Marriage Quick Tips: Affairs, Communication, Avoiding Divorce, and Saving Your Marriage

If you've made the mistake of cheating and are looking for ways to mend your marriage, this video is your first step towards healing. Dr. Joe Beam, a relationship expert from Marriage Helper, guides you through the complex emotions and decisions you face after an affair. Whether it was a brief slip or an ongoing issue, understanding the type of affair and how to approach reconciliation is crucial. Dr. Beam provides expert advice on communicating effectively with your spouse, taking responsibility, and the essential steps to rebuild trust and love. Watch to learn how to restore your marriage and turn a crisis into a strengthening journey for you and your spouse.Click here to get in contact with someone on our team at Marriage Helper

In this heartfelt video, Scott and Ruth delve deep into the essential elements that have kept their marriage strong and thriving: forgiveness and commitment. Their journey hasn't been easy; they've faced significant challenges, including infidelity, but they've emerged stronger on the other side. Through open communication, trust-building, and unwavering dedication, Scott and Ruth discovered that true forgiveness and steadfast commitment are the foundation of a lasting, fulfilling marriage.They share personal anecdotes and practical advice that have helped them navigate through tough times, emphasizing the importance of emotional and spiritual connection. Whether viewers are facing similar struggles or simply looking to strengthen their relationships, Scott and Ruth's story offers hope and practical insights.Join Scott and Ruth as they discuss: • The transformative power of forgiveness and how it benefits both partners. • The role of commitment in overcoming marital challenges. • Practical steps to rebuild trust after infidelity. • The importance of maintaining emotional and spiritual connections in a marriage. • How to cultivate a resilient and loving relationship through ongoing growth and communication.They hope their experiences can inspire and guide others who may be facing difficulties in their marriages. Remember, a strong and lasting marriage is possible with the right mindset and actions.Click here to get in contact with someone on our team at Marriage Helper

Get ready for a powerful and inspiring conversation! Alice Beam opens up about the most challenging chapter of her life - her divorce. You'll hear the raw emotions of a marriage breakdown, the struggles of single motherhood, and the road to rediscovering her strength. But this isn't just a story of heartbreak. It's a story of profound hope. Alice shares how she picked up the pieces, found her voice, and ultimately made a life-changing decision to reconcile her marriage with Dr. Joe Beam.This episode is for you if:- You're going through a divorce or separation- You're a single parent feeling overwhelmed- You're looking for hope and inspiration to rebuild your lifeAlice's story is a testament to the human spirit's resilience. Get ready to be encouraged and empowered!Plus, you'll hear about:- How she navigated the emotional rollercoaster of divorce- The support system that helped her get back on her feet- The surprising decision that led to the creation of Marriage Helper- Advice for parents going through a tough timeDon't miss this incredible episode!

Discovering infidelity in your marriage is a heart-wrenching experience, leaving you with a whirlwind of emotions and uncertainties. But how do you confront your cheating spouse without escalating the situation? In this insightful video, Dr. Joe Beam, renowned marriage expert from Marriage Helper, offers invaluable guidance on navigating the challenging terrain of confronting infidelity and rebuilding trust.Dr. Beam shares practical wisdom gained from over 30 years of experience in helping thousands of couples overcome marital crisis. He emphasizes the importance of verifying the reliability of information before confronting your spouse about suspected infidelity. Drawing from real-life anecdotes, Dr. Beam highlights the potential pitfalls of impulsive confrontations and offers strategic approaches to address marital issues with sensitivity and clarity.Key Insights:- Understanding the significance of reliable information in confronting infidelity.- Learning from real-life anecdotes to avoid common pitfalls in confrontation.- Strategically approaching marital issues with sensitivity and clarity.Who is this for:This episode is for anyone facing the painful reality of infidelity in their marriage, seeking guidance on how to confront a cheating spouse, rebuild trust, and navigate the path to healing and reconciliation. If you're grappling with the devastating impact of betrayal and looking for expert advice from Dr. Joe Beam and Marriage Helper, this video is for you.Whether you're grappling with suspicions of infidelity or seeking to rebuild trust in your marriage, this video provides essential insights into effective communication, setting boundaries, and fostering emotional healing. Dr. Beam's compassionate yet pragmatic advice empowers couples to navigate the complexities of betrayal and chart a path towards reconciliation.Click here to get in contact with someone on our team at Marriage Helper

Sometimes, saving your marriage feels impossible. Maybe your spouse has checked out, fallen out of love, or is tangled in something that's breaking your bond. But here's the thing: we at Marriage Helper have witnessed incredible transformations. Couples facing what SEEMED like hopeless situations have reignited their love. How? Well, it starts with one simple thing: refusing to give up hope. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam cuts through the despair.He explains what hope truly means in the context of marriage. It's not just wishful thinking, it's the belief that even in the darkest moments, there's a path forward. He shares practical steps you can take to cultivate hope, even when things feel overwhelming. If deep down you want a chance at happiness in your marriage, this message is for you. You CAN save your marriage.Click here to get in contact with someone on our team at Marriage Helper

