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Can religion ruin your sex life? This week on A Little Bit Culty, Sarah and Nippy are joined by psychotherapists and certified sex therapists Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Pastima—co-hosts of the podcast Sexvangelicals: The Sex Education the Church Didn't Want You to Have. Together, they explore how religion, especially purity culture and fundamentalist gender roles, can cause lasting damage to relationships and sexual well-being. From internalized shame to rigid scripts about gender and sex, Jeremiah and Julia explain how high-control religious environments affect intimacy long after someone leaves the faith. They also discuss the complexities of deconstructing religion as a couple, the importance of finding shared values, and why therapy can be a vital lifeline through it all. If you're trying to untangle your beliefs from your bedroom, this conversation offers both validation and guidance. This one's extra spicy, so listener discretion is advised. Resources mentioned in this episode: When Religion Hurts You by Dr. Laura Anderson available on her website. Sex, God, and the Conservative Church by Tina Schermer Sellers can be found on her website. Come As You Are and Come Together by Dr. Emily Nagoski is available on Amazon. To hear more from The, listen to their podcast, check out their blog, and visit their website. Also… let it be known that: The views and opinions expressed on A Little Bit Culty do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything. Nobody's mad at you, just don't be a culty fuckwad. Check out our lovely sponsors Join ‘A Little Bit Culty' on Patreon Get poppin' fresh ALBC Swag Support the pod and smash this link Cult awareness and recovery resources Watch Sarah's TEDTalk CREDITS:  Executive Producers: Sarah Edmondson & Anthony Ames Production Partner: Amphibian.Media Co-Creator: Jess Tardy Writer: Kristen Reiter Associate producers: Amanda Zaremba and Matt Stroud of Amphibian.Media   Audio production: Red Caiman Studios Theme Song: “Cultivated” by Jon Bryant co-written with Nygel Asselin  

This week Ang is joined by the wonderful Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers. A licensed sex and gender feminist physiotherapist, author, researcher and professor whose expertise covers sex therapy, spiritual intimacy, parenting and social justice. In this expansive interview with Ang, Tina shares her valuable insights on the importance of creating strong bonds with your children. Sometimes that will be through difficult conversations and sometimes through your actions. However, being open and honest, as Tina explains, is a pathway to a wonderfully rewarding parent and child relationship. KEY TAKEAWAYS Tina has a wealth of experience and her services cover a broad range of subjects. But she didn’t just arrive there overnight. She explains to Ang how her early career as a therapist brought up more questions than answers and how that set her on a quest for knowledge. One of the big areas Tina tackles in her work is sex therapy. She explains to Ang how our attitudes about sex are developed from a very early age, and without knowing, embed behaviours in us so deeply we don’t even know they exist. Forming a bond of trust with your child is one of the most important things you can do as a parent. Ang and Tina discuss their individual experiences of having difficult conversations with their children and how this led to a stronger relationship with them in the long term. As Ang has highlighted many times in the past, being a single parent is one of the hardest jobs you can have. Drawing on her wealth of knowledge and years of experience, Tina gives her advice on how to approach this role. BEST MOMENTS “You don’t need to figure everything out, you just need to be two years ahead of your kids.” “Be brave enough to look at your past and then you can begin to heal your present.” “When you open up to your children you are communicating with them that you are brave enough to talk about hard subjects with them.” GUEST LINKS @DrTinaShameless Facebook TinaSSellers drtinaschermesellers www.TinaSchermerSellers.com EPISODE LINKS Use the link below to sign up to the TalkingParents App. 30 Day FREE trial available alongside a completely FREE option too! https://talkingparents.com/dirhm If you enjoy this podcast here is the link to the book 'Do I Really H*te Men?'. It's packed with actionable and inspirational content to help you think, feel, heal and create your beautiful life that you deserve! UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1068789107USA: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1068789107 Exciting news! I now have five powerful and affordable course downloads available in my Patreon Shop—starting at just £20. Each one is designed to help you take meaningful steps forward in your healing and growth journey.

Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a licensed sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, best-selling author, researcher, emeriti professor, and media personality whose expertise spans sex therapy, spiritual intimacy, parenting, medicine, and social justice.Her revolutionary perspectives have been expressed on platforms such as Spirituality & Health, Refinery 29, Vocal, Medium, and Bust Magazines, along with many podcasts, radio, news, and TV outlets. Known for exposing the impact of patriarchy and sexual shame on our ability to securely attach to our partners, and instruct our children to attach to theirs, Dr. Sellers' book Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy has had a global impact. Her latest book, Shameless Parenting – Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident, Kids and Heal Your Shame Too! was a New Release Bestseller in eight categories. She speaks throughout the world on how to heal, and how to raise shame-free relationally confident children. In 2015, Dr. Sellers founded the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, a post-graduate institute to train psychotherapists, educators, clergy, and physicians in sexual health, healing sexual shame and trauma, and understanding their sexual biases. In 2023, Dr. Tina founded InannaRising.org - A private membership community for psychedelic-assisted therapists and medical providers to get ongoing clinical consultation, collaboration, training, and support in creating scholarships for the under-resourced, and participation in an Indigenous reparation fund. Dr. Tina can be followed on Instagram @DrTinaShameless.

Authentically Us: A space for women who are coming out later in life. Join us for support groups, education, and community for just $34.99/month - your first week is free! https://bit.ly/Authentically-UsNeed a deeper level of support for coming out and getting through "The Messy Middle?" Lotus Community Coaching is a 6-month program for women coming out later in life. Learn more at https://comingoutsupport.net/coaching-programThis week, please enjoy this revisited episode from season five, featuring Dr. Tina Schermer-Sellers. Dr. Tina Schermer-Sellers is a therapist, sex educator with a Ph.D. in clinical sexology, author, and Medical Director for the Northwest Institute on Intimacy. Tune in as host Anne-Marie Zanzal has a wide-ranging conversation with Dr. Schermer-Sellers about sexuality, gender identity, the harmful repercussions of purity culture on sexuality and relationships, and society's shift towards acceptance of diverse identities.This episode is of particular interest to anyone who has endured purity culture. Purity culture in America (and other countries) has truly made sex and sexuality points of angst and shame for so many people, straight and gay. If you've been impacted by the vice of purity culture, we encourage you to listen to this episode as a step towards healing.Connect with Dr. Tina Schermer-Sellers at www.tinaschermersellers.com

Authentically Us: A space for women who are coming out later in life. Join us for support groups, education, and community for just $34.99/month - your first week is free! https://bit.ly/Authentically-UsNeed a deeper level of support for coming out and getting through "The Messy Middle?" Lotus Community Coaching is a 6-month program for women coming out later in life. Learn more at https://comingoutsupport.net/coaching-programThis week, please enjoy this revisited episode from season five, featuring Dr. Tina Schermer-Sellers. Dr. Tina Schermer-Sellers is a therapist, sex educator with a Ph.D. in clinical sexology, author, and Medical Director for the Northwest Institute on Intimacy. Tune in as host Anne-Marie Zanzal has a wide-ranging conversation with Dr. Schermer-Sellers about sexuality, gender identity, the harmful repercussions of purity culture on sexuality and relationships, and society's shift towards acceptance of diverse identities.This episode is of particular interest to anyone who has endured purity culture. Purity culture in America (and other countries) has truly made sex and sexuality points of angst and shame for so many people, straight and gay. If you've been impacted by the vice of purity culture, we encourage you to listen to this episode as a step towards healing.Connect with Dr. Tina Schermer-Sellers at www.tinaschermersellers.com

Are you ready to have better sex without the shame? Welcome This Week's Guest Dr. Tina Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a licensed sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, best-selling author, researcher, professor, and media personality whose expertise spans sex therapy, spiritual intimacy, parenting, medicine, and social justice. Her revolutionary perspectives have been expressed on platforms… The post Pillow Talk Unfiltered: Sex, Shame, and Everything in Between with Dr. Tina Sellers |257 appeared first on Melissa Vogel.

