Podcast appearances and mentions of michelle mays

Healing Body Image and Self-Perception After Betrayal   In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore how early life experiences, cultural messaging, and exposure to media and pornography shape self-perception and body image—especially after betrayal. They discuss why betrayed partners often feel "not enough," and they share research shows that pornography harms both users' and partners' body image.   The episode offers practical strategies for healing, including gratitude for the body's functionality, redefining beauty beyond appearance, and reconnecting with the joyful, authentic self. This conversation invites listeners to free themselves from harmful comparisons and embrace their inherent worth. Resources Discussed: - Study: The Association of Pornography Use and Body Image Among Heterosexual and Sexual Minority Men (Archives of Sexual Behavior). - Key concepts: Self-perception, media influence, social comparison theory, and gratitude-based body acceptance. —- Did you miss the First Annual Human Intimacy Conference? Session replays are now available. Click here and use this coupon code to get a 20% discount (Conf20). Watch Dr. Kevin Skinner, MaryAnn Michaelis, Karen Strange, Michelle Mays, Geoff Steurer, and many others as they discuss the healing and recovery process.

Navigating Attachment, Fear, and Connection in a Divided World      In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner is joined by Michelle Mays, author of The Betrayal Bind, to discuss the impact of betrayal trauma on attachment and how attachment plays a broader role in our relationships and society. Michelle shares insights from her experience as a licensed professional counselor and creator of the Attachment-Focused Partner Betrayal Model.   The conversation delves into how fear affects our attachment systems, particularly in personal relationships and at a societal level. They explore how political and cultural divides create a sense of disconnection and anxiety, mirroring the dynamics seen in betrayal trauma. Michelle and Dr. Skinner discuss the importance of slowing down, recognizing fear-based responses, and fostering connection instead of falling into fight-or-flight behaviors.   The discussion also highlights how betrayed partners often experience disorganized attachment, where their primary source of safety becomes a source of danger. Michelle explains how healing involves moving from disorganization back to secure attachment, both with oneself and with others. The episode concludes with practical strategies for overcoming fear-driven disconnection and promoting deeper, more meaningful relationships.   Michelle also previews her upcoming talk at the Human Intimacy Conference*, where she will dive deeper into how attachment influences betrayal recovery and relationship repair.   Resources Discussed in This Episode:   1. Books & Authors:      - The Betrayal Bind by Michelle Mays      - Rebuilding Your Relationship After Sexual Betrayal by Dr. Kevin Skinner      - Willpower by Roy Baumeister      - Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport      - Intimate Interactions (referenced in discussion)   2. Key Psychological Concepts:      - Attachment Theory (Bowlby, Shaver & Hazan)      - The Attachment-Focused Partner Betrayal Model (Michelle Mays)      - Disorganized Attachment & Betrayal Trauma      - Fight, Flight, Freeze Responses in Relationships      - Orienting Response & Nervous System Regulation   3. Practical Strategies for Listeners:      - Slowing down before reacting to emotional triggers      - Identifying personal fear responses (fight, flight, or freeze)      - Practicing digital minimalism—choosing when and how to consume media      - Prioritizing human connection over power struggles in relationships and society      - Using curiosity and open-ended questions to navigate disagreements      - Recognizing and addressing deeper emotional needs in relationships   4. Upcoming Event:      - The Human Intimacy Conference (March 14-15, 2025)        - Featuring Michelle Mays and other leading experts        - Early registration discount code: **50OFF** for $50 off   This episode challenges listeners to examine their own attachment patterns, reflect on their fear responses, and foster deeper connections in a world that often promotes disconnection.

The Power of Attachment in Healing Relationships with Geoff Steurer   In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner welcomes his longtime friend and colleague, Geoff Steurer, a licensed marriage and family therapist and expert in relational healing. Together, they dive into the crucial role of attachment in relationships, especially in the aftermath of betrayal and addiction.   The conversation explores how attachment bonds shape our experiences of intimacy, trust, and security. Geoff and Kevin discuss common attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and how they influence relationship dynamics. They address the unique challenges couples face when navigating the tension between wanting to stay together and the pain of betrayal.   Listeners will gain insights into:   - Why attachment is not a choice but a fundamental human experience.   - How attachment wounds impact relationships after infidelity and betrayal.   - Practical strategies for healing and strengthening bonds.   - The role of reassurance, validation, and vulnerability in rebuilding trust.   - Overcoming common obstacles like sexual desire discrepancies and emotional disconnect.   As a preview of the upcoming Human Intimacy Conference on March 14-15, 2025, Geoff shares how his session will provide a deeper dive into attachment wounds and betrayal trauma.   If you've ever struggled with trust, emotional safety, or relationship recovery, this episode provides practical tools and compassionate guidance for navigating relational challenges with greater awareness and intention.   Resources Mentioned:  1. Human Intimacy Conference (March 14-15, 2025) – Featuring leading experts, including Geoff Steurer, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Michelle Mays, and Dr. Kevin Skinner.      - Learn more: [HumannIntimacy Conference 2025 Use Coupon Code 50off 2. Books & Research:      - Hold Me Tight– Dr. Sue Johnson (Emotionally Focused Therapy and Attachment Science)      - Attached – Dr. Amir Levine & Rachel Heller (Understanding Attachment Styles)      - The Power of Attachment — Dr. Diane Poole Heller      - Love 2.0 – Dr. Barbara Fredrickson (The Science of Creating Love)   3. Therapeutic Approaches Discussed:    - Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)      - Polyvagal Theory – Dr. Stephen Porges      - The Impact of Early Attachment Experiences on Adult Relationships   4. Geoff Steurer's Work & Resources:      -Website: GeoffSteurer.com   Join us in this enlightening conversation to better understand attachment and how it shapes the way we love, connect, and heal in relationships.

