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Self sabotage. Getting in your own way. Blowing up your life. What is it? How does it harm you? How can I begin to stop? Enjoying the Discussion? Tell 2 friends! Follow us on social media: Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube Subscribe: https://www.theemotionalabusediscussion.com/ Volunteer Opportunities Donate! Whatever you have, no pressure, love either way Buy Me a Coffee! https://ko-fi.com/dvdiscussion Paypal.me/eadiscussion Resources https://quiz.theemotionalabusediscussion.com/ https://www.theemotionalabusediscussion.com/aapi-army-toolkit https://www.thehotline.org/

No. Not unless YOU want to. Not unless you are ready. Not unless it will help YOU in your healing goal. Also... make sure to show the same compassion and forgiveness towards yourself. Enjoying the Discussion? Tell 2 friends! Follow us on social media: Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube Subscribe: https://www.theemotionalabusediscussion.com/ Volunteer Opportunities Donate! Whatever you have, no pressure, love either way Buy Me a Coffee! https://ko-fi.com/dvdiscussion Paypal.me/eadiscussion Resources https://quiz.theemotionalabusediscussion.com/ https://www.theemotionalabusediscussion.com/aapi-army-toolkit https://www.thehotline.org/

Whenever I am asked this question, its usually with a sense of dread, self loathing, or disbelief... or all 3 and more! Its hard coping with the sense of loss and grief of someone who was horrible to you. It is ok to miss an abusive partner. It is ok to grieve the loss of that relationship. Missing an abuser doesn't mean you deserve the abuse, or made it up. Enjoying the Discussion? Tell 2 friends! Follow us on social media: Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube Subscribe: https://www.theemotionalabusediscussion.com/ Volunteer Opportunities Donate! Whatever you have, no pressure, love either way Buy Me a Coffee! https://ko-fi.com/dvdiscussion Paypal.me/eadiscussion Resources https://quiz.theemotionalabusediscussion.com/ https://www.theemotionalabusediscussion.com/aapi-army-toolkit https://www.thehotline.org/

Episode 1 of our Holiday Stocking Stuffer series... Am I Being Emotionally Abused? Bottom Line.... trust your gut! MORE RESOURCES: if you are questioning if you are being emotionally abused, we have a free tool that could help: QUIZ More Podcast Episodes on Emotional Abuse: Part 1, Part 2 Enjoying the Discussion? Tell 2 friends! Follow us on social media: Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube Subscribe: https://www.theemotionalabusediscussion.com/ Volunteer Opportunities Donate! Whatever you have, no pressure, love either way Buy Me a Coffee! https://ko-fi.com/dvdiscussion Paypal.me/eadiscussion Resources https://quiz.theemotionalabusediscussion.com/ https://www.theemotionalabusediscussion.com/aapi-army-toolkit https://www.thehotline.org/

Self hate is an issue I have been combating for years since my abuse. After countless times of being torn down, broken, and encouraged to hate myself, breaking the habit is difficult. Today, I am joined by Nancy Paloma, licensed therapist and mental health expert for a therapy session about self hate. Why do we feel it? How do we move on? You can find Nancy on Instagram @paloma_therapy and her website https://palomatherapy.com/ Enjoying the Discussion? Tell 2 friends! Follow us on social media: Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube Subscribe: https://www.theemotionalabusediscussion.com/ Volunteer Opportunities Donate! Whatever you have, no pressure, love either way Buy Me a Coffee! https://ko-fi.com/dvdiscussion Paypal.me/eadiscussion Resources https://quiz.theemotionalabusediscussion.com/ https://www.theemotionalabusediscussion.com/aapi-army-toolkit https://www.thehotline.org/

How can I help? Help myself as a survivor. Help my friend. Help my family. Knowing how to help survivors of emotional abuse and domestic violence is challenging. Especially when the survivor is AAPI. Today, we break down how you can help. To follow the AAPI Army 2021 campaign, visit our website theemotionalabusediscussion.com Follow us on social media: Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube Donate To Our Cause: Support, Paypal Volunteer Opportunities AAPI Specific resources: Asian and Pacific Islander Institute on Domestic Violence 1-415-954-9988 www.apiidv.org Committee Against Anti-Asian Violence (CAAAV) 1-212- 473-6485 www.caaav.org Manavi 1-732-435-1414 www.manavi.org

