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I don't care about leaving money on the table. I don't care about “maximising” my revenue” or getting the “most” out of every day. Here's what I do care about: Spend Tuesday mornings at a 10am Pilates class. Stuffing around making labels for my new spice racks just because. Googling cool new hair-dos for my little girl. Sitting on the floor with her at 2pm on a Friday, playing hairdressers.I care about travel. I care so much about travel. I care about renting a month-long Airbnb in Norway just because. And getting a van, and traveling around the English countryside stopping at every cute pub along the way. I care about driving down the California coast. Showing my kids Hearst Castle. Visiting Old Town Ibiza, and sipping Sangria at 10pm on a hot August evening. I care about feeling free – really, truly free. Waking up on a Monday and relishing the week ahead. Spending the morning sitting in a cafe, writing for three hours over two half-strength cappuccinos. And never again sitting in  an air-conditioned cubicle with no natural sunlight, taking orders from a girl called Samantha and waiting for Friday. I care about life. And living it, unconventionally and messily.And having fun. And being the poster girl for living free. And above all? After building a $2.5m business to the ground in the name of wild alignment, NOT sacrificing all of that at the altar of some arbitrary revenue goal that won't even give me more of what I want. That's why I have the business I (now) do. And the values I (now) have. And it's why I'm now so passionate about sharing with others my ethos for building a simple, highly profitable one-person + a tiny team style business to the Lifestyle Business Sweet Spot ®In this week's podcast, I'll be sharing with you the Seven Commandments of Building a Business to the Lifestyle Business Sweet Spot.Want more?

