Unbroken: Reclaiming Your Self After Childhood Trauma

This song is about looking into the eyes of unconditional love for the first time: the joy and pain of it. This is one just to listen to and see what it stirs in you. I really love this song. To Follow/Contact me or to hear more: Instagram @bullshivamusic Facebook @bullshivamusic YouTube "Bullshiva" email: Pete@petebuecker.com or Bullshiva@bullshiva.com

This is a song that really chronicles my healing journey as I've shared it in Unbroken. I literally wrote this in its full form in one sitting which is unusual, and it happened the night I came home from a 12-step meeting and the full impact of my journey through life to that point really hit. The end sum of it is, despite the trauma, the years of sexual abuse, the heartache of growing up torn between parents, the pain I caused myself and others along the way, I wouldn't change a minute of it if I could. I am the man I am today because of it and I have come to love that guy a whole lot. I hope this song strikes something meaningful in you. Follow/Contact Me or hear more: Instagram @bullshivamusic Facebook @bullshivamusic YouTube "Bullshiva"

Well, my friends what a beautiful and interesting journey it has been. I have thought about you and this show and this journey literally every day since it began. I feel at this time it's time to put a book end on this show and pivot toward what I see as the next step in my path as being a bigger force of love in this world. My goal has been to leave a clear cut path to healing for anyone who lands on this show, and I feel I've done that. In this episode, I leave you with the 3 take home points I hope anyone coming to this show will walk away with. Also, I introduce you to what I'm up to now, how to follow me if you'd like to, and how to get in touch with me. Just because the show is concluding doesn't mean my commitment to you is any different. I love hearing from you and hope that our relationship and community will only deepen in this next phase. If mine is the only voice telling you this today, please know that I love and honor you exactly as you are. Contact/Follow me: Instagram: @bullshivamusic Facebook: @bullshivamusic Youtube: Bullshiva Email: pete@petebuecker.com or bullshiva@bullshiva.com I can't wait to share what's coming next! Pete.

Samuel Moore-Sobel is an author, speaker, and all around good guy.  At 15 years of age, he sustained chemical burns to his face and arms that have sent him on a roller coaster ride for 11 years.  His book Can You See My Scars? tells the tale, and more importantly, chronicles his own personal healing journey.  It was a delight to speak with him, and I am excited to share it with you here! CLICK HERE To Purchase Can You See My Scars?  To learn more about Samuel or to contact him, CLICK HERE.You can follow Samuel on Twitter or Instagram @smoore_sobel If you or someone you care about is a burn survivor, check out the Phoenix Society for Burn Survivors here Links: Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://Unbroken.fmWHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, follow me on Instagram @pete_is_unbroken and DM me thereOh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

Peyton Turner is a cardiac PA turned healing and intuition coach for women.  You can find out more about Peyton at PeytonHTurner.com.CLICK HERE to order Rise Up From Ash: Follow Your Intuition, Save Your LifeIf you'd like to reach out to Peyton directly, CLICK HERE TO EMAIL PEYTON. Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://Unbroken.fm WHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, follow and DM me on Instagram @Pete_Is_UnbrokenOh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

Help me celebrate Annie Margis and her devotion to speaking out about childhood incest and abuse.**Buy The Ugliest Word right now by clicking here**-Drop Annie a note and let her know what this interview and her book meant to you Here.-Sign Annie's petition to end the taboo of talking about childhood incest by CLICKING HERE. Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://unbroken.fm WHAT TO DO NEXT If you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, find me and DM me on Instagram @Pete_Is_UnbrokenEmail me directly hereOh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN!

Links: Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://unbroken.fm Everything Belongs, by Richard Rohr - Great book on contemplative prayerWHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, reach out to me via DM on Instagram @Pete_Is_UnbrokenEmail me directly hereOh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

Links: Access all episodes at https://Unbroken.fmCLICK HERE to Email Pete directlyWHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.DM me on Instagram: @Pete_IS_UnbrokenOh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN!

