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“The best way to change life on Earth is to change the way we start.” In this episode, Nick speaks with Anne Wallen to dive into the intricate relationship between maternal health, psychological preparation for parenting, and the impact of childhood trauma on parenting styles. Anne shares her personal journey as a maternal health professional and mother of six, emphasizing the importance of meeting a baby’s needs and the psychological aspects of parenting. What to listen for: Maternal health is crucial for every human being The psychological preparation for parenting is as important as physical preparation Trauma from childhood can affect parenting styles and decisions Meeting a baby’s needs is essential for their psychological development Self-awareness is key to breaking generational trauma cycles Understanding the impact of trauma can help in parenting “Unhealed wounds don't disappear when you become a parent; they show up.” Parenting activates old patterns you didn't even know were still there Triggers often come from your past, not your child's behavior Awareness gives you a pause between reaction and response Healing yourself reduces the chance of repeating the same cycles “Safety is the foundation of healthy development.” Feeling safe shapes the brain, nervous system, and emotional regulation. Consistent responsiveness teaches a child that they matter Emotional safety supports curiosity, confidence, and resilience A regulated parent creates a regulated environment About Anne Wallen Anne is a respected figure in women's health with over 30 years of experience and is a leading voice on global change in maternity care – particularly for those at greatest risk. She continues to educate and empower birth professionals in more than 20 countries, contributes to a variety of curricula, and shapes the future of maternal health through her impactful role as a speaker and mentor. Anne is the Director and co-founder of MaternityWise International, and her legacy lies in inspiring generational changes around and elevating women’s healthcare worldwide. https://www.maternitywise.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/anne-wallen-08478035/ https://www.instagram.com/maternitywise/ Resources: Interested in starting your own podcast or need help with one you already have? https://themindsetandselfmasteryshow.com/podcasting-services/ Thank you for listening! 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And why don’t you kick us off? Tell us what you do for a living and what’s one thing most people don’t know about you that’s maybe a little odd or bizarre. Anne Wallen (00:34.382)Okay, well, I am the director of Maternity Wise International, which what we do is we train doulas and childbirth educators and lactation support people. I’ve been doing this for 23, 24 years now, and it’s pretty much my life. I love maternal health. It’s so, important to every human on this planet. And maybe the… An interesting factoid about me is that I have six kids. A lot of people, when you tell them you have six kids, they’re like, my gosh. And yes, I birthed them all. But five of them are adults. I have a little nine-year-old as well. She was a surprise, like the best kind of surprise. But yeah, so my six kids and yes, that’s really the main reason why I got into the work that I got into when I had my first at 17. and didn’t feel like I could be the mom that she deserved, loved her so, so, so much. And I had some family friends that I grew up with who actually babysat me who had been struggling with fertility issues. And so I chose to let them adopt her. And we have had an amazing, beautiful extended family relationship. And she recently gave birth to her first daughter just this summer. So I am officially a grandma in addition to all the other things that I do, but Yeah, that’s a little factoid that most people don’t know. But she’s part of the reason she’s the main reason why I became a mental health professional or a maternal health professional. And a lot of the way things have gone through my life, not just how I was raised, but experiences thereafter have gotten me very interested in mental health. And so I like to kind of create this intersection between the both worlds. And I look at things from a very psychological perspective. So this is This is gonna be a fun one. Nick McGowan (02:29.229)Yeah, I think everything ties back into that. It’s not even just a physical thing. Like I even said to you, somebody has a baby and they go home and how their partner reacts to whatever’s going on or the chaos or whatever the thing is, how does that then tie into the baby and how does the baby move throughout life? Even with you having a kid at 17, you are a child at 17. Though I’m sure we can both think back to 17 years old and thinking I’m grown ass adult and I can do all the things in the world, but you are not. You’re a child. Anne Wallen (02:50.412)Hmm. Nick McGowan (02:59.039)And the fact that you had somebody that you could hand the baby over to that you knew, you trusted, and you were able to have a relationship, it sounds like that could almost be like an ABC sitcom, you know what I mean? Anne Wallen (03:05.325)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (03:13.356)Yeah, well, I mean, my life is, I always joke that, like, that’s just the tip of the iceberg. But I always joke that, you know, Hallmark probably wouldn’t agree to make a movie because my life is so far-fetched. But yes, that’s, that was such a, such a blessing because I really knew that I was not going to be able to do what she needed as far as mothering. And I’ve, you know, hadn’t even finished high school yet. And my wonderful, wonderful and she was my next door neighbor growing up. And I just knew that they were the right people to take care of her and they raised her and she’s an amazing human being. And it’s just really wonderful to have this open relationship at this point, especially, you know, now that she’s having babies of her own. it was really cool too during COVID. She took one of my doula trainings because she was going to be a doula for a friend of hers. So Just a really cool, you know, like sometimes things just come full circle and you just, little blessings, little surprises. So. Nick McGowan (04:22.764)And you wouldn’t have been able to script that. Like, I love when that stuff happens in life where it’s like, I’m gonna have a baby, hand it over to my neighbor, because I love them. And then years later, like, really? Somebody would be like, that’s crazy. Get out of my office, you know? Anne Wallen (04:24.863)No! Anne Wallen (04:37.355)Yeah, well, I I knew that I didn’t, I knew that I probably wouldn’t be okay with just never knowing. know, some moms, and I’ve supported moms as their doula through giving their baby away. I’ve supported adopting families as well. it’s, I am really, really fortunate because I don’t think that most people could go through that experience and it would be, I mean, Don’t get me wrong, it was heartbreaking. It’s still heartbreaking that I wasn’t able to raise her myself. I mean, I’ve had five other kids since then and I know what it is to be a mom and I know what things I’ve missed out on. But being able to have an open adoption is really, really something special and I know some people don’t have that option. And so to be able to give your baby to someone that you think that you can trust and then hope that they’re doing what you would want them to do. That’s a whole level of, yeah, that’s tough, that’s hard. So, yeah. Nick McGowan (05:43.52)could only imagine. I have no idea what that would be like. I don’t have kids, not gonna have kids. And I couldn’t imagine what that’s like just handing a child over. I’ve talked to different people that have had either abortions or they’ve adopted, they’ve handed kids off to be adopted and then just haven’t ever talked to them again or people that have had some kid that are like, hey, by the way, about 30 years ago, you and my mom on a beach. And here we are, we’re like, you and my mom at a party or whatever. It’s like, but I, one of the big reason why I wanted to have you on is to be able to talk about how the psychology of that ties into not just people that have kids, but people that were kids. Cause even your emails back in the conversations, you were like, yeah, everybody was born. And then what we do from there and how that all ties into it. So why don’t, why don’t you kind of get us started off with like, not only what you see with, people that are having kids. but also the people that are concerned about having children and what that ties into just the rest of life. Anne Wallen (06:53.121)Well, kind of as we were talking about before we started recording, getting ready for having a baby, well, having a baby, you really need to put in the work, you need to prepare. And it’s not just about eating the right foods or avoiding the wrong foods and getting enough water and whatever else. There’s a lot of psychological preparation that people need to do. And we all walk around with our own traumas. We all walk around with our own disappointments and wounds. you’re gonna carry that into your parenting. And if there is one situation that you’re gonna find yourself in as kind of just this automatic robot, it’s as a parent. You don’t realize all these scripts and all this just unprepared, you know, in the moment reactions that you’re going to have to your own child until you’re there. And then you’re like, Nick McGowan (07:26.218)Hmm. Anne Wallen (07:52.961)I sound just like my mom or my dad used to say that and I still sometimes even you know I’m on kid number six at this point she’s nine and I still will say things you know two wrongs don’t make her right or whatever little sayings that you grow up with and I realize wow I got that from this scenario or I learned that during this moment when I got in trouble or whatever and it can it can really make a difference Nick McGowan (07:54.515)Ha ha. Anne Wallen (08:22.669)being aware and intentional with your parenting. And when I say aware, I just mean if you’ve got wounds or if you’ve got trauma or if your parents were abusive, if there was something else going on, you know, in those immediate, the first weeks, months of your life, it is really, really important to meet that baby’s needs immediately or as quickly as possible, right? So, There are things like crying it out. There are things like scheduled feeds. And they’re actually, we’re not just talking about a physical experience that this baby’s going through. It’s a psychological experience. And so we can get deeper into that if you want to, but a lot of people, they’ll hear from their parents when they become parents, they’ll hear things like, put the baby down, don’t spoil that baby. Or, they should be sleeping all night and they should be doing this or they should be doing that. You know, we let that baby cry it out. We gave you formula. You turned out fine. Whatever it is, right? Whatever this thing is that might be the response to whatever the parents are wanting to do. You know, the grandparents and well-meaning aunts and uncles, they’ll have some retort usually, right? And advice from your elders is always helpful. And having, just having elders around to… support your efforts is beautiful and helpful, but sometimes they don’t know what’s best for your baby. And the only person who really knows what’s best for the baby is the parent, especially the parent who’s bonded to the baby. Usually that’s the mom when they’re really, really small. And that’s usually because there’s breastfeeding going on or whatever it is, the main caretaking duties usually falls to the mother. So if that mother is well attuned to the baby, baby’s getting their needs met, this is teaching the baby that they can trust, right? It’s teaching the baby about relationships. It’s teaching the baby that I’m valuable. I am worth listening to. I am protected. I’m safe. All these different things, right? If you’ve got a baby who is routinely put down after, you fed for 15 minutes, now we put you down. You cry? Too bad, baby. We read the book that said, Anne Wallen (10:47.18)put you down, right? Or we heard from grandpa that said put you down, whatever it is. That baby crying so desperately, that’s their only way to communicate that they have a need. So if they’re crying so desperately, I’m still hungry, I’m cold, I just want to be held, I’m scared, I’m alone, whatever it is, I have gas pains, whatever it is, they’re trying to communicate that they have a need. And if we ignore that, if we say, no, I’m going to spoil the child if I pick them up again. This is programming their brain, right? This is programming their mind to say, no matter how hard I cry, I’m going to be ignored. What does that, for you, Nick, what does that translate to? What does that, what would that tell you? Nick McGowan (11:17.928)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (11:31.148)Trauma as a little kid, you’re just instantly, you’re shoved to the side it feels. And that’s, I think that’s an interesting thing to be able to point out, because look, babies are not gonna listen to this podcast. They will when they get older, but like they’re not listening right now. In fact, none of these episodes are for children at all, primarily because of my mouth at times, I’m sure. But the parents, or the new parents, or the people that are thinking about having kids. Anne Wallen (11:34.102)Yeah. Nick McGowan (11:58.088)or the people that feel like they have to have kids because the system tells them, their family system, you have to, which that’s another thing that ties into the psychology of it. Like if somebody says, you, hey, you have to have a kid because you have to keep our lineage going. You have to keep our last name going. You have to do this. You have to do that. okay. And then they go and have the kid and then put everything onto that kid or there’s already some pain that goes along with it. I think the big thing you pointed out that stood out to me and especially for the show, Anne Wallen (12:01.015)Mm. Anne Wallen (12:14.614)Hmm. Nick McGowan (12:27.61)is the work that has to be done before that. I’ve talked to different people that have had kids and they’re like, hey, we planned. We did all these things. We read all these books. We then got pregnant when we wanted to and shit was still crazy because they’re parents and like life and people and like things happen. And then there are people that just accidentally had a child and you know, it’s all, it doesn’t matter if you plan it or not plan it, it seems, but going into a big situation of having a child and Anne Wallen (12:30.572)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (12:57.552)sticking it through for at least 18 years or so, it doesn’t seem to me like a lot of people really think about the work they need to do until like after the fact. Like I met with somebody recently who’s got a young kid and he was offered to go on tour with some band and he was like, I can’t because I am attached and I can’t leave my child. And I can see that he’s such a good dad. But he had said to me, like, things changed as soon as I had the kid, as soon as the kid came into my life. And I hear that from a lot of different people. Like as soon as this happened, then I changed. I stopped smoking or I stopped doing this or I started doing more of whatever it was. And that’s great. But what about the deeper work that’s unseen? Like the trauma that comes from your parents or your parents’ parents or the things that happened that you were a kid that was just crying because you wanted to be held and your parents are like, I can’t. Shut up in there. How does that then tie into we as people that could potentially then have kids and not see that stuff needs to be worked on? Anne Wallen (13:54.688)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (14:05.161)Yeah, so having a baby is a great motivator for lifestyle changes, right? So if you are, if you have unhealthy habits, having your baby might make you think about your mortality and how, you need to eat better or stop smoking or whatever it is so that you can live longer so you can be there for your child. When you are going through pregnancy, even, you know, no matter what the family dynamic, mom, mom, mom, dad, whatever you’ve got going on. both partners, or even if you’ve got a single mom going on, the person who is in the relationship thinking about when this baby gets here, what are we gonna do? The kind of deeper work that they really need to be doing includes psychological preparation for just how they feel about themselves, number one, just simply because whether they feel worthy, whether they feel rejected by their parents, if there’s any kind of abandonment issues, Which abandonment issues start with, you know, crying it out in the crib? We, let me go, can I get a little sciency with you for just a second on that? So, crying it out, they’ve actually done brain scans and they see that crying it out creates a change in the brain structure. So our frontal lobe is the solutions, you know, forward thinking we call it, right? The creative, ambitious forebrain. The hindbrain is the survival primal, Nick McGowan (15:10.31)Please. Anne Wallen (15:30.955)aggressive, it’s the hunter-gatherer brain. And when you have a baby who is, who their needs are met consistently, their forebrain grows and their hindbrain does not grow. Not that it doesn’t grow, but it doesn’t, the balance is more forward-thinker, right? A baby who is left to cry it out, a baby whose needs are not met consistently. And that’s this, we’re not talking about a baby who has like just a crying spell and we put the baby down. for safety’s sake, you know, and we walk away so could take a breath and then we come back, you know, we’re not talking about that. We’re talking about a routinely left to cry baby. That hind brain actually grows and the forebrain can shrink. So now you’ve got a kid who’s got the more aggressive, primal survival skills, more violence prone, more prone to, you know, ADD and some other issues that are, you know, really all about them feeling that they need to survive, right? It’s just such primal, instinctual behavior. So now you have a kid who physically, chemically is growing up with this need to survive, this like fear, right? It’s like I’m on alert, I’m hypervigilant all the time. Now you make them a parent, right? They go through life and they probably have Nick McGowan (16:55.877)Hmph. Anne Wallen (16:58.187)plenty of issues, right, because of that hypervigilance, because of that, you know, fear that’s kind of like their root chakras in like a high alert mode all the time. So you get into this parenting situation, you’ve got a baby coming, right? You need to be able to say, I’m okay, I can advocate for my needs, I can prepare for the birth experience itself, because the birth experience could be traumatizing. And then, how am gonna care for this baby once it’s out, knowing that, or subconsciously, knowing that they were treated with a neglectful-ish, not that parents always are neglectful intentionally, but they don’t always know that the baby is just trying to communicate. And there’s a lot of, we’re not gonna go religion, but there’s a lot of religious. Nick McGowan (17:47.951)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (17:54.09)books out there on parenting that talk about babies, you know, being manipulators and things like that. You got to train them to be good, right? Which is ridiculous. anyway, that in itself is traumatizing just to just to read that if I was a, know. Yes. Yeah. Nick McGowan (18:09.252)Yeah, basically calling your baby a little demon. Don’t you do it little demon. It’s like, I just want some love. I don’t understand. Anne Wallen (18:17.267)Honestly, and there are books out there that have caused babies to become really, really, really sick and even pass away