The Blindspot An Enneagram Podcast

Marlene is back to hear the reflections that Denzel and I have about her typology session. Enneagram type and instinctual stack are clarified.

Denzel Mensah is back on the show with me for a series on how typology can be a powerful tool for finding your romantic relationship blindspots. Meet Marlene, an INFP on the journey towards finding her Enneagram type and instinctual stack. Marlene vulnerably shares her experience of infidelity and the unraveling of her long term relationship. Please visit my website at KaraNanceMD.com and contact me if you are interested in sharing your story and learning and growing with Denzel and I.

Meet Karl Hebenstreit, Author, International Speaker, Executive Coach, and Human Resources and Organization Development Leader with 25+ years of experience in the biotechnology, healthcare, telecommunications, high-tech, pharmaceutical, and real estate services industries. . Karl has just released the third edition of his book "The How and Why: Taking Care of Business with the Enneagram". Karl and I discuss some commen Enneagram patterns he sees in the corporate world and how he works with them. Karl is also the author of the children's book, "Nina and the Really, Really Tough Decision." Get Karl's book here https://www.amazon.com/How-Why-Taking-Business-Enneagram-ebook/dp/B0CJLQGS3K?ref_=ast_author_mpb

This episode we welcome long time teacher Tom Condon to share some of his favorite tips on working with your Enneastyle. Register for Tom's online conference with Russ Hudson this weekend to learn more. https://russhudson.com/event/what-we-have-learned-and-how-we-apply-it/#tribe-tickets__tickets-form  

I'm very excited to introduce you to my colleague Denzel Mensah https://denzelmensah.com/ that I met on my Meyers Briggs Typology training journey. Denzel also received his MBTI Training from Personality Hackers six years ago and has a well established typology and coaching practice. You can also check out Denzel's very fun and wise You Tube channel at https://denzelmensah.com/ Denzel and I are excited to start highlighting our typology and coaching skills on a new live platform, so we're looking for relationship pairs that are facing a challenge that we can help type and strategize with live. You may be anonymous and have audio only, or have your session recorded for others to view.  Please reach out to me at KaraNanceMD.com to schedule a free 30 min meet and greet to discuss your situation and set up the typing/coaching session with us.  In this episode Denzel and I discuss the pain of landing on your type. We also unpack the challenge that exists in point seven. We also discuss the concept of legacy and the experience of being attachment types. We also describe our experience of extraverted feeling. We also explain how we know that an Fe dominant Type 9 is not a 2. Holderness video link - "Me in my 20's vs. Me in my 40's" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3pG0N4QnNBk Want to see into the inner world of an ENFJ??? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oe14FZiteq4 is really fun to watch. Denzel is SOOO creative!

I'm pleased to introduce my community to Simon Goland, founder of Simon Says Consulting, Inc. Simon has a new program launching in October called Awakened Living that you can register for here https://simongoland.com/application-tuition-details/ In this episode Simon and I explore what the divine masculine energy is, and what it is not. We also discuss the importance of shadow work, our own egoic triggers, and how we find our way back to presence. We also have some fun talking about how our dogs can be our teachers.  If you would like to sign up for any of my offerings please visit my website at KaraNanceMD.com

Catherine Bell from the Awakened Company is back to discuss her new offering with Dr. Debra Egerton, The Power of Relationships. In this episode Catherine and I discuss our relationship to fierce compassion, how the law of three presents in interpersonal relationships, and the importance of honoring each other's experiences because they all contain wisdom. Catherine and I also share our experiences of transmission, and how the Enneagram shows us how to better connect to source. We explore how the changing and unchanging nature of things is always present and end with a discussion of how play can be an antidote to pain. If you would like to try my classes on relationship building, please visit my website at KaraNanceMD.com to sign up for a free trial. If you would like to enroll in any of Catherine's upcoming offerings you can learn more and sign up at https://awakenedcompany.com/upcoming-events/

Stephanie Jaie is back for a final episode in our three part series on sexual empowerment. In this episode Kara and Stephanie discuss their experience of erotic energy and how it has supported their own emergence.  What is the role of pleasure and how do we connect with it? Why do people fear sexual instinctual energy? And for our typology friends, further exploration of Stephanie's Enneagram Type (is she a three or a seven???) and instinctual stack.  Kara enjoys coaching couples and individuals that are experiencing issues around the sexuality circuit. She uses typology, resonant healing, and nonviolent communication to support healing and connection. Schedule a free 30 minute meet and greet at KaraNanceMD.com if you'd like to explore working together. You can sign up for Stephanie's Sexual Empowerment Academy at https://stephaniejaie.teachable.com/p/sexual-empowerment-academy

Stephanie Jaie is back again to discuss sexuality and the ways its been distorted in a way that blocks us from our power. We touch on the topics of generational trauma, the ways a trauma response can present in different Enneagram types, privilege, and how to respond to some of the more common responses.  I will be offering a four week Enneagram Overview starting Wednesday July 26th from 6:30-8:30 CST for beginners that want to have a more solid basic understanding of the system and types or for intermediate and advanced students that want to bring real life learnings from the perspective of the type. Visit KaraNanceMD.com to register for class. If you would like to work with Stephanie, check out her website at https://www.stephaniejaie.com/ for more information.