Links: Access all episodes at https://Unbroken.fmCLICK HERE to Email Pete directly The 5 Why's (first used within the Toyota corporation)  FTSB (5 point inquiry) - Pete's versionFeelingTriggerStoryBeliefGet to the Truth! WHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, follow Pete on Instagram (or drop him a DM): @Pete_is_UnbrokenOh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN!

Links: Access all episodes at https://Unbroken.fmCLICK HERE to Email Pete directlyPia Mellody: Facing Love Addiction  - A great book that explains a problem you never knew you had until now and how to fix it.WHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, follow Pete on Instagram (or drop him a DM): @Pete_is_UnbrokenOh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN!

Links: Access all episodes at https://Unbroken.fmCLICK HERE to Email Pete directly WHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Follow Pete on Instagram (or drop a DM): @pete_is_unbrokenOh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN!

Links: Access all episodes at https://Unbroken.fmWHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, SUBSCRIBE to the show, and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, feel free to EMAIL ME DIRECTLY to dive deeper or to share your own thoughts and questions about what you are hearing here.Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!    We will be diving deeper into the VISAGE process there, and the videos will be available under the "videos" tab in the group.Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

Links: Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://Unbroken.fmWHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, feel free to email me directly if you'd like to go deeper or ask questions about what you are hearing on the show. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

Links: Access all episodes at https://Unbroken.fmWHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Or EMAIL ME DIRECTLY by CLICKING HEREThanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

In this episode, I wanted to give the overview of the process I am about to share with you over the next several episodes.  It may seem like a lot, but as you will see, each step follows naturally from the one preceding it.  I am excited to share this with you!This 6-step process that I call VISAGE (the acronym that contains the 6 steps) was developed as a result of my time in the medical world, my PhD study in Mind-Body Medicine, and mostly from my own healing journey through therapy and spiritual practice and realization.  It is an amalgamation of everything I myself had to accomplish to get where I am today.I have been using this exact model with others to help them heal and get to a more peaceful place in their own skin for over 2 years, but the process itself evolved from consultation I have been doing with others since 2012.  I have never shared this process openly like this before, so I am super excited to offer it to you first!We will go more fully through each of the steps and other pieces that come up along the way as we move through the next several episodes, so please don’t feel like you have to get it all at once.  For me, I just like to know where the road is going before I get on it, so to speak.Links: Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.ComWHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Follow Pete on Instagram @Pete_Is_UnbrokenAlso, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN!

Regardless of what you are doing to heal your hurts in life, true healing only happens when you experience a shift inside.  The chief “symptoms” of having successfully made the shift are feeling calm, confident, and content inside your own skin. In this episode, I lay out what I see as the 6 overarching components of reclaiming your self, which of course is very much the centerpiece of the show. Links: Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.ComWHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Follow Pete on Instagram @Pete_ Is_UnbrokenThanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

As we turn our attention to a specific path of healing, we need to define what healing really is.  In this episode, I set the stage for where we are going over these next several episodes, and offer a new, more practical definition of “healing” that really sets the stage for the work we are about to do together. Yes, healing is about returning to a state or experience of wholeness given whatever it is that you are healing from.  But, this definition never really worked for me in a practical sense.  The definition I offer in this episode holds a lot more juice for me and the people I have worked with.  I think you will connect with it and look forward to hearing your thoughts about it!WHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Follow me on Instagram @Pete_Is_UnbrokenThanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

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In my own experience and in working with a number of clients helping them overcome the ravages of early life trauma, drama, and dysfunction, there are 3 things we all seem to have in common linking our past to our present. When you understand this for what it is, and how it works, the path to freedom starts to lay itself out before you. See what you think and reach out if you have questions! LINKS:Here's the book I referenced in this episode, a game changer for me!The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice MillerAccess all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.Com WHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

Living a life of freedom and peace is available to each of us.  But, there are forces in our own lives and our own minds that keep us blocked or stuck.  In this episode, I share with you one of the most powerful concepts I have come across to help me navigate relationships, work dynamics, finances, parenting, relationship with my family, and basically all aspects of my life.  If you understand the one simple dynamic that I talk about in this show and put it to work for you in your own life, things will start to turn in your favor.  Take a listen and let me know what you think. LINK:Sacred Contracts, by Caroline Myss Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.Com WHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