because they’re telling parents, like, you need to have this regimented feeding schedule and you shouldn’t be holding your baby, etc. And, you know, the abandonment issue is huge in our culture. If you go to other places in the world, you’re not going to see people with abandonment issues quite like you do in America. But in America, we have the Juvenile Manufacturing Association who really, really promoted getting babies out of your bed and using all these furniture pieces, right, for baby swings and cribs and, you know, bouncy seats and all these things that are not the mother, not the parent. And the only thing that a really a baby wants when they come out is that relationship. They are looking for a face when they come out. They’re looking for a face and if they don’t get a face to connect to, they’re three months behind in their developmental milestones on average. So the face, the connection with another human being is so important. It’s so important just to their brain development. It’s important to their psychological development. And it’s really important for the parents’ development too because when you create this bond, There’s something in you that softens. And even if you’ve had a ton of trauma, it’s like this little, I don’t know, it’s like this little knowing wakes up inside of you. And you just know, this instinct just shows up and kind of helps guide you in how to meet the baby’s needs in a way that’s healthy and appropriate for the baby. And a lot of times when you look at and you study mom-baby dyads, there’s this, unspoken language between them, right? It happens during sleep. Dr. James McKenna wrote a bunch of different studies over the last 20 to 30 years on watching moms and babies sleep. And when babies, know, vitals go too low, mom stirs and sometimes they even wake up and touch the baby and the baby perks back up again. It’s very SIDS preventive, you know? So like, Nick McGowan (20:41.197)Hmm. Anne Wallen (20:42.58)there’s these things that we have these superpower abilities to connect with other human beings and we don’t even realize it. And the thing that oftentimes gets in the way of that is trauma, other people’s well-meaning but bad advice. And how do we like get ready for all of that? So that’s where pregnancy, thank goodness we have nine months. to get ready for when the baby comes, right? We have nine months to work through our core hurts and figure out how did our parents’ parenting style affect us? And do we want to repeat that or do we want to have a different parenting style, right? And what is best for a baby? And a lot of times, you know, when you just read mainstream information, you know, there’s some real… Nick McGowan (21:10.945)Hahaha Anne Wallen (21:37.873)Sorry, Nick, I know you’re a man, but there are some masculine solutions or frameworks for very feminine processes and that’s not always the best way to go, right? And you can say your baby needs to eat every three hours. We wanna keep baby alive, right? So we’re gonna make sure baby eats every three hours. But what if baby’s hungry before that? You can’t make them wait. Hunger is one of those things that psychologically, if you are left to be hungry, Nick McGowan (21:48.419)Does it make sense? Anne Wallen (22:08.154)It actually causes so much stress on the body. Adrenaline goes up, cortisol goes up, like all these things, chemical reactions that really are trauma reactions. If you look at it that way, they happen in the body when you’re left to be hungry. So just something as simple as the baby needs to be fed can cause lifelong impairments, psychologically speaking. Nick McGowan (22:36.93)I think something to point out here for people that are listening to this, and if you’re about to have a kid, don’t let her scare you off the ledge. Like go do it because it seems like, look, no matter what happens, people are going to make the decisions they’re going to make. But I think the biggest thing you pointed out is the human aspect of it. That the mom or the parents just in general that are connected with their children can feel that, can be connected with their kids. Anne Wallen (22:39.22)Yeah. Anne Wallen (22:46.419)No! Anne Wallen (22:55.732)Yeah. Anne Wallen (23:02.664)Yes. Nick McGowan (23:05.474)The fact that you pointed out like, well, capitalistic society was like, how do we make money off this? Well, we want to get the kid out of the bed. We can get them into a whole plethora of their own little suite over here and we can make a whole bunch of money and we might as well push this thing. There’s information that comes from the external world like that. Like, oh, well, baby shouldn’t be in your bed for longer than X amount of time. We should have a crib and like all people have that stuff basically when they have their shower at this point and they get it and they… Anne Wallen (23:17.962)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (23:35.381)have like three to $10,000 worth of stuff that just sitting in there for the baby, when the baby probably needs to be deeply connected with them, but every baby is different. And it’s wild to think about how those systems, the family system that tells us, well, when you were a kid, this is what we did. You made the decisions you made. And that’s to be said that way. But then the other systems that say, you need to have this, you need to have that, you need to have that. Anne Wallen (23:47.092)Yeah. Anne Wallen (23:57.15)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (24:05.024)themselves to block all that madness out. Like, thanks for your feedback, grandma. Thanks for your feedback, Capitalistic Society. That person needs to be so deeply entwined with themselves and to understand about themselves. So based on the research you’ve done or the information that you’ve seen, how many people are actually doing that deeper work? Like, hey, I’m pregnant now. I wonder how fucked I was as a child based on the dumb things that happened. How do I not deliver that onto this child? Anne Wallen (24:10.814)Yeah. Nick McGowan (24:33.963)how many people are actually doing that work? Or is that part of the reason why we’re having the conversation? Because more people need to have that internal conversation. Anne Wallen (24:41.096)We really need our society, especially in America, to be doing that work more. Because a lot of people are just, like I was saying before, you’re kind of in this automatic robot mode. If you don’t do the work and you don’t have any kind of self-awareness, you’re just gonna do the things that you don’t even realize you learned to do. So like as an infant, even though you’re not sitting there taking notes on how your parents are parenting you, you’re learning how to be a parent by experiencing their parenting. And if you look around, we have a lot of entitled people walking around and a lot of broken people walking around who are really just living out their traumas and trauma reactions day to day, rather than looking at them, understanding that that’s what it is. You know, it took me till I was in my 40s to even understand what narcissistic abuse was, because it felt so familiar. Walking around the planet, being raised by someone who was narcissistically abusive. Now back then, 50 years ago, they didn’t have those words, right? But a lot of people have experienced that and they don’t know what it is. And they’re kind of, you know, either perpetuating it as the narcissist in their relationship or continuing to be used by the narcissist for their supply, right? And this is such a hot button, like, I don’t know, like a really popular terminology nowadays and everyone’s gonna, you know, everyone walks around kind of saying, I know a narcissist or that guy’s a narcissist or whatever, right? So it’s word that gets thrown around a lot. But the deeper issue is when you are not cared for, Nick McGowan (26:12.609)Hmm. Anne Wallen (26:36.859)in a way that shows you that you’re valuable, right? Then you grow up trying to prove to yourself how valuable you are, your whole life. And so that’s gonna put you into two camps. You’re either gonna be more like a narcissist, right? Trying to get source from people, trying to get that love and acceptance and to prove yourself worthy, right? Or you’re gonna become more of the enabler, more of the empath type. Nick McGowan (26:57.066)Yeah. Anne Wallen (27:05.925)Sometimes it’s just how we’re wired when we’re born, but a lot of it’s learned, right? And so you walk around trying to fix everybody else, trying to pre, what’s the word I’m looking for? Like you’re anticipating what they need, right? And you’re jumping in and taking care of everybody else. And neither one of those makes a good parent. So when you have a kid, you’re going to… Please don’t get me wrong, public, okay? Not all babies are coming out as narcissists, but all babies do come out needing someone to meet their needs. And so they look like little narcissists, right? Because they’re calling out, they’re crying, you you have to do everything for them. And as they’re growing, you’re trying to boost their self, right? And if you have additional kids around between age two and three, that’s a huge hit to the self-esteem of the toddler. You know, so then you’re trying to like fix that and soothe that and so there’s this whole chain of events that happens between zero and about seven, eight years old. And there’s ways to feed the little narcissist monster that you might be growing or there’s ways to help the child become self-sufficient and self… Nick McGowan (28:03.466)Yeah. Anne Wallen (28:31.529)self-aware, but also, you know, like help them to develop empathy and help them to develop compassion for others. But a lot of this is not by word. It’s in modeling. And again, we go back to if you haven’t dealt with your shit before you have your baby, it’s going to walk around showing your child how to not be a grownup, but they’re not going to know the difference. Nick McGowan (28:51.529)Yeah. Nick McGowan (28:58.527)And just keep going. Yeah. Anne Wallen (29:00.167)Right, and so even though trauma can be passed on from DNA, right, and it can be passed on cellularly, right, but it’s also passed on just by modeling. Modeling what that reactivity looks like, modeling what that unhealed wound looks like. So, go ahead. Nick McGowan (29:16.329)Yeah. Well, it’s interesting with how the, think about often how the body keeps the score. Bessel van der Kerk wrote about that and there are other people that say, I don’t agree with it and that’s fine. You can say whatever you want. I’ve experienced it. I’ve experienced what it’s like to be able to have bodily reactions at things when my mind’s going, the fuck are you doing? Like, what is this? And it’s like, that ties back literally to my mom as I was a little kid. Anne Wallen (29:24.349)Yeah. Anne Wallen (29:39.315)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (29:45.596)and watching and going, she seems to fly off the handle of things. Note to self, guess that’s how it’s done. Cool, that’s what I’m gonna do. And then you learn later and you’re like, no, that’s not it. she was coming from generational trauma and chaos and wondering how do I pay for this thing? And what the fuck are you crying about? And what’s this? And sometimes that would come out of her mouth. Like, the fuck are you crying about? To go, I don’t know. And maybe she’s just overwhelmed. So even pointing out that people will look. Anne Wallen (29:51.922)Right? Anne Wallen (29:58.568)Hmm. Anne Wallen (30:09.831)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (30:11.727)and say like, yeah, a lot of people are calling people narcissists at this point because it’s like they learned a new word and they go, well, this looks similar. I’m glad that you’re pointing out that it’s actually deeper and not exactly the same thing at all, but sure, there are tendencies to it. Like the babies need us. Aren’t we like the only organisms that really do that though? Like all other mammals basically are like, cool, you’re born, go get it, have at it. And we need people. Anne Wallen (30:26.728)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (30:38.844)Yeah. Nick McGowan (30:41.606)And those people also need the babies because of that connection. It’s wild to think about how things that’ll happen just on a day to day that a parent might think, I was just a little upset or a little cold or whatever, that could change so much with that child. And especially in the formative years. I learned a handful of years ago about a theory called the subconscious winning strategy. that we develop a strategy as a child to go, oh, note to self, this is how I win. This is how I get love. Like my core wounding personally is to not be abandoned or unloved. That comes from being a child. So I figured out, oh, I can make people laugh and I can do these different things that then show up in a certain way. And I learned that about myself, I don’t know, at 38 years old and was like, oh my God, my entire life I’ve been doing this because it just deeply ingrained in us. Anne Wallen (31:15.784)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (31:36.914)Hmm. Nick McGowan (31:39.891)You pointed out self-awareness. That’s one of the biggest things I’ve noticed in every single episode I’ve had on this show, every conversation I’ve had that’s peripheral to the show. If you’re aware of something, you can only then become more aware of it as you’re more aware of it. But you can also push things to the side. I’ve watched parents go, I can’t. I’ve had friends that are parents that they’re like, man, some nights I just fucking can’t even. Anything. Like everybody needs to leave me alone and I just need to stare at the ceiling for a little while. or they dive into some vice, alcohol or something else. So what advice do you have for people that are trying to figure out, I either have a kid and I need to and want to be a better parent, or we’re thinking about having kids, or I’m still kind of reeling from being a kid, and how do they then work through their stuff? Anne Wallen (32:33.106)So I think you could, you know. Anne Wallen (32:39.752)I’m hearing some interference. Are we still together? Nick McGowan (32:42.974)We’re good. Anne Wallen (32:45.128)Okay, this could go off on so many, you’re like the tree trunk just now and there’s so many branches and things that we could just go into off of that. I think one of the things that you have to understand is that narcissism, for example, is a spectrum, right? And so, one end is kind of it’s a healthy self-awareness, self-love, self-protecting, self-serving, right? The other end is where you’re using people in a malignant way. Now, a newborn, I always make jokes with my students, like the newborns don’t read the books, right? They don’t know what the parents think that they’re supposed to be doing. But when they are little and they’re trying to communicate, right? We can, if we’re cold, for example, we can go and manipulate the thermostat, right, to make it whatever we want. If we’re hungry, we go and manipulate the refrigerator door and get a snack. Babies can’t do those things, so they’re not manipulators, right? But what they are is desperately trying to communicate with us, and we have to put aside, and you see many a mom who’s had sleepless nights, dads too, Nick McGowan (33:41.842)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (34:04.029)where they’re just doing whatever it is that the baby seems to be needing and it might just be an overnight, know, shit fast story. You’re just, nobody’s getting sleep, everybody’s crying, like everybody’s crying. And you just have to get through it, right? But the fact that you are trying, the fact that you haven’t just put the baby away and said, I can’t do this anymore, you know, good luck kid, right? The fact that they’re not doing that, Nick McGowan (34:30.332)You Anne Wallen (34:33.224)the baby and informs the baby, I am worth trying for. And so even if they aren’t fixing it, I can see they’re trying. Right? Now, do you need to step away? Do you need to be able to eat, you know, shower, take a crap by yourself? Yeah, of course. Right? And you need to be able to take care of yourself in order to take care of somebody else. And you need to be able to set boundaries and say, you know, Nick McGowan (34:37.445)Hmm. Anne Wallen (35:02.464)I am, and we talked a little bit about personality types before, but I’m an introvert, right? And when you’re looking at the Myers-Briggs, introverts need time alone, away from everybody, away from touch, away from sound in order to rebuild their battery. Extroverts, they need other people to recharge their battery. And so if you’ve got babies who are almost all extroverts in that Nick McGowan (35:15.846)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (35:30.638)stage of their life. They need somebody else for something at all times usually. And you’ve got an introvert parent who’s like, I am all tapped out. I’m in the negative. Like kid, I can’t help you right now. I cannot do anything right now. I need to go, you know, just take a bath or something in silence. Everyone leave me alone. Knowing that about yourself and knowing that this whole scenario is going to change. Because before baby came, You probably had self-care mechanisms or habits or whatever in place that you can say like, okay, I am drained. I went to that party. I’ve been at work all day. I need to just have like an evening of quiet. Well, when you have a baby, there’s no such thing. So being able to plan ahead for stuff like that, knowing yourself, being self-aware enough to say, I know what my needs are in a general way, putting a person into this know, sphere of my everyday life, what do I need to do to keep myself sane while still caring for the needs of this other human being? And being able to build some kind of structure around that. It could be, do I need to live closer to my parents so my parents can help me? Does it mean I need to hire a postpartum doula or a nanny or somebody that’s gonna be able to help take care of the child so that I can take care of me? You know, just, and that’s not selfish. That’s not being a bad parent saying, well, I can’t always meet the baby’s needs 100 % of the time. Who can? Like we have this really unrealistic expectation, this leave it to be for mom mindset, right? Where it’s like, she’s just gonna do everything. She somehow wakes up with makeup on, with her clothes pressed and you know, like she never spent any time on that, right? Well, that’s kind of what we’re expected to do as parents is we’re expected to just be up and ready for the world and ready to take care of this baby 100 % without having any kind of prep or any kind of get ready time? No, that’s not how it really works. But then you have that expectation which makes people then feel like they’re failing. And that’s not fair either. That’s where if you look at postpartum depression, it has gone up and gone up and gone up and it’s in its highest Anne Wallen (37:57.818)in places where, or in family dynamics where nobody’s getting sleep, you know, there’s sleep deprivation going on and there’s no social support. And those are the two key factors. And a third key factor is babies who cry a lot. And babies don’t just cry a lot. So if you know how to meet your baby’s needs, you can understand your baby’s language, if you can anticipate their needs and just kind of, you know, Nick McGowan (38:04.699)Hmm. Anne Wallen (38:27.781)Be prepared as we just keep, I keep saying preparation, preparation, right? But being prepared and understanding what does this cry sound mean? Does it mean hungry? Does it mean pain? Does it mean sleepy, right? What do these cry sounds mean? And then being able to appropriately respond to the baby’s needs and making sure that the baby’s needs are met quickly. These all feed into a satisfied, healthy, happy baby, which, creates calm, satisfied, happy, healthy family, right? And then if you are dealing