Podcasts about intj

The Dark Side of the MBTI, Part 2.  The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator almost always discusses how wonderful people are. And they are! But what about horrible behavior? Dishonesty? Theft? Vandalism? Pointless criticism? Beating people up? Why do people do awful things? Dr. Eve Delunas & Dr. David Keirsey (who wrote "Please Understand Me") have answers. Last week, I discussed the Blues (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ) and the Greens (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, and INTJ). This week, I discuss the Oranges (ESFP, ISFP, ESTP, & ISTP) and the Golds (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, & ISTJ). Enjoy!

In this eye-opening episode, we delve into the dynamic world of an INTJ Type 1 mother raising her free-spirited ENFP Type 7 daughter. With a focus on the contrasts and complements between the thinking and feeling brains, we explore how these personality types uniquely influence their parenting and child-rearing experiences. Shana, an INTJ mother known for her structured approach and keen sense of order, shares her personal journey towards understanding and embracing her daughter Savannah's exuberant and spontaneous ENFP personality. This episode sheds light on the challenges and triumphs of letting her free-spirited child learn valuable life lessons through experience, while also emphasizing the importance of parental self-awareness in fostering a nurturing environment for vastly different personalities.   Gain insights into: Balancing Thinking and Feeling: Strategies for integrating a rational, organized approach with a need for emotional and creative expression, ensuring both mother and daughter thrive.   Embracing Free-Spirited Learning: How the mother has learned to loosen the reins and allow her daughter the freedom to explore the world, make mistakes, and grow from them in her own unique way.   Parental Self-Awareness: The crucial role of self-reflection in parenting, especially when dealing with personality types that starkly contrast with one's own. Shana discusses how understanding her own biases and limitations has been key to her growth as a parent.   Navigating Opposite Characteristics: A deep dive into the day-to-day interactions and long-term planning that come with managing differing needs and desires, highlighting both the struggles and the beautiful moments of connection.   Join us for a heartfelt and practical conversation that not only highlights the complexities of such diverse personality combinations but also provides real-world advice for parents facing similar challenges. Whether you're an INTJ, ENFP, or any other personality type, this episode offers valuable lessons on patience, understanding, and love in the face of differences. Website: Wendy Gossett.com Get FREE resources on my website: https://wendygossett.com/category/resources/ or email me at WendyGossett.com Get a FREE Child Temperament Test when you join my Not So Normal Parenting Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/notsonormalparenting Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram is Wendy.Gossett Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master's degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.   Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.   Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!  

If you've taken the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator--and over 100,000,000 Americans have, not to mention millions more people from around the world--you may have noticed its very cheerful tone: It believes every type of person is wonderful. I believe this, too--but what about crime? Lying? Stealing? Assault? People cheating on their spouses? According to the MBTI, why do people do these things?Dr. Eve Delunas & Dr. David Keirsey (who wrote "Please Understand Me") have answers. And they are deeply insightful, regarding both the origin--and the solution--for these devastating crimes and sins that can cause so much misery.Today, I discuss primarily the Blues (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ) and the Greens (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, and INTJ). Next week, I'll discuss the Oranges (ESFP, ISFP, ESTP, & ISTP) and the Golds (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, & ISTJ).

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Are you raising a future innovator, strategist, or systems architect? The INTJ is one of the rarest and most independent types—especially in girls—and their complex inner world can leave even the most insightful parent scratching their head. In this episode, we dive into the psychology behind the INTJ temperament, from their mysterious inner vision to their intense need for autonomy, structure, and meaning. Learn how to parent an INTJ child with confidence by understanding their four psychological functions (Ni, Te, Fi, Se), how they show up in babies, grade schoolers, teens, and adults, and what kinds of real-world activities will light them up. You'll also hear practical tips for helping INTJs build emotional awareness, balance their perfectionism, and adjust to life's inevitable curveballs. ✨ Take the free temperament test and find out if your child is an INTJ. Set up a FREE Chat: https://wendygossett.as.me/ChatwithWendy Take my FREE child temperament test:  https://wendygossett.com/child-inner-drive-assessment-product/ Request a FREE Adult Temperament/Enneagram/Instincts Test: https://wendygossett.com/ Website: Wendy Gossett.com Get FREE resources on my website: https://wendygossett.com/ or email me at WendyGossett.com Facebook Podcast Page: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61565445936367 Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy.gossett/?next=%2F Linked In: www.linkedin.com/in/wendygossett Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master's degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast. Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography. Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!  

In this reflection I explore several themes that link to us possibly being in a simulator (a video game). Supporting themes: Tertiary-Fi (deleted from last week's recording); The unconsciousness of introverted intuition; Relating to and reconciling the good and bad within our parents. My INTJ sister's dilemma of being both effective and expansive; Self actualization as achievable (or not); Kendrick Lamar and Samuel L Jackson's half time message-- "deduct one life." Typology: NI,Te; Fi; INTJ; Type 8.

In this episode of the Personality Hacker podcast, Joel and Antonia talk about the personality fixations that impact INFJ, INTJ, ISFJ, and ISTJ relationships.   https://personalityhacker.com

I end this reflection considering three M's: Masterminding, Models, and One Minute Acts of Manifesting. However, the bulk of the reflection is me interrogating myself as a masterminder (because I gotta little bit of imposter syndrome happening). Supporting themes: Strategy; Envisioning; Ambition; Calibrating; Grief; Death of parents; Motivation; Neurodivergence. Special Note 1: This reflection was inspired in part by Isabel Briggs Meyers ("Gifts Differing"). Special Note 2: I differentiate between three levels of masterminding; lowercase, uppercase, and all caps. Typology: Ni-domness; INTJ; INFJ; Te; Enneagram 8.

Do you desire a love that blends intellectual synergy, strategic vision, and heartfelt connection? If so, you may be the Expert LoveType (INTJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the forward-thinking strategist who thrives on knowledge, self-improvement, and purposeful partnerships. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities of the Expert and how you can find your perfect love match. Here's what we learned: As an Expert, you approach life with a keen analytical mind and an unquenchable thirst for understanding, making you a focused and perceptive partner. You excel in relationships that allow you to delve into stimulating topics, share well-reasoned perspectives, and collaborate on future goals. For you, love is about building a shared vision, celebrating each milestone of the journey, and creating a deep bond through honest dialogue and mutual respect. In relationships, you may sometimes get absorbed in your own thoughts and overlook important emotional cues—both yours and your partner's. Yet, this same dedication to thinking things through often makes you exceptionally loyal, attentive, and supportive. Your ability to plan for the future, notice small details, and offer insightful observations can be a wonderful asset to any partnership. If you're looking for true connection, consider these helpful pointers: Honor Your Vision: Your ability to see the big picture and chart a course toward meaningful objectives is one of your greatest strengths—don't hesitate to share it. By inviting your partner into your planning process, you create a sense of teamwork and inspire mutual trust. Practice Empathetic Listening: You're naturally focused on logic and problem-solving, but remember to slow down and truly hear your partner's feelings. By showing genuine interest in their emotional world, you foster deeper understanding and respect. Nurture Shared Goals: You're at your best when you can pursue growth and learning together with your partner. Whether it's studying a topic of mutual interest or taking on a challenging project, dedicating time to common pursuits strengthens your intellectual and emotional bond. Balance Logic with Warmth: While you thrive on analysis, you also need a loving emotional foundation. Be open with your affections, and reassure your mate that you're emotionally available despite your more reserved nature. Remember to share your inner feelings and let your partner see the more vulnerable facets of who you are. Although it can be easy for Experts to remain in the realm of logic, acknowledging and communicating your emotional truths can lead to a more authentic and fulfilling connection. By pairing your visionary mindset with genuine warmth, you'll cultivate a love that's both stimulating and comforting. Ultimately, your ideal relationship is one that combines intellectual exploration with true emotional closeness. When you offer your insights to someone who values your individuality, you can build a life of deep conversations, purposeful collaboration, and meaningful partnership. With the right person by your side, you'll discover that true love can be a profound journey and sustaining source of lifelong growth.  

Are you an INTJ with a minimal wardrobe or an ESTJ with a closet bursting at the seams? In this episode, I explain how your Myers-Briggs "third function" creates predictable patterns in your wardrobe size! This week I share why some personality types naturally accumulate more clothing and others prefer streamlined collections—and how this might change as you mature. Listen now to discover what your closet reveals about your cognitive functions!   The Wardrobe Pyramid: Five Steps to Defining Enough   #MyersBriggsExplained #PersonalStyle #SignatureStyle #WardrobePsychology   Let's connect! Are you a DIYer? Grab the workbook: The Wardrobe Pyramid and discover what clothes you really need for your lifestyle. Want to learn more about how to discover your Style DNA? Visit my website. To suggest a podcast topic, send email to hello@signaturestylesystems.com. Download the free guide - Discover Your Style DNA: A Guide to Seasonal Energy & Personality Colors.

