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This show is about the importance of darkness and healing. After last weeks shit show it was important for me to transmute that chaos. Women know how to multiply whatever it is that somebody gives them. If you give us love and healthy boundaries we thrive in that. When you give us chaos, we multiply that as well. In the end love is the highest vibration. Love does NOT always win. Yet YOU can always win by NOT playing. Some people are not playing chess or checkers. For I am not playing at all.
Since July of 2022, last year, I have not done a show. It was hard for me to grasp that I was suffering. When I know not what to do, I do nothing. My mothers death anniversary was today as well as her birthday last month. She has been all around me. For months I struggled to keep the peace and the words in to protect other people. Doing that has caused me great shame. My first book contained information that my family didn't know about. That is how loyal to the soil I am. Yet my loyalty has always been reciprocated. Recently it has NOT. I do NOT suffer for free. This is a very emotional show for me. I always cry talking about my mama. The tears flow this time for myself. 25 years later and the powers that be decided I should be tested again. I almost LOST...but here I am. Always remember I am healing but I am not HEALED. This show is dedicated to my mama and my aunt Judy who passed last night in Cleveland. They passed on the same day 10 years apart. My aunt is devastated. Those were her sisters. Her confidants. Her rock's. I knew it was coming so I called the only person I know who is darker and experienced more pain than me. I am so thankful. There is healing in grief. If I can't grieve with you, I can't do anything else with you. It's #tellthetruthtuesday and I dare a MF to say otherwise. I am so tired ya'll. We are back on schedule. I am in a healing and abundant space.
Auntie is here. I'm always here. When I'm silent, I'm building or healing. I had legal issues and emotional support issues. I'm good. I'm tired y'all. Let's chat.
I missed y'all! Here's a recap of May, June and July in my universe. A lot of heartache. A lot of pain. A lot of everything but being humble. I refuse to bow to lessor energy or children of a lessor God. Folks try so hard to humble people that simply will not break. Most of those people are Black and minority women. WHY? Some of y'all have a lot of shadow work to do. Call your mama. Blame your father. Do whatever you need to do. Please stop trying to humble women that give 0FUX about you. We will talk Lori Harvey, Jazzy and Cam and whatever else is on my mind these last two months. If y'all are sick, please seek help. We are only going to get bigger around here. The humbling you seek from others needs to happen inside you first SIR and Ma'am.
Kevin Samuels has died. I was given the news early on the morning of May 5th. One hopes this kind of news is just a hoax. Having done a show about him years ago, my stance is unwavered. That show was reposted on my social media so you can hear what I said back then before you listen to this show. OR perhaps you already remember. Some of you are sick. Some of you are abusive. Tune in to let me explain WHY.
It was the day we all waited for. The majority of us manifested SOOOOO many things. I want you to know that even if you didn't make this special day, the day was still special. Any day above ground is special. As above and so below. One doesn't need a specific phase of the moon or day of the week to manifest. If you are indeed that beotch then act as such. Please don't feel less than if you didn't make your wedding this day (I can name 15 of us with this as a wedding day). Please don't give up on your dreams because 2/22/22 came and went. The day is what YOU make it. If you feel otherwise then you must manifest some extra esteem of your MF self. Numbers will always be important to me. They will never be more important than what the universe has in store for me. I'm thankful for it all.
Now that cuffing season is officially over we can resume activities. Let's chat about the people who shame folks about V day. Let's chat about the folks who think it's a commercialized holiday. It is. BUT if you've been a ball hair all year round and all you had to do is show up this ONE day. All you had to do is go all out on ONE day. DO IT. Unlike a vast majority I LOVE seeing your love. It's beautiful. I love to see y'all making a man more than chicken alfredo and ran thru coochie. I'm going to discuss what I DON'T like. It's you poors. It's you brown Langmores that always have something to say. HUSH.
