Podcasts about Teen dating violence

What warning signs did we all miss? In the wake of Gabby Petito's tragic murder by her fiancé Brian Laundrie, situational awareness expert Kelly Sayre joins host Maria MacMullin to fulfill Joe Petito's call to action—using his daughter's story as a learning tool to help others recognize the dangerous patterns of abuse before they turn deadly.Kelly breaks down abusive behaviors through the lens of situational awareness, defining it as "using all your senses and intuition to notice when something is off in your environment, understanding what it means to your safety, and taking action." This framework provides listeners with practical tools to identify potentially dangerous relationships, whether in their own lives or those of loved ones.The conversation examines specific red flags from Gabby's relationship: her tendency to take all blame during the Moab police encounter, Brian's tactics to isolate her from friends and family, his financial abuse that undermined her independence, and the controlling behaviors disguised as concern. Most importantly, Kelly emphasizes that severe domestic violence rarely begins with physical attacks—it starts with psychological manipulation that gradually escalates.Perhaps most powerful is the discussion about intuition as a biological safety mechanism. "Intuition is not a prankster," Kelly explains. "It's simply trying to let you know something in your environment is off." Both experts encourage listeners to trust that gut feeling when something doesn't seem right in a relationship, as this instinct exists to preserve our safety.Whether you're concerned about your own relationship or trying to support someone you love, this episode offers crucial insights into recognizing abuse patterns early. Trust your intuition, maintain your boundaries, and remember that knowledge is power when it comes to personal safety. Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it—it could save a life.

Teen Dating Violence isn't talked about enough, and yet it's all too common. Toxic relationships can happen to any of us at any age, and some cross the line into abuse, manipulation, and violence.  Dylan and Estelle, students at The Bush School in Seattle, sat with Audrey Comber to dismantle stigmas around violence in teen relationships, and discuss ways to recognize warning signs before problems take hold. Audrey is a licensed social worker and Trauma Therapist at LightHeart Associates with a background in interpersonal violence and sexual assault, and as a survivor she shares her own journey from recovery to resiliency.  LightHeart Associates is committed to providing tailored mental health treatment including therapy and psychiatric medication management to individuals of all ages and walks of life—from children and teenagers to adults, couples, and families. LightHeart offers telehealth and in-person care at their locations in Redmond, Edmonds, Federal Way and Northgate along with two new clinics opening in Fremont and Bothell later this year. With immediate availability for new clients, their intake team is committed to supporting you in navigating your personal mental health journey, with more at lightheartassociates.com/ Presented by c89.5 in partnership with Seattle Children's, Coping 101 is an ongoing series led by students in Nathan Hale High School's Podcast Club. The project aims to destigmatize mental health from a teen's perspective, and is made possible with local support from LightHeart Associates, Hansmire Builders, and 4Culture. No matter our age or background we all face challenges, and there are healthy ways to cope. Get started with more episodes, and find community-relevant resources online at c895.org/coping101

On this episode of Peachtree Corners Life, host Rico Figliolini speaks with Gwinnett County Solicitor General Lisamarie Bristol about her work addressing the county's growing case volume and implementing new justice initiatives.  Key Takeaways & Highlights:Understanding the Solicitor General's Role – How the office prosecutes misdemeanors, traffic offenses, and quality-of-life cases.4,000-Case Backlog Solution – Strategies to streamline processes and improve case resolution speed.New Legal Resource Website – How Gwinnett residents can access critical legal information and victim advocacy services.Diversion Program Success – Over 1,400 successful cases, providing alternatives to prosecution and preventing repeat offenses.Special Victims Unit – Dedicated to handling sensitive cases like misdemeanor sex crimes and vehicular homicides.Teen Dating Violence & Social Media Risks – How technology is impacting legal cases involving young people.Expanding Access to Legal Support – Partnerships with Mosaic Georgia, PADV, and HIMSA House to assist victims and underserved communities.Justice System Challenges – Addressing mental health, substance abuse, and legislative changes affecting prosecution.Listen in for an insightful conversation on justice, reform, and the future of law enforcement in Gwinnett County!

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Join Sarah's Inn as we highlighting Teen Dating Violence Action Month. Our awesome Youth Committee has a roundtable discussion on dating and technology. To learn more about Sarah's Inn, please visit www.sarahsinn.org. If you are experiencing domestic violence and are looking for support services, trained advocates are available 24/7 at the Sarah's Inn crisis line - 708-386-4225.Follow us online at: Instagram @sarahs_inn X (formerly known as Twitter) @sarahs_inn Facebook @sarahsinntogetherstrong

I once bought a pair or cheap imitation Oakley sunglasses from a street vendor in NYC. I knew they weren't real, but they looked like the real thing for a whole lot less money. So I bought them. Annd they lasted a matter of days. A cheap knockoff isn't ever going to be the same quality as the real deal. You deserve the real deal in your relationships, but cheap imitations can look really convincing and you may find yourself settling for a knockoff-maybe without even realizing it. Today I talk about the REAL qualities of a healthy relationship versus the cheap imitations.1. Love vs. Lust.2. Protection/comfort/loyalty vs. Control.3. BEING in a real relationship vs. SAYING you are in a relationship.4. Service vs. Servitude.5. True Self Worth vs. Feeling Worth Because You Are With Someone6. Support vs. Strings Attached7. Trust vs. Tell You What You Want to Hear8. Respect vs. Fear Based ComplianceLove should never feel like a trap or a transaction. You deserve better! Here are some resources if you need help getting out of the situation you are in.RESOURCE LINKS:https://www.teendvmonth.org/resources/https://www.loveisrespect.orghttps://jbws.org/services/#helplinehttps://www.breakthecycle.org/Send us a textSupport the showPlease consider clicking below to make a one time donation to help "Monday Mindset With Isha Warriors" reach more people across the world!Donate Here

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, a time dedicated to shedding light on an issue that affects far too many young people. Sobeida Rosa, Community Educator with Domestic Violence Services of Lancaster County, works to educate the public about Domestic Violence and resources available at DVS Lancaster. “Teens can also be involved or experience these types of things within their dating. And it's super important to raise awareness because we want to make sure we can try to do some prevention, some reframing so that they can in turn be adults with healthy relationships and kind of get these warning signs early before, you know, the added pressure of adulthood on top of being in a relationship, “said Rosa. Kristen Herman, Pennsylvania Coalition Against Domestic Violence says educating young folks before they become adults provides an opportunity to help as they’re forming relationships. “You know, whether we like it or not, kids at this age are dating. What that looks like to them and what that sounds like to us might be two totally different things, but it is happening. And we are seeing emotional, psychological, physical, sexual abuse in teen dating relationships as well, especially when we look at things like the use of technology in that age group, “said Herman. Listen to the podcast to hear how technology and social media plays a role in teen dating abuse, what to look out for if a parent suspects their teen is in a abusive relationship, and the first steps a teen should take If they find themselves in a abusive relationship. Support WITF: https://www.witf.org/support/give-now/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, a time to shed light on an issue affecting so many young people. That's why we're re-publishing this important episode—to continue the conversation and ensure teens, parents, and educators have the tools to recognize unhealthy relationships and promote safe, respectful love. Awareness leads to prevention, and prevention saves lives. Stay tuned as we revisit this crucial discussion.Welcome to Understanding Domestic Violence: Knowledge Is Empowerment, the podcast series dedicated to uncovering the truth about domestic violence and empowering you with the tools and knowledge to create change.In this series, we'll explore the many dimensions of domestic violence, physical, emotional, psychological, financial, and beyond. Each episode is designed to educate, challenge misconceptions, and provide actionable insights for individuals, families, and communities.Because the more we understand, the more equipped we are to recognize the signs, support survivors, and prevent domestic violence.Today's guests are Hope House Board of Director Jaime Simpson and an anonymous teen.Hosts: Tina Johnson and Jaime SimpsonIf you are in an emergency, call or text 9-1-1.For information about our services and how Hope House can help, call our 24-Hour Hotline at 816-461-HOPE (4673) or the National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-7233.hopehouse.net

Discover the alarming truth about teen dating violence with Katie Blackburn, executive director of Jana's Campaign, as she shares powerful insights and strategies to combat this pervasive issue. Through the tragic story of Jana Mackey, whose advocacy ignited a movement, Katie outlines how education is key to preventing relationship violence among teens. Get ready to learn how understanding and recognizing early warning signs can empower young people to foster healthy, respectful relationships.Explore the often-hidden world of emotional abuse in teen relationships, where manipulation and love bombing are more than just buzzwords—they're dangerous patterns that can have lasting impacts. Our conversation sheds light on how early education around consent, boundaries, and healthy communication can disrupt the generational cycle of violence. Katie passionately emphasizes the importance of teaching teens to recognize and reject these harmful behaviors before they can take root.Technology plays a dual role in teen relationships, offering both connection and potential for harm. Hear how social media platforms like Instagram and TikTok influence teens' interactions, sometimes facilitating abuse through blurred boundaries and cyberbullying. We dive into the critical role adults must play in shaping safe environments and policies, fostering open dialogues about digital safety and respectful relationships. Tune in to understand how comprehensive education and community involvement are crucial in breaking the silence and building a culture that stands firmly against abuse.

In this episode of the Voice2Change podcast we discuss teen dating violence, featuring our special guest Brenda Harkavy, a former SVU prosecutor and experienced litigator. The discussion reveals that one in three teens experiences dating violence, with both physical and digital forms of abuse being prevalent. Harkavy explains various warning signs of teen dating violence, including excessive texting, controlling behavior, digital harassment, and isolation tactics.The episode focuses on the importance of parents maintaining open communication with their teens about healthy relationships and the potential dangers of digital interactions. Brenda also talks about legal protections and resources for teens in abusive relationships. Brenda Harkavy is an experienced litigator who has represented numerous survivors in cases involving institutional misconduact. She previously served as a Special Victims Unit (SVU) prosecutor, where she handled hundreds of teen dating violence cases in Baltimore City and other jurisdictions. During her time as an SVU prosecutor, she was actively involved in educating teens about dating violence by facilitating assemblies at local high schools. Topics Discussed:Teen Dating Violence Awareness MonthSigns and types of teen dating violenceImportance of raising awareness about unhealthy relationshipsStatistics on teen dating violence in the U.S.Empowering teens to recognize signs of abuseLegal implications and potential for escalating behaviorLegal Protections for TeensEducating children about their digital footprintSetting healthy boundaries and limits for internet useConnect with Jane Doe No More:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Janedonomore.org

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February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month.  In this episode, Stuart talks with Kim Riddle, the agency's SANE nurse about what teen dating violence looks like, and how teens and parents can deal with it.

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In the first of four episodes on adolescent health, hosts Jessica Peck and Ashley Hodges draw on their 65 years of combined experience to tackle teen dating violence from a log in to the CE Center, search for this program by name and complete the post-test and evaluation by entering the participation code that is given after listening to the podcast.

1 in 3 teens are victim to teen dating violence. That is one and a half million teens affected in the US alone. It is Teen Dating Violence Awareness month and all month long I will be talking about this topic. Because. It. Is. Happening. Every. Day.Why is teen dating violence so prevalent in teens? What are the repercussions of teen dating violence? And what IS the number one way to prevent teen dating violence and how do you develop more of that one attribute?! I will be answering all these questions today!! In the weeks ahead I'll cover..."What does a healthy relationship look like and feel like?""How do you set healthy boundaries?""What are the signs and red flags of an unhealthy and abusive relationship?""Where can I turn for support and help? And how do I support a friend who is in an abusive relationship?" Here are some resources to turn to immediately if you are in an abusive relationship!Love is Respect (loveisrespect.org) – Offers education on healthy relationships and resources for teens.National Domestic Violence Hotline (thehotline.org) – Provides support for those experiencing abuse.Break the Cycle (breakthecycle.org) – Focuses on ending dating violence among young people.RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) (rainn.org) – The largest anti-sexual violence organization in the U.S.Books: "The Confidence Code for Girls" by Katty Kay & Claire Shipman – Helps build self-esteem in young girls. "Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life" by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend – Teaches self-respect and assertiveness. National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233).Send us a textSupport the showPlease consider clicking below to make a one time donation to help "Monday Mindset With Isha Warriors" reach more people across the world!Donate Here

