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Adam Richard: age is just a number, until it's notThe Fabulous Adam Richard is back to talk about something very special - his thesis on DEAR NELLY! Nelly and Adam also talk about aging, we get an update on Adam's new adventures in Ethical Non-Monogamy, life admin and some other stuff. Nelly and Adam take a raw and real listener call about se*ual boundaries and how they are NOT NEGOTIABLE. A wonderful episode with an old friend and Dear Nelly favourite.DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Poh Ling Yeow: BONUS episode BONUS for MAY 2025!DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Poh Ling Yeow: I just can't face the bloody apps babe!Poh joins us this month to talk about being friends with your ex, being long term single and why she can't face all the messaging and shenanigans of the apps. Nelly also takes some great listener calls. A fabulous episode with a national treasure.MasterChef Australia: Back to Win continues Sunday at 7pm, and Monday to Wednesday at 7:30pm on 10 and 10 PlayDEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

APRIL 2025 EPISODEThis month we are joined by T-Rex - the President of the Melbourne chapter of the iconic Dykes on Bikes. T-Rex and I chart her journey from dirt-bike farm-girl to two marriages, some difficult relationships and ultimately, to finding herself and her person. T-Rex's journey is that of so many of us - a long and winding road to self-discovery and happiness with some pot-holes and fox burrows in between. You'll be inspired to find your own patch.TICKETS TO OUR NEXT LIVE SHOW ON MAY 15TH (MELBOURNE) HEREDykes on Bikes Melbourne HEREDEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU: NELLY COMING AT YOU SOLO WITH LISTENER CALLS AND LETTERSThis month Nelly is going commando - no co-host - to tackle your listener calls and letters. We have everything from how to get hope back, to coercive control, to dating dilemmas. A solo ep with Captain Thomas at the helm. Enjoy!TICKETS AND INFO FOR KIRSTY WEBECK'S TOUR HEREInterview with Rebecca Solnit, “Hope in the Dark”https://youtu.be/htstajrxUIc?si=04pnJ-nlsqz3kVwB Coercive control:https://www.healthline.com/health/coercive-control#restricting-autonomy Non-physical abuse: https://www.cnv.org.au/help/what-is-family-violence/#:~:text=Family%20violence%20isn't%20always,t%20do%20what%20they%20want. DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au  Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx   If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

DO NOT DATE WHILst ON THE HORN: THE BAR will be TOO LOW!THE FABULOUS ADAM RICHARD is back with Nelly to tackle some listener letters and questions that they didn't get to last time. These range from how to set up your profile, to dating while s*x-starved to community to parenting whilst living with a mental illness. As always, they are hilarious and highly inappropriate. DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx   If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

DEAR NELLY FAVOURITE SCOTT BRENNAN IS BACK TO HELP NELLY FIGURE SH*T OUTOne of our favouite homosexuals is back to help Nelly answer some straight lady questions from listeners. Why? Because, why not. Scott has been sitting in the sh*t and we get into that. We take questions on hooking up with a work friend, sex toy etiquette and, how to enjoy big events on your won. We also take an inspiring call about dating in a regional area, later in life. A beautiful episode with a dear friend of both Nelly and the Dear Nelly Community. You'll love this one - a ripper start to 2025. DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.auNelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx   If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Fabulous Adam Richard: how do we set up an open relationship?In addition to your guaranteed monthly episodes, Nelly will now drop in solo and/or with a guest to talk sh*t and take listener letters when she has time. We start today with a very long episode with Nelly's old mate The Fabulous Adam Richard. Adam and his long-term partner have just opened up their relationship and Adam is loving some aspects and finding others challenging. They GET INTO IT. Nelly and Adam also take some wonderful listener letters. It's a long one - listen in two parts or go on a really long walk.DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx   If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This month Nelly is solo - not by her own choice, she had a fresh episode ready to go, but sadly due to technical issues here we are! An overall update on what's been going on with Nelly over the last little while - a real honest and raw update. DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