with trauma triggers where maybe the baby crying is a trauma trigger for you, right? And you haven’t figured out what this baby’s need is, you’re gonna be spiraling and that spiral’s gonna, you’re gonna have anxiety, you’re have the depression, you might even develop other issues. And let me just say one really quick little piece. Nick McGowan (39:08.922)Yeah. Anne Wallen (39:26.823)The news a lot of times says, you know, when a mom kills her babies, right? The news will a lot of times say, oh, she had postpartum depression. That’s not postpartum depression, that’s postpartum psychosis. So postpartum depression and anxiety and OCD and all these other different kinds of mental health disorders, they can turn into psychosis. But psychosis is when you have suspended the connection to reality in such a way that you would do that heinous act, right? And why does it get to that point? Because we’re not getting enough sleep, we’re not supporting our families, not, you know, we’re not like creating this wrap around care for families. And dads need it too, you know, like we think, mom’s got postpartum depression. Dads get postpartum depression too. Nick McGowan (40:09.091)Yeah. Anne Wallen (40:22.797)sleep deprivation will do it to anybody. You don’t even have to have a baby. You sleep deprived somebody for long enough and they’re gonna experience depression and anxiety. And so being aware, preparing for having that help afterward, understanding what is it that your personal wounding might look like and how might that affect the way you’re gonna care for your baby. So for example, you mentioned abandonment. A lot of people have… Nick McGowan (40:30.456)Yeah. Anne Wallen (40:49.807)abandonment issues because of the whole put your baby to cry it out in the bed philosophy that was taught for a long time. It’s not taught anymore, shouldn’t be taught anymore, we know better now. But there’s a lot of adults walking around that that was the way they did it and they’re gonna hear from their mom and dad and everyone, you know, that’s how you should do it. So it feels really unnatural for a reason. Nick McGowan (40:54.585)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (41:09.026)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (41:14.435)It’s that little instinct, that little knowing that awakens in us when we have a baby that tells us, no, that’s not okay. My baby needs me, my baby. That sound is really grating on me. Why? Because it’s meant for us to do something about it. And so being able to look at, there’s a tool that I sometimes will use, it’s called the self-redemption cycle. Nick McGowan (41:27.543)Yeah. Anne Wallen (41:39.705)And you’re really, it’s like this little circle, right? It informs who you are. It informs yourself about who you are. But it takes the core hurt. Have you ever heard of this? So it takes the core hurt and then it looks at what emotions are drawn from that core hurt. And then it says, what are you seeking? What do those emotions tell you about what you’re seeking? And then what kind of behaviors are you gonna do to meet the thing or find the thing that you’re seeking? And then a lot of times those are unhealthy behaviors too. Nick McGowan (41:57.016)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (42:08.398)So then you create a new core hurt for yourself, only to do it all over again. And so it’s important for us to really be aware of what are the triggers, right? What are the things that make us feel abandoned or unloved or whatever our thing is, right? And then be able to work through those things because first of all, going into a birth situation, Nick McGowan (42:08.546)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (42:36.91)You have to advocate for yourself. You have to be able to speak for yourself. You have to be informed enough because we live in a profit driven medical society and you cannot, it’s not that you can’t trust doctors as individuals, but you can’t trust the system to have your back. The system is not built to your wellness. The system is to profit and wellness doesn’t bring profit. And so, Nick McGowan (42:55.81)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (43:06.616)You have, you know, a whole system that I don’t want to say is like designed against you, but you have to be wise going into that. If you’re going to have your baby in a hospital, which not everybody’s having babies in hospitals, I’ve had three at home myself, but if you are going to go into a hospital, you have to know what you’re getting yourself into. You have to know how to handle it. And it’s not the time to be defending yourself or standing up for yourself. you have to feel so safe to be vulnerable, to be able to open your body to let your baby out. And if you don’t, your labor will be dysfunctional. And that psychological piece, which is, I was saying before, like 80 to 85 % of your whole birth experience, it’s not physical. Physically, we breathe, we digest our food, we use the bathroom. We don’t need anybody to coach us how to do those things. We don’t need to read books on how to do those things. Our bodies know how to do it. And it’s the same way with birth. Our bodies know how to give birth. But there’s safety mechanisms built into the process, survival mechanisms. And one of those survival mechanisms is, is it safe out there? Is it safe for the baby who’s super, super vulnerable? Like you said, you know, we’re the only species that’s like, our baby comes out and they are completely and utterly dependent upon us for everything. Nick McGowan (44:30.444)Yeah. Anne Wallen (44:32.068)And so if our subconscious says, it’s not safe for that little vulnerable person to come out, it will shut down labor. And you can give it all the drugs you want. You can give it all the pitocin you want. It’s not gonna receive it. Your brain’s gonna shut down those pitocin receptors and say, nope, it’s not safe out there. She doesn’t like the doctor. Or the lights are too bright. Or yeah, or whatever the reason that’s triggering her. Nick McGowan (44:51.03)Politics. Yeah. Anne Wallen (44:58.884)you know, making her feel unsafe. And it could just be there’s a male doctor and she doesn’t feel comfortable around males in that way, right? And so it could be all kinds of things. As a doula and as a doula trainer, I have seen thousands of different scenarios where, you know, she might love her doctor and feel super safe with her doctor, but she gets to the hospital and guess what? It’s the person on call and she’s never even met them. Right, and now we have a hurdle to get over. And does she feel strong enough and confident in her ability enough to not let that affect her? Or is she, or does she not feel that way? Right, and in the moment, you’re just trying to hang on for dear life. You’re just having labor. You’re just trying to get through it, right? And so all these other psychological factors are really tough to have to. Nick McGowan (45:50.678)Peace. Anne Wallen (45:54.488)navigate, that’s why you’ve got to prepare ahead of time and really have somebody there, whether it’s your partner who’s very well versed and really, you know, knows what you want and is willing to stand up for you, or a doula, or you’re home with your midwife, you know, whatever your scenario, but it’s definitely not for the faint of heart, but it’s also not for someone who is just kinda coming at it willy nilly like, yeah, I got pregnant, yeah, I’m gonna have a baby, and yeah, we’re gonna do this thing called parenting. I mean, you can do it that way, but you’re gonna be on autopilot the whole time. Your reactions to things are not gonna be intentional and worked through the way that they should be for the betterment of your baby, right? Nick McGowan (46:32.246)Hmm. Nick McGowan (46:41.731)yeah. Anne Wallen (46:44.803)The best way to change life on Earth is to change the way we start, right? Nick McGowan (46:50.324)Yeah, what a good way to put that. And especially all of this ties in to so many different pieces, but it’s all similar. Like you go into some big situation, you have to be prepared, but you also need to understand about yourself. And there are people I’m sure that try their best to be as prepared as they can be. Again, I’ve had a few friends that are like, I’ve read every fucking book I could. I talked to everybody I could. Anne Wallen (46:58.522)Mm. Anne Wallen (47:14.777)Yeah. Nick McGowan (47:16.278)And I still expect to screw this kid up in some sort of way, because I’m going to say something weird or whatever. it’s like totally, like you’re just going to do what you’re going to do and your kid’s going to go how they’re going to go. But that’s the sort of like anti-matter in the middle of it. That’s like, well, all that stuff is just going to happen. But as long as you’re best prepared, you’re going to do what you can. Those people that are kind of wandering around that are like, well, we had a baby and like, I still don’t know my stuff or what’s going on. That. Anne Wallen (47:36.558)Yeah! Nick McGowan (47:45.714)level of self-awareness takes many, many, many blocks to get through to be able to get to that point. So the whole purpose of this show is to be able to help people on their path towards self-mastery and really figuring themselves out and living the best life that they can. So for the people that are on that path towards self-mastery, wanting to have a kid or have a kid or are still kind of reeling through the stuff that they’ve been through as a kid, how… What’s your advice for somebody that’s on their path towards self mastery that’s kind of going throughout all that? Anne Wallen (48:19.747)So the number one thing that you can do is to just nurture yourself, right? Nurturing and making it okay to get things wrong. Having self-forgiveness, having self-grace. Because as you go through these blocks, I could tell you just from my own personal experience that going through different, you know, looking at what has happened to me and saying, okay, this event, and I’m gonna sit with how this event makes me feel. until I can take away the power from it. And some people use counseling for that, some people use EMDR. I found EMDR super helpful. I think too, know, alongside having self-grace and having self-forgiveness, being with other people who are healthy psychologically is really important. If you are in a situation or a relationship that is kind of keeping you in I don’t want to say in abuse because maybe the relationship isn’t abusive, but maybe in a situation where you are constantly triggered or you are continually kind of repeating bad habits, right? And you’re recognizing that, but then you’re in this situation where they’re just triggering you and triggering you and triggering you. You got to get away from it to be able to heal it. It’s so tough. to be able to heal something while you’re in the midst of reaction. And honestly, you know, we talked about the word narcissism and the word trauma and things like that. One of the most powerful ways that I feel like people can heal from stuff and actually keep digging into their past and finding the next thing, right? Like, okay, well, I healed from this and now what? What’s the next thing? Nick McGowan (50:17.15)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (50:17.325)You’re subconscious, two things. One, I really believe that your subconscious will always answer you. And before you even finish the sentence, right, you know the answer. That’s your intuition, you can trust it. Right, so being able to say, what’s the thing that is really holding me back right now? You know it, your subconscious just told you what it was, right? And then going through that, working on that, focusing on that. The other thing is, is that for people, A really powerful tool for us to get understanding about something is labeling. So when you are, let’s say narcissism, when you are looking at narcissism, you can say, hey, here’s a behavior. This makes me feel uncomfortable. What is this? Why does this make me feel uncomfortable? it’s gaslighting. I’ve got a word for that. Nick McGowan (50:52.861)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (51:08.148)hehe Anne Wallen (51:09.977)Right? I’ve got a word for the bandwagoning technique. I’ve got a word for flying monkeys. I’ve got a word for all these different things. Right? And so being able to look at your shit and having a label for the different things that you’re experiencing, having a label for the different reactions that you might be having. Number one, it helps you to understand it. It helps you have a little more power over those things rather than it having power over you. But then also, you know, we can Google it. If you have a word that you’re like, my goodness, you know, this thing is really just triggering me. Why does it trigger me? Okay, comes, I can see that it’s stemming back from this thing that happened to me. And like I said, just ask yourself the questions. Just keep asking yourself the questions. And when your subconscious tells you this is what it was, then you can look it up, right? One of the reasons why I learned about narcissism is because I was Googling, why doesn’t my husband like me? How sad is that that you got to ask that question? But I soon found out that it’s one of the list of things in the narcissistic playbook. And so then you start to realize, this behavior happened at this point in my life and at that point in my life and at that point in my life. And because you have a label for it, you can start to identify the root cause. And that’s where you can kind of start taking your power back. Nick McGowan (52:35.719)Yeah. Anne Wallen (52:38.456)and you can rework the programming that’s going on in your head. And so then you’re no longer a robot, just on autopilot. You can have a moment, you could take a moment to pause and say, I’m not gonna respond like that anymore. I’m gonna, I look, I see it for what it is now. And I’m not gonna let that do this thing to me. And I’m not gonna let that do that thing to my child, because I’m not gonna respond the same way anymore. Nick McGowan (52:54.547)Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (53:08.132)And I’ll tell you what, every kid, I really believe this, every child is born to bring the balance. So like if you have, and I apologize for all the noise in the background, I am in New York City. I don’t know if you hear the sirens. They’re about to come right in front of my building, I could tell. All right, they’re gone. Okay, so. Nick McGowan (53:08.231)Yeah. Nick McGowan (53:30.483)Alright. Anne Wallen (53:35.074)give them a second. So when you have, you know, these, this labeling and when you have this balance that the child is bringing into the family, you know, you, you might say, that kid’s a, that’s a wild child or whatever. A wild child compared to what? Maybe you have very placid parents, right? And then the child’s just bringing the balance. They bring in the party. Or you have parents who are, you know, maybe really Nick McGowan (53:35.155)They’re good. Nick McGowan (54:00.989)you Anne Wallen (54:05.061)just super extroverted and then you get this little introverted child because they’re bringing the balance or you have two kids, right? I’ve had my two boys, they’re kind of like in the early middle of the six of them and I had one that was like large muscle. You tell him to dig a hole, he’s gonna be like, how deep and how big and tell me where to go and I’m on it, right? And then you got the next kid. who was very small motor skills, very artistic, you know, just like super minute focus, right? And you tell him to dig a hole and he’d be like, I don’t know how to dig a hole, right? So like they’re opposites, but this is what happens in family structures. It’s like the kid comes in and they fill the gap of what’s missing. This can get tricky if you have stuff that you haven’t worked on in the past, because guess what? Nick McGowan (54:48.443)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (55:02.852)Kids also bring the triggers. So for example, my nine-year-old, love her to pieces, she’s really different from me. It’s a challenge sometimes to be her parent because I don’t know what to do with her half the time because she’s just so different from me. And so that in itself is a little bit of a trigger. And so as a parent, when you are trying to learn, because a lot of times we think, oh, we’re here to Nick McGowan (55:18.096)Hmm. Nick McGowan (55:24.272)Yeah. Anne Wallen (55:32.696)you know, mold and shape this person. But I want to challenge that perception. I think we’re really here to figure out who this person is and help them to be the best of whoever it is that they’re supposed to be. And we’re not really supposed to be directing that all that much at all. Right. And so that also can be really tricky if you don’t know who you are. Right. If you’re if your stuff Nick McGowan (55:57.893)Yeah. Anne Wallen (56:01.496)goes into identifying as, I worthy? Should I speak up? Do I have to fight for stuff? All the different things that go on as a child inside of you, your child, it’s gonna be mirrored back to you. And if you haven’t figured those things out, if you didn’t figure them out as a child, how are you gonna have answers for your kid when they’re going through the same thing? So. getting into and really just there’s actually a book for if you’re pregnant now or if you’re looking at getting pregnant, there’s a book called birthing from within. It’s kind of a whole system. I really like it because it kind of digs into the psychological aspect of, you know, this labyrinth of how were you created mentally, emotionally, and then how are you going to walk or step into parenthood, you know, as a person who can be there for your kid in all these different ways that you’re gonna have, it’s gonna be demanded upon you whether or not you have the skills to meet the needs or not, right? Yeah. Nick McGowan (57:05.967)Yeah, whether you like it or not. man, there’s so much to that. And again, I’m not going to have kids ever. I’m no longer equipped to. And I can think about how these things relate to us as people without kids because we were kids at one point and this ties back. Even the two kids that you have that you talked about, you literally just described my brother and myself. And my dad was like, Anne Wallen (57:25.112)Yeah. Nick McGowan (57:34.359)I understand the one who can dig the holes. I don’t understand why you’re building things and you’re painting. What the hell is this about? I’m gonna stick with the one over here because that makes sense and parents can go to that. They can look at that and they can do those things. But I really appreciate that you’re challenging people to understand the most about themselves and where their things have come from so that they don’t really bring them into anything further unless they go, hey, I learned this before cause I went through some shit. Anne Wallen (57:56.334)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (58:03.077)Here’s how you go about it a little differently, but you do you kid and I’m here to support you. I think that’s a crucial thing that you really pointed out and I appreciate you pointing that out. This has been awesome to have you on today and I appreciate you being with us. Before I let you go, where can people find you and where can they connect with you? Anne Wallen (58:08.109)Yeah. Nick McGowan (58:27.194)Did I totally cut out there? Awesome. So I’d asked where can people find you and where can they connect with you? Anne Wallen (58:36.484)Well, I am like I said the director of maternity wise you can find me there. That’s easy maternity wise calm just like that And you can also find me. I’m a contributor to brains magazine So I have several articles published there and if you want to find me on LinkedIn, I’m Anne Wallen. So hey Nick McGowan (58:58.896)Again, Ann, it’s been great having you on today. I appreciate your time. Anne Wallen (59:01.988)Thank you.

