Good Girls Talk About Sex

In the final episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, I talk about why I've decided to end the podcast and what's coming next. For those wishing to keep the podcast legacy alive, the archives are available for download at leahcarey.com/audio. Safeguard this invaluable content before any legal restrictions come into play. A heartfelt thank you for your unwavering support through the years. Though the podcast is ending, our conversation is not. Join me on YouTube, and let's keep working to make a more positive world. With love and gratitude, Leah

Jessica's world was turned upside down when her husband died suddenly and she uncovered evidence of his endless lies and a second life that she'd known nothing about. Had she been blind to the red flags her husband was waving? Or did she know more than she allowed herself to admit? In this special (mid-hiatus!) episode, Leah talks with Jessica Waite whose book "The Widow's Guide To Dead Bastards" is available today from Atria.  They focus on a pivotal chapter from the book, exploring the questions that still linger for Jessica: What did she know? What was she intentionally blind to? And what could she have noticed if she had known what to look for?   Get "The Widow's Guide To Dead Bastards" today here: https://amzn.to/4di2Vgy   Book a free consultation with Leah here: https://www.leahcarey.com/discoverycall/

Some people swear by Dear Abby, others swear at Dear Abby. Today we look at some of Dear Abby's terrible advice. PLUS: Stay until the end to hear an important announcement about the podcast going on hiatus so Leah can take a well-deserved rest.   Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support Leah's work: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full episode show notes: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/go-to-bed-angry 

In this Pop Culture Pillow Talk, I talk with pop culture critic Kristen Meinzer about two great movies: Joy Ride Plan B You can find Kristen at: www.kristenmeinzer.com How To Be Fine podcast The Daily Fail podcast Twitter Instagram Threads   Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/red-flags-sophilia

Plan B - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt13172796 Joy Ride - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt15268244   Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex

In this coaching episode, Sophilia asks: why does she keep ending up in relationships where things don't feel right, and the entire weight of making it better falls on her? Leah works with Sophilia to: understand the red flags for this type of relationship, the communication skills that will help screen them out, rethink her own experience of being turned on. Sophilia is a 39-year-old, cisgender woman. She describes herself as queer, single, and multi-racial with a white mother and Black father. In the past she's been in monogamous relationships, but currently prefers the idea of being in open relationships. She describes her body as curvy and muscular. Leah offers valuable insights and tools to help Sophilia and all listeners to screen potential partners. Find the turn-on cycle explanation here: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/turn-on-cycles/   Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/red-flags-sophilia  

Last year I found myself in the middle of a shitstorm for daring to expose a community leader's abusive behavior. Today I tell the whole story. The backlash was immediate and intense, with DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) tactics used to paint me as the problem. Suddenly, I was not just standing as a representative of this man's abuse, but also receiving harassment and ostracization from those I once considered my community. Sharing this story isn't just about telling you what's going on; it's about shining a light on the dark corners of abuse and systemic failure. It's a call to action for change, support, and understanding for those who have had their voices silenced. ALSO: I clarify my pricing structure for coaching and how I serve people with financial challenges.   BEYOND PERMISSION classes: www.beyondpermission.com Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/consent-darvo

What happens when your brain is so busy it can't slow down to enjoy having sexy time with the cute guy who's totally into you?  In today's episode, we break down the first two episodes of the HBO show Starstruck with teen sex and relationship educator Julia Sheldon (who also happens to be Leah's dear friend.) We focus on lead character Jessie and how overthinking gets in the way of being present. Upcoming Beyond Permission class schedule: Thursday, Feb. 22 - Embracing your inner MILF with Danielle Tuesday, Feb. 27 - Dating at midlife with Leah Tuesday, March 5 - Sex toys show & tell with Leah Thursday, March 7 - Ask a couple with Danielle & Adam Tuesday, March 12 - What's wrong with my libido? with Leah   BEYOND PERMISSION classes: www.beyondpermission.com Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/starstruck