The Blindspot An Enneagram Podcast is back for Season 2!  Loyal listeners will know that Season 1 morphed from focusing solely on the Enneagram and Instinctual Drives into welcoming in other forms of typology to help us make sense of our experience. In this interview with @StephanieJaie we hear about how my use of typology leads to a deeper understanding of her life's journey. Stephanie is also wired with high levels of point three and seven energy and also leads with extraverted intuition as an ENFP. Over the course of a few interviews we came to believe that Stephanie probably fixates at the point three energy like I do, but is Sexual dominant and Self Preservation blind in contrast to my Self Preservation dominance and Sexual blind. Enjoy this episode to learn more about how the two types present and navigate the world. Wanting to learn about the Enneagram basics? Join my FREE 90 minute Introduction to the Enneagram class at 6:45pm CST on July 12th! You can come live to the Palatine Park District Community Center at 250 E Wood St. Palatine, IL 60067 or register on my website for the zoom link at KaraNanceMD.com Wanting to learn more about Stephanie and/or sign up for her upcoming offerings? Visit https://www.stephaniejaie.com/ 

This week I am releasing a very tender episode in which Annie from Episode 41 is back to show me and all of us how a repair process works. My initial interview and promotion of it two weeks ago lacked the sincerity, care, and consideration around trauma that are so important to me. Please listen so that we can all become more trauma informed and learn how to "reclaim your no" if you've lost it and learn how to mourn impact and really take in what another is saying if you stumble into the role of aggressor. Annie models courage in this interview and demonstrates a way that I hope we all could learn to navigate repair when we find ourselves in one of our Blindspots. 

Meet Adam Molyneux-Berry, the founder of the Integral Impact Institute, a social enterprise founded on more than 20 years of experience building that has lead award winning social enterprises, SMEs, and nonprofits in Europe, the US and the MENA region. Adam supports leaders, changemakers and high-impact organizations to thrive in the midst of complexity. He enjoys operating at the nexus of systems change, wellbeing, with the goal of navigating uncertainty and creating positive social impact. I hope you enjoy his story as an ENTJ 7w8 and I think it's especially fun to compare this interview to episode 34 where I interview Ingrid Hurwitz, also a SX/SO/SP 7, but with a six wing and ENFP cognitive preferences. I think you can get a real sense of how wing and cognitive preferences impact the energy, flavor, and life story of these two individuals.

Yup! We're still talking about sex! ;) Meet Annie O'Shaughnessy, a trauma informed Enneagram coach that's working in schools to create spaces for feedback through cultivating respect, belonging, and feeling like you have a voice.  Annie very openly shares her trauma history and how she experience the emergence of her sexuality. She helps us to see the deep shame that women experience as they try to cultivate a healthy sexual instinct. We explore the differences between sex as a strategy for intimacy vs. sexual pleasure, as well as unpack some of the ways the neuroticism of the sexual instinct shows up. If you are an individual struggling with your relationship to your sexual instinctual energy, please visit my website at KaraNanceMD.com to schedule a free 30 minute consultation to discuss ways that you can embark on your own healing journey. 

Meet Flemming Christensen, SP3w4 with INTJ cognitive preferences. Flemming talks about his new concept of the Blind Type. Flemming has a new book out that you can buy at https://www.amazon.com/stores/Flemming-Christensen/author/B07VPBCCWQ?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true Flemming takes us through how we can use the Blind Type to find our life theme or narrative. Kara and Flemming are both SP3 but with different wings and blind types. Hear how that leads to our very different presentations. If you want to work with Kara you can schedule a free 30 minute consultation at KaraNanceMD.com

Meet Kristin Messegee, a trauma informed Enneagram coach that specializes in working with Enneagram Point Sixes. Kristin identifies as an SP blind 6 with a 683 trifix and ENFP cognitive preferences. Kristin shares how she came to identify her instinctual stack and we compare experiences of living with extraverted intuition as our hero function. We also explore the way introverted sensing provides important balance to extraverted intuition. Kara and Kristin discuss the difference in strategy to developing strengths or cultivating weaknesses.  What is the different between Six and Self Preservation? Why does the experience of Motherhood evoke shame and rage and how do we work with it? Why is releasing shame such an important part of the work for all types? How do you know you're not an Eight? Observations on Point Nine If you would like to work with Kristin you can message her at Kristin@kristinmessegee.com or join her Facebook group for Enneagram Point Six https://www.facebook.com/groups/201879333945167   If you would like to work with Kara please send an email to social@KaraNanceMD.com to learn more.  