I wanted to offer you the advice and very creative teachings today of Becky Blades – she founded and sold an award-winning communications firm, she's basically run from the board room to the home room, she's an artist herself, and she's an inspiring and highly creative author of two books; Her first book, Do Your Laundry or You'll Die Alone, Advice Your Mom Would Give if She Thought You Were Listening, which she wrote and illustrated, was named a Best Books of 2014 and one of the Top 100 Indie Releases by Kirkus Reviews. It received the prestigious Kirkus Starred Review and was an Amazon best seller for six consecutive years. Now she's written another wonderfully illustrated book (her own drawings and illustrations) entitled Start More Than You Can Finish. And I wanted it to be a real fresh-er-up-er for those of you wilting in the heat of the summer or fending off one more winter storm – dependent on your hemisphere. And the Next Big Idea Club  has selected it as one of  “the most essential nonfiction books of the year." She calls herself a bad cook, a hopeful gardener, a passionate tree hugger and a licensed private pilot – and I'm delighted not only to have her on SelfWork...  but to call her a friend. Advertisers Link:  Have you been putting off getting help? BetterHelp, the #1 online therapy provider, has a special offer for you now! Vital Links: My TEDx talk that today has earned 72,000 views! You can hear more about this and many other topics by listening to my podcast, The Selfwork Podcast.  Subscribe to my website and receive my weekly newsletter including a blog post and podcast! If you'd like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome! My book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression is available here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life. And it's available in paperback, eBook or as an audiobook! And there's another way to send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. You'll have 90 seconds to do so and that time goes quickly. By recording, you're giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I'll look forward to hearing from you! Episode Transcript This is SelfWork. And I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford At SelfWork. We'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world and what to do about them. I'm Dr. Margaret and SelfWork is a podcast dedicated to you, taking just a few minutes today for your own selfwork. Speaker 2: Hello and welcome or welcome back to SelfWork. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford, and I'm so excited about bringing you a friend of mine and someone that I truly, truly admire. Becky Blades. I wanted to offer you the advice and very creative teachings of Becky today. Not only has she founded and sold an award-winning communications firm, she's basically run from the boardroom to the homeroom. She's an artist herself, and she's an inspiring and highly creative author of two books. Now, the first one was, do Your Laundry or You'll Die Alone, subtitle being Advice Your Mom Would Give If She Thought You Were Listing. She not only wrote and illustrated that book, it was named a Best book of 2014 and one of the Top 100 Indie Releases by Kirkus Reviews. And it received the prestigious Kirkus starred Review and was an Amazon bestseller for six consecutive years. Speaker 2: That is a long time. Now, she's written another wonderfully illustrated book. Again, her own drawings and illustrations entitled Start More Than You Can Finish. And I thoroughly enjoyed it. I wanted it to be a real fresher upper for those of you who are wilting in this heat of the summer, or if you're in another hemisphere, fending off one more winter storm. Her point in this book is that we can get so afraid of failing, we don't start and starting is so important. In fact, she advocates being a startist. And this book also has high praise. It's been named a Must Read by the Next Big Idea Club, which by the way, the members of that club are Malcolm Gladwell, Adam Grant, Susan Kane, and Daniel Pink, not bad company. And they call it one of the most essential non-fiction books of the year. It is truly inspiring. Speaker 2: She calls herself a bad cook, a hopeful gardener, a passionate tree hugger, and a licensed private pilot. And I'm delighted not only to have her on SelfWork, but I'm lucky enough, like I said, to call her a friend. Before we hear Becky's interview, let's hear from BetterHelp. 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Within 48 hours, you'll have a professional licensed therapist with whom you can text, email, or talk with to guide you. And you're not having to comb through therapist websites or drive to appointments. It's convenient, inexpensive, and readily available. Now you can find a therapist that fits your needs with better help. And if you use the code or link Betterhelp.com/self work, you get 10% off your first month of sessions. So just do it. You'll be glad you did. That. Link again is better help.com/selfwork to get 10% off your first month of surfaces. Speaker 2: And now I'm delighted, absolutely delighted to introduce you if you don't already know her. To Becky Blades. I was trying to remember when you and I met, was it at a midlife bloggers Speaker 3: Associated? It was at, it was at BlogHer that in San Jose. Speaker 2: That's right. Yeah, that's right. Speaker 3: And it was my first one. Do did you go to a lot of those? No, Speaker 2: I think I went to two. I went to the one there. I went to one in Chicago, I think, and then I went to that one I didn't go to anymore. Speaker 3: And who invited me were Mary Speaker 2: Mary Dell Harrington, and Mary Speaker 3: Darrell Harrington and Lisa Heffernan. And I had just put out that first book. And I, you know, gosh, I am, I'm, you know, everybody I met there was so nice. And I just have still loved maintaining those relationships. Speaker 2: Listen, I was so glad that I took the time to read all of your book because I just laughed and I smiled and I teared up a couple of times and you had me from the very beginning. Your artwork is just incredible. A line is a dot that wasn't, this is what you say, a line is a dot that wasn't afraid to get started. I mean, that's like, Speaker 3: I loved that. Yeah. And a dot can be a splatter. I mean, dots don't need to be neat, perfect little dots. They can be little cuddles. Speaker 2: I didn't remember that until it, then I refreshed my memory and I wrote it that you are also, you're an author, but you're an an artist and you're, you're, you really love combining those things. And can you, why don't you tell SelfWork listeners a little bit about you? Speaker 3: Okay. Yeah. I had a career in public relations, which came out of a degree in journalism. And so I've always liked writing. I didn't like being poor. So journalism wasn't, you know, the job that I wanted out out of school. I grew up poor. So I, I chose to find a way to make money in an, the agency business, the journalism public relations agency business. There were a lot of opportunities for creativity. So I started my own firm in when I was 30. Wow. And ran that for 13 years. And then when I, kind of parenting was at a, at a pitch that I wanted to be home and in, in my creative space at home more too, sold the business and started building what what we now call a portfolio lifestyle. So I had the business oh, I like Speaker 2: That name. I've never heard this Speaker 3: . Yeah. And, and, and then I had the, I had an art studio and I remember  - to kind of jump over to this book  - when I one time my soon after I sold the business, my daughters were talking, they came home from school and they wanted it an identity for me. 'Cause you know, kids talk what your mother do, you know, what does your mom do? So my youngest said, "Mom, what are you, are you an artist? Are you a business person?" And I said, "Honey, why do those labels matter?" And her sister from the other room said, "She's a startist" . 'cause I was starting some other businesses and you know, they got confused by how I dress different days. So, so during that time, I, I went through my first and second midlife crisis. First that empty nest crisis that, you know, and have been such a great expert on my first book was do Your Laundry or You'll Die Alone. Speaker 3: And that was the subject line of the email I sent my daughter of all these journal entries with advice that I was kind of afraid to give her in person. So after she left for college, I sent it all to her. And, and then, you know, after that, I'm, I, I don't mind saying I'm 64 now. And those, these past 10 years of being kind of all, you know, almost the entire time empty, nested has given me the chance to really see how what I love and what I, who I love spending time with. And I've realized it's, it's people like you who when they think they wanna do a podcast, they'll just haul off and start it, or people have ideas and act on them. So Speaker 2: No, and the, the name of this book is Start More Than You Can Finish. And, and I so agreed with it. I, one of the things that I say to patients all the time is, it doesn't matter where you go, it's that you go Exactly. Just go, just make a choice. Just go. And I, I was just humming along with your book Thinking , I agree. . Speaker 3: And it's been fun to think about the mental health aspects, of course, you know, to, to make the case for something that seems as contrarian as this notion of start more than you can finish, you know, kind of in defiance of what our parents may have said. But the mental health aspects of creativity, we're learning more and more as you know about how creativity makes us flourish and thrive and, and the and then we have other things we can talk about, anxiety, depression as I studied the neuroscience of it, I, I decided, you know, I discovered hidden benefits that I didn't know I had been partaking in. Speaker 2: Wow. What are those? Speaker 3: Well, starting with self-discovery, self-esteem, getting out of anxiety and depression. I'll, I'll tell you a story that I haven't, it didn't make it in the book and I haven't told many people because it seems like kind of a downer, and we wanted the book to be upbeat. But part of my catalyst for writing the book was I was taking art lessons to domestic violence shelters. I did this for a few years. I, I didn't call it art therapy. Now they did because mm-hmm. All art is therapy, but I'm not a, I'm not a licensed therapist. Mm-Hmm. or an art therapist. But what I discovered in my time with those amazing women is that the thing that, that spectrum of creativity, I used to think it was started with, oh, oh, I'm not creative, and ended with, oh, I can start anything on a dime. Speaker 3: Well, the spectrum really starts way over in a place where we feel totally powerless. Totally. devoid of even knowing what we like. Right. What gives us joy, what our idea of beauty is, and our inability to make a decision. So this book is about starting, it's taking that first step, like you said, it's not where you go, it's that you go. And the example is, in the very first class, these women, all of them could not even make that first initial decision. I, I would kind of lay out a little project, very simple. I had all these enticing art supplies, but they literally needed my permission to choose a color. Like, what should I start with purple? Yes. Purple would be a great place to start. They had lost, I mean, they had literally had mm-hmm. the creativity beaten out of them because creativity is, it's trusting our own ideas and owning them, and then also having the, the courage to experiment and say, okay, you know, what? If purple doesn't work well, when we're terrified, when we're traumatized, when we're stuck, I don't think we have the courage to know that the stakes aren't that high. You know, if I choose color, if I choose purple and I don't like it, I can paint over it. Sure, of course. Or as I said, I'll give you another piece of paper . Speaker 2: That's a great point. It's that shutting down of, of risk of any, even, even how what, even no matter how tiny the risk, or seemingly tiny, it's not seemingly, it's not tiny to them. It's like, oh, right. I'm gonna make a choice and it's gonna be out here for other people to see. And yeah, it's right. But, you know, I, and you may Speaker 3: Not know, you know, I think when we're beaten down, we don't know what the risks are. There's this free floating sense of, I'm taking a chance, I'm doing something I haven't didn't do yesterday. So what might happen, because, you know, life doesn't treat us rationally. And for those women who had been, you know, abused, they, they had been abused for much less things