Podcasts about good girls talk about sex

In the final episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, I talk about why I've decided to end the podcast and what's coming next. For those wishing to keep the podcast legacy alive, the archives are available for download at leahcarey.com/audio. Safeguard this invaluable content before any legal restrictions come into play. A heartfelt thank you for your unwavering support through the years. Though the podcast is ending, our conversation is not. Join me on YouTube, and let's keep working to make a more positive world. With love and gratitude, Leah

Leah Carey is a Sex and Intimacy Coach and the host of the podcast Good Girls Talk About Sex. She's frequently featured as a guest expert on podcasts and in print, including an appearance on the #1 rated sex and relationship advice show, The Savage Lovecast. Call Zak on the advice show hotline @ 844-935-BEST---Wanna help Zak continue making this show? Become a Best Advice Show Patron @ https://www.patreon.com/bestadviceshow---Share this episode on IG @BestAdviceShow

In this episode of "Marketing Your Private Practice with Kathy C we are talking with Leah Carey, a Sex and Intimacy coach and host of the Good Girls Talk About Sex podcastLeah booked a marketing review to discuss her lead magnet which is a quiz. She wanted to be sure it was set up as effectively as possible. To help Leah improve and optimize the lead magnet funnel and get more signups, we  focused on 3 main areas:Quiz design - to ensure it is what your ideal client wantsTechnical setup of Leah's lead generation funnelUsing direct calls to action for her coaching services to convert leads into clientsListen in to learn what advice Kathy has to help Leah get the most results possible from her lead magnet quiz and bring in more coaching clients by optimizing her lead generation funnel and all the messaging in it.You can get the resources on our show notes page at http://marketingyourprivatepractice.com/85 Be sure to check out Leah's podcast Good Girls Talk About Sex podcast on her website https://www.leahcarey.com and if you want to know who your sex and relationship alter ego is definitely go to her quiz page! 

"It is never too late. You are not past your prime, you have not lost the best years of your life. You have the power of self discovery at whatever moment is right for you."In this episode I have a thought-provoking and enlightening conversation with Sex and Intimacy Coach, Leah Carey. With a focus on radical empathy and creating a judgment-free space, Leah shares her journey of sexual healing and empowerment, emphasizing that it's never too late to connect with our own sexuality. Throughout the episode, Leah discusses her work, the impact of societal expectations on sexuality, and the importance of creating a safe space for open conversations. Join Leah on her podcast, “Good Girls Talk About Sex.” where she works with listeners eager to explore new avenues of their sexuality and fulfill their greatest desires.Connect with Leah:http://www.leahcarey.comhttp://www.twitter.com/goodgirlstalkhttp://www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalkhttp://www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalkhttps://www.imdb.com/name/nm1337311Support the showVisit the Have A Seat website for more conversations or Have A Seat with me and register to be a guest at: www.haveaseatconversations.com.Thanks for listening!

Have you ever let your tongue finish the dance that your ass began? Podcaster & Sex and Intimacy coach Leah Carey has never believed that great sex was something she deserved, but as she begins to seek out sensual, kinky live events in her local community, she meets a man who makes her feel safe enough to try new things. Together, they set a boundary and WOW, who knew it could be so hot to have someone tell you No when you begged for it? And the time is now: Pitch Dixie your true story for our just announced East Coast Tour dates. Are you ready to get onstage (and get a standing ovation!) in 2024?   Song: ‘All the Good Girls Go To Hell' (Billie Eilish)   Submission l BDSM l Sensual l Food Play l Boundaries l Massage a Trois  | Erotic Massage l Sex Positive l Good Girl l Fantasies l Older Man l Masculine Energy l Obey l Discipline | Celibate l Sexual Awakening l Triad l Energy Exchange l Coconut Oil I Confined Space l Massage Table l Ass to Ass Flirtation l Sex Positive Portland l Blindfold l Chocolate l Dominant l Kissing l Negotiation l PIV l P/V l Intercourse | Begging l Multiple Orgasms l First Date l Condoms l Afterglow l Hair Pulling l Control l Expansive l Brat Play l Right or Wrong l Pleasure l   About our Storyteller:   Leah Carey is a Sex and Intimacy coach and the host of the podcast “Good Girls Talk About Sex.” This work was not an obvious life choice for Leah.  Growing up with an abusive father, she learned to be a VERY “good girl,” which translated into significant sexual repression as an adult. Always convinced that she was the problem – not pretty enough, smart enough, or sexually skilled enough - she dreamed of great sex but assumed she would never experience it. At age 43, life threw Leah an opportunity to challenge her old beliefs and finally move her beyond the mythology of the “Good Girl.”   Listen to the Good Girls Talk About Sex podcast and learn more at www.LeahCarey.com   Episode links: Needle Play Acupuncture: Needle Play Acupuncture was made by and for the Kink, Leather, and LGBTQIA+ communities. We deserve to have our whole selves treated, because feeling great, playing hard and having spectacular sex can be health goals too. NeedlePlay specializes in Transgender-affirming, kink-aware, and trauma-informed care that is sex and body-positive. They offer Expertise in Transgender care, from HRT enhancement to hair growth support.    Back pain, muscle pain, injuries, digestive issues, libido issues, mental health, inflammation, graceful aging through micro-needling and cosmetic acupuncture, and more. We know that it wasn't a golf injury, you can tell Dr Marcos all about that new heavy flogger that tweaked your shoulder. I saw him recently when I threw my back out and I was in a lot of pain, and an hour later, not only was I feeling better, but I felt like I'd spent time with a friend who lets me be my whole self.   For a limited time, Bawdy Storytelling Listeners  can use the discount code “May I Have Another”, and you'll get 25% off. 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When it came to exploring her sexuality, Liz took her time – while all her friends were gossiping about their boyfriends and hookups as teenagers, Liz knew she wasn't ready to lose control. As a single woman, she now has sex occasionally while she waits to find love. Today we revisit the very first episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex from January 2019. Liz is a 37-year-old, cisgender white woman who is single, heterosexual, and monogamous.   Fall in love with your sex life in 2023 - register for "Tune In To Your Turn Ons"www.leahcarey.com/classes Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes (plus audio extras):  https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/lollipop-liz/

A topic we haven't broached on this podcast to date: SEX. How do we navigate intimacy when we're dealing with body image issues? This episode is juicy -- you don't want to miss it. We'll cover: A taboo topic to begin with – no wonder we have shame! The typical female avatar; why would we assume anyone would like our body just as it is?? What Leah learned in Jamaica The issue of TRUST when it comes to what our partner thinks of us What if my partner is not interested in me since I've gained weight? New relationship energy A common narrative in sex lives of parents Socialization of females to fix things and make things better for everyone Confidence and weight; chicken or egg? How disconnected we have become from our bodies and how we feel Communication, scripts, asking directly for feedback The Three Minute Game (link: www.leahcarey.com/threeminutes) Testosterone and estrogen To learn more about Leah, please visit @goodgirlstalk on Facebook and Instagram, and the "Good Girls Talk About Sex" podcast wherever you listen to podcasts. Join the LAD Membership Connect with the show! Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/lifeafterdietspodcast/ Email – lifeafterdietspodcast@gmail.com Website – www.lifeafterdietspodcast.com Connect with Sarah Dosanjh Website – www.thebingeeatingtherapist.com YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBingeEatingTherapist  Sarah's book I Can't Stop Eating is available on Amazon Connect with Stefanie Michele Website – www.iamstefaniemichele.com Binge Eating Recovery Course: www.iamstefaniemichele.com/iamstefaniemichelecourse

Welcome back to This Is Not About Your Body! Valentine's Day is here again and this week I'm sitting down with my dear friend, Leah Carey, a sex and intimacy coach and creator of the podcast "Good Girls Talk About Sex". In this episode we explore body image in partnership, advocating for you own needs, and much more! Find more information about working with Leah on her website: https://www.leahcarey.com Check out her podcast "Good Girls Talk About Sex" on your favorite podcatcher! My new e-book is out! Grab a copy of Sustainable Movement here: https://www.jessikneeland.com/product-page/sustainable-movement-a-body-neutral-guide-to-health-fitness Intro to the 4 Body Image Avatars: https://youtu.be/SsxQ9qO0-a4 Get my full Body Image Avatar Guide here: https://www.jessikneeland.com/product-page/the-avatar-guide Find more resources here: https://jessikneeland.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessikneeland/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/jessikneeland Buy Me A Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/dgrRFaBYO