Join Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, as she dives deep into relationship challenges posted on the Reddit relationship advice forum. In this insightful episode, Kimberly addresses complex situations with practical advice, focusing on the importance of understanding and support over ultimatums in a marriage. Discover how to handle marital issues with compassion and teamwork, and why seeing your spouse as your ally is crucial for a healthy relationship.Kimberly provides expert advice on navigating these sensitive issues. Learn why supporting a spouse through depression is more constructive than issuing demands and how mutual respect is the cornerstone of any strong relationship. Whether you're facing similar challenges or seeking to strengthen your marriage, this video offers valuable insights and actionable tips.Click here to get in contact with someone on our team at Marriage Helper

Are you paralyzed by fear in your marriage? Feeling helpless, hopeless, and confused about how to fix things?Relationship expert Dr. Joe Beam understands the destructive power of fear and how it can sabotage even the most well-intentioned efforts to save a marriage.In this eye-opening video, Dr. Joe Beam discusses:- How fear prevents you from taking action to improve your relationship.- Why the things you think will help may actually be making things worse.- The simple yet powerful "push pull" principle that can transform your marriage.Dr. Beam has helped thousands of couples worldwide overcome their challenges and create stronger, more fulfilling relationships. He shares his wisdom and insights gained from 30 years of experience to help you:Replace fear with confidence.Learn how to influence positive change in your spouse.Break free from destructive patterns.If you're ready to take control of your life and your marriage, click the link below to connect with one of Dr. Joe Beam's intake specialists and discover the best path forward for your unique situation.Remember, you are not alone. Hope and help are within reach. Take the first step towards a happier, healthier marriage today!Click here to get in contact with someone on our team at Marriage Helper

Is physical attraction essential for a lasting marriage?  The answer might surprise you! In this video, viewers will explore the role of physical attraction alongside the four areas of attraction from Marriage Helper: physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual (PIES).While physical attraction often sparks initial interest, it's the other forms of attraction that truly sustain a marriage. This video discusses:- How to become the most attractive version of yourself- The importance of shared interests, emotional connection, and aligned values- What to do if you're currently not physically attracted to your spouse- Strategies for focusing on the other aspects of attractionRemember, becoming our best selves benefits not only our marriage but all our relationships.

Is your marriage suffering from silent treatment and misunderstandings? Communication problems are common, but don't despair!  Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, shares how to rebuild connection and bring back intimacy in marriage with 3 essential tips. In this video, you'll discover:The Friendship Fix: Rekindle the spark with marriage communication exercises that build closeness and trust.Open and Honest: Learn to address those unspoken needs for less resentment and a happy marriage.Empathy Over Arguments: Transform conflict with communication in marriage strategies that prioritize love and understanding.Whether you're facing small disconnects or major communication breakdowns, these tips are your roadmap to healing. Get ready to find your voice, strengthen your bond, and rediscover the joy of intimacy in marriage.Want 25% off your first month of your Save My Marriage membership?Click the link and apply code "YOUTUBE" at checkout!

Explore the "PIES of Attraction" with Kimberly Beam Holmes in this enlightening video. As the CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly delves into the four pillars of attraction: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual. Learn how each aspect contributes to a strong, vibrant relationship with your spouse. She emphasizes the often-overlooked role of intellectual and spiritual attraction, providing practical tips to nurture these areas in your marriage. This video is perfect for couples seeking to understand and improve their mutual attraction, leading to a more fulfilling and loving partnership.Kimberly's Podcast: apple.co/3O4JiONKimberly Beam Holmes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

If you want to know what a toxic relationship is, or how to deal with it, we're here to help. We want to give you some guidelines to think about and provide you with truth, hope, and plan going forward. To start, we'll cover these two questions: 1. What do people say about toxic relationships? 2. What is a toxic relationship clinically? “Toxic Relationships” are a difficult topic to approach because there are many varying opinions and experiences surrounding it. It seems like everyone has a different definition of what a toxic relationship is. For example, people will say a relationship is toxic when "you can't agree on things." Or, there's “passive aggressive behavior." Maybe they "can't resolve conflict," or, "avoid conflict because they can't solve it." It could also be that "one person doesn't give any effort to the relationship." Now hear me out- these definitions are not healthy for a relationship, but they aren't toxic. They aren't great, but they can be fixed.  You see, toxic literally means poisonous. Eating or ingesting something that is toxic will kill you. It's not just that you don't like the taste. No. Toxic is poisonous. From a professional point of view, toxic relationships are abusive relationships physically, verbally or emotionally.  If you are in a situation where you're experiencing abuse physically, verbally, or emotionally, feel unsafe/scared, or your rights/freedoms are taken away from you, please get help IMMEDIATELY. The Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/ helps you understand what abuse is and how to get help and get safe. I don't know your situation, but I'm giving you guidelines to think about. If you feel like your relationship is abusive or harmful to you, find someone to help you get safe. After you get safe, only then can you start thinking about the relationship. After this, if there is any way we can help, we would be honored to. Like we said before, there is a difference between how some people define toxic relationships. If you're in a relationship where you're fighting, can't compromise or you stopped putting effort in, while it's not a good situation, there is help for that! And we have worked with thousands of couples to grow, fix, and rebuild their marriage. However, if you're in a truly toxic and abusive relationship (physically, emotionally, or verbally) please get help. You can start here: https://www.thehotline.org/  We really do care about you.For more information about courses and workshops, visit marriagehelper.com.

