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We all know screens are a huge part of teen life—but how much is too much? In this episode, I'm joined by coach and teen expert Will Kirsop to tackle one of parents' biggest concerns: device dependency. We unpack the real stats (brace yourself), the brain science behind why tech is so addictive, and how screens are impacting your teen emotionally, socially, and physically. But don't worry—this isn't your typical doom-and-gloom chat. We explore practical strategies to help your teen build a healthier relationship with tech, model better habits yourself (gulp), and navigate the pushback when you set boundaries. Whether your teen is glued to TikTok or gaming till midnight, this episode will leave you feeling informed, empowered, and ready to reset the balance at home. Need personalized help with screen time (or any other parenting battle)? Book your free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call HERE.  About my guest: Will Kirsop is an education leader and the founder of Many Roads, where he coaches teenagers to discover their purpose and thrive. With a background spanning education, psychology, and business, Will saw a gap in how young people are supported in discovering their unique path. His coaching blends evidence-based methodologies, behavioural and cognitive psychology, appreciative inquiry, and real-world strategy to help teens build confidence and direction for their future. Will has worked with teens from a dozen countries across a broad spectrum—from neurodiverse students to top performers competing on the world stage. Will holds a Commerce degree from the University of Sydney and a Psychology degree from Swinburne University, where he was awarded the 2024 University Medal as the top undergraduate student across the entire university. He also completed Executive Education at UC Berkeley. An avid surfer, meditator, and lifelong learner, he is passionate about leveraging his professional and life experiences to help students navigate purpose, career planning and wellbeing. You can find WIll at:  manyroads.co

Ever catch yourself thinking, *“I'm either a good parent or a bad one”... or, “My teen is either respectful or totally out of control”? That's black-and-white thinking—and it sneaks into parenting more than we realize. In this episode, we dig into how rigid, all-or-nothing thoughts keep us stuck in guilt, frustration, and power struggles. You'll learn: How black-and-white thinking shows up (even when you don't realize it) Why it makes parenting feel so much harder The simple mindset shift that opens the door to peace, patience, and real progress If you're exhausted from the pressure to be “perfect” or feeling like you always mess it up—this one's for you. Want personalized help shifting out of black-and-white traps? Book your free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call here. Let's get you out of the extremes—and into a parenting style that actually works.  

Your teen is moody, dramatic, needy, and constantly fishing for validation. One minute they want you to help… the next, they're shutting you out. They're one person at home, someone else at school, and you're just trying to figure out who the heck they actually are. If you've ever felt like your teen is a walking tornado of insecurity, pressure, and mixed signals—and you're the one stuck holding it all together—this episode is for you. We talk about: Why your teen's “crazy” behavior isn't about being broken The hidden needs behind their outbursts, shifts, and social shape-shifting The one thing they really want from you—even when they act like they don't Because your teen doesn't need to be fixed. They need to feel safe. Seen. Loved as they are. If you're tired of second-guessing every response and walking on emotional landmines, let's change that. Book your free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call here. Let's rebuild trust—and your sanity—one conversation at a time.

If your teen is sad, bored, heartbroken, or frustrated—and you instantly shift into problem-solving mode—this episode is for you. In today's conversation, we're talking about a trap so many loving parents fall into: believing it's our job to keep our teens happy. Whether it's emailing teachers, calling their friend's mom after a disagreement, offering shopping trips to soothe a breakup, or trying to fix boredom with entertainment—many parents overfunction emotionally, thinking they're being helpful. But here's the truth: trying to manage your teen's emotions not only burns you out, it also sends them the message that they can't handle life on their own. You'll learn: Why your teen's hard emotions aren't a sign you've failed How to stop rescuing and start strengthening their emotional resilience The surprising way your love and guilt might be enabling helplessness And how to hold space without trying to “make it better” ✨ Ready to parent with calm, clarity, and real connection—even when your teen is struggling? Book your free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call here. You don't have to do this alone—and your teen doesn't need you to fix everything to thrive.  

Every parent has been there—those infuriating moments when your teen's response is a flat, dismissive “I don't care.” In this episode, we dig into why that statement pops up and what it really means, so you can handle your frustration and reconnect with your teen.  This one's brought to you by a real-life grocery store moment with my son… and a stranger who felt compelled to weigh in on his "I don't care" response to me. (Yep, it was that wild.) I'll share three powerful strategies:  understanding the deeper situation behind that “I don't care.”  The secret shift that will stop the cycle of conflict and confusion How to respond in a way that builds trust, not distance If you're ready to transform those hurtful exchanges into opportunities for growth and connection, let's talk. Book a free Peaceful Parenting Call today, and in just a few minutes, we'll create a personalized plan to build trust, ease your stress, and help your teen thrive.      

If you want your teen to speak up for themselves—and for others—but find they shut down, go along to get along, or avoid conflict at all costs, this episode is for you. We're breaking down how to raise teens who know how to set boundaries, communicate clearly, and stand up to injustice—without being rude, reactive, or overwhelmed. And here's the key: it starts with us. In this episode, I'll share: Why modeling is the most powerful way to teach advocacy The difference between being nice and being kind—and why being nice at your own expense teaches all the wrong things How enabling bad behavior (from your teen or others) often starts with avoiding discomfort Practical phrases and tools to use when your teen encounters racism, sexism, homophobia, or peer pressure How to show them that saying no, asking for what they need, and holding boundaries isn't “too much”—it's the foundation of real happiness Whether your teen is staying silent to keep the peace or lashing out when they finally hit their limit, this episode will help you guide them toward confident, respectful self-advocacy and social awareness. ✨ Ready to raise a teen who knows how to use their voice without losing themselves? Book a free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call and let's talk through how to make that happen in your home.  