Breaking Free: How to Get Unstuck from Trauma and Reclaim Your Life   In this milestone 52nd episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis discuss one of the most challenging aspects of healing—getting stuck in trauma. Many individuals feel trapped in past experiences, unable to move forward despite years of therapy or self-help efforts. Trauma is not logical; it bypasses rational thought and gets stored in the body, often resurfacing in fight, flight, or freeze responses.   This episode delves into the neuroscience behind trauma, explaining implicit vs. explicit memories, generational trauma, and learned helplessness. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn explore why people remain stuck and share proven strategies for processing and releasing trauma through evidence-based therapies. They emphasize the importance of body-based approaches, neuroplasticity, and the hope that real healing is possible.   Listeners will also hear about the Human Intimacy Conference (March 14-15, 2025), featuring leading experts in the field. As a special thank-you, podcast listeners can receive 50% off registration (expires Feb 8) and a free 100-day healing course upon signing up.  Coupon Code: 50off Resources Mentioned in This Episode:   Therapeutic Modalities for Trauma Healing:   1. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) – Uses bilateral stimulation to help the brain process and integrate traumatic memories.   2. ART (Accelerated Resolution Therapy) – Uses visualization and rapid eye movement to help rewrite trauma narratives.   3. Brainspotting – Identifies and processes trauma by focusing on where distress is stored in the brain.   4. Somatic Experiencing (Dr. Peter Levine) – Focuses on releasing trauma stored in the body through physical awareness.   5. Polyvagal Theory (Dr. Stephen Porges) – Helps regulate the nervous system and restore safety in the body.   6. Trauma-Informed Yoga – Uses movement and breathwork to help the body release trauma.   Books and Experts Referenced:   - The Body Keeps the Score – Dr. Bessel van der Kolk   - Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma – Dr. Peter Levine   - The Developing Mind – Dr. Dan Siegel   - Facing Codependency – Pia Mellody   - The Circuit of Hope – Dr. Martin Seligman   - The Choice – Dr. Edith Eger   Human Intimacy Conference (March 14-15, 2025):   - Coupon Code: 50off —50% discount available for podcast listeners (expires Feb 8).   - Featured Experts: Dr. Kevin Skinner, Michelle Mays, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. David Robinson, Geoff Steurer, and more.   - Bonus: Register and receive a $100 gift toward Dr. Skinner's 100-Day Healing Course.   - Special Sessions: Pre- and post-conference Evening With the Experts, covering topics like rebuilding trust and getting unstuck.   Final Message:   If you feel stuck in trauma or emotional patterns that seem impossible to break, know that healing is possible. The brain can change, and you are not alone in this journey. Seek support, explore body-based healing modalities, and, most importantly, give yourself compassion.  

Navigating Triggers in Public Spaces: Building Trust and Connection After Betrayal   In this the 50th episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis delve into the challenges couples face when navigating public spaces after betrayal. They explore how hypervigilance, triggers, and the history of betrayal influence interactions in environments like malls or restaurants. The discussion highlights practical strategies to help individuals and couples create "prepared plans" for these crucial moments, allowing them to build trust and connection instead of succumbing to defensiveness or disconnection. Key topics include:   - Recognizing triggers and fostering self-awareness.   - The importance of empathy and validation in rebuilding trust.   - Strategies for humanizing others and breaking free from objectification.   - Tools for accountability and recovery when old patterns resurface.   - The value of proper preparation to prevent conflict and foster connection.   This episode provides actionable insights for couples and individuals seeking to navigate the complexities of recovery and strengthen their relationships in the aftermath of betrayal. Resources Discussed  1. First Annual Human Intimacy Conference (March 14–15, 2025)      - Featuring experts like Dr. Sherri Keffer, Michelle Mays, and Dr. Dave Robinson.      - Sessions on betrayal recovery, trust rebuilding, and post-divorce healing.      - Discounted registration: $50 off for individuals and $100 off for couples.      - [Register here] Use Coupon codes: Individual Code: Podcast50 Couples Code: Podcast100 2. Books & Authors Mentioned:      - The Betrayal Bind by Michelle Mays      - Dr. Kevin Skinner's Rebuild Your Relationship after Sexual Betrayal   3. Recovery Tools:      - Mindfulness techniques for addressing triggers.      - Accountability practices for navigating public spaces.      - Strategies for emotional regulation and creating connection.

Today we speak with Michelle Mays, a leading voice in the field, we unwrap topics like betrayal blindness, relational fear, and the empowering journey of recovery. With compassion and evidence-based approaches, Michelle provides tools and perspectives to help individuals navigate complex emotions, reclaim their reality, and find healing. Whether you're on your own recovery path or looking to support others, this episode offers hope and actionable strategies.    #Cheating #Infidelity #Relationships #Trust #SexAddiction #BetrayalTrauma #Honesty #Communication #Podcast

Today we explore the profound connections between attachment, trauma, and healing. Featuring expert insights from thought leaders like Michelle Mays, we dive into topics such as betrayal trauma, attachment systems, and the phases of relational recovery.  Michelle Mays brings a wealth of knowledge and compassionate strategies, offering a holistic and research-driven approach to emotional well-being. Whether you're on a personal journey of healing or looking to deepen your understanding of these transformative topics, you're in the right place. #Cheating #Infidelity #Relationships #Trust #SexAddiction #BetrayalTrauma #Honesty #Communication #Podcast

Send us a Text Message.In this insightful episode of The Covenant Eyes Podcast, hosts Karen Potter and Rob Stoddard sit down with Michelle Mays, a licensed professional counselor and leading expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. Michelle, author of "The Betrayal Bind" and founder of the Center for Relational Recovery, shares her groundbreaking attachment-based model for helping betrayed spouses heal. Dive deep into the complexities of betrayal trauma, the role of the church in supporting the wounded, and the long-term process of recovery. Whether you're a therapist, pastor, or someone directly impacted by betrayal, this episode offers valuable insights and resources to help navigate the challenging journey of healing. Tune in to discover the compassionate strategies that are transforming the way we understand and treat betrayal trauma.Michelle's Website:https://michellemays.com/Braving Hope Coaching Program:https://michellemays.com/braving-hope-coaching-program/Try Covenant Eyes for FREE today!Use Promo Code: FreePodcast

We are rebroadcasting our very popular episode with betrayal trauma expert Michelle Mays. Partner betrayal is SO complex compared to other forms of trauma. The lying, manipulation, scapegoating and gaslighting create a cycle of shame of wanting to simultaneously connect and disconnect from a cheating partner. Michelle shares her own betrayal story and outlines the rationalization, minimization and justification used by cheating partners to make their behaviour ok. She also speaks to the vital importance of restoring the relationship with oneself after experiencing partner betrayal.Join the Waitlist for the next round of Doing It Together. ​Join Now.​Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women.Learn about Doing It Together: Program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