Here's the second part of my conversation with Frederik Coene, our sexuality and the enneagram expert! Here Frederik and I take on conversations about porn addiction, monogamy and polyamory and how to transcend the usual state of craving and self soothing behaviors that we find ourselves working with every day. Want to schedule a call to address your own sexual issues within yourself or your relationship? I enjoy working with individuals that want to address the sexuality circuit and how we can come into healthier relationship with it. Schedule a free consultation at KaraNanceMD.com Want to join our habit change community? Classes are free for the next two weeks on Wednesdays at 6-7pm CST. Register on my website to receive the zoom link.

Meet Frederik Coene SP/SO/SX 6w5 that is an EU diplomat turned Enneagram sex researcher and content creator. In this episode Frederik talks about his vision for increasing accessibility to high quality Enneagram teachings that can have a global reach. Frederik describes his interest around the Enneagram and sexuality and reveals how 3's, 5's, 6's, and 4's are likely to talk about sex. Frederick describes “Why people have sex” and why dissatisfaction often emerges when ego gratification is the primary motivator for sex How Sixes work with exploring polarity and going beyond their own safety in sex How does instinctual stack influence what meaning people layer over sex? How is social media replacing sex and leads to less intimacy and vulnerability.

Sarah McMahill is back after her latest Diamond Heart retreat to share some new insights regarding how the instincts influence sexual behaviors. We also talk about some of the Meyer's Briggs cognitive functions and how introverted intuition powers Sarah's work as a massage therapist. We also learn the difference between introverted feeling and introverted thinking.  You can find more information about how to work with Sarah at https://www.sarahmc.net/ Check out my new website and sign up for free classes in April at KaraNanceMD.com

Join Kara and Katherine, two ENTP ladies, as we take you on a whirlwind tour of how we use the Instinctual Drives, the Enneagram, and the Meyer's Briggs Cognitive Functions to support individuals that want to understand their programming. Katherine, a SX/SP/SO 874 has been a certified Enneagram teacher for almost 30 years and has made major contributions to the research and discoveries in this field. She shares typing pearls, gives in depth explanations about the core fears and motivations of the instinctual drives and the centers of intelligence, and also unpacks the origin of the Hornevian groups. Katherine discusses what she has discovered about the instinctual blindspot and reveals how individuals can best work with their stack. Katherine also takes a deep dive into the sexual instinct and shares her views on how this influences an individual's choices of monogamy or polyamory.

Meet Ingrid Hurwitz, the director of Takdir Transformation and the lead of the Facebook Group Enneagram Community of Practice. Ingrid is a trauma informed Enneagram professional that offers a wide variety of coaching and educational experiences through her school. Join us for a beautiful conversation about the inner workings of a SX/SO/SP Seven and how she uses the Enneagram to help individuals heal from the wounds that lead to the self sabotaging behaviors that emerge from our Enneagram and Instinctual blindspots. You can learn more about Ingrid at https://takdir.co.za/ Don't forget to register for the FREE Resonant Healing Summit at https://sarahpeyton.com/resonance-summit-2023/ to learn more ways of working with trauma. If you would like to schedule a resonant healing session with Kara visit KaraNanceMD.com to schedule a free 30 minute Consult. Kara is also offering five weeks of FREE resonant healing classes where you can learn more and practice starting March 28th. Visit her website to register.

Sarah McMahill steps forward to intimately talk with me about her journey of sexual emergence. If this episode wakes anything up inside of you that you'd like to share in a future episode or discuss working with me on privately around your own sexuality circuit or instinctual drive please request a 30 minute free consultation at https://www.karanancemd.com/ You can find more information about how to work with Sarah at https://www.sarahmc.net/about Direct link to music of the 9 types is https://www.sarahmc.net/enneamuse Direct link to my store where people can purchase the music, meditations, and workshop recordings https://www.sarahmc.net/store. March 6 marked 2 years since the EnneaMuse album came out and Sarah currently has a deal going for 50% off with coupon code AnniversaryHalfOff.

Meet Tre! A colleague of mine from my Meyer's Briggs profiler community that wanted to learn more about his Enneagram Type. Watch my typing skills in action and I would love to hear what you think if you're willing to email me at contact@enneagramblindspots.com And I'm also offering FREE classes for the month of March! Please visit KaraNanceMD.com to register for the zoom link. I'd love to see you join me for the mindfulness based classes I lead on habit change and my resonant healing and nonviolent communication practice groups! Please check it out.