than making a wrong color decision. Right. So the healing so to, you know, get back to your first big question was the, the ancillary benefits of acting on our ideas and following that creative process are things we don't even know we need, I think. And, and yet I could really see it dramatically with those, those women who, and this was another really fun thing, is that they came out of that so fast, so joyfully really, that just a few weeks, you know, just, you just give that affirmation that Yeah, purple would be great, and that looks great, and you know what, this other color might work too. And then they start with the self, with their own self-talk. And I mean, they just, those, those stays and those shelters aren't that long. So I only got to see 'em for a short period of time, but it was, it was fast and miraculous. Speaker 2: That's incredible. You know, I got my start in this business by volunteering at a domestic shelter. Oh. Speaker 3: So you get it. Speaker 2: Love so much so, so, so much. Anyway. Mm-hmm. , you know, I, I'm gonna quote you again. It's not that finishing isn't vital and great, but not finishing is not failure. And I, I love that because you know, how many times have I heard the phrase, well, that didn't work out like, that says something bad about me. I mean, you asked in the book to, to make a list of, you know, the things we've started and didn't finish. And to make, I mean, my first two marriages came to mind immediately, Speaker 3: , Speaker 2: I finished them, but Speaker 2: Not in, not in the way that I thought I was going to. And, and I mean, I carried those around with such shame for so long mm-hmm. that that wasn't okay. And and it's not ideal, perhaps, but it, you know, I learned something along the way. And then, but I, I love the fact that in the book, you also take time to say, all right, stop reading or, you know, whatever. And, and let's apply this. Let's, what can you do? Mm-Hmm. , what can you do with, with your, and you have four stages, you imagine, think, decide, and act. Which, you know, I, I think when people, a lot of people hear the word well, just imagine, just imagine mm-hmm. mm-hmm. , that feels like real shaky ground to just imagine. Mm. Speaker 3: Mm-Hmm. Mm-Hmm. mm-hmm. . And if we imagine and some people are really good at that part mm-hmm. , but some people, that is the toughest part because they imagine very small. They only imagine with the reality that they can touch and hold Right. Then. some people are great imagining and they imagine backwards, you know, they only pull from what they've already been able to do. So what, what I do with those four steps was research and find out how to do them better to, to start better and start more. So imagining it really comes down to imagining more and bigger the, the more we noodle and think about how things might be a future reality, which we're all gonna have, you know, we're gonna have a future anyway. Yeah. Speaker 2: Speaker 3: . So why not imagine it in all the, and it's all, its glorious colors and possibilities. Speaker 2: You know, I'm, I'm thinking about your work on Dreams with Start. I love that book. That, that's a great word. You, you, you should thank your daughter , because it says to write down your dreams, but then you very quickly said, but I don't have enough something. I don't have enough. Mm-Hmm. time. I don't have enough money, I don't have enough talent. I don't how whatever it is that you convince yourself to, to stop dreaming. Speaker 3: Exactly. It's, it's the, the answer to the question. The answer to the question. Why haven't you started that thing? And I asked actual people, art students of mine create very creative people after they told me something they wanted to do, I asked them why they hadn't started. And the answer was always, I don't have enough blank. They, they would word the answer many different ways. Sure. It could be confidence, like, I don't think I can do it. You don't have enough confidence. Right. enough permission, enough validation, you know, space and permission could be just from your family to think that you could take the time away for yourself. Mm-Hmm. to do that. I call that enough permission. You know, and, and obviously money and time are the big ones. Sure. Speaker 3: But we do have enough to start those things. That was the big learning. I think the big aha in the research was if you've started anything, like you probably didn't know that you'd be doing a podcast for this long pss I can, I've decided I can never do a podcast. I . So respect the ability to all the skills that come into this. But when you started your first one a start only thinks, thinks mostly about how I will start it, how I will do the first step. Yeah. And that is the healthy way. If you think your finish, if your finish was to get it produced and get it picked up by a big syndicate, you would not think you had enough of whatever to do that. And Speaker 2: I was determined to do at least eight podcasts because I was told in my class that that was the average number of podcasts that people do before they finish before they start Speaker 3: Really? Eight. Eight. Wow. Speaker 2: Eight. And so when I got to nine, I thought, oh, why ? Speaker 3: See, there you go. And what if you hadn't known those numbers? That's fascinating. Yeah. Speaker 2: Yeah. So I I just, the support you give in the book and the humor and the asking people to look at themselves, I you know, you, you sort of break down these four parts, the imagine, think, decide, and act, and you you said, thinking brings ideas to life, not overthinking. What do you mean by that? Speaker 3: Not overthinking? Well, you may be familiar with, you know, all the research that mm-hmm. says that when we, that we are programmed, how would you state it? That we are, we are engineered for security as, as species, we're engineered for survival. So there's an, a natural avoidance to risk, which is healthy. Mm-Hmm. . So if we let ourselves to think, think too long, so we go to that imagining place and we're very successful and imagine something wonderful, then the next step is we think about it. We think about how that future state looks into reality. How would we do it? Where would we start? How long will it take? Who do I need to, you know, kinda warn about this? Sure. In that it is that process where we talk ourselves out of it, and we really do a number on ourselves be, and the more perfectionist a person is, the better or worse they, they do that part. So I, you know, I say imagine more, think less. Because the truth is that even if you plan, if you're thinking involves this elaborate detailed plan, the minute you start something, that plan changes. I, Speaker 2: I wrote that reality, Speaker 3: Circled it. Reality is a big old truth pill. And we cannot, we cannot predict it. Speaker 2: Mm-Hmm. No, we cannot. So like I have that in red, circled in red plans change as soon as you start. And you also talked, there was a section that I, I maybe 'cause of my theater experience, but you talked about how they're tenets of improv improvisation that are really important for start. Mm-Hmm. and I, I've done a little bit of improvisation, and it is, it's not easy . 'cause One of these things that you brought up, you, you know, you have to just say yes and yes. And it's a rule of agreement. And then you Oh, don't tell. There are no mistakes. And you stay in the moment, like you said it, it's like somebody can just start, an audience member will say, okay, we're gonna talk about diaries and cowboys. Speaker 3: Yeah. Speaker 2: Somebody has to start something about a diary and a cowboy. And it may not make any sense. It is like, you have no idea where they're going, but you, you, you say something and you bring along. And then, oh, and then there was a, there was another cowboy, but he had a black horse, but he wanted a white. I mean, it's just, it's, it's, yeah. Then the story evolves. And so it's, I I loved that. Maybe, I don't know, is it an analogy, a metaphor that this Speaker 3: Yeah. Speaker 2: Creation is like improv. Speaker 3: And you know, the best quote I heard in my interviews with those people is it's about what we do, but mostly it's about what we do with what we did. So that first step, again, the stakes are reduced. You just gotta do something. It's throwing the mud on the wall. It's on an improv stage. There are like five actors, somebody has to say the first thing mm-hmm. , that takes courage. But really the hardest job is the person that says the second thing. Sure. . Or maybe it's easiest because then you have something to respond to. So we need to give ourselves something to respond to, to really flesh out our ideas. And I mean, I also learned that all kind of comedy really works like that because, you know, finding out what makes other people laugh is an exploration. You think, oh, this might make me laugh, but you don't know. 'cause You're hearing it on your, in your own head. So Exactly. My husband's taken to doing open mic nights. And Speaker 2: That's brave. That, Speaker 3: That is brave. It's also brave to be in the audience of those because it's, it's usually young men who who have, have lost their mothers laughing at them. So they're, you know, they don't know what's funny, but they're willing to, at, at late night climb on a stage and tell jokes and for taste. But what happens is that's how, that's how comedy's worked out. And even the, even the best joke writers, you know, go on stage over and over again before they will go lifetime Yeah. And tweak this and try that and shorten this. And, and that's, you know, that is the creative process. It's iterative, it's exploratory, it's curiosity. And I mean, I think mental health wise, I too believe when you, when you, when I am mentally healthy, I am my most curious Exactly. When we're shut down, we're, we're not curious. Speaker 2: But it's also an external energy. It's, it's going energy from internal traveling externally. When you're curious because you are either, whether it's how you make a good glass of iced tea. I'm sitting here looking at my i d or whether it's gosh, I, you know, I'm interested in what those green books are behind her. You know, it's, it's, you are, you're engaging with something. Maybe it's an idea or a person or a thing that's not, but you are, you, your focus is outward. Speaker 3: Yeah. I never thought of that, that way. That's, that makes sense. Which is a Speaker 2: Antidote to depression for sure. Hmm. And in many ways, anxiety, because you have to be in the moment. You have to be, whereas anxiety puts you into the future. Hmm. So what, tell me what you learned about yourself in, in writing this book. Speaker 3: Oh gosh. I learned that the very beginning of the research was learning that all of my unfinished business, and I'm doing air quotes visually here was were treasures. And that when I, you know, we rarely let ourselves dig back into the things that didn't go forward. You know, even things I didn't consider failures or unfinished, I just forgot about them. Mm-Hmm. . I just saw the link to how they made me who I am. And the big finishes in my life, the big finishes always had some roots and some unfinished business from, I found my college art supplies. As when you're, when you write and make art, you have all these records back there. Now, you may not have, in other types of curiosity, in other types of creativity like gardening or cooking, you may forget those things you tried. And so I think what I learned is I need to memorialize and celebrate my starts more. Speaker 3: And I do now. The, the rationale for this book was to to help other people that don't act on their ideas and make those people more fun companions, in a way. . And I had, and one of the things I found is after I sold my business, people were saying to me like, what are you, what have you, what are you doing now? What have you finished lately? They didn't use those words, but I could hear that people thought I had a lot of plates spinning. I do have a lot of plates spinning. That's something I'm good at. I'm good at starting things and, you know, maybe I could be the world expert because I have all the failures, and now they're documented. I do probably have a d d there are maybe not the, I Speaker 2: Was just about to ask you about that. Mm-Hmm. Speaker 3: . Yeah. but I no longer, I do not let people shame me about things that I started that are in a pause button. Mm-Hmm. , you know, because when we, like, the, the big lovely lesson or gift I hope this book gives people is that there is every benefit and very low price to, to trying something and setting it aside for another day for trying it and finding out, Hey, I don't really