Recently I did a live about Black men and mental health. We always say,"Black men suffer in silence". Yet they will talk to everyone else in the world and on the internet about things that don't matter. Sex doesnt matter. Your text messages don't matter. If you can google pages then you can google therapists and maintain that.
Better late than never! This week has been our first full moon of 2022. It was exhausting and exhilarating at the same damn time. We celebrated my good brothers born day. We celebrated being booked and busy. We took time to rest and receive. All I keep hearing about thus far is people suffering the CONSEQUENCES of their actions 2 to 4 business years prior. I've had to have a nice tall glass of "shut the fuck up" as well as a shot of "this is what you created". There is no magic potion or spell that's going to lift you out of that manifestation. Y'all need to learn that. Sit in your shit sometimes. At times you aren't the baddest in the room. You may not be the smartest in the room. You may have been outsmarted by a damn felon. You may not be as good in bed as you think. You may suffer the same fate you caused somebody else. Sit in it and understand your role in it so you don't repeat that raggedy shit. There is no magic to cure fate.
Thank you for the public support and outcry about my theft situation. I was so ashamed to even tell anybody. You feel stupid,used and vulnerable. 2022 will definately be about consequences of actions. Karma is a different energy, good or bad. Consequences are sometimes delayed until you understand why it is better to play in traffic, than to play with some folks.
I'm here. All is as well as it can be. 2021 ended very rough for me. Everything I manifested and MORE came to fruition. We always say, " new levels... new devils". I didn't know those demons would look like me. Being a woman in business has proven to be very rewarding. For as much as I speak I don't say much about my businesses. I still take my ass to my 40 to 48 hour a week job. I'm still a parent,lover, sister, auntie, healer, spiritualist, air personality, host, writer, and living being in this realm. Things began to suffer. I suffered. When I know not what to say,I say nothing. You deserve to hear something that is of substance and not full of rage (all the time).You deserve to listen to me speak from experience and not anger. (all the time)Y'all know I don't take words back once spoken...unless I've spoken in error. Everything that happened in 2021 I saw coming. All of it. In 2022 everything that happens to them or you is the consequence of that action. The Lord may have mercy. I won't.
Wood Gatlin should be gracing us with his presence tonight on the show. He is my Houston homie who never misses an opportunity to gather somebody.Over the years we have hopped on each other's podcasts with pleasant results. If you want to know about a man, ask a man. If you want to know about a woman, ask a woman.
Did you ever notice that people with nothing to lose always want to fight, argue and instigate? It is beneath me to address mortals that don't have an address they own. It is beneath me to speak on people who act like their cut off game is supreme but can't cut off those split ends or SNAP benefits... since you grown.
Today we celebrate in many ways. It's Yemeya's feast day, Jewish new year and the start of school for some. We start my 8th season of this show today as well. I'm thankful. I wanted to bring Jeff Elder on the show as remembrance and homage to those who lost their lives on September 11th. He is the Democratic and Working Families endorsed candidate for Niagara County Legislature in the 4th district. I'm thankful to have a moment of his time to reflect.
Y'all ... spirit is undefeated. When they don't want me telling y'all things they will literally cut shows,phones,emails and anything that relays communication. I'm going to finish what I said.
Happy Summer y'all! Auntie took a little break to break down in peace and tequila. I lost a long time friend to cancer. Trigger. Traveled to my family home in Pittsburgh. Trigger. Forgot that I would have celebrated my 18th wedding anniversary. Trigger. Celebrated large victories in business and my personal life. Lost a lot of my memory and hair. Trigger. Ceased therapy once again because the therapist moved. Trigger. Traveled and received company from out of town. Went public with a relationship. Trigger. When I speak on triggers there isn't always a negative reaction to that trigger. Sometimes the body acknowledged the trigger before your brain does. Your triggers are the deciding factor in your healing. How you react when faced with a situation you have been in before says a lot about your evolution. Your ability to decide how we gone go about this is what determines a good or bad day. During all this time, contrary to belief, I didn't have time to think about who did what on what day and why. You're simply a non MF factor. Grown folks have more to do in a day than to wish bad on MFs that are already doing bad and will eternally be raggedy. Karma goes both ways. It's a gift. When someone receives their karma it's the universe wiping a slate clean. Karma for evil is repaid and that person is now alleviated from the guilt or shame. This person gets a second chance to make things right going forward. Karma for good deeds works the same. Now that I'm rewarded for my deed it allows me another opportunity to do good for somebody else. It's ALL reciprocal. Auntie is truly not with the shits. Why would I wish karma on you when you did me filthy if I can just sit back and watch you suffer without a second chance? Y'all are too forgiving and too invested in people who were never invested in you. Let's do better.
