Raising Adults: Future Focused Parenting

Kira and Deana hop back in the laundry room and closet one last time to let listeners know that the show is coming down at the end of October. Download your favorite episodes now or they will be gone for good! They also give a quick life update for their listeners.

We finally made it back into the laundry room! No, we aren't relaunching the show, but we thought it would be fun to update our listeners and say a quick hello! Sending love to our FFP Family and hoping 2022 is off to a great start. - Kira and Deana

In today's final episode of Raising Adults, we remind you that you have all the tools you need to crush parenting and enjoy the journey as an FFP!   "We want you to know that you have all the tools you need to move forward without us!" - Kira Dorrian   "Intentionality comes from a strong why. If you know why you're doing what you're doing, it does make it easier to make those strong decisions that are best, rather than the ones that might be expedient or get the behavior you don't like to stop. " - Deana Thayer   Today's final discussion includes:  Three Pillars of Future Focused Parenting Philosophy (2:25) FFP Discipline Philosophy (6:24) Importance of communication and collaboration as a team (7:29) Demonstrating responsibility and gaining more privileges (11:47) Kira shares final thoughts on working with Deana and what the podcast has meant to her (14:44) Deana shares her final thoughts on working with Kira and what the podcast has meant to her (16:12) New email address and reminder that the podcast and all 150 episodes will remain live for you to listen to anytime (20:02)   Thanks for joining us today on our final episode of Raising Adults. We have truly enjoyed being with you each week for the past 150+ episodes and are thankful for every one of you.    Just remember, you have all the tools you need.    Much love FFPs, Kira and Deana     Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   Don't forget our Blowout Sale happening now until 12/25! All our programs are $5 with the exception of the Flagship program that is $10. 

Kira and Deana share their decision to close Raising Adults Podcast and Future Focused Parenting. The final episode will air on Monday, December 13th. They also share details for the Future Focused Patrons and how to reach out for parent coaching in the future.

Sometimes after a recording has finished or an episode has aired, Kira and Deana realize that they have something they wish they had said. In today's episode, they share those tidbits including a few extra ideas for talking about sex with kids, extra thoughts on peer pressure and more.   Today's discussion includes:  A few extra birds and the bees guidelines (3:12) The power of voting with your dollar and the power of boycotting (8:06) An extra tool for combating peer pressure (9:59) The story behind Kira's tattoo (13:25) Imposter syndrome with parenting (16:04) Favorite foods (22:03) If Deana hears this noise, she'll run for the hills (26:36) Kira can eat what in a soup bowl? (27:31)   Thanks for joining us today to look back at previous episodes and what we wished we would have said. Wasn't this a fun episode? Please come and share it with us on our social media and give us a follow! We would love to reach 1k followers on social media before the end of 2021.    Resources Mentioned  Talking With Kids About Sex  Teaching Kids About Social Justice  Kids and Peer Pressure  Tattoos, Piercings and Body Modifications  I Have A Question  What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?    Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.   Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong. 

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira break down the three types of consequences, how to use them, and when to use them. If you find yourself asking what's an appropriate consequence, this episode is for you.    "The design isn't to be punitive. The design is to help the world make sense because we are our children's teachers for how to navigate the world later on." - Deana Thayer   Today's discussion includes:  The importance of follow-through and meaning what you say (6:36) Empty threats lose power over time (7:36) First type: A Natural Consequence (9:52) Second type: A Logical Consequence (14:38) Third type: A Currency Consequence (19:24) Why experiencing these consequences in childhood help prepare kids for adulthood (26:04)   Thanks for joining us today for this great conversation about the three types of consequences. What was your biggest takeaway? Please come and share it with us on our social media and give us a follow! We would love to reach 1k followers on social media before the end of 2021.    Resources Mentioned  Coaching Call - Beyond Video Games and Later Bedtimes - Thinking Outside the Box When Offering Age Appropriate Privileges    Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   We are doing a blowout sale before the end of the year. So if you have been wanting to get any of our online programs, we have many. This is the time to do it, because everything is on sale for $5, except our flagship program, which normally retails at $57, is on sale for 10. And everything else is five bucks.   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.   Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong. 

