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Sign up for our weekly newsletter here! Are we missing an essential ingredient for creativity in education—like sleep? In the Season 10 finale of the Fueling Creativity in Education Podcast, hosts Dr. Matthew Worwood and Dr. Cyndi Burnett hand over the mic to their resident scholar, Jimmy Wilson, for an in-depth reflection on the standout moments and innovative insights from an eclectic season. Jimmy draws connections between classroom creativity and essential factors we often overlook, like the power of sleep and the importance of understanding our own creative process. The discussion dives into research showing how just a few minutes of rest can double or even triple creative problem-solving, and why productive struggle—not just instant success—is critical for growth. The hosts and Jimmy also grapple with how students can find their purpose in an AI-driven world, and why fostering community and authentic connections in the classroom are more important than ever. With highlights from luminaries like Teresa Amabile, Leo Bird, and Robert Sternberg, this episode asks educators to reconsider not only the tools they give students, but also the passion and purpose fueling the next generation. Noteworthy Mentions The Role of Sleep: Research cited showed that brief periods of sleep or even twilight rest significantly improve creative problem-solving. Metacognition in the Classroom: Guests discussed the growing importance of helping students understand their own learning and thinking processes, especially amid the rise of AI. Feedback & Incremental Growth: Celebrating small wins and providing clear, iterative feedback is more motivating than focusing solely on the end product. Purpose and Passion: Transformational creativity comes from students connecting their work to a bigger purpose—benefiting themselves and their communities. Productive Struggle: Perseverance and learning from failure are reframed as keys to creative development. Authentic Audience: The impact of students seeing their work valued in the real world proves to be a major motivator. About Jimmy Wilson Jimmy Wilson is a doctoral candidate specializing in creativity and education at the University of Connecticut, currently completing a prestigious NSF fellowship in educational neuroscience. As the show's resident scholar, Jimmy brings a unique blend of fresh academic research and practical classroom insight. His work focuses on how biology, environment, and emerging technologies intersect to shape creativity at all levels of education. Passionate about connecting theory to practice, Jimmy is dedicated to helping educators foster greater creativity, resilience, and purpose in children and young adults alike. Eager to bring more creativity into your school district? Check out our sponsor Curiosity2Create.org and join their Creativity Network for Educators at Curiosity2Connect! Check out our Podcast Website to dive deeper into Creativity in Education! For more information on Creativity in Education, check out: Matt's Website: Worwood Classroom Cyndi's Website: Creativity and Education
In today's episode host Dr. Christina Shenvi is joined by Dr. Robert Sternberg, Ultrasound Director at Akron General to discuss ultrasound-guided nerve blocks for precise pain relief in older patients. Ultrasound-guided nerve blocks provide relief from one of the most common emergency department complaints: pain. In addition to their use in acute pain management, nerve blocks can help reduce the use of opioids, reduce hospital length of stay, and improve patient outcomes and experiences. Using case examples, Dr. Sternberg talks through how to perform 4 common types of nerve blocks you may use in the emergency department with an elderly patient: Fascia Iliaca Compartment Block (FICB), Pericapsular Nerve Group (PENG) Block, Serratus Anterior Plane (SAP) Block and Erector Spinae Block (ESB). Tune in to hear indications, key anatomical landmarks, dosing, and techniques for each of the nerve blocks.
In this episode of 'Porn and the Gospel,' we look at John 15:9-10 and explore how the principles of Robert Sternberg's Triangulation of Love theory can illuminate a deeper, more fulfilling relationship with God. I want to challenge you to evaluate your own relationships with God. Is willpower enough? Or does it require something more? Does it require deep emotional intimacy and passionate desire? This episode encourages reflection on how best to cultivate a rich, holistic love for God to combat temptations and grow in faith.
Send us a textLOVE: From Statue Quo To SpectacularMarriage Tune-Up | Part 5Senior Pastor Keith StewartMarch 23, 2025#Realspringcreekchurch #springcreekchurch #marriagetuneup #marriage #healthyrelationships #protectinglove #protectlove______In this series, we've saved the best for last. There are so many myths and misconceptions of love that permeate our society. And sometimes these distortions not only dominate our thinking but sabotage our best attempts at building a great love life. This Sunday we dispel the myths in order to build on the one sure foundation of love as it's spelled out in the pages of God's Word. This message will help you move from a ho-hum relationship to having a spectacular one.DISCUSSION QUESTIONS1. What are some of the most common myths about love and relationships? What, if any, effect did those myths have on you? How do you think they play out in society?2. Robert Sternberg wrote about triangular love that consists of passion, intimacy and commitment. He also gave three examples of what happens when one of the three is missing. Take some time individually or as a group to reflect on the following scenarios and how you have seen these play out in your life or those who surround you. • High passion + High intimacy = Romantic love • High passion + High commitment = Foolish love • High intimacy + High commitment = Companionship love3. What are the things that characterize Passion, Dod (Hebrew), Eros (Greek)? How would you rate your marriage in this area on a scale of 1 – 10 (with 1 being the worst and 10 being the best)? What steps can you take to improve? Who has modelled this best in your life? What wounds or distortions might you have around this aspect of love? 4. What are the things that Intimacy, Raya (Hebrew), Phileo (Greek)? How would you rate your marriage in this area on a scale of 1 – 10 (with 1 being the worst and 10 being the best)? What steps can you take to improve? Who has modeled this best in your life? What wounds or distortions might you have around this aspect of love? 5. What are the things that characterize Commitment, Ahava (Hebrew), Agape (Greek)? How would you rate your marriage in this area on a scale of 1 – 10 (with 1 being the worst and 10 being the best)? What steps can you take to improve? Who has modeled this best in your life? What wounds or distortions might you have around this aspect of love?6. What are your biggest takeaways from this series? Where were you challenged most? In what ways were you affirmed? What plans, if any, have you made to keep your marriage growing and strong?
This time, we visit Imperial College London to chat with Robert Sternberg, course leader of the Science Media Production MSc, a degree that has produced some of the industry's top science-specialist talent. Robert's inspiration is the 1984 Horizon episode Professor Bonner and the Slime Molds, a character study of a scientist working at the fascinating boundary between single-celled and multicellular life. Along the way, we talk French New Wave cinema (1960's À Bout De Souffle and 1959's Hiroshima, Mon Amour) and the philosophy of science. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Love is without doubt one of the most fascinating and elusive topics in human psychology. You might have wondered at some point just what it is that makes romantic relationships work, and whether there are objective criteria that help. As we delve into the realm of human emotions and relationships, let's discuss the Triangular Theory of Love. It was proposed by American psychologist Robert Sternberg in 1986, while he was teaching at Yale University. It actually went viral on Tiktok earlier this year, with the Triangular Theory of Love hashtag reaching over 850,000 views Is it anything to do with a love triangle ? What if a relationship has more of one component than the other two ? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions! To listen to the last episodes, you can click here: Is there really such a thing as love at first sight? Which foods can hurt your libido? How do I know if I sleepwalk? A podcast written and realised by Joseph Chance. First broadcast: 26/7/2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dr. Robert Sternberg, a professor of psychology at Cornell University, is one of the best-known psychologists in the United States. He's done groundbreaking research on the most important issues in psychology, including scientific studies of wisdom, love, hate, leadership, and of course, creativity. Dr. Sternberg is known for reforming college admissions requirements to include measures of creativity, which he did while a dean at both Tufts University and at Oklahoma State University. He's published literally thousands of books and scientific articles and his research has been cited by other scholars over 250,000 times. Dr. Sternberg's research represents the best that we have in The Science of Creativity. For more information: Robert J. Sternberg, 2007. Wisdom, Intelligence, and Creativity Synthesized. Robert J. Sternberg, 2002. Defying the Crowd: Cultivating Creativity in a Culture of Conformity. Music by license from SoundStripe: "Uptown Lovers Instrumental" by AFTERNOONZ "Miss Missy" by AFTERNOONZ "What's the Big Deal" by Ryan Saranich Copyright (c) 2025 Keith Sawyer
Please complete our short survey to help us prepare for Season Ten of the Fueling Creativity in Education podcast! In this final Season Nine debrief of the Fueling Creativity in Education podcast, hosts Dr. Matthew Worwood and Dr. Cyndi Burnett celebrate the contributions of season nine's guests, including Colin Seale, Dr. Talia Goldstein, and Dr. Robert Sternberg, whose insights have enriched conversations on creativity in education. Cyndi and Matthew underscore the value of viewing the world through multiple perspectives, using theater education as a compelling example. They illustrate how theater fosters creativity by encouraging students to fill in gaps, embrace ambiguity, and empathize with diverse viewpoints. They also draw connections between theater and the field of law, highlighting the essential skill of embodying multiple perspectives as a critical competency. The conversation expands to explore the role of creative intelligence in education. Matthew emphasizes the importance of creative thinking in generating, refining, and applying ideas, noting that non-conformity often plays a pivotal role in nurturing creativity. This perspective is contrasted with the social pressures children face to conform, prompting a thought-provoking discussion about balancing adherence to norms with the courage to challenge them. Cyndi shares her personal experiences as a self-identified rule-follower, emphasizing the need to navigate this balance thoughtfully in different contexts. Together, the hosts delve into the environments where breaking rules may be more appropriate and how education can equip students to make informed decisions about when to push boundaries. Drawing on Sternberg's research, they explore the connection between creativity and academic success, particularly in helping students adapt to new life stages, such as the transition from high school to college. Check out our new website- Fueling Creativity in Education! Eager to bring more creativity into your school district? Check out our sponsor Curiosity2Create.org and CreativeThinkingNetwork.com What to learn more about Design Thinking in Education? Do you want to build a sustained culture of innovation and creativity at your school? Visit WorwoodClassroom.com to understand how Design Thinking can promote teacher creativity and support professional growth in the classroom. Subscribe to our monthly newsletter!
Are you ready for a double expresso with Dr. Robert Sternberg? In the first expresso of the Fueling Creativity in Education Podcast, hosts Dr. Matthew Worwood and Dr. Cyndi Burnett speak with world-renowned psychologist Dr. Robert Sternberg to explore his research and theories on creativity. Sternberg delves into his pioneering work with the Rainbow Project at Yale, which demonstrated that adding creativity and practical intelligence tests to traditional analytical intelligence measures could better predict college success and reduce group differences. Despite successful results, Sternberg faced the challenge of sustaining funding when his findings contradicted the narrow focus of his sponsors, prompting him to shift to academic administration. He eventually implemented his ideas at Tufts University through the Kaleidoscope Project, emphasizing the importance of persistence, self-belief, and overcoming obstacles in the journey of creativity. The episode also dives deep into Sternberg's theories on intelligence and creativity, including his definition of intelligence as adaptability and his "investment theory" of creativity. He underscores the need to defy societal pressures and personal biases to foster true innovation, sharing anecdotes from his own academic and professional experiences. Sternberg highlights the invaluable role of passion in learning, the benefits of a broad education, and the importance of balancing creative and practical intelligence. The conversation touches on the challenges educators face in engaging students and remaining open to new teaching methods, offering advice on overcoming institutional constraints. Stay tuned for Part 2, where Sternberg will discuss his latest theory on creativity and the future state of creativity in education. About Dr. Robert Sternberg: Dr. Robert J. Sternberg is a Professor of Psychology in the College of Human Ecology at Cornell University and an Honorary Professor of Psychology at Heidelberg University, Germany. Sternberg is a Past President of the American Psychological Association, the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences, the Eastern Psychological Association, and the International Association for Cognitive Education and Psychology. Dr. Sternberg holds 13 honorary doctorates from 11 countries and has won more than two dozen awards for his work. For a more extensive bio, click here. Eager to bring more creativity into your school district? Check out our sponsor Curiosity2Create.org Check out the new Fueling Creativity website! What to learn more about Design Thinking in Education? Do you want to build a sustained culture of innovation and creativity at your school? Visit WorwoodClassroom.com to understand how Design Thinking can promote teacher creativity and support professional growth in the classroom. Subscribe to our monthly newsletter!