Your relationships don't fail because of bad luck. They fail because of unhealed patterns, poor emotional intelligence, and misaligned expectations. In this Best Of Harder Than Life mashup, Kelly Siegel brings together some of the most powerful voices on love, trauma, communication, healing, masculinity, femininity, and self-worth to expose what's really breaking modern relationships and how to rebuild them from the inside out. From Dr. John Gray explaining the hormonal and emotional differences between men and women… to Annalie Howling unpacking shame, trauma, and radical self-love… to Stephan Speaks and Cedric breaking down modern dating, breakups, and emotional maturity… to Ashley Maland sharing the raw truth about trauma bonds, abuse, healing, and boundaries… This episode is deep. It's real. And it's necessary. If you want healthier love, stronger boundaries, and deeper connection, it starts here. Key Takeaways:

There is nothing wrong with parents dating as long as they're not neglecting their children to do it! Many parents are only thinking about self, which ends up causing dysfunction in their own lives and the lives of their children. Guard your heart! Protect and provide for your children!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/relationships-and-relatable-life-chronicles--4126439/support.

This year is almost gone! No more excuses! Throw away the cruthches!! It's time to truly become the best you that you can be!! Change is in your view and in your reach, it's up to you to make the change! You can do it and you're worthy!! Happy Holidays!!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/relationships-and-relatable-life-chronicles--4126439/support.

Unhealed wounds do not disappear with time. They embed themselves into the heart, the body, and the way we interpret life. In this episode, Dr. Delisa Rodgers unpacks the spiritual, emotional, and biblical reality of unresolved pain and why untreated emotional injuries often surface as destructive patterns, distorted thinking, and internal battles we cannot explain. Drawing from Scripture and Hebrew word studies, this teaching reveals how the heart, the lev, shapes the outflow of our lives, and how God's healing nature, Jehovah Rapha, was revealed not in perfection but in moments of bitterness and pain. You will hear why forgiveness does not require forgetting, how suppressed pain affects the body and mind, and why healing is less about reliving trauma and more about stewarding the soul wisely. This episode bridges biblical truth, trauma awareness, and spiritual authority to offer clarity, compassion, and a pathway toward restoration. If you have ever wondered why certain reactions feel bigger than the moment, why old wounds resurface under pressure, or how God heals what time cannot, this teaching will bring understanding and hope. Healing is possible. Wholeness is biblical. And what is faced in the light no longer has power in the dark.

On this episode, Chris & Koi call up some friends to find out if unhealed people leave good relationships and if so why? 

LET'S BE CLEAR - JEALOUSY DOESN'T MEAN YOU'RE A BAD PERSON; IT MEANS SOMETHING INSIDE OF YOU IS ASKING FOR ATTENTION. WE ARE HERE TO TALK ABOUT IT, NO JUDGMENT, JUST AWARENESS.