like that. I have a couple of big things I could have totally not what Speaker 2: I thought it would be, or would've Speaker 3: , or I scratch that itch and I'm good. And oh, what a, just a, it's just a glorious way to live. And that's how I wanna live the rest of my life. And I wanna do it with people who feel the same way and are not, and, and, you know, that feed off of me and I feed off of them. So after my first book, you, you may have experienced this too. People will come to you who have the same kind of dreams. Maybe they wanna start a practice, start a podcast, start a book, and they'll say, you know, I have, "I saw your book. I, I, you know, I think I could write a book like that." And so I would say, "Oh gosh, you should1"  You know, advice is personal. Everybody could write an advice book and about one in 10, and, and this bears out in other research, about one in 10 people will actually act on an idea that's even fully formulated. Speaker 3: And, and I would try to help them. And, and you could just see that they ditch the others that were not gonna act on it. They had taken it as far as they wanted to go, and there was not a whole lot you could do for them. So that's what I wanna change. They had, they had, you know, is that mindset that says I can't start it unless I have made room in my life mm-hmm. to be an author. I can't start a book unless I've made room in my life to add a writing practice, find a publisher, whatever they think writing a book is. Yeah. And, you know, so Speaker 2: And it's funny, I, I had lunch with someone that was interested in the TEDx process and was asking me about it. And she's starting to write a book and, and, or she wants to. And she was asking me all about that. And this is a very I, I feel like I'm having the same conversation twice this morning or this afternoon, Uhhuh because she is kind of at that place of, well, I don't know how I'm gonna make room for it. I wanna do it. And I have had this idea for a long time, but, and I looked at her and I said, "you know, start this afternoon."  You know, make, did you Speaker 3: Good for you. I Speaker 2: Said, if you've got 10 minutes, just take 10 minutes. Speaker 3: Exactly. Speaker 2: Just start jotting down some ideas and you don't have to what's the word I'm looking for? You know, you, you don't have to corral the time or say, okay, I'm gonna have gonna do this in on it. It's like, if you just put some consistent energy into it, it, it's gonna grow. It's just a, it's just exactly watering the idea every now and then so that it, it has, it can sustain you with time away from it. But you also, when you get back to it, you go, oh, oh, I hadn't thought about that. And Speaker 3: Exactly. Speaker 2: It, it's, it's, it's kind of refreshing. It's, it's like having a, starting a conversation and realizing the more you have it, the more you really value it. Mm-Hmm. . Mm-Hmm. And that's adding something. So Speaker 3: It's like such sort the Nik effect which I wrote about a little. Speaker 2: Yes. I had never heard of that. Speaker 3: I mean, it's just that, it's just what you said. Once you make it real, once you tell your brain, we're gonna do this, or I have a problem if, if we accept it and don't say like, those nine out of 10 people said, I'm probably not gonna do this. If you're one of the ones that said, "Okay, I'm writing a book" -  whatever you declare as starting maybe that's writing your first two sentences, our brain tells us, our brain gets the message that they're on the job. Yeah. And subconsciously we are homing devices to pieces of information, to problem solving help, to meeting people. You know, you meet somebody and you think, oh, like, did they just say something about a book? Are they an author? You know, we are, we're, we wonder, we think there's new information coming out, we're just zeroed into it. Sure. And that we, you know, that happens all the time in our lives. And that effect it's also responsible for the thing that happens after we're done with something. Like we're done studying for tests. We take the test, it's over, and all that information just dumps out more . Yes. Speaker 2: It just goes away. Speaker 3: Well consider the opposite of that true for something that we've started and we haven't finished. So if you, if you take that fall smallest first step, declare it started, the world gives us a bling bag full of gifts. And that's, that's really why I say that the more we start the better and the, even if we start things that are very short term and finish 'em, start a limerick, start a, a soup , things that we, but declare that muscle in ourselves that says, you know, just like it was your instinct to say, start this afternoon. Very few people would say that, but it's that instinct that gets our ideas out and flowing. Mm-Hmm. , Speaker 2: I, I just, I, I really felt very supported. And I, I think if, if you're interested in this and you, you wanna get Becky's book, it is, it is, it is an, it's not, it's not a hard read at all. What is, what is compelling about it to me is that it does go against so much of what many of us are taught that mm-hmm. You know, you don't wanna start something and not finish it because, you know, that means that you're wasting time or you're wasting energy. Mm-Hmm. shame yourself for that. And, and rather than saying, well, what did I learn when I started that I learned this. And so when I start the next thing, I may start it a little differently, or I may, I don't know. I mean, it just gives you information. One of the things that I, I have people say to me all the time when they're trying to make changes, they'll say, well, this isn't really a big deal, but I go, wait, wait, wait. Yes. It's, it's a big deal. . Speaker 3: Yeah. What you're just Speaker 2: About to say is a big deal. Yeah. Speaker 3: And, and you know, a clarification on the finish start more than you can finish. What, and you, because you brought up di divorces in that example of something that wasn't finished or could have been called failure mm-hmm. , because what's the finish? What, what I'd like to say, it doesn't make a very pithy title, but start more than you can finish just exactly as you plan to everything has its finish. But great Speaker 2: Point. What Speaker 3: We don't start because we don't think we can finish as planned. If somebody said, "You're gonna have eight years with a person who you love for six of them, and you learn all these things for each other from each other" you know, maybe you can make that decision to not start because you didn't like that finish. But that's not how things work. And relationships are very creative undertaking. So in many ways, a relationship is a very good example. Yeah. a courageous creative start. So anyway, it's not, it's not don't finish. Finishing is always the end game. We wouldn't, you know, you don't start something you don't want to finish, but it, it's just a, it's just trying to trick that. Because I think when our parents said, "Don't start more than you can finish, don't bite off more than you could chew," they did not make us finish more. They only made us start less. Speaker 2: Right. Speaker 3: They just didn't wanna mess left out . Speaker 2: Right, right. Wow. I wonder how you think this affects the newer, the younger generations. This don't start because they, you know, one of the things that I read a lot about, and then I have a 28 year old, so I'm somewhat in touch with what's hopefully in touch with what's in his world, is that they have not, there's been so much comparison with what other people have started around the world where I knew maybe somebody in Little Rock, you know, in Arkansas, and I was in Pine Bluff and oh, well, you know, I, I didn't know what somebody was doing in Bangkok or, or Toronto or California. I knew my little group of friends and that was it. And, and yet, so maybe some of this don't start anxiety is also about, well, what am I spo, you know, how do I compare what I'm starting to, what somebody else is starting or mm-hmm. , whatever Speaker 3: The biggest learning I had about that and this generation, and remember this was, this book was pretty much done when Covid hit. And the data then on business starts, particularly by young people, was on a 25 year decline. Really. And the research showed that that really came from how we're raising our kids. We no longer say, "Yes, Joey, you can have a lemonade stand. I don't have time to help you, but go for it". No, now we are, we are over parenting. We are trying to get kids in the, in the right schools. So my kids didn't do a lemonade stand after they were four because they were on club soccer teams because, or the debate team, because maybe they could get a scholarship. It was we have very structured instead of free range childhoods. Right. So how do you, you know, it just, it's a subliminal message that there's not time for your ideas. 'cause You have to follow society's schedule. Mm-Hmm. Speaker 2: mm-hmm. . Speaker 3: That's my hunch. And I think it's tragic. So, but then now there have to, and, and then Covid necessitated this boom in business starts because a business start is also, you know, your son starting a freelance business because he has to in Covid. Now, you know, it, it remains to be seen whether those starts will be sustained or whether they were just out of necessity. But that is a good, that is a reason for this rally cry, is that our kids are gonna need to start whole careers for themselves. Mm-Hmm. , I mean, we know things aren't going back the way they were. So that statistic, energy and confidence needs to be nurtured. And they've, they've gotta reduce their risks of trying something, not liking it and then trying something else. It's Speaker 2: Pulling on your face. I mean, you know, it's just, oh, well this didn't work out quite as way, I thought. Yeah, Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. And then again, start something else. , so mm-hmm. . Yeah. Well, I I love your book again. It's called Start More Than You Can Finish. I created Permission Slip to unleash your Best Ideas. The art is absolutely delightful in it. Oh, I'm so glad. I'm as to the enjoyment and pleasure of the book. You know, I told you that I couldn't, I I didn't want to interview you ne last week because I had not had a chance to actually read all of it. And I was so glad that I took the time. I'm too, I just had this real excitement about it. And I, and I hope self work listeners will check it out and and see what it holds for you. And Becky, I couldn't thank you more for being on self work. Thank you so very much. Speaker 3: It was so fun to reconnect. Thank you, Dr. Margaret. Speaker 2: You betcha. Speaker 2: I know you enjoyed that interview. Isn't Becky absolutely fantastic?. I wanna remind you that we now have episode transcripts at the end of every episode of Self Work. I don't know why I haven't done that in the past. It's really been far easier to do do it than I imagined. And so I apologize in many ways to those of you who may struggle with hearing like I do because I have tinnitus. And if I can find a way to add in other episode transcripts, I will. But at least for now, each episode of Self-Work has its own episode transcript. I also wanna remind those of you who maybe haven't subscribed to my website@drmargaretrutherford.com, you can get a free ebook called The Seven Commandments of Good Therapy. But most importantly, you get one weekly newsletter from me, just one, and it offers to you both my weekly blog posts, which some of you may be interested in reading. Speaker 2: I write one still every week, or sometimes we revamp an old one to bring it up to speed and make it applicable to today. And then of course, this podcast and any other news or information that I think you might be interested in, love to have you join, you can subscribe at the website. So now the subscription or the subscribe now is basically embedded when you scroll through the website. It's much easier than it was and I hope far less irritating. But I'd love to have you as a member of my newsletter, thank you to those of you who've listened to my TEDx talk as I record this. We are right at 63,000 views and wow, that's incredible. So keep 'em coming if you can. If you haven't watched I'd so appreciate you going to YouTube, Dr. Margaret Rutherford and TEDx, and you'll get the talk. Or you can go to my Instagram page and you'll see it in the links. That's instagram.com/dr. Margaret Rutherford. Thanks so much for being here. Again, my immense gratitude to you, and I hope this in every episode is helpful to you. Please take care of yourself, your family, and your community. I'm Dr. Margaret, and this has been self work.    