If feeling emotionally or sexually rejected has stolen your joy and made you feel like less of a person, then you're not crazy and you're not alone.You're wanting to try and turn your marriage around, but you don't know how.In this video, Kimberly Holmes (CEO Of Marriage Helper) is going to share with you the next steps that you can take to feel like yourself again. by going through these steps, we hope you find that you DO have worth, you DO have value and you CAN turn your relationship around.We have helped thousands and thousands of marriages in situations just like this, where there is a spouse like you, who feels like you are being ignored emotionally or sexually.We have an amazing success rate at working with these marriages and creating a stronger marriage than ever before.Visit marriagehelper.com for more information for your marriage situation.

So your spouse said they're in love with someone else? Here are 3 things you can do to get them to fall in love with you again & restore trust in the relationship.See how to avoid accidentally pushing your spouse further into the arms of this other person, and how you can react in a way that will make them attracted to you instead.Visit marriagehelper.com for more resources that apply to your situation.

You've been betrayed by your husband. Maybe they they hid an addiction from you. Maybe they have been living a lifestyle that you didn't even know about. Or worse, they had an affair with another woman and you just found out about it.It could be that your husband knows that you know, but maybe they don't. You may be contemplating how you plan to approach him about it. But before you do anything, you need to understand a few things.In today's episode of Quick Tips, Kimberly Beam Holmes talks about what to do when you find out that your husband has betrayed you. Kimberly will explain the two different types of betrayals and where they stem from, as well as give you helpful advice on how to heal the pain and work through it with your husband.There's still hope for your marriage, and rebuilding trust is definitely possible. Sign up for our FREE online course designed to teach you what to do in order to get your spouse back: https://bit.ly/3AgW8C1

It's scary to feel alone. From birth, we are wired for connection. We strive to feel seen, loved and heard. When you first got married, you likely felt as though your partner was your best friend. Over the years, you have drifted apart. What once felt like a deep longing for one another has now turned into a numbness to the relationship. Because of this, you feel more alone now than you did before you got married.Although you may feel like you are completely by yourself in your marriage, we have good news for you.You are not alone.In this episode of Marriage Helper Quick Tips, Kimberly Beam Holmes gives you 3 practical tips on how to regain connection with your spouse if you are starting to feel like there is no hope for the future. You don't want to miss it.Sign up for our FREE online course designed to teach you what to do in order to get your spouse back: https://bit.ly/3AgW8C1

If you feel as though you are no longer a priority in your husbands life, then this is for you. It's important that we define what type of neglect we are referring to. For this episode, we are talking about being neglected in the form of intimacy, lack of sex, or feeling like you are no longer a priority.If you are being neglected in the form of feeling unsafe, not provided for, not fed, or abused then you need to call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline at this phone number: 800-799-7233But if you are like one of the millions of women who feel as though your husband doesn't love you anymore, and you're desperately trying to get his attention in order to rebuild intimacy, passion and have a great marriage, then you need to take notes.Learn how to get your husband to fall back in love with you with our FREE mini course:https://bit.ly/3pAVpGA

Your marriage is about to end.  At least, it feels that way.You've desperately searched for answers, but you're worried that anything you do might only make the situation worse.You want things to go back to the way they were before this crisis happened, but you don't know how to get there. It seems like if you don't do something now, that all hope will be lost.Well, we are here to tell you that there IS hope.In today's episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes shares 3 ways to REVERSE the bad things that have happened in your marriage and gives you practical tips that will help you to begin rebuilding the love that has been lost.You won't want to miss this episode.As a gift to you for listening t this podcast, we would like to give you access to this free course:Click here to access our mini-course to learn HOW to get your spouse back.

Jealousy happens when we are insecure. It comes from the insecurity about not being good enough, attractive enough, or intelligent enough. And we all know that jealousy is the thief of joy. And it will steal the joy in your marriage, too. Why? Because it keeps you focused on what is not enough, how you are not enough, and how your relationship is not good enough. And if you are struggling with your relationship, then you're not alone. But jealousy will wreak havoc, and it probably already has in your marriage. Here's what you need to know about jealousy.Click here to access your free mini-course!

Not all counselors believe that you should stay married. This statement may surprise you, but you should consider that not all counselors are pro-marriage. And sometimes, they may say something that goes against what you want. You know this though, because to your shock, your counselor has said that you should divorce. So what now? At Marriage Helper, we still believe that you can save your marriage. Here's what you need to know if your counselor is saying that your marriage is over.Click here to get your free mini-course today!Learn how to become the most attractive YOU can be.Join the Your Best Self Collection today to experience transformation in your life!Head over to marriagehelper.com/self and enter code "PODCAST" at checkout!