Send us a textIn Part III of this powerful series, we move from awareness to action. After uncovering the wounds (Part I) and identifying the patterns they create in marriage (Part II), this episode focuses on the practical tools individuals can begin using to heal the childhood pain that continues to shape their reactions, emotions, and communication today.Many husbands and wives know something from their past is affecting their relationship, but they don't always know what to do next. This episode is designed to guide you into the next step of your healing journey. We walk you through biblically grounded, emotionally safe, and practical strategies that help you begin repairing the inner child that still influences how you show up in your marriage.You'll learn: • How to recognize your default emotional responses • How to create safety within yourself and your relationship • How to express what you feel without blaming your spouse • How to interrupt destructive patterns • How to rebuild trust with your own emotions • How to begin reparenting the wounded parts of you • How to communicate needs and fears with honesty and graceHealing inner childhood wounds isn't easy, but it is possible. This episode gives you the tools to begin doing the work—step by step, layer by layer—so you can show up in your marriage as a healthier, more grounded, more emotionally aware version of yourself.If you're ready to break cycles, change patterns, and create a new emotional foundation for your marriage, this episode will meet you right where you are.Don't just talk about healing—start doing the work.Support the show

Send us a textIn this powerful continuation of last week's conversation, we go deeper into the truth many couples avoid: unhealed childhood wounds don't stay in childhood— they grow up with us, and they show up in our marriages as patterns, reactions, and emotional habits that quietly damage connection.In Part II, we walk listeners through the real-life behaviors that come from unresolved pain: overreacting, shutting down, controlling tendencies, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, defensiveness, and emotional avoidance. These patterns aren't random. They are learned survival responses from childhood that become destructive communication styles in adulthood.Through vulnerable insight, biblical grounding, and practical tools, we explore how to recognize these patterns, interrupt them, and begin creating a safe emotional environment in your marriage. Healing doesn't happen by accident— it happens by intentional reflection, accountability, and allowing God to deal with the roots, not just the symptoms.If you're ready to stop repeating cycles, stop reacting from old wounds, and build a marriage that reflects healing instead of survival mode, this episode is for you. Your marriage can't transform until you do.Tune in, grow, and begin the work that leads to real restoration.Support the show

Are you just going through the motions? Following others without testing the spirit?  Don't let unhealed people, even social media gurus and high-level Christian entrepreneurs, sway you from the path God has laid out specifically for you. Discernment is key. The narrow path isn't easy peasy to follow, but always rewarding. Trust the Holy Spirit's guidance above everyone else's clamor. Others mean well, but your journey is NOT their journey ... I've learned this the hard way, my friends.  A genuine relationship with Jesus is a continuous healing journey of repentance, persistence, perseverance, and resisting the enemy's attacks. A weak relationship with Jesus will cause everything else to crumble in your life. Many start relying on performance and man-made religions instead of a fruitful relationship with Jesus Christ. Learn the difference and strengthen your walk with Christ! Chapters: 00:00:00 The Vertical Relationship Show with Melia 00:00:24 What is a Vertical Relationship with Jesus 00:01:00 Relationship vs. Religion 00:02:04 Importance of Discernment 00:03:06 True Faith Beyond Symbols 00:03:58 The Difficult Walk with Christ 00:05:04 Building a Strong Foundation in Jesus 00:06:03 Holy Spirit vs. Rules of Religion 00:06:57 Reading from "Vertical Relationship" Book  00:08:03 Religion vs. Relationship Examined Closer 00:09:30 Hearing God's Voice 00:10:41 Satan's Deception 00:11:20 Heart Over Good Deeds 00:12:03 Relationship with God is Vital 00:13:01 God Reveals Hard Truths 00:13:53 Secret Sin and False Teachers 00:14:47 Rooted in God, Not Religion 00:15:22 Partnership with God 00:16:03 Walking in Freedom with Jesus 00:16:32 Prayer for a Relationship with God 00:17:44 Spreading the Love of Jesus Blessings xo- Melia's Services -> https://meliadiana.com/our-services Melia's Books ->https://meliadiana.com/books Melia's Prophetic Mentorship-> https://meliadiana.com/vertical-ambassador-mentorship Melia's Courses -> https://meliadiana.com/vertical-relationship-academy      

Send us a textLet's be real… many marriages today are fighting battles that didn't start in the marriage — they started in childhood. In this powerful first installment of our two-part series, we unpack how unhealed childhood wounds silently shape adult relationships and create marital triggers that leave couples feeling misunderstood, frustrated, and disconnected.This episode takes you on a compassionate but honest journey through the root causes of relational pain. We define what marital triggers truly are, how they form, and why so many husbands and wives unintentionally react to their spouse through the lens of past hurt. Abandonment, rejection, emotional neglect, chaos, harsh discipline, and early responsibility — these childhood experiences don't disappear. They follow us into marriage unless we intentionally heal them.With biblical insight, real-life examples, and practical tools, we guide listeners to recognize their own patterns and begin the inner work required for lasting change. Because your spouse can support your healing, but they cannot heal what they did not break. This episode is about understanding yourself, breaking generational cycles, and creating a marriage built on awareness, safety, and emotional maturity.If you're ready to stop repeating yesterday's wounds and start building a healthier tomorrow with your spouse, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are — and invite you to grow.Don't just talk about healing… be about healing.Support the show

It's unfair to require such high standards from a man when you can't give to him what you require from him. It's not about having equal to him, but you should have some of what you're requiring because in a relationship the man needs fulfillment just as the woman does. It's not fair to look for what you can't give and it's delusional to do so. Women want to follow society saying a man should take care of a woman but fail to realize societies are filled with broken/unhealed people who are immature and don't think realistically. There's nothing wrong with wanting someone to have his own, but you should have yours too! Just as he should enhance your life, you should enhance his, it shouldn't be one-way!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/relationships-and-relatable-life-chronicles--4126439/support.

Send us a textThe Peace & Prosperity Podcast is a bi-weekly conversation with Jason Phillips, LCSW, licensed therapist and confidence expert in Raleigh, NC, discussing all things related to self-love and self-confidence, and how we can improve ourselves personally and professionally.What if the drive to be “the best” is really a shield for unhealed pain?In this episode, we explore how achievement can become armor—hiding grief, loss, and the pressure to stay stoic. From surviving without safe spaces to finally seeking therapy after a breaking point, this conversation sheds light on the quiet struggles many high-achieving Black men face.We talk about how hypermasculinity, lack of confidentiality in public spaces, and cultural stigma keep men from getting help—and how reframing therapy as strength changes everything. Faith plays a key role here too: trusting that God can work through therapists just as He does through doctors.You'll also hear about the “safety bubble,” a family ritual for emotional honesty, and practical ways to create space for healing at home. This is a real conversation about courage, clarity, and what it means to finally set the armor down.Plus, remember to join our podcast community—like, share, subscribe, and let us know what topics you want us to cover next. Engage with us, send a DM, or leave a review. Let's continue this journey towards peace and prosperity together.To stay connected with Jason and learn about coaching, connect with Jason on social media:Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jphillipsmsw/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jphillipsmswVisit Jason's website for a consultation:Website -https://www.jasonlphillips.comTo book Jason to speak to your team or organization:https://peaceprosperitycoaching.hbportal.co/public/660d8068c9d2d600253b215b/1-InquirySupport the show

What if the reason you keep reacting, withdrawing, or losing patience isn't about your present—but your past?In this episode, Jerrad unpacks Step 3 of the Seven Steps of Discipleship: Addressing Past Wounds—a practical and gospel-centered conversation about facing the pain we've carried instead of burying it. With honesty and compassion, he walks men through why ignoring our wounds doesn't make them disappear; it just makes them leak into our marriage, our parenting, and our leadership.Through biblical truth, personal story, and real-world guidance, Jerrad helps you see that this step isn't about fixing yourself—it's about inviting God into the places you've avoided for too long.With a mix of vulnerability and hope, this episode will help you:Recognize how unhealed wounds shape your reactions and relationshipsConnect the dots between your pain and the lies you believeLearn a simple 4-part process for addressing wounds (Scripture, Naming, Writing, Sharing)Discover how to speak gospel truth to yourselfTake the first step toward becoming a healed man who leads a healthy familyWhether you've minimized your pain, masked it with work, or felt like your story doesn't matter, this episode is a reminder that strong families begin with healed men—and healing starts when you face what's been buried.Prayer:“Father, reveal the wounds I've tried to hide. Give me courage to bring them into the light, and remind me that Your grace is big enough to heal every part of my story.”Scriptures Mentioned:Psalm 34:18James 5:16John 8:32Isaiah 61:12 Corinthians 12:9Resources & Links:

Trying to save someone you think that you love only to lose yourself, which includes losing your mind, soul, finances, etc. Stop thinking you have enough love for them and for you because you don't, and you never will. Many people have found themselves down and out because of trying to save the person they love who don't want to be saved. A person must want to change for his or herself, not because you want them to, because it will never work. Most people end up chaning for the worst during their quests of trying to change the person that they think they love! It's foolishness, immaturity, and the effects of unhealed hearts and minds. When you don't love yourself first, you'll never know what love is really about and therefore, you'll do all the wrong things for what you think is love!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/relationships-and-relatable-life-chronicles--4126439/support.

God often has a perspective that is different than ours, something we can solve by receiving truth and getting healing. Unhealed wounds and false beliefs can blind us, making it easy to head in destructive directions. Find out how you can abandon the Dirt Perspective and adopt the Peak Perspective

Have you ever stopped to wonder how the stories you grew up with—the ones you absorbed in childhood—still shape the way you parent today? Author and creative coach GG Renee Hill on uncovering, rewriting, and reclaiming the stories that define us.  Timestamps: 0:03 – How our childhood stories shape parenting 0:06 – Parenting from old patterns 0:09 – When others silence your intuition 0:12 – Finding yourself amid parenting chaos 0:15 – GG's inner child awakening 0:18 – Turning sensitivity into strength 0:21 – Growing up with a schizophrenic mother 0:25 – Redefining strength as a Black mom 0:29 – Coaching kids without tearing them down 0:33 – GG's breaking point and repair 0:38 – Anger is human, violence is not 0:43 – Hope for a more conscious generation 0:48 – Healing through storytelling and reflection 0:53 – The power of rewriting your narrative 0:58 – GG's message to parents and creators Her book: Story Work: Field Notes on Self-Discovery and Reclaiming Your Narrative  Her viral essay, "Choosing My Mental Health over My Mother" LINKS AND RESOURCES Support the podcast by making a donation (suggested amount $15) 732-763-2576 call to leave a voicemail.  info@authenticparenting.com Send audio messages using Speakpipe. Join the Authentic Parenting Community on Facebook. Work w/Anna. Listeners get 10% off her services.  Podcast Production by Aminur: https://www.upwork.com/freelancers/~019855d91718719d11

Nearly 16.4 million Americans served in the U.S. Armed Forces in World War II, and for millions of survivors, the fighting left many of them physically and mentally broken for life. There was a 25% death rate in Japanese POW camps like Bataan, where starvation and torture were rampant, and fierce battles against suicidal Imperial Japanese forces, like at Iwo Jima, where 6,800 Americans died. Additionally, the psychological toll of witnessing Holocaust atrocities and enduring up to three years away from home intensified the war’s brutality. This is why when they returned home, they had physical and psychological wounds that festered, sometimes for years, sometimes for decades, and sometimes for the rest of their lives. Veterans suffering from recurring nightmares, uncontrollable rages, and social isolation were treated by doctors who had little understanding of PTSD, a term that didn’t enter the DSM until 1984. Returning veterans and their families were forced to double up with their parents or squeeze into overcrowded, substandard shelters as the country wrestled with a housing crisis. Divorce rates doubled, with more than 1 million GIs leaving or being left by their wives by 1950. Alcoholism was rampant, and an entire generation became addicted to smoking. To explore this dark shadow that hung over the WW2 generation, we’re joined by David Nasaw, author of The Wounded Generation: Coming Home After World War II. Those affected include the period’s most influential political and cultural leaders, including John F. Kennedy, Robert Dole, and Henry Kissinger; J. D. Salinger and Kurt Vonnegut; Harry Belafonte and Jimmy Stewart. We look at the ways the horrors of World War 2 shaped their lives, but we also see incredible resilience and those who found ways to move past the horrors of their wartime experiences, and what we can learn from that today.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hello future humans with self-agency inspiring human potential!Become a paid subscriber to access practical exercises that use mindset, mindfulness & mindsight to grow confidence, handle change with good stress, raise your frequency & inner stillness & ground yourself in VVS: ⁠podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/maria-florio/subscribe⁠Inspiring Human Potential spotlights higher-self mindset lifestyle POVs, stories, ideas & practices.Maria Florio inspires human potential by sharing the keys to inner growth & following your heart. She brings together human, spiritual, & spirituality elements to explore human evolution, consciousness, & being yourself. She looks at how sciences & spirituality together reveal the way to access infinite higher human consciousness potential when pursuing self-help, personal development, spiritual growth, & mental & emotional mastery. She also talks about how mindset & lifestyle, mindfulness, secure attachment, integration of the brain, & restorative embodiment lead to higher intelligence & fulfillment. She uses perspectives & stories from her self-empowered, enlightening, mystic, spiritual, & mindful life. From the age of eight, Maria decided she was going to help people when she grew up. A vague statement that meant to her, & still means, to help people live a good life as themselves.5D mystic POV stories on mindfulness, educational podcasts & being yourselfA securely attached self-led mystic, spiritual & mindful person knows inconsistencies for what they are: fear, fear of intimacy, emotional vulnerability & being yourself in connection.Be you, mindful & flawed with integrity.Love is supporting each other to fly. Love lifts you up when you're down & it soars the skies with you when you're up. Love is always there."The kingdom of God is within you." - JesusLove, Maria5D Mystic Spiritual Self-Help Mindful Mentor Podcast Spiritual & Science Human VoiceBringing Together Human, Spiritual & Spirituality Elements to Explore Human Evolution & ConsciousnessEmail ⁠floriomaria80@gmail.com⁠ for 1-to-1 Mentorship or Masterclass & Spiritual Workshops & Retreats info."It is the ability to bring out the best in others that makes you a leader." - Sadhguru"Mindfulness can help integrate the mind, body, & relationships, which can lead to well-being." - Dan Siegel, MD"A non traumatized person with a secure attachment has the capacity to regulate independently of relationships." - Pat Ogden, PhDSecurely attached self-led people are strong, brave & bring change for the better because we embody intelligence, expand consciousness & self.Be Yourself In Connection In Life & Love - 5D Mystic Functional Adult POVs & StoriesSubscribe on Spotify, YouTube: @inspiringhumanpotential, another favorite podcast platform you use, or Fanbase.5D Mystic Enlightenment Functional Adult Relationships New Stories To Heal Trauma Together & Bring Forth Your Humanity"If you are a piece of creation, the Creator is definitely embedded within you. You just have to turn inward to know." - SadhguruYou'll know the piece of creation you are once you're living life as a securely attached restorative embodied self-aware, accountable & regulating person.Love, Maria5D Mystic Woo-Woo Pseudoscience Self-Help Mindful Mentor & Podcast HostMaria brings together sciences & spirituality to support human evolution & consciousness, to shed light on love & you being able to be you, the authentic you - an inner child adult who has secure attachment, integration of the brain, & restorative embodied self-aware life potential with your personal motivation to do self-help & personal development that get your self-awareness to put into practice accountability & regulation skills with the mental, emotional, & physical mastery at play as you apply & use the inner growth mindset & lifestyle approach.Inspiring Human Potential Inner Growth 5D Self-Empowered Enlightened Expanding Consciousness Voices, Stories & Perspectives