Wild Enneagram founder Ben Campbell is back to tell us about how he engages with nature to support his Enneagram journey. Ben is offering a foundational course starting this March to people interested in learning more about this unique approach. You can register here https://wildenneagram.com/ We also talk about our experience of privilege as white people and I encourage you to check out Jessica Denise Dickson's Expanding the Enneagram course that also starts this week. You can find out more here https://www.theenneagramworkshop.com/expanding-the-enneagram-coaching-program?fbclid=IwAR25z1eEI9pPzD6mmiqGon8Bye6zCalN7w3qbY36YCVNSdpfHDwM7brszYs We also talk about how we all contain deep roots to the mystic traditions in nature that are embodied in the purple level of spiral dynamics as taught by Deborah Ooten who also has a new offering in March which you can learn more about here https://www.goconscious.com/events/weekly-enneagram-emersion-certification-program-online/?fbclid=IwAR0GugOhw1hPdaZLgLU5TDKG3R1KH2j5-5CAmzr-mjQEy1cNoNt5K3-YYGc If you want to join Kara's free classes to learn more about Resonant Healing, Nonviolent Communication, or How To Change a Habit register here https://www.karanancemd.com/    

Are you ready for rejection??? Join us for our last interview with Belinda Gore on the rejection type object relation. Hoping you join me in her class starting February 24th. Sign up here https://belindagore.com/enneagram/ Wanting to join FREE classes with me this month? Check out my new website KaraNanceMD.com to register.

She's back! Join Belinda and I as we unpack the object relationship pattern of the frustration types 1,4, and 7. I hope you will join me in Belinda's seven week course on object relations starting February 24th on zoom. You can register here https://deepcoachinginstitute.com/object-relations-and-the-enneagram-part-one/ Kara is offering free practice groups on zoom for Resonant Healing, Nonviolent Communication, Unwinding Anxiety and Eat Right Now for the last two weeks of February. Email me at social@karanancemd.com if you want the link to join.

I'm so excited to bring you the latest epidsode of The Blindspot where I got to interview my teacher, Sarah Peyton, on why resonant healing is such a beautiful way to work with the core wounds of our Enneatype. In this episode we unpack the neurobiology of the centers of intelligence and introduce listeners to the beauty of Resonant Language. Sarah is offering an 8 week series in resonant language online that starts THIS WEEK! So make sure you visit her website at SarahPeyton.com to learn more. All classes are recorded so you can still experience the learning even if you missed this week's class. I am finishing my certification program with Sarah in Resonant Healing this February and am offering sessions for only $100/hour if you would like to check it out. To take advantage of this offer email me at contact@enneagramblindspots.com or call my office at 847-850-8185 and speak with my staff.

We're so happy to have Belinda Gore, the well known expert on object relations and the Enneagram, back to focus on the attachment types 3, 6, and 9. Join us as Belinda and I discuss the nuances of the attachment types. Belinda has a seven week course on object relations starting this February. You can register at https://deepcoachinginstitute.com/object-relations-and-the-enneagram-part-one/ If you would like to work with Kara or have comments or questions please email at contact@enneagramblindspots.com

Meet Trevor Walsh, a Counsellor at Vancouver Coastal Health who also has his own private Enneagram based counselling practice. This is a long episode and I just couldn't cut any of it because I so enjoyed the places our conversation took us. Trevor manifests components of all three instinctual drives and has historically identified as SP. We also talk alot about Meyer's Briggs typology and why this INTJ tests as an INFJ. We also talk about psychedelics and how these may impact the nervous system in different types. Enjoy the journey! You can contact Trevor to work with him at trevorwalsh.ca You can contact Kara at enneagramblindspots.com with any comments, questions, or if you would like to work with her.

Meet Freya Kennedy, a transformationalist and Enneagram coach that came on today to explore her tender side. In this episode we talk about Why does the MBTI sometime change over time? Perimenopause and the relationship to the sexual instinct What's the difference between the way a Type 2 and Type 3 manage their attachment to image in a rejection vs. attachment type way The beauty of giving AND receiving Sex through the lens of the instincts How the SP instinct protected Freya from her SX6 father Life serving rage and essential strength If you would like to work with Freya you can reach her at FreyaKennedy.com If you would like to work with Kara or have comments or questions please send an email to contact@enneagramblindspots.com

Kara interviews her colleague Darren Yee who is a Myers Briggs typologist and works for the NYU Entrepreneurial Institute where he provides coaching to those in launching startups. Darren is new to the Enneagram and was lacking some clarity over his type and stack so he offered to have his typing session recorded so you can learn some of the important difference between the point five and point nine structures, which is a common mistype. We also touch on another common mistype between point nine and point two and explore Darren's instinctual stack.  Darren and I are learning typology from https://www.personalityhacker.com/ who also offers a free online test if you want to start exploring how your MBTI influences your Enneatype. Please reach out to me at Enneagramblindspots.com if you would like to be typed in private or on a future episode.