In this episode of "Success Leaves Clues," hosted by Dustin Plantholt, listeners can expect an enthralling conversation with Michelle Mays, an esteemed author known for her groundbreaking work on partner betrayal. Michelle dives deep into the inspiration behind her book, "The Betrayal Bind," sharing her personal journey of overcoming betrayal in her twenties due to a partner's sexual addiction. This profound experience led her to explore the field of betrayal and develop a new model for treating it in adult relationships.   Throughout the episode, Michelle and Dustin discuss the significance of communication and personal growth in relationships, emphasizing that successful relationships require both partners to commit to ongoing personal development and open, honest dialogue. Michelle also highlights the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships, explaining how early attachments shape our expectations and interactions with others.   Listeners will gain insights into the challenges and rewards of relationships, the importance of being willing to ask for help, and the role of technology in modern relationships. Michelle offers valuable advice on how to navigate and grow through the inevitable challenges that life brings to relationships, advocating for a mindset of continuous learning and openness.   The episode also touches on the transformative process couples must undergo to rebuild trust and create a new relationship after infidelity, underscoring the necessity of addressing the underlying issues and truly committing to change.   Join Dustin and Michelle for a thought-provoking discussion that promises to leave listeners with practical advice and a deeper understanding of how to cultivate healthy, fulfilling relationships.  

Please welcome to today's episode author Diana I. Kline, Ph.D. Diana has taught in higher education for over thirty years in a variety of subjects including computer science, psychology, math, and education. While teaching computer science courses, she always reminded her students to recycle old computer equipment; otherwise, those items could remain on this Earth much too long!  I met Diana through the OH Central South SCBWI chapter and was immediately intrigued by her book, A SOLAR SYSTEM CHAT illustrated by Susan and Chris Cornetet which has the earth speak directly to other planets including what is going on with her environment and other problems that need to be solved.  It was fascinating to hear about her writing experience and knowledge about the Earth and conservation that inspired her to write this book. Please enjoy! Some Highlights: Writing a book alongside a full-time career. Finding story inspiration in the things we're passionate about. The difference one field trip can make. How much debris is in space? How many references is too many references? How encouraging others to write their stories can inspire you to write your own. Links Mentioned

Kristin interviews Michelle Mays, a CSAT and betrayal trauma specialist whose attachment based approach to healing sheds light on the devastating and disorienting impact of sexual betrayal.  In this 2 part episode, Michelle unpacks principles from new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst. She reveals the depth of the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect with, yet connection is the key to healing. Learn more about Michelle & her work at Michellemays.com. The Living Truth Podcast explores the deeper issues beneath porn addiction, sex addiction, & the devastating impact of sexual betrayal.

Kristin interviews Michelle Mays, a CSAT and betrayal trauma specialist whose attachment based approach to healing sheds light on the devastating and disorienting impact of sexual betrayal. In this 2 part episode, Michelle unpacks principles from her new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst. She reveals the depth of the dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect with, yet connection is the key to healing. Learn more about Michelle & her work at Michellemays.com. The Living Truth Podcast sheds light on the deeper issues beneath porn addiction, sex addiction, & sexual betrayal. 

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Join us in this eye-opening episode with Michelle Mays, author of The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst, as we explore the impact of disrupted personal relationships on our well-being. Michelle emphasizes the pivotal role of connection as a key factor in healing, shedding light on how a lack of it can strain relationships and negatively affect mental and emotional health.Unpacking the intricate link between disrupted relationships and heightened stress levels, she provides actionable insights into recognizing signs of strain and offers practical steps to address these issues. Discover how healthy, supportive relationships play a crucial role in promoting overall wellness, gaining valuable guidance to foster positive connections and transform your holistic well-being. Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Supervisor in both Virginia and Washington DC, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor. She was trained by Pia Mellody in the Post Induction Therapy model for treating developmental trauma and is currently completing her PhD in Clinical Sexology and certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples.She is a member of the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health, the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals, the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, the American Counseling Association, and the Northern Virginia Licensed Professional Counselors Association.In the Adjusted Reality podcast, well-known athletes, celebrities, actors, chiropractors, influencers in the wellness industry, and other podcasters will talk with host Dr. Sherry McAllister, president, F4CP, about their experiences with health and wellness. As a special gift for listening today visit f4cp.org/health to get a copy of our mind, body, spirit eBook which focuses on many ways to optimize your health and the ones you love without the use of drugs or surgery. Follow Adjusted Reality on Instagram. Find A Doctor of Chiropractic Near You.Donate to Support the Chiropractic Profession Through Education.

This week's episode is based on a listener's request about how to recover from the betrayal of infidelity. Michelle Mays joins me to discuss cheating, the betrayal bind, and solutions for healing. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She is the author of the new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst, and she is the founder of the Center for Relational Recovery in Northern Virginia outside of DC.  In this episode, you'll hear about: Cheating and what makes sexual betrayal so devastating and problematic? (3:37) The betrayal bind is what happens when we experience betrayal at the hands of our most significant other. (8:08) Every betrayed partner goes through three specific injuries. (16:08) The role of gaslighting when a partner is cheating (19:54) Michelle answers, “Can you actually heal from betrayal and cheating?” (28:08) “Your relationship may not be salvageable, but you can absolutely heal from betrayal and move into the rest of your life and thrive and flourish afterward.” AND “If you are trying to heal your relationship, that is possible. The deciding factor is whether you are both in it 100%.” (29:50) Resources from this episode: 1:1 Coaching with Andrea Michelle's website Michelle on Instagram Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/576 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we talk to Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal Michelle Mays. She is the author of The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts you the Worst. We discuss the emotional and psychological impact of sexual betrayal on betrayed partners, the four types of gaslighting and their effects, how shame operates in both partners in the relationships, and how to heal.   Website: www.michellemays.com Book: The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst: Mays LPC CSAT-S, Michelle: 9781949481778: Amazon.com: Books

We all know life comes in and kicks us down, and no matter how hard we try, life continues to kick us back down. Well not for Ernie and Michelle Mays, they kicked life down. They took their life experiences and their love of God, and took "sour" grapes and turned into an amazing winery and award winning wines. Listen to how they use this passion to do what they love and pass it onto their children!Live Happy Lane