Few places will trigger us more than our relationships.  If you are living with drama and conflict in your life, you are repeatedly playing one of 3 roles in your relationships, and inviting others to play the other roles.  These dynamics disempower all parties, and feel draining and exhausting.But, there is a healthier, more peaceful way.  In this episode, I share with you some very simple, practical, and powerful ways to understand relationship dynamics and how to keep yourself out of toxicity.  Not everyone will participate on the healthy level, and this is something you should be aware of.  Toxic people, including your partner or family members, may leave your life, or work very hard to pull you back into the drama.  But, it is always your choice as to whether or not to go there.  I hope this episode brings some new awareness to your relationships.  You deserve all the love, peace, respect, and happiness that life has to offer.  This show will help you start to claim it. Links: Karpman's (1968) Drama Triangle and a Healthier variantPia Mellody Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.Com WHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

One of the key features of early life trauma is being overly harsh and self-critical.  I always say that the voice inside our own heads is usually the biggest a-hole we encounter during a given day.  Few things ramp it up into high gear like being triggered into our brokenness thoughts and feelings.But, when this happens, we are only heaping more pain on top of existing pain.  It's what our abusers did to us, and we continue the cycle internally.  What I show you in this episode is the antidote and how to use it right away to accelerate your own personal healing journey."Where love meets pain, compassion is born." - Jack Kornfield Links: Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.Com WHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

The legacy of early life trauma is a painful one.  Whether you were overtly physically or sexually abused, were raised by unpleasable or alcoholic parents, were bullied, berated, or shamed by teachers, preachers, or classmates, there is 1 fundamental problem that we as the Unbroken share.  It is the source of the vast majority, if not all, of your suffering to this day. It is for most of us the final hurdle to be navigated to finding freedom from the pain.In this episode, I tell you what this is, where it is showing up in your life (spoiler alert: EVERYWHERE), why the things you are doing to fix it now may only be making it worse, AND why having this problem, as painful as it is, may be a huge gift to you in the end.Links: Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.Com WHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

What do we mean when we say "I am triggered?"  What does it mean to be "down a rabbit hole?" I break it down for you here.  In this episode, you will learn why triggers happen, what you feel when they do, why you feel what you do when they happen, and how to start to disempower them.One thing I didn't mention explicitly in the episode is that our "triggers" often represent one of two things (or both):Unhealed emotional wounds from the pastFeelings related to our "brokenness" or "not acceptability" beliefsEither way, as we start to pay attention to our triggers in a particular way, and start to really examine what the rabbit holes are made of, the ticket to freedom starts to become apparent, or at least available. "I have always believed that the light at the end of the tunnel is not an illusion; the illusion is the tunnel itself.” - Sam Harris, Author and Host of the Making Sense PodcastSudden Awakening, by Eli Jaxon-Bear Links: Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.Com WHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN. **This episode was released 2 days after the helicopter crash in Calabasas, CA that took the lives of 9, including Kobe Bryant, his daughter Gianna; Joe, Keri, and Alyssa Altobelli; Sarah and Payton Chester; Christina Mauser; and Ara Zobayan.  I reference the loss at the beginning of the episode.  As always, all my love, prayers, and support go to all experiencing hurt, loss, or heartbreak of any kind.  - Pete B. 

It is often said that we are living in a crisis of mental health.  But, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Look at your own life.  If you are anxious, depressed, stressed, or overwhelmed, is it because you are unable to understand your life circumstances, emotions, or consequences of your actions or the consequences of others’ actions upon you?  No.  The problem is quite the opposite.  The problem is that you are painfully aware of how you feel, what you think about, what the circumstances of your life are, what you have been through, and the consequences of your and other people’s actions. So what now?In this episode, Pete clues you in to the REAL problem, and what to do about it.  Also, Pete talks about the medication myth, why most therapy doesn’t result in real lasting, long-term relief, and why even practices like meditation fail to provide the freedom and relief people come to these practices to experience. Best of all, Pete tells you HOW you CAN get lasting relief and step into the life you want.Links: Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.Com WHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN!

