Unlearned

We're back! CA and Jaime return from their hiatus with a series on insecure attachment styles. In this episode, they explore the Avoidant-Attachment style both from a clinical standpoint and from a personal standpoint via CA's experiences. Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Order Jaime's book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE Notes: Happy Anniversary! We're back! Please consider supporting the show Defining the four main attraction styles (Secure attachment, Anxious-ambivalent attachment, Anxious-avoidant, and Disorganized/disoriented attachment) Where all insecure attachment styles come from How does someone develop avoidant-attachment? Why opposite attachment styles seem to be attracted to one another CA's journey as someone with avoidant-attachment style How avoidant-attachment shows up in relationships How to heal and form a healthy attachment style Links: Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Voxer Coaching: http://tinyurl.com/434fs8zd Jaime's Coaching: https://recollectedself.com/workwithme Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠ International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988 Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988. Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

Are dissociation and disengagement the same thing? Is it ever healthier to more or less walk away to protect yourself? In this episode, CA and Jaime explore both dissociation and disengagement, using the analogy of a snowstorm. Join us to discover when we need to tough it out, put on a coat, or stay inside.  Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Order Jaime's book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE Notes: Emotional Support water bottles and missing walls The difference between consciously and respectfully disengaging and dissociation Is there a way to healthily disengage when there is too much pain? The mistakes we make while learning to protect ourselves in a good way What happens if the other person isn't safe Learning to trust your limits in a healthy way Links: Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Voxer Coaching: http://tinyurl.com/434fs8zd Jaime's Coaching: https://recollectedself.com/workwithme Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠ International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988 Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988. Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

We all know that healing isn't linear, but there does tend to be a moment when a corner is turned - where we begin to live our life again. What do we do then? Season 1 of the show focused on healing and trauma recovery. Join Jaime and CA as they introduce Season 2, which will focus on what happens after. Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Order Jaime's book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE Notes: Introducing Season 2 - Life After Healing What trauma healing really looks like Societal beliefs and trauma recovery Why should you learn and then honor your thresholds How it feels to shift out of survival mode How to approach recovery safely Honoring your body and mind during the recovery process Links: Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠ International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988 Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988. Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

In this episode, CA and Jaime explore how relationships can serve as protective factors for trauma processing and healing. Especially relationships in which we are not merely tolerated, but rather accepted and, ideally, celebrated. Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Order Jaime's book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE Notes: Sweater weather! Changing energy and changing seasons What are protective factors and how do they affect us? Beginning the process of processing trauma How relationships can be protective factors for trauma processing What normal relationships look like The importance of knowing whether you are being tolerated, accepted, or celebrated in a relationship Links: Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠ International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988 Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988. Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

Join Jaime and CA as they delve into the complexities of spirituality. They question whether religion has exclusive control over our spiritual experiences, provide a clear definition of spirituality, and dive into the topic of secular spirituality. Additionally, they explore the themes of self-righteousness, self-sovereignty, authority within the spiritual domain, and more. Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Order Jaime's book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE Notes: Does religion own spirituality? What is spirituality? What is secular spirituality?  An example of an experience of secular spirituality versus an experience of religious spirituality Fear-based spirituality and trauma The source of spiritual power  Self-righteousness, self-sovereignty, and authority Links: Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠ International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988 Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988. Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

Join CA and Jaime as they dive into the concept of "cringe." They'll dissect its nature, explore why it makes us squirm, and reveal how trauma recovery can shift our understanding. Get ready for an eye-opening discussion that will change the way you think about cringe.  Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Order Jaime's book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE Notes: Super cringy opening March Madness - but with kittens! What is cringe? What can cringe teach us? Is it weird or is it a social contract When do we begin to feel cringe? Where perception comes into play The link between cringe and trauma recovery Links: Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠ International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988 Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988. Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