A weekly magazine-style radio show featuring the voices and stories of Asians and Pacific Islanders from all corners of our community. The show is produced by a collective of media makers, deejays, and activists. For this week's episode of APEX Express, we are joined by Yi Thoj and Belle Vang from Hmong Innovating Politics (HIP) and Pana Lee and Jennifer Xiong from California Hmong Advocates Network – Building Our Futures (CHAN-BOF) who will go into depth about these very tough but very real and needed conversations about abusive relationships, especially within the Hmong community, where 70% of Hmong Americans are under 24 years old.   Important Resources: Hmong Innovating Politics website California Hmong Advocates Network – Building Our Futures website Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships infographic How to Spot Abusive Relationships infographic Do you know someone in an abusive relationship? infographic Are you in an abusive relationship? infographic What does consent look like? infographic Transcript Cheryl: Good evening, everyone! You are tuned in to APEX Express. I'm your host, Cheryl and tonight is an What is AACRE?, you might ask. Well comprised of 11 grassroots, social justice groups, the Asian Americans for Civil Rights and Equality (AACRE) network, leverages the power of its network to focus on long-term movement, building and support for Asian-Americans and Pacific Islanders committed to social justice. Speaking of AACRE groups, APEX express is proud to be a part of the AACRE network.  For tonight's episode, we will be spotlighting the work of AACRE group Hmong Innovating Politics, also known as HIP. Belle Vang and Yi Thoj from HIP will be in conversation with Pana Lee and Jennifer Xiong from the California Hmong Advocates Network Building Our Futures, also known as CHAN-BOF.  They'll be in discussion on the importance of teen dating violence awareness, especially in the Hmong community as they are among the youngest of all ethnic groups in the United States with about 70% of Hmong Americans being under 24 years old.   I know somebody, you might want to learn more about HIP and CHAN-BOF so I'll let our speakers introduce themselves. And don't forget. All of their socials and websites will be linked in the show notes.    Belle: Hi, everyone, thank you so much for making time in your night to join us. We really appreciate it. Today we're going to be having a panel discussion in recognition of Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month. I really want to thank CHAN-BOF for collaborating with Hmong Innovating Politics. We're very excited to do this collab together. We're going to do a brief introduction. So, hi, everyone. My name is Bella Gaonoucci Vang. I'm with Hmong Innovating Politics as a Communication and Narrative Manager. If you're not one of our followers, make sure to follow us.  Hmong Innovating Politics is a grassroots organization focused on strengthening political power within Hmong communities through civic engagement. And with that being said, I'll go ahead and pull in one of our HIP members, Yi.  Yi Thoj: Hi everyone, my name is Yi and I use she, her pronouns, and I been a HIP young adult for around three to four years. I'm also working on the Bright Spots project.  Belle: And then if we can have Pana join the conversation.  Pana: Hi, everyone. I am Pana with CHAN-BOF champion stands for California Hmong Advocates Network Building Our Future. We were two grassroots organizations in community and outreach and this past year we have been able to provide mobile direct services to our Hmong survivors of domestic violence across the Central Valley– so from Sacramento to Fresno. Jennifer Xiong: All right. And that leaves me. Hi, everyone. My name is Jennifer Xiong. I use she/her pronouns and I work as a program specialist with CHAN-BOF and Banak, who actually serves as my supervisor. I'm really excited and happy to be here and really grateful for HIP for giving us a space time and platform to have this conversation  Belle: Thank you again CHAN-BOF for collaborating with us here at HIP. We really appreciate all the work y'all do in the community. I know y'all individually are really great folks. I'm really excited to dive into today's conversation. In your experience, I'm just asking everyone in the panel, where are some cultural norms or expectations within the Hmong community regarding relationships and dating, and that could be anything that you'd like to share from your own personal experiences. Pana: I think I can go. So I think growing up in the eighties, cultural expectations for women, Hmong women, We were expected to just cook, clean, and take care of our younger siblings and our parents. Right? So if you were dating, your relatives would just look down on us. Dating was frowned upon. I remember it was expected that if a guy is interested in you, they would have to come by your parent's house and your parents would have to approve. I remember guys come in and during our teenage years, my mom would have to be present. Right. My parents are really strict. Their limit was they could only stay two hours. And so my mom would ask fast questions. If they don't qualify, they don't meet expectations, they better be out ASAP. My parents are really, really strict.  So those were our expectations back in the 80s. We weren't really allowed to date during my younger days that's what we had to go through. Yi Thoj: I feel like a lot of the gender expectations of my generation is still very much by heteronormative and patriarchal norms and construct.  I'm the youngest of 7 girls, so all of my, 6 older sisters– they're fierce and they're also wonderful, powerful women who have helped me navigate through a lot of the contentions that I held before, interacting with romantic encounters and engagements. And so I think having that model definitely helped me navigate through my experiences as well. I feel like our parents are like, oh, if you want to engage in romantic encounters at a young age, that's welcome. But thankfully, they also didn't pressure us to do so. Jennifer Xiong: It's got me thinking about my own experiences, very little experiences, I might add. I think about some of the things my mom has said to me, which still stick around, it's kind of like embedded in my mind where she says Oh, ([Jennifer speaks in Hmong) meaning when your partner is visiting or at our home, you guys shouldn't be in your bedrooms. You should be out in the living rooms because that's really disrespectful. It, it invites negative perceptions about the person and about the relationship and it is a form of disrespect toward the, the parents and the home. I've also felt and seen from my older cousins or distant relatives who've gotten married– I think it's centered a lot around saving face. I remember hearing stories about my cousins. If they had gone out and they came home late, for example, and the parents were extremely displeased or unhappy, and they're like, no, you dishonored me and my daughter. You have to marry my daughter now because you took her home late, even if they didn't do anything salacious, so to speak. I'd hear those a lot. And, for me, those are always scary. Like, Oh my gosh, they would just do that! And you're a kid and you're growing up hearing these and actually, I think I heard it more commonly than I expected– people marrying young because of the whole consequence of arriving home late from a date or a hangout. So those are some of my experiences or what I've, I heard and witnessed. Yeah.  Belle: Thank y'all for sharing. I love hearing about your experiences. I It's really interesting how we all have different experiences, but it's still in the same realm of a very similar community, right? Very tight knit community. I echo both Jennifer and Yee's experience where my parents are a little bit more lax, but at the same time, it's like, make sure you marry someone who's a quality person. Right? I think that's really telling of how we see dating in the Hmong community. We don't date to date, right? We date to commit forever. And especially, I know all of us on this panel are women identifying and that can be a very dangerous tool, right? To just date to only marry– you're willing to put up with a lot, even if it's not really what you want for yourself, because the way the culture shapes us is if you are dating, you're only dating seriously. It's not to explore, not to be curious about yourself. And so I really appreciate the way that y'all frame it and the way that you share your experiences too. And I know we touched a little bit on this as well, but kind of gauging what it looks like to be in a healthy relationship. How would you say a healthy relationship is defined within the Hmong community? And what are qualities that you consider important? For a positive and respectful relationship within the community? Pana: So you all heard the word [Pana speaks in Hmong], right [Pana speaks in Hmong] right? [Pana speaks in Hmong] We We hear this over and over. I think even with my age, I've heard that. I'm pretty sure some of y'all have heard that to even my parents or friends or family, right? To me, what's considered positive in a relationship is really compromising and allowing you to have your own space, really meeting each other in the middle, trusting each other, having boundaries, appreciating each other, respecting, having that respect, right? Effective communication, being able to communicate with each other and having empathy. Also consent. Really having the permission of something to happen or agreement. Be able to agree with something and being committed to your relationship.  Jennifer Xiong: Yeah, I wanted to add, and also share that I think a lot of the times traditional expectations around what a healthy relationship looks like in the Hmong community generally entails being constricted and confined to your pre established roles that have been gone for generations. But I think that how we can further redefine that nowadays is to really think about how everything that Pana has already listed and shared. Right. I think it's important that those things like healthy boundaries and having balance within a relationship, I feel a lot of those things should be contextualized to the relationship. That's one, but also, I think it should be formed organically, which is difficult, and there will always be ongoing conversations about what a romantic commitment looks like, and what does that mean for the exact couple, but I think it's important to have an ongoing conversation about it, and then also it's important to understand these layers, that , If the couple is both Hmong, it's important to put that in context, and then it's also, what if it's a multiracial or multiethnic relationship? I think that's also very important. Understanding the values, and how these things can be formed organically as well. There are certain learned behaviors, beliefs, attitudes, that we pick up as we grow up and what the kind of relationships and dynamics we witnessed as we're growing up and then getting or getting involved in our own romantic relationships with people, and the things we witness and see can also really shape the way we go into relationships and the way we show up as partners.  I really don't know how to define it within the Hmong community, but I will say that I have seen when relationships and dynamics of dating are built on a foundation of patriarchy, it can, relating back to what Yi and Pana says, it can build really toxic and concerning, unhealthy relationship dynamics of power and control, and not knowing how to allow your partner to have autonomy to themselves, or knowing that it's two different people coming in together to a relationship. Power and control, when it gets mixed into this relationship, it can become really unhealthy and toxic. So I think it's also about unlearning those and realizing that certain attitudes, behaviors, and beliefs don't serve in creating a healthy relationship between a partnership or a romantic relationship. Within the Hmong community, a lot of us I've seen unlearning those behaviors and attitudes that we may have witnessed and maybe even internalized growing up. To answer the second part of the question what qualities are considered important for a positive respectful Relationship. I think it's really all that you you both named. Those are important like compromise and y'all named so many other great stuff, but then I was also just cranking up the things in my mind, but I just want to echo back what Yi and Pana said, and I'll leave it at that. Yi Thoj: What Jennifer just shared, about what we witnessed growing up sparked something in my mind as well about the media that we consumed growing up too. I watched a ton of Tyler Crohn's and Southeast Asian media growing up, and so much of the representations of love in there. It's so romanticized that abuse is okay. Non consensual engagements is okay. The media and real life relationships that are reflected and also modeled throughout our lives hold such a big factor into how we view love growing into a young adult and further. I know it definitely impacted me because I was always like, Oh, I think that's what love is, right? That's what it's showing on TV and things like that. Yeah, definitely holds weight.  Belle: Yeah, I love that you mentioned that Yi. I didn't really seriously start dating until I was in college and a lot of our generation grew up watching kdramas. Like, oh so romantic, super rich Boy is in love with super poor girl and he dictates her life and buys her everything like so romantic. And I tell my partner now that i'm married, if you ever do anything like in kdramas we are not messing around. That is not cool I don't want you to decide anything for me. I don't want you to pretend like you're in the hospital just as a prank You know boys over flowers. It's really interesting how love is framed growing up and how, just like you said, it's super romanticized. And like, you know how K dramas, you feel that excitement, like that, it's not necessarily love, right? That's just the thrill of being in something new, experiencing something different, but not necessarily love itself. And I really resonate with what you said earlier, Yi, about how it's really important to form those healthy boundaries and organically. And I really closely ties to Pana's comment about being able to create a consensual relationship and, Just like Jennifer said to like dismantling that patriarchy and foundation that we were built on.  We;re Belle: Learning those things are really hard to because initially I thought that drama was what love was supposed to be, but love is supposed to be safe and supposed to protect you, make you feel like you belong. Right? Because we like do grow up in a society that perpetuates love in honestly a violent way, I also just kind of want to know like y'all's thoughts on do you think there's enough awareness about dating violence within our communities, particularly the Hmong community? And how do you feel like it's generally perceived or even discussed amongst one another? Pana: I actually think there's not much awareness happening in the Hmong community. We really need to continue and bring more awareness. And it's awareness. Prevention. Intervention. We need to continue to do that. Some parents don't talk much to their youths about teen dating violence, what's healthy and what's not healthy, or actually like what to look for in a relationship.  In my household, I have only boys. And so we talk about safe sex, healthy boundaries, healthy relationship. What would they like to see in a relationship. I do this because, I've had experience working in the domestic violence field, sexual assault field for a long time. And plus, that's something that I never got from my parents. So my goal was, from now on, when I have my kids, these are stuff that I'm going to teach them. And so I kept my goals, you know, that was something that I told myself that I promised myself that I would do this, to continue to teach my kids healthy boundary, healthy relationship and dating violence., Most parents were taught when they were young you're going to get married and just have a good life, have a good family.  Yi Thoj: All points that are so valid and so true. There are generational gaps, between the elders and ourselves and myself. My parents are around mid 60s. As much as I think I try to bridge that gap sometimes, I think youth just don't have the language as well to fully explain to them.  There's even the conversation about like mental health and how romantic relationships are embedded in mental health and even that in itself is a difficult conversation to start. More tangible resources to learn more about communication in terms of learning the Hmong language and whatnot would definitely help with outreach and building awareness in the community. But I think a lot of recent events as well have also shown to me about where The reflection of culture and the communities as well Which I would also like to provide some sort of affirmation for any youth who's watching this that these contentions and frictions within the community– it's never a reflection of you. You know, it's always a reflection of the larger culture and what is happening. And something that we all need to advocate for and invest into to change.  Jennifer Xiong: yeah. I agree that Bottom line, there isn't enough awareness about dating violence within the Hmong community on many different fronts, like Pana mentioned, the prevention piece and the intervention piece. How does someone recognize or learn to recognize signs of I might be in a toxic, unhealthy relationship that is or can eventually lead into something that's violent? Or maybe I am in a current relationship where there is violence, but I don't know how to pick up on the signs and actually realize that, hey, I'm not in a safe place in this relationship, or in a safe relationship.  And then if your loved ones or family members or friends are recognizing it from an outside perspective, like, we lack a lot of resources and information out there for our community to engage with to learn how to intervene or also recognize it among our loved ones and the people we care about if they may be in those types of dynamics and relationships. And then when we do recognize it, how do we step in and help? What do we do? How can we help? And yeah, so bottom line, there isn't enough resources out there. I think it's still really on the, I guess the loose term, up and up. I really have a lot of faith and hope and I've seen, the work continue to expand and grow and obviously CHAN-BOF is a part of that, along with so many other organizations, statewide organizations that are trying to build more resources and information and push it out there into our communities, so that they know this information, they have access to it and can tap into it with our youth and young adults , and maybe even with our older folks or generations, cause I know you mentioned brought up a really great point too,in that , there's different gaps or different ways of understanding how to talk about dating violence within the Hmong community. Pana: Yeah, I remember my parents would tell me, [Pana speaks in Hmong] [Pana speaks in Hmong] [Pana speaks in Hmong] and I'm like I never understood that. And so growing up, getting older, I kind of understood it. And again, they said the same thing. We were talking, me and my kids were sitting in the table and we're talking about healthy relationship and stuff. What do you look for? How would the relationship look like? What's healthy? And then again, my dad says, yeah [Pana speaks in Hmong]  And my son was like, I don't understand that mom. It was just very generalized, and I had to like recorrect that. This is what he means. My definition of what my dad said was Look for a healthy relationship. Get to know the person Date them Belle: I love that example Pana because growing up everyone always told me that, and I took it at face value. You know when we speak in moments like poetry, right? but growing up I took that at face value saying like when you grow up make sure you marry someone who has Power, who has good reputation in the community, and then As I got older, my mom's like, that's never what I was telling you. Jennifer Xiong: I was just telling you, marry someone who makes you happy. And I was like, Oh, how come you didn't just say it that way? Then like you put it in a way that I was like, Oh man, I have to make sure I marry someone who's brings honor to my family, right? Like what a Mulan way of thinking. But I feel like that's always how I really perceive dating. And tying how Hmong is very much like poetry in our communities, I really like what Yi's comment earlier about how there's not really a lot of terminology in our community for even awareness about the mental health in our community. It's very much how medical terms have only really come to fruition in our community within the past like 50 years. We don't have anything regarding terms that we can use for mental health or dating violence, like the only thing we can use is sick, like that's pretty much how you say when you talk about mental health.   You just say basically, you have a sickness in your head, but there's not actual terms. When we talk about diabetes, like, [Jennifer speaks in Hmong] which literally translates to sweet blood or blood. Well, that is sweet. I hope to see, the next, I don't want to wait 50 years. I hope in the next 20 years there is verbiage that can help the community decipher and break down and bring more awareness to the violence that's being perpetrated in our communities as well. Belle: I love this conversation. I really love that. You showed examples of your son, and it really feels like how intergenerationally we think. We all think so differently, even though we have good intentions it doesn't get translated across the board. I kind of want to elaborate a little bit more when we talked about how it's really important to have consent when it comes to dating, how you really teach your sons that. Would you mind elaborating a little bit more about what consent looks like when it comes to dating, your perspective and how you see it within our communities as well. Pana: Have y'all seen the little video about drinking tea ? Sometimes you can drink the tea and you're like, I don't want to drink it no more. You know, and so you can change at any moment, right? And being able to understand okay, I This person might not want to, so I need to be able to give that respect and step away, right? And so, getting them to understand that. So if you all watched that video, the tea consent video. It's really cute, and It's really good for the youth, even for the kids. They understand it real quick. In a relationship, you should be able to give them that space and say, Okay, I get it. I'm gonna be able to understand if someone says no, then no means no. And then their body gestures are like they're pushing back, that means no. If my face is looking like, i'm shaking my head or you can see in my eyes like I don't like you stay away Right? And so being able to understand that Jennifer Xiong: I think one thing I want to add to that which is great. Like the tea consent video is super amazing at just Easily explaining under the understanding of consent, but also when someone can't consent like when they can't answer yes or no. For example, they're at a party and they've passed out drunk. They're just not conscious and awake and they can't answer yes or no, decline or accept. That also is not an invitation or permission. That is not a consent, basically. So I'm going back and forth. When a person can't answer, it's definitively no, because they're not consciously aware and awake enough to give that response. So I think that is also something I wanted to add. Yi Thoj: Yeah, I don't have much to add to this question. I've never seen the tea consent video, but putting that into perspective, that is such a great analogy and wonderful example and easy way to explain things can change right in the middle of an interaction.  Also just wanting to provide admiration to Pana as well to opening up the conversations with your sons because I think that's so important. A lot of the times younger Men or Hmong youth who are male identified. A lot of the times their influences are from other male figures in their lives who may not be the best role model. And so I'm totally leaning in towards the Hmong woman leaders in people's lives, especially Hmong youth, and just really loving that. Belle: I love that affirmation. we are right now a room of powerful women in our community itself. So I really, I want to like, double up on that echo Yi's statement as well.  Cheryl: You are currently tuned in to APEX Express on 94.1 KPFA and 88.1 on KFCF. You have so far been listening to Belle Vang and Yi Thoj from Hmong Innovating Politics, also known as HIP, and Pana Lee and Jennifer Xiong from California Hmong Advocates Network Building Our Future (CHAN-BOF). We are going to take a quick music break, but don't go anywhere. More on breaking the silence about teen dating violence awareness in the Hmong community after our break.  Welcome back. You were tuned into apex express on 94.1, KPFA 88.1. KFCF in Fresno. And online at KPFA. Dot org. You were just listening to your track off of the Anakbayan LB May Day mix tape called “Letter to Mom” by shining sons. Anakbayan LB is a Filipino youth and student organization based in long beach, California, working to arouse, organize and mobilize the community to address issues that impact Filipinos in the U S and in the Philippines.  Now, back to the show. We are here, with belle Vang and Yi Thoj from Hmong Innovating Politics (HIP) and Pana Lee and Jennifer Xiong. From California Hmong Advocates Network Building Our Futures (CHAN-BOF). We're talking about teen dating violence awareness and its impacts and implications in the Hmong community.  Belle: Jennifer, you talk about patriarchy and shared about how, you really tried to shape your son because you also work in this field you are definitely more eloquent work in addressing these issues. I want to dive more into what that looks like within our community and in our culture. Do you feel like there are specific cultural or community barriers that may prevent individuals, particularly Hmong individuals, from seeking help or disclosing incidents of dating violence? And what does that look like? Especially since I know CHAN-BOF does a lot of that direct work with clients. Pana: I think because we're so closely knitted, that's a barrier too, being afraid of, okay, this person might know me. One example is while growing up, I was taught men were more valuable than women. I think in our family, my parents really wanted a son and they kept on trying and trying until after they got 7 daughters, they finally got their son, right? And so we were told, you have to be patient because boys, [Jennifer speaks Hmong] and as a teenager, I was like, I guess I held no value. And so, and also keeping in mind for a long time, a lot of our culturally specific organizations were mainly ran by Hmong men. Hmong men are the main person who makes the decisions Jennifer Xiong: Some of those barriers are they don't seek help or support. The other barrier that I experienced in high school is I had a friend who was dating someone who was really abusive and verbally abusive, physically abusive. He sexually assaulted her. When she came to me. I was like, Oh, no, you need to go to your parents. The minute she told her parents, she was forced to marry him to save face. And so, after watching what had happened to my friend made me feel like if that happened to me and I went and told my parents. But these are back in my days, though, right? I would be forced to get married, like, and that time I didn't know that that was not okay. If someone raped you and forced you, that is not okay, but I wasn't aware of that. She wasn't aware of that. And so, again, we said, you know, back, awareness needs to happen. Awareness and education. That was something I remember for a long time and I felt guilty and I, I felt bad because I didn't know who to send to go for help. I referred it back to her parents and said, yeah, your parents would help you go for it and go for it. And that's, that's what happened. That's one of the other barriers. Some of our parents are not very educated in this topic, and it's a topic that we don't talk about. I do want to add, there's still strong sentiments of, victim blaming, shaming, disempowering. I've heard statements, or I will say, I was doing my research paper on DV in the Hmong community. My sources were like YouTube videos. And so, I found these videos of these women speaking out about their experiences of DV. In this particular example, she's married she was pregnant and her husband was abusing her. So much so that he was dragging her down the stairs of their apartment building. And so she mentioned her stomach was basically getting shaped. She was somehow able to escape his grasp and run to a neighbor and ask them to call law enforcement. And so law enforcement came and took away the husband because they visibly could see what, what had gone on. Her mother in law had said to her, Oh. [Jennifer speaks Hmong], meaning, oh, daughter in law, why did you call law enforcement and have them take away my son? It dawned on me how we perceived some of these dynamics and abuses when it happens in relationships. And again, the whole, why did you do that instead of are you okay? What happened to you? Why did they do that to you? Or really focusing on the wellness and safety of the person being in a violent relationship, violent abusive relationship. And to add to that, the terminology and the way we frame some of the resources out there, I remember a lot of the [Jennifer speaks in Hmong] the elders, would call DV shelters [Jennifer speaks in Hmong] right. The term, the explanation of it is like the place for runaway women or wives or mothers. But in fact, these shelters meant to house and keep individuals, women, children, who were experiencing abuse and violence in their relationship safe. But then we use negative connotations and terminology to label them because it brings a lot of shame and hesitation to seek out help. The fact that the resources that are available mainstream wise for those who are seeking help and resources because they may be in an abusive violent relationship is that there's also a lack of culturally responsive resources and services to aid and assist our specific community members when they're out trying to get the help that they need. I've witnessed and heard that a lot from the clients that I directly support and assist. Like, oh, we've gone here and then they mentioned not having a great experience, or being misunderstood, or I'm not feeling even safe or comfortable enough to talk about their experiences and get the resources and help that they need because some of the agencies really lacked the cultural understanding awareness or the intersection of that when it comes to dating violence or domestic violence in our own community. Yi Thoj: Yeah, all of this is like really great examples. Also, unfortunate. I think that from my own experience with dealing with victims around me who have undergone a lot of these violences, what I've seen is that a lot of it is them recognizing that the harm that is being done to them is wrong. Very much so. But they've also internalized and conditioned themselves to accept it as something that is normal and okay, even if a lot of the times there's this back and forth resistance of wanting to debate themselves from the situation, but then at the same time, them like always going back and this is the cycle of abuse, right, and how it works. But one note that I would also like to make is that what I've also seen is that it's really, really important that male perpetrators, especially Hmong men, it's important that there are other Hmong men who are holding them accountable, is what I found to be true. Because as much as Hmong women who are victims and other Hmong women bystanders who are wanting to advocate for these victims try to stand up for them, These perpetrators and also the culture inherently does not change if people who are in power and have that privilege don't actively help dismantle it, too. So, I think that it's important to note. There's so much power that goes into having woman led spaces and woman voices because that's so important, but I also think there should be so much more work done from the cisgendered male counterparts in our lives and in the community Belle: Thank y'all for that. Your sentiment is so powerful, yi and it's Very valid. A lot of times the folks that were leading this work are often the women in our communities Like that's just straight up facts, right? I attended a Boys and men of color conference, and one of the panels said the one time that men have these spaces together is also when women created. Right? As women, we build a lot of community for our community and at the same time, don't get the recognition of the work that is being done. So, it's really important that those who do have power, make sure that they implement it correctly and support communities that minorities within their communities that need that extra support.  The examples provided to I felt were very powerful, but also very traumatizing. When I was listening to your story, when you were talking about how you advise your friend to go to their family and they were forced into marriage. I know that we are different generations, but I feel like I definitely have met folks who are my age who were still forced to the situation. Those culture practices are so very normal and not unheard of. Like it's not completely cultural shift within one generation. And I'm sure When you witnessed that, that it was very traumatizing for you too, even though you were not the one immediately affected by it, but it also shifted the way you saw community, the way you viewed culture itself. And you even expressed you felt a lot of guilt and responsibility for that. It's really interesting that when there are those traumatizing, abusive relationships happening to those folks, and even at the third per person party that you feel that trauma in other ways as well. You mentioned how the patriarchy does affect our communities in that way. What is being done? What is being said to help heal our communities and work past these issues that are obviously very much rooted in our communities. I know we talked a little bit about the way cultural identity influences our communities. I know we specifically talked about the Hmong community too as well. I know we only have about 10 minutes left and so I kind of just want to dive into, not necessarily solutions, but what are things that we can take, what are steps that we can take to make progressive action and change in our community? So in your opinion, what role can the Hmong community play in addressing and preventing this deep imbalance? And Are there any community led solutions that you feel could be effective within our community? Yi Thoj: Yeah, I think as we've mentioned throughout the conversation, it's important to emphasize and highlight prevention work that can be done. And that is teaching the young boys and men and ongoing older Hmong men in our lives to. Because that is community, right? Folks who are directly within our circles, as well as people who we interact with. I think it's important to teach them very simple things that should already be fundamental, but unfortunately are not. Such as informed consent, and then also just normal consent. I think to echo back on what I just shared as well, having more male mentors who are very much progressive and radical in their work, and also centered in the actual tangible dismantling of the culture and harmful aspects of the system, I think is, A really big part of it. The reason why I think I'm bringing this up is because my experience with younger men who still hold a lot of these traditionalist and violent behaviors and mentalities receive a lot of their mentorship from other male mentors in their lives, and also just media consumption such as Andrew Tate and whatnot. A lot of folks in my own young adult experience very much religiously follow Andrew Tate and I had believed that we were at a point in our progressive history to where we have gone past that, but it's still very rampant in the community and it's affecting The youth, and it's affecting how they interact with and also date other Hmong women as well, assuming that this is a binary relationship.   Pana: It's time to talk about it, supporting each other, talking about what health relationship really is. And It doesn't have to just come from the school. For a long time, a lot of our parents, we depend on the school. Oh, they'll figure that out, right? it needs to come from everyone, every one of us. Even as a friend, as an individual, we all need to support in that piece like supportive organizations such as CHAN-BOF and HIP, right? Continuously talking about this, bringing the awareness. If you're feeling uncomfortable, if we're really uncomfortable talking about a certain topic, we do need to talk about that and really addressing that. Getting to understand what's healthy and what's not healthy. What are the signs of an abusive relationship? I think if we really want change, change needs to happen especially as parents and it comes from the youth too. We want a better future for our youth so I think really continue to really address this and doing a lot of prevention work because we tend to deal with a crisis and we're forgetting about the prevention part. How do we prevent this stuff. One great example that I always use is we're constantly supporting and trying to jump in and support people who are drowning, but we keep forgetting about, what's happening on the other side of that river. Something's happening and it's the prevention education piece that we need to start doing and continue to do. Cheryl: We're going to take a quick music break, but don't go anywhere. Next up,. You're going to be listening to “cultural worker” by power struggle. More on the ways we can work towards. Teen dating violence awareness in the Hmong Comunity when we return.    Cheryl: And we're back!. You are tuned in to KPFA on 94.1, KPFA 88.1 KFCF F in Fresno and online at kpfa.org. You were just listening to “cultural worker” by power struggle, a Filipino beat rock music artist based in the bay. We're currently here with Belle and Yi from Hmong innovating politics, hip. And Jennifer and Pana from California Hmong advocates network, building our futures, cHAN-BOF as we discuss the ways we can address teen dating violence in the Hmong community.    Jennifer Xiong: I'm gonna echo, I mean, both of you brought up the same points, but in really distinctive examples of your own, and I really appreciate that. It is about really bolstering, our community up to be proactive and engaged and informed about this, and really equipping and building them up to be a part of this, that it's not oh, you know, I think it's great that obviously we do this work as current active advocates who've had previous quote, unquote, professional experience dealing with , crisis like this, or dealing with and supporting directly individuals who have gone or are going through this and that, like, everyone is more than capable of being equipped with the knowledge and being enforced with the knowledge and the ability To learn and understand this and be proactive about it in our community. It does lead a lot back to the whole prevention and intervention work and building up our youth and young adults. Cause you know, okay. So a side note is, so we did a lot of outreach and engagement work this past year, really putting it out in front of our community, in the Hmong community. And let me tell you, I was scared to do this because I was like, oh my gosh, people are going to be bringing their pitchforks and torches and, and they're going to come around and be like, who's this girl going on TV, talking about DV and providing resources and services for our community. Interestingly enough, I got like so much of the opposite reaction and responses. And I think to me, that's really heartwarming. And it gives me a lot of hope because I got so much positive affirmation and reinforcement and feedback from even our older generations in our community and young folks too, saying this is so needed. This is critical, important. I'm so glad you're out here. Or how can we get involved? Even being like, , I'm so happy that you guys are doing this work. And we really have a lot of faith because so much of our younger folks, younger generations are stepping up to do this sort of work. So I think it's really the community, a large portion of the community, from what I've experienced, really recognize how important and needed this work is to implement this and incorporate this into our community so they know and understand like, Hey, violence is not okay. Dating violence is not okay. Domestic violence is not okay. But what can we do? , what do we do about it? And I think we're at that place where people are really curious and desiring to really step up and do something about it. And again, I think what Pana and Yi mentioned.  Belle: Thank you. I love those ideas on how the Hmong community can take action to change the violence that happens in our communities, right? I love dismantling the patriarchy and empowering our youth. I think that also really comes with, I know we didn't really touch on this, but, the 18 class system. How there really needs to be more, you mentioned, women leadership. We have a lot of women leadership in our communities, but not within our 18 class system. And why is that right? And how do we convince them that we need women in those leadership roles within our communities to represent our communities. That also ties into the same thing with Jennifer, how we really want to empower youth. We should also have youth leadership because then the folks who are in those important seats are 60 plus and so disconnected with the reality that we're living in today. So, you know, I just really appreciate everything y'all brought to the table today. I know we only have a few minutes left. , I know we talked a lot about youth empowerment, how there's a lot of women leadership. Since we're focusing on teen dating violence today, what is a tip or advice that you would have liked to receive as a teenager, now being a little bit more experienced with your relationships. And if you could say it really quick. Any of the teenagers listening out here, perk your ears up– there's a lot of great advice in here, so make sure that you absorb it like a sponge. And I'll just go ahead and leave it at that.  Pana: I think with me– it's okay to not be okay, right? It's okay to not be okay, and it's really okay to talk to someone. And really reach out for help and, you know, really understand that it's okay to say no, and we are all equal. Jennifer Xiong: For me, Oh gosh, this is hard. First things first is like, I think my teen self would have loved to know dating during your teen years. It's not a big deal. Like, it's okay. Don't feel like you're missing out or that there's something wrong with you if you aren't in a relationship while you're in your teen years. Really spend that time cherishing and valuing the time you have with yourself and getting to know yourself first, so that when you do get into a relationship, you know what you want, you know, the values that you want in a relationship, the values you want to bring into a relationship, you know yourself. And also don't forget that you are you're worthy. You matter, you're important. And that, anyone who disrespects you or does not value your work in a relationship more than likely aren't worth your time and aren't worth your tears. And so I think that's what I would have wanted to know.  Yi Thoj: for mine, it's very specific. How I came to be with my current partner. It was through an intersection of events with a lot of things that we've already discussed today as well. And so I think what I would have wanted to know is that It's very difficult to try to empower and change the hearts and minds of people on the ground level. Even if you're going in head strong. please treat yourself with grace in all of that. And then lean in on your partner to help you navigate that. It's so important. I think a lot of Hmong women and Hmong girls are taught to be hyper individualistic and independent, and it's needing to teach that sometimes you can lean into your femininity. Sometimes you can lean in on support from other people. And also from your partner, it's really important. C: Thank you. I love all the self love in the room and just really great advice on being gentle with yourself and recognize that you are deserving of all the good things in life. I hope that everyone really takes that to heart and it's just friendly reminder to continue loving yourself in the process of loving others. Love is abundant. It's not scarcity mindset. We are here to share our love and that love should be shared with ourselves as well. We're going to wrap today up and I just want to say thank you so much to Yi, Pana, Jennifer for joining us and thank you so much CHAN-BOF for collaborating with HIP for dating violence awareness month. We really appreciate all your effort and all the work you do in our communities as well. If you haven't already in the audience, please make sure to follow and like HIP and CHAN-BOF so you can continue following the work that we do and support our endeavors as community members, because you are part of the change in our communities as well. Well, all so much and have a good rest of your night. Thanks everyone.  Cheryl: And that's the end of our show. Learn more about the incredible work being done by Hmong innovating politics and CHAN-BOF by checking out our show notes.   Also HIP and CHAN-BOF ask work together to create these really helpful infographics on themes of teen dating violence awareness, such as what is consent? How do you know you're in an abusive relationship. How can you help someone who's in it? I found them to be really helpful. So I will also make sure to link those in the show notes as well.  Cheryl Truong: Apex express is produced by Miko Lee, Paige Chung, Jalena Keane-Lee, Preeti Mangala Shekar. Shekar, Anuj Vaidya, Kiki Rivera, Swati Rayasam, Nate Tan, Hien Nguyen, Nikki Chan, and Cheryl Truong   Tonight's show was produced by me, cheryl. Thanks to the team at KPFA for all of their support. And thank you for listening!  The post APEX Express – 01.23.25 – Hmong Teen Dating Violence Awareness appeared first on KPFA.