Few things hurt more than watching your teen struggle—and knowing they don't feel safe enough to come to you with it. You try to connect, ask how they're doing, offer help… and all you get is a shoulder shrug, an eye roll, or a slammed door. And it leaves you wondering—What happened to us? Why won't they talk to me? Am I failing? In this episode, we're digging into what it really takes to become a safe person for your teen to open up to. I'll walk you through the do's and don'ts that shift the energy from shut down and distance to trust and connection. You'll learn simple skills that make a big impact—so your teen actually wants to talk to you again. And when that safety is there, it doesn't just help your teen—it transforms the tone of your whole home. If you're tired of feeling shut out or unsure how to reconnect, let's talk. Book a free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call here. You don't have to guess your way through this—I've got you.

Parenting teens today can feel like trying to hold back a tidal wave. We want to protect them, guide them, and set them up for success—but how do we do that without burning out or pushing them away? In this episode, we're tackling three crucial parenting strategies: Setting Boundaries with Technology—How to create limits that actually stick, without constant battles. Why Kids Don't Always Need Therapy, Parents Need to Learn Tools—Understanding when their struggles are really a reflection of their environment. Raising Independent Teens—How to help them take responsibility for their own lives instead of constantly relying on you to manage everything. If parenting feels like an uphill battle, there's a better way. Let's make it easier. Book a free Peaceful Parenting Call, and in 45 minutes, we'll create a plan that actually works for your family. About my guest: Nicole Runyon, LMSW, is an esteemed psychotherapist specializing in parenting, author, and keynote speaker renowned for her expertise in child and adolescent mental health, backed by an extensive 21-year career in the field. Nicole is also the mother of 2 children. You can find her book, Free to Fly right HERE Instagram and FB- @igenerationmentalhealth  LinkedIn- Nicole Runyon

No parent wants to hear that their child is being mistreated. Unfortunately, bullying is a common challenge many kids face. In this episode, I'm joined by teen confidence expert Joey Mascio to share the most effective strategy for helping your child become less of a target and break free from bullying. Joey offers a fresh, empowering perspective—including why he says "there's no such thing as a bully", key questions that build confidence, and how to effectively approach school administration when necessary. If your teen is struggling, this episode will give you immediate relief and real solutions. Tune in now for expert insights that will transform the way you and your teen handle bullying! To learn more about how to work with Joey, visit him at sidekicktohero.com

When your teen dramatically declares their life is “over”, it can feel impossible to know what to say or do. Should you fix it? Downplay it? Toughen them up? In this episode, we're diving into what's really happening developmentally when your teen spirals, why their emotions feel so intense, and how your response plays a powerful role in shaping their mental resilience. You'll learn practical tools to soothe their big emotions, model emotional regulation, and shift from “You just don't get it” eye-rolls to deeper connection and understanding. You'll walk away equipped to comfort your teen without rescuing, teach resilience without lecturing, and influence their perspective in a way that builds trust and strengthens your bond—no matter how big their drama feels in the moment. Because their life isn't actually over—but your opportunity to guide and empower them is just beginning. Ready to feel more confident and connected in your parenting? Book a free call and let's talk about what's possible for your family.  

If the thought of talking to your teen about dating makes you cringe, you're not alone—but it doesn't have to be that way. In this episode, I'm sharing what actually works when it comes to having meaningful, non-awkward conversations with your teen about relationships, boundaries, and emotional safety. We'll cover two key points: The conversation strategies that actually work—but only once you've learned the foundational skill I teach first. Why the awkwardness isn't really about your teen at all—it's about the brain wiring, parenting paradigms, and habits you've unknowingly picked up (and how to shift them for more connection and ease). Your teen is learning about love, connection, and relationships, whether you're part of the conversation or not. Let's make sure they're getting the right guidance. Book a free 45-minute Peaceful Parenting Call, and we'll create a custom plan to strengthen your relationship and help you navigate these important talks with confidence.  Schedule your call here.  

Parenting a teen can feel like riding a roller coaster—especially when they're hungry, tired, or stressed. In this episode, we dive into the unpredictable world of teen mood swings and how they impact not only your teen, but your entire family's atmosphere. I share three powerful takeaways that will help you transform chaos into calm: • Why It Happens: Understand the driving forces behind teen mood swings and what they really mean. • What It Means: Discover how these ups and downs affect your family dynamics and your teen's emotional world. • Creating Peace: Learn simple strategies to maintain your cool and build a peaceful, connected home, no matter how wild the ride gets. Ready to turn turbulent moments into opportunities for growth and connection? Book a free Peaceful Parenting Call today and let's create a personalized plan that helps you handle these challenges with grace and confidence.