Join CA and Jaime as they explore personal evolution with the internationally recognized singer,  Audrey Assad. Discover the transformative power of music, delve into profound discussions on faith, suffering, and self-acceptance, and gain valuable insights into the art of living in the moment. Audrey's wisdom and experiences make for a truly inspiring conversation you won't want to miss. Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Order Jaime's book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE Notes: Introducing Audrey Assad The power of music  - specifically with praise and worship music Being ok with not having an answer OCD and Black-and-White Thinking The relationships between Christianity and suffering The importantance of radical self-acceptance Learning to just live for the sake of living Links: Part 1: Ep. 27: Religious Trauma: Part 1 https://open.spotify.com/episode/0YoXD8jlj6RZ2i3qyUytzr?si=235516c3dd384d13 Audrey's New Single: https://ffm.to/betteriscoming Her substack: https://thevioletfields.substack.com/ Monica Martin: Go Easy Kid: https://open.spotify.com/track/50hN4KDpQILZpTejaifHZK?si=CWxhlOreT9aqcaAzgMVMlA Website: http://www.audreyassad.com  Audrey's Instagram: http://instagram.com/audreyassad The liturgists podcast Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/scrupulosity/id903433534?i=1000447501709 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6hXrkFJoM55UKJY9COQsMw?si=Bv2Zj5pST6KrSKbx-AY7Lg Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠ International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988 Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988. Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

Jaime and CA welcome McKay Orton, a natural beekeeper who has repeatedly gone viral to discuss beekeeping, nature, animals, mental health, and how they intersect.  Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Order Jaime's upcoming book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It will come out on September 5th and is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE Notes: Introducing McKay Orton Bee's and mental health Nature, connection, and improving our wellbeing The frequency of curiosity Other animals who can help calm you down The importance of connecting with nature Honey talk Links: McKay's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mckayjo McKay's website: https://mckayjo.com/ Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠ International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988 Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988. Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

CA puts Jaime in the hotseat to discuss Jaime's brand new book, "Toxic Relationship Recovery," which comes out tomorrow! Get a behind the scenes look at everything that went into writing (and recording) it before you pick it up yourself! Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Pre-order Jaime's upcoming book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It will come out on September 5th and is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE Notes: The story behind Jamie's book How did the title come about? Why Jaime used the word, "toxic" The importance of using the right language Describing the format of the book  Who is the target audience Links: @Gendersauce's post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CsRZHGQOJe6/ Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠ International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988 Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988. Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

Are intimacy and sex the same thing? Is skipping right into the “deeper conversations” a good way to create intimacy? How do we actually form intimate relationships with other people? Jaime and CA explore these questions and more as they take a deep dive into intimacy, what it is, how we build it, and why it's so hard. Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Pre-order Jaime's upcoming book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It will come out on September 5th and is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE Notes: Roleplay time! Building intimacy versus trying to skip to it How do we build intimacy? Outs to intimacy Building emotional intimacy with yourself The dangers of getting too intimate too soon Misperceptions about intimacy Sex and intimacy  How mundane conversations can lead to intimacy Links: @Gendersauce's post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CsRZHGQOJe6/ Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠ International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988 Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988. Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

In this special bonus episode, CA and Jaime take a deep dive into the Jonah Hill text message situation to explore the importance of standards and boundaries, how and when to have conversations about them, standards versus control, and more.  Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jonah Hill, Sarah Brady Text Messages—Full Transcript: https://www.newsweek.com/jonah-hill-sarah-brady-text-messages-full-transcript-1812193 Notes: Background on the Jonah Hill texts Why stating your boundaries and standards is actually a good thing The differences between boundaries and standards The importance of deciding what matters to you before it's too late Core components of standards we should look at in a relationship How to have conversations about boundaries and standards Clarify! Clarify! Clarify! Looking at Jonah Hill's texts Giving away the keys to the car Being celebrated vs tolerated Links: Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠ International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988 Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988. Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