NT personality types—ENTP, INTJ, INTP, and ENTJ—are known for their sharp intellect, fierce independence, and big-picture thinking. But when it comes to friendship, their strengths can also be their biggest struggles. In this episode, we break down how NTs approach relationships using the TRUE framework: Trust, Respect, Understanding, and Encouragement. You'll learn: ✅ Why NTs need mental stimulation to feel connected ✅ What makes them loyal (and what pushes them away) ✅ Why emotions can feel like a foreign language ✅ How NTs support friends in practical—but often overlooked—ways Whether you're an NT yourself or have one in your life, this episode offers clarity, humor, and powerful takeaways to strengthen your friendships with the thinkers and strategists of the world.     Set up a FREE Chat: https://wendygossett.as.me/ChatwithWendy Take my FREE child temperament test:  https://wendygossett.com/child-inner-drive-assessment-product/ Request a FREE Adult Temperament/Enneagram/Instincts Test: https://wendygossett.com/ Website: Wendy Gossett.com Get FREE resources on my website: https://wendygossett.com/ or email me at WendyGossett.com Facebook Podcast Page: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61565445936367 Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy.gossett/?next=%2F Linked In: www.linkedin.com/in/wendygossett Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master's degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.   Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.   Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

Join Eileen on the Woo Curious Podcast as she welcomes Stasha, an acclaimed period coach and founder of Period Coaching School. Stasha shares her transformative journey with endometriosis and how she found healing through blending traditional medicine with woo practices such as Qi Gong, energy work, and menstrual rituals. Together, they delve into the phases of the menstrual cycle, associating each with seasonal energies, elements, and senses. Discover practical tips for enhancing your well-being and integrating spiritual practices into your cycle. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to deepen their connection with their menstrual cycle and end the taboo surrounding menstruation.Stasha is The Period Coach. Founder of Period Coaching School, international speaker, author of The Revolution Will Be Bloody, Bloody Brilliant Business, and Enter the Red Circle. Inventor of the world's first Period Oracle Card Deck, and co-host of Period Besties Podcast. Stasha is also a dancer, cook, sword fighter, tai chi practicing, skateboarder, INTJ, outdoors loving, world traveler. She'll go anywhere as long as there's a tea kettle and WiFi. A Certified Holistic Health Coach, and 25+ years of research have fueled her passion to reconnect women to the power in their period. Stasha is leading the bloody revolution to end the taboo of menstruation world wide. No longer whispers in bathrooms, she's leading powerful public discussions.Sign up for Bloom and catch all the replays before they disappear!! Join us in the Wise Wild Woman Mentorship ProgramTake the Which Witch Are You QuizConnect with Eileen on Instagram Follow Eileen on Insight Timer Send Eileen an email Period Besties Podcast EpisodeStasha's freebies page Stasha's Flow Freedom Stasha's Main Program Page Connect with Stasha on Instagram

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In this reflection I qualitatively consider lifestyle nuances to being an INTJ Social'Subtype 8. Supporting themes: Money, Cache and Creativity (main themes); Qualitative research; Multiple selves vs a single self; Leadership; Entrepreneurship; Legal services; Emotional resources; Memory and learning; Long and short term storage.    Note 1: This reflection was inspired in part by Robert C. Bogdan and Sari Knopp Biklen ("Qualitative Research for Education" p. 43).   Note 2: There is no assignment to this reflection because I hope to record a Part 2 first).    Typology: Te; Type 8- Social; Type 8- Sexual; INTJ

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In this reflection I explore my creativity as an essential part of me as a spiritual being. Supporting themes: Perspectives; SMART Goals, resolutions and intentions; the Pandemic; Extroversion andintroversion; Respect; Credibility; Credit score and the credit game; Employment and entrepreneurship; Vulnerability and dominance. Typology: Ni and Te; INTJ; ENTP

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In this reflection I calibrate my vision of me-the-individual and me-the-institution. Supporting themes: Employment and entrepreneurship; Executive leadership; Goal setting and strategizing; Structural security; Social- friends and social- romance; Choices and divine intervention. Typology; INTJ and Enneagram Eight

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In this reflection I explore different areas in my life in which I'm ambivalent. Supporting themes: NPR; Leadership; Power; Questioning and authority; Dating; Intimacy; Gender and Race; Ethnicity and nationality; Theories; Election2024; MAGA Republicans; Donald Trump; Kamala Harris; America and Black women; Foresight; Confidence and dominance. Typology: INTP/ENTP; Enneagram 8; INTJ; Te/Fi conflict

Somehow the 2022-23 Vancouver Canucks returned.... Lord help me, its back to tha old me. On this one we talk about Thanksgiving at the Heck's, Carson Sbisa, Tyler Sbisa, Noah Sbisa, Derek Sbisa, etc. If you'd like to, support the show and receive weekly bonus episodes head on over to https://patreon.com/IHateThisTeam Presented by DraftKings - Use Promo Code THPN at sign up at https://www.draftkings.com/ for exclusive offers! Also presented by Gametime - Use Promo Code THPN at https://gametime.co/ for great deals on all sorts of tickets!

本期节目我们邀请到了王佳音mia，她大学毕业后勇闯纽约时尚圈，成为「维多利亚的秘密」第一位亚裔买手，2014年回国加入小红书，成为小红书第24号员工、电商部门的2号员工，搭建起家居/时尚两大月GMV过亿的新品类，2016年她作为联合创始人&CEO，加入专为亚洲女性打造的设计师运动服品牌「maia active」，去年10月安踏收购「maia active」业务，mia成功创业上岸。从传统时尚行业买手，到互联网内容公司早期员工，到新消费浪潮创立品牌，再到经济形势趋于保守时，将品牌卖给大公司，mia的每一步都充满了时代的特性。每一步行动背后她的思考是什么？她面临着哪些时代机遇呢？作为拥有多个社会角色的女性创业者，她又有过哪些苦恼与挣扎呢？节目中，同为INTJ的两位“米娅”，一拍即合，多次灵魂碰撞。对话开始，mia介绍了自己如何从校园直接加入维密，作为实习生以优异的表现转正，在维密工作期间，mia逐渐意识到作为亚洲人在白人公司中的职业天花板，这促使她开始考虑自己的长远发展，她看到了小红书作为互联网内容公司的巨大潜力，并抓住机会加入小红书。在小红书工作时，mia经历了公司从二十几人到六七百人的高速发展过程。在小红书工作期间，她观察到了国内消费者对高品质、个性化瑜伽服的需求缺口，以及小红书势不可挡的内容流量红利。于是她加入「maia active」，开始了7年创业之旅。在谈及女性在职场中的挑战时，miya和mia都认为女性应该充分发挥自己的优势，如细腻的情感、敏锐的直觉和强大的沟通能力，在面对挫折和失败时，要拥有超强“普信”心理 。现在，mia创业上岸，即将开启第二次生命，她又会遇见什么样的新风景呢？更多精彩，欢迎收听本期节目哟～～--时间戳-- 01:39 一个理科生女孩去维秘做买手；05:47 闯纽约时尚圈，亚裔绝对拥有优势；10:46 很难再有“i own this world”的兴奋状态；14:21 受到两个刺激，决定回国；22:47 加入小红书，踩在互联网的风口浪尖上；33:08 即便是能力超强打工人，也会碰到天花板；36:25 瑜伽服创业，借势内容生态的流量红利；41:12 好几次要挺不过去了！45:28 从0到1，撸起袖子干！50:39 INTJ的“铁石心肠”；59:08 被选中为时代的幸运儿，做个生活的观察者；01:06:02 我就静静地看你怎么物化我；01:09:11 什么在阻止女性拥有自信心？01:13:05 凭我们的能力很难把品牌带到更大更远的地方；01:20:10 人生最大的苦恼是认为世界围着我转；01:28:13 女儿带来的慰藉与爱；01:38:42 第一次生命与第二次生命；--本期团队-- 主播 / miya嘉宾 / mia后期剪辑 / 木木制作人 / 祎雯视觉设计 / 双仔--号外号外--11月1日至11月3日，声量OUT在浙江·宁波·余姚·玉兔岛再度开启。诚邀各位上岛做“野声动物”，一起撒野，在「大内夜市」小程序搜索「声量OUT」即可报名。--本节目由深夜谈谈 MidnightNetwork出品—-深夜谈谈播客网络旗下播客：大内密谈、枕边风、空岛、随便聪明、淮海333-你还可以在这里找到我们：小红书：@miya 、@深夜谈谈子微博：@枕边风theuglytruth微信：枕边风theuglytruth-商务合作邮箱：biz@midnightalks.com-加听众群：加深夜谈谈子微信（微信号: aidanei17301214531）并回复【听众群】即可进群。

In this reflection I consider love and power. Supporting themes: Existential integration (relating to self actualization and this project); Sex; Trauma; Going no contact or low contact; Rebellion and revenge; Masculine and feminine energy; Family dynamics. Supporting note: This reflection was influenced in part by Patrick Teahan and his community (adults recovering from childhood trauma). Typology: Enneagram Type 8, 2 and 1; INTJ.

Today, we're diving into a topic that's near and dear to my heart: Introverts vs. Extroverts. As most of you know, I'm an introvert myself, so this episode is for all of you who might feel like you're navigating an extroverted marketing world. First off, let's clear up some misconceptions. When people think of introverts, they often picture someone who's shy, meek, or submissive. For extroverts, it's often outgoing, steamrolling, or abrasive. But honestly, these are just stereotypes I found on the internet. The real difference? It's all about how we get our energy: Introverts recharge by spending time alone or in quiet, low-stimulus environments. Extroverts gain energy from being around other people, especially in lively, dynamic settings. How to Know Where You Stand If you're not sure whether you're an introvert or extrovert (or maybe somewhere in between), I highly recommend taking the Myers-Briggs 16 Personalities test. It's free and super insightful. You might discover you're an INTJ like me, which means you're an introvert who loves strategic thinking and planning. Being an Introvert in an Extroverted Marketing World So, how can you thrive as an introvert in a world that often feels like it's made for extroverts? Here what we talk about in the episode: How to leverage your deep thinking in strategy and connecting ideas. When your observation skills can help you understand your audience better. Find your strengths and shining where you excel. Tips on outreach that would suit your introversion better. What to consider when stretching your skills. Remember, being an introvert is a superpower – you have a quiet power and thoughtfulness that can make a huge impact. So, lean into that, sharpen your skills, and don't be afraid to show up for your business in your own unique way. Thanks for tuning in, and I can't wait to hear how you're thriving as an introvert in an extrovert's world!