Many AAPI survivors face emotional abuse their families. From a single perpetrators, or many at once. The pressure they face leads to them hiding abuse to avoid community shame, stay in violent relationships, or continue the cycle in the future after years of the abuse being normalized. It is a major aspect of AAPI abuse we don't talk about. For week 8 of our AAPI Army Campaign, we tackle this issue as well as reflect on the ways societal abuse mirrors cultural and community abuse. To follow the AAPI Army 2021 campaign, visit our website theemotionalabusediscussion.com Follow us on social media: Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube Donate To Our Cause: Support, Paypal Volunteer Opportunities Important Dates! Giveaway 1: September 13, 2021 via Instagram & Facebook Beers, Cheers, & Charity Fundraiser: October 2, 2021 @ Postdoc Brewing Giveaway 2: October 25, 2021, via Instagram & Facebook AAPI Toolkit Launch: October 28, 2021

For week 7 of our AAPI Army campaign, we are joined by TEAD teammate Julia Grindstone for a deep drive into the Crouching Tiger-Lady, Hyper-Sexualized Asian Geisha Doll Stereotype. Because although our culture has normalized the ¨I like Asians¨ fetish, this objectification of AAPI women adds layers of violence and vulnerability to our lives and has roots in racism, American Imperialism, and misogyny. To follow the AAPI Army 2021 campaign, visit our website theemotionalabusediscussion.com Follow us on social media: Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube Donate To Our Cause: Support, Paypal Volunteer Opportunities Subscribe! Mailing List

Anti-Asian hate crimes rose nearly 150% in 2020 according to NBC. A mass murder in Georgia left 6 Asian women dead. Structural racism against AAPIs routinely erases and minimizes our struggles and trauma. For week 6 of our AAPI Army Campaign, we examine how society's treatment of AAPIs… and how it perpetuates violence against us. To follow the AAPI Army 2021 campaign, visit our website theemotionalabusediscussion.com Follow us on social media: Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube Donate To Our Cause: Support, Paypal Volunteer Opportunities Important Dates! Giveaway 1: September 13, 2021 via Instagram & Facebook Beers, Cheers, & Charity Fundraiser: October 2, 2021 @ Postdoc Brewing Giveaway 2: October 25, 2021, via Instagram & Facebook AAPI Toolkit Launch: October 28, 2021

For week 5 of our AAPI Army Campaign we welcome Yi Lam of the Asian Task Force Against Domestic Violence. As an advocate who works with AAPI clients, Yi Lam shares her experience and offers insight into specific barriers they face from their families, culture, and American culture. Among them: language barriers, Anti-Asian Hate Crimes, and cultural normalization. To follow the AAPI Army 2021 campaign, visit our website theemotionalabusediscussion.com Follow us on social media: Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube Donate To Our Cause: Support, Paypal Volunteer Opportunities Important Dates! Giveaway 1: September 13, 2021 via Instagram & Facebook Beers, Cheers, & Charity Fundraiser: October 2, 2021 @ Postdoc Brewing Giveaway 2: October 25, 2021, via Instagram & Facebook AAPI Toolkit Launch: October 28, 2021

Welcome back to week 4 of our AAPI Army Campaign. Our next survivor has overcome child trafficking and familial abuse. As a child she was sold to a sweatshop. As an adult, she worked as a stripper. Today she works with clients on emotional and spiritual healing. We tend not to validate survivors who choose to participate in sex work... or sex in general. However this is extremely important for the AAPI community due to historical and ongoing objectification and sexualization. Whatever a survivor chooses, it is their choice. They have agency over their bodies and lives. And as allies and survivors… we are all about helping people recover and embrace their agency. Welcome Neiva To follow the AAPI Army 2021 campaign, visit our website theemotionalabusediscussion.com Follow us on social media: Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube Donate To Our Cause: Support, Paypal Volunteer Opportunities Important Dates! Giveaway 1: September 13, 2021 via Instagram & Facebook Beers, Cheers, & Charity Fundraiser: October 2, 2021 @ Postdoc Brewing Giveaway 2: October 25, 2021, via Instagram & Facebook AAPI Toolkit Launch: October 28, 2021