In many ways, the quality of your life, health, and relationships hinges on what is happening in your mind.  In this episode, Pete lays out an easy to follow metaphor of how your mind actually works. Once you understand this, your ability to interact with your own mind skillfully will increase significantly.  This allows you to have a say in what your mind is thinking about, how it is getting triggered, how you react to the people and events of your life, and how you engage in relationships.What you also realize is that every person you encounter has the same thing going on, and you have little control over how they think about or experience you.  This may provoke anxiety or relief, again depending on what is triggered inside of you as you realize this. This episode will serve as a turning point in the show toward how to cultivate a skillful and peaceful relationship with your mind, emotions, and relationships.Referenced:The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel RuizThe Fifth Agreement, by Don Miguel RuizLinks: Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.Com WHAT TO DO NEXT:If you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

Most of us Unbrokens find ourselves living lives marked by stress, anxiety, depression, and feeling alone, isolated, or different.  We wind up recreating the toxicity and abuse of our childhoods in some attempt by our own psyche to heal or correct the damage.  But, experience tells us that it doesn't work this way.  Yet, we still do it.The question is why?  In this episode Pete lays out the 3 main reasons you are settling for anything less than the exact life you want and what to do about them.  The idea is that if you address these 3 items, you will not only start to finally heal the wounds of the past, but will finally step into a life that "feels a whole lot like freedom."  And living free, valuing yourself, and giving and receiving the love you deserve is what it means to truly live...UNBROKEN.**Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.ComWHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

We didn’t have a choice of whether or not to be traumatized, abused, bullied, or whatever happened to you that led you here.  But, we do have a choice of what to do now. There is great freedom available if you understand what it is and how to discover it.  For three decades I believed that there was some life people lived that I didn’t get to have because of the trauma and abuse I sustained as a kid.  I fell for the “if only” beliefs: If only I had had a “normal” family growing up; if only I weren’t sexually abused; if only I were better looking, smarter, wealthier, and on and on and on.What I have discovered, shockingly, is gratitude for those experiences that tortured me so for so long.  Why? Because they pushed me faster and harder to the brink of what I could no longer tolerate in myself and my life, and ultimately forced me to make a choice...the choice to Rise.  And that’s the choice that awaits you now. Links: Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.Com WHAT TO DO NEXTIf you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

Emotions are an important part of our physical makeup.  We often think of them as inconvenient or that we can just ignore or push them away, but nothing could be further from the truth.  The word “emotion” refers to energy in motion. They are a critical part of our existence, and contribute heavily to our states of health and disease.  Additionally, they give us important clues as to how aligned we are with the truth of who we are in our core.You can catalog the whole of your emotional experiences under two categories.  You know them by how they feel. Understanding this helps you be more comfortable and skillful with your own emotions.  And this is key to your feeling comfortable, confident, and content in your own skin. Pete lays it out for you in this episode along with some other high level concepts regarding your emotions. Links: Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.Com  WHAT TO DO NEXT: If you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

We are seeing an alarming rise in diagnosis of and prescriptions for anxiety and depression.  Even more concerning is that this is happening in younger and younger people. Throw in the impact that chronic stress, anxiety, and depression have on most of today’s most common health issues, then the epidemic proportion of the issue comes easily into sight.It is not my belief that more and more people are just prone to these conditions. While many may have genetic predisposition for anxiety or depression, we know that this is still relative due to the role of epigenetics (how genes are expressed based on environmental factors, both internal and external).  When you consider that the stress response is a survival response, you may ask why you go into survival mode in response to normal events of everyday life.  This leads to the realization that stress is an internal, not an external experience.  So the factors, events, and people in your life are only as stressful as the beliefs you have about them, and the degree to which they trigger your unhealed emotional wounds. When you suppress significant parts of your true self in order to remain lovable, worthy, or acceptable based on your own beliefs about what that means, you become depressed.  When you are constantly on guard to avoid being triggered, or are consistently triggered by your own thoughts, you become anxious. For many, the chemical changes of these conditions are the result of, not the precursor for, the depressed or anxious feelings.  So, what can we do about it? Pete offers some solutions in this episode.Links: Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.Com WHAT TO DO NEXT:If you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN. Host: Peter Buecker, MD, PhD(c)