NOVEMBER 2024 EPISODE: DATING STORIES, MOLLS!This month Nelly has had a rough time and so she's decided to embrace the joy, mess and debauchery of life by making an entire episode out of dating stories. You'll hear the good, the bad and the ugly and if you don't cry/laugh multiple times, go get your pulse checked. An absolutely glorious episode.  DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx   If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SERENA WALKER: COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGIST IS BACK TO GET INTO ITSerena Walker is back to talk about all the things! We get into humour, hope and intentionality and how important they are to connection. We talk about a 30-day texting challenge, a 2-week sex challenge and how to honour grief and change. We get into Tina the Musical and a couple of memes. We take a beautiful listener call about recovering from an abusive relationship, finding a new romance and how to deal with that ending. We end on Serena's BIG MISTAKE.SERENA'S WEBSITE: HEREDEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Rusty Berther: Starting Again at 50 as a Straight Man in the Wild!Rusty Bertha's marriage of 27 years ended when he was 49 and he was shitting in the shit. Flash forward 7 years and he is happily remarried after doing a shitload of therapy and then meeting a wonderful woman on the apps. YES, IT DOES HAPPEN. Nelly and Rusty talk about all of that plus what sort of flirt he is and do's and don'ts of dating. They take a great listener call about boundaries and Rusty's BIG MISTAKE in dating and relationships.RUSTY BERTHA: HERE and HEREDEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx  If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TOXIC PEOPLE THRIVE IN SILENCEIn this ep, Nelly drops in to ponder how toxic people rely on silence and how liberating it is when you find your voice. She also muses on how egocentric we are when it comes to divorce, dating and all the things. She invites you to WWRPD - what would Ru Paul do - and ask yourself how important your current situation is in the Grander Scheme of Things. So you got divorced - sure it's huge, it's also nothing in the Big Picture view of human history and even, of your life. You can put the shame, worry and fear down. She also take wonderful call from a woman who was sitting right in the shit and is out the other side with a full bush and a new lease on her (sex)life. Bravo!Sherapy Sessions Podcast HERE Character Outs Podcast HEREThe Ru Paul interview Nelly references HERENELLY'S NEW EVENT: OVER THE RAINBOW DATING FOR LGBTIQA+ VICTORIANS HERE DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx   If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Fifty, Fabulous and Facing the F'n Sh*t!Nelly turned 50 last week and she drops in to take some birthday calls and talk about the bug 5-0 milestone. Nelly gets into "un-fu*king" yourself and how aging can be an opportunity to shed all the negative crap that has held us back and, how joy is there to be taken. She also shares what she's reading, listening to and watching. DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Rebecca De Unamuno: I don't know if you're interested until my pants are around my ankles!Bec and I talk about being long-term-single, how to flirt (or not) and why rending to your own garden is the most important thing. We take a great listener call from someone who is NOT embracing being single and a letter about a pash n' dash. A great ep with a golden girl of comedy. DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au  Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx  If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

AUGUST BONUS: NELLY'S ADVICE STINKS!Nelly drops in take a listener call telling her she WAS WRONG (she sort of was?), to rant about Fake on Paramount Plus and some other stuff. You'll really love this episode if you've dated a fantasist/pathological liar/ predator. Info on FAKE hereInfo on The Dating Gamble (INSIGHT) hereDEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au  Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx  If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

BONUS EPISODE: IT GETS BETTER!This week Nelly drops in with a Bonus ep dedicated to listeners and the stuff she's reading and watching.I AM CELINE DOCO HEREMUSEUM OF BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS HERECOUPLES THERAPY HEREDR GABOR MATE HEREDEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

HARLEY BREEN IS BACK: what do we do if we catch feelings for our Friends with Benefits?In an era of smaller and smaller families, how on earth did comedian Harley Breen end up living in Queensland with 4 kids? He blames Psilocybin!Harley and I discuss navigating the ups and downs of coparenting after divorce, feeding 4 kids and, who broke the world. We have a good chat about Love Languages and take two wonderful listener calls on whether or not our caller is too fussy and another on how to tell a "Friends with Benefits" you've caught feelings. Gorgeous Harley leads with his heart and shareS some exquisite rants with Nelly. ENJOY!Harley's podcast Shitting with the Door Open HEREARTIST OF THE MONTH: HEREDEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au  Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx  If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Bonus Free Episode for Everyone!Nelly is just dropping in with a few musings on holidays, love songs, TV and other stuff. Why? Just because she missed yas.DEAR NELLY PLAYLIST: HERECOUPLES THERAPY: HEREDEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au  Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx  If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cath Davis is back for Thirsty Thirds: how low is that bloody bar?!The glorious Cath Davis is back! Cath and Nelly have a great chat about how to be included in conversation as a single person surrounded by married couples (hint: that's on the couples), Cath's favourite love songs and how Cath has been. They take two listener calls - one on learning absolutely nothing about menopause from doctors and another on the "Low Bar" for men in dating. They finish the free episode with a chat about Nelly's queen of rock: Melissa Etheridge and her relationship history.A gorgeous ep with one of Nelly's faves.DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au  Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx  If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