In this coaching/storytelling episode, Debbie talks about having the best sex of her life at age 63. Her question: Is that usual? While Debbie has always been multi-orgasmic, now she's having dozens of orgasms in a single sex session. And the connection with her new husband is a big part of the reason. Debbie is a 63 year old cisgender woman. She describes herself as white, heterosexual, monogamous, married. She describes her body as slender and athletic. And don't forget: the BEYOND PERMISSION workshop starts next week! Use coupon code "beyond20" to join us!   BEYOND PERMISSION workshop (use code "beyond20" for $20 off your registration): www.beyondpermission.com Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/debbie-best-sex

Togetherness is an HBO show that explores the challenges of maintaining a healthy and active sex life in a long-term relationship with small children. In today's episode, Danielle Silverstein from the popular Marriage and Martinis podcast joins Leah to discuss the first two episodes of the show. They dive into the complexities of sexual fulfillment, gender roles, expectations and resentments. Join us for a deep, thought-provoking, and insightful conversation about challenges of maintaining intimacy in a long-term relationship.   BEYOND PERMISSION workshop (use code "beyond20" for $20 off your registration): www.beyondpermission.com Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/slow-down-maria Forbidden Fantasies Unleashed: https://www.leahcarey.com/fantasies

A crossover episode with Marriage & Martinis Join the Beyond Permission workshop at www.beyondpermission.com. Early bird pricing through Jan. 4, 2024. Use the code "beyond20" for $20 off your registration.   Listen to the original "Awakening the sex talk demons" episode of Marriage & Martinis - https://www.marriageandmartinis.com/podcast/episode/8aa167f2/awakening-the-sex-talk-demons   BEYOND PERMISSION workshop: www.beyondpermission.com Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching

In this coaching episode, Maria asks the age old question: why is it so hard to ask for what I want?! She's convinced that her problem is in poor communication skills, but it doesn't take long to discover that the issue lies in a complete different area. Leah works with Maria to: understand how gender dynamics are creating friction in the "what do you want?" conversation, rethink how her definition of "sex" makes asking so difficult, practice the way she'd like to initiate a conversation about sex with potential partners. Maria is a 27-year-old cisgender woman. She describes herself as white, bisexual and single. She describes her body as athletic. Leah offers valuable insights and tools to help Maria and all listeners to reconsider talking about their desires.   BEYOND PERMISSION workshop: www.beyondpermission.com Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/slow-down-maria

Leah delves into a deeply personal topic: how trauma and mental health have impacted her ability to show up authentically. She talks about the impact her demanding, charismatic father had on her psyche and sense of safety. In admitting her fear of being viewed as not good enough or too much like their father, Leah discusses the creation of a performative persona and the desire to shift to a more authentic voice.    Who Is Your Sex & Relationship Alter Ego? www.leahcarey.com/quiz Work with Leah: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/podcastcoaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/identity-crisis

In this coaching episode, Lisa talks about learning to stay present when she's having pleasure.  Currently her mind wanders during sex to making grocery lists or worrying that what she's doing is wrong. Leah works with Lisa to: understand what's underneath her brain's tendency to wander, reframe her judgments about sex workers, and recognize the effects of early childhood parentification. Lisa is a 44-year-old cisgender woman who lives in Italy. She describes herself as white, heterosexual, single & having fun, and exploring different relationship styles because she's not sure she believes in monogamy anymore. She had a Catholic upbringing and is finally exploring pleasure for the first time in her life. She describes her body as average and athletic. Leah offers valuable insights and tools to help Lisa and all listeners to navigate the challenges of staying present during sex.   Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/tantra-lisa

Leah shares the next step in her health care journey: hypermobility. And this one has even more wide-ranging implications than the endometriosis diagnosis that upended her world six months ago. Take the brand new quiz to find your Sex & Relationship Alter Ego! Find the quiz at www.leahcarey.com/quiz   Links to earlier health update episodes: March 2nd May 25th July 20th Also mentioned in this episode: Hypermobility coach Tracy Rodriguez - www.instagram.com/thetracyrodriguez/ Hypermobility and Proprioception: What's with the clumsiness? - https://www.mybendybody.com/body-awareness-hypermobility/ Psychiatric and psychological aspects in the Ehlers–Danlos syndromes - https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/ajmg.c.31544 Low- and high-anxious hypermobile Ehlers–Danlos syndrome patients: comparison of psychosocial and health variables - https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00296-018-4003-7 Labia Library - https://labialibrary.org.au/photo-gallery/ The Vulvarium - https://vulvarium.com/gallery-and-stories/ The Vulva Gallery - https://www.thevulvagallery.com/stories Why I photographed 100 vulvas : Most women have no idea what's down there - https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/resources/idt-sh/Why_I_Photographed_100_Vulvas     Who Is Your Sex & Relationship Alter Ego? www.leahcarey.com/quiz Coaching with Leah: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/podcastcoaching  Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/hypermobility-and-labiaplasty