What is transformational creativity, and how does it apply to the field of education? In the second part of the double expresso episode of the Fueling Creativity in Education Podcast, world-renowned creativity scholar Dr. Robert Sternberg dives into the evolving perceptions and applications of creativity over his 50-year career. Together, they engage in a critical discourse on how modern education and standardized testing fail to genuinely value creativity. Sternberg's insightful critique highlights the misuse of creativity for personal and financial gain rather than societal benefit, introducing the concept of "pseudo transformational creativity," where leadership appears transformational but serves self-interests. He emphasizes the importance of learning from history to recognize and combat deceptive leadership, advocating for "true transformational creativity" that positively impacts society. Additionally, Sternberg discusses the alarming decline in moral and civic education in favor of test preparation, arguing for a balanced, value-integrated approach to teaching creativity. The episode also tackles the implications of generative AI on creativity and cognitive abilities. Sternberg shares his concerns that excessive reliance on AI could erode human creativity and critical thinking, mentioning real-world incidents where students depended on AI against academic integrity guidelines. Sternberg offers valuable tips for educators, including promoting moral values, varying teaching styles, and encouraging independent thinking. About Dr. Robert Sternberg: Dr. Robert J. Sternberg is a Professor of Psychology in the College of Human Ecology at Cornell University and an Honorary Professor of Psychology at Heidelberg University, Germany. Sternberg is a Past President of the American Psychological Association, the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences, the Eastern Psychological Association, and the International Association for Cognitive Education and Psychology. Dr. Sternberg holds 13 honorary doctorates from 11 countries and has won more than two dozen awards for his work. For a more extensive bio, click here. Eager to bring more creativity into your school district? Check out our sponsor Curiosity2Create.org Check out the new Fueling Creativity website! What to learn more about Design Thinking in Education? Do you want to build a sustained culture of innovation and creativity at your school? Visit WorwoodClassroom.com to understand how Design Thinking can promote teacher creativity and support professional growth in the classroom. Subscribe to our monthly newsletter!
The Role of Age in Relationships: Understanding the Law of Attraction, Part Eight (Hello, Self… Episode 54) In this episode of the Hello, Self... podcast, host Patricia Leonard explored the complex topic of the role of age in romantic relationships, continuing her series on Understanding the Law of Attraction. Leonard revisited key points from the […]
In this latest episode of the Fueling Creativity in Education podcast, hosts Dr. Cyndi Burnett and Dr. Matthew Worwood reflect on their journey through Season 9. They discuss the rapid pace of the semester and how balancing responsibilities can be a challenge without deliberate efforts to slow down. The hosts kick off their debrief by revisiting recent episodes, including conversations with Corey Gray on culturally responsive teaching, Dr. Edward Clapp on participatory creativity in education, and Dorta Nielsen from the Center for Creative Thinking in Denmark. They delve into key insights from these episodes, reflecting on the importance of recognizing diverse student backgrounds and contributions in the learning environment, as well as the instructional strategies that can foster a creative mindset. Matthew and Cyndi acknowledge the value of seeing every student and encourage the adoption of a participatory creativity framework to celebrate individual contributions while fostering a collective creative process. This episode underscores the powerful impact of a creative mindset, sharing personal anecdotes and practical applications. Furthermore, the hosts tease upcoming episodes, including the much-anticipated conversations with creativity expert Dr. Robert Sternberg and a special Thanksgiving episode, promising an exciting conclusion to Season 9. For more in-depth discussions and to access over 100 interviews archived to date, visit the podcast's comprehensive website at fuelingcreativitypodcast.com. Eager to bring more creativity into your school district? Check out our sponsor Curiosity2Create.org What to learn more about Design Thinking in Education? Do you want to build a sustained culture of innovation and creativity at your school? Visit WorwoodClassroom.com to understand how Design Thinking can promote teacher creativity and support professional growth in the classroom. Subscribe to our monthly newsletter!
Seven Types of Love and Relationship Dynamics: Understanding the Law of Attraction, Part Seven (Hello, Self… Episode 52) Host Patricia Leonard explored the multifaceted nature of love and relationship through the lens of Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory in her series on the Law of Attraction. Here in part seven, she broke down the three fundamental […]
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Es la forma completa del amor, representa una relación ideal y la más deseada. Se compone de tres aspectos básicos: intimidad, pasión y compromiso, de acuerdo con el psicólogo e investigador estadounidense, Robert Sternberg. ¿Qué tan difícil es satisfacer uno o más de estos aspectos? ¿cómo intimidad, pasión y compromiso se combinan para llegar al ideal romántico con nuestra pareja? y ¿cómo han cambiado nuestras ideas en torno a la relación de pareja? Explicar el fenómeno del amor es muy complejo, pues el enamoramiento es uno de los sentimientos más intensos a experimentar, por lo que te invitamos a analizar sus componentes, cómo se entrelazan cuando nos sentimos atraídos por alguien y qué tanto debemos considerarlos en nuestra relación afectiva para comprender sus cualidades.
Exploring relationships always intrigues me. I'm constantly fascinated by how each couple's unique story and way of loving shape their present dynamic. In today's episode, we're going to dive into the topic of love using Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love as our guide. This theory breaks down love into three main parts: intimacy, passion, and commitment. By understanding these components, we hope to unravel the complexities of romantic connections and shed light on the different forms love can take. I'll also share some personal stories and observations I've gathered from talking to various couples. These real-life experiences will help us explore the diverse ways people express and experience love. Lastly, we'll offer some practical tips and advice based on both research and personal insights. Podcast Mentions Support this Podcast: Click Here Sternberg Theory: Find out More! Psychologist Explains (Video): Sternberg Theory Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ Z-Library: Digital Library --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/support
Love is without doubt one of the most fascinating and elusive topics in human psychology. You might have wondered at some point just what it is that makes romantic relationships work, and whether there are objective criteria that help. As we delve into the realm of human emotions and relationships, let's discuss the Triangular Theory of Love. It was proposed by American psychologist Robert Sternberg in 1986, while he was teaching at Yale University. It actually went viral on Tiktok earlier this year, with the Triangular Theory of Love hashtag reaching over 850,000 views Is it anything to do with a love triangle ? What if a relationship has more of one component than the other two ? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions! To listen to the last episodes, you can click here: Is there really such a thing as love at first sight? Which foods can hurt your libido? How do I know if I sleepwalk? A podcast written and realised by Joseph Chance. In partnership with upday UK. First broadcast: 26/07/2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Join Dr. Joe Beam and CEO Kimberly Beam Holmes as they delve into the challenging dynamics of love turning into hate in marriages. This episode is inspired by Dr. Robert Sternberg's insightful research, exploring how feelings of hate can emerge from the very elements that once strengthened a bond: intimacy, passion, and commitment. We'll examine how these foundations of a relationship can become sources of deep resentment, especially when trust is broken.In our journey, we share a compelling story from an AA meeting that highlights the fragile nature of trust and its impact on a marriage. We discuss the intricate process of rebuilding closeness between spouses, emphasizing the importance of patience, empathy, and daily gestures of acknowledgment. Our conversation is a beacon of hope, offering practical steps and strategies to heal and rekindle the flame of intimacy. Whether you're looking to save your marriage or gain a deeper understanding of the complex interplay between love and hate, this episode provides valuable insights. Tune in to discover how resilience and shared experiences can strengthen the bonds of a relationship.Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
Todos, en algún momento, nos hemos preguntado: ¿Qué hace que una relación de pareja sea exitosa? ¿Es la pasión, el cariño, el compromiso, o algo más? En este episodio de Lenguaje del Sexo, Claudia Rampazzo despliega el tapete rojo para explorar las teorías del amor y la satisfacción marital, desde los pilares propuestos por el Dr. Robert Sternberg hasta los hallazgos más recientes en estudios de pareja. Claudia te revela cómo las responsabilidades, la salud y el famoso "nido vacío" juegan un papel crucial en la dinámica de pareja. ¿Qué pasa con la diferencia de edad entre los cónyuges? ¿Y cómo afecta el nivel educativo a la armonía marital? Prepárate para descubrir respuestas intrigantes y quizás algunas verdades inesperadas. Claudia no solo aborda estos temas, sino que también te invita a reflexionar sobre tu propia relación, ya sea que estés navegando por las aguas de una relación joven o madura. Redes: IG @laverdaderaclaudiarampazzo
Folge 227 Nähe. Liebe. Sex. In der letzten Folge haben wir darüber gesprochen, wie wir langfristig Beziehungen aufbauen und halten können. Heute geht's um den emotionalen Unterbau, denn Themen wie Nähe, Liebe und Sex hatten wir in der letzten Woche ausgespart - das holen wir jetzt prompt nach. Wir sprechen unter anderem über die "Dreieckstheorie der Liebe" von Robert Sternberg. Sternberg meint, dass Liebe aus drei grundlegenden Komponenten besteht und diese in einem Dreieck dargestellt werden können. Hier sind die drei Komponenten der Theorie: 1. Intimität (Engagement): • Diese Komponente bezieht sich auf das Gefühl der emotionalen Nähe und Verbundenheit zwischen zwei Personen. Intimität umfasst Vertrauen, Zuneigung, Wärme und das Teilen von Gedanken und Gefühlen. 2. Leidenschaft: • Leidenschaft bezieht sich auf die (sexuelle) Anziehung und das Verlangen nach körperlicher Nähe zu einer anderen Person. Dies beinhaltet sowohl emotionale als auch physische Leidenschaft. 3. Engagement (Entscheidung): • Engagement bezieht sich auf den Willen und die Absicht, eine langfristige Beziehung aufrechtzuerhalten und sich dafür zu engagieren. Es beinhaltet das Versprechen und die Verpflichtung, zusammenzubleiben und gemeinsam die Zukunft zu gestalten. Tilly liest aus den Tagebüchern von Max Frisch vor, in dem dieser über die Liebe schreibt: "Du sollst Dir kein Bildnis machen" "Es ist bemerkenswert, dass wir gerade von dem Menschen, den wir lieben, am mindesten aussagen können, wie er sei. Wir lieben ihn einfach. Eben darin besteht ja die Liebe, das Wunderbare an der Liebe, dass sie uns in der Schwebe des Lebendigen hält, in der Bereitschaft, einem Menschen zu folgen in allen seinen möglichen Entfaltungen. Wir wissen, dass jeder Mensch, wenn man ihn liebt, sich wie verwandelt fühlt, wie entfaltet, und dass auch dem Liebenden sich alles entfaltet, das Nächste, das lange Bekannte. Vieles sieht er wie zum ersten Male. Die Liebe befreit es aus jeglichem Bildnis. Das ist das Erregende, das Abenteuerliche, das eigentlich Spannende, dass wir mit den Menschen, die wir lieben, nicht fertigwerden; weil wir sie lieben, solange wir sie lieben." Und für Annika sind zusammenfassend vor allem die vier großen "Z" für dauerhafte, harmonische Beziehungen wichtig - egal ob in der Partnerschaft, Familie, Freundschaft oder im Job: Zeit, Zuneigung, Zärtlichkeit und Zukunftspläne. Wir wünschen Euch engagierte, leidenschaftliche und vertrauensvolle Beziehungen! Liebe Grüße von Annika + Michael
Follow the link to learn more about online privacy settings: https://kas.pr/25sb Have you ever wondered what it is that can make you so head over heels for someone you love? According to American psychologist Robert Sternberg, there are seven important types of love. These seven ways we can love someone was developed from his triangular theory of love, which includes three important components: passion, emotional intimacy, and commitment. So, in what way do you love your partner? And which type of love do you think lasts a lifetime? Watch to find out! Previously, we also made a video on the signs your love would last a lifetime: https://youtu.be/XvylZsTyAvc #love #psych2go Writer: Michal Mitchell Script Editor: Rida Batool Script Manager: Kelly Soong VO: Amanda Silvera Animator: Naphia (https://www.youtube.com/c/Naphia) YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong References: https://pastebin.com/kNyPCBHz Support our channel by joining our membership! It will help us reinvest to create more mental health and Psychology content for everyone. Learn more about our YouTube membership: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkJEpR7JmS36tajD34Gp4VA/join If you have any topic requests or stories to share with us, feel free to email us at editorial@psych2go.net
Love is without doubt one of the most fascinating and elusive topics in human psychology. You might have wondered at some point just what it is that makes romantic relationships work, and whether there are objective criteria that help. As we delve into the realm of human emotions and relationships, let's discuss the Triangular Theory of Love. It was proposed by American psychologist Robert Sternberg in 1986, while he was teaching at Yale University. It actually went viral on Tiktok earlier this year, with the Triangular Theory of Love hashtag reaching over 850,000 views Is it anything to do with a love triangle ? What if a relationship has more of one component than the other two ? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions! To listen to the last episodes, you can click here: What is the Great Pacific Garbage Patch ? What's the point of flight mode? Is bikini waxing harmful for your health? A podcast written and realised by Joseph Chance. In partnership with upday UK. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
“We all have experiential intelligence. It's kind of like our own unique internal fingerprint, because we all have different experiences.” In this podcast, Soren Kaplan and I explore Robert Sternberg's (former President of American Psychological Association) experiential intelligence (XQ) as an often overlooked form of people intelligence. Soren boils the concept down for us with a simple, understandable and relatable example of learning to ride a bike. From there, he continues to share poignant illustrations of XQ as it relates to elevating/leveraging individual strengths, best practices, recruiting and developing people. Add XQ to your vocabulary and listen in today! Soren Kaplan, Author, EXPERIENTIAL INTELLIGENCE: Harness the Power of Experience for Personal and Business Breakthroughs
Episode 356: Leading with Practical Intelligence, Part II Episode Notes“Practical intelligence,” says Robert Sternberg, who coined the term, “includes knowing what to say to whom, knowing when to say it, and knowing how to say it for maximum effect.” Malcolm Gladwell writes in Outliers: The Story of Success (2012) that practical intelligence is “knowing how to do something without necessarily knowing why you know it or being able to explain it.” I discuss examples of both aspects of practical intelligence.Knowing What, When, and How to Say Something One of the many jobs I had before starting WeMentor, inc. was as a phone solicitor for the Minnesota Special Olympics. The first skill I learned was rehearsing a prepared script that described the importance of contributing to our Special Olympians and a variety of answers for when people would say no. “Do you mind telling me why you cannot donate right now?”My manager, Don, was terrific. He knew how to coach and knew how to motivate me. A pat on the shoulder. A quick pep talk when I needed it. Strategies for overcoming rejection and emotional roadblocks. Don did this for everyone. And he kept a close watch on the numbers. He would whisper in between calls how close we were to reach our hourly goals. The room was filled with about 7 to 11 other telesales people. My only request was to have my desk in front of a six-inch window slit to see outside. I needed a focal point.In the first week, I became the #1 telesales person in the New Hope office and Minnesota. I made 30 to 40 calls per hour from 4:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m., five days a week. New people were trained by sitting next to me and listening to how I talked with potential donors and closed the sales. I refined what I needed to say to whom and knew when to venture off script to engage the person on the other end of the phone. Week after week my numbers were impressive, and I was motivated to do well.All was going well week after week. I started listening to motivational tapes while riding my bike to work daily. Zig Ziglar was my favorite. “You can have everything in your life you want, if you will just help enough people get what they want.” This famous quote of his resonated with millions of people, including me.About eight weeks in, I get into a funk and lose my mojo. I made sales but couldn't maintain my #1 status. It was torturous every hour for five days straight; I couldn't hit my sales goals.Don put things into perspective, saying it happens and encouraging me to stick with it. Some of the others were glad I wasn't perfect. My funk allowed someone else to shine while I got a dose of humility.Outside of calling hours, I went on a few deliveries to meet the people making the donations and attended some Special Olympians in training. This helped me understand the bigger purpose of my efforts.After that downer of a week, I regained my groove and broke my #1 sales goals. A new inspiration emerged. I asked Don what becoming the national #1 telesales person would take. I remember the sales numbers being within reach. At the five-month mark, I became the #1 telesales person in the country. Outside of that one week, I was able to be #1 at something. It felt great.Years later, I was told my sales record took years to beat nationally and a few decades locally. Cool, I motivated others to generate more donations to support athletes with intellectual disabilities. They count on salespeople like us to help them change their lives and better their circumstances. Gotta love that.I learned from that experience that knowing what to say to whom, when to say it, and how to say it for the maximum effect paid off in generating thousands and thousands of dollars to support a great cause. Tailoring my message to fit an audience of Twin Cities residents started with a tailored message, a list, and the ability to pick up the phone and get to those who said yes; each hour of every day with an effective coach by my side worked.