This week I was lucky enough to interview Sterlin Mosley, author of the book The Narcissist in You and Everyone Else: Recognizing the 27 Types of Narcissism which was only released two weeks ago. Sterlin Mosley graduated from the University of Oklahoma with Master's Degree in Human Relations with an emphasis on counseling and personality psychology. Dr. Mosley received his PhD in Communication focused on intrapersonal, cultural and interpersonal communication from the same institution. He teaches undergraduate and graduate classes in Human Relations such as Cultural Awareness, Personality and Human Relations and Sexism and Homophobia. His research into the Enneagram personality system and self-description seeks to uncover the language and subjective psychological experiences of the 9 personality types. Sterlin is a certified Enneagram teacher and coach and trained extensively with Enneagram Master Teacher and Coach Katherine Fauvre. In addition to being a personality nerd, Sterlin is the co-founder and Creative Director of Central Oklahoma Dance Company and school and ballet dancer. Sterlin and I talk about the extensive research he has done into typing and discovering a person's instinctual stack as well as his personal experience towards discovering his own type. Sterlin discusses the motivation for publishing his book and gives us a sneak peak into some of the less recognized forms of narcissism out there. You can work with Sterlin by going to https://empathyarchitects.com/ Please reach out at contact@enneagramblindspots.com with any comments or questions. You can also call my office at 847-850-8185 for a free consultation or to get access to my live zoom groups.

Kara reviews where The Blindspot has been, expresses gratitude and talks about what the winter solstice means to her and what she wants to open herself up to. Kara also announces what's coming in 2023 as she continues to expand her offerings! Email at contact@enneagramblindspots.comif you would like to join the live group on zoom that Kara will facilitate for the exploration of advanced Enneagram topics. Please also email if you have a topic you'd like to see explored on the podcast in 2023 of if you would like to bring a relational dynamic to our new podcast exploring how we use typology, resonance, and nonviolent communication to shift the energy and promote healing between a pair.    

Meet Saleh Vallander, author of The Neurobiology of the Enneagram. Saleh is a 29 year old medical doctor from Stockholm, Sweeden who has intensely studied affective neuroscience and the work of one of my favorites, Jaak Panksepp. Saleh is a SX 531 with INTP cognitive preferences. Learn how the body center maps onto the rage circuit in the brain, the heart center maps onto the grief circuit, and the head center maps onto the fear circuit. Learn the relationship of the three instinctual drives to the seeking, care, play, and sexuality circuits. Kara discusses the relationship between the instinctual drives and the emotional circuits, and how these lead to thoughts which then generate feelings. Kara explains and discusses personal truth, relative truth and holy truth. Learn how the opioid addiction epidemic is related to the care and grief circuits. Learn what we know about the evolution of the instinctual drives. How do marijuana and alcohol interact with the emotional circuits. Buy Saleh's book here https://www.amazon.com/s?k=the+neurobiology+of+the+enneagram&crid=3SU4OU6786HUW&sprefix=neurobiology+and+the+enne%2Caps%2C94&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-doa-p_1_25 Please reach out to me at contact@enneagramblindspots.com with any questions or if you would like to be interviewed. You are also welcome to call my office at 847-850-8185 to schedule a free consultation for typing, coaching, or resonant healing.

Meet Derek Kirkland, a strategic change leader at DPR Construction as well as a Professional Certified Coach through New Ventures West. Enjoy a spontaneous first time conversation between a SO 3w2 and a SP 3w2 and have fun noting the similarities and differences.  Learn more about the idea of "competition" in the Three, attachment types, and the vision of Kara's new business venture. We also clarify the misconception that "social" means you have a wide group of friends and explore the "role" of being an attractive partner or a "good" parent. Please email me at contact@enneagramblindspots.com if you have questions or have a topic you think would be good to bring to the community. Also feel free to contact me at 847-850-8185 if you would like a free consultation about the services I can provide.

Meet Carolyn, a 41 year old midwife from Canada willing to speak so bravely from her heart about her expression of stack and type. What does it mean to be integrated in body, heart, and mind? What are faux feelings? Kara explains the difference between emotions, thoughts, and feelings and how her sensing, looking, and listening practice, Nonviolent Communication and Resonant Healing skills support her self observation. We revisit attachment theory and explain the difference from being an attachment type. How do Kara and Carolyn use difficult intimate relationships as a ground for learning? How did Carolyn discover the Enneagram and how does she know she's a 2w3? How does rejection show up in an Enneagram type 2 How can we integrate the knowledge of “attachment style” with the Enneagram? Hear Carolyn talk about her tritype interview with Katherine Fauvre How does Carolyn experience her sexual and intimate relationship preferences? Why is SP second in Carolyn's stack? Why is Carolyn identifying as tertiary social If you are willing to be interviewed or have a topic you'd like to discuss, please reach out to contact@enneagramblindspots.com to schedule. Please call my office at 847-850-8185 to schedule a free consultation if you would like to work with Dr. Nance.

Meet Timothy Sommerlad! A 21 year old point six, ENFP film student from University of Southern Queensland, Australia. Timothy has a background in theology so we unpack where his journey has taken him so far and discuss why the dragon is the embodiment of the integration of all three instinctual drives.  Timothy has been producing Enneagram videos at @timothysommerladenneagram on YouTube and is the founder of the Wisdom & The Enneagram group on Facebook.  David Gray, who taught me about the bhavacakra and the symbolism tied to the dragon. Please go to his Patreon page at https://www.patreon.com/EnneaSite to support his work. Questions, comments or want a free consultation? Reach out at enneagramblindspots.com or call Kara's office at 847-850-8185 to schedule!