Chapter 1: Where does Animal Farm take place Animal Farm takes place on a fictional farm in England called Manor Farm. The story is set sometime during the early 20th century, after the Russian Revolution and during a period of great social and political change. The background of Animal Farm is heavily influenced by the events of the Russian Revolution and the rise of Soviet communism. The novel allegorically portrays the revolution and the subsequent establishment of a communist regime in Russia. Each character in Animal Farm represents a figure from this historical period. For example, the oppressive farmer Mr. Jones represents Tsar Nicholas II, while the pig leaders Napoleon and Snowball represent Joseph Stalin and Leon Trotsky respectively. The animals on Manor Farm, led by the pigs, overthrow their human oppressors and establish a system of animal equality known as "Animalism." However, over time, the pigs begin to abuse their power and become indistinguishable from the humans they once fought against. This satirical portrayal of the Soviet regime highlights themes of corruption, totalitarianism, and the betrayal of the original ideals of the revolution. Chapter 2: The meaning of Animal Farm The book critiques the corrupting influence of power and explores themes such as totalitarianism, class struggle, and manipulation. At its core, "Animal Farm" explores the idea of rebellion against oppressive regimes. The animals on Manor Farm overthrow their human farmer in an attempt to establish a society where all animals are equal and free from human exploitation. The farm represents a microcosm of a larger society, reflecting the dynamics of power, politics, and social hierarchy. Initially, the animals' revolution seems successful as they create a new system called Animalism and adopt the Seven Commandments, which promote equality and collective decision-making. However, over time, the pigs—led by Napoleon—gradually consolidate power and manipulate the other animals. They twist the principles of Animalism to their advantage, eventually becoming indistinguishable from the humans they originally rebelled against. Through the story, Orwell highlights the dangers of political corruption and the way power can corrupt even the noblest of intentions. He suggests that revolutions often end up replacing one form of tyranny with another, as those who seek power become consumed by it. The characters in "Animal Farm" serve as representations of historical figures and societal archetypes, allowing readers to draw parallels between the events of the story and real-world political systems. Ultimately, "Animal Farm" serves as a cautionary tale about the potential pitfalls of revolution and the importance of remaining vigilant against the abuse of power. It reminds us that even in the pursuit of freedom and equality, we must be aware of our leaders' actions and hold them accountable to prevent the erosion of the very values we strive to protect. Chapter 3:How many chapters in Animal Farm Each chapter unfolds the story of a group of farm animals who overthrow their human farmer, Mr. Jones, and establish their own animal-run society. Initially, they aim for equality and fair treatment but gradually experience corruption and power struggles. The chapters showcase the animals' struggles, the rise of the pigs to leadership, the manipulation of language and propaganda, and the eventual transformation of the revolution into a totalitarian regime. Through its allegorical narrative, Animal Farm explores themes of power, oppression, revolution, and...