Can humor help us heal? Can a joke ever be “too dark?” Join Jaime and CA as they chat with comedian Myles Weber and explore the relationship between comedy and healing on this hilarious and insightful episode. Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Notes: Jaime and CA learn how to banter Always wear SPF Introducing Myles Weber Why Jaime is terrible at Dungeons and Dragons Why seeking out balance while healing is so important The importance of finding people who can be your “coping buddy” How Myles learned how to “read the room” professionally How Myles figured out how personal they should go Can you still be funny if you are no longer traumatized? Links: Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries: ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: ⁠http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts Myles' 1st Special: ⁠https://youtu.be/tPvT6_ICxbg Myles' 2nd Special: ⁠https://youtu.be/0fbI8Rum58w Online Comedy Coaching: ⁠greenroomtalk.org Myles' website: ⁠mylesweber.com Follow the podcast on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: ⁠https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com International Suicide Hotlines: ⁠https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines National Suicide Hotline: Call:988 Text: 988 Website:⁠ https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988. Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

Suffering has a role in life, but what happens if it takes center stage? CA and Jaime explore how we can break free from looking at our trauma as a main fixture of our identity and learn to let our suffering be a part of who we are and not all of who we are. Notes: The role of suffering in our lives Suffering as “part of our lives” vs suffering as the goal Is suffering a path to holiness? Identifying ourselves with our baggage Learning to let go of our trauma story “Addiction Does Not Make the Artist” Links: Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ “Big Magic” by Elizabeth Gilbert: https://www.elizabethgilbert.com/books/big-magic/ “Rest is Resistance: A MANIFESTO” by Tricia Hersey: https://thenapministry.com/ “Riptide” by Beartooth: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zv3t0Fvgvik “Sunshine” by Beartooth: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eSy-VzkXr2k Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠ International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988 Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988. Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ In this incredibly personal and powerful episode, Jaime and CA explore the dark moments in our lives where it can seem impossible to see the light. They also discuss how to be there for someone in those moments, even when you are dealing with stuff yourself. **This episode covers sensitive topics like depression and suicidality. So, please don't listen if you are not in a safe headspace. See the notes for resources. International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines National Suicide Hotline: Call: 988 Text: 988 Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988. Notes: When trauma specialists have trauma themselves The problem with putting people on a pedestal  Why linear healing isn't really a thing Being a witness to someone else's darkness How to be there for someone during a dark time Witnessing your own darkness on social media Links: Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠ Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pins

Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We often find ourselves offering help by way of the phrase, “let me know what I can do to help,” but have we ever stopped to think about how incredibly unhelpful that may be? Jaime and CA explore how to actually provide real support for people who are going through a tough time, for whatever reason, by not just making it easier on the person suffering, but by being proactive about it. Notes: Actually providing support vs providing intention to support Why “Let me know if you need anything” doesn't work What if we want to help someone but can't? How to proactively help people who are going through something Be brave enough to be wrong and take risks How to help without being taken advantage of How to help on a real, deep level Links: Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠ Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA and Jaime continue their series on Neurodivergency by discussing how it impacts relationships, focusing on romantic partners. They discuss the importance of actually knowing yourself, how to properly communicate your needs, what acceptance looks like, and more in this dynamic discussion. Part 1: https://open.spotify.com/episode/41rYpF6FnCouWR6NzYDFb1?si=3100d2970c3c4458 Notes: The importance of knowing yourself What overstimulization looks like How to describe overstimulization with analogies How to communicate your needs Why having a partner who can validate your needs is so important What acceptance and support really looks like How to identify when your self-advocacy is being challenged for the right reasons What if both partners are neurdivergent? How to have a conversation, not a competition Links: Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠ Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime and CA begin a series on Neurodivergency by exploring through their own experiences what it is, comorbidities and how they can affect diagnosis, how neurodivergent brains and neurotypical brains think differently, and more. Notes: Just a reminder! What is a neurodivergent brain? Neurodivergence and comorbidities Why the criteria for symptoms of neurodivergence needs to change Examples of how comorbidities can affect a neurodivergent brain How do late-diagnosed people even find out? What neurotypical-minded people can do Links: Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠ Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

Go on social media and within two minutes you will come across dating advice. What if we took the best of that advice and directed it toward our relationship with ourselves? That sounds good on paper, but when it comes down to it, what does building a relationship with yourself look like? How do we do it? Jaime and CA are off this week, so our producer picked one of his favorite previous episodes of the show, “Date Yourself.” Enjoy! Notes: What does building a relationship with yourself look like? What does it feel like when you engage in dialogue with yourself? Does it feel like a harmful relationship? Is there Kindness? Compassion? Are you your own bully? Links: Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries:⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠⁠⁠⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠ What About Bob on Amazon Prime:https://www.amazon.com/What-About-Bob-Bill-Murray/dp/B08GY1YYSF FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