This week's episode is delayed due to another project I'm working on. But there's some really important information in this quick feed drop, so please don't skip it. The emergency alert test will be happening in the United States on Wednesday, Oct. 4 at approximately 2:20 pm Eastern Time.   Article about how domestic violence victims can protect themselves during next week's emergency alert test: https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/technology/how-hidden-device-users-can-protect-themselves-ahead-of-national-emergency-alert-test/ar-AA1h5MCj Forbidden Fantasies Unleashed: https://www.leahcarey.com/fantasies Apply for a free coaching session on the podcast: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/guest

In this coaching episode, Savy talks about getting more comfortable with her genitals and with having sex in a fat body. She's had limited sexual experiences and wants to expand her horizons, but is afraid of being rejected in the middle of the act. Leah works with Savy to: realize that by the time she gets naked with a potential suitor, they won't be surprised by her body, recognize the difference between what her brain is telling her and what is happening in reality, and identify ways to explore the type of touch she desires. Leah offers valuable insights and tools to help Savy and all listeners to navigate the challenges of being sexual while in a marginalized body. Savy is a 34-year-old cisgender woman. She describes herself as white, bisexual, and open to any kind of relationship style that has open communication. She grew up in a strict Roman Catholic family and is now agnostic, and she describes her body as infinifat. Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/podcastcoaching  Coaching with Leah: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/sex-while

In this pop culture breakdown, we do a beat-by-beat examination of the recent Below Deck: Down Under episodes that depicted unwanted sexual contact between cast members. We look at the tactics used to manipulate and coerce a vulnerable person, and how that leaves the victim feeling ashamed and at fault. We also look at the actions of bystanders - both good and bad. We're talking about Below Deck: Down Under - season 2, episodes 6 and 7. Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/podcastcoaching  Coaching with Leah: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/below-deck

In this coaching episode, Jen is a listener who struggles with body image and emotional baggage in her relationships. She was abused beginning at age seven, and the scars have faded but haven't disappeared completely. She is self-conscious about her body, which is affecting her ability to be present for intimacy with her husband. She feels like a "hot mess" because dealing with her body insecurities and emotional baggage has been a significant challenge. Leah works with Jen to: examine the patterns established in her sexual relationship, discover how pausing to breathe could make a major difference, how to communicate with her husband about the changes she needs to make while she's healing, and recognize her experience not as a fault, but as a response to long-ago trauma. Leah offers valuable insights and tools to help Jen, and all of you listening, to navigate the intricate path of healing from trauma - one breath at a time. NOTE: In two weeks, we'll be discussing episodes 2.6 and 2.7 of the Bravo show "Below Deck : Down Under".  Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/podcastcoaching  Coaching with Leah: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/hot-mess-jen

It's our first pop culture breakdown, in which we look at how sex and sexuality are depicted on screen! My guest is pop culture critic Kristen Meinzer. We're talking about: Apple TV's Ted Lasso - season 3, episode 8 - We'll Never Have Paris Netflix's Never Have I Ever - season 4, episode 1 - Never Have I Ever Lost My Virginity The Duggar family (including things we learned from Amazon Prime's Shiny Happy People)   Coaching with Leah: www.leahcarey.com/coaching/ Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/ted-lasso

Leah provides an update on her health journey after two surgeries within four weeks of each other (earlier updates are here and here.) Plus: BIG news about changes coming to the podcast! Coaching with Leah: www.leahcarey.com/coaching/ Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/my-innards