Send us a textReady to break free from sexual shame and embrace a more fulfilling, authentic life? In this episode of Pineapple Express, host Kiley George sits down with renowned sex therapist and author, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, to explore the transformative power of sex-positive thinking and how to overcome societal and religious stigmas around swinging, non-monogamy, and intimacy.Dr. Sellers brings her expertise in dismantling shame-based beliefs to discuss how individuals and couples can cultivate confidence, enhance communication, and deepen intimacy in their relationships. Whether you're navigating the swinger lifestyle, curious about non-monogamy, or seeking a healthier relationship with your sexuality, this episode offers practical advice and powerful insights to help you live a more liberated and pleasure-filled life.Tune in to discover:✅ How to overcome shame and embrace your sexual identity.✅ Tips for creating trust and consent in swinging and non-monogamous relationships.✅ The impact of societal norms on sexual freedom and how to rewrite your narrative.Don't miss this transformative conversation with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a leading voice in sex positivity and healthy intimacy.

Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, professor emerita, and author of two best selling books Shameless Parenting - Everything You Need to Raise Shame-Free, Confident Kids & Heal Your Shame Too! and "Sex, God and the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy."

“Sexual shame causes profound wounding in people's lives, because it hurts in their ability to do attachment, to give love, and to receive love. They don't believe they are fundamentally worthy of love, and so they put up a mask. So if somebody loves them, they think that they couldn't possibly love me if they knew who I was. So that love doesn't get in.And then, the loving coming out is behind this mask, like, I'm going to do what I think you want me to do.It affects our ability to do attachment. And as a human one of my core desires is to be seen. known, loved, and accepted. And this interrupts that, at every level.”Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a licensed sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, best-selling author, researcher, emeriti professor, and media personality whose expertise spans sex therapy, spiritual intimacy, parenting, medicine, and social justice. Her revolutionary perspectives have been expressed on platforms such as Spirituality & Health, Refinery 29, Vocal, Medium, and Bust Magazines, along with many podcast, radio, news, and TV outlets. Known for exposing the impact of patriarchy and sexual shame on our ability to securely attach to our partners, and instruct our children to attach to theirs, Dr. Sellers' book Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy has had a global impact. Her latest book, Shameless Parenting – Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident, Kids and Heal Your Shame Too! was a New Release Bestseller in eight categories. She speaks throughout the world on how to heal, and how to raise shame-free relationally confident children. In 2015, Dr. Sellers founded the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, a post-graduate institute to train psychotherapists, educators, clergy, and physicians in sexual health, healing sexual shame and trauma, and understanding their sexual biases. In 2023, Dr. Tina founded InannaRising.org - A private membership community for psychedelic assisted therapists and medical providers to get ongoing clinical consultation, collaboration, training, and support in creating scholarships for the under resourced, and participation in an indigenous reparation fund. Dr. Tina's websites and social media:https://www.instagram.com/drtinashameless/https://www.instagram.com/inanna_rising_pat/https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/https://inannarising.org/Shameless Parenting: https://www.amazon.ca/Shameless-Parenting-Everything-Shame-free-Confident/dp/B0BZF5865H/Sex God and the Conservative Church: https://www.amazon.ca/Sex-God-Conservative-Church-Intimacy-ebook/dp/B07252M2H2Reference: Audre Lorde reads Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic As Power https://youtu.be/aWmq9gw4Rq0?si=HopYif_ttLzfBosvwww.rachealcharlie.comIf you wish to support my podcast, it will be warmly received and appreciated here: buy me a coffeeIntro and outro music recorded, composed, and performed by Racheal Charlie.

#172 - In this episode, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers joins First Time Mum's Chat to discuss sensitive but crucial conversations for moms with curious toddlers.Learn how to approach questions like “How are babies made?” and teach body autonomy without fear. Dr. Tina shares insights from her work on raising shame-free, confident kids, helping parents foster healthy, open communication. Don't miss this episode packed with actionable tips for creating a positive legacy for your little ones.Check out the show notes here at https://www.mybabymassage.net/podcast/172. If you'd like to reach out and say hi, you can find @firsttimemumschat on Instagram.

In time, Tina became "the fixer" in the household. The fights and yelling was too much for Tina and she also took on the role of being her younger sister's protector.  She felt that she needed to calm everyone down most importantly for herself to feel safe.Feeling abandoned and neglected early on in her life, my guest's mother, was a highly sensitive child and she didn't get as much attention as she needed as a child.  The family deemed her "the neurotic child."  It seemed as though the only thing that Leilani's family seemed to valued was her beauty. Leilani became a swimsuit model as a young teen and was basically on her own.  This took place between, 1953-54 and she experienced many advances from men as one would imagine and a reminder that this was way before the "Me Too" movement.Tina had to put up some of her own boundaries between she, her sister and her mom. The triggers of infighting in the family  was not where Tina wanted to keep her heart.Later on in life, as Leilani was starting to suffer from  dementia, Tina was able to spend three weeks with her mother, visiting her and helping take care of her. Tina says their common love that they so embraced when Tina was a baby, was so present during those visits. None of the terrible threatening or fearful tendencies showed their face and Tina is so grateful for that special time to rekindle their relationship as though nothing had ever gotten between them.Tina made reference to a poem by Dorothy Lae Nolte in our conversation. Please find it below. It's still stands strong today regarding principles we try and teach our children and the principles that we hope many children never have to experience.  Children Learn What They LiveBy Dorothy Law NolteIf children live with criticism, they learn to condemn. If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.If children live with ridicule, they learn to be shy. If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence. If children live with tolerance, they learn to be patient.If children live with praise, they learn to appreciate. If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.  If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.WEBSITE:https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Q-Srqq8RpH9U2e3vQAsyU5FPChjrnD24/viewIG:@DrTinaShamelessFB:facebook.com/TinaSSellersTWITTER:@TinaSSellersLINKEDIN:/drtinaschermesellers "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests were open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo's “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it's clear why it's a 2023 People's Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers' actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.Gina Kunadian"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship. 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Sex education rests in the hands of the media and serves the objectives of capitalism - sounds healthy and pleasurable, right? So not sexy. To undo this, let's go back to school on the subject of childhood development. Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is chatting with the podcast hosts once again, revisiting and diving deeper into the implications of abstinence only sex education and purity culture, and how we can make the future happier and healthier for the next generation by liberating ourselves from sexual shame. Dr. Tina gives a breakdown of the capacity for understanding verbal and non verbal cues about sexuality throughout the developmental stages of childhood, and the impact those cues have to our brains, bodies, and relationships. The hosts have questions about the significance of the language we use to name body parts, the link between purity culture and violence against women, and like, wtf is the madonna/whore complex? Finally, Dr. Tina shares her latest work with psychedelic assisted therapy and some inspiration for what that therapeutic approach can offer to those of us wanting to liberate ourselves perhaps a little more efficiently!This is a great follow up to the podcast's first conversation with Dr. Tina back in December 2022. Listen to that episode for some great information about the origins of abstinence only sex-ed and how it has physical and psychological outcomes on a person akin to the experience of childhood sexual trauma.Learn More:InannaRising.orgtinaschermersellers.comInstagram: @DrTinaShameless@inanna_rising_pat Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Denise and Lyndsey engage with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers—a renowned sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, professor emerita, and author of 'Shameless Parenting'. They explore strategies to overcome sexual shame, focusing on the profound effects of religious and sexual education teachings and their evolution over time. Contact Dr Sellers and Buy Her Book! https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/books https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/about https://inannarising.org/ https://www.nwioi.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drtinashameless/ Resources Discussed in the Episode: https://www.amazon.com/Not-Under-My-Roof-Parents/dp/0226736199 https://digitalcommons.spu.edu/cpy_etd/25/ https://www.peggyorenstein.com/about1 https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2021/07/10568734/sex-education-abstinence-only-sex-ed Support Our Podcast! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/sexpositivityunfiltered/support Contact Us! Website: https://www.sexpositivityunfiltered.com/ Email: SPUpodcast@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/spupodcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexpositivityunfiltered/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@spupodcast/ Resources for Info and Media https://www.volantoverseas.com/university/seattle-pacific-university/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ronald_Reagan_and_AIDS#/media/File:NYC_1987_let_the_record_show.png https://www.latimes.com/archives/la-xpm-1987-04-02-mn-1950-story.html https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Constantine_the_Great#/media/File:Statua_di_Costantino_ai_musei_capitolini.jpg https://stlukesokc.org/inspiration/st-lukes-blogs/daily-devotional/love-your-neighbor-2/attachment/a-sinful-woman-washes-jesus-feet-luke-737-38/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=V8yY-CIIL9I https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MPCclavlz9Q https://service.catholic.edu/civil-rights-walking-tour/segregation-desegregation/index.html https://www.teenvogue.com/story/religious-right-abortion-segregation https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psilocybin_mushroom --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/sexpositivityunfiltered/support