If you've ever felt like every interaction with your teen turns into a battle, you're not alone. Oppositional Defiant Disorder (O.D.D.) can make parenting feel like an exhausting, never-ending power struggle. In this episode, I'm joined by a seasoned therapist who specializes in working with teens and their families to navigate the challenges of O.D.D. We'll dive into what's really going on beneath the defiance, how to shift the dynamic, and practical strategies to restore peace in your home. If you're ready for real solutions and a path forward, let's talk—book a Peaceful Parenting call with me today! About my guest: Ashley Hudson is a mother of 3 boys, licensed teen therapist, and parent coach, with over 12 years of experience. Her group private practice, Ashley Hudson Therapy, is based in Orange County, CA, focusing on empowering adolescents and young adults dealing with anxiety, depression, sport performance anxiety, grief, and parent-child relational conflicts. Drawing from her extensive experience working with thousands of teenagers, Ashley loves working with parents of teenagers and helping them reconnect with their teens. Ashley has created online parenting courses: The Connected Parent and Social Media & Your Teen designed to help parents establish open communication and build meaningful connections with their teens. You can follow her on instagram @ashleyhudsontherapy or the links below. https://www.illuminateyourconnection.co/connectedparent https://www.illuminateyourconnection.co/social-media-and-your-teen

It's easy to get caught up in the daily battles—unfinished homework, messy rooms, and getting your teen to just do what they're supposed to do. But if we're only chasing short-term compliance, we risk infantilizing our teens, missing what they're actually struggling with, and losing opportunities to teach emotional skills that last a lifetime. In this episode, we're talking about how to shift your focus from daily control to long-term connection—so your teen actually wants to come to you for support. We'll break down the sneaky ways parents sabotage their long-term goals, what to do instead, and how to create a home where trust and emotional resilience thrive. You'll walk away with: - The biggest mistake parents make when trying to “win” daily battles with their teens - How to stop micromanaging and infantilizing your teen (without chaos breaking loose) - What your teen is actually struggling with—and how to support them without enabling - A simple mindset shift to build trust and connection for the long run If you're ready to parent with the big picture in mind, book a Peaceful Parenting call today. In just 30 minutes, we'll create a personalized plan to help you ditch the power struggles and build a lifelong relationship with your teen. Schedule your call HERE.  

Ever feel stuck? Maybe it's in your emotions, your habits, your relationships—or the way you and your teen communicate (or don't). In this episode, I'm unpacking a powerful insight I had while talking with friends about midlife dating, parenting teens, and why we all struggle to make changes—even when we want to. It all comes down to sensation chasing—why we do what we do (or don't). Understanding this can shift everything in your parenting and your connection with your teen. And I break it all down for you to be able to apply and pivot for a deeper connection with self and teen.  Listen in now, and if you're ready to break free from these patterns and truly transform your relationship with your teen, book a Peaceful Parenting call with me today!

Are you tired of feeling like every conversation with your teen turns into a battle of wills? In this episode, I'm diving into why telling teens what to do is a recipe for power struggles—and what you can do instead. I'll break down the three key dynamics at play that most parents overlook and share practical ways to step out of the tug-of-war while strengthening your connection. The result? More trust, real conversations, and the peace of mind you've been craving. If you're ready to shift the dynamic in your home and parent with more confidence, book a free Peaceful Parenting call today. Let's create a plan that works for your family!

Parenting is challenging enough on its own, but when you're navigating the complexities of a chronic illness, it adds an entirely new layer of difficulty. In this episode, we'll explore how living with a chronic condition can shape the lens through which you parent and the expectations you hold for yourself and your kids. We'll discuss practical ways to adjust your parenting approach to honor your health while fostering a strong, loving family dynamic. You'll also learn how to manage feelings of guilt, communicate with your kids about your illness, and prioritize what truly matters—without sacrificing connection or joy in your family life. If you've ever felt like your chronic illness is holding you back from being the parent you want to be, this episode is for you. For personalized strategies and support, book a Peaceful Parenting Call today to create a plan that works for your unique situation. Your health, your family, and your peace of mind are worth it.

It's heartbreaking to watch your teen engage in self-destructive habits—whether it's neglecting sleep, eating poorly, avoiding exercise, surrounding themselves with unhealthy friendships, or letting their schoolwork slide. You've tried giving them advice and guiding them toward a healthier, happier life, but they keep making choices that hurt them. Their grades may be dropping, their sleep worsening, and their well-being declining, and as a parent, it feels overwhelming and frustrating. In today's episode, we're diving into how you can effectively support your teen in recognizing and changing harmful habits. You'll learn how to approach these situations with compassion, communicate in ways that resonate with your teen, and empower both of you to build a healthy relstionship they'll carry into adulthood. Parenting through this isn't easy—but there are tools and strategies to help. If you're ready to take the next step and get personalized guidance, book a free Peaceful Parenting call HERE to create a game plan for helping your teen thrive.  

As parents, it's natural to worry about the impact you're having on your kids. Thoughts like, “I just don't want to damage my kids,” or, “My parents messed me up, and I don't want to repeat that cycle,” are incredibly common. But what does this fear of “damaging” your child actually mean? How does it affect the way we parent, and what can we do to minimize harm while fostering connection and growth? In today's episode, we're breaking down the fears and beliefs around parenting “damage.” We'll explore how these thoughts manifest in everyday parenting decisions, why they might be holding you back, and actionable steps to focus on what your child truly needs instead. Parenting doesn't have to be perfect—progress, awareness, and intention matter far more. If you'd like personalized support in parenting with more peace and less fear, book a free Peaceful Parenting call HERE to start creating the family dynamic you've been striving for.  

Parenting teens can feel like a constant push and pull. They want freedom, you want safety. They crave independence, you crave reassurance they're ready. So how much freedom do teens actually need—and how do you know if you're giving too much or too little? In this episode, I break down what's really happening when teens push for independence and how to guide them without shutting them down. We'll explore how to build trust, set boundaries that make sense for your family, and equip your teen with the skills they need to make good choices. Spoiler: It's not about being the “fun” or “strict” parent—it's about fostering growth and connection. If you're tired of second-guessing yourself or feeling stuck in battles over freedom, let's tackle it together. Book a Peaceful Parenting Call today, and let's create a plan that works for your family. Your peace—and your teen's future—are worth it.