As a child, you were egocentric. If you were being neglected, abused, or emotionally manipulated to meet the needs of your caregivers, you crafted a story in your little kid mind to help you make sense of the situation. This story involves you as being the source of the problem, because that’s the assumption that lets you feel the most safe and secure. This is the source of our sense of brokenness. In my experience, these stories take one of a few predictable forms which I go through in this episode.Our whole ego structure (i.e. personality) gets set up on this story. You developed all sorts of ideas and beliefs about yourself and the world around you as a way to not have to experience the pain of your own brokenness. The problem is, this belief becomes the lenses through which you perceive and interpret your life, but also the beacon of attraction of people, opportunities, and resources. But it is fixable, and your life will change rapidly when you effectively address it.Links:Sudden Awakening, by Eli Jaxon-BearAccess all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.Com WHAT TO DO NEXT:If you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together!Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better.Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me. But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

When you are a baby, you just are. You are life incarnate. You have no idea there is any other way to be. And then we start to become social. We learn in our early home environment that me exactly as I am isn’t going to get it done. We then start adapting ourselves to meet the demands of this environment by creating an alternate, or false, self (i.e. the ego). The ego is a fear-based survival tool.Unfortunately, most things we do to feel better in life serve, bolster, or add more and more layers to the false self. The true path to freedom is to go back to the moment where we split off and rediscover who we actually are, and live and grow from this place. This leaves us feeling calm, confident, and content. Most of all, it allows us to live comfortably in our own skin, and what a gift that is.Links:Why Good People Do Bad Things, by James HollisSudden Awakening, by Eli Jaxon-BearAccess all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.Com WHAT TO DO NEXT:If you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together!Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better.Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me. But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

In this episode, I lay out his argument for the real source of what we are witnessing as an alarming rise in rates of anxiety, depression, addiction, many common health conditions, career burnout, and suicide, particularly among younger and younger people.   The problem is systemic and spread through all sectors of our society.  But, it is not insurmountable.  In fact,  there are small steps we each can take to make a huge dent in it.  Things have gone too far, and it's time for a change.  Together, we can do it.**This episode was recorded in one take with no editing whatsoever.  That’s because I wanted it to be as raw, authentic, and honest as possible.  Hopefully, it comes through the way it is intended. Quote: “We are all just walking each other home.” - Ram DassLinks: https://www.whas11.com/article/news/local/coalition-seeking-to-end-conversion-therapy-in-kentucky/417-b9870e93-af1c-472b-9efb-9610fc357f36https://www.heritage.org/education/commentary/3-common-traits-school-shootersLinks: Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.ComCTA:If you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

It has long been said that there is no time like the present.  This is true, but not for the reason most people think. It’s true because there is no time other than the present...ever.  In fact, every moment of your life just feels like “now.” This is the first part of your ticket to freedom.See, being traumatized is like putting your hand on a hot stove burner.  If you get your hand off the burner, but never put it on ice or under cold water, the burning continues long after the hand has been pulled away from the heat.  By hanging onto the feelings, thoughts, and reacting to other non-related situations like you reacted to your trauma, the damage continues long after the abuse or trauma has ended.But, by coming to the present, addressing what is coming up for you now, and realizing that it was only by being tough and courageous that you made it to here, you can stop the ongoing damage and start to heal.  A lot of people think you have to go digging through all the painful memories and feelings to heal. You don’t. You only have to be in tune with what is still being triggered now, because those are the unhealed parts.  How does one do this? Stay tuned as Pete unpacks this exact thing for you. Links: Access all episodes, reach out to Pete, and learn more about the program and its mission at https://WeAretheUnbroken.Com WHAT TO DO NEXT:If you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE “WE ARE THE UNBROKEN” FACEBOOK GROUP!Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