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira have the pleasure of chatting with Heather Chauvin, a leadership coach who helps overwhelmed, ambitious women become leaders at work and home while conquering their fears. She's also the host of the Mom Is In Control Podcast, where she reveals her most vulnerable truths about womanhood, marriage, parenting, living through stage four cancer, and running a successful business without burning out.   "Women walk around this earth pretending that they are robots, pretending that they don't matter. When you think about it, we probably take better care of our house plants than we do our bodies. We water the plants and we can't remember the last time we drank water." - Heather Chauvin   Today's discussion includes:  Why Heather does this work (2:37) How Heather had to recalibrate after her diagnosis (8:02) When our behavior is really about feeling in control (15:12) Noticing our resistance, fear and guilt (21:10) The importance of remembering that we are our child's teacher (27:59)   Thanks for joining us today for this great conversation with Heather. What was your biggest takeaway? Please come and share it with us on our social media!   Connect with Heather Chauvin Instagram  Facebook  Mom Is In Control Podcast  Website  Dying To Be A Good Mother Dying To Be A Good Mother's Action-Plan Workbook    Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.   Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong. 

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira dive into how we as parents handle and cope with our kids being different from us.    "We don't need a melting pot in this country, folks. We need a salad bowl. In a salad bowl, you put in the different things. You want the vegetables, the lettuce, the cucumbers, the onions, the green peppers to maintain their identity. You appreciate differences." - Jane Elliot   Today's discussion includes:  Why we're talking about this (5:35) What this looks like in Deana's home (7:17) Coping with differences in Kira's home (11:35) Something not being handled well vs. a different way of doing something (14:00) Leaning into the differences (16:45) Unpacking where the issue is actually our own (19:06) What are we modeling for our kids (25:19)   Thanks for joining us today for another important topic. What was your biggest takeaway? Please come and share it with us on our social media!   Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.   Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong. 

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira are back with an important topic: teaching kids about social justice. Because she is not a DEI educator, Kira shares who she is learning from and what the application looks like in her home.   "We cannot help the next generation to dismantle racism, challenge racial inequality, and imagine an America of inclusion, if we, as white parents, do not openly discuss the oppression and injustices that are inherent in the very design of our country, which was established by white men who believed that they were the superior race." - Elisabeth Lepine   Today's discussion includes:  Appropriate vs. inappropriate resources (6:22) Apron Education and Read Like a Rock Star Teaching (7:46) The Conscious Kid, Little Justice Leaders and Brownicity (10:01) The framework Kira uses in her house (11:56) Modeling action and helping kids learn to take action (19:34) How to talk about the complexities and when we get it wrong (23:11) Accept the discomfort - if we're not educating ourselves, we're not doing the work (25:36) Gracefully receiving feedback so we can do better (29:09)   Thanks for joining us today for this important topic. What was your biggest takeaway? Please come and share it with us on our social media!   Resources Mentioned  Read Like a Rock Star Teaching Website  Read Like a Rock Star Instagram   Apron Education Website   Apron Education Instagram Unpack Your Impact    We Need Diverse Books Website   We Need Diverse Books Instagram      The Conscious Kid Website   The Conscious Kid Instagram    Little Justice Leaders Website   Little Justice Leaders Instagram    Brownicity Website  Brownicity Instagram      Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.   Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong. 

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira tackle a listener question: What do you do if you are in a parenting team and your partner isn't future focused or doesn't want to be?    "It is important that everybody feels seen and heard, but that also that we feel satisfied with the job that we're doing as parents." - Kira Dorrian.   "It's not saying that the way the other parent is doing it is wrong. It's just saying, 'Hey, this happens to be important to me, so I'll put those systems in place and help make sure they happen.'" - Deana Thayer   Today's discussion includes:  The need for foundational tools (5:54) You can parent together even if you don't agree (8:21) Deciding that you both want to parent well (11:59) Making sure we are not undermining our partner or other households (17:15) A practical example of how this might look (18:14) The flip side of that example (19:13) Takeaways from today's episode (20:13)   Thanks for joining us today as we tackled this fantastic listener question. What was your biggest takeaway? Please come and share it with us on our social media!   Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.   Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong.   