It's all about the mindset that you have! When you're of unhealed hearts and minds you're very quick to act and/or react over things to include speculation and lies! Many people are very easily provoked over hearsay. It goes back to the ridiculous lie over the rapture. Many people fell for it because people want so badly to believe in something, yet if they really believed in Jesus, they should have known better. It goes to show that most people talk one thing but believe and do another! When you have your own unresolved issues that you neglect, and you continue to put them on the back burner to go along, to get along, to belong, you'll always be left behind and falling prey to the many predators who feed off of the vulnerabilities you've shown to them! You'll contine as broken people who are being mentally bamboolzled and controlled by other broken people! Change must start with you, it's an inner process that must take place! You must be willing to unlearn all the bad conditioning and behaviors to become the best version of yourself! You are better than who or what you come from, if you believe it! Nothing you've gone through or will go through dictates your life unless you choose for it to dictate your life!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/relationships-and-relatable-life-chronicles--4126439/support.

In this solo episode, Dr. Debi shares 11 anonymized, real-world scenarios showing how unhealed betrayal quietly derails performance, leadership, health, and culture at work. From weight changes and gut issues to micromanagement, perfectionism, disengagement, and self-betrayal, you'll see how a personal rupture (even years old) can surface on the job—and what to do about it. You'll also hear research-backed prevalence stats (weight, gut, sleep) and a clear invitation to move from Stages 2–3 (shock and survival) into Stages 4–5 (healing and growth).    Who this episode is for  Professionals, leaders, and founders who feel “off” at work and can't trace why  HR/people leaders noticing unexplained dips in performance, morale, or collaboration  Anyone who suspects an earlier betrayal might still be shaping today's choices, health, and capacity    Key concepts & signals  Betrayal shows up at work physically (weight, gut, sleep), mentally (focus, overthinking), emotionally (hypervigilance, distrust).  Nervous system hijack: After broken trust, people often swing to micromanagement, second-guessing, isolation, or over-preparation.  Stages matter: Creativity, confidence, and connection typically reliably return as you move into Stages 4–5 of the 5-Stage model.  Research snapshots (from Debi's community data):  Weight/eating struggles: ~47%  Gut issues (IBS/Crohn's/constipation/diarrhea): ~45%  Sleep problems: ~68%    Case snapshots (anonymized)  Sarah — Weight & confidence spiral Discovery of husband + best friend affair → stress eating → +40 lbs, pre-diabetes, energy crash. Missed two promotions; client-facing confidence plummeted.  Marcus — Gut & career derailment Brother's $50k “investment” betrayal (borrowed from 401k) → nausea → IBS, 30 missed days in 6 months, $12k out-of-pocket care → transfer to lower-paying support role.  Jennifer — From empowering to micromanaging Daughter's addiction/deceit eroded trust → hypervigilance, excessive approvals, morale drop → $30k demotion.  David — Cultural catalyst to clock-watcher Father covertly rewrote will for estranged sister → emotional numbness → stopped mentoring/initiatives → ~25% drop in departmental satisfaction.  Lisa — Anxiety, over-prep, stalled growth Fiancé + maid of honor affair weeks before wedding → panic in meetings, medical leave, therapy costs → over-preparation and hesitation → lost Senior Manager promotion.  Tom — Creativity collapse Close friend's emotional affair with his partner during family caregiving → withdrew creative risk-taking → lost edge in pitches → 3 major accounts (~$2M) missed.  Rachel — Sleepless CEO Sister's manipulation of elderly mother & finances → insomnia, ruminations → poorer board-level decisions, investor strain, performance dip; sleep meds added side-effects.  Kevin — Isolation after double betrayal Wife left for best friend → withdrew from people, closed-door leadership → cross-functional effectiveness down ~40%; silos and delays multiplied.  Maria — Paralysis by over-analysis Business + romantic partner embezzled to fund secret life → hyper-checking, documentation glut → missed time-sensitive opportunities; costly lost trading advantage.  Robert — Purpose lost, pipeline thins Adult son (aided by brother) sued him for “emotional damages” → quit mentoring/junior development → leadership pipeline weakened; burnout → early retirement.  Andrea (self-betrayal) — Successful but misaligned Pressured away from teaching into law → chronic fatigue, migraines, disengagement, ~30% billable drop, ~$800k lost potential revenue → leave of absence. The cost wasn't only professional—it was existential.    How to spot it (self-check)  “I don't recognize how I lead or work anymore.” (micromanaging, over-prepping, perfectionism)  “My body is louder than my calendar.” (gut flares, migraines, insomnia before big decisions)  “I'm here but not really here.” (numbness, disengagement, loss of initiative/mentoring)  “I don't trust my read on people.” (multiple confirmations for simple tasks, second-guessing)  “I'm productive—but always late.” (hyper-vigilant thoroughness that kills timeliness)  “I'm successful—and empty.” (self-betrayal: achievement without meaning)    Try this: 6 reflection prompts  Which case felt uncomfortably familiar—and why?  Where does betrayal show up most for you: body, mind, or relationships at work?  What do you over-do (control, analyze, isolate) to feel safer—and what does it cost?  Which responsibility did you stop (mentoring, initiating, pitching) after the rupture?  What would “Stage 4–5 me” do differently this week?  If self-betrayal is the theme, what small act of alignment could you take in 72 hours?    If you lead a team (HR, managers, execs)  Watch for sudden style flips (empowering → micromanaging; creative → conventional).  Replace “performance policing” with support + boundaries (clear priorities, fewer approvals, flexible micro-rest).  Offer psychological safety + access to evidence-based healing resources; normalize PTO for real recovery.  Protect culture carriers (your “Davids”)—and rebuild when they dim.    Practical next steps  Name it: If you recognized yourself, that's progress.  Assess: Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome® indicators seriously (weight, gut, sleep).  Stabilize the body: Basic routines (sleep hygiene, hydration, movement) reduce reactivity.  Skill up: Learn boundaries, rebuild self-trust, and pace decisions during healing.  Advance stages: If you're in Stages 2–3, get guided support to move into 4–5, where creativity, confidence, and connection reliably return.  Share back: Tell Dr. Debi which story resonated most; it helps tailor future episodes.  Memorable lines  “We can try to leave betrayal at the door—but our body and leadership bring it to work.”  “Micromanagement is often a trust injury in disguise.”  “Success that betrays you is still betrayal.”  Resources & links  The PBT Institute — programs, coaches, community: https://thepbtinstitute.com/  Corporate/HR offerings & talks: https://thepbtinstitute.com/corporate/  Tell Dr. Debi which scenario hit home for you, and what you'll try this week. See you next time. 

Most people around the world neglect self! People are more focused on minding the business of others rather than their own and it's one huge reason people remain the same. When you don't allow inner healing and self love, you don't mentally mature and because of it you're easily brainwashed, influenced, convinced, bamboolzled, and deceived by other broken people who are from all walks of life. People normally don't think in depth about things until they're directly affected, until then, they will go along to get along because they want to belong. That type of mentality is keeping many people in broken states of mind! Invest in yourself to become the best that you can be!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/relationships-and-relatable-life-chronicles--4126439/support.

This episode goes for both immature men and women, because they think, feel, and act in similiar and immature ways. Stop expecting people to conduct themselves as mature when they are broken and lack mental maturity. It's all about the mindset! The problem is so many people are broken and because of it they embrace negativity and foolishless but they too are immature people. There are immature men and women in every single group/race! Unhealed people love and relish in negativity/bad news/gossip, etc. One major and important thing that is indeed free, but most people don't want, is the truth!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/relationships-and-relatable-life-chronicles--4126439/support.

Episode Summary:In this deeply reflective and transformative episode, we dive into the fascinating experience of observing the two versions of ourselves: the unhealed self and the healed self. Alli opens up with personal stories and moments of self-awareness, sharing how she recognizes her emotional triggers and how each version of herself responds — one with reaction, the other with compassion.This conversation invites you to become the observer in your own life. How often are you operating from your unhealed version — the one driven by fear, habits, and unconscious patterns? And how often are you rooted in your healed self — the part of you aligned with peace, presence, and your higher wisdom?We explore how this journey of integration is at the heart of our collective evolution — stepping into the 5D frequency, the frequency of the New Earth. Living more from our healed selves means embodying our higher selves and consciously creating a life from love, awareness, and alignment. We also discuss the ways we sometimes slip back into our unhealed patterns, such as:    •    Binge eating    •    Drinking or substance use    •    Gossiping or negative self-talk    •    Repeating limiting habitsBut this isn't about judgment — it's about compassion and awareness. This episode is a reminder that every step toward integration is a step toward a more expansive, empowered version of you. Topics We Cover:    •    What it means to observe your healed vs. unhealed self    •    Personal stories of inner conflict and compassion    •    Recognizing emotional triggers and responding with awareness    •    Understanding 5D consciousness and New Earth energy    •    How old habits can pull us back into lower frequencies    •    Practical ways to anchor more deeply into your healed self This episode is for you if you're:    •    Curious about spiritual growth and inner healing    •    Seeking to understand your own emotional reactions    •    Wanting to live more in alignment with your higher self    •    Interested in 5D frequency and conscious living Wherever you are on your healing journey, know that awareness is the first step — and you're already on your way.Join us on all social platforms@soul.star.energy.collectiveWebsite:SoulStarEnergyCollective.comAllison & MandyIntuitive Teacher's | Healers Soulstarenergycollective.comInstagramThe Soul Star Podcast

Your words have power! In Proverbs 12, Scripture reminds us that the tongue can bring healing or destruction. How what we speak shapes what we experience. This message will challenge you to guard your tongue, speak life over your situation, and align your words with God's truth. When your mind and mouth agree with His Word, transformation begins!

Hosea 7 -- Exposed but Unhealed by Dr. Charles L. Owens

Yes, they are the future in terms of being younger than we are, but we may be in trouble if it's meant any other way, because children are being raised by everything and everyone other than the people who are supposed to raise them. Many children go through hell in their homes and they grow up to be angry people who never allow healing to take place in their lives. If you don't believe me, look around to see all of the mess going on by ALL the angry, hateful, wicked, mean, disconnected, and brainwashed young and old adults! There are some phenomenal children in this world too but most children haven't been given a good or fair start!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/relationships-and-relatable-life-chronicles--4126439/support.