New stuff happening at Dear Nelly HQ!DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Chris Ryan: It's not ADHD, he's just not that into youChris Ryan is back with her delightfuLly direct and funny advice. She brooks no bullshit this one - including for herself.We talk about a Tori Amon song, I give Chris career advice and we take a call from a late-in-life remarried person who is happy as Larry. We chat about Tom Hanks and some other stuff too. In the Bonus ep we answer a listener letter about dating someone with ADHD - Chris has some thoughts, not all "gentle" (you'll see what I mean).DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx  If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Matt Kelly is back for Sloppy Seconds and Nelly wants her bloody special day!Matt Kelly is children's entertainer and all 'round lovely man. He's on the fence about anniversary celebrations, but here for other occasions (we unpack that). Matt asks Nelly for advice about communicating with his dad, they take a gorgeous listener call from a woman who wants the feels but doesn't want to share her life and they get into BIG MISTAKES.DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

JANTY BLAIR: IT HAS ALWAYS BEEN YOU, DENZELJanty Blair is 59 years old, has been engaged twice, proposed to 4 times and has never married. She's on the apps and living her best life with a current suitor sho's in Canada! A fascinating woman with a rich and wonderful life. DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SERENA WALKER: You don't have to be friends with your ex!Serena Walker is a Counselling Psychologist and new friend of Nelly's. Serena and Nelly met at the funeral of their mutual friend Cal Wilson and they gravitated toward each other. Serena has experience working with clients who have a history of trauma and abuse and or are having issues with depression, anxiety, worry, post-traumatic stress disorder, phobias, or relationship difficulties. Nelly and Serena talk about finding a career late in life, how grief can impact relationships and starting again after difficult relationships. We do the usual "No shade on my ex" and "He's a ten but...". A gorgeous episode with a very special woman.DEAR NELLY LIVE IDAHOBIT SHOW: TICKETS AND INFO HERESERENA'S WEBSITE: HERERESOURCES RECOMMENDED BY SERENA:The Power and Control Wheel: HERERecovering from Rape and Sexual Trauma: HERE DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Scotty Brennan is coming in Heavy Hearted for Thirsty ThirdsScott Brennan is one of our most beloved co-hosts and he joins us whilst sitting in the sh*t. As always, he still brings his tender, loving and funny self to the conversation. We go from Oscar Wilde to a married mum drowning under the mental load to the avowedly single Whoopi Goldberg. This episode has it all. Enjoy xxxScott's Granny Bingo HEREDEAR NELLY LIVE IDAHOBIT SHOW: TICKETS AND INFO HEREDEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx  If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Michelle Sheppard: I respect you to much to have sex with you! (WTAF)Michelle Sheppard is a leader in the realm of gender equity. Her own path as a transgender woman has given her a unique perspective, providing her with insightful insights into the complex issues of gender bridging. In recognition of her extraordinary contributions, Michelle was inducted into the Victorian Museum of Women and honoured with a coveted spot in the 2023 Victorian Honour Roll of Women as a Change Agent. In today's episode, Michelle and Nelly GET AMONGST IT: her two young marriages as a "Mid-West Gentleman" and then later, dating as a trans woman. We talk about some shitful experiences on the dating apps and, some good ones (spoiler alert: she found her sweetpea there). Nelly and Michelle take a call on how to talk to kids after divorce (TW: family violence is mentioned) and ultimately, how to keep the focus on the kiddos. Michelle has multiple "ten... but" dealbreakers and some spicy stuff from ex's. A terrific episode with a thoughtful and fascinating woman.MICHELLE'S WORK AND WEBSITE: https://mishsheppard.com/COME TO THE "DEAR NELLY LIVE IDAHOBIT SHOW" (9th May 2024): TICKETS AND INFO HERESCOTT BRENNANGERALDINE HICKEYNELLY THOMASDR QUAH EE LINGTINA DEL TWISTEAND MORE...1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HEREDEARNELLYPODCAST.COM:Go to our new website for all show info, resources and everything else you need. Click HERE SUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Blay is back for Sloppy Seconds: how will your house SOUND when it is empty?Danny Blay is a wonderful man who works in behaviour change with men who use violence against women and children. Nelly and Danny have worked together for many years in the violence prevention space and are now mates. Danny is a very dedicated father and his kids have recently moved out of home. Nelly and Danny talk about how the "empty nest" hit him so hard. Nelly and Danny also take a listener letter from a mum whose grown, adult son is potentially an abusive husband and, a call from a woman who has been "sitting in the sh*t" for 12 years after a toxic relationship. This is a sometimes heavy but moving episode with a laugh here and there!DEAR NELLY LIVE IDAHOBIT SHOW (9th May 2024): TICKETS AND INFO HERE1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HEREDEARNELLYPODCAST.COM:Go to our new website for all show info, resources and everything else you need. Click HERE SUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Chris Ryan is back for Sloppy Seconds and thinks we're kidding ourselves about ENM!Comedian Chris Ryan joined us a while ago to share her terrible heartbreak after a long-distance relationship ended. She's back with a lovely update on that front and, some firm opinions on our listener questions. A caller asks if she MUST use the apps to date (spoiler alert: no) and a letter-writer seemingly asks for permission to go ENM even though her husband said no. Chris has some firm views on that. Chris asks Nelly an in-depth question and, talks to us about how she thinks we're too quick to dispose of relationships these days. As always, a forthright and funny episode with a feisty broad. Enjoy!To find Chris's touring dates and see her shows, click HEREDEARNELLYPODCAST.COM:Go to our new website for all show info, resources and everything else you need. Click HERE SUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE Love yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