Danielle sits down with her good friend Leah Carey, who is a sex and intimacy coach and host of the podcast, "Good Girls Talk About Sex." The two discuss Leah's new ventures into pursuing an open relationship with her longtime partner. How did they know it was the right time to explore this lifestyle? What is different about their relationship now that allows them to trust one another enough to pursue sexual experiences outside of their relationship? What are the boundaries for these sexual encounters? What is the communication in most healthy open relationships a great example for all couples of how discussions and discourse around sex should take place? This episode is filled with important advice for any couple who feels like improved interactions could lead to deeper intimacy and a better, more fulfilling sex life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of You Heard That? I'm interviewing Leah Carey, host of Good Girls Talk About Sex and let me tell you, Leah is dropping gems! We are talking about intimacy, sex and love for your body...and others! I learned so much from Leah and the topics we are addressing, this is for you...the married couple, the single person, the just getting back into the dating field person or the adventurous person. We are coming in HOT! So tune in now! On this podcast, I focus on Lifestyle, Relationship, being an Entrepreneur and so much more! So make sure to tune in and subscribe on all platforms if you haven't! Guest Information: Leach Carey Podcast: Good Girls Talk About Sex Leah Carey Instagram and her coaching info and resources: Click Here Grab your " FREE " Relationship Questions Tip Sheet: Grab here Follow me on Social Media: Instagram: You Heard That? Facebook: You Heard That? Want me to speak at your next event or have topics you want me to talk about? Send me an email Want to stay updated with what's going on? Subscribe to my email here Make sure if you haven't done so, order your "The NotesBook" now and use for journaling, writing notes and/or ideas Click here to listen on all every RSS Feed Things mentioned in this episode: Want to start a business but have no direction on how to establish it and get funding? Financial Integrity Solutions has multiple business packages for you to choose from which will help you get established and get business funding. They even have an ebook that can kickstart you. Schedule your FREE Consultation with them today! Looking for a new skill? Cohens Coding & Consulting helps individuals become certified as a medical coder and begin a lucrative career in the medical coding field. Are you a provider and need billing services for your practice? They will help with increasing return of revenue with low denials. Contact them today. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/youheardthat/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/youheardthat/support

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Leah Carey. Leah is a Sex and Intimacy coach and host of the podcast “Good Girls Talk About Sex.” She works with people eager to explore new avenues of their sexuality and fulfill their greatest desires, like: diving back into the dating pool after a long time away, having first-time queer experiences, investigating consensual non-monogamy, or learning how to communicate about kink. Her superpower is radical empathy. The two of us talk about the harmful messages we tell our kids and how we can undo the social conditioning that limits our ability to express ourselves and explore our sexuality. Key Points: Leah introduces herself What does sexual repression look like? Harmful messages we tell our kids The “Don't Say Gay” Bill Comprehensive Sex Education Undoing social conditioning Teaching consent to kids Relevant links: Leah's website: www.leahcarey.com Leah's Instagram: @GoodGirlsTalk

This week I am talking to Leah Carey. Leah is a sex and intimacy coach and she's the host of Good Girls Talk About Sex. We talk about her evolution from someone who didn't talk about sex and who was very sexually repressed to someone who talks about sex a lot, very publicly. We also talk a lot about learning to share your needs and she shares her experiences and a tool for you to try at home!Leah works with people to explore new avenues of their sexuality and fulfill their greatest desires like diving back into the dating pool after a long time away, or having first time queer experiences, or investigating consensual non monogamy or learning how to communicate about kink. Her superpower is radical empathy. She reflects your true sexual nature back to you without judgment, so you can see yourself without shame. 

Normal People is a novel written by Sally Rooney, published in 2018, and adapted for the screen as a Hulu original mini-series released in 2020. This episode features Leah Carey. Leah Carey is a Sex and Intimacy Coach and host of the podcast “Good Girls Talk About Sex.” Her superpower is radical empathy. She works with people eager to explore new avenues of their sexuality and fulfill their greatest desires, like diving back into the dating pool after a long time away, having first-time queer experiences, investigating consensual non-monogamy, or learning how to communicate about kink. Let's Get Social: The Show: Pop Culture Makes Me Jealous The Host: Julia Washington The Guest: Leah Carey AD Partners: Tidy Revival Join Us on Patreon! Advertise on the Show Hues by Juls Join our Mailing List and never miss a thing!  

This week on Race for the Ring, Mindie is joined by Sex and Intimacy Coach, Author, and host of the podcast, "Good Girls Talk About Sex," Leah Carey!In this episode, Leah and Mindie talk about sex, baby! Having grown up in a home that was deeply confused and conflicted around sexuality – and with a father who told her she was fat, ugly, and no one would ever love her – Leah spent most of her life in fear of her own femaleness and the trouble it could get her into. Now, at 42 years, Leah shares began a profound journey into sexual healing and found her sexual awakening. Listen closely as Leah explains how to talk about sex with a current or potential partner before you take your clothes off, so you both have a more satisfying experience, and how to ask for what you really want, instead of just accepting (or tolerating) what you're getting! Follow Leah Carey:Website: https://www.leahcarey.com/IG: https://www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GoodGirlsTalk/Twitter: https://twitter.com/goodgirlstalkYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4cY9QS6uiDpU3Y6EitmrWQListen to the "Good Girls Talk About Sex" Podcast: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/ Mindie BarnettWebsite: https://mbandassociatespr.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindie.barnett/Follow The Race for the Ring PodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/racefortheringpodcast/------------------------------------------------Produced by Laurie VerbinskiEdited by Danielle Gordon Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.

Leah Carey is a sex and intimacy coach and host of the podcast “Good Girls Talk About Sex.” She works with people eager to explore new avenues of their sexuality and fulfill their greatest desires, like: diving back into the dating pool after a long time away, having first-time queer experiences, investigating consensual non-monogamy, or learning how to communicate about kink.   This work was not an obvious life choice for Leah. Growing up with an abusive father, she learned to be a VERY “good girl.”   She got involved in a series of emotionally abusive relationships, always convinced that SHE was the problem – not pretty enough, smart enough, or sexually skilled enough. And because she wasn't having pleasure during sex, so she was convinced she was broken.   At age 42, life threw Leah an opportunity to build a new story: with both parents gone and no siblings, she could put aside the family mythology of the “good girl.”   She began challenging her old beliefs about worthiness, attractiveness, and desirability. Watching her phenomenal growth, friends started seeking her out to help them do the same.   Today, Leah works with women JUST LIKE YOU to reflect their true sexual nature back to them, without the judgment, shame, or fear that can get in the way of seeing it for themselves. Listen in to hear Leah share: How growing up in an alcoholic and abusive household shaped her sexual identity The challenge of healing trauma and overcoming sexual repression while her parents were still alive The road trip that led her on her journey of sexual awakening How her work with a sex worker was so healing and transformational How going to a sex resort and not having any sex completely changed her relationship with her body for the better Why connection and safety must trump sex even in trusted long term relationships Why libido is likely not the issue holding back sex & intimacy in your life Why moms are “touched out” and what to do about it The current cultural shift in acceptance and normalization of sexual identities, practices and frameworks   Links mentioned: Connect with Leah: LeahCarey.com Leah's podcast Good Girls Talk About Sex: GoodGirlsTalk.com Leah on Instagram Leah on Twitter Leah on YouTube   Sponsor info and promo codes: Please find our sponsor information here: shamelessmom.com/sponsor/ Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com

Leah Carey is a Sex and Intimacy coach and host of the podcast “Good Girls Talk About Sex,” where she interviews people who grew up as little girls plus transgender women about their sex lives.  As a coach, she works with people eager to explore new avenues of their sexuality and fulfill their greatest desires, like: learning to talk with current or future partners about sexual desires, diving back into the dating pool after a long time away, having first-time queer experiences, investigating consensual non-monogamy, or learning how to communicate about kink. I was thrilled that Leah joined me to talk about Kate Stayman-London's “One To Watch,” a whip-smart rom-com that I immediately pressed on all of my girlfriends to read.    ** Content warnings: sex and sexuality, brief mention of suicide.**   Follow the Best Book Ever Podcast on Instagram or on the Best Book Ever Website   Do you have a book you want to tell me about? Go HERE to apply to be a guest on the Best Book Ever Podcast.   Host: Julie Strauss Website/Instagram     Guest: Leah Carey Website/Podcast   Discussed in this episode: One to Watch by Kate Staymon London Clan of the Cave Bear by Jean Auel What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey Gordon Maintenance Phase (Aubrey Gordon podcast) Hedonism II Resort The Midnight Library by Matt Haig (Note: Some of the above links are affiliate links, meaning I get a few bucks off your purchase at no extra expense to you. Anytime you shop for books, you can use my affiliate link on Bookshop, which also supports Indie Bookstores around the country. If you're shopping for everything else – clothes, office supplies, gluten-free pasta, couches – you can use my affiliate link for Amazon. Thank you for helping to keep the Best Book Ever Podcast in business!)