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira dive into the three pillars of the Future Focused Parenting Philosophy and how it can be applied to all of your parenting journey.   "Be proactive wherever you can be because we want those curveballs to be the exception and not the rule ." - Kira Dorrian.   "If you have a strong enough why, you can tolerate almost any how." - Jillian Michaels   Today's discussion includes:  Pillar 1: Figure Out Your Why (5:44) Pillar 2: Uphold Your Family Values (10:23) Should children be involved in the conversation about family values? (13:51) Pillar 3: Take a Proactive Approach (16:56) How to be proactive (19:23) Proactive discussions on discipline (26:13) Thanks for joining us today as we shared the three pillars of the Future Focused Parenting philosophy. What was your biggest takeaway? Share it with us on our social media!   Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   Resources Mentioned The Importance of a Strong Why episode  Figuring Out Your Family's Value episode Newsletter sign-up  Webinar    Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira discuss the changing face of education with guest Victoria Ransom from Prisma. We dive into what options exist outside of the conventional model, why the conventional model is failing some of our kids and how to find the right fit for your children.   Victoria, an entrepreneur since her early twenties, has developed four companies, including Wildfire, which Google acquired in 2012 for $450M. She has an MBA from Harvard Business School and a bachelor of arts degree from Macalester College. In her spare time, she is an avid snowboarder, surfer, and passionate adventure traveler.    "For so many kids, part of the problem with school is they're sitting there thinking, when will I ever use this in my life? Why do I need this? And I think applying learning to what you see in your community is one way to make it feel relevant." - Victoria Ransom.   Today's discussion includes:  Where Victoria's interest in education began (8:02) Can traditional education's primary features be problematic? (12:04) What options exist outside the conventional model? (17:36) Finding the right model to fit your kids' learning styles (24:11) How Prisma brings learning alive for kids (29:00)   Are your kids in a traditional educational setting? If not, we'd love to know what you're doing and how it's working for you.    Connect with Victoria  Website twitter Facebook LinkedIn Instagram   Don't forget, for our show to keep going into 2022 we need our Future Focused Parents to become Future Focused Patrons. Join us so that we can keep this content coming your way:  patreon.com/ffp or futurefocusedparenting.com/membership   Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

Kira and Deana share what the plan is for Raising Adults moving forward into 2022. 

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira discuss the question “How do I know when my child is ready to___________?” Together they talk about everything from leaving kids home alone, to owning their own devices, to when you might...

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira discuss the question “How do I know when my child is ready to___________?” Together they talk about everything from leaving kids home alone, to owning their own devices, to when you might expect your little one to be able to tie their own shoes (spoiler alert: Kira's answer may shock you!)   Today's discussion includes:  A recap about how you can help keep Raising Adults going in 2022 (4:52) What you might be able to expect of littles (9:42) Regression: why it happens and when to expect it (11:51) Ages for letting kids bathe by themselves (13:30) When should you separate kids during bath time? (14:16) Ages for leaving a child alone in a car or at home alone (19:57) Rehearsing with your kids for privileges, freedoms and phones (22:14) Adjusting the way you connect when kids become tweens (24:26) Ages for dating (30:27) Ages for devices (33:12)   Don't forget, for our show to keep going into 2022 we need our Future Focused Parents to become Future Focused Patrons. Join us so that we can keep this content coming your way:  patreon.com/ffp    Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real-time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   Resources mentioned in this episode: Troomi Wireless    Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

In today's episode of Raising Adults, the laundry room and coat closet experience a takeover by Kira and Deana's kiddos: Cienna, Marc, Rhys, and Rhia! Together these future adults are sharing what's really going on in kids' minds and...

In today's episode of Raising Adults, the laundry room and coat closet experience a takeover by Kira and Deana's kiddos: Cienna, Marc, Rhys, and Rhia! Together these future adults are sharing what's really going on in kids' minds and talking about what they want their parents to know.    Today's discussion includes:  Introductions (7:07) Today's why (7:52) Rhia shares what she wants her mom to know about school (spoiler alert: school is hard!) (8:19) Cienna shares something she and her Deana do that strengthens their relationship (9:37) Marc unpacks the common phrase “I'm your parent, not your friend” (11:26) Rhys shares what Kira is doing well (12:27) Cienna talks about the importance of fostering and following your children's interests (13:52) Rhys reminds parents that “It's ok to take time for yourself” (14:57) Rhia and Cienna talk about the push-pull of wanting independence without making parents feel unloved   (16:11) Marc reminds parents that “kids are smarter than you think, and their feelings are valid” (18:39) Cienna cautions parents to remember that kids are always listening and watching (19:10)   Wasn't today's episode adorable? We love the honesty and truth that they shared with us. We'd love to know if you had a favorite moment from today.    Don't forget, for our show to keep going into 2022 we need our Future Focused Parents to become Future Focused Patrons. Join us so that we can keep this content coming your way:  patreon.com/ffp or futurefocusedparenting.com/membership     Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira wrap up their three-week series of "I Do It," "We Do It," “You Do It." This final “You Do It” phase of ages 10 and up is where we truly begin handing off responsibility and ...

