Sex With My Ex

TRIGGER WARNING: Domestic violence, suicide. This week Kitty opened up the space for an important topic in her share from the What's Hot and What's Not Hot segment. She spoke into emotional abuse in a relationship dynamic when the woman is the perpetrator. It is a major issue in our society with so many men being on the receiving end of bullying, harassment, threats and manipulation by their female partners. Many studies now show that women have the same likelihood (some state even more) to be the perpetrator of domestic violence.Raising awareness, for ALL areas that drastic change is needed, is something Kitty and Johnson are both passionate about. They hope that by speaking into important topics, such as these, it encourages others to reach out to friends, seek the support they may need or realise that they are not alone in their struggles. If you, or someone you know, is in a relationship where domestic abuse is present please seek some external help. This week's episode is focused on the difference between “Spontaneous” and “Responsive” desire. We dive into these two desire styles and how they can appear in you, as well as your partner/s. This also correlates a lot with Emily Nagoski's findings in her book, Come As You Are, about the different accelerators and brakes that people can have sexually.Understanding more about how the environment, stress, sensory factors etc. can impact one person in a different way to another is so helpful to know!We continue the theme of listener shout outs this week (go check out Shaz and the awesome mission she is on here in New Zealand to raise awareness and money for mental health) and love getting your feedback. Keep it coming! And speaking of cumming… Kitty is still waiting for that mid-sex voice message! Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. If you are interested in either then get in touch either via email or DM. Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcome. Subscribe here!MENTIONED IN THE SHOWCome As You Are by Emily Nagoski “Understanding 'Spontaneous' and 'Responsive' Desire Can Help You Have More Sex” by Gigi Engle : Gigi Engle's Instagram Shaz's InstagramWHERE TO FIND USOur LinksPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast! Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. Well, well. This is a particularly yummy episode.Now that the SWME crew have got their head back into the podcast game it feels exciting and sexy and comforting to be back into it. The “What's Hot and What's Not?” section in itself when Kitty drops one word (without explanation) for her “What's Hot?”…That word being BRUCE.Who in the heck is Bruce you might be wondering?Well our Kitty tells us all about Bruce during this week's topic- Non-penetrative intimacy.Aptly named by Bruce himself as “Body Shakes and Slippery Snakes.” Hear all about Johnson and Kitty's favourite expressions of intimacy that do not involve penetration and why they love them so much.This episode is such a great reminder of how amazing connection and touch can be outside of society's standard idea of sex. Our hosts encourage you to get creative, bring more presence and intention into intimacy and witness as it becomes even more magic. Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. If you are interested in either then get in touch!The link for tickets to upcoming events is found below. Come and join our community - Everyone is welcome! Subscribe here!WHERE TO FIND USOur LinksPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast! KITTY AND JOHNSON ARE MOTHER TRUCKING BACK BABY!!Gosh it has been a hot minute since the last episode.The SWME duo have had some mammoth life events that have needed looking after. They share some of this during this episode and extend an extremely heartfelt thank you to all of you listeners who have reached out and checked in on them during this time.Johnson is officially back in the country and the podcast is back in full swing. With some changes (Johnson may have landed his DREEEEEAAAAM JOB) the episodes will be coming out later in the week. Kitty and Johnson are VERY excited to be back spreading the conversations, laughs and endless awkward moments. They have some amazing guests lined up over the next few weeks.This week they dove into a fun topic all about… places outside of the bedroom to have sex.You get to hear some top tips from Johnson about beach sex and find out what happened when Kitty was engaged in some adult fun in the bathroom while everyone was at her house.Got a sexy (outside the bedroom) story?? Send us a message, or better yet use the voice record option on the website and share all the juiciness. Your usual fun SWME segments are back (although Kitty and Johnson had to get used to running the podcast again!). This week Kitty may just have hit the jackpot and FINALLY guessed Sexy Suzy's name. Maybe! You'll have to listen in and find out. Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. If you are interested in either then get in touch!The link for tickets to upcoming events is found below. Come and join our community - Everyone is welcome! Subscribe here!STUFF WE MENTIONEDSUPPORTUSA- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255 UK- CALM helpline: 0800 58 58 58 Canada- Suicide Prevention Service: 1-833-456-4566 Australia- Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467 New Zealand- Lifeline 24/7 Helpline: 0800 543 354 India- Sneha India 24/7 helpline: 91 44 24640050 South Africa- Lifeline National Counselling Line: 0861-322-322 WHERE TO FIND USOur LinksPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

TRIGGER WARNING: Depression, mental illness, suicide, drug addiction, child abuse, abuse. Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast! This week's episode starts off with a “What's Hot and What's Not?” segment that is all kinds of ridiculous and all kinds of steamy. Johnson and Kitty talk about the most highly recommended spread for your toast, an aggravating baby blue Aston Martin, unexpected body hair growth and Kitty gets slightly carried away when describing a delicious recent sexcapade. THEN…gosh, this is one of those episodes that really hits you in the heart.Kitty had no idea Johnson was throwing that hot sauce on her.And, boy, did he douse it goooood. Real good. He sauced her up so much there are still remnants of sticky, spicy sauce on the walls. This week our special guest is the one and only ever-purring Kitty. He asks the realest of questions and, in true SWME podcast fashion, Kitty shows up completely. She gives incredibly honest answers about her upbringing, her struggles with mental health and self-worth. Johnson asks about her insight into shame, liberation, connection and overcoming major life challenges. We hear about how Kitty was exposed to abuse, mental illness and addiction at an early age and spent many years battling extremely low self-worth and self-esteem issues. As a teenager and young adult she struggled with suicidal thoughts and was in and out of depression.After her second baby she was also diagnosed with pre and post-natal depression and was supported to identify post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms from living in a home with family violence as a teenager. We really get to know Kitty and see why she is so passionate about the work she does now- as part of the podcast and business she runs with Johnson, as well as in her holistic wellness business and youth work. She shares with us some helpful pieces of advice, from her own lived experience, and also from now being in a space where she supports clients in their holistic wellness. For this episode we invite you to open your hearts and take parts of what Kitty shares to integrate into your own life.We all have had struggles at some point in our lives and it is a core value with SWME to create safe spaces where everybody is welcomed and free to be themselves. If you are mentally battling right now then this is your reminder that you are not alone. There is a list of support contact details below. Please reach out and seek safety with a trusted person in your life or get in touch with Kitty and Johnson. The episode is wrapped up with another great round of “Just Quiz on My Face”, as well as some yummy listener feedback. Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. If you are interested in either then get in touch!The link for tickets to upcoming events is found below. Come and join our community - Everyone is welcome! Subscribe here!STUFF WE MENTIONEDIn-Person WorkshopsYou Are A Badass by Jen SinceroSUPPORTUSA- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255 UK- CALM helpline: 0800 58 58 58 Canada- Suicide Prevention Service: 1-833-456-4566 Australia- Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467 New Zealand- Lifeline 24/7 Helpline: 0800 543 354 India- Sneha India 24/7 helpline: 91 44 24640050 South Africa- Lifeline National Counselling Line: 0861-322-322 WHERE TO FIND USOur LinksPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast!Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. This week Kitty & Johnson are joined by the extremely intelligent and gorgeous Dr. Aditi Paul who is a mixed-methods researcher, professor and author based in New York City.She uses her multi-disciplinary background in computer science and communication studies to examine the impact of using human-centred technologies like social networking sites and online dating services.Aditi's research has been published in top academic journals and has been featured in prominent media outlets such as The Washington Post, Women's Health, The Telegraph UK, Huffington Post and NBCNews.“What's Hot and What's Not?” features saucy NY City weather and those tight, tight man shorts as well as videos of Kitty's butt fitting into her tight, tight shorts. We all share our love for post-orgasm cuddles and Aditi talks about her 5 minute whirlwind experience of Feeld.Johnson's What's Not Hot is… penis shaming and we are getting right up on board that train. Let's go ahead and say ALL body shaming of ALL genders is a big NOT HOT from us in the SWME podcast family.To kick-off the whole conversation about the hook-up culture Johnson tells an incredibly confusing and hilarious story about his awkward first experience of hooking up when he was 12.Aditi shares some fascinating data that she has collected through her research. Even the way we talk about “hooking up” (as in engaging in some type of sexual act) differentiates between genders, with female-identifying using much more generalised language and male-identifying using explicit descriptions in conversation.As part of Aditi's study she looked at the indicators of sexual assault and how individual's identified acts within their own personal experiences. She was surprised to find that 1 in 4 males stated that they had been touched inappropriately without consent by an intimate partner and even more surprised to find that the majority of the time this is not being identified as sexual assault.Johnson speaks about the transition that a lot of us go through from conquest mode to more consciousness around intimacy. In her research with Gen X individuals one of the major differences Aditi found was how much more openly and curiously this generation is exploring their sexual orientation. There are a huge percentage (more than ever before) who are identifying outside of being straight. Their awareness of sexuality and ability to access more information about it is a lot more vast and varied.The theme for just Quiz on My Face is… animal sex. Aditi jumps on in and guesses alongside Kitty.Our gorgeous friend Kelly Gordon from Hot Octopuss pops in to help to announce the winners from our competition!Dr. Aditi gives possibly the best answer ever when Kitty asks her what message she would love to leave behind… “Just fu*k shit up. As fast as you can. As badly as you can. As maniacally as you can. Just run yourself to the absolute motherfu*king ground and then build yourself up from there because that's how you know yourself.”Enjoy! Outside of the SWME podcast Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. If you are interested in either then get in touch either via email or DM. The link for tickets to our upcoming event is found below. Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcome! Subscribe here!STUFF WE MENTIONEDIn-Person WorkshopsHot Octopuss ToysFollow Hot Octopuss on InstagramCONNECT WITH DR. ADITIWebsite FacebookTwitterInstagramBook - "The Current Collegiate Hookup Culture: Dating Apps, Hookup Scripts, and Sexual Outcomes,"WHERE TO FIND USOur Website InstagramTwitterFacebookPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast!Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. Holy guacamole Batman!Johnson starts off the episode with a banger for “What's Hot?” as he shares a recent sexcapade from an evening at a swingers club. He definitely sets you up with some lovely, yummy visuals as he describes his antics.This week Kitty & Johnson talk about… jealousy. And also about compersion which is essentially the word to describe the feelings of joy, excitement and bliss for someone else.They share their views on where jealousy comes from, how to recognise it and ways to manage these feelings and communicate them if in partnership.Within this discussion they share personal experiences of having both jealousy and compersion and where they believe the feelings stemmed from.The message around mindfulness is so prominent within this topic because the better you feel about yourself the less you are going to compare yourself to others or worry about your loved one being unfaithful. The other recurring theme is the importance of honest, open, heart-led communication. With yourself and also with your partner if you are in a relationship. Having well established values, boundaries and expectations is essential if there is a desire to reduce feelings of insecurity of jealousy.Johnson shares some interesting data that states that men and women both experience jealousy but it shows up differently. In men it most commonly shows up as sexual jealousy, and for women it tends to be emotional jealousy. Kitty & Johnson speak about their own past experiences of how jealousy manifested and how it impacted them emotionally, physically and mentally. And also how so many external factors (especially if left unaddressed in partnership) can impact our perception and lead to feelings of resentment, unworthiness and division. There is a real emphasis on having raw, open, sometimes slightly uncomfortable conversations with your partner, new potential partner, friend with benefits (and everything in between). The more that is spoken about in a respectful space, the more you can avoid miscommunication, assumption and disappointment. Johnson opens up the conversation around privacy and partners checking one another's phone, email, social media etc.As promised this week's theme for “Just Quiz on My Face.” Is… SEXY SUPERHEROES. Our gorgeous friend Kelly Gordon from Hot Octopuss jumps into the episode to tell us all about the amazing sex toy brand she works for who are wonderful advocates for inclusivity, as well as having the most incredible high tech toys. One of which is the Plex which is up for grabs with our competition.We share some more of your sexy pickup lines and some from the Hot Octopuss crew.Don't forget to enter!! It closes at 6am (NZST) on Saturday the 20th of August.Head on over to the website and leave your BEST pickup lines as a voice message. As well as heading on over to Instagram to follow us AS WELL AS Hot Octopuss. You do not want to miss out of this prize. The toy that's up for grabs is YUM. All gender and sexual orientation inclusive. P.S. You can enter as many times as you like! Enjoy! Outside of the SWME podcast Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. If you are interested in either then get in touch either via email or DM. The link for tickets to our upcoming event is found below. Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcome! Subscribe here!STUFF WE MENTIONEDIn-Person WorkshopsHot Octopuss ToysFollow Hot Octopuss on InstagramWHERE TO FIND USOur Website InstagramTwitterFacebookPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast!Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. Well, well. Here we are 20 episodes into this juicy podcast journey and this week we chat all about what it is to be SEX-POSITIVE.We are super proud of our co-host Kitty this week as she shares her “What's Hot”. She has just had an interview released by a local TV production who have put together a project advocating for sexual wellness. She is part of a small group of practitioners within the sexuality space that have shared their messages to help normalise these conversations and offer support and guidance to those who need it. Johnson & Kitty speak into the history of this sex positive movement we are all balls DEEP in and describe how being sex-positive is a mind-set. It is a way of living that recognises and appreciates all people as sexual beings. It is an attitude that is free from judgement towards yourself or others and that breaks down the stigma around sexuality in society.Being sex-positive isn't about ticking off items on a bucket list (although it may be part of it) but it is more about being authentically yourself and accepting others as they are too. Whether you are obsessed with vanilla sex, asexual or into BDSM- it makes no difference. As long as you are choosing your truth and explorations for the right reasons.Kitty & Johnson recognise each and every one of the SWME podcast listeners as part of this sex-positive culture which is much needed in society. They believe there has been too much shame for too long in this space which has had a devastating impact on so many people.Johnson also shares some information that hasn't been public knowledge - UNTIL NOW! in the hope that it might help others out there on their journey.Johnson brings in a theme for this week's “Just Quiz on My Face” segment as he asks Kitty three Shibari themed questions. Do you think her recent experiences of being a rope bunny have paid off or does Johnson catch her out? Don't forget to enter our competition!! Head on over to the website and leave your BEST pickup lines as a voice message. As well as heading on over to Instagram to follow us AS WELL AS Hot Octopuss. We share a couple of our AMAZING entries so far!!! You do not want to miss out of this prize. The toy that's up for grabs is YUM. All gender and sexual orientation inclusive. P.S. You can enter as many times as you like! Enjoy! Outside of the SWME podcast Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. If you are interested in either then get in touch either via email or DM. The link for tickets to our upcoming event is found below. Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcome! Subscribe here!STUFF WE MENTIONEDIn-Person WorkshopsHot Octopuss ToysFollow Hot Octopuss on InstagramBarbara CarrellasGigi EngleJordana Ezra - The Queer Sex CoachWHERE TO FIND USOur Website InstagramTwitterFacebookPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast!Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. Well after all of that talk of pickle licking we thought it was about time we got our tongues into it. This week is ALL ABOUT ORAL. Mouths, mouths, mouths everywhere. Inside, outside, around, up and down. HEADS UP: Johnson's WHAT'S HOT is steaming. It is frothing. You better have those squirt blankets out ready because it is nearly as hot as Kitty's ass. The penis owner (Johnson) asks the vulva owner (Kitty) some questions he has always wanted to. They talk pubic hair, girth, lock jaw, different erogenous zones…As well as finding out whether Kitty spits or swallows. And when the conversation is reversed Johnson speaks into the beauty and deliciousness in the uniqueness of each vulva. They give some top tips and ideas to try out at home (if you're not already!).Your co-hosts share some truly outrageous personal stories from giving and receiving oral sex that are sure to get you all fired up.Johnson gives a wee taster (haha) to some of the urban tantra style practices they teach in their in person workshops that have to do with oral sex. “Just Quiz on My Face” has definitely settled in as a regular segment on the show as Johnson hits Kitty with some HARD and FAST sex related questions. A new competition is announced!! Head on over to the website and leave your BEST pickup lines as a voice message. As well as heading on over to Instagram to follow us AS WELL AS Hot Octopuss.You do not want to miss out of this prize. The toy that's up for grabs is YUM. All gender and sexual orientation inclusive. P.S. You can enter as many times as you like! Enjoy! Outside of the SWME podcast Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. If you are interested in either then get in touch either via email or DM. The link for tickets to our upcoming event is found below. Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcome! Subscribe here!STUFF WE MENTIONEDIn-Person WorkshopsHot Octopuss ToysFollow Hot Octopuss on InstagramEp.007 - Johnson's Jellymaker With (Not For) Kelly GordonSalted Caramel Flavoured LubeWHERE TO FIND USOur Website InstagramTwitterFacebookPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast!Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. Ahhh the joys of online dating… People in and outside of relationships want to know… Does it actually work?After some recent convos Kitty had with her married and single friends, where they were ALL intrigued by modern day dating she thought it would be a fun topic to dive into.So…How do you get the most out of the apps? What to do/not to do? What should your bio include? How do you fit non-monogamy into it all? What kind of etiquette is involved?Kitty & Johnson answer some of these questions and also have some good old belly laughs at some of their own experiences.Find out what happened when Johnson let Kitty update his Tinder bio (you can already imagine!). Kitty & Johnson hit some real life dating apps for the best, and worst, pickup lines and profiles.AND, after such great feedback from last week's episode, Johnson launches a brand new segment into the show. Which definitely has the BEST NAME yet and (you know it) a darn good jingle to go with it.A new competition is announced!! Head on over to the website and leave your BEST pickup lines as a voice message to enter.P.S. You can enter as many times as you like! Enjoy! Outside of the SWME podcast Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. If you are interested in either then get in touch either via email or DM. The link for tickets to our upcoming event is found below. Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcome! Subscribe here!STUFF WE MENTIONEDIn-Person WorkshopsHot Octopuss ToysAlya Jade MusicAlya Jade - InstagramWHERE TO FIND USOur Website InstagramTwitterFacebookPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast!Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. The theme for this week's episode is…“Fact or Fuckery”. Kitty and Johnson went searching to find the most ridiculous sex facts AND sex myths and put each other to the test. Get ready for a tonne of bizarre, intriguing and surprising conversations as they break down some common misconceptions and shock you with a facts about ferrets and the truth behind chocolate.Kitty adds in a fun element to the episode for the listeners and Johnson plays his best poker face to try and catch Kitty out. Have you ever wondered if semen flavour is actually influenced by pineapples?What is the record for the amount of orgasms a woman has had in an hour?Which country is the most sexually satisfied? Which is the least? This episode is guaranteed to bring the laughs with the classic Kitty and Johnson banter mixed in with some education and, as always, some naughty stories shared for this delicious community of perverts. Enjoy! Outside of the SWME podcast Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. If you are interested in either then get in touch either via email or DM. Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcome! Subscribe here!STUFF WE MENTIONEDAlya Jade MusicAlya Jade - InstagramEmbrace Wand ToyWHERE TO FIND USOur Website InstagramTwitterFacebookPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast!Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. Strap in (with your strap on) and brace yourselves for an absolute joy ride with Kitty and Johnson this week. Something bizarre and brilliant and bonkers and beautiful happens when your co-hosts are left on their own. This week they dive into The Five Love Languages based on the book by Gary Chapman in 1992. They give a run-down of each of them, try to guess one another's and explain the importance of love languages in intimacy and connection. They talk about how valuable it is to be able to not only recognise how you give and receive love but also how your loved ones do as well. Understanding more about this allows for better appreciation, understanding and communication in relationships. If you haven't already they invite you to take the quiz to find out what your top love languages are and if you are in partnership for them to do the same. Kitty & Johnson also share parts of a conversation they have been having with one of the listeners which gives some great insight and advice into practically implementing some non-monogamy elements into partnership. Johnson gives out some great tips for anyone new in the swinging world or a couple looking at adding in an extra person into their sexual life. Outside of the SWME podcast Kitty & Johnson are now offering online coaching and in person workshops in their new business. If you are interested in either then get in touch either via email or DM. Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcome! Subscribe here!STUFF WE MENTIONEDThe Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary ChapmanDiscover Your Love Language QuizWHERE TO FIND USOur Website InstagramTwitterFacebookPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast!Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. This week your hosts are joined by the divine duo - Master Arcane and slave Daphne. With decades of being in the world of Dominance and submission they wonderfully articulate the poetry and beauty that resides within this space. The space of BDSM is so often misunderstood and these two guests do a great job of breaking down some common inaccurate beliefs, as well as share powerful insights into their own learning.Even if you are not particularly drawn into this intimacy dynamic for yourself this episode will still offer SO much education and give you tips and tricks for your own exploration of your sexuality.There has been a lot of excitement leading up to this recording, particularly for Johnson as Master Arcane has been a huge influence on his experiences, and particular style of D/s. Arcane and Daphne currently reside in Southern California and travel internationally sharing their teachings from The Crow Academy. They have even spent time living down on the bottom of the world in New Zealand, where Kitty & Johnson live.The chemistry between these two guests is evident very soon into the interview. They have been together for 7 beautiful years and share so much love for one another.They believe that deep respect and trust for one another is absolutely essential, as is a dedication to personal evolution. They both advocate hugely for consent and communication within the BDSM scene and give brilliant insight into the aspects of D/s that EVERYONE can benefit from. Johnson shares a profound and potent short story that he has given to new submissives which gives an eloquent analogy of the relationship. It speaks into the connection and flow between the two involved in the dynamic. His learnings have been influenced by the romantic and erotic style described in The Crow Academy. Master Arcane and slave Daphne carry on this conversation by speaking into how both the Dominant and submissive roles have so much power individually, as well as a creation together. Arcane shares his beliefs on the responsibility involved if choosing this way of life. That there needs to be a dedication to the overall wellbeing of yourself, as well as to your partner. The “Through the Looking Glass” analogy is used to describe the intricacy and creativity outside the traditional world of sex and intimacy. Master Arcane explains the history and alchemising of the language used (i.e. Master and slave) within the space of kink. Arcane and Daphne also articulate the difference between D/s and topping and bottoming when exploring sensation play. Kitty and slave Daphne have an insightful conversation about living in the polarity of being a strong, independent, confident person and also being in the role of submissive. Daphne breaks down any beliefs aligning this role with weakness or lack. She shares a view that DK Green also spoke about (in Episode.012) - that in order to have power to exchange you first need to have your own personal power. You are encouraged to embrace this episode with an open mind. For you are sure to learn something new. If you are interested in learning more there is a tonne of content on The Crow Academy website. Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcome! Subscribe here!CONNECT WITH MASTER ARCANE & SLAVE DAPHNECrow Academy WebsiteFacebookYouTubeSTUFF WE MENTIONEDCrow Academy Members AreaArcane Advice - Free BDSM LessonsIgniting the Fire - Complete Digital PackageBDSM Facebook Community (Crow Academy)Zizek Pre-Conference InterviewDominance & Submission Basics Parts 1-6WHERE TO FIND USOur Website InstagramTwitterFacebookPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast!Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. This episode is JUICY (to say the least). This conversation is about all things SQUIRTING!Johnson and Kitty go into the anatomy of the vulva, vagina, and clitoris and get super specific about the G-Spot area (P.S. yes it's real- it was actually discovered over 100 years ago and the physician, Grafenberg, was ostracized for his research on it.)In this chat they talk about the difference between clitoral orgasms and G-Spot orgasms and how these can lead into female ejaculation.There are some delicious top tips for anyone wanting to explore their own body more and/ or their partner's alongside them.Kitty and Johnson bust some of the myths around squirting and answer some frequently asked questions on the topic.Their biggest pieces of advice for anyone wanting to experience more within the realm of ejaculation is to get to know your body, to slow down and become more present in your pleasure and to work at releasing any shame around what sex looks like, sounds like, feels like.If you've been curious or are already experimenting with how multifaceted and miraculous the pussy is then this is the episode for you!Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcome! Subscribe here!STUFF WE MENTIONEDYoni Pleasure Palace Squirt BlanketWHERE TO FIND USOur Website InstagramTwitterFacebookPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast!TRIGGER WARNING: Mental health, addiction, depression. Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. This episode was originally recorded as part of Episode 13. However Kitty dropped a Hot Sauce question on Johnson that gave way to an incredibly powerful and vulnerable conversation.He shares some very raw and honest parts of his life and, at the same time, speaks into issues that the SWME Podcast is passionate about advocating for.Johnson talks about mental health, the expectations from society and pressure to live up to an unrealistic ideal. He tells us about the struggles of addiction, being a separated Father and the reality of life struggles that all of the listeners will be able to relate to.Kitty and Johnson decided that this conversation was so potent they wanted to have it as an episode in itself.So it's a little bit different. There's no fancy jingles or Sexy Susie.But there is a WHOLE LOT of heart.You are invited to tune into this chat and to know that no matter what- you are not alone.We all have challenges in life and the SWME Podcast is dedicated to diluting shame and holding a judgment-free space for all of the conversations that need to be had.Sending love.Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcome! Subscribe here!WHERE TO FIND USOur Website InstagramTwitterFacebookPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.Support Contact DetailsUSA- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255 UK- CALM helpline: 0800 58 58 58 Canada- Suicide Prevention Service: 1-833-456-4566 Australia- Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467 New Zealand- Lifeline 24/7 Helpline: 0800 543 354 India- Sneha India 24/7 helpline: 91 44 24640050 South Africa- Lifeline National Counselling Line: 0861-322-322

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast! Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. This week Kitty & Johnson have a LOT of fun answering all of YOUR questions.And you definitely rose to the occasion, friends.Your questions offered a whole array of conversation topics: the sexy, vulnerable, the naughty and the awkward.In true SWME podcast fashion Kitty & Johnson answer with full honesty. You will inevitably learn a heck of a lot more about your hosts during this episode…Maybe more than you were prepared for even!You'll find out what they both have on their bucket lists, their recommendations for sex toys, their favourite places to have sex and hear about the most random objects that have been used for pleasure.They speak into some hot tips for communicating about kink in partnership, share their thoughts on normalising non-traditional ways of masturbating and about their greatest sexual desires that they are yet to try.One of the listeners (and in fact a lot of you have asked about this) asks how their working relationship now differs from when they were in a relationship.This one put Kitty into actual tears of laughter “What makes Johnson so sexy?”They even answer the saucy question…”What were their best and worst sexual experiences from when they were together?”This episode is sexy and saucy ASF with a tonne of laughs!You are invited to let your imagination go wild as Kitty & Johnson share soooo many yummy fantasies.Enjoy!STUFF WE MENTIONEDSexual Interests Quiz For PartnersCome and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcomeSubscribe here!WHERE TO FIND USOur Website InstagramTwitterFacebookPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast! Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. DK Green is an absolute WEALTH of knowledge as a psychotherapist, Shamanic practitioner, supervisor, mentor, advance accredited, advance trainer trained, associate lecturer and key note speaker for Pink Therapy specialising in GSRD subjects.In this episode we enter into the conversation of BDSM in truly the most delicious way possible.DK shares the practical description of what BDSM stands for- Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism.And while there is so much in each of these areas of BDSM DK breaks down so eloquently the potential for growth, connection and exploration they each hold.He has had decades of experience with BDSM- particularly with leather (hence the nickname DK Leather) which is his absolute passion.For anyone completely new into their BDSM exploration DK gives some great tips for starting out. He shares this wonderful piece of wisdom- “the biggest erogenous zone we have is our brain and the toy we already have is our body.”He busts some common myths when it comes to Dom/Sub connections around consensual power exchange and a multitude of benefits that can come from it. DK also shares how there are often glimpses into BDSM in a lot of “vanilla” sexual interactions. It is not always all whips and chains!The conversations around exploring sensation play, in this episode, are so informative and give SO many ideas for either beginning or expanding your current experiences. From being able to use utensils around the home, to trying out sensations on different parts of the body and then info on some of the more advanced toys that can be used.We raise important points in this discussion around informed consent and radical responsibility when entering into BDSM and also about how powerful presence, open-mindedness and effective communication all are as tools for the best experience possible.DK shares so much from his own lived experience and work with clients around the lighter side of BDSM, as well as some psychology around other explorations such as age play, rape fantasies, intensive sensation play, rage play, needle play, medical play etc.CONNECT WITH DKWebsiteFacebookTwitterInstagramFetLifeSTUFF WE MENTIONEDThe Kink ParadoxCome and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcomeSubscribe here!WHERE TO FIND USOur Website InstagramTwitterFacebookPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast! Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. The awesome foursome has arrived to pleasure your ear holes!This week we are joined by the lovely Zach and Sara from the Fresh Pineapples podcast.Zach and Sara are a young couple from the States who are documenting their entry into the swinging lifestyle. Their podcast is honest, insightful, funny and gives a great introduction for anyone interested in exploring open relationships and/or swinging.We start off the episode with a purrrring Kitty when Zach joins her for the “What's Hot and What's Not?” jingle AND an irate Johnson sharing his intense displeasure towards YouTube right now.The belly laughs come in fast as we hang out with these two super stars. We talk fitted sheets, pubic hair, holey socks, Only Fans and hazardous travel in the U.S.Sara shares how their podcast was created by her stumbling upon the idea of becoming a swinging couple and then the two of them wanting a project to work on together.They both speak into their experiences of being sexually confident and exploratory as teenagers but the shame from society that seemed to particularly fall on Sara. They raise such an important point around the double standards within genders- even from a young age and speak about how harmful slut-shaming is.Sara shares the positive impact on her own feeling of liberation being in the sex-positive community in their swinging scene.Zach tells a very honest recap of their not-so-brilliant first swinging experience on NYs eve and a delicious sex party at a MANSION.Zach and Sara speak so powerfully and vulnerably about their experiences with mental health and the impact it has on their own lives, their sexuality and connections. They raise such a potent point around being conscious about sex when depression or anxiety are present. There can be a risk in using sex as a void when other support isn't in place. They both also mention the impact medication can have on libido.Kitty, Johnson, Sara and Zach are all big advocates for breaking the stigma around so many of these areas that are being vocalised- sexuality and mental health in particular.CONNECT WITH THE FRESH PINEAPPLESWebsitePodcastTwitterSTUFF WE MENTIONEDFull Swap RadioCome and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcomeSubscribe here!WHERE TO FIND USOur Website InstagramTwitterFacebookPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast! Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. Whoop!!Episode 10! Double digits on!We have an absolute POWERHOUSE guest on the show with us this week.Rebecca Lowrie is a true legend in the world of men's sexuality. She is a somatic sex therapist who has spent over 25 years working in the space of personal and spiritual wellness, the last 16 years specifically supporting men.She is an author, podcast host and is the creator of the Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for men and the Sexual Alchemy Journal for men.This week's “What's Hot and What's Not?” segment shares a glorious experience of vulva casting and an awful story Rebecca shares of a disastrous vulva casting experience.Johnson tells us all about his sump taking a dump…We ask Rebecca to share about her ever-evolving journey into and through sexual liberation and she takes us on an incredible journey through her life so far. She originally grew up in America where the conditioning in society very much subdued and shamed women's sexuality. For the first 2 decades of her sexual life she shares how she was always conscious of sexual energy but had inconsistent experiences that didn't offer her a strong and healthy relationship to her own sexuality.During her first marriage there were some confusing and failed attempts at non-monogamy due to lack of understanding and information on non-traditional exploration and desires.In her late 30's Rebecca came across a tantra workshop and it drastically changed the course of her life. At that point she felt her calling and recognised a space she needed to be in. It took a lot of working through resistance before making the step into study and then being mentored in a support role of tantra coaching for three years. Rebecca fully immersed herself and began learning more about neo-tantra, BDSM, and conscious kink. She then stepped fully into a role of working with sexuality and found that so much of this space holding came naturally and intuitively.There is SO much resonance, for Kitty, as Rebecca shares her journey. Kitty tells us all about the calling she had about a year ago to work in this space too and the fear she sat with in knowing her work was evolving into healing in the area of sexuality.To add into this Johnson reminds us of the absolute polarity of the life he used to live as the CEO of a Domestic Airline. It has been an absolute ride over the last 6 months and both Kitty and Johnson are excited about the new business they are currently creating together too.Johnson and Rebecca speak about the feeling of safety and familiarity within the wider sex-positive community. The Festival of Sexuality, hosted by Rebecca Lowrie, served as a pivotal point for Johnson in stepping through imposter syndrome.Rebecca gives us such a great, honest recount of the times of frustration she has had in the industry and the desires she has had to step away - but each time she has returned to the truth that this is her mission in life.Johnson, Kitty and Rebecca have a POTENT ASF discussion about the ways that our (particularly cis, hetro) men have been left behind by the sex-positive movement and let down by the system of patriarchy.Rebecca offers some powerful reflections from her 16 years of working with men and specific examples with clients who are navigating through the unhealthy expectations of this system of conditioning. The conversation offers some very crucial, deep unpacking.Rebecca tells us all about her gorgeous creations - The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for men and the Sexual Alchemy Journal for men.CONNECT WITH REBECCAWebsiteInstagramTwitterFacebookTikTokSTUFF WE MENTIONEDRebecca's Shop - Get 10% off until 31st August 2022 by using the code SEXWITHMYEXPODCASTSexual Alchemy PodcastPleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good by Adrienne Maree BrownCome and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcomeSubscribe here!WHERE TO FIND USOur Website InstagramTwitterFacebookPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast! Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex. And DELICIOUS this episode is! This week we are joined by the scrumptious Layla London who is the badass, vixen creator of The Curious Girl Diaries.Layla has been documenting her sexual explorations, initially through a blog, and now with her podcast.After 3 and a half years of unintentionally being celibate Layla had a holy-f***-moment and realised that she had been neglecting an aspect of her own wellbeing by not making time for her sexuality.So, being a “Type A person” (as she describes herself) she made it a priority and created a Sexual Bucket List- Or F***et List as we like to call it. Within two weeks she was already ticking off things from that list and shares with us some of the growth and experiences since then that have added massively to her own self-discovery.This Episode is fun, fun, fun!Kitty, Johnson and Layla start off with a bang in the “What's Hot and What's Not?” segment.We go off on a tangent speaking about grooming, hand jobs, unsolicited dick pics (#makedicksscarceagain) and the sexiness of the New Zealand accent. Layla shares about the decision she made to explore herself through her sexuality and speaks into the initial fear around who she would become during the process of stepping into unchartered territory. Prior to creating the Bucket List she had experienced predominantly vanilla style sex (which is absolutely gorgeous and there is nothing at all wrong with it) and wanted to expand further into kink, multiple partners etc. She had planned to commit to a year and set the intention it would be fun and exploratory. She discovered so much more in the journey about the importance of our sexuality, of connection and of healthy curiosity in sex. She speaks into the importance of honest and open communication and true knowing of your own wants and desires in intimacy. This message continues to be reiterated throughout the Sex with My Ex podcast and we love how Layla shares it too. This relates to everyone- whether or not you're in partnership, single, in open relationships - authentic and clear communication is a pillar! Layla also shares about the beautiful connections she has had with men over this time and the importance of presence within the connection and acts of sex. Being outside of traditional relationships she learnt to fully enjoy the experiences without attachment to future outcomes. Within this conversation Johnson brings up a great reflection around the difference between sexuality/sexual energy and sex. The difference being that sexuality is an energy that is present and sex is the acting on those desires. Kitty, Johnson and Layla all share their experiences of finding deep connection and pleasure outside of the traditional (more accepted) version of a relationship. We are big advocates for knowing that monogamous relationships work perfectly for so many people. However, we believe it is an important conversation to share; that there are many people who don't align with that. We hope that we are creating an accepting and judgement-free space for these discussions. Ahhh enjoy this episode, folks!! There is so much juiciness!PLUS Johnson launches two surprises on Kitty!! CONNECT WITH LAYLAWebsiteInstagramTwitterFacebookSTUFF WE MENTIONEDFiverr - Get Up To $100 to spend using THIS LINK! (Search for “rosiedunjay” if you need Voiceover work done!)Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcomeSubscribe here!WHERE TO FIND USOur Website InstagramTwitterFacebookPlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast! TRIGGER WARNING: This week's episode mentions mental health and eating disorders. If you are struggling with this please reach out to one of these help lines, or reach out to Marci and know that we are sending you Big Love! K & J xWe are delighted to have Marci Warhaft on this week's episode.Marci is a huge advocate for positive body image and self-esteem. She spent much of her life battling an eating disorder and navigating through huge loss and grief.She now shares her story and experiences with raw vulnerability with the intention of helping others to have a healthy and loving relationship with their whole selves.Marci has published two books-The Body Image Survival Guide for Parents: Helping Toddlers, Tweens and Teens ThriveThe Good Stripper: A Memoir of Lies, Loss and LapdancesMarci was named one of Canada's Top 100 Influencers 3 years in a row in 2018, 2019 and 2020.Her sharp, no-bullshit recollection of her life and view on body image and trauma has brought support for so many people in the various ways she is of service.Naturally, Marci is an absolutely perfect fit for The SWME podcast!This episode is absolute fire as we dive deeper into the psychology behind eating disorders and the inherent shame society has around sexuality.Marci shares with openness and gives SO many useful pieces of advice and tools to establish, or deepen, your relationship to your body.It was a blessing to hang out with such an inspirational woman! Thanks Marci xCONNECT WITH MARCIInstagramWebsiteSTUFF WE MENTIONEDThe Good Stripper: A Memoir of Lies, Loss and Lapdances - 20% Off with Code: good20The Body Image Survival Guide for Parents: Helping Toddlers, Tweens and Teens ThriveFit vs. FictionCome and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcomeSubscribe here!WHERE TO FIND USOur Website InstagramTwitterFacebookYouTubePlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast! TRIGGER WARNING: This week's episode mentions mental health and self harm. If you are struggling with this please reach out to one of these help lines, and know that we are sending you Big Love! K & J xWe are delighted to have Kelly Gordon on this week's episode.Kelly is a 33 year old entrepreneur and consultant based in the UK. She has Spinal Muscular Atrophy Type 3, a genetic disability, meaning that she uses an electric wheelchair to get around. Kelly's condition is progressive and has meant that she has faced losing her ability throughout her life. From a young age Kelly was outspoken and never let anyone dictate what her disability meant or allowed her to do. Kelly's current projects span from recruitment to working for forward thinking sex toy brand ‘Hot Octopuss'. She also works as a presenter and is the current host of Hot Octopuss's brand podcast Pleasure Rebels.She has also worked on projects for the BBC, Channel 4 and Virgin Media. Kelly has also co-founded the business "With Not For” with Emma Gardner. Kelly is a great sport and gets in amongst it during ‘Hot or Not', where we discuss dental woes, vibrators for Egypt and pesky dribbles (amongst other things).We discuss owning your truth, staying safe and using sexual encounters to deal with self-confidence when disabled - all on the journey to Kelly's sexual liberation.Kelly explains how she has owned her body and disability as an adult and had a great response once she did that when going back to dating.We discuss her work at forward-thinking and inclusive sex-tech company ‘Hot Octopuss' - a job she adores!She explains that Adam, their co-founder and CEO, has designed several of their toys based on his own needs and desires. (Link below)Johnson takes it upon himself to pitch Kelly the Jellymaker - the end result… Watch out for Hot Octopuss's International Johnson Day (perhaps even some temporary rebranding for the day)!As the conversation turns towards Men's Mental Health, Kelly's dear friend Tom is remembered. We of course send Big Love to all those affected by a very sad tragedy. Kelly has a project coming up, somewhat in his honour, so we will be sharing those details with you all!We adore our listener feedback section as always - giving out 6 extra entries to our Yoni Pleasure Palace Giveaway!! (Be sure to follow us on Instagram and subscribe to our newsletter to enter!)The perfect conclusion is reached as Kelly preaches owning your truth, embracing the journey and ‘just doing it'.We thought deeply, there were tears and we laughed so hard!It was a blessing to hang out with such an inspirational woman! Thanks Kelly! xCONNECT WITH KELLYInstagramOther LinksSTUFF WE MENTIONEDHot Octopuss - Sex Toys - 20% OFF WITH CODE: Pleasure20Yoni Pleasure Palace With Not ForCrave VesperCome and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcomeSubscribe here!WHERE TO FIND USOur Website InstagramTwitterFacebookYouTubePlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast! This one is a very yummy episode as Johnson & Kitty dive into the world of self-pleasure.This episode is for absolutely everyone - every gender, every relationship status, regardless of whether you have never explored self-pleasure before, or whether you masturbate three times a day!We explore the language used around self-pleasure from when we were teenagers and the gender indifferences we see in society around normalisation of masturbation.Johnson & Kitty speak into the lack of information that we have as young people in the first experiences of sexual exploration - particularly how there often seems to be a lack of knowledge about the female orgasm and the conditioning around sex having an “end goal” of male ejaculation.We bring some understanding into how, for most of us, society simply has not informed us adequately about pleasure.Through pornography, limited sexual education and general misinformation being spread about sex, we often grow up not understanding the therapeutic power of pleasure.Kitty refers to the book “Come As You Are” again to highlight the fact that so many of us have felt at some point in our sexual journey that we aren't “normal” because we aren't experiencing orgasm ourselves or because our partner isn't.We explore the way we view our sex drive, fantasies, gender attraction etc. and how these are viewed as outside what we have been conditioned to see as “normal”.We both think it is such an important point to keep bringing up - that we are all SO different, each with our own array of experiences and desires. The more we can learn about ourselves and sex, in general, the more confident in ourselves we can become!We talk about the importance of knowing your own body. Being able to explore, without shame, the sensations you experience in your own sexuality offers you more comfort within yourself and the ability to have a deeper and more pleasurable experience with a lover. There is so much to be gained from knowing what turns you on, or off, and openly communicating that. Remember: Our partners can't read our minds!Johnson shares his view on the over-complication of women's pleasure and the over-simplification of men's pleasure. Kitty speaks into the variety of orgasms for women and how all pleasure is good pleasure. That there is no hierarchy of orgasms, unlike the glorification of particular orgasms that we can sometimes see through pornography.Kitty gives some GREAT practical tools for anyone venturing into self-pleasure or anyone that wants to step further into their experiences with intention and conscious presence. She also shares what her personal self-pleasure currently looks like.We reiterate the importance, when it comes to self-pleasure, to not focus on an end goal. Whether or not there is a climax in your experience does not associate with success. We invite you to go into your experiences with a sense of curiosity and openness. Kitty shares some of the powerful and profound physical and emotional benefits to conscious self-pleasure. We end with a special gift from Kitty to support your connection to our own body. She takes you on a delicious and beautiful guided journey.In response to some of our listener feedback Kitty & Johnson reveal their Erotic Blueprint types!Johnson drops some new ways to go into the draw to win our Yoni Pleasure Palace prize!!!STUFF WE MENTIONEDYoni Pleasure Palace Come As You Are by Emily NagoskiKitty's Self Pleasure PlaylistCome and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcomeSubscribe here!WHERE TO FIND USOur Website Instagram TwitterFacebookYouTubePlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