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⚠️ Sensitive Content: Discussions on domestic violence (DV) and abuse. We continue this week with Shamara o Sisters in Purple, a collective of survivor/thriver-led DV organizations and advocacy groups advocating to make laws and strengthen policies and practices to prevent abuse and protect victims, survivors, thrivers, and their families.  About ⁠Sisters in Purple⁠ - ⁠https://gottostopllc.com/sisters-in-purple⁠ Email or DM Hear Our Voices to share your story or resources related to homelessness and housing instability: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NYCHearOurVoices@gmail.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Hear Our Voices' ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ account links can be found on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Linktr.ee/nyc_hov⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. RESOURCES ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠New Destiny Housing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://newdestinyhousing.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   646-472-0262 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠New Destiny Housing Resource Center⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://newdestinyhousing.org/housing-help/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠    ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Family Justice Centers⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - Provides free services and confidential services by phone and in person for victims and survivors of domestic and gender-based violence.  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www1.nyc.gov/site/ocdv/programs/family-justice-centers.page⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (includes locations and phone numbers)  24-hour Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-621-HOPE (4673) ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HRA Domestic and Gender-Based Violence Support⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - ⁠⁠⁠https://www1.nyc.gov/site/hra/help/domestic-violence-support.page⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NYC HOPE Resource Guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to help you or loved one experiencing domestic or gender-based violence - ⁠⁠⁠https://www1.nyc.gov/nychope/site/page/home⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Safe Horizon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Victim assistance organization operating a network of programs across New York City communities. They assist survivors of all forms of violence. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://safehorizon.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Crime Victims Hotline: 1-866-689-HELP SafeChat offer information, advocacy and support: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.safehorizon.org/safechat/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Other resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.safehorizon.org/am-i-being-abused/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 24-hour Hotlines: Safe Horizon's 3 Hotlines: DV - 1-800-621-HOPE Rape and Sexual Assault - 212-227-3000 Crime Victims - 1-866-689-HELP NYC Anti-Violence Project (AVP) (specialize in working with LGBTQ+ survivors) - 212-714-1141 Violence Intervention Project (specialize in working with Latinx survivors) - 1-800-664-5880 Womankind (specialize in working with Asian survivors) - 1-888-888-7702 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Resources & Services for Orders of Protection⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WomensLaw Legal Information on Restraining Orders⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Talk It Out Mental Health Counseling PLLC ⁠⁠⁠Talkitoutcounselingservices@gmail.com⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NYC311⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://portal.311.nyc.gov/  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DHS' Prevention Assistance and Temporary Housing (PATH) intake center ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠- apply for shelter   ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.nyc.gov/site/dhs/shelter/families/families-with-children-applying.page ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Brochure⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.nyc.gov/assets/dhs/downloads/pdf/path-brochure.pdf ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HRA Guide for Housing Instability⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.nyc.gov/assets/hra/downloads/pdf/BK-9-SOI-NewGuideForRenters.pdf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠      Housing Vouchers ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Section 8⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.nyc.gov/site/nycha/section-8/about-section-8.page⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CityFHEPS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.nyc.gov/site/hra/help/cityfheps.page⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FHEPS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.nyc.gov/site/hra/help/fheps.page⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠    ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Special One-Time Assistance⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (SOTA) ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.nyc.gov/site/hra/help/sota.page⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   Check out other resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠bit.ly/40pB4p8