Michelle Mays, author of The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst, joins me for an in-depth conversation about healing from betrayal. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She is also the founder of the Center for Relational Recovery in Northern Virginia, outside of DC. “Divorce is common, and cheating is common. Because they are common,  it doesn't mean they're not tremendously significant and have enormous ramifications for our mental and physical health,” says Michelle. During our conversation, we discuss the importance of understanding what happened, explore betrayal through the lens of attachment systems, and unravel what happens to us when we experience this enormous injury.   Featured topics include: A new attachment-based model for understanding the impacts of cheating in relationships (8:58) Some of the binds in relationships that we can get stuck in including the shame bind and relational binds (12:01) What gets in the way of leaving when we want or know we need to leave (35:43) Healing and repairing relationships: what it means to stay, and what it takes to repair the fractures betrayal has caused (45:02) The difference between rebuilding emotional connection and rebuilding sexual connection (50:21) Learn more about Michelle Mays: Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She's also the author of the new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst. Michelle has created The Braving Hope™ Treatment Model to address the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Supervisor in Virginia and Washington DC, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor. She was trained by Pia Mellody in the Post Induction Therapy model for treating developmental trauma and is currently completing her PhD in Clinical Sexology and certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at:  https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-234-healing-from-relationship-betrayal-with-michelle-mays/ Pre-order Kate's book “The D Word” Michelle's websiteMichelle's book, The Betrayal Bind Michelle on FacebookMichelle on InstagramMichelle on YouTube Facing Codependence, Pia Mellody Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you'll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I'll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what's ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

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On this episode: Nate and guest host Chris Inman update everyone on Aaron and Erin Our Guest: Michelle Mays: author, counselor and innovator. Michelle guides couples through healing and recovery from betrayal. Helping couples understand betrayal through attachment. She reminds us of the four attachment styles and how they affect both partners before and during recovery. Michelle also defines the three core injuries that happen to the betrayed partner. Contact and Book: Michelle Mays Guest Host: Chris Inman - Porn Free Masculinity, We Got Balls, The Mirror Upcoming events: Pure Desire Conference 2023 Samson Annual Retreat Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On today's episode I am joined with Michelle Mays. Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She's also the author of the book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst.  She reveals the depth of the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect with, yet connection is the key to healing. Michelle looks at betrayal through the lens of attachment, as our attachment system is the very thing that connects us with anyone in our lives, and how betrayal causes a break in the attachment bond to the person we are closest with, shattering trust, and leaving a betrayed partner feeling unsafe and violated. This was a very informative and rich conversation. If you can't see the video here, watch and subscribe to my youtube channel https://youtu.be/YEq9BNBD9zs Michelle's Website & Resources www.michellemays.com https://michellemays.com/braving-hope-coaching-program/ Her Book⁠ can be found here: https://www.amazon.com/Betrayal-Bind-Heal-Person-Worst/dp/1949481778/Thank you to PartnerHope LLC for sponsoring this episode Consult with Monique https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/

Partner betrayal is SO complex compared to other forms of trauma. The lying, manipulation, scapegoating and gaslighting create a cycle of shame of wanting to simultaneously connect and disconnect from a cheating partner. My husband of 14 years admitted to a porn addiction that I was unaware of (after years in therapy/coaching trying to fix my "low libido"). When I came across the work of Michelle Mays on YouTube after one late night of desperate Googling, I knew I had to have her on the podcast. If you've had this experience, I hope this episode brings you validation, relief, and hope.

Kristin interviews Michelle Mays, a CSAT and betrayal trauma specialist whose attachment based approach to healing sheds incredible light on the devastating and disorienting journey of recovery from sexual betrayal. In this 2 part episode, Michelle unpacks principles from new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst. She reveals the depth of the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect with, yet connection is the key to healing. Learn more about Michelle & her work at Michellemays.com. The Living Truth Podcast contains conversations that shed light on the deeper issues beneath porn addiction, sex addiction, & help for those enduring the devastation of sexual betrayal this causes. 

Kristin interviews Michelle Mays, a CSAT and betrayal trauma specialist whose attachment based approach to healing sheds incredible light on the devastating and disorienting journey of recovery from sexual betrayal. In this 2 part episode, Michelle unpacks principles from new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst. She reveals the depth of the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect with, yet connection is the key to healing. Learn more about Michelle & her work at Michellemays.com. The Living Truth Podcast contains conversations that shed light on the deeper issues beneath porn addiction, sex addiction, & help for those enduring the devastation of sexual betrayal this causes. 

Betrayed partners need immediate support to navigate the new terrain of their relationship. They need a clear articulation of betrayal trauma, a thorough education about their normal attachment-based reactions, and a proven path to healing.⁠ Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Michelle Mays LPC, CSAT-S, who is an expert at helping partners work through sexual betrayal. An expert in the field, her new book clearly delineates how partners can heal and find their life again or perhaps for the very first time. ⁠ The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst offers a new exploration into an an age-old problem. In addition to sharing her own personal experience with recovery and renewal after betrayal, her new book offers a well-grounded process for healing and restoration and a clear step-by-step path for moving forward. The Betrayal Bind is a must-read for the betrayed, the betrayer, and the therapists who treat them.  

We might think we know the meaning of the term "betrayal",  but what actually happens when we're truly betrayed by the person closest to us? In this episode, Jodi talks with therapist and betrayal trauma expert, Michelle Mays, about the complexity of this relational trauma, as well as recovery resources. Jodi also discusses her new awareness of the role that betrayal played in her love addiction. Music by JD Pendley  

What helps? And can it even be saved? The answer is yes, with help for both partners. He needs to lean into her pain, acknowledge and validate it, and be fully transparent and accepting of boundaries. She needs a support network and to focus on self-care. Love is bigger than pain.References I mention in the podcast:Geoff Steurer's article His Recovery, Her Recovery, and Our Recovery SA Lifeline quality 12-step groups for both sex addiction and betrayal trauma Michelle Mays' 6 stages of betrayal trauma recovery Addo Recovery Bloom Program   Betrayal Trauma Recovery Help Her Heal empathy workbook by Carol Juergensen Sheets

Michelle Mays was born into an abusive family in the Midwest. As she and her siblings cling to survival, the balance of family ties is weighed against alcoholism, drug abuse, abandonment, and despair. Hope dawns in the form of foster care, only to be deferred by multiple placements and a system not equipped to support the children it's meant to protect.Through powerful vignettes of a life disjointed, Mays's story is a journey of hope that is echoed in the experiences of thousands of children in the court and foster care systems today.Dumpster Doll is brave not because it is unique, but because it unflinchingly shines a light on family turmoil, flaws in judicial systems, and ultimately, the grit and tenacity that thousands of children exhibit each day just to make it through.James Lott Jr is the host !