咱们就是说，能不能多安排一些INTJ在我生命中？？这样我就可以立马不纠结，一秒变身理智狂人！大家好呀，今天终于剪出来4个月前（刚做播客的时候）录的一期和朋友的车内聊天播客啦！因为当时刚开始录播客，所以没话筒+ 在车上收音效果也不佳，在这里和大家抱歉，有很多杂音的话请见谅，初期录的时候实在是太青涩了！不过我觉得我们唠得特别好，所以还是想着发出来。本期的嘉宾是我的好朋友：两位优秀的30+小姐姐，双双名校毕业背景的加拿大咨询行业从业者Yenan小姐姐和能源公司的节能减排小卫士Carol小姐姐！（她自己要叫自己小卫士的，啊哈哈 好可爱）今天这一期我们聊了聊关于30+的社交，如何在职场中自洽？J人如何社交？I人和E人社交的区别在哪里？30+的人生清单有哪些？有哪些旅行地是我们推荐的？本期精彩唠点14:30 J人的强目标人格社交：先想好自己要的社交目的！18:00 I 人社交的困惑！如何把对话顺利进行下去？叶楠分享几个tips~20:00 用好奇心来发问问题会比较舒适22:40 世界没有真正的对错，不被选上不代表你不够好！24:20 从E变I的时间节点？28:00 负面都是short term(短期) 的，挫折让我们获得人生成长！31:00 “让大家高兴”的矛盾点！咱可太尴尬了！33:10 享受尴尬？到底如何做。35:00 一个人会更倾向于记住自己说的话，而不是听到的话。38:40 不要假设别人是怎么想的，也不要局限于自己的MBTI标签！44:25 来自INFJ的分享：每天脑中有不同的剧集上演！46:50 INTJ从小就会自我反省? 太神奇了！53:50 怕虫子的朋友可以看看跟着贝尔去冒险！54:20 30岁的我们，最想完成的人生心愿清单是什么？1:03:30 人生清单上的事儿，咱直接做就完了！1:04:00 Carol推荐的旅行地：神秘的印度见闻！1:10:40 叶楠分享西藏见闻：灵芝的雪山让人震撼！1:13:00 在台湾和巴黎自由行：治愈人心的和善之旅~1:18:10 化解尴尬？不想”耍猴“可以”不耍猴“！1:19:00 帮别人化解尴尬，找个借口就过去了~1:21:00 E人I人都一样人！随便就行！1:21:50 做真实的自己就是最好的————这是一期成长型播客，愿我们共同成长！Rainie是谁？�Rainie，身处加拿大多伦多即将步入30岁的全职自媒体人。已婚未育，经营一段11年的爱情。希望借助播客这个平台，和大家共同探讨个人成长、婚姻关系、人际关系的话题；探索女性30+的人生如何"既要、又要、还要" ，订阅一下Rainie，给她一点支持吧️→哪儿还可以找到她？ (虽然她大部分时刻都不在）Youtube: Rainie Tian微博/b站/小红书：Rainie田Thread/Instagram: Raintianie商务合作: contact@rainietian.ca 注明来意听友群️ 请加我私人微信：rainietian 注明“播客听友”目前打算建立群1。谢谢支持！大家有什么还想听我唠的主题欢迎留言哦，爱你们~

In this eye-opening episode, we delve into the dynamic world of an INTJ Type 1 mother raising her free-spirited ENFP Type 7 daughter. With a focus on the contrasts and complements between the thinking and feeling brains, we explore how these personality types uniquely influence their parenting and child-rearing experiences. Shana, an INTJ mother known for her structured approach and keen sense of order, shares her personal journey towards understanding and embracing her daughter Savannah's exuberant and spontaneous ENFP personality. This episode sheds light on the challenges and triumphs of letting her free-spirited child learn valuable life lessons through experience, while also emphasizing the importance of parental self-awareness in fostering a nurturing environment for vastly different personalities.   Gain insights into: Balancing Thinking and Feeling: Strategies for integrating a rational, organized approach with a need for emotional and creative expression, ensuring both mother and daughter thrive.   Embracing Free-Spirited Learning: How the mother has learned to loosen the reins and allow her daughter the freedom to explore the world, make mistakes, and grow from them in her own unique way.   Parental Self-Awareness: The crucial role of self-reflection in parenting, especially when dealing with personality types that starkly contrast with one's own. Shana discusses how understanding her own biases and limitations has been key to her growth as a parent.   Navigating Opposite Characteristics: A deep dive into the day-to-day interactions and long-term planning that come with managing differing needs and desires, highlighting both the struggles and the beautiful moments of connection.   Join us for a heartfelt and practical conversation that not only highlights the complexities of such diverse personality combinations but also provides real-world advice for parents facing similar challenges. Whether you're an INTJ, ENFP, or any other personality type, this episode offers valuable lessons on patience, understanding, and love in the face of differences. Website: Wendy Gossett.com Get FREE resources on my website: https://wendygossett.com/category/resources/ or email me at WendyGossett.com Get a FREE Child Temperament Test when you join my Not So Normal Parenting Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/notsonormalparenting Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram is Wendy.Gossett  

In this reflection I consider my construction of love and being loveable within context. Supporting themes: Survival; Prosperity; Being solo; Aging solo; Romance; Finance; Business; Home and hearth; Childhood and family trauma; Sisterhood; Donald Trump; Kamala Harris and her late mother. Other episodes referenced: "Likeability;" and "The Spiral." Typology: Enneagram Type 8; INTJ

Joyce's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCarmrOHgveKHsaV6QejAZVw Book a Typing Session with Joyce: https://www.joycemengcoaching.com/ ⌛ T I M E S T A M P S : 5:40 What motivates you to keep producing MBTI content? 11:42 What are the xNFJ values? 14:38 How would you describe yourself? 15:18 Why do INFJs seem to “hold back” their true selves in conversation? 16:24 What can INFJs learn from Fi users? 17:02 This is the best word to describe an INFJ. 19:19 How do you define yourself? Does that shape your identity? We discuss INFJ insight and foresight, which then leads into a conversation about how trauma shapes us. 30:23 How does an INFJ experience their Ni as opposed to an INTJ? 33:44 A distinction between Fi and Fe 34:59 Can you give us an example of using your Introverted Intuition (Ni) on a day-to-day basis? 38:58 Realising that people aren't as deep as you think they are. 40:06 Were you ever confused as to whether you were an INFP or INFJ? If so, how did you realise you were an INFJ? 43:39 Is it insolence if I tell people what their MBTI type is even if they get bothered by it? 45:40 Do you think we can consciously develop our 5th to 8th functions? 52:46 Do very easy tasks stress you out? 53:17 What's something you dislike admitting to be wrong about? 53:34 Which types do you tend to best get along with? 55:17 What don't you understand about ESFPs? 58:40 What are some INFJ stereotypes that you relate to and are there some that you've never personally experienced? 1:01:34 Do you like being the unpaid therapist? 1:03:18 How do you deal with being overstimulated by sensory experiences? 1:05:01 Can an INFJ become like an ESTP? 1:07:50 Why do INFJs have a martyr complex? 1:08:28 What types are you the most attracted to romantically and why? 1:12:14 Why do INFJs have poor Se in terms of body/action, but good Se in terms of style? 1:14:48 Ni doms don't seem to experience anxiety issues. Is there a reason? 1:16:14 What's the easiest tell between an INFJ and an ISFJ? 1:19:12 Be honest, do you have a superiority complex? 1:20:54 What is something about MBTI that you think a lot of people gloss over? 1:23:39 Could you tell us a little bit about the book you're writing? 1:25:33 What is one thing you've learned about yourself in writing this book? 1:26:34 What is your pitch for Enneagram? Is it worth looking into for people who haven't? 1:30:15 If you could choose one thing to tell the MBTI community about INFJs, what would it be?

In this reflection I contend with likeability as relating to friendliness, agreeableness and gender. Supporting themes: Gender penalty; support groups; therapy; Intergenerational and childhood trauma. This reflection was influenced in part by 1) Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram"); and 2) Leadership Mindset (Are you agreeable and likeable?"). Special note: There is a short segment of silence (90 seconds). I was trying to read from another app and my voice was cut off). Typology: Enneagram Type 8 and 2; INTJ; ENTJ; INFP; ESFP; ISFP