⚠️ Sensitive Content: Discussions on domestic violence and abuse. As we recognize Domestic Violence Awareness Month in October, we are joined by Shamara Kelly with Sisters in Purple, a collective comprised of survivor/thriver-led domestic violence organizations and advocacy groups advocating to make laws and strengthen policies and practices to prevent abuse and protect victims, survivors, thrivers, and their families.  About Sisters in Purple - https://gottostopllc.com/sisters-in-purple Email or DM Hear Our Voices to share your story or resources related to homelessness and housing instability: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NYCHearOurVoices@gmail.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Hear Our Voices' ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ account links can be found on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Linktr.ee/nyc_hov⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. RESOURCES ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠New Destiny Housing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://newdestinyhousing.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   646-472-0262 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠New Destiny Housing Resource Center⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://newdestinyhousing.org/housing-help/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠    ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Family Justice Centers⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - Provides free services and confidential services by phone and in person for victims and survivors of domestic and gender-based violence.  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www1.nyc.gov/site/ocdv/programs/family-justice-centers.page⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (includes locations and phone numbers)  24-hour Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-621-HOPE (4673) ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HRA Domestic and Gender-Based Violence Support⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - ⁠⁠https://www1.nyc.gov/site/hra/help/domestic-violence-support.page⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NYC HOPE Resource Guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to help you or loved one experiencing domestic or gender-based violence - ⁠⁠https://www1.nyc.gov/nychope/site/page/home⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Safe Horizon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Victim assistance organization operating a network of programs across New York City communities. They assist survivors of all forms of violence. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://safehorizon.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Crime Victims Hotline: 1-866-689-HELP SafeChat offer information, advocacy and support: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.safehorizon.org/safechat/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Other resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.safehorizon.org/am-i-being-abused/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 24-hour Hotlines: Safe Horizon's 3 Hotlines: DV - 1-800-621-HOPE Rape and Sexual Assault - 212-227-3000 Crime Victims - 1-866-689-HELP NYC Anti-Violence Project (AVP) (specialize in working with LGBTQ+ survivors) - 212-714-1141 Violence Intervention Project (specialize in working with Latinx survivors) - 1-800-664-5880 Womankind (specialize in working with Asian survivors) - 1-888-888-7702 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Resources & Services for Orders of Protection⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WomensLaw Legal Information on Restraining Orders⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Talk It Out Mental Health Counseling PLLC ⁠⁠Talkitoutcounselingservices@gmail.com⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NYC311⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://portal.311.nyc.gov/  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DHS' Prevention Assistance and Temporary Housing (PATH) intake center ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠- apply for shelter   ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.nyc.gov/site/dhs/shelter/families/families-with-children-applying.page ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Brochure⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.nyc.gov/assets/dhs/downloads/pdf/path-brochure.pdf ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HRA Guide for Housing Instability⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.nyc.gov/assets/hra/downloads/pdf/BK-9-SOI-NewGuideForRenters.pdf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠      Housing Vouchers ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Section 8⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.nyc.gov/site/nycha/section-8/about-section-8.page⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CityFHEPS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.nyc.gov/site/hra/help/cityfheps.page⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FHEPS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.nyc.gov/site/hra/help/fheps.page⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠    ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Special One-Time Assistance⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (SOTA) ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.nyc.gov/site/hra/help/sota.page⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   Check out other resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠bit.ly/40pB4p8

Host Jake Deptula speaks with Danielle, a caregiver and spiritual healing advocate, who shares her traumatic experiences with domestic violence in high school.  Danielle details the verbal, physical, and sexual abuse she suffered at the hands of her then-boyfriend, along with the stalking that ensued. Danielle highlights the critical support from her family, especially her mother, which helped her escape the abusive relationship and reveals the challenges of rebuilding her life in a new school, finding supportive friends, and learning to trust again. Inspired by her role as a caregiver for her mother, who is battling cancer, Danielle emphasizes the importance of spiritual wellness in her healing journey and aims to raise awareness about domestic abuse and spiritual paths to recovery. **This episode of lovelustfridays contains topics including the sexual assault of a minor. Please listen with caution.** topics | domestic violence, abuse, sexual assault, teen dating violence, stalking, healing, relationships, support systems, spiritual wellness, caregiving, mental health, awareness, cancer, cancer patient, domestic violence awareness month links Danielle Gray Newsletter: https://daniellegray.substack.com/ Awaken with Danielle Gray YouTube Channel:  https://youtube.com/@awakenwithdaniellegray?si=HpHa_D653N7oAAOZ Link To Danielle Gray's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamdanielleegray/profilecard/?igsh=MXJsYjRvbGl4ZDVodg== Additional Links (Topics Discussed) Strictly Stalking Episode 157 “Stalked At School: A Campus Confrontation” https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/strictly-stalking/id1494237083 National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365) Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) Text: START to 88788  https://www.thehotline.org/ https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/ guest + story | submission information  If you have a dating or relationship story to share, want to participate in a discussion here on lovelustfridays, or have a topic you'd like us to cover, contact us below. E-mail | lovelustfearpod@gmail.com Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/ submission link | https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfear subscription links Amazon Music https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b06d0ea8-cb29-4c3a-98e6-0249d84df748/lovelustfear Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec Apple https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283 RSS feed https://audioboom.com/channels/5125912.rss Want to hear more? Whatever app you're listening on, just rate us and/or leave us a comment or review. Thank you for your support!