Welcome back to week 3 in our AAPI Army Campaign. Our next survivor was fundamental to our campaign. Stories like hers are what helped us contextualize and analyze our experiences. Stories like this help us find words to convey and relate our trauma. Realizing you are not the only one, and that someone else has felt what you felt and that you are not crazy… Stories like these help you find the words you are looking for. Today we speak to Filipino survivor Naomi, who tells her story of familial emotional abuse, how she was able to validate her trauma, and the need to look at a survivor's experience from within their cultural framework. Welcome to Week 3 of our AAPI Army Campaign. To follow the AAPI Army 2021 campaign, visit our website theemotionalabusediscussion.com Follow us on social media: Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube Donate To Our Cause: Support, Paypal Volunteer Opportunities Important Dates! Giveaway 1: September 13, 2021 via Instagram & Facebook Beers, Cheers, & Charity Fundraiser: October 2, 2021 @ Postdoc Brewing Giveaway 2: October 25, 2021, via Instagram & Facebook AAPI Toolkit Launch: October 28, 2021

We need to talk about the ugly side of Asian American Parenting.  This week we are sharing our first survivor story as part of our AAPI Army campaign. As a Filipino American, Goldie´s story traces a familiar through-line many AAPI survivors can relate to. A lack of boundaries from parents as a girl. Growing up in a culture that encourages you not to speak back to your elders. Finding yourself trapped in domestic violence as an adult because you never had examples of healthy relationships. Working hard to undo this emotionally abusive upbringing to end the cycle of violence for your future family. Goldie´s story highlights many crucial elements when looking at emotional abuse, especially for AAPI survivors including: How cultural influences can influence emotional abuse in AAPI families.  How childhood abuse can prime survivors for abusive partnerships as adults.  How childhood survivors of emotional abuse are at risk of perpetuating the cycle of violence when they become parents. And, maybe the most devastating part, how this abuse can follow you throughout your life. Welcome Goldie.  And Welcome to Week 2 of our AAPI Army Campaign. To follow the AAPI Army 2021 campaign, visit our website theemotionalabusediscussion.com Follow us on social media: Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube Donate To Our Cause: Support, Paypal  Volunteer Opportunities Important Dates! Giveaway 1: September 13, 2021 via  Instagram & Facebook Beers, Cheers, & Charity Fundraiser: October 2, 2021 @ Postdoc Brewing Giveaway 2: October 25, 2021, via  Instagram & Facebook AAPI Toolkit Launch: October 28, 2021

To be Asian American Pacific Islander (AAPI) in this country is to feel ignored, minimized, and invisible. It's to feel like you don't belong anywhere. You're too white for other Asians, and too Exotic for Americans. For myself, my team, and countless survivors, being AAPI is an inseparable part of our experience, affecting how we were abused, how we were treated as survivors, and how we process our trauma. For the next 9 weeks, we will be sharing stories of AAPI survivors, as well as deep diving into the history of racism and objectification of Asians in the US, explore the unique barriers Asians face, and how to navigate it as a survivor and an ally. This is our AAPI ARMY Fall 2021 Campaign. It is our way of filling in the gaps we see in resources and tools for Asian Americans. We are trying to create what we ourselves needed as survivors, to combat abuse from outside our communities.. And within it. We are creating what we wish we had. And we hope you will join us. Welcome to the AAPI Army. To follow the AAPI Army 2021 campaign, visit our website theemotionalabusediscussion.com Follow us on social media: Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube Donate To Our Cause: Support, Paypal Volunteer Opportunities Important Dates! Giveaway 1: September 13, 2021 via Instagram & Facebook Beers, Cheers, & Charity Fundraiser: October 2, 2021 @ Postdoc Brewing Giveaway 2: October 25, 2021, via Instagram & Facebook AAPI Toolkit Launch: October 28, 2021