In this replay of our landmark 100th episode, Ar Blia is a listener-turned-guest who has been untangling early experiences of trauma, limiting cultural beliefs, and confusing desires to first explore and then advocate for her own pleasure. Even within the constricts of a conservative community, she has been able to find adventure, find herself, and find a partner who truly works for her. Ar Blia is a 27-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as straight, monogamous, Asian Hmong American, and partnered with her boyfriend of five years. She describes her body as average (though by white American standards many of us would probably consider her petite.) Coaching with Leah: www.leahcarey.com/coaching/ Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/ar-blia-replay

A few months back, I was pleased to be a guest on the Life After Diets podcast with Sarah Dosanjh and Stefanie Michele. They have kindly allowed me to share that episode with you - and it's a great one! We focus on how body image and sex are related - and will losing weight actually help your confidence? We also talk about topics including: The typical female avatar; why would we assume anyone would like our body just as it is?? The issue of TRUST when it comes to what our partner thinks of us What if my partner is not interested in me since I've gained weight? Socialization of females to fix things and make things better for everyone Confidence and weight; chicken or egg? How disconnected we have become from our bodies and how we feel   Coaching with Leah: www.leahcarey.com/coaching/ Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/life-after-diets

When Caitlin left her marriage, she found herself exploring sex as a single woman and discovering new interests. Through coaching with Leah, she admitted to herself that she might be interested in queer sex. This led to a realization that everything she thought was true about herself shattered, similar to a glass shelf breaking. She is finding freedom in exploring her desires and leaving behind what no longer serves her. In this coaching conversation, Caitlin and Leah talk about how she can dip her toe into queer dating.

Leah provides an update to her health journey. When last we spoke, Leah was preparing for a hysterectomy surgery. However, when her surgeon had her on the operating table, he discovered that he couldn't do the hysterectomy as expected. Instead, she's spent the last month recovering from surgery #1 and preparing for surgery #2. GoFundMe - https://www.leahcarey.com/GoFundMe Class replays - https://www.leahcarey.com/courses

Chandra grew up in the 7th Day Adventist church, which she equates to a cult. She faults the church for being an educational, social, and religious system that neither acknowledges nor teaches that consent exists for women. She became (mildly) rebellious, experimented with illicit hand-holding, got married, got out, and then embarked on a season of further discovery. Chandra is a 29-year-old, cisgender female. She grew up in the 7th Day Adventist Church in the United States and describes herself as mixed race including Black, white, Chinese, and east Indian. She is bisexual, single, and has no children. She said her preferred relationship style is “honest.” She describes her body as average. Cult Evaded "Fall in love with your sex life" - register for one class or the entire series!www.leahcarey.com/classes Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/7th-day-chandra

Yami grew up in the Dominican Republic and the United States and there was no conversation in her family about sex. After lots of hard experiences as a teen, she is now involved with a man who is dedicated to her pleasure. They've been exploring swinging, play partners, and polyamory. Yami is a 23-year-old, cisgender female who describes herself as bisexual and heteroromantic, in a relationship and exploring opening up with her partner. She describes her body shape as a few extra pounds.   "Fall in love with your sex life" - register for one class or the entire series!www.leahcarey.com/classes Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/thirteen-yami

When it came to exploring her sexuality, Liz took her time – while all her friends were gossiping about their boyfriends and hookups as teenagers, Liz knew she wasn't ready to lose control. As a single woman, she now has sex occasionally while she waits to find love. Today we revisit the very first episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex from January 2019. Liz is a 37-year-old, cisgender white woman who is single, heterosexual, and monogamous.   Fall in love with your sex life in 2023 - register for "Tune In To Your Turn Ons"www.leahcarey.com/classes Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes (plus audio extras):  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/lollipop-liz/

In a special crossover episode, Leah talks with Jessi Kneeland on the This Is Not About Your Body podcast about how body image and sexuality intersect; body image in partnership; advocating for your own needs; and much more.   Fall in love with your sex life in 2023 - register for "Tune In To Your Turn Ons": www.leahcarey.com/classes  Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Coaching with Leah: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Jessi Kneeland, body image coach: www.jessikneeland.com  This Is Not About Your Body podcast: www.listennotes.com/podcasts/this-is-not-about-your-body-jessi-kneeland-s6mpfJiAIYn  Full show notes: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/not-about-your-body/