You are about to hear part two of a two-part story with Alissa. This is a teen dating violence story. It does not include physical violence to any great degree, but it makes the point that a relationship can be quite abusive even without the presence of the physical part. This interview is one you might want to listen to with teens present, both in high school or college. You will hear about warning signs that were overlooked. Breaking up is the most dangerous time, especially when the abusive partner is highly controlling. Alissa is a true survivor, and a very fortunate survivor. Most stories like this have far different endings. This is Alissa's story. NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can only be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You are about to hear part two of a two-part story with Alissa. This is a teen dating violence story. It does not include physical violence to any great degree, but it makes the point that a relationship can be quite abusive even without the presence of the physical part. This interview is one you might want to listen to with teens present, both in high school or college. You will hear about warning signs that were overlooked. Breaking up is the most dangerous time, especially when the abusive partner is highly controlling. Alissa is a true survivor, and a very fortunate survivor. Most stories like this have far different endings. This is Alissa's story. NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can only be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You are about to hear part one of a two-part story with Alissa. This is a teen dating violence story. It does not include physical violence to any great degree, but it makes the point that a relationship can be quite abusive even without the presence of the physical part. This interview is one you might want to listen to with teens present, both in high school or college. You will hear about warning signs that were overlooked. Breaking up is the most dangerous time, especially when the abusive partner is highly controlling. Alissa is a true survivor, and a very fortunate survivor. Most stories like this have far different endings. This is Alissa's story. NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can only be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You are about to hear part one of a two-part story with Alissa. This is a teen dating violence story. It does not include physical violence to any great degree, but it makes the point that a relationship can be quite abusive even without the presence of the physical part. This interview is one you might want to listen to with teens present, both in high school or college. You will hear about warning signs that were overlooked. Breaking up is the most dangerous time, especially when the abusive partner is highly controlling. Alissa is a true survivor, and a very fortunate survivor. Most stories like this have far different endings. This is Alissa's story. NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can only be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

*Content Warning: digital violence, non-consensual distribution of intimate images, doxxing, cyberstalking, cyberbullying, grooming, exploitation, child sexual abuse material, internalized misogyny, hate crimes, racism, transphobia, and homophobia.Resources:Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3): https://www.ic3.gov/National Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/Take It Down: https://takeitdown.ncmec.org/THORN: https://info.thorn.org/Sources:Artificial Intelligence 2023 Legislation. (2023). The National Conference of State Legislatures. https://www.ncsl.org/technology-and-communication/artificial-intelligence-2023-legislationBernard Marr. May 8, 2024. The Important Difference Between Generative AI And AGI. https://www.forbes.com/sites/bernardmarr/2024/05/08/the-important-difference-between-generative-ai-and-agi/Deeptrace Labs. (2019). The State of Deepfakes: Landscape, Threats, & impact. https://regmedia.co.uk/2019/10/08/deepfake_report.pdfEuropean Commission. (n.d.). The EU's Digital Services Act. https://commission.europa.eu/strategy-and-policy/priorities-2019-2024/europe-fit-digital-age/digital-services-act_enFACT SHEET: Presidential Memorandum Establishing the White House Task Force to address online harassment and abuse. (2022). https://www.whitehouse.gov/briefing-room/statements-releases/2022/06/16/fact-sheet-presidential-memorandum-establishing-the-white-house-task-force-to-address-online-harassment-and-abuse/#:~:text=The%20Department%20of%20Justice%20(DOJ)%20will%20implement%20new%20statutory%20provisions,at%20the%20intersection%20with%20domesticJanine M. Zweig, Ph.D., Meredith Dank, Ph.D., Pamela Lachman, Jennifer Yahner. Technology, Teen Dating Violence and Abuse, and Bullying. U.S. Department of Justice. 2013. https://www.ojp.gov/pdffiles1/nij/grants/243296.pdfNational Center for Missing & Exploited Children. (n.d.). CyberTipline 2023 Report. https://www.missingkids.org/gethelpnow/cybertipline/cybertiplinedataPew Research Center. (2021, January 13). The State of Online Harassment. Pew Research. https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2021/01/13/the-state-of-online-harassment/Pew Research Center. (2022, December 15). Teens And Cyberbullying. Pew Research. https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2022/12/15/teens-and-cyberbullying-2022/Right To Be. (n.d.). Self-Care When Experiencing Online Harassment. Right to Be. https://righttobe.org/guides/self-care-when-experiencing-online-harassment/Rosenblatt, K. (2021, November 16). Drag queens are being swatted while streaming on Twitch. They want it to stop. NBC News. https://www.nbcnews.com/pop-culture/pop-culture-news/drag-queens-are-swatted-streaming-twitch-want-stop-rcna5631Rosenblatt, K. (2019, November 11). Family of Wichita man killed by police in swatting incident seeking $25 million from city. NBC News.https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/family-wichita-man-killed-police-swatting-incident-seeking-25-million-n1079836THORN. (2023, April 11). Online Grooming: What it is, how it happens, and how to defend children. https://www.thorn.org/blog/online-grooming-what-it-is-how-it-happens-and-how-to-defend-children/Walker, Paige, Adam Jazairi, and Chelcie Rowell, eds. Digital Literacy Against Digital Violence: A Handbook for Library Workers. 2022. https://nfpcsa.pubpub.org/handbook.Dr. Aiden Hirshfield:Dr. Hirshfield's website: https://www.aidenhirshfield.com/Media Psyched Podcast: https://www.aidenhirshfield.com/podcastDr. Hirshfield's Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/dr.aidenhirshfieldSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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We talk about ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) at school. We take bullying head on. But there's one especially treacherous ACE that afflicts as many as 1 in 3 teens from which we shy almost completely - teen dating violence and sexual abuse. Abuse survivor-turned-activist and national touring expert Ashley Bendiksen has made it her mission to bring these widespread and uncomfortable issues out of the darkness in order to shine her light on a welcome alternative - teaching kids how to establish and maintain healthy relationships. The relevance for public education is immense because, as Bendiksen points out, traumatized kids have a much harder time learning. It's next to impossible to focus on completing assignments or taking tests when students face abuse in their home or key relationships. But few teachers and administrators have been trained how to address such sensitive topics.This is where Bendiksen comes in with her clarion call. She travels the country sharing her own powerful story of survival, and the expertise she has since developed around domestic and sexual violence, adolescent mental health, resilience and healing after abuse. Further, she points out the profound influence educators can have on young lives when they transcend the academic and begin to venture into the social and emotional minefields many of their students are forced to navigate.Some of the solutions Bendiksen outlines as a response to this complex and traumatic state of affairs sound surprisingly simple - simple enough that you may wonder why all educators aren't provided with these tools from the outset of their careers.You can find out more about Ashley Bendiksen, her library of resources and her speaking engagements at ashleybendiksen.com. "Outliers in Education" is a project of CEE, The Center for Educational Effectiveness. Find out more at effectiveness.org.Produced by Jamie Howell at Howell at the Moon Productions.