When you refuse to see the truth, it is you who will suffer the most! People don't realize that most of what we go through is self-inflicted!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/relationships-and-relatable-life-chronicles--4126439/support.

Welcome to part 2 of our “Out there” conversation! In case you missed part 1, be sure to grab it wherever you enjoy the podcast.Let's be honest—most believers are feeling the tension. The world's getting weirder, the spiritual fog is thickening, and the church isn't always equipped to talk about what's really going on. In part 2 Doc Rodich and I go full throttle into the fringe topics most people avoid: aliens, frequency warfare, spiritual technology, and the deception that's already in play.If you've ever felt like something's “off” in the culture but couldn't quite name it, this conversation will help you connect the dots. It's not just about waking up—it's about stepping into your divine authority before the deception hits full force.This episode matters now because the programming is already happening. And if you're not spiritually tuned in, you'll miss the signal entirely.HIGHLIGHTS:Ancient art shows UFOs? Doc unpacks centuries-old paintings that depict flying objects, challenging our assumptions about historical encounters. (00:02:04)Modern systems are designed to weaken believers. From fluoride in water to GMOs and frequency manipulation, Doc lays out how physical and spiritual health are being undermined. (00:03:44)Rebellious spiritual entities are running the show. Bralynn and Doc define “they” as the fallen sons of God and their Nephilim offspring, still influencing humanity through proxy rule and genetic manipulation. (00:05:15)Unhealed trauma blocks spiritual authority. Filters like generational wounds, inner vows, and false beliefs create static that keeps believers from operating in full power. (00:07:01)Staying in charge keeps you powerless. Doc explains that unless Jesus builds Himself through you, you'll lack the spiritual infrastructure needed to withstand deception. (00:08:20)Technology leaps seem like meddling by spiritual beings. The suspicious acceleration of human innovation—from horse buggies to smartphones—raises questions about its true origins. (00:10:00)Communion is quantum entanglement. Bralynn reframes this Holy sacrament as a spiritual technology that binds us to Jesus at the deepest level. (00:14:18)Science is catching up to biblical healing. Doc shares how Japanese scientists are regrowing teeth using frequency devices—mirroring the creative power believers are meant to walk in. (00:17:02)The deception is already underway. Bralynn warns that Christians who ignore fringe topics like aliens and Nephilim may lose their faith when disclosure hits. (00:21:03)Spiritual immunity is possible. Doc emphasizes that like Jesus, believers can say “Satan has nothing in me”—but only if they've done the inner work. (00:28:08)TIMESTAMPS:00:00:29 – Welcome back: Bralynn and Doc dive into fringe topics  00:02:04 – UFOs in ancient art: What were they seeing?  00:03:44 – Fluoride, GMOs, and frequency warfare  00:05:15 – Defining “they”: Rebellious spiritual forces and Nephilim  00:07:01 – Filters and static: Inner healing and spiritual clarity  00:08:20 – Staying in charge = staying powerless  00:10:00 – Technology leaps and spiritual theft  00:14:18 – Communion as quantum entanglement  00:17:02 – Regrowing teeth with frequency science  00:21:03 – Alien deception and spiritual programming  00:28:08 – Spiritual immunity: “Satan has nothing in me”  00:30:58 – Building dual reality: Walking in two realms  00:33:40 – Training in the spirit: Not fantasy, but skill  00:38:01 – Manifestation decoded: Heart, mind, DNA, and frequency  00:40:05 – AI-generated worship music: Why discernment matters  00:43:04 – Worship that resonates with heaven  LINK for DOC RODICH:—Check out Doc's Store and More: http://DocRodich.comLINKS for BRALYNN:—Coaching for Business and Breakthrough Encounters:http://SpiritCenteredBusiness.com—Are the Gateways to Your Business clean and open?  FREE 5-Day Challenge to Check: https://spiritcenteredbusiness.com/shop/#FreestuffCopyright 2025 - Bralynn Newby Int'l, LLC. All rights reserved.

Mandy Morris is known for helping leaders, entrepreneurs, and individuals break the hidden emotional patterns that sabotage their success , quickly and effectively. She's an Executive Psychology Coach, Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Certified EMDR Clinician, and Co-Founder of soFree. How does unresolved trauma show up in leadership, even when someone appears high-functioning? What role does the nervous system play in how we make decisions, regulate emotions, and respond to stress? Why do high performers repeat patterns of self-sabotage, and how can neuroscience help break those cycles? What inspired you to create soFree, and how does it help users regulate stress in under two minutes? Mandy Morris Mandy Morris is known for helping leaders, entrepreneurs, and individuals break the hidden emotional patterns that sabotage their success , quickly and effectively. She's an Executive Psychology Coach, Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Certified EMDR Clinician, and Co-Founder of soFree, a breakthrough stress-relief app that helps users reset their nervous system in under two minutes. With over a decade of experience, Mandy's mission is to free people from the grip of unresolved wounds and disrupt the cycles of self-sabotage that quietly shape their behavior, relationships, and performance. Specializing in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), she helps clients rewire their minds and heal at the source, empowering them to lead, live, and connect with greater clarity and resilience. Excellent Executive Coaching Podcast If you have enjoyed this episode, subscribe to our podcast on iTunes. We would love for you to leave a review. The EEC podcasts are sponsored by MKB Excellent Executive Coaching, which helps you get from where you are to where you want to be with customized leadership and coaching development programs. MKB Excellent Executive Coaching offers leadership development programs to generate action, learning, and change that is aligned with your authentic self and values. Transform your dreams into reality and invest in yourself by scheduling a discovery session with Dr. Katrina Burrus, MCC, to reach your goals. Your host is Dr. Katrina Burrus, MCC, founder and general manager of Excellent Executive Coaching, a company that specializes in leadership development.

It's wild, but unfortuante people are doing it. When people believe that a computer loves them, you know people are so lost! A computer will never have real emotions or feelings for a human. It's very sad that some people are so broken that they actually believe they're in love with computers or they believe that they have a close connection with a computer. People will only go further down the rabbit hole with the ever changing technology and will be led wrong becasue of their unhealed hearts and minds, that's caused the beliefs that they have. Many people are lonely and because of it will turn to computers, thinking that they have real connections with them.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/relationships-and-relatable-life-chronicles--4126439/support.

Before governments claimed us, before lovers branded us, a woman's nervous system set the first laws of power and love. The mother is not merely a person but a psychic empire—an archetype encoded in our biology and our economies.

Before governments claimed us, before lovers branded us, a woman's nervous system set the first laws of power and love. The mother is not merely a person but a psychic empire—an archetype encoded in our biology and our economies.

Most workplaces have unhealed leaders and because of the mindsets of those leaders (CEO, Bosses, Leaders, Supervisors, etc.) things are allowed to take place and therefore, trickle down. Many leaders simply don't know how to lead. A good leader sets the example and lead from the front. Unfortunately, that isn't what is happening in most workplaces. That's why workplaces all over the world have nepotism, favoritism, discrimination, harassment, hostility, low morale, etc. You take you everywhere you go and whatever is in you is coming out in one way or another. It doesn't matter what title, position, or status you hold, it will never heal what's inside of you. Therefore, you will display and project your unresolved pains into the lives of other people. It's not just the leaders it is also the employees who falls under the leaders. Workplaces are full to the brim of people with unhealed hearts and minds! It will never change until people choose to be better people and that won't happen without inner healing and change! I think all agencies should have a Facilitation Team to help with internal issues.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/relationships-and-relatable-life-chronicles--4126439/support.

If you find yourself shutting down during conflict or clinging tightly to those you love, your attachment system may be stuck in survival mode. And that could be impacting more than your relationships—it might be rewiring your brain.In this episode, Amy shares how childhood experiences shape adult emotional patterns, and how healing attachment trauma can actually protect your brain from conditions like Alzheimer's.What to Listen For[00:03:00] How childhood emotional neglect wires your brain for stress[00:05:00] Amy's personal story of trauma—and what it taught her brain[00:08:00] Why attachment is NOT the same as love or discipline[00:10:00] The role of the right brain in emotional regulation (Dr. Allan Schore's research)[00:13:00] The 3 types of insecure attachment—and how each develops[00:21:00] The adult signs of anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment[00:24:00] Why “emotional rollercoasters” may feel familiar (but aren't healthy)[00:26:00] The difference between trauma bonds and true secure attachment[00:29:00] Why healing attachment wounds is critical for brain protection in menopause[00:33:00] The best therapy modalities to start healing attachment traumaIf you've ever felt like love is too hard, too complicated, or too painful—this episode is for you. Unhealed attachment trauma can impact not just your relationships, but also your long-term brain health. But the good news? Healing is possible. And it's worth it.Be sure to listen now, share this episode with a friend, and don't forget to subscribe to Happy and Healthy with Amy Lang wherever you get your podcastsRESOURCES: Register for the FREE Masterclass: 5 Keys to Protecting Your Brain Health Book a FREE Discovery Call with Amy Lang Order Amy's book Thoughts Are Habits Too: Master Your Triggers, Free Yourself From Diet Culture, and Rediscover Joyful Eating. Follow Amy on Instagram @habitwhisperer

In this episode, I sit down with Ryan Moresby-White to explore the painful truth most men avoid: how unhealed boys show up in adult relationships and sabotage the very love they crave. Ryan shares his journey of growing up emotionally disconnected, carrying the grief of his family system, and realizing that beneath his achievements was still a scared little boy running the show.We dive into why women pull away when they feel a man's wounded boy, how unprocessed grief keeps men stuck in cycles of abandonment, and why “being a safe man” has nothing to do with perfection and everything to do with owning your nervous system. This isn't theory... it's the lived initiation of heartbreak, shame, and deep inner work that transforms a boy into a man.Ryan's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ryanmoresbywhite/———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if anything resonated with you. Thank you for watching!Lucas Salame: https://www.instagram.com/lucas__salame | https://www.new-age-sage.com

Unhealed wounds. Unbroken bondages. Unsolved struggles.Are there areas in your life that need restoration? True freedom is impossible apart from Jesus; for through Christ, even the most hopeless cases become heaven's masterpieces. Listen to Ptr. Erla Ignacio as she delivers "Break Free: When Jesus Steps In" and discover the Lord's powerful ways to bring wholeness to body, soul, and spirit.

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A group of campers! Unhealed trauma!  A profound secret! This week the boys gather around the campfire to enjoy MARSHMALLOW!!  Instagram and Threads: https://www.instagram.com/skeletonboyspod/ You can always email us: skeletonboyspods@gmail.com

Hello future humans with self-agency inspiring human potential!Become a paid subscriber to access practical exercises that use mindset, mindfulness & mindsight to grow confidence, handle change with good stress, raise your frequency & inner stillness & ground yourself in VVS: ⁠podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/maria-florio/subscribe⁠Inspiring Human Potential spotlights higher-self mindset lifestyle POVs, stories, ideas & practices.Maria Florio inspires human potential by sharing the keys to inner growth & following your heart. She brings together human, spiritual, & spirituality elements to explore human evolution, consciousness, & being yourself. She looks at how sciences & spirituality together reveal the way to access infinite higher human consciousness potential when pursuing self-help, personal development, spiritual growth, & mental & emotional mastery. She also talks about how mindset & lifestyle, mindfulness, secure attachment, integration of the brain, & restorative embodiment lead to higher intelligence & fulfillment. She uses perspectives & stories from her self-empowered, enlightening, mystic, spiritual, & mindful life. From the age of eight, Maria decided she was going to help people when she grew up. A vague statement that meant to her, & still means, to help people live a good life as themselves.5D mystic POV stories on mindfulness, educational podcasts & being yourselfA securely attached self-led mystic, spiritual & mindful person knows inconsistencies for what they are: fear, fear of intimacy, emotional vulnerability & being yourself in connection.Be you, mindful & flawed with integrity.Love is supporting each other to fly. Love lifts you up when you're down & it soars the skies with you when you're up. Love is always there."The kingdom of God is within you." - JesusLove, Maria5D Mystic Spiritual Self-Help Mindful Mentor Podcast Spiritual & Science Human VoiceBringing Together Human, Spiritual & Spirituality Elements to Explore Human Evolution & ConsciousnessEmail ⁠floriomaria80@gmail.com⁠ for 1-to-1 Mentorship or Masterclass & Spiritual Workshops & Retreats info."It is the ability to bring out the best in others that makes you a leader." - Sadhguru"Mindfulness can help integrate the mind, body, & relationships, which can lead to well-being." - Dan Siegel, MD"A non traumatized person with a secure attachment has the capacity to regulate independently of relationships." - Pat Ogden, PhDSecurely attached self-led people are strong, brave & bring change for the better because we embody intelligence, expand consciousness & self.Be Yourself In Connection In Life & Love - 5D Mystic Functional Adult POVs & StoriesSubscribe on Spotify, YouTube: @inspiringhumanpotential, another favorite podcast platform you use, or Fanbase.5D Mystic Enlightenment Functional Adult Relationships New Stories To Heal Trauma Together & Bring Forth Your Humanity"If you are a piece of creation, the Creator is definitely embedded within you. You just have to turn inward to know." - SadhguruYou'll know the piece of creation you are once you're living life as a securely attached restorative embodied self-aware, accountable & regulating person.Love, Maria5D Mystic Woo-Woo Pseudoscience Self-Help Mindful Mentor & Podcast HostMaria brings together sciences & spirituality to support human evolution & consciousness, to shed light on love & you being able to be you, the authentic you - an inner child adult who has secure attachment, integration of the brain, & restorative embodied self-aware life potential with your personal motivation to do self-help & personal development that get your self-awareness to put into practice accountability & regulation skills with the mental, emotional, & physical mastery at play as you apply & use the inner growth mindset & lifestyle approach.Inspiring Human Potential Inner Growth 5D Self-Empowered Enlightened Expanding Consciousness Voices, Stories & Perspectives