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira wrap up their three-week series of "I Do It," "We Do It," “You Do It." This final “You Do It” phase of ages 10 and up is where we truly begin handing off responsibility and shifting into more of a coaching role as parents.   Today's discussion includes:  Recap of "I Do It" and "We Do It" (2:23) Our Why (3:47) The three categories of "You Do It" (5:30) Your child as an individual in this phase (9:20) Your child and their tasks and responsibilities (11:34) Example of interacting with tasks (14:16) How to assess the situation when tasks are not completed (16:14) The importance of handing off in stages (20:04) Your child and how they interact with people and the world (21:23)  The shift in parent and child relationship (24:31) Coaching awkward and challenging situations (25:58)   The "You Do It" phase is a beautiful time where you start to see your hard work pay off. Definitely, a phase to look forward to!   Don't forget, for our show to keep going into 2022 we need our Future Focused Parents to become Future Focused Patrons. Join us so that we can keep this content coming your way:  Patreon or Future Focused Parenting Website

In today's episode of Raising Adults, we head into the second part of our three-week series. Last week we covered the "IDo It" phase of parenting, and today we are talking about the "We Do It" phase. This 5-10 age range is where we truly...

In today's episode of Raising Adults, we head into the second part of our three-week series. Last week we covered the "IDo It" phase of parenting, and today we are talking about the "We Do It" phase. This 5-10 age range is where we truly begin balancing responsibilities with privileges and move into a more collaborative part of the parenting journey.   "You know what's really cool about this phase, honestly... The "We Do It" phase is where you're together and you're a team. And so the pressure of "I Do It" comes off of you a little bit, but you haven't worked yourself out of a job yet." - Kira Dorrian   "This season is when you are collaboratively working toward things like growing responsibility, growing privileges and growing relational skills. This sets up not only raising your adult but how that adult then views their relationship with you." – Deana Thayer   Today's discussion includes:  A recap of the "I Do It" phase (00:57) Laying the groundwork and reaping the benefits (6:46) The "We Do It" phase (8:18) Setting the tone for the parent/child relationship (12:51) Consistency and communication (16:03) Kira outlines how she balances chores and privileges (17:23) Deana shares how she tackled this phase and her "yes posture" (20:27) How to handle changes in the parent-child relationship (24:56)   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, twitter, and Pinterest to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

We've hit a crossroads here at Raising Adults and we need to share with our listeners what it will take for us to continue podcasting into 2022.  

In today's episode of Raising Adults, we kick off a three-week series applying our framework of "I Do It, We Do It, You Do It" to your parenting journey. We will break down the different stages of parenting and talk about what it...

In today's episode of Raising Adults, we kick off a three-week series applying our framework of "I Do It, We Do It, You Do It" to your parenting journey. We will break down the different stages of parenting and talk about what it means to be a Future Focused Parent in each stage.     "If you're fortunate enough to have small people, this is where you not only lay the foundation of how you're parenting with empathy and emotional intelligence while still having boundaries, but you're also laying the foundation for what you are like as a Future Focused Parent." - Deana Thayer   Today's discussion includes:  Introduction to "I Do It" (4:24) What this looks like with infants (6:59) What if you get it wrong? (9:19) The toddler years (12:28) In this phase, you're teaching your child what they can expect from you (14:20) The preschool years (19:44) Increasing responsibility and privileges (22:41) Redirection is not a distraction (23:58) Preview of "We Do It" (26:44) We'd love to hear from you! How are you managing this “I Do It” stage with your 0-5 child(ren)? Join us on social media or send us an email to let us know!   Episodes Referenced Who's the Boss Babies and Sleep Kids and Manners Kids and Chores   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, twitter, and Pinterest to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira talk about mean kids, bullies and their parents. Be sure to tune in and listen as we dive into bullying, how it's changed over the years and how there is a difference between “mean ...