We are rebroadcasting one of Janna's favorite episodes: her fascinating conversation with Dr. Tina Schermer Seller, a licensed therapist who specializes in sex and gender issues. Dr. Schermer Seller is the author of one of Janna's favorite and most recommended books, Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy.In this episode, Dr. Schermer Seller discusses her research on the Christian conservative church and the rise of abstinence-only education and purity culture in the early 1980s. Her findings reveal that this shift has had significant negative effects on both women and men, impacting their ability to form meaningful and healthy sexual relationships.Whether you come from a religious background or not, this discussion will help you understand the global influence of this narrative on our lives and how we can begin the healing process.Find out more about Dr. Tina Schermer Seller and her books here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/Join the Waitlist for the next round of Doing It Together. ​Join Now.​Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women.Learn about Doing It Together: Program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Join host, Lily Craven, in this enlightening episode as she welcomes Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, author and expert on sexual intimacy and shame-free parenting. Dive deep into her groundbreaking insights from her bestselling books *Sex God and the Conservative Church* and *Shameless Parenting*. Discover how to erase shame from sexual intimacy and raise confident, shame-free children. Dr. Tina shares practical advice, personal stories, and powerful strategies to help you release your shame attached to sexual intimacy. Don't miss this transformative conversation that promises to empower and inspire! www.tinaschermersellers.com Instagram.com/drtinashameless --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phonesexwithlily/support

Talking about Sex with your partner, friends and sisters is one thing. Talking about it with your kids/grandkids is in another league altogether! If you feel awkward, embarrassed, uncertain or avoid conversations about sex in your home, you're not alone! Understanding sex positive parenting, and knowing how we can create a sex positive environment to live in are skills we haven't been taught. Good news is, it's not too late to start now!  Whether you have kids or not, your kids are tiny or have left the home, there's something for everyone to take away from this conversation! My guest is the perfect person to help us appreciate and create a sex positive, shame-free home.  Dr Tina Schermer Sellers, a licensed sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, researcher, is the best selling author of ‘Sex, God & the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy' & ‘Shame-free parenting: Everything You Need to Raise Shame Free, Confident Kids and Heal Your Shame Too'. Discover how to empower yourself and your children, and learn practical steps to foster a healthy relationship with your body and sexuality.  Our conversation is so valuable and juicy and includes:  What turns her on How she got into working in the sex positive education and research space How our worth and sexual shame are interlinked Her model that we can use to ‘Erase the M.E.S.S' Getting a good sex education, at any age.  How we can re-parent ourselves Your body as your home What does sex positive education look like. what contributes to a sex positive home Ideally how to raise a sex positive child What to do if you have grown children and you feel you could have done things differently How to understand the world our kids are growing up in now Examples of conversations we can have with children now How the influence of media and business is impacting our children and what we can do about it Her best tip for how we can make our home feel safe, shame free and sex positive You can connect with Tina via: https://www.instagram.com/drtinashameless/ www.TinaSchermerSellers.com www.InannaRising.org   DrTina@InannaRising.org Tina mentions Peggy Orenstein's books 'Girls & Sex' and 'Boys & Sex'.

Things are getting steamy in the bathroom today as Cam and Ali talk to Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a licensed sex psychotherapist, researcher, and author of the best-selling book Shameless Parenting: Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident Kids & Heal Your Shame Too. Dr. Tina chats healing your own sexual shame, best practice when talking to your kids about sex at different stages of their development and whether you can make a difference by opening up the conversation even when they're adults. It's an episode chock-full of insights you won't want to miss! LINKS  Check out Dr. Tina Schermer Seller's books and other resources at tinaschermersellers.com Follow Dr. Tina @drtinashameless on Instagram Follow Cam @camerondaddo on Instagram Follow Ali @alidaddo on Instagram Follow Nova Podcasts @novapodcastsofficial.  If you heard BetterHelp on the show today, you can get 10% off your first month at BetterHelp.com.au/Daddo Got a question for Cam & Ali? You can email them at separatebathrooms@novapodcasts.com.au. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I am thrilled to bring you this show with my very special guest Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers. Dr. Tina is a licensed sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, best-selling author, researcher, emeriti professor, and media personality whose expertise spans sex therapy, spiritual intimacy, parenting, medicine, and social justice. Known for exposing the impact of patriarchy and sexual shame on our ability to securely attach to our partners, and instruct our children to attach to theirs, Dr. Sellers' book Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy has had a global impact. Her latest book, Shameless Parenting – Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident, Kids and Heal Your Shame Too! was a New Release Bestseller in eight categories. She speaks throughout the world on how to heal, and how to raise shame-free relationally confident children. In 2023, Dr. Tina founded InannaRising.org – A private membership community for psychedelic assisted therapists and medical providers to get ongoing clinical consultation, collaboration, training, and support in creating scholarships for the under resourced, and participation in an indigenous reparation fund. In my interview Dr. Tina explains the role of the patriarchy and gives you all the beginning tools you need to move past your shame and embrace a guilt-free life. Link to reference materials discussed in the interview https://bit.ly/NoSexShame