Leah Carey is a Sex and Intimacy coach and host of the podcast “Good Girls Talk About Sex,” where she interviews people who grew up as little girls plus transgender women about their sex lives.  As a coach, she works with people eager to explore new avenues of their sexuality and fulfill their greatest desires, like: learning to talk with current or future partners about sexual desires, diving back into the dating pool after a long time away, having first-time queer experiences, investigating consensual non-monogamy, or learning how to communicate about kink. I was thrilled that Leah joined me to talk about Kate Stayman-London's “One To Watch,” a whip-smart rom-com that I immediately pressed on all of my girlfriends to read.    ** Content warnings: sex and sexuality, brief mention of suicide.**   Follow the Best Book Ever Podcast on Instagram or on the Best Book Ever Website   Do you have a book you want to tell me about? Go HERE to apply to be a guest on the Best Book Ever Podcast.   Host: Julie Strauss Website/Instagram     Guest: Leah Carey Website/Podcast   Discussed in this episode: One to Watch by Kate Staymon London Clan of the Cave Bear by Jean Auel What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey Gordon Maintenance Phase (Aubrey Gordon podcast) Hedonism II Resort The Midnight Library by Matt Haig (Note: Some of the above links are affiliate links, meaning I get a few bucks off your purchase at no extra expense to you. Anytime you shop for books, you can use my affiliate link on Bookshop, which also supports Indie Bookstores around the country. If you're shopping for everything else – clothes, office supplies, gluten-free pasta, couches – you can use my affiliate link for Amazon. Thank you for helping to keep the Best Book Ever Podcast in business!)

This week it's our first couple interview! I chat with Courtney & Ben about their stories - Courtney is an ex-fundamentalist Christian who has deconstructed her faith and along with that, the monogamous relationship model that is often ingrained into that culture. Ben immigrated to Canada from China and is himself deconstructing his experience of traditional Chinese culture, and we discuss the interesting parallels between that and Courtney's own deconstruction.On top of that, we also talk a lot about sexuality, homeschooling, purity culture and the affects of purity culture on marriages, pornography, and dismantling dichotomous thinking.Lots of content warnings on this one: discussion of sex and sex acts, purity culture, pornography, and marital abuse.The podcast Courtney mentioned was "Good Girls Talk About Sex" - episode title "My Vagina Was As Dry As A Bone".

I don't know if this makes us "good girls" or not but we looooove talking about sex on #single!    So this month I've invited transformational workshop leader, author, speaker, life coach and sex educator - and of course, podcast creator and host - Leah Carey to join me to talk about her life, journey and all the things that go into her podcast Good Girls Talk About Sex.  We cover some spicy hot topics like sexual agency, informed consent, sexual coercion, and where sex actually fits into singlehood (and no, we're not just talking masturbation).   Join us on this juicy ride into exploring our sexualities as part of discovering who we are by naming what we actually need.   Learn more about Leah here. Work with Leah here. Listen to Good Girls Talk About Sex here Leah's favorite episode - Part 1 and Part 2

When Leah first showed people her podcast, one of her early listeners gasped - but good girls don't talk about sex! - and, of course, that became the name of her podcast. She hastens to add that the podcast isn't just good girls - and, in fact, not just girls, either. She joined us on the Human Awareness podcast for a most delightful episode talking about body image, emotional pressure, and how she went from being frozen stiff with fear at the thought of someone seeing her body naked - to finding herself in spaces where nudity was normal and okay. Leah Carey is a sex and intimacy coach and host of the podcast “Good Girls Talk About Sex.” She works with people eager to explore new avenues of their sexuality and fulfill their greatest desires, like: diving back into the dating pool after a long time away, having first-time queer experiences, investigating consensual non-monogamy, or learning how to communicate about kink. Leah's superpower is radical empathy. When you work with her, she reflects your true sexual nature back to you without judgment, so you can see yourself without shame.

Let us start the New Year with…blackmail! A woman's boyfriend got ensnarled by an extortionist on a kink website who sent private sexual photos to her family. Now she has to work through her anger and worry around sex and kink. Yuk, right? But then! You can hear the triumphant story of a man who batted away an aspiring blackmailer by telling her to go ahead and send out his pics “but be sure to use a filter to make my eyes look pretty.”  A woman in poly relationships has gained a lot of weight after having a child. Her tertiary partners are no longer attracted to her. Should she try to persuade them to love her new bigger body, or find some other folks who will worship her for who she is now. Dan brings on Leah Carey host of “Good Girls Talk About Sex,” to help the caller grapple with her body image issues.  On the Magnum, we have a “What You Got” by James Mackay, about hypnosis and pornography in a cultural history of the two genres.  And finally, a woman has flashbacks after she has sex, in which her recollections fill her with disgust. It was super-hot at the time. Why does she get flooded with regret days later? Voicemail@savagelovecast.com 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter “Savage” for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial.

Let us start the New Year with…blackmail! A woman's boyfriend got ensnarled by an extortionist on a kink website who sent private sexual photos to her family. Now she has to work through her anger and worry around sex and kink. Yuk, right? But then! You can hear the triumphant story of a man who batted away an aspiring blackmailer by telling her to go ahead and send out his pics “but be sure to use a filter to make my eyes look pretty.”  A woman in poly relationships has gained a lot of weight after having a child. Her tertiary partners are no longer attracted to her. Should she try to persuade them to love her new bigger body, or find some other folks who will worship her for who she is now. Dan brings on Leah Carey host of “Good Girls Talk About Sex,” to help the caller grapple with her body image issues.  On the Magnum, we have a “What You Got” by James Mackay, about hypnosis and pornography in a cultural history of the two genres.  And finally, a woman has flashbacks after she has sex, in which her recollections fill her with disgust. It was super-hot at the time. Why does she get flooded with regret days later? Voicemail@savagelovecast.com 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter “Savage” for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial.

Whether it's secretly watching our parents' porn or uninformative Sex Ed, most of us get inadequate information about sex.   Liz learned to pleasure herself early on, then followed her instincts about who to kiss and when to have sex for the first time. The same inner compass led her to leave two marriages and advocate for her libido.   Liz is a 44-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, pansexual (with a strong heterosexual lean), probably monogamous, and mid-divorce. She has one child and is post-hysterectomy. She said hormonally she's probably perimenopausal, and her body is very curvy.     Topics we cover:   Sex with a full bladder Bisexual dating during high school Abusive marriages Porn use vs porn addiction Decreased libido Aromantic   Patreon: All archived Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now available for FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you'd like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at RateThisPodcast.com/goodgirls   Have a question or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Individual and couples coaching - www.leahcarey.com/coaching   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Is it normal to want dating without hook-ups? And what if you don't even know who you want to date?   When you're on the asexual spectrum with bisexual attractions, it can be confusing to chart desire and create a relationship that works for you. Alice from South Africa talks about having very little sex education and a low sex drive, but still finding her way.   Alice is a 23-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, and single. She's not sure how to define her sexual orientation yet (though it's probably not straight), and she's probably monogamous, but clarified “I'm only 23 years old, so who knows?”  She grew up in South Africa and describes her body as thin.   TOPICS WE TALK ABOUT: Asexuality Demi-sexuality Lack of Sex Education Consent Sexual orientation What is “queer enough”? Does virginity matter   Patreon: All archived Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now available for FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you'd like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at RateThisPodcast.com/goodgirls   Have a question or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Individual and couples coaching - www.leahcarey.com/coaching     EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

How do you know you're queer if you don't even know that's an option? It's hard to imagine what we can't see. Julia takes us through confusing early fantasies to landing that first girl-kiss to realizing what it means to love people with vaginas in all their gender presentations. Now she wants to start exploring anal play. Julia is a 27-year-old cisgender woman. She describes herself as white, queer, monogamous, and she doesn't have kids. She still gets a regular period and describes her body as tall and thin. Julia has a non-binary partner, so we get to talk about how she navigates her partner's gender dysphoria. Bookmark topics: Dating a non-binary partner Navigating dysmorphia Early fantasies Voyeurism and exhibitionism Queer/pansexual identity in the bedroom Losing lesbian virginity Learning what you like Butt stuff—how to start exploring anal play The Lowdown: favorite sex toys, strap-on penetration, clit stimulation, masturbation Resources: Amory Jane – Anal sex classes - https://www.sheboptheshop.com/back-that-ass-up-anal-sex-101.html Anal toy - https://www.sheboptheshop.com/fuze-quattro.html Sponsors: *** Planned Parenthood Direct - download the app to get convenient and affordable birth control delivered to your door: http://www.ppdirect.app/api/safelink?name=inf_leahcarey_1121 To sign up for notification when it's available in your state, go to: www.plannedparenthooddirect.org *** Dipsea Stories - go to www.dipseastories.com/goodgirls to get a 30-day FREE trial!     Patreon: All archived Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now available for FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you'd like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at RateThisPodcast.com/goodgirls   Have a question or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Individual and couples coaching - www.leahcarey.com/coaching     EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Carissa and I talk to Leah Carey who is a sex and intimacy coach as well as a podcaster.  Her podcast is Good Girls Talk About Sex.  Leah shares ways that work and don't work when asking for something in bed.  She also highlights the acronym STARS which she suggests as a starting point to have the conversation.  She provided her link to a game she also uses to explore what works for you.Dr. Evelin Dacker - STARS method - www.maketimeforthetalk.comhttps://www.leahcarey.com/sexual-scientist/Support the show