The definition of courage is not lack of fear, rather doing what needs to be done in the face of that fear.  This is what we Unbrokens do EVERY day. For some, it’s walking into a home, school, or other environment where danger constantly lurked.  For others, you were treated pretty well, but felt like you had to be someone else, or just generally like an impostor or fraud. Whatever it is, the fact is you keep showing up and living life, even in the face of these feelings and this uncertainty makes you courageous, not defective.  Pete lays out the argument in this episode.In the end, the parts of you that you feel are damaged, defective, or weak, actually are the armor you learned to wear to survive.  By the fact you are here, you are a survivor. Each of us has our own story, and I share some of mine here as well. Many of you will relate to my constant feeling of lack of belonging anywhere I was in life, and no matter how much I accomplished or achieved, I never really felt worth it.  The fact is, these were just perceptual lenses I was wearing.How do you get beyond this and step into a life of connection, self-love & self-acceptance?  I give you a taste near the end of the show. See what you think! Links:https://WeAretheUnbroken.com WHAT TO DO NEXT:If you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE "WE ARE THE UNBROKEN" FACEBOOK GROUP .Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.

This first episode features straight-talk from Pete on who this is show is and isn’t for.  Whether or not you have a specific history of trauma, often times family dysfunction gets internalized the same way.  Certain “symptoms” are pretty universal among humans: People-pleasing, feeling like you’re “not enough,” setting poor personal boundaries, feeling like you are not worth the love, money, etc. that you want, being harshly self-critical or perfectionistic, difficulty sharing feelings, difficulty with intimacy, fear of aloneness and abandonment, stress, anxiety, depression, inflammatory diseases, and any number of other symptoms are included.  Pete mentions several others as well. In the end, if you want to get beyond your own limiting beliefs about yourself and step into a life of contentment, confidence, and freedom, then this is your show. Links:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adverse_Childhood_Experiences_Studyhttps://www.michaelsamsel.com/Content/Individuals/adult_child_syndrome.htmlhttps://adultchildren.org/literature/laundry-list/“The dance that we learn as children - the repression and distortion of our emotional process in reaction to the attitudes and behavior patterns we adopt to survive in an emotionally repressive, spiritually hostile environment - is the dance we keep dancing as adults.” - Robert Burney“We are driven by repressed emotional energy.  We live life in reaction to childhood emotional wounds.  We keep trying to get the healthy attention and affection, the healthy love and nurturing, the being-enhancing validation and respect and affirmation, that we did not get as children.” - Robert Burney What to Do Next:If you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Finally, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Thanks so much for checking out the show!  Be sure to check out the next episode where we really dive in and I explain WHY WHAT YOU HAVE THOUGHT WAS WEAKNESS, TURNS OUT TO BE YOUR GREATEST STRENGTH.  Good Stuff!

Ironically, self-love is one of the greatest hills we climb as humans. We are born whole, then learn along the way that we are unacceptable.  This leads us to feel like we have to act a certain way, or shove certain parts of us under the rug to be accepted and ultimately, loved.  The #1 barrier for most of us Unbrokens to really loving and being loved is the experience of or the avoidance of… Shame.  Shame is the emotional reaction to the belief that “something is wrong with me” or “I am defective as I am.” But, is this really true?  Is there a way out? Can you love and be loved because of rather than in spite of these beliefs, feelings, and the struggle you find yourself in day after day after day?  Absolutely. In fact, it is THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN truly love and be loved. I lay it out for you here in Episode 3.Quote:"Where love meets pain, compassion is born." - Jack Kornfield(I hope I have this right! I heard him say it live and it changed my world.)Check out his teaching, books, etc at https://JackKornfield.com Access all episodes, leave comments, and read more about Pete at:https://WeAretheUnbroken.Com WHAT TO DO NEXT:If you like what you hear, CLICK SUBSCRIBE and let’s do this together! Also, if you would, LEAVE A REVIEW so others just like you can find this show and benefit as well.Also, LEAVE COMMENTS on my website so I can answer your questions and bring you the content that will change your life for the better. Oh, and don’t forget to JOIN THE PRIVATE "WE ARE THE UNBROKEN" FACEBOOK GROUP.Thanks so much for listening! Your support means the world to me.  But, most of all, the fact that you find something valuable in this message is what it’s all about! Until next time, remember that I AM...YOU ARE...WE ARE UNBROKEN.