We often believe that shaming messages don't affect us, but from my experience, the effects of shamed-based culture or upbringing can be exceedingly harmful. Whether shaming messages are implicit or explicit, they can result in the internalization of negative self-messages that lead to feelings of unworthiness, chronic guilt, depression, and anxiety. When left unaddressed, feelings of shame can erode self-esteem, hamper healthy sexuality, and lead to addiction. True freedom comes when we learn how to release the immense burden of silent inner shame. Join Dr. Carla and shame expert Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers for a surprising and fascinating exploration into the roots of shame-based behaviors and how to set yourself free from the toxic grip of shame. From attachment issues and addiction to sexuality, this episode touches on sensitive key topics! Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly Books by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers: Shameless Parenting: Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident Kids and Heal Your Shame Too!Sex, God, and the Conservative Church Connect with:Websites: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drtinaschermersellers/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TinaSSellers/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtinashameless/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DrTinaSchermerSellersPhD

In this episode, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a licensed psychotherapist, best-selling author, and researcher shares her insight on shameless parenting and our ability to heal while we learn alongside our kids. Dr. Tina and I dig into how sexual shame impacts our ability to form secure attachments and relationships. She shares her experience as a professor and noticing the shift as the first wave of "purity culture" took on a different narrative that was harmful to the students she was teaching. One of my favorite books, Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy was powerful in helping me understand how and why shame is rampant in our culture, but often hard to notice.  And she has recently another book called, Shameless Parenting: How to Raise Confident, Shame free Kids and Heal Your Own Shame Too!Dr. Sellers emphasizes the role of parents in fostering shame-free environments for their children, regardless of their family makeup. She encourages open conversations with teenagers, addressing myths and stereotypes about sex, and prioritizing connection and pleasure over obligation in relationships. Dr. Sellers emphasizes the importance of ongoing learning, dispelling myths, and staying on the path of personal growth to lead a fulfilling life.Follow Dr. Sellers on Instagram at @DrTinaShamelessIn this episode:0:02:28 Dr. Tina Shermer Sellers bio 0:08:45 Healing Through Shameless Parenting0:27:26 Importance of Social and Emotional Learning0:32:51 Parenting Insights Beyond Traditional Family Structures0:39:39 Embodying Sexuality for a Fulfilling Life0:42:13 Connect with Dr. Tina on Instagram0:42:37 Dr. Tina's Podcast EpisodesAlthough this will be my last episode, please stay in touch! Check out what I have going  on @shannonhamaker on Instagram!Also on my website: shannonhmaker.com will share the latest and greatest in my offerings through coaching and retreats. Support the show

In this episode, we chat with author of Sex, God and the Conservative Church, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers about Sexual Ethics, Shame Based Teaching VS Positivity Based Teaching and more! You don not want to miss this episode! This is a lesson the entire world needs to hear. You can learn more and find her books here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/ Support Spirituality Adventures so we can continue bringing your episodes like this one: https://spiritualityadventures.com/support

Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a licensed sex psychotherapist, best-selling author, and researcher whose expertise spans sex therapy, intimacy, parenting, and social justice.Her book Sex, God, & the Conservative Church has had a global impact. And Her latest book, Shameless Parenting – Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident, Kids and Heal Your Shame Too! was a New Release Bestseller in eight different categories.She speaks throughout the world on how to heal, and how to raise shame-free relationally confident children. In 2015, Dr. Sellers left her academic position of 28 years to found the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, a post-graduate institute to train psychotherapists, educators, clergy, and physicians in sexual health and understanding their sexual biases. Dr. Tina can be followed on Instagram @DrTinaShameless-------------Interested in getting 1:1 coaching support? Learn about my Coaching Program and apply for a free discovery call: https://www.jeremylipkowitz.com/introGET NOTIFIED WHEN DOORS OPEN TO UNHOOKED RECOVERY: https://jeremylipkowitz.mykajabi.com/unhookedConnect with me on Social:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeremylipkowitz/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JeremyLipkowitzABOUT JEREMY LIPKOWTZJEREMY IS A MEDITATION TEACHER, LIFE COACH, AND DIGITAL HABITS EXPERT WHO WORKS WITH ENTREPRENEURS, EXECUTIVES, AND LEADERS.Jeremy overcame addiction, shame, self-judgement, and depression in his early twenties with the help of mindfulness meditation. Mindfulness not only helped him let go of destructive behaviors, it also allowed him to connect with deeper meaning and purpose in his life.For the past 10 years Jeremy has been teaching mindfulness and emotional intelligence practices at universities, recovery centers, and companies throughout Asia and the US. He holds a Bachelors and Master's degree in Genetics and Genomics, and spent several years at Duke University working towards a PhD in Genetics & Systems Biology before he turned full-time to teaching mindfulness.Jeremy is also an ICF certified Executive Coach. As a former scientist and academic, Jeremy has a great passion for bringing his EI based coaching skills into the corporate and professional world. He realizes how powerful & transformative these practices can be for skeptics and senior-level managers. He is known for his calm and grounded demeanor, his expertise in habits and high-performance, and his compassionate approach to transformation.Coaching Certifications* CPCC, Co-Active Training Institute* ICF Member* ACC International Coaching FederationJeremy is a Certified Teacher with the Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute, a mindfulness-based emotional intelligence program initially developed at Google. He also spent time living and training as a fully-ordained Buddhist monk in Myanmar. He now combines his science-based expertise with a hunger for personal development to help others discipline their minds and achieve genuine inner- peace and fulfillment.  

This episode is part two of a two-part episode In this episode, Emily is joined with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers who is a licensed sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, best-selling author, researcher, emeriti professor, and media personality whose expertise spans sex therapy, spiritual intimacy, parenting, medicine, and social justice. Emily and Dr. Tina break down typical scenarios parents find themselves in when it comes to talking about sex with their kids.  They discuss: Finding your teenager watching porn and masturbating Your child finds your vibrator You walk in on your teenager being sexual with another person FOLLOW US on Instagram @thatsorgasmicSend your comments, questions and stories to: emilyduncan@thatsorgasmic.com To book a session with Emily at Emily Duncan Sexology follow the link: https://www.emilyduncansexology.com/ Leave a review for the chance to receive a discounted session with Emily at Emily Duncan Sexology. Dr. Tina's website: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/ Shameless Parenting Book: https://www.amazon.com/Shameless-Parenting-Everything-Shame-free-Confident/dp/B095GDF9LM Dr. Tina's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtinashameless/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode is part one of a two-part episode. In this episode, Emily is joined with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers who is a licensed sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, best-selling author, researcher, emeriti professor, and media personality whose expertise spans sex therapy, spiritual intimacy, parenting, medicine, and social justice. Emily and Dr. Tina discuss how to talk to your kids about sex. They discuss the below topics: Who's responsibility is it to teach kids about sex? What does age-appropriate sex mean? What is the typical sexual development of a child? When we should start teaching our kids about sex Common mistakes parents make when they teach their kids about sex Where parents should go if their kid has a sex question and doesn't know the answer What to do if you are a parent with sexual shame FOLLOW US on Instagram @thatsorgasmicSend your comments, questions and stories to: emilyduncan@thatsorgasmic.com To book a session with Emily at Emily Duncan Sexology follow the link: https://www.emilyduncansexology.com/ Leave a review for the chance to receive a discounted session with Emily at Emily Duncan Sexology.   Dr. Tina's website: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/ Shameless Parenting Book: https://www.amazon.com/Shameless-Parenting-Everything-Shame-free-Confident/dp/B095GDF9LM Dr. Tina's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtinashameless/  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