What happens when a girl grows up in purity culture and gets married to the first boy who pays attention to her, just so she can have sex? Is purity culture religious abuse? In this episode we hear that story from Gabby. She is a 34-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, straight but open to exploring, currently non-monogamous with three recurring partners. She has two sons, is pre-menopausal, and describes her body as curvy.   Bookmark topics: Gabby grew up in purity culture, signed a no-sex contracts in childhood, and discusses “courting” vs dating Gabby's husband had a sudden and seemingly permanent decrease in libido If he's turned off by my genitals, is he gay? Since leaving the church, Gabby's life has changed dramatically, including dating during COVID and exploring polyamory We explore parenting while polyamorous The Lowdown: Gabby answers questions about number of partners, dating different races, sex toys, anal, oral, and choking   Resources: Joshua Harris documentary “I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye” trailer - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kjV6qSeWnL0 Sheila Wray Gregoire – This is the Christian marriage counselor Gabby mentions meeting at a conference. I've reviewed some posts on her site, and while I definitely disagree with her on some things, in general I find her ideas to be palatable - https://sheilawraygregoire.com STARS talk - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/episode/improve-your-sex-life-with-the-stars-talk     Patreon: All archived Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now available for FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you'd like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at RateThisPodcast.com/goodgirls   Have a question or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Individual and couples coaching - www.leahcarey.com/coaching     EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Joy talks about taboo territory like incest porn, being HSV-2 positive, and trying out “water sports.” She has early memories of non-consensual experiences, which led to weak boundaries and a tendency towards dissociation and passivity. A hysterectomy and genital changes further changed her body and libido. She's always enjoyed masturbation and has been unpartnered for some time; she's ready to explore again.   Joy is a 44-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, monogamous, bisexual. She is post-menopausal and has had ovarian cancer and a full hysterectomy. She describes her body as pear-shaped and wears hearing aids.   Bookmark moments: 2:28 - Joy shares her first memory of sexual pleasure, cuddling with a pillow between her legs and then starting a relationship with her bathtub. 6:09 - Joy lost her virginity at age 14; she considers herself to have given consent but she also knows she dissociated, and remembers staring at a blooming tree out the window. There were indications of earlier trauma. 9:56 - She talks about a girlfriend she sometimes fooled around with, and a series of physical interactions in which she was not fully present and struggled with boundaries. 15:58 - Joy comes out to her father as bisexual. 18:42 - She finally experiences pleasure with a sort of friend who offers benefits. She feels passive at the beginning, but then she starts to really enjoy the sex. 23:36 - The relationship ends, and she has a few hookups. Unfortunately, she contracts herpes after one exchange. She opens up about how she managed it in subsequent relationships; she has both disclosed her status, and not disclosed her status. It's a hard conversation. 32:57 - Her most recent past relationship was pretty vanilla. The longer one before involved some kink exploration, including “water sports.” 36:23 - She has a long-distance relationship with an older man; it doesn't end well. There hasn't been anyone since, just frequent masturbation. She'd been content alone until listening to the podcast and starting to wonder. 40:35 - Joy went through ovarian cancer a few years ago and she had to have a full hysterectomy. She talks about how it has impacted her body. One of the things she experienced was genital restructuring. Her orgasms and arousal have changed. 52:00 - They talk about how to be more present in one's body.   The Lowdown: Joy answers questions about sex on her period, number of partners, favorite toy, favorite position, initiating, breast play, clit stimulation vs penetration, orgasming, faking it, solo vs partnered, kinds of touch, hard red lines, dirty talk, porn, incest porn, hair vs bare, three-ways, blowjobs, swallowing, receiving oral, taste and smell, ass play, kink, dirty talk, favorite body part, least favorite body part, unmet desires, and old beliefs.   Resources: Sensational Body Scan - https://www.leahcarey.com/downloads/sensational-body-scan/   Patreon: All archived Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now available for FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you'd like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at RateThisPodcast.com/goodgirls   Have a question or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Individual and couples coaching - www.leahcarey.com/coaching     EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak  

HI! OMG, I Made a Podcast! Ok deep breath. This episode is truly an introduction. I introduce myself and the format of the show in general. I also finish off with some tips to use and spice up your sex life with your partners right away. I truly want this to be interactive. Please ask me questions, tell me stories, let me know what you think of the show. It’s super easy to do anonymously. Go to the website, WhatExcitesUs.com and press the button that says Start Recording. You could answer my question of the week while you are there too, and then tune in to hear if I use your answer in upcoming episodes. Email works too, I’m gwyn@earthlydesire.com Please subscribe or follow the show to get new episodes as soon as they are released! Pertinent websites: EarthlyDesire.com - my coaching website Sex Coach U - Where I received my first certification - https://sexcoachu.com/ Heybeads.com - My curated vintage and deadstock bead website My colleague with a fantastic podcast - Good Girls Talk About Sex - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/ We are hosted by Tickle.life All Music used is Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license This episode includes: Harmony by PolyPlus - (c) copyright 2021 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962 Talk to Me by urmymuse - (c) copyright 2015 - http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/urmymuse/51523 Ft: Per The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg - (c) copyright 2018 Apoxodehttp://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Ft: Apoxode

Brenda grew up in a “sex silent” household and transitioned right into purity culture. For a naturally highly sexual person, this spelled dysfunction and disaster. She found her way out of abuse and repression, went through a period of intense exploration, and she is now an advocate and educator for other survivors of religious trauma. She shares her truth publicly and celebrates all of her experiences—even the “dark” ones, as they have anchored her learning along the healing journey.     Brenda Marie Davies is a 37-year-old cisgender woman. She describes herself as bisexual, open-minded, and single.  She describes her body as slim.   Book: On Her Knees: Memoir of a Prayerful Jezebel Website: www.godisgrey.com YouTube: www.youtube.com/godisgrey   THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR FOR THIS EPISODE: *** DIPSEA STORIES: go to www.dipseastories.com/goodgirls to get a 30-day FREE trial!   Bookmark moments: 3:47 - Brenda shares her first memory of sexual pleasure as early as age 3, rubbing on a couch and being redirected by her mother to do such in private. She grew up in what she calls a “sex silent” household, in which the sole sex discussion was an Oprah video about STD's. 9:00 - Brenda talks about how being exposed to Evangelical culture in puberty impacted her actions and outlook. 12:51 - Brenda shares an early fantasy around a boy at school which became an ongoing ravishment fantasy to circumvent Evangelical strictures (even though it uses victim blame phrases like “cause a brother to stumble.”) 19:43 - She talks about how she got into purity culture. She was a late bloomer, still playing Barbies in a Britney world, and she thought it gave her some safety. It did not; predation and dysfunction just changed shape. 25:35 - Brenda meets her husband at age 21, on MySpace. 32:09 - Brenda shares the story of losing her virginity on purpose to a guy she didn't plan to see again, her search through the Bible for sense, and her overlapping experiences with anorexia and a hymenectomy. Also, she ends up marrying him. 41:48 - Disembodiment is an issue, and weaponized scripture doesn't help. She also describes a role-playing adventure which backfires, and the dissolution of her marriage. 51:45 - She opens up about having a forced abortion in the midst of an abusive relationship in the midst of an exploration spree. 57:23- Brenda talks about some of her sexcapades. 1:02:18 - Brenda is bisexual; she shares her Star Wars-related coming out story. 1:09:58 - Brenda catches us up to present day and being single, including her advocacy work and living in deep personal integrity.   The Lowdown: Brenda answers questions about having sex on her period, number of partners, race, sex toys, positions, initiating or not, active vs passive, clit stimulation vs penetration, breast play, orgasming, g-spot, faking it, kinds of touch, hard red lines, porn, group sex, hair vs bare, blowjobs, swallowing, receiving oral, ass play, kink, dirty talk, laughter, confusing sexual urges, favorite body part, least favorite body part, sex life areas to improve, and old beliefs.   Patreon: All archived Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now available for FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you'd like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at RateThisPodcast.com/goodgirls   Have a question or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Individual and couples coaching - www.leahcarey.com/coaching     EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Kay is our youngest guest yet, and she lets us in on how her generation is exploring sex differently because they're the first with easy access to p*rn. She has dated people of multiple genders, and realized she loves all bodies. Despite her young age, Kay has already learned hard lessons about toxic relationships, trust, and consent.   Kay is an 18-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as Black, pansexual, monogamous, and in a relationship. She grew up Catholic and describes her body as full.   Bookmark moments: 5:34 - Kay shares her first memory of sexual pleasure, when her peers in 6th grade were watching porn. It was her closest thing to a learning experience before trying things like handjobs and blowjobs. 9:55 - Kay “sort of” came out as bi in 7th grade, and then discovered she liked trans people too. She went to a Catholic school with genders separated and describes girls kissing in class. As they get older, school culture turns anti-gay. 14:40 - Sex Ed in school was brief biology, everything she already knew. Her first kiss was a dare on IG live with her best friend. It becomes her first relationship, which has its struggles. 18:00 - Kay talks about suicidal thoughts that both she and her girlfriend worked through. 25:30 - Kay lives with her mom; her mom found out about her dating girls after seeing her phone but didn't take issue with it. Kay wishes for more open conversation around sex. 31:03 - She meets a boy. He's not a friend first, and after the honeymoon phase it doesn't go well, but lasts for two toxic years. He verbally abuses her about her appearance and cheats on her. 38:20 - Kay describes a painful loss of virginity experience. Our culture says this is normal, but Leah does some myth-busting on what is actually normal and how this experience can and should go down. 47:41 - Kay talks about her current relationship. She's had her first orgasm! But sometimes he doesn't stop when she tells him to. This includes unwanted touching. 55:27 - They talk about how Kay's generation is the first with easy access to porn, and what messages are being gleaned. 1:01:30 - They talk about masturbation. Kay started around 4th 1:03:03 - The Lowdown: Kay answers questions about sex during periods, STI's, birth control, number of sex partners, dating outside your race, toys, positions, initiating sex, being active vs passive, clit stimulation vs penetration, breast play, achieving and faking orgasms, solo vs partnered sex, kinds of touch, rough play, safety protocols specific to choking, one's partner masturbating alone or watching porn alone, blowjobs, swallowing, hair vs bare, group sex, ass play, kink desires, dirty talk, laughter, confusing sexual urges, favorite body part, least favorite body part, areas to improve sex life, and correcting old beliefs.       Resources: Feminist porn – PLEASE PAY FOR YOUR PORN! pinklabel.tv brightdesire.com AbbyWinters.com CrashPadSeries.com   Patreon: All archived Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now available for FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you'd like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at RateThisPodcast.com/goodgirls   Have a question or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Individual and couples coaching - www.leahcarey.com/coaching   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

