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Send us Fan MailLearn the five shifts that help couples tear down walls, rebuild trust, and move from self-protection to true oneness in marriage.
Send us Fan MailLearn how old receipts from your past may be shaping your present reactions—and how God uses surrender, renewal, and new experiences to rewrite the story and create lasting transformation.What if you're not reacting to what's happening right now?What if you're reacting to a receipt from years ago?The husband who feels unwanted. The couple stuck in the same argument. The woman God is calling into a new season but whose body still responds with fear.Different stories. Same root.Old receipts.In this episode, Chelsey explores how past experiences shape present reactions, why God uses life's tests to reveal what still needs healing, and how surrender creates space for God to write a new story.Because the goal isn't to erase your past.The goal is to stop letting it interpret your present. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan MailLearn how to identify the subconscious self-protection keeping you stuck, surrender it to God, and move toward deeper intimacy, healing, and oneness in marriage.“I forgave… so why do I still react this way?”Many couples find themselves stuck in a frustrating cycle: they want connection, intimacy, trust, and oneness, yet something inside keeps pulling the brake.In this episode, Chelsey unpacks the “gas and brake” phenomenon that often shows up after hurt, betrayal, disappointment, or broken trust. You'll learn why self-protective reactions are often subconscious stress responses—not intentional rejection—and how God uses marriage to reveal the places He still wants to heal.Together, we'll explore the difference between forgiveness and healing, the biblical call to put off the old self and be renewed in Christ, and how true intimacy is restored when mind, body, and spirit come into agreement under the authority of Jesus and the truth of God's Word.Because the goal isn't to shame the brake.It's to surrender what it's protecting and allow God to heal what still needs healing. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan MailMost couples think conflict is what destroys intimacy.It's not.Self-protection is.A husband jokes instead of admitting he feels rejected.A wife withdraws instead of admitting she feels hurt.One pursues. One avoids.Different behaviors. Same root.Self-protection.In this episode, Chelsey unpacks the hidden ways self-protection shows up in marriage, why God often uses marriage to expose the wounds and fears He wants to heal, and how our identity in Christ gives us the security to stop hiding and start moving toward one another.Because intimacy was never built on performance, control, or self-preservation.It was built on vulnerability, truth, and trust.And self-protection and intimacy cannot coexist. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
When a marriage is struggling after betrayal, it's easy to reach for labels. Narcissist. Addict. Abuser. Toxic. But what happens when those labels become the lens through which we see ourselves, or our spouse?In this thought-provoking conversation, Brian sits down with licensed marriage and family therapist Tyler Patrick to explore how misdiagnosis and misplaced labels can actually hinder healing. Together, they discuss the difference between understanding behavior and defining a person by it, the role of self-compassion in recovery, and why true healing requires both honesty and empathy.Tyler shares his own personal journey through addiction, secrecy, recovery, and marriage restoration, offering powerful insights into how vulnerability, accountability, and compassion work together to create lasting change. You'll also learn why some of the most commonly used therapeutic terms may be doing more harm than good, and how curiosity can open doors that judgment never will.Whether you're the betrayed spouse, the unfaithful spouse, or simply seeking healthier relationships, this episode will challenge the way you think about healing, labels, forgiveness, and what it really means to see another person with compassion.You can find the Therapy Brothers here: https://therapybrothers.org/beyond-affairsYes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367
Send us Fan MailMany couples think they have a communication problem when they actually have an ownership problem.When hurt, frustration, loneliness, and disappointment go unnamed, it's easy to fall into blame, defensiveness, criticism, and distance. But emotional intimacy grows when two people learn to take ownership of what they're feeling, anchor themselves in truth, and move toward one another with a shared path forward.In this episode, I'm sharing a simple framework to help couples reignite emotional connection through honesty, responsibility, repentance, and oneness.Because emotional intimacy isn't built through winning arguments.It's built through being known, speaking truth, and choosing to move toward one another again. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan MailWhen was the last time you had that desire for your husband as an overflow from that desire for God, your Father, your Creator, your Maker? The maker of everything? Where you heart is, there also is your treasure. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan Mail"I believe, Lord, Help my unbelief!" Learn how to move from "I know" but don't really believe deep down TO "I believe with every cell in my body and so I live like it's already done!" And that belief changes everything. Starting with YOU. But it has to start with the SOURCE. The ONLY Source. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan MailBuild on purpose with discipline and consistency! Break free from the "hard" of marriage and actually like each other again. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan MailGrab the new free guide: https://chelsey.coach/hlwreset Recognize when your body is speaking and what it's saying... this is the PATTERN.And then what to do with the info as INFO, not authority. Anchor into Truth, biblical Truth. This is how we regulate and respond; disrupt patterns and walk in freedom and healing! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan MailGod created us as holistic beings: mind, body and spirit. Learn to integrate biblical Truth as anchor and recognize information we receive from our bodies. And how we submit BOTH under the authority of Christ- the FINISHED work of the Cross.Let's dive in! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Do men who cheat still think about the affair partner? Do they miss them? Wonder where they are? Compare their spouse to them?These are some of the most painful and frequently asked questions for couples walking through infidelity.Brian sits down with two men who acted unfaithfully, did the hard work of healing, and successfully rebuilt their marriages. Together, they answer the difficult questions many betrayed spouses silently wrestle with:Do men still think about the affair partner after cheating?Do reminders, memories, or curiosity about the other person ever go away?What happens when you still work near or unexpectedly see the affair partner?Do unfaithful spouses ever miss the other person—or wish they had stayed?What does true remorse and healing actually look like?With remarkable vulnerability, Joe and John share their firsthand experiences of affair recovery, what really happens to thoughts about the affair partner after disclosure, and why choosing healing became more important than anything else.Whether you are the betrayed spouse or the one who acted unfaithfully, this conversation offers honesty, healing, and hope for rebuilding trust after an affair.Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367
Send us Fan MailWhat if intimacy isn't gone…just buried under years of pain, fear, resentment, disappointment, betrayal, or self-protection?In this episode, Chelsey shares 10 practical ways to restore intimacy God's way—not through pressure, pretending, or rushing healing, but through surrender, safety, grief, openness, and intentionally moving toward one another again.Because God's design for intimacy was never simply physical.It was always:to be fully known…and fully loved. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan Mail“Intimacy will never be the same.”Maybe you've heard that.Maybe you've even believed it.In this episode, Chelsey confronts one of the most hopeless messages surrounding marriage after betrayal, wounds, and broken trust—and asks a different question:What if God actually restores?This episode explores intimacy through the lens of surrender, healing, softness, trust rebuilding, and God's design for delight within marriage.Because what feels impossible to us…rarely limits God. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan MailMany wives are carrying burdens they were never meant to carry.Trying harder. Fixing more. Worrying constantly.But what if God never asked you to carry your husband?What if He invited you to pray for him instead?In this episode, Chelsey shares 10 powerful prayers wives can pray over their husbands to move from control into intercession and create space for God to move powerfully.Because prayer changes more than circumstances.It changes us too. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan MailForgiveness is one of the most misunderstood concepts in marriage.Many Christians believe forgiveness means forgetting, pretending it didn't hurt, immediately restoring trust, or never struggling again.Others stay trapped waiting to forgive until the pain completely disappears.In this episode, Chelsey dives into what biblical forgiveness actually is, what it isn't, and how surrendering the healing process to God often looks very different than we expect.Because forgiveness may happen in a moment.But walking out healing, rebuilding trust, and learning to live differently may take much longer. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan MailYou said you wanted a fun summer.So why does it already feel chaotic?In this follow-up episode, Chelsey shares the 10 rules helping her create a summer built around peace, responsibility, freedom, and connection- not survival.From routines and screens to rhythms and responsibilities, this episode will help you intentionally build an environment where both moms and kids can thrive.Because peaceful summers rarely happen accidentally. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan MailYour kids were never supposed to become the center of your home.Yet summer has a funny way of making marriages revolve around:sports activities screens chauffeuring and survival mode.In this episode, Chelsey shares 10 practical rules to help you protect your marriage, stay connected, and build a family culture where your relationship remains the foundation- not an afterthought.Because one day the kids leave.Your marriage stays. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan MailWhy does life suddenly feel chaotic when routines disappear?Maybe summer isn't creating the problem.Maybe it's revealing it.In this episode, Chelsey unpacks how easily life drifts out of order- especially during busy seasons—and why many women unintentionally place kids, schedules, responsibilities, and work above the things that actually create peace.You'll learn how God's design for right order creates stability, why environment matters more than motivation, and how to intentionally build a home that flourishes instead of simply surviving.Because peace rarely happens accidentally. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.
Send us Fan MailGod gave me this vision of a courtroom. This image should break us of self-righteousness in marriage. Are you standing next to the accuser in agreement over your husband's offenses? Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.
Send us Fan MailWhat do you do when nothing seems to be changing?When your marriage feels impossible… finances feel tight… prayers feel unanswered… and you've done everything you know how to do?In this episode, we walk through one of the most powerful biblical pictures of God's provision and power from 2 Kings 6–7 and reminds listeners that God is still the God of suddenly.You'll learn why surrender comes before breakthrough, how God often works outside of human understanding, and why your job is not to force outcomes—but to create space for God to move.Because what feels impossible to you…may simply be the setup for God's suddenly. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.