Does it feel like your teen has a knack for dodging responsibility? Whether they're blaming siblings, friends, or even you for their mistakes, it can leave you frustrated, concerned, and questioning if they'll ever learn accountability. The blame game can trigger fears about their future, making you wonder if you're raising someone who won't grow into a responsible adult. In this episode, we uncover why teens deflect responsibility and how parents can respond in ways that foster growth and emotional maturity. Learn actionable strategies to teach your teen the value of accountability without nagging, lecturing, or constant conflict. Need personalized support to handle this and other parenting challenges? Schedule a Peaceful Parenting Consult Call and gain the tools to parent with confidence and peace. Let's raise capable, accountable teens together—book your call now.

The holiday season is meant to bring joy, but for many families, it comes with its fair share of stress, strife, and unmet expectations. In this episode, we tackle the emotional and practical challenges of the season head-on. Discover helpful phrasing for navigating touchy conversations and how the timeless Christmas story can provide profound parenting lessons for modern families. Learn simple yet powerful tools to manage your expectations, reduce stress, and create meaningful, joyful moments—no matter the circumstances. We'll also reveal one top-tier strategy that has the power to transform your holiday experience and help you find joy, even in the most unpredictable of times. If you're ready to make this holiday season your most peaceful and fulfilling one yet, listen in and start creating memories you'll cherish. For more personalized guidance, book your Peaceful Parenting Call today. Joy is waiting—you just have to claim it! About my Guest: Amy Armstrong is a pioneer in the arena of conflict resolution for families, businesses, and schools. She founded of The Center for Family Resolution (CFR) in Columbus, Ohio, and uses coaching to break through entrenched polarization, power imbalances and divisiveness. Her vision expanded to coach education to inspire coaches everywhere to use their coach skills to make a huge impact for Good.  https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachamyarmstrong/   Tik Tok: amyarmstrongconflictfree   IG: amyarmstrong_conflict_free

It's gut-wrenching to watch your teen navigate friendships with kids who gossip, exclude, or treat them with passive-aggressive behavior. You're heartbroken and frustrated as you wonder why they continue to seek validation and connection from people who hurt them. Why can't they just walk away? In this episode, we dive into the complex emotions and dynamics behind toxic teenage friendships and how to support your child without overstepping. Learn strategies to help your teen build confidence, recognize their worth, and navigate these challenging relationships while staying true to themselves. If you've ever felt powerless watching your teen cling to mean friends, this episode offers the tools and insight you need to guide them toward healthier, more fulfilling connections. Tune in to understand the psychology behind teen friendships and how you can empower your child to make choices that align with their happiness and values. Key Takeaways: Why teens tolerate toxic behavior from friends and how to address it with empathy. Practical ways to help your child set boundaries while maintaining their social confidence. How to encourage self-worth and resilience so they can make healthier friendship choices. Don't miss this impactful conversation—it's the guidance every parent needs to navigate the murky waters of teenage friendships. And for effective efficiency in applying what you'll learn, please book a free Peaceful Parenting Strategy call to discuss your situation and how to streamline helping your teen HERE.

Is your teen stuck in a cycle of apathy, showing little motivation for school, hobbies, or life in general? This episode takes a deeper dive into what's going on beneath the surface and how you, as a parent, can help. Building on Episode 100, Apathetic Teens, this conversation explores deeper insights, new perspectives, and actionable strategies to address your teen's lack of drive. If apathy is a recurring challenge in your home, listening to both episodes will give you a comprehensive toolkit to support your teen effectively. For personalized support, don't forget to book your free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Session today! It's the perfect opportunity to learn how to tailor these strategies to your family. Ready for more support? Book your free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Session today and start creating positive change.

Every parent wants to feel more connected with their teen—sharing more, laughing together, and even enjoying those rare, peaceful silences. Connection and peace go hand-in-hand, and they're often at the top of every family's wish list. In today's episode, I'm sharing three simple yet powerful strategies to strengthen your bond with your teen. These easy-to-apply tips will help you create more connection and bring lasting peace to your home. Need help implementing what you learn or tackling deeper challenges? Book your free 30-minute Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call HERE and take the first step toward transforming your family dynamic.  

Feeling overwhelmed by the need to control your teen's grades, friends, and future? This episode is for you. Discover a simple 3-step process to let go of control and foster a loving, connected relationship with your teenager. In this episode, you'll learn: How to recognize if your need for control is damaging your relationship. The ripple effects of this control dynamic on your family. Practical strategies to create trust and connection instead. Want to fast-track peace in your parenting? Book a free Peaceful Parent Strategy Call and gain actionable insights to transform your home. It's 30 minutes that will change how you show up as a parent. Book your call HERE  

I hear it all the time with clients and friends: One parent is the liaison between the kids and their spouse. They soften the blow of bad news, buffer the emotions of struggle, keep their teens secrets from the other parent because they both fear that parent's reaction, and generally act as a go-between to help manage their partner's emotions.    This can feel necessary to keep the peace. This can feel like an act of betrayal. This can feel like a last ditch effort to support everyone as best you can, being the glue that holds. And usually it's a little of all of it with some resentment sprinkled on top because you don't want this role but have no idea how to shift it.  In today's episode I'll teach you: Why we do this How and when to stop this behavior What it is really creating To book a free Peaceful Parenting Strategy call with me, click HERE and book the best spent 30 minutes you can take as a parent.  