As children, our homes are supposed to be our safe haven; a place where we can get away from the things that make life tough, but what happens when it's not? What happens when we are bullied at home, too? In this episode, CA and Jaime explore bullying by discussing where it comes from, how it is learned, and how we can fight against it, even when it happens in our own homes. Notes: Introducing our Over 50 Club! What is bullying? Where do bullies come from? Which child will get bullied in the home? Being “othered” Bullying at school vs bullying at home Am I my own bully? Links: Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries:⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠⁠⁠⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠ What About Bob on Amazon Prime:https://www.amazon.com/What-About-Bob-Bill-Murray/dp/B08GY1YYSF FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com Over 50 Club! Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

Happy Anniversary! Jaime and CA celebrate the show's one-year anniversary by looking back over their journey and then getting intimate by answering some questions from The Skin Deep's, “{THE AND} Relationship Card Game.”  Notes: Happy Anniversary! Why we started the podcast Our journey once we started Our hosts get personal with a card game Links: Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries:⁠⁠ ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠⁠⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠ The Skin Deep's Card Game: https://shop.theskindeep.com/pages/the-and-relationship-card-game FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Can you experience joy after or even in the midst of trauma? CA and Jaime take a look at why embracing joy can be such a difficult barrier for us to move beyond when trauma is a part of our lives and then they explore what exactly we can do about it. Notes: Can you feel joy after experiencing trauma? How joy can become a barrier How to move beyond the fear of joy Why acceptance of what makes us human is so important The thing inside of us that questions if we are worthy of having joy Start with an ounce Techniques to gain ownership of your joy The importance of curiosity and asking why not Links: Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries:⁠ ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠ Why Do I Crave Chaos?: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1DTnNqOSjwx2StbjVfXp7J?si=09ade4fee68541b5 FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Consent is mandatory and well all know that, but it runs a lot deeper than just saying “yes” before the act. In a world filled with fluidity and kinks, navigating consent, especially with someone who has been traumatized can be incredibly tricky. Join Jaime and CA as they explore what consent means, what it looks like in practice, and how to have healthy conversations regarding it. *WARNING: This episode contains discussions about sex and consent. If hearing about those topics may harm you, please feel free to skip it. Notes: Should kids be able to say no to a hug? How do you discuss consent before knowing everything it entails? What consent looks like Understanding your partner's “defaults” regarding sex Yes until no v no until yes Navigating consent when someone has been through trauma  Links: Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries:⁠ ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Learning our triggers is a huge part of the healing process, but knowing them and moving beyond them are two very different things. How do we break away from them? What do we do when we trigger someone else? How should they react? CA and Jaime take a deep-dive into these questions and more as they explore triggers, where they come from, and how to handle them. *WARNING: The opening roleplay contains yelling, activation, and escalation. If you would like to skip it fast-forward about a minute. Notes: Becoming aware of your trauma and triggers When triggers and accountability intersect How triggers can create trauma in others How to respond when someone else is triggered The importance of the difference between how you act versus who you are How to self-reflect without shaming yourself How to get rid of your triggers Links: Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries: ⁠https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop⁠ Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠ FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠ Jaime's Instagram:⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠ Jaime's TikTok:⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠ CA's Instagram:⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠ CA's Tiktok:⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Have you ever been told that you are too needy? Are you? Maybe it's not that simple. Jaime and CA explore what people really mean when they claim that we are too sensitive, where their response and our “neediness” comes from, and what we can do about it. Notes: A sensory experience Am I too sensitive? Debunking the concept of being “oversensitive” How social and cultural factors normalize how we see others Being called “too needy” Looking at where your sense of “normal” comes from Whose responsibility is it to fulfill emotional needs in a relationship How to have an honest and probably uncomfortable conversation about needs Ep 12: The Healing Stages: https://open.spotify.com/episode/16EkICSkjem68i7N1WMArx Links: Check out our newest workshop: How to Relate to the Mother Who Has No Boundaries: https://tinyurl.com/motherworkshop Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