Episode 355: Leading with Practical Intelligence, Part I Episode Notes Practical intelligence is on my radar screen. Who has it, and who doesn't? Why is it a critical aspect of small business success and life fulfillment? Our society would be better off if practical intelligence were valued as analytical and creative intelligence and not belittled. We need all three types of intelligence in entrepreneurial leadership and life. And here's why. I listened online to a panel discussion in 2010 of three MBA students who became entrepreneurs. A Stanford Graduate School of Business professor assembled a forum to discuss “what they don't teach in business school about entrepreneurship.” All three panelists have had major successes and a few failures. I realized that what they described as lacking in their education was practical intelligence. They learned about sales but were never required to sell. They received accolades for their strengths but needed guidance on their weaknesses, which helped forge complimentary business partnerships. Having all the answers worked at school but not in starting new businesses, where trusting the discovery process is critical in finding your niche. Listening to the panel reminded me of another Stanford student, Elizabeth Holmes, who dropped out of school and founded Theranos, Inc. at 19 in 2003. Amazingly, she raised over $70M touting a breakthrough technology that could give you information from a simple finger prick blood sample. Theranos, Inc. was valued at $10 billion in 2013. The Theranos technology or automated devices didn't stand up to scrutiny. The devices had a fatal flaw; they didn't work. Why weren't the venture capitalists and private investors trying the devices for themselves? Blind faith and believing the hype? Or were they missing practical intelligence? They trusted without verifying the equipment. This skill comes in handy when raising a teenager. Trust and verify. If we embraced practical intelligence, we would be less vulnerable to manipulation, exploitation, and scams. We would invest monies in entrepreneurs who demonstrate how they can shift and do what is necessary to build a business or lead a democracy. We would know how to see through the hyperbole and falsehoods and dismantle the narcissism behind the mystic. Next week I will showcase examples of entrepreneurs demonstrating practical intelligence. Where do we learn practical intelligence if analytical and creative intelligence is taught in school? We learn practical intelligence through experience in a wide variety of environments, adapting our behavior and expectations on the spot, and through meaningful conversations with others who share their experiences. It is referred to as ‘street smarts' or ‘common sense,' with the contrast being book smarts. What if we equally valued, encouraged, and integrated the development of all three forms of intelligence in all classrooms and all subjects? We would be more appreciative of the benefits of acquiring analytical, creative, and practical intelligence. We would probably feel more whole and confident because society isn't downgrading a vital aspect of our humanness; adaptability and responsiveness. Robert Sternberg coined the phrase practical intelligence and developed the triarchic theory of intelligence; analytical, creative, and practical intelligence. Analytical intelligence “plays a significant role in one's overall intelligence. It involves critically analyzing one's cognitive and physiological strengths and weaknesses. It also incorporates effectively processing information, solving problems, making critical judgments on information, and effectively completing academic tasks.” Many entrepreneurs have told me they are better at practical tasks than academics. They apply analytical intelligence when they analyze cash flow activities, for example, and study the actions that led to the financial results, something that directly affects them.
Dr. Soren Kaplan grew up in the San Francisco Bay area, went to UCLA for his Bachelor of Arts in Sociology, and attended Alliant International University for his master's and doctorate in Organizational Psychology. In this podcast, he shares his academic and professional journey (and some of his personal journey), offers practical advice for those interested in the field of psychology, and discusses his new book, “Experiential Intelligence: Harness the Power of Experience for Personal and Business Breakthroughs.” During our discussion, Dr. Kaplan recalls what sparked his interest in psychology, in general, and why he focused on organizational psychology for his graduate work. When asked why he selected Alliant International University, Dr. Kaplan responded “I wanted what was being called, at the time, a scholar practitioner model” so that he could “do things in the real world that bridge academia and practice.” He emphasized this by stating “I wanted the knowledge, but I also wanted to make change.” Dr. Kaplan has been creating change for himself and others ever since attending graduate school. As a graduate student, he worked as a consultant for one of the first innovation consulting firms, IdeaScope Associates. One of the many pieces of advice he has for anyone looking for a graduate degree in psychology, especially those in organizational psychology, is to get real-life experience. He states, “I realized very quickly, business wants experience, not just letters after your name.” Therefore, he worked very hard to beef up his resume with real experiences which included internships, working part-time or full-time at organizations or businesses in the industry, and even doing volunteer work. He states, “I loaded up my resume with real experiences that were very short and quick and kind of easy to get for somebody like me.” For example, he shares “I volunteered for a community mediation organization nonprofit where I got trained as a mediator.” Change happens through innovation and breakthroughs, so it is no surprise that Dr. Kaplan is the founder, or co-founder, of three Silicon Valley startups. He was the co-founder of iCohere with is father (Pascal) which was one of the first online learning and collaboration platforms. He is the founder of InnovationPoint, a strategic innovation consulting firm and, more recently, the founder of Praxie which is an online marketplace of business best practices from industry experts, book authors, and consultants. When discussing Praxie, he states “it's all about trying to take what I've gained from my life experience and make it accessible for other people so they can then do what's important to them. That's been the most rewarding for me.” His life experiences have contributed to his success. Dr. Kaplan is a best-selling and award-winning author, an international keynote speaker, an affiliate at the Center for Effective Organizations (CEO) at USC's Marshall School of Business, and a columnist for Inc. Magazine and Psychology Today. His first book, “Leapfrogging: Harness the Power of Surprise for Business Breakthroughs” was named the Best Leadership Book. His second book, “The Invisible Advantage: How to Create a Culture of Innovation” received the Best General Business Book distinction by the International Book Awards. We discuss his third book, “Experiential Intelligence: Harness the Power of Experience for Personal and Business Breakthroughs” which came out January 24, 2023. Although Dr. Kaplan didn't coin the term “experiential intelligence,” he states “I have expanded upon it and kind of tried to give it life through this book in a way that the world hasn't yet embraced.” Dr. Kaplan shares that Dr. Robert Sternberg, Past President of the American Psychological Association, coined the term “experiential intelligence” which may also be referred to as “creative intelligence.” To put things into perspective regarding intelligence, first,
"Are we looking at intelligence wrong? There are an awful lot of people who have graduated from top schools who become leaders who are worse than incompetent. They make their countries worse rather than better. And the conclusion I came to is that we made a mistake, in that intelligence was originally defined by the founders of the field Alfred Binet, David Wechsler, and others, as the ability to adapt to the environment a requirement. And answering a vocabulary problem for an obscure word is not about adapting to the environment. So I began to wonder where we lost the train of thought. And the conclusion I came to is that colleges just forgot the original message of the founders of the field, and so we got immersed in these numbers that turn out not to mean that much. So I wrote about intelligence as the ability to get along in the world and hopefully make the world a little bit better. And what I argue in the book is that we not only need to develop this kind of intelligence, we need to recognize that it's important, that getting A's in school and top scores on standardized tests, that's not what intelligence is about. So there are people who make serious efforts to make the world better, who fight pollution, who try to be good at what they do, you know, as judges or lawyers or as cleaning people or car mechanics, or doctors, but those aren't the ones you hear about. The ones you hear about are often those who have prestigious degrees and can't seem to do much with them.”Robert J. Sternberg is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University and Honorary Professor of Psychology at the University of Heidelberg, Germany. He is a past winner of the Grawemeyer Award in Psychology, and the William James and James McKeen Cattell Awards of the Association for Psychological Science. Sternberg has served as President of the American Psychological Association, and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences. His latest book is Adaptive Intelligence: Surviving and Thriving in Times of Uncertainty.www.robertjsternberg.comwww.cambridge.org/fr/academic/subjects/psychology/cognition/adaptive-intelligence-surviving-and-thriving-times-uncertainty?format=HB&isbn=9781107154384#bookPeoplewww.creativeprocess.info www.oneplanetpodcast.org IG www.instagram.com/creativeprocesspodcast
Robert J. Sternberg is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University and Honorary Professor of Psychology at the University of Heidelberg, Germany. He is a past winner of the Grawemeyer Award in Psychology, and the William James and James McKeen Cattell Awards of the Association for Psychological Science. Sternberg has served as President of the American Psychological Association, and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences. His latest book is Adaptive Intelligence: Surviving and Thriving in Times of Uncertainty."Are we looking at intelligence wrong? There are an awful lot of people who have graduated from top schools who become leaders who are worse than incompetent. They make their countries worse rather than better. And the conclusion I came to is that we made a mistake, in that intelligence was originally defined by the founders of the field Alfred Binet, David Wechsler, and others, as the ability to adapt to the environment a requirement. And answering a vocabulary problem for an obscure word is not about adapting to the environment. So I began to wonder where we lost the train of thought. And the conclusion I came to is that colleges just forgot the original message of the founders of the field, and so we got immersed in these numbers that turn out not to mean that much. So I wrote about intelligence as the ability to get along in the world and hopefully make the world a little bit better. And what I argue in the book is that we not only need to develop this kind of intelligence, we need to recognize that it's important, that getting A's in school and top scores on standardized tests, that's not what intelligence is about. So there are people who make serious efforts to make the world better, who fight pollution, who try to be good at what they do, you know, as judges or lawyers or as cleaning people or car mechanics, or doctors, but those aren't the ones you hear about. The ones you hear about are often those who have prestigious degrees and can't seem to do much with them.”www.robertjsternberg.comwww.cambridge.org/fr/academic/subjects/psychology/cognition/adaptive-intelligence-surviving-and-thriving-times-uncertainty?format=HB&isbn=9781107154384#bookPeoplewww.creativeprocess.info www.oneplanetpodcast.org IG www.instagram.com/creativeprocesspodcast
“I think what happens in the United States is that politics have become so cynical and so dishonest that the words are just thrown around to scare people. The politics in many countries, including my own, especially of one of the parties, is simply a politics of fear and anger. Scare 'em, make 'em angry. And to some extent, both parties in the United States are doing that. So I think that it's not about whether the word is socialism or collectivism, it's really that at this point, given the way things are going, if we don't look for a common good, we will destroy humanity. We can't keep doing this. The temperatures can't keep getting higher. The water shortages can't keep increasing. The storms can't keep getting worse. There are parts of the world already getting flooded. Is that the future we want? And I hope it's not, but people are so attuned to the short-term and individual gains that I worry about what kind of future the world has.”Robert J. Sternberg is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University and Honorary Professor of Psychology at the University of Heidelberg, Germany. He is a past winner of the Grawemeyer Award in Psychology, and the William James and James McKeen Cattell Awards of the Association for Psychological Science. Sternberg has served as President of the American Psychological Association, and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences. His latest book is Adaptive Intelligence: Surviving and Thriving in Times of Uncertainty.www.robertjsternberg.comwww.cambridge.org/fr/academic/subjects/psychology/cognition/adaptive-intelligence-surviving-and-thriving-times-uncertainty?format=HB&isbn=9781107154384#bookPeoplewww.creativeprocess.info www.oneplanetpodcast.org IG www.instagram.com/creativeprocesspodcast
Robert J. Sternberg is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University and Honorary Professor of Psychology at the University of Heidelberg, Germany. He is a past winner of the Grawemeyer Award in Psychology, and the William James and James McKeen Cattell Awards of the Association for Psychological Science. Sternberg has served as President of the American Psychological Association, and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences. His latest book is Adaptive Intelligence: Surviving and Thriving in Times of Uncertainty.“I think what happens in the United States is that politics have become so cynical and so dishonest that the words are just thrown around to scare people. The politics in many countries, including my own, especially of one of the parties, is simply a politics of fear and anger. Scare 'em, make 'em angry. And to some extent, both parties in the United States are doing that. So I think that it's not about whether the word is socialism or collectivism, it's really that at this point, given the way things are going, if we don't look for a common good, we will destroy humanity. We can't keep doing this. The temperatures can't keep getting higher. The water shortages can't keep increasing. The storms can't keep getting worse. There are parts of the world already getting flooded. Is that the future we want? And I hope it's not, but people are so attuned to the short-term and individual gains that I worry about what kind of future the world has.”www.robertjsternberg.comwww.cambridge.org/fr/academic/subjects/psychology/cognition/adaptive-intelligence-surviving-and-thriving-times-uncertainty?format=HB&isbn=9781107154384#bookPeoplewww.creativeprocess.info www.oneplanetpodcast.org IG www.instagram.com/creativeprocesspodcast