NELLY HAS THE RONA!Dearest Nelly finally got the Covid... she's been hit hard and is resting up. BUT, don't fear, we have some stuff we've been saving for a rainy day!This episode features some never-before-heard material from the Live Show in Sydney with Yumi Stynes, Benjamin Law and Chris Ryan. It also has some clips Sammy has kept aside from previous eps.And don't fear, Nelly is getting better and we will be back to regular programming very soon.The Dear Nelly Team xxxDEARNELLYPODCAST.COM:Go to our new website for all show info, resources and everything else you need. Click HERE SUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

NELLY HAS THE RONA!Dearest Nelly finally got the Covid... she's been hit hard and is resting up. BUT, don't fear, we have some stuff we've been saving for a rainy day!This episode features some never-before-heard material from the Live Show in Sydney with Yumi Stynes, Benjamin Law and Chris Ryan. It also has some clips Sammy has kept aside from previous eps.And don't fear, Nelly is getting better and we will be back to regular programming very soon.The Dear Nelly Team xxxDEARNELLYPODCAST.COM:Go to our new website for all show info, resources and everything else you need. Click HERE SUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kirsty Webeck Thirsty Thirds: love and other catastrophes!Dear Nelly favourite - and one of Nelly's bestie - Kirsty Webeck is back for our first ever Thirsty Thirds episodes. Nelly and Kirsty talk about formative film experiences, Kristy's early dating and Kirsty's new tour. Kirsty and Nelly take two great calls; one about dating with kids and the other about how to explore same-sex attraction without using someone as an "experiment". JUICY! We also spend quite some time talking about Nicole Kidman's love life. Enjoy! BOOK TICKETS TO SEE KIRSTY WEBECK IN "I'LL BE THE JUDGE OF THAT!"DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM:Go to our new website for all show info, resources and everything else you need. Click HERE SUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