We know that we need to learn certain skills to move beyond our traumas to live more fully authentic lives, but we also know that we can't call a timeout on our lives as we learn those skills. Join CA and Jaime as they explore how to learn those skills and adapt to ever-changing situations. Notes: A big announcement! How to build and apply trauma skills while still living your life Why waiting until we are totally ready may not be a great idea Roadblocks we put in for ourselves Being bad at a skill until you are good Building skills with constantly changing variables Developing adaptive skills Links: FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Have you ever felt like you got deep with someone who refused to match that depth and wondered if they could? In this episode, Jaime and CA explore the concept of showing up fake to our relationships by discussing why some people seem unwilling or maybe even unable to show their authentic selves and then, what we should do about it. Notes: What happens when we struggle to tap into depth within ourselves Why some people are not equipped to go deeper The shift from inability to unwillingness to go in-depth Why someone could be unwilling to share emotional intimacy How to handle someone who can't or won't show up authentically Why it feels unsafe to be with someone who can't access depth What authenticity feels like in relationships What does a shallow relationship look like? Links: FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

We have the right to a little bit of privacy in our relationships, but do we have the right to secrecy? What's the difference? Join CA and Jaime as they explore how secrecy and privacy affect relationships through a thoughtful discussion full of various scenarios. Notes: Privacy or Secrecy - an example Hallmarks of secrecy What is secrecy? How to have the conversation around privacy When privacy turns into secrecy Do you owe people an explanation? Why do people need to have secrets? Where consent comes into play When privacy gets violated Links: FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Ep. 42: Complex Trauma Basics - There is a lot of discussion about trauma on social media nowadays, but what is it? Are there different kinds? Can one type of trauma hurt more than another? In this episode, Jaime and CA explore the different types of trauma, how to identify and recognize it, as well as how to process it. Notes: End Scene Learning how to recognize and then name traumas Why recognizing complex trauma is so difficult The difference between big T trauma and little t trauma Using the DRIP acronym to identify complex trauma Defining incidental trauma Defining PTSD Processing your trauma How to handle triggering moments Links: Episode 1: Self-Consent During Healing FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Our trauma can create certain narratives in our brains. What happens when we encounter similar, but not identical situations in relationships that have nothing to do with that trauma? CA and Jaime explore why we need to create new narratives based on current events, not our past, and exactly how to do so. Notes: How the brain builds narratives How the brain interferes with current or new relationships Building the skills that allow me to write narratives in a new way When we should and shouldn't ignore the issue How to practice processing tension “Yeah, but remember….” The importance of pattern recognition How to put this all together Links: FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

We hear a lot about boundaries, but what are they and how do we put them into practice? What happens when someone pushes them? Join Jaime and CA for an in-depth exploration of both ultimatums and boundaries by not only explaining, but with their signature style of roleplaying, as well. Notes: What are boundaries? What are ultimatums? How boundaries create safety How to set boundaries while respecting other people's boundaries Boundaries versus politics How to handle boundaries regarding personal beliefs? What happens when boundaries are weaponized? Links: FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts Episode 22: https://open.spotify.com/episode/57iIaflPAoZk7CnhOVYvhr?si=dc9e8e8694b64980 Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

You will make some changes during your healing journey. What happens when your loved ones question these changes? What if they don't agree with them? CA and Jaime explore how to have these conversations without falling into the trap of justifying our healed selves with an in-depth exploration and a bit of roleplay. Notes: Justification versus clarification during dialogs about our recovery Why conversations around recovery and healing tend to be cyclical Navigating the traps Why do we feel the need to justify our decisions? Why justification tends not to work Finding peace and accepting differences When to walk away Clarifying without seeking approval Links: FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