In Episode 241, "The Art (and Benefits) of Listening to Your Teenager," we dive deep into one of the most crucial, yet challenging, skills for parents: truly listening. You'll learn about the two types of listening that can make or break your connection with your teen and get a practical guide on the dos and don'ts to use when they open up. Whether you're struggling to understand their world or just want to build a stronger relationship, this episode is packed with tips to transform how you listen and connect with your teenager. Tune in to discover the real power of being heard and give your teen the gift of understanding. Ready to bring more peace into your parenting journey? Book a free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call with me, where we'll tackle your biggest family challenges and create a clear plan for a calmer, happier home. Let's work together to turn chaos into connection and stress into peace—starting now!

From Christmas gifts to college applications, choosing friends, picking classes, applying for jobs, finding roommates, how to respond to a text, and even what to wear on any given Tuesday—life is full of decisions that can feel overwhelming. Add in the mental drain of decision fatigue, and it's no wonder our teens (and even we) feel worn out by lunch! But what if regret over decisions could be a teachable moment for your teens? Imagine the confidence they could build in making choices that align with the life they want, and the relief that could bring to your household. Decision-making is a learnable skill, and in today's episode, I'm going to show you exactly how to help your teen master it. What You'll Learn: The hidden reason why decision-making is so difficult—and how to overcome it. Step-by-step strategies to guide your teen in making decisions they'll feel good about. How to handle it when the 'wrong decision' is made, and turn it into a growth opportunity. Want to go deeper and help your teen tackle life's big decisions with ease? Book a free 30-minute consultation with me, and together we'll work through your family's biggest challenges.

  Ever find yourself staring at your teen, wondering why they keep making choices that seem baffling? They may look like adults, but they're not acting like one. They struggle with impulse control, long-term planning, and prioritizing wisdom over their friend's opinion. In this episode, I'm diving into the science behind those head-scratching decisions and how you, as a parent, can stop spinning your wheels and start supporting them in the most helpful ways possible. We'll break down why they're wired to be influenced by their peers, can't see past tomorrow, are ruled by emotions, and—let's face it—think your advice is “outdated.” Knowing what's going on in their brains helps you guide them more effectively and allows them to learn from their own mistakes while keeping your sanity intact. In today's episode you'll learn: The 4 driving reasons your teen is making the choices they are What you can do to mentor and support them without going crazy Want more support navigating these parenting hurdles? Let's chat. Book a free consultation with me, and together we'll work to make your family dynamic stronger than ever.

We've all heard the word "objectify" in the context of sexualizing women, reducing them to something that exists to gratify others. But this same concept shows up in parenting more often than we realize. When we label our teens, we're unconsciously treating them as objects—means to an end for our own validation, appearance, or pride. In this sister episode to #144 episode, I explore how labeling our teens strips them of their individuality, dreams, and struggles, and how this egocentric mindset creates a toxic cycle in our homes.   It's easy to fall into this trap, expecting our teens to represent the family weel, soothe our wounds, and validate our parenting. But this comes at a great cost: the diminishing of our teens' humanity. Together, we'll unpack why this happens, how it affects our relationships, and most importantly, how to break the cycle for more genuine and respectful connections with our teens.   Key Takeaways: - How labeling teens objectifies them and harms their self-worth. - Recognizing the ego-based patterns that create this dynamic. - Steps to stop the cycle of objectification and foster a healthier parent-teen relationship.   Ready to make this shift and build a stronger connection with your teen? Book a consultation with me today, and let's dive deeper into transforming your family dynamics.  

In this episode, we dive deep into one of the most common struggles parents face—tying their self-worth to their teen's choices and behaviors. It's easy to feel like a "good" parent when things are going smoothly, but what happens when your teen starts acting out or making decisions you don't agree with? Does that make you a failure? Join me as we explore how to detach your self-esteem from your teen's actions and focus on your own emotional well-being. By letting go of the need to control every outcome, you can show up as a more confident, supportive parent while allowing your teen the space to grow, learn, and make their own decisions. In this episode, you'll learn: How tying your self-worth looks in real time, so that you can recognize how we all do this.  Why tying your self-worth to your teen's behavior is harmful to both you and your child. Practical steps to emotionally detach from your teen's choices without losing connection. How to feel like a successful parent, no matter what your teen is doing. Ways to maintain your emotional balance, even when your teen is struggling or rebelling. If you're ready to stop riding the emotional rollercoaster and create a more peaceful, fulfilling parenting experience, this episode is for you! Don't forget to grab my free resource to help navigate these challenges with ease: 30+ Phrases to Turn Any Argument Around—because every parent could use a little extra help in tough conversations! And if you want the fastest progress with the least amount of hang-ups and pain, grab a free 30 minute consultation with me where we'll discuss a custom strategy to get your relationships right where you want them Schedule HERE. 

Why won't your teen confide in you, give you a straight answer, or do anything more than grunt or nod? I know it can feel frustrating when you're trying to connect, and it just isn't happening. Short answer: They don't want to.   Long answer: They have a really good reason that's unique to them but not unique for human psychology. In this episode, I'm diving into the logical and predicatable ‘why' behind your teen's silence. From their perspective to common roadblocks we may unknowingly create, I'll break down what's going on and how you can start making shifts to open up communication again. In this episode, you'll learn: - The main reasons your teen pulls away and stops talking - How to spot (and remove) the communication barriers that keep them from opening up - Simple, effective ways to rebuild trust and get your teen talking without forcing it - The common mistakes parents make when trying to get their teens to talk—and how to avoid them. If you're done with the one-word answers and ready for real conversations, this episode is for you. Let's get to the heart of what's holding your teen back and take steps to bring connection back into your relationship. If you'd like the free "What to Say Instead Cheat Sheet" I mentioned in this episode, click HERE Want some extra help figuring out what's going on with your teen? Book a free 30-minute consultation with me, and we'll create a plan that works for your family. Book your call HERE.  

