active, abstinence-only techniques prove to be much more harmful than establishing regular dialogues on sexuality. Most of this is socio-politically and religiously driven, like the Purity Movement. Seriously, this information is worth its weight in gold. You won't want to miss it! The Phenomenology of Sexual Shame At one point in the episode, Tina shares a quote which provides an absolutely nuanced and fresh perspective on the idea of sexual shame. But at the same time, it is heartbreaking in its accuracy. This is a portion of what is said on the phenomenology of sexual shame: “A visceral feeling of humiliation and disgust towards one's own body and identity as a sexual being. A belief of being abnormal, inferior, and unworthy.” And this has been reinforced by our socio-political climate. For more on the phenomenology of sexual shame, listen along. Comprehensive Sex-Ed: 100, 1-minute conversations Tina says that a comprehensive sexual education is imperative for shifting the legacy of sexual of shame. With enough discussions, just 100, one-minute conversations, the statistics show that individuals will almost always go on to live healthier sexual lives. They also feel much better about their bodies overall. This means that parents must start very soon with their kids, shouldn't have ‘heart attacks' when children show curiosity towards their bodies (or the differences in others' bodies), and let things come about naturally without “childproofing the mind,” so to speak. The Model For Erasing Sexual Shame (MESS) Tina shares one of the most important facets of her book with listeners. Using a four-part strategy for reversing sexual shame, she teaches us that we need to frame, name, claim, and aim if we expect to get rid of our sexual shame. First, we must have the proper frame for sexual education. This means that instead of porn, which often reflects only a male-driven fantasy, individuals need to have a sexual education that is instead based in reality. The frame is the “scaffolding” for a healthy sexuality, as Sellers says--it could even be called a frame of reference. The second, name, is equally important: we must name, or tell our story. To learn what claim and aim mean in this formula, check out this enlightening talk. The Mind/Body Divide: A Perspective Shift Towards Sinful Sex In some of the closing moments of the interview, Tina gives listeners a history lesson dating back all the way to Aristotle and up to Constantine. She states that the severance of the mind from the body started with the original Greek thinkers (Socrates, Plato, Aristotle) and largely affected the overall ideological shape of Christianity. Using eastern religion as a foil for western thought, she shows how the mind and body are actually unified in Eastern-based religions and thus generally have a more positive impact on sexual wellbeing for its adherents. Christianity, on the other hand, teaches the supremacy of the mind over the body, leading to a sexual suppression that is hard to shake. This can lead to unhealthy levels of sexual shame in those who are taught that the body must be grappled with and suppressed. The Vow of Onah Sellers shows us that there are a lot of Hebrew sources that portray sexually-positive messages. The most powerful of these being the Vow of Onah, which reverses the typical gender roles of the time period, favoring women over men. One of the oaths of The Vow of Onah is that “Sex is considered a woman's right, not a man's.” For the full list and a detailed response, check the key links and information below and read the blog post that Tina wrote on the subject. It's eye-opening. Background She is the celebrated author of Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy. In addition to her exemplary research and compositional work on that book, she has a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology and has established a very impressive reputation as a marriage and family therapist, medical family therapist, and also, a certified sex therapist. She has been a professor for many years now, starting as a Latin and science teacher in La Jolla, California. Eventually, this would lead to her teaching a sexual education course in the same prep school. And this launched the specialized career she has been diligently working at for years. Key Links and Information Regarding Tina Sellers Tina's Website: http://tinaschermersellers.com/ Link for Tina's book - Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1138674982 ‘Vow of Onah' Blog Post Written by Tina Sellers: http://tinaschermersellers.com/2011/02/12/the-vow-of-onah-and-other-jewish-attitudes-about-sex/ Northwest Institute on Intimacy: https://nwioi.com/ 4-D Network: https://4-dnetwork.com/ Thank God For Sex: http://www.thankgodforsex.org/ She Is Called: https://www.sheiscalled.com/ More info: Book and New Course - https://sexwithoutstress.com Web - https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/ Sex Health Quiz - http://sexhealthquiz.com/ If you're enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcast Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/More info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