So you're on your way to recovery. What about the people who only recognize the old you? What about those moments of panic where you feel yourself slipping back into the person you once were? Jaime and CA explore how we can hold ourselves hostage during the recovery process as well as how to negotiate our way out of the situation. Notes: Why looking back at who you used to be is so difficult Why it's important to hold yourself accountable How do we learn to trust that the newer version of ourselves is the default? Interacting with people who only know the old you Getting stuck in the worse parts of our past lives Making amends with your past self How shame can both help and hurt you The importance of being both understanding of and forgiving to your past self Reaching out to make amends and leaving that shame space Moving forward with curiosity and compassion The importance of context Links: FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

If someone does something that hurts you but they didn't mean to hurt you are they at fault? What if they know those actions hurt you? What if they don't agree? CA and Jaime explore these questions and more as they discuss people's intentions vs the impact of their actions. Notes: An example of intention vs impact The importance of communication about expectations The difference between actual unintentional acts versus lies How even simple expectations can become imprisoning How each party is responsible for the intentions and impacts in a relationship Why do we not just tell people what bothers us? Why authenticity and accountability are so important When does ignorance become manipulation? How do we navigate all of this in a healthy way? Links: FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

On the first episode of 2023 CA and Jaime start 2023 with an in-depth exploration of why New Year's Resolutions hardly ever seem to work out. They discuss the differences between internal and external resolutions, healthy and not-so-healthy ones, wantingness and willingness, burnout, and more. Notes: We're back! Sharing this year's vision for the podcast New Year - New Resolutions Where do New Year's resolutions come from? The difference between healthy and nonhealthy resolutions Internal versus external resolutions Wantingness versus willingness Where does burnout come from? How to choose the right New Year's resolutions Links: FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

We did it! Jaime and CA jump on the mic for one final episode of the podcast for 2022. Join them as they take a look back at their first year of podcasting, explore some of the themes of the previous episodes, and look forward to 2023 and beyond. Notes: We did it! 2022 Spotify Wrapped Favorite Episodes Jaime and CA's Favorite Clips Links: Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

In this freewheeling, personal, and at times hilarious episode, Jaime and CA sit down for a game of “We're Not Really Strangers” a purpose driven card game and movement all about empowering meaningful connections during their last official podcast of 2022. Notes: What fast food restaurant do you think I'm most likely to drive through and what's my order? What subject do you think I thrived on in school? Did I fail any? Have you ever told someone, “I love you” and didn't mean it? If so, why? What lesson took you the longest to unlearn? Links: “We're Not Really Strangers:” https://www.werenotreallystrangers.com/ Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Gratitude seems simple, but what about when societal expectations make us feel like we are forced to bypass our feelings to show it? CA and Jaime discuss how gratitude can be used as a weapon, how societal pressures of showing it affects those who are neurodivergent, the importance of authentic gratitude, and more. Notes: The origins of gratitude How the way we are taught gratitude affects how we see it as adults Gratitude and guilt Social constructs and neurodiversity Why bypassing your feelings to show gratitude can be dangerous Gratitude and gaslighting What does genuine gratitude look and feel like Weaponized gratitude Links: Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Jaime and CA close their series on Religious Trauma by speaking with Rev Karla, an ordained, interfaith, interspiritual minister who helps people who are deconstructing from Christianity to reclaim their spirituality so they can live with authenticity free from the dogma of their religious heritage, about the difficulty of separating from the fear-based, strongly patriarchal, indoctrination of modern day of Christianity. *This episode and the series on religious trauma as a whole may be especially triggering to certain listeners.* Rev Karla's website: https://www.revkarla.com/ Recommended Reading: Zealot by Reza Aslan How Jesus Became God by Bart Ehrman Resurrecting Jesus by Adyashanti Why Christianity Must Change or Die by John Shelby Spong What is the Bible? by Rob Bell Previous Episodes in the Series Part 1: Ep. 27: Religious Trauma: Part 1 Part 2: Ep. 28: Religious Trauma: Part 2 “The Sin of Thinking” Part 3: Ep. 29: Religious Trauma: Part 3 - The “Hell” Narrative Part 4: Ep. 30: Religious Trauma: Part 4 - Is Pleasure Evil? Notes: Introducing Rev Karla Rejecting the fear-based, strongly patriarchal, indoctrination of religion Why the language used in the Bible is inaccurate to how we've evolved as humans How going to the seminary opened Karla's eyes Books that helped Karla open her mind to the reality of modern Christianity How do we start to break away from religious indoctrination? Why some religions fear holistic teachings How to respond to “the church didn't hurt you - an individual did” How to take responsibility as a Christian Grieving the loss of your faith A message of hope for those struggling with their faith Links: Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