"My husband won't do anything. He is so lazy. Everything ends up on my plate, and I'm drowning in responsibility. I can't keep living like this." Does this sound like you? If your spouse seems like they don't want to do anything or don't care about anything, it can be hard to know where to start in turning things around.If you're struggling with a husband who doesn't seem to invest in or care about helping you out in your day-to-day relationship, I totally get how frustrating this can be. My own marriage faced this struggle at one point, and I can help you talk to your spouse about what's going on and how things can change. Visit marriagehelper.com for more info on workshops!Learn how to become the most attractive YOU can be.Join the Your Best Self Collection today to experience transformation in your life!Head over to marriagehelper.com/self and enter code "PODCAST" at checkout!

I just don't know how to get past what has happened. I can't get the images out of my head of who he has been with and the things that he has done.I've had so many women who have been divorced and even some that are in a second marriage happily married say to me, "I wish I would have made my first marriage work." If you feel like you don't know how to do that, we can help.Does this sound like you? If you are struggling with feeling attracted to your husband after he has cheated on you, then that is what we are going to talk about in this episode of Quick TipsFind out more at marriagehelper.comHas your spouse told you that they are just done with this marriage? If so, you are not alone. Kimberly Beam Holmes and Dr. Joe Beam recorded a webinar specifically designed for you!Visit marriagehelper.com/lost to get your webinar replay today!

Is your husband pulling away from you, and you don't know why? The one quote you need to remember when trying to understand why your husband is pulling away is that people don't leave what they have unless they believe what they are going to is better. This can mean that it's time to do some self-reflection.What are some reasons why men pull away? Things like work, addictions, stress, experiencing any loss or going through grief, or it could even be another person. So what are the things that may push your husband away? Feeling controlled, disrespected, ignored, and even feeling unloved. So, how can you bring your husband back to you?Click here to access your Free Mini-Course!Has your spouse told you that they are just done with this marriage? If so, you are not alone. Join Kimberly Beam Holmes and Dr. Joe Beam on Wednesday, July 13, 2022 for a webinar designed specifically for you.Visit marriagehelper.com/lost to sign up today!

Have you ever been hurt by somebody that you loved or trusted? The feeling of betrayal might not stem from just one incident, but instead, many different times that your trust was violated where now you don't feel like you can trust anyone. You might begin to close yourself off because you expect to be hurt. So, how can you rebuild trust in a relationship once it's lost?As deep as your mistrust might be right now, you can rebuild trust in a relationship. At Marriage Helper, we've worked with thousands upon thousands of couples and helped them rebuild trust in each other. We use a term we call PIES to describe our physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual well-being. These same principles can be applied when understanding trust. Honesty, sensitivity, and accountability can rebuild trust. It will take patience and might be uncomfortable at some points, but you can do it.Get the FREE COURSE mentioned in this episode here:https://bit.ly/3AhlelS

Everyone has insecurities of some sort. Most of the time, they stem from something that happened in childhood or perhaps from a traumatic event that occurred later in life. These insecurities can present themselves in many ways, both emotionally and physically.The American Psychological Association reports that insecurity is multifaceted. It pertains to an overall sense of uncertainty or anxiety about your worth, abilities, skills, and value as a person conveying the message that you're at risk or in danger of losing something or someone. It has a negative impact on your physical, mental, and emotional state. And without that security you're looking for, it makes you feel like you can't live up to your fullest potential.Insecurity can present itself in behaviors that are either others-focused or others-avoidant. Read further to find out how you can deal with your husband's insecurities and help him overcome them.Sign up for the webinar for Living Forward with David & Debbie Mathews:

Have you ever felt the excitement of new love? When love begins, it's exciting, and you think about the person often. But is this genuine love, or is it infatuation? Infatuation refers to the early stages of a relationship when the adrenaline is pumping and chemicals are produced in your brain that make it exciting and euphoric. But can infatuation truly be a form of love?In the social sciences, we study love in different ways. Many models have been made of the various types of love, and infatuation is indeed part of love. The upside is that it feels fantastic. The downside is that it doesn't last that long. Therefore, if you want a longer-lasting relationship, you can't stop with the infatuation. You need to work on all three of Dr. Robert Sternberg's essential components for a long-lasting relationship - intimacy, passion, and commitment.How To Get Your Spouse Back Free Mini Course:https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course

There's a process to falling in love. At Marriage Helper, we call it the love path. Whether you knew it or not, you followed a process that led you to fall in love with your spouse. There isn't a soulmate that you are waiting to connect with, and it has nothing to do with horoscopes or the alignment of the stars and moon. But why do you love someone?There are four parts of attraction that we have labeled the PIES; physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual. The first step of falling in love is attraction. It draws you closer to the other person. If you continue to follow the process of the love path, you'll fall more in love. But if you stop, you can fall out of love, even if that isn't your intention.Learn HOW to get your spouse to fall BACK IN LOVE with our FREE Mini Course here:https://bit.ly/3Q8Xe9Y

Something has changed in your marriage, but you can't quite put your finger on it. You're trying not to panic, but you can't shake this feeling that your wife doesn't love you anymore. This can be a terrible feeling, but there is hope. But first, we will share with you the three things to look for if you feel like your wife doesn't love you anymore.Distance doesn't always make the heart grow fonder. Having physical or emotional distance in your marriage can be one of the signs that your wife doesn't love you anymore. We see this happen in many ways, like when your wife walks into the restaurant without you or you start having less frequent meaningful and emotional conversations. While these signs might mean your wife isn't in love with you anymore, they aren't a complete diagnosis of your relationship. Our purpose at Marriage Helper is to help you find hope and give you the tools to further live into the hope of a better, stronger marriage.