Send us Fan MailYou love your spouse.But do you actually like them? This reel sparked a HUGE reaction!In this episode, Chelsey Holm unpacks why so many marriages slowly drift from friendship, fun, and genuine enjoyment—and why simply staying married is not the same thing as flourishing together.You'll learn why resentment quietly kills friendship, how survival mode changes connection, and what creates the kind of marriage where you genuinely enjoy being together again.Because marriage was never meant to be endured.It was meant to reflect something much deeper. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.
Send us Fan MailIf you are feeling like there's just too much hurt and years of frustration in your marriage for it to truly flourish (or even be borderline good at this point), listen to this episode! God can do it! God is working in your marriage! He is working out sprouts...buds...blossoms...and ripe almonds! Because "shoqed"! Jeremiah 1:11 "I am watching over my word to perform it." Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.
Send us Fan MailIt's so easy to let our feelings be the authority, but high level wives learn how to create space for the Spirit to work because they are rooted and grounded in the love of Christ. Come learn how too! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.
Send us Fan MailHow often do you feel overwhelmed by the chaos, bad attitudes, and fights that start in your own house, family, and marriage? Learn how to shift the atmosphere and recalibrate the "tudes" like a high level wife! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
In this episode, Kerry shares her journey of standing for the restoration of her marriage and how Jesus has met her in the waiting with unconditional love, forgiveness, and healing. She opens up about the ways God has changed her heart and how she now welcomes others into her home to pray for prodigals. This conversation is a powerful encouragement for anyone who feels discouraged or is struggling to keep hope alive 12 Days of Praying for Your Husband 12 Days of Praying for Your Wife Armor of God Prayer Prays of Victory Book Forgiving Forward Bundle Follow on Instagram - @rejoicemarriageministries Follow on Facebook - @rejoicemarriageministries Every day, you can receive encouragement straight to your inbox through our Fight for Your Marriage Devotional and find free resources and prayers to pray over your marriage. To take advantage of these resources and others, visit https://rejoiceministries.org We appreciate your feedback. If this episode touches you, please leave us a five-star rating and review, helping us reach new listeners with hope for their marriage. You can also subscribe to our show on YouTube, Spotify or iTunes.
Send us Fan MailOffense is what our flesh does and when we let it take root, it becomes resentment, then bitterness, and finally unforgiveness. Learn how to be unoffendable in your marriage! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailLet's bring it all home with the core foundation of HOW we are enabled to walk in the nature and function of biblical femineity: it's the gospel applied! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailYou're out here walking in the masculine because it feels safer. I get it. That was me too. But learning how God uniquely designed you and how He created you to function within marriage is going to feel like a scary but exhilarating superpower to you. Let's gooooo!*this episode cuts off because our wifi went out, lame, but come back for part 2. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailLearn how to make space for and support the mission in your family. You bear your husband's authority, not to mention the power of the newness of life by the Cross. Walk in your authority and identity on SUBmission in your marriage! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailWhat are you focusing on that is showing up as complaint in your life? Dive in with Chelsey on the topic of complaint and how it's a bigger thing than you think. Plus 2 passages that give warnings on the devastation of complaining. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailWhat did you expect when you got married? Those unmet expectations are the seed of resentment that drains your marriage of the tender love you once had for your husband.Learn to ditch the expectations and have a right view of God, your spouse, and yourself in marriage. You'll feel so free, you won't even believe it! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailYour eyes and ears are the gateway to your mind- what you fill it with is what then overflows from your heart through your words and actions. So what or who is getting your attention? Is it your husband? Or is it your phone? Let's bring awareness and shift the atmosphere to deeper connection in marriage, sister! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailHappy Mother's Day! (a few days later since I recorded this earlier this week- I like to extend the fun, ya know)Update on the 5k with Emma this past weekend and sorrow over remembering a decade ago when I wanted my kids and husband just to leave me alone for Mother's Day. If you've felt this- you're not alone. But also, it's time to actually enjoy your blessings! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailRemember when you saw all the good things in your man? You saw it and then you said it to him. I bet that man felt like he was 10 ft tall and could move mountains for you. Let's bring this back into the atmosphere of your marriage, sis! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailAnyone can serve your husband; only YOU can enjoy him and delight in him. Let's dive in and bring awareness so you can make some powerful shifts in your marriage today! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailHLH and HLW cut out alcohol and other substances early in the program which is harder for some than others, but it's necessary. Why? Substances take the edge of discomfort off and inhibit oneness, unity, and growing up that is necessary for vulnerability within marriage.Also, if you aren't the one who has or is working on giving up substance reliance, you must put on a heart of flesh that overflows with understanding for your spouse as he/she walks through this process in submission to Holy Spirit. Let's get to it... Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailWe recently had new friends over for dinner and she sent us a text after saying "Thank you so much for having us over tonight!!! We loved hanging with you guys. Your home is so full of love and so healing (which we know is Him!) but it was so beautiful to see. We can't wait to hang again!" What do people experience when they walk into your home? Wife, you have the unique authority and role to be the atmosphere setting and creator in your home! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailI was co-leading a mediation session between a hurting Christian couple last week, and the Spirit kept urging me to see this husband's lonely heart, to see this wife's hurting heart, and to help them see each other for the first time as 2 broken, hurting, but redeemed people. In in this episode, Chelsey challenges you to put off division and to pray the hard prayer that aligns your heart to the Father's: " God, help me see him like You see him." This is a key to having a heart of flesh and God removing your heart of stone in your marriage. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailDid you know that 66-75% of young adults raised in the faith, walk away from the faith in their years following leaving the nest? Rather than the allure of being exposed to all new stuff they didn't previously have access to and now they do, might it be a LACK of witnessing the fruits of marriage God's way in their own parents' marriage that led to a disconnect in faith for them? That they saw more hurts, offenses, and lack of intimacy than they saw the fruits of the Spirit on display of 2 people living in the unity of one flesh....Let' dig in... because more is caught than taught. They are learning and it will be passed down to more than just your kids. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailHow you obey the Father today, informs how you submit within your own marriage. You will not flourish in marriage God's way until you learn obedience from the right heart posture to God first. Chelsey dives into Israel's obedience to the Lord in the book of Numbers and how this overflowed from their fear of the Lord. This same heart posture is the key to submitting within your own marriage. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailVows say "for richer, for poorer" but when 70% of couples argue about finances... and money is consistently ranked as one of the leading sources of conflict in marriage- the reality is radically different from the original intent. Financial disagreements are a very strong predictor of divorce, and when it's "often" it's nearly 3x more!Chelsey dives deep the REAL key issue at work in marriages where finances are a point of contention and how to make this shift. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailWhile implementing these rules for communication won't address the root issues of your marriage, it WILL help you move faster in the SAME direction towards healing and oneness. In this episode, Chelsey shares 3 rules she and Zach implemented and still use today! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailGalatians 1:6-9 reveals the highly likely reason for where you are in marriage today: Anything that is Jesus+this or Jesus-that is a false gospel that keeps you stuck, frustrated, in conflict and not walking free. Dive into the one, true gospel and be free! You have received mercy; now walk free in it! Marriage is ground zero for this sanctification process to be magnified so you can be multiplied together pulling in the same direction, the very essence of God's mercy for the whole world to see. Not of either of you that you could boast but the power of God working in and through you both! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailA passive husband doesn't look weak; he actually looks like this... Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailListen to the recap of 7 ways God ministered to Chelsey's heart during a recent time of feeling a little downtrodden and be encouraged too! God is SO good! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailHas your marriage become too serious? And that has overflowed to the bedroom? It's time to bring back the fun, laughter, excitement, and intimacy God's way! Chelsey shares some ways to keep it light and fun as you delight in one another, tasting and seeing God's goodness! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailHow often do you run back to the Lors in times of trouble, but quickly grow complacent in times of ease? That used to be me too! Our marriage breaking was what made me go running back to the Lord and to stay rooted in Him ALWAYS from that point onward. Over the years, the Lord has taught me the power of the weapons I have in Him. Weapons that ACTUALLY destroy strongholds and is DIVINE power. It's time to grab your weapons of warfare that are not of the flesh! It's the ONLY way to take back territory in your marriage and life. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Send us Fan MailI thought this would be the shortest episode ever because I wanted to go all Truth, no love of: "If you refuse to forgive others, your Father in heaven will not forgive you." And then the Holy Spirit gently nudged me (punched me in the face) and reminded me of the love part...So let's dive into forgiveness and letting go God's way wrapped in both Truth and love. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
Blindsided after 19 years of marriage, Trina Titus Lozano was handed divorce papers revealing her husband's secret affair and double life. In this powerful conversation, Trina shares her experience navigating the unimaginable betrayal, the grief that followed, and the difficult road to forgiveness that ultimately saved their marriage. Now celebrating almost 43 years together, their story speaks not only to the faithfulness of God, but to the hard work of inner healing and what it really takes to rebuild a broken marriage.