EP 156: Sex Education for Kids 101 with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a licensed sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, best-selling author, researcher, emeriti professor, and media personality whose expertise spans sex therapy, spiritual intimacy, parenting, medicine, and social justice.Her revolutionary perspectives have been expressed on platforms such as Spirituality & Health, Refinery 29, Vocal, Medium, and Bust Magazines, along with many podcasts, radio, news, and TV outlets.Topics: Why is sex education for children important? Growing up conservative and how it affects your Sex Life  Importance of talking about genitalia to children How to talk about sex to children, when? How much? What about the people who believe in Keeping them pure as long as possible? Shameless Parenting tips - How to empower your kidsMasturbation, puberty, what's ok? Contact Tina Sherman - www.TinaSchermerSellers.comIG - @DrTinaShameless5 Steps to Mind Blowing SEX ➡️➡️FREE Workshop & WAITLIST for my Signature Sexy Goddess Course - https://bit.ly/sexygoddesschallenge

Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a therapist, sex educator with a Ph.D. in clinical sexology, author, and Medical Director for the Northwest Institute on Intimacy. Tune in as host Anne-Marie Zanzal has a wide-ranging conversation with Dr. Schermer Sellers about sexuality, gender identity, the harmful repercussions of purity culture on sexuality and relationships, and society's shift towards acceptance of diverse identities. A film that has inspired Dr. Schermer Sellers is Fantastic Fungi, which can be found on Netflix and YouTube. You can view the trailer here: https://youtu.be/bxABOiay6oA?si=PuezRCCTuuygLoCpConnect with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers at www.tinaschermersellers.comThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a therapist, sex educator with a Ph.D. in clinical sexology, author, and Medical Director for the Northwest Institute on Intimacy. Tune in as host Anne-Marie Zanzal has a wide-ranging conversation with Dr. Schermer Sellers about sexuality, gender identity, the harmful repercussions of purity culture on sexuality and relationships, and society's shift towards acceptance of diverse identities. A film that has inspired Dr. Schermer Sellers is Fantastic Fungi, which can be found on Netflix and YouTube. You can view the trailer here: https://youtu.be/bxABOiay6oA?si=PuezRCCTuuygLoCpConnect with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers at www.tinaschermersellers.comThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

You can buy a digital deck of the "Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards", or the recently released "Neurodiverse Love Conversation Card Workbook" at: www.neurodiverselove.com. On the Neurodiverse Love website you can also subscribe to the Neurodiverse Love newsletter, or get more information about the support groups that Mona facilitates for neurodiverse couples, or the neurotypical/non-autistic partners. Thank you for being part of the Neurodiverse Love community! ________________________________________________________ Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a certified sex therapist and supervisor and also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT). She is the author of two books and also teaches graduate courses in human sexuality. Dr. Tina also leads the Northwest Institute on Intimacy (https://www.nwioi.com) where she trains therapists, physicians, and educators on sexual health. During this episode, we talk about the history of sexual shame and how to heal it. We also discuss other topics that many neurodiverse couples may be dealing with related to physical and sexual intimacy. Those topics include: Being relationally and sexually healthy. The history and definition of sexual shame. How does sexuality look for diverse populations? Only 18 states require medically accurate sex education. The impact of silencing and shaming someone for being sexually curious. Understanding your internal critic and internalized judgment and the source of sexual dysfunction. Ways to heal from sexual shame. What was the misinformation you may have received about sex?◦ How can we be comfortable in our own skin related to physical and sexual intimacy? When something that is pleasurable to you doesn't seem common. Understanding consent, support and how you maintain both. Experiencing pleasure in the way that works for each of you. Feeling othered doesn't mean there is something wrong with you. Bring your less reactive self to the conversation about what you like. Find people who share your interests. Partners can mirror back to each other the things that are most important. Is there a bridge to each other around areas of significant difference? Exploring the possibility of opening up your relationship regarding getting your needs made in different ways. How misunderstandings regarding needs can create struggles with physical and sexual intimacy. Lack of knowledge and feeling you don't deserve something better can cause you to give up. Sex may have been routine and may not include a lot of communication. High desire person may not be getting the heart connection and pleasure they want. Penetrative sex is not the only type of sex. Research has shown that many queer couples are having better sex. Can you and your partner create a menu of what you each like? Mojoupgrade.com has a quiz regarding sexual interests and preferences. When one partner wants to engage in watching pornography and the other partner is confused. Understanding the role of pornography and why it's in your partner's life. Understand why your partner may feel betrayed. Porn does not give you intimacy. Gain an understanding of when your partner started looking at porn, what was the purpose, what does it help with, what does it get in the way of, and how can you build a sexual health plan together. Pinklabel.tv; Erikalust.com (suggested sites for ethical porn) Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health (https://weknowship.org/) Any act of loving is an act of risk. Your partner may disappoint you and/or break your trust. Have reasonable expectations and determine how each of you want to manage the bumps in the road of your relationship. Are you both willing to work to become a better version of yourself on the other side of your challenges? You can contact Dr. Tina at: www.TinaSchermersellers.com or you can follow her or the Northwest Institute on Instagram: @Drtinashameless or @Nwinstituteonintimacy --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/neurodiverse-love/message

In Zoe's absence, I interviewed Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, author of multiple books including Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy . Her latest book is Shameless Parenting – Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident, Kids and Heal Your Shame Too!It's almost impossible to separate shame from sex especially if you were brought up in a religious household that preached abstinence until marriage. Or if your sex education suggested that sex was bad and that good girls shouldn't enjoy it. So it should come as no surprise that in later life, many women especially choose to stop doing it because if it wasn't pleasurable in the first place, why continue?What becomes clear during our conversation is that it's never too late to have pleasurable sex and to help our children grow up to have healthy intimate relationships and ‘heal through the paralysing prison of shame.'Instagram: @DrTinaShamelessFacebook: facebook.com/TinaSSellersLinkedIn: drtinaschermesellersFor booking go to: www.tinaschermersellers.com/contactSex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support our work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

For episode 23, Layman is joined by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a sex educator and psychotherapist, to explore questions around gender and sexual development; the impact of shame on sexual development, and the relationship of shame and guilt; the problems in recent and contemporary sex education in the United States; the possibilities for a hedonic education; deeper forms of sexual identity and development available through tantra and entheogens; and much more. Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a nationally known speaker, educator, and writer on sexual health and the biopsychosocial-sexual impact of sexual shame and trauma. She is professor emerita of sexuality and marriage & family therapy at Seattle Pacific University. As a past board member for The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), Tina is at the forefront shaping change in the lives of professionals and families. As a preeminent voice on the impact of abstinence education, purity culture, and the failure to provide comprehensive sex education Dr. Sellers is frequently featured on podcasts, TV, documentaries, articles, and radio, including Spirituality & Health magazine, and NPR's All Things Considered. In her acclaimed 2017 book, Sex, God and the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy, Dr. Sellers reveals how the western conservative church in collusion with American consumer-driven culture and politics, has infiltrated our core ability to attach to our partners and instruct our children to attach to theirs. Professional Website https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/ Shameless Parenting https://www.amazon.com/Shameless-Pare... Explore The Integral Stage on the Fathom app https://hello.fathom.fm/ Support The Integral Stage on Patreon!   / theintegralstage   Special thanks and big love to Shai Newman, the Limited Hangout guys, Brandon LaChance, Mike McElroy, Brandon Norgaard, Brendan Graham Dempsey, Francesca, and all of our other Patreon supporters!