大家好. We have officially kicked off our AAPI Army Campaign for 2021! For the next 9 weeks we are bringing you survivor stories, research and analysis, concluding with the launch of our AAPI Army Survivor Toolkit. The name of our campaign, AAPI Army, is a tribute to us, survivors and allies, boldly advocating to break the cycle of violence and abuse in the AAPI communities, seeking to share the educational tools and bravely begin the discussions that we wish we had as survivors. Each week is a new survivor story or a deep dive into emotional abuse and domestic violence in AAPI communities. Follow on Instagram, Facebook, and our website for updates on SWAG GIVEAWAYS, content releases, and up to date information. New video uploaded every Tuesday on YouTube: User/TheEmotionalAbuseDiscussion New Podcast Episode every Wednesday on all major platforms New Blog on our website every Thursday Support our Campaign: paypal.me/eadiscussion Welcome to the AAPI Army

Today's guest is an incredibly brave survivor. Her story is one we do not hear often. It is from a woman of color. A queer woman of color. A survivor of same sex abuse, still being contacted by her abuser 4 decades late. . This survivor is now an advocate, having volunteered at the National Domestic Violence Hotline and rape crisis centers. Despite her amazing work, she stated during our interview that they still lack information on how to aid same sex domestic violence survivors. . This is why she is sharing her story. It is her belief, and mine, that by listening to and amplifying the voices of same sex DV survivors, we can create a space where more survivors feel empowered to come forward... and we as a culture can begin to accept, embrace, and aid them properly. . Thank you to this brave woman for trusting me, and you the audience, with this story. . If you are in a same sex domestic violence relationship, you can call the LGBT National Helpline at 1-888-843-4564. Their hours are: Monday through Friday, 4pm - 12am ET. Saturday and Sunday, 12pm - 5pm ET. You can also email them at: help@lgbthotline.org . If you are an LGBTQIA youth in a domestic violence relationship, you can call the LGBT National Youth Hotline at 1-800-246-7743 . Support Buy me a coffee Follow my new non profit TEAD . Join the Discussion thedvdiscussion@gmail.com Instagram Facebook Tik Tok LinkedIn YouTube Twitter

Happy I am officially coming out as Bisexual! . I had a recent revelation that I had lingering internalized trauma from my homophobic abuser... as well as internal shame from a society that depicts bisexual women through the male gaze. . But I realized that being Bi is who I am. And I chose to annouce it not only because I am proud to be a Bi woman of color, but for others like me who are experiencing similar trauma. . This is my story and my revelation and part of my healing journey. . Support Buy me a coffee Support my new non profit EA Discussion . Join the Discussion thedvdiscussion@gmail.com Instagram Facebook Tik Tok LinkedIn YouTube Twitter

I was sexually assaulted in my early twenties while training Krav Maga, a story I shared in my recent episode, Hey Martial Arts, Time to Break Up With Toxic Masculinity . After the episode aired, a woman with a similar story reached out. This woman and I, we trained together. We were friends. And we both were victimized by the same organization. . Hearing her story brought me a sense of relief I hadn't realized I needed. She agreed to share it on the podcast (under the condition of anonymity) in hopes that it will encourage and inspire other survivors. . Support Buy me a coffee Support my new non profit EA Discussion . Join the Discussion thedvdiscussion@gmail.com Instagram Facebook Tik Tok LinkedIn YouTube Twitter

Navigating the legal system is challenging. Not knowing what to expect is intimidating. And its not for everyone. . The legal system can be traumatic. But it can also provide a sense of validation and empowerment. . Today we break it down. Where to start, what to expect, and how to prepare. . Featuring Riddhi Mukhopadhyay, the Executive Director of the Sexual Violence Law Center. . SV Law Center provided free legal services and advocacy for survivors in WA state. Contact them through their website: http://www.svlawcenter.org/ or call toll free (844) 991-7852 . If you are outside the state of WA and require legal services, you can search for services by state at https://www.womenslaw.org/ . You can also call the National Domestic Violence Hotline to be referred: 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) or visit their website at thehotline.org . Support Buy me a coffee Support my new non profit . Join the Discussion thedvdiscussion@gmail.com Instagram Facebook Tik Tok LinkedIn YouTube Twitter