HILARY HARPER: SINGLE, OVER 50 AND BACK ON THE BLOODY APPS!Hilary Harper is the host of Life Matters on Radio National. A very accomplished and well-known woman in Australia's media, she's also a mum and human with a personal life. That personal life includes becoming single about 18 months ago when her long-term relationship ended. We chat about what the last 18 months have been like and what it's like dating again. Spoiler alert: she jumped on the apps (not fancy ones, just normal ones like the rest of us) and recently found a new love. A great chat with a much loved and respected radio veteran.Listen to Hilary's new podcast DATED: LOVE ONLINE AFTER 50 HERE or search "Dated" on the ABC Listen App, and Apple PodcastsDEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: Go to our new website for all show info, resources and everything else you need. Click HERE SUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

DEAR NELLY LIVE: a recording of our live show at the Malthouse Outdoors (Feb 2024)Starring Lizzi Hoo, Kirsty Webeck and Sami Shah!An hilarious and heartfelt episode with a stellar panel. Features some very funny stories, some heartbreak and some fabulous listener letters.Go to the BRAND NEW DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM website for all show info, resources and everything else you need. SUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Professor Clare Wright: Sit in the Shit and Keep it ClassyProfessor Clare Wright OAM is an award-winning historian, author, broadcaster and public commentator who has worked in politics, academia and the media. Clare is currently Professor of History and Professor of Public Engagement at La Trobe University. Twelve months ago her marriage of 36 years ended and she was thrust into single life - and living alone - for the first time since she was a teenager. We threw out the usual running order for this episode and just sat in the shit. We explored the last 12 months and how the hell to navigate so much change, pain and joy. A fascinating chat with a HUGE brain and even bigger heart.DEAR NELLY LIVE SHOWS COMING UP: HERE SUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

DANNY BLAY: is anyone in the house scared of you?Danny Blay is a old mate and colleague of Nelly's. They worked together for many years collaborating on sexual health and respectful relationships shows for young people. Danny and Nelly have a long chat about respect, family violence and working with men who use violence against women and children. They also talk about Danny's relationship history, discuss a cracker meme and an awesome listener call about LAT (living apart together). A hard discussion at the start, but necessary and episode does move on to lighter matters.Nelly xDanny Blay is a policy advisor and trainer preventing family violence and violence against women and children. Danny was the Chief Executive Officer of No To Violence Male Family Violence Prevention Association (NTV) Inc. for eleven years and now provides advice, training and project development in responses to and prevention of family violence and sexual assault, and gender equity. Danny is an experienced instructor of many hundreds of child protection practitioners, family services workers, corrections staff, police, the judiciary, youth workers, alcohol and other drug counsellors and other professionals to recognise and safely respond to men's use of family violence. In a previous life Danny worked in community radio and was a youth and parenting support worker, setting up the innovative Palmerston Parenting Support Service outside of Darwin in the Northern Territory. Danny's book Drive Around The World: One Family, One Car, One Year, One Planet was published in 2013 and he can now be heard regularly on ABC Radio Melbourne.Stay up to date with Danny Blay on Twitter.1800 RESPECT INFO HERE OR CALL 1800 737 732ORANGE DOOR INFO HERE DEAR NELLY LIVE SHOWS COMING UP: HERE SUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Celia Pacquola: I fell in love with a guy I'd never met!We are joined today by comedian, actor and super-star Celia Pacquola. Celia met her now partner on the internet and THEY DECLARED THEIR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER BEFORE THEY EVER MET IN REAL LIFE! Celia and I talk about recovering from being cheated on and gaslit, what it's like to have rumours spread about you and how to recover from all that. We take a ripper listener call from a woman whose niece got her back on the apps and encouraged her to try dating again. A brilliant episode with one of the finest talents of her generation (yes, I am a big fan).INFO ABOUT CELIA: HERECELIA'S SHOW INFO: HEREDEAR NELLY LIVE SHOWS COMING UP: HERE SUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jacinta Parsons: Single Life, Solitude, Bob Hawke and Do I bloody date again?Today we are joined by ABC personality and author Jacinta Parsons. Jacinta has been single for 18 months after the end of a 25 year relationship. She's now embracing the single life and really leaning into solitude after a period of loneliness and adjustment. We discuss her brilliant article on loneliness and solitude and also, the effect of chronic illness on her life and relationships. We take an incredible listener call on relationships with neurodivergent men and end on our normal dating dealbreakers and "He's a ten, but."Jacinta's brilliant book UNSEEN HEREJacinta's article on loneliness HERELIVE SHOW TICKETS HERESUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