CA and Jaime continue their series on Religious Trauma by discussing the skills needed to start deconstruction by exploring their individual paths to freedom. *This episode and the series on religious trauma as a whole may be especially triggering to certain listeners.* Part 1: Ep. 27: Religious Trauma: Part 1 Part 2: Ep. 28: Religious Trauma: Part 2 “The Sin of Thinking” Part 3: Ep. 29: Religious Trauma: Part 3 - The “Hell” Narrative Part 4: Religious Trauma: Part 4 - Is Pleasure Evil? Notes: Where does deconstruction begin? Why widening your social network is so important How to create space for your mind CA and Jaimie discuss their personal journeys Why curiosity is so important Vertical versus horizontal morality Links: Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Why is Trunk-or-Treating ok while Trick-or-Treating is bad? What's the difference between yoga and mindful movement? Jaime and CA continue their series on religious trauma by diving into the cross-section of joy, pleasure, and religion by asking why some things are ok while some things are not. *This episode and the series on religious trauma as a whole may be especially triggering to certain listeners.* Part 1: Ep. 27: Religious Trauma: Part 1 Part 2: Ep. 28: Religious Trauma: Part 2 “The Sin of Thinking” Part 3: Ep. 29: Religious Trauma: Part 3 - The “Hell” Narrative Notes: The reason why religion teaches people to be leery of joy and pleasure How faith makes you believe that joy and pleasure are evil Questioning what makes you feel happy How religion closes off the conversation about non-religious things Links: Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

CA and Jaime continue their series on religious trauma by digging into how the black-and-white “Hell Narrative” can be incredibly dangerous to our relationships and psyche. *This episode and the series on religious trauma as a whole may be especially triggering to certain listeners.* Part 1: Ep. 27: Religious Trauma: Part 1 Part 2: Ep. 28: Religious Trauma: Part 2 “The Sin of Thinking” Notes: The moment you realize that you need to start having conversations about religion The problem with the “if you're not with us you're against us” belief system Getting censored for wanting to have authentic discussions about your faith How religion can cause you to be your own bully Links: Self Trust/doubt episode Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Jaime and CA continue their series on religious trauma by exploring how religion's attempts to control our thoughts and emotions affect us both now and in the future. *This episode and the series on religious trauma as a whole may be especially triggering to certain listeners.* Part 1: Ep. 27: Religious Trauma: Part 1 Notes: Recapping part 1 How repressing “sinful” thoughts and emotions damages you What is spiritual bypassing and how is it harmful? What about exploratory thoughts? Links: Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