51, My Mom Was My Soulmate Leah Carey, host of the popular Good Girls Talk About Sex podcast discusses the deaths of her parents, and how they are both big losses in her life for very different reasons. Leah's father, Bob, was a Private Investigator at the time of his death. Leah had a rocky relationship with him, which continued even after his death. Leah's mother, Sybil, was by her side every step of the way as Leah worked through her own personal aftermath of her father's death. Listen as Leah describes how the death of her mother eventually led her to become a Sex and Intimacy Coach. But first...before she went on the journey that made her who she is today, Leah went on a different journey to explore her mother's experience with hospice. Leah created a newspaper series which can be found here: https://www.leahcarey.com/living-with-dying/ Listen to Leah here and then be sure to check out her podcast or recommend it to a friend! Podcast: Good Girls Talk About Sex Website - www.LeahCarey.com and www.GoodGirlsTalk.com Instagram - www.instagram.com/GoodGirlsTalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/GoodGirlsTalk This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ. Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds. Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share? https://www.patreon.com/parentlesspodcast Email: parentlesspodcast@gmail.com Instagram: @parentlesspodcast Voicemail: 623.396.6069 You are not alone.

51, My Mom Was My SoulmateLeah Carey, host of the popular Good Girls Talk About Sex podcast discusses the deaths of her parents, and how they are both big losses in her life for very different reasons. Leah's father, Bob, was a Private Investigator at the time of his death. Leah had a rocky relationship with him, which continued even after his death. Leah's mother, Sybil, was by her side every step of the way as Leah worked through her own personal aftermath of her father's death. Listen as Leah describes how the death of her mother eventually led her to become a Sex and Intimacy Coach. But first...before she went on the journey that made her who she is today, Leah went on a different journey to explore her mother's experience with hospice. Leah created a newspaper series which can be found here: https://www.leahcarey.com/living-with-dying/ Listen to Leah here and then be sure to check out her podcast or recommend it to a friend!Podcast: Good Girls Talk About SexWebsite - www.LeahCarey.com andwww.GoodGirlsTalk.comInstagram -www.instagram.com/GoodGirlsTalkYouTube -www.youtube.com/GoodGirlsTalkThis is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ. Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share? https://www.patreon.com/parentlesspodcastEmail: parentlesspodcast@gmail.comInstagram: @parentlesspodcastVoicemail: 623.396.6069You are not alone.

51, My Mom Was My Soulmate Leah Carey, host of the popular Good Girls Talk About Sex podcast discusses the deaths of her parents, and how they are both big losses in her life for very different reasons. Leah's father, Bob, was a Private Investigator at the time of his death. Leah had a rocky relationship with him, which continued even after his death. Leah's mother, Sybil, was by her side every step of the way as Leah worked through her own personal aftermath of her father's death. Listen as Leah describes how the death of her mother eventually led her to become a Sex and Intimacy Coach. But first...before she went on the journey that made her who she is today, Leah went on a different journey to explore her mother's experience with hospice. Leah created a newspaper series which can be found here: https://www.leahcarey.com/living-with-dying/ Listen to Leah here and then be sure to check out her podcast or recommend it to a friend! Podcast: Good Girls Talk About Sex Website - www.LeahCarey.com and www.GoodGirlsTalk.com Instagram - www.instagram.com/GoodGirlsTalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/GoodGirlsTalk This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ. Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds. Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share? https://www.patreon.com/parentlesspodcast Email: parentlesspodcast@gmail.com Instagram: @parentlesspodcast Voicemail: 623.396.6069 You are not alone.

Caz is an open book with a ton of chapters: a non-binary disability advocate kink-loving trauma survivor pain/pleasure early wayfinder who left live sex shows for the dating apps. The extraordinary roads they had to navigate led them to know themselves intimately, and helped them learn to accept, manage, and finally enjoy bodily pain. Caz is a 40-year-old, non-binary person who was assigned female at birth. They describe themselves as queer, non-monogamous and single. They've had a hysterectomy, so they no longer have a period but believe that hormonally they are probably peri-menopausal. They grew up in the United States and describe their body as curvy. Caz is a disability activist, and is particularly involved in education around sexuality for people with disabilities, including kink activities. You can find them on Instagram at www.instagram.com/cazkilljoy   Bookmark moments: 5:07 - Caz shares an early memory of sexual pleasure, when they caught masturbating in the living room around age 4-5. They were quickly escorted to their bedroom and the behavior was not encouraged. 8:37 - Caz has their first sexually partnered experience at age 13-14 which is mostly positive, but it triggers memories of early molestation. They seek therapy, learn how to navigate clitoral sensitivity, and treat numbness. 14:57 - Caz shares the outline of their medical issues. It started at age 21, when their legs were being held back while being fisted, causing lasting injury that spawned serious compound issues. 20:50 - The pleasure/pain balance leads to their interest in kink. Navigating the pain itself becomes a factor. They find themselves in an abusive relationship, and then a libido-mismatched rebound. 26:15 - Caz talks about learning how to orgasm while weaning off Effexor. 30:04 - Caz shares that the bent toward kink has been lifelong, and describes a childhood fantasy with masturbation taskmasters. They describe early kink explorations, pain/pleasure antecedents in self-harm, and using that as an emotional management strategy. 37:15 - They transition into BDSM as an avenue of positive personal control. Self-education starts in an alcove at Border's Books. 48:06 - Caz talks about early same-sex interactions; some of them were non-consensual. The first consensual one was in their early 20's. They knew something was “off” about their gender and felt most comfortable in drag. 55:40 - Caz opens up about non-binary dating, and what life and sex look like today. They have a long-term friend with benefits with whom they became pandemic partners and have recently returned to the apps. 1:04:45 - Caz talks about accessibility and kink spaces.   The Lowdown: Caz answers rapid-fire questions about period sex while, number of partners, race, toys, positions, re-naming reverse cowgirl, initiating sex, being active vs passive, clit stimulation vs penetration, physical therapy, breast/chest play, orgasming from penetration vs masturbating, preferred kind of touch, hard red lines, forced orgasm edging, porn use, making porn, live sex shows, Onlyfans, hair vs bare, group sex, giving oral sex, swallowing, receiving oral, smell and taste, ass play, kink limits, dirty talk, laughter, confusing sexual urges, favorite body parts, least favorite, getting more oral, and advice to one's former self.   Patreon: All archived Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now available for FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you'd like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at RateThisPodcast.com/goodgirls   Have a question or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Individual and couples coaching - www.leahcarey.com/coaching   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Most of Leah Carey's memories growing up are black spots. Her dad was an alcoholic and he was abusive to her and her mom. He would tell her how unhappy he was with her mother and that Leah should at all costs avoid growing up to be like her. He discussed his sex life with Leah, talked about her body in a sexual way, and exposed her to sexual content in the home. Even when she moved out of the house their relationship remained very strained and Leah increasingly felt like she was shrinking inside and that she needed to disappear. As an adult she took a trip that would mark the beginning of her sexual awakening. She had her first experience with a woman, learned about tantric sex, and began to heal from the trauma that had marked most of her life. Today Leah is a sex and intimacy coach and host of the podcast Good Girls Talk About Sex whose mission it is  to empower women into being equal co-creators of their sexual experience.   Connect with Leah: Website - www.LeahCarey.com Podcast - www.GoodGirlsTalk.com Instagram - www.Instagram.com/GoodGirlsTalk Facebook private group - www.Facebook.com/groups/GoodGirlsTalk YouTube - Connect With Ronit: For more about this episode click here! Instagram Facebook