主播：Flora（中国）+ Erin（美国） 歌曲 ：Happy今天我们来聊一聊——“小狗”。越来越多的人开始养不同品种的狗狗了，但是你知道“狗”除了用“dog”之外，还有哪些词吗？主播Erin家中有一只巧克力拉布拉多犬（chocolate labrador），这只拉布拉多是她15岁时收到的生日礼物。Her name is Thalia and she is Erin's favorite person in the whole world. 这只拉布拉多很喜欢swimming and playing fetch（游泳和玩飞盘）。 Erin often takes her on hikes (带她去远足) and she will be so happy her tail wags (摇尾巴) the entire time.主播Flora虽然没养狗，但是她也很喜欢狗。前一段时间她沿着青岛的海岸线city walk（城市漫步）的时候，还看到好多的人牵着他们的狗狗出来遛弯。They're so cute!1. 不同种类的狗用英语怎么说？（1）金毛巡回犬（Golden Retriever）Retriever是巡回犬。They are traditionally (先前) used to bring back（带回） birds and animals that their owners（主人） have shot（射击）.（2）哈士奇（Siberian Husky）哈士奇这个名字是从Husky这个词音译过来的。至于为什么是“Siberian”Husky，是因为哈士奇是生活在西伯利亚（Siberia）的一种犬种。如果觉得这个名字太长了，直接说Husky也是可以的。（3）德国牧羊犬（German Shepherd）Shepherd本身也有牧羊人的意思，所以德国牧羊犬就叫German Shepherd。（4）柴犬（Shiba Inu）Shiba Inu是从日语音译过来的。It is an older Japanese dog.（5）柯基犬（Corgis）They are known for (因......而出名) their little butts (屁股) moving when they walk. 柯基犬还因为四肢很短被人们取外号叫“小短腿”。（6）贵宾犬（Poodles）A lot of people in China have poodles. 说贵宾犬可能大家不大熟悉，但是如果说“小泰迪”肯定都不陌生。其实“泰迪”只是贵宾犬的一种造型名称，并不是所有的贵宾犬都叫泰迪。Only poodles that look as cute as a teddy bear (像泰迪熊一样可爱的贵宾犬) when trimmed (修剪) can be called “泰迪”.2. 中国的本土狗，你知道多少？为我们大家所熟知的本土狗就是中华田园犬（Chinese Rural Dog）。In May (在五月), a Chinese Wu Hei Dog (五黑犬) won third place (荣获第三名) in a dog beauty pageant (选美比赛) organized by China Kennel Union (中国光彩事业促进会犬业协会). 这个比赛是由China Kennel Union（简称CKU）举办的，它是世界犬业联盟（简称FCI）在中国地区的唯一正式成员。•rural /ˈrʊrəl/ adj. 农村的，乡村的•kennel n. 养狗场FCI is an international institution (国际机构) of the same nature as (和......有相同性质) international organizations (国际组织) such as the WTO (世界贸易组织) and the WHO (世界卫生组织).The CKU now has full authority (权威) over purebred dog management (管理纯种犬) in China, and is under the authority of the FCI (被FCI授权) to breed and manage (培育和管理) the purebred breeds (纯种犬) it recognizes.•recognize /ˈrekəɡnaɪz/ v. 承认至于刚才我们说的参赛的“五黑犬”，为什么叫这个名字呢，就是这种狗头黑、尾黑、脚黑、舌头也黑。Some say never lose your Wu Hei Dogat night. Because they're so dark that you can't spot (注意到) them at night (因为他们太黑了，一到晚上你就很难发现他们).Wu Hei Dog belongs to the Chinese native dog breed (中国本土犬种), the Chinese Rural Dog(中华田园犬).Because of the glitz and glamor (浮华和魅力) of exotic breeds (外来犬种) that have been introduced in large numbers (大量引入), the Chinese Rural Dog is now discriminated against (被歧视) and considered not to be a breed (并且被认为不能作为一种犬种).或许因为他们不娇贵、好养活，又或许因为人们有一些奇奇怪怪的攀比心理。中华田园犬（the Chinese Rural Dogs）并没有得到人们足够的重视。现在更多的人选择一些名贵的外来犬种来养，而不是这种“小土狗”。很多人觉得中华田园犬不气派、牵出去没有面儿。但据说秦始皇一统中原（unified the Central Plains）的时候牵着的就是这种狗。•unify v.（使）联合，（使）统一此外，史记里面记载秦朝丞相李斯被赵高陷害、处斩之前，他对次子就说：“吾欲与若复牵黄犬俱出，上蔡，东门逐狡兔，岂可得乎！”我原本还想和你再次牵着大黄狗，一起出上蔡东门去追兔子呢，可惜办不到了。He must have missed the time (怀念那段时光) when they had a big yellow dog with them at the time.还有，苏东坡的词里面写到“老夫聊发少年狂，左牵黄，右擎苍”。这里的“黄”就指的就是用于行猎的田园犬。So the Chinese Rural Dog plays an important role (起着重要的作用) in the lives of the people. They're good helpers and companions (好帮手和好伙伴).除了中华田园犬，藏獒（Tibetan Mastiff）、松狮（Chow Chow）、西施犬（Shih Tzus）也都是中国本土的狗品种。3. 想养狗？别急，这些你先了解一下They all have their own little personalities（自己的小性格）.其实，狗狗也有自己的MBTI的。Labrador Retrievers (拉布拉多犬) are friendly and outgoing (友好外向), much like an ENFJ (主人公) personality type.Shiba Inus(柴犬) are independent and reserved (内向独立), similar to an INTJ (建筑师). 真的很难看出来，小柴犬这么一副阳光开朗的外表下竟然装着一个孤独又倔强的灵魂！If you are thinking about getting a dog, it would be good to do some research (做一些调查) on their temperament (性情) before. If you have kids for example, it is important to get a patient dog (如果家里有小孩，最好要一只有耐心的狗).还有，这个狗它掉毛严不严重啊、体型大不大呀、是中小型犬还是大型犬，这可能就关系到它的食量——一顿饭能吃多少了。Large dogs (大型犬) are generally very energetic (都很有活力). They get excited when they go outdoors and love to run wild (当他们去户外时，他们很兴奋，喜欢狂奔).Once they run, if you have very little strength (如果你力气很小), you will definitely not be able to pull them (绝对拉不动它们), and sometimes they can even take people away (有时甚至把人带走). That could be dangerous.4. 狗在中西方文化中不同的含义In traditional Western culture (传统西方文化), dogs are often seen as loyal (忠诚的), diligent (勤奋的), and great companions (很好的伙伴). 比如，"lucky dog"指的是幸运的人（fortunate person），"top dog"指的是成功的人（successful person），而"work like a dog"形容的是工作非常努力的人。In Chinese, people often use words with "dog" to describe bad people (坏人) or disdainful things (让人鄙视的事情), such as 狗腿子 (a bootlicker).•disdainful /dɪsˈdeɪnfl/ adj. 轻蔑的However, there are also positive idioms (积极的成语) like “犬马之劳” (愿意为别人效劳), and “犬不夜吠” (形容社会治安很好).From a language point of view (从语言的角度), it is quite interesting how it reflects (反应) the values and views culturally(文化的价值和观点). And this is a topic that can definitely go much deeper relating to the history, traditions, everything is related (这是一个绝对可以更深入地讲到关于历史，传统以及一切相关事物的话题).5. 狗对现代人生活的影响It feels like a lot of people have dogs and cats now (感觉现在很多人都有了猫狗), even younger people who are less stable (甚至也有不是很稳定的年轻人).Flora doesn't have any pets yet, but she would like to get a Golden Retriever very much (但是她很想养一只金毛). They are warm and intelligent (既暖心又聪明). She feels sure she'll enjoy its company (享受它的陪伴).其实现在有很多人养狗也是因为能从他们身上获取到很多情绪价值。Pets can provide psychological benefits (心理上的益处)，比如情感支持(emotional support)、减轻压力(reducing stress)和对抗孤独(combating loneliness).And they also help facilitate social interactions(促进社交) and build connections (建立联系). You can meet many people by joining clubs (加入俱乐部), walking your dog (遛狗) things like that! It is easy to connect!•facilitate /fəˈsɪlɪteɪt/ v. 促进两个遛狗的人碰上了估计能聊很久。比如，你家的狗吃的多不多呀、你家的狗拆不拆家呀...... It also helps you find a lot of things to talk about in common (共同的事).For young people, you can go on so many adventures (去冒险) with your dog, go running, hiking (徒步旅行), etc.And for older people, if they are alone, they feel less lonely (可以不那么孤独). They can get out of the house (走出房子), walk the dog (遛狗), meet people (见一些新朋友). 这对他们的身心健康也有好处。6. 生命是平等的，汪星人也想要一个爱它的家养狗也是一份很大的责任（it is a lot of responsibility）。在决定养狗之前，一定要确保（make sure）自己有能力照顾它们。现在有很多狗狗被遗弃，让人心痛（it breaks our heart）。狗狗小时候确实很可爱，但它们也会长大、变老。如果真的到了那一天，希望你也可以像当初他们陪着你一样陪伴着他们。So before you buy a dog, make sure you really are ready to make that commitment (确保你自己准备好作出承诺). Erin takes this opportunity to raise awareness (借此机会提高人们对保护狗狗的意识) for this because she really loves dogs.•commitment n. 承诺And it breaks her heart to see abused and abandoned dogs (看到虐狗和弃狗会让她心痛).Flora would also like to make it clear (阐明) that although the word "dog" has some derogatory connotations in traditional Chinese culture (虽然“狗”这个词在中国传统文化中带有一些贬义的含义), this does not prevent us from loving and protecting dogs (但这并不妨碍我们爱护和保护狗). •derogatory /dɪˈrɑ:ɡətɔ:ri/ adj. 贬低的哪里都有爱犬人士，但是虐狗、弃狗的现象也无处不在。She said that she is not a dog owner, but maybe she will have a dog (她虽然现在不养狗，但是可能以后会养一只). Even if she doesn't have one in the future (即使以后她也没有狗狗), she still join Erin today (她仍然和Erin一起) in calling for (提倡) the protection and kindness of dogs (保护和善待狗狗), because she believes that life is equal (生命是平等的). 希望狗狗不再有高低贵贱之分，希望每只狗狗都能找到真正爱它的家。请留言告诉我们：你家里有狗狗吗？或者你想养一只狗吗？欢迎和我们分享你和狗狗的有趣故事！

In this reflection I process an episode published by Personality Hacker (the Husband and Wife Team): "Dealing with Trauma in Your Auxiliary Co-pilot." Supporting themes: Personality theory; Cognitive functions; Typing and typology; MBTI and the Enneagram; Abnormal Psychology; Depression; Religion and Spirituality; Social Institutions and socialization; Race, gender and the socio-political world; Physical abuse; Trapped grief; Systems thinking; Education. This reflection was also influenced by Isabel Briggs Meyers with Peter B. Meyers ("Gifts Differing"). Special Note: The first half of the reflection was about my journey with and acceptance of Personality Hacker. I offer critiques but I am truly thankful and am in awe of how they show up in the world. #lifechanging Typology: Ni, Te, Fi, INTJ, ENTJ, ESFJ

In this reflection I try to confront what my mind won't say. Supporting themes: The body keeps score; BFF and friendships; Structures, business and social as three key pillars; Pathologies; Pain by proxy; Cults and narcissistic family structures; Outgrowing yourself and your old connections. This reflection was influenced in part by WebMD ("What is Dissociation?"). Typology; INTJ; Type 8

I this reflection I contend with a single pursuit. Supporting themes: Organizing and regulating the outer world; Self Preservation; Masterminding; Taking risks and calibrating; LinkedIn and a professional identity; Family and staying connected (or not); (Re) locating. This reflection was influenced in part by Isabel Briggs Meyers with Peter B. Meyers ("Gifts Differing"); Dr. Charles Chaffin ("Choice Overload: I Can't Decide"); and Personality Hacker (I referenced them frequently in this reflection). Typology: Te vs Ti, INTJ and Self Preservation- Eight