CA and Jaime introduce us to a series of episodes based on religious trauma. In this episode, they define religious trauma and explore where it comes from and how it happens. *This episode and the series on religious trauma as a whole may be especially triggering to certain listeners.* Notes: Defining trauma Defining complex trauma Defining religious trauma Why religious trauma is so harmful Why religious indoctrination at such a young age can damage your sense of self Understanding righteous anger How religious indoctrination starts How religion moves from love to fear and how that can affect us Links: Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Some relationships stay on the surface level and that's ok, but sometimes we want to experience deeper intimacy with specific people. Jaime and CA explore what happens when we seek out more authentic relationships, what to expect, how to handle the emotional changes, and more. Notes: Seeking out deeper and more authentic relationships What happens when we seek deeper relationships with people who aren't ready Why roles don't automatically define the deepness of a relationship How to authentically participate in a relationship by changing your expectations Understanding where tension comes from and how to navigate it What you may face when you decide to show up authentically Links: Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Truth is not always black and white and as we grow and learn (or unlearn) our definition of it changes. At some point, we may be ready to step and tell our truth, but what happens if the people we are speaking to aren't ready or willing to hear it? Join CA and Jaime as they discuss the challenge of not only living our authentic lives but sharing that authenticity with others. Notes: Why living authentically is important Being ready to talk when others aren't ready to listen The challenge of speaking your truth to people who may not be ready to hear it How self-preservation affects telling your truth The reality of truth Allowing people to evolve without trying to own their identity Links: Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Control can take many forms in relationships. One of those is by putting up boundaries and saying, “no” as an attempt to control, often without even realizing it. In this episode, Jaime and CA explore the role of control in relationships, where it comes from, and what we can to do break the cycle. Notes: Where do we learn to love? How love can be controlling How do we approach shifting dynamics in a relationship? How shifting dynamics provide opportunities for growth The importance of asking ourselves why we say “no” The importance of knowing your asks What to do when your partner refuses to stop controlling you? Links: Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

We can hardly go on social media without seeing some sort of mental health quick-fix post. While these solutions may help with the acute symptoms and behaviors, they often fail to address the underlying problems. Join CA and Jaime as they explore how to move beyond the latest pop psychology viral video and dig deep during our healing journeys. Notes: The problem with pop psychology Why treating the acute symptoms only may not work in the long run The importance of zooming out to get the complete picture of your mental health Why quick fixes can be good in the short term Why awareness behind our problematic behaviors is important How to move beyond fixing the bad habit Links: Ep 01: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/K48e7a8yOtb/ Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Ep 22: Boundaries 101 We hear a lot about boundaries, especially on social media, but before we learn how to set them, we need to know what exactly they are. Join CA and Jaime as they walk us through boundaries by telling us what they are, why they are important, how to implement them, and more. Notes: What is a boundary? Why are boundaries important? How do we know when to set a boundary? How to practice setting boundaries What happens when people don't respect our boundaries? Links: Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearne Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Whether through religion or parenting, we are often taught at a young age to forgive and forget, but what if we can't? Jaime and CA discuss what it actually means to forgive someone, the psychology behind it, what happens if we just can't bring ourselves to do it, and more. Notes: It's Jaime's Birthday! What is the psychology of forgiveness? How do we engage in forgiveness in a safe and meaningful way? How spirituality and our childhood affect our ability to forgive properly The process of forgiveness Forgiveness versus reconciliation The importance of accountability in repairing a relationship Is it ok to never forgive someone? How it really feels to forgive Can you actually forgive and forget? Links: Ep. 01: Self-Consent During Trauma Healing: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/VvtxS2gzrtb Ep 20: Does Trauma Make Us Toxic?: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/4tco6Tkzrtb Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearne Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Do hurt people hurt people? Is there a place for accountability? How do we move beyond the awareness stage? Jaime and CA examine these questions and many more as they discuss whether or not our past trauma can make us toxic. Notes: Do hurt people hurt people? Does past trauma give us an excuse to be toxic? The importance of accountability for our trauma responses How to protect ourselves from trauma responses How awareness turns into weaponized awareness How unexamined wounds can impact our children How to move past the awareness phase yourself Audience Q&A Links: Ep 12: The Stages and Stuckness of Healing: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/ONGm43HUftb Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearne Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com

Getting away from all the chaos of our past is a massive part of our healing journey. Why then do we continue to seek it out long after it's gone? Join Jaime and CA as they discuss not only why we feel the need to fill that void, but what we can do to get rid of it altogether. Notes: What is chaos and why do we crave it? Why emotional chaos flies under the radar What are the markers of chaos? Predictable chaos, why we crave it, and how we get it Where people tend to find substitutions for personal chaos How the chaos of reality tv, murder documentaries, etc. can harm our healing journeys Recognizing the “call for chaos” and how unlearn it Links: For more information about the Immersion Trip to Costa Rica: https://trips.trovatrip.com/trips/costa-rica-with-jaime-mahler-jan-2023 Follow the podcast on Instagram: instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA's Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearne Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com