Part 2:  My guest Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a nationally known speaker, author and researcher on religious sexual shame. She is professor emerita of sexuality, and marriage & family therapy and serves on the board of The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. As a preeminent voice on purity culture and Hebrew Mystic Sexuality, Dr. Sellers is frequently featured on podcasts, TV, documentaries, articles and radio, including Spirituality & Health magazine, and NPR's All Things Considered. In this episode, Dr. Sellers and I review the history of sex education in the US and its effects on establishing healthy attachment in relationships. The challenges children and youth face related to the shame they experience as they move through their human development stages are explored. We also discuss the current culture of pornography and the root issues surrounding a desire to connect as well as the struggle to create meaningful and healthy relationships. FOLLOW:Host: Tiffany WaltersInstagram: @lifecoachforhumanityWebsite: https://lifecoachforhumanity.com/Guest: Dr. Tina Schermer SellersWebsite: https://www.TinaSchermerSellers.comInstagram:  @DrTinaShameless  +  @NWInstituteOnIntimacyYou can view all video recordings at: https://bit.ly/2JYGe8S

Part 1:  My guest Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a nationally known speaker, author and researcher on religious sexual shame. She is professor emerita of sexuality, and marriage & family therapy and serves on the board of The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. As a preeminent voice on purity culture and Hebrew Mystic Sexuality, Dr. Sellers is frequently featured on podcasts, TV, documentaries, articles and radio, including Spirituality & Health magazine, and NPR's All Things Considered. In this episode, Dr. Sellers and I review the history of sex education in the US and its effects on establishing healthy attachment in relationships. The challenges children and youth face related to the shame they experience as they move through their human development stages are explored. We also discuss the current culture of pornography and the root issues surrounding a desire to connect as well as the struggle to create meaningful and healthy relationships.  FOLLOW:Host: Tiffany WaltersInstagram: @lifecoachforhumanityWebsite: https://lifecoachforhumanity.com/Guest: Dr. Tina Schermer SellersWebsite: https://www.TinaSchermerSellers.comInstagram:  @DrTinaShameless  +  @NWInstituteOnIntimacyYou can view all video recordings at: https://bit.ly/2JYGe8S

This week in The Labia Lounge I had the pleasure of chatting with the brilliant Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a licensed sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, best-selling author, researcher, emeriti professor, and media personality whose expertise spans sex therapy, spiritual intimacy, parenting, medicine, and social justice. Tina shares invaluable insights on raising shame-free, confident children and how to be your child's best relationship resource, sex educator, and ally.Throughout this episode, we dive into the importance of having frequent, short conversations about sexual health, consent, body autonomy, and online safety with your children. Tina emphasizes the need to be a safe person for your child to confide in, creating an environment where open dialogue is encouraged, despite the fact that you may not have had this same environment provided for you as a child. We chat about how to approach this, even if you still have your own layers of shame and don't feel particularly knowledgeable or qualified, and we learn about the different stages of development you can expect your children to go through and what's "normal" and appropriate at what stage.We'll also delve into the impact of sexual shame on our society, examining its roots in conservative religious communities and the role of capitalism and materialism. This eppy is jam-packed and a topic that I find never-endingly fascinating and valuable, so get stuck in with us!Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!Check out Dr Tina's work here: www.TinaSchermerSellers.com www.nwioi.com www.InannaRising.org and get Sex/Relationship/child development handouts for each age that can be used by any kind of provider in schools, clinics, community centers, clinical practices, churches, etc. Tina has given us a 25% discount: use code REFERRALDISCOUNT at https://store.tinaschermersellers.com/ Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://youtu.be/LtyN8BQg-zkOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Janna talks to the author of one of her most recommended books, "Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy." In this captivating conversation with Dr. Tina Schermer Seller, a licensed therapist specializing in sex and gender issues, they discuss her research of the Christian Conservative church and the rise of abstinence-only education and purity culture in the early 1980s. This shift has had serious negative effects on both women and men, impacting their ability to have meaningful and healthy sexual relationships. Whether you come from a religious background or not, this discussion will help you understand the global influence of this narrative on our lives and how we can start the healing process. Find out more about Dr. Tina Schermer Seller and her books here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/

Raising kids is hard in a bunch of different ways, but one of the main things parents dread is having the inevitable “talk” with their children. How do you have the talk, when should you have it, what is appropriate to say: these are all questions that nobody really gives parents the answers to. But what if that one, all-important moment never needed to happen, because kids got the information they needed as they needed it growing up?Author of the incredible resource Shameless Parenting: Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident Kids and Heal, Dr Tina Schermer Sellers, joins us this week to discuss how to raise kids in a shame-free way, including “drip-feeding” them snippets of information about sex and their bodies throughout life, starting from toddler-age. We start the episode hearing about Tina's own upbringing, which was exactly the kind of parenting she has found is beneficial to kids in her research. Tina explains what sex-positive and shame-free parenting means and what parents need to do to make sure they're not passing on their own shame to their kids.Dr Tina gets into the different developmental stages kids go through with understanding sex, and what is age appropriate to teach them at each stage, including what to do if your kid is touching themselves or trying to experiment with other children. You might experience conflict in your own relationships, so she also goes into what is appropriate to share with your kids and what to do if they ask you questions. We then get into how to talk about bodies in positive ways; Dr Tina explains that not having these crucial conversations with your children can set them up for loneliness and feeling as though they are unequipped for the world later on in life, which can in turn make them look to harmful examples in the world around them. Thank you so much to Dr Tina for joining us, we learnt so much about how to raise sex-positive children and we hope you did too. You can find more from her on her website and find her Instagram @drtinashameless, or on Twitter @tinassellers. You can also find the Northwest Institute on Intimacy on Instagram and buy her books on Amazon.As always, you can find more of us on Instagram, TikTok, Threads and Facebook @sextraspodcast, our website or email us at sextraspodcast@gmail.com. We'll be back next week with the last episode of our Family, Parenting & Sex miniseries, make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss it! Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We are so excited to share this episode with you! This week Cortland and Meghan sit down with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers and Chloë Abigail. Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a best-selling author, speaker, and researcher on sexual shame and healing religious sexual trauma. She is professor emerita of sexuality, and Marriage & Family Therapy, and the Founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy and Inanna Rising. She is the author of: Sex, God, and the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy and Shameless Parenting – Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident Kids and Heal Your Shame Too!   With a degree in the sociology of gender, Chloe Abigail is an accomplished and highly sought after editor at the intersection of sexuality, spirituality, and human thriving. She is also Dr. Tina's daughter. Their favorite past-time is sitting in the hot-tub and discussing all things sexuality, patriarchy, and life in the 21st century. We know our listeners will love this episode and the insights that come from this dynamic mother/daughter duo. If you want to skip #twitbits and head straight to the interview, jump to 27:20. If you enjoyed this episode, check out Dr. Tina's website, https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/, which includes links to her books and social media. You can find and follow Chloë Abigail at @TheGrammarGrimoire on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thegrammargrimoire/. If you enjoy listening to the show, please consider heading over to apple podcasts to rate and review us. If you really enjoy the show, we would love to see you in our Patreon.com/ThereafterPod! Also, look for us on social media and shoot us a message to say hello, or chat with us in Twitter spaces on Tuesday mornings in deconstruction coffee hour! Twitter: @ThereafterPod, @CortlandCoffey, @ThePursuingLife Instagram: @ThereafterPodcast, @CortlandCoffey, @ThePursuingLife