I knew I was unhappy, but I could not leave my abuser. The thought made me anxious and panicked. At the same time, the thought of being near him made me physically sick. Why? . Today I break down the phenomenon behind this. Trauma Bonding. . Here to help explain what Trauma Bonds are, and why this is crucial to understanding how to help survivors, welcome Dr. Michelle Finneran. Check out Dr. Finnerans book ¨Surviving Domestic Abuse: Formal and Informal Supports and Services” (link: https://www.drmichelefinneran.com/) . Support Buy me a coffee Support my new non profit . Join the Discussion thedvdiscussion@gmail.com Instagram Facebook Tik Tok LinkedIn YouTube Twitter Sponsorships: off for this episod

Symptoms of strangulation can appear weeks or hours after the initial incident. Death can occur within minutes, or weeks later. An incident of non-fatal strangulation increases the risk of extreme violence. It increases the risk of being killed by an intimate partner by 10 times. . Despite the terrifying consequences, many cases do not involve physical marks or visible signs. Which means, first responders who attend survivors of non-fatal strangulation may miss opportunities to help survivors. . Today we talk about how one state became the first to provide trained specialists for survivors of non fatal strangulation, and the potential for other states to follow. . Featuring Senator Manka Dhingra. . Support Buy me a coffee Support my new non profit . Join the Discussion thedvdiscussion@gmail.com Instagram Facebook Tik Tok LinkedIn YouTube Twitter

TW: Rape, sexual assault, and I say the word penis more times than intended. . For the end of Sexual Assault Awareness Month, I wanted to explore the consequences of our cultural gender norms and toxic masculinity on men and boys. . The fallout for girls and women (trans women are women, trans rights are human rights) are obvious. Think Chanel Miller and Trans Panic Defense. . However, if we want to break the cycle of violence, we must also examine how toxic masculinity is harmful to men and boys. As the recent WW84 movie depicts, male survivors are often parodied and overlooked. . Today, we explore this intersection of a system that sets men and boys up to perpetuate violence, while also subjecting them to abuse as well. . We examine how they made Wonder Woman a rapist. . Support Buy me a coffee Support my new non profit . Join the Discussion thedvdiscussion@gmail.com Instagram Facebook Tik Tok LinkedIn YouTube Twitter

Spring has sprung, and Covid vaccinations are rolling out at a slightly better than expected pace (yes I realize the bar is super low but...its the little victories I guess). . While we are all starved for human interaction, we must also recognize the dangers in dating. Particularly, online dating. In our society especially, we tend to romanticize toxic behavior that are red flags for abuse. . Today, we talk about these red flags. Because I am also in need of socializing I brought on 2 amazing women, Danielle Dietzek and Julie Griggs, the founders of Fourplay Social. . For more Fourplay: https://www.fourplaysocial.com/ Check our their instagram @fourplaysocial . Support Buy me a coffee Support my new non profit . Join the Discussion thedvdiscussion@gmail.com Instagram Facebook Tik Tok LinkedIn YouTube Twitter

Happy Sexual Assault Awareness Month! To celebrate we are welcoming the incredible John-Michael Lander. As an athlete, Lander was groomed and sexually abused by his coaches, benefactors, and medical team which resulted in years of PTSD, depression, anxiety, and suicide attempts. He is now an advocate, speaker, and author, breaking his silence to help other survivors. His research, The Grooming Trifecta, provides how grooming effects everyone no matter their sexual orientation, gender, or religious beliefs. Check out John-Michael Lander´s work at https://anathletessilence.com/ This episode was made in collaboration with Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence. To learn more about Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence, check out their website at https://breakthesilencedv.org/ and their Insta @BTSADV Support Buy me a coffee Support my new non profit . Join the Discussion thedvdiscussion@gmail.com Instagram Facebook Tik Tok LinkedIn YouTube Twitter

I used to think teaching self defense was the answer to domestic violence, until I was confronted with the reality that the martial arts world is more focused on embracing toxic masculine traits than preaching peace. . So what are the options for survivors who want to learn self defense, but need trauma informed training and an empathetic instructor? . Today we speak to two instructors from Sleeping Tiger Fitness, who discuss what trauma informed self defense training looks like, how to become trauma informed as a self defense instructor, and why traditional ¨stress drills¨ are more harmful than confidence building. Also a digression or two into waterboarding and strobe lights. . Check out Sleeping Tiger Fitness on Facebook , Instagram, and Tik Tok . Support Buy me a coffee Support my new non profit . Join the Discussion thedvdiscussion@gmail.com Instagram Facebook Tik Tok LinkedIn YouTube Twitter