Candi lives with Muscular Dystrophy. She shares how it progressed and how it changed her physical capabilities over her lifetime, and what it's like to date and to have sex with a visible disability. She also opens up about loving rough sex and BDSM, despite what others might perceive as fragility. Candi is a 27-year-old, cisgender woman. She describes herself as heterosexual, monogamous, single, tall, and thin.  This is revisiting an episode that was first broadcast in November 2020.   Fall in love with your sex life in 2023 - register for "Tune In To Your Turn Ons"www.leahcarey.com/classes Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes (plus audio extras):  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/choking-hair-pulling-candi

Leah shares the health issues she's been dealing with, and why they have brought up extensive flashbacks to her mother's cancer journey.  Then we revisit a conversation with Lisa, first broadcast in December 2019. Lisa is a 40-year-old cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, currently in a relationship that is heterosexual, monogamous, and long-distance. She has also long been attracted to women and is considering the likelihood that she is bisexual. "Fall in love with your sex life" - register for one class or the entire series!www.leahcarey.com/classes Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/sex-while-married-lisa

Sometimes desires arise in the imagination long before you have a chance to try them in real life. Michelle knew she wanted multiple partners and group arrangements—with people of all genders—even while surfing through old-school hetero-normative porn on the family computer. Now she's publicly polyamorous and fully out on Instagram, defining her terms by living them.  Michelle is a 29-year-old cisgender woman. She describes herself as Asian, bisexual, polyamorous and partnered. She describes her body as fat and chubby. Find her online at www.polyamorouswhileasian.com and www.instagram.com/polyamorouswhileasian "Fall in love with your sex life" - register for one class or the entire series!www.leahcarey.com/classes Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/group-sex-michelle/

Sex is complicated when you grow up Catholic and learn that kissing your best friend feels like heaven but will send you straight to hell. Sophia explored her feelings initially but then shut down once she got married. When the sheer physicality of menopause forced her to re-inhabit her body, she embraced a spiritual path towards sexual reawakening. Sophia is a 56-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, lesbian, and married. After a lifetime of monogamy, she recently came out to herself as polyamorous. She grew up in the Roman Catholic church and is now a pastor in the United Church of Christ. She's post-menopausal and describes her body as thick and creamy. "Fall in love with your sex life" - register for one class or the entire series!www.leahcarey.com/classes Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/menopause-sophia/

When you love being naked, feeling sexy, giving and receiving pleasure, and you're happily married, you may be…a porn star! Sinn Sage takes us into the real world of sex work, from her early days stripping at clubs and “bachelor” parties, to working as a pornstar-for-hire, through creating and selling her own custom porn in the age of SESTA-FOSTA and Pornhub. Sinn Sage is a 39-year-old, cisgender female who says she has a little bit of gender fluidity but is still happy using she/her pronouns. She describes herself as white, queer, monogamish, and married. She describes her body as slim-thick. You can find Sinn online at www.sinn-sage.com.  Register for "Fall in love with your sex life – A year of sexy secrets":www.leahcarey.com/classes Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/porn-star-sinn

In today's episode, we dive into topics like why confident little girls turn into quiet, ashamed middle schoolers; how Tori's family tried to buck the stereotypes of Black fathers not being around by allowing her abuser to continue living with them; the moment she had to decide whether to save her abuser or let him die; and even exploring race play. Tori is a 46-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as Black, mostly straight, currently monogamous, and in a relationship. She grew up in the Black Baptist Church and describes her body as plus size. You can find Tori online at toriwestonwriterartist.com, and on Instagram at @toriwestonwriterartist. Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/kissed-john-travolta-tori

Since beginning her transition to become a transgender woman recently, Kelly has discovered that she is interested in people of all genders. She discusses how hormone therapy has changed her body, her mind, and her orgasms. Kelly is a 34-year-old transgender woman. She describes herself as white, bisexual, single, and currently exploring open relationships. She has no kids and describes her body as thick.  Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/transgender-woman-kelly