Do you ever feel guilty for wanting to stay with the person who betrayed you? Do you sometimes feel insecure and clingy in your relationships? This is a struggle for many adults who believe they shouldn't need other people when they're feeling insecure. In this episode, I'm joined by Michelle Mays, LPC, CSAT-S for a discussion on why our attachment needs are not only normal, but essential for our emotional, mental, and physical well-being. In this episode, we discuss: A brief overview of the science of attachment What our culture does to shame and criticize our natural attachments to each other. How this shaming is harmful to our individual and collective wellbeing When dealing with betrayal, how cultural views of attachment make it tough for betrayed partners who choose to stay and work it out The balance between dependency and individuality How we can create balanced support for personal safety while honoring our attachment reflexes. Connect with Geoff Steurer: www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/ www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT Visit www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. Bio: Founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Relational Recovery located in Northern VA, Michelle Mays LPC, CSAT-S has over 20 years’ experience in providing individual, couples and group therapy to those struggling with sexual addiction, betrayal trauma, childhood trauma and relationship issues. Michelle is the founder of PartnerHope, an online portal offering authentic hope and healing for betrayed partners through information, resources, tools, and connections with one another, subject experts and inspiring pathfinders. Michelle is the also the creator of the Relational Recovery Disclosure Prep Model and provides resources, training and support to therapists to help them deepen their skill set around facilitating disclosures. Michelle is the author of the books The Aftermath of Betrayal and When It All Breaks Bad: Ten Things to Do (and not do) After Betrayal and is the creator of the Relational Recovery Disclosure Prep Manual and Workshop Kit. Michelle is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor trained under Dr. Patrick Carnes. She is also trained in Post Induction Therapy by Pia Mellody for the treatment of relational trauma and is in the process of completing her certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Supervisor in both Virginia and Washington DC. Links and resources: Center for Relational Recovery - www.relationalrecovery.com PartnerHope - www.partnerhope.com PartnerHope blog for betrayed partners - https://partnerhope.com/blog/ Braving Hope: Becoming the Hero of Your Betrayal Story 12-week Online Coaching Program - https://partnerhope.com/braving-hope/ Hope After Betrayal Private Facebook Group for Betrayed Partners - https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeafterbetrayal/

I welcome Michelle Mays, LPC, CSAT-S to the podcast where we discuss the importance of creating space for our emotions. In this episode, we discuss: Why emotions matter to our individual and relationship wellbeing Differences between how men and women are socialized to deal with feelings How our family patterns impact the way we deal with emotions Why too much emotion is often viewed as dangerous What we can do with ourselves, our partners, and our families to create more space for feelings How we can gather more support from others for allowing feelings Connect with Geoff Steurer: www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/ www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT Visit www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. Bio: Founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Relational Recovery located in Northern VA, Michelle Mays LPC, CSAT-S has over 20 years’ experience in providing individual, couples and group therapy to those struggling with sexual addiction, betrayal trauma, childhood trauma and relationship issues. Michelle is the founder of PartnerHope, an online portal offering authentic hope and healing for betrayed partners through information, resources, tools, and connections with one another, subject experts and inspiring pathfinders. Michelle is the also the creator of the Relational Recovery Disclosure Prep Model and provides resources, training and support to therapists to help them deepen their skill set around facilitating disclosures. Michelle is the author of the books The Aftermath of Betrayal and When It All Breaks Bad: Ten Things to Do (and not do) After Betrayal and is the creator of the Relational Recovery Disclosure Prep Manual and Workshop Kit. Michelle is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor trained under Dr. Patrick Carnes. She is also trained in Post Induction Therapy by Pia Mellody for the treatment of relational trauma and is in the process of completing her certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Supervisor in both Virginia and Washington DC. Links and resources: Center for Relational Recovery - www.relationalrecovery.com PartnerHope - www.partnerhope.com PartnerHope blog for betrayed partners - https://partnerhope.com/blog/ Braving Hope: Becoming the Hero of Your Betrayal Story 12-week Online Coaching Program - https://partnerhope.com/braving-hope/ Hope After Betrayal Private Facebook Group for Betrayed Partners - https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeafterbetrayal/

#112: Easter Christian Business Series: Shining A Light For God In The Marketplace with Ian Anderson Gray and Michelle Mays Why are you running your business? Why did you start your business? There is no right or wrong reason, but for many new entrepreneurs, the why behind what they do, helps them get through those rough patches. Christian entrepreneurs in general are fairly afraid to be seen because they feel that God should have the spotlight, which is true. However, as Ian Anderson Gray talks about in the first half of this episode, we need to do what we do in order to glorify God, otherwise how can God have the credit if we don't build up our businesses? Part of building up our businesses is through social media and live video (Ian's speciality). Michelle Mays, our second guest on this episode didn't think she would end up in the luxury wedding planning business, yet here she is as one of the best! However God didn't leave her hanging after she received that calling from Him, He sent her the right people to help her understand all the various components of working in the marketplace and helped her find a tribe that would help her and encourage her along the way. If God can do that for her, why wouldn't He do that for you? This episode reminds us all that while God plays a big part in our businesses, we shouldn't be hiding our talents away, we all have a niche to serve, people we are called to serve and it would be selfish of us to not heed that call. Additionally, He is always looking out for us and will send us who/what we need when we need it. Note: This mini series will have episodes uploaded every day from March 27th until April 17th, so check back daily to hear first-hand stories from different Christian entrepreneurs about how they heeded God's call and what happened after they took that first step....  Important Links & Mentions in this episode:https://kellybaader.com/easter2021/ (Download the Cliffnotes for all 37 speakers of the Easter Mini Series) https://iag.me/ (Ian Anderson Gray's Website) https://www.renaymeshellevents.com/ (Michelle May's Website) https://kellybaader.com/learn (Access the free masterclass/Kelly's on-stage presentation about the Power Of One Framework) https://www.christianceolearninghall.com/ (Learn more about Christian CEO Learning Hall) https://kellybaader.com/review (Subscribe + Review on iTunes) https://kellybaader.com/Spotify (Subscribe + Listen on Spotify)      Remember, YOU Matter! See you in the next episode.  