Last episode we discussed the importance of self love for survivors. But how do we learn self love? Many of us grew up watching our parents deal with a lack of self love, and this was passed to us. So how do we begin to understand it as adults? . To speak on this topic, we welcome self love expert, life coach, and the incredible inspiration Latarsha Haughton of Break the Silence, Healing the Pain. . To learn more about Latarsha Haughton, check out her wesite www.btshtp.org and on FB and Insta @bts_healingthepain. Latarsha offers self-love support groups, coaching sessions, and more. . If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

80% of parents do not believe Teen Dating Violence is real. However, 1 in 3 teens reports being physically or sexually abused by a partner. More than half of women and men who have been physically or sexually abused, or stalked by a dating partner, first experienced abuse between the ages of 11-24. . So why? Why do so many youth and teens experience dating violence? How is Teen Dating Violence different from Domestic Violence? And why has Teen Dating Violence only recently been recognized? . This episode was made in collaboration with Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence. To learn more about Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence, check out their website at https://breakthesilencedv.org/ and their Insta @BTSADV If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

How many times have you been at work, at home, in public, a human being alive in the world...and suddenly needed a menstruation product? How many times have you used toilet paper, anything in reach because you did not have anything? How often have you needed to use something unsanitary because you could not afford it? When we discuss safety planning and packing emergency kits, menstruation products aren't typically mentioned. However, proper hygiene during menstruation is critical to prevent illness, long term health issues, and infertility. For survivors facing domestic violence, these products can be scarce due to financial abuse, lack of resources, and a million other reasons.  It's another barrier to thriving, and another source of shame. As today's guest speaker, Madeline Barrasso PM of the D.A.S.H. Kit for I Support the Girls says, ¨A woman shouldn't have to choose between feeding herself and her personal health.  Every woman should have the ability to maintain her dignity.¨ Barrasso shares her program ¨D.A.S.H. Kit¨, a program dedicated to providing free menstruation products to survivors in need.  Visit https://isupportthegirls.org/ for more information. If you want to join the Discussion please write in.  Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion.  We all have our stories.  And they deserve to be heard.

Do you wish you could help survivors of domestic violence? Do you think survivors deserve protection from abusers with access to guns? And do you agree that survivors should not sacrifice employment opportunities and child care in order to access legal help that could potentially save their lives? GREAT NEWS There is something you can do to help!!!! If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

Happy Anniversary! This episode is the 1 year anniversary for the Domestic Violence Discussion...and we have so many reasons to celebrate! This year the DV Discussion is collaborating with Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence, an International nonprofit organization led by survivors, with a goal of serving victims, survivors, and families affected by domestic violence. BTSADV has a huge community of survivors who are empowered to share their stories, connect with fellow survivors, and heal after abuse. For 2021, DVD and BTSADV are working together to share resources and stories to help inspire, empower, and help survivors. Today, our inaugural collab episode, we are sharing what it means to THRIVE. What does it mean to Thrive? What does it look like? Happy 2021. To learn more about Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence, check out their website at https://breakthesilencedv.org/ and their Insta https://www.instagram.com/btsadv/ If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

What are the warning signs the abuse will get worse? What are the warning signs the abuser may try to kill? Although there is no way to know for sure, there are warning signs that can indicate the violence will get worse. Today, we discuss these warning signs, as well as read through Jacqueline Campbell's Danger Assessment . If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

Over half of all female murders are by current or former intimate partners. This year, the COVID-19 pandemic has driven rates of domestic violence and DV related homicides. We know this trend exists. But what can we do about it? Today we welcome special guest Kathryn Jacob, the CEO and President of Safe Haven of Tarrent County. Kathryn Jacob is an expert in her field with over 20 years experience, and is a leader in the development of early intervention techniques to reduce domestic violence fatalities. We discuss her work at Safe Haven, the results of the 2019 Fatality Report, what its like working with law enforcement amid the murders of Breonna Taylor, George Floyde, etc, and how the COVID 19 pandemic has effected fatality rates in Tarrant County. Learn more about Safe Haven of Tarrant County at https://www.safehaventc.org/. Download their 2019 Fatality Report at https://www.safehaventc.org/safehaven-presents-the-2019-tarrant-county-fatality-review/ If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have stories. And they deserve to be heard.