KIRSTY WEBECK: GRILLS NELLY ON THE HARD LAUNCH!One of Nelly's favourite mates, comedian Kirsty Webeck, is back for SLOPPY SECONDS. Kirsty and Nelly talk about breaking old patterns (of choosing the wrong people), Nelly's new romance (woot: gossip!) and they take a great listener call on how to handle a "Friends With Benefits" relationships when someone catches feelings. A wonderful and reflective episode with a Dear Nelly legend.KIRSTY'S TOUR DATES FOR "I'LL BE THE JUDGE OF THAT" HERETICKETS TO THE NEXT DEAR NELLY LIVE SHOW HERE - starring Nelly Thomas, Lizzie Hoo, Kirsty Webeck and Sami ShahSUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Quah Ee Ling: you can't heal in a sick situationToday we are joined by academic Quah Ee Ling who has research specialities in divorce, intersectionality and cultural studies. I met Ee Ling at an event in Sydney last year and fell in (friend) love with her immediately. I just adore this intelligent, kind and sensitive soul. Ee Ling and I talk about marriage migration, PTSD, social anxiety and the idea that couples that grow and change together have the best chance. We talk about what romance actually is and how social introverts can manage dating and socialising. We take a listener letter on how to make friends when you have social anxiety and are a bit longer in the tooth. A wonderfully raw and fascinating episode with a very clever cookie.Ee Ling's info HERE TICKETS TO THE NEXT DEAR NELLY LIVE SHOW HERE - starring Nelly Thomas, Lizzie Hoo, Kirsty Webeck and Sami ShahSUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tom Ballard: I'm coming in hot and fully potenched!Comedian Tom Ballard is back for Sloppy Seconds and he asks Nelly a HUGE question: what is the lesson you have had to learn repeatedly throughout life and, have you learned it yet? Tom and Nelly talk about Tom's partner and ... Nelly's new sweetheart! Yes, she went back on the apps and it ACTUALLY WORKED. Tom and Nelly take a listener call about "weaponised incompetence" and respond to a letter about loving the chase and not the relationship. A fantastic episode with an old (young) mate.TICKETS TO THE NEXT DEAR NELLY LIVE SHOW HERE - starring Nelly Thomas, Lizzie Hoo, Kirsty Webeck and Sami ShahTom's Tour Dates and info HERETom's Podcast link HERESUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nato Green: I cock-blocked myself!Nato Green is a US comic and union organiser and Nelly is a huge fan of his. Nelly and Nato discuss his 20+ year marriage, how he thought he was unlovable and was super nervous about expressing vulnerability, how he wanted to date but just couldn't work out how until he was in his 20's and, how he had lots of platonic friendships with women that perhaps could have turned romantic. Nelly and Nato take two amazing listener calls - one on navigating your first Christmas as a single mum and another on how to talk to your kids about mental load. And Nato's solution to many things seems to be a finger in the butt. A great ep with an hilarious and thoughtful guy.TICKETS TO THE NEXT DEAR NELLY LIVE SHOW HERE - starring Nelly Thomas, Lizzie Hoo, Kirsty Webeck and Sami ShahNATO'S WEBSITE WITH LINKS TO ALL THE THINGS WE DISCUSS HERESUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nelly is having a week off but don't worry, Producer Sammy has pulled together a brilliant ep of the highlights from our first year! Listen, enjoy, share!BOOK TICKETS TO OUR NEXT LIVE SHOW ON FEB 8TH 2024 HERESUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERE If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Van Badham: a fool in love!Van Badham is an author, playwright, Guardian columnist, broadcaster and general all 'round ratbag. Van and I talk about how she'd given up on love and then fell in love at Trades Hall, across a crowded room at the age of 39. We take a brilliant listener call on what single life can look like in your 60s and get into Van's dating dealbreakers and "he's a ten but...". A wonderful episode with a wise and thoughtful woman determined to wait for the best (chuck out the rest).Van's new play "A Fool in Love" HEREVan on Facebook HEREVan in the Guardian HEREVan's Book HEREBOOK TICKETS TO THE DEAR NELLY LIVE AT THE MALTHOUSE HERESUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERENelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Spankie Jackzon: Winner of Drag Race Down Under!This week I am joined by my favourite Drag Queen Spankie Bloody Jackzon. Spankie is LTS (long-term-single) and not prepared to settle for less. We talk about Fairytales and how much of a barrier they are to real love, how Spankie was going for "the wrong type" of men and how BME (Big Mum Energy) can get in the way of connection. We take a great listener call on preparing kids to be good grown-ups (who are ready for dating) and another call on period sex - yes, I asked a cis, gay man about period sex. Spankie has learned that love is effort and that he wants to be the Little Spoon sometimes. A fabulous and funny episode with an icon in the Australasia performance scene.Spankie's website with all the stuff HERE SUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