This is the final episode in a powerful three-part series I've been walking through with you. Today, we're pulling it all together, everything we've talked about regarding unhealed pain, trauma, and how those deep-rooted experiences may be leaking into your business, your leadership, and the decisions you make every single day. I'm diving into how these patterns can manifest in ways you might not expect, like imposter syndrome, a competitive spirit, or constantly seeking validation from others. We'll also take a deeper look at how the environment you were raised in may still be influencing your behavior, your sense of worth, and the way you show up in your work. This is an important one. So I encourage you to listen closely, take notes if you need to, and reflect on what resonates. This episode is packed full of truth, wisdom, and encouragement to help you recognize and break free from the destructive habits that may be holding you back from the freedom and success you're truly capable of. Important Links: Episode 1 Episode 2 Save TIME & MONEY by running your biz on a single platform- check out my software, Equipt360  

Part 2 is a deep one... Today, I'm talking all about how the pain and trauma in your life can snowball and eventually lead you to self-sabotage in business. Self-sabotage can show up in so many different ways, sometimes it's obvious, but often, it's subtle and sneaky. In this episode, I really want you to listen closely and reflect on what you might be doing unintentionally that could be disrupting the growth of whatever you're working on. Whether it's hesitating to move forward, second-guessing your decisions, or shrinking back when things start to go well, this conversation is meant to help you recognize those patterns, and start healing them.  Important Links: Episode 1 Sandi Krakowski Interview Want to work together? Click Here  Save TIME & MONEY by running your biz on a single platform- check out my software, Equipt360

As good as our parents may have been, no one gets out of childhood without experiencing a few painful or traumatic events. These moments, big or small, can leave lasting impressions that shape how we see ourselves, others, and the world around us. And more often than we realize, those unhealed wounds can quietly follow us into adulthood... and even into our businesses. In today's episode, I'm diving into how unresolved pain and childhood trauma can subtly (or not so subtly) show up in our professional lives, affecting everything from decision-making and leadership to confidence and communication. You might be surprised by how much of your internal story is influencing your external success. This is the first installment in a powerful three-part series. So I invite you to listen with an open heart, reflect deeply, and really absorb the wisdom and freedom that's being offered here. There is healing available, and it starts with awareness. Important Links: Save TIME & MONEY by running your biz on a single platform- check out my software, Equipt360 Perfection Isn't Precious  

This one might sting a little... but you need to hear it.You're not an imposter.You're just building from a version of you that was never meant to lead.In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly why your business feels off, your voice feels shaky, and your content feels like a copy-paste of someone else's work—even if you “know what you're doing.”Here's the truth:If you haven't done the shadow work…If you haven't looked at your trauma, your lineage, the masks you wear online—You're building on top of an identity that's not actually yours.I talk about:The year I burned my business down and rebuilt from my rebirthHow skipping the inner work is the fastest way to burn outWhy embodiment comes before strategyThe abandonment wound that almost cost me my life & businessAnd how I've grown 300% in the past 90 days because I finally faced all of itIf you've ever felt like you're faking it…If you've ever felt stuck, lost, confused, or like you're chasing success that never lands This episode will crack you open (in the best way).⚡️We start July 1st: Join the FREE 30-Day REBIRTH Challenge now→ Click here to joinYou'll get access to:Pre-recorded videosVoice dropsPrompts & worksheetsA live masterclass on July 28thThis is your initiation into the version of you who leads, sells, and scales without burning herself out.And when you're ready to go deeperBreadwinner Energy Academy® is where we take this work all the way.JOIN ACADEMY®: https://breadwinnerenergy.co/breadwinner-energy-academy-r

Have you ever set a goal, only to feel stuck, drained, or deeply afraid to follow through—even when you really want it? In this solo episode, I'm opening up about the silent ways unhealed trauma can block our ability to finish what we start, trust our own greatness, or even dream out loud.We'll explore how trauma reshapes the brain, tricks us into procrastination or perfectionism, and keeps us in cycles of burnout. But it's not just about identifying the blocks—it's about healing them.I'll walk you through how to recognize trauma patterns in your goal-setting process, share actionable healing strategies, and give you real-life examples that might mirror your own journey. If you've been feeling like you're doing everything right but still can't move forward—this episode is for you.✨ Get ready to:Understand the brain-trauma-goal connectionLearn how survival mode disguises itself as self-sabotagePractice tools to feel safe enough to shine againRebuild the belief that you can win, even after everythingThis one is personal, raw, and full of hope. Because healing isn't just about getting better—it's about finally becoming who you were always meant to be. NEW MUSIC! Pen Cry – A transformative anthem for healing featuring GRAMMY®-nominated poet Ty Scott King. Listen now: https://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/paemurray/pen-cry-feat-ty-scott-king Want to write your own book or tell your story powerfully?Explore AuthorHER, my new platform to help women heal through authorship and create books that inspire the world: https://www.paemurray.com/authorher Read my personal healing story in Survive Then Live – a raw and hope-filled memoir of surviving the Pulse Nightclub tragedy and choosing purpose over pain. Order here: https://www.amazon.com/Survive-Then-Live-Patience-Carter/dp/0578454580  Share this episode with a sister who's feeling stuck. Let's Stay Connected Follow Healing Her Halo — for healing inspiration, writing support, and AuthorHER updates: Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/healingherhalo Follow my music journey as Pae Murray: Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/paemurraymusic YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/@paemurray Listen & Follow the Healing Her Halo Podcast on Buzzsprout and all your favorite streaming platforms: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1491109Let's heal, rise, and write our truth—together. #HealingHerHalo #TraumaHealing #GoalSetting #FaithOverFearSend us a text

Are you aware of how emotional trauma begins to get stored in the physical body? In this podcast Rachel teaches how trauma manifests in the physical body and a deeper reason why it get stored in your cells, bones & muscles in utero. The Masters of Self University PODCAST is your highest source of Sacred Truth and Universal Wisdom, offered by Rachel Fiori, mystical teacher, psycho-energetic healer, & CEO. Join our journey of soul transformation with hosts Ellie Lee, Danny Morley, and the rest of our amazing Certified Mystical Coaches of Oneness™.↓↓↓ STUDENT ENROLLMENT INFORMATION:  ↓↓↓  https://www.mastersofselfuniversity.com/university-enrollmentRachel's Book on Amazon:  ⁠https://shorturl.at/hkyLRJoin Our Free Discord Community:  https://www.mastersofselfuniversity.com/resources#discordMasters of Self University:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://mastersofselfuniversity.com/Rachel's Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_fiori/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@rachelfiori_  https://www.youtube.com/@mastersofselfuniversity  NEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!

In this YouTube livestream of the Soul Elevation podcast, I explore how emotional triggers reveal unhealed wounds, and how recognizing them is key to accelerating your spiritual ascension. Understanding shadow work is essential for anyone on the path of awakening. I share powerful insights from a channeled message in a book by Lee Harris and Regina Meredith, reframing how triggers point to energy body vulnerabilities. You'll hear my personal vision of the mirror-like kaleidoscope of our relationships and how every interaction can be a sacred reflection of our inner landscape. We dive deep into: How to recognize hidden wounds through emotional triggers The energetic mechanics of healing and protection My vision of fractal mirrors and reflections of the soul Practical ways to begin or deepen your shadow work Why forgiveness and self-awareness are critical to ascension   ✨ If you're on the path of spiritual growth, shadow integration, or higher dimensional awareness, this is for you.

What if the barrier between the living and the dead was never real? And can we face dark forces through the use of Shadow Work? In this gripping episode, spiritualist and lifelong paranormal experiencer Kaedrich Olsen joins me to expose the mystifying truth about The Veil—and the secrets that need to be revealed. We also explore Shadow Work and the Paranormal, from ancient Norse wisdom to the voices of unseen entities, we confront the idea that some hauntings aren't tied to places... they're tied to us. Unhealed trauma. Repressed emotions. Entities that feed on both. For more information on our guest visit: www.Kaedrich.com Tearing the Veil & Shadow Work - The Paranormal 60 PLEASE SUPPORT THE ADVERTISERS THAT SUPPORT THIS SHOWZelmin's Minty Mouth - Get more info and 15% off at www.Zelmins.com/P60 Factor Meals - Get 50% off your first order & Free Shipping at www.FactorMeals.com/p6050off & use code: P6050off at checkout Mint Mobile - To get your new wireless plan for just $15 bucks a month, and get the plan shipped to your door for FREE, go to www.MintMobile.com/P60 Shadow Zine - https://shadowzine.com/ Tarot Readings with Winnie Schrader - http://lovelotustarot.com/ PLEASE RATE & REVIEW THE PARANORMAL 60 PODCAST WHEREVER YOU LISTEN! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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In which we talk Lorde's new single (again), RHOM trailer, Karen Huger in prison, Katy Perry's 'unhinged' rant, and Natasha Lyonne's new AI-slop movie studio.  JOIN US ON PATREON About: Hosted by journalists Joan Summers and Matthew Lawson, Eating For Free is a weekly podcast that explores gossip and power in the pop culture landscape: Where it comes from, who wields it, and who suffers at the hands of it. Find out the stories behind the stories, as together they look beyond the headlines of troublesome YouTubers or scandal-ridden A-Listers, and delve deep into the inner workings of Hollywood's favorite pastime. The truth, they've found, is definitely stranger than any gossip. You can also find us on our website, Twitter, and Instagram. Any personal, business, or general inquires can be sent to eatingforfreepodcast@gmail.com  Joan Summers' Twitter, Instagram Matthew Lawson's Twitter, Instagram Skips: 'Pump' and dump Brittany Cartwright brutally shades ex Jax Taylor's sex skills on ‘WWHL' [PageSix] Ramona Singer, 68, posts unfiltered bikini selfies after being trolled for excessive editing Bill Gates' daughter Phoebe divulges sexist comment ‘childhood sweetheart' boyfriend made before breakup, [Page Six] Blake Lively's friendship with Gigi Hadid questioned after actress skips model's 30th birthday party [Page Six] Justin Bieber thirsts over wife Hailey's sultry snaps after split speculation, [Page Six] James Marsden Is Proving He's Not Just a 'Snack,' He's a 'Whole Meal' In Heartthrob-Heavy Dunkin' Campaign (Exclusive), [People] Jeremy Renner Recalls Getting Back on the Snowplow That Ran Him Over: “I go right into the eye of the storm of any fear or anything.”  [Page Six] 'Nine Perfect Strangers' Season 2 Trailer: Nicole Kidman Reprises Her Role With New Set of Strangers - Watch! [Just Jared] Main Stories: Selena Gomez Details 'Embarrassing' First Kiss with Benny Blanco That Left Her with a Rash [People] Fans call Hailey Bieber a 'creepy stalker' after 'copying' Selena Gomez in acceptance speech nearly word for word [DM] ‘RHOM' star Alexia Nepola packs on the PDA with ex Todd on beach date — a month after finalizing divorce, [Page Six] Jordon Hudson defends controlling CBS interview with savage retweets — including one wishing Bill Belichick ‘strangled' journalist, [Page Six] ‘RHOP' star Gizelle Bryant says Karen Huger is ‘running' prison after her DUI case [PageSix] Katy Perry Slams ‘Unhinged and Unhealed' Haters amid Blue Origin Flight and Tour Criticism: ‘I'm Not Perfect' [People] Bella Ramsey, Harris Dickinson, Nicola Coughlan, Paapa Essiedu & Molly Manning Walker Among 400+ Signatories Of Open Letter To UK Film & TV Industry On Trans Rights, [Deadline] Natasha Lyonne to Direct Feature ‘Uncanny Valley' Combining ‘Ethical' AI and Traditional Filmmaking Techniques [Variety]