Meet the magnificent Manya, a 72 year old SP/SO/SX 6 with INFP cognitive preferences. Manya started as a massage therapist, went to medical school and became a physician at the age of 37 and then transitioned into corporate coaching and facilitation. She will be a certified Enneagram teacher by August 2023 and has amazing insights from her journey as she shares her wisdom about the SP instinct if we listen to its instinctual intelligence. Manya is also well versed in MBTI and astrology and shares how this also influences her experience of type. You can find Manya for personal coaching services at AwakeintheAndes.com This episodes was fun for me because I'm starting to feel brave enough to start sharing my impressions of Mario Sikora, Russ Hudson and John Luckovich's teachings on the instincts and my current thoughts about how the instincts may be showing up in more of a primary, secondary and tertiary type way instead of the typical "blind" concept. 

Meet the brilliant and wise 3w4 ENFP Belinda Gore for an exploration of object relations and wings. We discuss how the enneagram intersects with Meyers Briggs, astrology, meditation, and the Diamond Approach. And did you know there is a FOURTH instinctual drive? Belinda learned about the Enneagram 30 years ago from Russ Hudson and Don Riso and has been a member of the IEA since its inception. Belinda is the expert in the field on object relations and the Enneagram and offers both introductory and advanced trainings on her website at BelindaGore.com.  If you are interested in learning mindfulness and meditation through one of my online groups please call my office at 847-850-8185 to schedule a free consultation. I also offer private sessions for resonant healing for past trauma. Feel free to also email me at contact@enneagramblindspots.com to request a consult, ask questions, or offer your insights and feedback.

In this episode we meet SO/SX/SP Catherine Bell, the founder of the Awakened Company and the host of Russ Hudson's Green Room group that I've been a part of since its inception in 2021. Catherine is the embodiment of a SO dominant individual as is further exemplified in her many offerings depicted below. Enjoy hearing her story and what she's about as she radiates the SO/SX/SP instinctual energies!  https://twitter.com/AwakenedCompany https://www.facebook.com/awakenedcompany https://www.linkedin.com/in/bellcatherine/ https://www.instagram.com/theawakenedcompany/ https://www.instagram.com/awakenly.app/ https://catherinerbell.com/ https://awakenedcompany.com/   Inc Magazine Article - Building Highly Successful Companies - INC Magazine - The Awakened Company   Purchase the Awakened Company Book - The Awakened Company: Bell, Catherine R: 9781897238790: Amazon.com: Books   Here is the link to download Awakenly on the app store - https://apps.apple.com/ca/app/awakenly/id1574147038

Meet the magnificent Maggie Oberman SO/SX/SP 2w1. Maggie was born with lipodystrophy which gives her face and body a very unique look. Listen to this inspiring and heartwarming interview about how she has really leaned into her true power as a vibrant and inspiring being. How does Maggie's SO dominance show up in her nonprofit work? How is Maggie's SP instinct show up in relation to her health challenges? Maggie talks about how she experiences body image as a person with a unique form. How does Maggie use her “smile”? How does Maggie experience her sexual instinct as someone that has not had sexual relationships at this point in her life?

Kara continues her conversation from last week with Chris where they explore Chris' instinctual stacking and hear the joy she is experiencing from the integration of her sexual blindspot. Kara summarizes how the instinctual drives show up both in health and unconsciousness and helps Chris unpack her relationships to these drives. We also explore the use of psychedelics to support healing trauma and Kara demonstrates how she approaches typing an individual with the example of Chris' mother.  Addiction and recovery strategies are explored. Trying to quit smoking, vaping, or change unhealthy eating habits? Download Craving To Quit or Eat Right Now and join Kara on zoom Wednesdays 6-7pm CST for support by calling 847-850-8185 to try a free class. https://www.sharecare.com/digital-therapeutics/tobacco-cessation https://www.sharecare.com/digital-therapeutics/weight-loss Buy John's book here https://www.amazon.com/Instinctual-Drives-Enneagram-John-Luckovich/dp/0578784971 Learn more about David's work here https://www.patreon.com/EnneaSite/posts Connect with Deborah Ooten here https://www.goconscious.com/about-clc/staff/deborah-a-ooten-ph-d/ Learn about addiction with Sarah Peyton here https://sarahpeyton.com/category/healing-from-addiction-is-possible/ Questions or want to be interviewed? Please email me at contact@enneagramblindspots.com   

Meet Chris and hear about her life path as a SO/SP/SX 8. We cover what a traumatized 8 can look like and what a recovery journey for this type can be. We talk about trauma and how the rejection types deal with stress.  Check out the free trauma summit going on right now for some access to great learning! https://collectivetraumasummit.com/ Please contact me at contact@enneagramblindspots.com if you would like to be interviewed or have concepts you'd like me to talk about on a current episode. I'm also available for coaching on Enneagram, MBTI, Nonviolent Communication or Resonant Healing. Call 847-207-2705 if you'd like a free consultation.