This week, join Eric and Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers as they dive deep into how you can overcome sexual shame as individuals and as a couple to create a more thriving sexual relationship.Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a licensed sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, best-selling author, researcher, emeriti professor, and media personality whose expertise spans sex therapy, spiritual intimacy, parenting, medicine, and social justice.We chat about:➡️ Where Sexual Shame stems from➡️ The number one reason we don't desire our partner➡️ The impact of Sexual shame on Intimacy➡️ How to work toward overcoming shame to have a thriving sex life!Evolved Marriage Links:FREE EVOLVED MEN'S COLLECTIVE FB GROUPFree ResourcesApply for the Evolved Men's Collective MastermindJoin the FREE Evolved Men's Collective Facebook Group Apply for The Evolved Men's Collective Mastermind FREE RESOURCE - The Six Key Relationship Skills

I sat down with Dr. Tina Sellers about the unfortunate legacy Christianity has with Sexual Shame. With both of us having backgrounds in faith traditions, I believe we share a distress that certain religious communities can't seem to find more sex-positive and effective approaches to such an important part of the human experience. We discussed the history and ramifications of sexual shame and some approaches people may find helpful in reframing these things in their lives.  Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a licensed sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, best-selling author, researcher, emeriti professor, and media personality whose expertise spans sex therapy, spiritual intimacy, parenting, medicine, and social justice. Her revolutionary perspectives have been expressed on platforms such as “Spirituality & Health,” “Refinery 29,” “Vocal,” “Medium,” and “Bust Magazines,” along with many podcast, radio, news, and TV outlets. Known for exposing the impact of patriarchy and sexual shame on our ability to securely attach to our partners, and instruct our children to attach to theirs, Dr. Sellers' book, “Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy,” has had a global impact. Her latest book, “Shameless Parenting – Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident, Kids and Heal Your Shame Too!” was a New Release Bestseller in eight categories. She speaks throughout the world on how to heal, and how to raise shame-free relationally confident children. In 2015, Dr. Sellers left her academic position of 28 years to found the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, a post-graduate institute to train psychotherapists, educators, clergy, and physicians in sexual health and understanding their sexual biases. Most do not realize that these professionals do not get sexual health training in graduate school. Since our ability to do pleasure and connection is core to our happiness, it is critical that all professionals serving public health and wellness receive this training.  Dr. Tina can be followed on Instagram @DrTinaShameless.   Please consider donating to keep this podcast going at natashahelfer.com. Intro ("Fisher's Hornpipe") and outro by Otter Creek Podcast edited by: Ashley Pacini  

Feel free to contact us at fearlessinlovepodcast@gmail.com. We would love to hear from you! In this episode we begin a discussion on intimate knowing by looking at Jewish tradition and how that tradition helps inform our understanding of the Apostle Paul's teaching on marriage and sexual union. Join us in the conversation! Resources mentioned in this episode are Unwanted by Jay Stringer and Sex, God and the Conservative Church by Tina Schermer Sellers.

In this episode, Brandi is joined by sex therapist and educator Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers to talk about sexual shame. They discuss how theology, research, Christian culture and more harm our sense of self and relationship to others.  They also seek to provide pathways toward healing, self awareness, and education in the midst of purity culture. If you like what you hear, you can subscribe, rate, review, or just keep listening. If you want to support the show financially, you can do so on patreon at patreon.com/reclaimingmytheology. Reclaiming My Theology is recorded and edited by Brandi Miller, our music is by Sanchez Fair. Taking our theology back from ideas and systems that oppress. @reclaimingmytheology

If you have kids, it's inevitable that at some point you will have to discuss the topic of sexuality. The questions that often come up are when, how, how much detail do you give, what is age-appropriate, etc. In this episode, Kevin & Céline talk with licensed sex psychotherapist and best-selling author Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers. They cover a lot of ground answering the above questions and a whole lot more including how parents' sexual shame is passed on to their children. This is a must-listen-to episode for parents or future parents! Dr. Tina also provides free resources to help parents. To Find More From DR. Tina Click The Links Below https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/ https://www.nwioi.com/ ❤️ FREE EXCLUSIVE CONTENT  ❤️ The Passion Vault →  https://www.celineremy.com/vault OUR SPONSORS: (Affiliate links)

Carla Godwin grew up in Nebraska in a conservative Christian household. She settled on Grace Bible College in Omaha knowing there were limited career options for women in that world. While being constantly reminded of the expectations for women, Carla began pushing back against some interpretations of the Bible. But patriarchy and purity culture kept forcing her to question even more of her faith, leading her to join more progressive churches and organizations. Even still, purity culture was ingrained into the heads of the men, highlighting the rift between men and women in christian settings. I was fortunate enough to meet Carla a the Deconstruction Meetup in Portland, and I am so grateful to call her a friend today. Her story and her perspective are so important for everyone to hear. We mentioned Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers and Pastor Josh Scott as excellent resources for christians regarding sexuality and a progressive worldview. I think they are also just great resources for everyone. The Chapel Probation Players are back this week with Meghan Crozier joining an angel of the Lord to shed light on the raw deal women get in life and marriage. Chapel Probation is part of the Dauntless Media Collective Music by Scott Okamoto, Jenyi, and Shin Kawasaki and Wingo Shackleford Join the Chapel Probation Patreon to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the Chapel Probation Facebook group to continue the conversations. Follow Scott on Instagram and Twitter You can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at rscottokamoto.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/scott-okamoto/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/scott-okamoto/support

So many of us were raised in purity culture and taught that sex and sexuality are shameful. As some of us begin to become parents, we are wondering how exactly to navigate this area of life with our children. Dr. Sellers shares with us about her new book "Shameless Parenting" and how we can reparent ourselves, and our children, to have a healthy sexual ethic.

A lot of us have deconstructed the Purity movement, but we're unsure of what sex looks like now. How do we honor God, ourselves, and others in our sex lives? What is sexual immorality? And what does it look like to live sexually moral lives? We explore all this and more in today's podcast.