Overcoming Sexual ShameIn her work, Sellers places considerable emphasis on reversing sexual shame in her clients’ and readers’ minds. Growing up in a sexually-open environment, with parents who were very transparent about sexual function, health, and education, Tina learned the importance of communication over the suppression of sexual fact. And by extension, she is a vocal opponent of abstinence-only techniques which are ineffective and detrimental to the overall sexual wellbeing of all who are involved.Tina also likes to probe the depths of religious history to offer broader perspectives on how sexuality and religion can function symbiotically instead of antagonistically.Without further ado, much more is expounded upon within the episode. It is an absolutely phenomenal experience, navigated by an equally phenomenal guest. Enjoy!Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: A Sexual Autobiography?Not exactly. Tina had an upbringing that runs counter to a typical conservative church experience. She grew up in a Swedish immigrant family where everyone was body and sex positive. In addition, sexuality was taught in a transparent manner. This meant that the typical drip-feed of sexual shame had been replaced with a far more positive apparatus for sexual wellbeing and curiosity. Tina goes on to say much more about her background and the importance of her upbringing throughout the episode!Transforming a Fragmented Narrative into a Sexual LegacySo, why would Tina write a book about the suppression of sexuality in religiously-centered families, when she herself had experienced a far-from-stifling upbringing? To completely answer this question requires a brief review of a moment in her life that determined the direction of her research.The pieces for her book began to fall into place during her time as a professor. And more specifically, when she organized assignments that directed her Human Sexuality students to make autobiographical accounts of their own sexual experiences. And it was during the countless drafts she read that she started to notice an influx of narratives that all became pointedly self-conscious and self-disparaging. What had originally been a fragmented narrative began to congeal into a fleshed-out profile of individual sexuality. But what could have caused this shift in perception? Tune in to find out more!The Limitations of Legalism and Abstinence-OnlySellers delves into some of the origins of the more Evangelically-driven modes of thought. Legalistic adherence to biblical laws, literalism, a harsh criticism of sexual expression, and the power and money at the root of all socio-political movements. In addition, she accentuates the fact that the abstinence-only strategies are mentally detrimental for children. Eventually, once a child matures and becomes sexually active, abstinence-only techniques prove to be much more harmful than establishing regular dialogues on sexuality. Most of this is socio-politically and religiously driven, like the Purity Movement. Seriously, this information is worth its weight in gold. You won’t want to miss it!The Phenomenology of Sexual ShameAt one point in the episode, Tina shares a quote which provides an absolutely nuanced and fresh perspective on the idea of sexual shame. But at the same time, it is heartbreaking in its accuracy. This is a portion of what is said on the phenomenology of sexual shame: “A visceral feeling of humiliation and disgust towards one’s own body and identity as a sexual being. A belief of being abnormal, inferior, and unworthy.” And this has been reinforced by our socio-political climate. For more on the phenomenology of sexual shame, listen along.Comprehensive Sex-Ed: 100, 1-minute conversationsTina says that a comprehensive sexual education is imperative for shifting the legacy of sexual of shame. With enough discussions, just 100, one-minute conversations, the statistics show that individuals will almost always go on to live healthier sexual lives. They also feel much better about their bodies overall. This means that parents must start very soon with their kids, shouldn’t have ‘heart attacks’ when children show curiosity towards their bodies (or the differences in others’ bodies), and let things come about naturally without “childproofing the mind,” so to speak.The Model For Erasing Sexual Shame (MESS)Tina shares one of the most important facets of her book with listeners. Using a four-part strategy for reversing sexual shame, she teaches us that we need to frame, name, claim, and aim if we expect to get rid of our sexual shame. First, we must have the proper frame for sexual education. This means that instead of porn, which often reflects only a male-driven fantasy, individuals need to have a sexual education that is instead based in reality. The frame is the “scaffolding” for a healthy sexuality, as Sellers says--it could even be called a frame of reference. The second, name, is equally important: we must name, or tell our story. To learn what claim and aim mean in this formula, check out this enlightening talk.The Mind/Body Divide: A Perspective Shift Towards Sinful SexIn some of the closing moments of the interview, Tina gives listeners a history lesson dating back all the way to Aristotle and up to Constantine. She states that the severance of the mind from the body started with the original Greek thinkers (Socrates, Plato, Aristotle) and largely affected the overall ideological shape of Christianity. Using eastern religion as a foil for western thought, she shows how the mind and body are actually unified in Eastern-based religions and thus generally have a more positive impact on sexual wellbeing for its adherents. Christianity, on the other hand, teaches the supremacy of the mind over the body, leading to a sexual suppression that is hard to shake. This can lead to unhealthy levels of sexual shame in those who are taught that the body must be grappled with and suppressed.The Vow of OnahSellers shows us that there are a lot of Hebrew sources that portray sexually-positive messages. The most powerful of these being the Vow of Onah, which reverses the typical gender roles of the time period, favoring women over men. One of the oaths of The Vow of Onah is that “Sex is considered a woman’s right, not a man’s.” For the full list and a detailed response, check the key links and information below and read the blog post that Tina wrote on the subject. It’s eye-opening.BackgroundShe is the celebrated author of Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy. In addition to her exemplary research and compositional work on that book, she has a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology and has established a very impressive reputation as a marriage and family therapist, medical family therapist, and also, a certified sex therapist.She has been a professor for many years now, starting as a Latin and science teacher in La Jolla, California. Eventually, this would lead to her teaching a sexual education course in the same prep school. And this launched the specialized career she has been diligently working at for years.Key Links and Information Regarding Tina SellersTina’s Website: http://tinaschermersellers.com/Link for Tina’s book - Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1138674982‘Vow of Onah’ Blog Post Written by Tina Sellers: http://tinaschermersellers.com/2011/02/12/the-vow-of-onah-and-other-jewish-attitudes-about-sex/Northwest Institute on Intimacy: https://nwioi.com/4-D Network: https://4-dnetwork.com/Thank God For Sex: http://www.thankgodforsex.org/She Is Called: https://www.sheiscalled.com/More info:Book and New Course - https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb - https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz - http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
Overcoming Sexual ShameIn her work, Sellers places considerable emphasis on reversing sexual shame in her clients’ and readers’ minds. Growing up in a sexually-open environment, with parents who were very transparent about sexual function, health, and education, Tina learned the importance of communication over the suppression of sexual fact. And by extension, she is a vocal opponent of abstinence-only techniques which are ineffective and detrimental to the overall sexual wellbeing of all who are involved.Tina also likes to probe the depths of religious history to offer broader perspectives on how sexuality and religion can function symbiotically instead of antagonistically.Without further ado, much more is expounded upon within the episode. It is an absolutely phenomenal experience, navigated by an equally phenomenal guest. Enjoy!Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: A Sexual Autobiography?Not exactly. Tina had an upbringing that runs counter to a typical conservative church experience. She grew up in a Swedish immigrant family where everyone was body and sex positive. In addition, sexuality was taught in a transparent manner. This meant that the typical drip-feed of sexual shame had been replaced with a far more positive apparatus for sexual wellbeing and curiosity. Tina goes on to say much more about her background and the importance of her upbringing throughout the episode!Transforming a Fragmented Narrative into a Sexual LegacySo, why would Tina write a book about the suppression of sexuality in religiously-centered families, when she herself had experienced a far-from-stifling upbringing? To completely answer this question requires a brief review of a moment in her life that determined the direction of her research.The pieces for her book began to fall into place during her time as a professor. And more specifically, when she organized assignments that directed her Human Sexuality students to make autobiographical accounts of their own sexual experiences. And it was during the countless drafts she read that she started to notice an influx of narratives that all became pointedly self-conscious and self-disparaging. What had originally been a fragmented narrative began to congeal into a fleshed-out profile of individual sexuality. But what could have caused this shift in perception? Tune in to find out more!The Limitations of Legalism and Abstinence-OnlySellers delves into some of the origins of the more Evangelically-driven modes of thought. Legalistic adherence to biblical laws, literalism, a harsh criticism of sexual expression, and the power and money at the root of all socio-political movements. In addition, she accentuates the fact that the abstinence-only strategies are mentally detrimental for children. Eventually, once a child matures and becomes