"In public debate I try always to remain courteous (not with invariable success, but I try). Sometimes this courtesy slides into cowardice, however, my desire not to offend being greater than my attachment to truth, even when untruth (as I see it) is being propounded for someone I believe to be dishonest, unscrupulous or in some other way unworthy, an even when the untruth is a dangerous one. What is a virtue in many circumstances turns into a vice in others." -Theodore Dalrymple Matt Walsh has given a very frank assessment of trans activist Dylan Mulvaney, who argues for the liberty of doctors to physically, er, "affirm" the gender of children. And everyone showed him how empathetic they were by lambasting his SOUL.  Puffin is a book publisher who has decided to vandalize one of the greatest childrens' authors in the English language. The author wrote Matilda and James and the Giant Peach and Charlie and the Chocolate Factory only for these ghouls to blot out his words and put in their own, far inferior ones after he's dead.  "A few days later Muriel, reading over the Seven Commandments to herself, noticed that there was yet another of them which the animals had remembered wrong. They had thought the Fifth Commandment was "No animal shall drink alcohol," but there were two words that they had forgotten. Actually the Commandment read: "No animal shall drink alcohol TO EXCESS." -George Orwell

Idolatry - Noahide Seven Commandments and the Book of Genesis with Rabbi Zvi Avner https://netivonline.org  or for Torah Classes and more visit http://ypsnetiv.org