In this Episode, Big Jay sits down with Author Michelle Mays and her Co-Author, Michelle Moon as they discuss their New Book, "Dumpster Doll: The Early Years".This book is the autobiographical story of Michelle Mays' life from birth to age 12, and deals with the  mental, emotional, physical and psychological abuse she endured at the hands of her Family and Friends - and her experiences in the Foster Care System.Click the link below for more information about getting a copy:https://www.amazon.com/Dumpster-Doll-Early-Michelle-Mays/dp/163337338X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=32K1OSOX74ZVX&dchild=1&keywords=dumpster+doll+the+early+years&qid=1605216965&sprefix=dumpster+Doll%2Caps%2C151&sr=8-1

In this episode, Jackie interviews Michelle Mays about healing from betrayal trauma.  Michelle founded the Center for Relational Recovery, a counseling and training center focused on providing leading-edge treatment to sex addicts, partners of sex addicts, trauma survivors, and those struggling with relationship issues.  Michelle's work is grounded in the work that all change happens in relationship and that our attachment to others is both the most meaningful and at times the most challenging parts of our lives.  

In this episode, Jackie interviews Michelle Mays about healing from betrayal trauma.  Michelle founded the Center for Relational Recovery, a counseling and training center focused on providing leading-edge treatment to sex addicts, partners of sex addicts, trauma survivors, and those struggling with relationship issues.  Michelle's work is grounded in the work that all change happens in relationship and that our attachment to others is both the most meaningful and at times the most challenging parts of our lives.  

#96: Have you heard God's call to start a business and are unsure on how to to take action on God's call for your business?  If so, I'd like to introduce to you, Michelle Mays! After working for 8 years as an executive assistant in corporate America, Michelle switched careers and used those planning skills to start her own business as the Chief Concierge for luxury wedding planning in New York. Not exactly the most conventional way to start a business either.   Michelle created a process called EDR, Engage, Design and Reveal which revamped the way that she tackles wedding planning and makes it easy for both her and her clients, prospective brides and grooms to be, have a clear picture of what the wedding is going to look like.  So what are you waiting for? Let's dive into my conversation with Michelle about how she started her entrepreneurial journey and why honor plays such a huge role in it.    Key Lessons From This Episode: Her journey from corporate America to luxury wedding planner Why active listening is just as much about what is not said Her process for planning weddings Challenges she has faced within the industry Why her approach to wedding planning is different from other wedding planners Difference she saw before and after she was in POOF Why we shouldn't try to blend in Michelle is a certified Wedding Planner from Penn Foster and also holds a degree in Wedding Institute - Accredited Special Events Designer Master’s Program from the Institute Wedding & Design. She is also a Certified Destination Wedding Coordinator from the Wedding Planner Institute of Canada. So if you need a wedding planner, you know where to go! ;)   IMPORTANT LINKS & MENTIONS IN THIS EPISODE: (https://www.renaymeshellevents.com/) (https://kellybaader.com/learn) (https://kellybaader.com/CCU) (https://kellybaader.com/review) (https://kellybaader.com/Spotify)       Remember, YOU Matter! See you in the next episode. 

Hello Wigglians! How are you keeping? We at the Wigglian Studios/Compound hope that you are well. We been keeping busy doing interviews and creating content.  Over at Three Little Sisters Publishing they are also creating and compiling content for your enjoyment. I spoke to Larisa and Sheal about how they met and started this company. They've become such great friends and you can tell. I really liked this interview. At the end Larisa announces a contest. I wish I could "catchmycopy" but I can't. You can though. Listen for details. You can find them at www.the3littlesisters.com     That's how to find their book selection and also how to contact them.  It's almost Beltaine in the Northern Hemisphere and Samhain in the Southern Hemisphere. They are going to happen whether or not we are able to get together to celebrate/worship or not. Mojo and I are going to kick Beltaine off by featuring Michelle Mays album, Fireleap. From that album we hear Gently Johnny, Fire Leap, and finish the show with Earth My Body.  Wait! That's not all. We continue the seasonal goodness with Beltaine (Calan Mai) by Magicfolk.  Oh no, I am not finished. There is one more from our friend Alexander James Adams. From Balance of Nature, we enjoy Good Beltaine Fire.  Mojo and I will be back real soon. Take care, be kind, and stay safe. It's all about the love!     

Tonight's special guest is Michelle Mays from Marysville, Ohio, who's a child abuse survivor and an author. "In my first 12 years I suffered physical abuse, sexual abuse, bullying, severe starvation, lice infestation, ringworm," she says, "and horrific events that almost took my life many times, including, but not limited to, getting hit by a drunk driver." Michelle spent a month in the hospital, but her mother never visited. She lived in her car for a time while she was running from the law. "I am the only one of my siblings that also experienced this who has not been in prison." But eventually she was able to turn things around. She goes on, "I learned how to channel these nightmares into action and have become successful with a wonderful [foster] family and support system." Not deterred by a tough early life she wrote a book about the experience, the first of three that she plans. 'Dumpster Doll: The Early Years' is part one and is all about her early life, covering up to age 12. "I wrote my story to help others like me learn to do the same because I feel like if we learn to channel this trauma, we will be the strongest people on earth," she says. Through powerful vignettes of a life disjointed, Mays’s story is a journey of hope that is echoed in the experiences of thousands of children in the court and foster care systems today. 'Dumpster Doll' is brave not because it is unique, but because it unflinchingly shines a light on family turmoil, flaws in judicial systems, and ultimately, the grit and tenacity that thousands of children exhibit each day just to make it through. "I am starting a foundation to help foster children that have aged out of the system since they enter adulthood with no support system as I did."