“A lot of kids' parents are wealthy who can afford to give them the kind of upbringing that will propel them in the direction of prestigious universities, but often the main thing they care about is that their life will be good and not that they'll make the world better, not only for others in their generation but for their own kids. So what we need to be developing is not people's ability to solve cosign problems or remember obscure words, but how do you deal with a world that is falling apart and in which people are suffering and their ability to handle those problems is poor. I think in part because their education system is so grossly inadequate and tied to this sort of academic notion of memorizing a bunch of books, and you get an A, and you get your degree. And that's not what the world needs now. I think that's pretty clear. You could memorize an English-German dictionary. It doesn't mean you could speak German or English. You could memorize the psychology textbook. It doesn't mean you can apply psychology to the world. And our notions about education are just much too academically absorbent, rather than developing leaders who will make the world a better place.”Robert J. Sternberg is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University and Honorary Professor of Psychology at the University of Heidelberg, Germany. He is a past winner of the Grawemeyer Award in Psychology, and the William James and James McKeen Cattell Awards of the Association for Psychological Science. Sternberg has served as President of the American Psychological Association, and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences. His latest book is Adaptive Intelligence: Surviving and Thriving in Times of Uncertainty.www.robertjsternberg.comwww.cambridge.org/fr/academic/subjects/psychology/cognition/adaptive-intelligence-surviving-and-thriving-times-uncertainty?format=HB&isbn=9781107154384#bookPeoplewww.creativeprocess.info www.oneplanetpodcast.org IG www.instagram.com/creativeprocesspodcast
Robert J. Sternberg is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University and Honorary Professor of Psychology at the University of Heidelberg, Germany. He is a past winner of the Grawemeyer Award in Psychology, and the William James and James McKeen Cattell Awards of the Association for Psychological Science. Sternberg has served as President of the American Psychological Association, and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences. His latest book is Adaptive Intelligence: Surviving and Thriving in Times of Uncertainty.“A lot of kids' parents are wealthy who can afford to give them the kind of upbringing that will propel them in the direction of prestigious universities, but often the main thing they care about is that their life will be good and not that they'll make the world better, not only for others in their generation but for their own kids. So what we need to be developing is not people's ability to solve cosign problems or remember obscure words, but how do you deal with a world that is falling apart and in which people are suffering and their ability to handle those problems is poor. I think in part because their education system is so grossly inadequate and tied to this sort of academic notion of memorizing a bunch of books, and you get an A, and you get your degree. And that's not what the world needs now. I think that's pretty clear. You could memorize an English-German dictionary. It doesn't mean you could speak German or English. You could memorize the psychology textbook. It doesn't mean you can apply psychology to the world. And our notions about education are just much too academically absorbent, rather than developing leaders who will make the world a better place.”www.robertjsternberg.comwww.cambridge.org/fr/academic/subjects/psychology/cognition/adaptive-intelligence-surviving-and-thriving-times-uncertainty?format=HB&isbn=9781107154384#bookPeoplewww.creativeprocess.info www.oneplanetpodcast.org IG www.instagram.com/creativeprocesspodcast
Robert J. Sternberg is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University and Honorary Professor of Psychology at the University of Heidelberg, Germany. He is a past winner of the Grawemeyer Award in Psychology, and the William James and James McKeen Cattell Awards of the Association for Psychological Science. Sternberg has served as President of the American Psychological Association, and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences. His latest book is Adaptive Intelligence: Surviving and Thriving in Times of Uncertainty.“I think what happens in the United States is that politics have become so cynical and so dishonest that the words are just thrown around to scare people. The politics in many countries, including my own, especially of one of the parties, is simply a politics of fear and anger. Scare 'em, make 'em angry. And to some extent, both parties in the United States are doing that. So I think that it's not about whether the word is socialism or collectivism, it's really that at this point, given the way things are going, if we don't look for a common good, we will destroy humanity. We can't keep doing this. The temperatures can't keep getting higher. The water shortages can't keep increasing. The storms can't keep getting worse. There are parts of the world already getting flooded. Is that the future we want? And I hope it's not, but people are so attuned to the short-term and individual gains that I worry about what kind of future the world has.”www.robertjsternberg.comwww.cambridge.org/fr/academic/subjects/psychology/cognition/adaptive-intelligence-surviving-and-thriving-times-uncertainty?format=HB&isbn=9781107154384#bookPeoplewww.creativeprocess.info www.oneplanetpodcast.org IG www.instagram.com/creativeprocesspodcast
“I think what happens in the United States is that politics have become so cynical and so dishonest that the words are just thrown around to scare people. The politics in many countries, including my own, especially of one of the parties, is simply a politics of fear and anger. Scare 'em, make 'em angry. And to some extent, both parties in the United States are doing that. So I think that it's not about whether the word is socialism or collectivism, it's really that at this point, given the way things are going, if we don't look for a common good, we will destroy humanity. We can't keep doing this. The temperatures can't keep getting higher. The water shortages can't keep increasing. The storms can't keep getting worse. There are parts of the world already getting flooded. Is that the future we want? And I hope it's not, but people are so attuned to the short-term and individual gains that I worry about what kind of future the world has.”Robert J. Sternberg is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University and Honorary Professor of Psychology at the University of Heidelberg, Germany. He is a past winner of the Grawemeyer Award in Psychology, and the William James and James McKeen Cattell Awards of the Association for Psychological Science. Sternberg has served as President of the American Psychological Association, and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences. His latest book is Adaptive Intelligence: Surviving and Thriving in Times of Uncertainty.www.robertjsternberg.comwww.cambridge.org/fr/academic/subjects/psychology/cognition/adaptive-intelligence-surviving-and-thriving-times-uncertainty?format=HB&isbn=9781107154384#bookPeoplewww.creativeprocess.info www.oneplanetpodcast.org IG www.instagram.com/creativeprocesspodcast
“Now, we didn't purposely say let's create a diverse group, but the group is really diverse. And I find that to be enormously advantageous because it's not superficial diversity. What color is your skin? What ethnic group are you a member of? It's diversity of different cultures and different belief systems and then trying to find ideas that reflect the combination of our cultural upbringings. I think too much about diversity in the United States has become extremely superficial. The most important aspect is that people think differently, not just, you could have two people who are white who think more differently, or two people who are black, who think more differently than one who is white and one who is black. What's important is the intercultural interchange rather than just checkoffs of what ethnic group you are. What race you are. What sex you are. What gender you are. I think the biggest problem today isn't individualism but tribalism. At least in our country, it's become extremely tribal. And you've got these almost two warring factions who view each other with disdain. Sometimes almost it seems like hate, but, you know, contempt disguised that doesn't point to a positive future. You can't live that way. You just can't go on that way and keep a country intact. And we're not, the United States, isn't keeping the country intact.”Robert J. Sternberg is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University and Honorary Professor of Psychology at the University of Heidelberg, Germany. He is a past winner of the Grawemeyer Award in Psychology, and the William James and James McKeen Cattell Awards of the Association for Psychological Science. Sternberg has served as President of the American Psychological Association, and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences. His latest book is Adaptive Intelligence: Surviving and Thriving in Times of Uncertainty.www.robertjsternberg.comwww.cambridge.org/fr/academic/subjects/psychology/cognition/adaptive-intelligence-surviving-and-thriving-times-uncertainty?format=HB&isbn=9781107154384#bookPeoplewww.creativeprocess.info www.oneplanetpodcast.org IG www.instagram.com/creativeprocesspodcast
Robert J. Sternberg is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University and Honorary Professor of Psychology at the University of Heidelberg, Germany. He is a past winner of the Grawemeyer Award in Psychology, and the William James and James McKeen Cattell Awards of the Association for Psychological Science. Sternberg has served as President of the American Psychological Association, and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences. His latest book is Adaptive Intelligence: Surviving and Thriving in Times of Uncertainty.“Now, we didn't purposely say let's create a diverse group, but the group is really diverse. And I find that to be enormously advantageous because it's not superficial diversity. What color is your skin? What ethnic group are you a member of? It's diversity of different cultures and different belief systems and then trying to find ideas that reflect the combination of our cultural upbringings. I think too much about diversity in the United States has become extremely superficial. The most important aspect is that people think differently, not just, you could have two people who are white who think more differently, or two people who are black, who think more differently than one who is white and one who is black. What's important is the intercultural interchange rather than just checkoffs of what ethnic group you are. What race you are. What sex you are. What gender you are. I think the biggest problem today isn't individualism but tribalism. At least in our country, it's become extremely tribal. And you've got these almost two warring factions who view each other with disdain. Sometimes almost it seems like hate, but, you know, contempt disguised that doesn't point to a positive future. You can't live that way. You just can't go on that way and keep a country intact. And we're not, the United States, isn't keeping the country intact.”www.robertjsternberg.comwww.cambridge.org/fr/academic/subjects/psychology/cognition/adaptive-intelligence-surviving-and-thriving-times-uncertainty?format=HB&isbn=9781107154384#bookPeoplewww.creativeprocess.info www.oneplanetpodcast.org IG www.instagram.com/creativeprocesspodcast
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"Are we looking at intelligence wrong? There are an awful lot of people who have graduated from top schools who become leaders who are worse than incompetent. They make their countries worse rather than better. And the conclusion I came to is that we made a mistake, in that intelligence was originally defined by the founders of the field Alfred Binet, David Wechsler, and others, as the ability to adapt to the environment a requirement. And answering a vocabulary problem for an obscure word is not about adapting to the environment. So I began to wonder where we lost the train of thought. And the conclusion I came to is that colleges just forgot the original message of the founders of the field, and so we got immersed in these numbers that turn out not to mean that much. So I wrote about intelligence as the ability to get along in the world and hopefully make the world a little bit better. And what I argue in the book is that we not only need to develop this kind of intelligence, we need to recognize that it's important, that getting A's in school and top scores on standardized tests, that's not what intelligence is about. So there are people who make serious efforts to make the world better, who fight pollution, who try to be good at what they do, you know, as judges or lawyers or as cleaning people or car mechanics, or doctors, but those aren't the ones you hear about. The ones you hear about are often those who have prestigious degrees and can't seem to do much with them.”Robert J. Sternberg is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University and Honorary Professor of Psychology at the University of Heidelberg, Germany. He is a past winner of the Grawemeyer Award in Psychology, and the William James and James McKeen Cattell Awards of the Association for Psychological Science. Sternberg has served as President of the American Psychological Association, and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences. His latest book is Adaptive Intelligence: Surviving and Thriving in Times of Uncertainty.www.robertjsternberg.comwww.cambridge.org/fr/academic/subjects/psychology/cognition/adaptive-intelligence-surviving-and-thriving-times-uncertainty?format=HB&isbn=9781107154384#bookPeoplewww.creativeprocess.info www.oneplanetpodcast.org IG www.instagram.com/creativeprocesspodcast