You don’t worry about having a bathtub masturbation addiction. Leah answers a listener’s questions about whether she has a porn addiction, and why she can’t orgasm with her husband. She talks about identifying the function of porn, not taking on shame, and navigating a relationship agreement around it.   Bookmark moments: 2:12 - “Am I normal?” A listener calls in with two inter-related questions: is it normal to be unable to orgasm through intercourse with my husband, and is it normal that I only can with porn? 4:11 - Leah responds to the listener. Difficulty orgasming during is a thing that many women experience. There can be physical or mental causes. 6:17 - How do you identify techniques that deliver pleasure if you don’t know what you want or what is possible? 8:17 - Leah calls back to a recent share about being shamed by our partner. This creates an experience of break in trust. 9:28 - Is there *actually* such a thing as porn addiction? We do a fact check. 10:50 - Check in with how porn functions in your relationship. Is it what you need to physiologically relax? 12:16 - Make a relationship agreement that supports you on how to navigate it—without being responsible for your partner or making yourself small. 15:48- PJ Parties for Grownups!   Podcast recommendation: Title – Decide Balance Host – Yvonne Hernández Apple Podcasts description - A space where anyone of any age can decide balance in their day at anytime with a 5 minute guided bilingual (English & Spanish) meditation. Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/DecideBalance Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/DecideBalance   Join me on Patreon: As of July 2020, all Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you’d like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at Apple Podcasts   Have a questions or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Learn about coaching with Leah - www.leahcarey.com/coaching   Join a PJ Party for Grown Ups - www.leahcarey.com/pjparty   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Charlotte’s sexual journey has taken the deep bends—and openings—of the yoga she practices. She met her husband in a guru community, fled it, had two daughters, reclaimed her body, and is now exploring “high-fidelity” polyamory in several configurations. Charlotte is a 45-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, and perimenopausal with an athletic body. Her sexual orientation and preferred relationship style are under exploration, and her current relationship status is “exploring.”   Bookmark moments:  5:02 - Charlotte shares her first experience of sexual pleasure, at age 18. She talks about arousal and masturbation and exploration occurring before then, but not to the level of real pleasure. 11:20 - Charlotte grew up Catholic, with very little family PDA, and the most basic Sex Ed. “None of the juicy stuff.” 19:00 - She meets the father of her children in a yoga community and has to keep the relationship a secret as they travel the world with their guru. They are forced to leave, quickly marry, and have two daughters. 21:26 - Charlotte opens up about sexual violation at the hands of the guru as part of the “spiritual path” she was expected to be on. She struggles for three years before it starts outweighing the good of the mission she believed in. 27:55 - She and her husband leave the community together and set up house. Pregnancy, motherhood, and breastfeeding take over her body and sex becomes a marital duty. 29:38 - PJ Parties for Grownups! 32:17 - Her marriage struggles. 35:10 - She finds herself alone for the first time in 10 years when her husband takes the girls on a trip. She reunites with a college friend…with benefits. 37:00 - Charlotte talks about her current exploratory dating, Her sexual orientation and relationship styles vary at the moment, and include being in a non-monogamous “high-fidelity polyamory” with a super communicative yoga dude and being the girlfriend of a married couple. 40:20 - After spending time digging into and undoing her wounds, she is literally bathed in new love. 43:58 - A friend of a friend overhears Charlotte talking about her escapades at a party, and contacts her afterward to ask if she’ll have sex with her husband. He turns out to be hot enough to make her nervous. 47:26 - Charlotte looks to the future and potentially partnering up monogamously again, as well as further pushing her sexual boundaries.   The Patreon extras for this episode are: Charlotte talks about dealing with depression and uncovering feelings of unworthiness as a college student. Then she talks about the final disintegration of her marriage.  And of course, the full Lowdown Q&A! As of July 2020, all Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you’d like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at Apple Podcasts   Have a question or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Learn about coaching with Leah - www.leahcarey.com/coaching   Join a PJ Party for Grown Ups - www.leahcarey.com/pjparty   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak  

Leah shares a coaching session with Cindy, a married mother of one, for support around a very human variety of issues: decreased libido, sex after motherhood, love languages, pandemic life, sex for connection vs. conception, miscarriage, self-care, homework, and grace.   Bookmark moments: 3:18 - Cindy talks about participating in coaching in one of Leah’s group sessions, and catches us up on what life looks like (sexually and otherwise) a year into the pandemic. 7:46 - Stress can have varied effects on libido—up or down. 9:35 - Can you turn your libido back “on”? Cindy talks about what she did to try, paying more attention to her body, taking better care of it. 12:20 - They talk about trying to use sex to connect *as well as* conceive. 15:41 - Leah helps Cindy hone in on what she wants her sex life to look life. 17:47 - Cindy conceives but suffers a miscarriage; she opens up about the impact. 20:25 - PJ Parties for Grownups! 22:57 - Homework assignments—fun ones, of course—can be a tangible, focused way to take concrete steps towards your goal. And, sometimes the homework is giving yourself grace. 30:08 - Cindy gets specific about what she wants to focus on in her relationship. 32:05 - They speak on love languages: his is gifts, hers is acts of service. Leah helps Cindy navigate through ideas for activities. 38:00 - Leah talks about how coaching can help in different relationship areas and for specific interests, with group and solo options. 40:03 - A post-coaching update from Cindy; and a discussion about being compassionate with yourself about your fears.   Join me on Patreon: As of July 2020, all Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you’d like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at Apple Podcasts   Have a question or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Learn about coaching with Leah - www.leahcarey.com/coaching   Join a PJ Party for Grown Ups - www.leahcarey.com/pjparty   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak  

NB: This is the final episode before Mind Full of Everything goes on hiatus until 12th May due to the host's education commitments.  In light of the outcry of women on their safety and issues around sexual exploitation of women across the world, this episode emphasises on the importance of establishing a sex positive culture, where women's sexual rights and freedoms are celebrated, not oppressed. Leah is a sex and intimacy coach, and also the host of the Good Girls Talk About Sex podcast, where women anonymously share their sexual journeys and experiences in an effort to encourage other women to embrace their sexualities and denounce misogyny around women's sexual exploration. In this episode, Leah and Agrita discuss a wide array of prominent sex issues and topics that directly affect the sexual happiness of women including: stigma around sexual exploration as a woman, birth control/abortion rights, validity of asexuality, motherhood and sexuality and shifting away from zero-sum relationships. Although this conversation is revolved around sex issues that most heterosexual women experience, as the misogyny often found in heterosexual relationships needs to be urgently addressed, issues/topics discussed here are applicable to all women in all sexual/romantic relationships. 