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira talk about mean kids, bullies and their parents. Be sure to tune in and listen as we dive into bullying, how it's changed over the years and how there is a difference between “mean kids” and “bullies.” Stay tuned until the end to find out who's celebrating a birthday in September!!    "In those moments where a child has been harsh, or unkind it is important for me to help my kids ask themselves what might be happening for that child that they feel the need to treat someone that way." - Kira Dorrian   "I have encouraged my kids to be careful about labeling someone as a bully over one or two harsh incidents. " - Deana Thayer   Today's discussion includes:  Deana shares her two whys (6:53) Kira's why (8:16) Why labels can be damaging (10:42) Equipping kids with coping tools and discernment (11:47) Compassion and empathy for kids who bully (17:20) Dealing with other parents who aren't collaborative problem solvers (23:23) Owning that our kids are human and continuing to help them grow (27:06) Tips for coping with interactions that aren't collaborative (28:06) Being honest with ourselves: are we receiving feedback and are we open to hearing areas where our children need to grow (31:00) We'd love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Join us on social media to let us know!   Want your FREE copy of the attributes and character traits calendar? Visit bit.ly/RaisingAdultsPodcast or visit FutureFocusedParenting.com   Thanks to our sponsor The MamaZen App - Helping Moms Feel Sane!    The MamaZen app specializes in helping moms change their motherhood habits, so they can become patient, mindful, calmer, happier, and raise happy and mindful adults.   Use promo code FUTURE to get full, unlimited FREE access to MamaZen for 30 days.    Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, twitter, and Pinterest to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

In today's episode of Raising Adults, we have the opportunity to double date with the hosts of the popular podcast , Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables. Be sure to tune in and listen as we dive into what it means to be "that mom" and how we can best...

In today's episode of Raising Adults, we have the opportunity to double date with the hosts of the popular podcast What Fresh Hell - Laughing in the Face of Motherhood, Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables. Be sure to tune in and listen as we dive into what it means to be "that mom" and how we can best advocate for our kids.   "When advocating for your kid, come with both the problem and the solution." - Amy Wilson   "Be very aware of…am I always the person advocating for my needs and my kid's needs in a way that is taking needed resources from other people or really inconveniencing other people?" - Margaret Ables   Today's highlights include:  Margaret shares that she was a comedian, television writer and her why for being “that mom” (4:01) Amy talks about her book, family, and her why (5:06) Why it is “that mom” and not “that dad” or “that parent” (6:50) The line between helicopter mom and tiger mom (9:01) Is there a time for spiciness vs. doing it kindly? (12:37) Come with a solution to the problem (18:03) Intentionality and values while advocating for your kids (19:41) Steps to take once you've decided to be “that mom” (21:20) How to be emotionally prepared for difficult conversations and uncomfortable truths (24:11) A useful framework: rude behavior vs. mean behavior vs. bullying behavior (26:36)   References from today's episode: When To Be 'That Mom' episode    Ask Amy - My Kid's Friend Is Now Bullying Him. Should I Get Involved    Signe Whitson    Connect with Amy and Margaret:  Facebook Group  Instagram  Website  Twitter  TikTok YouTube   Amy's Book    Thanks to our sponsors The MamaZen App - Helping Moms Feel Sane!    The MamaZen app specializes in helping moms change their motherhood habits, so they can become patient, mindful, calmer, happier, and raise happy and mindful adults.   Use promo code FUTURE to get full, unlimited FREE access to MamaZen for 30 days.    Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram and Twitter to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira talk about supporting future focused grandparents and the complexities that entails. Don't miss this episode!   "The most important question grandparents can ask of their adult...

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira talk about supporting future focused grandparents and the complexities that entails. Don't miss this episode!   "The most important question grandparents can ask of their adult children is, where do I need to match you and where can I depart from that and just enjoy being a grandparent?" - Deana Thayer   “Please, grandparents, remember that the intensity and expectation of parents when you were parenting is not the same as it is now." - Kira Dorrian   Today's highlights include: Kira shares her two-part why (3:28) Deana's blended family two-part why (6:20) Finding a middle ground in grandparenting (8:57) Preparing for a grandchild on the way (11:46) Importance of communicating regularly and checking in (13:50) Graciously receiving feedback as grandparents (15:00) Asking for clarity without judgment (18:27) The intensity and expectations of parenting are not the same as a generation ago (20:01) Blended family...it's like a crockpot (22:42) Creative communication is key to successful future focused grandparenting(28:24)   Much of what makes for a successful future focused grandparenting relationship is communication. This includes asking questions, clarifying without judgment, finding ways to partner with your adult children and considering how you create a safe space for receiving feedback.   We really hope that you enjoyed this episode today and look forward to hearing your thoughts! If you are new to the FFP philosophy, check out our past episodes on The Importance of a Strong Why and Figuring Out Your Family's Values. Also, our recorded webinar Becoming a Future Focused Parent.   Thanks to our sponsor The MamaZen App - Helping Moms Feel Sane!    The MamaZen app specializes in helping moms change their motherhood habits, so they can become patient, mindful, calmer, happier, and raise happy and mindful adults.   Use promo code FUTURE to get full, unlimited FREE access to MamaZen for 30 days.    Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, twitter, and Pinterest to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira talk about tattoos, piercings and body modifications. Join us as we discuss how critical thinking skills are key to this conversation, regrets and triggers for parents, and Kira's cautionary...