Has your spouse ever given you an ultimatum? Have you given your spouse one? Not all types of ultimatums can be bad. Your motive behind them is what's important. Are you trying to control them, or are you trying to protect them or your loved ones from their destructive behavior?An ultimatum says that a specific thing needs to stop or occur in a certain time frame; otherwise, a negative consequence will be the result. People react to demands such as this differently. There are psychological reasons behind this that start to develop when we are as small as two-years-old. The desire to follow your own free will is why ultimatums often get a negative response. However, that doesn't mean that they don't have their uses.Episode mention:Boundaries Toolkit - https://marriagehelper.com/boundaries-in-marriage-toolkit/

Being controlled by anyone is terrible, but it's especially painful when the person controlling you is your wife. How can you break free of someone who controls your thoughts, decisions, passions, and hobbies? At Marriage Helper, we have developed an acronym called PIES to determine your physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing. Then, we can use that same principle to demonstrate how control manifests in a relationship. Regardless of its form, no control is good for a marriage. While the steps might not be easy, refusing to be controlled is necessary for transforming from a controlling marriage to a healthy one.Mentions:How To Stop A Controlling Marriage eBook - https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-stop-a-controlling-spouse-ebook-sign-up

What do you do if you find your husband looking at other women online?You should talk to him about it if it's bothering you but the question is "how?"Join Kimberly this week as she walks through the pitfalls that can come from these types of conversations and how to approach it if it's happening in your marriage. Mentions:Free mini-course: https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course

Most people want out of a marriage, either because they don't feel loved, don't feel liked, or don't feel respected.But what is respect? And how do you show it?In marriage, we tend to feel respected if each of us feels heard, each of us feels lovely and lovable, and each one of us feels like we're part of a partnership. Problems usually arise when one spouse treats the other like a child or tries to control the other. That's not a partnership. That's not a good marriage.Find out how to add more respect to your marriage in this episode of Quick Tips.Mentions:https://marriagehelper.com/https://www.youtube.com/MarriageHelper

Are you and your wife going through a separation or becoming emotionally distant? Are you wondering how to win your wife back? Men make three common mistakes when they feel that their wife is leaving them. From manipulation to snooping, these mistakes only wind up causing more issues. So what's the best option? Make you the best you can be, so it's harder for her to leave. Follow along as we break down the areas in your life that can make the most significant impact when you're trying to win back your wife.Art Of Attraction Toolkit: https://marriagehelper.com/product/art-of-attraction-toolkit/

Have you ever, in a relationship, begun to doubt your own mind?You may have experienced gaslighting. In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam explains what is and isn't gaslighting and shares ways you can overcome it.If you're having an issue with communication in your marriage, you may want to work on SMART Contact. You can get started with the SMART Communication eBook. https://your.marriagehelper.com/smart-communication-ebook-sign-upSMART Contact Toolkit - https://marriagehelper.com/product/smart-contact-toolkit-product/

When a married person looks to another most of the time, someone of the opposite sex, to fulfill an emotional need, that is emotional cheating. Going to someone else instead of their spouse and being unwilling to give up that relationship is emotional cheating. At the bottom of it, emotional cheating is when you look to someone other than your spouse to fulfill you in areas that only your spouse should fulfill you. So, working with the definition that emotional affairs occur when a person NEEDS the other person in their life to provide them with something that their spouse SHOULD be giving them - how does this apply to opposite-sex friendship? Interestingly, research indicates that men rely more on their wives for emotional support and well-being. Actually, according to research - WOMEN are more likely to have a support system outside of their marriage whereas men are most likely to only turn to their wives in times of hardship. I think that begs a question for all of us to consider - am I a good friend to my spouse? Am I giving them or have I been giving them the physical and emotional support they need SO THAT they will not feel the need to look elsewhere?This and more on this week's episode of Marriage Helper Quick Tips.

You never thought you'd get to this place. Your bride, your best friend, the woman you fell in love with, has become someone you despise. Does this sound like you? If you hate your wife and are unsure of what to do about it, you've come to the right place. I'll be talking you through some of the emotions you're probably feeling and giving you three things to do to help you process what to do next in your marriage. Join our Certified Marriage Helper Coach Nathan as he digs into the three things you need to do if you feel hate for your wife.