A weekly magazine-style radio show featuring the voices and stories of Asians and Pacific Islanders from all corners of our community. The show is produced by a collective of media makers, deejays, and activists. For this week's episode of APEX Express, we are joined by Yi Thoj and Belle Vang from Hmong Innovating Politics (HIP) and Pana Lee and Jennifer Xiong from California Hmong Advocates Network – Building Our Futures (CHAN-BOF) who will go into depth about these very tough but very real and needed conversations about abusive relationships, especially within the Hmong community, where 70% of Hmong Americans are under 24 years old.   Important Resources: Hmong Innovating Politics website California Hmong Advocates Network – Building Our Futures website Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships infographic How to Spot Abusive Relationships infographic Do you know someone in an abusive relationship? infographic Are you in an abusive relationship? infographic What does consent look like? infographic Transcript Cheryl: Good evening, everyone! You are tuned in to APEX Express. I'm your host, Cheryl and tonight is an What is AACRE?, you might ask. Well comprised of 11 grassroots, social justice groups, the Asian Americans for Civil Rights and Equality (AACRE) network, leverages the power of its network to focus on long-term movement, building and support for Asian-Americans and Pacific Islanders committed to social justice. Speaking of AACRE groups, APEX express is proud to be a part of the AACRE network.  For tonight's episode, we will be spotlighting the work of AACRE group Hmong Innovating Politics, also known as HIP. Belle Vang and Yi Thoj from HIP will be in conversation with Pana Lee and Jennifer Xiong from the California Hmong Advocates Network Building Our Futures, also known as CHAN-BOF.  They'll be in discussion on the importance of teen dating violence awareness, especially in the Hmong community as they are among the youngest of all ethnic groups in the United States with about 70% of Hmong Americans being under 24 years old.   I know somebody, you might want to learn more about HIP and CHAN-BOF so I'll let our speakers introduce themselves. And don't forget. All of their socials and websites will be linked in the show notes.    Belle: Hi, everyone, thank you so much for making time in your night to join us. We really appreciate it. Today we're going to be having a panel discussion in recognition of Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month. I really want to thank CHAN-BOF for collaborating with Hmong Innovating Politics. We're very excited to do this collab together. We're going to do a brief introduction. So, hi, everyone. My name is Bella Gaonoucci Vang. I'm with Hmong Innovating Politics as a Communication and Narrative Manager. If you're not one of our followers, make sure to follow us.  Hmong Innovating Politics is a grassroots organization focused on strengthening political power within Hmong communities through civic engagement. And with that being said, I'll go ahead and pull in one of our HIP members, Yi.  Yi Thoj: Hi everyone, my name is Yi and I use she, her pronouns, and I been a HIP young adult for around three to four years. I'm also working on the Bright Spots project.  Belle: And then if we can have Pana join the conversation.  Pana: Hi, everyone. I am Pana with CHAN-BOF champion stands for California Hmong Advocates Network Building Our Future. We were two grassroots organizations in community and outreach and this past year we have been able to provide mobile direct services to our Hmong survivors of domestic violence across the Central Valley– so from Sacramento to Fresno. Jennifer Xiong: All right. And that leaves me. Hi, everyone. My name is Jennifer Xiong. I use she/her pronouns and I work as a program specialist with CHAN-BOF and Banak, who actually serves as my supervisor. I'm really excited and happy to be here and really grateful for HIP for giving us a space time and platform to have this conversation  Belle: Thank you again CHAN-BOF for collaborating with us here at HIP. We really appreciate all the work y'all do in the community. I know y'all individually are really great folks. I'm really excited to dive into today's conversation. In your experience, I'm just asking everyone in the panel, where are some cultural norms or expectations within the Hmong community regarding relationships and dating, and that could be anything that you'd like to share from your own personal experiences. Pana: I think I can go. So I think growing up in the eighties, cultural expectations for women, Hmong women, We were expected to just cook, clean, and take care of our younger siblings and our parents. Right? So if you were dating, your relatives would just look down on us. Dating was frowned upon. I remember it was expected that if a guy is interested in you, they would have to come by your parent's house and your parents would have to approve. I remember guys come in and during our teenage years, my mom would have to be present. Right. My parents are really strict. Their limit was they could only stay two hours. And so my mom would ask fast questions. If they don't qualify, they don't meet expectations, they better be out ASAP. My parents are really, really strict.  So those were our expectations back in the 80s. We weren't really allowed to date during my younger days that's what we had to go through. Yi Thoj: I feel like a lot of the gender expectations of my generation is still very much by heteronormative and patriarchal norms and construct.  I'm the youngest of 7 girls, so all of my, 6 older sisters– they're fierce and they're also wonderful, powerful women who have helped me navigate through a lot of the contentions that I held before, interacting with romantic encounters and engagements. And so I think having that model definitely helped me navigate through my experiences as well. I feel like our parents are like, oh, if you want to engage in romantic encounters at a young age, that's welcome. But thankfully, they also didn't pressure us to do so. Jennifer Xiong: It's got me thinking about my own experiences, very little experiences, I might add. I think about some of the things my mom has said to me, which still stick around, it's kind of like embedded in my mind where she says Oh, ([Jennifer speaks in Hmong) meaning when your partner is visiting or at our home, you guys shouldn't be in your bedrooms. You should be out in the living rooms because that's really disrespectful. It, it invites negative perceptions about the person and about the relationship and it is a form of disrespect toward the, the parents and the home. I've also felt and seen from my older cousins or distant relatives who've gotten married– I think it's centered a lot around saving face. I remember hearing stories about my cousins. If they had gone out and they came home late, for example, and the parents were extremely displeased or unhappy, and they're like, no, you dishonored me and my daughter. You have to marry my daughter now because you took her home late, even if they didn't do anything salacious, so to speak. I'd hear those a lot. And, for me, those are always scary. Like, Oh my gosh, they would just do that! And you're a kid and you're growing up hearing these and actually, I think I heard it more commonly than I expected– people marrying young because of the whole consequence of arriving home late from a date or a hangout. So those are some of my experiences or what I've, I heard and witnessed. Yeah.  Belle: Thank y'all for sharing. I love hearing about your experiences. I It's really interesting how we all have different experiences, but it's still in the same realm of a very similar community, right? Very tight knit community. I echo both Jennifer and Yee's experience where my parents are a little bit more lax, but at the same time, it's like, make sure you marry someone who's a quality person. Right? I think that's really telling of how we see dating in the Hmong community. We don't date to date, right? We date to commit forever. And especially, I know all of us on this panel are women identifying and that can be a very dangerous tool, right? To just date to only marry– you're willing to put up with a lot, even if it's not really what you want for yourself, because the way the culture shapes us is if you are dating, you're only dating seriously. It's not to explore, not to be curious about yourself. And so I really appreciate the way that y'all frame it and the way that you share your experiences too. And I know we touched a little bit on this as well, but kind of gauging what it looks like to be in a healthy relationship. How would you say a healthy relationship is defined within the Hmong community? And what are qualities that you consider important? For a positive and respectful relationship within the community? Pana: So you all heard the word [Pana speaks in Hmong], right [Pana speaks in Hmong] right? [Pana speaks in Hmong] We We hear this over and over. I think even with my age, I've heard that. I'm pretty sure some of y'all have heard that to even my parents or friends or family, right? To me, what's considered positive in a relationship is really compromising and allowing you to have your own space, really meeting each other in the middle, trusting each other, having boundaries, appreciating each other, respecting, having that respect, right? Effective communication, being able to communicate with each other and having empathy. Also consent. Really having the permission of something to happen or agreement. Be able to agree with something and being committed to your relationship.  Jennifer Xiong: Yeah, I wanted to add, and also share that I think a lot of the times traditional expectations around what a healthy relationship looks like in the Hmong community generally entails being constricted and confined to your pre established roles that have been gone for generations. But I think that how we can further redefine that nowadays is to really think about how everything that Pana has already listed and shared. Right. I think it's important that those things like healthy boundaries and having balance within a relationship, I feel a lot of those things should be contextualized to the relationship. That's one, but also, I think it should be formed organically, which is difficult, and there will always be ongoing conversations about what a romantic commitment looks like, and what does that mean for the exact couple, but I think it's important to have an ongoing conversation about it, and then also it's important to understand these layers, that , If the couple is both Hmong, it's important to put that in context, and then it's also, what if it's a multiracial or multiethnic relationship? I think that's also very important. Understanding the values, and how these things can be formed organically as well. There are certain learned behaviors, beliefs, attitudes, that we pick up as we grow up and what the kind of relationships and dynamics we witnessed as we're growing up and then getting or getting involved in our own romantic relationships with people, and the things we witness and see can also really shape the way we go into relationships and the way we show up as partners.  I really don't know how to define it within the Hmong community, but I will say that I have seen when relationships and dynamics of dating are built on a foundation of patriarchy, it can, relating back to what Yi and Pana says, it can build really toxic and concerning, unhealthy relationship dynamics of power and control, and not knowing how to allow your partner to have autonomy to themselves, or knowing that it's two different people coming in together to a relationship. Power and control, when it gets mixed into this relationship, it can become really unhealthy and toxic. So I think it's also about unlearning those and realizing that certain attitudes, behaviors, and beliefs don't serve in creating a healthy relationship between a partnership or a romantic relationship. Within the Hmong community, a lot of us I've seen unlearning those behaviors and attitudes that we may have witnessed and maybe even internalized growing up. To answer the second part of the question what qualities are considered important for a positive respectful Relationship. I think it's really all that you you both named. Those are important like compromise and y'all named so many other great stuff, but then I was also just cranking up the things in my mind, but I just want to echo back what Yi and Pana said, and I'll leave it at that. Yi Thoj: What Jennifer just shared, about what we witnessed growing up sparked something in my mind as well about the media that we consumed growing up too. I watched a ton of Tyler Crohn's and Southeast Asian media growing up, and so much of the representations of love in there. It's so romanticized that abuse is okay. Non consensual engagements is okay. The media and real life relationships that are reflected and also modeled throughout our lives hold such a big factor into how we view love growing into a young adult and further. I know it definitely impacted me because I was always like, Oh, I think that's what love is, right? That's what it's showing on TV and things like that. Yeah, definitely holds weight.  Belle: Yeah, I love that you mentioned that Yi. I didn't really seriously start dating until I was in college and a lot of our generation grew up watching kdramas. Like, oh so romantic, super rich Boy is in love with super poor girl and he dictates her life and buys her everything like so romantic. And I tell my partner now that i'm married, if you ever do anything like in kdramas we are not messing around. That is not cool I don't want you to decide anything for me. I don't want you to pretend like you're in the hospital just as a prank You know boys over flowers. It's really interesting how love is framed growing up and how, just like you said, it's super romanticized. And like, you know how K dramas, you feel that excitement, like that, it's not necessarily love, right? That's just the thrill of being in something new, experiencing something different, but not necessarily love itself. And I really resonate with what you said earlier, Yi, about how it's really important to form those healthy boundaries and organically. And I really closely ties to Pana's comment about being able to create a consensual relationship and, Just like Jennifer said to like dismantling that patriarchy and foundation that we were built on.  We;re Belle: Learning those things are really hard to because initially I thought that drama was what love was supposed to be, but love is supposed to be safe and supposed to protect you, make you feel like you belong. Right? Because we like do grow up in a society that perpetuates love in honestly a violent way, I also just kind of want to know like y'all's thoughts on do you think there's enough awareness about dating violence within our communities, particularly the Hmong community? And how do you feel like it's generally perceived or even discussed amongst one another? Pana: I actually think there's not much awareness happening in the Hmong community. We really need to continue and bring more awareness. And it's awareness. Prevention. Intervention. We need to continue to do that. Some parents don't talk much to their youths about teen dating violence, what's healthy and what's not healthy, or actually like what to look for in a relationship.  In my household, I have only boys. And so we talk about safe sex, healthy boundaries, healthy relationship. What would they like to see in a relationship. I do this because, I've had experience working in the domestic violence field, sexual assault field for a long time. And plus, that's something that I never got from my parents. So my goal was, from now on, when I have my kids, these are stuff that I'm going to teach them. And so I kept my goals, you know, that was something that I told myself that I promised myself that I would do this, to continue to teach my kids healthy boundary, healthy relationship and dating violence., Most parents were taught when they were young you're going to get married and just have a good life, have a good family.  Yi Thoj: All points that are so valid and so true. There are generational gaps, between the elders and ourselves and myself. My parents are around mid 60s. As much as I think I try to bridge that gap sometimes, I think youth just don't have the language as well to fully explain to them.  There's even the conversation about like mental health and how romantic relationships are embedded in mental health and even that in itself is a difficult conversation to start. More tangible resources to learn more about communication in terms of learning the Hmong language and whatnot would definitely help with outreach and building awareness in the community. But I think a lot of recent events as well have also shown to me about where The reflection of culture and the communities as well Which I would also like to provide some sort of affirmation for any youth who's watching this that these contentions and frictions within the community– it's never a reflection of you. You know, it's always a reflection of the larger culture and what is happening. And something that we all need to advocate for and invest into to change.  Jennifer Xiong: yeah. I agree that Bottom line, there isn't enough awareness about dating violence within the Hmong community on many different fronts, like Pana mentioned, the prevention piece and the intervention piece. How does someone recognize or learn to recognize signs of I might be in a toxic, unhealthy relationship that is or can eventually lead into something that's violent? Or maybe I am in a current relationship where there is violence, but I don't know how to pick up on the signs and actually realize that, hey, I'm not in a safe place in this relationship, or in a safe relationship.  And then if your loved ones or family members or friends are recognizing it from an outside perspective, like, we lack a lot of resources and information out there for our community to engage with to learn how to intervene or also recognize it among our loved ones and the people we care about if they may be in those types of dynamics and relationships. And then when we do recognize it, how do we step in and help? What do we do? How can we help? And yeah, so bottom line, there isn't enough resources out there. I think it's still really on the, I guess the loose term, up and up. I really have a lot of faith and hope and I've seen, the work continue to expand and grow and obviously CHAN-BOF is a part of that, along with so many other organizations, statewide organizations that are trying to build more resources and information and push it out there into our communities, so that they know this information, they have access to it and can tap into it with our youth and young adults , and maybe even with our older folks or generations, cause I know you mentioned brought up a really great point too,in that , there's different gaps or different ways of understanding how to talk about dating violence within the Hmong community. Pana: Yeah, I remember my parents would tell me, [Pana speaks in Hmong] [Pana speaks in Hmong] [Pana speaks in Hmong] and I'm like I never understood that. And so growing up, getting older, I kind of understood it. And again, they said the same thing. We were talking, me and my kids were sitting in the table and we're talking about healthy relationship and stuff. What do you look for? How would the relationship look like? What's healthy? And then again, my dad says, yeah [Pana speaks in Hmong]  And my son was like, I don't understand that mom. It was just very generalized, and I had to like recorrect that. This is what he means. My definition of what my dad said was Look for a healthy relationship. Get to know the person Date them Belle: I love that example Pana because growing up everyone always told me that, and I took it at face value. You know when we speak in moments like poetry, right? but growing up I took that at face value saying like when you grow up make sure you marry someone who has Power, who has good reputation in the community, and then As I got older, my mom's like, that's never what I was telling you. Jennifer Xiong: I was just telling you, marry someone who makes you happy. And I was like, Oh, how come you didn't just say it that way? Then like you put it in a way that I was like, Oh man, I have to make sure I marry someone who's brings honor to my family, right? Like what a Mulan way of thinking. But I feel like that's always how I really perceive dating. And tying how Hmong is very much like poetry in our communities, I really like what Yi's comment earlier about how there's not really a lot of terminology in our community for even awareness about the mental health in our community. It's very much how medical terms have only really come to fruition in our community within the past like 50 years. We don't have anything regarding terms that we can use for mental health or dating violence, like the only thing we can use is sick, like that's pretty much how you say when you talk about mental health.   You just say basically, you have a sickness in your head, but there's not actual terms. When we talk about diabetes, like, [Jennifer speaks in Hmong] which literally translates to sweet blood or blood. Well, that is sweet. I hope to see, the next, I don't want to wait 50 years. I hope in the next 20 years there is verbiage that can help the community decipher and break down and bring more awareness to the violence that's being perpetrated in our communities as well. Belle: I love this conversation. I really love that. You showed examples of your son, and it really feels like how intergenerationally we think. We all think so differently, even though we have good intentions it doesn't get translated across the board. I kind of want to elaborate a little bit more when we talked about how it's really important to have consent when it comes to dating, how you really teach your sons that. Would you mind elaborating a little bit more about what consent looks like when it comes to dating, your perspective and how you see it within our communities as well. Pana: Have y'all seen the little video about drinking tea ? Sometimes you can drink the tea and you're like, I don't want to drink it no more. You know, and so you can change at any moment, right? And being able to understand okay, I This person might not want to, so I need to be able to give that respect and step away, right? And so, getting them to understand that. So if you all watched that video, the tea consent video. It's really cute, and It's really good for the youth, even for the kids. They understand it real quick. In a relationship, you should be able to give them that space and say, Okay, I get it. I'm gonna be able to understand if someone says no, then no means no. And then their body gestures are like they're pushing back, that means no. If my face is looking like, i'm shaking my head or you can see in my eyes like I don't like you stay away Right? And so being able to understand that Jennifer Xiong: I think one thing I want to add to that which is great. Like the tea consent video is super amazing at just Easily explaining under the understanding of consent, but also when someone can't consent like when they can't answer yes or no. For example, they're at a party and they've passed out drunk. They're just not conscious and awake and they can't answer yes or no, decline or accept. That also is not an invitation or permission. That is not a consent, basically. So I'm going back and forth. When a person can't answer, it's definitively no, because they're not consciously aware and awake enough to give that response. So I think that is also something I wanted to add. Yi Thoj: Yeah, I don't have much to add to this question. I've never seen the tea consent video, but putting that into perspective, that is such a great analogy and wonderful example and easy way to explain things can change right in the middle of an interaction.  Also just wanting to provide admiration to Pana as well to opening up the conversations with your sons because I think that's so important. A lot of the times younger Men or Hmong youth who are male identified. A lot of the times their influences are from other male figures in their lives who may not be the best role model. And so I'm totally leaning in towards the Hmong woman leaders in people's lives, especially Hmong youth, and just really loving that. Belle: I love that affirmation. we are right now a room of powerful women in our community itself. So I really, I want to like, double up on that echo Yi's statement as well.  Cheryl: You are currently tuned in to APEX Express on 94.1 KPFA and 88.1 on KFCF. You have so far been listening to Belle Vang and Yi Thoj from Hmong Innovating Politics, also known as HIP, and Pana Lee and Jennifer Xiong from California Hmong Advocates Network Building Our Future (CHAN-BOF). We are going to take a quick music break, but don't go anywhere. More on breaking the silence about teen dating violence awareness in the Hmong community after our break.  Welcome back. You were tuned into apex express on 94.1, KPFA 88.1. KFCF in Fresno. And online at KPFA. Dot org. You were just listening to your track off of the Anakbayan LB May Day mix tape called “Letter to Mom” by shining sons. Anakbayan LB is a Filipino youth and student organization based in long beach, California, working to arouse, organize and mobilize the community to address issues that impact Filipinos in the U S and in the Philippines.  Now, back to the show. We are here, with belle Vang and Yi Thoj from Hmong Innovating Politics (HIP) and Pana Lee and Jennifer Xiong. From California Hmong Advocates Network Building Our Futures (CHAN-BOF). We're talking about teen dating violence awareness and its impacts and implications in the Hmong community.  Belle: Jennifer, you talk about patriarchy and shared about how, you really tried to shape your son because you also work in this field you are definitely more eloquent work in addressing these issues. I want to dive more into what that looks like within our community and in our culture. Do you feel like there are specific cultural or community barriers that may prevent individuals, particularly Hmong individuals, from seeking help or disclosing incidents of dating violence? And what does that look like? Especially since I know CHAN-BOF does a lot of that direct work with clients. Pana: I think because we're so closely knitted, that's a barrier too, being afraid of, okay, this person might know me. One example is while growing up, I was taught men were more valuable than women. I think in our family, my parents really wanted a son and they kept on trying and trying until after they got 7 daughters, they finally got their son, right? And so we were told, you have to be patient because boys, [Jennifer speaks Hmong] and as a teenager, I was like, I guess I held no value. And so, and also keeping in mind for a long time, a lot of our culturally specific organizations were mainly ran by Hmong men. Hmong men are the main person who makes the decisions Jennifer Xiong: Some of those barriers are they don't seek help or support. The other barrier that I experienced in high school is I had a friend who was dating someone who was really abusive and verbally abusive, physically abusive. He sexually assaulted her. When she came to me. I was like, Oh, no, you need to go to your parents. The minute she told her parents, she was forced to marry him to save face. And so, after watching what had happened to my friend made me feel like if that happened to me and I went and told my parents. But these are back in my days, though, right? I would be forced to get married, like, and that time I didn't know that that was not okay. If someone raped you and forced you, that is not okay, but I wasn't aware of that. She wasn't aware of that. And so, again, we said, you know, back, awareness needs to happen. Awareness and education. That was something I remember for a long time and I felt guilty and I, I felt bad because I didn't know who to send to go for help. I referred it back to her parents and said, yeah, your parents would help you go for it and go for it. And that's, that's what happened. That's one of the other barriers. Some of our parents are not very educated in this topic, and it's a topic that we don't talk about. I do want to add, there's still strong sentiments of, victim blaming, shaming, disempowering. I've heard statements, or I will say, I was doing my research paper on DV in the Hmong community. My sources were like YouTube videos. And so, I found these videos of these women speaking out about their experiences of DV. In this particular example, she's married she was pregnant and her husband was abusing her. So much so that he was dragging her down the stairs of their apartment building. And so she mentioned her stomach was basically getting shaped. She was somehow able to escape his grasp and run to a neighbor and ask them to call law enforcement. And so law enforcement came and took away the husband because they visibly could see what, what had gone on. Her mother in law had said to her, Oh. [Jennifer speaks Hmong], meaning, oh, daughter in law, why did you call law enforcement and have them take away my son? It dawned on me how we perceived some of these dynamics and abuses when it happens in relationships. And again, the whole, why did you do that instead of are you okay? What happened to you? Why did they do that to you? Or really focusing on the wellness and safety of the person being in a violent relationship, violent abusive relationship. And to add to that, the terminology and the way we frame some of the resources out there, I remember a lot of the [Jennifer speaks in Hmong] the elders, would call DV shelters [Jennifer speaks in Hmong] right. The term, the explanation of it is like the place for runaway women or wives or mothers. But in fact, these shelters meant to house and keep individuals, women, children, who were experiencing abuse and violence in their relationship safe. But then we use negative connotations and terminology to label them because it brings a lot of shame and hesitation to seek out help. The fact that the resources that are available mainstream wise for those who are seeking help and resources because they may be in an abusive violent relationship is that there's also a lack of culturally responsive resources and services to aid and assist our specific community members when they're out trying to get the help that they need. I've witnessed and heard that a lot from the clients that I directly support and assist. Like, oh, we've gone here and then they mentioned not having a great experience, or being misunderstood, or I'm not feeling even safe or comfortable enough to talk about their experiences and get the resources and help that they need because some of the agencies really lacked the cultural understanding awareness or the intersection of that when it comes to dating violence or domestic violence in our own community. Yi Thoj: Yeah, all of this is like really great examples. Also, unfortunate. I think that from my own experience with dealing with victims around me who have undergone a lot of these violences, what I've seen is that a lot of it is them recognizing that the harm that is being done to them is wrong. Very much so. But they've also internalized and conditioned themselves to accept it as something that is normal and okay, even if a lot of the times there's this back and forth resistance of wanting to debate themselves from the situation, but then at the same time, them like always going back and this is the cycle of abuse, right, and how it works. But one note that I would also like to make is that what I've also seen is that it's really, really important that male perpetrators, especially Hmong men, it's important that there are other Hmong men who are holding them accountable, is what I found to be true. Because as much as Hmong women who are victims and other Hmong women bystanders who are wanting to advocate for these victims try to stand up for them, These perpetrators and also the culture inherently does not change if people who are in power and have that privilege don't actively help dismantle it, too. So, I think that it's important to note. There's so much power that goes into having woman led spaces and woman voices because that's so important, but I also think there should be so much more work done from the cisgendered male counterparts in our lives and in the community Belle: Thank y'all for that. Your sentiment is so powerful, yi and it's Very valid. A lot of times the folks that were leading this work are often the women in our communities Like that's just straight up facts, right? I attended a Boys and men of color conference, and one of the panels said the one time that men have these spaces together is also when women created. Right? As women, we build a lot of community for our community and at the same time, don't get the recognition of the work that is being done. So, it's really important that those who do have power, make sure that they implement it correctly and support communities that minorities within their communities that need that extra support.  The examples provided to I felt were very powerful, but also very traumatizing. When I was listening to your story, when you were talking about how you advise your friend to go to their family and they were forced into marriage. I know that we are different generations, but I feel like I definitely have met folks who are my age who were still forced to the situation. Those culture practices are so very normal and not unheard of. Like it's not completely cultural shift within one generation. And I'm sure When you witnessed that, that it was very traumatizing for you too, even though you were not the one immediately affected by it, but it also shifted the way you saw community, the way you viewed culture itself. And you even expressed you felt a lot of guilt and responsibility for that. It's really interesting that when there are those traumatizing, abusive relationships happening to those folks, and even at the third per person party that you feel that trauma in other ways as well. You mentioned how the patriarchy does affect our communities in that way. What is being done? What is being said to help heal our communities and work past these issues that are obviously very much rooted in our communities. I know we talked a little bit about the way cultural identity influences our communities. I know we specifically talked about the Hmong community too as well. I know we only have about 10 minutes left and so I kind of just want to dive into, not necessarily solutions, but what are things that we can take, what are steps that we can take to make progressive action and change in our community? So in your opinion, what role can the Hmong community play in addressing and preventing this deep imbalance? And Are there any community led solutions that you feel could be effective within our community? Yi Thoj: Yeah, I think as we've mentioned throughout the conversation, it's important to emphasize and highlight prevention work that can be done. And that is teaching the young boys and men and ongoing older Hmong men in our lives to. Because that is community, right? Folks who are directly within our circles, as well as people who we interact with. I think it's important to teach them very simple things that should already be fundamental, but unfortunately are not. Such as informed consent, and then also just normal consent. I think to echo back on what I just shared as well, having more male mentors who are very much progressive and radical in their work, and also centered in the actual tangible dismantling of the culture and harmful aspects of the system, I think is, A really big part of it. The reason why I think I'm bringing this up is because my experience with younger men who still hold a lot of these traditionalist and violent behaviors and mentalities receive a lot of their mentorship from other male mentors in their lives, and also just media consumption such as Andrew Tate and whatnot. A lot of folks in my own young adult experience very much religiously follow Andrew Tate and I had believed that we were at a point in our progressive history to where we have gone past that, but it's still very rampant in the community and it's affecting The youth, and it's affecting how they interact with and also date other Hmong women as well, assuming that this is a binary relationship.   Pana: It's time to talk about it, supporting each other, talking about what health relationship really is. And It doesn't have to just come from the school. For a long time, a lot of our parents, we depend on the school. Oh, they'll figure that out, right? it needs to come from everyone, every one of us. Even as a friend, as an individual, we all need to support in that piece like supportive organizations such as CHAN-BOF and HIP, right? Continuously talking about this, bringing the awareness. If you're feeling uncomfortable, if we're really uncomfortable talking about a certain topic, we do need to talk about that and really addressing that. Getting to understand what's healthy and what's not healthy. What are the signs of an abusive relationship? I think if we really want change, change needs to happen especially as parents and it comes from the youth too. We want a better future for our youth so I think really continue to really address this and doing a lot of prevention work because we tend to deal with a crisis and we're forgetting about the prevention part. How do we prevent this stuff. One great example that I always use is we're constantly supporting and trying to jump in and support people who are drowning, but we keep forgetting about, what's happening on the other side of that river. Something's happening and it's the prevention education piece that we need to start doing and continue to do. Cheryl: We're going to take a quick music break, but don't go anywhere. Next up,. You're going to be listening to “cultural worker” by power struggle. More on the ways we can work towards. Teen dating violence awareness in the Hmong Comunity when we return.    Cheryl: And we're back!. You are tuned in to KPFA on 94.1, KPFA 88.1 KFCF F in Fresno and online at kpfa.org. You were just listening to “cultural worker” by power struggle, a Filipino beat rock music artist based in the bay. We're currently here with Belle and Yi from Hmong innovating politics, hip. And Jennifer and Pana from California Hmong advocates network, building our futures, cHAN-BOF as we discuss the ways we can address teen dating violence in the Hmong community.    Jennifer Xiong: I'm gonna echo, I mean, both of you brought up the same points, but in really distinctive examples of your own, and I really appreciate that. It is about really bolstering, our community up to be proactive and engaged and informed about this, and really equipping and building them up to be a part of this, that it's not oh, you know, I think it's great that obviously we do this work as current active advocates who've had previous quote, unquote, professional experience dealing with , crisis like this, or dealing with and supporting directly individuals who have gone or are going through this and that, like, everyone is more than capable of being equipped with the knowledge and being enforced with the knowledge and the ability To learn and understand this and be proactive about it in our community. It does lead a lot back to the whole prevention and intervention work and building up our youth and young adults. Cause you know, okay. So a side note is, so we did a lot of outreach and engagement work this past year, really putting it out in front of our community, in the Hmong community. And let me tell you, I was scared to do this because I was like, oh my gosh, people are going to be bringing their pitchforks and torches and, and they're going to come around and be like, who's this girl going on TV, talking about DV and providing resources and services for our community. Interestingly enough, I got like so much of the opposite reaction and responses. And I think to me, that's really heartwarming. And it gives me a lot of hope because I got so much positive affirmation and reinforcement and feedback from even our older generations in our community and young folks too, saying this is so needed. This is critical, important. I'm so glad you're out here. Or how can we get involved? Even being like, , I'm so happy that you guys are doing this work. And we really have a lot of faith because so much of our younger folks, younger generations are stepping up to do this sort of work. So I think it's really the community, a large portion of the community, from what I've experienced, really recognize how important and needed this work is to implement this and incorporate this into our community so they know and understand like, Hey, violence is not okay. Dating violence is not okay. Domestic violence is not okay. But what can we do? , what do we do about it? And I think we're at that place where people are really curious and desiring to really step up and do something about it. And again, I think what Pana and Yi mentioned.  Belle: Thank you. I love those ideas on how the Hmong community can take action to change the violence that happens in our communities, right? I love dismantling the patriarchy and empowering our youth. I think that also really comes with, I know we didn't really touch on this, but, the 18 class system. How there really needs to be more, you mentioned, women leadership. We have a lot of women leadership in our communities, but not within our 18 class system. And why is that right? And how do we convince them that we need women in those leadership roles within our communities to represent our communities. That also ties into the same thing with Jennifer, how we really want to empower youth. We should also have youth leadership because then the folks who are in those important seats are 60 plus and so disconnected with the reality that we're living in today. So, you know, I just really appreciate everything y'all brought to the table today. I know we only have a few minutes left. , I know we talked a lot about youth empowerment, how there's a lot of women leadership. Since we're focusing on teen dating violence today, what is a tip or advice that you would have liked to receive as a teenager, now being a little bit more experienced with your relationships. And if you could say it really quick. Any of the teenagers listening out here, perk your ears up– there's a lot of great advice in here, so make sure that you absorb it like a sponge. And I'll just go ahead and leave it at that.  Pana: I think with me– it's okay to not be okay, right? It's okay to not be okay, and it's really okay to talk to someone. And really reach out for help and, you know, really understand that it's okay to say no, and we are all equal. Jennifer Xiong: For me, Oh gosh, this is hard. First things first is like, I think my teen self would have loved to know dating during your teen years. It's not a big deal. Like, it's okay. Don't feel like you're missing out or that there's something wrong with you if you aren't in a relationship while you're in your teen years. Really spend that time cherishing and valuing the time you have with yourself and getting to know yourself first, so that when you do get into a relationship, you know what you want, you know, the values that you want in a relationship, the values you want to bring into a relationship, you know yourself. And also don't forget that you are you're worthy. You matter, you're important. And that, anyone who disrespects you or does not value your work in a relationship more than likely aren't worth your time and aren't worth your tears. And so I think that's what I would have wanted to know.  Yi Thoj: for mine, it's very specific. How I came to be with my current partner. It was through an intersection of events with a lot of things that we've already discussed today as well. And so I think what I would have wanted to know is that It's very difficult to try to empower and change the hearts and minds of people on the ground level. Even if you're going in head strong. please treat yourself with grace in all of that. And then lean in on your partner to help you navigate that. It's so important. I think a lot of Hmong women and Hmong girls are taught to be hyper individualistic and independent, and it's needing to teach that sometimes you can lean into your femininity. Sometimes you can lean in on support from other people. And also from your partner, it's really important. C: Thank you. I love all the self love in the room and just really great advice on being gentle with yourself and recognize that you are deserving of all the good things in life. I hope that everyone really takes that to heart and it's just friendly reminder to continue loving yourself in the process of loving others. Love is abundant. It's not scarcity mindset. We are here to share our love and that love should be shared with ourselves as well. We're going to wrap today up and I just want to say thank you so much to Yi, Pana, Jennifer for joining us and thank you so much CHAN-BOF for collaborating with HIP for dating violence awareness month. We really appreciate all your effort and all the work you do in our communities as well. If you haven't already in the audience, please make sure to follow and like HIP and CHAN-BOF so you can continue following the work that we do and support our endeavors as community members, because you are part of the change in our communities as well. Well, all so much and have a good rest of your night. Thanks everyone.  Cheryl: And that's the end of our show. Learn more about the incredible work being done by Hmong innovating politics and CHAN-BOF by checking out our show notes.   Also HIP and CHAN-BOF ask work together to create these really helpful infographics on themes of teen dating violence awareness, such as what is consent? How do you know you're in an abusive relationship. How can you help someone who's in it? I found them to be really helpful. So I will also make sure to link those in the show notes as well.  Cheryl Truong: Apex express is produced by Miko Lee, Paige Chung, Jalena Keane-Lee, Preeti Mangala Shekar. Shekar, Anuj Vaidya, Kiki Rivera, Swati Rayasam, Nate Tan, Hien Nguyen, Nikki Chan, and Cheryl Truong   Tonight's show was produced by me, cheryl. Thanks to the team at KPFA for all of their support. And thank you for listening!  The post APEX Express – 04.25.24 – Hmong Teen Dating Violence Awareness appeared first on KPFA.