TRIGGER WARNING: This week's episode mentions self-harming and sexual abuse. Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast! Wow... This week's episode with Johnson & Kitty takes you on a journey alright. Within minutes we are bringing the hilarious, ridiculous and RAW in our “What's Hot and What's Not” segment. There is mention of correct supermarket etiquette, Kitty shares about her current commitment to celibacy and Johnson shares some real and vulnerable truths about life as a separated Father. The topic for the week is “Non-monogamy 101”. We cover all the basics of what non-monogamy can look like and give some definitions for terms such as “open-relationship”, “polyamorous” and “swinging”. This episode is a perfect intro into learning all about relationships and connections outside of the traditional norm. We speak into the importance of ethics and consent within all frameworks of non-monogamy and talk about some of the terms trending at the moment in this space. Kitty & Johnson both give examples from their own experiences of being in open relationships. Kitty- who has had fresh exposure recently after about 17 years of being in and out of traditional monogamous relationships and Johnson shares some hot tips and saucy stories from his life of being non-monogamous for over a decade. AND THEN… when we enter into the topic of cheating Kitty unintentionally DROPS A BOMB about their past. You, as the listeners, get to witness absolute shock from Johnson and hear as Kitty breaks down in tears. We bring all of ourselves into this space as we unravel together some heart-breaking events from our own past. We invite you to be tender as you listen in to this part of the episode. We truly aren't holding back when we share about cheating within our relationship when we were teenagers. We talk about sexual abuse and self-harming and continue to stay true to our commitment to dilute shame around these topics as well. Johnson gives some juicy teasers for some of the guests we have lined up for future episodes (we have FIVE already booked in our diary over the coming weeks!!). Don't forget our GIVEAWAY which is running for the next couple of weeks. We are so excited to give away that voucher for Yoni Pleasure Palace!We also share some of the yummy plans we have for our Patreon supporters (including exclusive video podcasts) as well as what we have underway in terms of online workshops. STUFF WE MENTIONEDYoni Pleasure Palace The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel RuizCome and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcomeWHERE TO FIND USOur Website Instagram TwitterFacebookYouTubePlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

What determines our long-term sexual satisfaction? What defines sexual confidence? What role does communication play in our sex lives? Dr. Tara joins us as a co-host to walk us through considering these questions and more! Dr. Tara holds a Ph.D. from Arizona State University. She is a tenured professor at California State University, Fullerton where she teaches Relational and Sexual Communication, Online Communication and Personal Relationships, and Quantitative Research Methods.Her work has featured in Cosmopolitan, Women's Health Magazine, HelloGiggles, Tusk Magazine, Bustle, and she has given talks nationally and internationally including presenting a TEDx talk on Sexual Confidence.Dr. Tara also hosts the Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast.Our Hot or Not section brings the usual laughs and sexy insights! This week featured sex with superheroes, Tik-Tok creeps, Polyandry, Johnson's six-hour sex-fest and Dr. Tara's anal exploits! We had a fascinating conversation about Dr. Tara's research and the insights that gives into sexual behaviours of people of different generations, genders, and sexual orientations.The 4 key variables determining our sexual satisfaction are Sexual Confidence, Sexual Self-Esteem, Sexual Mindfulness, and Communication. It turns out that communication is the key to long-term sexual satisfaction for couples!DR TARA'S AWESOME WORKWebsitePodcastTEDx TalkYouTubeInstagramSTUFF WE MENTIONEDYoni Pleasure Palace In The Flow CacaoCome and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcomeWHERE TO FIND USOur Website Instagram TwitterFacebookYouTubePlease consider buying us a coffee to support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons by heading to our Patreon page.

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast! Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex.In Episode 3 we are straight into our “What's Hot and What's Not??” segment and one of Johnson's responses receives such a hearty laugh from Kitty that you'll struggle to hold back a giggle yourself.This week's episode follows on from our topic last week and is about entering into conversations with your partner about sexual fantasy.Kitty & Johnson give some very helpful tools, resources and advice around ways to navigate a discussion in your relationship about your desires and curiosities in the bedroom.We talk about the importance of where, when and how to have these chats.We also speak into diluting shame around your own sexuality and fantasies.There's a great listener question about whether fantasizing or watching pornography is emotional cheating (spoiler alert- this is not a yes/no answer!!).We venture into a conversation around negotiation, boundaries, permission and the all-important C Word… CONSENTJohnson introduces a new segment called “Hot Sauce” and puts Kitty ON THE SPOTKitty paints a decadent picture of one of her wildest fantasies. In true Kitty fashion there are cauldrons, woodland creatures and bondage involved.In Johnson's words Kitty truly is a “selfish forest witch”.We share some delicious listener feedback and remind you of our FUNtastic giveaway. STUFF WE MENTIONED** Sexual Alchemy - Podcast and Festival Materials** Come As You Are: “The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life” by Emily Nagoski**Partners Fantasy Quiz** BDSM Quiz** Erotic Blueprint Quiz** Fresh Pineapples Podcast ** Yoni Pleasure Palace Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcomeWHERE TO FIND USOur Website Instagram TwitterFacebookYouTubeTo support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons, head to our Patreon page

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast!Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex.In this episode we discuss Sexual Fantasy… What is it?, Why do we have them?, What are some common ones?, What if I don't have them?, What role does shame play? - and much more!Johnson tell us about his Sexy AF discovery, we air some new jingles, we discuss what's hot and what's not, Kitty begins her search for her dream Prince…AND we hear from a listener who tells us about her first forays into the world of couple swaps!Come and join our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcome!You can find us at: Our WebsiteInstagramTwitterTo support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons, head to our Patreon page!** Sexy AF Spirits: https://sexyafspirits.com/** Yoni Pleasure Palace: https://yonipleasurepalace.com/

Welcome to the Sex With My Ex podcast!Your hosts are Kitty and Johnson, and we can't wait to dive head first into all of the delicious, intriguing, funny and fun things that are sex.In this show you we introduce ourselves, give you an idea of what is in store for the show's future, discuss our experiences losing our virginities, and let you know where to find us and connect with us.We can't wait to start building our community of sex positive, eager to learn and beautiful listeners. Everyone is welcome!You can find us at: Our WebsiteInstagramTwitterTo support the show and join our community of sexy Patrons, head to our Patreon page!