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira talk about tattoos, piercings and body modifications. Join us as we discuss how critical thinking skills are key to this conversation, regrets and triggers for parents, and Kira's cautionary tale. Be sure to tune in!   "Sometimes regrets are important. You learn things from your regrets. And while they're a bummer, they're a good teacher." - Deana Thayer    “How can we enhance what's there but embrace? We all have stuff, and it's just not worth the risk to try and modify if it's going to cause health concerns, you know." - Kira Dorrian   Today's highlights include:  Deana's grumbling and gratitude (2:17) Do Deana and Kira have body modifications? (4:25) Deana's why when it comes to talking to her kids about this topic (7:12) Kira's why (9:20) Critical thinking and body modifications (11:04) Regrets and triggers for parents (15:38) Kira's experience and word of caution on cultural appropriation (16:37) Try temporary first over permanent (23:41) Thoughts on plastic surgery (25:28) Negative comments from peers and how to talk through those experiences (30:04)   Today's takeaways: *Communication is key for any body mod discussion with our kids. *Try before you buy: try out a temporary tattoo or fake earring first! *Be thoughtful of cultural significance *Last (but certainly not least!): Be kind when commenting on those with permanent body modifications, or reconsider commenting at all.    We would love to hear your thoughts on today's topic. Feel free to email us at info@futurefocusedparenting.com.   Don't forget about our membership opportunity and the additional resources you have access to when you join. Find more on our membership tab.    Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram and Twitter to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

In today's episode of Raising Adults, we talk about the full-time, part-time, stay-at-home decision. There are so many variations of what this scenario may look like, and it's a huge decision parents have to make. We share our perspectives and what...

In today's episode of Raising Adults, we talk about the full-time, part-time, stay-at-home decision. There are so many variations of what this scenario may look like, and it's a huge decision parents have to make. We share our perspectives and what we've experienced along the way. Don't worry...even though Deana doesn't have an acronym, she's not letting us down. She has two C's for us today. Be sure to tune in!   Today's highlights include:  Deana's why, a believer in seasons (6:25) Kira's why (8:50) Deciding if a change needs to happen (14:26) Normalizing the decision-making process and communication (17:32) Does your work-life match your values (18:42) Communication and creative problem solving (20:49) Recognizing it is ok to have a human need and share it (24:04) Seeking ways to make things work for us (27:20) The importance of making decisions that are consistent with who you are (30:20)   How are you navigating this for your home and family? How do you keep that future focused mindset with you? We would love to hear your thoughts on today's topic.    Don't forget about our membership opportunity and the additional resources you get to access when you join. Find more on our membership tab.    Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, twitter and Pinterest to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

Today on Raising Adults, we welcome Jen Riday of the to the show. Jen helps burned-out, overwhelmed moms get off the hamster wheel and find balance so they can love their lives again. As a mom of 6 with a Ph.D. in Human Development and Family...

Today on Raising Adults, we welcome Jen Riday of the Vibrant Happy Women Podcast to the show. Jen helps burned-out, overwhelmed moms get off the hamster wheel and find balance so they can love their lives again. As a mom of 6 with a Ph.D. in Human Development and Family Studies and host of the Vibrant Happy Women Podcast, Jen gives women tools that work. Be sure to tune in! "Is the happiness I'm modeling or experiencing adequate for the happiness I hope they'll have as an adult? If the answer's no, then I need to up my happiness game." - Jen Riday   "How am I going to show this version of myself? The version that's authentic to my kids instead of shoulding all over myself and losing the sparkle because really, the sparkle is lost when we all try to be the same to some extent." - Jen Riday   Today's highlights include:  Jen's why on reclaiming your authentic self (5:42) How to know if you've lost your sparkle and what to do to get it back (9:26) Steps and questions to ask yourself to recognize if you've lost your sense of self (10:23) Tool #1 - The BE HER morning ritual (13:01) Tool #2 - Creating your values and requirements (16:04) Tool #3 - the "Feel it to Heal it" method (20:28) Jen does a fun exercise with Kira and Deana (21:43)   Be sure to listen to this episode to hear the exercise we did with Jen, what exactly VSCO girls are and Jen's three methods to help us get our sparkle back!  Connect with Jen  Website Twitter  Instagram Facebook Thanks to our sponsor YoLabs  - Making life easier for working moms!  Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram and Twitter to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

Today on Raising Adults, we discuss inviting feedback from our children. Join us as we talk about what this looks like in our homes and what it's like for someone who may have a hard time hearing feedback. How does this approach work? Be sure to...