This retrograde and eclipse season has a lot of you in your feelings. All month long yall have been calling my "kids" and telling on a penis yall used to share. STOP. Nobody cares. It is almost summer time. We call seeing multiple people DATING. Tis the season to do that. Per my IG live #chuch this past Sunday (I held service), I have instructed my 100's of children that reached out to ignore yall. If they engage with you it is merely to say,"I know he was with you. Thanks for getting him ready for me" OR "I told him to go back to you and he said, NO". These men do what you let them Unless he SPECIFICALLY told you that you are his woman and BOTH of yall are exclusive...honey you're single. Stop snitching and calling men broke or tricks when yall time is over. It is low class and poor. I want to tell you what tricking is and what it aint.
After 2 months of silence, mourning,upgrades, parent hacks,trips,love interests, failures,blow ups, relapses with violence and new meals on my plate...I am back. When I don't know what to say, I say nothing at all. The irony of this all is that this was written by me and manifested by me years ago. I use social media as a notebook and proof that I indeed created the life I am in now, good or bad. Some of you are new here. I cuss a lot, I write a lot. I sense a lot. I literally have 5 jobs. I run 4 of them. Learning to put the mic or pen down is a talent. Let me catch you up on my journey. It has been a long one. AND we are in eclipse season. EVERYTHING is coming out in the wash.
After a 30 day hiatus... I am back. Thank you for all the love,concern and support. My family suffered two deaths in the same day. One was a murder. A father and son. When I know not what to say I say nothing at all. A lot of you say too much. Social media has become a place for fake caring. It has become a place to post your memories but not to actually create memories. People have this new found attention seeking behavior, surrounding death. Yet when they were alive you had nothing for them, Let us talk about the raggedy shit we see surrounding death. Death is always certain. It is always BLOOD over bond. ONLY marriage trumps that. But yall don't want marriage anymore nor the paperwork. Yall need to understand that... when you think you have rights to the deceased.You don't. The death itself is beginning to overshadow peoples lives. Thats very raggedy and very poor and unbecoming.
As the Valentines Day weekend is upon us, I wanted to shed some light on things. A man wrote into "Dear Auntie" and asked was he wrong for ghosting somebody. I know yall thought I was going to say YES. In fact I said he was not wrong. He said he asked and told her a million times about the same thing. The behavior never changed. OK BYE. Some of yall didnt get ghosted. You got what you deserved.
Imbolc is the time of year that is between the winter solstice (darkness) and spring equinox (light). The time between Yule and Ostara. Brigid is the goddess associated with this tradition. Although I am non binary I acknowledge power in all forms. Yesterday was also Oya's feast day. Lots of maroon, flowers,physical closeness, food and drink. Oya is our Yoruba goddess associated with rainbows, lightning,winds, storms,death and rebirth, BIG Scorpio energy. Imbolc is representative of rebirth. We here in the Northern region of the country get hit hardest in the month of February.It is the coldest. We know that if we can make it until April then the snow usually subsides. Even though Imbolc is not most of our culture it is a part of my ancestry just like Oya is. It is no wonder why Brigid and Oya ...along with mamman Brigitte (Barons wife) are all synchronized. Once you know that everything is related and there are no coincidences, you can navigate your healing and fate a little better.