If you've been asking yourself, “Why won't my teen just go to bed?”—trust me, you're not alone! The nightly struggle over bedtime is real for so many parents. But here's the thing: it's not just about stubbornness or screen time. In this episode, we'll explore why teens naturally want to stay up late and what you can do to help them wind down and get the rest they need (without turning bedtime into a war zone). In this episode, you'll learn: The biological reasons why teens' bodies are wired to stay up later (it's science, not attitude). How stress and social pressures can be affecting their sleep schedule and what you can do about it. Simple, practical strategies to encourage better sleep habits—without constant nagging or frustration. How to talk about bedtime in a way that respects their autonomy but still helps them make healthier choices. Tired of the endless bedtime battles? Tune in and learn how to shift the dynamic, so both you and your teen can enjoy more peaceful nights. And if you want some extra support on this or other parenting challenges, let's chat! Book a free 30-minute consultation with me, and we'll create a personalized plan to get you and your teen back on track. Book your call HERE.  

Ever wonder what sets the most successful teens apart? It's not luck or perfect behavior—it's the way their parents show up! In this episode, I'll share four key things that parents of thriving teens do consistently to build strong, healthy relationships and help their teens grow into confident, resilient adults. The best part? You can start implementing these strategies today, no matter where you're at in your parenting journey! In this episode, you'll learn: How to create quality communication that strengthens your connection and trust with your teen. Why it's crucial to release your own expectations and dreams and let your teen follow their unique path. The game-changing impact of unconditional love and how it sets the foundation for your teen's emotional security. How to view mistakes as learning opportunities, so you can encourage growth instead of getting stuck in frustration. By doing these four things, you'll not only help your teen succeed, you'll also feel more at peace  and happy in your role as a parent. If you want personalized support on how to make these shifts, let's talk! Book a free 30-minute consultation with me, and we'll dive into your specific situation to create a strategy that works for your family. Book your call HERE.  

Feeling like your teen "hates" you? You're not alone. One of the most frequently Googled questions by parents is: Why does my teenager hate me? From eye rolls to harsh words, lies, and disrespect, it can seem like your teen is constantly at odds with you—and even their siblings. But why do teens sometimes act so mean, and how can parents respond in a way that fosters love, respect, and kindness? In today's episode, we break down the reasons behind your teen's behavior and provide actionable strategies to rebuild a more loving and harmonious relationship. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why Your Teen “Hates” You: Common reasons within your control, stemming from your actions, reactions, or unspoken expectations. Your Teen's Perspective: What's going on in their mind that makes them act out, and why it often has nothing to do with you. How to Respond with Love: Practical ways to address negative behavior and guide your teen towards kindness and mutual respect. Actionable Steps You'll Walk Away With: Identify Root Causes: Determine whether your teen's frustrations are linked to something within your control or their own internal struggles. Shift the Dynamic: Learn how to stop the cycle of disrespect and frustration with specific communication strategies. Create a Positive Home Environment: Implement proven techniques to transform conflict into connection and restore a sense of harmony in your household. Ready to take immediate, effective action? Book a FREE 30-minute consultation where we'll address your specific situation and create a personalized roadmap to improve your relationship with your teen. Click here to book your call. Would you like the free PDF “Cheatsheet” with over 30+ responses and questions to turn every potential argument into a connected interaction that can better your relationship? Click HERE and it's yours. xoxo  

Today we delve into a difficult yet essential topic: Why do teens cut? Self-harm can be a frightening and confusing issue for parents, but understanding the underlying reasons is key to offering the most helpful support. This episode will explore the emotional and psychological triggers that lead teens to cut, shedding light on the often hidden pain behind their actions. In this episode you'll learn: A  better understanding of their reasons and how it makes sense to them. (It's not to manipulate or seek attention.)  Practical strategies for approaching this sensitive subject with your teen. How to foster open communication when emotions are so difficult, to best provide the help they need to heal.  How to create a supportive environment that promotes your teen's emotional well-being. Confidence that you haven't failed and your teens future isn't doomed. If you're dealing with self harm in your home, both you and your teen need support. To schedule a free consultation, click HERE and we can discuss how you can best help your child and if I'm a good fit to be part of your professional support team.  

In this episode of Pivot Parenting, we tackle a tough but crucial question: Why do teens do drugs? You might think there are countless reasons, but it all boils down to one clear core reason. By understanding this reason, you'll gain clarity on your teen's behavior and learn how to better address substance use with empathy and effectiveness. Join me as I reveal powerful parenting techniques to support your teen without pushing them away, offering the tools you need to build a stronger relationship and guide them towards healthier choices. Don't miss this essential episode for parents looking to understand and help their teens in the face of substance challenges. What You'll learn in this episode:   Why teens use substances: there is only one reason, and when you know it you can better understand the situation for greater peace and clarity amidst the storm. How parents can best help their teens struggling with substance abuse. (And what isn't helpful.)   To book a free call and troubleshoot your specific situation, click HERE. In 30 minutes you'll walk away knowing your next best step and the exact process to get you to your parenting and family goals. xoxo  

In this episode, I'm diving into the five common misunderstandings about trust that can trap parents and harm their relationships with their teens. Trust is a big issue, especially when teens engage in risky behaviors like lying, sneaking out, using substances, and other reckless actions. But what if we're looking at trust all wrong? Here's what we'll cover: Why teens break our trust: Understanding the reasons behind lies, sneaking, and other unwanted behaviors. What trust really is (and isn't): Clarifying misconceptions about trust in parenting. What builds trust and what breaks it: Key actions that can either strengthen or damage your relationship. Why trust and love are separate—and why this is great news: How separating trust from love can change your perspective and improve all of your parenting interactions. How trust isn't necessary to parent well: Discover why trust isn't the foundation of effective parenting you might think, and what to focus on instead for best results. Join me as we unpack these points and learn how to navigate trust issues with confidence, keeping your relationship with your teen strong and resilient.  