How do I know my partner is just hurtful, or an abuser?  At what point does their behavior cross the line into domestic violence? It can be hard to tell, especially with the subtler actions. Today, we discuss warning signs and red flags that indicate abuse may start to occur, or is possibly already happening.  If you want to join the Discussion please write in.  Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion.  We all have our stories.  And they deserve to be heard.

This is a question we do not address enough. I have never been asked this. The survivors I have interacted with have never been asked. I think people assume that once a survivor leaves, they feel relieved, happy, joyous… Partly, yes. But in reality, its so much more complicated. If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

Today we discuss self care. What is is, how to practice is, and why it is an important tool for everyone. If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

Previously, we discussed 3 types of trauma responses: fight, flight, and freeze.  Today, we discuss the 4th.  If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion.  We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

Often, this podcast discusses how survivors of domestic violence, their children, and sometimes the people who act as their support and safety network,  are survivors of traumatic experiences. The topic of trauma appears often because understanding trauma, how common it is, how it works, and how it affects the way a survivor interacts with the world is crucial in being an ally. Not only is trauma more common than historically viewed, it has long lasting consequences for those who experience it.  Trauma can permanently alter the way a person acts, thinks, feels, and responds, even in ways that we don't expect. However, we as a society still have yet to fully understand, utilize, or even acknowledge the cause and effect of trauma on survivors. If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion.  We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

The internet loves to label someone as TRIGGERED The colloquial internet definition has become shorthand for: I am upset But when discussing survivors of domestic violence, being triggered means something extremely different and a lot more nuanced And knowing what a trigger is, and how to respond can be the difference between supporting a survivor, or echoing their abuser. If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

Hey guys! Couple announcements and an incredible guest interview! Once again, we are in voting season! For those of us who have mail in ballots, no excuses. Time to get out out vote! And if you are looking for an incredible candidate who will be a fierce advocate for Washington... T'wina Nobles is running for State Senate in the 28th district. Nobles is an advocate for representing, empowering, and elevating women and girls, especially young women of color. She is the founder of Ladies First (@Ladies1stOrg) and if elected, will be the sole Black voice in the Washington State Senate. We discuss her work with Ladies First, her reaction to the recent Black Lives Matter protests, and her thoughts around ¨Defund the Police.¨ Check out her website https://twinanobles.com/ and Twitter: @TwinaNobles If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

I want to share something I wish I had when I was leaving my abuser.  A safety plan.  Thinking back, this is one of the things I needed most.   Today, we talk about what a safety plan is and how to make your own.  If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion.  We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

In the next couple months, our nation will reach a critical moment that could redefine our lives for the next few years. We have an opportunity to voice our concerns about diminishing women's rights, channel our anger and frustration over our country's failure to reckon with White Supremacy, and reshape the governing body to those who we believe represent our values and morals. Today, a discussion with a candidate who´s issues reflect the intersection of homelessness, racism, immigration, and domestic violence. Sharlett Mena is running for the 29th Legislative District in Washington State. Find out more at her website https://www.sharlettmena.org/ Check her out on Instagram: @electsharlett and Twitter: @ElectSharlett

As fond as we are of asking ¨Why doesn't she just leave?¨, it's hard to find shelter if you're a domestic violence survivor. In the US, the first battered women's shelters did not exist before 1970. Fast forward to 2020, and the demand still outweighs the available resources. The perception that finding emergency shelter is "easy" is dangerously misleading. Today we discuss the reality. If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

Welcome back! This season we are going back to the basics, tackling questions about available resources for survivors and allies. Questions such as, what is a Helpline? What is a women's shelter? How can I help? Today, we are starting with all things Helpline. What is it? Who answers the phone? Who is allowed to call? Welcome back to season 3. If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