Robert J. Sternberg is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University and Honorary Professor of Psychology at the University of Heidelberg, Germany. He is a past winner of the Grawemeyer Award in Psychology, and the William James and James McKeen Cattell Awards of the Association for Psychological Science. Sternberg has served as President of the American Psychological Association, and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences. His latest book is Adaptive Intelligence: Surviving and Thriving in Times of Uncertainty."Are we looking at intelligence wrong? There are an awful lot of people who have graduated from top schools who become leaders who are worse than incompetent. They make their countries worse rather than better. And the conclusion I came to is that we made a mistake, in that intelligence was originally defined by the founders of the field Alfred Binet, David Wechsler, and others, as the ability to adapt to the environment a requirement. And answering a vocabulary problem for an obscure word is not about adapting to the environment. So I began to wonder where we lost the train of thought. And the conclusion I came to is that colleges just forgot the original message of the founders of the field, and so we got immersed in these numbers that turn out not to mean that much. So I wrote about intelligence as the ability to get along in the world and hopefully make the world a little bit better. And what I argue in the book is that we not only need to develop this kind of intelligence, we need to recognize that it's important, that getting A's in school and top scores on standardized tests, that's not what intelligence is about. So there are people who make serious efforts to make the world better, who fight pollution, who try to be good at what they do, you know, as judges or lawyers or as cleaning people or car mechanics, or doctors, but those aren't the ones you hear about. The ones you hear about are often those who have prestigious degrees and can't seem to do much with them.”www.robertjsternberg.comwww.cambridge.org/fr/academic/subjects/psychology/cognition/adaptive-intelligence-surviving-and-thriving-times-uncertainty?format=HB&isbn=9781107154384#bookPeoplewww.creativeprocess.info www.oneplanetpodcast.org IG www.instagram.com/creativeprocesspodcast
"Are we looking at intelligence wrong? There are an awful lot of people who have graduated from top schools who become leaders who are worse than incompetent. They make their countries worse rather than better. And the conclusion I came to is that we made a mistake, in that intelligence was originally defined by the founders of the field Alfred Binet, David Wechsler, and others, as the ability to adapt to the environment a requirement. And answering a vocabulary problem for an obscure word is not about adapting to the environment. So I began to wonder where we lost the train of thought. And the conclusion I came to is that colleges just forgot the original message of the founders of the field, and so we got immersed in these numbers that turn out not to mean that much. So I wrote about intelligence as the ability to get along in the world and hopefully make the world a little bit better. And what I argue in the book is that we not only need to develop this kind of intelligence, we need to recognize that it's important, that getting A's in school and top scores on standardized tests, that's not what intelligence is about. So there are people who make serious efforts to make the world better, who fight pollution, who try to be good at what they do, you know, as judges or lawyers or as cleaning people or car mechanics, or doctors, but those aren't the ones you hear about. The ones you hear about are often those who have prestigious degrees and can't seem to do much with them.”Robert J. Sternberg is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University and Honorary Professor of Psychology at the University of Heidelberg, Germany. He is a past winner of the Grawemeyer Award in Psychology, and the William James and James McKeen Cattell Awards of the Association for Psychological Science. Sternberg has served as President of the American Psychological Association, and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences. His latest book is Adaptive Intelligence: Surviving and Thriving in Times of Uncertainty.www.robertjsternberg.comwww.cambridge.org/fr/academic/subjects/psychology/cognition/adaptive-intelligence-surviving-and-thriving-times-uncertainty?format=HB&isbn=9781107154384#bookPeoplewww.creativeprocess.info www.oneplanetpodcast.org IG www.instagram.com/creativeprocesspodcast
Robert J. Sternberg is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University and Honorary Professor of Psychology at the University of Heidelberg, Germany. He is a past winner of the Grawemeyer Award in Psychology, and the William James and James McKeen Cattell Awards of the Association for Psychological Science. Sternberg has served as President of the American Psychological Association, and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences. His latest book is Adaptive Intelligence: Surviving and Thriving in Times of Uncertainty.“A lot of kids' parents are wealthy who can afford to give them the kind of upbringing that will propel them in the direction of prestigious universities, but often the main thing they care about is that their life will be good and not that they'll make the world better, not only for others in their generation but for their own kids. So what we need to be developing is not people's ability to solve cosign problems or remember obscure words, but how do you deal with a world that is falling apart and in which people are suffering and their ability to handle those problems is poor. I think in part because their education system is so grossly inadequate and tied to this sort of academic notion of memorizing a bunch of books, and you get an A, and you get your degree. And that's not what the world needs now. I think that's pretty clear. You could memorize an English-German dictionary. It doesn't mean you could speak German or English. You could memorize the psychology textbook. It doesn't mean you can apply psychology to the world. And our notions about education are just much too academically absorbent, rather than developing leaders who will make the world a better place.”www.robertjsternberg.comwww.cambridge.org/fr/academic/subjects/psychology/cognition/adaptive-intelligence-surviving-and-thriving-times-uncertainty?format=HB&isbn=9781107154384#bookPeoplewww.creativeprocess.info www.oneplanetpodcast.org IG www.instagram.com/creativeprocesspodcast
“A lot of kids' parents are wealthy who can afford to give them the kind of upbringing that will propel them in the direction of prestigious universities, but often the main thing they care about is that their life will be good and not that they'll make the world better, not only for others in their generation but for their own kids. So what we need to be developing is not people's ability to solve cosign problems or remember obscure words, but how do you deal with a world that is falling apart and in which people are suffering and their ability to handle those problems is poor. I think in part because their education system is so grossly inadequate and tied to this sort of academic notion of memorizing a bunch of books, and you get an A, and you get your degree. And that's not what the world needs now. I think that's pretty clear. You could memorize an English-German dictionary. It doesn't mean you could speak German or English. You could memorize the psychology textbook. It doesn't mean you can apply psychology to the world. And our notions about education are just much too academically absorbent, rather than developing leaders who will make the world a better place.”Robert J. Sternberg is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University and Honorary Professor of Psychology at the University of Heidelberg, Germany. He is a past winner of the Grawemeyer Award in Psychology, and the William James and James McKeen Cattell Awards of the Association for Psychological Science. Sternberg has served as President of the American Psychological Association, and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences. His latest book is Adaptive Intelligence: Surviving and Thriving in Times of Uncertainty.www.robertjsternberg.comwww.cambridge.org/fr/academic/subjects/psychology/cognition/adaptive-intelligence-surviving-and-thriving-times-uncertainty?format=HB&isbn=9781107154384#bookPeoplewww.creativeprocess.info www.oneplanetpodcast.org IG www.instagram.com/creativeprocesspodcast
Robert Sternberg, psychologist at Cornell, has contributed several influential theories related to creativity, wisdom, thinking styles, love, hate, and leadership.
We often treat love as a single emotion. But simple questions like “how much do you love me?” can be misleading. Love is not a single dimension. It is a multitude. To really understand romantic bonds, a more nuanced vocabulary is needed. Robert Sternberg is famous for creating such vocabulary. Sternberg is a professor at Cornell University, where he teaches legendary classes on topics like intelligence (beyond IQ), wisdom, creativity, and of course, love and hate. But he is more than your average psychology professor: he is the 2nd most cited psychologist alive.* In this discussion, Sternberg joins Ilari and his co-host, Blake Robertson, to discuss the elements of love and hate, and how to use these insights to create a better world. Names & technical terms mentioned John Bowlby's attachment theory Gardner's theory of multiple intelligences Alison Gopnik (quoted from conversation with Ezra Klein) Agatha Christie Joan Crawford Anthony Ray Hinton, the author of The Sun Does Shine Henry Hays, the only KKK member in the 20th Century to suffer capital punishment due to lynchings by the KKK. References The Triangular Theory of Love (1986 paper) Triangular Theory Tested in 25 Countries (2021 paper) LoveMultiverse.com (website by Karin & Robert Sternberg) Dutton & Aron high bridge -experiment (1974 paper) Nature of Hate (book by Robert Sternberg & Karin Sternberg) * After Martin Seligman, excluding neuroscientists and behavioural economists. Based on Google Scholar profiles in November 2022.
In this episode, Dr. Nader sits down with Dr. Robert Sternberg for a discussion on intelligence, love, cognitive styles, and creativity. Dr. Sternberg presents the triarchic theory of intelligence and the triangular theory of love, more commonly known as Sternberg's Theory of Love. In the context of interpersonal relationships, there are three components of love: intimacy, passion and commitment. The triarchic theory of intelligence focuses on a more "successful intelligence" composed of three elements: analytical intelligence, creative intelligence, and practical intelligence. Dr. Robert Sternberg is a psychology professor at Cornell University and was ranked as the 60th most cited psychologist of the 20th century. He's authored and co-authored over 1,500 publications including articles, book chapters, and books. He holds 13 honorary doctorates from 11 countries and has won more than two dozen awards for his work. Dr Robert Sternberg | Website http://www.robertjsternberg.com Dr Robert Sternberg | Theory of Love https://lovemultiverse.com Dr Tony Nader | Instagram http://instagram.com/drtonynader Dr Tony Nader | Twitter http://twitter.com/drtonynader Dr Tony Nader | YouTube https://www.youtube.com/user/DrTonyNader Dr Tony Nader | Facebook http://facebook.com/DrTonyNader
Colleges and graduate programs seek a broad range of attributes in applicants, only some of which are effectively measured in current entrance exams. Amy and Mike invited professor Robert Sternberg to explore advancements for improving admissions tests. What are five things you will learn in this episode? What is the theory of successful intelligence? How do we test for a broader range of contributors to success? What do assessments of creativity or wisdom look like? How predictive are tests like these of college success? What are the impediments to implementing better admissions tests? MEET OUR GUEST Robert J. Sternberg is Professor of Psychology in the College of Human Ecology at Cornell University and Honorary Professor of Psychology at Heidelberg University, Germany. Previously, Sternberg served 8 ½ years in academic administration as a university dean, senior vice-president, and president. Before that, he was IBM Professor of Psychology and Education and Professor of Management at Yale and Director of the Yale Center for the Psychology of Abilities, Competencies, and Expertise. Sternberg is a Past President of the American Psychological Association, the Federation of Associations in Behavioral and Brain Sciences, the Eastern Psychological Association, and the International Association for Cognitive Education and Psychology. Sternberg also has been president of four divisions of the American Psychological Association and Treasurer of the Association of American Colleges and Universities. Sternberg's BA is from Yale University summa cum laude, Phi Beta Kappa, his PhD is from Stanford University, and he holds 13 honorary doctorates. Sternberg has won more than two dozen awards for his work, including the James McKeen Cattell Award (1999) and the William James Fellow Award (2017) from APS. He has won the E. Paul Torrance Award from the National Association for Gifted Children, 2006, and the Distinguished Scholar Award, also from the National Association for Gifted Children, 1985. He also is the winner of the Grawemeyer Award in Psychology (2018). He is the author of over 1800 publications. He was cited in an APA Monitor on Psychology report as one of the top 100 psychologists of the 20th century and in a report in Archives of Scientific Psychology by Diener and colleagues as one of the top 200 psychologists of the modern era. He was cited by Griggs and Christopher in Teaching of Psychology as one of the top-cited scholars in introductory-psychology textbooks. According to Google Scholar, he has been cited over 200,000 times. He has authored textbooks in introductory psychology, cognitive psychology, and in communication in psychology. Sternberg is a member of the US National Academy of Education and the American Academy of Arts and Sciences. He is a Fellow of the American Association for the Advancement of Science. Find Robert at robert.sternberg@gmail.com. LINKS Intelligence — Robert J. Sternberg Assessment of Creativity: Theories and Methods Tufts and the Kaleidoscope Project Assessment - Social Emotional Learning RELATED EPISODES ALTERNATIVES TO MULTIPLE CHOICE ARE IQ TESTS VALID FIVE MYTHS ABOUT ADMISSIONS TESTS ABOUT THIS PODCAST Tests and the Rest is THE college admissions industry podcast. Explore all of our episodes on the show page. ABOUT YOUR HOSTS Mike Bergin is the president of Chariot Learning and founder of TestBright. Amy Seeley is the president of Seeley Test Pros. If you're interested in working with Mike and/or Amy for test preparation, training, or consulting, feel free to get in touch through our contact page.