In this month's episode, Stephanie and Michelle are joined by Family Resource's Iowa Domestic Abuse Advocate, Sydney, as well as our own social worker Quinn, to discuss resources for young people facing violence in their relationships. Our librarians also discuss dragon books (for all the Fourth Wing fans!), and interview one of our Special Collections Librarians about outstanding women in Davenport history. Some upcoming programs:Adults: Publishing Workshop Series with the Midwest Writing Center - March 6th @ 6-7:30pm | FairmountTweens: Tween Pop Tasting Challenge - March 11th @ 1-2pm | MainKids: National Puppy Day Storytime & Craft - March 23rd @ 10-11am | FairmountHelpful links from our discussion:Richardson-Sloane Special Collections - Sign up for weekly blog posts from Special Collections and learn more about local Davenport historyFamily Resources  Library Links:Library Social Worker - Do you need help navigating government benefits, affordable housing, or unemployment? Are you wondering what resources are available for you and your family? The Library Social Worker can work with you to navigate these challenges.Calendar of Events - Learn more about the events discussed in this episode and about what is coming up at the Library!Library Catalog - Place holds on all of the books discussed today!To find out what books were mentioned in this episode, visit our Checked In LibGuide! 

February is Teen Dating Violence awareness month. That's why in todays podcast Cody's going to discuses teen dating, what's it look like, what resources are available to keep teens safe, and to end things off we'll talk with Olivia a Victim Witness Specialist from Eau Claire, to share any interesting trends and or experiences with working with teens throughout the court process.If you or someone you know is affected by domestic violence and or sexual assault, we encourage you to call our 24/7 confidential hotline at 715-834-9578 or email us at director@boltonrefuge.orgSupport the show

Each February, young adults and their loved ones nationwide raise awareness about teen dating violence through Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month (TDVAM). This annual, month-long effort focuses on advocacy and education to stop dating abuse in teens before it starts. Approximately 1 in 3 U.S. teens will experience physical, sexual, or emotional abuse from someone they're in a relationship with before becoming adults. Many teens who experience unhealthy relationships often carry these unhealthy patterns into future adult relationships.How you can talk to your teen about Teen Dating ViolenceTalking to teens about teen dating violence is crucial to promoting healthy relationships. Here are a few topics and tips to start the conversation on teen dating violence:Create a positive connection to the issue by discussing green flags in relationships. Talking about positive characteristics in relationships helps to lighten the mood on a difficult subject.Discussing the warning signs of dating abuse. Include emotional, sexual, and physical abuse. It is important to emphasize abuse happens in multiple forms. Empower them to trust their instincts. If they are uncomfortable about a situation, encourage them to speak up by fostering a non judgmental environment.Talk about the media and how it portrays healthy vs. unhealthy relationships. Many TV shows, movies, and books portray abusive behaviors, like stalking, as “romantic” or harmless, when in reality, they are very dangerous behaviors.For more information and resources about Teen Dating Violence, you can visit loveisrespect.org.

Early Voting underway for primary and nonpartisan judicial election; ATU to host NASA speaker this Friday; February is Teen Dating Violence awareness month; AGFC seeking input on Lake Conway boating lanes; scholarship opportunity for past county fair participants; our broadcast schedule is set for first-round regional tournament basketball games; we talk with Morrilton Mayor Allen Lipsmeyer.