Michelle Mays is the Founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Relational Recovery with offices both in Leesburg, VA, and Washington, DC., where she and her team deliver treatment to addicts and betrayed partners. Today’s topic covers how couples can overcome betrayal after infidelity and why it’s perfectly normal to have an attachment ambivalence pattern towards the person who has hurt you. Michelle dives in on some of the challenges couples face as they build the trust back up again and underlines why the hurt partner needs a support group to help them through this chaotic time in their life.    TAKEAWAYS: [3:35] If a partner cheats on you, how do you define love after that?  [8:00] Dealing with cheating is difficult because it presents itself as a unique type of trauma. You begin to experience an ‘I love you today’ and ‘I hate you tomorrow’ attitude.  [9:35] Our brains give us two contradicting messages at the same time. One is to repair the damage so you can find safety again in your partner and the other is to run away.  [16:55] Things might seem like everything is back on track in therapy, but it takes time for the hurt partner to not be reminded by the pain. Sometimes it gets worse before it gets better.  [19:15] Love becomes a big question mark after infidelity. It is not a given.  [20:25] If you’re going to cheat, tell your partner first. Do it in real-time, not after the fact.  [23:20] Michelle explains the benefits of getting the betrayed partner into a support group.  [29:20] The partner recovering from betrayal is left with a massive hole for which they can get their support. You need a safe base in this chaotic time in your life.    RESOURCES:  The Porn Panic: Is Porn a ‘Public Health Crisis’? Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101  Seeking Integrity Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men  Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Partner Hope  Center for Relational Recovery  michellemays@relationalrecovery.com Dr. Barbara Steffens   QUOTES: “The person you usually turn to for safety is now the person that has hurt you.” “People who have been cheated on experience attachment ambivalence. The word ambivalence means to feel two opposing things at exactly the same time.” “It starts to feel like when I’m in a safe space, I get hurt. Betrayal really takes the safety out of that.” “Cheat all you want, but ask your partner first. It’s the lying, it’s the disconnection in the relationship. This will kill a relationship.”

This week's Sports Philanthropy Podcast has a ton of energy as Alycia Powell and MIchelle Mays, founders of Champions for Philanthropy, sit down with our host Roy Kessel, Founder of the Sports Philanthropy Network to talk about their approach to Philathropy, current client projects and their vision for improving impact in the community.

Tonight Carol the Coach will be interview Michelle Mays who wrote an ebook on what a partner should do once he/she discovers the sexual addiction. It is a guide that will help you navigate how to get through this crisis!

Michelle Mays joins the podcast to talk about how the model of working with partners of addicts, her own story of partner betrayal and how it fueled her to make a positive impact in the field, her complex betrayal trauma model, and how partners that have been cheated on finding their way to healing themselves and find peace again.   Michelle runs PartnerHope site and has an amazing treatment center of her own, the Center for Relational Recovery.   TAKEAWAYS: [1:25] Michelle Mays received her Masters in Counseling in 2001 in Seattle, Washington where she then opened a private practice. In 2005 she crossed the country and moved back to Northern Virginia where she opened a private practice in Leesburg. One of Michelle’s passions is to educate and train other counselors to become excellent providers of care and healing for clients. In 2011 Michelle founded the Center for Relational Recovery, a counseling and training center focused on providing leading-edge treatment to sex addicts, partners of sex addicts, trauma survivors, and those struggling with relationship issues. [2:45] Michelle herself was in a relationship with someone that was a sex addict, so she had her own journey dealing with the hurt and struggle of getting help. She found that many people didn’t understand addiction treatment, and they minimized her confusion, pain, anger and distress. [8:23] When betrayed partners come in reeling from the pain of infidelity, they are in the middle of an unfolding trauma. Michelle realizes that it is a very visceral response, and it’s important for the therapist to realize they are seeing people in the middle of a crisis. [11:23] It’s important for therapists to notice their own stress levels and deal with them appropriately rather than trying to lessen someone’s pain due to their own internal feelings of overwhelm to a strong and emotional reaction. [13:13] Grief counselors know that people are blaming themselves and feeling a lot of remorse. Rob’s experience is that partners coming in who have just been betrayed also are experiencing grief, and therefore remorse. [14:51] Michelle has developed a model for working with complex betrayal trauma, which looks at three different components that bleed together. Attachment trauma affects the way your attachment system has been impacted by the betrayal, and how the healthy bond has been disrupted and impacted. When things are traumatic in the relationship, it deregulates the partner rather than providing a sense of safety. Emotional and psychological trauma which are the result of being lied to and being manipulated in your perception of reality. This creates doubt and is most definitely a form of abuse. Rob says the intention of the cheater is not to hurt their partner, in fact, they are not thinking about the other partner's emotions at all. They are trying to cover their own tracks, without much thought to anyone else’s feelings.   Sexual trauma ranges across the board and affects many facets of the partner’s identity and sexual confidence. [27:23] The betrayed partners must fully understand the depth of the betrayal, so they can know all the information, feel the pain and move on. Michelle says it takes at least a year for the betrayed partner to begin to feel like themselves again in the relationship. [27:48] When partners do detective work, they may find bits and pieces that hurt them more. It takes the other partner to sit down and tell them everything so they can get a full idea of what’s happening. [30:01] The more Michelle looks at research on attachment, the more she understands why such a high number of partners stay together after a betrayal. [30:30] On her website for betrayed partners, Partner Hope, Michelle has written about the shame that betrayed partners feel when deciding to stay. Our cultural story about leaving and never looking back is very different from the reality of what is happening. [33:11] At the Center for Relational Recovery, Michelle and her team treat the addict, partner and the relationship all at one time.   RESOURCES Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101 Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Partner Hope Center for Relational Recovery michellemays@relationalrecovery.com   QUOTES: “There’s this idea that if your partner cheats on you and you’re female, you have either done something or not done something. This causes partners to internalize and feel an enormous amount of shame.” “When you have a partner coming in to your office, there is no post for them, they are usually mid-trauma.” “When people pair up in long-term relationships, they actually become one biological unit. You truly become an organism together.” “Most addicts and cheaters are caught in a dilemma because they have competing attachments, their partner and the cheating or affair partner.” “If you can’t bear to be sexual with your partner, there is something seriously wrong.” “Detective work and sleuthing is a way to have control over an out of control situation.”

If I mispronounced something on this podcast, I would have to apologize. I can't read or write in Hungarian, just speak it. That is the theme of this week's show. Mostly exploring paganism in modern day Hungary. The spirit guide of the week is Szepasszony. There are two dream symbols: Cell Phones and Dancing. And the story that is being told this week is called Emese's Dream. Here are the songs featured: 1. The Ballad of Three Kings by Leslie Fish 2. A Magyarok Szent-Gallenben by Sacra Arcana 3. Egi Taltos by the Moon and the Nightspirit 4. Beautiful by Witch's Mark 5. Pagan by the Moon and the Nightspirit 6. Pagan Medieval Dance by Trobar de Morte 7. Alomido by the Moon and the Nightspirit 8. Dream Weaver by Michelle Mays

Tonight, Carol will be interviewing Michelle Mays who is the founder of a new website www.PartnerHope.com. This website will guide partners through the 6 stages of recovery and give strength, hope and recovery to partners who have been traumatized by their spouses addiction. Michelle is the founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Relational Recovery and helps individuals and couples navigate through the trauma cause by sex addiction.  