Sometimes conventional needs have to be met through unconventional means. Heidi has a higher libido than her husband, but a lot of other things in the marriage work. Making a committed relationship work with her partner and best friend requires having another friend to provide more consistent and fulfilling sex. The first time she brought it up, it was a no from her primary partner. Later she was able to circle back based on their trust, goodwill, and clear communication. Heidi is a 41-year-old cisgender woman. She describes herself as white, straight, and partnered. While her preference for relationship style would be monogamous, she is currently ethically non-monogamous to get her sexual needs met. Heidi describes her body as curvy.  Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/teeth-nipples-heidi

A horny ex-Catholic joins us from the Netherlands to give us the low-down on how living in a liberal country but growing up in an oppressive family gave her all sorts of mixed-up and downright wrong messages. It's something like a double-negative version of universes colliding to form new yeses. She's now a mother of five, and currently balancing sex and motherhood and an unconventional family arrangement. Carla is a 45-year-old cisgender woman who describes herself as Black, heteroflexible, and partnered. She has five children and she said her preferred relationship style is, “If we talk about it and we're on the same page, it's okay.” Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/horny-carla

Leah sits down with her good friend Danielle of the Marriage & Martinis podcast to talk about her own relationship. The two discuss Leah's new adventure into pursuing an open relationship with her long-time partner. How did they know it was the right time to explore non-monogamy? What is different about their relationship now that allows them to trust one another enough to pursue sexual experiences outside of their relationship? What are the boundaries for sexual encounters outside their primary relationship? What can we learn from healthy open relationship about how all couples can communicate around sex and relationships? This episode is filled with important advice for any couple who feels like improved interactions could lead to deeper intimacy and a better, more fulfilling sex life. Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/marriage-and-martinis

When a dancer goes from embodying the feminine ideal to challenging it, beauty and gender standards are thrown into beautiful disarray. Monica began shaving and bleaching her bountiful body hair when she was 8. Two years ago, she finally rebelled and launched the Wet Hairy Woman project. She continues to untangle her preconceived notions around sexual and gender orientation and is learning to overcome her trauma responses while celebrating her true nature at every level. In other words ... she's gone guerrilla by going gorilla. See then and now photos and videos at https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/monica-steffey-then-and-now/ Monica Steffey is a 26-year-old, cisgender woman. She describes herself as white, bisexual, currently monogamous and interested in exploring, and single. She describes her body as athletic.   Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/wet-hairy-monica

The road to reclaiming consent is extra-long when it begins at age 3, and even more complicated by undiagnosed mental health disorders. For Deidre, a lifetime of sexual assault and a growing substance problem led to a rock bottom that included a BPD diagnosis. Today she's feeling healthy mentally and in a wonderful new relationship. Deidre is a 31-year-old non-binary person who uses both she and they pronouns and doesn't have a preference for either one. Deidre describes herself as white, lesbian, monogamous, and partnered. She grew up in Canada and now lives in Germany. She describes her body as average.   Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/bpd-and-hsv-deidre

What do you call a virgin who loves getting head? A comedian! Kyndra Crump takes a deep dive into heteroflexibility and gets some re-education about why losing your virginity doesn't have to hurt—especially if you already like the rest of the stuff. She also learns about swingers-club protocols when she opens up about her exhibitionist desires. Kyndra is a 25-year-old cisgender woman. She describes herself as Black, monogamous with a curiosity about polyamory, single, and heteroflexible (she says she's about 70% into men and 30% into women). She grew up in an evangelical Christian home and she describes her body as an hourglass or a Coke bottle.   Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/throat-not-virgin-kyndra

Is it true that sex will become less fun - or even painful

Sex is hard enough to figure out without also having to wrangle with your gender. Stevie was raised as a little girl, but that never quite fit. They've covered a lot of ground to find clarity. They're now happily married, while still exploring what they actually like in their body and who they want to be in their relationship. Stevie is 37 years old and identifies as non-binary or gender queer. They describe themselves as white, gay, monogamous, and married. Stevie grew up in Scotland and describes their body as athletic and pear-shaped. Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/double-ended-dildo-stevie