People always tell you to take the high road. A lot of times that means they want you to back down and be a punk ass beotch. I agree that some things are meant to be ignored. Some things are sent as a test. If I know it's a test and give you ALL the business I am NOT in the wrong. Your higher self has to deal with low vibes all the time. Just like when we speak to children, sometimes we have to get on their level. That doesn't mean I am childish. It means I want to be clear that I understand what you will NOT do and I want you to understand that too.
Today we swore in our new president and Vice President. For weeks we have all been on edge after the takeover at the capital building. Local law enforcement arrested several people in my area for their participation. Just this summer we were told no such supremacist groups existed nor were they a problem. The thing with racism is it doesn't just pop up. It was taught. It was applauded. It went unnoticed. That is not the case now. For those saying "this is not who we are" YES the fuck it is. It's just being televised now. Middle eastern countries are telling its citizens NOT to come to the U.S. because we look like a war zone. It's all fun and games and "who cares" until gas prices go up. My hope is that the reign of silence and cohesion is over.
2020 is over! We are at the first #tellthetruthtuesday show of 2021. Typically I do a recap of my year but this year I was burdened with other things. I am thankful 2020 went the way it did. It allowed me to identify racists, friends, foes, a lover and people I likely will never speak to again. When dealing with people on any level you have to handle them a certain way. Hopefully those that didn't handle you properly are never mentioned again. Onward and upward yall.
With just two weeks left in 2020 and its raggedy ass, I want to do a recap. We just had a solar and lunar eclipse. Last week was ghetto, would not recommend. This year I had a lot of humbling experiences. I don't speak on them much. Its not necessary. In 2021 we walk in our power, not cower in it. I'm thankful.
I have been away for two weeks. Grinding. Handling buiness and minding my business. A lot of yall tagged me in a clip with Kevin Samuels. You cited that we had similar things to say. I agreed. In that clip about a woman being average at best, he was correct. Then I was tagged in other clips. This man is nothing like me. In fact he doesn't like women at all. He will sleep with you but he doesnt value you. Lets chat about that. Why are yall listening to him anyways about what YOU need to do as a woman to get a man but he hasn't showed us his resume? No maam.
After watching a film about the NXIVM cult I was disgusted. Having studied and watched several documenaries on cults they all seemed to have similarities. A raggedy male leader. Issues with pedophilia, adultery,branding,brainwashing, scamming money and substandard living conditions. It got me to thinking about pimping and dating. At some point we have all given a man worship instead of love.There are so many parallels to this cult like thinking and lifestyle. We all sit and judge and assume that we could or never would be in those types of positions. Let me tell you why thats incorrect.
Today is 11/11. My mamas number. Her mothers departure date. A special number for me indeed. I didn't do a show last week because of the election. I needed to focus my energy elsewhere. This week yall get two whole weeks of wtf is going on with me. I made some abundant connections. I unplugged my expectations to thrive. On several occasions I was tested and realized I am in a much more healed space. I am thankful.
Today is a quick show on what we call "Day of the dead". We often times think that monuments and headlines honor our ancestors. There are far more simple things you can do to honor them. We should be honoring them each day with our movement and action.
It is Scorpio season. My beloved sibling celebrated their birthday yesterday along with my cousin Kim. Along with that there were so many meetings I had this week that were breakthroughs. Not just for the querent but for myself as well. This season is about life,death,transformation and rebirth. It is a good time to educate yourself on things youre afraid of or refuse to see. It is a good time to release sexual tension as well as sexual aggression. That is what that zodiac is known for. Embrace it.
Last night I drank tequila after wine. Today it feels like a small animal is in my skull kicking me. It has been a while since I let loose and went out, had dinner and watched a movie. The result had little impact on my day. I am still in bed but I needed the rest. After an action packed 7 days my body needed to slow down. I'm going to tell you why this is important.