It's all about the love and always will be. It's been that way at The Wigglian Way for 10 years and will be for the next 10 years. Thank you for sharing this time with us. We appreciate each and every one of our listeners and consider you all friends, some we just know better. Thank you, for walking The Wigglian Way. Part of walking The Wigglian Way is to spread love. This is a dark time and the only way we have to battle the darkness is to find the crack in it and shine the light in it. That light is you. That light is us. That light is everyone that has the ability to share and to love. This is the time for action. For this episode we invited listeners to share a short segment with us about what they were going to do to create change and/or to spread love in the near future. We welcome Katrina, Christophe, and Alicia to the show. Thank you for sharing your coming efforts with us. The music for this episode is Love by The Cult from Love Love is your Magic by Michelle Mays from The Promise Circle of Love by Arthur Hinds from Poetry of Wonder Love Train by Wolfmother from their self titled album Love is the Answer by Aloe Blacc from Lift Your Spirit All the music, all the poetry, all the words are of love. We love you and thank you taking this journey with us. Blessed Be

In this episode, we meet Michelle Mays, LPC, CSAT. Michelle owns and operates a private counseling practice in Virginia that focuses on Sex Addiction, Trauma, and Relationships. She discusses the challenges and blessings of owning her own counseling practice, as well as writing a book and starting a new website.

Michelle Mays is a nurse with Doctors without Borders, better known of course as MSF. She has worked in conflict zones, post conflict zones and generally very intense situations around the world to deliver health care and other services to vulnerable people. MSF has a reputation in the humanitarian community for being the first to arrive and last to leave often times dangerous situations, and its been in the news recently for the fact that its hospitals have been bombed in Yemen, by Saudi forces and Afghanistan by Americans. Michelle started her career as a nurse in Baltimore with an itch to work globally. We discuss some of her deployments in recent years, including to Haiti after the earthquake and to a remote part of India. We kick off discussing her most recent deployment to South Sudan.

We've come to the end of our hiatus. Thank you for all your kind words and the love that you sent while we have been going through this difficult time. Your love and support has meant so much to Mojo and I.  The Wigglian Way missed Pagan Values month but we did want to weigh in, so in this episode we talk about Forgiveness. We all will have to forgive or be forgiven at some point and how does that affect our spirituality? Of course,  we will give a brief review of Sun Wheel Pagan Arts Festival. It's difficult to give an unbiased account so we don't. Too many amazing friends!  Mojo and I take this time to thank Devin Hunter for all the work he has done on the Modern Witch podcast. Devin, remember that if/when you are ready to come back to podcasting you will be welcomed back with open arms. This we know.  Speaking of friends, we got to spend an entire weekend with Sooj and Ryan. As a surprise Betsy showed up at Chez Wigglian to perform with Sooj.  While we were on hiatus we were lucky enough to receive A LOT of music in the mail. Snail mail. A LOT.  To kick off the sharing of what we've received,  our Feature Album is Last Call by The Secret Commonwealth. In our first break we have Man Overboard and One Shot. To end the show we will hear Dubhachas (I'll Dream of Times Like This).  In our second break we hear from Myth Magic, Dragonfly, by Kan'nal and The Greenman by Michelle Mays from The Golden Section.  Thanks for walking The Wigglian Way! 

Summertime, the livin' is easy, well it's not quite summer yet, but it feels like it here in The Wigglian Studio!Hello everyone, thanks so much for downloading the show, we're so glad that you are deciding to spend a little of your day with us! Tonight we talk about Beauty and Sacred Landscapes! Lot's of poetry in this episode... Tonight's feature album is The Promise by Michelle Mays. We begin with One Power-Opening followed by The Welcoming. We close the show with One Power-Closing. Let's send some Wigglian Love Michelle's way...For our second break we hear from fellow Canadians, Sarah McLachlan and Lorenna McKinnit. From Sarah's Stumbling Towards Ecstasy, we hear Ice and from Loreena's The Visit, please enjoy Greensleeves.Podkin Love!Here's the link for the Dionysos Bromios invocation that I read.Friends, did you know that YOU make a difference?! That's right, YOU. We might get the accolades, but it's our wonderful listeners that make a difference in people's lives, YOU are the best listeners that a podcaster could ever hope for! Thanks for making The Wigglian Way such a wonderful journey!

Yo yo yo yo! Spring is here!!!Hey Wigglians, we're back with a quick turnaround and so glad to be back with you, thanks for downloading the show.Tonight, we introduce two new segments; the unofficially named "Eco Priestess" with our good friend Wendy and "Pagan Bookworm" with the Lovely Sarah.Our feature album tonight is the 2003 release by Michelle Mays, The Golden Section. Tonight we hear The Promise and Gently Johnny and we end the show with The Maiden Song.We also feature Wendy on our second set of music with Chalice and Blade's Tapestry and I Hear You Calling.Podkin Love!!!!!!!Thank you so much for your continued support with votes, emails, and comments. Thank you for downloading the show!It's all about the Love!

Yo! Thanks for downloading the show. Episode 27, took longer than we thought, seems like we've been saying that a lot lately....Tonight, we continue with Sparrow's trip through the elements with a visit to the West. We answer a couple emails and in the final segment, we talk about the segment that has given us the most trouble.Musically, we hear from the recently departed Jeff Healey; rock on Jeff, you are sorely missed; and the always lovely Michelle Mays.As always, thanks for the comments, the emails and the votes at Podcast Alley. The best thing about pagan podcasting is you. Thanks for walking.....The Wigglian Way.ps. We forgot to mention LitheWolf and her wonderful show, The Broom Closet in our shout outs. We love you LitheWolf! You give great bumper!

Welcome to Episode 4 of The Wigglian Way. Tonight, we try out the new Wigglian Way Studio, that's right, the new gear is here. In this episode, Sparrow and Mojo talk about a recent initiation, Ostara and being 'Witchier than Thou". From our first featured musical artist, Michelle Mays, we play Persephone and The Apple. Our second featured musical artist is Gaia Consort, we play Drawing Down The Moon and The Old Ones.Buy Pagan Music! Support Pagan Artists!