When culture tells you that women are sexy, but the church says same-sex attraction isn't allowed, you might try to screw yourself straight. Mia shares how she went from stealing kisses with girls thanks to alcohol-fueled courage while trying to prove to herself that she was straight, to building a lasting love with one of those kissed girls. Mia is a 23-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, monogamous, not straight, and engaged at the time of recording. Since then, she has married. She grew up in a Catholic home and describes her body as athletic curvy. Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/drunk-girls-mia

Growing up in a conservative church, some kids don't even know being gay is an option. Add that to an ill-kept family secret, and Olivia became scared to orgasm as an adult. She shares how she went from Googling “naked bodies” to discovering assault survivor resources, and why she's now exploring polyamorous dating. Olivia is a 24-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as mixed race with both African and Middle Eastern heritage, and she's gay with an asterisk. She grew up in an evangelical Christian home. She is currently dating and exploring non-monogamy. She describes her figure as an 'hourglass with extra minutes.' Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/kissing-a-vagina-olivia

The most important move for a great sexual experience: having the talk. STARS is an easy-to-remember acronym for conversations that lead to awesome consensual sex. In this episode, Samara and Caleb have the STARS talk. They've been in a relationship for 10 months of serious dating, ready to move in together, and already having good sex. Even so, they uncover several things that surprise them and will help them up-level their sex life. Samara is a 29-year-old cisgender female who describes herself as white, monogamous, partnered with Caleb, and she describes her body as athletic and curvy. Caleb is a 29-year-old cisgender male who describes himself as white, heterosexual, monogamous, partnered with Samara, and he describes his body as athletic. Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/samara-and-caleb

It's been a tough week. With the decision in Dobbs v. Jackson Women's Health Organization, fully half of the American population has lost the ability to make health care choices for our own bodies. We are now more regressive on reproductive health than countries like Mexico. In this episode, we look at the grief many of us are feeling; the frustration of being a cis woman supporting our male partner's grief journey; and tactics to get help to people who need it most. Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/post-roe-america

While a stutter may seem like an impediment to clear communication, Mia says it helped her identify a perfect partner. She talks about how an early experience of being "the other woman" continues to affect her feelings about relationships. Then, she and Leah discuss how to navigate changing bodies, waning attraction, and mismatched libidos. Mia is a 29-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, straight, monogamous, and engaged to be married. She grew up in a non-practicing Jewish home and she describes her figure as tall and busty. Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/the-other-woman-mia

Purity ring, wedding ring ... cock ring?! After many conversations with people who have religious trauma around sexuality, it's a pleasure to finally welcome someone who grew up in conservative Christianity and has a healthy relationship with sex. Hannah opens up about how she and her husband navigated abstinence while still building a relationship based on trust and pleasure, and how they continued to nurture both after pregnancy loss. We also talk about sex during pregnancy and in the aftermath of miscarriage. Hannah is a 26-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as half white and half East Indian, heterosexual, monogamous, married, and her body is curvy.  Find my NBC Op-Ed at https://www.nbcnews.com/think/opinion/learning-sex-education-can-save-kids-from-groomers-rcna26931 Thanks to our episode sponsor:Dipsea Stories – go to www.dipseastories.com/goodgirls to get a FREE 30-day trial! Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/fingering-blowjobs-hannah

People typically talk about an absence of sex as something gone wrong, followed by an array of advice to spice up, fix, rekindle, reboot, top down, bottoms up, laugh, cry, and eventually achieve perfect sex. But what if your life feels pretty perfect without it?  Kristen grew up in Purity Culture, so her lack of interest in dating was a plus as a teenager. But when she became an adult and still wasn't interested in dating, it became clear that something else was going on. Kristen eventually realized that she is asexual - a person who has little to no interest in sex. Kristen joins us to talk about her experience of asexuality, how it differs from aromanticism and demisexuality, and what she is and isn't interested in for potential future relationships.   Kristen is a 36-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, asexual, demiromantic, and she grew up in the Baptist church. She's currently single and describes her body as chonky.  Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/romance-and-sx-arent-the-same-thing-kristen