Have you been unhappy in your marriage but not sure if you're ready for divorce?Perhaps you're thinking, "I don't want to live like this, but I'm not sure I'm ready to end this thing. Maybe we need to separate for a while to see if we can figure some things out." Maybe somebody is recommending marriage separation. If you're considering marriage separation, listen to this episode where Dr. Joe Beam shares some things to consider before choosing to repair or end your marriage. Mentions:The Definitive Guide to Boundaries ToolkitContact a Team Member

SMART Contact is one of the pillars of what we teach at Marriage Helper. It helps to reset the communication between you and your spouse. Often, we get so caught up in the business of life or some perceived or real hurt that's come from our spouse that we may forget that we love them and need to talk to them that way. But how do you break out of the consistent use of the SMART Contact framework? Join our Head Coach  Melody as she talks about when to break SMART Contact.She'll remind us to take it slow and realize that you've done a great job with more contact so be sure that you guard all the hard work that you've done.

So you're separated, but you don't want to be. What are some positive signs during separation to look for that may indicate you can put your marriage back together? I was on a podcast recently where we talked about how difficult it can be to put a marriage back together when one spouse wants out. And that is likely where you are right now.You have a spouse who wants out for whatever reason; you're separated, divorcing, whatever it might be. The podcast hosts asked how we at Marriage Helper can work with the situations we do and have such high success. Typically, counselors have a tough time working with separated couples or those getting divorced. They asked me how to give hope to the hopeless. I responded by saying, "There are two things that need to happen. The first is teaching people what they did that led them here. And the second is teaching them what to do differently to bring their spouse back." That's the value of our free mini-course. If anything works, what we begin teaching you in the free mini-course will. It's less than 30 minutes long, but it can help you bring your spouse back.

My spouse is cheating. I'm hurting and emotionally exhausted. How can I stop hurting and become emotionally healthy again? In almost every conversation I have with a client, these are the statements I hear. I have so much compassion for these clients because I know all too well how that feels. If this is where you are emotionally, then this is for you. Some researchers say that finding out your spouse is cheating is worse than experiencing the death of someone you love. The reason is that when someone dies, we must accept that they're gone. But the pain from an affair is resurrected every time you see or think of that person. So the pain that you're experiencing is genuine and excruciating. So what can you do to make the pain more manageable and for you to get healthy? Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful videos and unique stories of reconciliation from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. Please leave a comment below, give us your feedback and opinion, and share this video with someone you believe needs it.We have a supportive community of people going through similar grievances to listen. Place a free strategy call with one of our representatives if you need support and direction through these difficult times. Find more resources on our YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/marriagehelperGet the FREE mini-course here - https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course

What is cheating? Is it still cheating if it never becomes physical? Is there such thing as emotional cheating? The answer is yes. Emotional cheating is real and probably happens way more than people realize. This episode will teach you what emotional cheating is, how to know if you are emotionally cheating or your spouse is emotionally cheating on you, and what to do about it. I'm also going to tell you how you can access a free guide to understanding more about emotional cheating. How would you define emotional cheating? Have you been emotionally cheated on by your spouse? And how did you handle it? Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episodes and unique stories from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. Please leave a comment below, give us your feedback and opinion, and share this podcast with someone you believe needs it.As long as you're committed to change, we have the tools to help. Married But In Love With Someone Else: www.youtube.com/watch?v=SS_X9vGB16UFind more resources on our YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/marriagehelperGet the FREE mini-course here - https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course

Often, clients will tell me that they are sure that they were in limerence with their spouse before they were married. But does that mean that the relationship with their spouse was bad from the beginning? If you were in limerence with your spouse when you first entered a relationship together, it doesn't mean it's doomed. Your spouse being in limerence with you or with them is different from being in limerence with an affair partner or limerent object. But we'll talk more about that in a minute.What Is Limerence?Limerence is a type of love with identifiable characteristics. We can identify if it is limerence or not by those characteristics. It is important to note that limerence doesn't always occur in every relationship. But when it does, it is a powerful emotion. Limerence is a deep longing for an emotional connection with a person that supersedes nearly anything. A person in limerence is willing to sacrifice almost anything to be with this person. Another characteristic that a person in limerence may have is thinking that this person is perfect. Even if the person has identifiable flaws, someone in limerence will explain those flaws away because of the "halo effect." Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episodes and unique stories from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. Please leave a comment below, give us your feedback and opinion, and share this podcast with someone you believe needs it.As long as you're committed to change, we have the tools to help. Find more resources on our YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/marriagehelperGet the FREE mini-course here - https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course

Do you want to divorce, but you haven't told your spouse yet? Maybe you're just waiting for the perfect moment to present it to them to where it prevents any more damage to the relationship. Or perhaps you're plotting the best way to throw it in their face because you feel fed up with their actions. You're done with the relationship, and you've likely lost any faith in the marriage coming back together. However, you are not sure how to tell your spouse you want a divorce. Even though you have children, perhaps who will miss their parents being in the same house, you honestly believe divorce is still the best decision. If you don't have kids, you're probably thinking of all of the freedoms you'll get back after getting a divorce. And honestly, it may even sound too good to be true to you right now. Well, before you decide to divorce, which is entirely your choice, I'd like to give you a few considerations as you're crafting the perfect plan to present the divorce to your spouse. Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episodes and unique stories of reconciliation from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. Please leave a comment below, give us your feedback and opinion, and share this podcast with someone you believe needs it.As long as you're committed to change, we have the tools to help. Find more resources on our YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/marriagehelperGet the FREE mini-course here - https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course