Today on Raising Adults, we discuss inviting feedback from our children. Join us as we talk about what this looks like in our homes and what it's like for someone who may have a hard time hearing feedback. How does this approach work? Be sure to tune in!   "Feedback, when given well, should not alienate the receiver of the feedback, but should motivate them to perform better." - M.O., Manager, Fortune 500 Company   “Don't couch it in good and bad. We're talking about what's going well, and where are some areas I could grow? Or where are some areas that I could serve you better? The way that we frame this is really important.” - Kira Dorrian   Today's highlights include:  Kira's why's (6:25) Deana's why (7:44)  How Kira has handled this with her kids (9:30) How Deana does this in her family (11:55) Kira's experience with seeing this up close and personal (17:07) What it has been like for Deana now that her kids are older (20:54) Kira drops some truth about the distinctions in the vocabulary we use (24:43) Today's takeaways (27:06)   Be sure to listen to this episode to find out what Deana gave up for July and her thoughts so far.    Special thanks to our sponsors!    YoLabs - Making life easier for working moms!   Prisma - A totally new way to go to school!   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram and Twitter to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

Today on Raising Adults we celebrate the beginning of Season Five! Can you believe it? Join us as we talk about how Deana approaches the goal for her kids to have no rules by age 16. What does that mean? How does that actually work? Be sure to...

Today on Raising Adults we celebrate the beginning of Season Five! Can you believe it? Join us as we talk about how Deana approaches the goal for her kids to have no rules by age 16. What does that mean? How does that actually work? Be sure to tune in!   "The goal of the structure and the ‘strictness' in the early years is so that they're able to handle the increasing freedom in the older years.” - Deana Thayer.   "Are they starting to even see at a young age that the more I show that I'm responsible and capable of something, the more I'm rewarded with freedoms and privileges? And my parent is recognizing my readiness and helping me grow in that so that by the time you get to those tween years, none of this will be a surprise." - Kira Dorrian.    Today we talk about:  Deana's why (6:55) Kira's why (9:49)  What this looks like in Deana's house (12:04) How to assess readiness (17:02) Looking for collaboration (17:56) How to handle when things slip up or go sideways (22:01) Increasing responsibility from a young age (26:04) Kira's experience growing up with no rules by her teen years (29:48) The more responsible they are, the more you can trust them - even from a young age (33:49) What do to if you'd like to make this a goal for your family (35:57)   Be sure to listen to this episode so you can learn how to move from directing your kids to coaching and mentoring them as they grow into adulthood.    Special thanks to our sponsors!    YoLabs - Making life easier for working moms!   Prisma - A totally new way to go to school!   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram and Twitter to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

Today on Raising Adults, we've got a replay for you from Season Four.  Deana and Kira share ways to be the parent without being a tyrant and the positive impact this can have on your relationship with your child. They also give tools and...

Today on Raising Adults, we've got a replay for you from Season Four.  Deana and Kira share ways to be the parent without being a tyrant and the positive impact this can have on your relationship with your child. They also give tools and tips for re-balancing your home if things are out of whack.  Do you have questions for us? Consider becoming a member of the FFP Family and get your questions answered every month in our live Q&A. Space is limited.  Visit us to become a member!  Special thanks to our sponsors! YoLabs - Making life easier for working moms!  Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram and Twitter to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you. 

Today on Raising Adults, we have a replay from Season Three. Kira and Deana talk about resilience and do some myth-busting about what it takes to raise resilient kids, as well as what true resiliency looks like. Episodes referenced: Raising Kids...

Today on Raising Adults, we have a replay from Season Three. Kira and Deana talk about resilience and do some myth-busting about what it takes to raise resilient kids, as well as what true resiliency looks like. Episodes referenced: Raising Kids With Emotional Intelligence https://futurefocusedparenting.com/2018/10/08/raising-kids-with-emotional-intelligence/ Have a listener question? Email us! info@futurefocusedparenting.com Special thanks to our sponsors!  YoLabs - Making life easier for working moms!   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

Today on Raising Adults, cue all the fireworks as Kira and Deana celebrate the season four finale! Can you believe it? Join us as we talk about what we learned this season, how we grew as people and parents, as well as what's coming next...