AMANDA HAMPSON: from teen mum to acclaimed authorToday we talk to author Amanda Hampson. Amanda in now a 69 year old author, but was once a scared teen mum, kicked out of home and giving her child up for adoption. She's gone on to have more children and a couple of marriages but is avowedly - and happily - single. We talk all that stuff as well as why quitting is for winners, how petty divorce can get and we take a wonderful listener call about how we can see past relationships in a very different light once we heal. A fascinating episode that reminds us that the good old days were not that good.Amanda's Website HERESUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

BONUS CHRISTMAS EPISODE WITH BEV KILLICK!Bev shares her top celebration./event tips:refuse to take on perfectionbe naughty and niceenjoy your guilty pleasurestake the pressure downpresentation is key - not the amount of money spentgo where the love isBev and I also take some wonderful listener calls on navigating a tricky Christmas with step-kids and dealing with other people's ex's at Chrissy. We also take great listener letters on navigating your first Christmas without your kids and, what to do over the holidays if you family has rejected you.Bev's Cashew But Roast: HERERoast chook recipe: HERELOVE YAS,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Alice Fraser: Learn How to Fight!We are joined today by comedian Alice Fraser. Alice is beyond description - a wonderfully intelligent, thoughtful and insightful woman who is such a deep soul that I'm not sure I kept up! Alice and I talk about hacking the brain you have (and accepting it), how to embrace and handle conflict, about abuse and madness, Russian princesses, rejection and how chronic illness can affect relationships. We take a brilliant listener call on resentment about "weaponised incompetence". ALL THE THINGS! This is such a glorious episode - enjoy!Alice's website: HEREAlice Fraser on Patreon: HERESUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Renee The Celebrant: Who's ya Daddy?This week we are joined by Renee Thompson - wedding celebrant, DJ, MC and massive horn-bag. Renee talks to us about being in a non-monogamous relationship and how to keep that rolling along in a healthy way. She talks kink and how it's connected to her conservative upbringing and, the "red and green" flags she sees as a wedding celebrant. We take an excellent listener call on a mid-life sexual awakening and all the usual stupid shit an ex has done and, Renee's dating dealbreakers. Celebrant by day and kinkster by night - a fascinating discussion with a bundle of pure joy!Renee The Celebrant's website: www.reneethecelebrant.com.auTomboy Website: www.tomboyonline.netRADAR relationship check in template: https://www.multiamory.com/radarSUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERENelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kaz Cooke: I am more interested in being happy than with someone!Award winning author and journalist Kaz Cooke joins us to talk about being single after a series of duds in her younger years and coping with the end of a long-term relationship. We do a deep-dive into menopause and how it can affect sex, dating and relationships. We talk about developing a sense of worthiness as we age and how friends provide sustenance. We take a listener call on what it's like to have a facial difference and be in the dating pool and we get an update on the "travel with them stress-test"... Kaz and I have some thoughts.A wonderful episode with a powerhouse of Australian publishing.Kaz's Books and other info HERESUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Matt Kelly: I just wanted love!We're joined today by children's entertainer Matt Kelly. Matt shares his late-start to dating, how he was love-sick and swept up in the feels and how eventually he found his lovely beau. We talk about hope, change and knowing when you're done. We take a very important call about protecting yourself financially when you start a new relationship and whether or not you need to be friends with an ex (hot tip: hurt, hate, heal first). We read a letter about social media etiquette and whether it means anything at all. A wonderful episode with a mind and thoughtful man.WIRE (Women's Information Referral Exchange): https://www.wire.org.au/SUSBRCIBE TO DEAR NELLY VIA PATREONSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast! DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HERENelly x If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.