You're in pain. You just found out your spouse is cheating on you, and you're not sure what to do. In today's episode Director of Coaching, Melody Oseguera is going to share a few tips that will be very beneficial for you to start healing your pain. When you begin to take steps to heal, you're already improving your situation. If you want more help, we have a free mini-course on how to get your spouse to fall back in love with you. We know you're in pain. We want to encourage you today that there is hope in this situation. And don't give up.Tips to help you heal:- Find A Support System- Start Improving Yourself- Channel Your Pain- Start Forgiving- Acceptance Is ImportantLike, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episodes and unique stories of reconciliation from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. Please leave a comment below, give us your feedback and opinion, and share this podcast with someone you believe needs it.As long as you're committed to change, we have the tools to help. Find more resources on our YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/marriagehelperGet the FREE mini-course here - https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course

If you are trying to figure out how to save your marriage from the brink of divorce, then this is the information for you. At Marriage Helper, we have worked with 1000s upon 1000s of marriages to help situations just like yours. The majority of people who come to us are those where their spouse wants out; They want a divorce or have already filed. And we still have an incredible success rate at saving those marriages. We have a couples workshop with a success rate of over 70% at saving marriages, even if one spouse has already filed for divorce. But we can help you even before that with what we teach. And I will be teaching you the three steps to follow to give your marriage the absolute best shot of being saved. In this episode, you'll learn:What are push behaviors and why you want to stop them. What the PIES of Attraction are and why you should work on your PIES today!That you don't have to do this alone. Free resources to help get you startedLike, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episodes and unique stories of reconciliation from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. Please leave a comment below, give us your feedback and opinion, and share this podcast with someone you believe needs it.As long as you're committed to change, we have the tools to help. Find more resources on our YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/marriagehelperGet the FREE mini-course here - https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course

If you want to future-proof your marriage, then this episode is essential. Whether you are newly married, about to get married, or have been married for 20 years, this episode is going to help you know how to stay married. Now, there are no guarantees. But I will teach you tips today to improve your marriage and have a long-lasting relationship. How do we future-proof your marriage? As I said, there are no guarantees. But if anything works, this will work. In this episode, you will learn: How to be the best version of yourselfWhat the PIES of Attraction are How push and pull behaviors affect your marriage Why you don't want to use the four horseman when communicating with your spouse What you can start doing today to have a great marriage Free resources to help get you startedLike, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episodes and unique stories of reconciliation from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. Please leave a comment below, give us your feedback and opinion, and share this podcast with someone you believe needs it.We have a supportive community of people going through similar grievances to listen. Place a free strategy call with one of our representatives if you need support and direction through these difficult times. As long as you're committed to change, we have the tools to help. Find more resources on our YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/marriagehelperGet the FREE mini-course here - https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course

Why do people divorce? Quite a question, isn't it? So let us walk you through what the research says.When we start talking about divorce, we can speculate all day long. If you ask people on the street, "What do you think is the biggest problem with marriage?" They will say something like communication. But when you start asking them, "What does that mean?" you begin to realize that they're talking about something other than communication. If you look at the literature out there, you're going to find that typically, people want to divorce for one or more of these three reasons: I don't feel like you love me, I don't feel like you like me, I don't feel like you respect me.Sometimes, no matter how much you think you're communicating like love, and respect, your spouse does not perceive it that way.If you want to find out if your spouse wants to leave you, what it may be for, and start examining so that you can turn things around, watch this video.Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful videos and unique stories of reconciliation from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. Please leave a comment below, give us your feedback and opinion, and share this video with someone you believe needs it.We have a supportive community of people going through similar grievances to listen. Place a free strategy call with one of our representatives if you need support and direction through these difficult times. As long as you're committed to change, we have the tools to help. Find more resources on our YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/marriagehelperGet the FREE mini-course here - https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course

Do this today before filing for a divorce. Has divorce ever crossed your mind or you've already broken the news to your spouse? If the answer is yes to any of these questions, watch this video first.Research shows that couples wait an average of 6 years before seeking help for their marriage. Think of that timing in terms of your relationship. How many conversations did you avoid? How many times did you scream without hearing what the other was saying? Is there a time you could have sat down with your spouse to work through your issues calmly? We often wait until it's too late to start seeking help, but the truth is divorce hurts. It hurts you, your spouse, and your children, turning your world upside down. When we feel hurt or misunderstood, we take those emotions and run with them, never really breaking down the reasons or results of our actions. Today, we will help you think about your marriage issues from a different perspective. Do this today before filing for a divorce. In this video, we discuss: -The four questions to ask yourself before filing for divorce -Common scenarios that lead to divorce-Seeing yourself from your spouse's viewpoint-Processing your emotions-Valuable tools to help save your marriage starting today We all play a part in the success or downfalls of a marriage. Admitting your faults is hard, but self-reflection is powerful and the start of positive change. Remember, reconciliation is not a quick remedy to mend your marriage. It took a while to get here, and it will take time to get back to a better place. With our successful marriage-help programs, we believe if anything works, this will.Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful videos and unique stories of reconciliation from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. Please leave a comment below, give us your feedback and opinion, and share this video with someone you believe needs it.We have a supportive community of people going through similar grievances to listen. Place a free strategy call with one of our representatives if you need support and direction through these difficult times. As long as you're committed to change, we have the tools to help. Find more resources on our YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/marriagehelperGet the FREE mini-course here - https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course