If you have been struggling to grow your property management business, you might have been prioritizing the wrong things… In this episode of the #DoorGrowShow, property management growth experts Jason and Sarah Hull discuss how having the right priorities and getting support helps with business growth. You'll Learn [01:30] Are you prioritizing the right things? [08:30] Why you CAN'T do everything yourself [20:20] How prioritizing safety might hinder growth [27:30] Why you should be willing to take risks [30:50] Prioritize results and get those results Tweetables “You may have all the right priorities. They're just in the wrong order.” “I think a lot of times we hold onto things simply because ‘we want it done right' means ‘done according to my set of values.'” “Pain's an inevitable scenario if you keep trying to do the same thing and expecting a different outcome.” “You can either have your excuses or you can have results, but you can't have both.” Resources DoorGrow and Scale Mastermind DoorGrow Academy DoorGrow on YouTube DoorGrowClub DoorGrowLive TalkRoute Referral Link Transcript [00:00:00] Sarah: Isn't that the definition of insanity? It's doing the same thing over and over and over and then expecting a different result. [00:00:06] Jason: I think that's what creates insanity. Like, pain's an inevitable scenario if you keep trying to do the same thing and expecting a different outcome.  [00:00:14] Welcome DoorGrow property managers to the #DoorGrowShow. If you are a property management entrepreneur that wants to add doors, make a difference, increase revenue, help others, impact lives, and you are interested in growing in business and life, and you're open to doing things a bit differently, then you are a DoorGrow property manager. DoorGrow property managers love the opportunities, daily variety, unique challenges, and freedom that property management brings. Many in real estate think you're crazy for doing it. You think they're crazy for not, because you realize that property management is the ultimate high trust gateway to real estate deals, relationships, and residual income. [00:00:56] At DoorGrow, we are on a mission to transform property management business owners and their businesses. We want to transform the industry, eliminate the BS, build awareness, change perception, expand the market and help the best property management entrepreneurs win. We're your hosts, property management, growth experts, Jason and Sarah Hull, the founder and CEO and the COO of DoorGrow. Now let's get into the show.  [00:01:25] I did the intro right this time I think. I didn't screw it up. We could just have it prerecorded, people. You never know what you're going to get. Okay. So I was thinking about what we could talk about this morning and I've been doing some reflection and some study and the topic that just keeps coming up in my mind is prioritization and priorities. [00:01:44] In fact, I'll probably talk a little bit about that and do an exercise with some of the cool people that are coming to DoorGrowLive. Cause I really think if you're not experiencing growth and you're not having the success that you want, you're not getting the results that you want in business and life, then it's pretty simple. It's just that your priorities are out of alignment with you getting the results that you want. And you may have all the right priorities. They're just in the wrong order. And so you're prioritizing something over the thing that if you prioritize would give you the results that you actually want in your life. [00:02:20] And so I was thinking about this question and I threw it out to Sarah while she's getting ready this morning. And I said, "what are people prioritizing over growth?" Because the people that come into our program, the work with us, they get great results. They are different. They're prioritizing growth over certain other things. [00:02:39] And so people that don't work with us, why do they not spend money on coaching? Why don't they invest in coaching? And so why don't we go to Sarah and find out, what do you think? Why are people not spending money on coaching? Like where entrepreneurs at in their journey that mentally that's preventing them from spending money on a coach, moving the business forward or working towards growth? [00:03:05] Sarah: Well, I think there's a few reasons that this could be the case. And one might be that people don't even know what a coach would do, right? Like, "how would a coach help me?" And some people might not even be aware that that's an option.  [00:03:22] Jason: Got it.  [00:03:22] Sarah: I wasn't for a very, very long time. Even when I was running my business, I didn't know, "Hey, there's people that will help you." [00:03:30] Jason: Okay. That's fair enough. So what cracked your mind open to the idea or possibility of coaching?  [00:03:38] Sarah: Well, honestly, it was you. You're really big on coaching. I had never had a coach in my life. Ever. And when you and I had moved in together, you are so big on coaching and you do a variety of different types and styles of working with coaches. [00:04:00] And some of it is mastermind style and some of it is one on one and some of it is event type. And I realized, "wow, this is really great." Like, I just did not make that connection and realization that there are people who genuinely want to help other people succeed in life and in business.  [00:04:21] Jason: So I want to clarify what you're saying. [00:04:26] Clarify something. Some people listening will hear, "Oh, Jason's into coaching. Yeah, we know he coaches people. That's what he does. It's what he's trying to sell." And what you're saying is you saw me getting coached.  [00:04:38] Sarah: Oh yes, working with coaches.  [00:04:39] Jason: Working with coaches, joining masterminds. Like I'm the student.  [00:04:43] Sarah: I knew what you did when obviously when I met you.  [00:04:45] Jason: Yeah.  [00:04:46] Sarah: But I also saw you embody that and you work with a lot of coaches yourself. And in seeing you and the business, our business, work with coaches, that was something I was like, "Oh, wow. Okay. That helps a lot." Because coaches, especially when you work with a coach that's been there, done that... because there's a lot of coaches that they don't really know. They're like, "well, this was a great theory." But when you work with a coach that has. done the thing and gotten the result and had that experience and now they can talk about it and they can share their experience and they can share their knowledge and they can say, "Hey, I tried this and it didn't work. So avoid this," and "Hey, this got me in some hot water, so definitely don't do that," And, "this was really successful and here's how I did it and here's why I did it this way. And I kept testing and refining." And then they can share that knowledge with you. And when I started experiencing that in DoorGrow, With the coaches that we worked with, that was something that I was like, "Oh, well, that would have been nice to know." [00:05:52] Jason: And Sarah learns super fast. Like I've always been super impressed by how quick you adopt new information or new ideas. Like most people I think it takes a while for people to absorb certain things, but some things you're just like, "yeah." And you're like, "let's do coaching." [00:06:05] And we've tried lots of different coaches out together. Like some not good.  [00:06:09] Sarah: Some are not good.  [00:06:10] Jason: Right. It's like a...  [00:06:12] Sarah: colossal waste of money.  [00:06:14] Jason: Some really good.  [00:06:15] Sarah: Some really good.  [00:06:16] Jason: Some we weren't ready for. We just like didn't have the capacity or the bandwidth to work with them.  [00:06:21] Sarah: Mm hmm.  [00:06:22] Jason: We just had so much going on. [00:06:23] Like we took on too much. Maybe we had too many coaches at a time, something like this. Right. Even right now, like I'm onboarding and I'm coaching and training two new sales team members, plus my son in learning setting and sales. But I went and got outside help. So I have a coach right now that's coaching me and them. [00:06:45] And then I'm spending each day coaching them, but each week we're meeting with a coach and he's an expert in sales and he's helping us go to another level and work on scripts and work on our communication, work on language. And that's been really helpful. I'm always leveling up my skills. [00:06:59] And I think it's important to never get comfortable. And I think for me, I just try to imagine like if I didn't have coaches or mentors and I'm every day trying to like coach people and sell coaching to me, that would feel like a gross lack of integrity. Feels like I'd be grossly out of alignment, and a lot of the coaches that we have, I found them through coaching programs that we were in with them. Right. And so I know that they believe in coaching and they're in integrity. And I know that they're in the areas, at least that I am seeking help in, they are ahead of me in that game. And and so I can trust them. [00:07:39] There's evidence they can help get results and they've given some value already. And so I'm like, "okay, I should, we should work with them." And I think that's one of the challenges. And so everybody out there, if you're like, " why am I not spending money on coaching or why don't I have a coach?" [00:07:52] I think there's a lot of reasons for that. But I think just as a side note, if you're going to get a coach, don't work with a coach that doesn't have a coach , right? If they went through one program one time, they're like, "I went through this coaching program and got a certificate one time." Then do they really believe in coaching? [00:08:10] No. They just believed in getting the appearance of being a good coach and they're not actually a coachable person. I believe in order to be able to coach others, you have to also be coachable and being able be able to learn. I learned a massive amount just by coaching, coaching clients and supporting them. [00:08:29] And so let's get into what people maybe are prioritizing instead of growth. If they're not growing. Because some people are listening to this and they're like, "well, I've been stuck at the same number of doors I've been at for like two, three years." So what priority might be off or what are they prioritizing that's different? [00:08:45] What might be off? What are some of the things they're prioritizing?  [00:08:48] Sarah: I think one of the big things is this need to control everything. And I understand because I am a control freak. I get it. And for a long, long time, I had always said, "if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself." [00:09:08] So, why would I ask somebody else to do this thing, and then I'm just going to have to go check and see if they did it the right way? And "oh, they made a mistake, so now I have to... it's just easier and faster for me to just go and do it myself!" Right? Instead of teaching somebody or training somebody or just asking them to do it, but then really secretly I'm going to go and check and see if they actually did it. [00:09:28] So delegation for me was very hard for a very long time. Because I am very detail oriented, and very OCD, and very organized, and I'm very particular in how things get done. So, I believe there's a right way, and a wrong way to do just about every task that there is.  [00:09:49] Jason: Yeah, that's very, very INTJ thinking of you. [00:09:53] But I'm not incorrect. Most of the time, you're not, right? And so, if you want it done right, you do it yourself. Is that true? Sometimes, right? Like there's a lot of situations where that's true. The challenge is: could it be possible that if somebody else did it, it could be done better than you? [00:10:12] Right. That could be true too. And so I think getting a coach is you start to recognize where you might have gaps and the ultimate evidence is our results. If we're not getting the results that we want, then maybe we're not the person that should be doing that thing. Because we're not getting the results and we're doing it. [00:10:29] So it's us, right? But yeah, I think that's a belief that a lot of people have in the beginning. "I want it done right." And I think a lot of times we hold onto things simply because "we want it done right" means "done according to my set of values." There's lots of different ways to do something and the outcome could be similar or could work or could be positive, but we have certain values that we want it done in a certain way to be the right way. [00:10:54] The right way. Yes. And INTJs very much feel there's a right way and a wrong way for everything. The challenge is a lot of times, if we're super rigid and believing we always have the right way, we can't see around corners. There's certain personality types, though, that can see a lot more opportunity and a lot more variety of options. [00:11:13] And they usually can crack those strong J's brains open, that are judging, to some new ideas and new possibilities. And eventually they'll adopt those, right? And so that's, I think where we have a nice balance in our relationship is you're usually right. A lot of things and very strategic brain and can figure stuff out and you're like, something's off here. [00:11:35] You're very intuitive. And and usually right when you're like, "something's not right here." And then also, I'm very good at seeing alternatives, other possibilities, and exposing you to some other options or some other ideas.  [00:11:48] Sarah: Yes. And you're also very good at human emotions.  [00:11:52] Jason: Oh. [00:11:52] Sarah: I'm not good at human emotion. [00:11:54] Jason: Right.  [00:11:55] Sarah: You're like, "well, you can't do that because it'll make people feel like this." And I'm like, "so?" [00:12:01] Jason: Yeah, yeah, this is a constant frustration. You're like, "why won't people just do what I told them to do when I just tell them one time in a very succinct way, exactly what I want?  [00:12:11] Sarah: Right? Like I have all the answers, just listen and then do what I tell you to do! That's it. Like, it's so easy. I feel like life would be so much easier if you just listen. [00:12:22] Jason: And so the one advantage, one of my maybe few advantages over you cognitively maybe is the idea that I can empathize a bit more with other people and I can figure out what would it take to get this installed into their brain? [00:12:38] What would make this digestible for them? What would make this palatable? What would make them able to adopt or absorb this idea or to remember this idea or for this to work? And you're like, "just tell them!" Because I can just tell you and you get it. And you'll get annoyed if I start to explain and use analogy. [00:12:53] Sarah: I got it, I got it.  [00:12:55] Jason: Yeah.  [00:12:55] Sarah: Give me the thing that I need.  [00:12:56] Jason: Those things are very effective. I got it. Other people.  [00:12:58] Sarah: And now I'm going to go and do it. That's how I work.  [00:13:01] I think other people work like that too, but sometimes they don't and it's crazy to me! I don't... crazy!  [00:13:07] Jason: So I think one of the things that people prioritize over growth sometimes is that self struggle. Like there's people that value doing it themselves. [00:13:17] Like even as a little kid, my daughter, Madi, I would try to tie her shoelaces and she didn't even know how to do it! And she would say, "no, I do it! I do it!"  [00:13:25] Like she wouldn't let me do it.  [00:13:26] Sarah: Hey Madi.  [00:13:27] Jason: Madi edits our podcast, so she'll see this. She wanted to do it. And I'd be like, "okay." [00:13:32] And she's just sitting there struggling. But she was determined and eventually she figured it out and eventually she might be frustrated enough to allow me to help her. Right? And sometimes we have to allow people to struggle, but a lot of times we're self struggling and it's self imposed and we're not having success in our business or success in growth or adding doors or making more money or retaining clients or whatever it might be. And we're so stuck on this idea of self struggle, which is DIY, right? "I'm going to do it myself." and I've been this guy. I'll watch YouTube videos. I'll read books. I will figure it all out on my own. [00:14:06] " I'm smart enough. I can do this." And what I want to say to everybody listening, that that's you. You're right. You're totally right. You are smart enough to figure everything out eventually, it's just going to take you probably a decade longer than somebody that goes and gets coaching or gets helped. And I've been that I've done that. [00:14:24] Jason: I've spent like a decade doing stupid stuff. I'm in my forties. I've spent at least a decade doing some things and struggling with some things before I got help with it. And the amount of time somebody that already has succeeded at this or knows what works can collapse for you in the experimentation, in the struggles, in the financial risks, in the time wasting is pretty significant, like dramatically significant. [00:14:48] I've had mentors... I have one mentor. I paid him three grand a month and it was the biggest expense ever. Like I signed up for this coach and I immediately was like in a short period of time was making 30 grand more a month. That's a pretty decent return. Right? And I would have been stupid to not have done that, but it was a calculated risk. [00:15:07] At the time I was in a dysfunctional marriage and my wife at the time cried when I told her I was spending three grand a month, and we've spent a lot more than three grand a month on some of our coaches and mentors.  [00:15:19] Sarah: At the time three grand was a lot and it was scary.  [00:15:21] Jason: Oh, yeah.  [00:15:22] That was my first dive into high ticket coach. Yes. Working with the coach.  [00:15:26] Sarah: Yes, and I think the other thing to point out too about working with someone else is that It's not always about, "well, I must be bootstrapped. I must do it myself. I'm going to figure it out. I'm going to do it all. I don't need any help." [00:15:40] Sometimes it's not even that sometimes it's, you just think things are really good because we hear that sometimes. Not all the time, but sometimes like, "Oh, things are pretty good in the business," but you don't know what you don't know.  [00:15:51] Sometimes you just don't know what you don't know. And you think, "well, if things keep going the way that they are right now, that's okay. Like, maybe it's not my dream situation, but I'm also not really hating my day to day. And I'm not in this massive struggle." So I'm like, "things are okay. So do I actually need help? And do I need to reach out and work with someone?" And a lot of times, even if you think things are pretty good, and " maybe I don't need help." And you're right. You maybe don't need help. Perhaps you just need help to see what else is possible for you. [00:16:31] Jason: And they may not need help. They may not need it. If you're smart and you have big goals and you want to move forward quicker, then maybe you would want it, right? You would desire it instead of feel like this needy energy, like, "Oh, I need this." I think that's sometimes what limits us is we don't want to feel like we need something. [00:16:48] We don't want to admit we need something because it's a gross energy to be needy or to need something. It almost feels victimy to some people. I think when we have goals and we know what we want and we see that other people can help us, it becomes a little bit more natural for us to be able to do that. [00:17:03] Sarah: And I also think, this is another gripe I have with our lovely education system, is that in school, you are taught, "do it on your own." [00:17:13] "Don't look at other people's. Don't cheat. Don't ask your neighbor." If you're stuck, you pretty much ask the teacher. Refer back to your lesson and figure it out. When you're taking a test, you can't go "hey Joe, I don't know what number 13 is. You know what number 13 is?" You're not allowed to do that.  [00:17:32] Yeah, like getting help is wrong.  [00:17:33] It's wrong, right! So just have it memorized and regurgitate it. So take the information in, memorize it, and vomit it back up on a piece of paper, and then I will give you a passing grade. In the middle of a test, are you able to raise your hand and say, "Hey teacher, I had a question. I'm stuck on this. I don't really understand this. Can you please help me arrive to the answer?" No! No, you cannot! So in school, they teach us the self reliance. And I do believe that that is a very positive thing in one way. And in another way, it hinders our growth. Because in business, you should rely on other people so that you can get better results and go farther faster.  [00:18:17] Jason: So I think also what school teaches us, the way school is set up is there's this one guru expert at the front of the room that we have to listen to all the time. [00:18:27] And so we learn to be reliant on the leader for all the answers. And sometimes the leader doesn't have them, right? Sometimes they don't know. Sometimes they have blind spots. Everybody's been a student when they've called their teacher out on something that was off or wrong, right? Or seen that happen, and they lose that credibility. And teachers just usually don't tolerate that very well. They don't like being seen as having flawed thinking. Having a wrong idea or being wrong. And so there's this sort of authoritarianism that's like involved in schools. It's like, trust the authority, trust the leader, be this blind, dumb beast and let them lead you around. And that's like the Bible and book of revelations talks about the mark of the beast and the hand and the forehead. And maybe it's just your thoughts and your labor just being controlled by outside unearned authority. And people should earn. their authority, right? I work with coaches because they've earned authority, not because they just told me like somebody like put a gun to my head or forced me or I was in a school system and they said I had to do it this way. [00:19:30] So I think the irony of self struggle or DIY is that A lot of you are frustrated and thinking "I've got to do everything myself," but then you are probably because of that energy that you are being and creating in the universe and just how you show up with other people, you probably are really triggered and really frustrated with all the people that you encounter that think they could do a better job themselves. [00:20:00] Because you have the same energy or problem as them, and so they trigger you. So if you're running, you're butting your head all the time with these DIY people in the industry, people that are trying to self manage their properties or people that are trying to micromanage really self manage through you to get you to do the work, it may be because you're carrying this belief of self struggle or doing it yourself. [00:20:22] So just something to chew on. So another challenge that I think why people don't spend money on coaching or what they're prioritizing maybe over growth is there might be prioritizing safety or ease or comfort. And so what do you have to say about that?  [00:20:38] Sarah: So you have to get uncomfortable if you want results. [00:20:42] If you want results that are different than what you're currently getting, you can't take the same actions you're taking now and expect to get different results. I think, isn't that the definition of insanity? It's doing the same thing over and over and over and then expecting a different result. [00:20:57] Jason: I think that's what creates insanity. It stresses people out and makes you start to go crazy a little bit. That's a pretty painful. Pain's an inevitable scenario if you keep trying to do the same thing and expecting a different outcome. Now, everybody, as we age, we tend to move towards more and more comfort. [00:21:14] I saw a video the other day. I think it was Gary Brecka, this health guy. He said that after the age of 30, most people will never do another sprint again in their life.  [00:21:24] Sarah: Well, I don't want to sprint. If I'm sprinting, y'all better follow me because...  [00:21:27] Jason: right. That's what people are saying. Like, they're like, "yeah, I don't want to. That's uncomfortable. I don't want to be cold. I don't want to be too hot." Comfort is he like described as is what leads us towards death ultimately. We want to be comfortable. We don't go work out at the gym. We don't build muscle, which affects our cognitive functioning later in life. It makes our bones more brittle. We then have a broken bone and like like we're hospitalized till we die right in our later years if we don't do the right things And so we're always seeking comfort and ease, and when we're always seeking comfort and ease, we shift the weight towards others. We Become, what I would kind of phrase as a victim or a blamer. We're a victim. We blame other people. We're complaining about our circumstances constantly, right? [00:22:17] And instead of doing work or taking action or doing the things that are uncomfortable. And I think there's this stoic phrase that from, I don't know, one of the cool guys that is involved in stoicism or whatever, but the idea is "hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life." [00:22:34] And a lot of people, I think could go, "that's true." I've seen some people make some easy choices, choices towards comfort, choices towards ease and their life's pretty difficult because they've avoided doing the hard, uncomfortable things, having the hard, uncomfortable conversations with people they should have, doing work, working hard to get the outcomes and a life of greater ease and comfort, right? [00:22:55] And so I think if you prioritize ease and comfort over growth, what's going to happen?  [00:23:00] Sarah: Not much.  [00:23:01] Jason: Well, you're not going to grow, right? Because growth isn't necessarily about ease and comfort, right? And so, even in nature, if we take a fruit tree or a bush that produces some sort of, fruit, whatever, if we cut that, tree and trim it, it will then yield a bigger result. [00:23:19] And sometimes if it's overgrown, it can't even produce fruit very effectively because it's too busy feeding everything else, all the branches leaves. So trimming it allows it to produce more fruit. And we're similar in that we need some friction and some intentional discomfort in our life and action in order to produce or bear fruit, in order to get the things that we want in life. [00:23:42] Having uncomfortable conversations creates greater peace in our relationships. Being willing to take action in our business allows us to have more freedom, more revenue financially, and to be able to take care of our team and ourselves better. And so we can't be a victim and a blamer and complain about the market and complain about COVID and whatever your stupid excuses are, whoever's listening. [00:24:04] If you've got all your excuses why you're not growing, you can either have your excuses or you can have results, but you can't have both. So which one would you rather choose? Right? And there's a lot of people that would rather choose their excuses because it allows them to not do anything. It allows them, "well, the market's tough, so I just might as well not do anything." [00:24:23] Like right now, real estate agents, some are like, "oh, real estate market's tough. Can't get deals." Right? And then there's people that are still closing a bunch of deals and making plenty of money. And so our beliefs and our mindset and how we prioritize things shifts things. And so are you prioritizing ease and comfort? [00:24:40] Sometimes it's not even about our own ease and comfort. Well, maybe it is. Sometimes people won't join a coaching program because their spouse doesn't want to spend the money or their business partner doesn't want the business to grow. We see that like they're an operator personality type. [00:24:54] They're not really focused on growth and they're like, "no, we have good, stable, residual income. Like why rock the boat? And I'm getting 50 percent of the revenue," or whatever I've seen. And they're like, "why change anything? Don't disrupt my comfort here." And the other person's like, "let's have more doors. Let's go crazy. I'm a visionary." [00:25:12] And the operator personality type's like, "yeah, but that would make my life worse. I don't need more money. I'm comfortable. Don't mess up my comfort." [00:25:21] And sometimes the business visionary, or if it's with your spouse, we're not having that uncomfortable conversation with them because it means rocking the boat. [00:25:31] It's uncomfortable. It means there might be a fight. It means you might get screamed at or get some angry emotion thrown at you. In some scenarios. And so I think it's really important to connect with deep down. Like, what do we really want? And what really should we be doing that we just know is right for us and being willing to step into that discomfort. I made some very uncomfortable choices in my day in order to get to where I'm at now. And sometimes it involved me having to look stupid in front of a group in a mastermind. Sometimes it involved me having to have uncomfortable conversations in relationships or even to end relationships. [00:26:10] That's super uncomfortable. In order to move forward and do what I felt I was called to do or what I felt deep down. What I think is also interesting is more people are a lot more comfortable with those that are willing to do uncomfortable things and speak uncomfortable words. [00:26:29] It makes everybody feel safer because they can trust that person. You can't trust people that are always focused on ease and comfort. I don't think they're as trustworthy of people because part of life in order to have integrity, in order to be honest, in order to work hard, in order to benefit the people that you have a fiduciary duty or responsibility to benefit like clients, you have to be willing to do the uncomfortable things. [00:26:53] Otherwise, you're shifting all the discomfort on to everybody else. "Everybody else around me has to be uncomfortable so I can have comfort." And that does not create great relationships, safety, or create a good client or business relationship in the longterm. So that's my soapbox about that. All right. [00:27:09] So, another reason people don't prioritize that they don't prioritize a growth is they might be looking at the short term. Maybe it's related to comfort. Maybe it's related to just, "I need to make sure I have cash now and they're giving up the longterm, maybe more cash later, maybe a bigger business later." Any thoughts about that?  [00:27:28] Sarah: This was your thing.  [00:27:29] Jason: I've run into this where I've talked to people and they're like, "well, I don't know. I don't have a lot of money right now," I think this is where you need to be willing to take a risk and bet on yourself. [00:27:37] Find a system that's proven. We've got plenty of case studies and results to show that our stuff works. It's all proven. It all works. What I find is the only real question people need to figure out is, are they willing to work? Do they trust themselves? Are they willing to bet on themselves? And a lot of people don't. [00:27:53] A lot of times we've struggled to even do the little things that we've told ourselves that we were going to do. And so we're out of integrity and we don't trust ourselves anymore. Like, "I'm going to work out at the gym tomorrow. I'm tired." Right. We've all done that. I've done that this week. Right. I did work out this morning though. But we've done that. We've all done that. And so it's the making these little movements of taking action towards our own integrity. Like I'm going to do this. And then I do it learning to trust ourselves again. And the one person you can control is you. And so when you have strong trust in yourself. [00:28:28] Very few things are supremely risky because you're betting on yourself, especially if you're getting support to become better. And so, it may be a cash investment now, but if you can see there's a system and you can see there's results, then maybe the risk is worth it. You should get an ROI if you do the right actions, if it's a proven system. So I think those are some of the things. So why don't we look at the reverse real quick, and then we'll wrap up.  [00:28:54] The reverse would be what are our clients like? What's different about our clients? What do they prioritize that made them decide to work with us? What are they prioritizing differently that said " why would I not spend money on coaching? I should totally do this."  [00:29:08] Sarah: Yeah. Well first I think they believe in their ability to do it.  [00:29:13] Jason: Hmm.  [00:29:14] Sarah: Because if you don't believe in yourself, there's nothing that you're going to be able to do. No coach can help you. You've got to figure that out first. So they believe in themselves and they are also committed. [00:29:27] And I think that is something that sometimes people are lacking. It's, they're just lacking a actual true commitment.  [00:29:37] Jason: So commitment, I feel like is, maybe it's a choice, but I feel like it's also an outcome of choices, right? So what are they choosing to prioritize? You think that maybe makes them more committed? [00:29:49] Sarah: You're so cryptic today. You're like, " what are they choosing?" Like...  [00:29:52] Jason: well, I don't know, this is an interesting question I think to chew on.  [00:29:55] Sarah: What makes people more committed?  [00:29:56] Jason: Why are some people committed and some people are not? We're talking about priorities today, so I'm thinking, what are the priorities that they have that leads to being strongly committed? [00:30:05] Sarah: It's either you're in it or you're out. It's like a pool. You're either in the pool or you're out of the pool. Yeah. That's it. You, like, you're either wet or you're dry. That's it. You can't like, "well, I've got a toe in the pool." Like it doesn't work. It doesn't work in business. [00:30:19] And if you're finding that, "well, like I have my foot in the pool a little bit, I'm going to pull it out if I have to pull it out," that business will forever be hard. You have to either go all the way in or go all the way out. Because if you're in the middle, it is difficult and it will remain difficult. [00:30:37] Jason: Yeah. It's really painful to be in between.  [00:30:40] Sarah: So either jump in the pool or jump out of the pool. Neither one is wrong.  [00:30:45] You might go, "I hate this pool. I don't like it." Great. Then find a different pool.  [00:30:50] Jason: So in chewing on this, I think in looking at myself when I'm fully committed to something, it's because I have prioritized the outcome. [00:31:00] The outcome is clear enough and important enough and motivating enough that I will do whatever it takes to get that outcome. That's when I'm fully committed to something. I'll do whatever it takes to get that outcome because I know what I want. That's one of the things is our clients know what they want. [00:31:17] Like they know that there's outcomes that they want. You mentioned, they believe in their ability to do it, to learn, to take action. And so they are a hundred percent committed. If you're committed to something and you don't know how to do it, you'll figure it out because you'll do whatever it takes. [00:31:34] You will struggle. You'll do go through trial and error. You'll fail. You'll make mistakes. And I think that's another thing is our clients believe in their own themselves enough to be willing to make mistakes. Whereas some people prioritize not looking bad or not making mistakes. And so they don't take the action. [00:31:51] They were like, "I need it all to be perfect and to know how to do everything before I do it because I don't want to be embarrassed or look stupid." And so I think some of our most successful clients are willing to just try stuff. They're just willing to do it. They don't have this need that they have to look so smart or whatever. [00:32:07] And sometimes those people struggle the most, right? Sometimes they are super smart, but they have to look good and look smart all the time. So I think in short, our clients prioritize growth, they prioritize learning, they prioritize taking risks, experimenting, and this is why they are able to move forward. [00:32:26] So hopefully this episode helps you reassess some of your own priorities. Like if you're not getting the results, make a list of what your priorities are and figure out like "what am I prioritizing currently that's leading to my current results?" Because if you can't see that, then you can't change it. [00:32:40] And as soon as you can see it and you shift your priorities, "well, I need to start prioritizing this." Maybe you need to start prioritizing action. Maybe you need to start prioritizing your health more. Maybe you need to start prioritizing learning more. Whatever it is, in order to get the outcomes that you want. [00:32:55] But if you're not getting the outcomes you want, your priorities are off. And hopefully this is an opportunity and an invitation for you to introspectively figure that out. And I hope that was beneficial.  [00:33:05] If you're struggling with any of this and you want some help getting clarity figuring out your priorities figuring out what you need to do in order to grow, you have a blind spot, you can't see it... like you need some external perspective, we all have problems we can't see. [00:33:20] And if you're not getting the results, you lack some knowledge. You lack some insight. And so reach out to us at DoorGrow. One of our growth consultants can help you figure this out, help you figure out where you might be stuck, what you need to get to the next level. [00:33:33] And you probably have some garbage or junk beliefs that are preventing you from being able to take things to the next level. And once those are out of the way, you're golden, right? So until next time to our mutual growth. Bye everyone. [00:33:46] you just listened to the #DoorGrowShow. 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Send me a textAs an INTJ, you may be wondering what your role is in a relationship. In this video, I explore the unique strengths and skills of the INTJ personality, also known as the Strategizing Mystic. With the ability to strategize, plan, and bring order into people's lives, INTJs have a lot to offer in a relationship. Additionally, their long-term visioning component can help couples organize their lives in a way that utilizes their strengths and improves them as individuals. Watch the video to learn more!Original video: https://youtube.com/shorts/1SB4xTUMniY?si=YS8hnSAHzl0tLgaCSupport the Show.