sexually active, abstinence-only techniques prove to be much more harmful than establishing regular dialogues on sexuality. Most of this is socio-politically and religiously driven, like the Purity Movement. Seriously, this information is worth its weight in gold. You won’t want to miss it!The Phenomenology of Sexual ShameAt one point in the episode, Tina shares a quote which provides an absolutely nuanced and fresh perspective on the idea of sexual shame. But at the same time, it is heartbreaking in its accuracy. This is a portion of what is said on the phenomenology of sexual shame: “A visceral feeling of humiliation and disgust towards one’s own body and identity as a sexual being. A belief of being abnormal, inferior, and unworthy.” And this has been reinforced by our socio-political climate. For more on the phenomenology of sexual shame, listen along.Comprehensive Sex-Ed: 100, 1-minute conversationsTina says that a comprehensive sexual education is imperative for shifting the legacy of sexual of shame. With enough discussions, just 100, one-minute conversations, the statistics show that individuals will almost always go on to live healthier sexual lives. They also feel much better about their bodies overall. This means that parents must start very soon with their kids, shouldn’t have ‘heart attacks’ when children show curiosity towards their bodies (or the differences in others’ bodies), and let things come about naturally without “childproofing the mind,” so to speak.The Model For Erasing Sexual Shame (MESS)Tina shares one of the most important facets of her book with listeners. Using a four-part strategy for reversing sexual shame, she teaches us that we need to frame, name, claim, and aim if we expect to get rid of our sexual shame. First, we must have the proper frame for sexual education. This means that instead of porn, which often reflects only a male-driven fantasy, individuals need to have a sexual education that is instead based in reality. The frame is the “scaffolding” for a healthy sexuality, as Sellers says--it could even be called a frame of reference. The second, name, is equally important: we must name, or tell our story. To learn what claim and aim mean in this formula, check out this enlightening talk.The Mind/Body Divide: A Perspective Shift Towards Sinful SexIn some of the closing moments of the interview, Tina gives listeners a history lesson dating back all the way to Aristotle and up to Constantine. She states that the severance of the mind from the body started with the original Greek thinkers (Socrates, Plato, Aristotle) and largely affected the overall ideological shape of Christianity. Using eastern religion as a foil for western thought, she shows how the mind and body are actually unified in Eastern-based religions and thus generally have a more positive impact on sexual wellbeing for its adherents. Christianity, on the other hand, teaches the supremacy of the mind over the body, leading to a sexual suppression that is hard to shake. This can lead to unhealthy levels of sexual shame in those who are taught that the body must be grappled with and suppressed.The Vow of OnahSellers shows us that there are a lot of Hebrew sources that portray sexually-positive messages. The most powerful of these being the Vow of Onah, which reverses the typical gender roles of the time period, favoring women over men. One of the oaths of The Vow of Onah is that “Sex is considered a woman’s right, not a man’s.” For the full list and a detailed response, check the key links and information below and read the blog post that Tina wrote on the subject. It’s eye-opening.BackgroundShe is the celebrated author of Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy. In addition to her exemplary research and compositional work on that book, she has a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology and has established a very impressive reputation as a marriage and family therapist, medical family therapist, and also, a certified sex therapist.She has been a professor for many years now, starting as a Latin and science teacher in La Jolla, California. Eventually, this would lead to her teaching a sexual education course in the same prep school. And this launched the specialized career she has been diligently working at for years.Key Links and Information Regarding Tina SellersTina’s Website: http://tinaschermersellers.com/Link for Tina’s book - Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1138674982‘Vow of Onah’ Blog Post Written by Tina Sellers: http://tinaschermersellers.com/2011/02/12/the-vow-of-onah-and-other-jewish-attitudes-about-sex/Northwest Institute on Intimacy: https://nwioi.com/4-D Network: https://4-dnetwork.com/Thank God For Sex: http://www.thankgodforsex.org/She Is Called: https://www.sheiscalled.com/More info:Book and New Course - https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb - https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz - http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
After seeing a massive increase in the number of students coming to her with crushing shame, confusion, and dread around sex as a professor at Seattle Pacific University, got curious. Why the sudden influx of young people experiencing so much shame around sex?