Anyone who has loved knows that love is one of the most abstract emotions that a human can feel. It comes in many forms, sizes and magnitudes. But is every feeling love or are people just tied to that feeling because they deem it to be a positive emotion all the time? On this episode, we will explore the Triangle Theory of Love by Robert Sternberg. This theory claims that the context of interpersonal relationships is specifically "the three components of love” which are an intimacy component, a passion component, and a decision/commitment component." Press play to hear Terry, Kam and their guest Aja discuss the different experiences they've had with each component. They give tips on how to embrace each one and how to navigate a love that may not be for you!
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Have you ever felt the excitement of new love? When love begins, it's exciting, and you think about the person often. But is this genuine love, or is it infatuation? Infatuation refers to the early stages of a relationship when the adrenaline is pumping and chemicals are produced in your brain that make it exciting and euphoric. But can infatuation truly be a form of love?In the social sciences, we study love in different ways. Many models have been made of the various types of love, and infatuation is indeed part of love. The upside is that it feels fantastic. The downside is that it doesn't last that long. Therefore, if you want a longer-lasting relationship, you can't stop with the infatuation. You need to work on all three of Dr. Robert Sternberg's essential components for a long-lasting relationship - intimacy, passion, and commitment.How To Get Your Spouse Back Free Mini Course:https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course
Al centro di ogni religione c'è il bisogno dei credenti di sapere che il loro Dio li ama. Ma il modo in cui tu come cedente restituisci il tuo amore a Dio determinerà la differenza tra l'avere uno spirito religioso e l'amare realmente il tuo Creatore. --- Predicatrice: Jean Guest CLICCA SUL TITOLO PER ASCOLTARE IL MESSAGGIO Tempo di lettura: 10 minuti Tempo di ascolto audio/visione video: 37 minuti "Ti amo; ich liebe dich; te quiero; je t'aime; iwedihalehu E-we-d-ha-lew; kesalul; I love you." Ogni lingua sulla terra ha parole che significano ti amo. Ogni cultura ha sviluppato rituali per esprimere l'amore e l'accoglienza di un bambino, o l'unione di persone in una relazione impegnata; mi piacciono molto le tradizioni in Cina dove lo sposo lancia frecce alla sposa, e nella Repubblica Democratica del Congo dove se sorridi il giorno del tuo matrimonio, significa che non sei serio riguardo alla tua relazione. E ogni religione mondiale enfatizza l'amore divino; si esprime con pratiche molto diverse, ma al centro di ogni religione c'è il bisogno dei credenti di sapere che il loro Dio li ama. Che sia umano o divino, sembra che il nostro bisogno d'amore sia radicato nella nostra stessa essenza. Secondo la teoria triangolare dell'amore, sviluppata dallo psicologo Robert Sternberg, le tre componenti dell'amore sono: intimità, passione e impegno. L'intimità è l'avere una stretta relazione personale con qualcuno; si tratta di vederlo come è realmente, si potrebbe dire che è conoscerlo dall'interno. Come cristiani parliamo di Dio che ci conosce in questo modo; possiamo non essere sempre a nostro agio con questo pensiero, ma lo vediamo come una prova del suo amore per noi. Il Salmo 139 dice: “Tu Signore mi conosci dentro e fuori. (Salmo 139:15 - Trad. Bibbia “The Message”) Ma conosciamo Dio in questo modo, e dovremmo conoscerlo così? IN Esodo c'è il racconto di come Mosè ebbe il primo incontro "personale" con Dio: “Mosè disse: «Ti prego, fammi vedere la tua gloria!» ... E il Signore disse: «Ecco qui un luogo vicino a me; tu starai su quel masso; mentre passerà la mia gloria, io ti metterò in una buca del masso, e ti coprirò con la mia mano finché io sia passato” (Esodo 33:18, 21-22) In questo passo del libro di Esodo Mosè chiede di vedere la gloria di Dio. Ora, si potrebbe pensare che se esiste qualcuno che abbia già visto la gloria di Dio quello deve essere Mosè; non è stato lui a condurre il popolo fuori dall'Egitto quando il mare si aprì? Non è stato lui che incontrò Dio in un cespuglio ardente? Quello che aveva in mano un bastone che si trasformò in un serpente e poi di nuovo in bastone? Quello che sapeva che Dio era nella nuvola? Che aveva mangiato la manna dal cielo? Se qualcuno aveva visto la gloria di Dio sicuramente era Mosè; eppure dice "fammi vedere la tua gloria". Cosa può mai intendere per gloria? Non può essere la potenza, l'autorità, la provvidenza e nemmeno la presenza; ha sperimentato tutti questi aspetti di Dio. Quindi deve essere qualcos'altro che Mosè sta chiedendo di vedere. Gli studiosi dicono che in questo caso la parola “gloria” significa “essenza”. Mosè sta chiedendo di vedere l'essenza di Dio, la cosa che effettivamente lo rende Dio. E cosa dice Dio? “Il Signore passò davanti a lui, e gridò: «Il Signore! il Signore! il Dio misericordioso e pietoso, lento all'ira, ricco in bontà e fedeltà.” (Esodo 34:6) L'essenza di Dio è l'amore. Questa essenza è lenta all'ira, è piena di compassione e misericordia, è fedele e non fallisce mai. Forse non sapete che i credenti su Twitter questa settimana stanno discutendo su ciò che un conduttore di programma americano ha detto in diretta circa la sua fede. Ho pensato che fosse un discorso bello e ponderato, dato che stava parlando di fronte a milioni di non credenti. Ma un certo numero di persone (che io chiamo la "polizia del vangelo") erano indignati perché non aveva incluso nella sua "condivisione della fede" la necessità del pentimento e le conseguenze del peccato come la morte e l'inferno. Forse, a volte questo è ciò che la gente ha bisogno di sentire, ma l'essenza di Dio è l'amore. E sicuramente questo è ciò che attira noi e gli altri a lui. Gesù afferma: “Perché Dio ha tanto amato il mondo, che ha dato il suo unigenito Figlio, affinché chiunque crede in lui non perisca, ma abbia vita eterna. Infatti Dio non ha mandato suo Figlio nel mondo per giudicare il mondo, ma perché il mondo sia salvato per mezzo di lui. “ (Giovanni 3:16-17) C'è una cosa là fuori nel mondo conosciuta come i Cinque Linguaggi dell'Amore. Non è particolarmente scientifica, ma gli psicologi dicono comunque che è uno strumento utile per aiutare le persone che hanno bisogno di una consulenza sulle relazioni interpersonali a capire dove e perché le cose forse non vanno. L'idea è che se il nostro linguaggio dell'amore non viene usato, allora non sperimentiamo quella sensazione di essere amati. Questi sono i 5 linguaggi dell'amore. 1. Parole di affermazione - Questo linguaggio usa parole per affermare altre persone. 'Sei grande'.2. Atti di servizio - Per queste persone, l'azione parla più forte delle parole.3. Ricevere regali - Per alcune persone, ciò che le fa sentire più amate è ricevere un regalo.4. Tempo di qualità - Questo linguaggio consiste nel dare all'altra persona la tua completa attenzione.5. Contatto fisico - Per questa persona, niente parla più profondamente del contatto fisico (appropriato). C'è una discussione molto interessante sul linguaggio dell'amore in Giovanni 21, quando Gesù si presenta a colazione sulla riva del lago: “Quando ebbero fatto colazione, Gesù disse a Simon Pietro: «Simone di Giovanni, mi ami più di questi?» Egli rispose: «Sì, Signore, tu sai che ti voglio bene». Gesù gli disse: «Pasci i miei agnelli». Gli disse di nuovo, una seconda volta: «Simone di Giovanni, mi ami?» Egli rispose: «Sì, Signore; tu sai che ti voglio bene». Gesù gli disse: «Pastura le mie pecore». Gli disse la terza volta: «Simone di Giovanni, mi vuoi bene?» Pietro fu rattristato che egli avesse detto la terza volta: «Mi vuoi bene?» E gli rispose: «Signore, tu sai ogni cosa; tu conosci che ti voglio bene». “ (Giovanni 21:15-17a) Vedete, la parola che Gesù usa per amore è il greco agape, che significa amore incondizionato. E la parola che Pietro sta usando è la parola greca phileo che significa amore fraterno. Qualunque sia il significato delle tre domande, sembra che Gesù stia dicendo a Pietro: il linguaggio dell'amore che ti equipaggerà per il tuo futuro ministero, è quello di seguirmi incondizionatamente. E, che Dio lo benedica, Pietro, come sappiamo, alla fine ci arriva. Quando è stata l'ultima volta che hai detto a Dio che lo ami? Ora, essendo buoni evangelici, ci preoccupiamo che sia più importante sapere quanto siamo amati da lui, piuttosto che il contrario. E naturalmente c'è del vero in questo; il Suo amore è infallibile, il nostro probabilmente oscilla. Ma sente Dio il nostro “ti amo”, quando diciamo, “grazie”, o “ti lodiamo”, o “sei degno”... oppure sono implicite? Tutte queste parole sono importanti, ma dove vede il nostro agape/ti amo per lui? Cìè una storia nel vangelo di Giovanni che vale la pena di essere raccontata; ed è quella di un atto semplice, ma significativo di Maria verso Gesù: “Gesù dunque, sei giorni prima della Pasqua, andò a Betania dov'era Lazzaro, che egli aveva risuscitato dai morti. Qui gli offrirono una cena; Marta serviva e Lazzaro era uno di quelli che erano a tavola con lui. Allora Maria, presa una libbra d'olio profumato, di nardo puro, di gran valore, unse i piedi di Gesù e glieli asciugò con i suoi capelli; e la casa fu piena del profumo dell'olio. Ma Giuda Iscariota, uno dei suoi discepoli, che stava per tradirlo, disse: «Perché non si è venduto quest'olio per trecento denari e non si sono dati ai poveri?» Diceva così non perché si curasse dei poveri, ma perché era ladro, e tenendo la borsa ne portava via quello che vi si metteva dentro. Gesù dunque disse: «Lasciala stare; ella lo ha conservato per il giorno della mia sepoltura. Poiché i poveri li avete sempre con voi; ma me, non mi avete sempre».” (Giovanni 12:1-8) Questo è un momento meravigliosamente intimo nella vita di Gesù; ricordate che l'intimità è essenziale nell'amore. A proposito, il linguaggio d'amore di Marta è chiaramente gli atti di servizio, mentre quello di Maria è il contatto fisico. Quello che Maria fa è un atto straordinario di affetto pubblico ed è una scandalosa dichiarazione d'amore. Perché pensate che l'indignazione sia così grande? Come ho detto è incredibilmente intimo e contro ogni sorta di costume sociale. Ma è anche il significato e la spesa del barattolo di profumo; vedete, questa è la dote di Maria ed è il suo futuro che lei sta versando. E cosa ha fatto? L'ha versato ai piedi dell'uomo che le ha dato ogni bene nella sua vita, l'uomo che è il suo rabbino, l'uomo che ama. Gesù non la ferma, né le dice che è inappropriato. Quando è stata l'ultima volta che egli ha visto un amore così sacrificale o che ha sentito da noi un; “Ti amo”? Circa dieci anni fa ho ricevuto un messaggio molto inaspettato attraverso un social media. Era dell'uomo che era stato il mio primo fidanzato quarant'anni prima. E si chiedeva se mi sarebbe piaciuto di incontrarlo. La risposta era: “No!” Vedete, Malcolm (si chiama così) da giovane era bellissimo con capelli ricci scuri, grandi occhi azzurri e profumava sempre di menta. Ma se ora non fosse stato più così? Sarei rimasta delusa? L'avrei riconosciuto? Volevo che rimanesse un bel ricordo, anche se lontano. Il primo amore è una cosa preziosa, ma raramente dura. In Apocalisse Gesù parla alla chiesa di Efeso: “Io conosco le tue opere, la tua fatica, la tua costanza; so che non puoi sopportare i malvagi e hai messo alla prova quelli che si chiamano apostoli ma non lo sono, e che li hai trovati bugiardi. So che hai costanza, hai sopportato molte cose per amore del mio nome e non ti sei stancato. Ma ho questo contro di te: che hai abbandonato il tuo primo amore.” (Apocalisse 2:2-4) Questo è Giovanni nell'Apocalisse che descrive la visione che ha visto riguardo alla chiesa di Efeso. Era stata una chiesa che bruciava di amore per Gesù e per gli altri fratelli credenti; i cui membri avevano abbracciato la salvezza con passione, consapevoli di quanto Dio li amasse, erano 'vivificati in Cristo'. E la loro gioia era travolgente mentre vivevano questa nuova vita. Lo troverete in Efesini 2:1-5. Qui, Gesù loda gli Efesini per le loro molte buone opere, il loro duro lavoro e la loro sapienza spirituale: mettevano alla prova i maestri per vedere se le loro parole erano vere; sopportavano le difficoltà e perseveravano senza stancarsi. Ma avevano perso il loro primo amore per Gesù; e, essendo accaduto questo, cominciarono a "fare senza crederci” delle buone opere, in maniera automatica" motivati non dall'amore di e per Gesù, ma dalle opere stesse. Quello che una volta era un rapporto d'amore si raffreddò in mera religione. La loro passione per Lui divenne poco più che un dovere. E qual è questo primo amore che hanno perso? E' di nuovo quella parola agape - il tipo di amore incondizionato. Gli Efesini avevano dimenticato che è necessario impegnarsi nell'amore - non è semplicemente un sentimento, ma è un atto di volontà. Quindi come possiamo guardarci dal perdere il nostro primo amore per Gesù? Prima di tutto c'è una precisazione da fare: accettare che ci sono stagioni di fede. A volte siamo nei giorni di sole dell'estate dove tutto sembra benedetto; a volte siamo nel profondo inverno quando Dio sembra lontano e siamo pieni di dubbi. Le stagioni della fede sono naturali; non possiamo essere sempre su e non saremo sempre giù. Ma le stagioni della fede sono diverse dal perdere quel primo amore incondizionato per Gesù e ci sono abitudini che possiamo praticare che custodiranno il nostro cuore e la nostra mente. 