Tonights show is another head banger with Lairent Williams. We will be discussing Covid 19 and dating in this era. If you remember he was on the show about a month ago. Let's see what we get into this #tellthetruthtuesday
A lot of people have been holding their tongue lately. Stop it. Say whats on your mind. After watching the debate with the closed caption on I was tickled. Kamala had me WEAK with her very ethnic eye rolls and facial expressions. At one point she had to assert herself and state that she had the floor and was speaking. Kind of like women have to do daily.
No I didn't watch the debate. I didn't need to. Arguing for the chance to rule a nation on television seems constructed to me. There were a few things I researched and got direct quotes about. Saturn is now direct and after 5 months of chaos and unrest in relationships and work, we can rest easy now. Saturn is the ruler of karma. If you had peace during that time it was a retrograde...not real. If you are regaining peace now, very real. Smooth sailing from here. Karmic debts are now paid. If you were at peace the last 5 months that mask is coming off now. Kind of like the presidential election.
Tonights show is for sheer enjoyment. I feel a little ratchet. Somtimes I let it out in small doses. It is the autumn equinox. Some of us celebrate Mabon as a holiday. We celebrate what we have sowed. We celebrate a fruitful harvest. We burn things that no longer serve us. We welcome Persephone back to the underworld to prepare for winter solstice and to be with her husband Hades. Fall is a time we watch things wilt and die, such as those summer flings yall had. It is a time to get back to work and enjoy the fruits of your labor. There have been so many seeds sown this year EVEN during a pandemic and I want to share with you my favorite ones.
It is definately "Knuck if you buck" season. Mars is in Aries then went into Cancer. This is where that anger inside you is comng from. Especially those of us with Mars and Aries placements. My 4th house is actually Mars in MF Aries. I am going to recap last weeks emotional show. Then we can get into all these permanent break ups we have been seeing. The God's of war have come for their offering. What did you lose in the fire?
I took a week off because it was harvest season. During that week an emotional rollercoaster ensued. This tim I was all the with the shits. Just because I am knowledgeable about different types of healing and different spaces of healing DOES NOT mean I am fully healed. This last week was a struggle. ERRRBODY got cut off. I am sure they wanted to see me go anyways. I am thankful for our time. The end. But I am going to do something Black and Latina women aren't priveledged enuogh to do......BREAK DOWN.Ya'll need to hear it. I need to do it. It's a yearly cleanse. Laugh if you want or rejoice and thats evident of your raggedy space in life. The only person that profits off my pain is ME.
As per usual on location with the #tellthetruthtuesday vibes.We will be having Atlanta based comedian Lairent Williams on the show. We will be chopping it up about Covid 19, dating, fatherhood and these hoes.Please keep in mind "hoes" is inrerchangeable and has no gender. It has been a long while since a man has stepped into the hotseat on my show. Let's get it popping.
We all think that we are ready for abundance, money and love. In my experience that is not true. To want something is not the same as working for it. In relationships I do not ask for what I am not and have not. In life I ask the universe for what I desire. On the road to those things there are always distractions. Even when you are in alignment. In fact MORE so when you are in alignment.Let's talk about how to be able to identify those distracions and work through them.
Originally I was going to finish going in on toxic mothers. With the selection of Kamala Harris as running mate to Biden I have changed my mind. Never have I ever seen so much hate coming from black people. Its disgusting. I want to talk about that instead.
This last week of events has shown me that we need to dive in and speak on toxic mama's. This issue has been suppressed in many communities. It is effecting the men we date via the way they were raised. It is effecting us as women via the way we treat our men. A toxic mother is just as bad as an absentee or abusive father. I know the bible says to honor thy mother and father. Some mother's make it hard to do that. Let us have CHUCH about it.
Once we have unplugged, we sit in the consequences then we set boundaries. Setting boundaries sounds a lot like being a bitch. It's not. It is to protect your inner bitch so he/she isn't summoned.