Joshua Jackson With such dynamic shifts underway within churches of Christ, does such polarizing political language adequately explain congregational differences?
Meet Aimee Heffernan (http://aimeeheffernan.com/). Sex and Family Therapist, mother of three boys; Aimee courageously shares publicly for the first time about being a feminist mormon. She gives us a behind the scenes peek into what it was like growing up and starting a family in the Mormon church, navigating the nuance of being a feminist and believing in gay rights, while taking a stand for healthy sex for everybody. She boldly opens her heart and lets us learn from her heartbreaking, complicated, liberating journey to creating belonging. Aimee also gives us insight to better understand our sexual personalities, our turn ons and our turn offs. Don't miss this enriching conversation. Below are several resources mentioned in this episode: -Emily Nagoski http://www.emilynagoski.com/ -Amy Lange http://birdsandbeesandkids.com/ -Tina Sellers “Sex, God, and the Conservative Church” http://tinaschermersellers.com/category/god-and-the-conservative-church-erasing-shame-from-sexual-intimacy/ Ester Perel https://www.estherperel.com/ Regena Thomashauer http://www.mamagenas.com/books/ Music by bensound.com
Joins hosts Ryan Clark and Nate Novero as they discuss the book Sex, Shame and the Conservative Church. Therapist, sexologist, and author, Dr. Tina Schermer-Sellers, didn’t set out to take on the church’s teaching on sex, but when she continued to encounter students who were traumatized by deep sexual shame without having been physically sexually abused, Dr. Tina Schermer-Sellers had to get down to the bottom of it. Was there a time when our faith tradition taught and practice a sex positive ethic? The answer is yes. Hear Dr. Schermer-Sellers discuss with Nate and Ryan about this answer as well as the impact of the merging of church and state in the 1980’s where religious fear fed the political narrative and planted the seeds of the purity movement.
Tina is a Ph.D. therapist and author of Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy.
is our latest guest on Birds and Bees Podcast. She is on the show today to talk about her experience, and research around sexuality and religious beliefs. Tina gives a brief history of sexual shame in religion, talks about the purity movement, and her reasoning behind writing the book In her history research she explains the and what this means for women being respected as sexual being, and what is expected of men. (My mind was blown learning of this vow ancient vow). Tina goes on to identify ways to heal sexual shame (Beit from religious context or another source). She also speaks directly to parents about having 100 one-minute conversations with your children about sex. She explains how this process works and what research tells us about these minute conversations. Dr. Sellers has amazing insight and advice on how parents can teach religious values, while avoiding sexually shaming your children, while building you relationship with your children. And for couples she addresses how to build anticipation, desire, and intimacy in a relationship, even when you are choosing to be celibate before marriage. How do we fit all of this into a 40-minute show? Space time manipulation .... but for real, she has so much information on such a huge subject. The show is exciting from start to finish. If you like the content of the show, please consider leaving a review for Birds and Bees Podcast to help others find the show. Resources from the show: Northwest Institute On Intimacy Child Sexual Development with Alisha Worthington Thank God For Sex Blog Birds and Bees Facebook Page
This week's interview is with renowned sexologist – Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers. Tina is a sex guru. She has a Ph.D. in clinical sexology, has done formal research on the effect of sexual shame on couples' intimacy, has a great a blog, started an online community called Thank God for Sex, hosts regular intimacy retreats for couples, speaks at various venues, is the author of Sex, God & the Conservative Church, and established the Northwest Institute on Intimacy encouraging all therapists who treat couples to become proficient at improving intimacy and sexuality in the people they serve. Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com
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