Today on Raising Adults, cue all the fireworks as Kira and Deana celebrate the season four finale! Can you believe it? Join us as we talk about what we learned this season, how we grew as people and parents, as well as what's coming next season.    "We get so busy, and life gets so frenetic and fast-paced that I think we can forget, and I certainly had, that we're the boss of our own schedule." - Deana Thayer.   "I'm not entirely convinced anymore by this trajectory that we put on our kids and their education. You have to get great grades so you can get into a great college, so you can get a great job. I'm not sure I buy that anymore." - Kira Dorrian.    Today's talking points:  Deana and Kira's why (6:15) What Kira learned this past year (7:49) What Deana learned (13:02) Kira was floored by how much busier she was than what she thought (16:50) Is Kira going to get hate mail over this comment? (23:05) Who loves social distancing? Deana does! (26:59) Kira and Deana share what they hope stays the same (29:23) Take a moment and think about the hidden blessings of this year (33:02)   Be sure to listen to this episode, not just because it's the season finale, but to hear which new social media platforms we are on now!!    Thanks for joining us today! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future-Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

Today on Raising Adults, we discuss the age where littles are hitting, biting, and breaking things. We share some tips on how we've tackled this phase with our littles that align with our FFP philosophy. Join us today as we share tools that...

Today on Raising Adults, we discuss the age where littles are hitting, biting, and breaking things. We share some tips on how we've tackled this phase with our littles that align with our FFP philosophy. Join us today as we share tools that parents can use for dealing with this developmentally appropriate, though challenging, phase.   "Make sure that as you're encouraging this behavior to stop and letting them know that this is not appropriate, that we are also giving them the tools for what is appropriate." - Kira Dorrian   "What we permit, we promote. So if you're allowing it, even sometimes, they're thinking, ‘Oh, I might, get away with this here and there,' and that's really not okay." - Deana Thayer   Things we chat about:  Kira teaching her kids that violence is never okay (4:26) Deana's “it's only fun if everyone is having fun” (5:18) What Kira struggled with that a lot of parents can relate to (6:35) Just because something is age-appropriate doesn't mean you can let it go (8:16) The importance of staying consistent (10:50) Shaming doesn't have to be part of parenting (13:55) Mean what you say and say what you mean (16:49) Kids need to see the follow-through (17:47) Teaching the process of reparation (19:35) Reparation without shame (22:28) Encouraging inappropriate behavior to stop, while giving them tools for what is appropriate (23:13)   Be sure to tune in to next week's Season Four Finale and get excited with us. We'd also love to know your thoughts on today's episode! Join us on social media and let us know.    Thanks for joining us on today's episode of the Raising Adults: Future Focused Parenting podcast! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future-Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

Kira and Deana chat with Janet Allison and Jennifer L.W. Fink about closing the gender gap by thinking about how we raise our boys and our girls. Together they focus on using context, communication and conversation to help our children understand the...

Today, Kira and Deana have the opportunity to chat with Janet Allison and Jennifer LW Fink about closing the gender gap using communication, context, and conversation.  Janet is a mother, former teacher, and currently a family coach, author, and podcaster. Jennifer is a mother of four boys, a writer, and a podcaster. Together they co-host the popular podcast, On Boys.    "I started learning about boys to survive my own life." - Jennifer LW Fink.   "The three keys of really being a boy-friendly communicator are moving side by side, fewer words on your part, and lots of pauses." - Janet Allison.   In this episode, we dive into:  Meet Janet (2:52) Meet Jennifer (3:58) The why behind Jennifer's work (7:39) Janet's why (8:45) Raising gentlemen without suppressing the empowerment of girls (11:49) Helping our kids understand the past so they can have the context for the current climate (14:41) Three keys to being a boy-friendly communicator (20:39) Laying the foundation for tailored conversations (22:03)   Don't miss this fantastic episode with Jennifer and Janet of the On Boys Podcast. They share some insightful information on closing the gender gap using context, conversation, and communication.   Connect with Jennifer & Janet Jennifer's Website  Janet's Website  Instagram  FaceBook  Podcast    Thanks for joining us on today's episode of the Raising Adults: Future Focused Parenting podcast! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future-Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.  

“What do you want to be when you grow up?” Today on Raising Adults we dive into this age-old question that so many kids get peppered with from adults. It's an interesting question considering so many of us are probably still trying to figure...