Last week I did a show about learning how to UNPLUG. That choice does not go without consequence. Every week I am answering ,"Dear Auntie" questions. Each action in the universe has a reaction. You may actually lose that person totally or you enter a new space with someone new. When you unplug you have to be ready for the consequences. You have to be ready for the fact that the other person may not actually give a damn. If they don't care you need to be ready to move forward in what is best and healthy for YOU.
In recent times it has been very easy for people to adopt a cut off culture. As soon as a MF does something you don't like you cut them off. You don't take into consideration their mental health, Maslows heirarchy nor how they were raised. YES I will cut a person clean off. Only after they have done me filthy several times. You were asked many times not to do it. You were told it upsets me. You were given examples of a better way to communicate your issue. You FAILED to listen. The better thing to do for ME in my evoved healed state is to just UNPLUG. Let me explain the difference.
Here we are again! I have some amazing truth's to tell and share. This week we were hit with the whole Will and Jada "entanglement" situation. Personally I mind my Black owned business. Yet it was in my face so I responded for the culture. I'm noticing a lot of MEN are butt hurt. Which proves my point that a LOT of men lack the ability to put the shoe on the other foot. Welp your shoes now fit sir. Wear em. Jada did nothing more than act identical to men when caught out there. She is our toxic queen.
Cheers to making it to July! We will discuss my week and of course the August and Jada drama.We are in Mercury retrograde AGAIN. Most of us moon children are doing fine. We are NOT in our feelings. The rest of yall are having some watery emotions.Terrible endings usually are beautiful beginnings. If you function as your highest self, you would understand that YOUR energy is vital. If you walk away from a situation that was NOT sanctioned for you it will die. YOU are the only thing that was giving it life. If that situation is revived by the other person and you allow it, we call that a work in progress. We also can label that as retrograde. Love is a choice. Love is not a feeling. If I love you I have to choose you over other things. If you do not choose me, that is not love. It may have been. That is o.k. People have these extended relationships because they continue to choose to be in them. YOU are the power source. YOU are the plug. Once you realize that where you go your energy follows, you will understand why protecting and nurturing your energy is so important.
We manifest the MOST extravagant things. Are we really ready for them? We talk a lot about alignment. This means that we are in divine order to receive what we asked for. Some of you are asking for things you aren't in alignment or agreement with. A want is NOT a need. Once we get what we manifested, are we able to maintain it? The maintenance phase is the hardest to agree with and accept. We asked spirit for something divine. Even those whispers are heard. You lied and told spirit you were ready. Spirit knew you weren't. Sometimes they give you what you want to HUMBLE yo azz. This way you stay in your damn lane next time. It doesn't negate the KARMIC consequence of NOT staying in your lane. You took someone else's blessing and wasted it with your unprepared azz and nature. Go sit down.
It is beginning to be an ,"I said what I said" kind of month.
Rest well George Floyd. Praises be that the Eric Garner law gets passed. Last week was very heavy for me. My spirit was at war. It wanted all the smoke. So I left. Flew to Los Angeles to visit my niece. It was supposed to be a quick refresh but turned into a longer stay. Protests and riots swarmed the streets of Los Angeles. My business side was active the entire time.Soul was still unrested. Rage began to fill my veins. I was horrified to find out a protest was had near my parents house back home. My son watched in amazement. I watched in horror. I flew home the next day. Defied curfew, terrified, rested and ready for anything. The protest in my home town was peaceful. I wish we could slather that on my soul.
Tonight with all the planets sans Mercury in retrograde NOW there is a Cancerian moon. People are in ALL the feels, I can share what my feels were for this week. They definately had me concerned,confused and lifted,
Todays show is about ascension, People come into your life for a reason, season, or lifetime. Apparently I gave this speech at my sisters wedding. In a time when there are 6 planets in retrograde this notion is important. Venus and Athena are responsible for love and all its trauma. This week I was noticing my own toxic behavior and addictions flaring up. Something was triggering me but it had not revealed itself yet. When it did I literally looked at the sky and said,"Yall really trying to kill me".