Dr. Dario Nardi talks about the 4 brain-based subtypes of the INTJ personality type. ☆Check out what I'm up to!☆ Hi there! I'm Joyce, a certified MBTI® Master Practitioner, Enneagram Coach, Jungian Typology Expert, Master NLP Practitioner, and Gallup® CliftonStrengths Coach. WONDERING WHICH ONE OF THE 16 PERSONALITY TYPES YOU ARE? Book a session to get my take on your type. I'd love to help guide you on your type-discovery journey! Here is my scheduling link to arrange a time with me: https://calendly.com/joycemengcoaching I charge $85 for a typing session. Another colleague of mine certified by Personality Hacker will work alongside me and we will give you our independent assessments of you. Want to go deeper? For $97, you can purchase a typing session with 1 hour of additional coaching with me. Or maybe you know your personality type already and are seeking some type-based coaching? As a trained coach, I can help you apply type concepts to all areas of your life for lasting change. The coaching session rate is $75 per hour for a bundle of 3. :) By purchasing a session, you will help support the Type Talks channel and gain personalized mentorship and guidance from an experienced industry expert with over 12 years of experience. If you'd like to get in touch, you can email me at joycemeng22@gmail.com For those of you who are interested, I am also launching a website and releasing a typology book next year! Here's a link to my coaching website if you'd like to learn more about me and the services I offer: https://www.joycemengcoaching.com/ Connect with me on Twitter: https://twitter.com/JoyceMeng22 Like the show? Buy me a coffee! (it means the world to me): https://ko-fi.com/joycemeng Show your support by becoming a monthly patron! https://ko-fi.com/joycemeng/tiers Want to know when the next Type Talks video is premiering? Join our Discord community for the latest updates! (Inactive now, looking for moderators) https://discord.gg/ksHb7fmMcm ☆Check out Dario Nardi!☆ Decode Your Personality: Go Beyond Myers-Briggs With 64 Brain-Based Subtypes: https://www.amazon.ca/Decode-Your-Personality-Myers-Briggs-Brain-Based/dp/B0CMJ5W5DX/ref=sr_1_1?crid=28Z0X3NUWUI0C&keywords=go+beyond+dario&qid=1704488749&sprefix=go+beyond+dario%2Caps%2C90&sr=8-1 Radiance House: https://radiancehouse.sellfy.store/ ☆Check out the videos that were mentioned!☆ Dario on Analytic & Holistic Functions (Yin and Yang): https://youtu.be/Vv6Xv1pxKW0 Linda Berens Playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL-945qwbNZwABwmsEYxEgItIynPPTtCml Dario Nardi 4 Subtypes (Dominant Creative Normalizing Harmonizing) Interview: https://youtu.be/qOSUE_Ga9xU #INTJ #MBTI #16Types #DarioNardi #neuroscience #16personalities