In this high-value episode of Pivot Parenting, we explore the concept of "Pick Me" parenting and its impact on your relationship with your teen. Are you unknowingly seeking your teen's approval by trying to be the "cool parent" or competing for their attention? While it might seem like a way to connect, this approach can lead to common parenting pitfalls and undermine your authority. Join host, Heather Frazier as she uncovers the signs of "Pick Me" parenting and offers practical strategies to avoid it. Learn how to set clear boundaries, maintain your parental authority, and build genuine respect with your teen. Discover effective communication techniques and parenting strategies to foster a healthy, balanced relationship. We'll explore how these dynamics play out, the long-term impact on both you and your teen, and provide actionable strategies to shift from approval-seeking to fostering a truly connected relationship. Learn how to stop seeking validation from your child and start building a bond based on mutual respect and understanding. Don't let the need to be liked get in the way of being the parent your teen truly needs. What you'll learn in this episode: How to identify harmful parenting habits of seeking validation from your kids Recognize the harm these habits are causing Learn what to do instead to have an authentic, healthy relationship with your teen To implement what you learn with more efficiency and effectiveness, book a free 30 minute consultation HERE  and we can discuss your situation and your next best step in building the relationship you want with them. xoxo  

In this episode of Pivot Parenting, we tackle the pervasive "always right" parenting trap. Are you finding yourself interrupting, being impatient, and insisting on things being done your way? Do you feel judged while also judging others, struggle to understand your teen, or face challenges with authentic engagement from your kids and spouse? The need to always "be right" can disrupt your happiness and hinder your ability to connect with your kids and partner. It's a common issue, yet many don't realize how their need to be right negatively affects their family dynamics. It creates angry, apathetic and stubbornly silent teens. It promotes lying and arguing. It kills necessary vulnerability to connect on more than a surface level, and keeps the “right” parent on everyone's “wrong” side.  In today's episode, I delve into: Understanding "Always Right" Parenting: What it truly means and why it's problematic. Identifying the Signs: How to recognize "always right" behaviors in yourself. (this doesn't make you bad or wrong, just human like the rest of us) Effective Solutions: Practical steps to overcome this mindset and improve your relationships.  Gain REAL control: No more nagging and micromanaging your teens to feel good. We both know they don't like to play along. I'll show you control in the best way that you and your family will love.  By mastering these key points, you can foster more peace and fun within your family. Be prepared to discover surprising insights that could transform your parenting approach and enhance your family's well-being. To book a free 30 minute call with me where we discover your next best parenting move, book at heatherfrazier.com  

Divorce is a common pain point for many parents. It can feel like your life is out of your control, your kids are suffering, and everything is turned upside down. Divorce expert, Karin Nelson and I will discuss  the guilt portion of that today. Whether you're divorced, in the process, or are happily married, you'll get valuable info from the conversation. We cover being unable to protect your kids from harmful parents, blaming yourself for their suffering, if you made the right decision, "broken home" sigmas, and sneaky, unseen ways that guilt plays out that you probably aren't even aware of but it's negatively impacting your family.  To book a free 30 minute call with me, come to Heatherfrazier.com About my guest: Karin Nelson is a mom, a Taylor Swift enthusiast, and a trauma-informed divorce grief specialist, that specializes in helping women move through the grief and pain of their divorce by reconnecting with themselves, create lasting emotional resilience and stepping into their power as an independent woman to live a life even better than when they were married. You can find out more about Karin and the work she does through her podcast ‘Becoming You Again'. Here are the links you can find Karin at: Website Becoming You Again Podcast Instagram  

You'd think they're kept top secret… but nobody is gatekeeping the ways parents of teens sabotage connection without ever knowing it. In today's episode of Pivot Parenting, I outline the three most effective parenting tips for improving family relationships. We'll overcome regret, discuss how to build connection with your teen, and find parenting peace. You've never met parenting solutions more effective and simple to implement before. The often unseen mistakes parents make that we'll discuss are the key to reversing disappointment and heartache, even if mental health issues, discipline struggles, or undesired behavior issues are at play. Teens are wonderful and fun. They just need a very specific approach to bring out their best and forge bonds that are unbreakable.  In this episode: -You'll gain actionable tips for effective teen discipline, improving communication, and building trust. -You'll understand 3 hidden mistakes for more clarity and confidence in your role as a parent. -You'll know simple and clear ways to stop behaviors you don't want happening any more. -Fear will dissipate and you'll gain peace around your teens future. -You'll know how to best approach any situation with control of your emotions and love for all. -You'll feel so confident that regret and disappointment will be a thing of the past.    And... Is your specific family situation stressing you out? I would love to help you with your struggles ASAP. I'll give you peace of mind and your next best step to resolve the issue. Book your free 30 minute strategy call at heatherfrazier.com   Peace of mind is 30 minutes away, my friend. xoxo