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month (CHECK OUT OUR FULL TDVAM TOOLKIT HERE!)We are so excited and grateful to bring you this conversation featuring two amazing high school students and one of our awesome prevention educators. We uncovered so many great gems and perspectives!EPISODE INFORMATIONHost: Emily Janas, Education & Prevention Manager at Women In DistressGuests: Camila & Sebastian, high school students from Coral Springs Charter in Broward CountyAlisa Gonzalez, WID Education SpecialistMusic by: Shane Ivers at https://www.silvermansound.com/You can also find us on social media, including more TDVAM content and ideas in February:Website: https://widbroward.org/event/teen-dating-violence-awareness-month/On Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/WomenInDistressOn Instagram @WomenInDistress and @TheRelationshipSpectrum:On TikTok @TheRelationshipSpectrumABOUT THE PODCAST"An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure." This show, brought to you by the Education & Prevention team at Women In Distress in Broward County, FL is building awareness to end domestic violence. Each episode, we'll be breaking down different aspects of the work – we'll talk to survivors, advocates, community members, and others to explore the things that are happening right now and the work that still needs to be done. ABOUT WOMEN IN DISTRESSWomen In Distress is the only state-certified, nationally accredited domestic violence center serving Broward County, Florida. Our mission is "To stop domestic abuse for everyone through intervention, education, and advocacy." https://www.womenindistress.org/GET HELP:If you are in immediate danger:Call 9-1-1Women In Distress (Broward County)24/7 Crisis Hotline: (954) 761-1133 | Florida Relay 711https://www.womenindistress.org/ FL Statewide DV Hotline: Call or Text: 1-800-500-1199  Florida Relay 711Find your local Florida DV center: https://www.myflfamilies.com/service-programs/domestic-violenceTraining & resources: https://www.fldvtraining.org/Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 to  connect with a volunteer Crisis Counselorhttps://www.crisistextline.org/National DV Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)Text "START" to 88788https://www.thehotline.org/SAMHSA Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988https://988lifeline.org/ Love Is Respect: 1-866-331-9474Text "LOVEIS" to 22522 https://www.loveisrespect.org/

On Friday, March 28th, 2003, the last bell rang at Reagan High School in Austin, Texas, and students flooded into the hallways, rejoicing that the weekend was finally here. But soon, those excited shouts and plans for the weekend turned into screams of terror, and one of the students ran into Vanessa Conner's classroom, telling her she had to come out into the hall to see what had happened. As Ms. Conner peered over the railing to the bottom of the stairs, she was horrified to find one of her students covered in stab wounds and slashes and lying in a pool of blood. February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month in the United States, and in this episode we highlight a nightmarish case of deadly teen dating violence, before diving into a discussion of abusers and their motivations, the different kinds of abuse and some potential interventions to help reduce instances of Teen Dating Violence.  If you are currently dealing with teen dating violence or any other kind of intimate partner violence, you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or text SMART to 88788. Sources:'I was loaned an angel.' The lives shaped by Ortralla Mosley's murder, 20 years later from Austin American-StatesmanBright and talented young woman': Ortralla Mosley honored at Texas Capitol Thursday from KXAN Ortralla Mosley's mother sought help for her daughter's killer. She's done trying. from Austin American-StatesmanA Shining Star Goes Dark from The Austin Chronicle'Stand up and speak' from Austin American-StatesmanMcTear Admits Murder, Gets Maximum Sentence from The Austin ChronicleThe 4 Stages of the Cycle of Abuse: From Tension to Calm and Back from PsychCentralAbout Dating Matters from CDCUp to 19% of teens experience dating violence. Psychologists want to break the cycle from the American Psychological AssociationThe Danger of Manipulative Love-Bombing in a Relationship from Psychology TodayWhy People Abuse from National Domestic HotlineSee ya next Wednesday! Intro/Outro Music: A Creepy Music from Music UnlimitedInstagram: @wickedwithinpodcastWebsite: wickedwithinpodcast.com

In today's episode of School Safety Today by Raptor Technologies, host Dr. Amy Grosso sat down with Angela Lee, Director of Love Is Respect at the National Domestic Hotline. During the conversation, they discussed Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month and the significance of educators understanding the signs of unhealthy relationships and teen dating violence so they can recognize and address them effectively.KEY POINTS:• The widespread issue of teen dating abuse• Educating youth about healthy relationships • The importance of adult support in preventing dating violenceGuest Angela Lee is the Director of Love is Respect at the National Domestic Violence Hotline, where she has worked for nearly 13 years. With over two decades of experience in the social justice field, including substance abuse, behavioral health, sexual assault, and support for at-risk youth, Lee has dedicated her career to empowering young people to establish and maintain healthy, respectful relationships. Her work at Love is Respect focuses on preventing intimate partner violence through education, support, and resources aimed at young people and their allies.

DCAC has partnered with South Carolina Victim Assistance Network (SCVAN) for many years to ensure quality care for the clients we serve. Jessica Goodwin, SCVAN's Faith Based Victim Service Program Coordinator, shares about initiatives they are taking with victim service providers around the state, specifically with the faith community as well as tackling teen dating violence (TDV). With a heart to equip South Carolina to care well for victims of various crimes and trauma, Jessica gives us up-to-date information that will enhance our resources for the good of those unjustly affected by trauma.Don't forget February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month! Together we can learn more about TDV and access resources so we are prepared to protect teens in our community.Learn more about SCVAN's Leap of Love Teen Dating Violence Event (Feb. 15th) here: https://www.scvan.org/leapofloveSCVAN Faith Based Victim Service Program: https://www.scvan.org/faithLove is Respect: loveisrespect.orgDCAC Newsletter: https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/sl/mVT4NfeQuestions about the episode?Contact community@dorchestercac.orgWant to learn more about DCAC?Visit dorchesterchildren.org

If you've ever wondered how to connect with, serve and create safe spaces for LGBT+ teens, you do not want to miss this conversation! In this episode, curated specifically for Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, Andrew Sta. Ana discusses primary prevention and interventions for LGBT adolescent survivors of dating violence. Andrew also explains why culturally responsive services are so critical and what best practices and policies may look like when serving is a priority.This episode includes practical ideas and suggestions regarding next steps for providers and organizations who are interested in this very needed work.

February is Teen Dating Violence Action Month!!! Our Prevention Education team discusses their curriculum, healthy tips, and answers questions about TDVAM with a teacher from one of our local schools. At the end of our episode we highlight the 2024 Youth Voice Award where Illinois teens could win a monetary prize for answering our prompt. More details on our website. To learn more about Sarah's Inn, please visit sarahsinn.org. If you are experiencing domestic violence and are looking for support services, trained advocates are available 24-hours a day at the Sarah's Inn crisis line - 708-386-4225. Follow us online at: Instagram @sarahs_inn Twitter @sarahs_inn Facebook @sarahsinntogetherstrong

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month.  In this episode, Stuart talks with SANE nurse Kim Riddle about this issue, what it looks like, and what can parents and educators do to help.

There is no such thin as tick season because ticks are around all year long in Connecticut. New health studies show that there is a strong connection between lyme disease and mental health issues. We spoke with Jessica Snajder of Partner in Lyme, Inc. about these findings and what we can do to bridge the gap between tick borne illnesses and mental health issues. (0:00) February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month. According to national statistics, 1 in 3 U.S. teens will experience physical, sexual, or emotional abuse from someone they're in a relationship with before becoming adults. We spoke with Gary MacNamara of Sacred Heart University about promoting healthy relationships and recognizing bad behavior early on. (10:19) It is Black History Month and the Commission on Human Rights and Opportunities shared resources available for us to educate ourselves on black history but also events happening all month long to learn more. (23:12) Image Credit: Getty Images

Nicole Linder is the CEO of the Marjaree Mason Center in Fresno. She returned to the program to discuss all aspects of teen dating violence, from the lowest threshold of what qualifies as violence to whether enough schools are dialed into awareness and education of it. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month. In this INbetween episode, host Mighty Fine shares with listeners some statistics on teen dating violence and provides some strategies that can be incorporated into injury and violence prevention work to increase awareness and educate on prevention of this important issue facing teens and families. 

Its Teen Dating Violence Awareness month....what does that have to do with veterans? Everything. Exposure to sexual violence early has shown up in our formations. Dr. Poe dives into the nuance and her personal experience as a teenager around dating violence. We also get into Heart Health Awareness month and the connection between mental health and heart health. Make sure to leave us feedback, share the episode and go to glasssoldier.org and sign up for our newsletter and donate! www.glassoldier.org https://www.instagram.com/glasssoldierorg/

Did you know that 1 in 3 young people in the US have experienced or survived dating abuse? In a candid and crucial conversation on Pediatric Meltdown, host Dr. Lia Gaggino is joined by guest Dr. Lenore Jarvis to tackle the sensitive issue of adolescent relationship abuse (ARA). From identifying red flags to discussing prevention strategies and resources, this eye-opening episode provides essential insights for parents, educators, and healthcare professionals working with adolescents. Dr. Jarvis will take a deep-dive into the different types of ARA, the power dynamics at play, and the impact of abuse on mental and physical health will highlight the importance of documentation, trauma-informed care, and healing-centered engagement, emphasizing the holistic experience of addressing trauma. With the imperative need for universal screening and education, and the complexities of navigating disclosures and mandatory reporting, our episode provided essential guidance for healthcare professionals. This episode is another example of Dr. Gaggino's never ending dedication to unravel critical issues affecting pediatric care, empowering clinicians to make a positive impact on the lives of young people. [00:33 -15:23] Understanding the Impact of Adolescent Relationship Abuse (ARA) on Teen HealthAdolescents experiencing ARA are at an increased risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs).Victims of adolescent relationship abuse may suffer from mental health issues, including depression.There is a notable link between ARA and suicidality in teenagers, potentially leading to life-threatening situations.Adolescent relationship abuse often leads to increased school dropout rates, affecting education[15:24 - 27:55] Strategies for Healthcare Professionals to Support Teens in Abusive Relationships ARA strategies must respect a teen's comfort and safety in sharing, not always certain in a clinic.Adolescents' confidentiality is vital, needing careful management by healthcare workers.Feelings of isolation and shame can deter teens from seeking help or revealing abuse.Offering ARA resources during visits offers consistent support, regardless of disclosure.[27:56 - 42:08] Effective Approaches to Adolescent Relationship Abuse DisclosureProviders encourage teens to report abuse by discussing common issues.Healthcare pros must immediately validate a teen's ARA disclosure.Careful measures protect intimate violence reports in patient records.Keeping the abuser from patient files is vital to the teen's safety and privacy.[43:09 - 55:59] Implementing Early Educational Strategies for Healthy RelationshipsElementary education focuses on identifying traits of positive and negative friendships.Teaching young kids about good relationship dynamics prepares them for future romantic talks.Talks on healthy romance in adolescence build on earlier friend relationship lessons.Early healthy relationship education equips children to handle teen romantic challenges.[56:00 - 01:07:08] Closing segment TakeawayLinks to resources mentioned on the showHealing Centered Engagement: The Future of Healing: Shifting From Trauma Informed Care to Healing Centered EngagementLocal ResourcesState Coalitions:

Samantha Heller was just 17 years old  on December 4th, 2012 when her life was taken from her.  She was in the car with her boyfriend, when he intentionally drove his car off the road at over 110MPH.  The crash didn't kill her, but his actions afterwards did. Listen to her story now! Domestic Abuse Resources: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 https://www.thehotline.org https://ncadv.org/RESOURCES Teen Dating Violence Resrouces & Information: https://youth.gov/youth-topics/teen-dating-violence/resources https://psychcentral.com/health/cycle-of-abuse#stages-of-the-cycle-of-abuse https://ojjdp.ojp.gov/model-programs-guide/literature-reviews/Teen-Dating-Violence#3-0 https://www.apa.org/monitor/2023/10/disrupting-teen-dating-violence https://youth.gov/youth-topics/prevalence-teen-dating-violence#:~:text=in%20their%20lifetime.-,Physical%20Violence,9%20percent%20to%2057%20percent.&text=Nationally%2C%20according%20to%20the%20Youth,in%20the%20past%2012%20months. Enjoying the show?  Here's a way to find out where else you can follow CrimeaHolly! https://linktr.ee/CrimeaHolly Crime with Holly Case Suggestion Form: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScGdPu4AWAoG_-cmznwcNxnNQlEyX9nxxOwZNZfqpprL3TaUQ/viewform Episode Sources: https://lancasteronline.com/news/local/ben-klinger-admits-killing-17-year-old-girlfriend-gets-28-to-56-year-sentence/article_62e78674-2f73-11e4-840b-001a4bcf6878.html https://www.fox43.com/article/news/local/contests/judge-rules-lancaster-county-man-cannot-take-back-his-guilty-plea-for-murder-of-girlfriend-in-2012/521-fcbb2bb1-8321-40d5-b42e-6fc4f0a641ac https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2253954/Horror-man-suffocated-pregnant-17-year-old-girlfriend-sitting-head-intentionally-slamming-car-guardrail-100-mph.html#:~:text=The%20bizarre%20and%20tragic%20incident,proceeded%20to%20smother%20his%20girlfriend. https://lancasteronline.com/obituaries/samantha-nicole-sammi-heller/article_bc480af9-f955-58c1-9ac0-29c95758b2cb.html https://www.legacy.com/link.asp?i=ls000178940053 https://www.wgal.com/article/man-who-pleaded-guilty-to-murder-wants-new-trial-1/6241689 https://local21news.com/news/local/judge-rules-that-inmate-cannot-take-back-his-guilty-plea https://truecrimedaily.com/2018/01/19/horror-on-the-highway-benjamin-klinger-discusses-samantha-heller-murder-from-prison/ https://lancasteronline.com/news/more-details-released-in-death-of-teen-allegedly-smothered-by-boyfriend/article_a9a649dc-5a21-572f-b8ea-f70fd4c2fd26.html https://abc7chicago.com/girlfriend-suffocated-after-crash-lancaster-county-benjamin-klinger-samantha-heller/288874/ https://www.abc27.com/news/judge-man-who-crashed-car-to-kill-girlfriend-cant-withdraw-plea/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BzJA_5JbdbE&t=710s

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Women Helping Women and Cincinnati Public Schools have partnered on teen dating violence prevention.

Dee Dee Said is the author of It Doesn't Start with a Punch. Dee Dee speaks against violence while advocating for healthy relationships. In addition to her full-time work in the nonprofit sector, she recently volunteered with youth for seven years, mentoring and engaging them to learn about healthy character traits and to be aware of risks associated with what many deem “normal” teenage activity. With the help of others, she also created opportunities for teens to help youth and families in their community. Purchase the book here