Feeling lonely and like no one gets you? It's not uncommon for INTJs. As an INTJ, using Introverted Intuition (the Mystic) as your primary cognitive function can feel isolating at times. You see the world in a unique way, and it can be hard to find others who share your perspective. Only 5-7% of the population have Introverted Intuition as a strength, and it's even less as a dominant function, so it's understandable that you may feel like no one sees the world in the way you do. Because it's true! Instead of focusing on what you don't have in terms of understanding from others, try to focus on the strengths that come from having such a unique perspective. You bring a level of insight and strategic thinking to the table that is highly valued. Try reaching out to like-minded individuals, either online or in person, through groups, forums, or meetups focused on INTJs or personality type in general. These can be great places to connect with others who share your perspective and experiences.  Bonus tip: The better you get at creating and expressing what's going on inside through logical structure, the more likely you'll be able to be understood and have a bit of solace.Original video: https://youtube.com/shorts/W0zTo0_5jUQ?si=0pyWxjBwRPaqhTU9Support the Show.

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On this episode of the Personality Hacker podcast, Joel and Antonia dive into how INTJs can use personality know-how to embrace and love who they are. The conversation also touches on what the other 15 personality types can learn from INTJs about self-love.   https://personalityhacker.com  

In this video, C.S. Joseph delves into the mind of the notorious INTJ woman murderer, Jodi Arias. Known for her cold and calculated actions, Arias shocked the world with her gruesome crime. By applying his expertise in personality typing, Joseph provides a detailed analysis of Arias' behavior and motives, uncovering the inner workings of her INTJ personality. Join us as we explore the fascinating case of Jodi Arias through the lens of MBTI personality typing. Gain a deeper understanding of the complexities of her actions and the psychology behind her shocking crime. Discover what traits and tendencies led her down this dark path and learn how to identify similar patterns in others. Don't miss this insightful analysis of one of the most intriguing criminal cases in recent history. Watch now to uncover the secrets of the INTJ woman murderer, Jodi Arias, with C.S. Joseph. Subscribe to C.S. Joseph's channel for more in-depth analyses of personalities and their impact on behavior. #INTJ #JodiArias #CriminalProfile #CSJoseph #MBTIAnalysis #TrueCrime Discover your personality type free: https://www.udja.app/ Check out our other Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@EgoHackers Learn to overcome your fears and unlock your potential: https://egohackingyourfear.com/ Join our Subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/CSJosephOfficial/ Learn to type others by text: https://egohackingbytext.com/ Was this video impactful for you? Buy me a coffee! https://ko-fi.com/csjoseph Test, Blog, YouTube, Coaching, Member, and Discord links: https://linktr.ee/csjoseph Psychoanalyzing and video games collide: https://www.twitch.tv/csj0s3ph Get the solution to bad psychology when it comes to sales and marketing here: https://ultimatemessagingformula.com Intro: Prismo (Stronger) NoCopyright Sound https://ncs.io/Stronger --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/csjoseph/support

This week we convene to enjoy a big, warm bowl of classic Shriekcast third segment style content as we check in with Quora questions about Catching Fire! Epic length essays about whether or not an INTJ could win a Hunger Game, extremely dodgy political opinions, and excellence in the field of run-on-sentence construction abound. And that's not all; we've also got exciting strings updates, opinions on What's Going On With Planes, kitchen gadget nightmare scenarios, and more!

A few years ago Josh Hubbard was a physically active, and mentally fit young man in his 20's. He got up one morning and felt a fairly strong headache but figured he was dehydrated. Hours later it became apparent he'd suffered a stroke. For a time he's lost complete use of his left arm. And while he did recover, it was only through daily (hourly, minute by minute), painstaking activity.   Josh is an INTJ which stands for Introversion, Intuition, Thinking, and Judgment. INTJs are known for their strategic thinking, powerful insights, and constant thirst for knowledge. They make up only 2.1% of the population.   In this episode, how did Josh react to this life-changing event, and what unique contributions did his personality make?   Listen For 5:57 Josh's early interest in sports and his focus on schooling 11:30 Josh's detailed recount of the day he suffered his stroke 17:17 Commitment to self improvement and learning   Leave a rating/review for this podcast with one click   Guest: JOSH HUBBARD Email | Website | LinkedIn |   Contact Kate: Email | Website | Kate's Book on Amazon | LinkedIn | Facebook | XSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How does an INTJ deal with an obstacle in life? Is it different from an ESFP? I have a feeling that there are some connections! But I can't find them alone... I need your help!Let's explore our psyches and figure how how different MBTI types (and Enneagram types) represent metaphorical constructs.Explanation* I'd like to solidify a structure for people to create their own quests based on metaphors they have of their lives.* How MBTI types come into play as well as how different types move to deal with problems and represent their lives* If this works well, I have tons of other ideas to collaborate on and we can work towards finding more direct RPG-based metaphors as wellProblems as Obstacles or Obstructions* Example "I feel like I just keep running into a wall and I can't move forwards with my life."* Explore your own metaphorical construct - remember to zoom out or in if you're strugglingQualities and dimensions of the Wall (if possible)What's LeftWhat's RightWhat's In FrontWhat's BehindWhat's UpWhat's DownWhat are you trying to do?How do you interact with it?Turn left, take a step - What do you notice?Turn right, take a step - What do you notice?Take a step forward - What do you notice?Turn around, take a step - What do you notice?If you are interested in exploring metaphors like I'm setting up here, contact me at sherman@geekpsychology.comIf you want to do it the way I did it, I HIGHLY SUGGEST you check out Metaphors of Movement @ http://metaphorsofmovement.co.uk/Andrew T. Austin (the creator) is a brilliant man and I think his work can help the world. In no way do I wish to take fame, success, or money from Mr. Austin. I just want to help.I want to use these ideas and tie them back to RPGs to make personal growth more accessible. Please, join me on this journey!Original video: https://youtu.be/vY7jQArbzDU?si=rc_JLVRf5Lz9Ce0O****Connect and Support Geek Psychology #geekpsychology ****FREE 8 Hero Personality Assessment: https://geekpsychology.com/ Support the show

We are here with a very exciting mini series on the Myers Briggs personality types! There are 16 Myers Briggs personality types, broken up into four categories, and this episode is all about the Analysts category. The 4 personality types that make up the Analysts are INTJ, INTP, ENTJ, and ENTP. In this episode we discuss the reason-based, logical thinking of the Analysts, as well as which zodiac traits align with each type (keeping in mind ALL signs can have ALL of the MB personalities!). Using listeners charts, as well as some celebrity charts, Ciera and Mimí dive into a long-awaited Myers Briggs Astrology mashup! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thestarsmademedoit/support

今天的节目姥姥姥爷通过去年买的各种东西来分析一下自己的消费习惯，什么时候该“抠”该省？什么时候要大撒币？那些钱等于花钱买焦虑？留言区告诉我们你的消费观！2:34 去年买的最贵的东西19:24 买了之后用的最多的东西41:46 买了之后完全闲置的东西49:42 买了让我焦虑的东西64:09 无限复购的东西68:06 这些东西等于买健康73:00 这些东西等于买快乐请先允许我们做一下直播预告：1月10日晚7点在小红书@fit4life，我和姥姥无限复购的很多东西都可以在直播间买到！听友群：公众号回复“我要进群”即可微博/小红书/B站：fit4life公众号：fit4life健身与美食淘宝直播：fit4life健身与美食 （记得订阅）商务联系：youhuaguo_shanshan

Ah, it's been a while. It feels great to reunite with all of our friends from the Seirin High School Basketball Club, and we know them all by name. Did you know that California apparently has a massive population of Australian children Currently watching: Kuroko's Basketball Season 2: Episodes 1 & 2 Send questions in to @youlovetohearit on Twitter! Our Patreon page: https://www.patreon.com/postgameofthrones

Amp Judges a Puppy Contest and we take personality quizzes (Myers Briggs). Also how do we even begin to talk about compatibility in the digital age when so much of our lives can be performative online!? From sex work perceptions to being an INTJ or ENFP!!!Take the test: https://www.16personalities.com/— MANSCAPEED: Check out the new Beard Hedger and enjoy this special 20% off with code WATTS20 ~ at http://www.manscaped.com! —- Watts Socials -Discord: https://discord.gg/bxqDQVcKH7 Amps Linktree: https://linktr.ee/pupamp Kristofer Linktree: https://linktr.ee/mrkristofer SAFEWORD MERCH: http://www.safewordshop.com TWITCH: http://twitch.tv/wattsthesafeword Watts Your Safeword Podcast:Itunes: http://apple.co/2QkMDwk Spotify: http://spoti.fi/2QjPNjL Twitters:http://twitter.com/WattsTheSafewrd http://twitter.com/PupAmp http://twitter.com/kristoferweston Instagrams:https://instagram.com/PupAmp/ https://instagram.com/mrkristoferweston https://instagram.com/wattsthesafeword Facebook: http://ow.ly/Z5nvM Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/WattsTheSafeword Opening by the magical Aethernaut https://aethernaut.bandcamp.com Music by Joakim Karud http://youtube.com/joakimkarud

In this episode of the Personality Hacker podcast, Joel and Antonia explore the 4 work styles that influence INTJ careers.   https://personalityhacker.com