Idolatry - Noahide Seven Commandments and the Book of Genesis with Rabbi Zvi Avner https://netivonline.org  or for Torah Classes and more visit http://ypsnetiv.org

Studio Soundtracks takes listeners behind the scenes of how music is crafted for film and television by hearing directly from composers, songwriters and music professionals in the Entertainment Industry. Listen to inspiring conversations about composition and hear works from Emmy, Grammy, and Oscar-winning film scores on the show. Natalie Holt is a multi-award-winning British composer, known for her Emmy-nominated score for Marvel Studios' Loki and the acclaimed Lucasfilm series Obi-Wan Kenobi. Upcoming projects include DC's Batgirl. Her film and television credits include the BAFTA Award-winning series Wallander (BBC), Knightfall (History Channel), the BAFTA Award-winning series Three Girls (BBC), mini-series Deadwater Fell, the Emmy Award-nominated series The Honourable Woman (HBO Max), Victoria (PBS), Saul Dibb's World War I feature Journey's End, Netflix/Claudia Llosa's drama feature Fever Dream, and Fox's female super hero feature The Princess, to name just a few. Natalie's numerous awards nominations and wins include the Primetime Emmy Awards, World Soundtrack Awards' “Television Composer of the Year”, BAFTA, SCL Awards, the Royal Television Society Craft and Design Award, the HMMAs, and “Best International Score” at the Beijing International Film Festival. Hesham Nazih is an award-winning and Emmy-nominated Egyptian composer best known for his unique style that interweaves a mix of melodies from different cultures, creating an authentic genre all his own. He has scored over 40 award-winning films that have dominated the Egyptian box-office such as director Marwan Hamed's musically-intense horror features Blue Elephant and Blue Elephant: Dark Whispers, as well as director Tarek Alarian's Sons of Rizk 1-2, his breakthrough score for Snakes and Ladders, as well as Marwan Hamed's Ibrahim Labyad. Nazih marked his first major English language project with his Emmy-nominated score for Marvel Studios' Moon Knight on Disney+, for which he was also invited to become a member of The Television Academy. He has also composed for critically acclaimed Egyptian television works including The Seven Commandments and Shahid's first original Egyptian series Every Week Has a Friday, which earned Egypt its first-ever International Emmy nomination. Among Nazih's other most notable works, he earned both international attention and acclaim for his original music and songs written for the lavish live production The Pharaohs' Golden Parade in 2021, and he is the first and only composer to ever receive the honorary Faten Hamama Excellence Award from the 2018 Cairo International Film Festival.

Thou shall follow these seven commandments to shine as an indie artist! I couldn't be more excited to welcome one of my best friends and the captain of Heart of Indie Radio, Eddie Davis, onto the show for an extra special episode of Write on Track. One day, Eddie and I were talking about the things indie artists must do, and we had the thought that these things are almost like commandments. There are so many pieces of advice that we could share, but to start off, we decided to come up with the most important seven. So, please join us while we metaphorically carve these commandments into stone. The Seven Commandments for the Indie Artist 1. Thou shall perform and record original music. 2. Thou shall rehearse and prepare for live performances and recording sessions. 3. Thou shall be active in all aspects of your brand. 4. Thou shall effectively build an online presence and be educated in digital marketing. 5. Thou shall have realistic goals for all aspects of your music career. 6. Thou shall always strive for selflessness and integrity. 7. Thou shall believe in yourself. Eddie and I hope you enjoy our very thoughtful and informative conversation about these seven commandments. If you'd like to hear more, please get in touch and I'll have Eddie hop back on the show! Are you enjoying Write on Track? Do you have a topic suggestion for an episode? Would you like to be a guest? Email me at writeontrackpodcast@gmail.com. Also, I'd love to connect with you. My official website is http://demimschwartz.com, and you can find me on Twitter at http://twitter.com/demimschwartz, Instagram at http://instagram.com/demimschwartz, and Facebook at http://facebook.com/demimschwartz. Thank you so much for listening. Until next time, stay “write on track!”

Animal Farm by George Orwell, published in 1945, depicts an allegorical fairy tale of the Russian Revolution and Stalin's era of rule. As Hannah and Jon continue reading and finish the book, they explore the allegory further, while also comparing this story with other historical events.Grab your tissues, because this episode gets sad. Hannah and Jon finish out this novella by dissecting and covering the last four chapters (6-10). Hannah brings up the great 'Gaslight, Gatekeep, Girl boss' of the character Squealer. They round out the story by discussing The Seven Commandments of Animal Farm, how these change, what it ultimately gets boiled down too, and how this is interpreted for our everyday life.Hannah and Jon do know how to properly format a novel title. RSS won't let us. We apologize for their missteps.AnaLITical is created, hosted, and produced by Hannah and Jon Newland.Edited by Jon Newland.Artwork by Hannah Newland, using Logomakr and is owned by Hannah and Jon Newland.Theme music is Robot Gypsy Jazz by John Bartmannm - https://johnbartmann.comWebsite design by Hannah Newland - https://analiticalpod.wixsite.com/analiticalSupport the podcast: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/analiticalpodYou can find the pod's social pages on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and TikTok @analiticalpod and email us at analiticalpod@gmail.com

Former Health Secretary Manuel M. Dayrit explains to BusinessWorld reporter Vann M. Villegas how the Department of Transportation (DOTr) came up with the Seven Commandments for public transportation and how these health measures are supposed to work together to make up for reducing the one-meter-apart rule. DOTr suspended reduced physical distancing after President Rodrigo R. Duterte, on September 19, decided to stick to conventional wisdom, which says that people need to keep a distance of at least one meter from each other to limit the potential spread of coronavirus. Recorded remotely on September 18. Produced by Nina M. Diaz, Paolo L. Lopez, and Sam L. Marcelo.