1. Cercarlo consapevolmente ogni giorno in ogni modo Ignazio di Loyola diceva che ogni decisione dovrebbe essere inquadrata dalla domanda: "In che modo questo mi porta verso, mi avvicina a Gesù? 2. Ascoltare, non parlare “«Fermatevi», dice, «e riconoscete che io sono Dio.” (Salmo 46:10) La parola usata qui per “fermo” è la radice della parola inglese che indica la “vacanza”. Prenditi del tempo ogni giorno, una volta alla settimana o una volta al mese per ritirarti dalla vita quotidiana e semplicemente sederti alla sua presenza. E tu HAI tempo! 3. Parla con lui - digli tutto Dice Pete Grieg, pastore e co-fondatore del movimento di preghiera 24/7: “La preghiera è una conversazione e la Bibbia è la sua metà della conversazione". Siediti con la tua Bibbia. Digli ogni piccola cosa perché allora avrai la rivelazione di vederlo all'opera. 4. Ricordati di ciò che ha fatto in passato “Io rievocherò i prodigi del Signore; sì, ricorderò le tue meraviglie antiche, mediterò su tutte le opere tue e ripenserò alle tue gesta. (Salmo 77:11-12) L'ha fatto già in passato, lo farà di nuovo - aspettatevi grandi cose da lui. 5. Impara questo versetto “Sì, io ti amo di un amore eterno; perciò ti prolungo la mia bontà.” (Geremia 31:3b) Colui che ti ha chiamato a sé è benevolo, colui che rimane con te ti ama incondizionatamente e per sempre. 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We had an incredible year of programming at Trending in Ed in 2021. This episode is our 85th of the year and we talked to 86 different guests over the course of the year. Mike Palmer walks us through the five conversations that are resonating with him heading into the New Year. We begin with our first conversation from 2021 where we interview Mike Marriner, the CoFounder and President of Road Trip Nation. From there we hear Michelle Weise talk about her book Long Life Learning before bringing back a conversation with Steve Joordens predicting The Great Snapback. Then Kumar Garg shares his perspectives on new and emerging trends in ed tech and Tim Clark drops knowledge about the Four Stages of Psychological Safety. We conclude with a bonus excerpt from our conversation with the legendary psychologist, Robert Sternberg. It was quite the year and these conversations only begin to scratch the surface of what we covered. Subscribe to Trending in Education wherever you get your podcasts to keep up with the latest and greatest. Visit us at TrendinginEd.com for more insight into the future of learning.
What is love? In the 1980s, American psychologist Robert Sternberg developed the “triangular” theory of love to provide an answer. His theory explains that love is an interaction between 3 things: emotional intimacy, passion, and commitment. From this model, Sternberg later created distinctions between the 7 types of love. If you find yourself between 2 types of love, remember that these classifications aren't black and white. Some couples move in and out of the categories and evolve to reach consummate love; others might be perfectly happy living as companions or romantic partners. Achieving a certain type of love might be very important to a couple; others might prefer to take a more laid-back approach. It's all about personal preference. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dr James Kaufman is a Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Connecticut and the author/editor of more than 50 books, including Creativity 101 and the Cambridge Handbook of Creativity with Robert Sternberg. In this podcast, we talk about the connection between mental health and creativity, a topic that endlessly fascinates me. It was an honor to talk to one of the world experts on this topic!
This week we discuss "The Triangular Theory of Love', a theory developed by Robert Sternberg in the mid-1980s (ignore Bradford and his blatant incorrectness on the dates during the podcast). If you're keen on psychology and love this is a podcast for you!Special thanks to all of our Discord users! Become one by supporting us on Patreon.As always, thank you for listening.Find us on social media!!!On Twitter @BytheBiPodcastOn Facebook @BytheBiPodcastOn Instagram @BytheBiPodcastOr email us hereWant to help us out? Sure you do!!!Help us out on Patreon and join our Discord chat hereFind sexy couples in your area on the best damn open lifestyle community in the USA: AltPlaygroundWanna get your own prize from Geeky Sex Toys? Head over here!Please help out, and donate to Bi+ Visibility by clicking the link here!Leave some feedback for us on whatever medium you listen to your podcasts on. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Today it's great to have Robert Sternberg on the podcast. Robert is a psychology professor at Cornell University. Among his major contributions to psychology are the triarchic theory of intelligence and several influential theories relating to creativity, thinking styles, love, and hate. A Review of General Psychology survey ranked Sternberg as the 60th most cited psychologist of the 20th century. He's authored and co-authored over 1,500 publications including articles, book chapters, and books. Topics · Robert's childhood experience with IQ tests · Robert's passion for psychometrics · Development of the Triarchic Theory of Intelligence · How the Triarchic Theory of Intelligence relates to Gardner's Theory of Multiple Intelligences · The world's fixation on general intelligence · How society and the environment create correlations with intelligence · Expanding college admissions' metrics of intelligence · Is psychological testing still valuable today? · Real world problems VS academic problems · Rethinking adaptive intelligence as a species · Application of intelligence to transcend hate --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-psychology-podcast/support
Ashley and Anthony talk about the concept of the triangular theory of love. This theory, developed by Robert Sternberg, describes three components of love: intimacy, passion, and commitment. A&A on life is a production of one28media, a listener sponsored media company. If you'd like to support this podcast and other great content, visit one28media.com.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/one28media)
Dr. Robert Sternberg joins Mike to talk about his life's work studying intelligence, creativity, and wisdom. He is Professor of Human Development in the College of Human Ecology at Cornell University. Bob recently wrote Adaptive Intelligence: Striving and Thriving in Times of Uncertainty and we spend time diving into the concepts and frameworks that are central to the book. For starters, Bob tells his personal story beginning in grade school where initially he didn't perform well on intelligence tests until a teacher took an interest in him and helped him overcome his test anxiety. Soon after he was performing well on tests and even began administering them to his classmates. This formative experience led him to question the prevailing views of intelligence and IQ testing which have dominated psychology since the early 20th century. Bob walks us through his evolving theories of intelligence, ranging from the Triarchic theory (creative, practical, and analytic) of intelligence to an increased focus on success and wisdom to his latest work on adaptive intelligence which focuses on the positive contribution one can provide to society. We dive into the timeliness of this construct in light of the challenging times we've been facing of late and conclude with Dr. Sternberg's perspectives on the risks and opportunities we're facing now in this singular moment in history. It's a profound and enlightening conversation that you won't want to miss. We very much appreciate the opportunity to dive into all of this with a true luminary in the field of psychology, creativity, and intelligence. If you like what you're hearing, subscribe to Trending in Education wherever you get your podcasts and visit us at TrendingInEducation.com.
What is the difference between intelligence and wisdom and why should you care? Dr. Robert Sternberg introduces us to his theories of adaptive intelligence and his triangular theory of love. He provides insights as to how our society misdirects and prioritizes our focus on exactly the traits that lead us down untenable social and political paths. He also proves to us once and for all that it's a bad idea to use an IQ test to get a first date."Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all." - AristotleOf course, intelligence is for naught if we fail to care for the heart; Dr. Sternberg has that one figured out, too with his appraisal of the types of love and how we can best find our match with The Love Multiverse (shoulda had this one on for Valentine's Day - sorry 'bout that!) Take a listen while he walks us through his theories as well as the results he's obtained by applying his theories of learning to university administration policies. Check out his recent cover story in New Scientist, "Rethinking Intelligence"
El amor es un conjunto de emociones y comportamientos caracterizados por la intimidad, la pasión y el compromiso en donde se implica cuidado, cercanía, protección, atracción, afecto y confianza. En entrevista para el programa Conéctate de @fm104.9 en México conducido por Edith Arroyo la Bombón, hablamos de lo qué es el amor desde un punto de vista psicológico y teniendo en cuenta la teoría triangular del amor de Robert Sternberg la cual sugiere que las personas pueden tener distintos grados de intimidad, pasión y compromiso en cualquier momento de su vida y de su relación. (Créditos: La música utilizada de fondo: Early Hours - Back To Front). --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/psicologo-yebeto/support
Hi there, Psychmates! In today's episode of Get Psyched: Gen Psyched, I will introduce the topic of intelligence and discuss the different theories that aimed to explain "Intelligence" starting of with the Triarchic Theory of Intelligence by Robert Sternberg. This podcast will be a 2-part episode so tune in!
Have you heard of Love Languages? Just in time for Valentine's day, Don and LaShelle talk a bit about Robert Sternberg's Triangular theory of love and the 5 Love Languages. We even guess each other's love languages and compare them a bit. Do you think they are similar or different? Love LanguagesRobert SternbergTriangular thoery of loveValentine's DayValentineRelationshipsShowing Love
En este episodio te hablaré con detalle de los elementos del amor según la teoría triangular del amor de Robert Sternberg así como también de los diferentes tipos de relaciones de pareja que existen de acuerdo a dichos elementos y de como tomar mejores decisiones en el ámbito de pareja.
From global health crises to climate change, today's students and future generations will face a cascade of unprecedented challenges and threats, requiring new modes of thinking and problem-solving. In a new article in Phi Delta Kappan Magazine, renowned psychologist and Cornell University Professor Robert Sternberg questions our traditional approach to testing and intelligence assessment, and whether today's students are being adequately prepared to meet the challenges of tomorrow. Sternberg joins Jonathan Supovitz, executive director of the Consortium for Policy Research in Education (CPRE) at Penn GSE, to discuss the concept of "adaptive intelligence," and how schools and educators can help students hone real-world problem-solving skills in the classroom. Sternberg also discusses his forthcoming book on adaptive intelligence, and how the concept has taken on a new level of importance following one of the most challenging years in living memory.