This week we meet Natalie and hear about her life path as a SX/SO/SP 9w8. If you would like to work with Natalie you can email her at natazolg@gmail.com.  Her new wellness coaching business is mindyourwellnesscoach.com where she uses her enneagram informed techniques to help others navigate the places in their lives they feel stuck.  Kara Nance is offering free consultations to work on typing, Enneagram coaching, Nonviolent Communication, Resonant Healing for Trauma, and mindfulness based strategies for working with unhealthy habits. Please email her at contact@enneagramblindspots.com if you would like to schedule. Please also email if you would like to be interviewed on The Blindspot or have questions or topics you would like to have addressed.

Meet Linda! Our SO/SP/SX 1w9 and hear about her experience of type an stack Linda expands on the importance of the social instinct How does Linda connect with her sexual blindspot? What is body center's relationship to anger? Linda talks about the defense mechanism of point one – reaction formation What are the cultural issues around anger? Why do all mother's have to work with some Type 1 anger   Braiding Sweetgrass https://www.amazon.com/s?k=braiding+sweetgrass&i=digital-text&crid=71YCQNNEZCGW&sprefix=braid%2Cdigital-text%2C121&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-doa-p_1_5 Ben Campbell – WildEnneagram.com Mark Coleman - https://www.awakeinthewild.com/ The School For Good Mothers https://www.google.com/search?gs_ssp=eJzj4tVP1zc0zCgxTU82qSwzYPSSLslIVShOzsjPz1FIyy9SSM_PT1HIzQeKFhUDAD0FDw4&q=the+school+for+good+mothers&rlz=1C1GCEA_enUS985US985&oq=The+Schoo&aqs=chrome.2.0i131i355i433i512j46i131i433i512j46i512j69i57j0i512j46i512j46i199i433i465i512j46i512j46i433i512j46i512.5305j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

Meet Ben! Our SP/SO/SX 6w5 with 694 trifix Why boundaries are important to Ben and how he works with his tendency toward rigidity How does type show up in our sleep patterns and why do we both love cuddling up with 9's How does Ben know he's SP dominant? How can Kara have so much “buzz” and be SX blind? Kara and Ben describe their relationships to their SX blind instinct How has Ben worked with his sexual blind spot? Kara explains how Ben's INFJ functions show up in his personal growth path Ben talks about his Enneagram constellation Ben talks about his philosophy around typing Ben talks about what he learned from his breakup and gives us some great relationship advice Learn more about Ben and his offerings at WildEnneagram.com Questions or want to work with Kara? Email contact@enneagramblindspots.com for information.

This week I share my experience of 30 years of intimate partnership with three different 9's and invite you into the dynamic with my SO dominant 9w1, 964 trifix. 3:00 – Listen to Kara talk about what she loves about nines 7:00 – Kara shares her experience of growing up with two body centered parents 11:00 – How do we help 9's get in touch with their anger? 12:30 – How do nines avoid the experience of discomfort? 14:00 – Meet Kara & Drew 17:30 – How did Drew find his way to Type 9? 19:00 – Why do nines mistype as fours? 21:30 – How do nines punish through withdrawl and how do you know when your nine is pissed? 27:00 – How do nines manage their exposure to unpleasant experiences? 33:20 – How did Kara discover she was a Three and not an Eight? 38:00 – Why do attachment types mistype? 40:00 – Drew talks about why he doesn't think “having an instinctual stack” is descriptive or helpful 43:00 – Kara descries why she think we DO have an instinctual stack that we're born with and isn't going to change even though all instincts express at different times 51:00 – Kara and Drew describe the different wiring in the 3 vs 9 nervous system 54:00 – Drew describes his experience of his SP instinct 1:01:20 – Kara describes how her ENFP shows up so differently from Drew's INFJ cognitive processes 1:04:00 – Kara describes the difference between Drew's SO dominance and Kara's SO middle 1:08:00 – Kara and Drew describe their experience of the SX instinct 1:15:00 – We discuss that SO dominant may not enjoy groups 1:18:30 – Kara and Drew express their experience of sexuality 1:23:00 – What does attachment to disconnect look like when two attachment types are together? 1:24:15 – Why nines hate having their location pinned down and how do attachment types help each other find their locations? 1:26:30 – The many different no's nines will give you. 1:28:30 – Why Nines can't give an emphatic yes. 1:35:00 – Kara gives final thoughts on what SX blind looks like and how's she coming to identify it