It's a painful feeling if you believe your husband doesn't love you anymore. Many marriages fall into a rut or a hole where intimacy gets lost, and it just doesn't feel like your husband is paying attention or wants to be around you anymore. They no longer seem present in your life, and you are simply cohabitating instead of building a lasting and meaningful relationship. If you feel this way in your marriage, stay calm and try not to jump to conclusions. People change, and so do relationships so feeling this way is normal. Before you start panicking, look out for these signs in your relationship to determine the possibilities.In this video, we cover:-Signs your husband doesn't love you -Reasons for change in your relationship-What your spouse is feeling-What not to do to push them further away -Free resources to start falling in love againYou're here because your spouse and your marriage matter to you. We understand these feelings and have coached many women just like you on bettering their relationships. Remember not to blame yourself. Things happen, and people drift apart, but it's not hopeless. After working with countless marriages and coaching hundreds of women, we have seen marriages put back together after years of emotional distance or separation. We believe in reconciliation and finding hope for your future. We have coaches you can talk to or self-help articles for those who wish to learn at their own pace. Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful videos and unique stories of reconciliation from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. Please leave a comment below, give us your feedback and opinion, and share this video with someone you believe needs it. We have a supportive community of people going through similar grievances to listen. Place a free strategy call with one of our representatives if you need support and direction through these difficult times. As long as you're committed to change, we have the tools to help. Find more resources on our YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/marriagehelperGet the FREE mini-course here - https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course

If you were involved in an affair and it suddenly ended, we know you are feeling a whirlwind of emotions. It feels like you're being torn apart and thinking, "that's it. No one will ever love me like that again." It hurts when the people we love leave us, especially when it comes out of nowhere. It's even more painful if you've given up the most critical parts of your life to be with this person. Your marriage, your family, or your friends, all because you never felt a love that strongly before. You believed you would spend the rest of your life with this person, and the love would stay alive forever because no one understood you the way they did. No one made you feel as whole as they did. There are no magic words to say to win back their affections, but there are ways to heal when an affair ends abruptly. We believe in the power of forgiveness, getting your life back, and healing your old relationships from the emotional damage caused. Your world is crashing around you, but you can build it back up again and start over with the people you love the most. We reveal everything in this video if you feel the motions of an ended affair.In this episode, we cover:-The grieving period of an ended affair -The life cycles of an affair -The 10,10,10 rule-Limerence: The feeling of being in love -How to move forward after an affair-Getting your life together if you feel broken-Resources to help you save your marriage At Marriage Helper, we exercise compassion and understanding to all couples and individuals we meet. We know no one is perfect, and people make mistakes. The best thing you can do is learn to become better for yourself and the people who care. What We have a supportive community of people going through similar grievances to listen. Place a free strategy call with one of our representatives if you need support and direction through these difficult times. As long as you're committed to change, we have the tools to help. Find more resources on our YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/marriagehelperGet the FREE mini-course here - https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course

How does your spouse feel after cheating on you? Is it guilt or remorse? Maybe they don't even care. Discovering your spouse has cheated is like being on an emotional roller coaster. You feel like you have no control and no way to understand what went wrong in your relationship altogether. There are many reasons for an affair, something feels off, falling out of love, the absence of affection, and more. Regardless of the reason, your spouse's affair doesn't mean he's having the time of his life or looking to start a new life with someone else. Many times we ask ourselves How. "How could my spouse do this to me?" "How could they betray our relationship like this?" Instead of the how's, think about what.What was it that compelled them to do this, and what was missing in your relationship? People make their own choices, so your spouse's affair is not your fault. There are stages of grief, guilt, and denial your spouse is going through, and cheating is the long-term issue of something lacking in your relationship. Even as victims, we all play a role in something. At Marriage Helper, we help guide you to these answers to learn more about yourself, your spouse and, in due time, save your marriage.In this episode, we cover:-How does a spouse feel after cheating on you -Emotional reasons why people cheat-Vulnerability leads to Possibility-Limerence (the feeling of being in love) and guilt-Ways to overcome your spouse's infidelity-Free resources to help you save your marriage  Marriage isn't perfect, and the ideal relationship does not exist. There are many ups and downs when we merge our lives with another, but with the effort of both people, you can have an excellent and lasting relationship. We have tools and free resources to help you save your marriage and find your way to falling in love again. Contact Marriage Helper to find out how we can help you. Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful videos and unique stories of reconciliation from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. Find more resources on our YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/marriagehelperGet the FREE mini-course here - https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course