Jordan is a young mother of two young children; she’s also a doula, and therefore all up in bodies and their business. Her innate curiosity led her on a sex and biology research deep-dive that coincided with the start of her relationship with her husband. As a result, she is passionate in her work and home about open and aware sexual dialogue, consent, communication, and support. Jordan is a 23-year-old cisgender female who describes herself as white, straight, monogamous and married with two kids. She grew up in a Christian home and she describes her body as “tall and lanky like a baby giraffe.”   Bookmark moments:  Jordan shares her first memories of sexual pleasure. She started late at 16-17, and married early. Sex Ed was the usual, but her parents didn’t want her to attend the class without a frank but Christian-based family discussion first. She doesn’t tell anyone when she gets her period for a year despite overt symptoms that, when finally diagnosed, turn out to be polycystic ovarian syndrome. The pill is prescribed but creates a new set of problems. Early conversations between Jordan and her now-husband were honest and upfront about her health possibly precluding kids, even as they agreed she should come off the pill. Jordan talks about tracking her cycle for fertility awareness for birth control. PJ Parties for Grownups! Jordan tells the story of (reluctantly) meeting her husband. Jordan talks about the mental steps she took upon coming out of her Christian upbringing to open to pre-marital sex. When Jordan realizes there’s WAY more to sex than what she’s been taught growing up, she goes on a research bender and her now-husband was happy to lead the way and surf her learning curve. Jordan opens up about libido in the postpartum period and how she feels in her body. Jordan talks about being a birth doula, and she and Leah talk about mothers of young children being “touched out.” Jordan has a great hug metaphor to explain the very real energetic exchange—and loss. Postpartum sex. Jordan hopes to re-prioritize sex in the not-too-distant future. Jordan and her husband and thought and talked extensively about raising sex-positive, consent-aware, feminism- and equality-minded boys, while still celebrating their masculinity including their sexual journey.   The Lowdown (1:01:00) Do you have hair down there or are you bare? Do you think it's generally easy or challenging for you to orgasm? Have you ever faked an orgasm?   The Patreon extras for this episode are: Jordan’s first boyfriend, where she drew the line between "fooling around" and "having sex", learning to orgasm, and that time her ex-boyfriend slept with her best friend! Plus the full Lowdown Q&A.  Jordan talks at length about tandem breastfeeding her nine-month-old and her 2.5 year old and the AMAZING things our body is capable of!  She also talks about sexual breast play with her husband while also breastfeeding her kids.  As of July 2020, all Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you’d like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at Apple Podcasts   Have a questions or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Coaching with Leah - www.leahcarey.com/coaching   Join a PJ Party for Grown Ups - www.leahcarey.com/pjparty   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Caitlin returns for a follow-up coaching session with her partner, Chris. They check in with Leah about their BDSM explorations, dom/sub dynamics, communication in and out of play sessions, aftercare, safe words, bruising, pleasure, and sourcing and trying new ideas.   Bookmark moments: 4:20 - Caitlin and Chris catch Leah up on the new-to-them BDSM they’ve been exploring and what they’d like support with. 7:31 - Caitlin is clear that sub is her turf. 8:38 - They get into specifics with impact tools, paddles, riding crop, switch, etc. Chris explains how he manages and escalates the impact using a 1-10 scale and timing set to playdate playlist. 12:55 - Leah talks about safe-wording to help Caitlin really get into sub space and also to give Chris reassurance. The line rests in the hands of the sub. Leah also talks about non-verbal safe cues. 17:55 - Chris shares his progress since the start of their sexual partnership. 20:29 - PJ Parties for Grownups! 23:13 - Pleasure dynamics for the dom, and physically dominating vs verbally dominating. Chris has an easier time with one over the other and is naturally a giver, so Leah helps him find new some avenues and techniques. 27:07 - Making a restaurant-style command or activity menu ahead of time can help. Leah shares a few tips. 30:53 - Navigating voyeurism/exhibitionism, consent, and safe places to engage. 36:21 - The Yes/No/Maybe list is great for finding and knowing your hard red lines. It’s also a good idea to revisit the list periodically. Leah shares other resources and talks about BDSM tasting events. 41:31 - Chris talks about finding and pushing the limits as a dom while still being careful not to hurt her. 43:50 - Each play session is separate and discrete; always check in fresh. 44:56 - Is pushing BDSM limits healthy? If you’re having consensual fun, carry on. 48:26 - Here’s how to work with Leah.    Resources mentioned:  Three Minute Game Yes / No / Maybe list Literotica   Join me on Patreon: As of July 2020, all Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you’d like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at www.ratethispodcast.com/goodgirls   Have a questions or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk Private Facebook Group - www.facebook.com/groups/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Learn about coaching with Leah - www.leahcarey.com/coaching   Join a PJ Party for Grown Ups - www.leahcarey.com/pjparty   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Tee is unhappily married, and unhappy with her sex life—like so many people. Also like too many, she experiences the lingering impacts of sexual assault. She’s doing the work of setting boundaries, trying to provide a good example for her kids, and is still hoping someday she’ll find a communicative and loving partner.   Bookmark moments:  3:33 - Tee shares her first memory of sexual pleasure around age 16, having an electrifying first kiss with an annoying boy. 9:13 - Tee talks about growing up in a conservative Baptist congregation, then opens up about seeing her parents’ marital difficulties and the lingering impacts that has had on her relationships even to present day. 12:22- She is aware of the impact of spousal/parental yelling on her own kids. 12:45 - Tee is a masturbation late-bloomer. She felt behind her peers growing up, in all sexual matters. 15:05 - She loses her virginity and discovered that too much size matters. 17:33 - Her next lover takes his time and explains things. 18:50 - Tee talks about body image, being a tall woman. 25:13 PJ Parties for Grownups! 30:40 - A month after she gets engaged, Tee discovers she is pregnant. She miscarries at 5 months. The relationship doesn’t survive. 35:31 - She bumps into a childhood friend. 37:23 - Tee delves into the downturn in their sexual relationship. He tells her she is sexually immature. A quantity vs quality discussion ensues. 40:34 - A birthday dinner for her husband leads to sex gone awry and a lot of resentment. Communication was never good and has since broken down. He is ill and she stays out of obligation. 46:08 - Tee is contemplating a different future, for herself and her children. 49:42 - Men wanting to engage in three-ways with her and another woman makes her uncomfortable. Do all men want that?   The Patreon extras for this episode are:  This week at Patreon we’ve got the full extended Lowdown Q&A with Tee. As of July 2020, all Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you’d like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex. I donate 10% of all Patreon income to ARC-Southeast, an organization that provides financial and logistical support to people seeking reproductive health services in Southeastern United States where safe and even life-saving services are being legislated out of existence.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at www.ratethispodcast.com/goodgirls   Have a questions or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk Private Facebook Group - www.facebook.com/groups/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Learn about coaching with Leah - www.leahcarey.com/coaching   Join a PJ Party for Grown Ups - www.leahcarey.com/pjparty   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Support the Finding Fertile Ground Podcast on Patreon! Warning: This episode contains adult content. Madeleine Black survived a gang rape at age 13. Since I was sexually assaulted at 13 as well, we had a tender conversation about how this experience changed our lives.Madeleine was born to two survivors. Her dad survived the Holocaust and her mum had her neck broken in a childhood surgery and woke up bedridden. Her parents handled their own trauma by just living their lives and carrying on.When Madeline was 13, a “really cool” friend asked her over because her mom was away from home. They lied about where they were staying. They bought a bottle of vodka and took it to the local café. Since she had never drunk alcohol before, it didn’t take her long to get drunk. Soon she began throwing up, and two young men offered to take them home in a taxi.“It became obvious very quickly they weren't there to let me sleep off the alcohol…they were there for something else, and the two of them proceeded to rape and torture me over the next four to five hours.”Madeleine’s body went into shock and she had an out-of-body experience. As a therapist, she knows that this often happens when the trauma is overwhelming. “Our stories are not uncommon and yet still we struggle to speak out about it. Still not many people will talk openly because of the shame that is so wrapped up in the event…it took me years to realize the shame never belonged to me. It always belonged to them.”When Madeleine woke up and remembered what happened, she was terrified to tell anyone. They cleaned up the flat and decided not to speak about it. On some subconscious level, she had bought into the rape myths and already thought it was her fault. Her life spiraled out of control after the experience, and it all came to a head when she stayed out late one night and her mum confronted her. Her parents suggested she go away for a while, so she went to Israel. While living there she met a wonderful Scotsman, the first man she felt safe with. They’ve been together now for 37 years. Madeleine became a therapist because of her dad’s experience surviving Auschwitz. She also helped survivors of domestic abuse and rape. Only when training as a rape crisis hotline worker did she understand she was living with undiagnosed post-traumatic stress disorder.Madeleine decided to go public with her story six years ago when she was invited to share it through an organization called The Forgiveness Project. She published her memoir, Unbroken, about three months before the #metoo movement started up again. Then she was invited to share her story at TEDx Glasgow. It has taken years of therapy to work through her trauma. It’s been a huge process. She has found a way to forgive her attackers, calling herself an “accidental forgiver.” She views her forgiveness as an act of self-love. Madeleine started “Unbroken The Podcast with Madeleine Black” to help heal, motivate, inspire, and bring hope to others. This conversation touched my heart. I wish that my 13-year-old self could have spoken to Madeleine’s 13-year-old self and said, “#metoo.”Next week I share the story of Leah Carey, who tried to be a “good girl” for decades before waking up sexually in her early 40s. Now she is a sex coach and educator, in addition to host of the “Good Girls Talk About Sex” podcast. View photos and more details about Madeleine Black on my website.Fertile Ground Communications LLC is a certified women-owned business enterprise, disadvantaged business enterprise, and emerging small business.