Welcome to another podcast at Metaphysical Round Table!!! Here is week 40 with hosts Jennifer, Kat and Rachel! Join us every week for a humorous look at spirituality, lifestyle, healing and anything metaphysical! This week with special guest hostess with the most-est Magalie we talked about Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love, weekly Numerology, Tarot reading for the upcoming week, a Spirit/Medicine Animal, a Crystal reading and much, much more!!! Thanks for listening Round Table Fan’s!! We LOVE you!! Listen to us anytime for free on SoundCloud, YouTube, Podbean, Patreon and iTunes! Metaphysical Round Table is a humorous weekly podcast about spirituality, lifestyle, healing and anything metaphysical! Hosted by psychics, readers and healers, this amusing show centers around issues happening in the world and how it affects us energetically and spiritually. Every show has a tarot card reading for the week, numerology for the upcoming week, a Spirit/Medicine animal, a crystal to use, a moon phase report, discussions about other dimensions, aliens and even talks about sex! Join us every week in a no holds barred discussion that will make you think, make you laugh and hopefully empower you to walk stronger on your spiritual path! Find us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter! Humor, Metaphysical, Spirituality, Lifestyle, Tarot Cards, Oracle Cards, Empaths, Moon Phases, Magic, Crystals, Healing, Astrology, Numerology, Spirit Animals #Humor, #Metaphysical, #Spirituality, #Lifestyle, #TarotCards, #OracleCards, #Empaths, #MoonPhases, #Magic, #Crystals, #Healing, #Astrology, #Numerology, #SpiritAnimals
En el capítulo de hot les hablo sobre los 7 tipos de amor de Robert Sternberg. Es una teoría muy interesante donde a través de 3 elementos nos habla cómo combinarlos para obtener un tipo de amor específico. Aquí no hay algo como malo o bueno, simplemente es estar conscientes de lo que queremos y así poder trabajar en ellos para poderlo obtener.
Anlaşılmadığınız bir ilişkinin içinde kalabilir misiniz? Peki kültürel farklılıklar ve benzerlikler ilişkinin kalitesini etkiler mi? Bu ve bunun gibi pek çok sorunun -bana göre- cevabı bu bölümde. Ayrıca tutku mu arkadaşlık mı daha önemli derken Robert Sternberg'in Aşk Üçgeni Kuramı'na değinmeden yapamıyorum. Keyifli dinlemeler!
Growing up I used to ask my mom, “How will I know when I’ve met the right guy?” She replied with the answer so many of us heard, “You’ll just know.” But HOW do we “just know”? Will our hearts lead us in the right direction? What if our heart says, “Yes” but our head says, “No!” And, considering I almost married the wrong person (I called off my first engagement 2 months before the wedding #runawaybride), I apparently didn’t “just know.” That being said, I now have a unique vantage point—having been engaged to the wrong person and then engaged to the right one! To further explore this question, Dan joins me to discuss how we knew we were right for each other. We also examine psychologist Dr. Robert Sternberg’s Triangle Theory of Love which provides the most comprehensive model of what Sternberg calls “Consummate Love” and what others call “the total package.” We wrap up the program answering a listener’s question about being ghosted by her boyfriend. Should she reach out? They’d had “the talk” about being exclusive! Isn’t she owed an explanation?
You’re in a relationship that isn’t working or certainly not as well as you’d like. Maybe there isn’t enough of something that you once had, but you don’t know what it is. You feel a growing emptiness and want to do what you can to salvage this thing. While it takes two willing parties to make a relationship work, we introduce some things that help you at least identify what might not be working and how you might make adjustments to have a happier relationship. In part one of a two-episode series, we explore the concepts of passion and intimacy from Dr. Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love. We address how men get it wrong in these two areas and how they can change their attitudes, actions, and attributes to have a healthier partnership. Questions answered in this episode: What are the factors that create a healthy sense of passion in a relationship? How do you develop intimacy with your partner? What is the role of commitment in good relationships? How do we improve our ability to resolve conflicts in romantic relationships? Other topics discussed: How the non-alpha handles passion The role of fun and humor in creating passion Increasing your attractiveness without overdoing it How arousal works Some differences in sexual fulfillment for men and women Intimacy defined How the average guy messes up intimacy Increasing friendship and conversation How her closeness with her friends and your bonding with your own tribe of dudes improves your sense of intimacy in your romantic relationship Relevant Links: https://alphaquorum.com/ https://tacomoto.co/ https://bradsingletary.com http://www.robertjsternberg.com/love https://www.amazon.com/She-Comes-First-Thinking-Pleasuring/dp/B0007Q1CI6/ref=sr_1_3?crid=2KZOF8U2KR0LL&dchild=1&keywords=sex+books+for+men&qid=1586497276&sprefix=men+sex+books%2Caps%2C278&sr=8-3 https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001E2NXBG/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_taft_p1_i2 https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/080241270X/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tpbk_p1_i0 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/alphaquorum/message
Heute spreche ich mit dir über die Dreieckstheorie der Liebe nach Robert Sternberg. Darüber, von welchen Faktoren unsere Liebe mitbestimmt wird und welche Arten der Liebe es überhaupt gibt! Die Übersicht über die Dreiecksbeziehung der Liebe findest du hier: https://www.psy-on.de/die-dreiecksbeziehung-der-liebe.
episode ini merupakan episode khusus kami dalam rangka merefleksikan tahun 2019, mulai dari aplikasi kencan online, teori cinta yang dikembangkan oleh Robert Sternberg hingga rencana kami dalam menghadapi 2020. selamat mendengarkan instagram.com/get.kalm twitter.com/get_kalm get-kalm.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kalmers/message
Diane F. Halpern is the Dean of Social Sciences, Emerita at the Minerva Schools at KGI, professor of psychology, Emerita at Claremont McKenna College, and a past president of the American Psychological Association and the Society for Teaching of Psychology. Diane has published hundreds of articles and many books including, Thought and Knowledge: An Introduction to Critical Thinking (5th Ed., 2014-- new editions coming soon), Sex Differences in Cognitive Abilities (4th ed.), and Women at the Top: Powerful Leaders Tell Us How to Combine Work and Family (co-authored with Fanny Cheung). She has two books coming out next year: The Cambridge International Handbook for Psychology of Women (co-edited with Fanny Cheung) and Critical Thinking in Psychology (co-edited with Robert Sternberg).
Your relationship needs intimacy, passion, and commitment if you want it to stand the test of time. Not only that, you need enough of these three qualities to help you get through the rough or dull parts. And lastly, you need realistic expectations of what a relationship can realistically provide. Dr. Robert Sternberg is a professor of Human Development at Cornell University, the author of The New Psychology of love, and has been writing on the subject of love for over 30 years. What you'll learn (or why you should care): • The triangular theory of love (intimacy, passion, and commitment) • The importance of defining what loves means to you • How putting the other first can lead to long term relationship satisfaction Where to find Dr. Robert Sternberg: Website https://lovemultiverse.com/ Resources and Links The triangular theory of love http://www.robertjsternberg.com/love The New Psychology of Love by Dr. Robert Sternberg and Dr. Karen Sternberg https://amzn.to/34Q8gZd Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thelovedriveshow/ Become a Contributing Lovebird Support The Love Drive here https://thelovedrive.com/join/
This week Joe and Eric talk about the importance of taking breaks. Also, the researcher mentioned in the podcast is, in fact, Robert Sternberg.
Kris discusses the 12 Rules of Academia, written by Robert Sternberg, Professor of Human Development at Cornell with over 40 years experience in higher education. This episode offers great advice for educators at any career stage.
Robert Sternberg, professor of human development, describes his triangular theory of love.
Dr. Robert Sternberg has served at Tufts University, Yale, and Oklahoma State before taking his current position as Professor of Human Development at Cornell University. He is a former president of the American Psychological Association and was named one of the top 100 psychologists in the 20th century by APA Monitor on Psychology. He is also the author of over 1600 publications and the recipient of over $20 million in grant funding, which may explain why Google counts him among the most cited researchers of our time Learn more about author and host, Sarah Raymond Cunningham, at sarahcunningham.org
Cornell psychologist Robert Sternberg has done seminal work on creativity, wisdom, and cognitive styles. He cares deeply about higher education and teaching, and in this episode we focus on the role of creativity in the classroom. We talk about the importance of creativity in today's labor market, how to measure creativity, and how many students are motivated to learn when they are given an opportunity to be creative.
There is something about your love! Knocks me off your feet is our song this week. We talk about the concept of Love in your leadership using the 1967 Sermon by MLK and Robert Sternberg and his Triangular Theory of Love. It will help you understand how love works in leadership and how to bring more of it into your day.
If you were to ask a room full of people whether or not they’ve ever cheated on a partner or have been cheated on by a partner, you’d likely get every single person to say “yes” to one or the other, if not both. Affairs are such a common thing in intimate relationships. And, so profoundly painful--certainly for the partner who was betrayed by the affair, but also, according to this week’s guest Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, for the offender. When we cheat, it has a way of really getting at the core of who we are. We think we know ourselves and where our boundaries lie, but this thing we never thought we’d do has us questioning everything. Often, by the end of it, we just want peace. Beth Luwandi Lofstrom has developed her own theory and methodology for working with couples who have experienced an affair and it may go against the usual grain. As therapists, we of course come into the room with our own biases about infidelity. Those biases don’t often tend toward understanding of the offender. And according to Beth, therapists are often focusing on the wrong things in our work with couples working through infidelity. In this episode, we discuss: The problem with our usual labels for the person who has the affair in a relationship and what Beth prefers to call them. Why it’s so important that the offending partner is healed properly and why integration doesn’t go deep enough. Why ‘Why’ is the wrong question to work through in the clinical space and what we should ask instead. Beth’s theory, Whole Human Theory, what it means, and how it informs the work she does with couples. Why the mind-body connection is lacking and how it leaves one third of the population out of the conversation. The Gentle Benevolent Observer as the highest part of a person, what it is and why it is often underdeveloped. The differences between good couples counseling and poor couples counseling. Beth’s upcoming book, who it’s for and what it intends to do. Whether humans truly are not wired for monogamy and how Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love applies to this question. The role of “the snake” in the Gentle Benevolent Observer’s existence. Referenced in this episode: Enneagram Personality Typology [Graphic depicting Holistic Human Parts Theory:] Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love You can find Beth Luwandi Lofstrom online at BethLuwandi.com. And Beth's new book After the Affair; Healing for the offender will be available later this month; you can find it on her new site wholehumantheory.com. You can also connect with Beth on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Are you a part of the #POBScast Community? If not, join us. Let’s continue the conversation about this and other favorite episodes there. If you’re looking for a unique, experiential gift to give your partner this holiday season, consider this upcoming Valentine’s Retreat I’m co-leading at Menla Mountain Resort.
Professor Robert Sternberg, psychologist and psychometrician thinks schools have been testing and teaching the wrong qualities for the last century. What if we've been frittering away vast amounts of human potential in that same time frame? Cornell Professor Sternberg has found that success in academics and in life is more closely tied to creative and practical thinking, wisdom and ethics than it is to IQ and memorization, the measures currently in use. He's on a mission to shake things up. Sternberg also has some invaluable advice on perseverance and seeing through our passions, and he speaks from experience as his path stretches all the way back to elementary school.http://spartanuppodcast.com/035Lessons:1. The most valuable qualities for success are not tested for in schools: creative and practical thought, wisdom and ethics.2. Keep going in the face of obstacles; persevere, but also realize when you're in the wrong race.3. Achieving success is not always getting to your original goal. Sometimes the path was right but the goal was wrong or the goal was right but the path was wrong. Constantly reexamine your path and your goal.
Have you ever asked yourself these questions: How smart am I and does it even matter? Do I need a high I.Q. to be rich? Today's Book of the Day is, “Successful Intelligence: How Practical and Creative Intelligence Determine Success in Life” by Robert Sternberg. Sternberg hypothesizes that I.Q is not a fixed measurement, the way it has been misunderstood for years, and he gives us a lot of insight into how IQ is changeable. Can you answer these questions as a comment below? 1. What is a self defeating attitude that you have had towards your I.Q. or intelligence? 2. What is a negative expectation that others have put on you that you want to defy?Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Join us as we explore creativity with one of the field's leading researchers, educational psychologist Robert Sternberg. Bob is provost and professor of psychology at Oklahoma State University. He's also served as dean of the School of Arts and Sciences at Tufts University, professor of psychology, education and management at Yale University, and president of the American Psychological Association. His research focuses on human intelligence, creativity, wisdom, styles of thinking, leadership, and love and hate. And he is co-editor of the recent book, The Cambridge Handbook of Creativity. Bob will lead a conversation, "From Imagination to Innovation," at the Creativity World Forum in Oklahoma City on November 17.