Julia is worn out from meeting the emotional and physical needs of her kids and even her husband. She feels lonely and sad becuase her husband is so unavailable and parents in such a "black and white" manner, that there is little room for understanding and connection. Listen in as she's coached to discover what's holding her back from having the parenting relationship she wants- it's not what you might guess it is.  Being able to be on the same page as coparents can be a struggle, and I often coach on it. Once you see things clearly, how to bridge the gap becomes clear.  To learn more about parenting your teen and joining "drop-in" coaching, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Paul and his wife have 3 kids. Their middle child is playing too much Fortnite and it's not going well... Tech is a huge issue for most parents, and with good reason. You've got a teen brain that loves the high which games provide and parents who want their kids to see the wisdom in playing less, while feeling good about it all.  In this episode we discuss how parents that want their teens to like them are disempowering themselves and not helping their teen as well as they could. Paul needs to mange his "worry freeze" and the need for a teenager to agree with him. Listen in to hear how it all plays out.  To learn more about parenting your teen and join "drop-in" coaching, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Kat is experiencing a very common parenting struggle: She wants to keep her daughter happy.  And so she apologizes when she's not done anything wrong, does more than she wants to to keep the house running, and generally walks on eggshells to manage a 13 yr olds emotions. As you can imagine, she isn't very successful at this, because we've all been in her shoes.  "Fix it" energy feels like the solution to a grumpy teen but is often fuel to the fire. Listen in as we discover what the real cure to a grumpy teen is and how much relief it can provide to you, right now. (And no, it's not getting a new mom. You and Kat are the perfect parents for your teens.) To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

In today's Pivot Parenting episode I coach Madeleine. She has two daughters that fight and she just wants it to stop. We all get this- and we are often times in the same trap that she's in. Listen to learn how she can find the peace of mind she wants even though nothing has worked to stop them from arguing. There is more that can be done than either joining in the argument or withdrawing altogether.  To learn more about parenting and get your copy of, How I Fixed My Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

This episode of Pivot Parenting is dedicated to that parent who is second guessing all of their life decisions: Marriage, career, having all the kids, giving their whole life to something and someone all for nothing.  Having teens who act like they don't care, a partner who never appreciates us, a career that isn't what we'd thought, and a list of to-do's that breeds overnight with no help in site can drive anyone to wishing for another path.... many, many decisions ago.  If you're in the middle of a "throw my hands up and quit" kinda moment, you're not alone (I see lots of clients in this predicament) and this one's for you. xoxo To book a free 30 minute strategy call with me or get my best selling book, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

All talk (or complain) and nothing changes. We might get louder, we might be more miserable and frustrated, but the teens are still teening and the parents are still parenting... as the months pass but the unbearable moments we want to avoid are just on repeat.  WHY!? It can be maddening when you don't understand the reason behind the chaos. Listen in, because I'm going to make sense of the madness and then explain what actually fixes the issue so that when you see something that needs improvement, you're all set.  (Spoiler: It's only a couple of steps and they aren't what you think.) For a free 30 minute "best next step" conversation about your situation, book at HeatherFrazier.com

Mental health is on the forefront of most parents brains. Anxiety being a frontrunner. Did you know that negative self-talk plays into anxiety and other mental health struggles? Listen in as Monica and I discuss: 1- What role self-awareness plays in managing anxiety, and how to help teens develop this skill. 2- Common negative self-talk patterns among teens and how these patterns contribute to their anxiety. 3- What strategies are recommended for parents to help their teens become more aware of and challenge their negative self-talk. 4- Positive changes can parents expect to see as teens improve their inner dialogue. 5- Practical tips and strategies parents can engage with to foster a positive and supportive environment at home. To learn more about parenting your teen and to grab a strategy call with me, visit heatherfrazier.com About my guest:  Monica is a Certified Life & Wellness Coach who helps teens overcome feelings of overwhelm and anxiety that interfere with their daily life. Whether they're drowning in schoolwork, having difficulty overcoming a break-up or are unsure of their career path, Monica ensures teens receive the support they need to create visionary change. Drawing from her personal journey, she understands the crippling effects of anxiety and the overwhelming challenges it presents. Motivated by her desire to break free from this mindset, she has utilized her educational background and ongoing self-growth journey to acquire a wealth of tools and resources, to support teens in navigating and alleviating the stressors of anxiety.  Social Media Links -  IG - @__consciouscoach Website - www.consciouscoach.biz Email - monica@consciouscoach.biz 

We all want the instant solution, "magic wand" kind of get-what-I-want-quick resolution. Parents try to come at this in so many directions... perhaps you've tried a few? Coulda, woulda, shoulda: "If I had known", "if I had said that differently", "if they hadn't been dating that person", "if their dad wouldn't have lost his temper... THEN we wouldn't be here." That's the "magic wand" we missed out on perspective.  Be everywhere, know everything, do all the things right: This one feels ultra productive, in control, and frenzied! We run around, chasing fires and putting them out, until we realize that we can't be/do/know everything and our pipe dream comes to an abrupt end that leaves us exhausted with very little to show except an angry teen. This is the, after all I've done, I deserve a "magic wand" approach.  Bookworm approach: Read books, listen to podcasts, learn, learn, learn and nothing seems to provide the big shift that's so desperately needed. It can feel like so much knowledge is gained but there's not much to show for it, kinda "magic wand". Avoid approach: We blame someone like our spouse, their friends or even our kid. We stay busy, hoping that the issue will take care of itself. We might talk about it, but can't think of any step to take towards resolution. This is the "too confused, burnt out, and busy to deal" kind of "magic wand". We simply hope it will disappear with time.  These are only a few examples of ineffective "magic wands" that parents wave around, hoping to feel better, ease the household tension, and help their kid feel happy and respond more favorably to them. If you've tried any, you know that they don't work so well. Listen in to this week's Pivot Parenting episode to learn why they don't work and what to do instead. To grab a free strategy call with me, please visit me at Heatherfrazier.com