Leah shares a coaching session with client Caitlin to give us an in-depth experience of what coaching looks and feels like. Caitlin is divorced and currently in a friends-with-benefits heterosexual relationship. She and Leah had discussed fantasies and BDSM in previous private sessions; here they focus on Caitlin’s new (or perhaps not new?) sexual attraction to women, and how she might begin to explore that in real life.   Bookmark moments:   2:15 - Leah explains what coaching does—and doesn’t—involve. She introduces Caitlin, the coach-ee! 4:44 - Caitlin catches Leah up on a big realization she’s had since their last coaching sessions: she’s sexually curious about women too. 10:21 - Leah helps Caitlin hone in on whether her attraction to women is a leftover effect of our hyper-sexualized-female-form-loving culture, or a deeper sexual attraction. 14:40 - The conversation turns to fantasies; they’re a great way to safely explore new thoughts and desires. Erotica is another. 16:51 - What “pansexual” means. 19:31 - Dating women can feel new to women. Leah assures Caitlin that the rules are basically the same: “Don’t be an asshole.” Also, exploring sex with a new-to-you gender can feel like a second puberty. 23:34 - When navigating COVID risks with dating apps, be clear up front about your risk tolerance and boundaries. 26:55 - There are some sensitivities to know about for women who are new to dating women. Leah talks about bi vs lesbian. Also, there’s a difference between sexual attraction and romantic attraction. 33:40 - Threesomes can be a fun way to try sex with a woman, if approached with sensitivity. Leah recommends more resources. 36:39 - They talk about how to find someone who wants to explore with you on the dating apps. 40:30 - Leah talks more about what coaching looks and feels like, in solo and group options.   Resources mentioned: Erotica collections – I recommend the collections edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel Literotica – A site featuring erotica submitted by primarily amateur writers. I love it because no matter what your interest or fetish is, someone is writing about it here.  Because it’s all amateur, though, you may have to wade through a bunch of stories that are terribly written before you hit on one that tickles your fancy!  Start by searching the tags for topics that interest you - https://tags.literotica.com (be aware that this site does show ads from porn sites so it is NSFW, but the pictures are generally not X-rated)   Join me on Patreon: As of July 2020, all Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you’d like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at www.ratethispodcast.com/goodgirls   Have a questions or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk Private Facebook Group - www.facebook.com/groups/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Learn about coaching with Leah - www.leahcarey.com/coaching   Join a PJ Party for Grown Ups - www.leahcarey.com/pjparty   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Stephanie shares how childhood shame about feeling good in her body led to an eating disorder. She talks about how the eating disorder affected her ability to relate with sexual partners, including her now-husband. Healing the eating disorder has allowed her to begin relating in a new way with her body and her husband.   Bookmark moments:   2:37 - Stephanie shares her first memory of sexual play at age 5 or 6, accidentally discovering that rubbing her genitals felt good. The adults around her shamed her, leading her to believe masturbation was a terrible secret.   8:20 - Shame compounds to feeling that her vagina is broken.   11:45 - Stephanie describes a “good girl” upbringing, and being behind her peers in sexual experimentation.   14:55 - An eating disorder manifests in her life.   19:57 - What trauma, even/especially when we don’t label it as such, can look like.   24:31 - Stephanie hits a rock bottom with her eating disorder in college, and rebounds into a new willingness to try sex finally.   28:53 - She meets her husband, who makes her feel safe enough to begin to be present in her body during sex. She experiences her first real pleasure.   35:55 - Stephanie elaborates the myriad ways her eating disorder impacts their sexual relationship.   44:19 - PJ Parties for Grownups!   47:06 - While the sex is great in her marriage, Stephanie questions the kissing, and she and Leah go on a deep-dive about embodiment.     The Lowdown (54:08)   Have you ever felt a sexual urge that confused you?   The Patreon extras for this episode are:   This week at Patreon we have an extra THIRTY MINUTES of conversation with Stephanie!   She talks about how food stood in as a replacement for physical touch earlier in her life, and how having kids has changed her relationship with her body and her sexuality.  And also how having kids pushed her to address her eating disorder in a new way.  And, of course, there’s the extended Lowdown Q&A. As of July 2020, all Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you’d like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at www.ratethispodcast.com/goodgirls   Have a questions or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk Private Facebook Group - www.facebook.com/groups/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Learn about coaching with Leah - www.leahcarey.com/coaching   Join a PJ Party for Grown Ups - www.leahcarey.com/pjparty   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

The lockdowns associated with COVID are relaxing but the stress and tensions can still affect our relationships. As our lives begin to resume their natural rhythms, not everyone is comfortable with managing a new level of risk. How does it affect relationships where one person a ready to get back in the world while the other person is still fearing that they might get sick? Where does that conversation begin? Relationships have their ups and downs during the best of times, but COVID has added a whole new layer to navigate. People have been cooped up for weeks and in some ways, life got a little boring. For some, the added stress amplified the already existing cracks in their relationships. While life is getting back to normal, that normal is looking very different. In one way or another, it will affect our sex lives.  In this episode, I chat with Leah Carey who is a Sexual Communication and Intimacy Coach to provide direction on how we can begin to have difficult conversations to strengthen our relationships and reclaim (or claim) our sexual needs. Make sure you check out Leah's website for tools and resources, including great videos such as: · What I learned from being naked and blindfolded · Why two heads are better than one · Turn ons aren't just what happens in the bedroom To learn about Dr. Evelin Dacker's COVID CARE click here. Explore the 3 Minute Game here. Remember start PG on this one ;) Tune into Leah's Podcast, Good Girls Talk About Sex on Apple, Spotify, and Stitcher. Your support for this podcast is always appreciated, please make sure to subscribe! If you REALLY like what you hear, leave a comment. Every little bit helps. Follow me on Facebook @therollercoasterpodcast and Instagram the_roller_coaster_podcast Until next time....I'm sending my virtually distant hugs!

Welcome back to The Fattest Girl in the Room, this is a podcast about being a fat girl in a not so fat-friendly world. I'm your host Tae, plus-size fashion and fat girl lifestyle blogger at Hello Taee.I am super excited to share this awesome discussion with my fat friend, Leah Carey, host of the podcast Good Girls Talk About Sex. Leah is this amazing sexual communication coach who is going to share her experiences with sexual freedom, dealing with body image issues and some fun stories. She has taken her own journey to sexual freedom, and is now passionate about breaking the silence, fear, and shame around women's sexuality and pleasure, and redefining what it means to be a “good girl.” So, I'm super excited she's joining us!To learn more about this episode, you can check out:Thanks for joining me at The Fattest Girl in the Room, I'm glad you decided to join us. We don't have tee-shirts yet, but one day soon we probably will

Today we get to discuss something we haven't really talked much about on this show! It's kind of shocking really when you think about it. But Leah Carey is the perfect guest to pop this bravery cherry of ours because she is a Sexual Communication Coach! In this episode, you'll hear Leah Carey and our founder, Emily Ann Peterson, discuss the importance of context to your sexual life, how Leah's context defined her brave sexual journey and blossoming, and other lovely tidbits that you will really appreciate. We have a feeling you'll be hearing more from Leah in the future! There's so much to learn from the bravery of intimacy! About Leah Carey Leah Carey is a Sex Educator and Sexual Communication Coach who helps people learn to communicate about sex so they can get what they really want in the bedroom - rather than just tolerating what they're getting. She is the host of the podcast “Good Girls Talk About Sex.” Sexual freedom is a subject that is deeply personal to Leah because she spent most of her life being a VERY good girl. Most of the sex she had was either boring or painful, but she endured it because she didn't know she was allowed to ask for anything different. Having taken her own journey to sexual freedom, she is now passionate about breaking the silence, fear, and shame around women's sexuality and pleasure, and redefining what it means to be a “good girl.” www.leahcarey.com www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk www.facebook.com/goodgirlstalk About The School of Bravery The School of Bravery is a learning lab for life, career, and creativity. Through monthly masterclasses, group coaching, guest faculty, weekly office hours and so much more, you'll explore what it really means to "put yourself out there" and how bravery does not have to feel like a panic attack. It can feel easier! Visit http://schoolofbravery.com to learn more and join us today! Take a Class with Emily Ann Peterson http://www.schoolofbravery.com/emilyann

I'm so proud of this interview with Leah Carey, Host of Good Girls Talk About Sex. She's an incredibly articulate and sensitive interviewer who gives women the opportunity to share their intimate thoughts and experiences related to sex. Her show is a guilty pleasure and a window into women's minds and sexual behavior. We discuss coming of age in an emotionally abusive relationship and how that impacted Carey's perspective on sex, her sexual choices, and shut her down from the experience of pleasure and voicing her desires. On the upside she's made this her career now and is sex positive - emphasizing communication for partners so everyone expresses their needs, has them met, and enjoys sex - that's the goal anyway. Mentioned in this episode... LeahCarey.com Good Girls Talk About Sex https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/good-girls-talk-about-sex Leah on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/iamleahcarey/ Leah on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/leahcarey1  Leah on YouTube