This week we're exploring the relationship chemistry between a SP/SO/SX 3 INTJ with a 395 trifix and a SP blind 9 ENFP with a 926 trifix  Listen to how tritype can help some find their way to core type Listen to how Caryn & Sebastian found their way to their types and stack Kara explains how Meyer's Briggs type can also influence expression of subtype Kara unpacks how SP dom can look very different depending on the zone we're focusing on Kara highlights how the SO instinct shows up differently in the 3 and 9 Sebastian and Caryn share how they're working with their blindspots How does an SP dom and a SP blind manage finances? How does Sebastian's “J” and Caryn's “P” show up in how they keep their environments? Sebastian and Caryn discuss the experience of their sexuality Caryn and Sebastian talk about what the want to keep bringing presence to in their blindspot in order to keep their relationship strong and connected Want to learn more about Caryn? Find her podcast at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-typecast/id1565551381 and her website at https://www.carynberley.com/  Any comments, questions or reflections about this interview? Please email me at contact@enneagramblindspots.com

Episode 6 Kara shares something about the pain her blindspots have caused her. John and Kara how the instinctual energies show up in film and television and provide an overview of attachment types as well as a summary of attachment theory. Kara and John discuss the different ways attachment and hexad types enter relationships. Kara describes her theory on the anxious/avoidant dance of the attachment types. Kara describes the journey towards developing earned secure attachment and how to navigate the repair process when there's a rupture in a relationship. John describes more nuance of the SX instinct and what we mean by “merging”. Put in links to Diane Poole Heller and Sarah Peyton attachment theory stuff https://dianepooleheller.com/attachment-test/ https://sarahpeyton.com/attachment-quiz/ https://robbell.com/audio/find-me-a-straight-river-a-3-hour-audiobook-on-fear-and-failure/ Want to contact us? Please email contact@enneagramblindspots.com Want coaching with Kara? Contact her via her practice website at WellessenceMD.com

Kara and John dive back into the needs of the Instinctual Drives and instinctural Intelligece as the ultimate form of preventative medicine on our quest to be a more sincere humanity 6:20 – watch Kara lose presence and get stuck in her one fix and shame spiral of point three and self-compassion her way out of it 11 – John describes what we mean about the instinctual stack and how the dominant instinct arises and the blindspot threatens it 13 – Kara discusses the impact of trauma on the development of our instinctual stack and her personal narrative 17:20 – John describes his personal narrative of how his instinctual stack emerged 19 Kara describes her theory of why certain instincts may become dominant or blind 22:30 – John and Kara describe the Enneatype of The Blindspot podcast 23:45 – John and Kara describe the instinctual fears of the self-preservation instinct 27 – John explains what an SP4 is and how it's NOT “sunny” 33 – John describes the instinctual fear of the sexual instinct and how this is expressed in the frustration types 4, 7, 1 41:54 – The instinctual fear of the social instinct 48:42 – The competing interests of the three instinctual drives; what is each drive drawn to and what do they avoid?  

Kara and John dive into describing the instinctual drives, subtypes, and the controversies that exist in the field Please send comments or questions to contact@EnneagramBlindspots.com John's book is available at https://www.amazon.com/Instinctual-Drives-Enneagram-John-Luckovich/dp/0578784971/ref=sr_1_1?crid=24V4IPCZEML19&keywords=the+instinctual+drives+and+the+enneagram&qid=1660515580&s=books&sprefix=The+Instinctual+driv%2Cstripbooks%2C92&sr=1-1 8 – What's the relationship between the instinctual drives and the personality structure? Subtype as “Disease” and our growth path as a “treatment plan” 11 – Being dominant in an instinct doesn't mean you're good at it and what is Kara's experience of being self preservation dominant 13 – How can our experiences with substances help us to understand our instinctual fears? 16 – If fear itself is not just Six what is Six? What does that mean about the Head Center? 18 – How might the self preservation dominant person experience the body? 22:30 – What's the difference between an instinctual need and a strategy that's manufactured by the personality 24:45 – What is the definition of essence? What is an Essence Quality? 32:45 – How does John look at the instincts verses how other teachers might look at the instincts? 37 – How do we differentiate competition coming from an ego structure versus the sexual instinct 40 – What is the special relationship between the instincts and the Enneagram? 42 – How can family be a strategy to meet self preservation needs in addition to social needs? 46 – What are the needs of each instinctual drive? 48 – What's the difference between self esteem and self regulation in regards to the self preservation instinct 50 – What's the difference between transcendence and individuation? Is this found in the self preservation instinct? 52:55 – What are resources and foundations and why is this important to the self preservation instinct? 55 – What are the needs of the sexual instinct? 61 – What are the needs of the social instinct?

Kara and John discuss what this work means to them and where they hope to go. How are we using what we're learning about the Enneagram and the instincts? What are the three lines of work that we can all form a personal intention around? 5:45 – why does John find the Enneagram to be fascinating? Why does he get so excited about working with the blindspot 10:15 – What do we mean by authentic self and transformation? 17 – The First Line of Work – working on yourself – what strategies have John and Kara been exploring? 30:30 – The Second Line of Work – Working with others consciously and “Being” in a group 41 – The Third Line of Work – Working for the sake of the work and paying the debt of our existence 44:30 – What are our egos working for and how do we “suffer consciously”