How to talk about safety and hygiene? Masturbation? Learn from an expert in communication and teaching for kids and youth, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers.1:00 they train physicians, clergy, coaches and more, about sexual health4:00 Swedes are sex-positive!9:00 impacts of purity culture can look like sexual abuse13:00 her article went viral, and opposition?17:00 heredity influences our shapes and bodies20:00 stages of sexual development are normal23:00 what do you wish your parents had done differently?27:00 just tell your kid that you love them regardless of how they look31:00 it's normal for kids to not want to hear from their parents on sex34:00 why my kid can't sleep in my bed sometimes36:00 book recommendations38:00 my parents comment on my body, help!43:00 on kids and genital self-touching47:00 how to explain that families are different 50:00 book recommendations again55:00 listener responses on parenting

Who says God is not SXY? In this episode we speak to Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers,  author of "Sex, God & the Conservative Church" and "Shameless Parenting" about what it means to be spiritual yet live fully into our entire being, including and especially, our sexual beings.  It is time to put our faith in a higher power to the test and step into our divine spirituality. Listen in and find out why  'shameless' sexuality is the way forward to sexual freedom!!

Hi, friends! Welcome back to another episode of Happily Together. This week, we sat down with our friend, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers to talk about her book, Shameless Parenting and how we can build sex-positive homes (and why it's so important.) On this episode, we discuss: How is Dr. Tina staying emotionally centered while remaining flexible in these times? Why the book Shameless Parenting What it means to be a shameless parent Is the cultural trend around sex education and sex positive homes changing? Where the social construct of virginity came from Which group of people are having the worst sex A more comprehensive look at sex How to wake up sensuality and pleasure in your life Owning our sexual shame as parents Additional Links: Find Dr. Tina on IG, here. Learn more about Dr. Tina and her work, here. Find Dr. Tina's New Book, Shameless Parenting, here. Website: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/ Sex, God and The Conservative Church: https://amzn.to/3KsBkLW Shameless Parenting: https://amzn.to/3fCHE5o Northwest Institute on Intimacy: https://www.nwioi.com/ Learn more about Caleb, here. Learn more about Kara, here. Find Caleb on IG, here. Find Kara on IG, here.

Many parents find normal sex behavior and development confusing. Parents often wonder if their child's sexual behavior is normal. Certified sex therapist Dr. Tina Sellers talks about parenting and sexual health and give parents a better understanding of “what to expect and when” in terms of their child's sexual development. Resources for Shameless parenting In her newest book, Dr. Tina's goal is to help parents or caregivers foster healthy sexual choices and attitudes in their children. She believes comprehensive sex education is the best way to protect children when they get involved with sex later, to make safe sexual choices, to lower teen pregnancy rate, to lower STI rates, etc. The book was made to be a handout that doctors, teachers, parents, therapists, and other educators could easily use and refer to when dealing with sexual developments in young children. Moreover, since shame is one of the things that could get in the way for parents to become the best sex educator that they wanted to be, Dr. Tina also emphasizes ways to soothe the self and heal from that, along with streamlined resources and websites that could effectively help overcome that shame. Sexual Development in children It is critical for parents and caregivers to get a greater understanding around sexual development and behaviors in children. Dr. Tina's book was developed in hopes of creating a better understanding of these developments. It can be difficult to recognize that, like adults, children are sexual beings. Children will be curious about sex, sexuality, and the human body. The book can serve as cheat sheets for parents to get some general information on common and uncommon behaviors based on age groups. Parents can also find suggestions for conversations that parents can have with their children to help encourage healthy sexual development. Normalizing sexual behaviors Healing comes from knowing that there are sexual behaviors that are normal in children and that shame was never an appropriate feeling. Kids will do what kids will do from harmless curiosity. The evolving sexuality that we have is always beautiful and creative, and the fact that the society that we live in has just never gotten it right is tragic. Wrong notions and misinformation can crush a child's developing sexuality and can get traumatized with profound effects. Managing reactivity for parents It is important to ask your kids questions and listen very carefully to what they have to say about what's going on in their world. It can be scary for parents to get sort of a bird's eye view of what the world is like for their kids but not knowing will not be helpful either. Parents need to learn to manage reactivity within themselves. Joining a parents' group where you can start talking to each other about what it is like for you or just having a place to talk through your own reactivity and your own fear can be helpful. Know that your kids need your calm presence and just knowing that you got their back no matter what. Parents need to be conscious of their reactions because kids could easily pick it up as shaming or judging. Biography: Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD has had a distinguished career as a marriage and family therapist, medical family therapist, and certified sex therapist. She is also a professor, researcher, author, and speaker. She has won numerous awards and been featured on radio, TV, and podcasts. As the founder and Medical Director of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, and the community group ThankGodForSex.org she speaks to audiences across the country about the difference sexual health and sexual health training can make for the individual and professional. Her award-winning book, Sex, God, and the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy reveals the devastation caused by sexual shame in the wake of the purity and abstinence-only movements and reveals the path to healing for both clinician and client. When not speaking and writing, you will find Tina delighting in her year-old granddaughter! Resources and links: www.tinaschermersellers.com www.instituteonintimacy.com www.4-DNetwork.com www.ThankGodForSex.org www.SheIsCalled.com Instagram: @drtinashameless Affiliate links to books: Sex, God, and the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy – https://amzn.to/2H2vTVV From Diapers to Dating: A Parent's Guide to Raising Sexually Healthy Children – From Infancy to Middle School – https://amzn.to/2Ew4oCi More info: Sex Health Quiz – https://www.sexhealthquiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to want more sex without it feeling like a chore: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/ Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/213-shameless-parenting-dr-tina-schermer-sellersMore info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

Lauren is a counselor who has experience in the ministry and now specializes in helping couples with intimacy and connection. She joins the channel to discuss her perspective on how purity culture has shaped the way marriages experience intimacy. She also addresses how to talk your children about sexuality in a healthy way. Singles/Parents: Redeemed Sexuality by Tim and Dr. Jennifer Konzen https://www.christianbook.com/redeemed-sexuality-christian-singles-students-parents/tim-konzen/9781595543516/pd/543516?en=google&event=SHOP&kw=books-0-20%7C543516&p=1179710&utm_source=google&dv=c&gclid=Cj0KCQiAnuGNBhCPARIsACbnLzohwrPaK_EaMPNe5sAQVxPnierx4NIvSXWu_PDzHbdzcYZ_naTrukgaAme0EALw_wcB Soul Virgins by Doug Rosenau https://www.amazon.com/Soul-Virgins-Redefining-Single-Sexuality/dp/0985810718 Unwanted by Jay Stringer https://www.amazon.com/Unwanted-Sexual-Brokenness-Reveals-Healing/dp/1631466720/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=unwanted&qid=1639515342&s=books&sr=1-1 Married Individuals: The Art of Intimate Marriage by Tim and Dr. Jennifer Konzen https://www.amazon.com/Art-Intimate-Marriage-Christian-Intimacy/dp/0692730702/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=art+of+intimate+marriage&qid=1639515376&s=books&sr=1-2 Restoring the Pleasure by Clifford and Joyce Pennerhttps://www.amazon.com/Restoring-Pleasure-Thomas-Nelson/dp/0718077555/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=restoring+the+pleasure&qid=1639515436&s=books&sr=1-1 Ministers: Sex, God and the Conservative Church by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers https://www.amazon.com/Conservative-Church-Tina-Schermer-Sellers/dp/1138674982/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1639515494&sr=1-3 Pure by Linda Kay Klein https://www.amazon.com/Pure-Inside-Evangelical-Movement-Generation/dp/150112482X/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=pure&qid=1639515558&s=books&sr=1-5