In the season finale of our COVID19 season, we welcome special guest RACHEL LOUISE SNYDER. From Syder's inclusion of the perpetrator's perspective, to the question of accountability, to her unflinching view of our current administration's influence on the domestic violence world, Snyder's groundbreaking work tackles domestic violence as the multifaceted issue it is. Her delivery is matter of fact. Accessible. And Empathetic. She joins us today for a special discussion. No Visible Bruises was awarded the 2018 Lukas Work-in-Progress Award and was a 2019 finalist for the Kirkus Award, the National Book Critics Circle Award, the LA Times Book Award, and the New York Public Library's Bernstein Award for Excellence in Journalism. If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

HAPPY PRIDE!!! Break out your rainbow flags and glitter because we are celebrating PRIDE with a special guest. Please welcome Dr. Sheena Howard for a discussion on her new novel “Nina's Whisper”. “Nina's Whisper” explores domestic violence in an LGBTQ relationship, an area that is severely underrepresented despite the fact that 44% of lesbians experience domestic violence. Read it. Also, for every book sold, $1 is donated to Womanspace, a non-profit domestic violence organization. I hope this discussion inspires you, and challenges your idea of who can be a victim and who can be an abuser. And I hope this inspires more conversations about a public health crisis that is largely ignored. To learn more about Dr. Howard, check out her website: www.sheenachoward.com Visit her social media, Instagram @drsheenahoward and Twitter @Dr Sheena Howard If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

"A riot is the language of the unheard"

Today, we check in with Angel Charley, Executive Director, and Curtison Badonie, Media & Communications Coordinator, from the Coalition to Stop Violence Against Native Women. We discuss how the COVID19 pandemic has effected Native communities and the unique challenges Native women are facing. Check out the CSVANW site for more information: link If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

The COVID19 crisis continues, erecting barriers for survivors. In particular, those seeking protection from abusers with deadly weapons. Here in Washington State, there have been 3 domestic violence homicides in the last couple weeks. So what happens when lawmakers fail to provide emergency protections for survivors? To read the original Proclamation: link Gov. Jay Inslee's statement: link Sen. Dhingra's statement: link Prosecutors and Police response: link Senator Mark Schoesler's response: link If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

The first anti immigration laws in the US prohibited the entry of Chinese Women. Chinese citizens were labeled a “yellow peril” and were considered an inferior race. Chinese children were barred from white schools, then later schooled under “separate but equal” laws. In the 1960's, the stereotype of the “model minority” was minted and wielded as a weapon against Black Americans to oppose the activism of the Civil Rights Movement. Fast Forward to today. May, 2020. Asian Pacific Island Heritage Month (APIHM). This month, we celebrate APIHM against the backdrop of the COVID19 pandemic, where we are seeing an upswell of racism against Chinese Americans, and other people who are mistaken for Chinese. Today on the podcast, we welcome special guest Gina Loh of Domestic Violences Services of Snohomish County to unpack this history, and what the COVID19 pandemic reveals about how Asian American's are viewed in this country. Check out Domestic Violence Services of Snohomish County https://dvs-snoco.org/ If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.

The mere presence of a gun in a domestic violence household increases the risk to the survivor by 500%. Guns are the most commonly used method of homicide in domestic violence murders. The number of domestic violence related murders using firearms increased by 26% from 2010 to 2017. So what do the spiking sales of guns during COVID19 mean for survivors already under lockdown with their abusers? Today we welcome special guest Katherine Thompson, CEO and Founder of IPV Educators to discuss the intersection of skyrocketing gun sales and the effect on survivors during the COVID19 pandemic. ipveducators@gmail.com Twitter: @ ipveducators Website: http://www.ipveducators.com If you want to join the Discussion please email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com, or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard. Sources: Lawcenter.giffords.org nytimes.com

Imagine living in a community where 4 out of 5 mothers, sisters, daughters, and friends will experience violence in their lifetime. Where the people you love and know are murdered at a rate 10x higher than the national average. Where the majority of perpetrators live outside your community, but are rarely prosecuted due to the complexity of legal system surrounding you. And where for the longest time, and even today, these issues have been largely ignored by society. . Today, we hear from two advocates fighting to break that silence. . Special guest: Coalition to Stop Violence Against Native Women . If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.