6 ANIMAL FARMs Mollie is most people wanting their pretty ribbons given to them. Mollie ran away from the farm wanting her pretty ribbons & occasional pats. Truly I encourage you to listen pen or pencil in hand, to make notes. Shocking what you will hear so if they are using an age old playbook then hmmmm shouldnt you? The "great reset" as it is called by WEF Founder Klaus Schwab took planning over decades and centuries. Why? Ask the pigs what they get out of it.... ask the pigs The world went in to lockdown midnight March 16th-March 17th. No questions. The world listened because, how could the experts be wrong after all they are the "experts." In time, like the "SEVEN COMMANDMENTS" painted on the barn wall, guidances, terms, theories presented as 'facts' changed too- here today as in ANIMAL FARM too

2 The world went in to lockdown midnight March 16th-March 17th. No questions. The world listened because, how could the experts be wrong after all they are the "experts." In time, like the "SEVEN COMMANDMENTS" painted on the barn wall, guidances, terms, theories presented as 'facts' changed too- here today as in ANIMAL FARM too

Everyone desires a healthy and happy marriage, it takes two to make it work.  The word of God teaches us how to submit to one another in love.  Get your paper and pencil, get ready to take notes together as well as laugh. Now that's REAL TALK! www.kwaygospel.com  

BEYOND RELIGION TO SEVEN COMMANDMENTS FOR A GOOD LIFE Volume (3) |Episode (76) September 11, 2017 Host: Sheryl Glick R.M.T. Special Guest: Shari Sharifi Brown In today’s episode of “Healing From Within”, your host Sheryl Glick author of The Living Spirit, shares a look at Universal Energy Healing, spiritual communication and ways to awaken to […]

http://noahidenations.com  Lesson 1 The Order of the Seven Commandments with Rabbi Zvi Aviner takes you step by step, up the ladder of Noah's Seven Commandments, which is the moral fabric of civilization. The classes are on the prohibitions of Idolatry,Audltery,Boodshed,Theft,Injustice,Blasphemy and Eating the limb of a living animal. Rabbi Aviner is founder of Noahide Seven Commandments his website is http://noahidesevencommentments.    http://tenaktalk.com

Dr. Margaret Rutherford is a clinical psychologist, who has practiced for over twenty years in Fayetteville, Arkansas. Since 2012, her work has been found on her own website (http://drmargaretrutherford.com) , where her eBook, “Seven Commandments of Good Therapy” is available for free download. She’s the current mental health columnist for Midlife Boulevard, writes an advice column on Vibrant Nation, and hosts a regular FB Live video session on depression for The Mighty. Her expertise can also be found on The Huffington Post, Reader’s Digest, Prevention, Psychology Today, and The Gottman Blog. Dr. Margaret has recently launched a podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford, where you can listen to her direct and down-to-earth advice.

Shari Sharif, author of The Seven Commandments for Happiness and Prosperity, speaks about her guide to help individuals free themselves of oppression, and the overwhelming complexity of the leading world religions.

Shari Sharif, author of The Seven Commandments for Happiness and Prosperity, speaks about her guide to help individuals free themselves of oppression, and the overwhelming complexity of the leading world religions.

Shari Brown Every day people all over the world are getting killed by other people who believe in different religions. We see and hear these differences and conflicts brought to our attention every day. Maybe it’s time to look at the commonalities in religion instead of focusing on the differences.Shari Brown has been deeply involved in the Islamic, Christian, and Jewish faiths and communities. Through her earnest study of the three scriptures, she discovered that most share a common threshold of seven principles. She takes you on a voyage of each religion’s history of commandments and combines them into the seven common values you can use to understand and create happiness and prosperity.   

At least 80% of people live on $10 a day, while more than 80% of the worlds people live in countries where income differences are widening. How can we stop being obsessed with money, and find gratitude, happiness and prosperity right now? This week, Shari Brown shares her Seven Commandments for Happiness and Prosperity, taking us on a voyage of each religions history of commandments and combines them into the seven common values. Although being born a Muslim in pre-revolutionary Persia, she converted to Christianity in school and married into a Jewish-American Family. Through her lifetime of study and practice of these philosophies, she came to an important conclusion: we must follow the key elements of all three major religions to make us whole and secure. She contends that the similarities of the three outweigh the differences. Controversially, Shari Brown believes that there are unifying truths in the three major world religions: Islam, Judaism, and Christianity. Far from being diabolically opposed ideologies fighting each other to the death, the roots of these three beliefs belong to the same tree. By cutting to the heart of the commandments of each religion with the unerring sharpness of a surgeons scalpel, Shari has laid out the only seven rules you must follow, along with the practical steps that make it possible to achieve happiness and prosperity guaranteed.

Dr. Michelle talks about "The Seven Commandments for Finding Happiness and Prosperity," with Author Sheri Sharifi Brown, who discusses the importance of following each commandment in order to have happier and more meaningful lives. Find out more about Sheri, and get her book at: sevencommandments.com

Dr. Michelle talks about "The Seven Commandments for Finding Happiness and Prosperity," with Author Sheri Sharifi Brown, who discusses the importance of following each commandment in order to have happier and more meaningful lives. Find out more about Sheri, and get her book at: sevencommandments.com

Shari Brown illustrates throughout her book, The Seven Commandments for Happiness and Prosperity the similarities of the three major world religions' principles and how the differences are outweighed by the core values that assimilate them. She took this incredible journey writing a book to bring people together, no matter which religion they practice and show what little difference there is between them. Her sole purpose is to unite them and exemplify how the foundation of the three religions are similar and combine these ideas together, leading to the ultimate happiness and prosperity. Through happiness and prosperity, people will be more successful in business and their personal lives by being fulfilled and grateful for what they have, not the desires that lead them astray. Shari feels it is her mission to help people free themselves of oppression, slavery to rules, and the overwhelming complexity of the leading world religions. You will learn how to change the way you think in order to change your reality. Through her studies of these ancient philosophies, she has found the key – the guaranteed secret – to happiness and prosperity in seven straightforward commandments distilled from all three ways of belief: The Seven Commandments for Happiness and Prosperity.  

Are you religious?  How do you function in your daily life with the guided principles that rule the world with commandments?  Are religion and politics intertwining to a degree that who is over reaching more into our spiritual lives?  Just what did God say in his books that would guide us to live a life that honors all in the world?  What are the differences in the top three religions: Islam, Judaism and Christianity? Shari Sharifi Brown, author of The Seven Commandments for Happiness and Prosperity which discusses the differences and similarities of these religions.  Shari shares the path to religion development over the centuries to let us see how the seven key principles can bring your happiness and riches in this world.For more information visit:  www.SevenCommandments.com